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Serious question migraine with tunnel vision/aura is not normal and is something that needs to be addressed?! My Dr told me I was just making it up in my head and refuses to remove my iud (I've had alot of issues since having liletta)
Girl I had my earbuds in listening to asmr, rolled over trying to fall asleep, *apparently* accidentally hit my phone, first thing I hear at 2am: "please don't put garlic in your vagina"
I am gay, and never once after coming out has a medical professional sought my wife’s opinion on anything. Yet before I was out, everything I did was somehow weighed against the needs and desires of an imaginary “future husband” without regard to my health or safety. Misogyny at its finest.
Yeah, same. It's like someone needs to stand up in front all past, current, and future medical professionals or everyone in world and say the following or something to this effect: "I am a human person and I own my uterus. No, no one else decides for me what happens to it and no man or child can rent it or any other part or sum of my body. What others want for my uterus is relevant because I didn't and don't choose a life of service."
In the past I never had doctors listen to me when I told them I couldn't possibly be pregnant, even when I was in middle school. It wasn't until I got the Nexplanon implant that people listened to me when I said it, but ONLY if I told them I had it. Definitely not the same thing since what you experienced was paternalistic, misogynistic bullshit, but sort of similar in that a lot of medical professionals don't seem interested in listening to cis women or female-presenting people when it comes to reproductive things.
if your partner is gonna get upset about you wanting birth control pills for your health and safety, i would question them.. for your health/safety and comfort, it’s your body. it is YOUR body, not someone else’s.
There is absolutely nothing funny about teenage pregnancy. Shame on that last person, their video was insensitive af. Pregnancy is terrifying to adults, imagine being 16.
Thank you for this♥️I'm a teen mom, and I was pregnant at 15 and I went through school hiding it because I knew people would judge me. When they found out, bam hate and judgement. I get called terrible names even though the only person I have done the deed with was my ex (my child's father) and I didn't consent to it, which is rape. Think before you judge, you don't know a teen mom's, teen dad's, single moms, single dad's, young parents situation. Thank you
@@ziagochenaur2980 I could never truly fathom the fear you must have gone through, or any young mom/dad. Having a baby is not all sunshine and rainbows, it's painful and risky in our world now. Though I'm sure holding your child's tiny hand when they are finally born makes everything worth it (wouldn't know, I'm not a parent though I hope to be one day :)). My cousin got pregnant when she was a teenager too, and now she's a registered nurse and a proud mom of three. At one point, she managed two jobs, college, and the kids (two young adults, one still a teen) all by herself (husband isn't really helpful unfortunately). She is truly one of the strongest people I know, and for that woman in that vine to make fun of teenage pregnancy like it's nothing made me see red. I hope for you and your child all of the best! It takes a lot of courage and commitment to raise a child, don't let unsympathetic people tear you down or feel ashamed for it. :)
@@ziagochenaur2980 I’m sorry you had to go through that, my aunt was also raped and her baby had a lot of physical and mental disorders, but she still stayed such a happy and positive person who absolutely loved her daughter.
When my mom tried to get her tubes tied 29 years ago the female nurse gave her a lecture about how she would regret it. This is about how the convo went. Nurse "You might want more kids someday." Mom "Nope, just the one." Nurse "Your husband might want more." Mom " He is also good with just the one, and left the number of kids to me. " Nurse "You might get remarried and your new husband might want biological kids." Mom had to report the nurse to the male doctor. He was very angry and had a talk with the nurse about how out of line she was. He apologized whole heartily to my mom. Btw my parents are still happily married and thanking God they decided on just one child. IDK what this nurse expected my mom to do, form her life around the wants of an imaginary second husband's? Also, why are we still having the same issues 29 years later?
I disagree. I don't think the nurse was trying to talk her out if it. It's just part of her job to find out for sure that the decision was her own for one thing, and to make sure she has thought of the permanent consequences.
@@acuteteacher When my mom reported her to the doctor he told the nurse, in front of my mother, she had no business talking to my mother like that, and was mortified that she would speak to his patients like that. It was not the nurse's job at all. She wasn't trying to make sure my mom thought about it. She was being rude and straight telling my mother she would regret it.
I agree with you about not making patients a joke, but I also wanna take that one step further and ask why teen pregnancy is remotely funny in the first place?.. even if the scenario were made up, I just personally find it tasteless.
I was thinking similarly. I'm studying to become a medical technologist, and it's been emphasized to us that we should meet our patients with dignity and respect and to treat their samples in the same manner, to remember that behind each vial and bottle, there is a person waiting for an answer.
@@myself0510 the "funny" part was supposed to be the reaction the person in scrubs had. the "oh sh*t she's pregnant" is supposed to be a funny reaction. Instead it just came off as unprofessional, tasteless, and uncaring towards the patient.
"bIrTh CoNtrOL iS bAd FoR yOur HOrMoNeS!!" "yes dearie.... that's the point" (bad joke that probably doesn't make sense but at the time of typing it it seems like a good idea)
Imagine being that 16 year old girl and seeing your medical professional make fun of you on tiktok... She's already going through enough, dont make it worse.
@@lisarodriguez6966 Id be so, so, angry and upset. I'd report her to the head of the hospital, to the medical board, to TikTok, to the TV news... anybody who would listen.
It wouldn't be damaging just for her but for any girl that age who is pregnant or went through something similiar. Maybe some girls who have been raped and became pregnant are watching this and thinking that there is something wrong with them. Anyway i's still terrible to humiliate young girls for being pregnant even if you're not a doctor and they're not your patient cause you never know what happened
@@alexandracuciuc2962 thank you her name is Leia and shes 3 years old. facts about Leia - she has 2 types of heterochromia - one of her ears is floppy and the other is not - she once ate a toilet brush - she once made friends with a wild coyote - she's part husky but we don't know the rest - she likes to drink cows milk - I also have her older sister Athena
The last video is an example of the “the meanest girls in high school went on to be nurses” joke. obviously not true for every nurse but I do know a lot of mean judgmental people from high school went on to be nurses.
The person who abused me is a nurse and, coincidentally, was the typical “mean girl” in high school. Obviously not very nurse is like that, I know so many lovely people who are nurses but it’s definitely a stereotype for a reason.
This is so funny because I just started at Pima to become a Respiratory Therapist, and while I was at campus to pick up my books, I ran into a high school bully who told me she was about to become an MA
So true I refuse to go to one urgent care in my town cause I know and got bullied by too many of the nurses that work there now. Like "I didn't like being around you when I was safe now you want me to consent to you stabbing me in the arm? Hell no."
I was a mom at 16. I hate it when young women are treated like dirt when they end up pregnant, like they already feel like the world is against them so why make it worse. That last tik tok just got under my skin.
Especially considering in most places all over the world & especially in the US girls are not given adequate sex education. There’s so many videos and like, Reddit threads of doctors talking about adult patients that knew nothing about sex or pregnancy, it’s crazy. Like you don’t teach them their options, how things work, or how to be safe, then vilify them when the inevitable happens.
I feel all those girls who get pregnant early, I've had a woman look at me like "oh she's so young and already buying baby food, she should be ashamed" when I was buying baby food when I was 18. Jokes on her, I'm 25, still a virgin (bad luck, not really a choice), and I was only buying baby food because I had a throat infection so bad that I couldn't swallow normal food. It's not always a girl's choice to get pregnant, especially when rape is involved
Hating on pregnant teens is NEVER okay, even for a shit joke. It can be very difficult for the teen, their family, ect. and you never know the situation at full. Thank you for sharing and I'm sorry people think teen pregnancy is something to laugh at.
@@Hannah-zw9ow They're expected to remain virgins until marriage or else they don't get Christmas presents or something, obviously educating them about contraception will defile their pure minds with sinful thoughts. How else can someone be judgemental towards both abortions AND teen pregnancy?
To the second video: It absolutely blows my mind that an individual is supposed to make every medical decision based on the whims of a fictional future spouse. If they want kids and I don't, WHY WOULD I MARRY THEM?
Sad reality is that there are many places in the world (e.g. the US) where the man is seen as the “head of the household” and his opinion is the only one that matters. Protip: don’t marry these people, they have a very high rate of domestic violence.
Other thing that bothers me is that none of these medical carers apear to know that adoption is an option... Like, it's not the end of the world if I supposedly meet someone that supposedly wants a child and I supposedly change my mind, we could still adopt.
@@lari.2909 Indeed... and even if they consider adoption they're still going to assume that every woman will eventually want to carry her own child instead of adoption or surrogacy. It's maddening and infuriating that people still assume that carrying a child is somehow the holy grail of human experience, or even that having a child is something that everyone supposedly *should* want. Like, stop fucking telling people what they should want, stop assuming that if they don't want children they're fooling themselves. It's degrading and dehumanizing to speak to people that way.
@@Canadian_Zac Unless you're a weirdo who absolutely obsessively only want to have biological children. I had a high school teacher like that. And I know because she dedicated our sex-ed class to detailing her journey towards getting that biological child. Granted, it's not the *worst* use of sex-ed class (at least she didn't waste our time by teaching abstinence-only) but god, I really didn't need to know... any... of the details she shared. One of us students point blank asked her why she didn't try for adoption or something. No, it had to be biological. It was the only thing good enough for her.
The one of the girl saying her gyn wouldnt let her get a hysterectomy because "what if your husband wants more" is so ridiculous! i was hemorrhaging (after having had my period for SIX MONTHS STRAIGHT - no breaks, super super heavy (going thru a super tampon AND super overnight pad in 30 minutes AT THE SAME TIME - & having been in the ER multiple times a month over the course of 6 months because it wouldnt stop, i was in mass amounts of pain & anemic by this point) & the female emergency gyn said i need an emergency hysto. the MALE gyn looked at my spouse & goes "are you ok with this?" - my SO: uhh yeah? - "what if you want more kids?" - my SO: can my wife potentially DIE if she doesnt have this surgery that THAT gyn said is an emergency?! - "well, maybe. we dont actually know" - SO: but its a high probability? - "yeah" - my SO: then WHY THE F**K DOES IT MATTER IF I WANT MORE KIDS?! WE CAN ADOPT! SAVE MY WIFE! it was ridiculous. i was laying on an ER bed bleeding out & the male gyn was arguing with my spouse on how maybe i shouldnt have this life saving procedure.
Oh yeah, little known fact, you can have lots of kids when you’re dead! And men actually are the ones who should decide if you bleed out! I mean, I know being alive and not bleeding all the time are both great things but are you suuure you want that?
Your husband sounds like such a wonderful man! I was lucky that my male Gyn was an advocate for my hysterectomy WITHOUT asking my husband for his opinion. I can’t fathom the amount of women who have experienced that mess. I’m so glad that you are okay now sugar!!
Thats so awful, Im glad they didnt do that to my mom. She had her tubes tied after my brother, it was a difficult quick birth with bleeding issues. The thing that gets me is that from what I hear, if young men want a vasectomy it isnt challenged. (I know guys who have had them at 20) and yet a girl even brings it up/or a hysterectomy due to endo and even female docs can go 'well but what about more kids'. It shouldnt freaking matter to someone who doeent own that organ in their body. Like what about not dying, being in pain, or truly not wanting more kids? Its awful this still happens to us women so often.
That last joke is really upsetting. I knew an acquaintance who was pregnant in high school and I found her crying in the lockers. When I asked what's up she confided in me that not only was she being bullied and harassed by close friends about it, but she was afraid of going to the doctors for this EXACT reason. It took me a whole week to convince her to get proper care and a couple of months before she was eating right and feeling good about herself again. All that furry I felt in that locker room, I just refelt watching that.
It just infuriates me that people bully people who are pregnant at a young age. It may be risky for someone at that age, and so that can scare people, and bullying won't help. It just makes me so angry.
I have asked numerous doctors about having my tubes tied over the years because I don't want kids, and I've gotten similar responses to the girl in the video. I just switched doctors again earlier this year because when I asked the last one about it, the OBGYN said, "What if you meet someone some day that wants them?" I'm almost 35 and have never wanted kids - pretty sure I know what I want by now. Why should a *potential* partner's wants override mine? If I met someone that wanted kids, and I don't, obviously we'd be incompatible. It's SO frustrating.
The last one was so awful. Not only is she making a fool of herself and make possible patients not trust her, but she is also making people in general more self conscious about getting help. Imagine being pregnant at 16, dealing with sh*t from everyone, then finding your doctor/nurse making a joke out of it. And by no means am I against doctors on social media, you are making a big difference in combating false information and also in showing a more human trustful side of you. So thank you for all the medical professionals who are leading by example on social media ❤❤❤
THIS!!! THANK YOU!!! I am a teen mom,I had my son when I was 16. I get judged by everyone, and get called a harlett, slut, whore, etc, when I have only had sex with my ex (my son's father). They call me a slut for getting pregnant because he cheated on his girlfriend, but I got raped, how am I a slut for that? You don't know a single mothers, single father's, young parents situation. Don't judge a book by its cover
I agree, it's just sad how much of an ass some medical staff can be. I remember a while back I tried to get therapy, but was told that I'd have to see a doctor before I could do that. Fine so be it. So I went there, told her how I was feeling, that I had a lot of trouble regulating my mood, that I didn't know how to control my emotions. Her response was "Maybe it's just the hormones." Like wow, so you think that just because I'm a teenager, it's simply because I'm a 'hormonal teen' Not only was that doctor pretty insensitive in my opinion, like there are better ways to bring that idea up, but I've never felt more patronized when going to the doctor.
@@ziagochenaur2980 when I was in primary school a girl in middle school was pregnant (she was in the last year or something) and... God! She was judged. I saw scribbles in the toilet stall calling her names and stuff. I was pretty young and innocent and always saw pregnancy as a blessing, so I was always kind and smiled to her. She was very shy... No wonder why. Kudos to her sticking to studying even with those awful bullying she was suffering!
Like she has no idea what the woman had gone through that got her pregnant. Especially with being so young, you have NO IDEA. Maybe she messed around, maybe she was molested. Don't make fun of patients.
30 years ago my Mum went in to have a hysterectomy which had been recommended to her on medical grounds. When prepping her, the hospital advised they would need my Dad's signature on the consent form to confirm he agreed to her having the hysterectomy. My Mum put her foot down and refused point blank for them to even pass the form across to him. She told them that it was her decision whether or not to agree to have sex, it was her decision to be on whatever version of birth control she had been taking for the previous 10 years and she had never needed anyone else's permission for any other surgery that she had been through, she did not require anyone else's permission and she would not allow them to make a mockery of her right to make a decision about her own health. They went ahead without my Dad's signature. My Mum can be fierce when she wants to be
That’s crazy. Thankfully the doctor that performed my hysterectomy wasn’t that way. Of course I ddid talk to my husband about the decision because it was going to take our life in a different direction, but as far as the ultimate decision, that was all me. If anyone had even suggested that my husband needed to sign off on my hysterectomy I think I would have punched someone.
I went To a doctor once and Said "i feel like my hormones are changing". he said, "not possible you are too young for menopause..." Turns out i had a thyroid issue. He asked no questions, just decided i was fine. Wish doctors would be more inquisitive. A nurse helped me get more testing.
Another reason to not joke about patients publicly is YOU still need a job and YOU still have bills to pay. What's going to happen when a patient recognizes you as that "One person who said that one thing" online and alerts your bosses and then your job doesn't want to be associated with you because patients are uncomfortable around you.
It’s fake. All by design to rile us up. Do you remember the dancing pandemic nurses? Knee-deep in a pandemic with so many ppl they had to open tents outside the hospital yet look online & see “medical professionals” doing literal choreographed dances & using the IV poles as a stripper pole on wheels, seems a poor use of PPE that was so dire.....wait........🤔🤔🤔 fake af
Facts. If I recognized that person, I would request someone else. After awhile, your boss will become confused/suspicious why you in particular are being avoided. Don't be a dumbass should be the takeaway tho Doc said it in a really nice way lol
@@The_Salty_Siren nurses are humans too ya know. They have breaks, they do silly things, and they can make tik toks if they please. Just because it's a pandemic doesn't mean nurses stopped being human.
@@godsbigtoe5964 It wasn't fake though, also it was very rude and insensitive to do those videos when most of the country was on lock down at the time. The whole thing felt like a mockery to people who couldn't go anywhere or do anything. Also, those hospitals were empty and not overrun at all like they were claiming! The hospitals where I'm at weren't even busy with C O V I D so yeah it's a big fat SCAM.
Let’s just take a moment to appreciate that this woman tortures herself by watching these videos, just to educate people. She does this for us, the absolute queen.
That talk about making fun of patients is so important! When I was 14 I had to get an ultrasound due to doctors thinking I might have an ovarian cyst. While in the waiting room I got dirty looks from almost everyone there, even though they were all waiting in the same room. It was ridiculous! People’s medical business should be their own thing to worry about. (No ovarian cyst by the way :))
I got a gyno ask about my number of sexual partners (normal here). She turned to the nurse when I answered. Then she asked if I was married. When I said "no", she giggled to the nurse: "Well, that's why!" Since then I am hesitant to answer truthfully during exams that I need to keep being healthy. (other disrespectful things happened during that exam, I now have a great doctor).
