10 ways to be a better husband

[@BrettUllman1]

I have a new 10 part series called Men: Navigating Everything online now. Here is the link to the first video - ruclips.net/video/uQleqCg1CpA/видео.html

[@billiecole8770]

I have the most beautiful, amazing, wonderful, wife in the world and am always trying to be a better husband for her. This is all good advice but I am hoping to find advice that would bring my wifes happiness to the next level. There are no words to express how much I love her.

[@chalfontelark9882]

All love brother. God is is the greatest!

[@danwilliams1920]

Best thing you can do is shoot the sht with her at least a little every day, just like you would with a guy friend. That's the #1 thing that keeps a marriage alive: conversation.

[@hakimwalker3755]

Try not to overwhelm your wife with that love brother. She's human, and she may make mistakes. Just being authentic and caring is enough. Pray for her, take care of her and encourage her. In some cases women pressure themselves to be perfect when they realize how deeply they are loved by their husband, that may not be your wife, but I'm just saying to be very observant and do not love her to the point that you idolize her, remember God and give thanks for your wife.

[@romanticdonkey468]

Focus on the little things. Send her a text in the middle of the day to say you’re thinking about her. Give her flowers and small gifts on random days not near a birthday or holiday. Women absolutely love these little gestures. As an added bonus, if your wife works outside the house, have the flowers delivered to her job. If you want to be the superstar husband, focus on being romantic without it being sexual.

[@Sharpeoutdoors]

Probably mine is better 😂

[@Tahirkhalid_]

I’m a 25 year old, been married over 2 years, we don’t have any kids, but I can say i really appreciate this ! #4 is one I’ll focus on right now.

[@peterlopez4529]

I’m very glad I saw this video. I needed that one thing to wake me up and change the way in which I act and respond to my wife. She certainly deserves better, and this video will help me provide that to her.

[@107uptown]

I wasn't sure about this at first, but I'm glad I watched the whole thing. I like how you phrased it- "honoring" the wife.

[@WaveRider1989]

I actually am guilty of the first one. If I see a hot women I do look, can't help. I feel like it's basic instinct. is that wrong? not sure and my wife does the same thing and even tells me about good looking women and men she sees

[@kennethvidt4375]

I'm an recovering alcoholic and emotions and showing them are very hard and forgiven to me. So my wife and I are 3 years into our marriage. I've been sober for 8 years. It's been very hard for her to understand and for me to articulate. We came to a breaking point. She was done. I very realized that I needed more work on me outside of AA. So I have been reading and learning about emotions, and intimacy. I've found education and action is everything in life, love and family. That's for sharing these tips. I'm working on them not so much for her but for me so I can be a better me and husband.

[@jackwalker1822]

AA can help some people but I am not a big fan of it. Too much talking about the past. Also if God delivers you from alcoholism you are not still an alcoholic. But of course you have to be diligent not to start again. I would recommend going to church and finding a mentor/accountability partner and getting through challenges through prayer and Bible study. And perhaps even finding a ministry to do to help others. And a mentor, perhaps older, to help you with challenges in your marriage.

[@brucewayne7773]

I hope everything turned out okay for you, friend.

[@jordancook9619]

I can't put in to words, how great of advice this is. I'm not a married man but I'm in a serious relationship. This has pointed out things I didn't realise were red flags. We've been having some rough times lately due to my own issues. This video, alone has discussed the problems and the solutions I've been having. Thanks a lot mate. I really appreciate all your advise.

[@kaileewalsh3938]

I loved this video 😭 your wife is a lucky lady. It’s going to help me honor my husband more too. Thank you sir!

[@BrettUllman1]

I am glad you enjoyed the video. Thanks

[@jonathandavis7535]

I am trying to be a better husband...
I've never and never would cheat.
I just want to be a better person and to have take care of her. Forever

[@BrettUllman1]

love to hear how you are practically working on being a better husband!

[@jonathanthornstirringfire7922]

Brett Ullman what is your view off stay at home dads? I have had 4 strokes and physically have had problems where the company let me go. Because of this I am now a stay at home dad. I do the housework, cook, and care for my five children.
My wife and I have been praying almost daily. It has helped us grow closer together.
Thank you for your lessons.

[@BrettUllman1]

@@jonathanthornstirringfire7922 sorry don't know why I did not see this before. I have no problem at all with what you are doing. Sounds like you are doing the best you can with the tough medical struggles you have had.

[@shaolintexchrislightninga.8234]

You have diabetic responsibility

[@thebesttastingbleach6915]

Thank you for this. At first, I was like "okay, pal. This is some pretty basic, obvious stuff..." then I got past the 4th on the list or so and I was really glad I watched this. It makes sense to start the video as simply as you did. Keep it up, man.

[@bobbywillmac5275]

Thank you man. Really appreciate the info. I mean it's good to hear these types of things because after years of marriage sometimes forget to honor our wives. I've been married 14 years and I truly love her but sometimes I don't believe I show it enough. So thanks again

[@framboise595]

@ Bobby Will Mac
The best way a man can show his love to his wife is to have sex with her but I assume sex is too difficult to perform for those wimps who treat their wives as goddesses.
After all , you cannot have sex with someone who is not of flesh and bones like you ....

[@stevenromanoff9230]

I wish I heard you sooner. Need to work on appreciating more and not taking my wife for granted. Thank you for opening my eyes to reality.

[@BrettUllman1]

Your welcome. Glad you enjoyed the video. Many more videos like this on my channel.

