Eight Lies The Narcissist Wants You To Believe
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As you engage with a narcissist, you quickly realize that person has an agenda for you. What's worse, the agenda is built upon false assumptions about who you are supposed to be. Psychotherapist Dr. Les Carter exposes eight of the most common lies narcissists can feed you, with the hope that you can break free from their domineering ways.
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The worst of them all, is that they claim being the victim!! 🤯🤯.
It’s beyond frustrating
So true! Very sickening
Well, sometime in their lives many of them we're seriously abused. And to top it off so many of them never got to help that they needed to not land where they did. And sadly they are so stuck where they are now they can't or won't even attempt a change. It's very heartbreaking to me. This particular young man could have been so many things but now he has all these terrible traits of narcissist and there's not a damn thing I can do to help him.
I hate That isht!!!!
thisizlegi
Of course, whatever works best for attention getting behavior in the selfish, self absorbed, and I am so smart..I mean brilliant.
(A few days later !! ) Ur the lucky one, growing up in my life everybody in my life never let me do what I wanted.. my was mean and yelled at me if I talked , I didn't have..... being a victim and whinnying and blah blah blah.. so if you claim to be a victim... what response from your narc would you get.. of course you could shut down immediately once that word victim is heard oh no you're not you have no idea what it's like to be a victim only I do!!! You can count on 🤔😣😟 not listening to your experience
So sad 😢 And they'll never change 💔 it's heartbreaking
Thank you so much for this video. Every time I reminisce, I come back here to get back my common sense.
Allie Hubert,Your lovely smile 😊 can make the news!!
After 32 years I've found out what's wrong, damn I thought I was losing my mind. Thank you !
The only truth my ex narc told was his phone number. Not even his name was true
Hilarious but also so sad.....
Wow!
Zuhura...imagine that!!!
Thank God he is your ex snd God set you gree
😱
This is just the reason I am putting out my hubby from my life. Thank you for giving me the right words.
Good luck to you as you move forward! Dr. C
My narc soon to be ex husband would always tell me if I ever expressed my feelings..."well, I don't know really what to tell ya".
Ugh this is my mom I am trying to learn how to deal with it. She has physically help make my health decline
A very bad problem of deep low self esteem...
Wish I would have known this years ago..
My last ex lied till he could lie no more about cheating. Then it was my fault. My fault I spied on him which I did out of complete desperation because I knew he was cheating but with constant lies I needed the truth, then my fault he cheated after I found the proof . I left with my dignity but he has ruined many of the friendships I had or we had as a couple, also the people I used to work with shes a bitch ect. My life is so much better. Plan on being single for along time. It's so peaceful.
They thrive on deiving you crazy by lying and hiding the truth. I had a female drive me into anger management that way. Then blame me for a child that was 14 months old when i met her.
Thankyou very much. My father is ours.....and hearing this has covered every one of his beliefs and thereby his behaviours! Listening to your insights is very concluding in my need to insight. Thankyou.
Dr. Carter I commend you on your tremendous research, dedication, thoughtfulness, and most of all generosity for educating the public to help reveal the pain persons has to go through everyday with these unpleasant experiences with difficult persons(Devils lol) bless you.
The "separate and distinct" thing was really helpful. :)
All the thumbs down are probably narcissist. Dr. Les Carter's videos on narcissist are on target. Having been married to one and MIL being the worst, Dr. Carter knows his stuff. UGH, so glad to be away from them!
Glad you're on board with us! Dr. C
I already knew this! I dealt with narcissist LEO, gemini, libra, pisces, taurus 🤮
I constantly get accused of being a narcissist.
Really enjoy Dr. Carter's videos!
Self examination is also important because WE can be the narc and not know it or you and your partner can be narcs......examine yourself and your partner carefully before doing anything rash especially if you have children together.
He does nice thinga for me and then holds them agaist me later ..
He's score boarding. Dr. C
Also, narcissists know how to pick their victims very well. It's a skill they've perfected. They know what to say and what to do to have you and before you realise it, they are manipulating you and sucking all your energy. Knowledge is power. Stay away! Far away! Keep your peace of mind and sanity. Life is meant to be enjoyed.
Thank you, good information. I wonder if a narcissist be cured?
Watch the video, Can A Narcissist Change? Dr. C
Great video
😁..so glad I found your videos..
The biggest lesson learned is never I mean never ever discard ur gut feeling ....
My gut feeling is you're a narcissist.
Are you targeted? Where? Since when?
Thanks!!
I did..to my didmay...live and learn....hopefully ❤
dismay...
My narcissist person doesn't just think he is better than me, he thinks he is better than EVERYBODY!
They all think so.....None is better than them.....
Izzysmom My mom
Mine told me he IS better than most ppl. Blew my mind. Which is why I’m leaving him today.
Yep, that's my brother to a T
My ex was always saying that person is a fucking idiot when dealing with public
“You can’t reason with an unreasonable person” Thanks
amen
Yep!
haaaa i know shocking right?!?!.... im like just shaking my head saying “wait did i just spend 5 years trying to reason with a completely unreasonable person?”
12 years !!
Its manipulation in the raw..like taking a 5 year old to the store where they lay down in the floor kicking to have their way. Only these preadolesc are arrayed in adult body... ..the wheels are continually grinding in the background on how you owe them everything , yet they are hard pressed to admit any responsible action...
. Its so 😔 that person is touting aware but never sees reality. Expediently plans to wear you out mentally & physically..& try to make you feel guilty.
When one tries to address the hurtful behavior of the narcissist, the tables turn and one is accused of the very thing the narcissist has done! No wonder partners of narcissist begin to think they themselves are crazy.
You should see the old movie "Gashlight". The woman literally become sick and she thinks she's lunatic, because of the games of her narc husband
YES. 222
It's called "protecting". They project their problematic characteristics on you. How can you tell it's THEIR characteristic? Because it's generally something you NEVER thought, or said, or did, or even CONSIDERED doing!
One time, my dad made fun of how I ate Infront of a few people. As we walked to the car I compared what he did to someone calling him an old man Infront of the kick boxing class. Having turned it around on me when I tried to stick up for myself, that one really sent him over the edge. Hahaha
Projection 101! It is so frustrating and also enlightening for my own shadow work. There are times where I judge Narcissa. I have to pause and evaluate my own behavior to identify in what ways I possess the characteristics I judge. Eventually (after much introspection and integration) I begin to have compassion for people I would have judged in the past.
