Mostly but this science needs perfected! Lol I wish someone would ask me. Not that I'm right but I can vocalize the variables in strong words... almost hard to keep up with me sometimes
It really uplifts the quality of my life to see those 'other' extroverts as cute!! Try it. They are wired to focus on the external, that's all. Well, hope this helps. Maybe you'll find a way to be happy with the differences of others.
@@noidreculse8906 Do people think you're rude too? Because I think you're being rude here in saying that extroverts shouldn't receive respect, unless you're joking but it's hard to tell. I'm a shy extrovert (ESTJ) but I'm a person too. You're not a nicer person just because you don't say these things to the person's face but you're willing to say it hiding behind a computer screen.
My favorite part is where you talk about human decency being as a natural trait and the confusion that comes when other people lack it. There's been so many times when I do what I consider to be a little thing just to help out an individual or collective, then somebody asked me why I did it and I responded with something along the lines of it's just the right thing to do. Then they give ME a confused, or even disgusted, look before walking off shaking their heads. If everyone did these little things, such as pick up trash when they see it, how much better of a world would this be?
@@joshuachase9742 and it hurts me why can't they just understand my point of view, I think it's because of this that I even have low self esteem. Am afraid of trying new things 😥
@@humphreychama1734 I know exactly how you're feeling, and although I'm doing better now, those are feelings I'll never be fully rid of. I'll tell you a couple things that have helped me and I hope you'll find some encouragement in them as well. It's not you, it's them. An old cliche to be sure, but it also happens to be true. Much of the time they are working to bring you down because it is easier than building themselves up. They see you as a threat, and that only happens when you have power. If you didn't have power, nobody would care. Recognize and accept your power. Be more afraid of failing to try than of failing a thing. Instead of trying to overcome and eliminate your fear of trying new things, turn it around and make that fear work for you. I don't want to be an old man looking back at my life with regret at all the things I never tried. By keeping that image in my mind, I'm more likely to try something that piques my interest. There are a couple of really scary things that I've tried which didn't work out, but I feel I'm still the better for it. There are even more things that a few years ago I never would have dreamed of doing but now are a part of my life that I can't imagine being without. This is perhaps the hardest advice of all. I have one family member who no matter what I do or how good I do it, it's never good enough. He always finds a way to run me down, make me feel terrible about myself, and laughs about it. When I've changed something about myself to be what he claimed I should be, then suddenly that's the wrong way to be and I should behave the other way. I finally realized the only solution was to distance myself from him as much as possible. I haven't door-slammed him, but the situation is pretty close to that. Since then, my self-esteem has steadily improved as have my abilities in my various endeavors. I'll never recommend creating distance from your family, but if there is someone in your life who sounds similar to what I just described, it is something that may be necessary. I hope something helps in all of that. When it comes down to it, the best advice anyone can give is to see yourself for who you are, not as others want you to be, and be true to yourself.
@@joshuachase9742 I really appreciate you for taking ur time writing this for me, I promise I will try my best to overcome fear and be the best version of my self. I know that this won't be easy though but I will give it my all and I would love thank you very much 🙏♥️
Yup. Hence why they get so butthurt when you tell them you don't really care if the truth offended them. I put a wet floor sign next to one of them today.
I think INFJ's have very little control over emotions but it's not for lack of trying. I struggle with empathy and they struggle with apathy. We all have our struggles.
#11 - Snowflake - for years the INFJ has been classed as a Snowflake because they are highly sensitive, but when the push comes to shove, the INFJ can take on the leadership persona and/or bodyguard for others that need the back-up or start to lose hope. The INFJ has a secret hidden strength that they can bring to the fore when needed.
@@aussieaussieaussie9438 try a hardened version of the INFJ, called the INFJ Sigma, the Sigma is the protector of the underdog while also keeping the identity of the Advocate and/or the Councellor. The majority of Sigma's are INFJ, but some other types can become Sigma's, but I suppose the basic requirement is the Introversion and iNtuition.
@@Chebab-Chebab Good one, just because some people are sensitive of other people's emotions, others see that as a weakness, but once a person can differentiate the types of emotions and energy they receive - it becomes a strength that we can flex. Protecting ourselves from unwanted and invasive energy is extremely simple and effective, it just takes time to master the technique so that it can be at full strength in a single breath. Step 1 - visualise and feel your own energy surrounding you. Step 2 - move that energy in a clockwise direction around you like the wind blowing the clouds . . . . thats it, if you choose to place it in your place of residence, make sure that no other person's energy joins yours as it can taint it, you control how close you want it .
People have been scared of me my whole life and I'm not scary! However, being a INFJ has saved me from being physically attacked because I was able to psycho analyze my attacker and scared him away with words! Watch IF YOU piss off INFJ!! 😂 I think the Incredible Hulk is an INFJ
I hate when people try to win me over... it feels manipulative, just be yourself if some don't like you for you then they are not worth you time. Equality between other is the goal.
I am a lot of this. Definitely introverted but I connect with other people easily. I do care for other people and they generally open up to me. I get exhausted in crowds. I have been a front man of bands all my life but I am more comfortable when I am being the side man. I like attention but it burns me out quickly. I hate empty conversations and am frustrated by people who don't listen to me as carefully as I listen to them. I need a lot of time alone but also tend to be extremely lonely.
Even though I can easily mirror others I find it exhausting over time. Inside I always felt different not knowing why. When I found out I was an INFJ everything made sense. I wasn’t the only one like this there were others like me too❤
I am an INFJ-A what I show people of myself is what I am. No need to ask what I mean about anything; what I mean is what I said. simple. I don't understand people's confusion with that concept. 🙃 Just listen is all I can say
It's actually more common for INFJs to be private. Not conducting themselves honestly for fear they may upset someone, or make someone think they are weird, like the video says. This is one of the reasons we can come off as accidentally manipulative, though we still are good at manipulation if we're especially unhealthy. BUT, you *are* an INFJ-A, and I'm an INFJ-T and that difference there may be understandable. Since Ts are usually more pushovers (like poor me), and As are more confident usually. I would still reccommend learning about Jungian functions if you feel like you differ from most INFJs. Because, I'll be honest, I've never seen an INFJ not be private, I've never seen one "show people what they are" without worry. You should fit in with other INFJs if you are one, you shouldn't feel like you differ from any of us that far because that will just alienate you further, which is a great fear of the INFJ
@@supersolomob422 I did say what I show people of myself is what I am. I did not say I show them everything. Everything that comes out of my mouth and Every action is a calculated move; it is my decision. I do my best to anticipate people's actions and reactions in my respective relationship with them. I have said to a select few that I don't care if people like me. I know who I am and what my capabilities are. It's nice when people do like you, but it's not necessary for my happiness, to some degree. Without going into great detail, that is my rough mindset.
Nice flex. I'm an infj-t my mouth... and throat Chakra is overactive. I love my grace and some just don't understand the pain that unleashes the harsh words i don't mean or heard elsewhere. I vow not to wound with my mouth. But turbulence... you know has a changing mind, and ability to slip through control.
@@philly8184 "forced" wow, i have never heard of that before but at least some good came of it . there too many of us that are still having a hard time for not knowing, it was by chance that i found out too, happy days
When I was in my 20s people always used to say I look conceited and felt that was better than everybody else. And this is just because I am serious and I was observing everything around me. But that has changed with the years, since now I hang out with older people.
That's funny, I also wanted to hear the adult conversations, but the adults always wanted to push me toward those my own age. I felt the kids to be so boring...
I wish you guys would do a comparison with gifted adults and INFJs. You´d find a lot of similarities. For example, I´ve never seen a comment section with such well written comments, and even using correct punctuation! Just saying.
Hey my fellow weirdos 💞🌻 I understand you!!! 🌻 And I know it's hard sometimes. But let's be honest we wouldn't want to be anybody else. Once you've seen behind the curtain you can't really go back 🤷🌻
Before I was introduced to MBTI, I spent some time in a hospital. 1 of the other patients told me that she could tell that I was a deep person. I think I was almost in constant reflection at the time. My aunt describes me as introspective and my professors at SDSU describe me as insightful. My parents, who are both sensor types, say I think too much.