I had one at 12 because I had a lot of GI issues and they wanted to be as least invasive as they could to check my track. I kind of wish when I had a cat scan when I 16 that they that again, however the CT turned out to be really helpful because they found benign cysts on my ovaries, likely what caused some issues the whole time, others were caused by general GI issues. Nothing major or to be concerned and I am on birth control to help regular my massively bad estrogen level. My migraines are decreased and I no longer have the same cramping I had back then. I’m 19 now.
I was lucky that the nurses and doctors that took care of me were extremely respectful and explained the process and made me feel comfortable. I was a scared child that didn’t know what any of it was like. The lady who did the ultrasound was really funny and outlined everything we saw on the screen.
I wasn't made fun of by my obgyn but I did feel unheard and not respected by them. There were multiple occasions when I would ask questions out of genuine curiosity for a teenage girl and I was brushed off as if I didn't need to know about how part of my body worked. Worst thing was when I had to be swabbed for a test and rather than explain and try to get me to relax, as I was already nervous, they just went ahead with the test. I left that appointment traumatized and to this day I am afraid to go to an obgyn for fear of this happening again. This happened when I was 17 and I am now 23.
When I was 16 I had a Dr like the last one. I went in for a sinus infection and she immediately said ' Do you think your pregnant?' in a snotty tone. I responded 'No, I have a sinus infection. I have had them before...my snot is neon green and stinks...I'd just like an antibiotic please...'. It made me ashamed to even go in and I didn't until I had influenza which she treated the same and gave me a pregnancy test. I wasn't even sexually active. I had to go back 3 times before I got treatment for influenza. Some Drs are really horrible to teen girls.
Yer they expect you to have mum and day holding your hand till your in your mid 20's than expect your boyfrend/husband to be there .... hello we are the pashent not them listen to us not others!
Yep. When I was a teenager, the doctor said I was stressed. My symptoms:. Ear pain. The funny part is that I had ongoing ear infections. Eventually, I had to get ear surgery in one of my ears due to the massive ear infection that ended up rupturing my ear drum. Yeah, the stress was the doctor not wanting to check my ears and getting paid for guessing.
I trimmed the story, but it's a wild ride. Back in 2018 to 2019 (just before the new year's day), my appendix exploded and it gave me belly cramps during hours, so my parents drove me to the health unity (it's not an hospital, but it's the gateway to one). I was literally crying in pain, not being able to properly sit and having trouble to even breath, it's not a common sight for a fully-grown woman in pajamas to be crying and clinging to a graying mother at 2 AM, right? So, after half an hour, the doc said to my mother who entered with me because I wasn't being able to properly walk: "Are you sure she isn't pregnant? We can go check it, the ultrasound machine is being used now, but we can put her in the line, maybe it will take 20 minutes" She flatly said "she is just fat", (I think I said something mid-groan "my belly has folds, pregnant people don't have folds, do they?") he seemed to be in shock for a moment, like he didn't know what to do, then he asked if I was in college and I said I just got accepted, so his answer: "she is just stressed a bit, I'll give her some painkillers and you can go home", my mother insisted to do a little exam just to be sure nothing was wrong, but he refused, justifying that many teens (I was 22) came to the health unity saying they were in pain, had insomnia and other problems due to stress related to school. I was almost buying it since I was in fact under stressing times, but then my pain struck fully and I started to puke bile, just then he reluctantly decided to give me an exam to see what was wrong with me. Well, I survived, did the exam on the following morning, got to the hospital, got my surgery done, spent the new year's eve at the hospital and got home on the following day. But I still think: why did I had to literally puke in the front of a doctor just so he could bother to make an exam in my belly, since he seemed eager to do that when he thought I could be pregnant? Like, he really wanted to do an ultrasound just to see if I was pregnant, but after we (me and my mom) said that I wasn't, he just pretended it wasn't necessary? (let alone the fact I could have been examined for pregnancy in 20 minutes according to him, but had to wait about 5 hours afterwards, at least the painkillers knocked me asleep for most of the time) I mean, how many adults you see hunching over and holding back their tears because of pain to the point their need help to walk? I know some people can be overly dramatic (or have low tolerance for pain, which is my situation), but I think it was... An experience that I don't know how to classify. For a bit of context: I'm Brazilian, being barred from doing exams isn't the norm. Delaying it isn't uncommon, but it's very unlikely to happen when someone shows up in pain. Also, we don't have medical/hospital bills to pay, so this isn't a form of "treating the poor folks like trash".
The last one kicked me in the feels. I have a friend who has gotten pregnant at 17 and she was pressured by her parents and her doctor to get an abortion and in the end they did it against her will (100% legal fyi) which is until this day a big trauma for her. Making fun of pregnant teens is never okay. They might have just slept with their first partner, they might have been mksinformed about contraceptives, they might have even been raped ffs. Not okay to make fun of kids/teens getting pregnant. (btw. This is not a pro-life comment, I'm pro choice, so is my friend, and her choice was taken away from her)
That happened with my eldest sister at 17. Was pressured by her father to get it. Still with the same guy who got her pregnant and her last pregnancy ended in miscarriage.
I know someone who had this happen in the late 60's. When she got pregnant again she ran away from home and lived in a women's shelter. The father of her child had to stay in the hospital with her until the birth certificate was filed to make sure her parents couldn't give the baby up for adoption. She still struggles with that trauma. It should have been her choice, not her parents'.
And the scary thing is, its usually female influencers that buy into and post these messages, so as a woman you watch it and think she's a girl why would she be on their side?
I definitely teared up when you said, “this is why people don’t want to go to the doctor.” It’s such a double-edged sword; I get told to go to the doctor if I’m in pain and then when I go, get told that my pain is “probably just my menstrual cycle” or whatever. But if I don’t go, I get spoken to like a 5 year old the next time I decide to go because my pain is so bad. Never ending cycle. I wanted to ask if you’d do a video on endometriosis. Or point me in the direction of a good video or website with some actual good advice and facts. I’ve tried to do my own research and everything is so random. One doctor says this and one person says that. It’s hard to find someone to trust and someone to confide in. Thank you for these videos.
Endo is really tough I was diagnosed 7 years ago and some people still don't get that even without a disorder, menstrual pain and symptoms are very real and very disruptive. Unfortunately our medical system is patriarchal and discounts and undervalues women and discredits their pain. It's getting better but not fast enough
I've gone to hospo 3 times now with endo problems. I take bc for pain and it causes my time not to come for ages. But when it does eventually come it is really painful and I get very heavy bleeding to the point where I've blacked out and I get light headed. I went to the hsosp for the recent one becuase I hadn't slept for 2 days due to pain. I got a pregency test which came. Back negetive and told to get over thyne self. I cant walk well when the time comes bc of where the bad area is. I feel you and I hope one day we can all be treated with dignity and respect.
Yeah. I go to the doctor and the doctor said use a compress type brace so i did and next time the doctor said put soles in my shoes. Its for ankle pain becauae every morning i wake up and start to walk my ankles will hurt for 1-5 hours as i walk so i also walk strange when it does. The soles dont help and brace dont.
Yeah, I'm waiting on a diagnosis, but even if I don't have endometriosis, I've still suffered severe pain for the past 14 years. But of course, I thought it was normal, because everyone tells you that period pain is normal. My mum tells me (despite her best intentions) that I might just have a low pain tolerance. But even if true, that doesn't mean I don't deserve help. Even my own Doctor dismisses it. One time when I had gone to the doctor for a check-up and the doctor asked how I was doing and I said I felt a little depressed from things that was going on in my life, and from my period pain. She responded with "Well we all have period pain, so there's no use worrying about that." I've also spent the past 2 years trying to find the right medication without giving me side effects, because the doctor and I only made the connection recently that a condition I had since I was 12, was caused by the pain medication I have been taking... since I was 12. It's been tough trying to manage it all, but I think I've found the right meds now, at least I hope.
Just saw someone on Instagram say “let’s stop all hormonal birth control for everyone” because she had a bad experience while on it 🤦♀️ I have PCOS so I need it girl
I wish FAM was a more recognized thing, but does that mean birth control should be outlawed? NO! Not only is it birth control but also legitimate treatment outside of birth control!
Thank you! I needed Depo Provera shots for years to control my PCOS. Without it I averaged 4-5 emergency room visits annually (50% chance of hospitalization-diabetes complicate infections) with a high fever and Peritonitis.
my cousin wanted her tubes tied a few years ago and she's roughly twenty-something with many children. the doctor said "no, you're too young to even consider that". my family rioted because like.... um she's done having kids let her make that official so she doesn't accidentally have another
@@ArtisanAsteroid He's only our family practitioner, realistically there's not much he can do he's just telling me policy lol. The policy is trash though, yeah
I've heard of men being refused vasectomies because "You're too young, you might want more children someday", but I wonder whether any man has ever been asked "Do you have your wife's/girlfriend's consent?". I doubt it!
not related to pregnancy but when i was 16 i had a panic attack so bad that i fainted and it landed me in the hospital and i overheard two nurses making fun of me. it traumatized me so bad that even now almost 10 years later im still anxious as hell in hospitals and doctors offices and scared that im going to be made fun of. it led to me pushing off a lot of important appointments and now im seeing doctors a lot due to health issues i likely would have had sorted long ago if not for this. thanks for standing up against that kind of attitude, i really appreciate it.
I worked with doctors who regularly talked about patients so yea, I don’t like going to the hospital. I go to my necessary appointments yearly and that’s it.
RN here- I agree with you on a few points. 1. If you are not a medical professional STOP giving medical advice. And if you have a medical concern PLEASE seek professional advice and don’t get information from Tic Toc or Facebook! 2. Medical professionals...act like one. Our patients are precious and fragile. They need to feel safe and secure in our care. I am absolutely embarrassed at TV shows that show patients in compromising or embarrassing situations. I have been a nurse for 40 years. My patients need to know that I am here for them and I have seen it all. I don’t judge, criticize or think about them in anyway other than that they are in trouble and they need my help. If you can’t act like a professional then get out of this profession.
For the first point!!!! If you are a medical professional STOP GIVING ADVICE IN FIELDS YOU DID NOT STUDY IN. Just because you know about how to take care of old people, doesn't mean you know how to treat a 2nd degree burn or a pulled muscle! I may be projecting a little, sorry about that.
Fellow RN here. I find that women's health is one of the most notorious areas for people giving health advice that they have no business in giving. I follow a mom group and I can't believe the crap I see.
If my friends ask about something medical related I’ll give them minor suggestions but even then I’ll always end the conversation by reminding them that I’m not a doctor and that they should talk to theirs. I couldn’t imagine trying to give people medical advice through social media without any actual training.
Yes to all of this. I used to work in EMS and now I'm on the clinical side. EMS providers are notorious for saying really awful things about patients and having "dark humor". Its not ok to degrade someone because you need to let off steam. Patients are people and every person deserves respect. If you don't want it said about your momma then don't say it about someone else. I see a lot less of this in the clinical side and its so refreshing.
I've probably said this under every video you post @mamadoctorjones but I love low how you say "people" instead of "women". Thank you for being so inclusive and understanding. I was born a female and live/present as female and I support the trans community, I'm so happy and relieved that you support them as well
Birth control isn’t just about “preventing pregnancy”, it’s also useful for conditions like severe dysmenorrhea. I can’t take it due to the way it messes with my head but it’s important for it to not be demonized the way it is.
Ambria Ashley Exactly. I’m also pro choice due to my past. Hearing all the fake messaging around things like birth control and abortion make me sick. A 10 year old girl in Brazil had to fight to get access to an abortion and she eventually got it but not before she was doxed. She could have died from the pregnancy.
Severe acne can get better (not sure what that hormone was, I basically had too much of for a girl). It makes you have regular periods. I don't get the hate either.
I a licensed mental health therapist and during my freshmen year of college, I had a psychology professor who made us all say “correlation does not equal causation” as a class multiple times per class. It really stuck with me and helps me to think more critically about correlative studies and reports.
@@sadie9508 my high school stats teacher used to drill it into us. He went with the time people concluded Ice cream caused people to murder because there were more murders in the summer and ice cream sales went up in the summer, so it must be the ice cream making people homicidal.
My intro to psych professor offered a free A to anyone who got that tattooed in a massive bar on their arm. No one did it but I seriously considered having it added below my tattoo of a neuron in a tasteful size and font because it is that important lol
My doctor is absolutely hilarious. I end up laughing about something every time I see him. But he would never make a joke at a patient's expense or my own. Instead he favors terrible dad jokes and puns. In example, what do you call a fish doctor? A cod-iologist.
Because she made a bad joke? Let's not go overkill on our professionals. If we fire everyone who makes a mistake, a joke in bad taste or posts something online that should have stayed in private conversations between professionals, we will find ourselves pretty quickly without healthcare professionals. Let's reserve that for people who actively violate the trust of patients and do grossly negligent and harmful things.
@@olenickel6013 and yes, she should be fired. Anyone joking around like that about a vulnerable patient lacks the compassion, decency and common sense to properly care for them. And yes, that's dangerous to the well being of the people put in her care. It's a no fuckin brainer that yeah, we need to weed people like this out of authority and care positions, and put better people in their place.
@@grimmscuriosities9411 I am not defending her, I am saying there is space between complete acceptance and complete cancelling. Not every sanction must be "fire her and ruin her life", you can have a sane discussion about why this joke was in bad taste and could have unwanted negative impact on pregnant teenagers and then go on, have her learn from her mistake and continue to do her job better in the future. It's easy to scream bloody murder over the internet, but healthcare providers are still people and they may make mistakes. If you "weed out" everyone who makes dumb mistakes without giving them a chance to do better you will end without healthcare providers.
I have an anxiety disorder, and going to the doctor feels like walking to the gallows for me. I'm already ashamed enough to be crying, flinching, shaking, hyperventilating, stuttering, and generally acting slightly hysterical. Knowing that nurses/doctors might be laughing at/mocking me like that last video just adds insult to injury in my opinion, and I'm sure a lot of people in my shoes probably feel the same.
I haven’t been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder but going to the doctor freaks the crap out of me I will violently shake while holding back tears and my heart rate and blood pressure will be elevated to to point where the doctors are concerned... even though I have a fit bit and my average heart rate is 65-75
I am a nurse practitioner at a clinic for the uninsured. I have many patients with crippling anxiety and it takes so much time and patience to build a bridge of trust, I would never knowingly do anything to damage that bridge. None of my colleagues nor myself would behave in the way depicted by tiktok, it is absolutely shameful. I hope that you are able to find a provider who treats you in the manner you deserve, with compassion, empathy, and respect.
I just wanna say that when I got pregnant at 17 and went to a doctor that wasn't my usual, she was so so nice. When I came into the room I immediately started crying and she knew what was up. We did the ultrasound at which she saw that I was actually 19 weeks along already. She wasn't judgemental at all and after that she talked me through everything and talked about options. She told me that if I wanted to keep my baby that's great but if I don't and want to give it up for adoption that's is also great. No pressure at all. She even was as nice as to not charge the pregnancy because here in Germany you can only charge one pregnancy per quarter and since she wasn't my normal gynecologist she told me to go to my doctor the next week since it was Friday because I lived quite far away from her office and especially in the last month it would be too much to always drive there. I'm just so glad that I went to that doctor because after that I felt much better about it. I was so scared of being judged by the staff but that didn't happen at all. Still think it was the nicest thing to nit charge the pregnancy since I would have had so much stress fixing that with my insurance company
My cousin also got pregnant at 17 and she went to the gyn completely undecided on if she wanted the baby or not (she was just short over a month when she noticed) and they were so incredibly professional about her situation that they did the ultrasound with her and didn't even say things like "baby" or that they can see "it" on the ultrsound. She told me all they said was "we can confirm that you are pregnant" (in deutsch wars "Es liegt bei Ihnen eine Schwangerschaft vor" also noch neutraler) informed her very neutrally about her options and only when she had decided to keep the baby a few days later they started saying words like "embryo, baby, infant, etc" and showed their joy for her.
I’m not trying to be mean or judgmental, I am just genuinely curious. How did it take you almost 5 months to realize you were pregnant? Were you on birth control so your period was weird?
I got pregnant at 16 and I remember being absolutely terrified that I'd be judged by my dr! Thank god that wasnt the case. She handled it like I was just there for a cold, made me feel so much better about my situation.
Can I just say that I've been told all my life birth control are going to mess up my life and are for sluts and now I'm having to contemplate birth control because of a medical diagnosis and you make me feel so empowered as a patient and as a woman. Thank you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
I was 19 when I got pregnant with my son and even being almost 20 when I had him, I was still treated as though I was 12 and didn't understand anything. The doctors I had were very condescending, they often spoke to my mother during my pregnancy instead of me. Even today I often get asked if I'm babysitting and when I say he's my baby people get very uncomfortable and say, "oh okay, you must be married at least?" There is MASSIVE judgment for young parents, more often than not people assuming I'm a bad mother or I'm less of a mother because I'm young.
That sounds like the doctors that see me for chronic pain. They treat me like I'm 5 and always talk to my parents, not me. "How long has your daughter had this pain for?" and I always want to scream "SHE DOESN'T KNOW! THEY'RE MY FUCKING LEGS ASK ME!" They dismiss my theory that I have fibromyalgia (my mom and grandma have it and I'm a girl) like I'm a 5 year old saying 2+2=22.
