What my mama told me since I was a child that if or when you wake up in the night, somebody needs your prayer. She said that, I can simply pray in the name of Jesus for my family, me or anything that comes to my mind. I followed her advice and it never failed me yet.
“The first step of rising strong is recognize you’ve been snagged by emotion and get curious about it. That’s it.” -BB (Thank God for this, for Brené. So simple yet so hard.)
Brene' & Chase. I learned a lesson recently. People ask me advise often on how I reversed some chronic health issues. I use to try telling them what I did and what worked for me. But, immediately saw walls go up around them and felt like I was wasting my breath and being tuned out. Telling people what to do is problematic. If it doesn't work as they expected, they point the blame finger at me. What I found that has a great impact is asking a simple question, "On a scale from 1 to 10, what are YOU willing to do to reverse your health issue..?" This puts the responsibility back on them. If I don't hear an 8 or higher in their answer, I tell them, "I don't think I can help you at this point." If they say, "9 or 10", I say how much time do you need from me. I have too many people that will do what ever it takes. Not everyone completely heals, but a large percentage greatly improve. I don't have the time to listen to someone who only wants to bitch about feeling sick. If they are truly looking for a solution and are at a place of being receptive to healing information, I have all the time in the world. It's tough for someone to face this reality when I would love to save the world. But, as you know, saving the world is not my responsibility. It is the responsibility of everyone to remain receptive to information that may help.
This is where the person needs to engage in some work around Resistance. Many times people genuinely believe they want change, but are unaware of the things that are in the way. With therapy, they can be helped to uncover these areas of resistance and melt them away in order to clear the road for real change. Therefore I don’t abandon people who are “ unwilling“ to change but take a couple of steps back and help them discover what’s in the road.
@@sallymitchell6423 "you can lead a horse to water but you cannot make them drink" and you cannot make them look at the world in a different way unless they are willing to do what is necessary.. Doing it for them only makes you an enabler. On a scale of 1-10, what are YOU willing to do to change this..? Real change comes when we learn to do and do to learn. I don't abandon people either, I simply don't push until they make a commitment to do the work.
Rob K I don’t believe I’m disagreeing with you, and didn’t mean to infer that you abandon people. I just mean that there can be reasons why someone is invested in the issue they say they’d like to change, that they aren’t even aware of. So there is an extra piece of work here to help them uncover what this resistance is, if they want to do that work.
I have been a relationship coach for over 25 years and one of the first videos I have couples watch is Brene Brown’s Ted Talk... I’m going to add this video to. Love is such an act of courage and vulnerability because your heart will be broken... what am I going to do with it?
Her answer after 44:00. Seriously, important reminder about who you value, with whom you share your vulnerable self. We don’t have to share with everyone every time. Also boundaries. Be consistent, for your own sake. It literally changes relationships be it to be healthier or end unhealthy ones.
15:08 "...our emotions take the first crack at making sense of something..." Wow, (to me) that is the whole ballgame right there. If more of us were aware of that, and could detach from the moment long enough to remember it, oh what a world it would be. Thanks to Brene and you both!
Last year I had to watch this a couple times for one of my classes. This year I'm to watch it again with a new perspective. so to start I went over what I wrote last year and I want to just write some of the things I wrote that stood out to me and the quote or concept here that brought me to that. "Perfection is preventing you from being who you are meant to be" - We are not meant to be perfect and that is great. It means we can always be learning and growing. It means that you today is a you that has never existed & will never exist again. Embrace the moment of you. "Boundaries are key in open and honest and clean communication" - It is considered selfish to put your needs before others but they are needs for a reason. So be selfish because why will others stand up for you if you don't stand up for yourself. I'll update with more later should more stick out to me, but this video is honestly so inspiring, and I want to send a thank you to my professor, although I doubt she'll see this, for introducing me to this video, but also for being such an incredible person who has helped me out so, so much.
I've apparently been living under a rock and only discovered you recently through Marie Forleo. I LOVE BB & MF, but I wanted to say that I am def a fan of yours now, as well. You are REALLY good at interviewing, with a great balance of sensitivity, curiosity, humor, and a very authentic presence. Great work, Chase! :)
3/2/2020 As I’m watching this right at the point where Brene’ is telling of a speaker (with authority in the arena) completely tear down a person without using a name. This happened to me twice in church. One was a pastor had called me into his office (with my 3 year old) to tell me how shitty I am because my heart with GOD is charismatic... Then on Sunday morning he gets up to the pulpit an speaks of a “certain woman” in the congregation blah, blah, blah.... The next was years later and another pastor writes a letter to every member, both near and far, to tear me apart....700 letters. I was at this church because I loved the people and GOD said to be there... I’ve since been basically around the world and visited (and ministered) in many churches and figured out if I’m not welcome, drop their stuff and keep going. I’ve been happy in a recovery ministry where I teach “Who you are in Christ” and am so wonderfully accepted. I’ve been listening to you for a few years and thank you for all you share. I like you bunches!!!
Wow, I have never heard of Brené but she is awesome! I'm an emerging artist / business own; I struggle with the emotions and fears of not being good enough yet. She touches on so many issues that I go through everyday, I'll have to watch this again. Thank you Chase and Brené for doing this interview.
Way to rock Chase! These are awesome. For me, the negative comments are a sign that you're doing something right as a creative or an entrepreneur. Although we want to fight, we need to realize that these negative comments are signs that we had the courage to put ourselves out there and that's why we're here - to create.
This is so cool! I think Brene has a really good way of calling out things that are painful, but she does it in such an empathetic way that I don't feel pain. I think Chase is being vulnerable on this show, by being his authentic self. It's awesome. Thank you for creating your art and helping others create. Would be great to hear more on your philosophy/ideas about art.
