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@justinfreeman4614 Yes, but non-beautiful women human tend to not experience the arrested development most beautiful women do...because the rest of us don't have the same sabotaging conditions growing up that they do
when you get put on a pedestal for something you were born with it gives you no motivation for anything else. People always chose the easy way ........
There are two defining days in every woman's life: 1. the day she realizes her looks can get her access to things she has not earned 2. the day she realizes her looks can no longer get her access to things she has not earned
Don't underestimate simping. Women in their 50's are worth as much as a woman in her 30's when 1/3 (or more) of men are incels. The demand for women far outweighs the supply.
That's what happened to Hittler. He punished the truth so often that after a while no one dared tell him the truth (especially if it was bad, which in times of war, it often is). He couldn't make sound plans or even gather all the facts of a given situation. This is truly what cost Germany the war so many years ago!
sounds about right, the former queen Bees and homecoming queens who's small town life shattered her dreams of being someone spectacular after highschool and so now after her looks have faded she takes her frustration out on everyone else
Right, as they age, they focus on plastic surgery rather than personality. At some point, though, either the money for plastic surgery disappears, or the effects of the surgery don't hold up, and they freak out.
I think it's the duty of every disillusioned man who ever had genuine aspirations of gentlemanly behaviour to inform young men of this fact. You just don't wanna see another group of young guys find out the hard way.
Yes and most men won’t dare say no to them ever. We gotta blame the fellas for a good chunk of this problem . Very few men can admit to it though. Until more men develop standards and start saying no then this problem won’t change
It ruins them. All of them. It's just a question of degrees. I remember the last time I got to know a cute cashier. She explained to me (all smiles and giggles) that she is a retail manager at 19 who owns her own house in another city, and that she forces her 70 year old father to drive out of town to shovel snow for her. This same girl had to put up an alphabet banner behind the counter because she did not yet know her ABCs by heart. Yes, seriously.
I'm 52, and just yesterday I told a couple of young engineers at work, "There comes a point in every straight man's life, where he has to choose between making fun of astrology and getting laid."
This is true, but only for women who become attractive as teens, late bloomers who are awkward as teens but become very good looking when they are in their twenties, well they usually have already gotten knocked down by life enough that they don't let the good looks affect them as much
Truth! My glow up didn't kick in until after 30 (I'm neurodivergent) and I get hit on regularly. Like men actually respects me and goes out of there way to be nice to me. In my 20s that didn't happen.
@@bamafencer12Forgive me for saying this (but I have an ND wife and ND kids so I felt compelled to) Guys now treating you respectfully is not them having developed respect for you. They now just want to bang you. I say this as a guy: guys will say or do almost anything, even putting on a full, sustained good-guy act over a period of time to get what we are biochemically determined to get, which is, generally speaking, into the underwear of an even moderately attractive female. Congrats on the glow up tho!
Learning that when you're *actually* honest by nature is the most soul-shattering realization you'll ever have. You can almost *hear* the sound of breaking glass as your illusions about egalitarianism VANISH on the spot.
@@ephraimwinslowidk I call women out on bs all the time and tell em to cut the crap or they are out right crazy if I don’t like their shit and they still “like” me whatever that means
My dad once told my best friend and me when we were teenagers, 'You two should start developing personality, because you’re not going to be beautiful forever.' Best advice ever.
Words of wisdom every daughter should be taught. That alone is worth all the lessons of sex-Ed, along with how to be a Helpmeet and mother. I can’t tell you how many relationships with my fantasy women I’ve lost, just by telling them the truth. All because I actually loved them enough to tell the truth, knowing I couldn’t be ever blamed for being a liar. It did however lead to them finally leaving, or saying yes, to the relationship. These very women cry how men keep lying and deceiving, then when you tell them from the depths of your heart the 100000% truth, they lose it and call you a liar, or they suddenly, after claiming what great perception they have, can no longer understand the English language, no matter how you break it down to them; because it doesn’t fit THEIR narrative, smh.
Your dad was right. What almost never gets talked about is the women who used to be insanely hot, then age poorly and find that life suddenly becomes very mean and no one treats them the way they used to be treated. Some of them literally go crazy, because they can't believe the difference.
And literally none of them will ever get why they're lied to so often. I like to imagine a kid who asks *everyone* he meets whether or not they think he can fly like Superman. And if he gets an answer other than yes? He immediately pitches a fit. Then after a couple years? He takes a quick skip off a balcony, and ends up in a cast. And what does he do then? He angrily demands to know why everyone who reluctantly said "yes, you can fly Billy" lied to him.
When I was a teenager my father told me 'Son, do not get married with a very beautiful woman. Find a simple adequately good looking one with a humble heart' ... I kept his advice! Happily married now for 29 years...
This video encapsulates the old adage of: "If you want to help somebody tell them the truth, if you want to help yourself tell them what they want to hear".
This is me at work. I would try to help people, hopefully not in any condescending way, but unfortunately, people don't want it. So I'll see an obvious error in a plan or code or process, and I never speak up anymore or just agree. I just let them fuck up. Which they were doing anyway because they weren't listening to me in the first place lol. It's like in the Simpsons when Mr Burns is surrounded by yes-men. I wonder if it's an ego thing?
@@museumofwoman6633 I think if I knew when I was younger how much effort men put into getting laid I might not have believed all the lies I was being told for that reason.
I always found that women with elder brothers were easier to get along with. I thought it was because they knew how guys 'worked', so to speak. The point about them being told the truth by fathers and brothers is a real eye-opener. Great video, sir!
it is always illuminating to hear a woman talk about her father and her relationship with him. It really does say a lot and it is a very important flag for her to clear. Older brothers help too.
Oh God this is so true. My whole life I was told by everyone around me that I was the most beautiful girl in the world and I literally did not think that anyone could possibly be more beautiful than me. In fact I didn’t even seriously question the idea until I was probably in my 30’s. I started high school in the ninth grade and knowing nobody at all, I immediately got elected to student council and was asked by 12 boys to the first dance. I made my young-ish male teachers uncomfortable and grown women were jealous and rude to me…starting around 13/14. My male professors doted on me in college. I guess what I’m saying is…be patient with us because like he said, the world around us awards beautiful women with so much power, so young, and we don’t know how to handle it. And some of us were even raised to be trophy wives on top of it. For example, when I was about 23 I got a large trust dispersement from my trust fund, and I asked my dad if I should use it as a down payment on a condo, maybe as an investment property. He told me to go enjoy my money and let my husband buy me houses. 😑 I don’t think I was ever crazy but I was definitely very unrealistic and everyone around me did lie to me and contribute to that unreality I lived in. I had to learn how to be a real person eventually and develop a personality and learn how to earn things so that I could become the person that I expected myself to be. And I really wanted to be a good role model. It was a lot of work but it was worth it. However my mom, who is ridiculously beautiful still even in her 70s is, was and will always be completely crazy. She didn’t do the personal work that I did and she has been my dad’s cross to bear. But he does it because he’s so in love with her still to this day. Plus I think he likes the crazy to an extent. But it’s not how I wanted to live.
Its easy to type that, but the reality is female attraction is power, one of the strongest influencers on men. Wars have been fought over women in the past based on looks alone. Could you really deny a 10/10 woman who you know is crazy but you can have sex with? I can honestly say I cannot, its just a no brainer, its hard wired into us. Understanding the WHY behind why women are "crazy" helps navigate them way better. He sums it up best in the video. Imagine becoming a teenager and all the sudden you realize your outer appearance has true POWER over others, influence, the ability to have an easier life. Is it really so hard to sympathize with women? Who doesn't want an easier life? If you have the means and assets why not use them? A lot of people under-estimate women's intelligence. They are smart enough to want less work out of life, and know how to get that from men. The "gold digger" has some smarts man, she's living the life.
Buddy of mine has an ex-wife who's a top-shelf knockout. The most attractive woman in any room she's in, basically. He divorced her. Didn't make it 10 years. Told me what Orion is saying--"very attractive women can be hard to tolerate because, for their entire lives, nearly everyone has happily agreed with everything they say and do"
That’s the most crazy comment I’ve heard. Beautiful women are hated by ordinary women and beautiful smart women are hated by men who can’t fk and or nor can they compete with her brains at work .
Not every top-shelf knockout is another mans top-shelf knock out... Top-shelf knock out here - I am not every mans dream girl - really depends on who you ask.. Angelina Jolie is not Margot Robbie, Margot is not Selma Hayek - Selma is not Scarlett Johansson - Scarlett is not Halle Berry... Every woman likes a strong man to lead and believe me, a strong secure man will very much tell any woman the truth, because he can get another woman in a heartbeat! ;)
@@laurelledubois Men will have preferential differences, but there's not a man alive who would say a Victoria's Secret model isn't exceptionally beautiful. That's how attractive this friend's ex-wife is. 1/10000 women look like that.
@@MDwng That's entirely your opinion. There are millions of men around the world that couldn't care less for a VS model. Too skinny - they would say - even though this might hard for you to comprehend, because this is obviously what YOU like and deem attractive. And then there is: would I bang her or would I marry her. Not every man wants to marry a VS model. I found that most men that would want to bag a VS model type woman, are low-key insecure and would want such a woman to show off (arm candy). And not every woman that looks like a VS model will have the aspirations to do so. I've worked in the show biz industry for 35 yrs - I've seen it all.. What got me there? My good looks ofc!! 😄
@@laurelledubois you must be a woman. How do I know? Because you read the entire post of the og poster, then went an entire different direction with it. Completely ignoring the main point of what is being said and focusing on the one argument point you could hold on to just for the sake of arguing. Or because it upset you. I digress. Get over yourself.
My two coworkers ( one from Russia and one from Hungary ) are so beautiful and big hearted. We work with disabled children. There are beautiful and kind women out there.
That is only the surface that you know 😂 you are not their partners. Are you aware of the unreasonable, toxic expectations of a Russian woman? They are total whores, expecting material gains from their companionship. Russian women: no money, no love!
The most beautiful woman I dated was without a doubt the most broken person I've ever met. 2x beauty queen and I had to walk away because it was too much
Similar was 5ft blondie with big ole tittys . Southern woman . Rich . It was like she wasn’t even from this planet . No character . No soul . Didn’t care about much of anything but her self . Nothing mattered to her . Nothing really bothered her . All she cared about was her imagine an social media . Spot always had to be on her . Told me to dress down bc I’m a Inshape handsome man with a good smile an that made her insecure . She was actually a really boring person an just nauseating to be around
I can agree to that I enjoying banging away at top companions that I hire for several hours at a time they consist of 9s and 10s they for the most part have tattoos red flag and are crazy in the head but crazy in the bed
its really sad, i went on a couple dates with a women who was gorgeous but like she was so out of touch with reality, you just have to walk away and wish them the best
@@guzlemuzleI propose toxicity. All reality and emotional - the dread game as some put it. They are their own worst enemies. Get into it for months, test her, then when she has that attitude - drop her. “This isn’t working.” The key is building up all the good guy vibes. We gotta teach them, even if they daddy didn’t. BREAK UP WITH HER…or at least talk about the breakup.