@@philly8184sounds lovely, I'm happy for you. I'm struggling to find a fulfilling career that also supports me financially. I hope one day I can get to place where I can have my own lil paradise. Until then it's there any advice that you could give someone like me? I would really appreciate it. Sending my love and good vibes your way. 😊
I'm a sensor, and there is such a thing as thinking too much. There's nothing wrong with being a deep person but you'll have to be the one to decide whether you should live a little more "in the moment". Being in constant reflection is understandable when you're just sitting in a hospital bed.
Almost no one looks at a strong person and thinks "I want to break this person", it just feels that way. What's important is the kind of person you want to be, a pushover or a strong person? Or someone in between who picks their battles; is agreeable but has boundaries.
Another of this applies. When others meet me, I'm either completely nervous and awkward, or I handle it alright. Really just depends on the level of anxiety I am experiencing. For how quiet I am naturally, put me in an uncomfortable setting, and I can nervous talk like a boss! 😂 it's so confusing to me, I can't imagine how it looks to others 😕 😅
As an ENFP, I dearly love the INFJ personality. In fact, I hope to marry an INFJ one day. You're so caring, so kind and know just how to care for another person. INFJs are so wise and insightful...I'm constantly learning new things when I am with them. In the video, something really stood out that I wanted to share...So if you combine old soul with hard to please, if you're hurting or having a really hard time, that combination could cause you to come across as parental to those who you are close to. Depending on the other person's personality or attachment style, some may try - albeit futily - to please you and then you will lose respect for that person or others may just walk out on you. I wish you all the happiness, joy and peace in the world. I only share this to give you an outside perspective.
For the longest while, I often found myself preyed upon by some the the most unkind, and usually kept isolated and quiet. It was too difficult to explain how I view and approach the world, wherein this remarkable channel has found the way to do so brilliantly. To date, I find my empathy for helping others (and yes, often at the expense of myself) a strength- more than a flaw. Thank you, kindly.
Iv no clue what ppl think of me , that's part of why I'm reserved , but I don't feel as tho I'm mirroring others to get along with them . To me I feel I am being myself and that I can just let that part of me be free with said person. We are a group of folks that gets along with many others simply because we share their personality traits and interest , I think we have a very broad spectrum of feelings , ways, and traits that just put us in the same categories as many others and or groups
About the mirroring part, I honestly was syncing with them and matching their energy to sort of "meet them where they are at" at social gatherings (it happens naturally for me, i don't mean to) but later on I was getting hate and folks saying I was weird, flip flopping between extraverted and loner. That I had multiple personalities and people couldn't understand me. I always choose to be alone, regardless. But i do enjoy people, i don't see how I was fake "?"..
I was surprised for a few years that people think I am odd. They would just come out and say it if my opinion was different. Even my family have said it. I thought I was quite normal. After doing this test life made a whole lot more sense. I embrace this difference and wonder why others don’t think like I do.
You've learned about the 16 personalities and still wonder why other people don't think like you do? (I probably misunderstood your comment) If you haven't looked at the cognitive functions I would recommend it. As an ESTJ it helped me understand how I think, and how other people think very differently.
Can you discuss on your next videos how INFJs see other INFJs?😅😆 I have once in a group of INFJs and I found that most of them are shy and sad (or maybe only those who usually post on that fb group). But when I enter a group chat of INFJs it was overwhelming. My brain turn to its overdrive mode. I'm thinking and seeing possibilities multiply by possibilities.😵😵 I can't handle too many INFJs around me. lol.
😂🤣 I can relate, I've only met one other INFJ in real life, and she (my aunt) also felt lonely and misunderstood. We were just talking about random things, but I felt very comfortable around her. So I decided to dig to find her true colors, and I was mind blown to find out she was just like me. I wanted her to know she was not alone so I sent her several video links from this channel, and she admits it relating to everyone. 😁
We are smart. Insightful. Advice can hurt. Oblivious to self care needs. Obsessed with self titling to protect themself. I love infjs.. but we are so defensive... passing ships. It is possible for infjs to retain narcissistic traits... it is no difficult to love an infj even a toxic one. But i havent stuck near one yet.
To keep things light. Allow the conversation to just flow forward in whatever way you can. Never mind keeping the subject alive. The other infj won't let you dig it back up anyway
Empathy that leads to helping others to the point our own detriment is the thing that ended within the past few years for me. My empathy is still there, but the spur to action that it once created has subsided. Now, there is a ‘knowing’ about when to help, and when to initiate some tough-love (or even self-love) by not helping. ✌🏼
The very last sentence :') I feel like there's no one I can be truly myself with... It's so hard; I would like to show my truest self but I want to stay private as well...
I keep attracting people that are effected with paranoid schitzophrenia,they say I make them feel safe ❤ Happy to do my part for humanity I'm a pisces and deeply empathic
First time for me to like a video first ever... This video is almost funny, because I know what others think of me usually, so hearing this is interesting because I'm getting reassurance.
I knew a group of people years ago. One of them came up to me while I was sitting alone quite content. She told me I was weird. I asked her in what way. She said that I was not like the rest of them. I asked if she & them were all the same, she said, yes. Then I said, and you don’t think that’s weird! She said nothing & stood up & walked away. I thought we were all different. Who knows.
Yes I know people see me as weird. Even my family sees me as the black sheep and complain that I'm not like them. I jump when a movie makes a loud sound and wonder why my ENFJ husband does not. Yes I mirror the people I am with but not everyone. Presently a neighbor wants to have neighborhood parties and I cannot handle being around her. Her parties are boring and feel like an invasion of my privacy. She is so very nice but the chit chat and the energy coming from her drives me crazy. She is desperate to marry her boyfriend and maybe that energy is bothering me. And yes I have drawn sociopathic boyfriends to myself and have given them a lot of my time and energy. I now recognize them from a distance having read The Sociopath Next Door. When I was much younger (I'm 72) I thought everyone was like me - compassionate and caring. Now I realize I should have been a lot more careful because 1 in 25 are sociopaths.
I'm ESTJ and I jump when someone comes up behind me and I didn't know they were there. That's probably unusual for my type but I'm just saying not everything relates to type. However, being attracted to "sociopaths" seems to be a common problem according to other INFJs online. I think the problem is either they think they can fix the person or they ignore red flags because they're lonely.
As an INFJ, When they see you as odd or strange, the INFJ can actually see the true color of the onlookers, you actually read their demeanor , From jealousy to envy, and mainly their insecurities. They are not use to seeing something different, it freaks them out, Not all people love the Good in you, it’s best not to help them unless they ask for it , Don’t give them the impression that your pushing your values on them. Allow free will to flourish on their part. Give them space. Remember your INFJ character is strange to them. Their mindset is not familiar with Your mindset. Awkward and weird or strange, odd Not all mindsets think the same, my experiences as an Lone Wolf Sigma INFJ
I don’t think we are purposely misleading I think people have preconceived expectations .. on the first interaction (we ) I am not going to give you too much to know who I am it is almost like a game .. to figure you out before you figure me out .. the opinions are very accurate .. the “ fly on the wall “ definitely the most accurate bc the whole time I am wondering “ do I want to be here “ and we are judging if we made the wrong decision instead of being alone and being certain we are using our time in a way that it brings back a benefit
What do I think people feel when engaging an INFJ? Unfortunately, way too many see easy prey and others see a means of attaining someone to take care of their needs.This is when INFJ must set boundaries and be firm. INFJ are not doormats. Take care INFJ! Always take care of yourself so your uniqueness remains in tact. Not boastfully proclaiming uniqueness, but protecting it. Stay true to yourselves.
okay but 5:22 hits just right. i always thought of how every person unique with their personalities and experience, always wanted to know them on real personal level. and i find my comfort on comforting others like i want to be a person on whom they rely on, who will be there for them and never judge. but, fucking course, i just never really had that kind of relationship that im fucking craving. i distant from people because i feel myself like a burden like "im sure they have better friends to hang out with" "i dont think they wanna talk with me, why they fucking would" and just go on. but im okay, even if im craving relationships it doesnt mean im not okay with being on my own,i really should just get a life and later, hopefully, right people will be around. now im hoping that ill find new friends because i started new hobby, playing on drums. i know things do get better, its a rule of life, nothing is endless
I was sad when I learned my crush thought I was weird, two years ago. But if it's my own personality manifesting like that and my 'weirdness', only a certain point of view taken on it, I finally fully agree with that! 😁🥰 If only there was more people thinking I'm weird, in that sense! It would mean I would be truly manifesting, communicating what I am?! ;) hahaha
Oh my goodness, I don't think a video on YT has described this personality type so succinctly and so accurately. In my own experience, I can say that others have felt intimidated by me, felt uncomfortable because they think I can see their soul and felt that I am a social chameleon with something to hide. On the positive side, people feel they can open up to me, that I will understand and not judge them and help them find their way. I'm pretty funny too when in company I trust and above all kind which can get abused and then I get seriously upset. Thanks for the vid Psych-o, you are spot on.