Just watching this Chase, I am so grateful to have found this. I love Brene Brown, such an inspiration for me to push myself and has helped me get my business to grow due to being vulnerable and not listening to those giving ‘helpful advice’. I really love your presentation style and can’t wait to watch more of your work. Thank you!
"he or she who has the greatest capacity for discomfort, rises the fastest" (48:52). . . "the two most powerful words when someone is in shame or in pain: me too, I get it, you're not alone" (59:09) - this is exactly why I write honestly and vulnerably in the comments section, because what I am most hoping for is to hear back "me too; I get it; you're not alone in this experience/ perception/ struggle.. . . "do not ascribe to malice, that which can be ascribed to ineptitude" - "the hypothesis of generosity: what's the most generous assumption I can make about this person's words, actions or behaviors" (1:05:13)
25:30 reckoning w/ emotions 34:20 creativity, loveability, divinity 34:33 just because someone didn't understand / put value on sth I created doesn't change its worth/ my worth. 34:42 no one is ordained to take our story of faith, our story of spirituality & say it's real/ not / based on who we are/ who we love / what we believe in. 34:56 our loveability, just because someone doesn't have the CAPACITY/ the ABILITY to love us, doesn't change our loveability. IT DOESN'T MAKE US UNLOVEABLE just because someone couldn't love us. Is there sth about me that's UNLOVEABLE? & That is profoundly dangerous narrative. 35:30 when u own the story u get to write the ending. 35:40 I am the author of my life. I will decide how the story ends. 37:30 I hear u. I get u how u want to protect me. I'm good. Thanks 39:30 tell you're 25 year old self: All the PLEASING, PROOVING & PERFECTING of what you're doing is getting in the way of what you're supposed to be doing. U will, can never live the life u want to live & not disappoint other people. U'LL NEED TO CHOOSE NOW. You're gonna pissed some people off. You're gonna let down some people. Not everybody going to like everyone. 48:40 he/ she who has the GREATEST Capacity For Discomfort RISES the FASTEST! 50:35 the only thing experience gives you is a little grace, that whispers in your ear, that you've been in the dark before, u know you're way through. Stay in the dark, it's gonna be ok. 51:10 I KNOW THAT I WILL COME OUT OF THIS! 53:20 2 important seeds in the arena are #selfcompassion & #empathy 58:10 antidote for shame is #empathty 1:01:20
I have watched this video three times so far. You and Brene are an amazing combo. Thank you! Both of you! Brene has changed my life! And I'm so excited for Braving The Wilderness!!
this conversation was such a gift to me. Was being particularly hard on myself. You helped me remember I was human, in the best way. blessings!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Only 30 min in and I'm already so blown away! Hey Chase thanks for posting this... Brené Brown is unbelievably incredible. Hats off to you for recognizing genius.
I feel like every time I watch one of these episodes I'm getting a peek inside a higher level of success. Like I'm being mentored by these people. Thank you Chase Jarvis for 'Daring Greatly'!
To me this is the true gospel, the teachings of Brene Brown. I have been so healed by this woman's work, she has so much wisdom and guidance that frees me a little bit more everyday. 35:00 is so powerful for me having been abandoned by both my parents by the time I was eight and realizing at age 42 that I will never have the kind of relationships with either parent that I've always dreamed of. I now know that's okay and I know understand that who my parents are and were has nothing to do with me or who I am.
Brene Brown is the voice of my heart. I felt her work so close to me bcz I'm struggling these issues and its amazing to have words for that feelings. Hopefully meets you one day dr. Brene Brown
OMFG Chase, I just want to tell you how much I LOVE YOU for saying "Why has it been so damn long for ANYBODY to give us these tools?!" Brene impacted my life so severely that I'm living a life that's a drastic 180 from where I was. I ALWAYS think what you asked. How frustrating it is to even think about why we don't have these conversations. Fear of being vulnerable sure loves to hijack our lives. Or, well, we let it I suppose. Why did this video make me cry?! Gosh that Brene Brown how I love her.
I can not express just how much this talk has helped me with understanding the importance of expressing my feelings around myself and others! And how to do so in a way that is kind, understanding, empathetic and with healthy boundaries! Amazing! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
I absolutely love this conversation. Wow! I totally found my soul in my art. I can soul fly through my creative process and feel more alive in 4 hours of painting allowing my heart to flow on canvas, then a lifetime of living in my daily reality.
Probably the very best synopsis of her book and the major icieas that are life changing, and thus world changing. I've listened to this multiple times and keep recommending this to others. AND I want the t-shirt. Big thanks to both Mr. Jarvis and Brene Brown.
I've watched Brene's Ted Talks several times and every time I see them with new eyes because I have evolved, healed and understand more than I did the time before. Suggestion: read/listen to Brene's book Daring Greatly. All of her books are great, but if I had to choose only one, I'd pick this book. Kicked me in the teeth. Rereading it now.
Thank you this interview. Love Brene Brown's work on vulnerabilities because we have always been taught that its a weakness and in reality its a strength that we all possesse. I discovered Chase through Gary Vee and I have to say I love his authenticity and his realness when doing these interviews. Keep up the great work Chase!
This was the most impactful and insightful podcast I have ever heard. Here we are several years later and nothing tops this episode . outstanding work Chase & Brene, thank you !!💕💕
Amazing. Love love love these Chase Jarvis. Brene Brown is my hero. I think we are super good friends from a previous life and she just doesn't remember. Thanks for hosting these. I sit here and edit my work and listen to you and your guests and gather so much invaluable information. Thank you for creating a platform for all of us to benefit form. :-)
The bless your heart thing is a perfect example of what Brene talks about. Where she's from it has that negative meaning but where I'm from there seems to be no malicious intent (said to someone who's sweet or struggling with something, it's a very casual thing to say in passing), therefore a Texan might interpret that in a negative way even if the intention of the person who said it was good.
