Young Women Are Turning Against The Pill!
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- Опубликовано: 2 окт 2024
- Today we look at the women who are turning their back on the contraceptive pill.
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People don't understand how much hormones control, it doesn't just affect your body functions but also your mood and the way you think.
Yes! It has a huge impact! The world around you and you are still the same. But your body then works under a different "assumption of a situation".
We need to educate young girls and woman.
A lot of woman told me (a man btw.) how fast gyneacologists prescribe pills without proper talking through what happens with your body.
@@vau_st here in the Caribbean it's not very common for women to be on the pill so it wasn't until I went to university in the USA that I was treated to my first dose after my first (US) check up at the obgyn. I can honestly say it fundamentally changed me as a person and I developed different character traits and it wasn't until years later when I got off it I even realized how much of a different person I was.
That's scary
They don't understand but also we're not told. Health professionals should know better
@@4651adri I think to we forget how new these types of medications are. The funding for these types of long term studies are just not there. We have first hand accounts but even a lot of the medical community is still very much clueless as to what's happening.
I just remember my sister in law telling how after she got married to my brother she went to her doctor to get into the pill and the doctor went 'and you didn't take it before? How did you not get pregnant?" And she just closed her face and say "by not doing it".
It was hilarious
I mean theres other ways to protect yourself. Condoms are pretty secure too 😂 what kinda doctor is this
How do you close your face?.
@@peterlawson8040 frown eyebrows, thin lips, angry but not angry per say. I'm not sure how to phrase it
Unfortunately, the idea of abstinence is a foreign concept now.
About to go to the gynecologist for the first time and I am expecting to get annoyed comments for never using BC!!!! Yes ma’am, i have self control, I don’t do it, are we all supposed to act like mindless animals?
I went off the pill after 10+ years of taking it, started when I was 16. I'll never know if it contributed to my infertility issues, but I do know it f*ed with my mental health. I was finally able to take my anxiety under control.
I'll never go back to the pill, I tried, and I turned into rage filled monster in two weeks. Never again.
It’s criminal that doctors give the pill to minors. When I was in school, it was normal for 13/14 year olds to be on the pill. Simply evil.
It's crazy how common the bad mental health side effect is! Yet it's given so casually to 16 year olds🙁
@@PatienceXina it was the opposite for me considering I already suffered mental health issues before puberty
yes
Ikr it's usually just given to treat acne too. Acne can also be devastating to a person's self esteem but tbh idk which is worse. My dermatologist gave me the option to go on the pill and I turned it down because I didn't know the side effects and was too shy to ask.
Never been on pill. 100% happy with that decision.
Same.
And I like very masculine men and I have had healthy relationships.
Same. 37 and will never take it.
Same!
same as a 20 year old woman.
I'm upset that the pill was pushed through so quickly without proper testing, while men's birth control is going through PROPER trials and people keep giving them crap for reporting the side effects blocking it from the market. Female birth control should not have been pushed through without those same trials.
The _proper testing_ of the female pill was called: _lets try this thing on unsuspecting peasants in Puerto Rico._
Yes, the pill was tested on poorly informed peasants in Puerto Rico. They'd tell women: _take this, and you won't get pregnant._
*THAT WAS ALL THEY TOLD THEM!!!!*
You say that from a position of privilege. You don't know what it's like to have 12 children and every time your husband looked at me and get pregnant. Marital rape didn't exist, so if your husband wanted sex it was happening
And you speak through a filter of oppression vs oppressed, nonsensically. Knowing the side effects and/or consequences of contraception is the right of the patient, man or woman. Your whining does nothing to refute that point. Re-read the comment you replied to as many times as you need to be sure there is something to cry about before making yourself look silly.
@@ineedhoez,
@@dealerofdeth This. We need to know what we are putting in our bodies. We didn't get this priviledge but men are with the male pill.
My mom put me on the pill in high school because I had “mood swings” (aka normal teen angst). The pill then made me depressed but my mom didn’t think it was the pill- she thought it was me. So she then put me on multiple mental health medications. I tried to ask the doctor to take me off of everything and insisted I didn’t need it but as a minor they wouldn’t let me decide that for myself. I went down a bad path with my mental health and bad choices. But when I was out of college I realized I didn’t want to do this anymore and I asked the doctor to help wean me off or I threatened to jump off cold Turkey (which is dangerous) and they finally helped me get off. I feel so much better now. So joyful, healthy, closer to God, im in a wonderful marriage and we have a precious baby; and will soon be trying for another.
Also an edit: I was a virgin until marriage by choice so it’s crazy that a young high school girl who wasn’t interested in sex was put on birth control against her will. Sickening system.
Also- it’s crazy because what they said is so true. Getting put on BC in my formative years made me think I was just depressed by nature. But no I’m a very chipper person it turns out lol.
I wish people would stop medicating normal behavior because they are too lazy to face and challenge things head on.
Anyway, glad you are doing much better now.
Good luck with everything!
Your story feels similar to mine. I’m sorry you had to go through that.
@@marlonmoncrieffe0728 me too!! I really think doctors take advantage of peoples fear/ignorance. And this is why it’s so important for us to be informed! My mom was very much ignorant and also fearful because my sister went down a bad path and she wanted a “quick fix” for me. I’m thankful that I started researching for myself! It makes a world of difference.
Thank you so much! Good luck with everything as well. 🫶🏼
@@M_T_Gr8 Yes, those were some incredibly dark years but it definitely has added to my testimony and now I’m able to help others who are facing that or thinking about going down the medicalized path. I’m sorry you went through that as well, and I hope you are healing from it. 🤍
I am trying so hard not to judge your mother harshly right now… it’s not working. Glad you are healthy and happy now.
I was on the pill for about 17 years in all, hated coming off it. Never had any problems with it at all. In fact it stopped my incredibly painful and flooding periods.
@@Liz-be1wqnot wanting kids don't mean egoism!! Children are not mandatory!
@@Liz-be1wq I personally think less people should be having children
@@Liz-be1wq I ended up having 3 kids, but when I decided on when that was and not because of some ju-ju cycle prediction that doesn't usually work. The pill is one of the best inventions of the last century. It's not for every woman, but it definitely is for some too. I only had positive experiences with it including it stopping me getting pregnant!
@@nicholascoob1350exactly. By having less children, we can completely stall economic growth, ensuring that we exacerbate wealth inequality. The best way of removing wealth inequality, is economic growth, but well... I'm already at the top and don't have to do anything. Lol. So... Ya, I want the wealth inequality lol. It's hilarious, you've had rising wealth inequality for how long, yet every decision you guys make, makes it worse. Almost like someone is marketing them to you.
I used to care... I dunno why, maybe it's the lame holier than thou guilt so many have that causes them to pretend they're helping people. But I just don't care anymore. If people can't even see it... Screw it lol. You only live once, you can't save people, I'll just be happy I won the birth lotto.
Try a magnesium supplement for cramps. It works wonders, and most people are deficient in magnesium anyways.
You fell down the stairs and hurt your knee. Here take the pill. Bridgerton new season sucks. Here take this pill. - licensed medical doctor. 💀😐
Literally! 😂
I went to the doctor's to get a possible diagnosis for depression or anxiety and the first thing they tried to give me was the pill 🙄. I do not need birth control i need therapy and medication specifically for depression 😅
I went in for a check-up, like you're supposed to do, right? Found out my cholesterol was sky-high. She put me on a pill. Went back for a 2nd check-up. My cholesterol is a lot better, but the pill she put me on is tearing up my liver! What the hell?!
That’s mildly better than the canadian version
@@reedy_9619got a headache and a heavy period. Have you considered Maids. Doctor assisted suicide. Canada has gone full woke doctor assassin.
The pill is like a hearing aid. If u dont have a problem, you dont need it. It just becomes a bother, but it's important for people who desperately need it.
Some people take it for other reasons besides pregnancy prevention. I had a really bad ovarian cyst that grew so large, it covered my right ovary. It caused me a lot of pain and I needed surgery to get the cyst removed. The pain afterwards was absolutely horrible and when I asked my doctor about ways to prevent it from happening again, he suggested I take a specific kind of birth control pill because it regulates the growth of ovarian cysts.