"I'm sorry.... I'm wrong.... It's my fault". So said the narcissist never
You got that right. Dr. C
@@SurvivingNarcissism very True! so thankful for all the coments. i feel so alone in all this and just waking up. but it also seems like alot of Narcissist are men but mine is not. frustrating.
@skitsy17 my narc ex said sorry countless time when he was hoovering. But I already know once I take him back he will lie and cheat on me again, so no thank you:/
Well, they may SAY it, but don't actually mean it. Just more words.
They don't know the word "sorry" Its not in their nasty dictionary
8 Lies
1. I am superior to you - I'm afraid of my minuses. If there are any problems here , it comes from you, not from me.
2. You give your power to me - You're not allowed to be decisive. I have to come off ahead so you must agree with me.
3. You're nothing without me - Nothing is good about you. If there is, it comes from me.
4. It's your job to keep my ego propped up. So they look for folks that will give them special treatment.
5. You owe me. If I do something nice for you, you will owe me.
6. Your feelings and opinions are irrelevant. They shut you down, shrug who cares, or explain why you're wrong.
7. It's your fault. If there is a problem between you, they go to the blame game.
8. You're making my life miserable. I'm not ruining my life. They are the victim.
Fun Facts
Do not correct the narcissist. They don't want to be accountable.
Develop low level of expectation and relationship. Unless you want to do everything their way.
Remove the person or get away from them as much as you can.
If you can't get away, make sure to get around better people and minimize your exposure.
Stay grounded in your own truth. Review what people should be like - set your own truth.
You can't reason with an unreasonable person who doesn't accept truth or reason.
Thank you for this very helpful, succinct summary.
thanks for summarizing
I literally told him: I don't owe you anything!!!! Called him a narcissist and satan. It just came out of my mouth. He left angry I blocked him. Got anonymous calls during three hours. Changed my number this I now know was a fake friend. Reality is he was a spiritual manipulator with long term control agenda..reason for the argument was that I set my boundary by telling him I felt forced. He felt attacked and said that I should think about my words and actions Very intimidating and patronizing. He flipped because I said the truth.
I'm at peace now but the evening he kept calling after I hung up on him when I heard it was him, I was very upset and scared.
He knows I'm walking kind of solo ( because I moved away from any toxic people to focus on my life and right to feel peaceful and free). I was thinking that I started to chose deleting controlling people from the moment I started doing sports. It is as if sports was my start up to this new process of kicking out any sabotaging person from my life where possible.
I told my mother about my gym and how I stated to work out. The only reaction she gave was :but don't you want to go to another gym with more facilities like a sauna etc. I felt the spirit the attitude behind the words. Like my gum wasn't good enough. Or her decadent way to say that she had a much nicer gym.
The first time I went to that gym she spoke into my voicemail after weeks of no contact she called me while I was training. I saw her call when I walked out happy that I finally started something for myself and when I saw her call I cried frustrated angry and my joy felt bullied like she felt that I was taking ih my identity and then decided to call me because somehow I always had many ideas but I felt stuck. I really believe it was because family and friends didn't want me to develop enjoy. Yet they did it all but even if I would have nothing but an empty box and they'd owe the world they would still try to steal my box bebsuse it's me. I doubt many times if I'm right with this perception but the feeling is so strong. They don't want me to use my talents. I'm alone narc free and I'm going to be who I feel I am supposed to be to the max.
You just described my mom,she is narcissistic
Kasia A much appreciated!! 🙏🏾
My mother was a narcissist. I had to make the painful decision to let the unhealthy relationship go. I have never been happier. Thank you for your sessions.
God bless you!
Good move Lisa....I cut my mom off 3 years ago...only here from her a few times.
mom is a narcissist and now I am a mom I find it so hard to deal with her but feel guilty cutting things off now that she is old and I have put up with it all my life quite the predicament
I went no contact with my mother 5 years,ago. Best thing i have ever done for myself.
My father was like this, I still grieve even though he's gone.
Everything they accuse you of, they are admitting what is wrong with them.
Yes, it's called projection. Dr. C
Oh so very true... a narc in my life told me my response to something was "vicious"..
No one had ever called me that or even close in my whole life.. It shocked me and now I realize THEY were the vicious one! Projecting it on to me...
tranquility, so true. I once heard that type of projection expressed as "Their accusations are confessions." The difficult part is when they describe you to others, they describe themselves, and not who you really are. Then we get to pay for their sins, so to speak. Its how they cleanse themselves at our expense. Of course some also enjoy watching us mistreated by others too.
tranquility true
Tranquility , OMG YES!!!
8 lies of a narc: "It's your fault" (repeat this 8 times) 😀
Lol
😂😂😂
Lol 🤣🖖🦋#enjoymars
Lol is Right! and ya could've & should've or "We" have a problem you have to fix NOW for THEM
Defining moment in my marriage:
Her: you should see a marriage counselor.
Me: ok, I'll make an appointment for us.
Her: us? I don't need help, you do.
True story
Yep! Dr. C
Ha ha -that is so typical!
Wow. how similar. She: ..."Your crazy you need to read a book."
Me: "....My opinion is that we go to our marriage counselor."
She: ..."No! And your not going alone either! You might tell her what happened and she would think that I had an affair..."
It is just amazing how much help Dr.C does with this internet video... Thank You.
@neorev01 I could have written that. And @Thorvald Melum? That actually happened! I said, "I'm going to see our counselor." She said, "I'm coming too! I don't trust you, and I want to know what you're going to tell her."
But *I'm* the narcissist. OK.
Yes! My twin narcissists has done that a million times over the years! I'm so glad I finally understand all this - just the past couple months!
...runaway. Block them in every way possible (phone, text, social media etc.). No contact rule (seriously).
Love and heal yourself from them.
Grey rock!!
It's necessary for me to divorce myself from my dad's pervasive narcissism, no contact works! My victory!
The narcissist: “I reject your reality and substitute my own.”
That's how they think! Dr. C
@@SurvivingNarcissism I notice I've had no acknowledgement from somebody I fell out with over them not wearing their seatbelt while behind a relative, I didn't want to experience loss because of them. I've done all the legwork in making things up again, and it's been accepted but nothing has come back in the same way. It's quite interesting to watch videos like your's towards picking up traits of narcissism in other people (and seedlings of it in myself at times, but I'm mostly ok).
@@timothydraper3687 the phrase "i don't want to experience loss because of them"....sounds quite narcissistic actually......🙄😒🤦♀️
Kelly Dolan, You are beautiful 🌹🌷🌷,you don't need a narc 😈 in your life!!
