Trauma can be an excuse or reason for everything even leaving Islam so what's the point? Anyone can also make it a reason for why i started to sl--p around with the same gender because of my bad experience with the opposite gender. Imagine if sahaba were to have started to speak or act like that then even saying sahada in public would be a perfect reason for them to not do that because of the reason they would be giving "it would cause me trauma" and none of them would have said that. Whether you are a man or woman, instead of justifying why you are not fulfilling certain commandments of Islam and blaming others or God, blame your own self and repent (turn towards) Allah indeed he is very forgiving and merciful. Allah said: O you who have believed, what is [the matter] with you that, when you are told to go forth in the cause of Allāh, you adhere heavily to the earth?1 Are you satisfied with the life of this world rather than the Hereafter? But what is the enjoyment of worldly life compared to the Hereafter except a [very] little. If you do not go forth, He will punish you with a painful punishment and will replace you with another people, and you will not harm Him at all. And Allāh is over all things competent. Quran 9:38-39 Here The God is bashing people for not going forward to sacrifice themselves and their wealth for the way of Allah and will punish them if they don't then how can we even think about justifying or giving out reasons why we are not doing certain obligation which are nothing compares to the above verse which is also obligated on us.
@@DontOpenThisChannel Abu Hurayrah narrated that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said "There will come treacherous years in which the liar will be believed and the honest man will be disbelieved. The treacherous man is trusted and the trustworthy one is not trusted, and during which the Ruwaybiddah will speak." It was asked, "What is the Ruwaybidah?" He said, "The fool who speaks about public affairs."(Recorded by Al-Tabaraani with several isnads the best of which contains Ibn Ishaq, who is Mudallis; the rest of its men are Thiqaat) I agree with your response. And you know what? I even heard an ukhti say that "If the hijab was made for concealment and protection, then women wouldn't be raped...But they do." And a man responded with "If seatbelts were made to prevent accidents, then people wouldn't get hurt...But they do", and the people were completely disagreeing towards him. The point is, in general, it is made as a modesty to reduce these occurrences. They don't stop completely. But can you compare it to the state of a person who wears nothing or very little? Absolutely not. Though brother I would advice you to avoid the term "Munafiq" as its meaning is very direct, call it a characteristic of one instead. JazakAllah!
I’m a hijabi, not only because of modesty, but also because it helps me remain spiritually focused. Nothing we do can stop predatory men. Men need to stop being evil
Trauma can be an excuse or reason for everything even leaving Islam so what's the point? Anyone can also make it a reason for why i started to sl--p around with the same gender because of my bad experience with the opposite gender. Imagine if sahaba were to have started to speak or act like that then even saying sahada in public would be a perfect reason for them to not do that because of the reason they would be giving "it would cause me trauma" and none of them would have said that. Whether you are a man or woman, instead of justifying why you are not fulfilling certain commandments of Islam and blaming others or God, blame your own self and repent (turn towards) Allah indeed he is very forgiving and merciful. Allah said: O you who have believed, what is [the matter] with you that, when you are told to go forth in the cause of Allāh, you adhere heavily to the earth?1 Are you satisfied with the life of this world rather than the Hereafter? But what is the enjoyment of worldly life compared to the Hereafter except a [very] little. If you do not go forth, He will punish you with a painful punishment and will replace you with another people, and you will not harm Him at all. And Allāh is over all things competent. Quran 9:38-39 Here The God is bashing people for not going forward to sacrifice themselves and their wealth for the way of Allah and will punish them if they don't then how can we even think about justifying or giving out reasons why we are not doing certain obligation which are nothing compares to the above verse which is also obligated on us.
@@DontOpenThisChannel Brother, you are talking about real people who went through real pain and are human that sometimes don't make the best decisions. You have no right to condemn these sisters and scorn them for sinning. Yes, it's not good to take off the hijab, but no, we should not treat them with harshness. We should be compassionate and understanding and encouraging, making duaa for them, not saying 'oh, you're using your r@pe as an excuse to avoid hijab! What a shameless Muslim woman you are!" Do you understand how that's damaging to a person who's already been damaged by other humans? Do you really think that type of talk would help them come closer to Allah (SWT) and Islam? "A Muslim is a person who other Muslims are safe from his tongue and hand." Never forget this hadith. Your Muslim sisters should be safe from your tongue. Be kind, just like our Prophet Mohammad (Peace Be Upon Him) was. May Allah (SWT) make it easier for our traumatized sisters to be steadfast and firm in their religion 🌹
Basic safety lessons must be learned because, at the end of the day, safety is our ownself obligations. Other people helping is blessing but don't always expect it
I heard a scholar say islam advises women to wear hijab not only to protect her from unwarranted inapt gaze of men but also because women have a desire to showcase their beauty as a feminine nature, so as to protect a womans heart from materialism, pride and desire for dunya she is advised to wear hijab and not because it is solely a men gaze problem.
I can agree to this, before wearing a hijab I used to think about wearing pretty clothes and making myself beautiful. I had a strong desire to shop and cared a lot about beauty. I still like pretty clothes, but it's not my main focus anymore, nor do I tie my self worth to it. The hijab has made me realize that the way God created us is enough. We don't need to adorn ourselves with beautiful things in order to have value.
@@Katie2986it’s the opposite. Once you accept that there are clear biological and psychological differences between men and women, which dictate how they attract potential partners and interact with each other, you realise that covering up and being modest is taking your power back. Men have no right to view women sexually but they’re not going to stop doing that even the ones who say they don’t will still be quietly watching. “Pure misogyny” is the multi billion dollar porn industry that is built from objectifying women, the only fans culture, the way we women are judged by the way we look at in every area and at every stage of our lives.
I literally ONLY wear hijab because I KNOW Allah prefers this modesty for me. I do find peace in it, but being 100% honest: if it were not a sin, I’d be uncovered. I used to struggle SO MUCH in wearing it, but Alhamdulilah, Allah made it easy for me starting this year. I am so, so grateful. 💚
As a muslim man, you have no idea sister how angry it makes to hear our sisters go through such things from other men almost makes me feel embarrassed to be one. I ask Allah to help our beloved sisters in Islam in this immoral dunya, and may Allah azzawajel grant them steadfastness and Jannah Al-Firdaus. 🤲🏾
Trauma can be an excuse or reason for everything even leaving Islam so what's the point? Anyone can also make it a reason for why i started to sl--p around with the same gender because of my bad experience with the opposite gender. Imagine if sahaba were to have started to speak or act like that then even saying sahada in public would be a perfect reason for them to not do that because of the reason they would be giving "it would cause me trauma" and none of them would have said that. Whether you are a man or woman, instead of justifying why you are not fulfilling certain commandments of Islam and blaming others or God, blame your own self and repent (turn towards) Allah indeed he is very forgiving and merciful. Allah said: O you who have believed, what is [the matter] with you that, when you are told to go forth in the cause of Allāh, you adhere heavily to the earth?1 Are you satisfied with the life of this world rather than the Hereafter? But what is the enjoyment of worldly life compared to the Hereafter except a [very] little. If you do not go forth, He will punish you with a painful punishment and will replace you with another people, and you will not harm Him at all. And Allāh is over all things competent. Quran 9:38-39 Here The God is bashing people for not going forward to sacrifice themselves and their wealth for the way of Allah and will punish them if they don't then how can we even think about justifying or giving out reasons why we are not doing certain obligation which are nothing compares to the above verse which is also obligated on us.
Hijab has nothing to do with people! Wearing a hijab is for Allah subhanahu wata3ala and there is no reason for removing it. May Allah inshallah make it easy for us 💗
You think modesty has nothing to do with social cohesion? You think that Allah swt commanding men to protect and provide for women, children, and the orphans is void of social benefit?
You are so brave! I appreciate you so much. These are real issues our women and girls are facing, but our communities can be harsh on us. You make such important points. Our hijab is not for men or to protect us from men. It is for Allah, our Creator.
Trauma can be an excuse or reason for everything even leaving Islam so what's the point? Anyone can also make it a reason for why i started to sl--p around with the same gender because of my bad experience with the opposite gender. Imagine if sahaba were to have started to speak or act like that then even saying sahada in public would be a perfect reason for them to not do that because of the reason they would be giving "it would cause me trauma" and none of them would have said that. Whether you are a man or woman, instead of justifying why you are not fulfilling certain commandments of Islam and blaming others or God, blame your own self and repent (turn towards) Allah indeed he is very forgiving and merciful. Allah said: O you who have believed, what is [the matter] with you that, when you are told to go forth in the cause of Allāh, you adhere heavily to the earth?1 Are you satisfied with the life of this world rather than the Hereafter? But what is the enjoyment of worldly life compared to the Hereafter except a [very] little. If you do not go forth, He will punish you with a painful punishment and will replace you with another people, and you will not harm Him at all. And Allāh is over all things competent. Quran 9:38-39 Here The God is bashing people for not going forward to sacrifice themselves and their wealth for the way of Allah and will punish them if they don't then how can we even think about justifying or giving out reasons why we are not doing certain obligation which are nothing compares to the above verse which is also obligated on us.
Not a stranger sharing my story and other ladies on the internet?! 😱 Blew my mind. I was raped by someone from my community, ostracized for reporting it because I “made Islam look bad”, struggled with my relationship with Allah and my hijab for many years because it “did not protect me from being raped”, forced into homelessness with my daughter for 6 months, lived 10 years of my life out of the religion and in a same sex marriage after a suicide attempt because women were safer. In the last 4 years I returned to Islam after working through the sexual abuse and rape and religious trauma, left the LGBT lifestyle, started praying again and covering myself. Alhumdullilah for this test! I would still have preferred this struggle, and all the hardships I have gone through than be a Palestinian mother. So, ALHUMDULLILAH we all have our tests but like you said, I might have navigated it a little easier if it was explained to me differently, as an act of worship and less of a focus on how I dress. Rape is about power and control and it has nothing to do with what you’re wearing or not wearing.
I think the core problem lies in not having enough knowledge and understanding in regards to what is decreed by Allah azza wa jall. Donning the Hijab properly, is first and foremost a sign of submission to the creator of the heavens and earth and definitely not only to safe guard oneself from the nafs and gaze of men. As we can see in social media today, clearly hijab is NOT a sign of piety. Piety is alot more than covering ourselves or reciting the quran or performing our daily prayers it's also how we react and who we turn to when faced with calamity in life. Im not here to judge your friends or acquaintances but unfortunately thinking to end ones life is a grave sin in Islam, if they really are pious women then ending their lives would never cross their mind. Before anyone come and attack me in regards to my statement, I too was a victim of s**ual abuse when I was a child. Alhamdulillah, i did not go that route or even have that thought because i learnt that this Dunya is not a place for enjoyment but a place of tests. Unfortunately, human have weaken themselves with the influences of the bad side of social media to the point where most of us don't realize that we are defying Allah instead of pleasing him. My advice to my fellow muslim sisters and brothers, acquire authentic knowledge of our deen from reputable sources, don't go a day without learning something. Knowledge is power and knowledge will be our strength when we're hit with calamities or when we're at our weakest.