I was 18 when I was pregnant and an ER doctor asked me what I was going to do to provide for my daughter. At the time I was in school and close to graduating as a Medical Assistant and was going to nursing school the next year. He rolled his eyes and laughed and said that I’d never end up going to school because kids are inconvenient and that I’d never be able to provide for my daughter as an MA, as well as that I had no reason to be excited for a child so young. I’m only 21 now and my daughters a little over 2 and I’m married to her father and I’m a nurse and we’ve always been able to provide for her and ourselves. And I got through nursing school despite his judgements. Medical staff can really suck.
Thats disappointing guys I feel sorry you had unpleasant experiences. Im 28 and I have two kids my oldest is 9 so I too was 18 and prego, my doctors were fantastic! Treated me with the most respect and comfort, I felt very welcomed with open arms. Im extremely grateful.
That is messed up. you are not a bad mother because you have your son young but these things happen and i dont know why a lot of people think that you should be married before you have kids and the age that you should have kids is over 20. well that is wrong. i know a bunch of people who got pregnant in high school or college. it doesnt matter what age you are you have the right to protect your child from the world. people may judge you but its your child and your rights to speak up.
My mental health doctor told me "Stop being so emotional." I responded with "Well I can't cuz I have a disorder where I'm over-emotional so unless you want me to bottle up my feelings not happening."
One of my exes blamed the fact I have a super low sex drive on my meds (specifically birth control) I've been off all meds for a few years....... yeah I'm just asexual and refuse to let people like him make me feel broken
I'm the opposite - birth control was definitely messing up my sex drive to a point. I've worked with my gyn to find a hormone profile that does it the least, so there's that!
I hate when people try to convince me that having an SO is needed. Um… no? My wife and I are both ace, sometimes we wanna cuddle. Mostly, we just want to read or watch the cats run around on catnip. Isn’t emotional closeness just fine? It works for us… (we just celebrated five years together, too)
I’m so so sorry, I know the pain of feeling like I’m broken because I don’t enjoy sexual contact like a lot of people do and the pain of being made fun of by those you love. He was an ass and you are not broken ❤️ I hope you find all the fulfillment and joy that you need in life.
that last one actually made me a little bit emotional. why do people find that funny? there arent enough people in the world like mama doctor jones. thank you for being wonderful and a true example of what people should be like in your profession.
Literally... unwanted pregnancy or teen pregnancy is TRAUMATIC. Even if you have a support system or partner. I can’t imagine what a roller coaster of emotions and physical + mental symptoms that go along with it. I can barely handle period cramps, so my heart goes out to all those mothers and womxn who have to make huge life-altering decisions with EVERYONE judging them. 🙃
They can. I got severe migraines when i first started, but obviously its also used to treat people for them. I just had a different condition that couldn't be controlled by birth control so it made it worse till i got used to the hormones.
You DO realize that migraines have various causes. Sometimes hormonal, sometimes otherwise. Marijuana makes most people's migraines go away. it makes mine INFINITELY worse.
It depends on the birth control and the kind of migraines. For example if your migraines have an aura (sensory stuff, usually visual, before/during a migraine) it's recommended you go with progesterone only pills to reduce the risk of them becoming worse. Obviously that's assuming that your hormone cycle isn't causing them and various other factors. Some of the combination hormone birth controls have different effects on migraines and obviously hormones effect everyone differently.
Mary Beth I had trouble finding a doctor that would prescribe them, honestly. I take the mini-pill (progesterone only pill) and even so, a couple doctors were reluctant/unwilling. I noticed that an obgyn is more likely to talk to you about it and weigh the benefits vs the risks with you than a GP/family practice doctor. I started getting the impression that GPs are more-or-less told "people that have migraines can’t take birth control because of a risk of blood clots and stroke" whereas obgyns are more likely to know the nuances of it. It’s incredibly frustrating because while I don’t want to suffer a stroke and I take the increased risk seriously, I can NOT function and live my life when I’m having migraines 3 weeks a month.
“That’s the intro, subscribe if you want” is the most compelling sub line i’ve ever heard and is the only one that’s ever gotten an immediate sub. Thanks.
I took a health care ethics class for my first degree and I’m very positive that it was a full topic not to joke about a patient. It’s unethical and completely unprofessional. Thank you for being a voice for patients and taking the brunt of her anger keeping the medical field safe ❤️
When I worked at Walmart they told my training group to never talk or joke about the customers. If PEOPLE OF WALMART know better than to talk or joke about customers, you better believe I expect that and more from a healthcare professional. (I'm not saying it never happens, of course it happens. But if WALMART tells you not to do it, shouldn't it kinda be obvious you shouldn't??)
That’s funny cuz I had managers at Walmart start talking and joking about people and even me myself as soon as I or the others would walk away. Then when they realized I would heard them they would switch to Spanish.
MDJ you actively inspire me to take a chance on doctors and hope they will be kind and helpful instead of passing me along and not wanting to help me. Even if it doesn't work, I'll never stop trying just in case i do get one like her one day! And i have, in a therapist I loved.
The last one is really disheartening. I get sick a lot due to an autoimmune disease which leads to me to stays in the hospital a lot. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve woken up in the middle of the night to hear nurses (trying to whisper) making fun of their patients or telling other nurses about their patients personal medical problems. Obviously it’s not every nurse and there’s lot that are very professional and respectful! It just makes me scared to get help thinking their gunna talk about me once I leave or tell their co workers about my medical problems
I know that feeling, intially I had it too. I've sort of stopped caring about it now because they can joke all they want about me, it only shows how horrible of a person they are (at least in that moment). One day, they might wake up, and realize with deep regret how they feel about those jokes and it could plague them for a long while (seen that happen). But me? I won't have that issue. I'll be working on dreams and goals I have. Books I want to write and places I want to see. Plus, their opinions aren't the ones that matter to me, it's the kind and compassionate people I do find in my life that deserve that respect. Don't be scared to discuss your medical issues, you could be risking your life, since autoimmune diseases typically have no sympathy or patience.
I also have an autoimmune disorder which I've been battling with does 14 years. I'm sorry to hear that you don't feel comfortable with nursing staff. I've never heard the nurses gossiping about patients before, if you have heard them then they should be reported. All my experiences have been positive and I'm pretty thankful because I always feel relaxed and comfortable seeking medical help when I need it.
Dr. Jones: "Your hormone levels . . . aren't even the same right now as they will be in the middle of the night." Me, watching at 4:30 in the morning: *sweats*
Imagine being a pregnant 16 year old who saw that doctor, seeing that video and realising the doctor you went to for care is making fun of you on a public forum. Teen pregnancy isn’t funny, making fun of patients isn’t funny.
Amen!!!! My uncle and I are both nurses (he works psych and I worked geriatrics before medically retiring) and run into this problem constantly with healthcare providers crossing the line of dark humor and just making the patients the butt of their jokes. It is making good nurses leave the healthcare field because they don’t feel like they can speak out about it without being ostracized. This needs to end. Thanks for making this video MDJ
Good point! Mean nasty nurses are the reason I never wanted to pursue nursing. You have so many phenomenal nurses that are like angels on earth then you have those ones that make life hell all around them. Its not worth it.
True Story: When i was in my teens i was told by my doctor that i had endometriosis because when i got my period i would have to stay home for a week out of the month with terrible cramps, migraines and many other crappy symptoms. In my later teens i went on the Depo shot and ended up with my period for over a year... Yes, i had my period for OVER A YEAR! I ended up seeing specialists and getting bleeding time tests and a whole bunch of other tests where they eventually told me that i had a 0.05% chance of ever getting pregnant naturally so i stopped the Depo shot and within a week my bleeding was gone. Less than a month later i found out i was pregnant with my first child. I then had 4 MORE back to back. Now i have a 15 yo, 14 yo, 13 yo, 12 yo and an 11 yo!! Moral of the story, ALWAYS GET A 2ND OPINION, and if you dont like the results there, get a 3rd opinion. Always do your research and never listen to the bogus info you get online, especially on effing tik tok.
Man, I know that feeling. I had a doctor tell me to take birth control non-stop before being diagnosed with PCOS. She had put me on the wrong dose and it resulted in a 7-month-long non-stop period. Thought I was going to die and shocked every doctor and nurse who asked for that information.
I’m currently on Depo because I had a 36 day long period 9 months ago. I’m still bleeding for extremely long periods of time (15-24 days). I have no clue what to do and I feel like my doctor isn’t listening to me.
Not related to birth etc, but I have a story. When I was little I grew up in an area with really bad healthcare, we had to drive very far to see a specialist because I couldn't see out of the sides of my eyes. The doctor said I couldn't have had anything wrong with my eyes because I was a child. We got a second opinion and it turns out I had multiple huge cataracts, the doctor said if I didn't catch it when I did I could have gone blind.
I told my Dr all about your channel during my pap exam a couple weeks ago. Why? Because you and your channel got me to get the exam done. My last one was my postpartum exam. My child is 12.
MDJ's "get your pap smear get your pap smear get your pap smear" definitely is why I finally made my appointment to get mine a couple weeks ago. Feels good to be taking care of my health, and got to talk to my dr. about some other health stuff too, and she listened and helped me out.
Good for you! Its hard to make that decision after not going in for so long. It sucks but usually pretty quick so I just get it over with when I have to.
@@Lizzypoohxo Just curious, but have you ever given birth vaginally? Please don't feel like you have to answer. I just know before I gave birth pap smears hurt, but now, after giving birth I'm so stretched out I don't feel it at all. My mom on the other hand, had only c-sections and says pap smears are still uncomfortable.
If I didn’t have birth control my endometriosis would be completely out of control. I’d be in serious constant pain, I don’t care if it makes me gain weight or makes me deficient. I will never go through that pain again
Same here have been on birth control to manage symptoms of endometriosis since I was 12 and take meds to help with blood loss don't want to imagine what life would be like without birth control
On birth control for my PCOS. It has dramatically helped my life and my cycles. I agree, I would never get off it if it means feeling cysts burst on my ovaries every few weeks or periods that cripple me for days. Hell to the no.
Same, not to mention my digestive system was going nuts with the nausea and vomiting that period pain was causing (and super large doses of Ibuprofeno and other over-the-counter painkillers). I wish I had started taking birth control sooner. But all the villainization of the pill and the idea that it's only for people who have sex really kept me delaying the decision until I couln't take the pain anymore.
I am 14 (and trans but thats not important) and I use birth control to regulate my flow. If it weren't for you I would be terrified of doing it (Long term infertility I could deal with but not the others.) So thank you for explaining! It really helped me feel better about my choice of using birth control
i was in the exact same situation at 14 (i'm 25 now), and I refused to go on b/c bc I thought it caused abortions, despite identifying as a lesbian at the time and not having sex. It wasn't until I was 17 and hospitalised from blood loss that I finally went on the pill, and it changed my life. i'm so glad you're on b/c earlier than I was, and I hope things wrt being trans go well for you 🍀
Because of this channel, I started seeing a doctor again. All the fear mongering online, coupled with my anxiousness, I was scared. This is what medical type videos should be like!!
I have an anxiety disorder, and going to the doctor feels like walking to the gallows for me. I'm already ashamed enough to be crying, flinching, shaking, hyperventilating, stuttering, and generally acting slightly hysterical. Knowing that nurses/doctors might be laughing at/mocking me like that last video just adds insult to injury in my opinion, and I'm sure a lot of people in my shoes probably feel the same.
@@lonrasetolenga1922 I'm sorry to have anxiety issues but that's not even close to what I'm talking about. The person in the Tiktok was sharing false information so that's why it was funny for her to complement her appearance. Unless you're going to go into your OBGYN spouting false information, this comment was not about your personal experience.
@@lonrasetolenga1922 Also FYI I was talking about the TikTok with the girl with red hair and blue eyes who listed incorrect and harmful information about birth control side effects. So it had nothing to do with the last one.
I totally agree with that last bit there. There’s so many young viewers on tiktok nowadays that are probably reeling over this thinking well not only are my parents gunna kill me but if I go to the doctor I’ll get laughed at and critiqued too. Thank you again @MamaDoctorJones for coming in with the realness yet again.
The last one was extremely unprofessional and offensive to patients, especially, ones that already feel uncomfortable, judged, or criticized by the medical system. You are one of the best and most professional medical professionals I’ve seen on SM. I’ve been binge watching your channel this whole week and subbed 😊. You are doing some much needed work on here 🙏🏽.
When i was 14 my mom (who is a RN) had my dad take me to a doctor because i had not had a period yet and she was worried. They barely said hi to us, had me give a urine sample then left us in a room for what seemed like forever with zero information. When someone did finally come in, without bothering to ask my history or comfort level with my dad there they said, well youre not pregnant! Honestly i didnt even know how people got pregnant. We went to a different doctor who explained the imbalance of my hormones in detail and put me on birth control to try and adjust it. Now at 35 im on birth control to block my periods because i went from never having one, to a period of heavy bleeding that lasted 6 months before we found one that worked. As an Asexual adult i have zero interest in sex or dating etc but i need this medication to keep from bleeding out. More people need to learn that these medications arent just used for sexually active people.
Exactly, I'm asexual too, I had to kinda lie at my appointment to receive birth control (I wanted to reduce my massive bleeding and migraines) and say I wanted to become sexually active. To this day I feel stupid when I have to ask for birth controls
Yea my sister went on it when she was a teenager bc her period cramps were so severe she'd be doubled over in pain unable to move. She was the captain of the rugby team in highschool. She'd regularly show off the bruises she'd get on the field with pride, including ones she got from _getting stepped on by cleats._ The rugby games legit got so rough a girl on her team died from a concussion......... Anyway; point being that she was one tough cookie. So if the cramps were too painful for HER? Then yea they must have been fucking INTENSE. And just within the last year I had to be put on birth control to control my migraines and these weird spasmy-seizure like attacks I was getting. Birth control is health care.
It gets me so mad that Trump reversed the mandate for employers to provide birth control through their health insurance. Birth control is super important for so many reasons that are not related to sex. It is unacceptable for employers to deny that coverage through their insurance, and whether an employee is on birth control is none of their d*mn business.
my brother and i have very similar acne, mine has cleared up but his hasn’t. my brother asked me how i got mine to go away and when i said i didn’t do anything special, my mom said, “hers went away at 17 so yours should clear up when you’re 17 too!” it was only later that my mom and i realized i went on birth control at 17 and THAT was the real cause. we felt so dumb 😭😭
I feel so lucky because 3 years ago, at the age of 34, I went in to the doctor and nervously asked to have my tubes removed. I am not married, and I have no children. I thought for sure I was going to be told no. To my surprise my doctor said yes and we can do it next week 🤣 3 years later and it’s the best decision I’ve ever made.
That last tiktok made me so uncomfortable. Imagine being scared because you feel ill and you don't know what's going on bc sexual education in the US is trash and the medical professionals that are supposed to be caring for you laugh at you for it. Big oof.
I thought I'd share my mum's story about getting her tubes tied. Obviously I was only told the story, so take each detail with a grain of salt. My mum had me when she was 22, and she only wanted one child so she could "spoil them rotten". Since she was pretty young, they obviously were asking "are you sure about this" "you're too young" and "what if you want more kids". Overall though, they didn't give her too hard of a time. They did their job in making sure she thought it through, and didn't completely ridicule her for her decision. She hasn't regretted her choice at all, and is actually glad she made that decision. You may be asking why I brought this up? This is how people should do their job. Make sure their patient thought a big decision through, don't try to make them feel bad about it. For many people a decision like that is a hard one to make, and you never know why they felt the need to pick the choice they did. Making sure they thought it though is okay. Trying to make somebody change a decision that is theirs and theirs alone is not.
But not every one is on it for preventing pregnancy. Some are prescribed it for stopping a cyst from growing or regulating hormones, and may wish not to become infertile after the treatment. And yes, in some cases, if the doc does not do blood hormonal tests before priscribing it and so prescribes an unsuitable brand, they can cause more harm than good and mess your hormones forever. So it is a valid warning.
The lady asking about getting her tubes tied reminded me of my mom. She asked to get her tubes tied but her doctor said no because she was "too young" even though she already had 4 kids. She was probably 25-26 when she asked. She only ended up getting a hysterectomy after she developed endometriosis, and she ended up having another baby in the meantime.
When I was younger a woman older than me suggested I try a clove of garlic for my vaginal issues... That was the day I found out I have a garlic allergy. It was a bad time. Do not recommend. Edit: To answer some questions, I was in elementary school when this happened (grade 4 so probably 8 or 9ish). I've had regular vaginal pain since as long as I can remember, my mom assumed it was yeast infections (turned out to be vulvodynia which I didn't find out until I was in my 20s). Anyway, my mom had this face cream that could cause yeast infections and she assumed that I was using her cream because I always had vaginal pain (turned out it was my sister using it) so she wouldn't help me or take me to the doctor or anything. So one of her friends suggested I put a clove of garlic up there overnight. So I tried it. Side note, as a kid garlic made my lips burn and swell only a little (it's much worse now that I'm older, can't eat it at all now) but it wasn't that uncomfortable especially considering I have a genetic disease that has causes me to have widespread severe chronic pain. I thought that constant pain was normal while doing most things until I was older. Anyway, put the clove up there went to bed. It did start burning but I thought maybe it was supposed to so I left it. Eventually the burning became too much to tolerate to I tried to take it out and realized that I was super swollen, my skin was just sloughing off... I got the clove out but I was a mess. It was pretty horrific and scary especially since I was so young and had to deal with it alone.
