7 months corn free. my life has completely changed. im not thinking about sex every waking moment anymore. most of my corn induced fetishes have subsided. i feel free.
@@KevinOkonkwo if you have corn brain you literally have to avoid anything that triggers you for a few months. I stopped going to the gym and just did body weight exercises at home. You just have to break the addiction. Once you've gone without corn for a few months you will think about it less and less. I can now go to the gym where women go half naked and not immediately think about corn and masturbation. Hope that helps.
The enemy tries to taint all gifts from God. Food can become gluttony. Drinks can become alcoholism. Provision can become greed. Sex can become lust. Actually, lust can be for anything you want. You can lust for money or power or others' approval, etc. Anything good from above can be turned into something bad if we lose focus and put the gift above the Giver.
Lust is not sinful when its directed at your wife or husband. Sex can become an addiction where we dont see the person God created but just an object we can satisfy our lust
@@IramCoercere Based on what most people define lust as, you're right. Lust is actually an unhealthy desire for something and isn't limited to sex. I think what you described shows how lust can be harmful, even for a spouse.
YEAH because secular media loves to portray the “shy good girl falls for emotionally unavailable abusive bad boy” trope….and look where that’s gotten us :/
@@afrofaerieson the other hand, non-secular media teaches people that a book says something so that automatically makes it true, so damage can be done both ways
It’s so damaging and it’s heavily glorified. It should be illegal.. 1 Corinthians 6:13b “However, the body is not for sexual immorality but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body” Matthew 5:28 “But I tell you, everyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”
There's research goofy. What do you gain from obsessively playing devils advocate under every single comment? You're at it like it's your fulltime job or something...@@roscowbrown3937
As a male Christian, I've watched a lot of bad movies and corn as well and it distorted my mind and I feel guilty every time I see young girls trying to find attraction by exposing themselves and it's bodies thats not reality rather than HollyWEIRD. I pray and I desire to be with someone whom I want to be with someday, mentioning I don't want to play games and my intentions are meant to be cleared. I desire someone who loves God and doesn't love the world. I don't need to be in the position of recreational dating and texting girls nice things (selfishly) like I'm a little kid. I don't care about ratings if that person is a 10/10 and God loves the person whom they created as their masterpiece. Undervaluing someone is saying their value is much less of your value and they're not important to you. Which is not true because every person is important and no one should be undermined by their appearance because that person whom God may put you with won't meet all your needs but its staying true with your intentions and your love toward the person that will make the relationship stronger. Read your Bible and pray as well if that's your desire to be in a relationship or if you're already in one help iron sharpen iron.
I’m also Christian but I at least want to be attracted to the person I’m with But I learned looks don’t matter that much, she’s an 8-9 for me I prefer SLIGHLY chubby women lol It’s hated but idk
As a woman, THANK YOU. I used I have an app called “Tumblr” since I wasn’t allowed to have insta. Since its a social media app of course it ended up having a lot of photos of girls wearing very revealing lingerie. When I saw how the photos made our bodies looked my jaw DROPPED. HEAVILY edited. And my first thought was, “Women’s bodies do NOT look like that!” And then I realized, great, now men are going to have a disgusted reaction when seeing a REAL woman’s body thanks to the pornography industry 😑 Thank you so much for telling men that is NOT how we really look and that pornographic content (including instagram models) is just hurting themselves and real women.
Most men that I know both understand this and are not attracted to it. The men posting how real women are mid are the men that are 2s in real life and just spend all day online.
@@Dominicus13unfortunately though with all these kids growing up chronically online, the newer generation are going to have a harder time differentiating the real and fake. I worry about this aspect of it the most.
As a teen, I love hearing your perspective on what's happening in the world right now. Loud and clear with lots of understanding as you make it. I know you must work really hard and thought that I should let you know that you're helping me if nothing else you're making a difference in my life.
I always thought the same thing the person Is either attractive or not , there is no In between. Whenever I thought someone was attractive automatically they were a 10 to me regardless.
This is so helpful! I can speak to the reality of this change in mindset because it is something God is doing in me right now! Please pray for me as I seek to honor the Lord by "watching" and "praying".
Another excellent video brother. Simple truth, spoken kindly to the Body of Christ. Sexual attraction is not wrong, and is important in a relationship, so long as it is a correct, Christ centered, healthy attraction. (Not distorted by corn, social media, or sin.)
I really can’t relate to this at all. I never found the fake photoshopped women attractive. Even before I found Jesus and lived a significantly more corrupt lifestyle neither corn nor social media really affected what I found attractive.
I'm thankful that my mind has always been one of variety, there are things that attract me in a woman like how long her hair is or how cute her face is... But I've always been able to love the girls I've been with for how they were without demanding more than them loving me.
I like how you didn't dismiss the need to evaluate where you are attractiveness wise. There is wisdom in having more information about where you are. Like yes shoot for the moon but have the correct expectations on what you can do.
Taking this advice was easily the best thing I did (for how I percieve real women and relationships). Honestly, the mental state is as clear as night and day. This shift has also benefited my relationship with God too. Being able to see women as daughters of the most high and in the image of God. Their true natural beauty that God gave them. I can now find true beauty attractive, but the msot attractive thing is thei submission to Christ. I can testify that eventually their physical attraction is far outweighed by their Spiritual walk with and their Spiritual beauty. Never undestimate that!! Wanted to share for my brothers in Christ, don't lose hop. Stay in submission to God, revere and be in awe (fear) of the Lord always, and be a willing and obedient servant of Him. He will set you free and restore that pure Godly view again!
Nah I've tried dating people I'm not that attracted too and it would get so boring and I wouldn't want to touch them anymore. I need someone really good looking. But usually they arnt good partners haha havnt found someone who has both other than myself haha need to date someone with the same attraction level.. and I'm a straight 9 without make up so its hard to find.
Just saying bros I find all the friends I'm close to pretty/handsome And there was this one girl I didn't find pretty at first and then later found her gorgeous because of how close to her I became Go get yourself some real ones, brother, corn is way worse than love in every way and it ruins love
I gave up corn 2 years ago just before becoming a Christian. My then girlfriend (now wife) gave me an ultimatum and I chose to love her rather than my fleshly desires. I was cheating on her with cornography for years while we dated and it is still my biggest regret. I wish all the desires would leave my body but that temptation is definitely still a struggle sometimes but I remain faithful to my wife for Christs sake. Personal rant here but honestly I don’t know why my wife stayed with me. She was raised Christian and I was definitely not. We lived in sin together for a year and I was definitely not being a good influence on her or even good to her at all in any way. But Jesus worked through my wife to steer me towards him and now I can happily say we are both lovers of Christ and growing every day. I know I’m forgiven but I still feel like crap often for lusting after other women while we were dating
"you need to be honest about your level of attractiveness" said the Nine to the Seven. Is this why Seven ate Nine? Jokes aside, I am a first time viewer, I will be watching more.
Cool, i think i understand what you were saying. i just don't agree. I'll try to give some examples. 1. I have female friends at work, but most are in relationships. So i never approach them for that reason, not to mention the way the laws are biased against men. I really don't want to get into the "red pill" stuff since most followers of christ just want to ignore the facts about marriage. Basically, they want us to simp and marry all the undateable women we have deal with. 2. Im not super attractive, i think. It's probably like a 4 or so. However, i get way more attention from single mothers at work than i want. It's really exhausting, these women aren't attracted to me they just want my money. There was a good example of my co-worker had relationships with 3 men at the time, and she wanted me and my money. I just ignored her, i found her sorta attractive. I just wasn't comfortable with what i know she wanted. By the way, she also had a 16-year-old son who worked with us for a bit. 3. I did like this other girl at work who was nice to me, but she had a boyfriend so i never tried anything with her. We were just good friends, i tried to talk to her about her problems. Sadly, that didn't work. She left our job to move somewhere else, i think. Later on, a few months later, my boss came over to me in the middle of my shift. She says you remember her? I said i do. She then told me they had passed away from a drug overdose. I just thought, why would this happen? She never told me about that, i haven't forgot her since. I prayed that she is received in heaven. Although i was sad and angry that someone else i liked had died. 4. I met a girl at school way back when and did everything i could to keep a relationship with her. It just was never enough, and half the time, i thought i was never good enough for her. Since she spent a lot of her time sleeping with other people, i was happy just with her, but she wasn't. I won't go into why she had issues. it's not my place to say. Essentially, you could say i was a simp, but the relationship never worked out for me. I dealt with till a little while after high school, then she asked to buy my car from me. Which i had just inherited from my dad when he passed away. I told her yes, since i still wanted to help her out and felt bad for her despite everything. I never saw her again. She passed away 2 years ago. 5. I'm glad there are people in the world that have good lives with god present in them. I have a few good friends who are christian, who have helped me a bit. I just never felt like i belonged with any of them, im not sure im supposed to exist.