My ex had a couple months where she had really bad cramps on her period. We looked into the different options together but she was really concerned about the side effects. She chose not to use it bc she didn’t know the long term effects and found some other things to help manage it
except unlike a hearing aid doctors don't even bother with basic testing to see if it's the solution for their patients health problem. which is why so many women suffer with it. they arent the ones who need it.
it should be standard to test hormones and know exactly what's going on in the patients body before pumping additional artificial hormones in and just assuming it will work and gaslighting the patient when it doesn't work blaming them instead of acknowledging the pill is not a catch all bandaid for everything like they pretend it is.
when a patient has hearing problems they get *tested* to see if it's temporary or not or wether they are eligible for a hearing aid or not.
we don't just throw hearing aids at them without bothering to examine why the hearing loss is happening in the first place.
I take it for acne
@fireemberess this I agree with. I was given it because I said my periods were really painful. It was handed to me like a cure for my problems. I just decided not to take it and sit through my painful periods.
There's reasons people need it, and I am sure I am not one of these people.
Like hearing aid, if u give it to someone that dosent need it, it just becomes a problem, just consequences are a bit worse for pills.
To me the pill worked wonders. It leveled my hormones, which helped with my irregular cycle and horrible cramps that made me throw up and faint because of pain. Also, my skin cleared significantly. There was no brain fog, no mood swings or weight gain. However, in my country, you can't just be randomly put on the pill. I got my blood work and other tests done several times and switched the first pill after a month because it didn't suit me. My OB kept me under supervision for half a year, with regular checkups and tests and all. I'd been taking it for several years, then got off. It's been five years. I'm all good.
Do you mind me asking which country you are in?
Same! I tried getting off and I went back on because I couldn’t handle the cystic acne anymore.
Hopefully doctors in your country will also look to help the underlying issues. In the USA the pill is used as a bandaid for all "woman" problems. They don't even test our hormones before prescribing it as a fix all.
@@bleechrcreechrr I'm from The Netherlands and doctors here are pretty much the same. When I went to a dermatologist for the acne the first thing she said was just get back on birth control. I tried all the topicals for about 8 months and I took antibiotics for 2 months so my only last options were getting back on birth control or taking accutane
@@Esthie229 that's difficult I'm sorry. I have heard of someone women's acne being hormonal, and they were able to fix it after a long time of doing things to adjust their hormones but unfortunately you are on your own with it. You could maybe find a doctor who will test your hormones, but to get them back into balance you are on your own
PSA: do not get the copper IUD. I had it for 4 years. Caused uterine polyps that needed surgery to remove. Caused terrible 7 day HEAVY and PAINFUL periods that were just unnatural. The best solution is to be on nothing. Truly.
I second that!!! I have the hormonal IUD and I’m considering getting it taken out. I’ve only been on it for a few months and it’s caused nothing, but complications 😥
Ouchhhh I was wondering abt that...
The USA has so few IUDs compared to other countries because our FDA is so slow to accept new birth control. In the USA we have 5 IUDs available and 4 of them are hormonal, and one is a copper IUD, Paraguard, and it is absolutely terrible for most women. It's poorly designed, way too big for the average uterus, and secretes too much copper. I'm livid to hear the amazing things about copper IUDs in other countries that we don't have here. Look up the VeraCept, Mona Lisa, Liberte, and Ballerine IUDs in other countries. Some are in clinical trials to come to the US, but it could take years.... Our country's FDA is so behind on women's health products!!!!
Ok well what if your boyfriend doesn't like condoms and you don't want to go celibate, what then.
I had been on the pill for many years, and it caused some very low mood days for me. I wanted to try a non-hormonal method, so I got the copper IUD, but had it taken out after 9 months (it's supposed to last up to 10 years). The periods were SOO heavy and painful, and getting it inserted was one of the most painful experiences of my life. Also, I got yeast/bacterial infections constantly when I had it in. I ended up getting my tubes tied, but obviously that's not an option for women who want kids.
I understand the pill doesn’t work for every woman, but for me and my endometriosis it’s been a godsend. And that’s just it imo, you have to find what works for you.
There should, however, be more research done regarding women’s (reproductive) health in general. Apparently, many drugs are / were never even properly tested on women before they could be prescribed to them.
For actual health reasons the pill is okay and shouldn’t be doomed. I had a friend in school who had her period every 2 weeks, so her doctor gave her the pill and it definitely made her life better.
But they prescribed teenage girls the pill for no reason.
I use birth control patches which works pretty much the same as the pill. It made my life better and my period cycles have been regular ever since. Having my period on time consistently is such a huge relief, it saves me a lot of stress. The only thing my doctor warned me about when I started taking it is making sure I do not smoke, but I wonder how may women don't know that you shouldnt?
I'm 100% in a similar boat. I don't have Endo, but my cramps can be crippling. It's helped me immensely. However, finding one that worked and didn't make me go absolutely bananas, was a bit of a struggle. It's one of those things where it isn't necessarily bad, but like any medication, people need to take it seriously, and I feel it's kind of thrown at people, especially young girls, without much consideration.
@@squirrel490-n1pthe patch also works with hormones right?
Have also been on the pill for my endometriosis for a decade and I wouldn’t be able to stay in work without it. It’s made the pain reduce from debilitating to manageable. And I’ve been lucky that I haven’t experienced any adverse mental health affects- I hope more research is done to improve it for everyone.
I haven’t watched the full video yet, but this topic is one that is very personal to me and I wanted to share my experience. I acknowledge that lots of women have a bad time on the pill, as can be the case with any medication, but for me it’s been life changing and I have no intention of coming off of it- for further context I am on it for a handful of health reasons and not getting pregnant is low on the list (like an added bonus). My point with this comment is that there’s a lot of nuance to this topic and women need to choose what’s best FOR THEM. I don’t think the pill should be pushed on women but I also don’t think it should be completely ignored. Everyone has different experiences and there’s so many medications out there to try if you do want to be on the pill and other options to try avoid pregnancy if the pill isn’t right
I'm glad it helped you. Just because doctors over prescribe unneeded medication, doesn't mean the medication itself is worthless, or bad
@@impposter560considering hormonal contraception was developed by misogynistic eugenecists I beg to differ.
Thank you for pointing out the nuance. I have endometriosis and I wouldn’t have been able to manage the debilitating pain all these years without being on the pill. It’s not for everyone but it’s helped me so much.
I wish we had more alternatives that are only focused on pms and pmdd symptoms and not the birth control aspect. Tons of women suffer because of it
@@skeinofadifferentcolor2090 modern gynocological medicine was created by experimenting on enslaved black women without anesthesia. Doesn’t mean I’m going to stop getting Pap smears to assess my gynecological health and check for cervical cancer
I feel like most young men and women don’t really know what normal feels like. Between the Hub and the Hormone Pill we’re operating on zombie mode.
well said!
100% correct
I don’t know about “normal” but definitely not optimal, I would also add poor diet, junk food fucks with your brain too, it’s far more than just weight issues. Plus sleep deficiency
I was put on the pill once and had such a horrible reaction-looking back the reasons for why I was put on the pill by the doctor "horrible cramps" now make me question doctors. There are other ways to deal with menstrual pain, why was this the only option provided to me? None of the possible side effects were discussed till I had my reaction-this and the 2020 flu response have made me super suspicious of the medical and pharmaceutical industry relationship.
Practicing doctors and hospital bureaucrats are very, very frequently given given free vacations to resorts for 'pharmaceutical conferences'. Everything is literally free; food, entertainment, excursions, housing. Think Bahama resorts bought out for a week solely for the purpose of conferences, of four days in Vegas with no expenses. It amounts to a once in a lifetime style vacation that very, very few people are ever lucky enough to experience. And all the doctors have to do is sit through presentations. But heres the kicker; if you don't start buying supplies from that company and prescribing them, they don't invite you back. Sometimes you even have to meet a quota. Its not strictly a contract, of course. But it is 'understood' (its the same for vets too, btw). Some doctors get rewards for being the biggest buyer of the previous year (meaning they bought and prescribed more medicine than the others). And who's going to turn down a once in a lifetime vacation that happens every single year?? Whose going to turn down rewards?? And one of the most lucrative meds to push is birth control, because its something that is 'needed' for half a literal lifetime, every day, every month. So, so much money. My mother was a nurse in a big hospital and the doctors would brag and tell so many stories when they came back from 'conferences'. Some of them even got really nice watches as souvenirs from the companies, simply for attending. Its gross and kind of frightening. Your suspicion is warranted
Are you still having horrible menstrual cramps?