I was taking a BC pill that gave me migraines. after talking to my doctor we swapped pills and now I don't have a single issue. There are hundreds of birth control options, don't let one bad experience discourage you from taking control of your reproductive rights.
You also have rights without taking pills.. And I definitely have the right to very well DO let one bad experience teach me a lesson. Why do so many people not understand this? Stop trying to talk people into medication they don't want or need. They have convinced me once, I almost died and I won't try again. Period. (lol)
I’ve tried depo, implanon, and about 6 different versions of the pill. All bad bad side effects (headaches, weight gain, extremely low libido to the point where sex was disgusting). Also PMDD symptoms were NOT helped in the slightest and were made worse).I was encouraged to try an IUD which I won’t do because all they give you for pain is Tylenol/ibprophen which don’t work for me (neither does stuff like Vicodin either - makes me nauseous and doesn’t help with pain) and my mom tried an iud and had a period for 3 months straight and a coworker I know had extreme pain from hers going into her uterine wall. I’m literally out of options to try at this point. I’m also allergic to disposable period products and latex so as you can imagine that makes for some challenges (neither the menstrual cup (tried like 4) or the disc work for me as the cups always leak and the disc doesn’t fit). Reusable products are also expensive and you’re stuck with them if you don’t like them.
This is like my "owner of a uterus user guide" I'm not even interested in having children right now, but you make all this ob/gyn stuff so interesting and accesible, I enjoy a lot your content, thank you so much for it!!! and greetings from Colombia :)
I’ve learned SO much from MDJ! I was very uncomfortable (more like disgusted) with puberty and my reality as a physically sexually mature person. Growing up in a traditional catholic household of immigrants didn’t help either. I’ve really come to terms with my sexuality and have passed on the knowledge to my friends when they wanted it. I also feel that I can confidently raise my future kids to be educated and comfortable with their bodies and sexuality. Well, at least from the female side, I’ll have to work on the male side.
I'm so glad you called that person out!! I know so many ppl who won't go to the doctor unless they're about to die cuz of trust issues. There are a lot of bad docs out there, but there are even more good ones who take their jobs very seriously and they care deeply about what they do. I love your channel!! Thanks for all the hard work you do and the info you put out there. Im sure it does get frustrating and you're allowed to cry and vent that frustration. Still, I think you do an amazing job, you're so relatable and clearly have a huge heart! Keep up the good work Dr. Jones!
When I was 28, I went to my gyno and talked to her about getting my tubes tied. She said no with no discussion. She said that I hadn't had kids yet and I was too young to make that decision. I am 35 now and I've relied on the pill and condoms since I was 16 and I STILL don't want kids.
wtf what do those people think, like *what are you even thinking, you should be able to reproduce!* ? it's none of her business, not her body, not her non-existent child. same with abortion - no one should force someone to stay pregnant and vice versa. Always rely on a gyno that is doing her/his job and helps you.
I have endometriosis and have never wanted kids. All of the growths we have ever found are on the ligaments that hold my uterus in place. I want to take it out without getting the ovaries out as there is a decent enough chance it will work and I haven't ever wanted children. I'm told no because I'll change my mind. I'm 30.
“I have dark humor” is such a bad explanation for making jokes from patients. There are two forms of dark humor Good dark humor- hehe me or a group i am part of is bad Bad dark humor- hehe others and other groups they are a part of are bad
Isn't dark humour joking about something you went through/are going through? Like I can make fibromyalgia jokes or jokes about anxiety because I have them but I can't make a joke about say burn victims because I'm not one.
@@Moo-2310 Well, there is no real definition of dark humour. Let's say that dark humour is joking about sensitive/triggering topics. For some people it is uncomfortable to make those types of jokes [which is why if you think it will make them uncomfortable or you dont know for sure, dont make the joke.] But dark humour has several forms. It's not balanced in one singular form!
@@Moo-2310 An add-on to my last comment: Dark humour is a social portrait that really isnt set in one demanding circle! Dark humour can be "That tree lowkey looks like my spinal cord when I was diagnosed with scoliosis." Which is joking about you and your trauma. Or it can be joking about other things that are traumatic in the world that are crimes or certain events. But it's not defined to those limits. [Also, I find those jokes distasteful but some people like them]
My family doctor is also the dude who does my lady check ups and let me tell you, nothing has made me more comfortable than how professional he is. I could tell him i literally anything and hed still give me the same dead pan face and say whats best for my health even if its "hmm you shouldn't do that because it increases risks of xyz." It makes me feel so at ease discussing things with him and super blessed when i hear about my friends' pushy and opinionated family doctors. In fact so many of my pals back when we were 17 and 18 refused to go to their family doctor for birth control because they thought theyd be judgey or tell their parents and i was like??? My dr would never! Moral of the story is that woman at the end likely put off so many young girls from seeing a health professional.
I don't think you will see this message, bit I really appreciate you taking so much time and effort to make evidence based videos for us. I have a good few Gynaecology issues and have found it difficult to find high quality evidence based information in an accessible format. What you do is so so important. Thank you.
Really? My mom never told me that and my dad is a no nonsense slightly scary normally to other people (and very scary when pissed off). Only recently have I learned that not all doctors are nice. It's really sad that the people supposed to take care of us and our health can be like that.
As a person who takes no other medication and is surrounded by naturopaths and alternative medicine regularly, taking birth control pills (for medical purposes other than contraception - tho its a great plus!) was a huge mental hurdle for me... watching your videos has been so helpful in dispelling the misinformation and demonizing of oral contraceptives and for that I am very grateful. Also - once I got over the misinformed fear and started taking the medication prescribed by a doctor I trust (not just a recommendation by some randomly “certified” alternative med provider) I feel SO MUCH better! ♥️
me too!!! I am deep in the yoga community (which is beautiful and I love) and there are soooooo many people talking about whatever they want. Demonizing meds and doing generally really harmful stuff
I am curious as to how you decide what is misinformation and what isn't. This is in no way an attack, mainstream/western medicine has nearly killed me multiple times because I believed and trusted them. Yes, it took me nearly getting killed multiple times to take a look into natural and alternative medicine. I find western medicine to be where a lot of misinformation takes place. I am just interested, I am not trying to start anything. I am on birth control and it helps me a ton, but there is a price to pay with taking it and I am working hard towards getting off the BCs.
Kelly White Kelly White A lot of trial and error, honestly. And finding BOTH alternative and mainstream medical providers you trust for YOU. I’ve had bad outcomes with mainstream medicine (gut issues, chronic migraines, over-prescription of antibiotics, etc) and alternative medicine (allergic reactions, generalization of diagnosis, unsustainable plan of care). I believe there is a balance that can be found but it takes a ton of research, digging, advocating for yourself and, sometimes - going with your gut. Good sources are hard to find in both camps. When I’ve exhausted more holistic approaches and still feel awful, I’m going to trust my (heavily vetted) medical doctor to know what is best for me. In the end (if you are seeking knowledge and doing your own research) I think you worry about side effects and possible outcomes on either side of the fence... at the end of the day, you’re the one who has to live with your own health and decisions. Now, I seek information from both sides and work to find a balanced answer... today, that means I take one prescription med that has improved my health and mental wellbeing significantly. A year from now that might look different. I had to let go of the expectations/opinions of other people and really seek out what was best for me. I hope you find a balance that works for you :)
My brain didn't get the whole point but like my normal doctor wasn't there and the one there was thinking I was gonna do things but nope ya boi just dont want periods (am pre t trans male)
The last one makes me sad because you’re literally laughing at a 16 year old who is going to be faced with some really hard decisions and the rest of their life has been changed. But it’s a joke to you. As her care provider. Pathetic.
I loved your reasoning behind calling her out. I've been really distrustful of medical professionals recently (and also recently had a horrible experience) but watching YOUR has made me think I should try going for regular check ups again...
When you were talking about people harming patients made me realize why I don't see a gyno, I'm a trans man and I don't feel comfortable to see any kind of, down there, doctor. Ngl I'd trust you if I were to ever have to see you as my doctor.
Sorry to pry, but curious doctor here. Have you transitioned from FTM? Because if you're under hormone therapy, you should be having regular consults, and those should cover any "down there" issues of a trans man. If you're pre-hormones I get the weirding out that making an appointment might entail for you, but if you're under hormones, your doctor should be providing care in that area as well.
Is there any medical professional helping/helped in the past that could maybe point you to a gyno who is going to be able to see you and not make uncomfortable statements or give you bad information? Or maybe a local group who advocates for the trans community? They probably can help you find someone. Or even like a local FB group, and you can ask others who they have gone to that really worked for them.
Hey! If you live in a state where planned parenthood is accessible they are generally great with trans patients. They ask for pronouns, are affirming and make sure to use your name (they won't dead name you) and you can put your name on your online patient portal too so you might not even need to discuss it. Obviously I can't guarantee you'll have a good experience but I just wanted to let you know!
I’m also a trans male, unfortunately hormone treatment doesn’t seem like an option for me, but the gynecologist I saw right after my 18th birthday was super respectful and only used the name and pronouns I go by, he explained everything he was doing and didn’t shame me for having had sex years ago. To be safe he ran me through STI testing and did a Pap smear - I had 0 pain or discomfort the whole time. A lot of it was scary at first and I’m not trying to be like “there’s nothing to be scared of” because there are some bad doctors, but I find it rare people talk about the good ones, which leads us to only focus on the bad. I recommend going to OBGYN that specializes or routinely sees LGBTQ+ patients (especially trans), and just research the doctors near you. 😊
I so appreciate your patient advocacy. I have had some really bad experiences with care providers, so that last one just ... hurt. Finally, the last time I had trouble, I pulled out the full “How dare you?!” But I was shaking and teary for hours after. It’s so hard when medical providers make people feel unsafe.
Same here. I haven't had a proper GYN exam since 2014 because of a string of bad experiences - the last of which also left me in sobs - with my first and only provider. When MDJ said that things like that could make a patient not seek care, it smacked me right in the face. I pay out of pocket to see my neurologist every six weeks but I haven't managed even one GYN exam in SIX YEARS. It made me realize I need to advocate for myself.
@@carag2567 I’m so sorry. I hope you can find a different provider with whom you feel safe to try again. Most OBGYN providers allow you to request notes be added to your file that you’ve experienced trauma so that they can be gentle with you. If you feel comfortable telling them that (you don’t have to disclose what type of trauma, ever), that may help!
@@carag2567 same! I had my first and only gyn exam when I was 17, and now I'm 25, too traumatised to ever go there. I don't trust pretty much any specialist in this area. I get my eyesight checked regularly and my dentist is someone I gladly go to, but gynecologists scare the hell out of me. I know that I'll have to go to one before I get any relationship or sexual partner, so that might be the reason I can't have a single relationship - I'm too scared of something I believe to be my duty before starting a relationship
Can you imagine going into the doctors for actual and awful pains and seeing your doctor is the woman in the last video? I'd be so uncomfortable that I'd just leave.
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As far as I can remember there weren't 580k of us out there.What happened?😂❤
Serious question migraine with tunnel vision/aura is not normal and is something that needs to be addressed?! My Dr told me I was just making it up in my head and refuses to remove my iud (I've had alot of issues since having liletta)
"If your vagina is sick, please take it to the doctor" is the quote of the day 😁
My two small daughters were like duh garlic is for food😂😂😂
@@aricka4193 And it's GOOD for food. Not so much for hoo has.
Yeah it’s my absolute favorite and actually one of the first things I think about when hearing MDJ lol
And she's saying she's not hilarious
I couldn’t help but imagine sitting in the waiting room holding hands and telling her “everything’s gonna be alright” 😂😂
Girl I had my earbuds in listening to asmr, rolled over trying to fall asleep, *apparently* accidentally hit my phone, first thing I hear at 2am: "please don't put garlic in your vagina"
Lmfao bet that woke you up confused af 🤣😂 I swear I am cracking up laughing at your comment!
Oh damn its 3 am I should go to bed
Wait never mind
😂😂😂
Whoa! Garlic alert at 2:00 AM!
If your vagina is sick take it to the dr lol
“If your vagina is sick, please take it to the doctor”
First time I’ve watched your channel and I already love you
I love your profile picture!
@@emarie.shifts111 thank you!!!
Welcome, she’s great.
haha same
FURRY FREN
I am gay, and never once after coming out has a medical professional sought my wife’s opinion on anything. Yet before I was out, everything I did was somehow weighed against the needs and desires of an imaginary “future husband” without regard to my health or safety. Misogyny at its finest.
Yeah, same. It's like someone needs to stand up in front all past, current, and future medical professionals or everyone in world and say the following or something to this effect: "I am a human person and I own my uterus. No, no one else decides for me what happens to it and no man or child can rent it or any other part or sum of my body. What others want for my uterus is relevant because I didn't and don't choose a life of service."
@@annakevlin8634 Great message, but I think you meant irrelevant instead of relevant. Minor typos.
In the past I never had doctors listen to me when I told them I couldn't possibly be pregnant, even when I was in middle school. It wasn't until I got the Nexplanon implant that people listened to me when I said it, but ONLY if I told them I had it. Definitely not the same thing since what you experienced was paternalistic, misogynistic bullshit, but sort of similar in that a lot of medical professionals don't seem interested in listening to cis women or female-presenting people when it comes to reproductive things.
if your partner is gonna get upset about you wanting birth control pills for your health and safety, i would question them.. for your health/safety and comfort, it’s your body. it is YOUR body, not someone else’s.
There is absolutely nothing funny about teenage pregnancy. Shame on that last person, their video was insensitive af. Pregnancy is terrifying to adults, imagine being 16.
Thank you for this♥️I'm a teen mom, and I was pregnant at 15 and I went through school hiding it because I knew people would judge me. When they found out, bam hate and judgement. I get called terrible names even though the only person I have done the deed with was my ex (my child's father) and I didn't consent to it, which is rape. Think before you judge, you don't know a teen mom's, teen dad's, single moms, single dad's, young parents situation. Thank you
@@ziagochenaur2980 I could never truly fathom the fear you must have gone through, or any young mom/dad. Having a baby is not all sunshine and rainbows, it's painful and risky in our world now. Though I'm sure holding your child's tiny hand when they are finally born makes everything worth it (wouldn't know, I'm not a parent though I hope to be one day :)). My cousin got pregnant when she was a teenager too, and now she's a registered nurse and a proud mom of three. At one point, she managed two jobs, college, and the kids (two young adults, one still a teen) all by herself (husband isn't really helpful unfortunately). She is truly one of the strongest people I know, and for that woman in that vine to make fun of teenage pregnancy like it's nothing made me see red. I hope for you and your child all of the best! It takes a lot of courage and commitment to raise a child, don't let unsympathetic people tear you down or feel ashamed for it. :)
@@beatricedorian9908 thank you so much, and your aunt is amazing! She sounds like a great mother. Look up to her!
@@ziagochenaur2980 I’m sorry you had to go through that, my aunt was also raped and her baby had a lot of physical and mental disorders, but she still stayed such a happy and positive person who absolutely loved her daughter.
@@milkshake2659 that's great to hear. God bless them both
When my mom tried to get her tubes tied 29 years ago the female nurse gave her a lecture about how she would regret it. This is about how the convo went.
Nurse "You might want more kids someday."
Mom "Nope, just the one."
Nurse "Your husband might want more."
Mom " He is also good with just the one, and left the number of kids to me. "
Nurse "You might get remarried and your new husband might want biological kids."
Mom had to report the nurse to the male doctor. He was very angry and had a talk with the nurse about how out of line she was. He apologized whole heartily to my mom. Btw my parents are still happily married and thanking God they decided on just one child.
IDK what this nurse expected my mom to do, form her life around the wants of an imaginary second husband's? Also, why are we still having the same issues 29 years later?
What a terrible nurse I’m wow that’s just disgusting
I know right
I disagree. I don't think the nurse was trying to talk her out if it. It's just part of her job to find out for sure that the decision was her own for one thing, and to make sure she has thought of the permanent consequences.
@@acuteteacher When my mom reported her to the doctor he told the nurse, in front of my mother, she had no business talking to my mother like that, and was mortified that she would speak to his patients like that. It was not the nurse's job at all. She wasn't trying to make sure my mom thought about it. She was being rude and straight telling my mother she would regret it.
@@acuteteacher but she kinda went on it the wrong way, this was lowkey harassment, if someone says no then no
I agree with you about not making patients a joke, but I also wanna take that one step further and ask why teen pregnancy is remotely funny in the first place?.. even if the scenario were made up, I just personally find it tasteless.
That's exactly what I was thinking. I don't find anything at all funny about a 16 year-old being pregnant in the first place.
Teen pregnancy is scary if anything. For the teenager, for the parents, for the father... It sucks but poor sex education is to blame.
I was thinking similarly. I'm studying to become a medical technologist, and it's been emphasized to us that we should meet our patients with dignity and respect and to treat their samples in the same manner, to remember that behind each vial and bottle, there is a person waiting for an answer.
I'm having a stupid moment... why was that TikTok funny?!
@@myself0510 the "funny" part was supposed to be the reaction the person in scrubs had. the "oh sh*t she's pregnant" is supposed to be a funny reaction. Instead it just came off as unprofessional, tasteless, and uncaring towards the patient.