I have a question. What's your advice for Young christian man That are Waiting for marriage ( I should say i'm done waiting for marriage, really) I am twenty-two years old, and i've never had a girlfriend or been in a relationship. With a girl( I'm Autistic so it has hindered my life for a very long time, and it hindered me from going places to meet girls) And I have always hated being a Virgin for a long time.And this has been going back-and-forth in my mind.For many year since I became a christian when I Was 15 years old. It Has drove me crazy over the years I get so sick of being alone. So sick of not being in a relationship. Even last night I just felt so empty. Inside and just wanted. To be in a relationship but I do have to say I probably wouldn't marry a christian girl or be in a relationship with one Because they're not marriage material The same thing goes with most modern women in the culture in the west Even among conservative girls I'd have more luck if I married a buddhist a hindu or muslim
In the bible it says something about to not be in a relationship with an unbeliever ( Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? 2 Corinthians 6:14) because both people who are Christians are united as one flesh together in a marriage. I'm Autistic too and I stopped looking or chasing after girls since the majority of them are fakes in my opinion and I had too many of them. All I can say is pray for your future spouse to come and read your Bible constantly. I may not like myself being Autistic but I have to move pass that to engage more with other friends and it's okay to get your feelings out. I feel the same way but I'm in no hurry. Remind yourself you are loved by a loving God and by friends and family around you. I recommend you to not chase after people In other religions because they lead you on a dangerous path of not believing God is not real along with believing their religion will get you into a different afterlife but with someone who has christ like attributes is your best bet.
Im sorry man Im in the same boat in some ways but I think the mentality your holding isn’t a healthy one. I cant say much for the virgin thing as I cant exactly relate to the “urge” or whatever. but its best to let things happen how they happen, rather then to force what you want (Ive been there :( Im not sure what women you’ve been running into tho.. but best not to generalize it’s also not a good habit. Goodluck hopefully Mike answers more properly for ya. Hang in there your not alone
@djashovel Trust in the Lord. I understand that waiting can be so difficult, but jumping into relationship which God does not approve of would be even worse, so please be patient. I will pray for you. Also, please do not believe the lie that a non-christian woman will be better for you than a Christian woman. The Bible makes it clear than unbelievers are living in rebellion against God and that they are children of the devil. Of course there are sadly people who call themselves Christians and yet don't behave in a Godly manner, but this doesn't mean that there aren't genuinely Godly women in your state. Pray to the Lord to send such a person to you. He's more than capable of doing so. I pray the Lord would prepare you to be a good husband and give you the patience to endure this period of singleness with joy 🙏🏽
Lust is a sin and from a moral standpoint is the same as greed or gluttony. It is a desire thats so selfish that you will put them above the well being of the purpose. True godly just sexual desires are to give your self as a gift and please the other person and you also receive pleasure in giving pleasure. Desire is an urge to give and lust is a desire to take/use. They both involve pleasure but one is loving and selfless the other is selfish and cruel. Lust is always a sin, sexual desire is not.
I thing focus is mostly put on men. But that is wrong. But women also have wrong focus on attraction. We are all just too much focused on physical appearance. Let's say someone is really really ugly. But he is an amazing humble loving man of God. Does that mean that no matter how much he prays and wants marriage he will never get married?
no, because if God wants him to be married looks won't change that. that doesn't mean a girl is wrong for not finding him attractive, it's not a sin to be honest with yourself. She can be respectful, treat him in a godly way and still not want him. And also keep in mind, someone one person may not find attractive, another will. FYI I'm a guy. It doesn't help to use extreme examples in cases like this.
I hear you, but I think the main focus is on men, because women are judged for their appearance a lot more. Men are *more* visual than women. There’s even studies about the importance of looks for a woman‘s career (over a degree), which, in comparison, isn’t even a factor for men. We also see that very attractive women are consistently seen with less attractive or even unattractive men (physically), but the reverse isn’t seen nearly much. The devil has been working hard, and I think men could play an important role in affirming women the way God created them. But in order to do that, men also need to come out of the world and renew their sight - which starts by not consuming perversions and distortions.
I’d also say that the women’s equivalent to this isn’t necessarily looks, but money. Women these days are a more susceptible to the Jezebel spirit. Hurt, rejection and secular music open a portal to demons, similarly to how rejection, loneliness, porn and IG etc. open those portals for men. It’s important to remember that we’re all fighting a spiritual war. We all want love, and even attractive and rich people can feel empty and lonely, because the devil will find a way unless we stay close to God, feel content in Him. God will bless us with spouses if it’s meant to be🙏🏽
@@itsbeeva Exactly. I agree. Our brains are too much formed by "corn" And i just want to share my experience. When i live in sin and watch corn, i want to see the most attractive women. But when i repent and spend time with Jesus and go deep in His word and start to truly live by the Spirit i just find more and more "normal" natural women attractive and i just want so much a woman that has a lot of fruit of Spirit. And that becomes so much more important to me than looks..
Porn is a problem that should be greatly subdued, we wont ever get rid of porn for good. We also should address that if we look at ANYTHING that distorts reality that also sparks a sinful desire, we are poisoning ourselves. Envy is a subtle sin that can be hard to notice. Don't ask me how I know :)
@@ethanmiller5487 I mean, many places, but we can start with the Passion, a man savagely loses his l!fe, the just wakes up days later, that same man walked up water and turned into wine
Nothing to do with porn, once again, attraction is important but also films, photos and magazines are made ro be this way this has nothing to do with a problem sexualising preference
Hi i have some things to say. I'm suffering from DPDR for 9 months now. If you don't know what it is, it's a anxiety state where you question your existence and your sourroundings. Basically you don't feel like you are real, like you are a human being. So, i feel like my live lost any meaning for me and i'm just wondering around and try to stay calm and try to fight it.. But at the same time when i'm questioning myself and surroundings, i'm questioning the existance of God. I know that i should put my faith in Christ but when i don't even feel myself i can't put myself on fire for him. I'm praying but it does not help. My family life is pretty much comming to an end, I don't feel like i can do this anymore. I don't really know if i'm suicidal or i'm just obsessing over suicidal thoughts. I work out at the gym a few times in a week but still ,because of constant stress, i make near to no progress. I don't want to treat my problems with some antidepressants and be fully dependent on it. I feel like there is other way but i haven't found it yet. I'm writing this here because the title says that sexual attraction is screwed up by the world andd that is true, but i feel like every part of my life is screwed by todays world and I FEEL LIKE WE ARE LIVING IN A BIG PILE OF LIES. EVERYTHING IS FAKE I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO. You do something... naah bro it is wrong, you do that naah this is wrong. I can't find one thing that feels right in this world. Can some good soul give me some advice because i really don't want to end my life and i know that i can get out of it. God bless
I think I'm in a very similar situation. I don't have DPDR, but the other situations are nearly the same. Eroding family, not-really-but-somewhat suicidal, and the stress And honestly, I'm not fully sure how I deal with it. I just try and take it one day at a time. But if I could offer some advice, I would say to read a little bit of the Bible every day. Few verses, few minutes, doesn't matter, just read and think about what you read meant. Online guides could also help. There were several times where I was having horrid days, but after reading and praying, I had a little more peace. Also, I wouldn't recommend fully limiting yourself to never using antidepressants. I think it's okay to use them to help, just so long as it doesn't become a dependency. I hope this helped. I'm not the best at giving advice, but I wanted to try and help in any way I could
@@erb9956I know everything may not feel real, but know God is real. Seek the Lord will all your heart and don’t give up. Please don’t end your life because I know God has a plan for you and loves you enough to send Jesus to die for you so that you can be saved. You have a purpose and no matter how fake everything feels push through. Put your faith in Jesus and repent of your sins and confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and be baptized in the name of The Father, Son (The Son is Jesus), and The Holy Spirit and when you are saved through Jesus you get the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit helps us, will never abandon us, and guides us. Putting your faith in Jesus even if it is hard is the best thing you can do. I love you and I know God loves you and God has a sacrificial love for all of us.