I seriously can’t stand that gynecologists refuse to offer any advice for pain or menstrual issues besides taking the pill.
@becca53444 usually because they don't work well enough for the general population.
@@tianamarie989Advice isn’t a prescription though. A simple pamphlet, “your pain relieving options!” Or a quick “btw on the NHS website” or “if you Google xyz you’ll find options abc…”
Last year the dr flat out said, “pill” and no side effects even when I mentioned my maternal line’s issues with it. So options are there, but they don’t exactly generate revenue.
Honestly after hearing about how little research is done on womens health and 4 different test rounds of the pill making me crazy, I don't blame them.
These pharmaceutical companies need to do their research before I'm down to try again
It wasn't until 2023 that pads/tampons were tested with ACTUAL BLOOD for the first time. What a surprise, blood absorbs differently than saline water! How do we trust a pill that is so dangerous when they can't even test menstrual products properly.
Good, good! Also don't trust the covid vaccines
@OfficerZ637what’s Vaush’s alt account doing here?
Part of this is on the women. They tried the same drugs on men, but men were not willing to take them based on the research. Women are more trusting. So pharmaceutical companies can release drugs targeted at women with little to no research in women will just trust that it works. Women have a far higher tolerance for bad side effects than men do, when it comes to taking drugs. Or doing any procedures.
Take the drug ozempic for example, this drug has very little track record yet women were willing to take it for off-label usage right away. Women have a far higher trust in drugs/operations than men do. Although you say that very little research is done on women's health, you are referencing the past. Now, wow we can argue about testing, a lot of research is done into targeting drugs at women because women will buy the drug. Also, part of the best part of targeting women in the business community, is that right now you guys don't believe that we are doing it, you will continue to believe that men are the focus for some reason even though women make up 70% of consumer purchasing decisions. We have to Target you because you spend the money. But the brilliant part of targeting you is that you think that we are targeting men.
I absolutely refused to go on the pill for years because I was worried about how the hormones would affect my mood, but a month ago I gave in and started taking it to manage my endometriosis symptoms as well as prevent pregnancy, and it's actually massively improved my mental health. My anxiety is at an all time low, and I find it so much easier to go about my days and get my tasks done.
Ive always felt as a man that men are way hornier than women by an overwhelming landslide. But at the same time I somewhat forgot the huge of BC effects of lowering libido and I guess thats a big reason why its effected women worse over the years to where it seems its at its lowest.
Who told you it lowers libido? It never did with me. Another lie put about by those who don't want women to have control over when their pregnancies are. Be careful to check what you repeat is true.
I honestly wonder how high a cost to libedo HBC and SSRIs have been for women.
It's a multi frontal approach: works physiologically and psychologically. I think it was first considered to be a bug but, after some deliberation, it came to be considered a feature. 0.00001% of probability of getting knocked up. (We'll casually omit the parts of our research that points to 0.00001% also being the probability of having good mental health, a healthy libido, functional and long lasting relationships)
I don't buy into men being hornier than women. I suppose it depends on what exactly you mean by "hornier," but for the most part, I don't think that's true. You're probably talking about stuff like pr0n addiction, but I'd argue social media addiction is just the female version of that and they both satisfy similar desires. Especially when it's sexual in nature, like regularly posting very suggestive pictures or, god forbid, starting an Only Fans. I think women just enjoy the social and emotional validation of prostituting themselves on social media way more than most men would. Most men would just go beat their meat. Most of us won't get laid no matter how many cute pics we take anyway.
The irony of your statement is that women wouldn't even need the pill in the first place if men approached sex with less libido and more common sense. I've never been in a relationship where the man didn't value sex as so highly important that it actually had a negative impact on our relationship because it took precedence over other things, including preventing an unwanted pregnancy. Men complain about wearing condoms or not getting any, but they rarely stop to think about what's at stake when they refuse to compromise. They are so focused on their sexual wants that they don't even consider what the situation actually needs. Instead of worrying about birth control killing the woman's libido, why don't you worry about helping her to prevent a pregnancy she doesn't want, so that the entire burden and all of the side effects don't have to fall on her? That alone is something that a lot of women would consider a turn on.
I was on the pill for about two years, the entire time I was miserable and my sex drive was near 0. The final nail in the coffin was when I got a mysterious growth on my calf, about the size of a quarter. I went to urgent care, and the doctor took one look at my leg and asked if I was on a birth control pill. When I answered yes, she told me to quit it immediately, and then a few days later the growth was gone. Never figured out what exactly that was all about, but it was enough to scare me from ever taking it again.
If this story is true, WTF? Do you remember any details?
Oo woman get another doctors opinion please if that was me I would not be able to rest without a definite answer 🙏
Probably fluid retention that caused that growth. After getting off the pill the fluid retention stopped and the growth went away
I remember hearing a story of a woman who developed cervical cancer from being on the pill, she got off it for a month and the cancer went away.
@@skeinofadifferentcolor2090 damn wtf?!?!
My sister HATED her experience with the pill. She started taking it after being married to prevent pregnancy. The year or so she was on it, she felt like a totally different person which, of course, impacted her new marriage. She also shared the sentiment of feeling like a veil had been lifted once she stopped taking it. And unfortunately, she found out she wouldn’t be able to conceive anyway so it was all in vain. And now, she still deals with hormonal issues due to her brief stint with the pill. Because of her experience, I chose a non hormonal birth control. It’s been almost six years and has worked great for me.
Hormonal birth control definitely isn’t for everyone.
What birth control have you been using, if you don't mind sharing? I was on hormonal BC for a month, and ended up gaining 5 kilograms, feeling bad, and having large clots when I was on my period. I also have 6-day long periods (luckily, there's heavy bleeding only during the first 2, sometimes 3 days, and spotting on the remaining ones) that can sometimes be pretty painful, so I'm a bit sceptical about getting a copper IUD.
@@katarzynakolodynska9387second this question
No problem! I’ve been using a copper IUD. No hormones, and it’s immediately affective once it’s placed. It’s effective up to 12 years and my doctor told me it’s second to having your tubes tied. I will warn you though, right after getting it placed, it was painful. It also makes your periods more intense, so if they’re already bad or if you are prone to endometriosis, I wouldn’t recommended it. But those are the only downsides.
@@meganhartman2755 Looks like I will be stuck with condoms, then :( Thanks for sharing your experience, though.
@@katarzynakolodynska9387 I don't have sex but when I was BC, IUDs all sounded so unnecessary and painful just so I could experience pleasure. Unless it's for a specific health reason, I don't really think its necessary for women to alter their hormones just to have sex without a condom. And the stories of the women that got the IUD inserted just for the baby to come out holding it😂Imma stick with condoms, less hassle for me.
"it was natural."
Whenever I hear someone speaking about "all-natural," I say, "hurricanes and tornadoes are natural, but can still kill you."
Sad it's a traumatizing word for you. I guess real, really, reality, and realistically is so unbearable for you. 😏💅🏿⚖️💜🇺🇸🌍🍿🎥💸💸💸🥴🤞🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🥱🥱🥱🤭🤭🤭
Honestly, the pill was a gamechanger for me in my twenties! My anxiety improved, my periods got lighter, and the period pain improved exponentially. I have no regrets. With that said, once I hit my thirties, I did start to experience more side effects and chose to come off it. I think we need to be careful that we're not opting for hormonal contraception as a way to not be aware or knowledgeable about our own bodies. There's also something to be said for this trendy push towards all things natural. Natural doesn't necessarily mean better. Medication isn't the enemy.
What frustrates me is that we have been conditioned to think that every physical/emotional issue we face as women is just randomly caused and is only fixed by taking medication. Rarely do doctors ever address why our cramps are so horrendous, why we are getting dangerous cysts, why our acne is so bad, or why we are dealing with anxiety/depression. There is a cause to those things that can be addressed through other means besides a pill. Our bodies are not broken but can heal themselves. Medical intervention can absolutely play a positive part but the first and only solution to our problems shouldn't be "Here, take this pill that may or may not work for you that you'll have to be on for the rest of your life or until you reach menopause. 👍" Our bodies are amazing and when we learn how they are actually supposed to work, it changes everything (at least it did for me and many other women I know)! Our periods shouldn't be painful, we shouldn't deal with constant fatigue, and we shouldn't be constantly bloated after every meal. We've just accepted that these things are normal. Just because they are "common" doesn't mean they are "normal". You are not broken. You can heal. ❤
Jasmyne Theodora made an amazing video essay about the pill too, and she had amazing psychological info in that video essay as well. I definitely recommend it for women who want to learn more about the pill and want to make an informed decision when it comes to it.