@@oscarwilliamson1264 You are so right! I once had a boyfriend (narc) say that I was just a crumb in the bottom of his breadbox. That was the last day I ever did anything nice for that d*ick! 🤣.
This is brilliant and very supportive for empaths that get trapped.
E R,
As an empath in experiences with a narcissist, the Narcissistic Personality Disorder individual obviously senses your deeper abilities on an empathic level of which they aren't capable of reaching & that in and of itself is quite a trigger to unleash a wrath of their own inadequacies, further perpetuating a sprinkler of tyranny..
Although their reactions are felt, even if with disappointment or hurt, it's important to honor that feelings are temporary & do not need to persist into an emotional outcome, whereas they may be more subject to transfer into fruition in extended form(s)..
Joe Dispenza demonstrates this topic well, in his video: You Are the Placebo
Though Joe Dispenza's You Are the Placebo is great, it is lengthy, this one may be helpful to grasp how experiences of narcissistic behaviors may work their way into one's circuitry
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Yes, I am an Empath and renting a room from a Narcissist....always having to set boundaries, but he still thinks he is superior to everyone! I have learned so much from these videos!
I have 3 adult children. Growing up, I taught them to be gentle with animals, be nice to the lonely kid in school, you know, basic parent stuff..and they did. Then real life gotta hold of them (middle school, puberty) and what I said, went out the window. They became their own person...my work was done...but we still had the most amazing conversations about...everything. So, 2 out of 3 isn't bad...right?!
@@larryjohanseniv7049 Joe is a great source of insight.
These videos are sanity savers. Thank you once again for all the good work you are doing, Dr. Carter.
You're welcome. Dr. C
Bridget Backus McBride yea i get that 😊
Yes, it behooves you to know who are in Christ!
@@SurvivingNarcissism THANK YOU! THANK YOU! My wife and I are constantly trying to work with her 36 yr old autistic son to help him cope with his TEXTBOOK MALIGNANT NARC father. After nearly 40 years of Narc's B.S., she is also quite emotionally damaged. Your insights are so much help. I only have one wish for her son to be as free as possible from his horrible "father". Sad to say, probably not many good prospects for that since his father controls access to the son's Trust which is supposed to support and enhance the son's life. ANYWAY.... Thank you for your posts as they give us so much encouragement to go on in dealing with this monster. Love and LIght.
yes thank you Dr. Carter...so helpful...please do more...we must all buy your books!!!,..as we know PLEASING THEM WAS KILLING US..your a lifeline back to living !!!
I've been married to a narcissist for 45 years...it's impossible to have closeness with a selfish individual.
SheLikesSteel I’ll pray for you💙
I'm also married to a narcisst for 20 years now and my son is showing similar traits which breaks my heart to see that my suffering is only increasing
SheLikesSteel why are you still with him????
Sounds like living in a death cult.
Exactly
If their lips are moving they’re lying.
lol... so right
Sweet
Lol
i alwayes tell the truth i never lie
The devil lies, even when he is telling the truth.
Lethal. No communication, no interaction. Don't feed the monster.
Or insect. Creepy crawly you want to squash...
I have no contact with my narcissistic dad, I win!
They love to hurt and then rescue you from that hurt and be a savior of sorts despite being the main cause of the hurt.
Omg Yesssss!
They love that kind of
I just tell you example with my husband of 16 one day that I paid attention to what he did most the time I just oh yeah,ok, those are my surviving words recently what I master after a lot of headache but I will tell u what he did how far he gone I dicidded to move a rose plant from a container to flower bed and he said don't do it because it isn't the time or something like he always did his own way so he use to it I said I will and move the plant mine and I bought it so I did because I plant it my self in about the week the rose start diying I look at it if the root is dying or something I am watering every night so I looked at it it was cat slised under it was just sitting on the top the root was slised cut I couldn't believe he would that to prove you moved it you burn I saw it I nearly cry but then I better not tel him because he will know that I know him or any other advice should ?
Demonic on thier part
Do they ever apologize for hurting u I'm currently in a narcissist relationship and have one kid with her and she's constantly devaluing me and constantly throwing up my past mistakes to say look at how much of a shitty I am she constantly lies to about how our fights happen. I can't keep getting blamed for everything under the sun whenever she's in my house my heart pounds in anxiety because I don't know what's going to set her off
Yep. I experienced this whole life with my family
FALSE BELIEFS OF THE NARCISSIST
1. I am better than you
2. You're suppose to give your power to them (think like me)
3. You're nothing without them
4. It's your job to keep their ego pumped up
5. You owe me. You should be grateful you're with me.
6. Your opinions are irrelevant
7. Problems are not their fault but yours.
8. Your making my life miserable.
Damn. Well these are all true.
2012endofanerror and there are so many people that buy it. No one can succeed unless others want them to and that’s what is so scary in such a sick scenario.
CJ 1419 You"ve just described modern society.
I have seen many parallels between narc abuse and modern politics from gaslighting to assigning golden children and scapegoats.
@Anonymous writer TBC
nor breathe the same air I do,
nor occupy the same space I do!
You must self-efface because I can't handle the truth about myself!
Final word on EVERYTHING!! And NOPE , I haven't been able to reason with him in 30 years. It's HIS WAY or the highway....I miss having a normal adult conversation with someone SOO MUCH !
30 years? Your escape is long overdue, my dear!
I totally understand.
My husband just went through a
bi- polar manic cycle an blew up at me in front of other women friends while we were attending a Birthday party for my Goddaughter.
Putting me down and calling me vulgar names.
I was truly appalled embarrassed and ashamed at that point to call him my husband.
I miss the respect, intimacy, loving, trusting, fun, connectivity, protection, having my back, and simply the feeling of a happy normal relationship with a man....
Thought about having a no strings attached relationship with a old trusted dear friend that always treated me well.
At least this would allow me to receive the much needed companionship and the intimacy of a relationship that not always include sex.
However, I'm sure the sex would be inevitable, causing guilt and problems from cheating.
I love my husband or at least the husband he is during the few days a month he is nice.
I do not love the husband he is the rest of the time.
He has medication for his bi-polar, and it works when he takes it right.
Bi- polar is a disease.
I get it.
I have diabetes. Also a disease.
Would it be right if he left or step out of the relationship from me because I have a disease?
Would it be wrong to do the same to my husband because of his disease?
I have been with my husband 26yrs.
Do I just throw it all away becoming two people; one that stays with a bi-polar person, being treated poorly or one that has a behind the scene relationship just to be happy and to have a sense of being ...me
Bottom line..
I'm just very very lonely and lack affection, respect and that inner soul connection of intimacy that any living person craves.