Not sure why this popped up on my feed but I was intrigued. Sorry to hear about the anecdotes you mentioned. There are horrible stories in every community about emotional and physical harms from both sexes. However, I failed to see the connection between some who wrongly connect the mandate of hijab to men vs the actual mandate itself. Trauma or not, hijab is still a mandate. If someone told a girl it’s to protect them from men, obviously that was wrong, however that doesn’t take away from her obligation to wear the hijab. I feel like personal responsibility should be taken at some point. Obviously not every girl who wears hijab is better than every girl who doesn’t. However, chances are Hijabis are objectively closer to Islam than non-Hijabis. Instinctively every man knows this.
Because if she believes the hijab is for men, and it didn't protect her and in fact her Muslim elders abused her, how is she going to continue wearing it? It doesn't make sense and reminds her of her trauma. That's why these sisters need to relearn about hijab from a place of safety and compassion. R*pe can make a woman go insane so have a heart.
@@ZM-et7zt My point about personal responsibility was that basic Islamic education is supposed to educate folks about the reality of the deen and why we follow the ahkam. Just because someone in the past told her something incorrectly, doesn’t excuse her ignorance on the matter. Obviously something like r*** is horrendous and one of the worst crimes in a community. Make videos about that and how we can prevent it. Do not connect it to hijab and almost excuse the foregoing of it. Just look at the comments here, some women are excusing this fard by listing their “traumas”. As a child, I was ra**** by a man at a madrassah in Saudi. This doesn’t mean I don’t ever step foot in a masjid or forego the obligation to attain knowledge. I know Satan exists and is ever present, I don’t blame anyone else but him and double down on my obligations to Allah. I understand my personal anecdote is not an argument, however, we set a very dangerous precedent when a public figure excuses a major sin in this way. Plus, I personally see the rejection of hijab being done by women who are clearly chasing after the fahish. The trend is visible in the “modest fashion” industry. It goes from hijab, to semi hijab, to turban hijab, to mini skirts. The issue occurs when anyone questions that person and they’re told “you don’t know what she’s been through, stop judging her”.
@@sammuShe said she wasn’t excusing it in the video?? She’s saying how we can work towards changing peoples views on hijab so more women learn it and actually wear it. Also I think you’re not taking into account, the mental issues that often come after you’ve been raped (ptsd, depression and more severe disorders) it’s not simply a women taking it off due to ignorance, the examples Maryam gave in this video were one of pious women (who know what the hijab means) perhaps however when they put it on they are reminded of the rape, perhaps they have severe anxiety when they put it on. Of course putting it on is better, but if you’re struggling due to mental issues, then Allah knows and is the most merciful and you cannot compare it to wilful ignorance. Healing, Prayer and Medication. Once they are on that journey then they must work on putting the hijab back on, and that must be encouraged. Or else, if they do put on the hijab when they are fearful of it or even getting major panic attacks and flashbacks, they’ll obviously be discouraged and it’ll harm them. Anyway my point was it’s not just due to ignorance but also health and well-being. (Just to add I’m not saying that women must never work towards Allah and put the hijab on, but they must do it when they are sound of mind and they must be encouraged in a healthy way, not just saying “oh you are being wilfully ignorant” but guiding them to make dua, prayer and medication)
Yes, we wear it to please Allah swt but we can not ignore the fact that Allah swt ordained it for us to PROTECT US against the evil desires of men, THAT'S a FACT. Evidence to it is that women are obliged to wear Hijab ONLY in front of non mahram men. And yes, there are exceptions where men would still violate a women despite she wearing Hijab but these will be small percentage of cases compared to how many men back off when they see women in Hijab/niqab.
Also,it's important to remember Hijab isn't just about the dress and how much skin is covered. It's a code of conduct. Mixing with men, talking, chatting, laughing with them unnecessarily, behaving in a manner that's not dignified...all might encourage men to make inappropriate advances. Now don't say,I am shifting the blame. Men are by nature like thar...that's a given. Women need to be on their guard. That's why Allah swt ordered men to lower their haze, and ordained Hijab for women right after. Bcz even Allah swt knew just ordering men was not enough.
I have very bad anxiety to the point where I am very nauseous and can’t breath. That’s why I do not cover my neck when I am anxious. I still cover my hair and try to cover my neck when I can. Judging women based on what they wear on their head is not the way to go. You don’t know what someone is going through.
Sorry Trauma is not a reason for suicide, leaving Islam or hijab bashing. I know really bad stories, but the women rose above it all through their faith.
You’re missing the point, no wonder people call Muslims close-minded. When you’re told constantly that it’s the way you dress that will prevent you from getting molested, and that form of dressing is prescribed by Allah, how do you think anyone would feel knowing that their covering failed to protect them? She’s not bashing the hijab, and the women who don’t wear the hijab aren’t bashing it either. What they’re saying is that sometimes, this covering which has been deemed as a method of protection against filthy men does not work entirely in preventing men from preying on them. And yes, that betrayal can lead to suicide, especially if you put your entire trust into Allah and his words.
@@aaAa-bp1yd Let's put this into perspective. The vast majority of muslim women in the west do NOT wear hijab and it certainly ain't due to trauma. Only Allah knows how they feel about hijab and the ones who wear it. Just from a personal standpoint, my 14 year old neice was bullied at school verbally and physically by so called muslim girls, just for wearing her hijab. Sadly Times are changing and attitudes are hardening.
@@kb4432 her point is stop judging which has gone way over your head. Because if a woman's working through trauma, your hate will re-open wounds then how will she make her way back? If you want to raise awareness of your nieces situation then make a video yourself.
@@ZM-et7zt The vast majority of women in Gaza are observing hijab in the middle of the worst trauma imaginable.. Why? What are their reasons? It's all about EMAN.
Jazaka'Allah, I had a very narrow mindset regarding women wearing hijab and often times I would trouble my mother and sisters but nevertheless it is out of their own will to put it on.
I love you so much for saying this, brings so much peace to my heart. I am also a girl who took off her hijab after 10 years of wearing it because of constant religious guilt , shame and suppression of my femininity.. and I kept blaming and questioning my faith for taking it off thinking that God will hate me, completely discarding the constant trauma part
Trauma can be an excuse or reason for everything even leaving Islam so what's the point? Anyone can also make it a reason for why i started to sl--p around with the same gender because of my bad experience with the opposite gender. Imagine if sahaba were to have started to speak or act like that then even saying sahada in public would be a perfect reason for them to not do that because of the reason they would be giving "it would cause me trauma" and none of them would have said that. Whether you are a man or woman, instead of justifying why you are not fulfilling certain commandments of Islam and blaming others or God, blame your own self and repent (turn towards) Allah indeed he is very forgiving and merciful. Allah said: O you who have believed, what is [the matter] with you that, when you are told to go forth in the cause of Allāh, you adhere heavily to the earth?1 Are you satisfied with the life of this world rather than the Hereafter? But what is the enjoyment of worldly life compared to the Hereafter except a [very] little. If you do not go forth, He will punish you with a painful punishment and will replace you with another people, and you will not harm Him at all. And Allāh is over all things competent. Quran 9:38-39 Here The God is bashing people for not going forward to sacrifice themselves and their wealth for the way of Allah and will punish them if they don't then how can we even think about justifying or giving out reasons why we are not doing certain obligation which are nothing compares to the above verse which is also obligated on us.
"Suppression of my femininity". The lowest level of eman is to believe in your heart that without hijab your committing sins. Allah created women the way they are and it is Allah who commands the women to wear hijab. Islam means submission to the will of Allah. We were put on earth for a temporary test.
You might feel peace now, but don't think that this peace will last until the day of judgment. Obey your creator and leave these stupid excuses behind. The hell fire is real, whether you like it or not, and it's going to have some people in it. Try your best not to be one of them.
Yes you make good points to exceptions to the rule. But generally speaking pious women and men wear hijab. But like you’re saying there are exceptions. But these exceptions are highly specific and case by case. Thank you for sharing
Trauma can be an excuse or reason for everything even leaving Islam so what's the point? Anyone can also make it a reason for why i started to sl--p around with the same gender because of my bad experience with the opposite gender. Imagine if sahaba were to have started to speak or act like that then even saying sahada in public would be a perfect reason for them to not do that because of the reason they would be giving "it would cause me trauma" and none of them would have said that. Whether you are a man or woman, instead of justifying why you are not fulfilling certain commandments of Islam and blaming others or God, blame your own self and repent (turn towards) Allah indeed he is very forgiving and merciful. Allah said: O you who have believed, what is [the matter] with you that, when you are told to go forth in the cause of Allāh, you adhere heavily to the earth?1 Are you satisfied with the life of this world rather than the Hereafter? But what is the enjoyment of worldly life compared to the Hereafter except a [very] little. If you do not go forth, He will punish you with a painful punishment and will replace you with another people, and you will not harm Him at all. And Allāh is over all things competent. Quran 9:38-39 Here The God is bashing people for not going forward to sacrifice themselves and their wealth for the way of Allah and will punish them if they don't then how can we even think about justifying or giving out reasons why we are not doing certain obligation which are nothing compares to the above verse which is also obligated on us.
@@DontOpenThisChannelAllah knows our struggles and i advice u to chose the middle path and not be too harsh on our fellow sisters that abandon hijab bc one day it could concern your wife or your daughter .
@@bluelight8664 he spoke the truth though, there is no excuse in leaving obligations because of some excusses this is the signs of low iman though we are not to judge we are obliged to expose these kinds of acts .
@grandmillenial7960 expose what? That they were taught wrong about hijab, r*ped and are now traumatised and in that vulnerable state other people linked it to their hijab? Something like this takes imaan out of people so the fact that they're still Muslim is a sign of their faith. Where is your compassion? For one minute, imagine being r*ped by a Muslim leader of your community while wearing hijab and everyone told you that's supposed to protect you. How would you feel towards it then? Just because you're a man, it doesn't mean you can't be abused. Have some compassion. It takes years for some people to heal from trauma and with a dismissive attitude like yours instead of welcoming arms, traumatised people have no where to go but away.