For me it makes sense that people see us as being strict or reserved in settings - not really letting loose. I see myself as a very caring and empathic person, sometimes too much for my own good, but can sometimes have a hard time showing this in larger social settings (or with people I don't feel really close to).
Funny, the title is how my nearest and dearest buffs' of 40+ years describe me, Brutally Honest! I just don't know how to be anything else. I think your video is accurate opinions, but honestly I only speak for myself. Most people don't get me a lot do accept me but that is not my source of supply, people. Now the earth and nature, that's what matters most for that's all that really sustains us honestly. Keep up the good work! I enjoy your regular videos.
I wholeheartedly agree. It was as if the video was talking about me. And I love it! Learning more about who I am and the why's of my actions and reactions in life is so freeing! This Psych-O is very thankful for your videos!
I am a sigma male, an INFJ with an IQ of 160. I am decent looking and physically fit. With that combination it makes me extremely intimidating to others. Intimidating before I open my mouth. Much more so after I do. However I have learned to play life on the level of others so I am not completely alone. I meet people where they are at, just like the video says, and that seems to be effective. However I always feel alone inside my head. I never have felt understood. I have had lots of praise and acknowledgment in my life but that doesn't translate to being understood. Ultimately feeling lonely even in a relationship. People think it would be nice to be me. I beg to differ. It is a lonely and heartbreaking path that I didn't choose. However things could be worse. Things can always be worse.
Hey man your not alone I thought I was a sigma but this sums me up better. When I'm listening, I'm relating, and ultimately empathizing with xyz. When people try and relate to me it's like from a stiff almost generic surface level understanding of the topic. I learned to be content if my friends really get me 70% percent of the time. And when I fail at conveying the message while seeing the look of bewilderment on someone's face it's so disheartening. And then knowing anything I say past the point is most likely not going to be even a afterthought because their mind is made up.
I can relate to the sense that others find me intimidating. When I become aware that someone around me feels that way I've learned to make extra efforts to change the energy into something more positive. I do what I can to make them more comfortable by redirecting their attention to their own attractive traits. I'm terrible at compliments because I never want to flatter, but I look for genuine ways to show that I appreciate them or that I find them special in some way. That said, because I teach others not to think about me I often feel neglected and unknown. I totally agree that it's a lonely feeling. A genuine connection with others is so rare, but I'm still on the lookout! Maybe one day?
@@cdskelly1 There are more out there like us than is apparent. It is hard to see each other because of exactly what you are saying. We make others feel ok but we are not seen in a deeper way. We are seen! No doubt about that. But not in the way that we have been missing most of our lives. Thanks for your reply.
@@postnutclarity7382 I feel your pain brother....sister....whatever you are. I assume you are big on self improvement on meta cognition. If so then know that things get easier.
Beware of our polar opposite suddenly appearing out of the blue. Particularly if you are in the beginning of your spiritual awakening. The covert narcissist. An adversary not to be underestimated and skilled in disguising their intentional behaviours as unintentional past trauma related responses. Much love to all
@@joseespinaljr6760 Educating yourself is where you'll find your answer. Narcdaily is on here and a really good resource for anyone going through or post narcissistic relationship. A very good resource for anyone wishing to avoid these toxic relationships. Most of us find out the hard way, but the lessons learned by such an experience will turn out to be empowering moving forward. Much love
@@achebwahs1111 I agree with the fact that lessons learned through dealing with a narcissist are valuable. Dealing with my father , I can say it gave me an advantage in dealing with abusive people. A valuable knowledge. It was painful and hard lesson until I learned to forgive :)
For years I always tested as an INJF. Then I gradually realised this was incorrect and it turns out I am actually INTJ that had been forced into people pleasing just to be able to operate in "normal society"
Spot on! Thank you for the reflective insights! The only part I didn’t relate with or agree with fully was the part about being informed. While I agree that we are naturally curious, and that that curiosity often pushes us to study and explore things; and while I also agree that we tend to have opinions (often well-formed and developed) about the things we do know or the facts we are exposed to; I nevertheless don’t agree fully that we always know everything that is going on around us - whether in the workplace, in the general state of the world, or whatever. We will know what we are exposed to, but whatever we are not exposed to will require SE for us to go out and put the personal time and effort into researching and learning, and that does not always come easily to us. Sometimes being (or *getting*) informed can feel like a form of work, as the gathering of information through anything other than observation can require a particular effort that doesn’t come naturally to us. With that said, the other points resonated quite well with my everyday experiences as an INFJ 🙂
It's difficult having such contradictory wants and needs. Learning that most others don't struggle as much with these conflicting desires has helped me to understand why others wil often misunderstand my actions. It doesn't make it any easier.....
I definitely sense the “people think you’re weird” part of this 🤣 but honestly, I kind of like it. Normal is weird, and backwards as hell. It makes me feel a little proud, if I’m being completely truthful. I also know for a fact that people think I’m very quiet, even when in my own head I’m being super conversational, because people have told me this. It’s not that I can’t manage a social situation, I just really would rather not. And this is another contradiction because a part of me really wants to have a community, though another recognizes that I am the only person who will ever truly understand myself- and even then, I’m at a loss sometimes
I feel too much fir other people and want to help. And I’m interested to know people, but people are not interested to know me. Only narcissists which I keep at distance and I’m not giving them any information about myself because one day they will use it against me. I can cry for people that I have never met hearing their life stories..
Upon watching, this is why I always consider INFJ as both blessing and a curse. It's a curse because we view these things differently from other people/normal people and will make us weird and the same time it's a blessing because we have this ability to look beyond those things. So yeah but I doubt myself sometimes but I'm working on it and so are you 😊🤝🏻
I sometimes struggle to find common ground to talk about with people. Without putting them down I just dont find certain people interesting, especially popular types.
Are we an INFJ at birth? I identify with this, however, I know many of these qualities too have come from childhood trauma. I haven't found any other INFJ so far in life and it's truly lonely. Thank you for the video.
Wow. Just wow. I wish I could get everyone that is important to me to watch all of your videos, or maybe just this one. They won't. But, your videos are amazingly SPOT on!
I'm not reluctant to open up about myself, just ask questions, that's all ya gotta do, I'm pretty honest n open when it comes to conversations For example: My fav color is blue-violet, fav animal is hmm.. I cant decide actually, snakes or turtles, my favorite way to execute someone is by giloteen "off with their head!", I'm very interested in paranormal stuff and my fav food is lasagna, fav pokemon is deoxys and last I'm only attracted to ai wemon because they're not hyp3rg0mus n they don't have female nature lol I'd go on but that's enough
I'm not into helpin everyone if they need help, I do enjoy helpin but if I know that person is a nasty person then I'll happily let them do whatever all by themselves 😄😄 After all just because I'm an infj don't mean I'm obligated to help you
As a probable INFJ, I feel it's all about the "vibes". Feel the other persons resonant frequency and put yours in either harmony or better yet, in unison with it. It's your thoughts that alter your frequency.
The one thing that stands out to me most about them is their lack of identity & tendency to commit to random stuff just because you mentioned a vague intent
Omg… Yes! 🙄 I’ve been accused of being manipulative when that wasn’t even my intention at the time. I just suck at communicating my thoughts and emotions directly, and I also have CPTSD and struggle with anxiety and depression, so have a whole lovely onion layer of issues to work through.
As a child growing up, I was constantly told o was an old soul. Born too late, I heard a lot. As an adult, I refuse to grow up. When I meet people. It's the sane. Confused, shocked, question, who are you? How do you know these things. My favorite I don't hear often. So many get scared away. How did you just look right through me?