Yep, same (30 years just celebrated in September). I had no idea what a narcissist was let alone hubby fit the bill to a tee. Yes, we are finally divorcing but it’s him discarding me. I dodged a bullet by him wanting to leave; he found himself a new supply. I feel bad for the new girl. Hopefully she’s not as dumb as I was at figuring things out.
The highway is still there.
me too.
By the number of views and subscribers you get a glimpse of the magnitude of this problem, the number of lives lived without joy, without connection, without integrity, without self worth.
Yes.
It needs to be addressed. I don't know what can be done to get this out there. I married her and had no clue. She was a F'g sociopath narc. I can't believe it. I want a movie done on this.
@@cfrdog you're not alone.
the number of lives lived without joy, without connection, without integrity, without self worth. i repasted your kind post in this part as i cannot expect joy or self worth again on earth, or a real connection with anyone,,,,,im defective now, been isolated with a narc too long and had narc friends use me,, so,,,,,,,,,,,,its over, i just wake waiting for the time God takes me
Oh yeh! World is full of such sick ppl!
These 8 lies are spot on. There are MANY more.
I wish I knew 23 years ago what I know now.
I'm so grateful to have access to these type of videos.
They changed my life. Thank you!
Friday confession:
I've been on a Dr.C binge today. I'm about 9 deep at this point, with no plan of stopping. With every video watched, it's 5 more little boxes unlocked. Before too long, I'm gonna be my whole, complete, entire true self again! For the first time in my life even. Thank you again. Five-ever and ever!
So pleased! Dr. C
@@SurvivingNarcissism 🧘
When we've been betrayed, by the person we trust...it's beyond painful. Now, we wonder, who can we trust? I have reconnected with someone I truly trust...my Grandaughter...her daughter! Isn't life grand !!!
You nailed it! I burst out laughing at your statement that the difficult part of living "with a narcissist is figuring out the truth." You feel like you are watching the shell game in which 3 shells are lined up - and you have to guess which one has the piece under it. And it doesn't quit! They want you to keep going on this game! Even after 65 years, they are still going!
oh, do you know my ex?
@OneOFThese NotLikeTheOther How true!
@@manicboy76 😂
The more i see your videos the more i realize that the best way to survive narcissists is to know who i am.💚💚💚🙏
I thank God for your spirit and wisdom.
Thank you... Just realize it now..
That is such a great view of the situation. Thank you.
Yep. Basically the opposite of them. They have no sense of self. Fragile ago, paranoid, facade personality...maybe more than 1 or 2.
Yep ! Very true !!
It seems that most of the people are relatively unaware of the Narcissists games . but once the eyes are opened , the pieces all fit together and finally make sense . It is actually hard to believe that we deal with these people constantly . So , it is good to be aware as possible of this type of personality .
Yes my narc is quick to list everything he has done "for" me
They will also try and break up relationships you have with other people and family. They like to break people up.
Sad but true. Dr. C
@@SurvivingNarcissism Total Polarizing. Mine pits us each against the other than we compared notes. DONE ...
"I'VE LOST EVERYONE..I'm All Alone.." Wah Wah Wah.. MORE DONE
i fled mine i was on a island with her i fled home to mainland uk homeless n my 45 th birthday the usury and lies and made up storeys and victim act was insane she would always try to make her daughters split up from there men and not long before i fled was involved with driving her son to and from his bit on the side before he left his girlfriend and baby the other NARC SHE HAD OVER FROM UK was fresh back from america where she had used a por hillbily dude and basically lived in his house for 6 months free with al sorts of lies EVEN SHE was taken aback that the mother would be telling the son and helping him cheat I WAS LIVING THERE AMONGST THESE PEOPLE and my ex i just filled the car boarded the ferry and ran like hell
Douglas Tunnell that’s evil. These people are clearly demonically possessed
Yup - my younger sister who is a sociopath did that to me
The narc boyfriend I had to deal with convinced me that I’m crazy and abandoned me several times making me feel worthless. Never took responsibility for his hurtful actions.
This video gave me closure. I’m better off without that manipulative pos
Mine kept on calling me a Hoe n making me feel worthless all Through smh He really Made me feel like I was nothing without him it's better leaving them for Good
Yes mine also ,,, abandoned me numerous times ,, and I don’t know why it took me so long to figure it out,,, but I did ,, and he’d Discarded!!,,,,,
8-8. Damn. I cannot believe myself for putting up with this situation for so long. Heartbreaking to hear. But necessary to grow. Im gonna go throw up now.
Ikr
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I have noticed a tactic narcissists use that I haven’t seen discussed. I call it Shock and Awe.. So you are having a disagreement with them and they throw in some shocking accusation that is so far fetched that your heart sinks and your mouth drops open? You can’t believe they are accusing you of something so ridiculous. It’s not just that it’s ridiculous, most of the time it also invalidates some trauma you experienced. For example, my narcissistic Mother tried to shoot me once. My husband and I had been dating for a couple of years at this point and he watched me go through hell over that.. So in an argument last year (together 9 years at this point) he suggested that I had made the whole thing up and my mom never tried to shoot me... despite the bullet hole through my bedroom door.. despite the fact that my mom when to jail for the night back when it happened . .
I used to give him exactly what he wanted. I would start defending myself. He was accusing, I was defending and I was giving away my power and allowing him to feed on my energy.
I don’t think the narcissist actually belives this ridiculous thing they have accused you of... it’s literally used for rapid dominance.. they sense you getting too close to something and use it to throw you off center.
I can totally identify with this sort of tactic. my ex gf went through all my social media history and knew who I had interacted with from 10+ years ago. she would use this information against me but often twist it to suit her own narrative... she would tell me what had happened and when I corrected her (knowing of course my own life and state of mind) she would tell me I was wrong about what happened and that she knew better than me what was in my own mind. she would accuse me of things I didnt do and even when I would show her proof like a credit card receipt to prove where I was, she was still right and I was either mistaken or lying!
Shock and awe or 'offense is the best defense' -anything to avoid accepting responsibility.
Simple deflection. They all do it
@Billy Jenkins
She pretended she was her own rapist 24 years ago ? Huh
I must be missing something that falls under multiple personalities or schizophrenia or something idk what but ....
Possibly you skipped a few words or something
Please edit your comment because it does read as if she pretended to be the rapist.
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Agreed. Hey put some content on your channel. Sounds good... just subscribed
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LEAVE. unless you are a child or a spouse and can't pick up and go. Get them out of your life. Do not reason with them, you are wasting your time.