@@DontOpenThisChannel have some compassion. It takes people time to heal and come back. Why be harsh so that the door remains closed forever? Everyone has a journey. You're acting like r*pe is a small thing. I wonder how you'd react to it, by a Muslim community elder like she said no less.
Thank you for sharing your reflection with us ❤ I found myself in kind of similar situation, and what made me keep my hijab on is the fact that by wearing my hijab is a form of ibadah and I gain a lot of hassanat doing it; following islam, every girl that get inspired to wear something similar, and every man that is reminded to lower his gaze. For men they have to go to the mosque at every call of prayer, for us women we have to wear the hijab; both are beautiful forms of worship that cleanse and protect the heart and soul 🤍
Trauma can be an excuse or reason for everything even leaving Islam so what's the point? Anyone can also make it a reason for why i started to sl--p around with the same gender because of my bad experience with the opposite gender. Imagine if sahaba were to have started to speak or act like that then even saying sahada in public would be a perfect reason for them to not do that because of the reason they would be giving "it would cause me trauma" and none of them would have said that. Whether you are a man or woman, instead of justifying why you are not fulfilling certain commandments of Islam and blaming others or God, blame your own self and repent (turn towards) Allah indeed he is very forgiving and merciful. Allah said: O you who have believed, what is [the matter] with you that, when you are told to go forth in the cause of Allāh, you adhere heavily to the earth?1 Are you satisfied with the life of this world rather than the Hereafter? But what is the enjoyment of worldly life compared to the Hereafter except a [very] little. If you do not go forth, He will punish you with a painful punishment and will replace you with another people, and you will not harm Him at all. And Allāh is over all things competent. Quran 9:38-39 Here The God is bashing people for not going forward to sacrifice themselves and their wealth for the way of Allah and will punish them if they don't then how can we even think about justifying or giving out reasons why we are not doing certain obligation which are nothing compares to the above verse which is also obligated on us.
@@majorlobster3443 we are talking about women being r*ped and you make this about men. That's really embarrassing. If someone was being misandrist then call them out but you don't need to detract from something so important here.
Allah said when commanding hijab: "ذلك أدنى أن يعرفن فلا يؤذين " roughly meaning that wearing hijab is so that women are recognised so that they are not abused or attacked. The few experiences that you've recounted -although there are so many details missing - do not negate that general wisdom of hijab. The misunderstanding is when people think that wearing hijab is a 100% guarantee that no adverse event is going to happen. There is nothing as 100% effective tool. It is a combination of many protection measures among which hijab is just one.
Jazaakillaah khayra sister. This point about hijab being for Allah is not said enough. We are always trying to rationalise it in the context of men which just results in a big backlash from people who don’t understand the knowledge and mercy of Allah, or the nature of men and women
What about all the unpious women who wear the hijab and spoil the image of all pious women in hijab with their despicable bahviour? This should be talked about.
These are some really sad stories and I pray Allah gives the sisters healing from their trauma. I would like to add that women cover one's awrah is first and foremost to obey their creator yes, but also as a form of protection as Allah says in the Quran: "O Prophet, tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to bring down over themselves [part] of their outer garments. That is more suitable that they will be known and not be abused. And ever is Allāh Forgiving and Merciful." Surah Al-Ahzab 33:59 Whilst I feel deep compassion with them and their struggles, I wonder if their suicide attempts removed them from Allah rather than having this test bring them closer (as we know each time we sin a black dot appears on our hearts) and made it difficult to keep the hijab on. Were they not aware what a grave sin ending one's life is? I appreciate you raising awareness sis but your video comes across as making excuses why women don't wear hijab and are disobedient and that it's okay. It is probably more beneficial to share stories of trials and the tried successfully navigating these with Tawakkul.
suicide is not necessarily a conscious attempt. when a person breaks down badly mentally, it can cause *numbness*. a numb person cannot think or feel anything, possibly not even feeling physical pain. If a person attempts suicide during numbness, that means it was without intention, and the person did not even realise what one was doing and did it mindlessly and it might be difficult for them to wear hijab due to involuntary overwhelming fears. to me it sounds like they were strangled or pulled on using their hijab, if that happened, the fear can be strong enough that even placing any cloth near their throat would make them feel congested and strangled. fear and trauma are stronger than you think, i think you are underestimating how badly a person can be affected by negative experiences like this. and yes in such cases one *cannot* make a blanket statement that these women are disobedient or wrong for not wearing hijab, which is Maryam's point. Piety of a person can only be judged by Allah. the way to help such people is NOT by saying they are sinning and what they are doing is wrong and hence, making some assumption like they lack piety, but rather by helping them with their trauma and ensuring they get adequate help.
Trauma can be an excuse or reason for everything even leaving Islam so what's the point? i can also make it a reason for why i started to sl--p around because of my bad experience with women but I'm not stupid nor do I do it. if sahaba were to have started to speak or act like that then even saying sahada in public would be a perfect reason for them to not do that because "it causes me trauma" and none of them would have said that. Whether you are a man or woman, instead of justifying why you are not fulfilling certain commandments of Islam and blaming others or God, start blaming yourself for God's sake. O you who have believed, what is [the matter] with you that, when you are told to go forth in the cause of Allāh, you adhere heavily to the earth?1 Are you satisfied with the life of this world rather than the Hereafter? But what is the enjoyment of worldly life compared to the Hereafter except a [very] little. If you do not go forth, He will punish you with a painful punishment and will replace you with another people, and you will not harm Him at all. And Allāh is over all things competent. Quran 9:38-39 Here is The God is bashing people for not sacrificing their lives for his sake and will punish them if they don't and here we are making our trauma an excuse for our disobedience to him. Munafiqs!
Start with your intention sister, then decide if you want to jump into it or start covering a little by little. I’d recommend starting with an almina/one piece hijab or those “instant” hijabs because they’re sooo easy to do. Wear looser clothing if you aren’t ready for abayas. Wishing you the best sister may Allah make it easy ❤
Omg me too! I been praying since I was 12 and never really thought about wearing hijab, even my family who are all wearing it didn't talk to me about it. But now I'm 20, I always loved hijab and I'm starting with just covering my head I wanted to jump to wearing abayas but I'm broke rn 😭 and I'm tryna gather enough money since they aren't cheap where I live. Just start little by little.
Animalistic men will do whatever whenever no matter what we wear. Hijab is an obligation and a beautiful one at that. May Allah heal these women and other survivors and allow them to return to fulfilling the obligation of hijab.
Some of you didn't get the message she was trying to convey. When you teach women that wearing hijab is for the sake of men so they dont gwt turned on is a very dumb message it makes them hate it, of course those who remove it are wrong. You people must understand that Hijab & niqab is for allah it's modesty, it's what's differ us from non believers, it's to keep our femininity instead of showcasing it to the world, it makes us religiously focused, and yes it's a protection too but that doesnt mean that anyone on this world wont get attacked or assaulted wearing a hijab. I saw many women who are fully covered get catcalled in the streets even my aunt who is 50 years old and wears hijab and abayas encounters the same thing. I remember when i was 12 , in my class we had this teacher touching on other little girls even though i live in a Muslim country. The problem is those perverted men and defending them makes you even worse than them. I love hijab and will always love it, it makes me feel focused on my religion and more confident i even feel prettier wearing it, i know not anyone would feel the same. I had many bad times during my life and allah always saved me when i thought im done. It makes me want to try my best to please my lord even if i sinned a lot but Allah didn't give up on me. I hope you guys understand the closer you get to your own religion the more you will love it .
You know I had the same perspective about hijab, I use to think that everyone who wears a hijab is pious and really religious until I saw someone at my uni wearing a hijab and proper black abaya and she engaged it every other fitnah etc. That was shocking for me...
Berhijab atau tidak berhijab,anda jangan berjalan sendirian,terutama di kota-kota di negara Barat..setidaknya anda harus bertiga orang.. Saya dari dulu kurang setuju jika wanita yg mengenakan hijab dianggap pasti terhindar dari pikiran buruk laki-laki..saya kurang setuju itu, Sebab,lelaki bukan hanya bisa menatap.. tetapi mereka juga bisa berkhayal..jago berkhayal..apapun tentang anda!
First off … we are living in an age where women HAVE NO CHOICE but to step out of there homes. Instead of telling this constant need for women to “hide themselves” or “shelter themselves” why cant men hold eachother accountable on not looking at women in such a disgusting gaze??
This is the dumbest comment I have ever read. Did you know women get assaulted in hajj? And you’d also probably know that hajj requires you to bring either your husband, brother, father, etc. Women get assaulted in broad daylight. Stop victim shaming and start holding men accountable
We wear hijab because Allah commands us to. It is not the ONLY protection but one of them. The others2) include not intermixing with the opposite gender. 3) walking and traveling with mahram if possible. 4) Not being in a secluded space with non mahram male. Also, in general the best place for a woman to pray is at home. One last point is that when hardship befalls regardless of your efforts to protect yourself, know that it is a test from Allah subhana wa ta alaa. Look up the proper steps to follow on how to pass trials successfully. Since this was their trial, my humble guess is they fell into the trap of Satan and could have past this test with patience and further reflection on how they can get close to Allah, raise awareness and still KEEP THEIR HIJAB on because who and why were they do it for the first plus? For Allah.
Well said sister. We can understand WHY women take it off/don’t wear it. But that does not mean it is right, by Allah, to do it. The end of this video should be to encourage women to work through their traumas and stay close to Allah in every way possible. Not to listen to our waswas and take steps away from Allah. - I was physically attacked by a close male family member (non-SA) when I began wearing hijab. It was the most scary and jarring moment of my life. I kept my hijab on DESPITE my fear and Allah guided me even closer to Him Alhamdulilah.
Her point is that women are taught its for men, not Allah and that's why they take it off after trauma so we need to educate better. I feel you didn't understand her message at all.
Exactly ...Hijab is for Allah ..it's for men or to protect from men ... I think lots of women are losing hasanat having their intention (النية) wrong...
Thank you for sharing this video , I hope this video remind you of what is happening in iran . Being raped in jail, beaten , murdered by goverment for not wearing hijab is not an Islamic action . Imagine , in this world there are some people who rape kill beat in the name of Allah ,in the name of Allah . They take wudu befor raping them , ya Allah 😔 I hope now you have a better understanding of the ( women life freedom ) . I hope now you understand that islamic republic of iran (government) is different of what people think. I hope now you understand that Iranian are actually muslim , they are muslim , they do support gaza , they are praying 5 times a day < their situation is just a little different with what you might imagine. #mahsaamini #nikashakerami #womenlifefreedom p.s: I had a classmate from saudi arabia/pakistan , one day he shout at me about what is wrong with iranian and why they hate islamic republic and islam and hijab . it literally broke my heart to the point i wanted to cry not because of his words , but because of how uneducated people are about what is happening in iran .