I love how they where saying birth control is bad for your hormones when I was prescribed birth control to help with my hormones and it helps
"bIrTh CoNtrOL iS bAd FoR yOur HOrMoNeS!!"
"yes dearie.... that's the point"
(bad joke that probably doesn't make sense but at the time of typing it it seems like a good idea)
Same😄 It fixed alot of things that were wrong because of my hormone imbalance.
Same tho
It’s different for everyone
Same for me too!
Imagine being that 16 year old girl and seeing your medical professional make fun of you on tiktok... She's already going through enough, dont make it worse.
Yeah, I was thinking to myself that I'd recognize that chick from my doctor's office and feel humiliated...she's a real jerk.
I pray they were all just actors...
If not, a lawsuit
@@tahraethestoryteller6079 It was the same lady, so they didn't show a patient. Likely couldn't sue them, but I'd for sure not want to see them again.
@@lisarodriguez6966 Id be so, so, angry and upset. I'd report her to the head of the hospital, to the medical board, to TikTok, to the TV news... anybody who would listen.
It wouldn't be damaging just for her but for any girl that age who is pregnant or went through something similiar. Maybe some girls who have been raped and became pregnant are watching this and thinking that there is something wrong with them. Anyway i's still terrible to humiliate young girls for being pregnant even if you're not a doctor and they're not your patient cause you never know what happened
What an opening lol
Lol pun intended
@@sierra4030 Oh of course you got it lmao
Lol
Like a big ol VAG
Lol. But it works.
Me: Mom can I go to the gynecologist?
Mom: We have a gynecologist at home
The gynecologist at home: *_G A R L I C_*
Your name and pfp are just 👌👌
According to mom we have everything at home.
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First of all why would anyone want to ask their mom to go there. It seems so entirely horrifying to see one of those doctors.
@@agirlbelngingtthewild9625 so issues with your cervic can be diagnosed
I love how she says “If your vagina is sick, please take it to the doctor” s as if your vagina is a young child or a cat! 😂
I mean pussy is another word for cat
@@arealisticbeautystandard8920 clever lol
It's a part of you you need to take care of so... yes pretty much ^^
@@arealisticbeautystandard8920 well i like your dog
@@alexandracuciuc2962 thank you her name is Leia and shes 3 years old.
facts about Leia
- she has 2 types of heterochromia
- one of her ears is floppy and the other is not
- she once ate a toilet brush
- she once made friends with a wild coyote
- she's part husky but we don't know the rest
- she likes to drink cows milk
- I also have her older sister Athena
Migraine? Weight gain? Sexual disturbances? I got all those and I ain't even on birth control. Also I'm a dude.
I appreciate your comment, dude. Welcome!
I'm pretty sure "migraine, weight gain and, sexual disturbances" are symptoms of living on Earth in 2020.
@@acidroofproductions9378 lmaoo
I am not even sure those count as symptoms any more doesnt that just mean you are alive. XD
You had me in the first half, not gonna lie.
The last video is an example of the “the meanest girls in high school went on to be nurses” joke. obviously not true for every nurse but I do know a lot of mean judgmental people from high school went on to be nurses.
The person who abused me is a nurse and, coincidentally, was the typical “mean girl” in high school. Obviously not very nurse is like that, I know so many lovely people who are nurses but it’s definitely a stereotype for a reason.
They like being able to exert power over others. Nursing is a great way to do that.
This is so funny because I just started at Pima to become a Respiratory Therapist, and while I was at campus to pick up my books, I ran into a high school bully who told me she was about to become an MA
So true I refuse to go to one urgent care in my town cause I know and got bullied by too many of the nurses that work there now. Like "I didn't like being around you when I was safe now you want me to consent to you stabbing me in the arm? Hell no."
All the nurses I've met have been really nice.
I was a mom at 16. I hate it when young women are treated like dirt when they end up pregnant, like they already feel like the world is against them so why make it worse. That last tik tok just got under my skin.
Especially considering in most places all over the world & especially in the US girls are not given adequate sex education. There’s so many videos and like, Reddit threads of doctors talking about adult patients that knew nothing about sex or pregnancy, it’s crazy. Like you don’t teach them their options, how things work, or how to be safe, then vilify them when the inevitable happens.
I feel all those girls who get pregnant early, I've had a woman look at me like "oh she's so young and already buying baby food, she should be ashamed" when I was buying baby food when I was 18. Jokes on her, I'm 25, still a virgin (bad luck, not really a choice), and I was only buying baby food because I had a throat infection so bad that I couldn't swallow normal food. It's not always a girl's choice to get pregnant, especially when rape is involved
you're so strong! keep fighting gurl!
Hating on pregnant teens is NEVER okay, even for a shit joke. It can be very difficult for the teen, their family, ect. and you never know the situation at full. Thank you for sharing and I'm sorry people think teen pregnancy is something to laugh at.
@@Hannah-zw9ow They're expected to remain virgins until marriage or else they don't get Christmas presents or something, obviously educating them about contraception will defile their pure minds with sinful thoughts. How else can someone be judgemental towards both abortions AND teen pregnancy?
To the second video: It absolutely blows my mind that an individual is supposed to make every medical decision based on the whims of a fictional future spouse. If they want kids and I don't, WHY WOULD I MARRY THEM?
Sad reality is that there are many places in the world (e.g. the US) where the man is seen as the “head of the household” and his opinion is the only one that matters.
Protip: don’t marry these people, they have a very high rate of domestic violence.
Plus.
If you do end up wanting kids in the future. You can adopt. So its not even a problem
Other thing that bothers me is that none of these medical carers apear to know that adoption is an option... Like, it's not the end of the world if I supposedly meet someone that supposedly wants a child and I supposedly change my mind, we could still adopt.
@@lari.2909 Indeed... and even if they consider adoption they're still going to assume that every woman will eventually want to carry her own child instead of adoption or surrogacy. It's maddening and infuriating that people still assume that carrying a child is somehow the holy grail of human experience, or even that having a child is something that everyone supposedly *should* want. Like, stop fucking telling people what they should want, stop assuming that if they don't want children they're fooling themselves. It's degrading and dehumanizing to speak to people that way.
@@Canadian_Zac Unless you're a weirdo who absolutely obsessively only want to have biological children. I had a high school teacher like that. And I know because she dedicated our sex-ed class to detailing her journey towards getting that biological child. Granted, it's not the *worst* use of sex-ed class (at least she didn't waste our time by teaching abstinence-only) but god, I really didn't need to know... any... of the details she shared.
One of us students point blank asked her why she didn't try for adoption or something. No, it had to be biological. It was the only thing good enough for her.
The one of the girl saying her gyn wouldnt let her get a hysterectomy because "what if your husband wants more" is so ridiculous! i was hemorrhaging (after having had my period for SIX MONTHS STRAIGHT - no breaks, super super heavy (going thru a super tampon AND super overnight pad in 30 minutes AT THE SAME TIME - & having been in the ER multiple times a month over the course of 6 months because it wouldnt stop, i was in mass amounts of pain & anemic by this point) & the female emergency gyn said i need an emergency hysto. the MALE gyn looked at my spouse & goes "are you ok with this?" - my SO: uhh yeah? - "what if you want more kids?" - my SO: can my wife potentially DIE if she doesnt have this surgery that THAT gyn said is an emergency?! - "well, maybe. we dont actually know" - SO: but its a high probability? - "yeah" - my SO: then WHY THE F**K DOES IT MATTER IF I WANT MORE KIDS?! WE CAN ADOPT! SAVE MY WIFE!
it was ridiculous. i was laying on an ER bed bleeding out & the male gyn was arguing with my spouse on how maybe i shouldnt have this life saving procedure.
Ummmm... holy crap! I’m so glad you’re ok now. By the way, you and your SO are super cute in the profile pic.
Your husband sounds like a peach!
Oh yeah, little known fact, you can have lots of kids when you’re dead! And men actually are the ones who should decide if you bleed out! I mean, I know being alive and not bleeding all the time are both great things but are you suuure you want that?
Your husband sounds like such a wonderful man! I was lucky that my male Gyn was an advocate for my hysterectomy WITHOUT asking my husband for his opinion. I can’t fathom the amount of women who have experienced that mess. I’m so glad that you are okay now sugar!!
Thats so awful, Im glad they didnt do that to my mom. She had her tubes tied after my brother, it was a difficult quick birth with bleeding issues. The thing that gets me is that from what I hear, if young men want a vasectomy it isnt challenged. (I know guys who have had them at 20) and yet a girl even brings it up/or a hysterectomy due to endo and even female docs can go 'well but what about more kids'. It shouldnt freaking matter to someone who doeent own that organ in their body. Like what about not dying, being in pain, or truly not wanting more kids? Its awful this still happens to us women so often.
That last joke is really upsetting. I knew an acquaintance who was pregnant in high school and I found her crying in the lockers. When I asked what's up she confided in me that not only was she being bullied and harassed by close friends about it, but she was afraid of going to the doctors for this EXACT reason. It took me a whole week to convince her to get proper care and a couple of months before she was eating right and feeling good about herself again. All that furry I felt in that locker room, I just refelt watching that.
Liwiathan ...made her hair rise up in anger? 😏
Fury and yes
You're wonderful for helping her with that. I hope she's doing better now.
It just infuriates me that people bully people who are pregnant at a young age. It may be risky for someone at that age, and so that can scare people, and bullying won't help. It just makes me so angry.
This almost made me cry. I’m so sorry to anyone who has to go through that.
I have asked numerous doctors about having my tubes tied over the years because I don't want kids, and I've gotten similar responses to the girl in the video. I just switched doctors again earlier this year because when I asked the last one about it, the OBGYN said, "What if you meet someone some day that wants them?" I'm almost 35 and have never wanted kids - pretty sure I know what I want by now. Why should a *potential* partner's wants override mine? If I met someone that wanted kids, and I don't, obviously we'd be incompatible. It's SO frustrating.
I tried for years to get my tubes tied or partial hysterectomy. Nope, nowhere, no one would do it. I went into pre-menopause early instead.
Is- Is this what American healthcare is like..? I- Wow- I'm sorry, but like-
@@enbyfabulosity2521 Where do you live that this isn't a problem? Asking for a friend
Same here. I've been fighting this for years.
It should not be up to the doctor UNLESS it will threaten your life if you carry it out.
The last one was so awful. Not only is she making a fool of herself and make possible patients not trust her, but she is also making people in general more self conscious about getting help. Imagine being pregnant at 16, dealing with sh*t from everyone, then finding your doctor/nurse making a joke out of it.
And by no means am I against doctors on social media, you are making a big difference in combating false information and also in showing a more human trustful side of you. So thank you for all the medical professionals who are leading by example on social media ❤❤❤
THIS!!! THANK YOU!!! I am a teen mom,I had my son when I was 16. I get judged by everyone, and get called a harlett, slut, whore, etc, when I have only had sex with my ex (my son's father). They call me a slut for getting pregnant because he cheated on his girlfriend, but I got raped, how am I a slut for that? You don't know a single mothers, single father's, young parents situation. Don't judge a book by its cover
@@ziagochenaur2980 You're a strong person. Keep going. Some people are just awful and like to hate on other people
I agree, it's just sad how much of an ass some medical staff can be. I remember a while back I tried to get therapy, but was told that I'd have to see a doctor before I could do that. Fine so be it. So I went there, told her how I was feeling, that I had a lot of trouble regulating my mood, that I didn't know how to control my emotions. Her response was "Maybe it's just the hormones." Like wow, so you think that just because I'm a teenager, it's simply because I'm a 'hormonal teen' Not only was that doctor pretty insensitive in my opinion, like there are better ways to bring that idea up, but I've never felt more patronized when going to the doctor.
@@ziagochenaur2980 when I was in primary school a girl in middle school was pregnant (she was in the last year or something) and... God! She was judged. I saw scribbles in the toilet stall calling her names and stuff. I was pretty young and innocent and always saw pregnancy as a blessing, so I was always kind and smiled to her. She was very shy... No wonder why. Kudos to her sticking to studying even with those awful bullying she was suffering!
@@ziagochenaur2980 Just want to say happy Mother’s Day and you are such a strong person!
Why would you even make a “joke” about someone being pregnant at a young age?
Ask that everyday
Yeah..
Even if they aren't young, like how is that at all a joke? I hate humans
Like she has no idea what the woman had gone through that got her pregnant. Especially with being so young, you have NO IDEA. Maybe she messed around, maybe she was molested. Don't make fun of patients.
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30 years ago my Mum went in to have a hysterectomy which had been recommended to her on medical grounds. When prepping her, the hospital advised they would need my Dad's signature on the consent form to confirm he agreed to her having the hysterectomy. My Mum put her foot down and refused point blank for them to even pass the form across to him. She told them that it was her decision whether or not to agree to have sex, it was her decision to be on whatever version of birth control she had been taking for the previous 10 years and she had never needed anyone else's permission for any other surgery that she had been through, she did not require anyone else's permission and she would not allow them to make a mockery of her right to make a decision about her own health. They went ahead without my Dad's signature. My Mum can be fierce when she wants to be
She sounds like a force to be reckoned with!
YOUR MOM IS POWERFUL... honestly it’s awesome that she managed to stand up for herself like that! Good on her!
Idek your mom but I love her already!!!
A queen 👑!!!
That’s crazy. Thankfully the doctor that performed my hysterectomy wasn’t that way. Of course I ddid talk to my husband about the decision because it was going to take our life in a different direction, but as far as the ultimate decision, that was all me. If anyone had even suggested that my husband needed to sign off on my hysterectomy I think I would have punched someone.
I went To a doctor once and Said "i feel like my hormones are changing". he said, "not possible you are too young for menopause..." Turns out i had a thyroid issue. He asked no questions, just decided i was fine. Wish doctors would be more inquisitive. A nurse helped me get more testing.
Another reason to not joke about patients publicly is YOU still need a job and YOU still have bills to pay. What's going to happen when a patient recognizes you as that "One person who said that one thing" online and alerts your bosses and then your job doesn't want to be associated with you because patients are uncomfortable around you.
It’s fake. All by design to rile us up. Do you remember the dancing pandemic nurses? Knee-deep in a pandemic with so many ppl they had to open tents outside the hospital yet look online & see “medical professionals” doing literal choreographed dances & using the IV poles as a stripper pole on wheels, seems a poor use of PPE that was so dire.....wait........🤔🤔🤔 fake af
Facts. If I recognized that person, I would request someone else. After awhile, your boss will become confused/suspicious why you in particular are being avoided. Don't be a dumbass should be the takeaway tho Doc said it in a really nice way lol
@@The_Salty_Siren nurses are humans too ya know. They have breaks, they do silly things, and they can make tik toks if they please. Just because it's a pandemic doesn't mean nurses stopped being human.
@@godsbigtoe5964 It wasn't fake though, also it was very rude and insensitive to do those videos when most of the country was on lock down at the time. The whole thing felt like a mockery to people who couldn't go anywhere or do anything. Also, those hospitals were empty and not overrun at all like they were claiming! The hospitals where I'm at weren't even busy with C O V I D so yeah it's a big fat SCAM.
Let’s just take a moment to appreciate that this woman tortures herself by watching these videos, just to educate people. She does this for us, the absolute queen.
That talk about making fun of patients is so important! When I was 14 I had to get an ultrasound due to doctors thinking I might have an ovarian cyst. While in the waiting room I got dirty looks from almost everyone there, even though they were all waiting in the same room. It was ridiculous! People’s medical business should be their own thing to worry about. (No ovarian cyst by the way :))
I had an ultrasound at 15 to check my liver and same thing
I got a gyno ask about my number of sexual partners (normal here). She turned to the nurse when I answered. Then she asked if I was married. When I said "no", she giggled to the nurse: "Well, that's why!" Since then I am hesitant to answer truthfully during exams that I need to keep being healthy. (other disrespectful things happened during that exam, I now have a great doctor).
I had one at 12 because I had a lot of GI issues and they wanted to be as least invasive as they could to check my track. I kind of wish when I had a cat scan when I 16 that they that again, however the CT turned out to be really helpful because they found benign cysts on my ovaries, likely what caused some issues the whole time, others were caused by general GI issues. Nothing major or to be concerned and I am on birth control to help regular my massively bad estrogen level. My migraines are decreased and I no longer have the same cramping I had back then. I’m 19 now.
I was lucky that the nurses and doctors that took care of me were extremely respectful and explained the process and made me feel comfortable. I was a scared child that didn’t know what any of it was like. The lady who did the ultrasound was really funny and outlined everything we saw on the screen.
I wasn't made fun of by my obgyn but I did feel unheard and not respected by them. There were multiple occasions when I would ask questions out of genuine curiosity for a teenage girl and I was brushed off as if I didn't need to know about how part of my body worked. Worst thing was when I had to be swabbed for a test and rather than explain and try to get me to relax, as I was already nervous, they just went ahead with the test. I left that appointment traumatized and to this day I am afraid to go to an obgyn for fear of this happening again. This happened when I was 17 and I am now 23.
“Save the garlic for your Italian dish.”
I’m literally crying laughing
When I was 16 I had a Dr like the last one. I went in for a sinus infection and she immediately said ' Do you think your pregnant?' in a snotty tone. I responded 'No, I have a sinus infection. I have had them before...my snot is neon green and stinks...I'd just like an antibiotic please...'. It made me ashamed to even go in and I didn't until I had influenza which she treated the same and gave me a pregnancy test. I wasn't even sexually active. I had to go back 3 times before I got treatment for influenza. Some Drs are really horrible to teen girls.