This is so freaking amazing. Thank you for having her on. I was searching for Brene and found this interview and halfway through hit the subscribe button. Can't wait to watch other interviews as well. So powerful for me!
appreciate the sub. Brené is incredible. Always eye opening to chat with her. If you liked that interview, you might like this one: ruclips.net/video/kAk4cwjvJ0A/видео.html
Living big - so honest Brene! I love it. You get deep, deeper than we ever thought we could. I want to share this with everyone. The work you put into this I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart. Thank you for sharing your learning experience and opening up to the whole world honestly. This is rare and you were brave enough to go there for yourself and then share it with all of us!
This was GOOOOOOD FOOOOD MANNN. I have 1 audible credit left and I have to get this book!!! This is such a breath of fresh air. Thank you for this Chase.
Thank you Chase for having this show and for inviting the incredible Bren'e Brown. I absolutely love listening, watching and experiencing the conversations between yourself and Bren'e. I am captivated and mesmerised and come out of it so much more emotionally enriched and grateful. I look forward to many more . By the way, did you ever get those T shirts made ? I would love to purchase some .
Needed this since I am a guest speaker on Saturday. Thank you so much for sharing this! Guess the timing of watching this was a nod from the universe 😊💛✨
@@ChaseJarvis it did thank you so much! I quoted Brene because vulnerability truly is, showing up, being seen when there are no guarantees. I am challenged with anxiety and PTSD but it’s not who I am and I am finally living beyond the fear. Thanks for all you do 🙏
Finally I hear about this "Bless you heart"saying which drives me ...:-)) Have lived in Dallas for almost 20 years, came from Europe and always perceived this saying as condesceding. Typical bible belles responses when they don't want to feel pain and to go into place of compassion, but feel obliged to say something. 56th minute: funny, especially coming from Brene, who is a Texan. Thank you!
I'm amazed, this was so good! I was thinking during the video, this is gold! then I thought it a little bit more and I said to myself, I don't care about gold, it's overrated, there's very little real value to gold. What I just witness, this is water, water is indispensable. So yes, this video is like fresh water. Thanks Chase for making this happen and thanks René Brown for all the tools and thoughts and magnificent quotes.
Thank you so much for sharing this Chase and Brene. This was truly amazing and so helpful. Just bought all of Brene's books. I should listen to my sister sooner, she's the social worker and told me how amazing Brene is over and over.
“Bless your heart” CAN mean “I know this is hard for you, but I can’t relate”. It’s not necessarily bad, sometimes it’s just true. Mean people say it to be mean; nice people say it when they don’t know what else to say but they want you to know they sympathize. That’s what my mama taught me anyway.
The largely holistic model that Brene is deploying resonates with me. I am still working through the conversation that came up around making the assumption that people are doing their best. While I agree with the generosity of spirit that her husband extends in order to move through the world more freely; his lived-experience is one of white/male privilege that overwhelmingly ensures that his embodiment will never be criminalized by racism, sexism, or other systems of oppression. I would love it if her research took into account the sociological structures that have historically functioned to expressly place a hyper-valuation on the lives of persons who present as white; while at once placing a devaluation on the lives black and brown embodied persons. This is a huge ask of people whose lives loom in the balance with every traffic stop, trip to the grocery store, or even while attending church. This advice presents a deadly naivete when we ask marginalized persons to assume generosity; while simultaneously having histories of oppression exacted upon their very being. The distinction I am making is not simply a nuance to the conversation, it requires having the conversation in an entirely different manner. If we don't interrogate this premise, we are asking people who are experiencing racism/sexism/homophobia to sanction their oppression by "thinking good thoughts" I'd like to hold this space for further conversation...
Absolutely, wisdom comes with age. We are all unique so we need to accept ourselves own yourself. Thoughts, actions consequences and people react you have no control of their reaction.
I just watched this, this this crazy cool times 10. it's reinforced in me things that i've only just learn about myself. the insight to common situations in life know I have a greater awareness of things. so thankyou Chase of being creative.
oh no, is gary's one also going to be the old one, he's got so much good stuff right now.. I appreciate everything you put up chase, i just got excited about hearing from brene again..
Hahahah no. This is Brene's second time on the show… And the FIRST time I started thinking about putting 30 days of genius together… Gary show is definitely newer ... Just filmed last week.
Excellent conversation. Thank you. Please Always name the book & more than once. your interview was in 2016 it is now 2021 & i am interested in the book you were talking about though Brene Brown has probably written more.
I love Brene Brown's work! And I see a lot of similarities in what she's saying to the book "Crucial Conversations". Very useful handles for managing ourselves.
Alex you are Chinese. You have a very difficult time being vulnerable and honest. You guys are emotionally constipated a Famous Chinese person explained this to us in a room full with people. And in order to be really great leader , you have to be able to be truthful to your followers and to the world. Helping loving caring is higher then always winning. Love is true strength & power not force & money.
Hi myassessment adres (what name would you prefer me to call you?), I am Chinese, and while a huge part of Chinese culture is pervasive within us, our local (country) culture also have a fairly large influence on how we respond with vulnerability. I'm also a Christian from a cell-based church that promotes community and accountability, and I'm fortunate to have a community that is able to hold each other truthfully, and gently. I agree with your statement on the need to be truthful, and the need to be loving and caring. I believe in coaching for compassion, rather than for compliance. I'm wondering though if your statements seem to imply that all people who are Chinese are naturally emotionally constipated, and favouring winning above helping, loving and caring. If that were the case, I would caution against stereotyping. :) If you haven't already, do come by Singapore one of these days to see what our culture is like. We are largely Asian, but we are also a melting pot of cultures.