Jasmyne Theodora is one of the best conservative influencers for young women out there
Is she even remotely qualified to speak about this? Like, is she a midwife? An OBGYN? I would never take laypeople's opinions on this.
@@Tonald_Drumpft she's used birth control, she's a mother and has a degree in psychology.
@@serenityssolace not sure if she's conservative. I know she's a Christian and sometimes our views overlap with some conservative views.
@@Tonald_DrumpftI would think that being a woman is enough of a qualification to talk about female reproduction. 😂😂😂
Taking the pill has helped ease the symptoms of my endometriosis immensely. It’s not a one size fits all solution for everyone but it shouldn’t be demonised either.
I’ve never been on birth control and have never had a pregnancy scare. It’s far from the only way to prevent pregnancy
I'm from a country where someone being "on the pill" is pretty unusual (I'm 27 now and from my environment I've never heard anyone being on hormonal birth-control) so it's always been so insane to me that all these people sit on hormonal birth control since they're young teens and then are surprised that they don't feel good??
It's all we know here. I made the mistake of being honest with my mother about being sexually active at 16 and she immediately had me put on birth control. Also, boys are not encouraged almost at all to wear condoms. It's an "inconvenience" to men so women have to handle the sexual responsibility herself. It's wild out here lol
@@thelight1385 I guess I'm just yet to personally meet a woman from my environment who has these issues lol, Idk what else to tell you.
It's not like hormonal birth control doesn't exist here, I'm sure doctors prescribe it to women who have issues, but it's just not common. I myself have very painful periods, however I am not using any hormonal substances for that, I just pop a painkiller once in a while
What country?
@@L0VEisAmixtape Lithuania.
@@thelight1385 it’s also the food they consume and their daily lifestyle if they aren’t in America less toxins in body since childhood, and maybe they don’t have to work stressful jobs, stressful commute, also better male partners could be available to them which makes everything easier
Man...imagine men if we had our Testosterone production stunted by pills growing up, it would cause so many issues.
It’s already happening to
Men who are eating Bad American foods ..
I had a bad reaction to taking hormonal birth control. I’ve never wanted kids so I just got my tubes tied
As someone who is on and off the pill (it depends on how I’m doing financially when it comes to refilling on the pills) I’m quite lucky. The pill only affects my period which is the main reason I’m on it. When I’m off the pill I’ve always been very irregular and I can go 4-5months without having a period. All the pill affects for me is it makes my period more consistent and I always know when I’m gonna get it. It’s never affected my mood or weight
if you want you should look up how the first pill was tested (oh the horrors) and what birthcontol methods have the highest porcentages for each side effect (trully wild numbers)
in general putting hormones in your body is risky, but the pill and others will never be discontinued dispite the abismal side effects and how likely they are, its a need for society at this point
It's not a need, what society actually needs is to relearn self-control and how to keep it in their pants. But I guess that's not gonna be happening for a very, very long time.
@@ambivelent-artist what a ridiculous comment. Can you understand that many women take the pill for reasons other than birth control? Oftentimes because of serious health reasons?
And also, when did society ever really have self-control and kept it in their pants?
Dr. Sarah Hill has written a book called "This is Your Brain On Birth Control:The Surprising Science of Women, Hormones, and the Law of Unintended Consequences". She's also made several interviews on RUclips, and I recommend anyone who cares to know about what it does to women and the things we _still_ don't know about it, to give it a glance or listen. It's very interesting
I was on the pill since I was 10 years old. It was given to me because of heavy periods and extreme pain. They never really tested me for any other hormonal problems, which I found out later I did have. So it really does feel a little bit like an agenda, not going to lie. I happily got off of it in the middle of my marriage with my husband when he found out everything that it actually does to me. He was not happy and I got off of it. Been happy you've ever since!
You started getting your period THAT young?
I hope, medically speaking, you are doing fine.
What is your diagnosis if is not much to ask? 10 y.o. 😮
It's not that uncommon for a girl to start her menstrual at 10, y'all lol. I went to elementary school with a girl who started at 9 and I started at 11.
@@marlonmoncrieffe0728that young? Most girls start at that age
I started mine at 11, I don't think doctors in the UK would dream of giving the pill to a child that young. Absolutely disgusting you are just going through puberty ffs. Sorry that's really annoyed me, that's going to cause alot of issues if you ever want kids? Why the hell don't they test hormones first ffs
I did this when I was 19 years old, I'm 48 years old now. It really made me mental, everyone thought I was insane however it was the best thing I did. It was up to my partner for the contraception.
Getting the pill prescribed due to my menstrual pains and problems at 16, it helped me get over my gender dysphoria, and settle into being feminine and accept my lot as a woman.
When I got off the pill at 26, I got back to being angry and horny again…I also had thought I had ‚mellowed out‘…sucks to be me
It definitely helped me with my moods
Huh so instead of hormone blockers the pill could help?
@@starstoryteller it might be a reasonable treatment alternative.
I have just recently found out about an ‚intersex condition‘ that is called late-onset congenital adrenal hyperplasia, LOCAH for short.
I might have that, I haven‘t yet found the courage to get the gentlest done.
Considering, however, that only 10% of women who suffer from it get diagnosed, and that LOCAH makes up the majority of ‚intersex‘ people, I think the classification of a mere enzyme deficiency is wrongfully allocated into the ‚intersex‘ conditions.
However, seeing as this is a very well established syndrome, I am more than annoyed that this isn‘t being tested for instead of treating queer girls as trans
@@starstoryteller it just calms it down it doesn’t block them. Blocking them at young age is a lot more risky imo.
It helped with your gender dysphoria? That's a new one. Is that a known thing? Do you still have gender dysphoria?
I watch a podcast with the author Sarah E. Hill of “This is your brain on birth control” it’s crazy how much impact hormonal BC has on the body especially the developing body in puberty. Highly recommend seeking out her book or her podcast appearances.
i got on the pill for one month. i literally just did a 5 minutes survey on Boots and was prescribed them, which is insane. the reason i got them was because of my period pain, and i heard that apparently it could make periods more bearable. I could never be more wrong! i bled non stop for 12 days (and during a trip, too). my boyfriend's parents are medical professionals and they suggested me to stop taking the pill immediately. i know prolonged period is a side effect of birth control pills but it scared me so much.
I don’t mean to be rude but the whole “we didn’t know” attitude towards stuff like this is kind of dumb. It’s the same with how old folks said that they didn’t know how bad cigarettes were like you’re inhaling toxic fumes on the regular. With the pill your tricking the hormones in your body how does one “not know” or at least even THINK that there could be some bad side effects to that
At 14-16 you don’t have enough knowledge of your biological self to judge wether it has side effects. I must admit doctors gloss over possible side effects when recommending. When it has already become a societal norm, you don’t think to question it while you are young, when you’ve been on it for a few years and are no longer young, if it worked for you you don’t think to question it.
If it didn’t work for you, society points you to an alternative product.
I personally think that the covid vaccination (and it’s implementation process) has lead people to mistrust other commonly used drugs in the market and this is why women are now questioning birth control.
Yeah, you make a good point their. Take some personal responsibility. Then again, im on the Mirena, and it has worked wonders for me.
Because people listen to their doctors. And doctors are expected to know what's what.
@@jessicab6723 I guess you can always say “trust the experts” but it’s dumb to throw away any suspicion. I know most people think this way but it doesn’t make it any less dumb. Even if they don’t know it themselves, most experts don’t push what’s best for you just whatever the current status quo is
Alot of medications are made to ""trick"" your body into doing what you want. Alot of these medications are sold and marketed as ""safe"". Alot of young women go to the doctor for any kind of concern, heavy periods, painful periods, acne, mood swings, reproductive concerns, and have birth control thrown at them. Alot of women go to the doctor with concerns about their birth control and are dismissed by doctors who stand to make money from keeping women on BC. Get over yourself dude. Women are allowed to talk about women's issues.
