Raw Convo on Getting Married Young
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As a man at 23 I pray everyday for my wife, plead the blood of Jesus over her, pray for protection and blessings for her, for God to make us into who we need to become for each other, and for God to swiftly but also in His timing to bring us together. Just some ideas for y’all to pray while you’re waiting as well. God bless! :)
That’s so sweet! I’m a 24 year old woman. Maybe I should start doing that.
You should, just as Job did@@gigahorse1475
@@gigahorse1475 Just pray whatever the Lord lays on your heart for your future husband. I know that prayer works and I might as well be praying for my future wife so that God can help her to grow in Christ and to prepare her for me. I believe that praying for your future spouse can keep them from harm and trouble and help them with their struggles. It isn’t easy waiting for a future spouse but the wait it will be worth it. God bless!
Stop. Go look for a woman in the places you think women who have the same values as you would hang out. Date someone you find attractive. Ensure you both value the same things: 1 theologically, 2: spiritually (basically ensure shes ‘as christian’ as you) and 3 politically (yes politically)
Then go from there.
There is no such thing as a soul mate. There are frankly many women you could have chemistry and harmony with.
Stop with this naive idea of praying to God for a woman as if that would suddenly summon her. It’s pagan greek weird mythology. Just stop.
Edit: I married in my early 20’s and 6 years strong.
@@dwightk.schruteiii8454 I agree but church is the only place I know to find the wife God has for me. I’m very traditionally (old fashioned) minded so I do t really know where to find a godly woman that God could have for me to marry. I believe that God has several that could be our spouse but God did make Eve for Adam so it depends I think. All I want is the godly maiden wife that God has for me and I try not to make it an idol but I’m lost in life and I think only a wife could help give me strength to be better. Please pray for me brother for God to get me on the right track and to swiftly bring me my wife. I’m happy that you got married young, as a man in my early 20 it gives me hope that God will have me married while I’m young enough to enjoy it. May Father God bless you always in Jesus Mighty Name! :)
My wife and I were high school sweethearts. We were both 23 when we got married. We just celebrated our 17th anniversary earlier this month!
Congratulations!
@@2rocco Thank you!
That's beautiful; God bless you 🙌🏻💖💯
@@JustLord5 Thank you!
I am 22 and my wife is 21, we just got married and are expecting now. It is so counter-cultural, and my coworkers can't fathom this. I praise and thank God every day for her and I pray for wisdom and fruitfulness in our marriage and in my life
Getting married young is a good thing. Sometimes it doesn't work out. God was still working on me in my late teens and into my late 20s. I got married at 27 a few months before 28. God provides we just have to look to Him.
I got married young and after 16 years of marriage I am so glad I did. People say marriage is hard. They're wrong. Life is hard. Marriage means you don't have to face life alone. Marriage is the best. 😊
I love what you said about people saying marriage is hard when it's life that's hard! I know somebody who says that relationships aren't easy. I guess it depends on how the couple treat each other. I believe marriage to the right person can be and is the greatest blessing second only to a close loving relationship with the LORD. Life is hard, but marriage doesn't have to be 😊
As a single Christian, 34, I definitely can see part of the "con" to be married young. In my 20's I travelled the world so much, met so many new people, visited so many new places, and essentially enjoyed the "bachelor" life. Of course that doesn't mean I didn't want a GF or a wife, but being single has many huge plusses. Now at 34 that is settled in a great career, looking to be in the housing market this year, and have nearly everything I ever wanted, and single for so long, I now yearn for a Christian wife. The struggle of being a single Christian for so long is that it feels like I will be single forever. It's hard, very hard let me tell you. Seeing friends and family with kids, the pressure of needing and wanting to get married and have kids but I'm getting older, and also, the intimacy. It's hard. I pray, and still pray to God that he will bring a Christ-like woman to me, but yeah, it's hard and I'm only getting older, but some day He will answer.
This is such a blessing to hear. I'm getting married in a year. We decided to wait because we both knew we needed time to grow and mature. God bless.
Well done, that's so worth it.
Why wait only a year? Why not 5 or 10 years?
@mattr.1887 yeah I don't understand. Their just playing with fire.
I got married at 22. My husband was 23. Our one regret is not getting married sooner (we dated for four years). We’re in Canada and are evangelical Christians raised Mennonite Brethren (loosely)
This is beautiful
That will be my fiancees and I age when we get married! How long have u been married?
As a single 25 year old guy, I don't think there's an age number that's "too young" to get married. As long as both parties are mature enough to handle the responsibility and can sustain themselves on their own, I see nothing wrong with getting married in your early 20s. That ship has kind of sailed for me but my outlook is that if I'm still single a decade from now, I'll just embrace that life for good and work on serving God through community service and active involvement in my church.