I’m married to an extremely attractive woman. I can verify this is all 100% correct. We are heading to divorce because she doesn’t want to deal with the truth. I told her the truth, she doesn’t want to deal with it, insists we go to counseling. Miraculously, the counselor told her the truth. Now she won’t go see him anymore. She wants to go to someone else. Five years of my life down the tube for nothing.
Sorry to hear. Ask her to bring you, the opinions she wants to hear. (Hope it's not on a phone). If it is something pop-cultural, every point gas a counterpoint. Might have to burst that echo bubble.
I’m in the exact same situation. I’ve been to 3 different marriage counselors with my wife, who is a narcissist. At first all the counselors want to focus on me. For months the issues and focus come down on me. Then once the counselors stop believing her BS and focus on her, she starts to hate on the marriage counselor and abruptly stops seeing them. She cannot bare to be held accountable for any of her bad behavior. She doesn’t deserve to be married. With her karma, she should live the rest of her life lonely and alone.
I'm astonished the counselor actually told her the truth. All the counsel my wife and I have received has been focused on giving me the beating and shielding her from all accountability
Not for nothing. It’s a blow, to be sure, but it’s also the lesson you needed. I didn’t meet my wife until I was 35. It’s been 12 years and it gets better every year. Find a woman who is committed to honesty and communication…and reciprocate it.
You forgot to take into account the role of jealous women who do quite the opposite and try to distort reality the other way round and maybe even worse the bitter narcistic men who didn't get to sleep
She also has to have a mother that supports the father. I have seen so many rebellious good looking girls because their mother let them get away with stuff behind the fathers back.
@@dline6634 no an autistic person wouldnt know it whether or not it would blow up. You got integrity and you're a prime example of why this video exist in the first point.
My ex was mentally maybe 12 yo in certain areas when I got to know her better. I assume I was the only man in her life who had boundaries, self-respect, and held her accountable. What a fight. Ultimately she had to grow up a bit but on her way she destroyed our relationship. It's not worth it.
hint: the mental maximum ANY woman reaches is age 14. Irrespective of their edu, family of origin, religious or social econometrics background. Too many w0men (over the decades) conveyed the real story.
Another video that is absolutely spot on doc. Children trapped in adults bodies. I would say that a beautiful woman is still just a woman. The packaging changes but the software and hardware is the same.
But the software hasn't been updated since they were 3 while the hardware has fully functional dynamic upgrades on schedule. Who is going to sync them?
Considering YT's childish ToS, I appreciate your honesty. The problem is, these lies we allow women to believe tend to pile up, just like "Pinocchio's Nose". It eventually gets to a point where we've given her total control over the relationship, which she will destroy as per her nature. Subscribed!
I’m a younger (reasonably attractive and quite tall) brother to an alder beautiful sister. I’ve always been fundamentally and rigorously honest. In early adolescence I found that intellectual honesty provided bedrock stability in a way nothing else could. We were raised in a single parent home without a father, and our mother (a narcissist) never discipline her. My sister turns fifty this year and she’s still single. I haven’t had contact with her in seventeen years. She’s utterly insufferable and phony. My mother and sister both characterized me as mean, bullying, and angry…despite both of them constantly destroying everything they touch. I’ve been happily and healthily married to a beautiful woman for 12 years…but they would both still pretend I’m the one with problems. My wife overcame the common craziness by having her own childhood struggles. Those struggles made her place a premium on male honesty. She had some rough, cynical edges when we met, but as we’ve grown together she’s become so charitable and loving and vulnerable. In turn, I’ve learned how to trust someone implictly. Strong relationships fix you in ways you didn’t know you needed to be fixed. I agree with your comment, though: older brothers are preferable to younger brothers because a girl will not respect the opinion of a younger brother. I told my sister the truth…and she thought I was mean and indifferent because I didn’t shower her with attention.
@@hanswurscht6625 Yeah, I can't imagine it working out for me if I tell my older siblings any truth. There just isn't enough respect for the youngest in the household no matter how much truthbombs you drop. At most you'd be seen as preachy.
@Revenant76 Too true! I'm a pretty woman and get stared at often. I've an older brother who's 4 years my senior and much more successful than I am. So yes, I get roasted daily but he never does it in a mean way and doesn't lower my self-esteem. Just enough brutal honesty to make me think and not land myself into trouble.
I had a strong father growing up. He's still strong at 96 years of age. No BS from him ... He seems shy and quiet on the surface ... But ... there's no sugar coating when he has something to say.
@@sakeenahmThat's a lie. People don't generally come at beautiful women entitled and aggressive. People tend to be soft footed around them. Either you don't know the meaning of those two words or you don't have enough general experience to comment on the subject.
Yup. The more beautiful, the more deluded, and in a society where female 4s, 5s, and 6s often genuinely think they're 10s, imagine what actual 8s, 9s and 10s think of themselves. 🤭🤯
A sex-less marriage is not a marriage. If she won't do serious counseling, then get a divorce. Maybe prepare for it for a year ahead of time, but then leave her as best you can. (if you can avoid lawyers, that is best. But sometimes is unavoidable if she is a jerk.
Absolutely spot on, this is very similar to why rich people are known to have eccentric personalities and lifestyles, nobody calls them out on their bullshit! They lose their grip on reality and surround themselves with Yes Men.... until reality hits them in the face.
ha. great point. I worked for some very wealthy people (9 figure wealth) and everyone was a fireplug around them. Something to pee on. I wouldn't tolerate it and would ask others why they did. Their answer? A super fat Christmas bonus so they agreed to anything.
I'm not wealthy, and I'm eccentric. I guess I do live in a parallel world because I'm anti-social or reclusive. I live a comfy reclusive lifestyle that I enjoy. High openness, low agreeableness, and some neuroticism result in eccentric behaviors regardless of social class.
As a teacher, I am always amazed by your ability to put simple words on harsh pieces of truth most men have been vaguely suspecting for most of their lives.
Exactly, and after a while of trying (years), you just say: fck it, i´m better alone, i don´t need nothing any more (55 years old), and with cancer, i just want to be occupied, with my hobbies!
I’ve noticed that even (some) other women will have a hard time saying “no” to a very beautiful woman. They have no idea how much their life is on easy-mode because of their looks.
Because the have a Pecking order on the totem pole A ugly girl wants a hot women in her circle showing value . A hot women wants an ugly girl so she can have the disparity and see how attractive she is.
There's a cognitive disonance reinforcement loop here - If I keep saying yes to a woman then it must be because she is deserving because otherwise it would mean that I'm just being swayed by her looks and that can't be right.
When a beautiful or a handsome person is self aware and smart, they are playing the game on God mode. But 99.9999% of beautiful people are clueless when it comes to self awareness.
It’s called having pretty privilege. I have a friend like this - extremely pretty but extremely entitled and spoiled because they know everyone wants to be their friend. And everyone tolerates her because they don’t want to tell her the truth. I have to admit she has a sparkling personality, super funny and witty, and is a hard worker but yeah when you’re that pretty you expect everything to be handed to you on a silver platter.
My grandmother looked like Elizabeth Taylor and after being crowned as her high school's first homecoming queen, she spent the next 70 years never letting anyone in that small town forget.
It's like a video game. Everyone knows that the game is hard that you have to level up to get better. Pretty women start the game in god mode. When the developers patch god mode, they have no idea how to play the game.
I have a very beautiful friend and she's nuts. Her last boyfriend was a very successful man and when he broke up, she made his life hell. These women are not nuts because nobody says the truth. I am very honest with her. She continues to behave badly because rules don't apply to attractive people. She will only change when she no longer has men at her feet, which I don't see happening, even though we are getting older. She always had options and continues to do so, including public figures. The number of men commenting on her photos is something out of the ordinary. And she's not the provocative type. She is a natural beautiful woman. One of those who can wear a potato sack and still look beautiful Lol I care about her, but unfortunately I don't see her changing. My advice is not listened to because, in practice, she continues to be "rewarded" by men.
I have to agree with you, and slightly disagree with Orion here. I mostly agree with him, except about the main point being that the most beautiful women are not told the truth. I think often they are, but don't listen to it because many rules don't apply to the most attractive people, like you said. What these women need to understand is that some rules do still apply to them, like those relating to mating and dating.
A friend telling her the truth is not the same as a father or brother telling her the truth. With all due respect to your friend, she probably never has been told the truth her entire life. I know you are trying to save her, but some people won't change at this point.
@The8ThMonk Nah, beautiful women can be told the truth plenty, but when they're narcissistic and unwilling to put in the work to be responsible, they know that they can find other "supply" (simps, kiss-ass family members who baby her). It wasn't as much of a problem before birth control, social media, and dating apps enabled women to line up to get railed out by chads, destroying their pair bonding capacity. It's easy to take accountability for the good decisions you make. When you're treated like a princess the first 25 years of your life, it's more difficult to take accountability for your bad decisions.
Your comment is good, but that woman continues to be rewarded by you (!) Why are you giving her advice if she doesn't care what you have to say? Giving someone advice is totally equivalent to giving someone money. If she just takes your money and throws it on the ground, and you keep on giving her more hoping she will understand it's value...
I’m half pretty and when I’m considering a cosmetic surgery, my bff told me” you are already stuck up right now, if you’re prettier, you will have an even bigger head.” Took her advice to heart, she’s a true friend!
Something most women don’t seem to understand is that character is what really matters to that guy who would run into a burning building to save your life. And that’s the guy they should be looking for. When it comes to looks, good enough is good enough.
I suspect the reason for movies being so popular is that it is a socially acceptable way of staring at beautiful people and no one condemns the viewers for staring. In real life, this would be considered creepy.
There are some rare exceptions from the rule. I know a woman from Eastern Germany who is a 9/10 but kind, humble and relatively rational. But her father has a very strong influence on her.
@@ytano5782 Cool. I once took a colleague out, not for a date, a Slovakian, we were in Paris and I could see people look at us like 'what has that guy got that is making that woman be with him?' Really nice girl.
"Pretty is not sufficient compensation for crazy". "The truth does not get you laid." "Women only reward the truth when it happens to coincide with what they want to hear." This episode absolutely nails it, and as at least one other commenter has said, it is fertile source material for great tee shirts. Though the shirt in public might get a man randomly smacked. Too much truth..
Samuel 16:7 The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart. '” What it means: This scripture about beauty illustrates that the world focuses on what people look like on the outside.
