The narcissists run off with someone else asap. They had someone else already. They pick up and continue on with the other play things. As the primary source I no longer exist. Not that I ever did anyway.
Again, this video is a play by play of what I experienced and is as if H.G. had a camera crew following me around in a sick reality show. Nailed it. If you are in an abusive relationship, this channel is the real deal and will serve as a guide for what you should expect to happen. Amazed that the video above listed every single thing that happened to me in the exact order that it happened. And until now, I always thought I had been the only one. Very empowering to realize I have not been.
"Paint you head to toe black...deepest midnight catholic black... every inch of you created in that thick dark residue... you are the worst of the worst"... 😅😅 And I understand this.. Gee thanks
Yes a smear campaign but only with his friends BC I didn't introduce him to any of mine. He wanted to argue saying I was a lier, that I wanted to hook up with one of his friends which is hysterical. After him wanting to be petty I blocked him and went no contact. The smear was all the negative things he had been saying about his friends and turned it around to where I said those horrible things. I could honestly care less. Their and his lifestyle did not line up with mine. I could tell he had another source lined up. Again I did not care. The sex was horrid which I had no problems telling him it needed significant improvement. His anger scared me only BC of all his guns, 15 to be exact, that were loaded at all times. And his paranoia that someone was out to get him worried me as well. He is a lesser and not very bright. No real conversations which I do not enjoy plus his need to feel superior was just laughable. Thank you HG I enjoy your well thought out video's. I binge watch/listen to you and have turned many onto your channel. I was in several narcissist support groups but that got old real fast. Their self pitty and them wanting revenge turned me off. Have a good day HG
Hey HG, I founf out what I was dealing with and escaped as soon as he left for work . I changed my phone number and deleted all pictures. I was not immediately hovered. I feel that he was grooming someone else and went directly to them. Whatever, I'm out and glad as he'll
Can we just start saying SURVIVOR instead of victim please? We made it through. Oh wait - am I asking this of a narcissist?! 😂 Truth? I love your content. Thank you.
So if you are a survivor then you are no longer a victim. So if he does a video referring to you, then the message would be different. Probably a congratulations and a regimen on staying a survivor. It that’s not what he’s talking about here. He’s talking about them being predators and they people that they prey on as victims which fits the definition: vic·tim noun a person harmed, injured, or killed as a result of a crime, accident, or other event or action. "victims of domestic violence" Similar: sufferer injured party casualty injured person wounded person dead person fatality loss loser Opposite: attacker assailant a person who is tricked or duped. "the victim of a hoax" Similar: dupe easy target easy prey fair game sitting target everybody's fool stooge gull fool Aunt Sally target prey quarry object subject recipient focus sitting duck sucker fall guy pushover soft touch easy touch chump muggins charlie patsy pigeon sap schlemiel mark dill a living creature killed as a religious sacrifice. "sacrificial victims for the ritual festivals"
All 100% CORRECT! The frenzied hoovering was almost hilarious. We weren’t in no contact mode then as I did not know what I was dealing with! It was after 3 months after my dumping him and he had already met someone else that I decided the bullshit needed to stop and I established no contact! Lol
Sounds extremely exhausting to be a Narcissist. Why not just enjoy and be happy and content with a partner ? I cannot understand why there are so many partners, it is confusing.
I thank God ✝️ everyday for releasing me from HELL! So glad I am not on social media, blocked and he is at long distance. He has none of my families information either. Nothing he could ever say would make me go back ever.
Good for u! Block or change phone number. Delete FB and all other social media. Best thing I ever did! Yes, it was hell for about two years. But so damn glad I did! Five years later. First 2 years after spit was so hard, not gonna lie. But SO glad I stayed absolutely no contact...which includes not communicating or viewing any social media pertaining to him. Can't tell u how difficult it was for about two years. Five years later?? Thank God it's over! 💪❤🙏💜
I've been no contact, for 13 months.. but cannot get him to stop hoovering me.. he tries to hack my google account, apple account, email account.. I've not answered any unknown calls.. just wish he'd completely lose all memory of me and my existence.. my phone goes quiet, no hacking alerts or strange occurrences for 2 weeks at a time.. it's like he's on an exact 2 wk schedule..
