How to Put Yourself First and STOP People Pleasing! | Patrice Washington on Women of Impact
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- Опубликовано: 10 сен 2024
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Are you tired of feeling lost with no purpose? Most people wake up one day and realize they have no idea what they should do with their lives. But what would happen if you allow yourself to trust your gut and step into your true authentic self? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by Former National Spokesperson, #1 Best Selling Personal Finance Author and Speaker & Money Maven of the Steve Harvey Morning Show, Patrice Washington. They explore why “Follow your passion and the money will come” is BS and what to do instead to create wealth. Patrice shares why more stuff will never fill the void and what´s necessary to embrace purpose and fulfillment. Patrice shares how her career skyrocketed after she accepted herself. They discuss why it´s okay to piss other people off to be successful and much more.
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SHOW NOTES:
Why “Follow your passion and the money will come” is BS and what to do instead to create wealth. [1:22]
Patrice shares why more stuff will never fill the void and what´s necessary to embrace purpose and fulfillment. [3:04]
Why you´re confused and feel like something is missing even when you read all the books. [3:58]
How to build passion around the things you´re good at even when your natural gifts are unsexy. [6:34]
How Patrice’s career skyrocketed after she accepted herself and stopped caring about others. [7:35]
The story about how Lisa first met Patrice and why Lisa was shocked when Patrice started to speak. [10:24]
Why most people put their talent in a box and how to unleash it. [11:50]
How Patrice threw away her suits, started to live into her authentic self, and why the reaction that followed made her cry. [13:40]
Why you shouldn´t leave room for a plan B and go all-in when you make a real decision. [15:00]
Why it´s okay to piss other people off to be successful. [16:20]
How Patrice transformed from being insecure to badass self-esteem with the first pillar of her book. [17:47]
The confident practices Patrice still does to this day. [21:00]
How to use her book´s second pillar to create wealthy relationships that matter. [23:10]
What is Patrice´s first responsibility, and what does she prioritize in her life above everything else. [26:40]
Why Patrice turned down interviews with huge platforms that would´ve brought in lots of sales. [29:00]
How Patrice trust and acts on what feels right for her. [30:20]
The pillar of faith that helped Patrice through the most challenging times when her child died. [33:34]
Three things you really need to be successful. (Most people will realize their current goals don´t matter.) [37:30]
Why even when you feel miserable right now, you´re exactly on the right way. [43:18]
How to know if it´s just a roadblock or if something isn´t for you. [45:26]
Why you shouldn´t give up even when you feel like nothing is working. [49:00]
Patrice shares how to connect with her. [52:27]
QUOTES:
“I believe purpose will connect you to the people you´re supposed to serve. That´s why I don´t care about pissing everybody else off.” [17:02]
“Your business is only going to grow to the extent you´re willing to heal.” [19:49]
“The thing that has allowed me to keep going is this idea, that none of those things happen to me; they happen for me.” [34:30]
“We have to do it until other people believe it. We have to show up until they start to show up. If we don´t show up for ourselves, why would anyone else?” [39:40]
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What moment from this interview with Patrice Washington resonated most with you?
All of it and i'm not even halfway through! I had to pause out of sheer relief at the "no plastic surgery" remark. Thank goodness! a) because she is freaking STUNNING as is, but b) as someone who is not from the US (or UK) i personally find the whole plastic surgery thing totally disturbing on so many levels..! Yet no-one ever seems to talk about it..! Like it's yet another one of those 'open secrets' - it's so obvious but you can't acknowledge it or be seen to be questioning someone's choice to do it, and that it's somehow "anti-women" to challenge it... 🤔
This is not a judgement on people who choose it but a horror at the state of a (ahem, patriarchal) culture that has normalised it to the extent that women freely allow themselves to 'melt' their faces, reduce their ability to smile, speak, or frown, to express themselves and accept their own faces, their genes, their innate beauty and humanity, and their *totally valid and normal* ageing selves... So many ahas so far, i didn't think this would be the one i would comment on - but i am happy to be perpetually surprised..! 😆🤷🏻♀️
I adore PCW - LOVED her last interview and her approach to wealth as wellbeing, and super happy you got her back on...so thank you. And no offence meant to those who have chosen (or felt pressured into having) plastic surgery, just a reflection that while it may be what's 'normal' and expected in some places, it is NOT the only option..! 💓🙏🌸
Pat Washington confidence
to keep going forth. Inspite
of her diversity. I feel is her
suffient strengths in believing
in herself.