I was in a 1yr relationship with a narcicistic abusive woman who is incredibly beautiful as she is dellusional. We argued constantly, she could never be wrong and she never apologized. Towards the end of the relationship I decided to do everything she wanted and agreed with her 100% and constantly complimented her on how amazing she was. To my surprise, she fell in love with me, (her version of love) she figured, she finally found the whiping boy she was searching for her whole life, the perfect YES puppet. It was at that point that I ghosted her. ..... Let her wander in desert for another 400 years.
Insane, I shared this video on Facebook and got a pop-up saying "This post may go against our Community Standards. Your post is currently on Facebook, but it looks similar to other posts that were removed because they don't follow our standards on hate speech." Absolutely insane!
@@pedroantoniodacruzferreira1487 no way. There were lot more people dieing in wars in percent, had to work harder , did not have internet to talk and did not even have time even if there was internet because they were working lot more hours.
Absolutely, this is spot on. I dated a beauty queen in Argentina, and I was the first man to call her out when she was being unreasonable. She could not handle it, had never learned empathy, and preferred the pleasant deceptions of other prospective men. As Orion notes, though, letting such women go is a prudent move. Let other men put up with their delusions. It is just not worth the stress.
I called out my Wife’s bullshit recently. She managed to twist it around so that I was not only in the wrong, but was an asshole as well. I’m now devising my exit plan.
Early in life, I learned that these beauties were only good for one thing. Don't spend years with them and everything will be just fine. These women always end up single the last half of their lives. You can feel sorry for them but only as you're walking out that door.
So many people beautiful women come across will hate her. Other women will bully and chastise her. They will ignore her and send her to coventry. If she’s single, she’s in for a very hard time. She will never be invited to anything by her married friends where their husbands will be, unattractive friends will be. Lack of a rounded personality is a result of the way she’s treated not so much about unpleasant truths, but general non sexual interest. She will rarely have male friends who aren’t gay, she won’t be included in a lot of social activities and this gets worse as she gets older. As I mentioned, single is a nightmare, being divorced too. She is a threat, unapproachable, treated weirdly by people who are overwhelmed and intimidated. It’s said that beautiful people have an easier life, I would disagree, unless she has a stable home life, good friends and plenty of love and good times. Then there’s aging and people won’t let her forget it either. It’ll be written on their faces, she’ll keep producing photos of herself when she was younger, she’s unhappy, lonely and no longer so attractive, but! she may become more approachable, be able to develop a more genuine and likeable personality, people will treat her better, but the loss of her beauty will still be a huge loss. Life isn’t fair and life is tough.
Having been considered a very beautiful woman in my younger years I'd also add that maintaining a slim/fit body made me crazy, constant exercise and starvation and having it be in the forefront of your mind 24/7. Most men don't realize the mental strain it takes to remain slim for most women. Also, the constant attention from men does something to your mind, I can't explain it but it's not healthy. I was considered gorgeous, but yes I'd say I was crazy.
Wow! I think you hit it right exactly on point! I'm 50 years old and have been trying to wrap my mind around this phenomenon my entire life. It all makes sense now. Thanks for the insight.
Well as a member of the average to below average women club, we know we have to be on our best behavior, we are invisible to most men unless he wants sex. I actually did an experiment on this on a dating app. I couldn’t understand why I didn’t get any dates, just men wanting sex. I kept my profile the same but changed my pictures to a woman who fits the beauty standard. The same men who tried to ask me to slide through, offered this woman date immediately. I was so mean to them and they didn’t care. They would beg. Many average to below average women won’t tell the truth on this, because it hurts but I’m honest. It did open my eyes to men, when they are talking about how horrible women are, it’s not the ugly ducklings they are talking about lol, because we are invisible.
You’re not wrong but there are way more men who fit into this category than women. Statistically women are roughly double as picky as men when choosing a partner. So , double the men fall into the unfuckable bin. Maybe more tbh. And a lot of the ones who don’t still have to settle for significantly less than a looksmatch due to hyper gamy.
Still better experience than the average man's, in dating apps; at least you're offered sex. The *truly* ugly ducklings (of women) don't get offered sex, and _this_ is the average man's experience. Btw the beautiful person that is mean and talks down to others, yet they beg to be with them, guess what? Numerous videos of chads doing that to women (in dating apps) and women ignore/laugh it off and continue to pursue. It's not a gendered thing.
Yea male hypergamy sucks too. Basically human nature is trash lol. However what you're experiencing is experienced by 50% of women and 80-90% of men. Then within that 10-20% cohort of good looking men they also need to have the resources for the resource-extracting gender to take otherwise they leave anyways. Looks will attract ppl but usually won't be enough to keep someone.. That goes for men and women
@@bh9825 most women are average to below average, check out the women who are complaining about bad men treat them and they are talking about the guys that claim no woman likes him. The secret is, women who did not hit the genetic lottery, won’t speak on but in private or blame men because we are not chosen they only want the conventionally attractive women, these women are in abundance because most of us are average to below average. Beautiful women don’t complain about all men want sex with no commitment. The rest of us, better to focus elsewhere. I’m just honest, I don’t feel less than. Just laugh at men complaining.
Feminism/society has deluded them all into thinking and acting like they are 9's and 10's. Guys will sleep down for sport. The girls get stuck on their "highest setting" based on the 8,9,10 that slept with them - then refuse to date men in their league. Just look at how skewed the statistical data is from dating apps on women's preferences - they literally destroy the normal distribution bell-curve - pure delusion.
A lot of us are overlooked. Men prefer my 9/10s relatives and friends. I’m amazed at how bad these men allow themselves to be treated by them. I would never mistreat a man in that manner, but of course I’m not the chosen one. I’ve learned to accept it and have a good life otherwise that’s peaceful!
As a commercial airline pilot and single man I’ve dated a number of very beautiful woman. I agree with you completely. Not all of them are crazy, but most of them have a screw loose.
Okay, here are my two related problems. 1st - my mother used to be one of these women. Very abbreviated result: everyone in the family killed themselves (except me). 2nd - supposedly I am a very attractive male. Result: I never learnt many things I should have learnt, first of all how to approach, or even only talk to, women. Also, it seems that I cannot have a normal conversation with basically anyone because people either instantly hate me, or are so fascinated that I get confused and start acting like a clown, dork or jerk.
@YTbannedme-g8x that's probably part of it. I think that generally, women just sense that we are putting on a mask to get along, and they realize that we are too different to inspire confidence. We lack the instantaneous social responses they are used to.
You guys, as an autistic female, I prefer the truth. But also good grooming, polite manners, and a fit body. If you think being female makes it much easier to get laid, maybe a little. But being in relationships is just as hard. Men like the “player” type of woman who flirts and flatters. Same problems exist. My advice to you is, don’t be stubborn. If you make yourself very physically attractive as a man, which merely in evolves an intense fitness regimen, you will get laid. Easier than being a woman who isn’t pretty.
I left my second wife, a very attractive woman, because there was just no making her happy. Lord knows i tried. And yes, i generally agreed with whatever came out of her mouth. It was exhausting and soul sucking. I honestly don't think she had ever been dumped in her life. Girl lost her mind and crazy hijinks ensued. Fast forward 12 years and her looks have faded. All my "friends" suddenly have stopped trying to get with her and are starting to see what i was talking about. You are never a pretty womans priority, you're a temporary option.
I taught teenagers for thirty years. As soon as the beautiful girls realized the power they had, they became monsters. I can't recall how many times very pretty teenage girls tried to get their way by flirting with me and other male staff members. It worked with most of the men, which shows a lack of professionalism and character by the male teachers and administrators. It's not the girls' fault, it's ours. We treat people better if they're attractive, especially attractive females. And that's a lesson they carry forward into the wider world.
No, it shows biological and genetic instincts. And it exposes an idiotic humanity which is trying to deny, prosecute and negate those instincts saying that men must overcome them. Men must always do everything, even overcome their own instincts, drives and biology. Humanity has become sick and disgusting.
I'm reminded of a time a pretty young student knocked on my door trying to get me to donate to an animal charity. As soon as she saw I was male she went completely into flirt mode but I could see right through her crap, she only wanted a sale. I said to her I don't give to charity on the doorstep. Oh but don't you like dogs she breathlessly replied. I love them so and that's why I've got one of my own and shut the door.
I've had this thought in my mind for awhile too. The teenage years is where it starts/stops for women. Young boys and girls are treated pretty similar? But when we hit the teenage years girls keep getting treated like queens and boys start getting treated like adults. Everything remains to be given to a woman on a silver platter from the teenage years onwards. No responsibility or accountability. 10x if they're an attractive women? Men, society, other women, we allow them to not mentally develop/become crazy. It becomes super obvious the moment they face abit of hardship or you have a disagreement with them? They behave like a 15yo? They haven't mentally developed past their teenage years. It's no surprise really
If everyone still had to raise animals for food or grow a garden.... people would be showing up differently in society, both men and women. Life is too easy!!
@@GerardoDelValle. Absolutely true. This is where decadence comes from. Life gets so comfortable that people get bored and start doing ever-crazier things in an attempt to get back some of the excitement that comes from risk and challenge.
I've often called out beautiful people on their BS, I am not afraid to confront anyone and I do not treat others differently for their looks. It does not matter to them because they have enough people in their social circle who approve of them that in their eyes, I am the crazy one. Eventually these people learn when they lose their looks. They have a mid life crisis. Then sadly, if they have beautiful daughters they live vicariously through them and become a crazy mother. The cycle repeats.
Mothers living vicariously through their daughters is a very real thing. This coming from a dad of a girl who was a cheerleader watching the other girls' moms. I felt so sorry for them.
Other women are NOT always good to the gorgeous. Girls can be vicious when they get envious. Pretty girls are always have everyone behind them. The difference is that the men kiss their ass while the women stab them in the back. Neither tell them the truth.
True, many women are so intimated by beautiful women, as are very attractive men, double edge sword for attractive people. Looks can open doors but they come with nasty consequences too.
I will never understand why men get into relationships with these women in the first place. Perhaps I had some good looks privilege as well, but nutty girls were always a giant turn off for me. Hot girls who seemed entitled were something I always avoided like the plague.
I have a Psy.D. and am licensed in my state. And, I can attest that based upon my anecdotal experience, everything that Dr. Taraban has said is true and accurate and the etiology of the behaviors he describes is accurate within my experience.
Yeah, this. I'm so past sympathizing. 20+ years of gamified and toxified positivity have taught me that sympathy is the primary means for unproductive people to get what they want out of undiscerning people.
When you can get past “red pill rage” then you have passed to a point where you see everything for what it is and you are no longer angry about it and everything works for your benefit. Think the part where the spoon bends or really when the bulets stop mid air and he just looks at them. Like oh this is how this works. The world wont bend to you. Its you that will change.
