queer journey, dating, graphic novel and living in NYC ☁ let's catch up! Q&A

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  • Опубликовано: 11 июл 2024
  • from my gay journey, dating, feeling impostor syndrome and comparing to other artists, to my fav books, burn-out and motivation, all of it and more in this big-ol Q&A
    0:00 intro and welcome
    0:45 announcements
    1:36 about this Q&A
    2:31 GAY STUFF AND DATING
    2:40 are you dating someone now?
    3:06 thoughts on your queer journey
    7:23 how did you know you were gay
    7:44 how does it feel to be out
    8:23 what's your perfect date
    9:37 you're the essence of gay, how did we miss it
    9:45 MENTAL HEALTH
    9:49 how's your mental health? how are you?
    11:45 do you feel you're living similarly to how your ideal self would?
    13:58 how do you deal with impostor syndrome
    15:09 how to turn around a bad day
    16:18 how to deal with burn out? how do you stay motivated/inspired
    22:10 do you compare yourself with other artists?
    24:20 how did you know you were depressed before asking your therapist
    25:04 ART PRACTICE AND FREELANCING
    25:11 podcast?
    25:45 do you think who you are influences you as an artist
    27:34 what projects are you working on right now
    28:20 would you work with a publisher again?
    28:57 advice on someone who's about to make a graphic novel
    30:58 do you get work from companies? or do you work on your own projects?
    31:56 how did you meet your art friends?
    33:07 MISCELLANIOUS
    33:12 what non-work related thing are you interested in
    34:14 fav thing about NYC
    35:15 how do you choose your new readings
    36:17 fav band/music these days
    36:55 argentinian living in london and now my spanish sounds weird
    37:52 book and podcast recommendations
    38:35 best books this year so far

    Things I mentioned in this video
    Sevilla Workshop
    lagaleriaroja.com/producto/wo...
    all my books as ebooks! (available WORLDWIDE!)
    wearenicehumans.com/product-c...
    CompHet (stands for Compulsory Heterosexuality)
    docs.google.com/document/d/e/...
    500 Greatest Albums 2003 (there's a more updated version)
    www.rollingstone.com/music/mu...
    Emmie's channel
    / emmie00
    Favorite books
    Volcano Lover, by Susan Sontag
    Middlesex, by Jeffrey Eugenides
    Americanah, by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
    Just Kids, by Patti Smith
    Best books of the year so far
    Frankenstein, by Mary Shelley
    Time is a Mother, by Ocean Vuong
    to keep track of what I'm reading you can follow me here
    app.thestorygraph.com/profile...
    / 14817232.fran_meneses_...

    PATREON
    For behind the scenes into all the projects I'm working on RIGHT NOW, more sketchbook tours, secret Q&As, podcast-newsletter AND illustration club YAAY!, support my work on Patreon! :)
    / frannerd
    what's patreon goo.gl/xYxMm1
    FOLLOW ME
    ALL social media Twitter, instagram @frannerd
    Online shop wearenicehumans.com
    Portfolio www.frannerd.cl
    VIDEO CREDITS
    Thank you so so much to super Kevin for writing the spanish subtitles! We loooove you Keviin!
    All my music is from Epidemic Sound
    Camera
    all videos filmed until December 2019 were filmed with a Canon EOS m with a 22mm lens (REALLY recommend if you're starting out, although it doesn't have a manual focus mode, it's cheap and the quality is great)
    Now I'm using a Canon EOS M6 mark II with a 22mm lens
    I use DaVinci Resolve for editing!
    Things you don't know about this video: yes the word Lesbianhood does exist

Комментарии • 313

  • @FranMeneses
    @FranMeneses  2 года назад +90

    this goes without saying but ebooks are available WORLDWIDE! : - )

    • @AerissMoon
      @AerissMoon 2 года назад +1

      Yaasss! :3

    • @ArtfulShelley
      @ArtfulShelley 2 года назад

      We need to change the story. Why is having self-esteem arrogant? Why is recognizing a healthy mental state selfish? It isn't. Great work! Keep going, keep growing. 💚Jose Gonzalez is wonderful. Try HOZIER. So so good. Wasteland Baby!