God is real. Be still and know that. Once you know that, realize that Jesus is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. Believe it. Let His life teach you what is true. Do the things He did. Think the way He thought. Try to love the way He loved. Believe He has eternal reward for those who follow Him. The hardships you endure well for His Name and His Kingdom will produce an eternal weight of glory. This life is a whisper and hardship is momentary. The devil is a liar and he desires to steal, kill, and destroy. He wants you to curse God and die. He is hopeless and jealous of all the hope you have of a great eternity. He wants God to miss out on the unique relationship that God desires with you. God only made one of you. He will never have another. He loves you and desires to be close friends with you. Any distance between the two of you is not because of Him. There is nowhere on Earth to go from His presence. He will not abide intimately with darkness. Believe in Jesus' sacrifice on your behalf, repent and be cleaned. Approach God with humility as a child. Trust His love. He hates sin because it hurts people for now and ongoing generations. It's effects are far and wide, time will prove it. Because God loves all people, He hates it when we hurt one another and are arrogant toward one another. Much depression comes from guilt. If you have even 1% guilt in a matter, repent and make things right. Severe depression can be helped with medication. It might help get you to a point of making better decisions faster. They are a tool. I recommend hitting it from every angle: repentance, prayer for healing by the elders, reading God's Word, learn some verses that speak to the good things you'd like to build in your life, wise counselor/s, sunshine, healthy eating, excersise, vitamins, time with friends (if you have none, work on that with the counselor), and sometimes medication (which doesn't have to be permanent, especially if you are putting new good habits in your life). Give yourself time to work on you and your relationship with God. Life falls into place when that is healthy. Yes, storms still come but you have the faith to carry you through them and you realize that in Christ, a storm can only push you to where you need to be next.
I know it sounds cheesy and it sounds like it won't help but try going on a long walk. It's best in a more rural area but just getting out of the house is good. Your main focus should be calming your mind and looking at the trees and nature. When you can see reality all around you then it makes the argument for its existence much stronger. Look, feel, smell, and hear and try to break away from all the fake-ness we find on these stupid screens. This also sounds cheesy, but try looking at what you eat and how much you sleep, especially if you are consuming a lot of caffeine. Stuff like that just throws you out of wack and screws up your mental state. Also, analyze your rest. If what you do to unwind or try to distract yourself from the stress is something fake or simulated like tv, social media, video games or anything else like that then it won't help you. Try to pick little projects around the house that will give you some purpose or satisfaction in completing. If you're procrastinating anything then try to get that knocked out or just try working on it until a designated time before you end your "work mode" for the day. The more concrete your separation between work and play the more proper rhythm your life will have. Finally, just experiment around with different methods of cementing your beliefs in reality. If talking to people isn't too stressful then try that too, and always be reading your Bible, going to church and living in a mindset of prayer. God bless you and I'll be praying for you.
Sin will happen as our human nature, just do your best to treat yourself the way God wants to you, and do your best to repent when you inevitably sin. It’s tough, it’s rough and ultimately it’s tricky, but we’re told ourselves that we’re sheep. Imperfect sheep, looking towards our shepherd, being guided, though we’re flawed.
You should desire her but be taking you thoughts captive and honoring her as a fellow heir of Christ (hypothetically speaking). If you are marrying for lust, call it off. If you can't contain your desire for her, make it a short engagement. If she's your fiance, you've already decided to marry. Go to the JP and throw a party afterwards.
Lust is always a sin, before or after marriage. In essence it describes an uncontrollable desire to use another person in order to justify your sexual urges. The original meaning of sex is that of unity, spouses give themselves to each other in a respectful and loving way. That means seeing her as a person first and foremost and always respecting her boundaries. Of course, feeling desire for sex is normal, that’s how God created us. But it should never take control over our values and convictions or skew our perception of how we view other people. That’s how I understand it (not married).
This is the good news of the gospel that through Jesus Christ we have eternal redemption through His blood as a gift by God's grace (not by our own efforts), granting eternal life freely to all who believe in His name. We have this hope in Him because He is risen from the dead. Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved. Romans 6:23 For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.
My thing is if good looks are important than why do looks fade as we age? As you and your wife get older you gonna be looking at a wrinkly face wrinkly breasts as she may see something else wrinkly don’t always work always work all the time, but your love for one another remains the same.
Everything fades with age, the strength you were blessed from God in your youth, your looks, even your mind capacity. Thats not an good argument to remove looks from the dating equation
VERY disappointed with this video. In our oversexualized culture there is perhaps one thing I hate more than expression “body count” - and it’s rating people’s appearances on a scale 1-10. Not only is it disrespectful to people, but it’s also utterly moronic. Just look at your ex’s pictures and see if you would rate her as high as in the beginning of the relationship. Married couples often go through periods where they no longer feel attracted to each other, and that’s part of life (love is an action; not a feeling). So the way you rate the same member of the opposite sex will be inconsistent. So when guys say “she’s a 7” the number is not actually attached to her, it’s only a rating of this guys perception of her attractiveness at the given moment. And the fact that he made a conscious choice of saying this out loud, actually speaks more about him than the girl he’s rating. Because everyone knows that it’s subjective. There will be more than enough guys for that girl that will rate her a 10. Or better yet, they won’t rate her at all and make a move because they find her attractive, period. Now, Christians should more than any other group know that a person made in the image of God includes more than physical attributes. Which is why we should NEVER rate women or guys on a scale 1-10. We don’t see other people as objects like they do in the world, we see them as children of God. Daily Disciple was right emphasizing the words “in the culture” when he said “… a woman who, as they would say in the culture, is a 10”. But then he proceeded to undercut his own effort entirely when he said “…and you’re a guy who is 6 or 7” thus giving validity to this worldly thing of rating people on their appearances. To clarify, Im not offended. I don’t have a problem with my physical appearance. But I know that there is a lot of people who do. To the point where they are suicidal. And they are wonderful people who were sadly swayed by other people’s opinions or the cultural trends. It’s a serious problem in our narcissistic society where we think about ourselves first and other people later. A lot of teenage girls are struggling a lot nowadays because of the problem Daily Disciple described with the social media. So while I agree with some of the main points in this video, I cringed very hard when I heard “if you’re 6 or 7” - perhaps more than during any other Christian video I’ve recently watched. A great resource when it comes to learning about the true value of human beings as opposed to the “1-10 scale rating” is something AscensionPresents released recently - it’s a video course called “Theology of the Body Crash Course” and you can find the first video on RUclips, it’s about 54 minutes long. The rest are available on their website for free. I know majority of people here are not Catholics (neither am I) but I promise you won’t regret giving these videos a watch. It ties nicely with the content of this video but goes into the issue in a much deeper and better structured way.
I think the problem isn't him using the rating scale, but discerning the difference between physical attractiveness and value. We need to learn that even if we may not be attractive to someone, we still have value. Likewise, we may not be attracted to someone, we might not even want to date them and that's fine, but they still have value and should be respected, if anything as a neighbor.
@@roscowbrown3937 Why are you out here trying to start fights? If you really didn't believe in God then why do you care that we do? Do you get satisfaction from stripping the meaning out of people's lives? Honestly I feel sorry for you and I will be praying for you. If you really think it all just fades to black in the end, and here's hoping you don't, then please just let us worship God and encourage each other in peace.
@@ruebenblack3495 which one of us is condemning corn? … because you’re making an accusation that somebody is picking fights, so was I attacking corn? Or was that you and the guy who made this video?
@@roscowbrown3937 Man, this is really silly. Sorry if I wasted your time. I was just kinda annoyed at how you were randomly attacking theism as a response to me condemning corn. So I thought you were trying to get in a debate online. Sorry I'm also sorry but I can't understand what you were trying to prove in that last response. Have a blessed day 👍
@@ruebenblack3495 just about everybody here is condemning corn for theistic reasons, or believe in theism at the very least… so I was just pointing the double-standard out in people condemning corn while not condemning Scripture
Loneliness is the price to pay for such warped standards and for those who think they would be fine for the rest of their lives alone, take it from me who suffers from chronic loneliness, it will get to you!
As handsome people we have options but ugly people only have cornn modern women wont consider 5s on down much less a 1 or 2 so do those guys get a cornn pass? I say its better to give up lust but me personally im addictied and wont try to quit until marriage (at least thats how i feel right now) and i feel normal for that
quit before marriage. It doesn't help a lust issue, it only amplifies it. And western women aren't that bad, even in the modern age, the internet just makes it seem so.
I'm sorry to hear of your addiction. I can't promise you that you will ever marry.. I can promise you that if you seek, with God's help, to give up lust and corn, you will have a greater capacity to know and love God. Do you know according to Ephesians 5, that marriage is a picture that points to a more profound mystery of how Christ will become one with his Church? We will one day be able to have a more joy-filled and deeper relationship with Christ, than any man on this earth ever had in a romantic or sexual relationship.
Go to the book of Exodus to Deuteronomy. That will answer your question. The Israelite women were given to a man for marriage by their family. It never said anything how hot someone is. All of that comes after being with the person. Attraction comes after the union.
Uh........... you don't remember all those verses stating how beautiful many of those women were? Job's daughters were the most beautiful in the land. Rebekah was beautiful. Sarai/Sarah was very beautiful. There are many more........