Spot on, to the exact order presented by you, HG. I am just asking myself… how deep my addiction to him might have been that I am still very weary of being with anybody, as most of the time I am again seeming to find yet another narcissistic person or a narcissist. I have worked long and hard enough on myself to see it quite early, so I think I will continue my work, be my own best friend and appreciate those who were patient enough with me to remain my friends. I hope to regain my financial security enough to start buying your books to make my work more fruitful. I am grateful you had decided to share your excellent expertise with us.
33 years with him from age 15. According to your other videos I'm a super empath. Oh the fuel I supplied in lovingly trying to fix the relationship and point out it was unhealthy but salvageable! I was addicted to him and the scraps of affection and future faking. In all the reading and viewing re narcs I believe I've worked out mine is a mix of mid to upper mid range, covert, passive aggressive type. The only thing that doesn't make sense is I really believe he never cheated or had a 2nd intimate supply. Even 5 months later, there is no sign of one...our 18 and 21 year old sons live with him because I left with a suitcase. I always initiated sex too and he obliged as a dutiful husband. Its the only thing that contradicts all this narc information. I'd love to hear other peoples perspectives.
The smearing is extremely frustrating and emotionally hard to deal with, helpless in defending your integrity. Besides staying quiet, it becomes a war, is there a any method to defend yourself from lies?
Carry your phone with you to record every interaction with them it will boost up some confidence with you because when they discover they will turn their backs every time they see you
Love you H.G. and your expertise on the subject! I had a friend (narcissist) for 40 years. When I figured it out, I went no contact. I moved 5 states away, not on ANY social media and it all hit the fan 13 years ago. Am I finally safe? Thank you.
Mine phoned me and we had to maintain somewhat contact because we have a child together But the phone call after beating me up, was something else In between he did have a new supply Over a decade ago, now move on to nowadays and I strongly feel she is now being prepared to be left shortly Karma
Daughter in process of getting a divorce and he is still trying to control her using their 11 yr old daughter who seems to be turning into a preteen version of her narc father. In that case told her to save herself until the shrink and Ad Litem can undo some damage daddy dearest had done. I told her she has to save herself first before she can **save** her increasingly narc daughter.
Catholic black! Precisely and I wear that color wonderfully. That is exactly what the narc did, I wasn't even the primary source or don't believe I was as he had several and a hidden family. 1 yr NC, he can step on a landmine and my peace would only grow. Thank you for your videos and blogs, it's research that is never ending and a book to follow.
I finally had enough of his silent treatment, he was adding other females to his gaming list of "friends" ignored me, and just punished me so I blocked him deleted him. He did try to reach out with insults... I cried a bit I was upset, and he kept playing online games with the new replacement for that online game, after he had said he was tired and wanted to sleep. Anyways I feel defeated, sad and just crying on how he does the opposite of what I tell him to. He kept playing with her on purpose, to make me jelly. He just met her 3 days ago.
It's funny when I listen to some of these videos from people like yourself talking about what a Narc does when you leave or threaten to leave. or when they leave you. I have done the very things you say they do. I wonder then, am I the narcissist if this is what narcissists do?
As I’m listening to this I get a call from a funeral directors the ex narc has my number I don’t think it’s a coincidence as I don’t give my number out to just anyone 🙄 My crime forgetting his birthday an event more important than the birth of Christ apparently. It humours me as it was innocently done on my part but showed me who he was after four months of utter confusion I saved myself a lot of grief. Due an upgrade so a new number it will be too.