    • @ArtfulShelley
      @ArtfulShelley 2 года назад +1

      We need to change the story. Why is having self-esteem arrogant? Why is recognizing a healthy mental state selfish? It isn't. Great work! Keep going, keep growing. 💚
      Jose Gonzalez is wonderful. Try Hozier. So so good. Wasteland Baby!
      and also obsessed with Elvis! the movie which comes out 6/24. Cannot wait. I get chills. lol

    • @Mrspumpkins
      @Mrspumpkins 2 года назад

      Había querido comprar un ugly sketchbook desde que salió, pero no lo enviaban a mi país. Que bueno que ya puedo tenerlo, aunque sea digital jajajaja. Gracias!

  • @afritz55
    @afritz55 2 года назад +88

    "Envy tells you what you want" - Fran Meneses. My new favorite quote! I'm obsessed with fountain pens right now. I want them all!

  • @chronicfish
    @chronicfish 2 года назад +154

    *Lesbian* comes from the name of the Greek island, Lesbos, where Sappho was born (as many of you know), so it's a shame that there's such a negative connotation with the word. As a lesbian (and actually from Lesbos, Greece), I am now proud of my ancestry, but it took me some time. I understand completely where you're coming from Fran, as I'm sure many others from the LGBTQ+ community do. Happy Pride month, everyone!❤🏳‍🌈

    • @carlottak4496
      @carlottak4496 2 года назад +8

      Growing up in the 80’s, it was such a strong word. Even if porn was not so ‘mainstream’ and accessible, the word was sadly associated with that.
      I remember the moment I chose to stop worrying about that and how I loved to feel connected to Sappho (I studied Ancient Greek and Latin in high school, so it was really a strong feeling) and some kind of … idk, legacy? An intellectual bond born from the celebration of how we love.
      Happy Pride 💛

  • @thecampgroundlady4017
    @thecampgroundlady4017 2 года назад +27

    Your episode was a great comfort for me. I'm a 40 + Queer women and married to a man with a family. We are partners in business, so this makes life harder to come out. I love this man and my family. I don't feel like I'm living a lie, but sometimes I feel alone.

  • @Delphadae
    @Delphadae 2 года назад +152

    Responding to you talking about discovering your sexuality at a later age: Very recently, I discovered that I bisexuality (at the age of 28). Still not out to my family or most of my friends...(and some I may never come out, because of religion x.x) there's no shame in discovering these things later in life. ❤

    • @notlukebenson
      @notlukebenson 2 года назад +6

      In a way, how exciting to learn something so core about yourself at a later point in your life. Some people stay the same their whole lives.

    • @LuciaCS
      @LuciaCS 2 года назад +2

      Same here girl. I am also 28 years old from Peru. Thank u so much for saying that it's not late to discovery new things later in life, it's makes my day

    • @irrelevantes
      @irrelevantes 2 года назад

      Same here, also at 28 :D better late than never. By the way also can't tell my family because of religion.

    • @slimmeyBabe
      @slimmeyBabe 5 месяцев назад

      Iam 33 and still not quite sure. Especially because Iam in a relationship with a man, we are planning to start a family and now iam confused, asking myself if i need to discover this side of me 😢

  • @marguiWaterland
    @marguiWaterland 2 года назад +16

    Dear human that's reading this, we may not know each other, but I wish you all the best in life!✨

    • @BBaaaaa
      @BBaaaaa 2 года назад

      The same to you, hope you're doing well ❤️🌼

  • @sunmorales1387
    @sunmorales1387 2 года назад +46

    Fran, casi lloré al escucharte decir que estas orgullosa de ti misma, todos lo estamos y es increíble verte bien, feliz y viviendo tus sueños 💖

  • @alexandralobert5231
    @alexandralobert5231 2 года назад +20

    Hi Fran, I have been following you since the Berlin days and I just want to say, I think you are such a beautiful, intelligent, interesting, funny and precious individual. I always relish in watching your videos. Thank you so much for making and posting them.
    Also while I think it's awesome that your graphic novels are now available as ebooks, I want to say, I have been waiting for years to be able to buy them as books, because I love books, and I keep the hope that they will be available some day.
    Congratulation on all your achievements ❤️

  • @Anaieu
    @Anaieu 2 года назад

    I'm so glad that you are proud of yourself. You make me emotional with that answer. Thank you for being so sweet and loving Fran

  • @danielnevescotta7940
    @danielnevescotta7940 2 года назад

    Fran, you and your videos have such a calming effect on me ♡
    Its been roughly a year since I last watched one of your videos and I also had some drastic and abrupt changes in my life since then.
    Seeing you talk about how you've been and your journey of self discovery helped me ground myself again and reflect on how to find my way back to my own self discovery journey. It kinda worked like meditation.
    Thanks Fran, you are lovely!