I've been off the pill for a little over a year now, and I am SO HAPPY. I used to get incredibly angry for a couple days every cycle; every little thing set me off, and I took everything so personally that it hurt. I haven't had any irrational anger since I've been pill free, and my relationship with my husband has been so much happier. He supported me through the highs and lows during my "monster days" - but he's relieved that I'm healthier and not dealing with unnatural hormonal mood swings, and he no longer has to wonder if he did something wrong to upset me (I love you babe, thank you for your patience
I am a female to male trans man, and I was put on the pill when I was 16 and I could only take one form of it because I’m allergic to aspirin and at the time there was only one that did not contain aspirin. It was to control my pcos and endometriosis symptoms. Ortho Tri-Cyclen.
The pill made me so mentally unstable that I dropped a sandwich on the floor and I started crying and threatened to kill myself. I would cry and scream at nothing, I felt psychotic. I was trapped in this awful hellish loop of sadness and misery. That was such a dark dark time of my life. I felt so horrific I can’t even begin to describe the atrocious PMDD-like symptoms the pill gave me. I found myself picking fights with loved ones, experiencing rage at nothing. Everything made me cry. I lived like this for almost an entire year.
I may be a trans man, and I may live as a man and as a fully transitioned trans man I do not have uterus or female reproductive organs anymore. But I continually advocate for women’s rights.
❤
You are still a female. Seek help..
I think the pill is actually helpful for some who have legit hormonal imbalances that are normalized by the pill (some of my HS friends experienced this), but for the vast majority of females, the hormonal manipulation is not the healthiest long-term. I have also seen some of my friends have very negative reactions to the pill. I personally took the pill for about 15 years, from my teens until I turned 30. My mother had also taken the pill so I did have a reference point and I was always careful to take it at the same time every day. She told me that it's a solid choice for birth control but it's not something I should necessarily be taking long-term. When I started taking it, the medical advice at the time said women over 35 should not use it, but I think that age limit kept getting pushed out as time went on and different pills were introduced. I became generally more sensitive to medications and drugs of any kind as I entered my 30s and I no longer felt good taking the pill. I was also at an age and at a place in life where I would keep a baby if I were to become pregnant. I did not necessarily feel depressed or anything like that, but the fullness in my breasts that I was 90% sure was coming from the pill no longer felt good or healthy, so I stopped taking the pill. We must remember that our bodies will change throughout our lives and our hormones at 15 are not going to be the same as our hormones at 30 or 45. I had a pretty regular cycle prior to my going on the pill and I did not experience any significant negative effects from stopping it. In the nearly 10 years since then, my body has slowly changed as I approach mid-life, and I will say that I am glad that I stopped the pill earlier rather than later. But that is just my experience. I do know some women have really benefitted from the pill. It was just no longer right for me. I also don't see myself doing HRT later in life. But, again, that is my choice. I do think it's important for women and girls to have access to enough information about the pill to make informed decisions. The pill has been out for long enough now that we have generations of women who can speak to their experiences with it.
The affects of the pill have been known for decades. My wife came off the pill in the early 90's because of how it changed her.
It may be known but no one NO ONE tells women about it. When i had the implant put into my arm, the biggest warning I got was for acne. Nothing said about how depressed, angry, and sexually repulsed I'd be. Just "your skin might break out. You cool with that?"
The sad part is that people have been talking about this for many years only to be dismissed as fear mongering and it's only now starting to reach people. Granted, better late than never of course but many have suffered as a result.
I really hope that parents get more comfortable with learning more about hormonal birth control because I doubt that doctors will stop giving it out like candy during Halloween.
When my doctor first prescribed the pill I was 14 or 15. I told him my cycle was irregular (in hindsight, normal for a teenager who just got her period), and he immediately told me to take the pill. Of course I trusted him, and of course I then had a very regular period. I took the pill for 10+ years and only got off it when my bf and I split up. It was like going through a second puberty; but thinking about it now, I was never a "typical" teenager, so I guess my puberty got delayed until my late twenties - and I absolutely hated it. It took three to four years until I actually felt like a normal human being again. It's true that my period got more painful and longer, but I also feel more in tune with my body and I won't ever go back to the pill.
People also have to consider there’s different types of birth control not just one. The one I’m on doesn’t give me all these experiences that these women have. I think there need to be more details about this. What pill are they on? Is a specific brand? Correlation doesn’t equal causation, we need more info on this.
There is a channel here ran by an OBGYN called _Doctor Mamma Jones._
Yes!! Wished more people would see your comment
I agree! I feel better on the pill but I do have a light one. The other ones did give me more side effects. I don’t think most of the studies that a lot of these people refer to have even stated what pills the women were on exactly. It would make sense that the pills with more hormones would have more side effects
When I was around the age of fourteen I started taking a (non-birth control) medication recommended by my dermatologist in order to deal with some teenage acne. After a couple months of taking the medication I noticed that my menstrual cycle had completely stopped. When I mentioned this to my primary care doctor, she became extremely concerned about its effect on my hormones and overall health, and sent me to a specialist in women's reproductive health.
While I was speaking to this specialist I remember being so nervous about why my period had stopped and how the medication was affecting me (I was also experiencing extreme light-headedness among other issues). Instead of reassuring me in any way- or advising me to consider other solutions- she immediately asked if I was on the pill. At this time I had never had sex (and didn't have plans to anytime soon), so I told the doctor no. She spent what felt like the next half hour trying to convince me to get on the pill- saying "some girls on the medication you're taking assume it works like a birth control and then they end up pregnant... so I like to put them on birth control".
I don't know why her main concern was a 14 year old non-sexually active girl getting pregnant and not all of the other concerns I had about my health, which she left unaddressed. It was so frustrating because I felt like I was being ignored. If a teenage boy was scared about health issues he was experiencing, I don't think that many doctors would turn it into a lecture on using condoms and not getting girls pregnant- and yet so many of my conversations with doctors as a teenage girl felt like this.
A couple years later, my primary care doctor also encouraged me to get on the pill, even though I still wasn't having sex. I remember being so confused why she had panicked and sent me to a specialist when the acne medication had affected my natural cycle - yet she was to quick to push me to take the pill even when it wasn't necessary now - which by design changes your hormones and natural cycle. I know so many women that have had positive experiences on birth control, as well as many who have had negative experiences- like my best friend who told me she "didn't feel like herself" on it. It's a very personal decision. I find it concerning that so many doctors push birth control on young girls- especially with all of the serious side effects associated with it.
I came off birth control a few months ago after being on it for like 12 years! A few years on the pill and like 6 years with the implanon. No crazy personality changes but it is super trippy to have normal periods again with cramps lol and I'm a lot more excited if you know what I mean. I want to be off it cause of new research coming out about long term effects and because I want to be pregnant in a year or so. But yeah can't believe we just believe there are no side effects to something that affects your natural functioning so much
THE COPPER IUD ALSO AFFECTS YOUR HORMONES! I had copper IUDs for years thinking it was not effecting my hormones without knowing that copper acts as estrogen in the body. Not to mention the inflammation it creates (that's how it works) has endless adverse effects. Just so you know!
I was on birth control during high school to help manage my acne. I was only on it for maybe 2-3 years at most and didn't have any negative side affects. I don't even think my sexual libido was low because I remember being very curious about sex and was excited thinking about it. The only reason why I decided to stop taking it was because it felt abnormal to not have a period. It just didn't feel right to me.
That sounded pretty cool not to have a period
Contraceptives in general aren’t natural (in the sense that our bodies aren’t made to prevent pregnancy naturally) regardless of whether they’re hormone-based or not, so tbh I find at least that part of the argument weak (they’re anti-pill but plan to go on different contraceptives).
im someone who was dealing with depression before i started taking the pill and i swore off it after a year because it made me genuinely suicidal. i'm glad we are waking up to how miserable it makes us feel and looking for other alternatives
I was given the shot at 17 for a full year. It made me so depressed and I cried daily. It took me months after getting off of it to feel more like myself.