Alex Wong So you have been an upgraded person because of The Lord, that is a good thing, to hold with clear rules, righteousness, fairness just like what the bible teach us to deal with daily problems, with eachother ,tough life situations, respect God and His rules. When we follow the strict rules, we can stay vulnerable at the same time. Being vulnerable is just like dare to look at, all kinds of emotions, that all different kind of people are truthfully facing at certain moments in life. Then I think the Bible is even better then Brené her work. She only mentioned one little small aspect about how to deal with our weaknesses, new situations and the human path of learning process, but Gods Bible teach us even more topics like life is bigger then what you can see, feel and measure AND winning in the name of The Lord is actually a good thing, be the best you can be is encouraged, fulfill your Life 's purpose & Gods purpose is a good thing . Maybe someone can clarify The Christian teachings and principles and do research on that. What about you Alex ? You are good in writings allready, you can do it ! But some of the Chinese ancient teachings & wisdom is also just like what God tried to point out to us. like Love & Justice is sometimes the same thing, and that is what a true leader needs to face. Great point Alex I would love to visit your church & community one day. Thanks for asking. Ohh I forgot one thing, To summerize her work is : it is ok not to succeed the first times, just keep on trying to do good but while trying stay in balance between your mind and your heart and have compassion for yourself and others who are hard working . Having compassion is NOT a weakness.
Thumbs up I like the fact it you sound confident in what you’re speaking of I’d like to listen to the words unsaid rather than the words for the words and said have my meeting thanks for the insight
That last part where Brenè talks about God saying that person you are thinking of is doing the absolute best they can, is one of the points in my live that is causing me so much shame. A few years ago I stepped out of a marriage with someone that suffers from Bipolar disorder and anxiety disorder. The reason being that I couldn't cope anymore with everything, I wasn't strong enough to keep up with the empathy and support. It was costing me pieces of myself to stay in the marriage. However I know that he absolutely did the best he could every step of they way and it makes me feel shame so many time for feeling I bailed and I let him down. That it was selfish of me to step out and move on with my life. Not quite sure yet how to get out of that feeling and moving beyond that....
Applying what I have personally learned from Brene 's work I want to encourage not only to have empathy and compassion for your ex but also for yourself. know that you also were trying your hardest. Everyone has their limits and that's okay. I hope this helps you even a bit. My heart is with you.
sounds challenging and a brave step you took. Perhaps see it as a Boundary issue. Brene has some great things to say on boundaries. Basically learning what is true for you and saying, this is okay with me this is not okay. Each person has their own connection to Source. You're not responsible of BE*ing Source for another person.
I want to say this because you made that opportunity by saying MC square equals and I want to say that I came across a video of a letter that Albert Einstein wrote his daughter and he explain the true meaning of that this is going to really hit home I believe, and that is love love is the greatest force on the planet actually is the greatest force within us and he knew that at the time that he wrote that equation people wouldn’t understand it or even except it had he explained it thoroughly so I wanted to put that out there for those people who wanna make that connection because it ties into vulnerability and also ties into self-love it’s really beautiful when things come full circle and you have a better understanding of how they truly are as opposed to how you’re told there’s supposed to be
What my mama told me since I was a child that if or when you wake up in the night, somebody needs your prayer. She said that, I can simply pray in the name of Jesus for my family, me or anything that comes to my mind. I followed her advice and it never failed me yet.
That's beautiful. Thank you for sharing ❤️🙏
Wow! I wake up in anxiety several times a night, I'm going to start doing this and pray , thanks ❤
Same! If someone out of the blue pops in my head-I pray for them.
“The first step of rising strong is recognize you’ve been snagged by emotion and get curious about it. That’s it.” -BB (Thank God for this, for Brené. So simple yet so hard.)
Brene' & Chase. I learned a lesson recently. People ask me advise often on how I reversed some chronic health issues. I use to try telling them what I did and what worked for me. But, immediately saw walls go up around them and felt like I was wasting my breath and being tuned out. Telling people what to do is problematic. If it doesn't work as they expected, they point the blame finger at me.
What I found that has a great impact is asking a simple question, "On a scale from 1 to 10, what are YOU willing to do to reverse your health issue..?" This puts the responsibility back on them. If I don't hear an 8 or higher in their answer, I tell them, "I don't think I can help you at this point." If they say, "9 or 10", I say how much time do you need from me. I have too many people that will do what ever it takes. Not everyone completely heals, but a large percentage greatly improve. I don't have the time to listen to someone who only wants to bitch about feeling sick. If they are truly looking for a solution and are at a place of being receptive to healing information, I have all the time in the world. It's tough for someone to face this reality when I would love to save the world. But, as you know, saving the world is not my responsibility. It is the responsibility of everyone to remain receptive to information that may help.
This is perfect. Wish I would have read this 10 years ago! It took me 8-9 years of giving without impact for me to get.
This is where the person needs to engage in some work around Resistance. Many times people genuinely believe they want change, but are unaware of the things that are in the way. With therapy, they can be helped to uncover these areas of resistance and melt them away in order to clear the road for real change. Therefore I don’t abandon people who are “ unwilling“ to change but take a couple of steps back and help them discover what’s in the road.
@@sallymitchell6423 "you can lead a horse to water but you cannot make them drink" and you cannot make them look at the world in a different way unless they are willing to do what is necessary.. Doing it for them only makes you an enabler. On a scale of 1-10, what are YOU willing to do to change this..? Real change comes when we learn to do and do to learn. I don't abandon people either, I simply don't push until they make a commitment to do the work.
Rob K I don’t believe I’m disagreeing with you, and didn’t mean to infer that you abandon people. I just mean that there can be reasons why someone is invested in the issue they say they’d like to change, that they aren’t even aware of. So there is an extra piece of work here to help them uncover what this resistance is, if they want to do that work.