  • @anyaarcane3809
    @anyaarcane3809 2 года назад

    Thank you Fran! Your channel makes me feel so comfortable, inspired, and less alone. I put your videos on while I draw, or when I need inspiration

  • @johkim1
    @johkim1 2 года назад

    Fran, thank you for being you and for generously sharing your life struggles and experiences. I haven't even listened halfway through your video and I can feel my heart opening up and a well of emotions pouring out. Listening to you while I work on my own illustrations always helps to lift my spirits and want to be a kinder, more empathetic human being, especially to myself which I so easily forget. I'm so happy to see you flourishing in your life journey.

  • @inkseer
    @inkseer 2 года назад +2

    I really needed this warm, comforting catch up. I'm happy that you're living as your ideal self, Fran. I need to take a lot more steps in my own journey to get near that state and it's inspiring to hear you talk about these things. Hope you have a great Pride!

  • @Kitahand
    @Kitahand 2 года назад +2

    Dang you explain yourself so eloquently, I can so easily relate to so much of this T-T thank you for putting yourself out here for our benefit, Fran

  • @hannah.paints
    @hannah.paints 10 месяцев назад +1

    I'm binging on your videos, in the middle of the lowest point of my deppresion curve you know...and you're like a warm sunset in the autumn... I'm bathing in your positivity and creativity and love. Thank you for sharing your life with us here! 🧡🧡🧡🧡

  • @jaimeo2312
    @jaimeo2312 2 года назад +14

    What a lovely video, thanks Fran! My current obsession is trying to find my own colour palette. Haven't found it yet, but hopefully I will soon.

  • @lera_myatka
    @lera_myatka 2 года назад

    thanks Fran for lovely q&a, i'm obsessed with knitting, i started at january and can't stop!

  • @ilared
    @ilared Год назад +3

    What am I obsessed about in this period? I randomly landed onto your YT channel 3 weeks ago and since then a strong urge to grab markers and paper came to me. I didn't draw since I finished high school in 2006. But watching your videos is so calming (love the illustrations, the jazz music + organic sounds of things, yet inspiring, that I started drawing again from January 1st! Thanks a million

  • @_Rohan
    @_Rohan 2 года назад

    Haven't checked in on your videos for a while and I'm positively surprised to find that you seem much more lively and funny these days! You were a comfort space to me for a long time and I"m glad you're doing well! uwu

  • @happylittlepaperco
    @happylittlepaperco 2 года назад

    I wish I could like this video multiple times! I love hearing from you Fran. You always share such great pearls of wisdom and everything you share is so relatable and makes me feel better about my own art/personal journey!

  • @drawninthefog
    @drawninthefog 2 года назад

    My latest obsession has been watching your entire back catalogue of videos (the ones spoken or subtitled in English) after finding your channel!
    Now that I'm caught up, I'm feeling very inspired to get drawing more and keeping my creative plant watered 💜

  • @tiny_flower
    @tiny_flower 2 года назад +2

    i just started listening to audiobooks and am listening to old favourites while making art or doing a puzzle! that's what has brought me joy recently! and thank u for this video!!!

  • @nanitorei91
    @nanitorei91 2 года назад

    Fran thanks for sharing with us!!!! I started going to therapy last year and slowly learned many things that you talk about in this video and you summarize it so well!!!!
    The concepts are so easy to forget. I specially like the one about jealousy/envy and how it's great to find out what you want.

  • @nanaulogia
    @nanaulogia 2 года назад

    i'm so obsessed with the band wallows, such a goodie, so close to my heart, also with the videos of paulygones, thanks for sharing so much Fran!

  • @corncobpipe4
    @corncobpipe4 2 года назад

    Tarot! Yes! I'd love to hear more about this! (Favorite decks, how you got interested in it, how you're teaching yourself, etc.) Awesome video! Loved it! 😍

  • @emilsepericles
    @emilsepericles 2 года назад

    aaaaa podría escucharte hablar todo el día. Extrañaba este tipo de videos!

  • @ChelseaLang
    @ChelseaLang 2 года назад +5

    I just reread Radio Silence for the bajillionth time and would highly recommend it -- it's a queer YA story about creativity and making something you love (a podcast, in this case).

  • @Karrismx
    @Karrismx 2 года назад

    Bravo Fran!! Loved and learned A LOT the mental health section!! Thank you for sharing your valuable experiences in such helpful and lovely way! P.D. You look beautiful and radiant!!