Sadly beautiful women are nuts because it takes a young woman to be physically beautiful. Young women have not learned humility they have not been broken down by life. The most beautiful person is someone that has been humbled by life and is kind and generous. ❤❤❤ Sometimes older women can be very bitter though.
I was categorically a “beautiful women” in my 20 and 30s. I was also very mean, entitled, lazy, spoiled and MEAN. Life destroyed me though. Now at 40 my beauty is starting to fade and I had to learn how to have a personality. My looks don’t get me into doors now. I prefer it that way. Beautiful young women don’t see me and bump into me as they are walking (expecting me to be the one to move out of the way bc they are so beautiful lol )I used to do the same things so I can’t be mad … 😩 in my 20’s I was kidn4pp3d, r4ped multiple times, set up, almost k1lled. Never could have real friendships due to jealousy. Never cheated but boyfriends always cheated to humble me… being beautiful comes at a cost. People always stared. I was so nervous bc people always stated. I’m so glad that period is over. I’m glad I survived to tell the story. Good luck beautiful ladies, many of us don’t come out a1ive. Hope this changed one day. But it cost to be beautiful.
@@colorfulsin my way of seeing beautyfull woman with issues is simply a character flaw. Just because she could get all she want with her youth and beauty does not mean a woman could not follow her dreams or passions and become a happy fulfilled human beeing and have a charming personality.
I just read your book. I am 56, and I have learned many of these truths the hard way over a lifetime. Your book is cogent, and it was beneficial to hear your experience as I no longer feel like the Lone Ranger.
Dated a really good looking 40+ woman who looked 15 years younger, great figure, really cool. However, she had a problem with male validation and after a compromising situation involving alcohol and skinny dipping with another guy, I told her that I no longer trusted her and broke it off. She was totally blindsided.
I try to be honest and authentic throughout my life, because early on it helped me navigate socially, and then I started dating and discovered that women hate being told the truth. Something turned in my head and I remember making a conscious decision "I should probably lie to women ALL the time."
you have to be very diplomatic, and also if they are attracted to you they will accept it better. If they are not attracted to you telling the truth to them will just reinforce their belief and classify you as a bitter incel
Wow great video! I think beautiful young girls need strong male family members who will be honest with them and protect them from delusion and narcissism.
No thank you, I have never chased happiness. I am quite satisfied going for contentedness. Which for me requires no contact with other apes. like the song says "All I want is to have my peace of mind."
I was a fleet manager for an auto dealership. If you want to blow a sale, or make it twice as difficult, tell the truth straight, uncut, no chaser. Customer will be out the door in five minutes. We never lied (it was fleet, no need to because we sold cars at a discount), but you have to learn to wrap a business transaction into language the customer wants to hear, what sounds sweet to his or her ear. I suppose I should take that approach more with women....
@@BillyCollins3 I kind of hate this about people. Like no wonder we have such strong social hierarchy. A little flowery speech and the right looks can do waaay to much. People just defer to confidence like it’s the truth. Women especially hate indecision.
Why is it the case that physical attractiveness and mental instability so often seem to go together in women? The answer is simple: no one tells beautiful women the truth. Since most men want to sleep with beautiful women, and the truth does not get men laid, men will consistently sacrifice the truth in the service of their sexual self-interest. As a result, these women often develop a model of reality that can be very misaligned with the way things really are. This is why beautiful women are nuts.
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In other words, to cure the disease, girls must be kept isolated from men who want to sleep with them, so that they can develop character
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I don't think this psychological cycle even applies primarily to attractive women or as attractive people. This is just how humans work.
@justinfreeman4614 Yes, but non-beautiful women human tend to not experience the arrested development most beautiful women do...because the rest of us don't have the same sabotaging conditions growing up that they do
when you get put on a pedestal for something you were born with it gives you no motivation for anything else. People always chose the easy way ........
So goes the saying... No matter how drop dead gorgeous she is, there is a man out there who is sick of her shit.
But will keep putting up with it because men are obsessed with beautiful women lol
But will keep putting up with it because men are obsessed with beautiful women lol
@@MartialMind And another man who will plow right through
Every woman is someone's ex who said "Good riddance!"
@@cosmictreason2242 And find out why other men are sick of her shit
There are two defining days in every woman's life:
1. the day she realizes her looks can get her access to things she has not earned
2. the day she realizes her looks can no longer get her access to things she has not earned
Don't underestimate simping. Women in their 50's are worth as much as a woman in her 30's when 1/3 (or more) of men are incels. The demand for women far outweighs the supply.
@@Bob-yt6sestraight up
@@Bob-yt6se simps*
It's not the absence of secks. It's the belief that access to secks will fix... literally everything for them.
@@Bob-yt6sethat only gets them so far. Most women do not actually want or desire incels or unpopular basic men.
@@cygnusprime6728
Correction, none of them do.
They have nothing but contempt for the faceless drones who subsidize their impulse buying habits.
"Punishing the truth, is asking for lies".
This is gold
Indeed!
That's what happened to Hittler. He punished the truth so often that after a while no one dared tell him the truth (especially if it was bad, which in times of war, it often is). He couldn't make sound plans or even gather all the facts of a given situation. This is truly what cost Germany the war so many years ago!
@@kharnakcrux2650 True, demanding might be a better word! Does my bum look big in this?
Bars
It is an important leadership principle (also one which many leaders forget once they get used to power).
Most “Karens” are just pretty women who’s looks have faded and now have to deal with reality
@@MarcAlcatraz ah..now it makes sense!!!
sounds about right, the former queen Bees and homecoming queens who's small town life shattered her dreams of being someone spectacular after highschool and so now after her looks have faded she takes her frustration out on everyone else
Right, as they age, they focus on plastic surgery rather than personality. At some point, though, either the money for plastic surgery disappears, or the effects of the surgery don't hold up, and they freak out.
That’s not true. Get under the meme.
Yep, big time.
“Honesty does not get you laid”
It should be on a t-shirt.
I was honest to a fault but had no problem dating. But, yeah, a womans' good look got me asking them out. But I RAN from crazy.
I think it's the duty of every disillusioned man who ever had genuine aspirations of gentlemanly behaviour to inform young men of this fact. You just don't wanna see another group of young guys find out the hard way.
Merch?
Also how about....
If women would f*ck in a cardboard box men would never buy houses, nice cars etc.
A great idea
The simple answer is they are not required to develop character in order to obtain benefits from people. Fathers protect your daughters
Father's protect your sons, more like.
Yes and most men won’t dare say no to them ever. We gotta blame the fellas for a good chunk of this problem . Very few men can admit to it though. Until more men develop standards and start saying no then this problem won’t change
I was just thinking the same thing today
Until they are still unmarried and sleeping around at 40. Then it's too late to develop character.
It ruins them. All of them. It's just a question of degrees.
I remember the last time I got to know a cute cashier. She explained to me (all smiles and giggles) that she is a retail manager at 19 who owns her own house in another city, and that she forces her 70 year old father to drive out of town to shovel snow for her.
This same girl had to put up an alphabet banner behind the counter because she did not yet know her ABCs by heart.
Yes, seriously.
I'm 52, and just yesterday I told a couple of young engineers at work, "There comes a point in every straight man's life, where he has to choose between making fun of astrology and getting laid."
😆 this is a CLASSIC!!!!!!
@@jerrysstories711 😂
You're only saying that because you're a Sagitarius 🙂
@@SmileyEmoji42 lmao
Gonna steal this 😂
This is true, but only for women who become attractive as teens, late bloomers who are awkward as teens but become very good looking when they are in their twenties, well they usually have already gotten knocked down by life enough that they don't let the good looks affect them as much
Sometimes they’re worse though because they want revenge
Truth! My glow up didn't kick in until after 30 (I'm neurodivergent) and I get hit on regularly. Like men actually respects me and goes out of there way to be nice to me. In my 20s that didn't happen.
@@bamafencer12Forgive me for saying this (but I have an ND wife and ND kids so I felt compelled to)
Guys now treating you respectfully is not them having developed respect for you.
They now just want to bang you.
I say this as a guy:
guys will say or do almost anything, even putting on a full, sustained good-guy act over a period of time
to get what we are biochemically determined to get,
which is,
generally speaking,
into the underwear of an even moderately attractive female.
Congrats on the glow up tho!
You're right....to a point. Lol
I second this
“Women only reward the truth when it happens to coincide with what they want to hear”. This.
Mic Drop. No elaboration needed.
Learning that when you're *actually* honest by nature is the most soul-shattering realization you'll ever have. You can almost *hear* the sound of breaking glass as your illusions about egalitarianism VANISH on the spot.
"The truth" to most Women is whatever the most socially dominant and attractive man says it is.
@@ephraimwinslowidk I call women out on bs all the time and tell em to cut the crap or they are out right crazy if I don’t like their shit and they still “like” me whatever that means
Not just women tho. Bosses, teachers, parents, anyone used to getting their own way.
My dad once told my best friend and me when we were teenagers, 'You two should start developing personality, because you’re not going to be beautiful forever.' Best advice ever.
I thought the 2nd half of that quote was gonna be much harsher. 😄
Words of wisdom every daughter should be taught. That alone is worth all the lessons of sex-Ed, along with how to be a Helpmeet and mother.
I can’t tell you how many relationships with my fantasy women I’ve lost, just by telling them the truth. All because I actually loved them enough to tell the truth, knowing I couldn’t be ever blamed for being a liar. It did however lead to them finally leaving, or saying yes, to the relationship.
These very women cry how men keep lying and deceiving, then when you tell them from the depths of your heart the 100000% truth, they lose it and call you a liar, or they suddenly, after claiming what great perception they have, can no longer understand the English language, no matter how you break it down to them; because it doesn’t fit THEIR narrative, smh.
Bam!
I was very fortunate to have a "truth teller" father and two older brothers. It was awful and awesome. 😄
Your dad was right. What almost never gets talked about is the women who used to be insanely hot, then age poorly and find that life suddenly becomes very mean and no one treats them the way they used to be treated. Some of them literally go crazy, because they can't believe the difference.
"When you punish the truth, you're asking to be lied to."-Orion Tartan
Gold
Orion is full of shxt and he's lying to you men. He's just jealous that he hasn't got a puxxy, because it comes with power naturally.
And literally none of them will ever get why they're lied to so often.
I like to imagine a kid who asks *everyone* he meets whether or not they think he can fly like Superman. And if he gets an answer other than yes? He immediately pitches a fit.
Then after a couple years? He takes a quick skip off a balcony, and ends up in a cast. And what does he do then?
He angrily demands to know why everyone who reluctantly said "yes, you can fly Billy" lied to him.
We all had those type of questions. "Does it fit me?" "Am I beautiful in this?". And never told her truth
This is a great quote indeed.
When I was a teenager my father told me 'Son, do not get married with a very beautiful woman. Find a simple adequately good looking one with a humble heart' ... I kept his advice! Happily married now for 29 years...