When I married my husband I was 23 and my husband was 2 months away from turning 20. We had been friends for a couple years before we began a relationship. We were only together for 2.5 months before we got married. In September we’ll have been married for 18 years, all praise and thanks go to the Lord for keeping us together and helping us build a life and family with each other.
Wow God bless y'all
My parents were highschool sweethearts and got married at 19 and 20 years old. 31 years later still going strong! 💪🏻 ❤
I promised myself a long time ago I wouldn't start late like my dad, who was 31 at marriage and 33 when I was born; I am now 30 and 2/3 and I have never been on a date in my life. 💀
I promised myself that I was going to be married by 25, but God had different plans for me. Now I'm 31 and even when I've been on a couple of dates, I've never been on a serious relationship.
After some time, I've learned that starting to date "late" is okay, not everyone walks the same path and pace and even when we will look a little older when our kids go to college, it's still okay.
My mum and dad didn’t get married till she was 38 and he was 41, so if it’s any encouragement you’ve still got a few more years for something to happen!
I went on my first date that wasn’t a “wait this is a date ?? I had no idea” moment when I was 30. The other incident happened twice. Annoying it did 😂
Still need to put myself out there but it’s good to know when your situation is relatable.
Same here. 25 years old, great paying job, in very good physical shape, part of a great church community, have my own apartment; living a very successful life on paper. Have the same amount of dating experience as your typical 12 year old. I used to let that bother me but realized that God has me single living away from all my family members for a reason, so as long as this is my situation I vowed to put serving Him first and if marriage and kids isn't in the cards for me, I'll still make a difference helping those less fortunate than me (Proverbs 19:17)
28, never dated at all, getting married next year to my best friend - I just had many dear precious friends, served God and let God refine us through the wonderful and painful challenges of being close to other humans. God made it clear that it was His will, with no romance, no dates, just a heap of prayer, seeking wise counsel, a few serious conversations, and then walking together towards marriage and Christ, instead of friendship and Christ. One year ago, I was 27 never had any relationship. God does what He pleases. Let's just be faithful, obedient, and becoming like Him - then we'll be ready for whatever He brings. 🫂
My fiancé is 25 this year and I’m 23 we’re getting married October 20. We have discussed marriage and dated with intent to marry and I look forward to it. Your videos always give a refreshing perspective ❤
I’m 22 currently and I got married when I was 20 and my husband was 22 :-) Still on the beginning stretch, but I’m very happy to have gotten married despite criticisms from others about having married young.
Great video, thank you for sharing, I am praying to be able to marry young, I will 24 in September, and I absolutely agree, I don’t listen to or care what people say who try to caution me because “You just need to live life more”, nah, after being a faithful follower of Christ, I want more than anything to be a husband and father, may the Lord grant me this in the next couple of years!
Got married at 19 last year in October 2023. 1st year anniversary coming up and we are taking a trip to Europe to celebrate. Couldn’t be happier being married to an intelligent, passionate, loving Christian man.
I'm not ready for marriage yet in my life but I can see myself one day being with someone who loves God and we both should love God more than each other but to keep in mind Jesus is the bridegroom and the bride is the church. I've been also decluttering a lot of entertainment that doesn't fulfil me and I can't be entertained by the world. My life feels like the end of the adventure with entertainment but its the beginning of a new chapter. I've had friendships with girls that I've taken the wrong way but there's a girl that I'm just talking to at my Bible study nothing more but she told me to sit by her so it could be a start. I'm not ready but I'm preparing myself for the future of a family. I even had/have friends that are already getting married young and that's a commitment I'd rather take in steps than try to rush through it.
Can't make a husband out of a girl crazy guy. Wish more women would realize this.
I got married at 19 and am so thankful we didn't wait.
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I had no idea we are from the same province my dude. God bless just came back from serving in Israel
I got married at 21. My husband is 28.
So for me, I got to learn how to be an adult as a married person. I discovered who I am as we've grown together. Not sure why people think it's not possible to learn who you are when you're married. I've found that my husband has helped me learn so much about myself. And the person I could have been without him? Well, I don't know her. It doesn't hurt, hinder, or even effect me to have to learn to be a new person for him/us... this is how I grew because he was here. I don't think that's a bad thing (granted you picked somebody Godly, loving, and willing to lead- which I did).