  • @sophiebradley8270
    @sophiebradley8270 2 года назад

    Took a break from watching RUclips for a little while, it's so nice to be back and to see that you've come out. Congratulations! Looking forward to your shop opening up again so I can buy something to support you 🙂

  • @tomkeundjona
    @tomkeundjona 2 года назад +1

    Thank you so much for this very honest Q&A! So fun to listen to you talk. My latest obsession is crocheting. I love it, it gives me all the peace and all the calm I didn’t know I needed. ☀️

  • @houkiboshi2128
    @houkiboshi2128 2 года назад +2

    Que lindo que Fran vuelvaaaa! y tu pelo está fantastico as usual ☀️☀️☀️

  • @gigichongart7687
    @gigichongart7687 2 года назад

    What a nice catch-up! I had such a great time listening to you while drawing :-) My latest obsession is talking to people who are different than me and trying to understand where their opinions and thoughts are coming from. Through that I also realize where my line of thoughts and assumptions originate! It's a scary but rewarding process of breaking down and rebuilding :)

  • @susanharkema2888
    @susanharkema2888 2 года назад

    Loved catching up with you. Feelings of resentment are my signal that I've let someone or something get past my boundaries.

  • @rez4437
    @rez4437 2 года назад +1

    Great video Fran! I always love seeing your videos. It brings me peace and encouragement for breaking away from my parents expectations and attempting a career change. As for my obsession it has to be the band Stand Atlantic right now I am just loving their music and personalities.

  • @cookie-kei
    @cookie-kei 2 года назад +1

    Hi Fran, happy pride from one lesbo to another! Thank you for keeping me company on my lunch break.

  • @lukehereart
    @lukehereart 2 года назад

    I just started going to therapy consistently and as a recovering people pleaser my self a lot of what you spoke about in this video resonated so so hard. Im saving this video to come back to and make notes. Wow, your self insight and reflection is absolutely inspiring. Congrats on being where you are 💪

  • @BlackAbsynthe
    @BlackAbsynthe 2 года назад +8

    Loved the video, so many interesting questions! My current obsession is building miniatures! I'm in small creative crisis in which I wanted a hobby to keep my hands occupied, but I didn't want the mental pressure of drawing/painting... So I found these miniature kits with instructions and such aaaand BAM! Obsessed.

  • @Elizabeth-mf3dn
    @Elizabeth-mf3dn 2 года назад

    SO much great advice just in general here!
    Im obsessed to decorate my new apartment!

  • @constanzaavello9420
    @constanzaavello9420 2 года назад

    te extrañaba muchoooo fran!! 💕

  • @shimransharp9632
    @shimransharp9632 2 года назад +1

    love this video. recently i've been working on remembering myself, and realising that until i got a smart phone when i turned 20, i used to read every single night before bed (instead of scrolling on my phone) and so recently been obsessed with rereading all my n.k jemisin books, the worlds she creates and the way she writes have been my only relief in these trying times. ALSO the webtoon After School Lessons for Unripe Apples!

  • @WX411
    @WX411 2 года назад

    I am obsessed with crocheting and also learning to read tarot cards!! Love this video Fran, you're great :)

  • @mlyon1476
    @mlyon1476 2 года назад

    Fran, I love your raw honesty about everything.
    My current obsession is rewatching Bleach in prep for the fall release of the final arc, and working on my illustrated childrens book.

  • @mcarlisle3559
    @mcarlisle3559 2 года назад

    ty for sharing~! my current obsession is probably this very specific kind of art style/composition? like a bordered illustration that's a lil rough, probably has a narrative, has a landscape, or the subject is small. idk what it is but it's a siren song for sure! ive been steadily collecting inspo and directing ideas so i can just make a bunch!