I found the description 100% accurate regarding my petsonality; I have felt like a weirdo all my life. I just need to watch from a distance and analyse because I feel very uncomfortable going through life without a deeper understanding of things.
"A fly on the wall mentality?" 🤔🤔🤔😌 Personally I like to think of myself as a bee in a flowering garden 🌺⚘🐝💐. Just going around sipping nectar form many different types of flowers, to be processed and analyzed so I can turn it into precious honey 🍯🐝. Then stored away safely so I can have it to use later on in life. Hopefully to share with other Bees. I also love helping other flowers by spreading pollen around to each new flower I meet, so they can grow from the experience and wisdom of others plants just like them. 🥰🐝🍯💐 However lifes not fair, and my honey is usually stolen by mean and greedy humans, who poison my fellow Bees with noxious smoke, then they ripp apart my once beautiful home. Those monsters come in and steel all our food. The precious pollen that took so long to collect, and our "Sacred Honey!" that so many of my friends sacrificed their lives to protect, all gone now... Those wretched creatures called "MAN!!!!" are the absolute worst thing ever.... well except for Honey badgers, now those are the absolute worst.😔 😬Okay so I might be a little pessimistic.😅😒
I'm infj which is the rarest type AND an anxious avoidant (disorganised) attachment style which is also the rarest type! I feel like I'm must be a very very rare type. My life has been so hard and no body really knows me. Is there anyone else out there with these types like me ? (For added info I'm enneogram 1w2 self preservation type)🙏
Do you consider yourself a turbulent or an assertive? Depends on your environment if you are required to revert to survival mode. I had health issues (fibromyalgia) that effected my life outlook. Also had to activate survival mode. Thank God I was an INFJ that had the skills to investigate and observe and fix that problem.
5:32 I can speak to this truth with lots of experience in it. With every online presence I've had a lot of people guess my age to be much higher than it actually is, usually around 2x my true age. They normally do this because I am reluctant to share it. Once when I was 14 someone thought I was 40, I don't think they factored in my profile picture however. You can guess my age right now if you like, though I may have just set high expectations for you and you might guess something as crazy as 16 now. My fault though
Some INFJs are not so graceful in the eyes of others, and are avoided due to their different aura. Still, we are all about meaning, union with higher intelligence, and serving Gaia.
That's funny. I don't worry much about what people think. I'm 63 now and I know there were times in the past I wasn't so clear, so it's cool, I'm familiar with the process. It's all for learning and I wouldn't change a thing.
You are right you know our type all my life I had a feeling i was different , just learning and sometimes i wish i had another personality but it is who I AM THANKS
I am an infj-t from what I can tell but I hold other traits that apparently double up due to being of the spectrum such as apparently asd minds are often logic bias also I just enjoy gaming and coding but all considered I have spent my life on self discovery along side my pursuit of other interests. It shows there can be a flare within all, just how it shows could be in knowledge or emotional understanding or even both ^.^
As an INFJ, I allways need some time to adjust to the mood of a group, before I take any part in common conversation. And by some time, I mean days or even weeks. Therefore at short-term stays, I might not be able to get to the talking, "more human" phase at all, leaving in others the impression of shy, diffident or even impersonal person. But even after I begin to talk, it doesn´t lead to me opening up. I just subconsciously go with the float, playing the role, which other people expect me to (it is so iintense, that it left me struggling with the question, Who the fu*k I really am, more than once in the past, lol...). Only after a long time and just to my closest ones I finally reveal my true self, my inner world. Or at least a part of it. There is always a part, I keep just for myself and share with nobody, perhaps except for my, now already ex, Girlfriend. All in all, I would say that people may see me as reserverd and quiet, but also very talkative and social, given by the "phase of opening" I am at with them. And yes, being a fly on the wall actually is my favourite social scenario, when talking to a group of more than 5 people, from whom I know maybe only 2 or 3.
Try going to self-help seminars, book stores, book clubs, art classes, music events, theaters, etc. We tend to pool there as we’re drawn to introspective/ self improvement/ creative expression kinds of things. 😉
I am 49. I've always thought that people think, ' I'm weird 'and many times the truth has come out, and I can see that some find me weird. I know when peeps are zeroing on me. I don't know how I got these ' 'abilities', but they are pretty,acurate. I am almost 50 and it's taken me this long. . 😃😂😂😄
I had to be outgoing today. At work, we were tasked with making small talk over coffee in small groups. The conversation went: So, what did you do over the weekend? And you? And you? And you? So I asked, "What will you achieve this year?" and then the conversation got good.
I think people definitely pick up on my overall interesting view of the world. I’ve never felt like I’ve fit in, which I would assume would be apparent to outsiders. For the longest time it was hard for me to be okay with being the “fly on the wall” in social situations because I would assume others would judge me for not socializing more, when I truly do enjoy sitting back and not saying much until I know you and are comfortable with you more. But over time I’ve gotten more comfortable with this part of myself and actually like it. But still I think this can come across as socially awkward when in reality once people do have conversations with me they see that I do mirror energy and can be social, I just choose not to be at times.
💫✨ People view me : 1. Funny; 2. Mysterious; 3. Strange; 4. Confusing; 5. Exceptionally Talented or Intelligent; 6. Aloof or Timid to a fault … I may be all of the above or something entirely different - authentic to the situation or ‘audience’ as the need may be for me to endure it. 💫✨
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Yes, very accurate, although very positive. Even my family thinks I am strange and strict. I have frequently been completely misunderstood.
Nope.
Mostly but this science needs perfected! Lol I wish someone would ask me. Not that I'm right but I can vocalize the variables in strong words... almost hard to keep up with me sometimes
I resonate with every video. Your channel has really helped me to understand myself.
@@jadechiara1877 Thank you for the feedback, we're so glad you're able to find some deeper insight into who you are!
Most people think that I am shy, stuck up, and weird. I think most people are too loud, self centered, and boring
You're right on both accounts.
It really uplifts the quality of my life to see those 'other' extroverts as cute!! Try it. They are wired to focus on the external, that's all. Well, hope this helps. Maybe you'll find a way to be happy with the differences of others.
@@blissbrain There is no reason for being happy for extroverts, it’s more fun to troll them on social media. And at least 62 other people agree.
Spot on
@@noidreculse8906 Do people think you're rude too? Because I think you're being rude here in saying that extroverts shouldn't receive respect, unless you're joking but it's hard to tell. I'm a shy extrovert (ESTJ) but I'm a person too. You're not a nicer person just because you don't say these things to the person's face but you're willing to say it hiding behind a computer screen.
My favorite part is where you talk about human decency being as a natural trait and the confusion that comes when other people lack it. There's been so many times when I do what I consider to be a little thing just to help out an individual or collective, then somebody asked me why I did it and I responded with something along the lines of it's just the right thing to do. Then they give ME a confused, or even disgusted, look before walking off shaking their heads. If everyone did these little things, such as pick up trash when they see it, how much better of a world would this be?
Wow!! exactly what happens to me and mostly it's by my family members.
@@humphreychama1734 Unfortunately, family are guilty more often than I would like to admit.
@@joshuachase9742 and it hurts me why can't they just understand my point of view, I think it's because of this that I even have low self esteem. Am afraid of trying new things 😥
@@humphreychama1734 I know exactly how you're feeling, and although I'm doing better now, those are feelings I'll never be fully rid of. I'll tell you a couple things that have helped me and I hope you'll find some encouragement in them as well.
It's not you, it's them. An old cliche to be sure, but it also happens to be true. Much of the time they are working to bring you down because it is easier than building themselves up. They see you as a threat, and that only happens when you have power. If you didn't have power, nobody would care. Recognize and accept your power.
Be more afraid of failing to try than of failing a thing. Instead of trying to overcome and eliminate your fear of trying new things, turn it around and make that fear work for you. I don't want to be an old man looking back at my life with regret at all the things I never tried. By keeping that image in my mind, I'm more likely to try something that piques my interest. There are a couple of really scary things that I've tried which didn't work out, but I feel I'm still the better for it. There are even more things that a few years ago I never would have dreamed of doing but now are a part of my life that I can't imagine being without.