Yer they expect you to have mum and day holding your hand till your in your mid 20's than expect your boyfrend/husband to be there .... hello we are the pashent not them listen to us not others!
Yep. When I was a teenager, the doctor said I was stressed. My symptoms:. Ear pain. The funny part is that I had ongoing ear infections. Eventually, I had to get ear surgery in one of my ears due to the massive ear infection that ended up rupturing my ear drum. Yeah, the stress was the doctor not wanting to check my ears and getting paid for guessing.
I trimmed the story, but it's a wild ride.
Back in 2018 to 2019 (just before the new year's day), my appendix exploded and it gave me belly cramps during hours, so my parents drove me to the health unity (it's not an hospital, but it's the gateway to one). I was literally crying in pain, not being able to properly sit and having trouble to even breath, it's not a common sight for a fully-grown woman in pajamas to be crying and clinging to a graying mother at 2 AM, right? So, after half an hour, the doc said to my mother who entered with me because I wasn't being able to properly walk: "Are you sure she isn't pregnant? We can go check it, the ultrasound machine is being used now, but we can put her in the line, maybe it will take 20 minutes" She flatly said "she is just fat", (I think I said something mid-groan "my belly has folds, pregnant people don't have folds, do they?") he seemed to be in shock for a moment, like he didn't know what to do, then he asked if I was in college and I said I just got accepted, so his answer: "she is just stressed a bit, I'll give her some painkillers and you can go home", my mother insisted to do a little exam just to be sure nothing was wrong, but he refused, justifying that many teens (I was 22) came to the health unity saying they were in pain, had insomnia and other problems due to stress related to school. I was almost buying it since I was in fact under stressing times, but then my pain struck fully and I started to puke bile, just then he reluctantly decided to give me an exam to see what was wrong with me.
Well, I survived, did the exam on the following morning, got to the hospital, got my surgery done, spent the new year's eve at the hospital and got home on the following day.
But I still think: why did I had to literally puke in the front of a doctor just so he could bother to make an exam in my belly, since he seemed eager to do that when he thought I could be pregnant? Like, he really wanted to do an ultrasound just to see if I was pregnant, but after we (me and my mom) said that I wasn't, he just pretended it wasn't necessary? (let alone the fact I could have been examined for pregnancy in 20 minutes according to him, but had to wait about 5 hours afterwards, at least the painkillers knocked me asleep for most of the time) I mean, how many adults you see hunching over and holding back their tears because of pain to the point their need help to walk? I know some people can be overly dramatic (or have low tolerance for pain, which is my situation), but I think it was... An experience that I don't know how to classify.
For a bit of context: I'm Brazilian, being barred from doing exams isn't the norm. Delaying it isn't uncommon, but it's very unlikely to happen when someone shows up in pain. Also, we don't have medical/hospital bills to pay, so this isn't a form of "treating the poor folks like trash".
“Save the garlic for your Italian dish.” -This literally cracked me up! Hahahahah
... like clam marinara.
"If your vagina is sick, please take it to the doctor" got me
@@FabrayFashions Me too haha 😂.
The last one kicked me in the feels. I have a friend who has gotten pregnant at 17 and she was pressured by her parents and her doctor to get an abortion and in the end they did it against her will (100% legal fyi) which is until this day a big trauma for her. Making fun of pregnant teens is never okay. They might have just slept with their first partner, they might have been mksinformed about contraceptives, they might have even been raped ffs.
Not okay to make fun of kids/teens getting pregnant.
(btw. This is not a pro-life comment, I'm pro choice, so is my friend, and her choice was taken away from her)
That's heartbreaking
That happened with my eldest sister at 17. Was pressured by her father to get it. Still with the same guy who got her pregnant and her last pregnancy ended in miscarriage.
That's awful 💔 good for you for speaking up though! Alot of people are afraid to have a voice these days.
100% not legal, fyi
I know someone who had this happen in the late 60's. When she got pregnant again she ran away from home and lived in a women's shelter. The father of her child had to stay in the hospital with her until the birth certificate was filed to make sure her parents couldn't give the baby up for adoption.
She still struggles with that trauma. It should have been her choice, not her parents'.
I just wanna leave this here:
Some of these birth control tiktoks are coming from a deep place of misogyny and sexism.
Conventional medicine should be outlawed.
And the scary thing is, its usually female influencers that buy into and post these messages, so as a woman you watch it and think she's a girl why would she be on their side?
I definitely teared up when you said, “this is why people don’t want to go to the doctor.” It’s such a double-edged sword; I get told to go to the doctor if I’m in pain and then when I go, get told that my pain is “probably just my menstrual cycle” or whatever. But if I don’t go, I get spoken to like a 5 year old the next time I decide to go because my pain is so bad. Never ending cycle.
I wanted to ask if you’d do a video on endometriosis. Or point me in the direction of a good video or website with some actual good advice and facts. I’ve tried to do my own research and everything is so random. One doctor says this and one person says that. It’s hard to find someone to trust and someone to confide in.
Thank you for these videos.
Endo is really tough I was diagnosed 7 years ago and some people still don't get that even without a disorder, menstrual pain and symptoms are very real and very disruptive. Unfortunately our medical system is patriarchal and discounts and undervalues women and discredits their pain. It's getting better but not fast enough
Same
I've gone to hospo 3 times now with endo problems. I take bc for pain and it causes my time not to come for ages. But when it does eventually come it is really painful and I get very heavy bleeding to the point where I've blacked out and I get light headed. I went to the hsosp for the recent one becuase I hadn't slept for 2 days due to pain. I got a pregency test which came. Back negetive and told to get over thyne self. I cant walk well when the time comes bc of where the bad area is. I feel you and I hope one day we can all be treated with dignity and respect.
Yeah. I go to the doctor and the doctor said use a compress type brace so i did and next time the doctor said put soles in my shoes. Its for ankle pain becauae every morning i wake up and start to walk my ankles will hurt for 1-5 hours as i walk so i also walk strange when it does. The soles dont help and brace dont.
Yeah, I'm waiting on a diagnosis, but even if I don't have endometriosis, I've still suffered severe pain for the past 14 years. But of course, I thought it was normal, because everyone tells you that period pain is normal. My mum tells me (despite her best intentions) that I might just have a low pain tolerance. But even if true, that doesn't mean I don't deserve help. Even my own Doctor dismisses it.
One time when I had gone to the doctor for a check-up and the doctor asked how I was doing and I said I felt a little depressed from things that was going on in my life, and from my period pain. She responded with "Well we all have period pain, so there's no use worrying about that."
I've also spent the past 2 years trying to find the right medication without giving me side effects, because the doctor and I only made the connection recently that a condition I had since I was 12, was caused by the pain medication I have been taking... since I was 12. It's been tough trying to manage it all, but I think I've found the right meds now, at least I hope.
Just saw someone on Instagram say “let’s stop all hormonal birth control for everyone” because she had a bad experience while on it 🤦♀️ I have PCOS so I need it girl
Someone would have to rip my BC from my cold dead hands before I start having a cycle again
I can’t add pictures, but yknow the meme of the guy with all the question marks floating around his face? That’s me...
Birth control is the only thing that makes my periods remotely tolerable. Plus not getting pregnant is a good bonus
I wish FAM was a more recognized thing, but does that mean birth control should be outlawed? NO! Not only is it birth control but also legitimate treatment outside of birth control!
Thank you! I needed Depo Provera shots for years to control my PCOS. Without it I averaged 4-5 emergency room visits annually (50% chance of hospitalization-diabetes complicate infections) with a high fever and Peritonitis.
my cousin wanted her tubes tied a few years ago and she's roughly twenty-something with many children. the doctor said "no, you're too young to even consider that". my family rioted because like.... um she's done having kids let her make that official so she doesn't accidentally have another
I asked my doctor what I'd have to do to get mine tied when I'm older and he deadass told me i'd need the approval of my father or husband. Wtf.
@@lucyk8935 Did you find a new doctor
@@exoticcats6119 Can't, too young still and he's the only one nearby. I'll be moving away when I'm older though, with any luck
@@lucyk8935 Your doctor is trash
@@ArtisanAsteroid He's only our family practitioner, realistically there's not much he can do he's just telling me policy lol. The policy is trash though, yeah
"This infertility med may cause long term infertility."
Me, Someone who never wants kids: Oh, no, how awful....
I've heard of men being refused vasectomies because "You're too young, you might want more children someday", but I wonder whether any man has ever been asked "Do you have your wife's/girlfriend's consent?". I doubt it!
not related to pregnancy but when i was 16 i had a panic attack so bad that i fainted and it landed me in the hospital and i overheard two nurses making fun of me. it traumatized me so bad that even now almost 10 years later im still anxious as hell in hospitals and doctors offices and scared that im going to be made fun of. it led to me pushing off a lot of important appointments and now im seeing doctors a lot due to health issues i likely would have had sorted long ago if not for this. thanks for standing up against that kind of attitude, i really appreciate it.
I am sorry that it happened to you.... Hope you are doing better now ❤️
Ughhh, people suck. Hope you're okay these days.
I worked with doctors who regularly talked about patients so yea, I don’t like going to the hospital. I go to my necessary appointments yearly and that’s it.
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RN here- I agree with you on a few points. 1. If you are not a medical professional STOP giving medical advice. And if you have a medical concern PLEASE seek professional advice and don’t get information from Tic Toc or Facebook! 2. Medical professionals...act like one. Our patients are precious and fragile. They need to feel safe and secure in our care. I am absolutely embarrassed at TV shows that show patients in compromising or embarrassing situations. I have been a nurse for 40 years. My patients need to know that I am here for them and I have seen it all. I don’t judge, criticize or think about them in anyway other than that they are in trouble and they need my help. If you can’t act like a professional then get out of this profession.
For the first point!!!! If you are a medical professional STOP GIVING ADVICE IN FIELDS YOU DID NOT STUDY IN. Just because you know about how to take care of old people, doesn't mean you know how to treat a 2nd degree burn or a pulled muscle! I may be projecting a little, sorry about that.
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Fellow RN here. I find that women's health is one of the most notorious areas for people giving health advice that they have no business in giving. I follow a mom group and I can't believe the crap I see.
If my friends ask about something medical related I’ll give them minor suggestions but even then I’ll always end the conversation by reminding them that I’m not a doctor and that they should talk to theirs. I couldn’t imagine trying to give people medical advice through social media without any actual training.
Yes to all of this. I used to work in EMS and now I'm on the clinical side. EMS providers are notorious for saying really awful things about patients and having "dark humor". Its not ok to degrade someone because you need to let off steam. Patients are people and every person deserves respect. If you don't want it said about your momma then don't say it about someone else. I see a lot less of this in the clinical side and its so refreshing.
I've probably said this under every video you post @mamadoctorjones but I love low how you say "people" instead of "women". Thank you for being so inclusive and understanding. I was born a female and live/present as female and I support the trans community, I'm so happy and relieved that you support them as well
Birth control isn’t just about “preventing pregnancy”, it’s also useful for conditions like severe dysmenorrhea. I can’t take it due to the way it messes with my head but it’s important for it to not be demonized the way it is.
It's so ridiculous women have to justify their health care like this. If I want it, for whatever reason, there should be as few barriers as possible.
Excatly! I'm on it for health reasons not just so I can have sex anytime I want.
Ambria Ashley Exactly. I’m also pro choice due to my past. Hearing all the fake messaging around things like birth control and abortion make me sick. A 10 year old girl in Brazil had to fight to get access to an abortion and she eventually got it but not before she was doxed. She could have died from the pregnancy.
@@ambriaashley3383 just imagine if people wanted to demonize viagra because its not what God/nature wanted, like they say with birth control
Severe acne can get better (not sure what that hormone was, I basically had too much of for a girl).
It makes you have regular periods.
I don't get the hate either.
I feel like 'Correlation ≠ Causation' needs to be taught a lot more thoroughly...
That’s what I kept thinking when she started talking about that. I was waiting for her to say that, but she didn’t. I was so disappointed.
Check out causation nation on tiktok he make sarcastic correlation = causation as his whole page and its one big joke
I a licensed mental health therapist and during my freshmen year of college, I had a psychology professor who made us all say “correlation does not equal causation” as a class multiple times per class. It really stuck with me and helps me to think more critically about correlative studies and reports.
@@sadie9508 my high school stats teacher used to drill it into us. He went with the time people concluded Ice cream caused people to murder because there were more murders in the summer and ice cream sales went up in the summer, so it must be the ice cream making people homicidal.
My intro to psych professor offered a free A to anyone who got that tattooed in a massive bar on their arm. No one did it but I seriously considered having it added below my tattoo of a neuron in a tasteful size and font because it is that important lol
My doctor is absolutely hilarious. I end up laughing about something every time I see him. But he would never make a joke at a patient's expense or my own. Instead he favors terrible dad jokes and puns. In example, what do you call a fish doctor? A cod-iologist.
Even though I don’t know you but I just want to say I am happy for you, that is soo wholesome!
LMAFO!!!!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Lol I already love him.
I'm stealing this!
Oh that’s a knee slapper 😂
Honestly there’s such a big distrust in medical professionals in the US that making jokes at your patients expense can only do harm
Not just in the US. Hungarian here and ew no, don't want to see a doctor ever again. (But I'll have to next month, because pre-flight 💉 eeek.)
That last person needs to lose her job and never be hired as a nurse again.
She should absolutely lose her certification or any license and never be able to regain it
Because she made a bad joke? Let's not go overkill on our professionals. If we fire everyone who makes a mistake, a joke in bad taste or posts something online that should have stayed in private conversations between professionals, we will find ourselves pretty quickly without healthcare professionals. Let's reserve that for people who actively violate the trust of patients and do grossly negligent and harmful things.
@@olenickel6013 ...you're really defending her. Wow.
@@olenickel6013 and yes, she should be fired. Anyone joking around like that about a vulnerable patient lacks the compassion, decency and common sense to properly care for them. And yes, that's dangerous to the well being of the people put in her care. It's a no fuckin brainer that yeah, we need to weed people like this out of authority and care positions, and put better people in their place.
@@grimmscuriosities9411 I am not defending her, I am saying there is space between complete acceptance and complete cancelling. Not every sanction must be "fire her and ruin her life", you can have a sane discussion about why this joke was in bad taste and could have unwanted negative impact on pregnant teenagers and then go on, have her learn from her mistake and continue to do her job better in the future. It's easy to scream bloody murder over the internet, but healthcare providers are still people and they may make mistakes. If you "weed out" everyone who makes dumb mistakes without giving them a chance to do better you will end without healthcare providers.
I have an anxiety disorder, and going to the doctor feels like walking to the gallows for me. I'm already ashamed enough to be crying, flinching, shaking, hyperventilating, stuttering, and generally acting slightly hysterical. Knowing that nurses/doctors might be laughing at/mocking me like that last video just adds insult to injury in my opinion, and I'm sure a lot of people in my shoes probably feel the same.
You are not alone.
I haven’t been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder but going to the doctor freaks the crap out of me I will violently shake while holding back tears and my heart rate and blood pressure will be elevated to to point where the doctors are concerned... even though I have a fit bit and my average heart rate is 65-75
I am a nurse practitioner at a clinic for the uninsured. I have many patients with crippling anxiety and it takes so much time and patience to build a bridge of trust, I would never knowingly do anything to damage that bridge. None of my colleagues nor myself would behave in the way depicted by tiktok, it is absolutely shameful. I hope that you are able to find a provider who treats you in the manner you deserve, with compassion, empathy, and respect.
Same. You are not alone.
You are valid
I just wanna say that when I got pregnant at 17 and went to a doctor that wasn't my usual, she was so so nice. When I came into the room I immediately started crying and she knew what was up. We did the ultrasound at which she saw that I was actually 19 weeks along already. She wasn't judgemental at all and after that she talked me through everything and talked about options. She told me that if I wanted to keep my baby that's great but if I don't and want to give it up for adoption that's is also great. No pressure at all. She even was as nice as to not charge the pregnancy because here in Germany you can only charge one pregnancy per quarter and since she wasn't my normal gynecologist she told me to go to my doctor the next week since it was Friday because I lived quite far away from her office and especially in the last month it would be too much to always drive there. I'm just so glad that I went to that doctor because after that I felt much better about it. I was so scared of being judged by the staff but that didn't happen at all. Still think it was the nicest thing to nit charge the pregnancy since I would have had so much stress fixing that with my insurance company
My cousin also got pregnant at 17 and she went to the gyn completely undecided on if she wanted the baby or not (she was just short over a month when she noticed) and they were so incredibly professional about her situation that they did the ultrasound with her and didn't even say things like "baby" or that they can see "it" on the ultrsound. She told me all they said was "we can confirm that you are pregnant" (in deutsch wars "Es liegt bei Ihnen eine Schwangerschaft vor" also noch neutraler) informed her very neutrally about her options and only when she had decided to keep the baby a few days later they started saying words like "embryo, baby, infant, etc" and showed their joy for her.
I hope I’m not overstepping but what did you decide?
@@tahraethestoryteller6079 don't ask wtf
I’m not trying to be mean or judgmental, I am just genuinely curious. How did it take you almost 5 months to realize you were pregnant? Were you on birth control so your period was weird?