He's the first person I've ever had seggs with- I've nothing else to compare to. He's the best I've ever had, and it's only ever gotten better. (Maybe tmi, but started off with no finishing for me, but worked our way up to 2-3 when we do it because we learned what worked. Before that, I didn't know. Not sure what this compatibility non-sense is. You just work it out together
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I had no trajectory or passion. Neither did my husband. We had hardly any money. He worked a basic job. I didn't have one. But 7 years later we're both working doing what we believe our calling is. God is putting us through the wringer too, really helping us learn lessons we've been avoiding for many years! "Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds. For you know the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing!" James 1:2-4.
We were both not great with our spiritual stuff... So yeah, that was rough. But like the job, like everything else, we figured it out together. We kept pressing into God until we got closer and closer. He learned how to lead, and I learned how to follow. And masses of other character building and getting over trauma and other stuff that always comes up when you press into God! Never easy... but always fruitful. But as I said before, we learned together, we didn't have any of it figured out.
Our whole church told us we couldnt get married. And we did it anyway. Reconciliation between myself and my church (facilitated by God prompting me to pursue that), happened a few years later. We don't go there now because of doctrinal disagreements, but I still visit and go to events run by that church because they're my brothers and sisters in Christ. But. Yeah. Idk. It just seems to me that a lot of stuff can be learned together.
CONGRATULATIONS MAN! I'm definitely looking for my Proverbs 31 woman.
May God bless you with such a woman 😇!! But I really hope brother that you too are preparing yourself to lead her- spiritually, physically, mentally and emotionally; cherish her and provide for her!
God bless you both 😇
Thank you for your humble take, not assuming like you know everything. I'm currently discerning marriage, and I find the online discussion about whether you should wait or not to be so effing toxic. On one hand you have the people who insist that your life is over when you get married, but then you have tons of people who do nothing but shame you for considering waiting. People like Jordan Peterson do nothing but assume that you're a literal psychopath if you're not tryna get married yesterday. I appreciate you approaching it from the POV of "it's been great for me, but your experience might be different".
I was 22, my husband was 30. We got married 23 years ago. No regrets at all, I knew God made us for each other. Love him more every day.
my wife of 12 years left me this past May. The immense pain I'm going through is expected, but I've been praying and begging God to at least take away the dreams. Everywhere I go, everything I see is tied to her, since we went everywhere together. So there's no escape there. Again, I expect that. The torture comes into play when I sleep. I imagined that would be the one place I could escape the pain. Not so. In fact, it's worse than being awake, because in that moment a dream might as well be real. Every single night since, she invades my dreams. So now, there's absolutely no escape at all. I know God will work this out for good, but this road I'm on is dark. I've lost everything. My home, my pets and her. Aside from God, I'm completely alone in this and it's the most painful season of my life I have ever encountered. I just beg the Lord to just give me some peace in my sleep, because I fear I'm not going to make it. It's all too much to bear.
Praying for you. You are not in this alone my brother. God's going to get us through 🙏
I’m so sorry for everything you’re going through right now. Jesus is right by your side, comforting you, and caring for you even when you don’t feel it. Romans 8:18- “For I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us.” Jesus is turning your pain into a purpose and one day when we enter through that gate and get to spend eternity with Jesus, it will be like this life was a speck of dust compared to the glorious eternity we have with him. Don’t ever give up! Fight the good fight! Jesus still has a great propose for your life! He’s bringing beauty out of the ashes! I’m praying for you
Christ suffers worth you brother. Praying for you.
I sympathize with you brother. May the Lord heal your heart and comfort you in this season. Know that He walks with you in the darkness and He knows the pain in your heart, and if you desire it, may He bring someone your way to comfort you. But I also pray that the Lord will deliver you from every demon, familiar spirit, using the memory of your wife to torment you and oppress your mind with thoughts of depression, despondency and even fear. Demons can oppress(meaning torment or bring pain to) an individual by manipulating your mind and thoughts, even your memories to torment you. You have authority in Christ as a believer and I join my faith with you and rebuke that devil to cease and desist from this unlawful act in the NAME OF JESUS CHRIST the Son of God. You are free in Jesus name. Be at peace bro and sleep well.
I got married at 20 and I’m now divorced. HOWEVER, my divorce did not have to do with being too young. I wish we could have grown together, but my ex made selfish, harmful decisions. Now, I’m more concerned that it will be difficult being older because I have my set ways and so will he. Molding together is so much easier when you’re younger.
7:43 As a former diehard believer, I respect you for mentioning this. If you take Christianity seriously, you may find that there will NEVER be a time when you're spiritually "mature" enough to get married. You could spend a lifetime praying, obsessing over the Greek, etc etc and still not be "ready", by some people's standards.
There's a lot of schizophrenic thinking out there on this topic. At some point, you have to accept that you know yourself best and you're either ready or you're not. Of course then you're violating "lean-not-on-your-own-understanding". And do the mind games begin again.