The pillars are very interesting along with clarity, commitment and consistency.
Ummm everything!!! 😉🔥🙌
All of it
Women that collaborate are unstoppable. Women that compete sabatoge each other!
So very true!
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Love this ❤
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Life begins where fear ends🙏 stop being afraid of what others think
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Sharon Stone was a late bloomer in making it in Hollywood. In an interview she said her breakthrough came, when she told herself all the things people said to her for years. She said she had heard a thousand times "You are too tall, too thin, too blonde, too beautiful, not pretty enough, too big, too short, too sexy, not sexy enough...." One day she just decided not to give a sh*t anymore if she was too much or too little of anything and then everything changed.
22:22 “Your business will grow to the extent you are willing to heal.” 🙌Powerful
I had to replay that part.
People pleasing is so crippling and I am tired !!
Distinguish between collaboration and competition/people pleasing.
Being assertive is one thing but being kind is different. It comes from good manners and politeness so you can be assertive and be polite. You can collaborate without feeling offeneded, because if you feeling offened it means that before you start to work with anyone you need to heal some aspect of yourself. (Shadowwork)
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Same!
I like the way she says "I don't need to say yes to everything coz it's not in my alignment and in my purpose." Very powerful message for women. Babe you are on a mission 👋you go girl
You are an awesome role model for women today.🙏
We always have the power to reject any advice that’s not in alignment with our assignment. 🙌👏🙌👏🙌👏Wow
Yess!
People have opposing views, which means you can't please everyone anyway! So focus on pleasing you.
What if I have financial debt to clear?
@@narcabusevictimgermany9687 how does that correlate lol?
@@acedcoffee6934 financial debt and pleasing myself goes hand in hand?
@@narcabusevictimgermany9687 Yes I agree, but I didn't get why you posted it under a comment about focusing on yourself and not being a people pleaser. Anyway that's fine
@@acedcoffee6934 it is very simple even if you can’t read properly: it is impossible to focus on problems and on goals at the same time!
Do you want me to be your coach now only cause you can’t follow?
The power to reject who isn’t in alignment with our assignment! That part... Patrice Washington is speaking and I am listening!
facts! I agree. The word No is a very powerful word. Many are afraid to use it.
Wait...what?! Every.single.thing Patrice said went straight to my 💙. I really needed to hear All.Of.This!, I even had my 7 yr old listen some because we need more strong, confident, classy women and young ladies in the world. I’ll be listening to this multiple times! 🙏🙏🙏
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_I decided to stop waiting for people to validate my thoughts and also comparing myself to others. Great thoughts here, thanks_😊
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Look up JAHBUNDANCE on RUclips so you can understand what I'm saying here.
Remember that you don’t attract what you want, you attract who you are. So focus on love. Focus on happiness. Focus on feeling fulfilled and like you already have everything you’ve ever wanted. Focus on gratitude. You are a powerful source of energy. When you do this, you will get what you want because you are in alignment and focusing on all you have instead of a lack. Just know you have everything you have ever wanted. It’s already yours . Be joyful!
When Patrice says, that even mentors told her to not wear braids as it's not professional .. that is an example of sending someone in the wrong direction. Being yourself is really important and crucial as you say.
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This woman is RELATABLE. How fricken amazing ;)
It really hit when she said that you can be the most well educated and informed, but are still the person who won't raise a hand in a meeting, or won't ask for the raise, or discounts services. I feel like I'm that person, I have a lot of knowledge, but I still worry about being perceived of as "nice". I'm finding my purpose, but it's taking some work.
Keep putting in the work!
Ditto
Clarity, Commitment, Consistency! Never underestimate these 3 things. My new Motto 🙏. Patrice you truly had me engaged this whole interview, I filled 3 pages of notes! THANK YOU
Always remember the 3Cs!