@@ModelJames13 that's just two people, not everybody. Also, who says their beauty standards were the same? Everyone was covered up not wearing cleavage. Only the prostitutes did
But most of these women are real. They work hard to make their bodies perfect. Back in the Bible days people ate right and worked hard and the body you see on these men and women on Instagram, are what God intended our bodies to look like. (except the body builders maybe) The American diet of fried food, breads, pasta, soda and oversize meals and sitting in front of a computer or TV all day has created a horribly unhealthy body and lifestyle and it is not attractive. Now I agree some of the super models are changed in Photoshop, but the fact that a woman works out hard and eats healthy does make her attractive. I am not addressing porn in this because that is just a sick evil thing. But women who care about their body and their looks are very attractive, and God wants us to take care of what he gave us. Our body is a temple and we are supposed to take care of it. This modern idea of Anything is ok is wrong. When people let themselves go, the body suffers from joint issues, high blood pressure, diabetes, etc. Most men and women who take care of themselves working out and eating right do not suffer from any of these health issues. To me that is what God intended by giving us this temple to live in and take care of. No not everyone will be a Super model and that is also how God created us all different. But for you to tell me that because I enjoy an Instagram model who is in size 0 or 1 tight jeans and a nice blouse with pretty make up and nice long hair is wrong and I should also appreciate the woman who sits eating fried chicken and fries with cake watching TV and is in much bigger pants because she is "real" is confusing to me. She is not healthy, and not taking care of her body, the temple she was given. Again, I am not saying every woman needs to be a size 0. On the other hand women and men like what they like in the opposite sex. There are men who like heavy curvy women just as there are men like me who only find skinny attractive. You and I do not agree on this but my point is, I was raised in a Christian church all of my childhood and I had an Obese mother. I didn't even notice Instagram until much later in life, and even as a teen I found skinny women with long hair attractive. I Am not saying you are 100% wrong here either. Especially on the porn stuff. But I get really irritated when someone says "that woman is not real" or she is "unrealistic" just because she has the discipline to eat right, work out and turn down the soda and cake or cookies. The only women who are not real are the ones who have been put through Photoshop for porn magazines etc. But even so, Photoshop has limitations as to what can be done. So unless they put a different body under the girl's head, she still has worked hard and has discipline to take care of herself. Again, I am not defending porn stuff. That is a satanic strong hold that the Devil warps peoples mind with. No argument there. I am curious about your take on my point of view on this. And lets pray for each other that god will open our eyes to the truth in this. If I am wrong, as a man of God I will accept the holy spirit showing me that I am wrong. Hope you have a great day.
I'm not saying all the time, but they very often have had work done to them, and not just Photoshop.. another fact is, often what you dont see is the unhealthy lifestyle that happens behind the scenes to maintain such a bodyweight, often starving and just unhealthy practices. Yeah, there are some that do it in a healthy way, but to follow multiple skinny models thinking they just stay healthy is just staying blind to the reality. Dont get me wrong, as a natural skinny guy I prefer the same from a female, but the ideal put forth on Instagram is neither healthy or natural in probably 70-90% of cases🤷♂️
You don't need to go back in time to see what people back in the Bible probably looked like, and I can assure you they didn't look like Instagram models (at least not the average person, there were a few exceptions mentioned in the Bible of people who were unusually attractive or tall or strong, like David and Saul). Just look at any modern rural/poorer societies where they still predominately work outdoors/do manual labor. And no, people back then didn't "eat right" a lot of the time, they ate what was available. People in modern developed nations have much better nutritional access than they did, unless eating right just means not eating too much to you (which judging by your story could be the case, which seems to be skewing your views here a bit). Generally people in those poorer nations look mostly the same as developed nations (even the US, not counting severely overweight), though less healthy in other ways. Most people throughout history did not have the necessary nutrients (do you have any idea how much protein it takes to build lots of muscle?) to look like fitness nuts do today, they were strong and had more endurance than those people probably, but they looked relatively "normal" still. So yeah, Issac's point about unrealistic standards is dead on. And like the guy before me said, lots of these Instagram models have unnatural work done to themselves, eat unhealthily, and do photoshop their pictures. So, yep - most of these Instagram models do not represent "real women" in a real sense, this is totally different than calling fitness trainers or fit women fake, though most fitness trainers and health-conscious women don't look like these Instagram/TikTok influencers if you've ever gone outside and come across any in real life. They usually just look like normal women with more muscle mass/leaner/more toned.
I also find it strange how you mention "enjoying" an instagram model online, and I think it speaks directly to Issac's point about how men should be careful what they allow into their minds. The only woman you should sit and enjoy gazing at, or looking at should be your wife or perhaps your significant other (in a non-lustful way). There's a difference between appreciating an attractive woman, and purposefully following/searching for those women to satisfy yourself or for some kind of enjoyment. That mindset is a gateway to some very dangerous things, trust me on that from experience.
Women can be very attractive and still set false standards by using filters and editing a lot. - And if you are chronically online, which a lot of young people are, you’ll get used to people being flawless, which isn’t healthy for your interactions with women in person.
You are right OP to a point! Im in my 30s. Married, 5 kids and still am the petite fit and shapely body i had when i was a fitness girl. I have a healthy bmi and body fat percentage in the lean healthy range. However others keep saying im not a normal mother and i should have some soft fluff on me. However the "normal " women they point to are objectively overweight and unhealthy with a borderline obese body fat percentage. We are supposed to care for the bodies god gave us. All that being said though, many of the models in fitness or swimsuit models have BMI below 18 which is annorexic and dangerous. They are infertile annd have no periods because of it. Thats harming your body, not caring for it. But because we see it in magazines and Instagram we think its normal and healthy when its not. Its self abuse just like being overweight. So yes the average female body is not healthy in the US, but also most of the swimsuit models or VS models are also dangerously low in body fat and estrogen and that shouldn't be held up as the ideal either. Getting so lean we become infertile is rejecting the bodies god gave us as women. Our fertility is a sacred gift we must protect and care for.
@@themiataboy909 the only way a man gets it up is bc you want to penetrate,, that is inherently lustful. There is no denying that lust starts the baby making process.
@@sofiabravo1994 no love has nothing to do with sex. Sex is lustful pleasure. Now you can offer sex as a form of love but the act of sex isnt love its self gradification
7 months corn free. my life has completely changed. im not thinking about sex every waking moment anymore. most of my corn induced fetishes have subsided. i feel free.
Amen brother
top 10 advice go -
@@KevinOkonkwo if you have corn brain you literally have to avoid anything that triggers you for a few months. I stopped going to the gym and just did body weight exercises at home. You just have to break the addiction. Once you've gone without corn for a few months you will think about it less and less. I can now go to the gym where women go half naked and not immediately think about corn and masturbation. Hope that helps.
Same 🎉🎉🎉🎉
What are your thoughts about what day the Sabbath is?
The enemy tries to taint all gifts from God.
Food can become gluttony. Drinks can become alcoholism. Provision can become greed. Sex can become lust.
Actually, lust can be for anything you want. You can lust for money or power or others' approval, etc.
Anything good from above can be turned into something bad if we lose focus and put the gift above the Giver.
Lust is not sinful when its directed at your wife or husband. Sex can become an addiction where we dont see the person God created but just an object we can satisfy our lust
@@IramCoercere Based on what most people define lust as, you're right. Lust is actually an unhealthy desire for something and isn't limited to sex. I think what you described shows how lust can be harmful, even for a spouse.
🙂It is an issue of women as well. It is not just about looks but we also have been brainwashed to like the wrong personality traits...
YEAH because secular media loves to portray the “shy good girl falls for emotionally unavailable abusive bad boy” trope….and look where that’s gotten us :/
@@afrofaerieson the other hand, non-secular media teaches people that a book says something so that automatically makes it true, so damage can be done both ways
ALL woman are MID give me my Rib BACK
@@chadvagbuster6580 No suitable helper can be found.........
What are your thoughts about what day the Sabbath is?
It’s so damaging and it’s heavily glorified. It should be illegal..
1 Corinthians 6:13b
“However, the body is not for sexual immorality but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body”
Matthew 5:28
“But I tell you, everyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”
A book saying something is not a reason to make something illegal, and you have no reason to say it’s damaging
@@roscowbrown3937 I mean there's like a thousand studies showing the damage corn can do to ur brain but im not gona tell u what to do gooner
I totally agree🎉
There's research goofy. What do you gain from obsessively playing devils advocate under every single comment? You're at it like it's your fulltime job or something...@@roscowbrown3937
Amen
As a male Christian, I've watched a lot of bad movies and corn as well and it distorted my mind and I feel guilty every time I see young girls trying to find attraction by exposing themselves and it's bodies thats not reality rather than HollyWEIRD.
I pray and I desire to be with someone whom I want to be with someday, mentioning I don't want to play games and my intentions are meant to be cleared. I desire someone who loves God and doesn't love the world. I don't need to be in the position of recreational dating and texting girls nice things (selfishly) like I'm a little kid.