I have been a relationship coach for over 25 years and one of the first videos I have couples watch is Brene Brown’s Ted Talk... I’m going to add this video to. Love is such an act of courage and vulnerability because your heart will be broken... what am I going to do with it?
Her answer after 44:00. Seriously, important reminder about who you value, with whom you share your vulnerable self. We don’t have to share with everyone every time. Also boundaries. Be consistent, for your own sake. It literally changes relationships be it to be healthier or end unhealthy ones.
"I'm choosing to take something important to me, and make it vulnerable to your actions!" Beautiful! I love it. I have to research this man more.
It's a blessing how that crowd accepted her so lovingly and warmly. That must feel great for her
From my experience, I wouldn't know, ma'am. Have a good night.
Damn it, that Roosevelt quote gets me. Every-single-time. Thank you Brené 💚
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Love this lady! She is a gift .♥️
Isn't she ? Brene has opened something up inside of me which is freeing. I love listening to her and learning new resourceful ways to think and live .
15:08 "...our emotions take the first crack at making sense of something..." Wow, (to me) that is the whole ballgame right there. If more of us were aware of that, and could detach from the moment long enough to remember it, oh what a world it would be. Thanks to Brene and you both!
Hi - LOVE that this is shot in black and white.
Like a metaphor - basic, simple, no embellishment, straightforward.
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This interview is life changing, will definitely be re-watching and taking notes. Brene is out of this world! Chase, thank you for this :)
"I'm choosing to make something that is important to me vulnerable to your actions." This is trust.
Last year I had to watch this a couple times for one of my classes. This year I'm to watch it again with a new perspective. so to start I went over what I wrote last year and I want to just write some of the things I wrote that stood out to me and the quote or concept here that brought me to that.
"Perfection is preventing you from being who you are meant to be" - We are not meant to be perfect and that is great. It means we can always be learning and growing. It means that you today is a you that has never existed & will never exist again. Embrace the moment of you.
"Boundaries are key in open and honest and clean communication" - It is considered selfish to put your needs before others but they are needs for a reason. So be selfish because why will others stand up for you if you don't stand up for yourself.
I'll update with more later should more stick out to me, but this video is honestly so inspiring, and I want to send a thank you to my professor, although I doubt she'll see this, for introducing me to this video, but also for being such an incredible person who has helped me out so, so much.
I love how she says "I'm making up that...".
Thank you for sharing these! another amazing one!
+Shorouk A I use this at home and it's very helpful / powerful
***** I need to start working on that!
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I've apparently been living under a rock and only discovered you recently through Marie Forleo. I LOVE BB & MF, but I wanted to say that I am def a fan of yours now, as well. You are REALLY good at interviewing, with a great balance of sensitivity, curiosity, humor, and a very authentic presence. Great work, Chase! :)
3/2/2020 As I’m watching this right at the point where Brene’ is telling of a speaker (with authority in the arena) completely tear down a person without using a name. This happened to me twice in church. One was a pastor had called me into his office (with my 3 year old) to tell me how shitty I am because my heart with GOD is charismatic... Then on Sunday morning he gets up to the pulpit an speaks of a “certain woman” in the congregation blah, blah, blah.... The next was years later and another pastor writes a letter to every member, both near and far, to tear me apart....700 letters. I was at this church because I loved the people and GOD said to be there... I’ve since been basically around the world and visited (and ministered) in many churches and figured out if I’m not welcome, drop their stuff and keep going. I’ve been happy in a recovery ministry where I teach “Who you are in Christ” and am so wonderfully accepted. I’ve been listening to you for a few years and thank you for all you share. I like you bunches!!!
Wow, I have never heard of Brené but she is awesome! I'm an emerging artist / business own; I struggle with the emotions and fears of not being good enough yet. She touches on so many issues that I go through everyday, I'll have to watch this again. Thank you Chase and Brené for doing this interview.
Way to rock Chase! These are awesome. For me, the negative comments are a sign that you're doing something right as a creative or an entrepreneur. Although we want to fight, we need to realize that these negative comments are signs that we had the courage to put ourselves out there and that's why we're here - to create.
This is so cool!
I think Brene has a really good way of calling out things that are painful, but she does it in such an empathetic way that I don't feel pain.
I think Chase is being vulnerable on this show, by being his authentic self. It's awesome.
Thank you for creating your art and helping others create. Would be great to hear more on your philosophy/ideas about art.
+Mind Unlimited Thank you for the encouragment
Why werent we taught all that growing up? Thankyou guys this is truly transformational!
Just watching this Chase, I am so grateful to have found this. I love Brene Brown, such an inspiration for me to push myself and has helped me get my business to grow due to being vulnerable and not listening to those giving ‘helpful advice’. I really love your presentation style and can’t wait to watch more of your work. Thank you!
Thx Kathlene. Brené is simply the best ✨
"he or she who has the greatest capacity for discomfort, rises the fastest" (48:52). . . "the two most powerful words when someone is in shame or in pain: me too, I get it, you're not alone" (59:09) - this is exactly why I write honestly and vulnerably in the comments section, because what I am most hoping for is to hear back "me too; I get it; you're not alone in this experience/ perception/ struggle.. . . "do not ascribe to malice, that which can be ascribed to ineptitude" - "the hypothesis of generosity: what's the most generous assumption I can make about this person's words, actions or behaviors" (1:05:13)
25:30 reckoning w/ emotions
34:20 creativity, loveability, divinity
34:33 just because someone didn't understand / put value on sth I created doesn't change its worth/ my worth.
34:42 no one is ordained to take our story of faith, our story of spirituality & say it's real/ not / based on who we are/ who we love / what we believe in.