I got pregnant at 16 and I remember being absolutely terrified that I'd be judged by my dr! Thank god that wasnt the case. She handled it like I was just there for a cold, made me feel so much better about my situation.
Can I just say that I've been told all my life birth control are going to mess up my life and are for sluts and now I'm having to contemplate birth control because of a medical diagnosis and you make me feel so empowered as a patient and as a woman. Thank you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
When I read that thing that said all those "side effects" of birth control I read the "may cause long term infertility" and I almost got hopeful
Omg I was so sad. Let me be infertile dammit!
Same I was sitting there like ‘Well shit, that’s exactly what I want!’ Back to the drawing board I guess
Same
Damn it !!!! I just want no more baby !
Same with the Covid Shot. I WISH it made me sterile!
I was 19 when I got pregnant with my son and even being almost 20 when I had him, I was still treated as though I was 12 and didn't understand anything. The doctors I had were very condescending, they often spoke to my mother during my pregnancy instead of me.
Even today I often get asked if I'm babysitting and when I say he's my baby people get very uncomfortable and say, "oh okay, you must be married at least?"
There is MASSIVE judgment for young parents, more often than not people assuming I'm a bad mother or I'm less of a mother because I'm young.
That sounds like the doctors that see me for chronic pain.
They treat me like I'm 5 and always talk to my parents, not me. "How long has your daughter had this pain for?" and I always want to scream "SHE DOESN'T KNOW! THEY'RE MY FUCKING LEGS ASK ME!" They dismiss my theory that I have fibromyalgia (my mom and grandma have it and I'm a girl) like I'm a 5 year old saying 2+2=22.
I was 18 when I was pregnant and an ER doctor asked me what I was going to do to provide for my daughter. At the time I was in school and close to graduating as a Medical Assistant and was going to nursing school the next year. He rolled his eyes and laughed and said that I’d never end up going to school because kids are inconvenient and that I’d never be able to provide for my daughter as an MA, as well as that I had no reason to be excited for a child so young. I’m only 21 now and my daughters a little over 2 and I’m married to her father and I’m a nurse and we’ve always been able to provide for her and ourselves. And I got through nursing school despite his judgements. Medical staff can really suck.
Thats disappointing guys I feel sorry you had unpleasant experiences. Im 28 and I have two kids my oldest is 9 so I too was 18 and prego, my doctors were fantastic! Treated me with the most respect and comfort, I felt very welcomed with open arms. Im extremely grateful.
That is messed up. you are not a bad mother because you have your son young but these things happen and i dont know why a lot of people think that you should be married before you have kids and the age that you should have kids is over 20. well that is wrong. i know a bunch of people who got pregnant in high school or college. it doesnt matter what age you are you have the right to protect your child from the world. people may judge you but its your child and your rights to speak up.
20 isnt even like crazy young to have kids. I mean you are an adult and everything by then. When I think young pregnancy I think like 15 or 16
When someone calls you out for a valid reason you should be mature enough to appreciate the feedback...
Someone mature enough to appreciate feedback about inappropriateness would likely've been mature enough not to need that particular feedback...
My mental health doctor told me "Stop being so emotional." I responded with "Well I can't cuz I have a disorder where I'm over-emotional so unless you want me to bottle up my feelings not happening."
That doctor needs to be fired, You could file a complaint if you want bc that's messed up, I'm here for u!
Imagine calling the ability to have emotions a "disorder".
@@cerberaodollam what do you mean?
One of my exes blamed the fact I have a super low sex drive on my meds (specifically birth control) I've been off all meds for a few years....... yeah I'm just asexual and refuse to let people like him make me feel broken
damn straight. there is literally nothing wrong with you, period😤
Hi fellow ace
I'm the opposite - birth control was definitely messing up my sex drive to a point. I've worked with my gyn to find a hormone profile that does it the least, so there's that!
I hate when people try to convince me that having an SO is needed. Um… no? My wife and I are both ace, sometimes we wanna cuddle. Mostly, we just want to read or watch the cats run around on catnip. Isn’t emotional closeness just fine? It works for us… (we just celebrated five years together, too)
I’m so so sorry, I know the pain of feeling like I’m broken because I don’t enjoy sexual contact like a lot of people do and the pain of being made fun of by those you love. He was an ass and you are not broken ❤️ I hope you find all the fulfillment and joy that you need in life.
that last one actually made me a little bit emotional. why do people find that funny? there arent enough people in the world like mama doctor jones. thank you for being wonderful and a true example of what people should be like in your profession.
Literally... unwanted pregnancy or teen pregnancy is TRAUMATIC. Even if you have a support system or partner. I can’t imagine what a roller coaster of emotions and physical + mental symptoms that go along with it. I can barely handle period cramps, so my heart goes out to all those mothers and womxn who have to make huge life-altering decisions with EVERYONE judging them. 🙃
I was just thinking how you would feel if you were 16 and pregnant =x
MD on TikTok: Birth control causes migraines
Me, a person whose chronic, hormone-induced migraines are controlled by birth control: Ummmm.... no.
They can. I got severe migraines when i first started, but obviously its also used to treat people for them. I just had a different condition that couldn't be controlled by birth control so it made it worse till i got used to the hormones.
You DO realize that migraines have various causes. Sometimes hormonal, sometimes otherwise. Marijuana makes most people's migraines go away. it makes mine INFINITELY worse.
My doctor wouldn’t let me be on BC because of my migraines 😭 they’re hormonal migraines, but he said that it made my risk of stroke way too high 😔
It depends on the birth control and the kind of migraines. For example if your migraines have an aura (sensory stuff, usually visual, before/during a migraine) it's recommended you go with progesterone only pills to reduce the risk of them becoming worse. Obviously that's assuming that your hormone cycle isn't causing them and various other factors. Some of the combination hormone birth controls have different effects on migraines and obviously hormones effect everyone differently.
Mary Beth I had trouble finding a doctor that would prescribe them, honestly. I take the mini-pill (progesterone only pill) and even so, a couple doctors were reluctant/unwilling. I noticed that an obgyn is more likely to talk to you about it and weigh the benefits vs the risks with you than a GP/family practice doctor.
I started getting the impression that GPs are more-or-less told "people that have migraines can’t take birth control because of a risk of blood clots and stroke" whereas obgyns are more likely to know the nuances of it.
It’s incredibly frustrating because while I don’t want to suffer a stroke and I take the increased risk seriously, I can NOT function and live my life when I’m having migraines 3 weeks a month.
“That’s the intro, subscribe if you want” is the most compelling sub line i’ve ever heard and is the only one that’s ever gotten an immediate sub. Thanks.
Oh, gosh, that last tik tok. It reminds me of when teachers make fun of students. Why would they do that?!?!
I took a health care ethics class for my first degree and I’m very positive that it was a full topic not to joke about a patient. It’s unethical and completely unprofessional. Thank you for being a voice for patients and taking the brunt of her anger keeping the medical field safe ❤️
When I worked at Walmart they told my training group to never talk or joke about the customers. If PEOPLE OF WALMART know better than to talk or joke about customers, you better believe I expect that and more from a healthcare professional. (I'm not saying it never happens, of course it happens. But if WALMART tells you not to do it, shouldn't it kinda be obvious you shouldn't??)
That’s funny cuz I had managers at Walmart start talking and joking about people and even me myself as soon as I or the others would walk away. Then when they realized I would heard them they would switch to Spanish.
MDJ you actively inspire me to take a chance on doctors and hope they will be kind and helpful instead of passing me along and not wanting to help me. Even if it doesn't work, I'll never stop trying just in case i do get one like her one day! And i have, in a therapist I loved.
The last one is really disheartening. I get sick a lot due to an autoimmune disease which leads to me to stays in the hospital a lot. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve woken up in the middle of the night to hear nurses (trying to whisper) making fun of their patients or telling other nurses about their patients personal medical problems. Obviously it’s not every nurse and there’s lot that are very professional and respectful! It just makes me scared to get help thinking their gunna talk about me once I leave or tell their co workers about my medical problems
I know that feeling, intially I had it too. I've sort of stopped caring about it now because they can joke all they want about me, it only shows how horrible of a person they are (at least in that moment). One day, they might wake up, and realize with deep regret how they feel about those jokes and it could plague them for a long while (seen that happen). But me? I won't have that issue. I'll be working on dreams and goals I have. Books I want to write and places I want to see. Plus, their opinions aren't the ones that matter to me, it's the kind and compassionate people I do find in my life that deserve that respect. Don't be scared to discuss your medical issues, you could be risking your life, since autoimmune diseases typically have no sympathy or patience.
I also have an autoimmune disorder which I've been battling with does 14 years. I'm sorry to hear that you don't feel comfortable with nursing staff. I've never heard the nurses gossiping about patients before, if you have heard them then they should be reported. All my experiences have been positive and I'm pretty thankful because I always feel relaxed and comfortable seeking medical help when I need it.
Dr. Jones: "Your hormone levels . . . aren't even the same right now as they will be in the middle of the night."
Me, watching at 4:30 in the morning: *sweats*
Lol it’s 12:26 at night
Imagine being a pregnant 16 year old who saw that doctor, seeing that video and realising the doctor you went to for care is making fun of you on a public forum. Teen pregnancy isn’t funny, making fun of patients isn’t funny.
Amen!!!! My uncle and I are both nurses (he works psych and I worked geriatrics before medically retiring) and run into this problem constantly with healthcare providers crossing the line of dark humor and just making the patients the butt of their jokes. It is making good nurses leave the healthcare field because they don’t feel like they can speak out about it without being ostracized. This needs to end. Thanks for making this video MDJ
Good point! Mean nasty nurses are the reason I never wanted to pursue nursing. You have so many phenomenal nurses that are like angels on earth then you have those ones that make life hell all around them. Its not worth it.
True Story: When i was in my teens i was told by my doctor that i had endometriosis because when i got my period i would have to stay home for a week out of the month with terrible cramps, migraines and many other crappy symptoms. In my later teens i went on the Depo shot and ended up with my period for over a year... Yes, i had my period for OVER A YEAR! I ended up seeing specialists and getting bleeding time tests and a whole bunch of other tests where they eventually told me that i had a 0.05% chance of ever getting pregnant naturally so i stopped the Depo shot and within a week my bleeding was gone. Less than a month later i found out i was pregnant with my first child. I then had 4 MORE back to back. Now i have a 15 yo, 14 yo, 13 yo, 12 yo and an 11 yo!! Moral of the story, ALWAYS GET A 2ND OPINION, and if you dont like the results there, get a 3rd opinion. Always do your research and never listen to the bogus info you get online, especially on effing tik tok.
Man, I know that feeling. I had a doctor tell me to take birth control non-stop before being diagnosed with PCOS. She had put me on the wrong dose and it resulted in a 7-month-long non-stop period. Thought I was going to die and shocked every doctor and nurse who asked for that information.
I’m currently on Depo because I had a 36 day long period 9 months ago. I’m still bleeding for extremely long periods of time (15-24 days). I have no clue what to do and I feel like my doctor isn’t listening to me.
Not related to birth etc, but I have a story. When I was little I grew up in an area with really bad healthcare, we had to drive very far to see a specialist because I couldn't see out of the sides of my eyes. The doctor said I couldn't have had anything wrong with my eyes because I was a child. We got a second opinion and it turns out I had multiple huge cataracts, the doctor said if I didn't catch it when I did I could have gone blind.
Having a period for a year seems like hell.
@@Moo-2310 Last year I had more days on my period then not on it.
I told my Dr all about your channel during my pap exam a couple weeks ago. Why? Because you and your channel got me to get the exam done. My last one was my postpartum exam. My child is 12.
🥰🥰 so proud of you!!
MDJ's "get your pap smear get your pap smear get your pap smear" definitely is why I finally made my appointment to get mine a couple weeks ago. Feels good to be taking care of my health, and got to talk to my dr. about some other health stuff too, and she listened and helped me out.
sending all the hugs. its so scary to face your fears with the dr yet so important. you did great. i hope all was well for you :)
Good for you! Its hard to make that decision after not going in for so long. It sucks but usually pretty quick so I just get it over with when I have to.
@@Lizzypoohxo Just curious, but have you ever given birth vaginally? Please don't feel like you have to answer. I just know before I gave birth pap smears hurt, but now, after giving birth I'm so stretched out I don't feel it at all. My mom on the other hand, had only c-sections and says pap smears are still uncomfortable.
If I didn’t have birth control my endometriosis would be completely out of control. I’d be in serious constant pain, I don’t care if it makes me gain weight or makes me deficient. I will never go through that pain again
Preach! I feel you!
AMEN sister.
Same here have been on birth control to manage symptoms of endometriosis since I was 12 and take meds to help with blood loss don't want to imagine what life would be like without birth control
On birth control for my PCOS. It has dramatically helped my life and my cycles. I agree, I would never get off it if it means feeling cysts burst on my ovaries every few weeks or periods that cripple me for days. Hell to the no.
Same, not to mention my digestive system was going nuts with the nausea and vomiting that period pain was causing (and super large doses of Ibuprofeno and other over-the-counter painkillers). I wish I had started taking birth control sooner. But all the villainization of the pill and the idea that it's only for people who have sex really kept me delaying the decision until I couln't take the pain anymore.
I am 14 (and trans but thats not important) and I use birth control to regulate my flow. If it weren't for you I would be terrified of doing it (Long term infertility I could deal with but not the others.) So thank you for explaining! It really helped me feel better about my choice of using birth control
Are you woman to man or man to woman?
@@MsBadBody . . . Unfortunately there is no Male Birth control yet. And biological men don't get periods- But I am male and use he/him
i was in the exact same situation at 14 (i'm 25 now), and I refused to go on b/c bc I thought it caused abortions, despite identifying as a lesbian at the time and not having sex. It wasn't until I was 17 and hospitalised from blood loss that I finally went on the pill, and it changed my life.
i'm so glad you're on b/c earlier than I was, and I hope things wrt being trans go well for you 🍀
Because of this channel, I started seeing a doctor again. All the fear mongering online, coupled with my anxiousness, I was scared. This is what medical type videos should be like!!
moral of the story: TALK TO YOUR DOCTOR
When Mama Doctor Jones starts by complementing one's appearance, y'all know she about to debunk some BS medical information
I have an anxiety disorder, and going to the doctor feels like walking to the gallows for me. I'm already ashamed enough to be crying, flinching, shaking, hyperventilating, stuttering, and generally acting slightly hysterical. Knowing that nurses/doctors might be laughing at/mocking me like that last video just adds insult to injury in my opinion, and I'm sure a lot of people in my shoes probably feel the same.
@@lonrasetolenga1922 I'm sorry to have anxiety issues but that's not even close to what I'm talking about. The person in the Tiktok was sharing false information so that's why it was funny for her to complement her appearance. Unless you're going to go into your OBGYN spouting false information, this comment was not about your personal experience.
@@lonrasetolenga1922 Also FYI I was talking about the TikTok with the girl with red hair and blue eyes who listed incorrect and harmful information about birth control side effects. So it had nothing to do with the last one.
I totally agree with that last bit there. There’s so many young viewers on tiktok nowadays that are probably reeling over this thinking well not only are my parents gunna kill me but if I go to the doctor I’ll get laughed at and critiqued too. Thank you again @MamaDoctorJones for coming in with the realness yet again.
The last one was extremely unprofessional and offensive to patients, especially, ones that already feel uncomfortable, judged, or criticized by the medical system.
You are one of the best and most professional medical professionals I’ve seen on SM. I’ve been binge watching your channel this whole week and subbed 😊. You are doing some much needed work on here 🙏🏽.
When i was 14 my mom (who is a RN) had my dad take me to a doctor because i had not had a period yet and she was worried. They barely said hi to us, had me give a urine sample then left us in a room for what seemed like forever with zero information. When someone did finally come in, without bothering to ask my history or comfort level with my dad there they said, well youre not pregnant!
Honestly i didnt even know how people got pregnant. We went to a different doctor who explained the imbalance of my hormones in detail and put me on birth control to try and adjust it. Now at 35 im on birth control to block my periods because i went from never having one, to a period of heavy bleeding that lasted 6 months before we found one that worked.
As an Asexual adult i have zero interest in sex or dating etc but i need this medication to keep from bleeding out.
More people need to learn that these medications arent just used for sexually active people.
Right- like one time I met someone who went on birth control for their period and stuff to at 11
Exactly, I'm asexual too, I had to kinda lie at my appointment to receive birth control (I wanted to reduce my massive bleeding and migraines) and say I wanted to become sexually active. To this day I feel stupid when I have to ask for birth controls
Yea my sister went on it when she was a teenager bc her period cramps were so severe she'd be doubled over in pain unable to move.
She was the captain of the rugby team in highschool. She'd regularly show off the bruises she'd get on the field with pride, including ones she got from _getting stepped on by cleats._ The rugby games legit got so rough a girl on her team died from a concussion.........
Anyway; point being that she was one tough cookie. So if the cramps were too painful for HER? Then yea they must have been fucking INTENSE.
And just within the last year I had to be put on birth control to control my migraines and these weird spasmy-seizure like attacks I was getting.
Birth control is health care.