Are you implying you aren't a believer anymore? 👀
Me and my husband met at age 16, got married a week after we turned 20 and had our first baby a week before we turned 21. Going strong! We live in the UK and we dont know many people our age who are married.
I have been married for 15 years, and in that time we've both made mistakes, we've both hurt each other, we've both had to learn forgiveness, and in the time our friendship, and unity and has grown deeper and stronger. It's an adventure. And God is more jealous for marriage than you are. Don't enter it lightly.
Not everyone changes drastically in their 20’s, but it’s def something to take into consideration when getting married at a younger age. If ppl r getting married in their early 20’s, they just need to be certain of themselves and confident that they know who they r. Ik that ppl no matter how old can drastically change as ppl and that’s something that can’t always be prevented. But my main point is ppl getting married in their early 20’s need to be especially mature.
Get married young. Your vows are not to each other but to God. It grows character and relationship to base your covenant on God’s promise.
I'm just going to say this as a 30 year old christian single man- marrying a bit older should not have a secular trope tied to it, unfortunately it does. In my experience, as someone who is considered the 'ideal 6'2 man', I've dated A LOT and majority of women I've dated in their 20s don't know what they want (living in Socal doesn't help). I've seen and known plenty of couples who married young and divorce for that very reason. I do not agree that your 20's should be a time of messing around and experimenting either. The thing is there's two sides to every coin. You want to marry young? Great, that comes with its disadvantages. You want to marry a bit older? Great, that also comes with its own disadvantages. Pick your poison. From my point of view, love the Lord your God, live your life and let Him bring the right person to you. If that happens young, good for you. If that happens later in life, don't shame that person and show compassion to those who wait longer
PS: Married at 24? That's SUPER YOUNG
Ideally it should be older men marrying younger women as it was in the Bible but most modern women are far too age prejudiced for that. 😎
@@ModelJames13 how much older though? ;)
@@dmorcos001 Well if you go by Biblical examples the age would be around 10-30 years older. Isaac was estimated 15-25 years older than Rebekah and Abraham was 10 years older than Sarah. Abraham was WAY older than his second wife but I suppose that's an outlier. I believe the ages of Boaz and Ruth have that similarity as well but I haven't read that story in a while. I'm sure there's more but I'm not a Bible scholar. It's clear the Bible sets an example for how marriages are to be and most modern Christians don't follow those examples anymore. Age prejudiced women are a big problem in the modern day.
@@ModelJames13 I get what you mean. And yes that was definitely common at that time. If I recall correctly, Mary was 15 and Joseph was 30. However, this was a cultural thing back then and majority of these marriages were arranged. I don't necessarily think that God placed a rule in that a man should be x years older than the woman. And women (or most of them at least) still prefer to date men that are older. But yes, we have strayed a lot from Biblical examples, most notably westernized societies
As a younger man I appreciate you sharing this! I think a lot of people see dating as just an activity and not as an important intro to the next phase of their lives! People need to take marriage and their relationships seriously. Thanks for all your effort is spreading the word! I hope God blesses your marriage and future family!
Thank you for this video! May God bless you all!
I would push back on the financially ready part- he made it sound like you should be ready to live on one income before getting married, which is ridiculous. It is a lot cheaper to live together in one house than in two separate places. Sure, if you're only working a part time minimum wage job, then you're probably not ready to even think about marriage. But I think it is ridiculous to say that it's wrong to start out a marriage needing two incomes. Besides, there is not anywhere close to enough stuff that needs to be done around a house with only two people living in it to justify one of them being a full time homemaker.
@@eli-bt4he you’re not ready for marriage buddy
@@Bri-rw7ik Can you elaborate on how you came to that conclusion, considering that you don't know a single thing about me or my situation, financial or otherwise? For all you know, I've been married 50 years and am a multimillionaire.
@@eli-bt4he I would say that while you don’t need to have a job that would provide for the two of you right off the bat, there does need to be some sort of clear-ish plan to support a family on one income at some point in the near-ish future after you get married.
I got married last summer, and both my husband and I need to work in order to pay rent and the basic necessities for the two of us. That’s fine, I do enjoy my job and we entered marriage knowing that we’d both have to work for now. Not a shock or a surprise or unusual at all.
However (and I am not at all complaining about my husband; this is obviously not his fault and it’s unreasonable and irrational for me to be upset at him personally for this) there is no clear path for him at this point in time to make more money. His job doesn’t have a realistic upward path, and any other job he could reasonably get won’t pay him more than he makes right now. We’re both on the same page that we’d like to start a family soon and the best thing for the household would be for me to stay at home with the kids. However… time is ticking and we’re “stuck.” Financially, I can’t leave my job right now. Financially, we couldn’t support just the two of us on his income alone, and definitely couldn’t support children.