I don't care about ratings if that person is a 10/10 and God loves the person whom they created as their masterpiece. Undervaluing someone is saying their value is much less of your value and they're not important to you. Which is not true because every person is important and no one should be undermined by their appearance because that person whom God may put you with won't meet all your needs but its staying true with your intentions and your love toward the person that will make the relationship stronger.
Read your Bible and pray as well if that's your desire to be in a relationship or if you're already in one help iron sharpen iron.
I’m also Christian but I at least want to be attracted to the person I’m with
But I learned looks don’t matter that much, she’s an 8-9 for me I prefer SLIGHLY chubby women lol
It’s hated but idk
This could not have come at a better time. God is good!
God is good
Amen!
The words of truth!
As a woman, THANK YOU. I used I have an app called “Tumblr” since I wasn’t allowed to have insta. Since its a social media app of course it ended up having a lot of photos of girls wearing very revealing lingerie. When I saw how the photos made our bodies looked my jaw DROPPED. HEAVILY edited. And my first thought was, “Women’s bodies do NOT look like that!” And then I realized, great, now men are going to have a disgusted reaction when seeing a REAL woman’s body thanks to the pornography industry 😑
Thank you so much for telling men that is NOT how we really look and that pornographic content (including instagram models) is just hurting themselves and real women.
Most men that I know both understand this and are not attracted to it. The men posting how real women are mid are the men that are 2s in real life and just spend all day online.
@@Dominicus13unfortunately though with all these kids growing up chronically online, the newer generation are going to have a harder time differentiating the real and fake. I worry about this aspect of it the most.
Maybe there's something wrong with me, but I personally find real women a lot more attractive than instagram models.
@@_johna07 That is beautiful to hear. I don’t think it means there is something wrong with you 🙂
As a teen, I love hearing your perspective on what's happening in the world right now. Loud and clear with lots of understanding as you make it. I know you must work really hard and thought that I should let you know that you're helping me if nothing else you're making a difference in my life.
Well said, very close aspect of who we are. Guard your eyes/heart!
“Playing midfield with Kevin De Bruyne”😂
I thought I was the only one who got the reference 😂
Lol
2 years corn free and my marriage is better than the past eight years!
I always thought the same thing the person Is either attractive or not , there is no In between. Whenever I thought someone was attractive automatically they were a 10 to me regardless.
That's because most women are only attracted to the very top men. Men have a much broader range of attraction. 😎
Amen, doing God’s work here.
This is so helpful! I can speak to the reality of this change in mindset because it is something God is doing in me right now! Please pray for me as I seek to honor the Lord by "watching" and "praying".
America is screwed because of the "dating culture".
I lack sexual attraction. Where is it??? All I look for is long term emotional/romantically relationships.
Greatly apreciated my brother in christ❤️✝️
Thank you for speaking on this!!
Praise God for your content brother
Another excellent video brother. Simple truth, spoken kindly to the Body of Christ. Sexual attraction is not wrong, and is important in a relationship, so long as it is a correct, Christ centered, healthy attraction. (Not distorted by corn, social media, or sin.)
Very true! Similar thing happened to Pokimane. We live in a lust filled world and people don't see that we're all fearfully and wonderfully made. 🕊🕊🕊
Pokimane isn’t even ugly without makeup the viral picture of her without it was just a bad picture
Read your Bible
I’ve been Questioning My Sexuality and became Protective About It Since I turned 13, So I came as Straight When I Was 18.
You turned straight so it's a happy ending. 👍
I really can’t relate to this at all. I never found the fake photoshopped women attractive. Even before I found Jesus and lived a significantly more corrupt lifestyle neither corn nor social media really affected what I found attractive.
I'm thankful that my mind has always been one of variety, there are things that attract me in a woman like how long her hair is or how cute her face is... But I've always been able to love the girls I've been with for how they were without demanding more than them loving me.
Keep it up man, really good content! :)
I'm a negative -1. Jk, but realistically I'm a 3, and I'm content with it. I find smex very conflicting and sinful.
it's not sinful though. not between a man and his wife. it's a gift from god that satan perverted
I like how you didn't dismiss the need to evaluate where you are attractiveness wise. There is wisdom in having more information about where you are. Like yes shoot for the moon but have the correct expectations on what you can do.
Can we tal how social media also fixates women to target the 5 or 1% of men?
Or do you just shame men?
Thank you for the advice! You’ve been a big help to me!
Taking this advice was easily the best thing I did (for how I percieve real women and relationships). Honestly, the mental state is as clear as night and day. This shift has also benefited my relationship with God too. Being able to see women as daughters of the most high and in the image of God. Their true natural beauty that God gave them. I can now find true beauty attractive, but the msot attractive thing is thei submission to Christ. I can testify that eventually their physical attraction is far outweighed by their Spiritual walk with and their Spiritual beauty. Never undestimate that!!
Wanted to share for my brothers in Christ, don't lose hop. Stay in submission to God, revere and be in awe (fear) of the Lord always, and be a willing and obedient servant of Him. He will set you free and restore that pure Godly view again!
Savage truth!
Nah I've tried dating people I'm not that attracted too and it would get so boring and I wouldn't want to touch them anymore. I need someone really good looking. But usually they arnt good partners haha havnt found someone who has both other than myself haha need to date someone with the same attraction level.. and I'm a straight 9 without make up so its hard to find.
So true. 😎
Just saying bros I find all the friends I'm close to pretty/handsome
And there was this one girl I didn't find pretty at first and then later found her gorgeous because of how close to her I became
Go get yourself some real ones, brother, corn is way worse than love in every way and it ruins love
i have never had sexual feelings towards anyone ive been in love with even though i want to have kids so sex would naturally be part of that
I gave up corn 2 years ago just before becoming a Christian. My then girlfriend (now wife) gave me an ultimatum and I chose to love her rather than my fleshly desires. I was cheating on her with cornography for years while we dated and it is still my biggest regret. I wish all the desires would leave my body but that temptation is definitely still a struggle sometimes but I remain faithful to my wife for Christs sake.
Personal rant here but honestly I don’t know why my wife stayed with me. She was raised Christian and I was definitely not. We lived in sin together for a year and I was definitely not being a good influence on her or even good to her at all in any way. But Jesus worked through my wife to steer me towards him and now I can happily say we are both lovers of Christ and growing every day.
I know I’m forgiven but I still feel like crap often for lusting after other women while we were dating
Ok, so why's everyone now substituting "Corn" in place of Porn?
They're afraid of getting censored or something stupid. I can see your comment so those fears are a bit exaggerated. 😎
Because sometimes their videos can get striked by yt for using explicit language
"you need to be honest about your level of attractiveness" said the Nine to the Seven. Is this why Seven ate Nine?
Jokes aside, I am a first time viewer, I will be watching more.
Cool, i think i understand what you were saying. i just don't agree. I'll try to give some examples.
1. I have female friends at work, but most are in relationships. So i never approach them for that reason, not to mention the way the laws are biased against men. I really don't want to get into the "red pill" stuff since most followers of christ just want to ignore the facts about marriage. Basically, they want us to simp and marry all the undateable women we have deal with.
2. Im not super attractive, i think. It's probably like a 4 or so. However, i get way more attention from single mothers at work than i want. It's really exhausting, these women aren't attracted to me they just want my money. There was a good example of my co-worker had relationships with 3 men at the time, and she wanted me and my money. I just ignored her, i found her sorta attractive. I just wasn't comfortable with what i know she wanted. By the way, she also had a 16-year-old son who worked with us for a bit.
3. I did like this other girl at work who was nice to me, but she had a boyfriend so i never tried anything with her. We were just good friends, i tried to talk to her about her problems. Sadly, that didn't work. She left our job to move somewhere else, i think. Later on, a few months later, my boss came over to me in the middle of my shift.
She says you remember her? I said i do. She then told me they had passed away from a drug overdose. I just thought, why would this happen? She never told me about that, i haven't forgot her since. I prayed that she is received in heaven. Although i was sad and angry that someone else i liked had died.
4. I met a girl at school way back when and did everything i could to keep a relationship with her. It just was never enough, and half the time, i thought i was never good enough for her. Since she spent a lot of her time sleeping with other people, i was happy just with her, but she wasn't. I won't go into why she had issues. it's not my place to say. Essentially, you could say i was a simp, but the relationship never worked out for me. I dealt with till a little while after high school, then she asked to buy my car from me. Which i had just inherited from my dad when he passed away. I told her yes, since i still wanted to help her out and felt bad for her despite everything. I never saw her again. She passed away 2 years ago.
5. I'm glad there are people in the world that have good lives with god present in them. I have a few good friends who are christian, who have helped me a bit. I just never felt like i belonged with any of them, im not sure im supposed to exist.