Ty for your incite. My Narc followed your pattern almost to the tee! The grand Hoover was almost laughable! He went from monosyllabic texts to suddenly a nonstop declaration of past happier times and appreciation for me once I said I was leaving. Thankfully, we live on separate coasts. I’m an Empath and highly intuitive now. I’m keenly aware he’s been grooming someone else. I’m a member of Mensa and he isn’t the brightest bulb on the tree, so thanks to your book and research it’s been fairly easy to figure out his plans. He lies! Period! We had the biggest argument ever because he asked me while I was visiting several years ago if I was hungry and I responded saying “ Yes, I’m feeling a bit peckish”! OMG He burst into the first rage ever thinking and saying I was pecking at him! Told you he was DUMB! He told me to speak American! I had lived in the UK for twelve years and had been married to a violent Brit. My lexicon was a mixture of East coast, Hawaii, Southern, UK and the idiot didn’t comprehend the fact that many words we speak in the US originated from Great Britain. I took great pleasure in tormenting him with words like rubbish, petrol, windscreen, tarmac…..the list is endless and so we’re the rages, but such fun to watch a grown man behave like a toddler. I truly want to express my appreciation for the help your site and book has given me. Hearing about the Narcissist through the eyes of one who actually knows keenly what it feels like has helped me finally extricate myself from the hold this non caring guy had over me. ❤️😀
This is why these channels about narcissism all seem like complete quacks to me. Like, no shit, if you leave someone overnight without even telling them, by leaving a note or just disappearing from their life without a word, they'll try to get you to come back. Huh? How is that exclusive to narcissists? Anyone would be in complete shock to find out their partner has just bolted out of their life without warning. Of course they'd try to make you come back. They're in complete disbelief over what you just did. Besides, I'd argue there's probably something quite wrong (maybe huh... like a serious lack of empathy?) with someone who ends a relationship this way.
Frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn. Y ahora en español : que me importa un cara-o. Si me quiere pintar de negro como si me quiere pintar de rojo. Además ya soy inmune a su aspiradora, me la ha pasado 2 veces y ya se dónde está el cable para desenchufarla.
The narcissists run off with someone else asap. They had someone else already. They pick up and continue on with the other play things. As the primary source I no longer exist. Not that I ever did anyway.
Wouldn't it be nice to have an app that enables us to delete our numbers from other people's phones.
Can't we block numbers now?
@@initialcreation you can block but bc they have your number they find 100 million ways to contact you
Get a new phone, Iphone 13 better with a new Nr.
@@initialcreation After you block them they get other numbers, also pages, domains, etc.. but those are the stupid people.
Answer is to change phone number and email address and come off social media
Again, this video is a play by play of what I experienced and is as if H.G. had a camera crew following me around in a sick reality show. Nailed it. If you are in an abusive relationship, this channel is the real deal and will serve as a guide for what you should expect to happen. Amazed that the video above listed every single thing that happened to me in the exact order that it happened. And until now, I always thought I had been the only one. Very empowering to realize I have not been.
If I cared i would not have left and if the creature cared then we would still be together! Just like the narc, out of site out of mind!
Did you have some sort of psychological boot camp to get ready? Why not fall for the usual pitfalls? (Prepared to take notes)
"Paint you head to toe black...deepest midnight catholic black... every inch of you created in that thick dark residue... you are the worst of the worst"... 😅😅 And I understand this.. Gee thanks
Yes a smear campaign but only with his friends BC I didn't introduce him to any of mine. He wanted to argue saying I was a lier, that I wanted to hook up with one of his friends which is hysterical. After him wanting to be petty I blocked him and went no contact. The smear was all the negative things he had been saying about his friends and turned it around to where I said those horrible things. I could honestly care less. Their and his lifestyle did not line up with mine. I could tell he had another source lined up. Again I did not care. The sex was horrid which I had no problems telling him it needed significant improvement. His anger scared me only BC of all his guns, 15 to be exact, that were loaded at all times. And his paranoia that someone was out to get him worried me as well. He is a lesser and not very bright. No real conversations which I do not enjoy plus his need to feel superior was just laughable. Thank you HG I enjoy your well thought out video's. I binge watch/listen to you and have turned many onto your channel. I was in several narcissist support groups but that got old real fast. Their self pitty and them wanting revenge turned me off. Have a good day HG
Hey HG, I founf out what I was dealing with and escaped as soon as he left for work . I changed my phone number and deleted all pictures. I was not immediately hovered. I feel that he was grooming someone else and went directly to them. Whatever, I'm out and glad as he'll
I hope you succeeded in staying away all these months 💪🏾
I am not even being hoovered. It is like this relationship never happened.
Thanks!
He looks for someone else, and eats a king size chocolate bar! LOL
How narcissists view death video should go viral. Absolutely brilliant and answered decades of mysteries in itself
I bookmarked that one. Gonna watch it next after this. Been Binge watching Tudor for couple weeks now.
I love being painted black...and will ensure I remain so.