It’s a very stressful and nerve-wracking thing to not have really any plan to get on one income. And we’re both feeling pretty down that we financially can’t support a family now, or in the near future, or… ever. That’s my worst fear. What if we literally can never support a family?
I wouldn’t change anything about my marriage, and I obviously love my husband. I married him, not his money, not his job.
But it’s naive to say that the one-income discussion isn’t needed… because it is, at least if you want to have children.
So all of this to say: no, it isn’t a prerequisite for marriage to have an income that will support the two of you. But if children are part of the plan at all, you absolutely **need** to enter marriage with a fairly clear plan of how you’re going to move upward in income to be able to support you, your wife, and your children all on one income.
Just being realistic here.
I agree with this, this is how my husband and I started, we could live apart so why not combine some bills and live together. He was in school working on a degree with an idea of where he wanted to go. However God didn't open the opportunities we thought he would and my husband does something totally different than he planned on. You never really know where you are going. Have a plan, expect to be able to grow, but also if you are a Christian, God's plans might not be the same as yours and that's ok, seek the Lord, He is fairhful.
@@shelbys2750 Can I ask, are you guys on one income now? And do you have children?
Talking about perfection at 8:10 was a wake up call
There is nothing wrong getting married young or older. Make sure that the you and the person are with each other. I know many people that got married young. They are happy. Some who got married young and old also were divorced. The point is the age you get married is irrelevant. Making God the center of your marriage and life is.
A video I really needed to see and hear, thank you so much for sharing this and may God bless your wonderful union!
23, getting married to the love of my life in just 2 months time. Wouldn't have it any other way.
the most legitimate reason not to marry, it seems to me, is Corinthians 7:32-34, 'I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the affairs of the Lord, how to please the Lord; but the married man is anxious about the affairs of the world, how to please his wife, and his interests are divided.'
Of course, Paul also says it is better to marry than 'be aflame with passion.'
I wanted to be married much younger than age 32, but I didn't take looking for a wife seriously. I'm very happy that I am married now, but it would have been great to have married much earlier.
Partners don't feel equal when knowledge and life experiences differ to much and it hurts in different ways both if them.
I always thought 25 years should be minimum age for both. After I broke my own rule I would still say for me a 25 year age rule would have improved things because my partner was too young and changed many life plans after marriage. Now we have to live marriage with different life goals knowing at least one if not both of us get disappointed.
I’ve seen testimonies of people marrying spouses who faked being true Christians and it’s devastating to hear that. So for some advice, make sure you pray, pray, pray for a woman or man with the Spirit of God in them. Read the book of 1 John to compare their life to a converted heart that loves Jesus and see if they match up. And don’t rush, because people can hide their true colors.
Get in a godly community with them and see what the community thinks of them. Make sure it’s a humble and godly community that reads the Bible all the time and prays all the time. You will know them by their fruits as Jesus said.
Please be careful brothers and sisters. I love you all.
I just love your content. It's so inspiring for my channel. Totally agree on your points on married, we were 24 and 23. It's one of the best things we've done!
Loved this video!
Brilliant video, martiage really is meant to be the beginning of the adventure, not the end
I was 3 months after my 18th birthday and she was 9 days after her 17th birthday. 12/24/24 will be 54 years.
Thank you for sharing
Honest I would of like to be married when I was a teenager or when I was 20
( it my sound crazy to hear that but I stop caring about people Opinions or what the think years ago 😅 It does you good when you Stop listening to other people's opinions About what you should choose or what they think )
Great advice Isaac! Now if I could just find a woman to date me. 😭
😆 I’m a Mennonite from Manitoba so that made me laugh.
We were both 18 when we got married. But we did almost end our marriage in our 7th year.
Now in our 14th year we would never end it.
It wasn’t our young age that caused the problems but definitely wish we woulda had some premarital counselling for how to better handle many different topics.
We got married when I was 20 and my wife was 17, just two months shy of her birthday. It's been four years now and we still have a lot to work on, but we're excited for the future. We know we started young, but we couldn't imagine waiting or marrying anyone else. We met through our mutual love of ultimate frisbee and it took about 10 months before we started dating. We were engaged 4 months later and married 7 months later from the time we started dating. We waited until our wedding day for our first kiss and I can't recommend it enough. I know I lost my virginity in high school, but waiting until marriage was the best decision for us.