Leave them forever. If you want anything form a narcissist, or put them in any position in which you owe them, you will pay.
Do NOT let anyone take from you, your self dignity. It is a path that leads to more of the same. Never step into the trap of believing you will change them. You won't.
You can only change yourself. Leave !!
What about revenge on them for destroying your world ?
Wes’s Malibu Stealth 9 fishing There is no such thing. They have an extreme self-protection system. They would rationalize everthing according to their believes. Do not fight with a pig, you would be in the mud. Leave just leave. Don’t look back. You are responsible from your own life. Don’t carry them in your soul with the revenge feeling. As long as you carry them they win. Just get rid of them.
Sadly I have kids and was put in a position as a stay at home mom with no money and a 6 month old ☹️
Yer still dieing from the aftermath of the abuse that’s what makes me want revenge
I’ve lost so much and I can’t find a way out of it. 😡
@@mbfmotorcyclesboatingfishi6779 your revenge is to leave them and get your life on track and succeed. Don't listen to or respond to smears the right people will be around for you and not believe and the wrong people will side with the narc so you know who is true to you. A narc cannot stand a person with internal strength and certainly cannot stand the thought of someone proving they are far better off and are prosperous without them it drives them mad even if they try to show it doesn't. I know this because I know of a narc that acts like a person they were close to didn't effect them but they cry and moan and excessively talk about said person in an obsessive way you can see that the person that left is persecuting their mind........you want your revenge leave, they do the dumping not you is what they feel they won't accept you kicking them to the curb and they will tell the world that they got rid but they know inside they got dumped and their grandiosity cannot handle this because you are beneath them the nerve of you!
“You can’t reason with an unreasonable person”, WOW so true!
Jelousy/Envy.
Even if you manage to "win" an argument, they will find ways to retaliate and make your life miserable.
Charly Rios there jealous and envy is weird has no logic or reason to put me down I have more reason to be jealous of others but sometimes at least I even support those doing better than me especially those who give me pleasant responses and try’s etc
I've found myself over and over trying to teach the narc in my life. All you do is go in circles saying the same things in many ways...on and on. They do not listen. They are Not here to learn, develop or grow as a person and individual.
They don't have their own identity. Most of us naturally try to humble and to improve ourselves, and learn and grow from our mistakes. If your mistakes are not your own, if you cannot own or acknowledge or recognize your faults, you cannot grow, Mature, or change your ways to better yourself.
They don't improve except in getting better at the ways they operate as a sick individual, and in being quicker and better to hurting you. It is a vicious, self sabotoging cycles their in. But hey, it's not "their fault." 😇
@Billy Jenkins
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Well, its not even worth investing even that much energy into them.
Hope you have a very nice day 🌞!
419 narcissists disapprove of this video. 😒
Bree Crutch hahahaha!!!! 😂
.... the problem with codependents is, they can see through the child-like insecurity of the narcissist and feel sympathetic towards them ...... codependents realize how isolated this person really is ....... however, one’s own preservation has to prevail at some point .......
True
One can only feel pity for people like this for so long until you realise it leads you absolutely nowhere
They are sinking rocks desperate to drag anyone they can down with them
I'm thinking my husband was co dependent. I keep asking myself why he put up with me. I'm glad he did.
I understand when people say RUN, get out as fast as you can. It was hard work and maybe he saved the kids from being my mental punching bags. A recovering narc.
I have finally decided not to ever be caught in the trap again... time after time feeling sympathy... no more going back for crumbs and endless criticism... being told by him “ I have enough problems of my own , I don’t need anyone else’s “ ... some people can’t be helped and often don’t want to be... the more we accept the more they feel they can get away with, effectively then enabling the entitlement... the only cure is to step out of the ring...
Well said Nancy.....to acknowledge your problem shows strength and humility.....Hugs!
Narcissist avoid strong or confident people. something WE ALL SHOULD be working on.
captain pinky a narcissist almost broke me at work!! I couldn’t figure out why I was the only one having problems with him.. and now I think it’s because I was not taking all his bs.. I once heard someone talk about a narcissist and my neck hairs went up like they’re talking about him!! I never knew about narcissist And how toxic they are. And yes I do consider myself a strong and confident person and I think that annoyed him and he tried to make my work miserable 😳😢.. now I am really wary of narcissistic traits especially at my work with new people and such...
@Jennifer Raymond Could be in a relationship maybe..Well I don't know for sure my co-worker was a narcissist, but he definitely ticks all the boxes!! and he really aimed his arrows at me, continiously accusing me of mistakes (which I at the time could not defend but in hindsight I could so easily, they were not mistakes but done with a good reason). He really argued all the time with me, everything I said was not right. When the manager asked what the problem was, he was the nicest and most innocent person on earth and I literally had to say: "Yeah when you put it that way... It does sound wrong of me". But being truthful and I really rely on my integrity, I just build a case against him. It really was the only way. I had 14 pages of "prove" he was lying about things. That how my manager really stood behind me and my co-worker being the arrogant narcissist that he was.. He showed his true colours anyway and with my prove my manager could see he was lying. He got fired in the end. But I know he really hates my guts because he felt so superior over all of us he was "the highest educated person" there. Which was a) Probably not even true b) He couldn't even keep a average job so good luck in life..But before this was all known people really didn't understand why we did not get long. Me neither. Everyone thought he was so nice (yeah he only couldn't work with people with a higher job level because he welt superior to us)... I was really emotionally drained while he was working at my job. At the point of quitting my job. And now he's gone... Man the peace!! So much peace!!
@Jennifer Raymond And good you left because better late than never right! I'm sure you recognize a narcissist now from miles away? I do I believe hahah
Daley Jansen: is he your boss? If not, can you speak to someone over him? He has zero right to make you miserable at work. As time goes on, and if it continues, this will not be good for you emotionally or physically. I hope it works out for you!!
Lori Anne He got fired!! Fortunately for me :) no I was his senior and he really couldn’t handle that... also probably got fired half because of me. I do not let people play me but I do am an empathethic person so I can be affected by things. He did make me miserable and I couldn’t pinpoint why. Now I know. On the other hand I knew I did nothing wrong so I stayed strong but boy did he make a negative impact on the workfloor and me
I made a decision to pull away from my friend because every time we talked she would always have the upper hand or say something very mean to me so I came to the decision just to pull myself away from her
Kudos ,, we all have that narc friend 👿
Many thanks. I'm well-educated on the subject but I honestly haven't read a more concise, jargon-free 'expose'of the narcissistic personality. A wealth of insightful tips on dealing with these monsters:). Great work.