HG is the only person that has kept me away from my narcissist!
Being painted black make your life white after your escape... Thx HG 💖
I like your sense of humor 😂❤️
Absolutely! Lol
Can we just start saying SURVIVOR instead of victim please? We made it through. Oh wait - am I asking this of a narcissist?! 😂 Truth? I love your content. Thank you.
It is a fair request though. Congrats on surviving.
So if you are a survivor then you are no longer a victim. So if he does a video referring to you, then the message would be different. Probably a congratulations and a regimen on staying a survivor. It that’s not what he’s talking about here. He’s talking about them being predators and they people that they prey on as victims which fits the definition:
vic·tim
noun
a person harmed, injured, or killed as a result of a crime, accident, or other event or action.
"victims of domestic violence"
Similar:
sufferer
injured party
casualty
injured person
wounded person
dead person
fatality
loss
loser
Opposite:
attacker
assailant
a person who is tricked or duped.
"the victim of a hoax"
Similar:
dupe
easy target
easy prey
fair game
sitting target
everybody's fool
stooge
gull
fool
Aunt Sally
target
prey
quarry
object
subject
recipient
focus
sitting duck
sucker
fall guy
pushover
soft touch
easy touch
chump
muggins
charlie
patsy
pigeon
sap
schlemiel
mark
dill
a living creature killed as a religious sacrifice.
"sacrificial victims for the ritual festivals"
All 100% CORRECT! The frenzied hoovering was almost hilarious. We weren’t in no contact mode then as I did not know what I was dealing with! It was after 3 months after my dumping him and he had already met someone else that I decided the bullshit needed to stop and I established no contact! Lol
HG, thank you for helping me understand me.
I am grateful for your Works.
@Mr D Thank you Master for you Works. Cringey or not.
Sounds extremely exhausting to be a Narcissist. Why not just enjoy and be happy and content with a partner ? I cannot understand why there are so many partners, it is confusing.
I'm exhausted just from listening to that(plus ur soothing voice),no wonder he was always so tired
I thank God ✝️ everyday for releasing me from HELL! So glad I am not on social media, blocked and he is at long distance. He has none of my families information either. Nothing he could ever say would make me go back ever.
Good for u! Block or change phone number. Delete FB and all other social media. Best thing I ever did! Yes, it was hell for about two years. But so damn glad I did! Five years later. First 2 years after spit was so hard, not gonna lie. But SO glad I stayed absolutely no contact...which includes not communicating or viewing any social media pertaining to him. Can't tell u how difficult it was for about two years. Five years later?? Thank God it's over! 💪❤🙏💜
God's got nothing to do with it.
Thank HG.
The Narcissist: ?????
Me: Lolz I totally don’t care hahahahahahahhahahhaha freedom is almost intoxicating! 😉 👏 😆
HG you making mi laugh , I can just hear “ after everything I done for her”! Yes and teddy head is ripped off and thrown away!
I've been no contact, for 13 months.. but cannot get him to stop hoovering me.. he tries to hack my google account, apple account, email account.. I've not answered any unknown calls.. just wish he'd completely lose all memory of me and my existence.. my phone goes quiet, no hacking alerts or strange occurrences for 2 weeks at a time.. it's like he's on an exact 2 wk schedule..
Look into protection order... People like that don't go away easily. Be cautious and good luck.
i can relate electronic harassement
Time for new phone number?
I hope I’m dripping in the deepest black in her mind forever. Though I struggle deeply with the trauma bond she left behind. I will die on this hill!!
Just the opposite she is with the next one. You are long forgotten.
I will not die on this hill. Not. Not. Stay strong
I’ve had all 5 as well.
You will make so many lives better 🙏
Spot on, to the exact order presented by you, HG. I am just asking myself… how deep my addiction to him might have been that I am still very weary of being with anybody, as most of the time I am again seeming to find yet another narcissistic person or a narcissist. I have worked long and hard enough on myself to see it quite early, so I think I will continue my work, be my own best friend and appreciate those who were patient enough with me to remain my friends. I hope to regain my financial security enough to start buying your books to make my work more fruitful. I am grateful you had decided to share your excellent expertise with us.