Sisters of the belief.....see, first understand that hijab is not some kind of predators proof dress..... It's our identity, in Qur'an ALLAH(SWT) tells to cover the dress of believing women wears n to be modest. While wearing hijab we identify us as Muslim women n same time we are being modest.... But a godless person does something bad to you it doesn't means we should blame the Hijab....you covered or not covered, you a kid or a old lady, you handicapped or physically fit, you r pregnant or a doctor or a army person, you are a dead body under the mud or you are just born...a godless abuser will make you his target... It doesn't means you should blame the Hijab n leave your identity... In India 2002 Gujarat...loads of Muslim women were raped and murdered they were age 6-80yrs old... A survivor Bilkis Banu, she was raped while she was 5months pregnant, her child was killed infront her by smashing the kid's head on the wall, all her relatives that is 11 of them were killed, her sisters, mother, grandma were raped and killed... She fought the legal fight wearing her Hijab, now those criminals are behind the bar, but the ruling racists government freed those thugs but she again stood against them.... now Supreme Court has issued order to cancel the free to go n condemned the government.....
Assalamualaikum. These tragic scenarios could have been avoided if the woman was with her wali and not alone with non-mahram. Covering your awrah is just one required form of protection out of many that Islam prescribes for women. Yes, both men and women should be taught that covering your awrah is an obligation and an act of worship to Allah FIRST. That is the most important reason. Sister, please make a video about valid reasons for being excused from an obligation, like menses, incapacitation, etc. How is piety not tied to covering your awrah and obeyign Allah? Please -- please explain this one using scholarly sources. I beg you for the sake of the ummah. Men are literally told to tell their women to cover their awrah, otherwise they are in danger of becoming dayooth. So yes, the community is keeping themselves accountable by telling their women to worship Allah in the prescribed way. Surah An-Nur : "And tell the believing women to reduce [some] of their vision[1] and guard their private parts and not expose their adornment[2] except that which [necessarily] appears thereof[3] and to wrap [a portion of] their headcovers over their chests and not expose their adornment [i.e., beauty] except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands' fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers, their brothers' sons, their sisters' sons, their women, that which their right hands possess [i.e., slaves], or those male attendants having no physical desire,[4] or children who are not yet aware of the private aspects of women. And let them not stamp their feet to make known what they conceal of their adornment. And turn to Allāh in repentance, all of you, O believers, that you might succeed." Both men's and women's uncovered bodies ARE a fitnah. This is why everyone must cover. So yes, if you fear Allah aka if you're pious, you will fulfill your obligations like salah, fasting, Hajj, zakat, hijab, etc. Piety is absolutely tied to worship. Sister, you may not realize it, but your choice of words is likely more harmful than helpful. I ask that you use scholarly sources and the Quran to back up your statements, instead of speaking from emotion and anecdotes. May Allah bless you and keep us all on the straight path ameen.
You realize that one can be pious and TRAUMATIZED, no? Trauma leads to people doing things to avoid said trauma, bc of the incredible pain it causes...can lead to thought of self deletion, etc. The idea that you would skip over that and continue shows a complete lack of empathy.
@@deedeee6271 Hijab is not the cause of that trauma, the assault is. The hospital, in the second scenario, led the girl to believe that her suicidal thoughts were connected to her hijab, which is not true. I wonder how many women are told that Islam is the source of their issues rather than the solutions. The Palestinian women have been raped, assaulted, and their children murdered, and yet these women still wear hijab and pray salah. Tells you that hijab is not connected to trauma involving violence towards women.
Trauma can be an excuse or reason for everything even leaving Islam so what's the point? Anyone can also make it a reason for why i started to sl--p around with the same gender because of my bad experience with the opposite gender. Imagine if sahaba were to have started to speak or act like that then even saying sahada in public would be a perfect reason for them to not do that because of the reason they would be giving "it would cause me trauma" and none of them would have said that. Whether you are a man or woman, instead of justifying why you are not fulfilling certain commandments of Islam and blaming others or God, blame your own self and repent (turn towards) Allah indeed he is very forgiving and merciful. Allah said: O you who have believed, what is [the matter] with you that, when you are told to go forth in the cause of Allāh, you adhere heavily to the earth?1 Are you satisfied with the life of this world rather than the Hereafter? But what is the enjoyment of worldly life compared to the Hereafter except a [very] little. If you do not go forth, He will punish you with a painful punishment and will replace you with another people, and you will not harm Him at all. And Allāh is over all things competent. Quran 9:38-39 Here The God is bashing people for not going forward to sacrifice themselves and their wealth for the way of Allah and will punish them if they don't then how can we even think about justifying or giving out reasons why we are not doing certain obligation which are nothing compares to the above verse which is also obligated on us.
You are shocking do you know that? You've posted this 100 times for what? My advice to you is that you work with trauma victims and re watch her video. She said that if you centre hijab on men, women get traumatised when it doesn't protect them from men. But if it's for Allah then even in a genocide women wear it. Its about how we educate women
Wow, it seems you’re starting to see her true intentions. Just because there have been incidents where some women were forced to stop wearing the hijab, it doesn't mean that women can choose not to wear it and still claim to be pious. Piety isn't something anyone can just claim, not even those who wear a hijab or niqab. But suggesting that it’s okay not to wear the hijab out of fear? What qualifications do you have to make such statements? Having a few subscribers and viewers doesn't make you an authority on these issues. By your logic, no women in the West should wear the hijab or niqab because of the risk of harassment. And why stop at the hijab? Should no Muslims in the West practice their religion because of Islamophobia? Should all Palestinians renounce Islam to avoid persecution by the IDF? Please stop spreading nonsense to people who don’t think critically and listen to people like you. Or perhaps you’re just seeking more subscribers and are trying to appeal to the feminist majority with such statements.
😂 did you listen to anything? She's saying when you teach women the hijab is for men and then men abuse them, they get traumatised and take it off. When you teach women it's for Allah, they keep it on even if they're martyred like the women in Gaza. As if you posted such a hateful comment on here, don't you know to assume people's intentions is sinful in itself?
Piety can only be judged by Allah her point is a person cannot just accuse someone of lacking piety because one doesn't wear hijab. Piety cannot be claimed either for same reason.
So many of the comments here are truly disheartening, and are exactly why women choose the bear. Let Allah do the judging when it comes to hijab, that’s between a women and Allah. Many of you are completely ignorant about SA, trauma, and mental health. And seriously, it’s not men’s business to judge sisters about hijab anyway - mind your gaze.
What are you talking about? perpetuating people to be linenant on not wearing hijaab?Sister Wallahi, Stop promoting fitna And tabbarujj !! its against shariah guidelines
Give the full context. Were these women openly freemixing? How did a man get that close to them? Did they go out with a mahram (if not going out in necessity)? (Btw, not saying it's their fault. All I'm saying is, they were never that practising in the first place if they were openly freemixing etc).
The first one was assaulted by a Muslim elder, so it was probably at a mosque or an event, you don't need to be alone for assault to take place, I've seen it happen in public and no one notices if they arent happening to look at that particular time. The second one was hospitalised, it could have been a family member. Most assaults are actually done by second degree relatives, neighbours or family friends. That could have happened in her own house. The last one was a school girl so let's think, she goes to school, probably gets on a bus... but let's try and figure out how it's the teens fault yeah? Abuse is never the victims fault. Even if she put herself in harms way, she's wrong for that. But it isn't someone else's right to abuse her because she's there. And the point of this video is to say, if you make hijab about men, women take it off when traumatised. If you make it about Allah then women wear it even in genocide.
you can be attacked by those closest to you and those you trusted, or you can be attacked and isolated, and outsmarted. all measures are mere deterrences when it comes to security. there is no indication that they were openly freemixing.
Wearing hijab jilbab offering tahajjud is not enough, you should not intermix with the men, and walk around alone in the night or evening, other resons must be kept in practice and one more thing hijab or burqa is protection only when there is fear of muslims or muslim rule in the nation.
@@deedeee6271 agreed. But until all men in the whole world stop assaulting women, women need good men to protect them from evil men. Not sure if you're a Muslim, but Islam requires that women be guarded by their wali (male guardians like husband or brother) whenever they go out or travel.
Thank you for sharing. I think it’s very important we emphasize to women hijab is God centric and not men centric.
Yeah exactly. We don't worship the feelings and lusts of men😂😂
Trauma can be an excuse or reason for everything even leaving Islam so what's the point?
Anyone can also make it a reason for why i started to sl--p around with the same gender because of my bad experience with the opposite gender.
Imagine if sahaba were to have started to speak or act like that then even saying sahada in public would be a perfect reason for them to not do that because of the reason they would be giving "it would cause me trauma" and none of them would have said that.
Whether you are a man or woman, instead of justifying why you are not fulfilling certain commandments of Islam and blaming others or God, blame your own self and repent (turn towards) Allah indeed he is very forgiving and merciful.
Allah said:
O you who have believed, what is [the matter] with you that, when you are told to go forth in the cause of Allāh, you adhere heavily to the earth?1 Are you satisfied with the life of this world rather than the Hereafter? But what is the enjoyment of worldly life compared to the Hereafter except a [very] little.
If you do not go forth, He will punish you with a painful punishment and will replace you with another people, and you will not harm Him at all. And Allāh is over all things competent.
Quran 9:38-39
Here The God is bashing people for not going forward to sacrifice themselves and their wealth for the way of Allah and will punish them if they don't then how can we even think about justifying or giving out reasons why we are not doing certain obligation which are nothing compares to the above verse which is also obligated on us.
@@DontOpenThisChannel Abu Hurayrah narrated that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said "There will come treacherous years in which the liar will be believed and the honest man will be disbelieved. The treacherous man is trusted and the trustworthy one is not trusted, and during which the Ruwaybiddah will speak." It was asked, "What is the Ruwaybidah?" He said, "The fool who speaks about public affairs."(Recorded by Al-Tabaraani with several isnads the best of which contains Ibn Ishaq, who is Mudallis; the rest of its men are Thiqaat)
I agree with your response. And you know what? I even heard an ukhti say that "If the hijab was made for concealment and protection, then women wouldn't be raped...But they do."
And a man responded with "If seatbelts were made to prevent accidents, then people wouldn't get hurt...But they do", and the people were completely disagreeing towards him.
The point is, in general, it is made as a modesty to reduce these occurrences. They don't stop completely. But can you compare it to the state of a person who wears nothing or very little? Absolutely not.