This is perhaps the hardest advice of all. I have one family member who no matter what I do or how good I do it, it's never good enough. He always finds a way to run me down, make me feel terrible about myself, and laughs about it. When I've changed something about myself to be what he claimed I should be, then suddenly that's the wrong way to be and I should behave the other way. I finally realized the only solution was to distance myself from him as much as possible. I haven't door-slammed him, but the situation is pretty close to that. Since then, my self-esteem has steadily improved as have my abilities in my various endeavors. I'll never recommend creating distance from your family, but if there is someone in your life who sounds similar to what I just described, it is something that may be necessary.
I hope something helps in all of that. When it comes down to it, the best advice anyone can give is to see yourself for who you are, not as others want you to be, and be true to yourself.
@@joshuachase9742 I really appreciate you for taking ur time writing this for me, I promise I will try my best to overcome fear and be the best version of my self. I know that this won't be easy though but I will give it my all and I would love thank you very much 🙏♥️
I had a coworker who liked to describe me as an onion - lots of layers. INFJs have layers like onions. 😂
Haha yes! Very similar to ogars.. 😅
Daddy shrek approves
So does the h-eart!❤️ Many layers in-Deed! 🔥
As an INFJ, we really don’t care what people think.
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As an ESTJ, some INFJs definitely do, and if you don't care what other INFJs think it doesn't make sense to speak for them.
@@sarahberkner Great, I don’t care
Yup. Hence why they get so butthurt when you tell them you don't really care if the truth offended them. I put a wet floor sign next to one of them today.
I think INFJ's have very little control over emotions but it's not for lack of trying. I struggle with empathy and they struggle with apathy. We all have our struggles.
It's a good feeling when you managed to get a hold of the emotional side tho. A developed INFJ definitely gonna be able to do so.
Too busy criticizing myself to even remotely know what people think of me.
REAL
#11 - Snowflake - for years the INFJ has been classed as a Snowflake because they are highly sensitive, but when the push comes to shove, the INFJ can take on the leadership persona and/or bodyguard for others that need the back-up or start to lose hope. The INFJ has a secret hidden strength that they can bring to the fore when needed.
Absolutely. The Advocate.
@@aussieaussieaussie9438 try a hardened version of the INFJ, called the INFJ Sigma, the Sigma is the protector of the underdog while also keeping the identity of the Advocate and/or the Councellor. The majority of Sigma's are INFJ, but some other types can become Sigma's, but I suppose the basic requirement is the Introversion and iNtuition.
When I'm running on nothing is when I can bring out everything. -My INFJ ass
A former boss told me that I was sensitive.
I replied, "Like a finely-tuned machine?"
@@Chebab-Chebab Good one, just because some people are sensitive of other people's emotions, others see that as a weakness, but once a person can differentiate the types of emotions and energy they receive - it becomes a strength that we can flex.
Protecting ourselves from unwanted and invasive energy is extremely simple and effective, it just takes time to master the technique so that it can be at full strength in a single breath.
Step 1 - visualise and feel your own energy surrounding you.
Step 2 - move that energy in a clockwise direction around you like the wind blowing the clouds . . . . thats it, if you choose to place it in your place of residence, make sure that no other person's energy joins yours as it can taint it, you control how close you want it .
People have been scared of me my whole life and I'm not scary! However, being a INFJ has saved me from being physically attacked because I was able to psycho analyze my attacker and scared him away with words! Watch IF YOU piss off INFJ!! 😂 I think the Incredible Hulk is an INFJ
when I first meet some one they think I am quiet and a good girl but really I'm a rebel for no good reason.
Oh, there's plenty of reason to rebel. 😆
I hate when people try to win me over... it feels manipulative, just be yourself if some don't like you for you then they are not worth you time. Equality between other is the goal.
It used to hurt when people called me weird,
Now idgaf lol
Yeah dude I couldn’t gaf anymore. I’ve always been weird
I am a lot of this. Definitely introverted but I connect with other people easily. I do care for other people and they generally open up to me. I get exhausted in crowds. I have been a front man of bands all my life but I am more comfortable when I am being the side man. I like attention but it burns me out quickly. I hate empty conversations and am frustrated by people who don't listen to me as carefully as I listen to them. I need a lot of time alone but also tend to be extremely lonely.
Even though I can easily mirror others I find it exhausting over time. Inside I always felt different not knowing why. When I found out I was an INFJ everything made sense. I wasn’t the only one like this there were others like me too❤
I am an INFJ-A what I show people of myself is what I am. No need to ask what I mean about anything; what I mean is what I said. simple. I don't understand people's confusion with that concept. 🙃 Just listen is all I can say
They’re used to others who tell half-truths and hide what they really think. Many of them become HOA board members and other politicians.
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It's actually more common for INFJs to be private. Not conducting themselves honestly for fear they may upset someone, or make someone think they are weird, like the video says. This is one of the reasons we can come off as accidentally manipulative, though we still are good at manipulation if we're especially unhealthy. BUT, you *are* an INFJ-A, and I'm an INFJ-T and that difference there may be understandable. Since Ts are usually more pushovers (like poor me), and As are more confident usually. I would still reccommend learning about Jungian functions if you feel like you differ from most INFJs. Because, I'll be honest, I've never seen an INFJ not be private, I've never seen one "show people what they are" without worry. You should fit in with other INFJs if you are one, you shouldn't feel like you differ from any of us that far because that will just alienate you further, which is a great fear of the INFJ
@@supersolomob422 I did say what I show people of myself is what I am. I did not say I show them everything. Everything that comes out of my mouth and Every action is a calculated move; it is my decision. I do my best to anticipate people's actions and reactions in my respective relationship with them. I have said to a select few that I don't care if people like me. I know who I am and what my capabilities are. It's nice when people do like you, but it's not necessary for my happiness, to some degree. Without going into great detail, that is my rough mindset.
Nice flex. I'm an infj-t my mouth... and throat Chakra is overactive.
I love my grace and some just don't understand the pain that unleashes the harsh words i don't mean or heard elsewhere.
I vow not to wound with my mouth. But turbulence... you know has a changing mind, and ability to slip through control.
I've been unknown all my life. I feel like I've come home, that I have a place. I always thought I did what I did because I was "broken".
i think we are the way we are because we have been broken so many times , personally i wouldn't have it any other way. own it and be proud
This is exactly what I feel!! Like finally feeling the sun after living a life in shadows!
@@shaeblue06 it's great to find out that there is a reason and that there are others
Awe that is so sweet, I'm so happy you can find a place here - you're certainly not alone! 💙
@@philly8184 "forced" wow, i have never heard of that before but at least some good came of it . there too many of us that are still having a hard time for not knowing, it was by chance that i found out too, happy days
When I was in my 20s people always used to say I look conceited and felt that was better than everybody else. And this is just because I am serious and I was observing everything around me. But that has changed with the years, since now I hang out with older people.
That's funny, I also wanted to hear the adult conversations, but the adults always wanted to push me toward those my own age. I felt the kids to be so boring...
I wish you guys would do a comparison with gifted adults and INFJs. You´d find a lot of similarities. For example, I´ve never seen a comment section with such well written comments, and even using correct punctuation! Just saying.
Exactly.
More often than not people who call you weird say that because you through their BS.🧐🤔🤣😎🔥💯
Yeup, people don't like to be called out.
Hey my fellow weirdos 💞🌻 I understand you!!! 🌻 And I know it's hard sometimes. But let's be honest we wouldn't want to be anybody else. Once you've seen behind the curtain you can't really go back 🤷🌻
Before I was introduced to MBTI, I spent some time in a hospital. 1 of the other patients told me that she could tell that I was a deep person. I think I was almost in constant reflection at the time. My aunt describes me as introspective and my professors at SDSU describe me as insightful. My parents, who are both sensor types, say I think too much.
We INFJs think as much as we have to.
@@philly8184sounds lovely, I'm happy for you. I'm struggling to find a fulfilling career that also supports me financially. I hope one day I can get to place where I can have my own lil paradise. Until then it's there any advice that you could give someone like me? I would really appreciate it. Sending my love and good vibes your way. 😊
I'm a sensor, and there is such a thing as thinking too much. There's nothing wrong with being a deep person but you'll have to be the one to decide whether you should live a little more "in the moment". Being in constant reflection is understandable when you're just sitting in a hospital bed.