I'm from southeastern Europe, the pill here is mostly used when a girl/woman has hormonal issues. I'm 25 and I only heard of one instance where a girl started taking th pill purely for contraceptive reasons. In fact a common term is 'antibaby pills' (I think I heard the phrase in German too), it seems like a good anti marketing plan, I mean who would want to take something with that name. I realize, as we are a bit more old school over here, there would probably be a bit of a stigma around taking the pill, but to be honest whenever I had or heard a conversation about it the opinions were 'why would I modify my hormones when they're working?', almost like it was intuitive - this thing will destroy your natural hormone balance, why do that? Especially when condoms exist! It always baffles me why not just use condoms? Also, a lot of commentary is along the lines of 'since the pill was invented contraception became just the woman's responsibility' here that is not the case, usually the guy has to buy condoms or no intimacy, or at least not the kind that can result in pregnancy (doesn’t have to be the guy, in the beginning of a relationship it usually is though). One more thing, it emphasizes that it takes two to tango. I know guys don’t like wearing them, boo frickin’ hoo it protects from pregnancy and std’s and no one’s body is modified, and there are nonlatex ones available. TLDR *why not condoms?*
I agree with you. Because if you take the pill or Artificial hormones from doctor like progesterone and once u get off these things your body will be too lazy to make those natural hormones again because they where used to the Artificial stuff and your hormonal system will be sluggish . That’s why I never took progesterone pill when they told me too. I just ate healthy foods that help my hormones
I don’t understand how people using natural cycles just rely on that I’ve been natural for 3 years and have never had a pregnancy scare and I don’t use natural cycles I just use clue to know my cycles , and I know my cervical fluid inside out and know when I’m more fertile and use extra protection on those days or just don’t have sex . But I wouldn’t just rely on purely my natural cycle, as soon as I’m off my period we use extra protection until I’m certain I’m not ovulating anymore .
Also I have endometriosis and potentially PCOS and the pill made these symptoms worse and just gave me lots of other problems , combined pill made me have a blood clot so can’t take that, mini pill made me have cystic acne when I’d never had a spot in my life and I can’t do the coil because of my endo so I had no other choice to go natural. I just have to be extra careful because sometimes my cycles are a bit longer or shorter each month but I know when I’m ovulating due to my bodies signals and doing some research
Women are put between a rock and a hard place when it comes to fertility. Either you need to keep getting pregnant or you need to take drugs with bad side effects. It's difficult either way.
I've also become anti-pill since the side effects I experienced but to be honest I don't know if there is a true alternative when you don't want to keep getting pregnant.
I think men should take more accountability when it comes to fertility.
Have you looked into Natural Family Planning at all (where you count the days of your cycle and have sex in relation to that)? I’ve heard good reviews
The true alternative if you don't want to keep getting pregnant is a tubal ligation. Or your partner getting a vasectomy.
"Either you need to keep getting
pregnant or you need to take drugs with bad side effects."
‼️ What is up with this *false dichotomy* ?? did you know there's another option called being responsible?? being responsible for who you open up your legs to?!
"I think MEN should take more accountability" ?!?!
Ma'am it takes 2 to tango. Please explain it further why you think men should take MORE accountability. Its both parties equally imo
Stop reinforcing the stereotype that women are not able to take accountability for themselves.
If your partner isn't willing to wear a condom then they aren't worth your time
Apparently tracking your fertility window helps.
To quote:
"To get pregnant, you need to have sex on the days leading up to and around when you ovulate. The day prior to ovulation, and the day of ovulation itself, being your two most fertile days. Once the egg has gone (usually within a day of ovulation) you cannot get pregnant until after your next menstrual cycle has started."
But "However, because sperm can survive for up to five days, having sex on the days leading up to ovulation can increase your chances of getting pregnant."
you should do your own research just to be safe and tell your partner to use a condom.
I took it to get rid of my painful periods. My anxiety and depression were increased, and I had 5 panic attacks in less than a year when I had never had one in my life. They were end of the world, death is coming, can't breath, 30 minute panic attacks. After getting off, my anxiety and depression decreased and I stopped having panic attacks all together. I'd rather just deal with the painful periods at this point.
I was a fertile mertile, and usedthe rhtgym method with saliva testing for 7 years, no problems. But you are correct, you have to be diligent. Though with the saliva test you can test every day since you just had to lick a glass slide. When I was younger, I was on depo, and it made me feel like I was experiencing pregnancy. Coming off of it were some of the nastiest withdrawals for 8 months! I can't believe it was ever approved. And I am disabled and have experience with medication.
I found that the ovulation test strips were amazing in helping me get pregnant when I wanted to first tries. First try with a miscarriage and then first try with our now 18 month old.
@@skeinofadifferentcolor2090 I used the rythm method (unprotected sex on infertile and low-risk fertile days, condoms or avoiding PiV on fertile days), and THE MOMENT I slept with my husband on a high-risk fertile day without using protection, I got pregnant.
I use pee sticks, I've never heard of testing spit. Interesting.
I know a lot of women with difficulties to conceive after years of pills...
Just be celibate.
Like me, a kissless virgin... 😐
Same here. In the grand scheme of things, I don't think I'm missing out on much.
Most people aren't going to be celibate bro
@@dromalloma2651 I say save it for marriage. But maybe that's just me.
@@maskedman5657 Well, then they're just gonna have to be responsible individuals. ☝️
Tale your time to find a guy you trust…I waited till 21.
Don‘t wait for marriage, though….because you are likely to not see any red flags and then commit for life
I think a bit of diligence, care, and responsibility is a reasonable expectation for adults capable of creating new humans.
The idea that everything can and should be easy is an idea of the privileged who are rarely responsible for anything.
I've been off for a year and a half and I've never been happier with a decision I've made. I feel better and I am no longer an emotional zombie during that time.
Ive been on and off the pill over the last 15 years. I never had any issues with it. It was teial and error to figure out which one would benefit my cycle as i was on it for horrendous acne. Too many people stick their noses up to women taking it for acne. I bet those who stick their noses up to it for that reason either never had acne or never had crippling mental health issues with acne. I had both. Once we fou f the right one thats it. I came off of it due to my husband opting for a vesectomy. Now all of the issues women state they have while on the pill were the issues i had taking spironolactone. Never again will i take that.
I actually just started taking the pill again after stopping it for 8 months for this exact reason. Everyone kept telling me that my hormones would balance themselves out naturally, but even after 8 months my testosterone is too high. I just couldn’t deal with the cystic acne anymore, it made me so insecure
Had to abruptly stop taking the pill, do to it making me so depressed, that I no longer had the will to live.🙃
Glad you’re doing well
my periods are so horribly painful and heavy and inconsistent, which is why I was put on the pill. and despite the fact that my periods have gotten so much easier to manage due to it, I am still considering coming off of it if it means not having a migraine 4 times a week.
Guess I am lucky with my pill 😅 rather not have periods
Same, so far so good after 5 years, totally worth it to not have my periods every month.
@@katherineofarrogant6370 I have had anxiety disorder before I even started my periods so imagine what that was like before the pill. It’s not for everyone but it is for me. I’ve lost count on how many years I’ve been on it now 😂
Yes you are very lucky. I got the bc insert when I was 16 and my periods would last for months. Effed up my hormones too. Tried the shot in my 20’s and same thing. Never again 😭
@@marketables that sucks. Some of my friends have had bad experiences with the pill and the shot or whatever the one in your arm is. But I’m sorry you went through that. Being a woman is really hard
You treating your periods as an illness
Don't get the copper IUD!! Yes, it lasts for 10 years, but I am now anemic because of it. My periods are extremely heavy and LONG... lasting 2 weeks or longer.
If you want to get an IUD, get the Mirena brand. It lasts 8 years, and sometimes you don't get your period at all!!
Honestly, pills can be a good thing for some women (pretty soon men) and also a bad thing, really I think people should do research before they make a decision like that.
Really needs better follow up, too. Too often I feel side effects are just written off as "just wait a few months as your body gets used to it"
@@cimmerianmuse13 Yea this is the big issue. The side effects you get from birth control can change over time and gynocologists often just write it off as "that not really a side effect that we acknowledge " or "your body is just adjusting".
Men just need to start taking their pills...😂😂😂🤞🏿🤞🏿😏😏😏😏🤣🤣🤣🤣💞💜🤭🌍🍿🎥💸
When I was young my doctor told me I couldn't go on the pill because of hypothyroidism. Many years later another doctor told me the first doctor was 100% incorrect and I could have been using it. But by that time I'd had enough friends suffer severe medical complications from the pill that I decided to just keep sticking to condoms and spermicide. I do occasionally take plan B when a condom breaks, but outside of that no hormonal meds. I'm happy with my choice.