Though brother I would advice you to avoid the term "Munafiq" as its meaning is very direct, call it a characteristic of one instead. JazakAllah!
This, exactly.
Funny how my comment got deleted, considering it's doing EXACTLY what it says?🤔🤔
I’m a hijabi, not only because of modesty, but also because it helps me remain spiritually focused. Nothing we do can stop predatory men. Men need to stop being evil
Trauma can be an excuse or reason for everything even leaving Islam so what's the point?
Anyone can also make it a reason for why i started to sl--p around with the same gender because of my bad experience with the opposite gender.
Imagine if sahaba were to have started to speak or act like that then even saying sahada in public would be a perfect reason for them to not do that because of the reason they would be giving "it would cause me trauma" and none of them would have said that.
Whether you are a man or woman, instead of justifying why you are not fulfilling certain commandments of Islam and blaming others or God, blame your own self and repent (turn towards) Allah indeed he is very forgiving and merciful.
Allah said:
O you who have believed, what is [the matter] with you that, when you are told to go forth in the cause of Allāh, you adhere heavily to the earth?1 Are you satisfied with the life of this world rather than the Hereafter? But what is the enjoyment of worldly life compared to the Hereafter except a [very] little.
If you do not go forth, He will punish you with a painful punishment and will replace you with another people, and you will not harm Him at all. And Allāh is over all things competent.
Quran 9:38-39
Here The God is bashing people for not going forward to sacrifice themselves and their wealth for the way of Allah and will punish them if they don't then how can we even think about justifying or giving out reasons why we are not doing certain obligation which are nothing compares to the above verse which is also obligated on us.
May Allah bless you
It's not "men should stop being evil," but some bad people are bad.
@@DontOpenThisChannel Brother, you are talking about real people who went through real pain and are human that sometimes don't make the best decisions. You have no right to condemn these sisters and scorn them for sinning. Yes, it's not good to take off the hijab, but no, we should not treat them with harshness. We should be compassionate and understanding and encouraging, making duaa for them, not saying 'oh, you're using your r@pe as an excuse to avoid hijab! What a shameless Muslim woman you are!" Do you understand how that's damaging to a person who's already been damaged by other humans? Do you really think that type of talk would help them come closer to Allah (SWT) and Islam?
"A Muslim is a person who other Muslims are safe from his tongue and hand." Never forget this hadith. Your Muslim sisters should be safe from your tongue. Be kind, just like our Prophet Mohammad (Peace Be Upon Him) was. May Allah (SWT) make it easier for our traumatized sisters to be steadfast and firm in their religion 🌹
Basic safety lessons must be learned because, at the end of the day, safety is our ownself obligations.
Other people helping is blessing but don't always expect it
I heard a scholar say islam advises women to wear hijab not only to protect her from unwarranted inapt gaze of men but also because women have a desire to showcase their beauty as a feminine nature, so as to protect a womans heart from materialism, pride and desire for dunya she is advised to wear hijab and not because it is solely a men gaze problem.
100%
@@Georgialauren1994 pure misogyny
I can agree to this, before wearing a hijab I used to think about wearing pretty clothes and making myself beautiful. I had a strong desire to shop and cared a lot about beauty.
I still like pretty clothes, but it's not my main focus anymore, nor do I tie my self worth to it.
The hijab has made me realize that the way God created us is enough. We don't need to adorn ourselves with beautiful things in order to have value.
@@Katie2986it’s the opposite. Once you accept that there are clear biological and psychological differences between men and women, which dictate how they attract potential partners and interact with each other, you realise that covering up and being modest is taking your power back. Men have no right to view women sexually but they’re not going to stop doing that even the ones who say they don’t will still be quietly watching. “Pure misogyny” is the multi billion dollar porn industry that is built from objectifying women, the only fans culture, the way we women are judged by the way we look at in every area and at every stage of our lives.
I literally ONLY wear hijab because I KNOW Allah prefers this modesty for me. I do find peace in it, but being 100% honest: if it were not a sin, I’d be uncovered.
I used to struggle SO MUCH in wearing it, but Alhamdulilah, Allah made it easy for me starting this year. I am so, so grateful. 💚
Eh best not to have a bitmoji of it in a sense
@@Grey-Spider- best not to have a weird picture like that
Nope, it is not a sin
As a guy, I'll just say that this perspective needed to be out there, thank you sister
As a muslim man, you have no idea sister how angry it makes to hear our sisters go through such things from other men almost makes me feel embarrassed to be one. I ask Allah to help our beloved sisters in Islam in this immoral dunya, and may Allah azzawajel grant them steadfastness and Jannah Al-Firdaus. 🤲🏾
Trauma can be an excuse or reason for everything even leaving Islam so what's the point?
Anyone can also make it a reason for why i started to sl--p around with the same gender because of my bad experience with the opposite gender.
Imagine if sahaba were to have started to speak or act like that then even saying sahada in public would be a perfect reason for them to not do that because of the reason they would be giving "it would cause me trauma" and none of them would have said that.
Whether you are a man or woman, instead of justifying why you are not fulfilling certain commandments of Islam and blaming others or God, blame your own self and repent (turn towards) Allah indeed he is very forgiving and merciful.
Allah said:
O you who have believed, what is [the matter] with you that, when you are told to go forth in the cause of Allāh, you adhere heavily to the earth?1 Are you satisfied with the life of this world rather than the Hereafter? But what is the enjoyment of worldly life compared to the Hereafter except a [very] little.
If you do not go forth, He will punish you with a painful punishment and will replace you with another people, and you will not harm Him at all. And Allāh is over all things competent.
Quran 9:38-39
Here The God is bashing people for not going forward to sacrifice themselves and their wealth for the way of Allah and will punish them if they don't then how can we even think about justifying or giving out reasons why we are not doing certain obligation which are nothing compares to the above verse which is also obligated on us.
Come on akhi, you don't need to feel embarrassed to be a Man for what the same gender did...
Thank you, I wish all brothers would open their minds and hearts like you have
Hijab has nothing to do with people! Wearing a hijab is for Allah subhanahu wata3ala and there is no reason for removing it. May Allah inshallah make it easy for us 💗
You think modesty has nothing to do with social cohesion? You think that Allah swt commanding men to protect and provide for women, children, and the orphans is void of social benefit?
You are so brave! I appreciate you so much. These are real issues our women and girls are facing, but our communities can be harsh on us. You make such important points. Our hijab is not for men or to protect us from men. It is for Allah, our Creator.
Trauma can be an excuse or reason for everything even leaving Islam so what's the point?
Anyone can also make it a reason for why i started to sl--p around with the same gender because of my bad experience with the opposite gender.
Imagine if sahaba were to have started to speak or act like that then even saying sahada in public would be a perfect reason for them to not do that because of the reason they would be giving "it would cause me trauma" and none of them would have said that.
Whether you are a man or woman, instead of justifying why you are not fulfilling certain commandments of Islam and blaming others or God, blame your own self and repent (turn towards) Allah indeed he is very forgiving and merciful.
Allah said:
O you who have believed, what is [the matter] with you that, when you are told to go forth in the cause of Allāh, you adhere heavily to the earth?1 Are you satisfied with the life of this world rather than the Hereafter? But what is the enjoyment of worldly life compared to the Hereafter except a [very] little.
If you do not go forth, He will punish you with a painful punishment and will replace you with another people, and you will not harm Him at all. And Allāh is over all things competent.
Quran 9:38-39
Here The God is bashing people for not going forward to sacrifice themselves and their wealth for the way of Allah and will punish them if they don't then how can we even think about justifying or giving out reasons why we are not doing certain obligation which are nothing compares to the above verse which is also obligated on us.
Not a stranger sharing my story and other ladies on the internet?! 😱 Blew my mind. I was raped by someone from my community, ostracized for reporting it because I “made Islam look bad”, struggled with my relationship with Allah and my hijab for many years because it “did not protect me from being raped”, forced into homelessness with my daughter for 6 months, lived 10 years of my life out of the religion and in a same sex marriage after a suicide attempt because women were safer. In the last 4 years I returned to Islam after working through the sexual abuse and rape and religious trauma, left the LGBT lifestyle, started praying again and covering myself. Alhumdullilah for this test! I would still have preferred this struggle, and all the hardships I have gone through than be a Palestinian mother. So, ALHUMDULLILAH we all have our tests but like you said, I might have navigated it a little easier if it was explained to me differently, as an act of worship and less of a focus on how I dress. Rape is about power and control and it has nothing to do with what you’re wearing or not wearing.
Damn may Allah help you with your trauma and keep you and your daughter steadfast on the religion sister
I think the core problem lies in not having enough knowledge and understanding in regards to what is decreed by Allah azza wa jall. Donning the Hijab properly, is first and foremost a sign of submission to the creator of the heavens and earth and definitely not only to safe guard oneself from the nafs and gaze of men.
As we can see in social media today, clearly hijab is NOT a sign of piety. Piety is alot more than covering ourselves or reciting the quran or performing our daily prayers it's also how we react and who we turn to when faced with calamity in life. Im not here to judge your friends or acquaintances but unfortunately thinking to end ones life is a grave sin in Islam, if they really are pious women then ending their lives would never cross their mind. Before anyone come and attack me in regards to my statement, I too was a victim of s**ual abuse when I was a child. Alhamdulillah, i did not go that route or even have that thought because i learnt that this Dunya is not a place for enjoyment but a place of tests.
Unfortunately, human have weaken themselves with the influences of the bad side of social media to the point where most of us don't realize that we are defying Allah instead of pleasing him.
My advice to my fellow muslim sisters and brothers, acquire authentic knowledge of our deen from reputable sources, don't go a day without learning something. Knowledge is power and knowledge will be our strength when we're hit with calamities or when we're at our weakest.
Not sure why this popped up on my feed but I was intrigued. Sorry to hear about the anecdotes you mentioned. There are horrible stories in every community about emotional and physical harms from both sexes. However, I failed to see the connection between some who wrongly connect the mandate of hijab to men vs the actual mandate itself. Trauma or not, hijab is still a mandate. If someone told a girl it’s to protect them from men, obviously that was wrong, however that doesn’t take away from her obligation to wear the hijab. I feel like personal responsibility should be taken at some point. Obviously not every girl who wears hijab is better than every girl who doesn’t. However, chances are Hijabis are objectively closer to Islam than non-Hijabis. Instinctively every man knows this.
Because if she believes the hijab is for men, and it didn't protect her and in fact her Muslim elders abused her, how is she going to continue wearing it? It doesn't make sense and reminds her of her trauma. That's why these sisters need to relearn about hijab from a place of safety and compassion. R*pe can make a woman go insane so have a heart.