It gets me so mad that Trump reversed the mandate for employers to provide birth control through their health insurance. Birth control is super important for so many reasons that are not related to sex. It is unacceptable for employers to deny that coverage through their insurance, and whether an employee is on birth control is none of their d*mn business.
excuse me, but but what’s a RN? I think it means Regional Nurse?
my brother and i have very similar acne, mine has cleared up but his hasn’t. my brother asked me how i got mine to go away and when i said i didn’t do anything special, my mom said, “hers went away at 17 so yours should clear up when you’re 17 too!” it was only later that my mom and i realized i went on birth control at 17 and THAT was the real cause. we felt so dumb 😭😭
Your profile pic is cute 😍
I feel so lucky because 3 years ago, at the age of 34, I went in to the doctor and nervously asked to have my tubes removed. I am not married, and I have no children. I thought for sure I was going to be told no. To my surprise my doctor said yes and we can do it next week 🤣 3 years later and it’s the best decision I’ve ever made.
That last tiktok made me so uncomfortable. Imagine being scared because you feel ill and you don't know what's going on bc sexual education in the US is trash and the medical professionals that are supposed to be caring for you laugh at you for it. Big oof.
Uhhhh...... In my country, we don't even have sex ed. Stupid, considering the population... But yea
@@preethithomasbleh oh my god that’s awful they really need it
@@persom7824 I totally agree. But people tend to be over conservative in places they shouldn't be.
@@preethithomasbleh yeah
I thought I'd share my mum's story about getting her tubes tied. Obviously I was only told the story, so take each detail with a grain of salt.
My mum had me when she was 22, and she only wanted one child so she could "spoil them rotten". Since she was pretty young, they obviously were asking "are you sure about this" "you're too young" and "what if you want more kids". Overall though, they didn't give her too hard of a time. They did their job in making sure she thought it through, and didn't completely ridicule her for her decision. She hasn't regretted her choice at all, and is actually glad she made that decision.
You may be asking why I brought this up? This is how people should do their job. Make sure their patient thought a big decision through, don't try to make them feel bad about it. For many people a decision like that is a hard one to make, and you never know why they felt the need to pick the choice they did. Making sure they thought it though is okay. Trying to make somebody change a decision that is theirs and theirs alone is not.
“Long term infertility” well if your on it for a long time..........it’s long term infertility •>•
THANK YOU CIEL 😚
Yeah it's like, well yeah?
I thought that too like yeah that's the point of birth control isn't it lol
But not every one is on it for preventing pregnancy. Some are prescribed it for stopping a cyst from growing or regulating hormones, and may wish not to become infertile after the treatment. And yes, in some cases, if the doc does not do blood hormonal tests before priscribing it and so prescribes an unsuitable brand, they can cause more harm than good and mess your hormones forever. So it is a valid warning.
The lady asking about getting her tubes tied reminded me of my mom. She asked to get her tubes tied but her doctor said no because she was "too young" even though she already had 4 kids. She was probably 25-26 when she asked. She only ended up getting a hysterectomy after she developed endometriosis, and she ended up having another baby in the meantime.
When I was younger a woman older than me suggested I try a clove of garlic for my vaginal issues... That was the day I found out I have a garlic allergy. It was a bad time. Do not recommend.
Edit: To answer some questions, I was in elementary school when this happened (grade 4 so probably 8 or 9ish). I've had regular vaginal pain since as long as I can remember, my mom assumed it was yeast infections (turned out to be vulvodynia which I didn't find out until I was in my 20s). Anyway, my mom had this face cream that could cause yeast infections and she assumed that I was using her cream because I always had vaginal pain (turned out it was my sister using it) so she wouldn't help me or take me to the doctor or anything. So one of her friends suggested I put a clove of garlic up there overnight. So I tried it. Side note, as a kid garlic made my lips burn and swell only a little (it's much worse now that I'm older, can't eat it at all now) but it wasn't that uncomfortable especially considering I have a genetic disease that has causes me to have widespread severe chronic pain. I thought that constant pain was normal while doing most things until I was older. Anyway, put the clove up there went to bed. It did start burning but I thought maybe it was supposed to so I left it. Eventually the burning became too much to tolerate to I tried to take it out and realized that I was super swollen, my skin was just sloughing off... I got the clove out but I was a mess. It was pretty horrific and scary especially since I was so young and had to deal with it alone.
That sounds horrible :/
oh no!!!
Oh no!!!! Ouch!
but why did you even try it
How the hell had you never eaten garlic before
I was taking a BC pill that gave me migraines. after talking to my doctor we swapped pills and now I don't have a single issue.
There are hundreds of birth control options, don't let one bad experience discourage you from taking control of your reproductive rights.
This! Talk to your doctor! You deserve your rights 100%
You also have rights without taking pills.. And I definitely have the right to very well DO let one bad experience teach me a lesson. Why do so many people not understand this?
Stop trying to talk people into medication they don't want or need.
They have convinced me once, I almost died and I won't try again. Period. (lol)
I’ve tried depo, implanon, and about 6 different versions of the pill. All bad bad side effects (headaches, weight gain, extremely low libido to the point where sex was disgusting). Also PMDD symptoms were NOT helped in the slightest and were made worse).I was encouraged to try an IUD which I won’t do because all they give you for pain is Tylenol/ibprophen which don’t work for me (neither does stuff like Vicodin either - makes me nauseous and doesn’t help with pain) and my mom tried an iud and had a period for 3 months straight and a coworker I know had extreme pain from hers going into her uterine wall. I’m literally out of options to try at this point. I’m also allergic to disposable period products and latex so as you can imagine that makes for some challenges (neither the menstrual cup (tried like 4) or the disc work for me as the cups always leak and the disc doesn’t fit). Reusable products are also expensive and you’re stuck with them if you don’t like them.
That last one was horrible... Shame on her. She single-handedly caused a multitude of people to not seek medical attention. 😞
I found out I was pregnancy at 16 AT MY PEDIATRICIAN’S OFFICE. I’ve always wondered what they said behind my back when that test was positive.
"If your vagina is sick take it to the doctor" had me dying 💀
This is just my first time watching her video but i love her already 😭💀
Shigaraki what are you doing here
@@billybobsatire8468 idk
@@braelyn8455 is this what your doing when your not actively being a villain?
@@billybobsatire8468 𝔂𝓮𝓼
I'm sorry filming sometimes stresses you out but I'm very glad you're here MDJ.
This is like my "owner of a uterus user guide" I'm not even interested in having children right now, but you make all this ob/gyn stuff so interesting and accesible, I enjoy a lot your content, thank you so much for it!!! and greetings from Colombia :)
I’ve learned SO much from MDJ! I was very uncomfortable (more like disgusted) with puberty and my reality as a physically sexually mature person. Growing up in a traditional catholic household of immigrants didn’t help either. I’ve really come to terms with my sexuality and have passed on the knowledge to my friends when they wanted it. I also feel that I can confidently raise my future kids to be educated and comfortable with their bodies and sexuality. Well, at least from the female side, I’ll have to work on the male side.
Gynecologists are not only for women who want children, but every person with a uterus/vagina/vulva that want to take care of themselves.
owner of a uterus? you mean a female?
@@gabriellazane673 There are People that are born with a uterus that do Not identify as female, or are born with Male and female genitalia.
@@junimondify you mean identify as a woman. Woman and female do not equal each other. You're confusing sex and gender.
I'm so glad you called that person out!! I know so many ppl who won't go to the doctor unless they're about to die cuz of trust issues. There are a lot of bad docs out there, but there are even more good ones who take their jobs very seriously and they care deeply about what they do.
I love your channel!! Thanks for all the hard work you do and the info you put out there. Im sure it does get frustrating and you're allowed to cry and vent that frustration. Still, I think you do an amazing job, you're so relatable and clearly have a huge heart!
Keep up the good work Dr. Jones!
When I was 28, I went to my gyno and talked to her about getting my tubes tied. She said no with no discussion. She said that I hadn't had kids yet and I was too young to make that decision. I am 35 now and I've relied on the pill and condoms since I was 16 and I STILL don't want kids.
This frustrates me so much
wtf what do those people think, like *what are you even thinking, you should be able to reproduce!* ? it's none of her business, not her body, not her non-existent child. same with abortion - no one should force someone to stay pregnant and vice versa. Always rely on a gyno that is doing her/his job and helps you.
Definitely get a different one that will do it for you.
I have endometriosis and have never wanted kids. All of the growths we have ever found are on the ligaments that hold my uterus in place. I want to take it out without getting the ovaries out as there is a decent enough chance it will work and I haven't ever wanted children. I'm told no because I'll change my mind. I'm 30.
@@ayehartewe oh my and by doing that they somehow force you to suffer more with your endo or am I wrong
how crazy is that :(
“I have dark humor” is such a bad explanation for making jokes from patients.
There are two forms of dark humor
Good dark humor- hehe me or a group i am part of is bad
Bad dark humor- hehe others and other groups they are a part of are bad
Isn't dark humour joking about something you went through/are going through? Like I can make fibromyalgia jokes or jokes about anxiety because I have them but I can't make a joke about say burn victims because I'm not one.
@@Moo-2310 Well, there is no real definition of dark humour. Let's say that dark humour is joking about sensitive/triggering topics. For some people it is uncomfortable to make those types of jokes [which is why if you think it will make them uncomfortable or you dont know for sure, dont make the joke.] But dark humour has several forms. It's not balanced in one singular form!
@@Moo-2310 An add-on to my last comment: Dark humour is a social portrait that really isnt set in one demanding circle! Dark humour can be "That tree lowkey looks like my spinal cord when I was diagnosed with scoliosis." Which is joking about you and your trauma. Or it can be joking about other things that are traumatic in the world that are crimes or certain events. But it's not defined to those limits. [Also, I find those jokes distasteful but some people like them]
@@Moo-2310 that's a *type* of dark humour, called gallows humour
@@yocalurice8582 good dark humor is also making fun of the hypocricy of some individuals and about the messed up irony the world has to offer
My family doctor is also the dude who does my lady check ups and let me tell you, nothing has made me more comfortable than how professional he is. I could tell him i literally anything and hed still give me the same dead pan face and say whats best for my health even if its "hmm you shouldn't do that because it increases risks of xyz." It makes me feel so at ease discussing things with him and super blessed when i hear about my friends' pushy and opinionated family doctors. In fact so many of my pals back when we were 17 and 18 refused to go to their family doctor for birth control because they thought theyd be judgey or tell their parents and i was like??? My dr would never! Moral of the story is that woman at the end likely put off so many young girls from seeing a health professional.
I don't think you will see this message, bit I really appreciate you taking so much time and effort to make evidence based videos for us. I have a good few Gynaecology issues and have found it difficult to find high quality evidence based information in an accessible format. What you do is so so important. Thank you.
I remember my mom always told me to go outside the house with pretty underwear/clothing because if I had an accident, the doctors wouldn't judge me...
Same.
Really? My mom never told me that and my dad is a no nonsense slightly scary normally to other people (and very scary when pissed off). Only recently have I learned that not all doctors are nice. It's really sad that the people supposed to take care of us and our health can be like that.
Pretty Woman
@@zil1832 walking down the street.
@@acelovesdiyschristopher7023 I bet Kamila is pretty!
As a person who takes no other medication and is surrounded by naturopaths and alternative medicine regularly, taking birth control pills (for medical purposes other than contraception - tho its a great plus!) was a huge mental hurdle for me... watching your videos has been so helpful in dispelling the misinformation and demonizing of oral contraceptives and for that I am very grateful. Also - once I got over the misinformed fear and started taking the medication prescribed by a doctor I trust (not just a recommendation by some randomly “certified” alternative med provider) I feel SO MUCH better! ♥️
me too!!! I am deep in the yoga community (which is beautiful and I love) and there are soooooo many people talking about whatever they want. Demonizing meds and doing generally really harmful stuff
I am curious as to how you decide what is misinformation and what isn't. This is in no way an attack, mainstream/western medicine has nearly killed me multiple times because I believed and trusted them. Yes, it took me nearly getting killed multiple times to take a look into natural and alternative medicine. I find western medicine to be where a lot of misinformation takes place. I am just interested, I am not trying to start anything. I am on birth control and it helps me a ton, but there is a price to pay with taking it and I am working hard towards getting off the BCs.
Kelly White Kelly White A lot of trial and error, honestly. And finding BOTH alternative and mainstream medical providers you trust for YOU. I’ve had bad outcomes with mainstream medicine (gut issues, chronic migraines, over-prescription of antibiotics, etc) and alternative medicine (allergic reactions, generalization of diagnosis, unsustainable plan of care).
I believe there is a balance that can be found but it takes a ton of research, digging, advocating for yourself and, sometimes - going with your gut. Good sources are hard to find in both camps. When I’ve exhausted more holistic approaches and still feel awful, I’m going to trust my (heavily vetted) medical doctor to know what is best for me. In the end (if you are seeking knowledge and doing your own research) I think you worry about side effects and possible outcomes on either side of the fence... at the end of the day, you’re the one who has to live with your own health and decisions. Now, I seek information from both sides and work to find a balanced answer... today, that means I take one prescription med that has improved my health and mental wellbeing significantly. A year from now that might look different. I had to let go of the expectations/opinions of other people and really seek out what was best for me. I hope you find a balance that works for you :)
@@sjkinkade4163 I love that answer! Thank you!
My brain didn't get the whole point but like my normal doctor wasn't there and the one there was thinking I was gonna do things but nope ya boi just dont want periods (am pre t trans male)
The last one makes me sad because you’re literally laughing at a 16 year old who is going to be faced with some really hard decisions and the rest of their life has been changed. But it’s a joke to you. As her care provider. Pathetic.
I loved your reasoning behind calling her out. I've been really distrustful of medical professionals recently (and also recently had a horrible experience) but watching YOUR has made me think I should try going for regular check ups again...
"Please don't put garlic in your vagina." LMAO Don't worry, Doctor Jones! Haven't and never will, but that made me laugh!
What was that person even thinking?! Of course you shouldn’t put GARLIC in your V
Hey it will keep the vamps away during your period🤣🤣🤣
@@gayce6662 I have done it a few times and it has cured my yeast infections in 2 days. It works.
When you were talking about people harming patients made me realize why I don't see a gyno, I'm a trans man and I don't feel comfortable to see any kind of, down there, doctor. Ngl I'd trust you if I were to ever have to see you as my doctor.
Sorry to pry, but curious doctor here. Have you transitioned from FTM? Because if you're under hormone therapy, you should be having regular consults, and those should cover any "down there" issues of a trans man. If you're pre-hormones I get the weirding out that making an appointment might entail for you, but if you're under hormones, your doctor should be providing care in that area as well.
Is there any medical professional helping/helped in the past that could maybe point you to a gyno who is going to be able to see you and not make uncomfortable statements or give you bad information? Or maybe a local group who advocates for the trans community? They probably can help you find someone. Or even like a local FB group, and you can ask others who they have gone to that really worked for them.
Hey! If you live in a state where planned parenthood is accessible they are generally great with trans patients. They ask for pronouns, are affirming and make sure to use your name (they won't dead name you) and you can put your name on your online patient portal too so you might not even need to discuss it. Obviously I can't guarantee you'll have a good experience but I just wanted to let you know!
Dude that must be really difficult for you. Your health is super important, i hope you find a doctor you are comfortable with.
I’m also a trans male, unfortunately hormone treatment doesn’t seem like an option for me, but the gynecologist I saw right after my 18th birthday was super respectful and only used the name and pronouns I go by, he explained everything he was doing and didn’t shame me for having had sex years ago. To be safe he ran me through STI testing and did a Pap smear - I had 0 pain or discomfort the whole time. A lot of it was scary at first and I’m not trying to be like “there’s nothing to be scared of” because there are some bad doctors, but I find it rare people talk about the good ones, which leads us to only focus on the bad. I recommend going to OBGYN that specializes or routinely sees LGBTQ+ patients (especially trans), and just research the doctors near you. 😊
I so appreciate your patient advocacy. I have had some really bad experiences with care providers, so that last one just ... hurt. Finally, the last time I had trouble, I pulled out the full “How dare you?!” But I was shaking and teary for hours after. It’s so hard when medical providers make people feel unsafe.
Same here. I haven't had a proper GYN exam since 2014 because of a string of bad experiences - the last of which also left me in sobs - with my first and only provider. When MDJ said that things like that could make a patient not seek care, it smacked me right in the face. I pay out of pocket to see my neurologist every six weeks but I haven't managed even one GYN exam in SIX YEARS. It made me realize I need to advocate for myself.
@@carag2567 I’m so sorry. I hope you can find a different provider with whom you feel safe to try again. Most OBGYN providers allow you to request notes be added to your file that you’ve experienced trauma so that they can be gentle with you. If you feel comfortable telling them that (you don’t have to disclose what type of trauma, ever), that may help!
@@carag2567 same! I had my first and only gyn exam when I was 17, and now I'm 25, too traumatised to ever go there. I don't trust pretty much any specialist in this area. I get my eyesight checked regularly and my dentist is someone I gladly go to, but gynecologists scare the hell out of me. I know that I'll have to go to one before I get any relationship or sexual partner, so that might be the reason I can't have a single relationship - I'm too scared of something I believe to be my duty before starting a relationship
Can you imagine going into the doctors for actual and awful pains and seeing your doctor is the woman in the last video? I'd be so uncomfortable that I'd just leave.