When I was at school, I distinctly remember having all my friends talk about being on the pill from about the age of 14 onwards, but also that it was something that I never wanted to go onto because it seemed to me that messing with your natural processes wouldn't be a good thing. But now so many of my friends are coming off of it!
The pill messed with my emotions HARD, so I went with the IUD. THE INSERTION HURT THAT I DON'T KNOW WHAT!! The pain for a full two minutes of agony, I was about to throw up, the nurse had to hold me and told me everything was going to be okay. I was soaking wet with sweat for two full minutes, but there was no pain after and it's been two months. The only thing is for a little while after (happening to me still) you're gonna keep spotting/bleeding.
I'm on the mirena IUD. I have severe cramps now every month when I get my period. I can feel the points of the IUD when my uterus contracts
My experience is one of a kind, and I hope this could shed some light on it. The pill did wonders to me! I barely had libido and my mood is much, much better.
My periods are heavy, to the point I had to take iron supplements after every period. The cramps are excruciating, to the point I can walk or sit, and even if I giggle it hurts, but the worst thing is my PMS. Most women deal with PMS symptoms, but I have PMDD. Not only I become highly sensitive, extremely depressed and anxious, I also get borderline suicidal! My eyes were bloodshot from light sensitivity and I had terrible headaches. Every month, for 10 days, my life was miserable and I was literally considering getting a total hysterectomy (I’m only 22). My lab results were always fine, and my hormones were in excellent levels (I do workout and try to eat healthy).
I had a talk with my gyno and psychiatrist, both of them agreed to try a low dose combo pill. I did a lot of research, asked other professionals and tried some different brands until I found the lab who worked best for me and the difference it’s day and night. My mood is stable, my skin and hair are much better and I can sleep well, which highly contributed to my weight loss.
I recommend every woman to do their research before choosing hormonal birth control, there’s a lot of side effects that could outweigh the benefits, but like all medications it doesn’t suit everyone.
I don't think your experience is one of a kind, the pill helps a lot of women myself included. But for others it's been forced upon them or has had negative impacts so they're entitled to their opinion.
IUD is where it's at. Had mine for years and love it. It's the copper one. I don't want kids anyway but it's good for women to know the options. It never sat well with me some thing controlling my hormones
I had horrible, awful periods that would last anywhere from 5-8 days where I would see large clots. Gynecologist said I likely had endometriosis (for an “official” diagnosis I would probably need surgery, so for now they went with my previous symptoms and how it responded to treatment). Endometriosis runs in my family. If it gets out of control it is actually a threat to fertility and overall wellbeing. The pill is a miracle medication for me. Not to mention, I should not have kids yet, but I still want to be able to enjoy sexual intimacy with my partner. I’ve had no problems, in fact it’s treated my major ones. No weight gain, improved moodiness during periods of I let myself have them, little to no impact on my libido. I thank modern medicine for my pill. It doesn’t work for everyone and you should be aware of the side effects and make decisions in your best interest, but I really hope this doesn’t turn into demonization of a legit medicine.
i was put on the pill for acne in my early teens. it made me constantly nauseous. i'll take acne and the ability to eat 😭
When i was very young i was offered some implant in my arm that would release contraceptive hormones.. but it was a horrific experience, extreme mood swings and all consumming depression.. i booked an appt with my GP about 2 yrs later, and begging, in tears, that they remove it or i would cut it out of my arm, it had transpired in counselling that my depression could be a hormonal imbalance..
The GP not only agreed but put in a complaint because the implant i was offered was for much older, pre-menopausal ladies and it should never have been an offered to an 18yo.
I finally gave up contraceptive pills by age 25 and my mood swings slowly stabilised, but it took years to flush the stuff out of my system.
Honestly the pill is psychological punishment. If i could, i would ban them al ASAP, such was my experience of hormonal contraceptives.
I feel it's important to point out that hormonal birth control is one of the primary and most effective means of treatment/symptom management for women with endometriosis and other conditions. I understand that your experience may have been awful, but banning is absolutely not the way to go; it would be catastrophic for so, so many people who couldn't function as normal members of society otherwise. Raising awareness for the risks of taking HBC without any proper medical reason (or just "to avoid falling pregnant") would most likely do a much better favor for girls and women out there.
I took the depo shot twice and I’ve never been the same since I feel like I’ve gained so much weight and can’t take it off no matter what, sex drive is lower, periods are irregular and so forth and I haven’t been on birth control for 10 years and I only got the shot twice and feel like it’s completely fucked up my body.
I love the pill. Got on it as an adult with informed consent though. I don't really support general anti pill sentiment that treats it like the devil, but it's not okay to pretend it's perfect and has no side effects ever.
I have PCOS and i've tried the pill multiple times. This time it's made a big difference. At first, adjusting was hard. For like 2 or 3 months I was very emotional, I would cry a lot and get upset a lot. After I got over that, I started feeling like I had more energy day to day. My mood stabilized and unless I'm on the sugar pills, I'm very steady. (If 1 is sad/upset and 10 is very happy, before the pill i was always below 5, and now i'm almost always at a 7).
In the first few months I was getting periods, but now I'm not getting them again.
It's definitely different for everyone and for people who don't have hormonal imbalances or medical conditions, it's just weird to take the pill. There's so many other birth control methods, its just not worth messing with hormones. There's also not enough research on the long term side effects of the pill.
I wish more women would actually look into naturopathy to try and balance their hormones that lead to the horrible period symptoms so many woman have before trying the bandaid solution that is the pill.
I started taking the pill in high school to control regulation (heavy cramps+heavy flow+annoying classmates=angry Priere) and took it until last year, roughly 10 years. Got changed to the "once every three months" one, got increasingly worse generic brands because lol insurance. Then when telling gyno this, she puts me on the patch, I go along because she said the pill ain't helping my weight and cholesterol levels anyway. One day into patch I get a sharp chest pain and called it quits on the whole thing. Doesn't help apparently the er... runoff from the pills apparently messes up fish fertility rates 😳
Amazingly, my flow has been better than it ever has, and I'm at least slightly less depressed, so hey 😅
The pill made me evil. I was horrible and I don’t know how my now husband stuck with me.
It took throwing my computer mouse across the office to realise how out of control I was. I’ve been off for twenty years now and do not regret it.
as someone with a hormone imbalance, possible endometriosis, and premenstrual dysphoric disorder, I don't know what to do. I'm suffering. I need help. I don't WANT to be on the pill. but my hormones are so out of wack I need something. lifestyle and diet aren't enough. I feel helpless.
When my ex fiance got off the pill after dating for 5 years and almost married. She went nuts and was very controlling. So I had to kick her out and take the house and dog. Why I hate doctors. I would not have wasted 5 years of my life with her if I knew how she really was!
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She probsbly lost attraction to you, and thus treated you with less respect
@lnaph it was prolly more I saw her as less because she acted differently and was less sexual. When she was in it she would squirt every time
That is a thing. Attraction factors can radically shift when women come off the pill.
@audreywineland1426 yea that's what I'm saying. She was on the pill since she was 16 for bad cramps and depression. So she wasn't the person she was meant to be since 16. Pills don't help people!
How girls describe feeling on the pill is how i always feel and i have never taken the pill. I wish i also had a straight forward reason for depression and anxiety but sadly...just glad i never started the pill or shit would have srsly hit the fan
I think one of the biggest messes that could happen to a teenage girl is getting pregnant. Therefore the pill seems to be a less harmful possibility.
You are right that teen pregnancy should be avoided but why not also teach teens about abstinence and other forms of contraception, like condoms and period tracking as well?
@@marlonmoncrieffe0728 I'm in favor of teens education on this subject. In my opinion, condoms are not very effective as as a contraception, either because they may not be put properly, or because they break to often. And period tracking, especially for teenagers is not a contraceptive method at all, as the failure rate is too high.
@@marlonmoncrieffe0728abstinence doesn't really work, its been proven that horny teenagers want to have sex
I have the IUD plus the depo shot, I’ve been on depo since I was 14, and got the Mirena hormonal IUD when I was 16. Holyyyy dingus endometriosis is bad but the side effects on depo alone are terrifying.