THE MOMENT YOU STOP PEOPLE PLEASING YOU WILL GROW
That I need to expect that people will not like me when I am walking in my purpose. I also need to tap into people that I am called to impact.
I just got off work. I'm stressing about how my supervisor doesn't seem to like me and doesn't really interact with me the way he acts with my coworkers. I feel left out and I've been trying to think of ways to get "in" with him and the little clique at work. I was mindlessly scrolling through YT trying to forget about it and I came across this video 😎
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Love Patrice! I found out about her the first time she was on WOI ❤️ badass women support each other!
This one was great! I think many women can relate to lots of what she said. She gave great advice. Be kind but don't worry about people pleasing, if someone doesn't like you then oh well. I learned that the hard way. I could be the nicest person but now I'm finally being okay with people not liking me, that's their issue and not mine 💜
Absolutely! 💯❤️
Thank you so much Lisa for providing this content. As a young teen it's amazing to follow your channel. I'm literally improving in my studies and trying to learn some other stuff as well.
From last year I can say I've improved and I'll be doing more better. Thank you so much again. Much love! ❤
You're like a sister figure to me.
Oh man thanks so much for the kind words!!! And Im so damn impressed you are making improvements!! Whatever your goal and dream is YOU CAN DO IT!!!
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I wish I had this channel when I was a teen
I have listened to this message at least 10 times already!!! Thank you again and again!!!
Uf, I had to close my eyes and breathe deeply from time to time, to let those words of wisdom sink in...really really powerful stuff...Thank you for helping us grow and become stronger, more confident and happier !!! Am truly grateful...
Everything Patrice had to say was amazing!! Accepting the good things about myself because they aren't sexy is a game changer!
I loved when she spoke about, not giving up after the first time or first few times didn't go the way that you wanted. Commitment and consistency is everything, if it's truly something that you want to do. Purpose is doing something that adds value to other people and their lives.
I'm sending this to my daughter.. she's 21.. this is going to change her life
When she gave everything away to others! Wow! She felt so free to be herself. I like Patrice Washington, I found her on Spodify! I love her saying Pivot with a Purpose! Thank You for this great interview! 👏👏👏😄
Incredible speaker!!! So clear and forthright! Clearly she has done the work! I love that Patrice shares how therapy has helped her get to where she has in standing in her worth. For me its: "If you say that you believe in something then make time to practice it" and "What truth do you hold dear" around 39:00, and especially "Do you have something that you can lean on in tough times?"!!! I think that is a good question for oneself and others, instead of giving one's own advice. I will be subscribing to Patrice's podcast. New fan!
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BECOME THE EMPRESS AND JUST SAY NO AND DONT BE AFRAID TO DO SO IT WILL HELP YOU GROW AND HEAL AND GO FROM FEAR TO FEARLESS (THE BADASS ) LOVE YOU AND SEE WHO IS DOWN WITH IT ,WHEN I FOUND ME I LOST EVERYONE AROUND ME 🤣🤣🤣FAMILY ,FRIENDS AND EVERYONE IN MY CIRCLE AM ALONE NOW BUT I NEVER FEEL LONELY CAUSE I LOVE MY OWN COMPANY ❤
Throughly enjoying this! The idea of going all in is scary but it has to be done because you won’t know what the results will be until you fully commit yourself👌
This is sooooo good!! Needed all of this TODAY!!! The part that resonated with me was just being true to yourself and beating my the beat of your own drum. What others think does not matter and YOUR people will be YOUR people. I say this to myself all of the time and have put it in a book I’m writing. However, it’s always great to hear it from someone else. So, today it was good to hear it from someone other than myself.
I truly believe that your gifts, your purpose, make space for you when you are true to yourself. Find your people and growth happens.
There may be times of pain before you walk into your purpose. I’ve learned that each of the pains and hurts I’ve experienced, have propelled and prepared me for my purpose.
Great message!
seeing the lesson in each betrayal…. and furthermore, being compassionate and grateful towards the betrayer,…. wow thats deep
Very true. We needed to go down that path to realise that this is not the place I want to be. This is where I need to pivot, make a detour and take the next right move in alignment with my purpose. No need to be miserable or beat oneself up about it. This is epic.Tks Reagan. 🙏
Sooo much wisdom in this! Overcoming people pleasing is soo necessary if you want to succeed in anything! Thank you beautiful ladies! 🙏🏻💞
Wow! I love this message, being yourself to find the audience that will connect to you personally and you can help directly. We don't need to be the cookie cutter "professional" and we don't need to be followed by mainstream audience, it is basically finding our niche.
