You Never Need to Do *This* On a First Date
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- Опубликовано: 16 апр 2015
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In this week's episode of LOVELife, I show you how to use a casual first date as an opportunity to show how High Value you are and leave him craving more time with you...
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You don't know if you really like them in a really deep way... I like it. Boundaries is key.
Definitely teaching an organic, and holistic perspective on dating in this generation.
"He probably won't be meeting up anyone great " 😂
He sounds like Daniel Radcliffe holy crap
He’s very easy on the eyes and it makes it very easy to listen to him
He surely is a professional. He's dating camila cabello
Santiago Alves not anymore
Ew though
@@shb7669 Why ew?
He can get better
😨 cap
This is by far the best advice I have ever heard about first dates.
Part of this strategy I don't agree with is the part where you're looking at your phone all night texting back this guy who you just went out for drinks with. Shouldn't you be genuinely having fun with your friends instead and text back the guy tomorrow? Idk, I guess I just enjoy having my cell on silent when I'm with people I care about.
bbenn450 I agree. But some ppl don't mind checking their phones while hanging out with their friends. I've been told numerous times by a friend that when I'm hanging out with her, I need to stop texting. LOL...my brother said the same thing to me when I'm out with him and my cousins for dinner to put my phone away and focus my attention with the ppl I'm with at that moment. Meh...it's a habit I need to break
bbenn450 Well there is a limit. I would probably not check my phone all the time, and the guy will probably not text every 5 minutes. Just because you're texting someone when you're out with friends, doesn't mean you don't care about your friends. And your friends what you to be happy right? If that guy texing you makes you happy, then why should you not reply. :)
bbenn450 agree! I would never be texting the night after a first date
I agree. One or two texts...okay. But if the guy knows you're out with friends, he should have no expectations that you'll have time to have a text-off with him.
bbenn450 I agree
O. M. G. I've finally figured out why he's so comforting. He sounds like the Geico gecko!
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I like this guy. He resonates with highly sensible people.
Genius Matthew Hussey !
you're mindset is so awesome!!!
I'm kind of missing this section of the channel. The Q&A, the specific situations and how Matthew turns the way you see the situation and gives you this whole new perspective that goes hand in hand with personal growth. Just thinking ^_^
Always great content! Great Team!
Absolutely love this Matthew 💕💕
Luv this piece of advice.
great advice!
what if your not a frequent "going out" type of person? And very few of your friends go out on a regular basis...
LitMe1 do something else instead of "going out", maybe take your friends to dinner, see a movie, karaoke bar, or anything else you can find in the city. c:
Irene Vries
I did not respond to you, I responded to the one who made the original comment. Unless you are "LitMe1" then that was not directed at you.
Also, if someone in the future responds to your comment, then you can't really do much about it. As long as you commented something, people will always be free to comment something about that. I hope you are able to see that. Good day.
cruuushhh Thanks for the tip, I do try to do other things other than clubbing, I think my "issue" is that I dont do it too often, hopefully with my exams soon over I will get to do more stuff in the summer :)
@@EmeliaSings Hahaha That's still 'going out' 😂
Okay so I agree with everything in this BUT the reason I want my Friday and Saturday to myself is to be at home chillin. Definitely going to make up that I’m meeting friends out though to cut it short and see real quick if we click 😂
You want to start out with potentially the love of your life based on a lie? Think about how that might affect things in the long run.
I think the idea is not to "make up" plans but to actually have plans to meet up with friends later. That takes the pressure off the date w the new guy and also allows you to get dressed up for something that you know you like ( hanging out with established friends) rather than setting aside your whole evening for someone you don't yet know.
This is such genius advice.
Omg, I was thinking "why wouldn't he take me on a date this weekend" and stumbled upon this video :D
Me too sister!!!! LOL This was so helpful
Yes I do want to date on a Saturday night! I just did 2 nights ago and it was my first date in 2 years!
I had a date from someone I met online and it did not go well at all. In most cases, I could say the date was a dud, we had nothing in common, yada, yada, yada, but in this case - it was me. I was a bad date. LOL. That almost never happens BUT in my defense I have been single for a year and a half and this was the 1st date and I totally SUCKED!!! The date didn't suck, I was too nervous which never happens and my coversation was all over the place and I have not heard from said date since. That was almost 3 weeks ago. LOL.. Ah well, you win some, you LEARN some. I'll be a better date next time. LOL...
jojube27 Women online tend to be seeking love online have various issues, which makes dating them an issue. There are exceptions, but 98% of them, you should avoid
It'll get better...you get to know what you like and what you don't like ♥️
If you like the guy, but were nervous
Try texting him the next day saying just this and see if he would like to meet again
All of my 6 exes asked me to go out on weekends. It depends on people of course
2:15 I LOVE THAT !