I’m a middle-aged lady and I recently tried progesterone for the endometriosis. I had to stop it because I was angry all the time, I hated everyone. I couldn’t even stand being around my cat and he’s my favorite thing in the world
@@MeowNow494 oh my god yes plus the loss of appetite but massive weight gain, the hair loss, the hair gain everywhere but your head, the dental stuff. I am so full of anxiety now that I grind my teeth in my sleep and have had three cavities 😐😐😐😐
You’re so right though even though I love my little tiggypants (my cat) I do have to remove myself from her. Plus I go through phases of despising my loved ones too. And it doesn’t even stop the pain, just the bleeding. And that’s only a few things I’ve noticed since starting.
To anyone pushing abstinence in the comments, chill. Sex is healthy for adult humans. We should be more advanced in medicine and/or pay attention to ovulation cycles and whatnot.
We shouldn't have to give up a healthy aspect of human experience.
Thank you!
Puritans ZZZZZ
Babies are literally the natural result of sex. It shouldn’t be a surprise.
I am so grateful you’ve made a video on this topic, my boomer mother was just trying to convince me to get on it….
Nah, if you don't have a medical need or excruciating pain don't do that
All I’m gonna say is that the pill revolutionized my mother’s generation and made them realize there is more to life than having children or being a mother. The pill has done more good than harm. Maybe stop listening to everything you hear on TikTok.
That's a strong reaction to women expressing their negative experience with it. They didn't say it should be banned. And it's 2024 there are tons of birth control options the pill is nothing special if some women decide to walk away from it
You are absolutely right. Women finally had choices, well said. 👏👏
I would kindly disagree with that sentiment as I see nothing better about women now in terms of general behaviour (this goes for men too)
Hearing all of these stories of women who are around my age that have been on the pill since their late teens was surprising to me. I must’ve been living under a rock as a teenager/young adult because my doctor never asked me if I wanted to take it, and my friends either weren’t on it or they were part of an secret club that I didn’t know about lol. The only people that I knew in high school who were on the pill were sexually active, so I figured that’s why they took it. Before I went to college, my mom asked me if I wanted to take a pill and I said no because I heard it makes you gain weight (I was an athlete then and was trying to be leaner at the time). After that, she just told to know to not get pregnant lol. But I never knew how common it was. I thought we all just suffered in silence during when our periods caused discomfort or took a Midol (period pain meds), I used to always see commercials for that growing up (im from the US)
Looks like I unknowingly dodged a bullet.
But I 100% agree that there is a lot about the female body that we don’t know about. I became more educated about my reproductive health within the last few years due to influencers making content about it than I did in school.
Abstinence > contraception
I mean, it’s the only sure way to not have kids. But I think contraception is still important too
@@KatieLHall-fy1hw - I think contraception is one of those "the road to hell is paved with good intentions" things. Contraception is very helpful, and it's good we can control how many children we have. It just shouldn't take the place of abstinence.
@@RachelRichards that’s not the only really the pill gets prescribed. I was prescribed it as a teen for ovarian cysts. Others get it prescribed for acne or cramps
@@RachelRichardsyou know that these are two completely different things? Let's just make men use condoms and that's it. Abstinence is a serious decision that is not easy, or particularly healthy since women have also needs. Repress your needs too much and you have an indivudual who is frustrated
@@Gabry4777 - Condoms are actually a great idea. Plan B as well.
I feel so much better after coming off of it a few years ago, I had been on it for 20 years from age 16 and I think it might have ruined my life tbh with depression, anxiety, self-harming and panic attacks. Since I’ve come off it I feel much clearer, more confident and happy and my periods are better although I have put on some weight which isn’t shifting but I could be in peri now. Fun being a woman 😑
My younger sister was on the pill forever. After she got married, she came off it, but she had an extremely hard time getting pregnant, and was eventually diagnosed with PCOS. The OB/GYN never told her it could have been caused by The Pill, but I think it's clear that is the case.
That’s not how it works. A lot of people get on the pill not knowing they have pcos which usually gets more prominent with time anyways. While you’re on the pill you have less symptoms and when you get off it they return. People usually get checked out by doctors for lack of period and acne right after stopping the pill, which are both normal side effects while your body tries to adjust. That’s when a lot of people get diagnosed.
Far from clear really
They offered me birth control for PCOS I rejected it and used natural remedies I am so much better and happier
I use those apps to be honestly you need to use though apps for like a year or so because what the app mostly does is collect your cycle data and use your data to predict your cycle and ovulation. After using my calendar app for 5 years now. The app is very accurate.
I've long wondered if the reason why many women feel depressed while on the pill is because from the body's perspective, you are losing a pregnancy every single month. Miscarriages have a huge impact on mental health, and we're basically tricking our bodies into thinking we're having mini miscarriages on a monthly basis. I've been off the pill for 2 years after having been on it for 4, and it's insane how in tune I am with my cycle now. I know I'm ovulating before I even check my app. The female reproductive cycle is an amazing thing!
"the body's perspective, you are losing a pregnancy every single month. Miscarriages have a huge impact on mental health, and we're basically tricking our bodies into thinking we're having mini miscarriages on a monthly basis."
That's not how it works. You have a misunderstanding on what withdrawal bleeding is. Additionally, withdrawal bleeding is completely optional, but women like to opt for it because having withdrawal bleeding is a sign that you're not pregnant.
The origins of why there is a sugar pill week, is due to the fact that Dr. Joh Rock, a developer of the pill, was Catholic. In order for the pill to match his religious beliefs, he made a sugar pill week to mimic a period, in hopes that the Pope would accept it. The Church did not accept it, and he left the church because he believed that since there was a bleeding, it would match the rules for "natural conception". However, the pill was also higher in dosage when it first came out and the side effects were much worse than the pills we have today. So it was also a break from the hormones on women. These are all factors for why there is a sugar pill week on the blister pack. However, the pill has been reformulated with a lesser dosage (and as effective), so it is not necessary at all to have a withdrawal bleeding with modern day pills.
It's not a real period, nor is it a "miscarriage". We don't know exactly why women are more likely to get depression from taking the pill. We are still trying to understand the mechanism of clinical depression.
I am glad that you feel better off the pill. But I am on it, and it has improved my life. For example, I no longer have acne.
Interesting that this topic is popping up when Roe V Wade has been overturned in the US and states are becoming more strict on abortions. I understand, I had a horrible experience with different birth controls (finally landed on the IUD which made me feel the least worst). But, what are these women going to do if they're sexually active and don't want children? In some countries where the pill is unpopular (like Japan), abortion isn't as stigmatized so they can use that as their birth control method. I'm just worried for the women who hear this push back on birth control but don't think of the consequences.
Women describe their experiences on the pill and as a man we are sorta just quietly forced to deal with the side effects as if it is normal
This is not about yall ☠️ bye.
Y'ALL being "forced to deal with the side effects" is funny LOL
Coming from a woman who's never been on hormonal birth control. You're funny 😆
Something that's always confused me is the need for birth control 24/7, regardless of activity and such.
I have been with my partner for almost 12 years and we use the 'pull-out method'. Now, I'm not advocating for it since most research says it's ineffective, but I think that's a self control issue? I wouldn't trust it with any other person than my partner, but it does work for us to the point that I wouldn't consider needing birth control.
& before any questions about fertility, we do have two children. (Total TMI, choose to believe me or not) Our 1st child was us being young and curious about how it would feel to not.. *ahem* pull-out. 🤦
Our 2nd child was planned, realizing we wanted our kids to be close in age, I got pregnant within 2 months of that decision.
It's been almost 6 years of no pregnancies since & we don't want any more children. So, just waiting to be "fixed" now. 🤞
I already have depression and anxiety but the thing is like.. do they not read the side effects? Mine always comes with a very big paper telling you about it. The two reasons I'm on it are because I used to have a VERY heavy flow and now they're not a murder scene, and of course, the second reason is to help prevent making a crotch goblin
I took the pill like 10 months in total. Each time i took it i would have the worst side effects from partial blindness, vomiting, light sensitivity on skin and eyes, fever, abdominal pain. After trying it literally 3 times in my life for a couple of months at a time, when i got the sun allergy and partial blindness i was out. Lol idk if im naturally allergic to something in it (i have food allergies), but i swear i prefer the risk of getting pregnant that be blind. Im just saying.