33 years with him from age 15. According to your other videos I'm a super empath. Oh the fuel I supplied in lovingly trying to fix the relationship and point out it was unhealthy but salvageable! I was addicted to him and the scraps of affection and future faking. In all the reading and viewing re narcs I believe I've worked out mine is a mix of mid to upper mid range, covert, passive aggressive type. The only thing that doesn't make sense is I really believe he never cheated or had a 2nd intimate supply. Even 5 months later, there is no sign of one...our 18 and 21 year old sons live with him because I left with a suitcase. I always initiated sex too and he obliged as a dutiful husband. Its the only thing that contradicts all this narc information. I'd love to hear other peoples perspectives.
Check dissmise avoidant
Yep spot on....
As Bob Marley never said "no hoover no cry"! Smear away. My positive result is the creature will come out daily. "Eat a steak it's much better."
I experienced all 5 H.G.!
The smearing is extremely frustrating and emotionally hard to deal with, helpless in defending your integrity. Besides staying quiet, it becomes a war, is there a any method to defend yourself from lies?
Who cares what the narcissist says about me I know the truth and that's what really matters.. There idiots..
Get to everyone before they do and keep evidence
Carry your phone with you to record every interaction with them it will boost up some confidence with you because when they discover they will turn their backs every time they see you
Be yourself. Be real. Be happy....
Ignore the narc and the smearing. Any engagement risks re-engagement and you don't want that.
Love you H.G. and your expertise on the subject! I had a friend (narcissist) for 40 years. When I figured it out, I went no contact. I moved 5 states away, not on ANY social media and it all hit the fan 13 years ago. Am I finally safe? Thank you.
Mine phoned me and we had to maintain somewhat contact because we have a child together
But the phone call after beating me up, was something else
In between he did have a new supply
Over a decade ago, now move on to nowadays and I strongly feel she is now being prepared to be left shortly
Karma
Tudor
is the beast yall
Hi from Sal great video thx s😊⭐️🇬🇧
Experienced all 5
This is really very funny
Daughter in process of getting a divorce and he is still trying to control her using their 11 yr old daughter who seems to be turning into a preteen version of her narc father. In that case told her to save herself until the shrink and Ad Litem can undo some damage daddy dearest had done. I told her she has to save herself first before she can **save** her increasingly narc daughter.
Sounds familiar
Sooo much fuel here
Here's a video I'd like to see.... Why Are Empath's Hot for Narcissistic Psychopaths?
.... Inquiring minds really, Really. Need to know.
'The nation state of Narcdom.' 😅😅
Catholic black! Precisely and I wear that color wonderfully. That is exactly what the narc did, I wasn't even the primary source or don't believe I was as he had several and a hidden family.
1 yr NC, he can step on a landmine and my peace would only grow.
Thank you for your videos and blogs, it's research that is never ending and a book to follow.
Dear Mr Tudor. Have you investigated the Jussie Smollett case? I would be interested to hear what you think about his being a narccist.
Poor Teddy!
I finally had enough of his silent treatment, he was adding other females to his gaming list of "friends" ignored me, and just punished me so I blocked him deleted him. He did try to reach out with insults... I cried a bit I was upset, and he kept playing online games with the new replacement for that online game, after he had said he was tired and wanted to sleep. Anyways I feel defeated, sad and just crying on how he does the opposite of what I tell him to. He kept playing with her on purpose, to make me jelly. He just met her 3 days ago.
It's funny when I listen to some of these videos from people like yourself talking about what a Narc does when you leave or threaten to leave. or when they leave you. I have done the very things you say they do. I wonder then, am I the narcissist if this is what narcissists do?
What about when the narc is your mother?
As I’m listening to this I get a call from a funeral directors the ex narc has my number I don’t think it’s a coincidence as I don’t give my number out to just anyone 🙄 My crime forgetting his birthday an event more important than the birth of Christ apparently. It humours me as it was innocently done on my part but showed me who he was after four months of utter confusion I saved myself a lot of grief. Due an upgrade so a new number it will be too.
"Birth of Christ" bit had me in hysterics! You go, girl! Much love from a fellow survivor ❤️ ❤❤
Love your work🏆 good wisdom🎯 my narcissist did just that ,he never came back, I guess I was too much trouble🤷♀️💪
He isn't yours you don't own him & never will.