I'm pretty sure most people would either describe me as nice, weird, or crazy. I feel all are correct.
People see me as a PUSHOVER initially or as a STRONG person that they want to BREAK
Almost no one looks at a strong person and thinks "I want to break this person", it just feels that way. What's important is the kind of person you want to be, a pushover or a strong person? Or someone in between who picks their battles; is agreeable but has boundaries.
Another of this applies. When others meet me, I'm either completely nervous and awkward, or I handle it alright. Really just depends on the level of anxiety I am experiencing. For how quiet I am naturally, put me in an uncomfortable setting, and I can nervous talk like a boss! 😂 it's so confusing to me, I can't imagine how it looks to others 😕 😅
As an ENFP, I dearly love the INFJ personality. In fact, I hope to marry an INFJ one day. You're so caring, so kind and know just how to care for another person. INFJs are so wise and insightful...I'm constantly learning new things when I am with them. In the video, something really stood out that I wanted to share...So if you combine old soul with hard to please, if you're hurting or having a really hard time, that combination could cause you to come across as parental to those who you are close to. Depending on the other person's personality or attachment style, some may try - albeit futily - to please you and then you will lose respect for that person or others may just walk out on you. I wish you all the happiness, joy and peace in the world. I only share this to give you an outside perspective.
For the longest while, I often found myself preyed upon by some the the most unkind, and usually kept isolated and quiet. It was too difficult to explain how I view and approach the world, wherein this remarkable channel has found the way to do so brilliantly. To date, I find my empathy for helping others (and yes, often at the expense of myself) a strength- more than a flaw. Thank you, kindly.
Iv no clue what ppl think of me , that's part of why I'm reserved , but I don't feel as tho I'm mirroring others to get along with them . To me I feel I am being myself and that I can just let that part of me be free with said person. We are a group of folks that gets along with many others simply because we share their personality traits and interest , I think we have a very broad spectrum of feelings , ways, and traits that just put us in the same categories as many others and or groups
About the mirroring part, I honestly was syncing with them and matching their energy to sort of "meet them where they are at" at social gatherings (it happens naturally for me, i don't mean to) but later on I was getting hate and folks saying I was weird, flip flopping between extraverted and loner. That I had multiple personalities and people couldn't understand me. I always choose to be alone, regardless. But i do enjoy people, i don't see how I was fake "?"..
I was surprised for a few years that people think I am odd. They would just come out and say it if my opinion was different. Even my family have said it. I thought I was quite normal. After doing this test life made a whole lot more sense. I embrace this difference and wonder why others don’t think like I do.
mee too ;-)
You've learned about the 16 personalities and still wonder why other people don't think like you do? (I probably misunderstood your comment)
If you haven't looked at the cognitive functions I would recommend it. As an ESTJ it helped me understand how I think, and how other people think very differently.
Can you discuss on your next videos how INFJs see other INFJs?😅😆
I have once in a group of INFJs and I found that most of them are shy and sad (or maybe only those who usually post on that fb group). But when I enter a group chat of INFJs it was overwhelming. My brain turn to its overdrive mode. I'm thinking and seeing possibilities multiply by possibilities.😵😵
I can't handle too many INFJs around me. lol.
😂🤣 I can relate, I've only met one other INFJ in real life, and she (my aunt) also felt lonely and misunderstood.
We were just talking about random things, but I felt very comfortable around her.
So I decided to dig to find her true colors, and I was mind blown to find out she was just like me.
I wanted her to know she was not alone so I sent her several video links from this channel, and she admits it relating to everyone. 😁
Very interesting concept, thanks for sharing you experiences! We'll definitely take that into consideration! 😆
Oo! I would love that too!
We are smart. Insightful. Advice can hurt. Oblivious to self care needs. Obsessed with self titling to protect themself. I love infjs.. but we are so defensive... passing ships. It is possible for infjs to retain narcissistic traits... it is no difficult to love an infj even a toxic one. But i havent stuck near one yet.
To keep things light. Allow the conversation to just flow forward in whatever way you can. Never mind keeping the subject alive. The other infj won't let you dig it back up anyway
Empathy that leads to helping others to the point our own detriment is the thing that ended within the past few years for me. My empathy is still there, but the spur to action that it once created has subsided. Now, there is a ‘knowing’ about when to help, and when to initiate some tough-love (or even self-love) by not helping. ✌🏼
The very last sentence :') I feel like there's no one I can be truly myself with... It's so hard; I would like to show my truest self but I want to stay private as well...
I have tried hard to control my empathy to avoid being used yes it was difficult but I can kinda control it now
This is quite accurate… funny thing though, I feel like it takes a while for others to realize how reserved I can be.
I keep attracting people that are effected with paranoid schitzophrenia,they say I make them feel safe ❤
Happy to do my part for humanity
I'm a pisces and deeply empathic
First time for me to like a video first ever... This video is almost funny, because I know what others think of me usually, so hearing this is interesting because I'm getting reassurance.
Lol ya I think most INFJs know deep down 😆 Thank you for that rare like!
sometimes I get Exhausting to talk to, and Intimidating is another one from time to time.
As an INFJ, I think this is the best description I’ve heard yet!
I agree.
Thank you for the kind feedback! 🙏
After people know me for a little while, they usually tell me I'm weird.
I knew a group of people years ago. One of them came up to me while I was sitting alone quite content. She told me I was weird. I asked her in what way. She said that I was not like the rest of them. I asked if she & them were all the same, she said, yes. Then I said, and you don’t think that’s weird! She said nothing & stood up & walked away. I thought we were all different. Who knows.
Yes I know people see me as weird. Even my family sees me as the black sheep and complain that I'm not like them. I jump when a movie makes a loud sound and wonder why my ENFJ husband does not. Yes I mirror the people I am with but not everyone. Presently a neighbor wants to have neighborhood parties and I cannot handle being around her. Her parties are boring and feel like an invasion of my privacy. She is so very nice but the chit chat and the energy coming from her drives me crazy. She is desperate to marry her boyfriend and maybe that energy is bothering me. And yes I have drawn sociopathic boyfriends to myself and have given them a lot of my time and energy. I now recognize them from a distance having read The Sociopath Next Door. When I was much younger (I'm 72) I thought everyone was like me - compassionate and caring. Now I realize I should have been a lot more careful because 1 in 25 are sociopaths.
I'm ESTJ and I jump when someone comes up behind me and I didn't know they were there. That's probably unusual for my type but I'm just saying not everything relates to type.
However, being attracted to "sociopaths" seems to be a common problem according to other INFJs online. I think the problem is either they think they can fix the person or they ignore red flags because they're lonely.
As an INFJ, When they see you as odd or strange, the INFJ can actually see the true color of the onlookers, you actually read their demeanor , From jealousy to envy, and mainly their insecurities. They are not use to seeing something different, it freaks them out, Not all people love the
Good in you, it’s best not to help them unless they ask for it , Don’t give them the impression that your pushing your values on them.