Wow, I could have used this 40 years go. I learned the hard way, literally the school of hard knocks. It affects me too this day.
Tina Butterfly yeah, same here.
There is a line, draw it in the air horizontally. Below this line is selfishness, self pity, anger, etc. Above this line is happiness, helping others, success, etc. Live above the line.
Dont feel bad ...me too
Please take good care of yourself because you are a much better person than the narcissist ever made you believe. It hurts so bad! I know it takes a long time to recover and I'm still working on myself after 5 years and I'm worth the time and patience it takes to get myself back...one day soon now!
@@kimmichaluk3072 yes I'm trying. Was your response to me?
This guy has nailed it. One of the best and most consistent RUclipsrs on narcissism.
Thank you!
Thank you! Dr. C
Yes Dr. carter is the best!
his covert narc video is my ex husband to a T.
And he is not annoying....
@@SurvivingNarcissism
Thank you Dr. C !! Peace
agree w/all points.
just gonna twist one of them backwards: where they like to make all the decisions. they also will force you to make decisions when they cannot make one...and then you get the blame if they don't like it. just lovely.
Yup! Exactly right
The seed you plant is the one you grow. Negative people breed negative people. Stop the game and hang with people that you can learn and grow from. The harsh reality is these people only want to keep you down. Thank you for this, Dr C!
Kevin sO. well written.
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NO NARSACIST !!
It amazes me to see so many of us suffering in such relationships.. there are so many toxic relationships.: we should all stay single forever
That's my mantra "Single, not dating, total freedom".
Well I finally had enough. I just went no contact about 5 minutes ago. That person has been permanently blocked. I'm done.
Oh yes. Be strong xx
I have just started I hope you have remained strong it would give me hope 💕
Good for you. Don't go back to it. Don't let that person back into your life. And don't look back. I'm lucky to be alive. Take it from me, you go back, you lose.
Great! I went back to blocking Dad's phone number on my phone, it works!
I walked away from one......the greatest relief I have ever known X
Glad you made it out alive!! God bless
This Dr. Carter is articulate and thorough.
So did I
me, too. Toughest and best thing I have every had to do... but the manipulation continues indirectly..
Rebecca Wallace - Me too! I left him 24 years ago and he still to this day harasses me.
Thank you for this video!! I was really beginning to think it was always my fault even when I knew it wasn’t!! Thank you!!!
The penny has dropped that I attracted these people my whole life .. Now on my own for almost a year, feeling blessed to eventually stop trying to make anybody happy. Except myself and live boundaries thank u for ur valuable videos
Self love is the best defence against the narcissist.
Getting away is the best option if available. If you cannot do that then you have to live your life with them knowing what they say is most likely a lie.
It really is a good option, if you can, to stay away from them. It's pretty hard to get to that point as I know I kept wanting to give the benefit of the doubt and had a hard time really believing that people like this existed.
@@georgejetson9801 just LEAVE them and start/learn loving yourself first...
@@georgejetson9801 I think that is partly why they get away with so much. People simply cannot believe someone like this exists. They keep thinking that they must have missed something, didn't say something, DID say something they shouldn't have said. All the while they are being played. By the time they realize that there is no other option than their partner being abusive it has already taken a huge toll on them.
Andrew Boehmer that is so very true, profound words... I would sometimes literally have my mouth open listening to some of the bizarre comments cruel he would say that had no human feeling ... and I felt everything you described, the fact I questioned myself and enabled the degradation , questioning myself , like you have described must be rooted in low self esteem ... it is truly shocking & the damage they do is incalculable
@@jacqc1533 Low self-esteem or sometimes just too big of a heart. I remember when I told her I was upset because she had lied, sneaked around with another guy (not sure if they were having sex at that point but wouldn't doubt it), been told everyone else was more important than I was (not just family which I understand but friends she had just met) among other things. On top of that she had cheated on her husband and tried to cheat on her boyfriend with me. Which I refused to do.
Her response was, "How do you think I feel? I'm the one that has to look in the mirror".
Wow. What a lack of empathy.
God bless you Dr. Carter.
Keep up the good work !
Benjamin Avshalom ישראלי?
4-Real/Really.
I had to get
A court order for the narc in my life to leave me alone, then I ran into her 3 years later and when I got to my car all my tires where flat..she is now doing 10 years for arson..I guess someone else figured out her scams
Joshua Vanderschouw llll
cfrdog straight facts 💯
I'm thinking the 14 people who don't like this video....are narcissist.
Oh well. Dr. C
Dead on,they are learning how to be better narcs.
Fran Miller 😂😂😂
"They cannot accept TRUTH". Thank you, DR. C!!!
My mind is blown how I can pretty much give a real life example on every topic that u hit on and how it is exactly like the person who I recently cut out of my life. I don't know how I stumbled onto your videos, but I have learned and gained so much insight into narcissistic and narcissistic abuse. I knew what the term "narcissist" meant, but I didn't know that it was this deep and that narcissists are pretty much all the same and all so predictable. Watching your videos has really made me feel like I've made the right decision by disconnecting from that person. Thank u for taking your time to make these videos and sharing your knowledge with the world! ✌️ I can certainly say that I appreciate them all and look forward to watching more of your content!
Thanks, Emmy Dr. C
Same happened to me. I am blown away after listening to these videos. I had little doubt that maybe I should not have left that person but now i know that was my best decision in life ever to walk away. my eyes are now wide open to see so obvious that I could not see then.
You said it, "So predictable" like tantrums when a brat aint get their way.
This is an exceptionally succinct and accurate analysis of how narcissists 'relate' to others. You, as the other, simply do not exist in any real sense; you are nothing more than an extension of them, their needs and their own disavowed fears and inadequacies. Both my parents are deeply narcissistic; I ended my relationship with them three years ago and have spent a huge amount of time reclaiming myself from the lies they told me about who I was. To anyone else out there who is on the same journey, keep going. You are a beautiful soul and nothing at all like the incapable, incompetent, disappointing and unlovable burden that you were told you were.
How did you survive that without being taken over and converted. That is what they want and do. Controll and controlling undecided minds such as those of children is the easiest.
Your describing my mother and our relationship. I don't talk to her or see her much anymore. I am just fine about that. Too difficult to be around her. She was and is toxic and awful. (.....
@Henry Stoneking 'Well, I did the best I knew how to do when I was raising you.' That's what I was offered by my narcissistic parent to explain her behaviours towards me. She still treats me the same now as she did when she was 'raising' me, by the way. I keep my distance from her. 500 miles plus.