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My point about personal responsibility was that basic Islamic education is supposed to educate folks about the reality of the deen and why we follow the ahkam. Just because someone in the past told her something incorrectly, doesn’t excuse her ignorance on the matter. Obviously something like r*** is horrendous and one of the worst crimes in a community. Make videos about that and how we can prevent it. Do not connect it to hijab and almost excuse the foregoing of it. Just look at the comments here, some women are excusing this fard by listing their “traumas”. As a child, I was ra**** by a man at a madrassah in Saudi. This doesn’t mean I don’t ever step foot in a masjid or forego the obligation to attain knowledge. I know Satan exists and is ever present, I don’t blame anyone else but him and double down on my obligations to Allah. I understand my personal anecdote is not an argument, however, we set a very dangerous precedent when a public figure excuses a major sin in this way. Plus, I personally see the rejection of hijab being done by women who are clearly chasing after the fahish. The trend is visible in the “modest fashion” industry. It goes from hijab, to semi hijab, to turban hijab, to mini skirts. The issue occurs when anyone questions that person and they’re told “you don’t know what she’s been through, stop judging her”.
@@sammuShe said she wasn’t excusing it in the video?? She’s saying how we can work towards changing peoples views on hijab so more women learn it and actually wear it.
Also I think you’re not taking into account, the mental issues that often come after you’ve been raped (ptsd, depression and more severe disorders) it’s not simply a women taking it off due to ignorance, the examples Maryam gave in this video were one of pious women (who know what the hijab means) perhaps however when they put it on they are reminded of the rape, perhaps they have severe anxiety when they put it on.
Of course putting it on is better, but if you’re struggling due to mental issues, then Allah knows and is the most merciful and you cannot compare it to wilful ignorance.
Healing, Prayer and Medication. Once they are on that journey then they must work on putting the hijab back on, and that must be encouraged. Or else, if they do put on the hijab when they are fearful of it or even getting major panic attacks and flashbacks, they’ll obviously be discouraged and it’ll harm them.
Anyway my point was it’s not just due to ignorance but also health and well-being.
(Just to add I’m not saying that women must never work towards Allah and put the hijab on, but they must do it when they are sound of mind and they must be encouraged in a healthy way, not just saying “oh you are being wilfully ignorant” but guiding them to make dua, prayer and medication)
Yes, we wear it to please Allah swt but we can not ignore the fact that Allah swt ordained it for us to PROTECT US against the evil desires of men, THAT'S a FACT. Evidence to it is that women are obliged to wear Hijab ONLY in front of non mahram men.
And yes, there are exceptions where men would still violate a women despite she wearing Hijab but these will be small percentage of cases compared to how many men back off when they see women in Hijab/niqab.
Also,it's important to remember Hijab isn't just about the dress and how much skin is covered. It's a code of conduct. Mixing with men, talking, chatting, laughing with them unnecessarily, behaving in a manner that's not dignified...all might encourage men to make inappropriate advances.
Now don't say,I am shifting the blame. Men are by nature like thar...that's a given. Women need to be on their guard. That's why Allah swt ordered men to lower their haze, and ordained Hijab for women right after.
Bcz even Allah swt knew just ordering men was not enough.
Thank you!!
@@MsEternalpeace men are not by nature 'like that', men are not absolved from their actions
I have very bad anxiety to the point where I am very nauseous and can’t breath. That’s why I do not cover my neck when I am anxious. I still cover my hair and try to cover my neck when I can. Judging women based on what they wear on their head is not the way to go. You don’t know what someone is going through.
That's the Shaitan preventing you from wearing it.
Sorry Trauma is not a reason for suicide, leaving Islam or hijab bashing. I know really bad stories, but the women rose above it all through their faith.
Indeed those who believe ❤
You’re missing the point, no wonder people call Muslims close-minded. When you’re told constantly that it’s the way you dress that will prevent you from getting molested, and that form of dressing is prescribed by Allah, how do you think anyone would feel knowing that their covering failed to protect them? She’s not bashing the hijab, and the women who don’t wear the hijab aren’t bashing it either. What they’re saying is that sometimes, this covering which has been deemed as a method of protection against filthy men does not work entirely in preventing men from preying on them. And yes, that betrayal can lead to suicide, especially if you put your entire trust into Allah and his words.
@@aaAa-bp1yd Let's put this into perspective. The vast majority of muslim women in the west do NOT wear hijab and it certainly ain't due to trauma. Only Allah knows how they feel about hijab and the ones who wear it. Just from a personal standpoint, my 14 year old neice was bullied at school verbally and physically by so called muslim girls, just for wearing her hijab. Sadly Times are changing and attitudes are hardening.
@@kb4432 her point is stop judging which has gone way over your head. Because if a woman's working through trauma, your hate will re-open wounds then how will she make her way back? If you want to raise awareness of your nieces situation then make a video yourself.
@@ZM-et7zt The vast majority of women in Gaza are observing hijab in the middle of the worst trauma imaginable.. Why? What are their reasons? It's all about EMAN.
Jazaka'Allah, I had a very narrow mindset regarding women wearing hijab and often times I would trouble my mother and sisters but nevertheless it is out of their own will to put it on.
Comments telling me they lack any sympathy...smh
I love you so much for saying this, brings so much peace to my heart. I am also a girl who took off her hijab after 10 years of wearing it because of constant religious guilt , shame and suppression of my femininity.. and I kept blaming and questioning my faith for taking it off thinking that God will hate me, completely discarding the constant trauma part
Trauma can be an excuse or reason for everything even leaving Islam so what's the point?
Anyone can also make it a reason for why i started to sl--p around with the same gender because of my bad experience with the opposite gender.
Imagine if sahaba were to have started to speak or act like that then even saying sahada in public would be a perfect reason for them to not do that because of the reason they would be giving "it would cause me trauma" and none of them would have said that.
Whether you are a man or woman, instead of justifying why you are not fulfilling certain commandments of Islam and blaming others or God, blame your own self and repent (turn towards) Allah indeed he is very forgiving and merciful.
Allah said:
O you who have believed, what is [the matter] with you that, when you are told to go forth in the cause of Allāh, you adhere heavily to the earth?1 Are you satisfied with the life of this world rather than the Hereafter? But what is the enjoyment of worldly life compared to the Hereafter except a [very] little.
If you do not go forth, He will punish you with a painful punishment and will replace you with another people, and you will not harm Him at all. And Allāh is over all things competent.
Quran 9:38-39
Here The God is bashing people for not going forward to sacrifice themselves and their wealth for the way of Allah and will punish them if they don't then how can we even think about justifying or giving out reasons why we are not doing certain obligation which are nothing compares to the above verse which is also obligated on us.
'Suppression of my femininity' this is a quote straight from Islamophobes
"Suppression of my femininity". The lowest level of eman is to believe in your heart that without hijab your committing sins. Allah created women the way they are and it is Allah who commands the women to wear hijab. Islam means submission to the will of Allah. We were put on earth for a temporary test.
"Suppression of my Femininity" tells us alot about who you are and what you believe
You might feel peace now, but don't think that this peace will last until the day of judgment.
Obey your creator and leave these stupid excuses behind.
The hell fire is real, whether you like it or not, and it's going to have some people in it. Try your best not to be one of them.
Yes you make good points to exceptions to the rule. But generally speaking pious women and men wear hijab. But like you’re saying there are exceptions. But these exceptions are highly specific and case by case. Thank you for sharing
Trauma can be an excuse or reason for everything even leaving Islam so what's the point?
Anyone can also make it a reason for why i started to sl--p around with the same gender because of my bad experience with the opposite gender.
Imagine if sahaba were to have started to speak or act like that then even saying sahada in public would be a perfect reason for them to not do that because of the reason they would be giving "it would cause me trauma" and none of them would have said that.
Whether you are a man or woman, instead of justifying why you are not fulfilling certain commandments of Islam and blaming others or God, blame your own self and repent (turn towards) Allah indeed he is very forgiving and merciful.
Allah said:
O you who have believed, what is [the matter] with you that, when you are told to go forth in the cause of Allāh, you adhere heavily to the earth?1 Are you satisfied with the life of this world rather than the Hereafter? But what is the enjoyment of worldly life compared to the Hereafter except a [very] little.
If you do not go forth, He will punish you with a painful punishment and will replace you with another people, and you will not harm Him at all. And Allāh is over all things competent.
Quran 9:38-39
Here The God is bashing people for not going forward to sacrifice themselves and their wealth for the way of Allah and will punish them if they don't then how can we even think about justifying or giving out reasons why we are not doing certain obligation which are nothing compares to the above verse which is also obligated on us.
@@DontOpenThisChannelAllah knows our struggles and i advice u to chose the middle path and not be too harsh on our fellow sisters that abandon hijab bc one day it could concern your wife or your daughter .
@@bluelight8664 he spoke the truth though, there is no excuse in leaving obligations because of some excusses this is the signs of low iman though we are not to judge we are obliged to expose these kinds of acts .
@grandmillenial7960 expose what? That they were taught wrong about hijab, r*ped and are now traumatised and in that vulnerable state other people linked it to their hijab? Something like this takes imaan out of people so the fact that they're still Muslim is a sign of their faith. Where is your compassion? For one minute, imagine being r*ped by a Muslim leader of your community while wearing hijab and everyone told you that's supposed to protect you. How would you feel towards it then? Just because you're a man, it doesn't mean you can't be abused. Have some compassion. It takes years for some people to heal from trauma and with a dismissive attitude like yours instead of welcoming arms, traumatised people have no where to go but away.
@@DontOpenThisChannel have some compassion. It takes people time to heal and come back. Why be harsh so that the door remains closed forever? Everyone has a journey. You're acting like r*pe is a small thing. I wonder how you'd react to it, by a Muslim community elder like she said no less.
Thank you for sharing your reflection with us ❤
I found myself in kind of similar situation, and what made me keep my hijab on is the fact that by wearing my hijab is a form of ibadah and I gain a lot of hassanat doing it; following islam, every girl that get inspired to wear something similar, and every man that is reminded to lower his gaze. For men they have to go to the mosque at every call of prayer, for us women we have to wear the hijab; both are beautiful forms of worship that cleanse and protect the heart and soul 🤍
The rare is not ever a rule.
Jazak Allah kul khir
Trauma can be an excuse or reason for everything even leaving Islam so what's the point?
Anyone can also make it a reason for why i started to sl--p around with the same gender because of my bad experience with the opposite gender.
Imagine if sahaba were to have started to speak or act like that then even saying sahada in public would be a perfect reason for them to not do that because of the reason they would be giving "it would cause me trauma" and none of them would have said that.