Allow free will to flourish on their part. Give them space. Remember your INFJ character is strange to them. Their mindset is not familiar with
Your mindset. Awkward and weird or strange, odd Not all mindsets think the same, my experiences as an Lone Wolf Sigma INFJ
I don’t think we are purposely misleading I think people have preconceived expectations .. on the first interaction (we ) I am not going to give you too much to know who I am it is almost like a game .. to figure you out before you figure me out .. the opinions are very accurate .. the “ fly on the wall “ definitely the most accurate bc the whole time I am wondering “ do I want to be here “ and we are judging if we made the wrong decision instead of being alone and being certain we are using our time in a way that it brings back a benefit
What do I think people feel when engaging an INFJ? Unfortunately, way too many see easy prey and others see a means of attaining someone to take care of their needs.This is when INFJ must set boundaries and be firm. INFJ are not doormats. Take care INFJ! Always take care of yourself so your uniqueness remains in tact. Not boastfully proclaiming uniqueness, but protecting it. Stay true to yourselves.
okay but 5:22 hits just right. i always thought of how every person unique with their personalities and experience, always wanted to know them on real personal level. and i find my comfort on comforting others like i want to be a person on whom they rely on, who will be there for them and never judge. but, fucking course, i just never really had that kind of relationship that im fucking craving. i distant from people because i feel myself like a burden like "im sure they have better friends to hang out with" "i dont think they wanna talk with me, why they fucking would" and just go on.
but im okay, even if im craving relationships it doesnt mean im not okay with being on my own,i really should just get a life and later, hopefully, right people will be around. now im hoping that ill find new friends because i started new hobby, playing on drums. i know things do get better, its a rule of life, nothing is endless
Most people don't know what to think about the infj but they just know that there's something interesting about him
I was sad when I learned my crush thought I was weird, two years ago. But if it's my own personality manifesting like that and my 'weirdness', only a certain point of view taken on it, I finally fully agree with that! 😁🥰 If only there was more people thinking I'm weird, in that sense! It would mean I would be truly manifesting, communicating what I am?! ;) hahaha
Oh my goodness, I don't think a video on YT has described this personality type so succinctly and so accurately. In my own experience, I can say that others have felt intimidated by me, felt uncomfortable because they think I can see their soul and felt that I am a social chameleon with something to hide. On the positive side, people feel they can open up to me, that I will understand and not judge them and help them find their way. I'm pretty funny too when in company I trust and above all kind which can get abused and then I get seriously upset. Thanks for the vid Psych-o, you are spot on.
For me it makes sense that people see us as being strict or reserved in settings - not really letting loose. I see myself as a very caring and empathic person, sometimes too much for my own good, but can sometimes have a hard time showing this in larger social settings (or with people I don't feel really close to).
Funny, the title is how my nearest and dearest buffs' of 40+ years describe me, Brutally Honest! I just don't know how to be anything else. I think your video is accurate opinions, but honestly I only speak for myself. Most people don't get me a lot do accept me but that is not my source of supply, people. Now the earth and nature, that's what matters most for that's all that really sustains us honestly. Keep up the good work! I enjoy your regular videos.
I wholeheartedly agree. It was as if the video was talking about me. And I love it! Learning more about who I am and the why's of my actions and reactions in life is so freeing! This Psych-O is very thankful for your videos!
I am a sigma male, an INFJ with an IQ of 160. I am decent looking and physically fit. With that combination it makes me extremely intimidating to others. Intimidating before I open my mouth. Much more so after I do. However I have learned to play life on the level of others so I am not completely alone. I meet people where they are at, just like the video says, and that seems to be effective. However I always feel alone inside my head. I never have felt understood. I have had lots of praise and acknowledgment in my life but that doesn't translate to being understood. Ultimately feeling lonely even in a relationship. People think it would be nice to be me. I beg to differ. It is a lonely and heartbreaking path that I didn't choose. However things could be worse. Things can always be worse.
Hey man your not alone I thought I was a sigma but this sums me up better.
When I'm listening, I'm relating, and ultimately empathizing with xyz.
When people try and relate to me it's like from a stiff almost generic surface level understanding of the topic. I learned to be content if my friends really get me 70% percent of the time. And when I fail at conveying the message while seeing the look of bewilderment on someone's face it's so disheartening. And then knowing anything I say past the point is most likely not going to be even a afterthought because their mind is made up.
I understand completely
I can relate to the sense that others find me intimidating. When I become aware that someone around me feels that way I've learned to make extra efforts to change the energy into something more positive. I do what I can to make them more comfortable by redirecting their attention to their own attractive traits. I'm terrible at compliments because I never want to flatter, but I look for genuine ways to show that I appreciate them or that I find them special in some way. That said, because I teach others not to think about me I often feel neglected and unknown. I totally agree that it's a lonely feeling. A genuine connection with others is so rare, but I'm still on the lookout! Maybe one day?
@@cdskelly1 There are more out there like us than is apparent. It is hard to see each other because of exactly what you are saying. We make others feel ok but we are not seen in a deeper way. We are seen! No doubt about that. But not in the way that we have been missing most of our lives. Thanks for your reply.
@@postnutclarity7382 I feel your pain brother....sister....whatever you are. I assume you are big on self improvement on meta cognition. If so then know that things get easier.
As an INFJ... i could care less what ppl think of me
There just isn't time to deal with it, and it's their problem anyway, not mine. 😉
Beware of our polar opposite suddenly appearing out of the blue. Particularly if you are in the beginning of your spiritual awakening. The covert narcissist. An adversary not to be underestimated and skilled in disguising their intentional behaviours as unintentional past trauma related responses. Much love to all
Woah...
How can I be sure?
@@joseespinaljr6760 Educating yourself is where you'll find your answer. Narcdaily is on here and a really good resource for anyone going through or post narcissistic relationship. A very good resource for anyone wishing to avoid these toxic relationships. Most of us find out the hard way, but the lessons learned by such an experience will turn out to be empowering moving forward. Much love
I eat narcs for breakfast lunch and dinner. That's when the dark INFJ comes out if I get a whiff of any narcissistic behavior nowadays.
@@achebwahs1111 I agree with the fact that lessons learned through dealing with a narcissist are valuable. Dealing with my father , I can say it gave me an advantage in dealing with abusive people. A valuable knowledge. It was painful and hard lesson until I learned to forgive :)
For years I always tested as an INJF. Then I gradually realised this was incorrect and it turns out I am actually INTJ that had been forced into people pleasing just to be able to operate in "normal society"
Spot on! Thank you for the reflective insights! The only part I didn’t relate with or agree with fully was the part about being informed. While I agree that we are naturally curious, and that that curiosity often pushes us to study and explore things; and while I also agree that we tend to have opinions (often well-formed and developed) about the things we do know or the facts we are exposed to; I nevertheless don’t agree fully that we always know everything that is going on around us - whether in the workplace, in the general state of the world, or whatever. We will know what we are exposed to, but whatever we are not exposed to will require SE for us to go out and put the personal time and effort into researching and learning, and that does not always come easily to us. Sometimes being (or *getting*) informed can feel like a form of work, as the gathering of information through anything other than observation can require a particular effort that doesn’t come naturally to us. With that said, the other points resonated quite well with my everyday experiences as an INFJ 🙂
Well said
It's difficult having such contradictory wants and needs. Learning that most others don't struggle as much with these conflicting desires has helped me to understand why others wil often misunderstand my actions. It doesn't make it any easier.....
I definitely sense the “people think you’re weird” part of this 🤣 but honestly, I kind of like it. Normal is weird, and backwards as hell. It makes me feel a little proud, if I’m being completely truthful. I also know for a fact that people think I’m very quiet, even when in my own head I’m being super conversational, because people have told me this. It’s not that I can’t manage a social situation, I just really would rather not. And this is another contradiction because a part of me really wants to have a community, though another recognizes that I am the only person who will ever truly understand myself- and even then, I’m at a loss sometimes
I feel too much fir other people and want to help. And I’m interested to know people, but people are not interested to know me. Only narcissists which I keep at distance and I’m not giving them any information about myself because one day they will use it against me. I can cry for people that I have never met hearing their life stories..
Upon watching, this is why I always consider INFJ as both blessing and a curse. It's a curse because we view these things differently from other people/normal people and will make us weird and the same time it's a blessing because we have this ability to look beyond those things. So yeah but I doubt myself sometimes but I'm working on it and so are you 😊🤝🏻
I sometimes struggle to find common ground to talk about with people. Without putting them down I just dont find certain people interesting, especially popular types.
Are we an INFJ at birth? I identify with this, however, I know many of these qualities too have come from childhood trauma. I haven't found any other INFJ so far in life and it's truly lonely. Thank you for the video.
Wow. Just wow. I wish I could get everyone that is important to me to watch all of your videos, or maybe just this one. They won't. But, your videos are amazingly SPOT on!
True, little does the other person know that the infj will not show who they really are.
I stopped feeling the need to explain myself years ago .
I'm not reluctant to open up about myself, just ask questions, that's all ya gotta do, I'm pretty honest n open when it comes to conversations
For example:
My fav color is blue-violet, fav animal is hmm.. I cant decide actually, snakes or turtles, my favorite way to execute someone is by giloteen "off with their head!", I'm very interested in paranormal stuff and my fav food is lasagna, fav pokemon is deoxys and last I'm only attracted to ai wemon because they're not hyp3rg0mus n they don't have female nature lol
I'd go on but that's enough
yep its this easy and people have to complicate interaction so much
Yes, I feel like a pretty open book, but people have to make some sort of an effort!