  • @chellykins
    @chellykins 2 года назад

    Not my eyes growing wide when you mentioned rewatching Gilmore Girls for the millionth time as I had just swapped to your video after watching my favourite comfort show for hours 🥲

  • @leschattesnoires2921
    @leschattesnoires2921 2 года назад

    Your videos are so incredibly relaxing and comforting! But also so interesting! You had so many good points in this video, several suggestions I’ll try to take with me. Now to my latest obsessions 🤩 astrology has been a long lasting one that gives me such joy, and along with it, astronomy is starting to grow as well. I’ve also got an obsession for “indoor” plants, and as I recently became the proud owner of a garden, my interests for plants is starting to extend to gardening as well. Then there’s tarot, and psychology is an everlasting one. 🥰

  • @starlightarcher1534
    @starlightarcher1534 2 года назад

    I loved this little insight into your life and thoughts

  • @Brishti8
    @Brishti8 2 года назад

    Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and feelings in this Q&A! I hope June has been treating you well ✨✨
    My current obsession has been nature! I went on a roadtrip around Western United States last month and visited several national parks. I've been in awe of all the sights, especially in the desert. Since returning from the trip, I've been making a point to go out on walks regularly and enjoy the local parks in my area.

  • @inkythoughts
    @inkythoughts 2 года назад +1

    your videos are always such a blessing

  • @nummy_nummers
    @nummy_nummers 2 года назад +1

    I've been watching you for such a long time Fran, and it makes me so happy to hear that you feel like you're the person you've always wanted to be ❤️ I just got Night Sky with Exit Wounds from my library because I heard Ocean Vuong's poetry is great, I'm looking forward to reading it. Also I'm going to visit Hastings soon and watched your guide video for some recommendations! Oh and I'm obsessed with baked oatmeal rn (and apparently also writing ridiculously long RUclips comments)

  • @melissalai8173
    @melissalai8173 2 года назад

    Fraaaan I loved this q&a, and always love hearing ur thoughts! listened to it while cooking my dinner :-)

  • @ClayDisarray
    @ClayDisarray 2 года назад +1

    Thanks for sharing, Fran! My latest obsession is Jessie Buckley and Bernard Butler's creative collaboration, particularly The Eagle and The Dove 🎵

  • @elena-danielatanasa6545
    @elena-danielatanasa6545 2 года назад

    Loved this video so much, thank you Fran! My two latest obsessions: hunting good vegan recipes and finding time to create something, anything, in my sketchbook 🤗

  • @michellethrossell3579
    @michellethrossell3579 2 года назад

    my latest obsession is taking care of myself. walking to places, cooking proper food, applying good skincare and resting even when i have a lot to do

  • @maggiejb4367
    @maggiejb4367 2 года назад

    Hi Fran! Thanks for this Q&A. I've realized something about the burnout while you mentioned it and it gave something to think about. Your advice about journaling seems the right for me so I'll try it. I shoulg go back to therapy. Thanks again

  • @infityrainbows
    @infityrainbows 2 года назад

    Thank you for the video! And answering your question, I have been obsessed with bts and kpop for so long now and I am also discovering that I really like to paint and I am trying to get better at it! Have a lovely weekend Fran

  • @alinaality4187
    @alinaality4187 2 года назад +2

    Muchas gracias por tomarte el tiempo de responder todo Fran ❣️ sos muy linda

  • @januamari
    @januamari 2 года назад

    So nice to see your face, Fran and thank you for this awesome video 💖 My obsession right now is to watch and notice all the little tiny bits in nature, like leafs or rocks or insects 🥰

  • @reemeiali
    @reemeiali 2 года назад +1

    Nice to catch up with you dear Fran 💓My current obsession is décor of my apartment's and hunting for furniture.

  • @Cristina-bv4el
    @Cristina-bv4el 2 года назад

    right on time for me (siesta time in spain haha) thank you for your honesty and closeness fran. wish you all the best!

  • @minelittlemoster
    @minelittlemoster 2 года назад

    Automatically started to follow both podcasts you recommended. :) I will listen to them starting today.
    I've been struggling with my creativity lately, as I moved countries and have not been financially stable for the past few months, so the things that usually make me happy, like drawing, illustration and even coffee (shocking and sad :D ) don't anymore. Feel very depressed lately.
    So my newest obsession is to grow in other creative ways, with the things already accessible to me, such as books, podcasts, cooking + helping others with their projects. Plus would love to find artists in Switzerland and connect, go to coffee and drawing dates.
    That way I can slowly get back on track with my online store and my art social media, which I've been putting on the back burner.
    Thank you Fran for sharing all of this! Truly an inspiration!

  • @vintagetechno
    @vintagetechno 2 года назад +1

    My current obsession is sashiko embroidery. It is so calming and reminds me to slow down and enjoy the process 🥰

  • @CamObligado
    @CamObligado 2 года назад +1

    Oh Fran, I loved your video as always. I can answer your question saying that my latest obsession is hi-fi music. I've been reading and watching a lot of videos about music and audio quality. About tape vs cd vs vinyl vs streaming, and current digital qualities and etc. So, even though I don't have a turntable, I've been buying a lot of CDs lately.