I'm 27, I've been with my fiance for 3 years, we can't get married because I don't have any money, neither do I have a job. I know I've been called to ministry and for now I'm trying to get into seminary. But Nigeria is a really hard place to live... Not just for me, for many people who want to get married. It's hard to get jobs and those that do, don't get good paying jobs (without knowing any rich and powerful people).
My dude I’m not trying to belittle your experience but maybe you could try talking to your fiancé and your family to either have a very small wedding or a court one and maybe do a celebration later. I’ve even seen couple that do the celebration years later at their 5th or 10th anniversary. There are ways around this.
I just feel like its so over for me at 26 nobody believes in me and its just getting to the point where i feel like giving up im just so obsessed with raising a son better than my alcoholic dad could ever but every time I feel like Im getting somewhere in a relationship I just get broken up with at exactly the three month mark on the dot like im being toyed with and I cant take it any more I just want to do more good and when im alone i feel like im not going anywhere and its all over and i just start crying in my apartment every time i see one of these videos
Oh man. I feel for you. Keep the faith.
I'm 32 and only recently got engaged. My sister is the same age as me and only just got married. Our younger brother has been married to his highschool sweetheart for years. It's hard when it feels like it's different for you. Or that there might be something wrong with you. Really hard. Sometimes it takes time. Time to grow and mature. Or time for *them* (whoever they are) to grow and mature.
I'll be praying.
Something that really struck me in the last few years was realising that I have purpose and value before and outside of a romantic relationship.
If something you would really value is being a positive role model to your children, maybe try to find something where you can be that for other kids that don't have positive role models?
Have meaningful relationships with people that aren't romantic. It means that we're not starving for companionship and friendship.
In this time of frustration, anger, bitterness, disappointment, sadness, and loneliness, make decisions and choices that your future will thank you for. Don't let this time dictate to you who you are and who you will be.
@@gingemeow I really needed that so much right now... Its really hard for me I think I need to see a therapist. I'm just surrounded by people that don't care about the things that I care about, my living situation is really frustrating and my job has hours that encourage antisocial activity...But I decided to go back to school to be a chef the other day because I feel like in the long run I should be doing the things that the holy spirit is calling me to do that keep me away from all the bad coping mechanisms I have and work that isn't fulfilling. From living with people with addictions and obsessive disorders as a kid I just never really got to learn how to be a role model. The only real life goal I even have right now is to eventually raise a son and just not be an alcoholic like my dad was but in the long run just not being an alcoholic isn't cutting it right now with women. That's the only plan I have, probably silly, but I just want to live a humble life. I really want to work on that though like you said maybe ill bring up how I can be a role model for others. Ill keep you in my thoughts and prayers as well I'm sure everyone's going through something. God bless you, and stay cool.
@@samuelnicholas6448If I could recommend a book (apart from the Bible - Jesus is the best model to base yourself off), it would be "When God writes your love story" by Eric and Leslie Ludy.
It was really helpful to me for a bunch of perspective.
One other comment is it sounds as if you're focusing on what you don't want to be. It's much easier to focusing on what you *do* want to be. Of course, as you mention, you didn't have a good role model. So find some! Find an older man who lives a life that you admire. Who is a good leader, kind to others, loves his wife and children well, and as the primary focus is following Christ. Seek mentorship from him. Watch how he lives his life, how he loves, how he behaves and then model that.
And if you can't find that man to model after, read Titus :)
@@samuelnicholas6448 Your story will be a story for the world to hear.
Rise up, Soldier! God hasn't forgotten you!
Hi Isaac! Can you please do a video about virginity in the Christian community. To speak on behalf of other Christians, I’m tired and upset of myself putting marriage on a hold simply for following God’s will and not desiring to have sex with someone before marriage. It’s not that ashamed of following God’s will but I’m discouraged that I have to put a no for me to engage in sexual activity. There isn’t a day that goes by and wonder what it is like to have sex with somebody. I’ve been in a relationship before but we broke up and that was nearly 2 years ago and I haven’t pursued any relationships since I’ve devoted my single years as a Christian male to serve God and his church community. I fear of dying single and I begin to fear I will never be in another relationship. I’m even scared of going to a relationship because I don’t want my heart to be broken again. In this moment in my life, I decided if I want to pursue a relationship with a Godly woman, the first step would be to establish a relationship with them. Pray for me brothers that God will show me someone who is willing to be Gods will and be in a relationship.
I’m 24 years old, and since I was 16 never got a gf again! So sad!
Hopefully I’ll get married soon
If the Christian community was healthy, young marriage would be normal. Unfortunately the church is failing and does not ultimately encourage marriage and family
Thanks!
7:15 yes be capable of leading yourself. Being self sustaining.