Indeed this is good advice. He was wise.
Good Job!
@@georgegeorgopoulos1861 hope your wife does not read this lol
This video encapsulates the old adage of: "If you want to help somebody tell them the truth, if you want to help yourself tell them what they want to hear".
Y'know what really sucks? Having the impulse to want to help slowly wrung out of you by the reactions you get to telling people the truth.
But you’re only helping yourself in the short term. Long term hurting yourself
@@ephraimwinslowI know exactly what you mean
This is me at work. I would try to help people, hopefully not in any condescending way, but unfortunately, people don't want it. So I'll see an obvious error in a plan or code or process, and I never speak up anymore or just agree. I just let them fuck up. Which they were doing anyway because they weren't listening to me in the first place lol. It's like in the Simpsons when Mr Burns is surrounded by yes-men. I wonder if it's an ego thing?
This is why everyone hates me
"honesty does not get you laid." i don't think women can comprehend the amount of effort men put in to get laid
You’re probably right
Should we? This level of effort should be put into creating their own good lives maybe.
@@museumofwoman6633 I think if I knew when I was younger how much effort men put into getting laid I might not have believed all the lies I was being told for that reason.
@@museumofwoman6633ironically it correlates,creating own good life=higher chance of being laid but yeah
They do not need to comprehend. For them things just happen, like magical thinking.
I always found that women with elder brothers were easier to get along with. I thought it was because they knew how guys 'worked', so to speak. The point about them being told the truth by fathers and brothers is a real eye-opener. Great video, sir!
it is always illuminating to hear a woman talk about her father and her relationship with him. It really does say a lot and it is a very important flag for her to clear. Older brothers help too.
Well they are able to deal with men as they actually are instead of caricatures they have built in their heads.
To be a good father to a girl is to teach them handwork, accountability and honor. No princess treatment.
Oh God this is so true. My whole life I was told by everyone around me that I was the most beautiful girl in the world and I literally did not think that anyone could possibly be more beautiful than me. In fact I didn’t even seriously question the idea until I was probably in my 30’s. I started high school in the ninth grade and knowing nobody at all, I immediately got elected to student council and was asked by 12 boys to the first dance. I made my young-ish male teachers uncomfortable and grown women were jealous and rude to me…starting around 13/14. My male professors doted on me in college. I guess what I’m saying is…be patient with us because like he said, the world around us awards beautiful women with so much power, so young, and we don’t know how to handle it. And some of us were even raised to be trophy wives on top of it. For example, when I was about 23 I got a large trust dispersement from my trust fund, and I asked my dad if I should use it as a down payment on a condo, maybe as an investment property. He told me to go enjoy my money and let my husband buy me houses. 😑
I don’t think I was ever crazy but I was definitely very unrealistic and everyone around me did lie to me and contribute to that unreality I lived in. I had to learn how to be a real person eventually and develop a personality and learn how to earn things so that I could become the person that I expected myself to be. And I really wanted to be a good role model. It was a lot of work but it was worth it. However my mom, who is ridiculously beautiful still even in her 70s is, was and will always be completely crazy. She didn’t do the personal work that I did and she has been my dad’s cross to bear. But he does it because he’s so in love with her still to this day. Plus I think he likes the crazy to an extent. But it’s not how I wanted to live.
"Pretty is not sufficient compensation for crazy" 🔥
Eeehhh, it kinda is! Up uintil some point atleast!
If only that was true
Idk bro when I'm in simp mode I ignore all the red flags
Finish the statement before answering lol … “Most men learn this the hard way” this sets a line that separates the ones who get it vs ones who don’t “
Its easy to type that, but the reality is female attraction is power, one of the strongest influencers on men. Wars have been fought over women in the past based on looks alone. Could you really deny a 10/10 woman who you know is crazy but you can have sex with? I can honestly say I cannot, its just a no brainer, its hard wired into us. Understanding the WHY behind why women are "crazy" helps navigate them way better. He sums it up best in the video. Imagine becoming a teenager and all the sudden you realize your outer appearance has true POWER over others, influence, the ability to have an easier life. Is it really so hard to sympathize with women? Who doesn't want an easier life? If you have the means and assets why not use them?
A lot of people under-estimate women's intelligence. They are smart enough to want less work out of life, and know how to get that from men. The "gold digger" has some smarts man, she's living the life.
Because extreme attractiveness gives you power and control over others’ attention without consequences.
And power corrupts.
control over others’ attention
props
How does power corrupts?
Wouldn't say corrupt. It makes it easy and makes them lazy. But the power doesn't last.
This is the most elegant expression of a phenomena that I've experienced my entire life, but could never articulate. Thank you.
Buddy of mine has an ex-wife who's a top-shelf knockout. The most attractive woman in any room she's in, basically. He divorced her. Didn't make it 10 years. Told me what Orion is saying--"very attractive women can be hard to tolerate because, for their entire lives, nearly everyone has happily agreed with everything they say and do"
That’s the most crazy comment I’ve heard. Beautiful women are hated by ordinary women and beautiful smart women are hated by men who can’t fk and or nor can they compete with her brains at work .
Not every top-shelf knockout is another mans top-shelf knock out... Top-shelf knock out here - I am not every mans dream girl - really depends on who you ask.. Angelina Jolie is not Margot Robbie, Margot is not Selma Hayek - Selma is not Scarlett Johansson - Scarlett is not Halle Berry... Every woman likes a strong man to lead and believe me, a strong secure man will very much tell any woman the truth, because he can get another woman in a heartbeat! ;)
@@laurelledubois Men will have preferential differences, but there's not a man alive who would say a Victoria's Secret model isn't exceptionally beautiful. That's how attractive this friend's ex-wife is. 1/10000 women look like that.
@@MDwng That's entirely your opinion. There are millions of men around the world that couldn't care less for a VS model. Too skinny - they would say - even though this might hard for you to comprehend, because this is obviously what YOU like and deem attractive. And then there is: would I bang her or would I marry her. Not every man wants to marry a VS model. I found that most men that would want to bag a VS model type woman, are low-key insecure and would want such a woman to show off (arm candy).
And not every woman that looks like a VS model will have the aspirations to do so. I've worked in the show biz industry for 35 yrs - I've seen it all.. What got me there? My good looks ofc!! 😄
@@laurelledubois you must be a woman. How do I know? Because you read the entire post of the og poster, then went an entire different direction with it. Completely ignoring the main point of what is being said and focusing on the one argument point you could hold on to just for the sake of arguing. Or because it upset you. I digress. Get over yourself.
My two coworkers ( one from Russia and one from Hungary ) are so beautiful and big hearted. We work with disabled children. There are beautiful and kind women out there.
That is only the surface that you know 😂 you are not their partners. Are you aware of the unreasonable, toxic expectations of a Russian woman? They are total whores, expecting material gains from their companionship. Russian women: no money, no love!
Of course. They're not Western women and they were not raised under feminism. They were raised in Christian countries.
Be careful, you're dealing with pros 🙃
No doubt that there are beautiful women who are also good at heart. But just remember: a coworker isn't the same thing as a girlfriend or a wife.
Just not in Western Europe or the Americas....
The most beautiful woman I dated was without a doubt the most broken person I've ever met. 2x beauty queen and I had to walk away because it was too much
Similar was 5ft blondie with big ole tittys . Southern woman . Rich . It was like she wasn’t even from this planet . No character . No soul . Didn’t care about much of anything but her self . Nothing mattered to her . Nothing really bothered her . All she cared about was her imagine an social media . Spot always had to be on her . Told me to dress down bc I’m a Inshape handsome man with a good smile an that made her insecure . She was actually a really boring person an just nauseating to be around
I can agree to that I enjoying banging away at top companions that I hire for several hours at a time they consist of 9s and 10s they for the most part have tattoos red flag and are crazy in the head but crazy in the bed
its really sad, i went on a couple dates with a women who was gorgeous but like she was so out of touch with reality, you just have to walk away and wish them the best
Yeah and once they're still pretty but past their prime the new men in her life will get the stories about the men she used to be able to pull.
@@guzlemuzleI propose toxicity. All reality and emotional - the dread game as some put it. They are their own worst enemies. Get into it for months, test her, then when she has that attitude - drop her. “This isn’t working.” The key is building up all the good guy vibes. We gotta teach them, even if they daddy didn’t. BREAK UP WITH HER…or at least talk about the breakup.
They don’t need to be accountable. They just move on to the next guy who will be willing to put up with them
Absolutely ✅
Until they hit the wall. The great equalizer.
Too many SIMPS out there, doesn't do the brotherhood any justice.
Bingo.
@@SKBottom Then they make psychologists, psychiatrists, and plastic surgeons rich off of their dilemma.
“Listen, smile, agree, and then do whatever the fuck you were going to do anyway.” -Robert Downey Jr
My whole life.
Words to live by.
When she says "Go ahead, do whatever you want," you hug and kiss her and say, "Thank you baby, I'm so lucky to have an understanding wife like you!"
Iron-clad wisdom
Except vote for Camel toe.
Thanks!
I’m married to an extremely attractive woman. I can verify this is all 100% correct. We are heading to divorce because she doesn’t want to deal with the truth. I told her the truth, she doesn’t want to deal with it, insists we go to counseling. Miraculously, the counselor told her the truth. Now she won’t go see him anymore. She wants to go to someone else. Five years of my life down the tube for nothing.
Sorry to hear. Ask her to bring you, the opinions she wants to hear. (Hope it's not on a phone). If it is something pop-cultural, every point gas a counterpoint. Might have to burst that echo bubble.
I’m in the exact same situation. I’ve been to 3 different marriage counselors with my wife, who is a narcissist. At first all the counselors want to focus on me. For months the issues and focus come down on me. Then once the counselors stop believing her BS and focus on her, she starts to hate on the marriage counselor and abruptly stops seeing them. She cannot bare to be held accountable for any of her bad behavior. She doesn’t deserve to be married. With her karma, she should live the rest of her life lonely and alone.
I'm astonished the counselor actually told her the truth. All the counsel my wife and I have received has been focused on giving me the beating and shielding her from all accountability
@@imablackman6279being a narc means that they are never truly accompanied, there is always a wall protecting them and separating them from others.
Not for nothing. It’s a blow, to be sure, but it’s also the lesson you needed.
I didn’t meet my wife until I was 35. It’s been 12 years and it gets better every year. Find a woman who is committed to honesty and communication…and reciprocate it.
"Women only want the truth when it coincides with what they want to hear."
Very well put!!!
@@josephkarogo-amethystinsur7247 And they vote based on a world of lies.
You forgot to take into account the role of jealous women who do quite the opposite and try to distort reality the other way round and maybe even worse the bitter narcistic men who didn't get to sleep
It’s an issue with increasing women in leadership and women voting.