Hi Taylor, I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this. It's an incredibly difficult thing to come to terms with and process. I don't know what you have tried to do already in respect of your relationship with your parents, but if you're at the point of wanting to walk from them entirely, then you must be feeling thoroughly defeated.
Cutting contact altogether is, as you say, unquestionably deeply sad. I don't know your parents of course, but with mine I spent considerable time and effort trying to get them to see the implications of their behaviour (while also addressing what they said they did not like about my own. However, you have to be careful here because narcissists project and attribute things to you that you may well not be guilty of and it can be hard to become aware of this. My parents are incapable of owning their actions - perhaps this is familiar?).
I broke contact with them because I was on the point of a psychological breakdown and it became clear to me that I had to make a choice between looking after me and my own wellbeing, or remaining in a toxic and highly destructive relationship with them. If this is where you are at, then think very carefully about what's best for you. You don't need to look at it as an irrevocable decision, but what's important is that you take control and manage the situation to protect yourself in the meantime and then consider how you want to deal with it. Nevertheless, I don't know what your circumstances are; if you're still living at home it will be more complicated and perhaps you'll need to figure out an interim solution of trying to impose strong, non-negotiable boundaries until you're in a position to move out. It's entirely understandable that you're scared about what will happen and you're right to be considering the ramifications should you go ahead with this. I don't want to sound dismissive of the seriousness of your situation, but just make sure that you feel sure that you have exhausted all avenues for resolution. My experience of it was ultimately liberating on the one hand but very painful and frightening on the other. I really hope you have some good support around you and if you've not done this already, it's imperative to find a good therapist who understands how traumatic this is.
While it may sound trite, the one thing you need most if you cut contact with your parents is time: time to really unravel and understand the dynamics that have led you to this place; time to become aware of your own needs; time to process your emotions and how much you've been hurt; time to separate yourself emotionally from your parents, as much as you can do; and time to figure out how you want to manage your relationship with them going forward. Remember, aside from your own children, you don't owe anyone anything in life, not even your mother and father. Owing someone something is to be in debt to them, but people who sincerely love each other give freely, not at a price. I say this because there is a lot of guilt attached to going ahead with this, and guilt is just a form of debt, which in this case is certainly not owed. If your parents care, they will find a way for you to have an equitable relationship, because that's what people who care want.
Regarding my parents, I made clear to them that if they carried on behaving the way they were, I would remove them from my life. When I did, their reaction was horrifying, so be warned. They were incandescent with rage. I was 31 at the time and completely independent, but they did a number of appalling things. I had to change my phone number, blocked them on all my emails and warn my work that they were threatening to turn up there. They got various family friends involved too, so be prepared for that. I actually got back in touch with them a year after going no-contact because I thought, naively as it turned out, that my actions were sufficiently drastic to awaken them to the realities of their behaviour. Ultimately this was not the case and following two very unpleasant years of being in touch, I decided to remove them from my life again. I still think about them and it's been a very long process coming to terms with who they are.
In my experience, the sad truth is that highly narcissistic people are terribly wounded and suffer, on some level, pain so unbearable that they are forced to externalise and project it onto the world around them. This means that they cannot ever truly relate to others. If you happen to be their child, then the chances are you've spent your whole life trying to be seen and loved by them, but they cannot see you. All they can see is an extension of themselves and they will 'love' in you what reflects them in a complimentary way and they will despise anything that does not. Well, you're an individual, not a mirror. I hope you find your way to realising that. You deserve to. Your parents' mental illness may not be their fault, but it's certainly not yours either and it's not your responsibility to carry the burden of it.@@macalltaylor
Two whole “thumbs down, huh”? 😂... apparently a couple of narcs visited to see what you have to say about calling them out🤣
Oh well... Dr. C
Liberty__ Q 😂
Liberty_Q,Your lovely smile 😊 can make the news!!
"I never said that. I cant remember". But the narc is on video at the attorneys office. Looks at it...dead look on the face. I rest my case your Honour.
OMG. I can relate to every single word said in this video.
"Don't reason out with an unreasonable person" - Made my life so much easier
Iamabeautifulperson766yy6yyyyy
Lie #2 was particularly interesting to me. My dad used to tell me he was worried about me growing up and becoming adult because I was so "indecisive". Today it hit me, he was gaslighting me and trying to make me believe that I was. Fortunately, somehow, I've made many important and good decisions in my life.
Thanks for your story. We need good inspiration from overcomers. Dr. C
Ah, yes. I know something is up when the narcissist is "worried" about me.
That could be any normal parent's concern...
@@davashorb6116 Good insight!!!
I recall giving someone directions to get to my house. And when I mentioned the gaslight his response was let's say knowing. And that was in the 80s....
I've been and am being gaslighted big time... Think there's another word for it.
I do hear what your say too. Though I don't know if it's all about narcissism.
Psychologist Number 1!
I'm considering flying to the US just to say thank you!
How kind! Dr. C
This is so depressingly spot on.
it is depressing cause theres no happy ending. especially when theres no way out
Poignant remark! "They don't accept truth!" Love it!
O.M.G. do you know the guy I finally got away from?!? You describe him exactly...shocking!
Are narcissists just over-emotional sociopaths?
Terminal Insanity 🤔🤔 goooood question!!!
You are phenomenal! Thank you for posting videos like you do.
You're welcome! Dr. C
.Spot on! The alternative is divorce yourself from this person.
Easy said, hard to do especially if finances are intermingled so much.
Oh man I am watching through videos like this and listening to the story of the last decade of my failed marriage and suddenly my life is snapping into perspective and I am realizing that I am not insane.
This totally describes the way JEHOVAH'S WITNESSES operate. The individual members are really nice people, but the hierarchy that runs WATCHTOWER and makes the rules is totally NARCISSISTIC.
Dr. Richmann never experienced that... if you are agreeing to be baptized and follow the word of god you will be held accountable for your mistakes
I don't rely on others to keep my Spirituality much like a home owner who is away and needs a house sitter this house sitter will be in result of this 1 the house sitter will take care of the house better than or or 2nd worse than you I DO NOT WANT SOMEONE WHO WILL LET ME ON PURPOSE HOW I WOULD LET MYSELF DOWN ON PURPOSE HAS NO BUSINESS RUNNING OR HOUSE SITTING MY SPIRITUALITY they are human and are prone to be human so I reserved my right of free will to be a spiritual entity seperate from any ORGANIZATED RELIGION!