I have a question. What's your advice for Young christian man That are Waiting for marriage
( I should say i'm done waiting for marriage, really)
I am twenty-two years old, and i've never had a girlfriend or been in a relationship. With a girl( I'm Autistic so it has hindered my life for a very long time, and it hindered me from going places to meet girls)
And I have always hated being a Virgin for a long time.And this has been going back-and-forth in my mind.For many year since I became a christian when I Was 15 years old. It Has drove me crazy over the years
I get so sick of being alone.
So sick of not being in a relationship. Even last night I just felt so empty. Inside and just wanted. To be in a relationship but I do have to say I probably wouldn't marry a christian girl or be in a relationship with one Because they're not marriage material The same thing goes with most modern women in the culture in the west Even among conservative girls I'd have more luck if I married a buddhist a hindu or muslim
In the bible it says something about to not be in a relationship with an unbeliever ( Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? 2 Corinthians 6:14) because both people who are Christians are united as one flesh together in a marriage. I'm Autistic too and I stopped looking or chasing after girls since the majority of them are fakes in my opinion and I had too many of them. All I can say is pray for your future spouse to come and read your Bible constantly. I may not like myself being Autistic but I have to move pass that to engage more with other friends and it's okay to get your feelings out. I feel the same way but I'm in no hurry. Remind yourself you are loved by a loving God and by friends and family around you. I recommend you to not chase after people In other religions because they lead you on a dangerous path of not believing God is not real along with believing their religion will get you into a different afterlife but with someone who has christ like attributes is your best bet.
Im sorry man Im in the same boat in some ways but I think the mentality your holding isn’t a healthy one. I cant say much for the virgin thing as I cant exactly relate to the “urge” or whatever. but its best to let things happen how they happen, rather then to force what you want (Ive been there :(
Im not sure what women you’ve been running into tho.. but best not to generalize it’s also not a good habit. Goodluck hopefully Mike answers more properly for ya. Hang in there your not alone
@djashovel Trust in the Lord. I understand that waiting can be so difficult, but jumping into relationship which God does not approve of would be even worse, so please be patient. I will pray for you.
Also, please do not believe the lie that a non-christian woman will be better for you than a Christian woman. The Bible makes it clear than unbelievers are living in rebellion against God and that they are children of the devil. Of course there are sadly people who call themselves Christians and yet don't behave in a Godly manner, but this doesn't mean that there aren't genuinely Godly women in your state. Pray to the Lord to send such a person to you. He's more than capable of doing so. I pray the Lord would prepare you to be a good husband and give you the patience to endure this period of singleness with joy 🙏🏽
Literally me, except I am 20.
@@kitnkindlin683 His generalizations are true. Most [modern, western] women, especially christian women, do not follow God.
THIS! Deprogramming for Christ. More on this topic
Lust is a sin and from a moral standpoint is the same as greed or gluttony. It is a desire thats so selfish that you will put them above the well being of the purpose. True godly just sexual desires are to give your self as a gift and please the other person and you also receive pleasure in giving pleasure. Desire is an urge to give and lust is a desire to take/use. They both involve pleasure but one is loving and selfless the other is selfish and cruel. Lust is always a sin, sexual desire is not.
I dont think its corn...when i used to watch alot of it, i rarely found any cornstar attractive. I think its just hollywood thats ruining it.
...so I think she's cute... so is that sexual immortality. No I don't think so... just live single... be friends with her.
I thing focus is mostly put on men. But that is wrong. But women also have wrong focus on attraction. We are all just too much focused on physical appearance. Let's say someone is really really ugly. But he is an amazing humble loving man of God. Does that mean that no matter how much he prays and wants marriage he will never get married?
There’s a good chance of that, yeah
no, because if God wants him to be married looks won't change that. that doesn't mean a girl is wrong for not finding him attractive, it's not a sin to be honest with yourself. She can be respectful, treat him in a godly way and still not want him. And also keep in mind, someone one person may not find attractive, another will.
FYI I'm a guy. It doesn't help to use extreme examples in cases like this.
I hear you, but I think the main focus is on men, because women are judged for their appearance a lot more. Men are *more* visual than women. There’s even studies about the importance of looks for a woman‘s career (over a degree), which, in comparison, isn’t even a factor for men. We also see that very attractive women are consistently seen with less attractive or even unattractive men (physically), but the reverse isn’t seen nearly much.
The devil has been working hard, and I think men could play an important role in affirming women the way God created them. But in order to do that, men also need to come out of the world and renew their sight - which starts by not consuming perversions and distortions.
I’d also say that the women’s equivalent to this isn’t necessarily looks, but money. Women these days are a more susceptible to the Jezebel spirit. Hurt, rejection and secular music open a portal to demons, similarly to how rejection, loneliness, porn and IG etc. open those portals for men.
It’s important to remember that we’re all fighting a spiritual war. We all want love, and even attractive and rich people can feel empty and lonely, because the devil will find a way unless we stay close to God, feel content in Him. God will bless us with spouses if it’s meant to be🙏🏽
@@itsbeeva Exactly. I agree. Our brains are too much formed by "corn" And i just want to share my experience. When i live in sin and watch corn, i want to see the most attractive women. But when i repent and spend time with Jesus and go deep in His word and start to truly live by the Spirit i just find more and more "normal" natural women attractive and i just want so much a woman that has a lot of fruit of Spirit. And that becomes so much more important to me than looks..
i find my girlfriend to be beautiful but not in a lustful way
W video, for the algo.
You either are or aren’t attracted.. very interesting 🤔
That's how women think. Men have layers of attraction. 😎
Porn is a problem that should be greatly subdued, we wont ever get rid of porn for good. We also should address that if we look at ANYTHING that distorts reality that also sparks a sinful desire, we are poisoning ourselves. Envy is a subtle sin that can be hard to notice. Don't ask me how I know :)
Scripture distorts reality, so if what you’re saying is true, that means we should stop teaching people that it’s true
@@roscowbrown3937 Where does scripture distort reality?
@@ethanmiller5487 I mean, many places, but we can start with the Passion, a man savagely loses his l!fe, the just wakes up days later, that same man walked up water and turned into wine
@@roscowbrown3937 How do you know those are distortions of reality?
@@ethanmiller5487 well you just gotta have faith, right?
Nothing to do with porn, once again, attraction is important but also films, photos and magazines are made ro be this way this has nothing to do with a problem sexualising preference
Hi i have some things to say. I'm suffering from DPDR for 9 months now. If you don't know what it is, it's a anxiety state where you question your existence and your sourroundings. Basically you don't feel like you are real, like you are a human being. So, i feel like my live lost any meaning for me and i'm just wondering around and try to stay calm and try to fight it.. But at the same time when i'm questioning myself and surroundings, i'm questioning the existance of God. I know that i should put my faith in Christ but when i don't even feel myself i can't put myself on fire for him. I'm praying but it does not help. My family life is pretty much comming to an end, I don't feel like i can do this anymore. I don't really know if i'm suicidal or i'm just obsessing over suicidal thoughts. I work out at the gym a few times in a week but still ,because of constant stress, i make near to no progress. I don't want to treat my problems with some antidepressants and be fully dependent on it. I feel like there is other way but i haven't found it yet. I'm writing this here because the title says that sexual attraction is screwed up by the world andd that is true, but i feel like every part of my life is screwed by todays world and I FEEL LIKE WE ARE LIVING IN A BIG PILE OF LIES. EVERYTHING IS FAKE I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO. You do something... naah bro it is wrong, you do that naah this is wrong. I can't find one thing that feels right in this world. Can some good soul give me some advice because i really don't want to end my life and i know that i can get out of it. God bless
I think I'm in a very similar situation. I don't have DPDR, but the other situations are nearly the same. Eroding family, not-really-but-somewhat suicidal, and the stress
And honestly, I'm not fully sure how I deal with it. I just try and take it one day at a time. But if I could offer some advice, I would say to read a little bit of the Bible every day. Few verses, few minutes, doesn't matter, just read and think about what you read meant. Online guides could also help. There were several times where I was having horrid days, but after reading and praying, I had a little more peace.
Also, I wouldn't recommend fully limiting yourself to never using antidepressants. I think it's okay to use them to help, just so long as it doesn't become a dependency.
I hope this helped. I'm not the best at giving advice, but I wanted to try and help in any way I could
@@SevenStarSkyes Thanks, appreciate it
@@erb9956I know everything may not feel real, but know God is real. Seek the Lord will all your heart and don’t give up. Please don’t end your life because I know God has a plan for you and loves you enough to send Jesus to die for you so that you can be saved. You have a purpose and no matter how fake everything feels push through. Put your faith in Jesus and repent of your sins and confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and be baptized in the name of The Father, Son (The Son is Jesus), and The Holy Spirit and when you are saved through Jesus you get the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit helps us, will never abandon us, and guides us. Putting your faith in Jesus even if it is hard is the best thing you can do. I love you and I know God loves you and God has a sacrificial love for all of us.