This is why fathers in the home and strict discipline is so important.
Exactly. Fatherless society is a bad society, and this largely explains why we are where we are currently in the west.
its funny that you can so easily see which women didnt have father/father figure just by seeing how they do anything socially
This is a retarded concept. This why eugenics is important. So mouth breathers like you stay out the comment section
She also has to have a mother that supports the father. I have seen so many rebellious good looking girls because their mother let them get away with stuff behind the fathers back.
Too much strict discipline can also invoke angst, anger and rebellious spirit.
Dude, that was spot on. I sent it to three friends.
I must be autistic. I keep telling women the truth even though I know it’s going to blow up. Guess that’s why I’m divorced.
@@dline6634 no an autistic person wouldnt know it whether or not it would blow up. You got integrity and you're a prime example of why this video exist in the first point.
@@dline6634 I'm surprised you got married but that must be because you were direct
@@dline6634 Welcome to the club 😵💫😵💫😵💫
@@NorthKoreanComedian Men sent their own way
We are in the same page, that is the reason I struggle to get a woman 😅
My ex was mentally maybe 12 yo in certain areas when I got to know her better. I assume I was the only man in her life who had boundaries, self-respect, and held her accountable. What a fight. Ultimately she had to grow up a bit but on her way she destroyed our relationship. It's not worth it.
You just described my ex wife
hint: the mental maximum ANY woman reaches is age 14.
Irrespective of their edu, family of origin, religious or social econometrics background. Too many w0men (over the decades) conveyed the real story.
You described my ex!
AWALT, it's just that some are worse than others. A wise man once said handle or view your wife like your oldest daughter in a way of speaking.
@@samrapheal1828yep. They don’t really mature faster, they just stop sooner.
Another video that is absolutely spot on doc. Children trapped in adults bodies.
I would say that a beautiful woman is still just a woman. The packaging changes but the software and hardware is the same.
But the software hasn't been updated since they were 3 while the hardware has fully functional dynamic upgrades on schedule. Who is going to sync them?
@@ronj9448 bruhh😂
If you think about this. Does that make all men ped0s and predators? Since so many adult women they pursue are technically mentally children?
misogyny much?
Considering YT's childish ToS, I appreciate your honesty. The problem is, these lies we allow women to believe tend to pile up, just like "Pinocchio's Nose". It eventually gets to a point where we've given her total control over the relationship, which she will destroy as per her nature.
Subscribed!
There's two kinds of men who'd tell beautiful young women the truth: Older brothers and fathers. Both in very low supply these days.
I’m a younger (reasonably attractive and quite tall) brother to an alder beautiful sister. I’ve always been fundamentally and rigorously honest. In early adolescence I found that intellectual honesty provided bedrock stability in a way nothing else could. We were raised in a single parent home without a father, and our mother (a narcissist) never discipline her. My sister turns fifty this year and she’s still single. I haven’t had contact with her in seventeen years. She’s utterly insufferable and phony. My mother and sister both characterized me as mean, bullying, and angry…despite both of them constantly destroying everything they touch. I’ve been happily and healthily married to a beautiful woman for 12 years…but they would both still pretend I’m the one with problems. My wife overcame the common craziness by having her own childhood struggles. Those struggles made her place a premium on male honesty. She had some rough, cynical edges when we met, but as we’ve grown together she’s become so charitable and loving and vulnerable. In turn, I’ve learned how to trust someone implictly. Strong relationships fix you in ways you didn’t know you needed to be fixed.
I agree with your comment, though: older brothers are preferable to younger brothers because a girl will not respect the opinion of a younger brother. I told my sister the truth…and she thought I was mean and indifferent because I didn’t shower her with attention.
@@winstonsol8713 Exactly. I would go so far as to say that the brother has to be significantly older in order for her to respect him.
@@hanswurscht6625 Yeah, I can't imagine it working out for me if I tell my older siblings any truth. There just isn't enough respect for the youngest in the household no matter how much truthbombs you drop. At most you'd be seen as preachy.
no
@Revenant76 Too true! I'm a pretty woman and get stared at often. I've an older brother who's 4 years my senior and much more successful than I am. So yes, I get roasted daily but he never does it in a mean way and doesn't lower my self-esteem. Just enough brutal honesty to make me think and not land myself into trouble.
‘Deceiving others. That is what the world calls romance.’ - Oscar Wilde
@@kiowhatta1
the best comment
I had a strong father growing up.
He's still strong at 96 years of age.
No BS from him ...
He seems shy and quiet on the surface ... But ... there's no sugar coating when he has something to say.
Then he is definitely not a sugar daddy😂
Then he is definitely not a sugar daddy😂
Sounds like a great dad. We need more of that.
Women ask for honesty and I am always so honest... that some women have begged me to lie to them.
@@PeterJohanzen ...
... I wouldn't trade him in for another
“When you punish the truth, you’re asking to be lied to” 🤯😎
Beautiful women can be mean because it's allowed. Average women have to build a personality and decency to exist.delusion VS reality
beautiful women have to be mean sometimes because people come at them all entitled and aggressive
beautiful women have to be mean sometimes because people come at them all entitled and aggressive
Women in general dont need to bulid personality nor decency
@@sakeenahmThat's a lie. People don't generally come at beautiful women entitled and aggressive. People tend to be soft footed around them. Either you don't know the meaning of those two words or you don't have enough general experience to comment on the subject.
Yup. The more beautiful, the more deluded, and in a society where female 4s, 5s, and 6s often genuinely think they're 10s, imagine what actual 8s, 9s and 10s think of themselves. 🤭🤯
"when you punish the truth, you are asking to be lied to" - great quote
Definitely the quote of the video, which has been great. Liked and subscribed. Will be watching more. Great content
I am very honest and transparent with women.
I have not been laid for over half a decade despite being married.
Alpha fucks, beta bucks.
A sex-less marriage is not a marriage. If she won't do serious counseling, then get a divorce. Maybe prepare for it for a year ahead of time, but then leave her as best you can. (if you can avoid lawyers, that is best. But sometimes is unavoidable if she is a jerk.
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Jesus that a long time, no fucking idea how bad
That's hands down one of the most meaningful videos on RUclips. Nice job!
Absolutely spot on, this is very similar to why rich people are known to have eccentric personalities and lifestyles, nobody calls them out on their bullshit! They lose their grip on reality and surround themselves with Yes Men.... until reality hits them in the face.
ha. great point. I worked for some very wealthy people (9 figure wealth) and everyone was a fireplug around them. Something to pee on. I wouldn't tolerate it and would ask others why they did. Their answer? A super fat Christmas bonus so they agreed to anything.
Power absolves you of all norms
I'm not wealthy, and I'm eccentric. I guess I do live in a parallel world because I'm anti-social or reclusive. I live a comfy reclusive lifestyle that I enjoy. High openness, low agreeableness, and some neuroticism result in eccentric behaviors regardless of social class.
@@NormieNeko I don't remember creating a burner account, but this sure does sound like me.
That is hilarious with the US presidential election coming up in just 1 day.
The "Crazy - Hot" scale, scientifically explained!
how i met your mother
Yeah except there is exactly 0 science
Yes! So hot that makes a guy so stupid!
What a video!
@@Alex-bl8uh Just empirical observations by men.
As a teacher, I am always amazed by your ability to put simple words on harsh pieces of truth most men have been vaguely suspecting for most of their lives.
Being single isn't that bad. If you can't find and marry a good woman it's better to stay single.
Agreed
To find a god woman, you first must be a good man.
Exactly, and after a while of trying (years), you just say: fck it, i´m better alone, i don´t need nothing any more (55 years old), and with cancer, i just want to be occupied, with my hobbies!
I’ve noticed that even (some) other women will have a hard time saying “no” to a very beautiful woman. They have no idea how much their life is on easy-mode because of their looks.
Because the have a Pecking order on the totem pole
A ugly girl wants a hot women in her circle showing value . A hot women wants an ugly girl so she can have the disparity and see how attractive she is.
There's a cognitive disonance reinforcement loop here - If I keep saying yes to a woman then it must be because she is deserving because otherwise it would mean that I'm just being swayed by her looks and that can't be right.
Don’t forget how we are all vulnerable to the Halo Effect as as well.
When a beautiful or a handsome person is self aware and smart, they are playing the game on God mode. But 99.9999% of beautiful people are clueless when it comes to self awareness.
It’s called having pretty privilege. I have a friend like this - extremely pretty but extremely entitled and spoiled because they know everyone wants to be their friend. And everyone tolerates her because they don’t want to tell her the truth. I have to admit she has a sparkling personality, super funny and witty, and is a hard worker but yeah when you’re that pretty you expect everything to be handed to you on a silver platter.
My grandmother looked like Elizabeth Taylor and after being crowned as her high school's first homecoming queen, she spent the next 70 years never letting anyone in that small town forget.
When it is your only card then you keep playing it!
Wow
She'd be a perfect fit for Al Bundy (who's only claim to fame was that he scored 4 touchdowns in a college football game 20 years ago)
Peaked early, lol.
Or the Springsteen song "Glory Days"
It's like a video game. Everyone knows that the game is hard that you have to level up to get better. Pretty women start the game in god mode. When the developers patch god mode, they have no idea how to play the game.
Dorkiest analogy ever.
This is a very apt analogy. Well-said.
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Then they age out and develop Karen syndrome. WHY IS NO ONE LISTENING TO ME!!!
only the stupid ones have no idea - pretty girls who lose a bit of pretty and are smart know how to adapt.
Your analysis of the fact of the matter is just superb. Thanks.
There’s an old adage - “No matter how good she looks, somewhere there’s a guy that’s sick of her crap”.
The spy Mata Hari was renowned for her beauty. When she split with her man, he said something like I have seen her from all sides now and I am done
@@williamjeffreys2980 and a couple hundred million guys who would definitely boo
I have a very beautiful friend and she's nuts. Her last boyfriend was a very successful man and when he broke up, she made his life hell. These women are not nuts because nobody says the truth. I am very honest with her. She continues to behave badly because rules don't apply to attractive people. She will only change when she no longer has men at her feet, which I don't see happening, even though we are getting older.
She always had options and continues to do so, including public figures. The number of men commenting on her photos is something out of the ordinary. And she's not the provocative type. She is a natural beautiful woman. One of those who can wear a potato sack and still look beautiful Lol
I care about her, but unfortunately I don't see her changing. My advice is not listened to because, in practice, she continues to be "rewarded" by men.
This is the ‘pretty privilege’. Why give it up? There’s always someone willing to cater to your every whim.
I have to agree with you, and slightly disagree with Orion here. I mostly agree with him, except about the main point being that the most beautiful women are not told the truth. I think often they are, but don't listen to it because many rules don't apply to the most attractive people, like you said. What these women need to understand is that some rules do still apply to them, like those relating to mating and dating.