Exactly! If you try to appeal to everyone you will appeal to no one - be you and find your tribe!
Your business will only grow to the extent that you are willing to heal. 🙌🏽🤯
Patrice Washington ALWAYS knows what to say!!
43:18 - We have to do it until other people believe it… we have to show up until they show up.
Can I just say, I could look at her all day! Lord have mercy, she’s GAW-GEOUS!
I only have two words..."Pure Gold"
Oh my gosh, the “oh shit” slip at the end just made me laugh so much! This was SUCH an amazing video. I feel like I can watch this every single day of my life to get me going and stay focused on what I’m doing and the life I’m creating for myself. Thank you thank you!! 🌸
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This came so timely for me.
So glad this message came when you needed it.
9:44....embracing your passion and not comparing it👏👏👏🙌🙌🙌🙏
The power to reject any advice that’s not in alignment with my assignment ❤️🔥❤️🔥💯💯
This episode was exactly what I need today! ❤️
So INCREDIBLY POWERFUL!!! Thank you so much ladies. I wrote down sooo many quotes! "Your business is only gonna grow to the extent you're willing to heal" "Don't confuse applause with love" XOXO
super authentic. I love this video.
love her comment that purpose is not finite, that it evolves, and that life happens FOR YOU not TO YOU...wonderful and encourages me...thank you for ur supporting words....
Her approach reminds of how appropriate it is to learn to "follow before you lead." Once you've it all down pat, have that respected position and once acquired a name for oneself, yeah, be yourself. But, without credentials or clear abilities or expertise, you'll look unprofessional. That's how it was for me. The issue is that if I looked a certain way, I wouldn't be taken seriously. After establishing myself, the confidence excuded no matter what I was wearing.
Love Patrice Washington!! She's truly had a powerful impact on my life and business goals.
Omg I`m in the middle of a really tough situation and this is exactly what I needed to hear. I`ve done pleanty of thing i didn`t want to please others thinking I was helping them when in fact it was completely the opposite. Therapy has help me to heal a lot of trauma and identify a huge issue I have to work with that is codependency. Lisa and Patrice Thanks for being such an inspiration for all of us!!
AMEN Sisters I Love this I am dealing with this right now!! Thanks 4 this video Lisa!!
YES, YES, YES.
Wow! The part where she gave all those garments away and her suits. To be authentic to yourself! I also love that she is from Mableton GA. I am from GA myself.
How I love Patrice. Her no nonsense approach to personal development. She's my accountability partner in my head..😁
I soooo needed this! Thank you Ladies!
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Alignment with my Assignment!! 🙌🏽
I didn’t know how much I needed this! Such and INSPIRING message. It’s fantastic to see someone who looks like meeee. 🤗😍🥰
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Ohhh my god everything she said was brilliant. This episode was everything I needed to hear right now. Thank you. 💜
The part when Patrice Washington recites Monique Coleman's quote 'Your Business is only going to grow to the extent your willing to heal' like wow 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿🌟.. Lisa, you and Patrice are literally 2 of some of my favourite people to watch/follow online... Absolutely loved this 2nd interview with you both 💜💜🤗 thank you
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All I can say is this was very eye opening, Thank You!
Love love love this ladies. Great stuff. It can be a bit lonely and isolating to call BS but I know it’s a big part of my purpose and being authentic. What I’ve learned about it over 60 years is there is a compassionate way to do it like Patrice says. Thanks for inspiring me. ❤️
Thanks for the time ❤️ that's really important and I hope more people feel free.
She is a very inspiring woman. Thank you for the advice
The problem with the general public is they think every brand/business should be for everyone. It would be ok if these same people weren't so damaging to brands. Whatever happened to spend your money elsewhere if you don't like the brand? And yet they actually do like the brand and they are just sad and angry that the brand isn't for them. I can't imagine going into a luxury car dealership and making a scene because the brand is out of reach for me yet this is essentially what people do on social media to brands.