God is real. Be still and know that. Once you know that, realize that Jesus is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. Believe it. Let His life teach you what is true. Do the things He did. Think the way He thought. Try to love the way He loved. Believe He has eternal reward for those who follow Him. The hardships you endure well for His Name and His Kingdom will produce an eternal weight of glory. This life is a whisper and hardship is momentary.
The devil is a liar and he desires to steal, kill, and destroy. He wants you to curse God and die. He is hopeless and jealous of all the hope you have of a great eternity. He wants God to miss out on the unique relationship that God desires with you.
God only made one of you. He will never have another. He loves you and desires to be close friends with you. Any distance between the two of you is not because of Him. There is nowhere on Earth to go from His presence. He will not abide intimately with darkness. Believe in Jesus' sacrifice on your behalf, repent and be cleaned. Approach God with humility as a child. Trust His love.
He hates sin because it hurts people for now and ongoing generations. It's effects are far and wide, time will prove it. Because God loves all people, He hates it when we hurt one another and are arrogant toward one another.
Much depression comes from guilt. If you have even 1% guilt in a matter, repent and make things right.
Severe depression can be helped with medication. It might help get you to a point of making better decisions faster. They are a tool. I recommend hitting it from every angle: repentance, prayer for healing by the elders, reading God's Word, learn some verses that speak to the good things you'd like to build in your life, wise counselor/s, sunshine, healthy eating, excersise, vitamins, time with friends (if you have none, work on that with the counselor), and sometimes medication (which doesn't have to be permanent, especially if you are putting new good habits in your life).
Give yourself time to work on you and your relationship with God. Life falls into place when that is healthy. Yes, storms still come but you have the faith to carry you through them and you realize that in Christ, a storm can only push you to where you need to be next.
I know it sounds cheesy and it sounds like it won't help but try going on a long walk. It's best in a more rural area but just getting out of the house is good. Your main focus should be calming your mind and looking at the trees and nature. When you can see reality all around you then it makes the argument for its existence much stronger. Look, feel, smell, and hear and try to break away from all the fake-ness we find on these stupid screens.
This also sounds cheesy, but try looking at what you eat and how much you sleep, especially if you are consuming a lot of caffeine. Stuff like that just throws you out of wack and screws up your mental state.
Also, analyze your rest. If what you do to unwind or try to distract yourself from the stress is something fake or simulated like tv, social media, video games or anything else like that then it won't help you. Try to pick little projects around the house that will give you some purpose or satisfaction in completing. If you're procrastinating anything then try to get that knocked out or just try working on it until a designated time before you end your "work mode" for the day. The more concrete your separation between work and play the more proper rhythm your life will have.
Finally, just experiment around with different methods of cementing your beliefs in reality. If talking to people isn't too stressful then try that too, and always be reading your Bible, going to church and living in a mindset of prayer. God bless you and I'll be praying for you.
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Gradual reduction
Easy peasy method
@@ZactivityYTVery bad advice. It simply wont work in most cases by far
@@GTRKT-qr5sf I gave the advice that helped me stop after years of struggling. 100% works, but you can’t do it without God.
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So hypothetically speaking, it is a sin to lust after your fiance until the moment you both say "I do", correct? 🤔
Sin will happen as our human nature, just do your best to treat yourself the way God wants to you, and do your best to repent when you inevitably sin. It’s tough, it’s rough and ultimately it’s tricky, but we’re told ourselves that we’re sheep. Imperfect sheep, looking towards our shepherd, being guided, though we’re flawed.
You should desire her but be taking you thoughts captive and honoring her as a fellow heir of Christ (hypothetically speaking). If you are marrying for lust, call it off. If you can't contain your desire for her, make it a short engagement. If she's your fiance, you've already decided to marry. Go to the JP and throw a party afterwards.
Lust is always a sin, before or after marriage. In essence it describes an uncontrollable desire to use another person in order to justify your sexual urges.
The original meaning of sex is that of unity, spouses give themselves to each other in a respectful and loving way. That means seeing her as a person first and foremost and always respecting her boundaries.
Of course, feeling desire for sex is normal, that’s how God created us. But it should never take control over our values and convictions or skew our perception of how we view other people.
That’s how I understand it (not married).
Yup.
don’t worry, i still find margot robbie a 9/10.
This is the good news of the gospel that through Jesus Christ we have eternal redemption through His blood as a gift by God's grace (not by our own efforts), granting eternal life freely to all who believe in His name. We have this hope in Him because He is risen from the dead. Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved.
Romans 6:23 For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.
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These comments come from guys who don’t have healthy relationships with real women
which comments? all the ones i've seen seem very positive
@@themiataboy909I think they meant on the Margot Robbie video, not this one.
these comments from guys who just make stuff up about how corn is bad and how something is true just because a book says so
And you assume it's their fault.
My thing is if good looks are important than why do looks fade as we age? As you and your wife get older you gonna be looking at a wrinkly face wrinkly breasts as she may see something else wrinkly don’t always work always work all the time, but your love for one another remains the same.
Everything fades with age, the strength you were blessed from God in your youth, your looks, even your mind capacity. Thats not an good argument to remove looks from the dating equation
It's part of the curse I assume.
VERY disappointed with this video.
In our oversexualized culture there is perhaps one thing I hate more than expression “body count” - and it’s rating people’s appearances on a scale 1-10.
Not only is it disrespectful to people, but it’s also utterly moronic. Just look at your ex’s pictures and see if you would rate her as high as in the beginning of the relationship. Married couples often go through periods where they no longer feel attracted to each other, and that’s part of life (love is an action; not a feeling). So the way you rate the same member of the opposite sex will be inconsistent. So when guys say “she’s a 7” the number is not actually attached to her, it’s only a rating of this guys perception of her attractiveness at the given moment. And the fact that he made a conscious choice of saying this out loud, actually speaks more about him than the girl he’s rating.
Because everyone knows that it’s subjective. There will be more than enough guys for that girl that will rate her a 10. Or better yet, they won’t rate her at all and make a move because they find her attractive, period.
Now, Christians should more than any other group know that a person made in the image of God includes more than physical attributes. Which is why we should NEVER rate women or guys on a scale 1-10. We don’t see other people as objects like they do in the world, we see them as children of God.
Daily Disciple was right emphasizing the words “in the culture” when he said “… a woman who, as they would say in the culture, is a 10”. But then he proceeded to undercut his own effort entirely when he said “…and you’re a guy who is 6 or 7” thus giving validity to this worldly thing of rating people on their appearances.
To clarify, Im not offended. I don’t have a problem with my physical appearance. But I know that there is a lot of people who do. To the point where they are suicidal. And they are wonderful people who were sadly swayed by other people’s opinions or the cultural trends. It’s a serious problem in our narcissistic society where we think about ourselves first and other people later. A lot of teenage girls are struggling a lot nowadays because of the problem Daily Disciple described with the social media.
So while I agree with some of the main points in this video, I cringed very hard when I heard “if you’re 6 or 7” - perhaps more than during any other Christian video I’ve recently watched.
A great resource when it comes to learning about the true value of human beings as opposed to the “1-10 scale rating” is something AscensionPresents released recently - it’s a video course called “Theology of the Body Crash Course” and you can find the first video on RUclips, it’s about 54 minutes long. The rest are available on their website for free.
I know majority of people here are not Catholics (neither am I) but I promise you won’t regret giving these videos a watch. It ties nicely with the content of this video but goes into the issue in a much deeper and better structured way.
I think the problem isn't him using the rating scale, but discerning the difference between physical attractiveness and value. We need to learn that even if we may not be attractive to someone, we still have value. Likewise, we may not be attracted to someone, we might not even want to date them and that's fine, but they still have value and should be respected, if anything as a neighbor.
@@themiataboy909Yeahhh I like his videos but using worldly and secular methods to rage attractiveness is….hm.
@@afrofaeriesWhats wrong with rating attractiveness? You do it instantly subconsciously when you see someone. Lets not fool ourselves
These people are on their moral highorse, completely dishing out the idea of attractiveness. 'Everyone is a 10!!!1!!!!!' @@IramCoercere
I agree I've never thought Margot was good looking.
She's pretty, but I have seen and dated much prettier. Him saying we have that opinion because he assumes we use porn or instagram is very off base.
Another item to add to the growing lost of cons for cornography
not anywhere near as big as the list of cons for theism
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Why are you out here trying to start fights? If you really didn't believe in God then why do you care that we do? Do you get satisfaction from stripping the meaning out of people's lives? Honestly I feel sorry for you and I will be praying for you. If you really think it all just fades to black in the end, and here's hoping you don't, then please just let us worship God and encourage each other in peace.
@@ruebenblack3495 which one of us is condemning corn?