A friend telling her the truth is not the same as a father or brother telling her the truth. With all due respect to your friend, she probably never has been told the truth her entire life.
I know you are trying to save her, but some people won't change at this point.
@The8ThMonk Nah, beautiful women can be told the truth plenty, but when they're narcissistic and unwilling to put in the work to be responsible, they know that they can find other "supply" (simps, kiss-ass family members who baby her). It wasn't as much of a problem before birth control, social media, and dating apps enabled women to line up to get railed out by chads, destroying their pair bonding capacity. It's easy to take accountability for the good decisions you make. When you're treated like a princess the first 25 years of your life, it's more difficult to take accountability for your bad decisions.
Your comment is good, but that woman continues to be rewarded by you (!)
Why are you giving her advice if she doesn't care what you have to say? Giving someone advice is totally equivalent to giving someone money. If she just takes your money and throws it on the ground, and you keep on giving her more hoping she will understand it's value...
I’m half pretty and when I’m considering a cosmetic surgery, my bff told me” you are already stuck up right now, if you’re prettier, you will have an even bigger head.” Took her advice to heart, she’s a true friend!
wow what a self-awareness.
Don't you want to know what it feels like to ascend to a god
@@rayrwyr thanks, survival mechanism of the average :)
@@Kevin-mx4vm NO, has a goddess relative, spoiled and developed narcissistic personality disorder, not curable...it's a curse in disguise.
Something most women don’t seem to understand is that character is what really matters to that guy who would run into a burning building to save your life. And that’s the guy they should be looking for. When it comes to looks, good enough is good enough.
I suspect the reason for movies being so popular is that it is a socially acceptable way of staring at beautiful people and no one condemns the viewers for staring. In real life, this would be considered creepy.
There are some rare exceptions from the rule. I know a woman from Eastern Germany who is a 9/10 but kind, humble and relatively rational. But her father has a very strong influence on her.
That is so rare!!
That's covered in this video.
@@ytano5782 Cool. I once took a colleague out, not for a date, a Slovakian, we were in Paris and I could see people look at us like 'what has that guy got that is making that woman be with him?' Really nice girl.
@@Ken_oh545 To you and to ytano, women raised in Communist dictatorships can see realities in human nature that soft Westerners just cannot see.
Be careful man that may be a dude
"Pretty is not sufficient compensation for crazy". "The truth does not get you laid." "Women only reward the truth when it happens to coincide with what they want to hear." This episode absolutely nails it, and as at least one other commenter has said, it is fertile source material for great tee shirts. Though the shirt in public might get a man randomly smacked. Too much truth..
Being physically attractive is like having a super power.
Heck yeah!
By the same token, kriptonite weakens superman but not humans.
Guess it's time for me to work on my attractiveness ;)
They get treat better
Samuel 16:7
The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart. '” What it means: This scripture about beauty illustrates that the world focuses on what people look like on the outside.
100% accurate. I tried to explain this to a woman months ago and she kept debating me . the delusion is real
I was in a 1yr relationship with a narcicistic abusive woman who is incredibly beautiful as she is dellusional. We argued constantly, she could never be wrong and she never apologized. Towards the end of the relationship I decided to do everything she wanted and agreed with her 100% and constantly complimented her on how amazing she was. To my surprise, she fell in love with me, (her version of love) she figured, she finally found the whiping boy she was searching for her whole life, the perfect YES puppet. It was at that point that I ghosted her. ..... Let her wander in desert for another 400 years.
Yeah, that'll teach her.
Truly I tell you, she probably wandered for less than 4 months.
wow!
great another alpha widow
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Insane, I shared this video on Facebook and got a pop-up saying "This post may go against our Community Standards. Your post is currently on Facebook, but it looks similar to other posts that were removed because they don't follow our standards on hate speech."
Absolutely insane!
I wish I was living in 1880s or so. Much better time for men AND women!
I'm surprised YT hasn't blocked it. 😮
It filters for the F word. I’ve also had posts flagged or blocked for “damn” “stupid” and others regardless of the context they were used in
That’s ridiculous. Typical FB
@@pedroantoniodacruzferreira1487 no way. There were lot more people dieing in wars in percent, had to work harder , did not have internet to talk and did not even have time even if there was internet because they were working lot more hours.
Absolutely, this is spot on. I dated a beauty queen in Argentina, and I was the first man to call her out when she was being unreasonable. She could not handle it, had never learned empathy, and preferred the pleasant deceptions of other prospective men. As Orion notes, though, letting such women go is a prudent move. Let other men put up with their delusions. It is just not worth the stress.
She smells of narcissism..
I called out my Wife’s bullshit recently. She managed to twist it around so that I was not only in the wrong, but was an asshole as well. I’m now devising my exit plan.
Dealing with this nonsense right now .
Early in life, I learned that these beauties were only good for one thing. Don't spend years with them and everything will be just fine. These women always end up single the last half of their lives. You can feel sorry for them but only as you're walking out that door.
You may just be my new favorite content creator.
My buddy used to say about attractive women, "Somebody hates her."
Ha Ha Ha, that is so true!
So many people beautiful women come across will hate her. Other women will bully and chastise her. They will ignore her and send her to coventry. If she’s single, she’s in for a very hard time. She will never be invited to anything by her married friends where their husbands will be, unattractive friends will be. Lack of a rounded personality is a result of the way she’s treated not so much about unpleasant truths, but general non sexual interest. She will rarely have male friends who aren’t gay, she won’t be included in a lot of social activities and this gets worse as she gets older. As I mentioned, single is a nightmare, being divorced too. She is a threat, unapproachable, treated weirdly by people who are overwhelmed and intimidated. It’s said that beautiful people have an easier life, I would disagree, unless she has a stable home life, good friends and plenty of love and good times. Then there’s aging and people won’t let her forget it either. It’ll be written on their faces, she’ll keep producing photos of herself when she was younger, she’s unhappy, lonely and no longer so attractive, but! she may become more approachable, be able to develop a more genuine and likeable personality, people will treat her better, but the loss of her beauty will still be a huge loss. Life isn’t fair and life is tough.
@victoriakihlstrom4338 You're possibly right about that side of beautiful women you describe. It'd be rough for them..
@@victoriakihlstrom4338 Then it's in her interests to get her shit together as early as possible...
Having been considered a very beautiful woman in my younger years I'd also add that maintaining a slim/fit body made me crazy, constant exercise and starvation and having it be in the forefront of your mind 24/7. Most men don't realize the mental strain it takes to remain slim for most women. Also, the constant attention from men does something to your mind, I can't explain it but it's not healthy. I was considered gorgeous, but yes I'd say I was crazy.
@@sarahstewart1531 thank you for YOUR honesty!
Thank you for YOUR honesty. !!❤
this is 100% spot on, ive been aware of this for like 10 years but never heard anyone articulate it as well as you did Orion.
Wow! I think you hit it right exactly on point! I'm 50 years old and have been trying to wrap my mind around this phenomenon my entire life. It all makes sense now.
Thanks for the insight.
Well as a member of the average to below average women club, we know we have to be on our best behavior, we are invisible to most men unless he wants sex. I actually did an experiment on this on a dating app. I couldn’t understand why I didn’t get any dates, just men wanting sex. I kept my profile the same but changed my pictures to a woman who fits the beauty standard. The same men who tried to ask me to slide through, offered this woman date immediately. I was so mean to them and they didn’t care. They would beg. Many average to below average women won’t tell the truth on this, because it hurts but I’m honest. It did open my eyes to men, when they are talking about how horrible women are, it’s not the ugly ducklings they are talking about lol, because we are invisible.
You’re not wrong but there are way more men who fit into this category than women. Statistically women are roughly double as picky as men when choosing a partner. So , double the men fall into the unfuckable bin. Maybe more tbh. And a lot of the ones who don’t still have to settle for significantly less than a looksmatch due to hyper gamy.
Still better experience than the average man's, in dating apps; at least you're offered sex. The *truly* ugly ducklings (of women) don't get offered sex, and _this_ is the average man's experience.
Btw the beautiful person that is mean and talks down to others, yet they beg to be with them, guess what? Numerous videos of chads doing that to women (in dating apps) and women ignore/laugh it off and continue to pursue. It's not a gendered thing.
Yea male hypergamy sucks too. Basically human nature is trash lol. However what you're experiencing is experienced by 50% of women and 80-90% of men. Then within that 10-20% cohort of good looking men they also need to have the resources for the resource-extracting gender to take otherwise they leave anyways. Looks will attract ppl but usually won't be enough to keep someone.. That goes for men and women
@@bh9825 most women are average to below average, check out the women who are complaining about bad men treat them and they are talking about the guys that claim no woman likes him. The secret is, women who did not hit the genetic lottery, won’t speak on but in private or blame men because we are not chosen they only want the conventionally attractive women, these women are in abundance because most of us are average to below average. Beautiful women don’t complain about all men want sex with no commitment. The rest of us, better to focus elsewhere. I’m just honest, I don’t feel less than. Just laugh at men complaining.
thank you for sharing
Damn!!! He used the "F" word. You know he's spittin facts.
It's ok, he's a doctor using it in a clinical context. JK
i still have my doubts as to whether women who are not beautiful are any different
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Lol, the crazy part is 99% of the average wmn think that thry are 10 because of IG filters and social media.
@@0biwan7 I won't tell the truth to any woman no matter the looks. It isn't worth it unless she's willing specifically.
Feminism/society has deluded them all into thinking and acting like they are 9's and 10's. Guys will sleep down for sport. The girls get stuck on their "highest setting" based on the 8,9,10 that slept with them - then refuse to date men in their league. Just look at how skewed the statistical data is from dating apps on women's preferences - they literally destroy the normal distribution bell-curve - pure delusion.
A lot of us are overlooked. Men prefer my 9/10s relatives and friends. I’m amazed at how bad these men allow themselves to be treated by them. I would never mistreat a man in that manner, but of course I’m not the chosen one. I’ve learned to accept it and have a good life otherwise that’s peaceful!
Great info! Well stated and 100% true
As a commercial airline pilot and single man I’ve dated a number of very beautiful woman. I agree with you completely. Not all of them are crazy, but most of them have a screw loose.
You can marry for looks but you will have to live with character.
excellent !!!
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@@Uns4rmLhr Or just because a woman is beautiful does not mean she has a character to match.
Amen.
I now understand why so many "beautiful" women keep getting divorced and dumped multiple times!
Elizabeth Taylor married 8 times.
could you imagine living with angelina jolie?
@@desade-e7z Oh goodness man, Brad Pitt still in the middle of a bitter divorce has found that out the hard way.
@@petechapuswike9546 Jennifer Lopez
🎠🎠🎠🎠🎠 always a beta simp in line to pay and an alpha who doesn’t have to drop a dime to get it on day 1..