But don’t let trivial (yes in the scope of marriage, trivial) things like devotionals 😂😂 be what keeps you from stepping up to the plate
Marriage only fails when people are bad at marriage. Wether 20 or 30 years old. The age has nothing to do with it.
@@CrazedTacoEater852 well the younger you are generally the less mature you are so age does kinda have something
I want to get married young and everything but i’m still in college and don’t have any money for marriage, also my parents don’t fully approve of me getting married. I just want my parents to approve when i get married
Bro, married at 24 is pretty young where I'm from. 28-30 is more average in larger metropolitan cities. I'm nearly 35, have moved countries a few times in my adult life. I was nowhere near being married until at least late 20s. I've dated a number of women since my mid-20s and was almost married, but we weren't the best long-term fit. Seems more likely to get married young if you don't move much and stay in the same town you're born/raised in.
I am 17 and last year around this time I found the love of my life. I love her so much and she feels the same and we want to get married out of college but that’ll be in 5 years (both the careers we are following are bachelor’s) and we are praying together and having deep talks about life and god. I guess my question is should I wait til after college to get engaged or married?
What is your advice to a young couple engaged to each other and are just beginning their journey to Christ? My fiancé and I are engaged I’m 25 and he’s 30, and we’re set to get married next year. I’m introducing these videos to him and I’m hoping he’s having a change of heart, but what do you think about the two of us walking together?
Get married to young if God gives you that person when your young so be it. Age is just a number. Ppl have college kids house at all ages. God doesn't care about age just when he thinks its time he will make it happen.
Btw i always wonder how you and your wife met?
And well in 31 and i think im to old haha 🤣 like i wish i met my s .o so young so i didn't have to date around. Who wants that ??? Like what!!?? Oh yah you need to date around well thing is i sidnt have rhe choice ppl just came in my life. Some ppl are lucky and the first person they date is the one.
Rejoice in the wife of your youth…… that one hurts as a single Christian who’s already mid 20s
Try being 32. I'm currently dating someone right now, but it'd like the church discourages what God encourages, what you said right there, rejoicing in the wife of your youth.
You remind me of John from the chosen
Anything before 18 is 'getting married young' not 21 and 24?!
Maybe 19 and 20 could be considered early primetime, but at 24 it's overdue
I’ma pretty frugal woman.. guess my husband really lucked out with me. 😂
Im a 34 year old man and I had to step away from the dating relationship etc thing. To many women in the Church are wanting material thing's and that is what they look for in a partner. If you can't measure up worldy than its game over. Store your treasures in Heaven.... so many scriptures I can point out but there is no point anymore. People don't really listen. To have a husband or a wife does NOT mean have a good job or whatever. Many will disagree. But search the scriptures and you will eventually know it to be true. There are many scriptures that seem to support wealth and taking care of a family financially. But that isn't the case. In the eriginal language that is not what it says. If you only pick one line of scripture you can make it to say or mean anything basically and this is where corrupt teaching happens and people hear and get wrong info.
I broke up with someone of 2 years because of constant fornication. We tried to find a better way of handling it by keeping God first, but in reality we could not keep our hands to ourselves. I am broken after hearing this because I feel like an idiot, but I didn't want a reprobate mind. I was passionate with this person but it is too late. I do not want to go back to fornication, sexual immorality, but I do want to share that part of me with my wife. I want marriage. I am 22. I do not know how to deal with the guilt of making it seem like I was more righteous than her. That is what she said. I told her that was not the case, I just didn't want to continue habitually sin. Please, anyone, I need advice or some good news. Hope.
Please brother, talk to your pastor. That is my best advice in complex situations like that.
Dumb question, but the Bible does say it's better to marry than burn with passion. Was marrying her not an option?
Really put God first, as it sounds like you are doing, and abstain. If you've repented to God and the other person, then trust in Him for freedom from guilt and shame. If/when you date again, have some good Christian brothers hold you accountable and don't be alone at your place or the woman's place...avoid temptation, flee from it. Date with intention by saying up front it's for marriage and "I'm saving sex for marriage." I eliminated a few so-called Christian guys with that bc they were after sex. Blessed are the pure in heart (Matthew 5:8) and store up the Word of God in your heart that you may not sin against Him (Psalm 119:11).
I remember being this miserable, crying until the dawn of morning over things that I’ve committed by just looking myself in the mirror and admiring myself, became an “idol” thinking that I was beautiful or taking too many glances, used to literally tear me down, I’m now deconstructing and I’m slowly becoming free 😂, had never fornicated had never never drank, but still same old conviction it’s like nitpicking, every single thing that was not hundred percent fixated on God it was torture, I was consistently worried about going to hell because of secret “idol” worship like oh my Lord no, and when I begged God for help to cleanse, need to make me perfect for him he did nothing. He didn’t even allow me to have peace I asked him for help overcome.