Whether you are a man or woman, instead of justifying why you are not fulfilling certain commandments of Islam and blaming others or God, blame your own self and repent (turn towards) Allah indeed he is very forgiving and merciful.
Allah said:
O you who have believed, what is [the matter] with you that, when you are told to go forth in the cause of Allāh, you adhere heavily to the earth?1 Are you satisfied with the life of this world rather than the Hereafter? But what is the enjoyment of worldly life compared to the Hereafter except a [very] little.
If you do not go forth, He will punish you with a painful punishment and will replace you with another people, and you will not harm Him at all. And Allāh is over all things competent.
Quran 9:38-39
Here The God is bashing people for not going forward to sacrifice themselves and their wealth for the way of Allah and will punish them if they don't then how can we even think about justifying or giving out reasons why we are not doing certain obligation which are nothing compares to the above verse which is also obligated on us.
Sexual violence is not rare, not in the ummah nor any other community of people
@@Katie2986I do agree with what you said, but I think it's unfair after I've seen some women use it as an opportunity to be misandrist...
@@majorlobster3443 we are talking about women being r*ped and you make this about men. That's really embarrassing. If someone was being misandrist then call them out but you don't need to detract from something so important here.
The point is stop judging sisters and leave them on their journey or advise them in private
Allah said when commanding hijab: "ذلك أدنى أن يعرفن فلا يؤذين " roughly meaning that wearing hijab is so that women are recognised so that they are not abused or attacked. The few experiences that you've recounted -although there are so many details missing - do not negate that general wisdom of hijab. The misunderstanding is when people think that wearing hijab is a 100% guarantee that no adverse event is going to happen. There is nothing as 100% effective tool. It is a combination of many protection measures among which hijab is just one.
May mother says wearing hijab always makes her confident and strong.
Jazaakillaah khayra sister. This point about hijab being for Allah is not said enough. We are always trying to rationalise it in the context of men which just results in a big backlash from people who don’t understand the knowledge and mercy of Allah, or the nature of men and women
MAY ALLAH KEEP OUR SISTERS SAFE
Ive read alot of debates and interpretations and i tend to believe.. and arrive at a conclusion.. it is NOT even mandatory.
What about all the unpious women who wear the hijab and spoil the image of all pious women in hijab with their despicable bahviour? This should be talked about.
Piety is only something Allah SWT knows for sure, bc its in the heart. You or I have no right to call someone un-pious.
To each their own . We don’t need to talk about others .
These are some really sad stories and I pray Allah gives the sisters healing from their trauma.
I would like to add that women cover one's awrah is first and foremost to obey their creator yes, but also as a form of protection as Allah says in the Quran:
"O Prophet, tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to bring down over themselves [part] of their outer garments. That is more suitable that they will be known and not be abused. And ever is Allāh Forgiving and Merciful." Surah Al-Ahzab 33:59
Whilst I feel deep compassion with them and their struggles, I wonder if their suicide attempts removed them from Allah rather than having this test bring them closer (as we know each time we sin a black dot appears on our hearts) and made it difficult to keep the hijab on. Were they not aware what a grave sin ending one's life is?
I appreciate you raising awareness sis but your video comes across as making excuses why women don't wear hijab and are disobedient and that it's okay.
It is probably more beneficial to share stories of trials and the tried successfully navigating these with Tawakkul.
suicide is not necessarily a conscious attempt. when a person breaks down badly mentally, it can cause *numbness*. a numb person cannot think or feel anything, possibly not even feeling physical pain. If a person attempts suicide during numbness, that means it was without intention, and the person did not even realise what one was doing and did it mindlessly
and it might be difficult for them to wear hijab due to involuntary overwhelming fears. to me it sounds like they were strangled or pulled on using their hijab, if that happened, the fear can be strong enough that even placing any cloth near their throat would make them feel congested and strangled.
fear and trauma are stronger than you think, i think you are underestimating how badly a person can be affected by negative experiences like this.
and yes in such cases one *cannot* make a blanket statement that these women are disobedient or wrong for not wearing hijab, which is Maryam's point. Piety of a person can only be judged by Allah.
the way to help such people is NOT by saying they are sinning and what they are doing is wrong and hence, making some assumption like they lack piety, but rather by helping them with their trauma and ensuring they get adequate help.
Allah puts people in ibtillah...whom he wishes.🤷🏿♂️ May Allah let us be patient - in all circumstances .Aameen.
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100% ❤❤ barak Allahu feeki. And as you said, this video is not to massage the ego of non hijabi sisters ☺️😶🌫️
Your message is kind and nuanced- A knows our hearts - THANKYOU 🙏
Trauma can be an excuse or reason for everything even leaving Islam so what's the point?
i can also make it a reason for why i started to sl--p around because of my bad experience with women but I'm not stupid nor do I do it.
if sahaba were to have started to speak or act like that then even saying sahada in public would be a perfect reason for them to not do that because "it causes me trauma" and none of them would have said that.
Whether you are a man or woman, instead of justifying why you are not fulfilling certain commandments of Islam and blaming others or God, start blaming yourself for God's sake.
O you who have believed, what is [the matter] with you that, when you are told to go forth in the cause of Allāh, you adhere heavily to the earth?1 Are you satisfied with the life of this world rather than the Hereafter? But what is the enjoyment of worldly life compared to the Hereafter except a [very] little.
If you do not go forth, He will punish you with a painful punishment and will replace you with another people, and you will not harm Him at all. And Allāh is over all things competent.
Quran 9:38-39
Here is The God is bashing people for not sacrificing their lives for his sake and will punish them if they don't and here we are making our trauma an excuse for our disobedience to him. Munafiqs!
May Allah azzawajal protect them & make it ease for them n reward them 🤲
I want to start wearing hijab but i don't know where to start.
Start with your intention sister, then decide if you want to jump into it or start covering a little by little.
I’d recommend starting with an almina/one piece hijab or those “instant” hijabs because they’re sooo easy to do. Wear looser clothing if you aren’t ready for abayas. Wishing you the best sister may Allah make it easy ❤
Omg me too! I been praying since I was 12 and never really thought about wearing hijab, even my family who are all wearing it didn't talk to me about it. But now I'm 20, I always loved hijab and I'm starting with just covering my head I wanted to jump to wearing abayas but I'm broke rn 😭 and I'm tryna gather enough money since they aren't cheap where I live. Just start little by little.
This is so needed. Thank you :)
Animalistic men will do whatever whenever no matter what we wear.
Hijab is an obligation and a beautiful one at that.
May Allah heal these women and other survivors and allow them to return to fulfilling the obligation of hijab.
Some of you didn't get the message she was trying to convey. When you teach women that wearing hijab is for the sake of men so they dont gwt turned on is a very dumb message it makes them hate it, of course those who remove it are wrong. You people must understand that Hijab & niqab is for allah it's modesty, it's what's differ us from non believers, it's to keep our femininity instead of showcasing it to the world, it makes us religiously focused, and yes it's a protection too but that doesnt mean that anyone on this world wont get attacked or assaulted wearing a hijab. I saw many women who are fully covered get catcalled in the streets even my aunt who is 50 years old and wears hijab and abayas encounters the same thing. I remember when i was 12 , in my class we had this teacher touching on other little girls even though i live in a Muslim country. The problem is those perverted men and defending them makes you even worse than them. I love hijab and will always love it, it makes me feel focused on my religion and more confident i even feel prettier wearing it, i know not anyone would feel the same. I had many bad times during my life and allah always saved me when i thought im done. It makes me want to try my best to please my lord even if i sinned a lot but Allah didn't give up on me. I hope you guys understand the closer you get to your own religion the more you will love it .
May Allah protect you from the obsession you seem to have with men and women
Jazak’Allah for the insight
My mom says the same thing when I start my hijab
You know I had the same perspective about hijab, I use to think that everyone who wears a hijab is pious and really religious until I saw someone at my uni wearing a hijab and proper black abaya and she engaged it every other fitnah etc. That was shocking for me...
So much victim blaming in the comments :(((
Berhijab atau tidak berhijab,anda jangan berjalan sendirian,terutama di kota-kota di negara Barat..setidaknya anda harus bertiga orang..
Saya dari dulu kurang setuju jika wanita yg mengenakan hijab dianggap pasti terhindar dari pikiran buruk laki-laki..saya kurang setuju itu,
Sebab,lelaki bukan hanya bisa menatap.. tetapi mereka juga bisa berkhayal..jago berkhayal..apapun tentang anda!
First off … we are living in an age where women HAVE NO CHOICE but to step out of there homes. Instead of telling this constant need for women to “hide themselves” or “shelter themselves” why cant men hold eachother accountable on not looking at women in such a disgusting gaze??
This is the dumbest comment I have ever read. Did you know women get assaulted in hajj? And you’d also probably know that hajj requires you to bring either your husband, brother, father, etc. Women get assaulted in broad daylight. Stop victim shaming and start holding men accountable
We wear hijab because Allah commands us to.
It is not the ONLY protection but one of them. The others2) include not intermixing with the opposite gender. 3) walking and traveling with mahram if possible. 4) Not being in a secluded space with non mahram male.
Also, in general the best place for a woman to pray is at home.
One last point is that when hardship befalls regardless of your efforts to protect yourself, know that it is a test from Allah subhana wa ta alaa. Look up the proper steps to follow on how to pass trials successfully. Since this was their trial, my humble guess is they fell into the trap of Satan and could have past this test with patience and further reflection on how they can get close to Allah, raise awareness and still KEEP THEIR HIJAB on because who and why were they do it for the first plus? For Allah.
Well said sister. We can understand WHY women take it off/don’t wear it. But that does not mean it is right, by Allah, to do it. The end of this video should be to encourage women to work through their traumas and stay close to Allah in every way possible. Not to listen to our waswas and take steps away from Allah.
- I was physically attacked by a close male family member (non-SA) when I began wearing hijab. It was the most scary and jarring moment of my life. I kept my hijab on DESPITE my fear and Allah guided me even closer to Him Alhamdulilah.
Her point is that women are taught its for men, not Allah and that's why they take it off after trauma so we need to educate better. I feel you didn't understand her message at all.
Exactly ...Hijab is for Allah ..it's for men or to protect from men ... I think lots of women are losing hasanat having their intention (النية) wrong...
As a man I want to wear hijab now
السلام علیکم بہنا ❤عید الاضحی مبارک ❤💓🇵🇰
Thank you for sharing this video ,
I hope this video remind you of what is happening in iran .
Being raped in jail, beaten , murdered by goverment for not wearing hijab is not an Islamic action .