  • @Pipapisca
    @Pipapisca 2 года назад +1

    Amazing video ♡ I love that I have been watching your videos for so long and I feel like your growth helps me realize my own journey is going in a good direction.
    You are an artist but also a nice inspirational woman ♡ without becoming the "influencer" type, but more in a genuine way I feel influenced by you in a really pretty and kind way.
    Love you ~
    Edit: My latest obsession is a webtoon by Soonkki called After School Lessons for Unripe Apples. I love the art and the 2000's references and the story is really cute.

  • @NadaSerafimovic
    @NadaSerafimovic 2 года назад

    I'm loving this q&a... Thank you for this! I'm obsessed with living in nature and having a big garden with vegetables etc... So much to learn lol

  • @analimalimon.
    @analimalimon. 2 года назад

    My obsession is learning how to RUclips! :) Lovely video, I missed your YT Q&As! Thanks for this chatty video and have a lovely day

  • @ScottishOstrich
    @ScottishOstrich 2 года назад +1

    Hi from France and thanks again Fran for this lovely video and talk

  • @N0ASAURUS
    @N0ASAURUS 2 года назад +1

    your videos are really comforting and feel like a safe space and this one is just as lovely! my current obsession is actually art lol. It's been my passion for the last few years but I feel like I've been the most passionate about it now. I have this drive to get better while also enjoying studying and wanting to push my skills further to do be able to do what I want ! As someone who would love to write a graphic novel/comic one day, you're also a big source of inspiration to me and it plays into me being so passionate lately! wish you the best and happy pride month :))

  • @HooliganMomma
    @HooliganMomma 2 года назад

    Thank you for the video Fran....it's always a treat to see you especially Q&A!!! My latest obsession is NDE! Near death experiences!!!! xo

  • @sydneymartin8925
    @sydneymartin8925 Год назад

    I've been following you for years and hearing you say that you are the woman that you wanted to be ten years ago made me cry. You are a remarkable person and I'm so happy and proud of you :^)

  • @Lisa_Flowers
    @Lisa_Flowers 2 года назад

    Fran, you don't sound full of yourself at all! I'm so happy for you that you are the person you've always wanted to be. You should be unabashedly proud of yourself, because you worked hard and showed up for yourself when you needed to. And it paid off. I'm in my twenties, and I'm just like past you - feeling a million miles away from being the person I want to be. So you saying you made it there eventually feels very encouraging, like my current effort will pay off, and that I can appreciate who I am now as well.

  • @museyasmin
    @museyasmin 2 года назад

    I was so happy to see that you're also inspired by Emmie! She's lovely and made me want to read more. I'm definitely also obsessed with books right now - reading A Certain Hunger, The Poppy War and Night Sky in Exit Wounds (also Ocean Vuong!) at the moment. I'm also obsessed with ice cream because I just got my braces and I'm in pain lol

  • @findikussa
    @findikussa 2 года назад

    You’re so so inspiring, thank you! 🤍

  • @rebecabravo2263
    @rebecabravo2263 2 года назад

    Fran eres mi inspiración, tus videos me motivan a mejorar ❤ gracias por hacer este tipo de videos

  • @nematarot7728
    @nematarot7728 2 года назад +3

    Its so good to get an update from you Fran! And can I just say that your hair looks amazing? It does 💕 Lately I have been obsessed with learning about queer and especially Lesbian poets, and reading their poetry, of course. There are so many amazing women poets who were never included in my school curriculums (honestly a lot of American schools do not teach any of the classics at all.)
    Lately the poets I’ve been crushing on the hardest are Mary Oliver, Audre Lorde, and Edna St. Vincent Millay. I’ve also gotten a collection of lesbian poetry called “My Lover is a Woman, Contemporary Lesbian Love Poems edited by Leslea Newman” and I HIGHLY recommend it!
    I was only able to come around to identifying as a lesbian at around 28, and I’m 31 now, and I haven’t dated. Its been really hard as a romantically inclined person to not have relationships, but I’m going on this surprisingly romantic journey with myself and these poets through learning about their lives and legacies, struggles, loves, and scandals!!
    I also really recommend the podcast “History is Gay,” it has been incredibly validating and insightful, moreso than any other research I have done into the elements of queer history.