Yep, precisely 🤘
I fell asleep watching his videos last night so I had a dream I was taking his course and he was so sweet he kept giving people advice and I was crushing on him big time while I was talking to him and before I knew it he gave me a big kiss and said I was ready to meet him. So nice it felt so real! I just adore him as many of you probably do also. Would love to take his course for real someday. I attract somehow to narcs and trying to work through some things but this dating stuff is overwhelming for me! Why do we have to be so Complicated! I love you Matt your awesome and I want to thank you for informing me of so many things that need to improve and making me so much more aware of so many Things! xx
Try using paragraphs, and Hussey may make time for you
3:44 I must write this line down 💖
You have 104 Friday and Saturday evenings a year. I don't think giving a potential life partner 1% of your annual time is a big deal personally.
THANK YOU! Like seriously I usually like his advice but this is bullshit. Yeah a first date can end up boring or just not a good match but really it's super lame to already set it up almost with the assumption that it's a lost evening on a weekend. Like come on you should have at least enough curiousity to want to spend a nice first evening with someone you potentially will have a great chemistry! The least romantic and pessimistic advice I heard of him lol
Plus while it is true that you have also the weekdays to have a date - oh well you also have those to see friends and safe a friday for a date! Then you still have saturday again to see friends! Can't live only for the weekends anyway to value those nights that much it can't be shared like that 🙄
BUUT I got to say with times of Tinder I do like recently to have just a quick videochat after matching. It is way more personal and you would also first talk to someone briefly seeing them in real life if you plan to set up a date! I had one guy videocall me once before we were about to go on a date and it hyped me even more up to meet him cause he seems just so chill and easygoing. Didn't get serious but we're still in touch :)
If a guy is texting you at 2 am most women by that time won’t even text you back
Hi I am a new subscriber, I love your advice! :D is there any chance you can do a video regarding finding relationships/love with another person after so much trauma in a persons past to the point that I've never had a "good" relationship. Saying this I have began to become the "real" me and live a life, such as doing things I never ever thought possible in the past. And yes a partner I do see in my future! Please any advise ??? Cheers
Did you resolve this?
I would say, have a good relationship with yourself first
Then with others
Say if I rarely go out with my friends as they're coupled up?
I love u Matthew hussey😘😘😘 love lots from the Philippines
You're a genius. Do you know that?
What if I dont have friends :'v
What about now?
Hey Matthew. I know you have made videos on how to break up with someone, but I was wondering how one could (in the classiest way possible) tell a guy you have gone on one or two dates with, that you don't really see it going anywhere. I can't bring myself to just ignore him and "hope he gets the hint" like some people I know. I think that's cruel and immature. But I have no idea what to say or write to the guy. Especially since I think he is starting to really like me and I just don't feel the same.
I don't know if you will see this but maybe someone in the comments has an idea for how to deal with deal with this situation? :)
Be up front an honest. Just tell him exactly what you said here? Why are women so passive aggressive, sheesh.
Gently and clearly (but directly) tell him how you feel. Hinting is not the way to go. :)
Tell him you had a nice time with him on your dates(and he is a cool guy), but you recognized that it will not be leading to anything deeper for you. Wish him all the best in the end
Isn't it rude to just separate and go out with friends? What if he says he doesnt have plans and wants to tag along?
I think the expectation is you'll tell him prior to going out with friends, so he knows beforehand that there's a time limit.
So SMART
:-)
Hi Matthew!! I have a question and I can't find any videos on the issue, uh-oh! Aim, fire: should I ask my supervisor out for a drink? Okay, so I have 4 immediate supervisors (holly cow right?!). Plus others who slowly progress up the chain, who I don't see often. The one I'm interested in, is one of the immediate ones. He's always in the office making sure our data is being collected correctly, our questions are answered, programs are running smoothly, etc. (perhaps that part of what draws me to him, but I'm not interested in the other 2 men). ANYWAY, is it inappropriate for me to go forth with my fantasies involving him?! :p Oh! Also, this isn't my long term career! It's just a part time job I'm holding until I find something full time. Thanks, cheers!
mhy61 Sure, why not. Did you ask him?
First, try using paragraphs.
Second, sure - just finish the fantasy by ending it on his desk at work
If a man is really interested in me then he will make the time in his busy week to ask me out. He will make the sacrifice of a Friday or Saturday night. He will go for it if he is interested. No games. Men go after what they want.
Will you insist on paying??
Agreed
If He or She interested and serious about He or She know's the right thing to do.
It's amazing how when we put things out there the universe, god just knows! I was thinking about this and I went on you tube and here you are talking about how to date and not become bitter in other words lol!
I recently went back online dating, I'm a mom, work full time, working in building salon business and aha!! I see this! THANK YOU MATHEW I WISH TO MEET YOU ONE DAY!
May god bless you and continue to give you all this wisdom
As a man, I'd love to have a woman handle things in this way! Just everything you said in this video is fucking spot on!