Thank you for al the truth bombs you’re dropping here. I look forward to reading your books. My “favorite” type of dismissing comment from my narc is the good old “I don’t remember” game
And their constant denial that, "that never happened"! And his elementary/school age playground-type response of, "I know you are, but what am I"...repeated over and over and over...!
My Narc would say" i might have said or did that" I would say, no you did do or say that." He would continue to invalidate me.. Saying " I may have..." I used to get so upset.. Even sometimes recanting my statement thinking maybe I had it wrong.. Started doubting my own sanity!! Until I started journaling our fights and disagreements.. I could go back and read what happened and when. When I would bring that up.. He still would say...well " you MIGHT be right..it could have happen... Crazy!! I realuzed that it wasnt me.. He was f@!king with my head... Ugh!!! *smh*
My goshhhhhhh!!!🤣
How about the one where they tell you that YOU don't remember it correctly. Talk about insanity!
horrific memory is their get out of jail free card.
I never imagined there would be a day that I would get excited to see another new video posted in Surviving Narcissism. Lol Seriously these videos have helped me so much in just living day to day and keeping me strong and focused on surviving and now starting to thrive in spite of being married to a narcissist. In some ways I see light at the end of a long dark tunnel because I finally understand and have knowledge on how to deal with the crazy making and yet reality hits too and I'm sad that this relationship will never be what I hoped for and will at some point most likely have us going our separate ways. Its getting easier to accept that notion. Thank you!
Glad you're excited, in an odd sort of way. Pleased you find the videos helpful. Stay tuned! BTW, sometime next year I'll create a new channel focusing on other life style issues. Dr. C
Same boat. Knowledge is power.
I'm sending you love & strength & hope for your sake you leave the narc. I was with the narc I married 25 years which was half my life.That time went so quickly, so at 54 I started again,have to rent,living week to week financially but I'm free,happy & know I'm far from perfect but I can address my faults & grow.A narc will destroy your soul eventually.All the best...
I am still married to a narc at 55, been with him for almost 16 years. I had a life raising 3 boys on my own when I met him. I was not rich but happy. Like most single Moms I only wanted to meet someone who would be my love that I could share my life with. He slowly methodically separated me emotionally from my boys-who have grown and moved on with their lives. I used to be so close with them and now they don't talk to me much. He moved us away from my family ( 2500 miles away) for a new job 5 years ago. Its a small ranch town with not much for employment for me- I have worked some small jobs but I don't stay at them very long- so I don't really have any friends here. over the past 5 years- He has become so emotionally, verbally and mentally abusive that I am literally having dreams about death and have become so depressed that I don't want to go any where or meet anyone. (scares me to admit this because I was always a social person, loved to go to the gym, etc) He totally blames me for not having a job, friends and tells me that I am anti social and any way I try to have something to do to look forward to he belittles my hopes and dreams of being happy. I feel like a shell of the former person that I once was. Honestly at 55 years old I am scared to death to leave. No where to go, no money and no one to help me- I feel stuck because over the years my support system is pretty much gone. I am sorry for sounding so pathetic but I am so glad that I found this video because it calms the storm and gives me a glimmer of hope that its not me and that maybe there really is a light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you for sharing and godbless you for having the strength to get out! @@loopsruby
@@Coloradonow1963if I did it you can too. Do you live in America? There are many organizations that will help you find shelter, therapy and even a job. You're not too old. Get out. Do it. It will get better, new friends, new life, healing.
I say remove them from your life. You will never be equal to them. The more you explain to them your feelings, the more "wrong" they will make you. Good riddance.
In a word, ENTITLED!!!
Yep! Dr. C
I just watched this video again. It is my “go to” video when I need a quick and easy refresher course, because I’m starting to feel a little shakey with my narc husband, because I might have inadvertently allowed some of his manipulating, and controlling behavior to slip into my psyche. It’s not hard to be thrown off kilter when dealing a narcissist, even when you know what they’re trying to do. His complete unreasonableness, and unwillingness to engage in a civil, conversation on any given issue, can be very “challenging,” on the best of days. So, instead of just punching him in the face like I really want to, I pull up this very informative video, and then I feel somewhat grounded again.
Thank you for the info.
Yes, stay grounded. This is not an easy process. Dr. C
Leave him quick and become sane again. Be strong xx
Yes ,, haha !,, I know how the urge to punch feels !,,,,lol
“In northwest Alaska, kunlangeta "might be applied to a man who, for example, repeatedly lies and cheats and steals things and does not go hunting, and, when the other men are out of the village, takes sexual advantage of many women." The Inuits tacitly assume that kunlangeta is irremediable. And so, according to Murphy, the traditional Inuit approach to such a man was to insist he go hunting, and then, in the absence of witnesses, push him off the edge of the ice.”
― Martha Stout, The Sociopath Next Door
Very interesting.
The best explanation of narcissism I have ever heard.
Holy tapdancing christ on a unicycle. This is my life.
"I am your father!" The phrase my narc father uses when he is trying to organise my life for me. I am 45 years old.
My mum.
My mum also
I am 60, he's still trying to control me. No contact with mine means I can be fully me!
My bestie married a narc and we all share a house. It's tough because he drinks and and we could be having a nice mellow time; when out of the blue a switch gets flipped. There is no reasoning, his truth is the only truth. He is always the injure party. A Rodney Dangerfield sort of mentality. He will drone on and on about the same thing but it changes with each repeat. I grew up with a narc mom so I am use to being verbally abused. It lost its hold on me a long time ago. What I've been doing is pulled out a a notebook and start taking notes to refer to and tell him I forgive him. Nothing takes the wind out of his sails like those two things. Having found this channel, I realised my friend is a covert narc who spins the truth making me the scapegoat. For the longest time, i thought i was losing my mind. I would get so angry that I was making myself sick. I have noiw stopped feeding them, since then our friendship has gone downhill. I'm of no use anymore so discarded. If I hadn't found this channel I would still be in that vicious cycle. Thank you
Glad you found us. Stay tuned! Dr. C
Hi jenny
Jennifer Smith
gothamist.com/2018/11/20/staten_island_pot_arrest.php
Narcissists cops, my
mom was and abandoned me at 5. I just got out a relationship with one why are you still single at 50 years old? Dhhhh after this year they know its them.
@@ZenithAstrology that is a very sad story. Even sadder they weren't found out. Those officers need to be jailed...20 years.
Ann Kleinman
Right, crazy how much a judge could have it / be too. Similar happened to me, I was charged at 14, for something I didn't even do at 12.. & Nobody believed me. Of course it was not helped by my narcissist mother.