  • @jaramis24
    @jaramis24 2 года назад +8

    First off I want to say thank you for sharing you journey of self discovery. My friend actually shared your channel with me, because I am literally going through the same situation in my life. I am also 34 yrs old, recently broken up with a man and have really been questioning my sexuality and who I am as a person.. OOO and I also live in Brooklyn and i'm also hispanic lol !!!! Your videos have really helped me feel more okay with what is happening, but it totally agree with you, even in the times we live today, coming out later in life definitely feels much more difficult. You seem like such a cool person and would love to meet you one day if your would be up for it!

  • @kaitlynr9271
    @kaitlynr9271 2 года назад +1

    Hey Fran! We came out almost at the exact same time and I love hearing about how you're processing your queerness. It helps me feel less alone.
    Right now I'm reading the memoir "Greedy" by Jen Winston. It's a memoir reflecting on bisexuality/queerness and how Jen has navigated their queerness throughout their life. It's also partially set in NYC. It's funny and relatable- I really think you'd like it.

  • @MiMi_bicyclette
    @MiMi_bicyclette 2 года назад

    Hi Fran :D !! Always so fun to hear from you. I took screenshots of your book lists- thank you for sharing!! Lately I’ve been obsessed with flowers and landscaping! Every spring I get so excited to take walks around my neighbourhood (wow what a hard word to spell*) and see how everyone is tending to their front yards! This new passion of mine also serves as a reminder that I am now officialy an adult lol. I can add this to my list of adulty things I now enjoy such as tupperware and cleaning hacks 😅
    Warm regards,
    MM :)

  • @TirsasTales
    @TirsasTales 2 года назад +1

    My latest obsessions are: Taking time and actually slowing down, and slowly getting brave enough to make my own clothes.
    Been cuddling and petting and doting on my dog Juno while watching and listening to this video.
    Thank you Fran for another lovely video

  • @RipTheBreaks
    @RipTheBreaks 2 года назад

    Really loved listening to you talk about your sexuality. I'm 26 and have been comfy in my sexuality (I'm Bi) since I was really young, yet sharing this with others and talking about it freely is still hard. There is always this feeling of me not being "this" or "that" and needing to choose, so that's why it's hard to talk about it/be proud about it all the time.
    thanks for giving your insights on all things these things about life.

  • @misscelannea8661
    @misscelannea8661 2 года назад

    Fran! Me encantó tu vídeo! It's great to see talking so peacefully about your ups and downs in different ways. I'm obsessed with acrylic painting ✨ I'm depressed so experimenting with my art is crucial for feeling better. I hope you are fine ☺️ hugs from Spain 😚

  • @KalistaCampbell
    @KalistaCampbell 2 года назад

    My latest obsession is gardening. I’ve always loved it, but I’ve recently been doing a lot of reflecting and long story short, I’m finally allowing myself to become truly obsessed with something. It’s such a joy! It speaks to my love of making things look better, but us also teaching me to be patient ;)

  • @KomalNirwan
    @KomalNirwan 2 года назад

    Loving the vibe☺️

  • @reismaur
    @reismaur 2 года назад

    thanks so much for keeping us company, fran! I read just kids per your recommendation and am reading nuestra parte de noche, so i'm excited to check your reading list later!
    i'm actually OBSESSED rn with LOONA, it's a kpop group but a very odd one, with mysterious complex lore, highly developed and diverse aesthetics and they just participated in a reality tv competition and I fell in love with the girls as professionals too, the way they approach and talk about the work. also they seem to be very easygoing people with a collective spirit, you can see they care about each other and wish for everyone to do their best. I've liked them for a few years and it's one of the few kpop music I actually like, i actually got hooked on the concept, the lore and the MVs before liking the music. but discovering this more personal side of them is weird and cool, and fits really well with what you said about who the artist is as related to what their work turns out to be, and even knowing that they're portrayed in a strategic way bc of idol industry, they present much more neighborly than you average idol. if by chance you (or anyone) check them out, but are/is not sure if you want to go on a full journey, it might be best to watch the "LOONA the avengers of kpop" video here in youtube. it does contain spoilers so beware.
    sorry for this long ass comment but an obsession is an obsession lol

    • @reismaur
      @reismaur 2 года назад

      i should have led with that but the lore is very mahou shoujo, sailor moon-esque

  • @MelissaSue
    @MelissaSue 2 года назад +10

    I'm obsessed with making journals. Right now my twin sister and I are making twin 4th of July journals, our birthday. We're using the same exact supplies but not showing each other anything yet. It will be fun to see how they turn out in our different styles. We'll mail them to each other before the 4th and open them in a youtube video. LOL It's exciting!