@@NerdilyDone it’s not dumb, bro. It was an option but her dad was not a anting me to marry her at that time since we were getting out of school and everything. I wanted to keep going and try, but it just kept hurting and we couldn’t stop. I will say, and I should have added, she told me get out of the Bible and start being in the real world.
I did it so that she may know Christ, not saying my action of breaking up with her saves her, but it shows how serious I am and how I was desperate for forgiveness.
Look at you being so successful at 24
I’m so happy that you found the one 😂😂, I’ve been a subscriber for a while now since my teens and used to pray for a man like you Cause you seem wise and at least by Christian standards fairly good spiritual leader, but currently I’m deconstructing and realizing marriage used to be an obsession of mine. I eventually got over it within the time I was Christian at the time I called it an idol , but then realize that I don’t really want to get married. I don’t want to have kids in my early 20s I’m just not mature. Plus the prefrontal cortex develops 25 plus statistics don’t lie the younger you marry, the more likely you are to divorce, most people are just fresh out of the nest and getting married is not a good idea. You don’t really know what you want. You don’t really understand the world and yourself. Are you ready to parent not to pop out a child but to parent having a human being you’re bringing up,plus I also realized I don’t really want to be in a relationship with a man At this moment at all, and also OK with the prospect of not ever being married or having codependence on any person romantically I feel free, because the way I used to consistently cry and worry that I’ll never have a husband or the world will end by that time or just general the state of this generation would prevent me from finding a proper suitor that God would be happy with was one of my common stresses 😂😂, anyway much love on your marriage. I wish y’all the best.
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It’s actually not entirely true that younger people are more likely to get divorced. What the data actually shows is that there’s a “sweet spot” and that as you get farther from the “ideal age,” (either older or younger than the “ideal” marriage age, you are increasingly likely to get divorced.
Most studies show that the age people get married that has the lowest possibility of divorce is around 26-28. And as you get either older or younger from that age, the chances of divorce goes up. So someone who gets married as a nineteen year old has roughly the same probability of getting divorced as someone who got married at age 35. And so on.
Getting married older is not always a good thing, nor does it lower your chances of divorce. There’s a perfect medium for many things.
@@McGheeBentle so you just didn’t disprove anything most Christians tell people to get married fresh out of high school or college but notice how the sweet spot is after your prefrontal cortex has developed I never said you should get married in your 60s but plus even though younger will still be more likely to be divorced than older it’s not an equal thing, plus the statistics for 35 and on are skewed by second marriages
@@Bri-rw7ik I’m not here to prove or disprove anything. I just want people to understand what the data actually says, not what they think the data says. Just your local scientist trying to educate others!
Why can't I like this video somehow 🤔 Anyways here's a comment for the algorithm 😅
Amen!!!
marriage is ALL about finances...nothing else. marrying young is a financially stupid decision if you are not rich. this has got nothing to do with "trying different people", or "leading them spiritually". Only finances and logistics, if we are really being honest.
late marriage: a case study in the moral evil of contraceptives
And also longer marriages and less divorce 😂😂, statistically people who are married younger are more likely to divorce so yes, it’s a blessing to allow peoples front of prefrontal cortex to develop so they don’t write shortsighted comments like this 😂😂
i dont think you see the irony in your own comment
@@bobthebuildest6828 enlighten me On the irony ?
@Bri-rw7ik this is only true if they can still maintain abstinence before they marry. Divorce rates rise the more sexual partners a person has had, and that seems to be especially true for women.
@@CuriousGeorge13 you see this type of especially for “women” you could’ve left that at all but it seems that the misogyny from the scriptures in which you read is spewing, I don’t really think that it’s a sex necessarily that is causing that more of the reasons to why this person is having many sexual partners it could be a symptom of something else, but this type of rhetoric plus it’s irrelevant what I was talking about which is age…
A big Mistake.
What branch of Christianity are you
I’m pretty sure he’s non-denominational. Haven’t heard him say otherwise 🤷♂️
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If it doesn’t happen by 30, it never will. God is pretty indifferent about it all. If you’re not married, it’s your fault. I accept full responsibility for everything I never became and everything I don’t have.
People got married young cuz they were more mature. My grandpa worked at 7 years old and traveled around the country at 14. Right now, people are so STUPID
What is your advice to a young couple engaged to each other and are just beginning their journey to Christ? My fiancé and I are engaged I’m 25 and he’s 30, and we’re set to get married next year. I’m introducing these videos to him and I’m hoping he’s having a change of heart, but what do you think about the two of us walking together?