34:56 our loveability, just because someone doesn't have the CAPACITY/ the ABILITY to love us, doesn't change our loveability. IT DOESN'T MAKE US UNLOVEABLE just because someone couldn't love us. Is there sth about me that's UNLOVEABLE? & That is profoundly dangerous narrative.
35:30 when u own the story u get to write the ending.
35:40 I am the author of my life. I will decide how the story ends.
37:30 I hear u. I get u how u want to protect me. I'm good. Thanks
39:30 tell you're 25 year old self:
All the PLEASING, PROOVING & PERFECTING of what you're doing is getting in the way of what you're supposed to be doing. U will, can never live the life u want to live & not disappoint other people. U'LL NEED TO CHOOSE NOW. You're gonna pissed some people off. You're gonna let down some people. Not everybody going to like everyone.
48:40 he/ she who has the GREATEST Capacity For Discomfort RISES the FASTEST!
50:35 the only thing experience gives you is a little grace, that whispers in your ear, that you've been in the dark before, u know you're way through. Stay in the dark, it's gonna be ok.
51:10 I KNOW THAT I WILL COME OUT OF THIS!
53:20 2 important seeds in the arena are #selfcompassion & #empathy
58:10 antidote for shame is #empathty
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I have watched this video three times so far. You and Brene are an amazing combo. Thank you! Both of you! Brene has changed my life! And I'm so excited for Braving The Wilderness!!
I'm on my 3rd time watching as well... love this!
It a blessing that you have friends like this. God bless you.
this conversation was such a gift to me. Was being particularly hard on myself. You helped me remember I was human, in the best way. blessings!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Only 30 min in and I'm already so blown away!
Hey Chase thanks for posting this... Brené Brown is unbelievably incredible. Hats off to you for recognizing genius.
I feel like every time I watch one of these episodes I'm getting a peek inside a higher level of success. Like I'm being mentored by these people. Thank you Chase Jarvis for 'Daring Greatly'!
What an education wish I’d known this is a child what a difference it would’ve made in my life. Thank you Berne and Chase
To me this is the true gospel, the teachings of Brene Brown. I have been so healed by this woman's work, she has so much wisdom and guidance that frees me a little bit more everyday. 35:00 is so powerful for me having been abandoned by both my parents by the time I was eight and realizing at age 42 that I will never have the kind of relationships with either parent that I've always dreamed of. I now know that's okay and I know understand that who my parents are and were has nothing to do with me or who I am.
Brene Brown is the voice of my heart. I felt her work so close to me bcz I'm struggling these issues and its amazing to have words for that feelings. Hopefully meets you one day dr. Brene Brown
OMFG Chase, I just want to tell you how much I LOVE YOU for saying "Why has it been so damn long for ANYBODY to give us these tools?!" Brene impacted my life so severely that I'm living a life that's a drastic 180 from where I was. I ALWAYS think what you asked. How frustrating it is to even think about why we don't have these conversations. Fear of being vulnerable sure loves to hijack our lives. Or, well, we let it I suppose. Why did this video make me cry?! Gosh that Brene Brown how I love her.
+Angelica Mata thanks for sharing ;)
Angelica Mata, me too! My therapist told me to watch one of her talks and my life has never been the same but in the best of ways.
I can not express just how much this talk has helped me with understanding the importance of expressing my feelings around myself and others! And how to do so in a way that is kind, understanding, empathetic and with healthy boundaries! Amazing! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
Love that Misha 👍
Listening from Zimbabwe,Brene Brown is awesome
Now I see why Chase talk about Brené Brown so much. Awesomely insightful interview. Thank you!
+Toronto Real cause she's simply the best!
I absolutely love this conversation. Wow! I totally found my soul in my art. I can soul fly through my creative process and feel more alive in 4 hours of painting allowing my heart to flow on canvas, then a lifetime of living in my daily reality.
I am so grateful this video exists! Thank you Brene and Chase and both of your teams for your bad ass bravery! It honestly means the world to me
So LOVE Brene Brown....I feel like "OMG somebody freaking gets me!!!!"
BRENE I ACTUALLY LOVE YOU NO KIDDING
Nikko Tan I totally have a girl crush on her!
Probably the very best synopsis of her book and the major icieas that are life changing, and thus world changing. I've listened to this multiple times and keep recommending this to others. AND I want the t-shirt. Big thanks to both Mr. Jarvis and Brene Brown.
I could watch this interview a thousand times and still learn something every time. So love all the interviews and very thankful for sharing.
Cynthia Palouian Yes!
I've watched Brene's Ted Talks several times and every time I see them with new eyes because I have evolved, healed and understand more than I did the time before. Suggestion: read/listen to Brene's book Daring Greatly. All of her books are great, but if I had to choose only one, I'd pick this book. Kicked me in the teeth. Rereading it now.
Love what Chase said, "I feel I am too old not to know that... " How many times been there
this interview hit right at home! wow! thank you for the upload and introducing me to Brene Brown.
Thank you this interview. Love Brene Brown's work on vulnerabilities because we have always been taught that its a weakness and in reality its a strength that we all possesse. I discovered Chase through Gary Vee and I have to say I love his authenticity and his realness when doing these interviews. Keep up the great work Chase!
This was the most impactful and insightful podcast I have ever heard. Here we are several years later and nothing tops this episode . outstanding work Chase & Brene, thank you !!💕💕
Amazing. Love love love these Chase Jarvis. Brene Brown is my hero. I think we are super good friends from a previous life and she just doesn't remember. Thanks for hosting these. I sit here and edit my work and listen to you and your guests and gather so much invaluable information. Thank you for creating a platform for all of us to benefit form. :-)
The bless your heart thing is a perfect example of what Brene talks about. Where she's from it has that negative meaning but where I'm from there seems to be no malicious intent (said to someone who's sweet or struggling with something, it's a very casual thing to say in passing), therefore a Texan might interpret that in a negative way even if the intention of the person who said it was good.