  • @isoldebui4039
    @isoldebui4039 2 года назад +1

    Latest obsession : Entrapta from SheRa
    I adore her so much and feel exhilarated she exists as an example for me of a person.
    You’re wonderful

  • @Miyankochan
    @Miyankochan 2 года назад +5

    My latest obsession is meditation and transmuting fear into faith. Also, taking out the roots of my life-long negative programming and installing new ideas, thoughts and feelings in my consciousness :)

  • @gloriaherrera9876
    @gloriaherrera9876 2 года назад +23

    Every day you get through with depression you get a diploma. It can be extremely hard, and that's no small accomplishment.

  • @pandie2998
    @pandie2998 2 года назад +2

    I always love your videos. Current obsession, needle felting! It feels like such an old lady thing to be into but I love it so much. I’ve been filling my insta feed with fiber artists. Wishing you and everyone here a lovely day 😊

  • @rosamarijn4499
    @rosamarijn4499 2 года назад

    I'm currently obsessed with making art and the role of social media in my life. I feel that I'm at a point where I'm improving a lot at art. And I'm also having lots of ups and downs with liking and hating social media lol. Love meeting new people and having interaction with them. But I also hate how much time and attention social media takes.
    It was a lovely video Fran! I thoroughly enjoyed it 💞

  • @zzdanxd
    @zzdanxd 2 года назад

    love you Fran, you are amazing!

  • @edelgrane9375
    @edelgrane9375 2 года назад

    My current obsessions are tap dance and lindy hop! I finally have found a physical activity that I enjoy a lot and by the end of each week I can't wait for the lessons in the coming week

  • @liviafernandes9985
    @liviafernandes9985 2 года назад

    excellent video! my current obsession is definitely crocheting.

  • @Getsuyuki
    @Getsuyuki 2 года назад

    Thank you for yet another informative and heartfelt video about your experiences Fran! My current obsession is collecting records, which is not great for my wallet haha, but I just love putting on a record and listening to my favorite artists as a way to unwind. I recently got records from some of my favorite artists like Angus & Julia Stone and Angel Olsen.

  • @ItsThatJo
    @ItsThatJo 2 года назад +1

    This was an awesome video, Fran! Happy to hear you're doing well and enjoying life outside the closet! Your pointers on burnout and depression were very relatable and it's helping me understand why on Earth I've been so exhausted for months! I'm currently obsessed with Heartstopper (show + comics) and Young Royals! Have you watched these shows? Much love to you and happy pride!

  • @sofiaholmann
    @sofiaholmann 2 года назад +3

    This past week I have totally fallen in love with Anime and I am now obsessed with the new show "Spy x Family" - I have literally not laughed this much in years and I just love art and animation, so Anime is a whole new world to explore!
    Thanks, Fran, for sharing about your life and happy Pride Month!! ❤

  • @Cristina-bv4el
    @Cristina-bv4el 2 года назад +3

    Answering your question; HEARTSTOPPER. I'm sure you know it but omg i just can't with the great representation and nice friendships and relationships they show. The series, graphic novels, soundtrack, interviews... i need to move on but i just can't. Thank you for this nice peaceful time i spent watching this video

    • @FranMeneses
      @FranMeneses  2 года назад +3

      omg yeeeeees, I cried like a baby watching Heartstopper : ... )

    • @Cristina-bv4el
      @Cristina-bv4el 2 года назад

      @@FranMeneses aaaaa me too! the ten times i've watched it haha :_)

  • @beepbopboop7727
    @beepbopboop7727 2 года назад

    10 seconds in and I like you already.

  • @silviapaizan
    @silviapaizan 2 года назад

    My latest obsessions: 1) finding ways to move abroad and 2) anything related to learning Portuguese and Spanish. Your Patreon podcast is the best thing ever, btw! Not only for the content itself (which I love), but also for my Spanish comprehensible input practice :D

  • @amandacarolina9202
    @amandacarolina9202 2 года назад +3

    New obsession: write.
    I'm writing a fanfic (I feel a little bit shame), but is something that I'm loving to do. And I can say that I can write another texts so fast. I feel great!

  • @aguusfrias
    @aguusfrias 2 года назад +16

    I've cried multiple times throughout the video. You give so much hope for us young creatives