Imagine , in this world there are some people who rape kill beat in the name of Allah ,in the name of Allah . They take wudu befor raping them , ya Allah 😔
I hope now you have a better understanding of the ( women life freedom ) .
I hope now you understand that islamic republic of iran (government) is different of what people think.
I hope now you understand that Iranian are actually muslim , they are muslim , they do support gaza , they are praying 5 times a day < their situation is just a little different with what you might imagine.
#mahsaamini #nikashakerami #womenlifefreedom
p.s: I had a classmate from saudi arabia/pakistan , one day he shout at me about what is wrong with iranian and why they hate islamic republic and islam and hijab .
it literally broke my heart to the point i wanted to cry not because of his words , but because of how uneducated people are about what is happening in iran .
MashaAllah, a great message
Correct. I agree.
You are amazing
Like 📃 pious-Mary 📃 mom of Jesus prophet
If you want to be a good muslima. Get off the internet.
That's good advice.
What happend to those guys who did that?
So...men are guilty...maybe in those cases, yes...but they are and exceptions... otherwise seems like a speech of the average feminist wenster women
Thank you.
Sisters of the belief.....see, first understand that hijab is not some kind of predators proof dress..... It's our identity, in Qur'an ALLAH(SWT) tells to cover the dress of believing women wears n to be modest. While wearing hijab we identify us as Muslim women n same time we are being modest.... But a godless person does something bad to you it doesn't means we should blame the Hijab....you covered or not covered, you a kid or a old lady, you handicapped or physically fit, you r pregnant or a doctor or a army person, you are a dead body under the mud or you are just born...a godless abuser will make you his target... It doesn't means you should blame the Hijab n leave your identity...
In India 2002 Gujarat...loads of Muslim women were raped and murdered they were age 6-80yrs old... A survivor Bilkis Banu, she was raped while she was 5months pregnant, her child was killed infront her by smashing the kid's head on the wall, all her relatives that is 11 of them were killed, her sisters, mother, grandma were raped and killed... She fought the legal fight wearing her Hijab, now those criminals are behind the bar, but the ruling racists government freed those thugs but she again stood against them.... now Supreme Court has issued order to cancel the free to go n condemned the government.....
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Assalamualaikum. These tragic scenarios could have been avoided if the woman was with her wali and not alone with non-mahram. Covering your awrah is just one required form of protection out of many that Islam prescribes for women.
Yes, both men and women should be taught that covering your awrah is an obligation and an act of worship to Allah FIRST. That is the most important reason. Sister, please make a video about valid reasons for being excused from an obligation, like menses, incapacitation, etc.
How is piety not tied to covering your awrah and obeyign Allah? Please -- please explain this one using scholarly sources. I beg you for the sake of the ummah.
Men are literally told to tell their women to cover their awrah, otherwise they are in danger of becoming dayooth. So yes, the community is keeping themselves accountable by telling their women to worship Allah in the prescribed way.
Surah An-Nur : "And tell the believing women to reduce [some] of their vision[1] and guard their private parts and not expose their adornment[2] except that which [necessarily] appears thereof[3] and to wrap [a portion of] their headcovers over their chests and not expose their adornment [i.e., beauty] except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands' fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers, their brothers' sons, their sisters' sons, their women, that which their right hands possess [i.e., slaves], or those male attendants having no physical desire,[4] or children who are not yet aware of the private aspects of women. And let them not stamp their feet to make known what they conceal of their adornment. And turn to Allāh in repentance, all of you, O believers, that you might succeed."
Both men's and women's uncovered bodies ARE a fitnah. This is why everyone must cover. So yes, if you fear Allah aka if you're pious, you will fulfill your obligations like salah, fasting, Hajj, zakat, hijab, etc. Piety is absolutely tied to worship.
Sister, you may not realize it, but your choice of words is likely more harmful than helpful. I ask that you use scholarly sources and the Quran to back up your statements, instead of speaking from emotion and anecdotes. May Allah bless you and keep us all on the straight path ameen.
You realize that one can be pious and TRAUMATIZED, no? Trauma leads to people doing things to avoid said trauma, bc of the incredible pain it causes...can lead to thought of self deletion, etc. The idea that you would skip over that and continue shows a complete lack of empathy.
@@deedeee6271 Hijab is not the cause of that trauma, the assault is. The hospital, in the second scenario, led the girl to believe that her suicidal thoughts were connected to her hijab, which is not true. I wonder how many women are told that Islam is the source of their issues rather than the solutions. The Palestinian women have been raped, assaulted, and their children murdered, and yet these women still wear hijab and pray salah. Tells you that hijab is not connected to trauma involving violence towards women.
@@القهوه-بالحليب Trauma requires processing...you act as if these women are faking their pain and reactions. You're not helping your cause...
@@deedeee6271 I don't think they're faking anything, I think that Western society brainwashes Muslimahs into thinking that Islam is the problem.
@@deedeee6271 I don't think they're faking anything, I think that Western society brainwashes Muslimahs into thinking that Islam is the problem.
thank you for sharing
Kindly avoid these types of fitna
Trauma can be an excuse or reason for everything even leaving Islam so what's the point?
Anyone can also make it a reason for why i started to sl--p around with the same gender because of my bad experience with the opposite gender.
Imagine if sahaba were to have started to speak or act like that then even saying sahada in public would be a perfect reason for them to not do that because of the reason they would be giving "it would cause me trauma" and none of them would have said that.
Whether you are a man or woman, instead of justifying why you are not fulfilling certain commandments of Islam and blaming others or God, blame your own self and repent (turn towards) Allah indeed he is very forgiving and merciful.
Allah said:
O you who have believed, what is [the matter] with you that, when you are told to go forth in the cause of Allāh, you adhere heavily to the earth?1 Are you satisfied with the life of this world rather than the Hereafter? But what is the enjoyment of worldly life compared to the Hereafter except a [very] little.
If you do not go forth, He will punish you with a painful punishment and will replace you with another people, and you will not harm Him at all. And Allāh is over all things competent.
Quran 9:38-39
Here The God is bashing people for not going forward to sacrifice themselves and their wealth for the way of Allah and will punish them if they don't then how can we even think about justifying or giving out reasons why we are not doing certain obligation which are nothing compares to the above verse which is also obligated on us.
How many times are you going to post this? If someone is traumatized, what can they do?
You are shocking do you know that? You've posted this 100 times for what?
My advice to you is that you work with trauma victims and re watch her video. She said that if you centre hijab on men, women get traumatised when it doesn't protect them from men. But if it's for Allah then even in a genocide women wear it. Its about how we educate women
Just cleaning the heart
As Salaam Alaikum sister
Eid-Al-Adha Mubarak
الله يهديكي ان كنتي جاهلة, وينتقم منك ان كان كلامك هذا مقصود
كلامك هذا كله سم في سم, فقط مغلف بالحب والسكر والحلويات
و ليھ تدعي عليھا ؟؟؟؟؟
Wow, it seems you’re starting to see her true intentions. Just because there have been incidents where some women were forced to stop wearing the hijab, it doesn't mean that women can choose not to wear it and still claim to be pious. Piety isn't something anyone can just claim, not even those who wear a hijab or niqab. But suggesting that it’s okay not to wear the hijab out of fear? What qualifications do you have to make such statements? Having a few subscribers and viewers doesn't make you an authority on these issues. By your logic, no women in the West should wear the hijab or niqab because of the risk of harassment. And why stop at the hijab? Should no Muslims in the West practice their religion because of Islamophobia? Should all Palestinians renounce Islam to avoid persecution by the IDF? Please stop spreading nonsense to people who don’t think critically and listen to people like you. Or perhaps you’re just seeking more subscribers and are trying to appeal to the feminist majority with such statements.
😂 did you listen to anything? She's saying when you teach women the hijab is for men and then men abuse them, they get traumatised and take it off. When you teach women it's for Allah, they keep it on even if they're martyred like the women in Gaza. As if you posted such a hateful comment on here, don't you know to assume people's intentions is sinful in itself?
Piety can only be judged by Allah
her point is a person cannot just accuse someone of lacking piety because one doesn't wear hijab.
Piety cannot be claimed either for same reason.
May Allah guide you
So many of the comments here are truly disheartening, and are exactly why women choose the bear. Let Allah do the judging when it comes to hijab, that’s between a women and Allah. Many of you are completely ignorant about SA, trauma, and mental health. And seriously, it’s not men’s business to judge sisters about hijab anyway - mind your gaze.
@@Katie2986 It is our business, actually. Considering we are qawwam!
@@Katie2986 You sound like you like ladies
Let us know your story also please
Another great women in ummah. Thank God!
What are you talking about? perpetuating people to be linenant on not wearing hijaab?Sister Wallahi, Stop promoting fitna And tabbarujj !! its against shariah guidelines
Give the full context. Were these women openly freemixing? How did a man get that close to them? Did they go out with a mahram (if not going out in necessity)?
(Btw, not saying it's their fault. All I'm saying is, they were never that practising in the first place if they were openly freemixing etc).
The first one was assaulted by a Muslim elder, so it was probably at a mosque or an event, you don't need to be alone for assault to take place, I've seen it happen in public and no one notices if they arent happening to look at that particular time.
The second one was hospitalised, it could have been a family member. Most assaults are actually done by second degree relatives, neighbours or family friends. That could have happened in her own house. The last one was a school girl so let's think, she goes to school, probably gets on a bus... but let's try and figure out how it's the teens fault yeah? Abuse is never the victims fault. Even if she put herself in harms way, she's wrong for that. But it isn't someone else's right to abuse her because she's there. And the point of this video is to say, if you make hijab about men, women take it off when traumatised. If you make it about Allah then women wear it even in genocide.
you can be attacked by those closest to you and those you trusted, or you can be attacked and isolated, and outsmarted.
all measures are mere deterrences when it comes to security. there is no indication that they were openly freemixing.
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Wearing hijab jilbab offering tahajjud is not enough, you should not intermix with the men, and walk around alone in the night or evening, other resons must be kept in practice and one more thing hijab or burqa is protection only when there is fear of muslims or muslim rule in the nation.
Please don't add things to islam that's not true. Provide evidence that you can't walk alone?
You need a mahram
Exactly, assaults can be avoided if you actually travel with your wali and do not mix with non-mahram
Or perhaps men shouldn't sexual assault women. Forgot that one.
@@deedeee6271 agreed. But until all men in the whole world stop assaulting women, women need good men to protect them from evil men. Not sure if you're a Muslim, but Islam requires that women be guarded by their wali (male guardians like husband or brother) whenever they go out or travel.