This is so freaking amazing. Thank you for having her on. I was searching for Brene and found this interview and halfway through hit the subscribe button. Can't wait to watch other interviews as well. So powerful for me!
appreciate the sub. Brené is incredible. Always eye opening to chat with her. If you liked that interview, you might like this one: ruclips.net/video/kAk4cwjvJ0A/видео.html
Living big - so honest Brene! I love it. You get deep, deeper than we ever thought we could. I want to share this with everyone. The work you put into this I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart. Thank you for sharing your learning experience and opening up to the whole world honestly. This is rare and you were brave enough to go there for yourself and then share it with all of us!
This was GOOOOOOD FOOOOD MANNN. I have 1 audible credit left and I have to get this book!!! This is such a breath of fresh air. Thank you for this Chase.
I could not think of a better way to spend it. Truly a game changer. 🚀🔥⚡️
Thank you Chase for having this show and for inviting the incredible Bren'e Brown. I absolutely love listening, watching and experiencing the conversations between yourself and Bren'e. I am captivated and mesmerised and come out of it so much more emotionally enriched and grateful. I look forward to many more . By the way, did you ever get those T shirts made ? I would love to purchase some .
Needed this since I am a guest speaker on Saturday. Thank you so much for sharing this! Guess the timing of watching this was a nod from the universe 😊💛✨
💯. hope the talk went well 🙌🏼
@@ChaseJarvis it did thank you so much! I quoted Brene because vulnerability truly is, showing up, being seen when there are no guarantees. I am challenged with anxiety and PTSD but it’s not who I am and I am finally living beyond the fear. Thanks for all you do 🙏
Finally I hear about this "Bless you heart"saying which drives me ...:-)) Have lived in Dallas for almost 20 years, came from Europe and always perceived this saying as condesceding. Typical bible belles responses when they don't want to feel pain and to go into place of compassion, but feel obliged to say something. 56th minute: funny, especially coming from Brene, who is a Texan. Thank you!
I'm amazed, this was so good! I was thinking during the video, this is gold! then I thought it a little bit more and I said to myself, I don't care about gold, it's overrated, there's very little real value to gold. What I just witness, this is water, water is indispensable. So yes, this video is like fresh water. Thanks Chase for making this happen and thanks René Brown for all the tools and thoughts and magnificent quotes.
Thank you both for this INCREDIBLE conversation! There's so much that I needed to hear. "When the pupil is ready..."
Glad you came across it at the right time 👍🏼
Love her she is so raw and amazing
Thank you so much for sharing this Chase and Brene. This was truly amazing and so helpful. Just bought all of Brene's books. I should listen to my sister sooner, she's the social worker and told me how amazing Brene is over and over.
“Bless your heart” CAN mean “I know this is hard for you, but I can’t relate”. It’s not necessarily bad, sometimes it’s just true. Mean people say it to be mean; nice people say it when they don’t know what else to say but they want you to know they sympathize. That’s what my mama taught me anyway.
The largely holistic model that Brene is deploying resonates with me. I am still working through the conversation that came up around making the assumption that people are doing their best. While I agree with the generosity of spirit that her husband extends in order to move through the world more freely; his lived-experience is one of white/male privilege that overwhelmingly ensures that his embodiment will never be criminalized by racism, sexism, or other systems of oppression. I would love it if her research took into account the sociological structures that have historically functioned to expressly place a hyper-valuation on the lives of persons who present as white; while at once placing a devaluation on the lives black and brown embodied persons.
This is a huge ask of people whose lives loom in the balance with every traffic stop, trip to the grocery store, or even while attending church. This advice presents a deadly naivete when we ask marginalized persons to assume generosity; while simultaneously having histories of oppression exacted upon their very being.
The distinction I am making is not simply a nuance to the conversation, it requires having the conversation in an entirely different manner. If we don't interrogate this premise, we are asking people who are experiencing racism/sexism/homophobia to sanction their oppression by "thinking good thoughts"
I'd like to hold this space for further conversation...
Absolutely, wisdom comes with age. We are all unique so we need to accept ourselves own yourself. Thoughts, actions consequences and people react you have no control of their reaction.
Well said 🙌🏼
“I come out swinging!” 😁😆
I knew Brene had a pugilist archetype!
Seriously, i admire her. Good to hear humans speak humanity!
Another brilliant interview with Brene, love them both!
+Andreea Macoveiciuc she's a personal fav too !
1:08:14 Wow! I had to pause this because it is just so powerful!!
Both of you guys are legendary ;) great conversation
This was so amazing!!! I have shared it with my whole network.
Oh my gosh I love her! This interview was so well timed for me. What an inspirational woman!
+Ashley Marie SAME!
Agree and DITTO
Please I want a ‘bless your heart’ T-shirt. 🙏🏻💜🤩
I love this talk!! Yes, it so hurts when someone inflicts pain
Excellent. I could not stop taking notes.
I got chills so many times listening to her again :D Thanks CJ !
+Anelia Stoyanova brene goes to 11 !!!
I just watched this, this this crazy cool times 10. it's reinforced in me things that i've only just learn about myself. the insight to common situations in life know I have a greater awareness of things. so thankyou Chase of being creative.
So powerful. I am full of gratitude to have found your interview Brene Brown. Thank you so much Chase. Thank you Brene. :)
Thanks Chase for the interview.
amazing interview.. i have been relistening to this one for a week ... alot of wakeup calls .. thank you Chase
LOVE this interview!
Brene is just freaking awesome! Thanks for sharing.
Thank you Brené and Chase❤️
Thank you so much !
oh no, is gary's one also going to be the old one, he's got so much good stuff right now.. I appreciate everything you put up chase, i just got excited about hearing from brene again..