@@JayceeGenocide wow
Ty for your incite. My Narc followed your pattern almost to the tee! The grand Hoover was almost laughable! He went from monosyllabic texts to suddenly a nonstop declaration of past happier times and appreciation for me once I said I was leaving. Thankfully, we live on separate coasts. I’m an Empath and highly intuitive now. I’m keenly aware he’s been grooming someone else. I’m a member of Mensa and he isn’t the brightest bulb on the tree, so thanks to your book and research it’s been fairly easy to figure out his plans. He lies! Period! We had the biggest argument ever because he asked me while I was visiting several years ago if I was hungry and I responded saying “ Yes, I’m feeling a bit peckish”! OMG He burst into the first rage ever thinking and saying I was pecking at him! Told you he was DUMB! He told me to speak American! I had lived in the UK for twelve years and had been married to a violent Brit. My lexicon was a mixture of East coast, Hawaii, Southern, UK and the idiot didn’t comprehend the fact that many words we speak in the US originated from Great Britain. I took great pleasure in tormenting him with words like rubbish, petrol, windscreen, tarmac…..the list is endless and so we’re the rages, but such fun to watch a grown man behave like a toddler. I truly want to express my appreciation for the help your site and book has given me. Hearing about the Narcissist through the eyes of one who actually knows keenly what it feels like has helped me finally extricate myself from the hold this non caring guy had over me. ❤️😀
Lol at the milk man
goso is the answer every empath ruminates for but are still addicted and cant see it for the answer they are so desperate for🧠
“Catholic black!” Intense.
And eat garlic too so you have bad breath and stand too close to them . Problem solved. You can clean yourself up when you are free.
Poor Teddy.
💦💦💦👖💦💦💦 My NEX actually did listen to “All By Myself” by Eric Carmen 1975 & said he felt: “it was written for me.” Meaning HIM. Such a drama Queen.
What is it to “Hoover” someone ?
Last time I saw him he was civil but he seemed so upset with me. I guess I was painted black.
HG it’s inevitable.
HG, When you are painted head to toe in black
Csn this cause extreme narcissistic rage and Fury?
This is why these channels about narcissism all seem like complete quacks to me.
Like, no shit, if you leave someone overnight without even telling them, by leaving a note or just disappearing from their life without a word, they'll try to get you to come back.
Huh? How is that exclusive to narcissists? Anyone would be in complete shock to find out their partner has just bolted out of their life without warning. Of course they'd try to make you come back. They're in complete disbelief over what you just did.
Besides, I'd argue there's probably something quite wrong (maybe huh... like a serious lack of empathy?) with someone who ends a relationship this way.
*EXACTLY*
Eat a lot of cabbage with cooking oil on it they will be glad to get rid of you
Black is good! 🥰 Got any blacker? 😂
But I LOVE my lollipop man!
What percentage of fuel from the matrix is provided to The Ultra by the IPPS?
They go and find their drug of choice.
I wish you had given credit to Eric Carmen instead of Celine Dion. He's the originator and the best.
Ah wishing the narcissist would give credit where it is due, a habitual affliction!
That damn lollipop man.
I juts don't get it. They bitch us and they ask why people leave. What logic is this?
…rear view
Jason Aldean
Show yourself narc
Not at the moment, I am naked and you don't deserve that treat just yet.
that's a bit forward ellie may
🤔....maybe blacked out silhouette? Just so we can see your not a short, fat, bald unattractive man 😂 JK...
Hg Tudor response was absolutely written like a typical Narcissist 🤣I love it 😁It made me laugh😅
😡 FURY .....COPS .... REPEAT ...... OF HER EX"S ......I Dropped CHARGES.....SKIPPED OUT .....HISTORY REPEATED ......
yassss
Frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn.
Y ahora en español : que me importa un cara-o. Si me quiere pintar de negro como si me quiere pintar de rojo. Además ya soy inmune a su aspiradora, me la ha pasado 2 veces y ya se dónde está el cable para desenchufarla.
He picked the wrong one! Lol and he thought I was gonna leave my husband for him just because he had a 20 year history 😂😂
You played your Husband... Narcissist
1. PANICS
2. Hoovers
3. Pitys himself
This is my experience from 31 years of them.
Thanks but I’ll stay Black