I personally don't like this advice. Guys who know what they're doing would just tell her something like "Lets reschedule for a night where you're not as busy"
Agreed
This was a weak Hussey video
i didn't look though all the videos. but there is a video for "dating in a rural area"
How long should the pre date last?
anyone who has actually tried this, and it didn't work out well?
Matthew, I would love to see a video about tips on flirting, meeting a guy in the gym. I would love! Thanks! :-)
Taty why would you want to meet a guy in the gym when he is in the zone for working out. The guys who hit on women at the gym literally have nothing better to do and probably aren't there to work out. If you just want a muscled guy, that just exhumes shallowness from you and no real man will take you seriously past a 1 night stand. You may not agree but women shouldn't be at the gym to pick up dates because then you're not there to workout but to basically validate yourself and seek attention. And the guys who are actually at the gym giving it their all have 0 time or interest in a woman who isn't about putting in the work. (Meaning getting gains and going after a goal in the gym). If you want to pick up a guy at the gym. Go in with a plan on what you're there to accomplish. Meaning you're not there for the sole purpose of hooking up but to achieve a set of goals. It's easy to interact with people at the gym during breaks in workout sessions or changing weight machines. Best advice is to spark conversation about their workout, what they are trying to achieve at the gym and go from there. But don't make it a chatting session, it's not a date. Be a magnet and still focus on your goals at the gym. If the guy is genuinely interested, he will ask you for your information to catch up later. Or if he is a regular, save it for the next day but don't throw yourself at any guy there because he's got the body of Hercules. Its gross and a turn off when women get thirsty. And shitty men take advantage of those women because they know you're too easy.
@@Imbasnap wow
Heard of a thing called "paragraphs?"
How do you connect wit a guy only at a drink and then being fussy and postponing him? Where is the balance of making him interested but invest some time too? I have no idea.
Don't play games.
Just be direct
Guys are simple
OMG, I remember the first date with a guy I went out with. RED flags, red flags galore!!! First, I was about 20 minutes late for a good reason and he went on about it and was really unreasonably rude about it! THEN he proceeded to ogle other women in a really offensive way!!! I should have walked out right then and not even had dinner with him!!!! It was downhill all the way from then!!!
Did you inform him you were running late?
Also, if someone is being a jerk, either walk away or have fun with it.
thank you,
you i think it be funny to joke about the world worst songs or adds
This is really great advice. Matthew, I went on a first date with a guy I met online and the guy never called. It's been 4 days? I'm not sure. He met me at Starbucks, how unimaginative! I'm entitled to at least think that :P Anyway, Matthew, I used to go on spectacular dates with men that turned into relationships, and on those first dates, the guys would texting me on their drive home or as soon as they got home. So I know if someone doesn't call for a few days, I should probably write them off. However, I got back onto the dating scene and the past few first dates have all resulted in radio silence. Wtf? What could I be doing wrong
lullabysea I know a lot of women tend to play it off by being nice even when they don't like the guy, and have no intention of meeting them again.
Well, if I'm not interested in a girl I often tend to ignore them after realizing this is not the type of person I want to be around. It might be a hint that there's something you're doing "wrong" during these dates. Either that or you're meeting the wrong men. Go back to these dates and think about whether they seemed genuinely interested.
Bulldawzer I played it in my mind after the fact and realized this immediately. It's hard to tell at first because everyone is being polite and nice, but there were definite hints. Just lost as to what I'm doing wrong to turn so many men away when it used to be the opposite and I had to turn so many men down. Actually, I should be judging the guys to see if I myself like them, not trying to impress them and get them to like me.
lullabysea Curious, how long has it been since you were in the dating scene?
nadiainthesky a few years, nothing crazy
lullabysea could it be you were expecting a lot from those so-called "dates"? Meeting in starbucks is more like a "meet-date" than a real date. Meet-date is kinda different from a real date. Its just for each other to see if theres any sparks meeting up and if it does, it might lead up to a real date..
3:14 that would be a red flag for me right away. auto-trash bin disposal
after 40 hours work, and school with 3 coirses, I don't want to work on a girl, it's too much work, all the burden is on men, not worth it
only pursue a woman who is pursuing you.
Dating is a demoralizing pain in the ass. Maybe the old tradition of match making by families is better.
This is great advice, however, in the OLD world, Women have massive egos fed by incredibly thirsty men. Men who have nothing going on in their life trying to date women who have a long line of thirsty men as the "only thing going on in their life". It's really well worded though. I wish women would understand this. I haven't even met you yet, why the hell would I act like I know you and find you super attractive? We matched. That means judging by photos you posted, I think you're cute and there's a beginning level of interest.
This guy thinks he knows everything but most of his advice does not work and is not correct
I disagree
What other advice if his do you believe is poor?
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Go girl !
talking crap for many minutes, skip