Hahahah no. This is Brene's second time on the show… And the FIRST time I started thinking about putting 30 days of genius together… Gary show is definitely newer ... Just filmed last week.
+Chase Jarvis oh yes, i just remembered you had a little sneak peak video, sorry , can't wait to see it :)
This was sooooo good. Well needed, thank you so much for sharing.
Excellent conversation. Thank you. Please Always name the book & more than once. your interview was in 2016 it is now 2021 & i am interested in the book you were talking about though Brene Brown has probably written more.
Great Interviewing Skills! Omg I was thinking « I’m not a creative”. She blows me away with the explanation!
I'm a photographer too and I'm going to watch every single episode! Thanks Chase!
Thank u💚💚💚
I love Brene Brown's work! And I see a lot of similarities in what she's saying to the book "Crucial Conversations". Very useful handles for managing ourselves.
Alex you are Chinese. You have a very difficult time being vulnerable and honest. You guys are emotionally constipated a Famous Chinese person explained this to us in a room full with people. And in order to be really great leader , you have to be able to be truthful to your followers and to the world. Helping loving caring is higher then always winning. Love is true strength & power not force & money.
Hi myassessment adres (what name would you prefer me to call you?),
I am Chinese, and while a huge part of Chinese culture is pervasive within us, our local (country) culture also have a fairly large influence on how we respond with vulnerability. I'm also a Christian from a cell-based church that promotes community and accountability, and I'm fortunate to have a community that is able to hold each other truthfully, and gently.
I agree with your statement on the need to be truthful, and the need to be loving and caring. I believe in coaching for compassion, rather than for compliance.
I'm wondering though if your statements seem to imply that all people who are Chinese are naturally emotionally constipated, and favouring winning above helping, loving and caring. If that were the case, I would caution against stereotyping. :)
If you haven't already, do come by Singapore one of these days to see what our culture is like. We are largely Asian, but we are also a melting pot of cultures.
Alex Wong So you have been an upgraded person because of The Lord, that is a good thing, to hold with clear rules, righteousness, fairness just like what the bible teach us to deal with daily problems, with eachother ,tough life situations, respect God and His rules. When we follow the strict rules, we can stay vulnerable at the same time. Being vulnerable is just like dare to look at, all kinds of emotions, that all different kind of people are truthfully facing at certain moments in life. Then I think the Bible is even better then Brené her work. She only mentioned one little small aspect about how to deal with our weaknesses, new situations and the human path of learning process, but Gods Bible teach us even more topics like life is bigger then what you can see, feel and measure AND winning in the name of The Lord is actually a good thing, be the best you can be is encouraged, fulfill your Life 's purpose & Gods purpose is a good thing . Maybe someone can clarify The Christian teachings and principles and do research on that. What about you Alex ? You are good in writings allready, you can do it ! But some of the Chinese ancient teachings & wisdom is also just like what God tried to point out to us. like Love & Justice is sometimes the same thing, and that is what a true leader needs to face. Great point Alex I would love to visit your church & community one day. Thanks for asking. Ohh I forgot one thing, To summerize her work is : it is ok not to succeed the first times, just keep on trying to do good but while trying stay in balance between your mind and your heart and have compassion for yourself and others who are hard working . Having compassion is NOT a weakness.
Surviving is a victory
Great interview. This put what i've known and experienced into perspective. Thanks Brene' Brown and Chase Jarvis.
+Michael Toles so glad you love it Michael!
I need to listen to this daily.
Thumbs up I like the fact it you sound confident in what you’re speaking of I’d like to listen to the words unsaid rather than the words for the words and said have my meeting thanks for the insight
That last part where Brenè talks about God saying that person you are thinking of is doing the absolute best they can, is one of the points in my live that is causing me so much shame. A few years ago I stepped out of a marriage with someone that suffers from Bipolar disorder and anxiety disorder. The reason being that I couldn't cope anymore with everything, I wasn't strong enough to keep up with the empathy and support. It was costing me pieces of myself to stay in the marriage. However I know that he absolutely did the best he could every step of they way and it makes me feel shame so many time for feeling I bailed and I let him down. That it was selfish of me to step out and move on with my life. Not quite sure yet how to get out of that feeling and moving beyond that....
Applying what I have personally learned from Brene 's work I want to encourage not only to have empathy and compassion for your ex but also for yourself. know that you also were trying your hardest. Everyone has their limits and that's okay. I hope this helps you even a bit. My heart is with you.
sounds challenging and a brave step you took. Perhaps see it as a Boundary issue. Brene has some great things to say on boundaries. Basically learning what is true for you and saying, this is okay with me this is not okay. Each person has their own connection to Source. You're not responsible of BE*ing Source for another person.
great conversation- love the insight: why aren't we giving this information/these tools to young people- so early on!
So many useful tools for personal happiness and great relationships.
Loving everything about your show and about Rene Brown
+Jaydoire B #hugs ;)
Jaydoire B
I want to say this because you made that opportunity by saying MC square equals and I want to say that I came across a video of a letter that Albert Einstein wrote his daughter and he explain the true meaning of that this is going to really hit home I believe, and that is love love is the greatest force on the planet actually is the greatest force within us and he knew that at the time that he wrote that equation people wouldn’t understand it or even except it had he explained it thoroughly so I wanted to put that out there for those people who wanna make that connection because it ties into vulnerability and also ties into self-love it’s really beautiful when things come full circle and you have a better understanding of how they truly are as opposed to how you’re told there’s supposed to be
I'm just admiring your ability to make friends
Facing another day is a victory
So good I had to listen x 2!
Thank you, Thank you and THANK YOU! Both you and Brene must live in my head! I feel normal! :)
Totally added this to my book 'wish list'.
Waking up is a victory