I'm not into helpin everyone if they need help, I do enjoy helpin but if I know that person is a nasty person then I'll happily let them do whatever all by themselves 😄😄
After all just because I'm an infj don't mean I'm obligated to help you
why does everyone i meet expect me to tailor my personality to them and immediately bend to their every whim
@@1594simonsays I don't do that so I assume not everyone you meet does that even if it feels that way.
Spot on, I was thinking some of the exact things right before you said them.
Definitely ME. Thank you for your channel and for clarifying this personality type.
As a probable INFJ, I feel it's all about the "vibes". Feel the other persons resonant frequency and put yours in either harmony or better yet, in unison with it. It's your thoughts that alter your frequency.
That actually makes a lot of sense
Thanks for this one. I know how it feels inside lol, but I'm always curious about how I come off to the people around me.
The one thing that stands out to me most about them is their lack of identity & tendency to commit to random stuff just because you mentioned a vague intent
We should all connect; then perhaps we would feel less isolated.
Yes
For me being accused of stuff that is false,because they can't understand you doesn't mean that it's our fault
so acurate
Omg… Yes! 🙄 I’ve been accused of being manipulative when that wasn’t even my intention at the time. I just suck at communicating my thoughts and emotions directly, and I also have CPTSD and struggle with anxiety and depression, so have a whole lovely onion layer of issues to work through.
As a child growing up, I was constantly told o was an old soul. Born too late, I heard a lot.
As an adult, I refuse to grow up.
When I meet people. It's the sane. Confused, shocked, question, who are you?
How do you know these things.
My favorite I don't hear often. So many get scared away.
How did you just look right through me?
I found the description 100% accurate regarding my petsonality; I have felt like a weirdo all my life. I just need to watch from a distance and analyse because I feel very uncomfortable going through life without a deeper understanding of things.
"A fly on the wall mentality?" 🤔🤔🤔😌
Personally I like to think of myself as a bee in a flowering garden 🌺⚘🐝💐.
Just going around sipping nectar form many different types of flowers, to be processed and analyzed so I can turn it into precious honey 🍯🐝. Then stored away safely so I can have it to use later on in life.
Hopefully to share with other Bees. I also love helping other flowers by spreading pollen around to each new flower I meet, so they can grow from the experience and wisdom of others plants just like them. 🥰🐝🍯💐
However lifes not fair, and my honey is usually stolen by mean and greedy humans, who poison my fellow Bees with noxious smoke, then they ripp apart my once beautiful home. Those monsters come in and steel all our food. The precious pollen that took so long to collect, and our "Sacred Honey!" that so many of my friends sacrificed their lives to protect, all gone now...
Those wretched creatures called "MAN!!!!" are the absolute worst thing ever.... well except for Honey badgers, now those are the absolute worst.😔
😬Okay so I might be a little pessimistic.😅😒
Oh my gosh! One of the most accurate INFJ pieces out there. Seriously!
I'm infj which is the rarest type
AND
an anxious avoidant (disorganised) attachment style which is also the rarest type!
I feel like I'm must be a very very rare type. My life has been so hard and no body really knows me. Is there anyone else out there with these types like me ?
(For added info I'm enneogram 1w2 self preservation type)🙏
Do you consider yourself a turbulent or an assertive? Depends on your environment if you are required to revert to survival mode. I had health issues (fibromyalgia) that effected my life outlook. Also had to activate survival mode. Thank God I was an INFJ that had the skills to investigate and observe and fix that problem.
@@bluesky7704 i think I'm a turbulent type
I love the music. It’s appropriately beautiful..❤️
So spot on!
Thank you for the feedback!! 🙏
.. Years ago a stranger compared mee with a diamond.. For every new facet you find, there's another hundreds you haven't found..
Spot on! We are not weird. The people love us!
5:32 I can speak to this truth with lots of experience in it. With every online presence I've had a lot of people guess my age to be much higher than it actually is, usually around 2x my true age. They normally do this because I am reluctant to share it. Once when I was 14 someone thought I was 40, I don't think they factored in my profile picture however. You can guess my age right now if you like, though I may have just set high expectations for you and you might guess something as crazy as 16 now. My fault though
Brilliant analysis! Omg! 👍💙💙💙
Thank you so much 🙏
Some INFJs are not so graceful in the eyes of others, and are avoided due to their different aura. Still, we are all about meaning, union with higher intelligence, and serving Gaia.
💯🙏🙌🦄🐉🌏💓
That's funny. I don't worry much about what people think. I'm 63 now and I know there were times in the past I wasn't so clear, so it's cool, I'm familiar with the process. It's all for learning and I wouldn't change a thing.
You are right you know our type all my life I had a feeling i was different , just learning and sometimes i wish i had another personality but it is who I AM THANKS
You are so welcome, thanks for sharing! 🙌
Love it!!❤
I am an infj-t from what I can tell but I hold other traits that apparently double up due to being of the spectrum such as apparently asd minds are often logic bias also I just enjoy gaming and coding but all considered I have spent my life on self discovery along side my pursuit of other interests.
It shows there can be a flare within all, just how it shows could be in knowledge or emotional understanding or even both ^.^
As an INFJ, I allways need some time to adjust to the mood of a group, before I take any part in common conversation. And by some time, I mean days or even weeks. Therefore at short-term stays, I might not be able to get to the talking, "more human" phase at all, leaving in others the impression of shy, diffident or even impersonal person.
But even after I begin to talk, it doesn´t lead to me opening up. I just subconsciously go with the float, playing the role, which other people expect me to (it is so iintense, that it left me struggling with the question, Who the fu*k I really am, more than once in the past, lol...).
Only after a long time and just to my closest ones I finally reveal my true self, my inner world. Or at least a part of it. There is always a part, I keep just for myself and share with nobody, perhaps except for my, now already ex, Girlfriend.
All in all, I would say that people may see me as reserverd and quiet, but also very talkative and social, given by the "phase of opening" I am at with them.
And yes, being a fly on the wall actually is my favourite social scenario, when talking to a group of more than 5 people, from whom I know maybe only 2 or 3.
All true... I only wish I could meet another
INFJ... just so I know I am not alone... peace and love to you all.
Try going to self-help seminars, book stores, book clubs, art classes, music events, theaters, etc. We tend to pool there as we’re drawn to introspective/ self improvement/ creative expression kinds of things. 😉
🙋 You are not alone 🌻
I am 49. I've always thought that people think, ' I'm weird 'and many times the truth has come out, and I can see that some find me weird.
I know when peeps are zeroing on me.
I don't know how I got these ' 'abilities', but they are pretty,acurate. I am almost 50 and it's taken me this long. .
😃😂😂😄
I love this, thank you.
No wonder some people dislike us.
I had to be outgoing today. At work, we were tasked with making small talk over coffee in small groups.
The conversation went: So, what did you do over the weekend? And you? And you? And you?
So I asked, "What will you achieve this year?" and then the conversation got good.
Fly on the wall yes to observe, enjoy & stay out of confliction so you don't unleash what people don't want to know about themselves
I think people definitely pick up on my overall interesting view of the world. I’ve never felt like I’ve fit in, which I would assume would be apparent to outsiders. For the longest time it was hard for me to be okay with being the “fly on the wall” in social situations because I would assume others would judge me for not socializing more, when I truly do enjoy sitting back and not saying much until I know you and are comfortable with you more. But over time I’ve gotten more comfortable with this part of myself and actually like it. But still I think this can come across as socially awkward when in reality once people do have conversations with me they see that I do mirror energy and can be social, I just choose not to be at times.
Yep, nailed it, spot on.
Very well put!!! 🥰🙏🏽👏🏼
I guess, people never know who we are. I liked once my coworker told she was surprised to see I am not that person she thought before.
💫✨ People view me : 1. Funny; 2. Mysterious; 3. Strange; 4. Confusing; 5. Exceptionally Talented or Intelligent; 6. Aloof or Timid to a fault … I may be all of the above or something entirely different - authentic to the situation or ‘audience’ as the need may be for me to endure it. 💫✨