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because you’re making an accusation that somebody is picking fights, so was I attacking corn? Or was that you and the guy who made this video?
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Man, this is really silly. Sorry if I wasted your time. I was just kinda annoyed at how you were randomly attacking theism as a response to me condemning corn. So I thought you were trying to get in a debate online. Sorry
I'm also sorry but I can't understand what you were trying to prove in that last response. Have a blessed day 👍
@@ruebenblack3495 just about everybody here is condemning corn for theistic reasons, or believe in theism at the very least… so I was just pointing the double-standard out in people condemning corn while not condemning Scripture
Loneliness is the price to pay for such warped standards and for those who think they would be fine for the rest of their lives alone, take it from me who suffers from chronic loneliness, it will get to you!
As handsome people we have options but ugly people only have cornn modern women wont consider 5s on down much less a 1 or 2 so do those guys get a cornn pass? I say its better to give up lust but me personally im addictied and wont try to quit until marriage (at least thats how i feel right now) and i feel normal for that
quit before marriage. It doesn't help a lust issue, it only amplifies it. And western women aren't that bad, even in the modern age, the internet just makes it seem so.
That's a rubbish take.
Very bad take. You are just making your agument based on your emotions and feelings...
Porn is a sin. Doesn't matter if you're ugly or not.
I'm sorry to hear of your addiction.
I can't promise you that you will ever marry.. I can promise you that if you seek, with God's help, to give up lust and corn, you will have a greater capacity to know and love God.
Do you know according to Ephesians 5, that marriage is a picture that points to a more profound mystery of how Christ will become one with his Church?
We will one day be able to have a more joy-filled and deeper relationship with Christ, than any man on this earth ever had in a romantic or sexual relationship.
Go to the book of Exodus to Deuteronomy. That will answer your question. The Israelite women were given to a man for marriage by their family. It never said anything how hot someone is. All of that comes after being with the person. Attraction comes after the union.
Uh........... you don't remember all those verses stating how beautiful many of those women were? Job's daughters were the most beautiful in the land. Rebekah was beautiful. Sarai/Sarah was very beautiful. There are many more........
@@ModelJames13 that's just two people, not everybody. Also, who says their beauty standards were the same? Everyone was covered up not wearing cleavage. Only the prostitutes did
Bodies that have been starved 😂
But most of these women are real. They work hard to make their bodies perfect. Back in the Bible days people ate right and worked hard and the body you see on these men and women on Instagram, are what God intended our bodies to look like. (except the body builders maybe) The American diet of fried food, breads, pasta, soda and oversize meals and sitting in front of a computer or TV all day has created a horribly unhealthy body and lifestyle and it is not attractive. Now I agree some of the super models are changed in Photoshop, but the fact that a woman works out hard and eats healthy does make her attractive. I am not addressing porn in this because that is just a sick evil thing. But women who care about their body and their looks are very attractive, and God wants us to take care of what he gave us. Our body is a temple and we are supposed to take care of it.
This modern idea of Anything is ok is wrong. When people let themselves go, the body suffers from joint issues, high blood pressure, diabetes, etc. Most men and women who take care of themselves working out and eating right do not suffer from any of these health issues. To me that is what God intended by giving us this temple to live in and take care of. No not everyone will be a Super model and that is also how God created us all different. But for you to tell me that because I enjoy an Instagram model who is in size 0 or 1 tight jeans and a nice blouse with pretty make up and nice long hair is wrong and I should also appreciate the woman who sits eating fried chicken and fries with cake watching TV and is in much bigger pants because she is "real" is confusing to me. She is not healthy, and not taking care of her body, the temple she was given. Again, I am not saying every woman needs to be a size 0.
On the other hand women and men like what they like in the opposite sex. There are men who like heavy curvy women just as there are men like me who only find skinny attractive. You and I do not agree on this but my point is, I was raised in a Christian church all of my childhood and I had an Obese mother. I didn't even notice Instagram until much later in life, and even as a teen I found skinny women with long hair attractive. I Am not saying you are 100% wrong here either. Especially on the porn stuff. But I get really irritated when someone says "that woman is not real" or she is "unrealistic" just because she has the discipline to eat right, work out and turn down the soda and cake or cookies. The only women who are not real are the ones who have been put through Photoshop for porn magazines etc. But even so, Photoshop has limitations as to what can be done. So unless they put a different body under the girl's head, she still has worked hard and has discipline to take care of herself. Again, I am not defending porn stuff. That is a satanic strong hold that the Devil warps peoples mind with. No argument there.
I am curious about your take on my point of view on this. And lets pray for each other that god will open our eyes to the truth in this. If I am wrong, as a man of God I will accept the holy spirit showing me that I am wrong. Hope you have a great day.
I'm not saying all the time, but they very often have had work done to them, and not just Photoshop.. another fact is, often what you dont see is the unhealthy lifestyle that happens behind the scenes to maintain such a bodyweight, often starving and just unhealthy practices. Yeah, there are some that do it in a healthy way, but to follow multiple skinny models thinking they just stay healthy is just staying blind to the reality. Dont get me wrong, as a natural skinny guy I prefer the same from a female, but the ideal put forth on Instagram is neither healthy or natural in probably 70-90% of cases🤷♂️
You don't need to go back in time to see what people back in the Bible probably looked like, and I can assure you they didn't look like Instagram models (at least not the average person, there were a few exceptions mentioned in the Bible of people who were unusually attractive or tall or strong, like David and Saul). Just look at any modern rural/poorer societies where they still predominately work outdoors/do manual labor. And no, people back then didn't "eat right" a lot of the time, they ate what was available. People in modern developed nations have much better nutritional access than they did, unless eating right just means not eating too much to you (which judging by your story could be the case, which seems to be skewing your views here a bit). Generally people in those poorer nations look mostly the same as developed nations (even the US, not counting severely overweight), though less healthy in other ways. Most people throughout history did not have the necessary nutrients (do you have any idea how much protein it takes to build lots of muscle?) to look like fitness nuts do today, they were strong and had more endurance than those people probably, but they looked relatively "normal" still.
So yeah, Issac's point about unrealistic standards is dead on. And like the guy before me said, lots of these Instagram models have unnatural work done to themselves, eat unhealthily, and do photoshop their pictures. So, yep - most of these Instagram models do not represent "real women" in a real sense, this is totally different than calling fitness trainers or fit women fake, though most fitness trainers and health-conscious women don't look like these Instagram/TikTok influencers if you've ever gone outside and come across any in real life. They usually just look like normal women with more muscle mass/leaner/more toned.
I also find it strange how you mention "enjoying" an instagram model online, and I think it speaks directly to Issac's point about how men should be careful what they allow into their minds. The only woman you should sit and enjoy gazing at, or looking at should be your wife or perhaps your significant other (in a non-lustful way). There's a difference between appreciating an attractive woman, and purposefully following/searching for those women to satisfy yourself or for some kind of enjoyment. That mindset is a gateway to some very dangerous things, trust me on that from experience.
Women can be very attractive and still set false standards by using filters and editing a lot. - And if you are chronically online, which a lot of young people are, you’ll get used to people being flawless, which isn’t healthy for your interactions with women in person.
You are right OP to a point! Im in my 30s. Married, 5 kids and still am the petite fit and shapely body i had when i was a fitness girl. I have a healthy bmi and body fat percentage in the lean healthy range. However others keep saying im not a normal mother and i should have some soft fluff on me. However the "normal " women they point to are objectively overweight and unhealthy with a borderline obese body fat percentage. We are supposed to care for the bodies god gave us.
All that being said though, many of the models in fitness or swimsuit models have BMI below 18 which is annorexic and dangerous. They are infertile annd have no periods because of it. Thats harming your body, not caring for it. But because we see it in magazines and Instagram we think its normal and healthy when its not. Its self abuse just like being overweight. So yes the average female body is not healthy in the US, but also most of the swimsuit models or VS models are also dangerously low in body fat and estrogen and that shouldn't be held up as the ideal either. Getting so lean we become infertile is rejecting the bodies god gave us as women. Our fertility is a sacred gift we must protect and care for.
Lust is how babies are made.. god set it up that way which is interesting to me?
Sex was intended to be a loving act between a man and wife, not a lustful act. Lust treats the other like an object
@@themiataboy909 the only way a man gets it up is bc you want to penetrate,, that is inherently lustful. There is no denying that lust starts the baby making process.
@@themiataboy909 my reply got deleted but your delusional if you think sex can be pure without lust theres always sone amount of lust
@@GodGuy8lust is something that comes from the selfishness of your heart. Sexual attraction in a marriage isn’t lust. It’s love.
@@sofiabravo1994 no love has nothing to do with sex. Sex is lustful pleasure. Now you can offer sex as a form of love but the act of sex isnt love its self gradification