Okay, here are my two related problems.
1st - my mother used to be one of these women. Very abbreviated result: everyone in the family killed themselves (except me).
2nd - supposedly I am a very attractive male. Result: I never learnt many things I should have learnt, first of all how to approach, or even only talk to, women. Also, it seems that I cannot have a normal conversation with basically anyone because people either instantly hate me, or are so fascinated that I get confused and start acting like a clown, dork or jerk.
i hope you are doing alright ❤❤
I really dislike lying and prefer honesty from people. I think it is the only way to grow and make the world better
It was nice to hear a passing mention of us men on the autism spectrum. Honesty comes more easily to us.
As an autistic male, it makes so much sense why I never get laid, I prefer honesty over lying.
@YTbannedme-g8x that's probably part of it. I think that generally, women just sense that we are putting on a mask to get along, and they realize that we are too different to inspire confidence. We lack the instantaneous social responses they are used to.
You guys, as an autistic female, I prefer the truth. But also good grooming, polite manners, and a fit body. If you think being female makes it much easier to get laid, maybe a little. But being in relationships is just as hard. Men like the “player” type of woman who flirts and flatters. Same problems exist. My advice to you is, don’t be stubborn. If you make yourself very physically attractive as a man, which merely in evolves an intense fitness regimen, you will get laid. Easier than being a woman who isn’t pretty.
@@cecilang9721 *rolls eyes* women...
This is accurate @@cecilang9721
i wouldnt say its a matter of "hot women are never told the truth" so much as "hot women are never told no".
I left my second wife, a very attractive woman, because there was just no making her happy. Lord knows i tried. And yes, i generally agreed with whatever came out of her mouth. It was exhausting and soul sucking. I honestly don't think she had ever been dumped in her life. Girl lost her mind and crazy hijinks ensued. Fast forward 12 years and her looks have faded. All my "friends" suddenly have stopped trying to get with her and are starting to see what i was talking about. You are never a pretty womans priority, you're a temporary option.
I taught teenagers for thirty years. As soon as the beautiful girls realized the power they had, they became monsters. I can't recall how many times very pretty teenage girls tried to get their way by flirting with me and other male staff members. It worked with most of the men, which shows a lack of professionalism and character by the male teachers and administrators.
It's not the girls' fault, it's ours. We treat people better if they're attractive, especially attractive females. And that's a lesson they carry forward into the wider world.
No, it shows biological and genetic instincts. And it exposes an idiotic humanity which is trying to deny, prosecute and negate those instincts saying that men must overcome them. Men must always do everything, even overcome their own instincts, drives and biology. Humanity has become sick and disgusting.
it's sir weeners fault
basically you are saying that women have no agency. They know what they are doing is wrong, but it is still men's fault to validate their behavior
I'm reminded of a time a pretty young student knocked on my door trying to get me to donate to an animal charity. As soon as she saw I was male she went completely into flirt mode but I could see right through her crap, she only wanted a sale. I said to her I don't give to charity on the doorstep. Oh but don't you like dogs she breathlessly replied. I love them so and that's why I've got one of my own and shut the door.
I've had this thought in my mind for awhile too. The teenage years is where it starts/stops for women. Young boys and girls are treated pretty similar? But when we hit the teenage years girls keep getting treated like queens and boys start getting treated like adults.
Everything remains to be given to a woman on a silver platter from the teenage years onwards. No responsibility or accountability. 10x if they're an attractive women? Men, society, other women, we allow them to not mentally develop/become crazy. It becomes super obvious the moment they face abit of hardship or you have a disagreement with them? They behave like a 15yo? They haven't mentally developed past their teenage years. It's no surprise really
This guy is awesome!! I love his no BS approach. He’s also hilarious without trying to be. All just for telling the blunt truth! Subscribed!!
If everyone still had to raise animals for food or grow a garden.... people would be showing up differently in society, both men and women. Life is too easy!!
@@moonafarms1621 facts
Interesting take. You could be right.
Life is easy for women, particularly beautiful women, and those who inherit substantial wealth. For most men, life is not easy.
I always tell your people; all this is happening because you got too much food and confort, and it is spreading all over the world.
@@GerardoDelValle. Absolutely true. This is where decadence comes from. Life gets so comfortable that people get bored and start doing ever-crazier things in an attempt to get back some of the excitement that comes from risk and challenge.
You're right on point. Loved the employee scenario 💯 I agree telling good-looking women the truth won't get you a happy ending.
I've often called out beautiful people on their BS, I am not afraid to confront anyone and I do not treat others differently for their looks. It does not matter to them because they have enough people in their social circle who approve of them that in their eyes, I am the crazy one.
Eventually these people learn when they lose their looks. They have a mid life crisis. Then sadly, if they have beautiful daughters they live vicariously through them and become a crazy mother. The cycle repeats.
Mothers living vicariously through their daughters is a very real thing. This coming from a dad of a girl who was a cheerleader watching the other girls' moms. I felt so sorry for them.
I’ve known exceptionally beautiful women who were unstable and insecure because they were made that way by other women who were envious.
Other women are NOT always good to the gorgeous. Girls can be vicious when they get envious. Pretty girls are always have everyone behind them. The difference is that the men kiss their ass while the women stab them in the back. Neither tell them the truth.
True, many women are so intimated by beautiful women, as are very attractive men, double edge sword for attractive people. Looks can open doors but they come with nasty consequences too.
That’s an entire other discussion: the effects of how other women treat beautiful women.
And don’t forget about men. Men love to humble women they find attractive but don’t feel worthy of.
thank you ! including boss's wives
The truth is the best way to solidify a breakup.
Unless you are attractive enough... and then they beg you to lie to them sometimes.
I will never understand why men get into relationships with these women in the first place. Perhaps I had some good looks privilege as well, but nutty girls were always a giant turn off for me. Hot girls who seemed entitled were something I always avoided like the plague.
"Must be why you are in charge, sir"... Priceless 🙂
If you’re a parent , please teach your sons integrity and please teach your daughters accountability.
@@opiavisuals integrity, and accountability, two profound words of wisdom!
I have a Psy.D. and am licensed in my state.
And, I can attest that based upon my anecdotal experience, everything that Dr. Taraban has said is true and accurate and the etiology of the behaviors he describes is accurate within my experience.
"You have to feel sympathy for them."
No. No I absolutely do not.
I think he just said that to avoid being overly critical and hence alienate half his audience who might but his book, follow, like etc.
Yeah, this.
I'm so past sympathizing. 20+ years of gamified and toxified positivity have taught me that sympathy is the primary means for unproductive people to get what they want out of undiscerning people.
Sympathy is basically polite pity.i pity the.but remember sympathy is not acquiescence.
You dont have to but if you truly understand people you would. You truly need understand people to be great
When you can get past “red pill rage” then you have passed to a point where you see everything for what it is and you are no longer angry about it and everything works for your benefit. Think the part where the spoon bends or really when the bulets stop mid air and he just looks at them. Like oh this is how this works. The world wont bend to you. Its you that will change.
Dunno why you popped up in my feed today, but you're brilliant!
To me this is the most enlightening episode so far. 100% accurate.
Sadly beautiful women are nuts because it takes a young woman to be physically beautiful.
Young women have not learned humility they have not been broken down by life.
The most beautiful person is someone that has been humbled by life and is kind and generous. ❤❤❤
Sometimes older women can be very bitter though.
Crap
amen sister, preach! hallelujah...
Totally disagree.youth even very.pretty does not make a woman.pretty.
I see plenty very pretty attractive and naturally sexy older woman.
I was categorically a “beautiful women” in my 20 and 30s. I was also very mean, entitled, lazy, spoiled and MEAN. Life destroyed me though. Now at 40 my beauty is starting to fade and I had to learn how to have a personality. My looks don’t get me into doors now. I prefer it that way. Beautiful young women don’t see me and bump into me as they are walking (expecting me to be the one to move out of the way bc they are so beautiful lol )I used to do the same things so I can’t be mad … 😩 in my 20’s I was kidn4pp3d, r4ped multiple times, set up, almost k1lled. Never could have real friendships due to jealousy. Never cheated but boyfriends always cheated to humble me… being beautiful comes at a cost. People always stared. I was so nervous bc people always stated. I’m so glad that period is over. I’m glad I survived to tell the story. Good luck beautiful ladies, many of us don’t come out a1ive. Hope this changed one day. But it cost to be beautiful.
@@colorfulsin my way of seeing beautyfull woman with issues is simply a character flaw. Just because she could get all she want with her youth and beauty does not mean a woman could not follow her dreams or passions and become a happy fulfilled human beeing and have a charming personality.
I just read your book. I am 56, and I have learned many of these truths the hard way over a lifetime. Your book is cogent, and it was beneficial to hear your experience as I no longer feel like the Lone Ranger.
Dated a really good looking 40+ woman who looked 15 years younger, great figure, really cool. However, she had a problem with male validation and after a compromising situation involving alcohol and skinny dipping with another guy, I told her that I no longer trusted her and broke it off. She was totally blindsided.
I try to be honest and authentic throughout my life, because early on it helped me navigate socially, and then I started dating and discovered that women hate being told the truth. Something turned in my head and I remember making a conscious decision "I should probably lie to women ALL the time."
you have to be very diplomatic, and also if they are attracted to you they will accept it better. If they are not attracted to you telling the truth to them will just reinforce their belief and classify you as a bitter incel
Wow great video! I think beautiful young girls need strong male family members who will be honest with them and protect them from delusion and narcissism.
It comes a time in a man's life, when one must give up on happiness for PEACE.
I guess you mean PIECE. A piece of meat.
No there doesn't.
No thank you, I have never chased happiness. I am quite satisfied going for contentedness. Which for me requires no contact with other apes. like the song says "All I want is to have my peace of mind."
Not mutually exclusive
this is why i love watchmen. taught me “never compromise, not even in the face of armageddon”. changed my life
I was a fleet manager for an auto dealership. If you want to blow a sale, or make it twice as difficult, tell the truth straight, uncut, no chaser. Customer will be out the door in five minutes. We never lied (it was fleet, no need to because we sold cars at a discount), but you have to learn to wrap a business transaction into language the customer wants to hear, what sounds sweet to his or her ear. I suppose I should take that approach more with women....
Very well stated, this is a quote to remember!
@@BillyCollins3 I kind of hate this about people. Like no wonder we have such strong social hierarchy. A little flowery speech and the right looks can do waaay to much. People just defer to confidence like it’s the truth. Women especially hate indecision.
holy crap, less than 3 mins in and you're speaking the truth that everybody knows but nobody with credibility will say! Glad this was recommended!
Dr. Orion Taraban is the GOAT.
Comparable w/Kevin Samuels [RIP] for GOAT mantle.
Women hater.
We are so sick of wussys