I loved when Patrice said "don't confuse applause with love and purpose evolves" golden nuggets.
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Thank you so much Lisa for Women of impact! This interview with Patrice Washington is another uplifting moment of empowerment for me. Gratitude!
Patrice, you sound so brilliant, ivan not believe you are turning 40yrs, l thought you were in your 30s.Keep going girl!
Thanks for this video Ladies! I like to watch these Impact episodes, I always learn new things & I've been on a journey trying to better myself. I appriciate you Ladies sharing your knowledge & wisdom with us all. ..
Love that I caught yet another amazing interview! Im sooo excited to get my book I pre-ordered 🤗🤗 I missed the gift Patrice gave to the Pre-order supporters in January because im working so hard on my own projects that I missed the emails. Anyway, I am a huge fan of doing the inner work to optimize your life and how your feel on a day to day basis so the SUPER NUGGET that I got from this interview was " Your Business is only going to grow to the extent that you are willing to Heal!" 🤯🤯🤯🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🌠🌠🌠👊🏾👊🏾😎
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Man, when she talked about letting go of what she THOUGHT her purpose should look like. I felt that! It is so confusing like she said. It really does feel like you’re an imposter, wearing a costume. I felt that in my soul fr.
This was awesome! Was just having an inner reflection on some of these golden nuggets this weekend. Was so inspiring to hear them reaffirmed by such a beautiful powerful spirit!🙏🏽😍 Thank you Lisa and Patrice
Great message. A lot of it was confirming my feelings and it's nice to hear someone else say it who's successful.
Thank you for this content. This is definitely helping me to be the person I want to be.
"It didn't happen to me, it happened for me". Phenomenal, thank you so much! This will help me reframe some things from my past
Thank you for being so authentic and brave. There is so much that I got from your journey. Again, thank you
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Great message now we have to put it into practice.
I'm on fire with energy, possibilities and purpose. You gals are doing this so right 🙏
Love this conversation. Exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you ladies ❤️
I love her!! I’m not going to change my face to make someone else happy! 👏
Lisa,
This was a fantastic interview with Patrice.
She has come so far since your first interview and her pillars are written like gospel.
I loved her quote about purpose that she mentions about 20 minutes in.
She says “Purpose will connect you to people you’re supposed to serve”.
I made 3 pages of notes today from your interview.
Thank you for impacting my life as well as the lives of so many others.
Kind Regards,
Lisa :-)
I really like what you have to say about the pillars- finding my peace with myself. Wow.
Love you ladies! This touched my heart, I feel God's spirit all over Patrice, and love Lisa''s always open to learning, and sharing!
Thank you for charm and empowering message.
This was amazing. So many nuggets I couldn't even pin point one
Amen! I am going to apply that theory...It didn't happen to me. It happened FOR ME! Yes, painful experiences, set me on my greater path and purpose. Thank you Patrice!! 🙏
FIRST IS PASSION THAN COMES MISSION IN ACTION 🙏
Patrice is amazing! Great representation of Christ's love ❤
Thank you ladies! 🙌💋 yassss. #Autheticity. great interview. Goddesses
We got Patrice back?! Lisa is too good to us. 🥰
Yes we all need that example 🌟🌟🌟🙌🙌🙌
I really love this channel. Always great for inspiration and edification for women! Thank you.
Thanks so much!!!
Love the vídeo,thanks from Portugal
I'm so emotional watching this. I really needed this message ❤
Loved this episode! Love this womens outlook on life. I needed to hear this today. I've been on this journey of growth and have been feeling like I'm on the wrong path. But this episode made me see that I need to change how I think. Thank you so much❤
Ahhhhh I freaking LOVED THIS!!!!! I cannot emphasize how much this has resonated with me. It's exactly what I need to know..it's amazing. I cannot just tell how much, but this..this is game-changer for me.❤️
So much wisdom in here omg Im gonna watch this several times
Wow! Thank you Lisa for having all of these inspirational women on your show! I cried at almost every point y’all made. This couldn’t have come at a better time-seriously my favorite interview yet ❤️