[@SoloJourneyandPJ]

💝

[@iamsoul_za]

I was not expecting that last point.

[@Masterdecoy1976]

I have been married for 22 years, Recently within the last 3 weeks my marriage looked as if it was approaching the end, I simply I had just for forgotten how to show basic respect to my wife as stupid as that sounds. It had occurred to me that I had taken much for granted and given back very little, I love my wife very much yet I was not practicing love " expressing it IE: giving back " and she really just did not feel loved at all, Now I just work at it One day at a time and it is working, I just seen your video but I do have to say I wish I would have seen it back in 2018!! Thank you Brett Ullman you have some sound advice.

[@BrettUllman1]

Glad you enjoyed the video. Thanks for your thoughts.

[@matthewcromwell4779]

Just listened to your video for the first time… this video truly spoke to me and thanks for posting! I have my demons to work on and be a better man for myself, a better husband to my wife and a better father to my daughter! Thanks again for this video!💯

[@BrettUllman1]

Thanks for your message. Glad you enjoyed the video

[@ChilibombActual]

You hit three major things I need to work on. I've been struggling to be a better husband and my wife has struggles of her own. But in all honesty, this really hits me where it needs to. Thank you for making this and keep up the faith my friend!

[@tarekkhoriaty4999]

Interesting video. I appreciate that I was able to search RUclips and land on a video that basically was exactly what I was looking for. This video helped me to reflect on myself as a partner (not yet married) and try to decide, as you made each point, if I was being the best that I can be at each of those points. The answer is no. And as much as it irritates me that there should definitely be some responsibilities thrown at my partner, I know that that is not what this video is for and that I need to fight that back and swallow it down because this is about me being a better person for her and for our family, NOT about who is more right or more wrong.

[@passengereye]

Thank you
Will apply this asap

[@JaimieSigamoney]

I was just asking my wife if someone did a RUclips video on how to be a better Husband and your video popped up. This video is excellent everything is clear and on point, you gained a new subscriber and I currently do consider myself a great husband but I am always willing to learn on how to improve myself as a person / parent and life partner. Thank you 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽

[@BrettUllman1]

Glad you enjoyed the video. I have a video based online course call men: navigating everything you might like as well - navigatingeverything.thinkific.com

[@JaimieSigamoney]

@@BrettUllman1 will check it out thank you Sir 👍🏽

[@soulplane7320]

I can definitely be better with helping my wife with the inside chores. Those never end. Also I’m going to work on the way in which I speak to my wife and try to be less critical.

[@xbrowningboi2x]

number 7 and 3 really meant a lot to me I just moved countries and we used to go to bed at the same time most nights, but that was when I was working 6 days a week, I also heavy game I make mistakes and so does she but we always prevail, she came home from work and started reorganizing the living room for the holidays (xmas) and got tired and frustrated and went to bed so I did all of it and her face and smile lit up more than the xmas tree I put up, I'm improving but it's honestly worth it all if I get to see that for the rest of my life, we just gotta work on our tempers lol really appreciate the video man!!

[@BrettUllman1]

So glad you enjoy the videos. Thanks for your comment.

[@britaniclarke8565]

I love How He's Positive and tries to help others in need ! People need encouraging words sometimes !

[@DVTOM]

I have the most amazing woman and I can admit I haven't been the best person, man, and partner. That's why I'm learning how to be better.

[@BrettUllman1]

hope this video gave you some good ideas. Keep up the good work.

[@Darthstep19]

Woah!! I love this! Thank you for sharing! I love seeing a community grow for men/young men online and finding more support for us guys! Thank you for taking the time to make this channel, putting yourself out there and for sharing yours tips with us! Creating good Christian families takes work and sometimes I think we know what to do, but it helps hearing it from another individual! Take care everyone, God Bless!

[@BrettUllman1]

Hi, thanks for your comment and the kind words. Glad you are enjoying the videos. Tons of other links on my website www.brettullman.com

[@Wule9]

This advice hit me in all the right spots

[@diomedeslarios3383]

Thank You Old Man ,God bless u and your whole family!! it was great.

[@brandonperez4847]

That last part is what i needed to hear

[@graciejiujitsu407]

I needed to hear this so badly. Thank you so much for sharing this wisdom, it is greatly appreciated. Have a blessed day.

[@BrettUllman1]

You are so welcome. There are many more videos designed for men you will find in a playlist on my channel.

[@miryamishot]

I love this…having trouble on the listening part….I’m basically alone in the marriage to the point that I have to go to others. It’s not looking good. I should be able to go to him for everything. He just says “stop panicking “ “ stop getting involved in other’s problems “ “stop complaining “

[@borgestheborg]

I'm not married yet but I'm glad I found this video. My father failed and continues to fail at every single one of these things. He is a pathetic husband and a lousy father and does not honor my mother at all. My mother has continued to live with him despite these challenges in the hope that I will turn out better, which is what I intend to do. The way my mother is treated by my father has always been a source of pain and anger in my life. I want to be a good father and husband but I've had a hard time finding good resources that can guide me so I'm very happy to have come across this video.

[@rbollard21]

Yeah I definitely failed on my part! I wish this video would of popped up before hand cause it easy to get complacent.

[@QuentenMcCarroll]

Great video loved the principles

[@MagnumTalk]

thank you for these videos that you make your helping more then you really know.

[@jahmelbrown85]

⭐️ Grateful for this post for certain

[@BrettUllman1]

So glad you enjoyed it. Thanks

[@cts0825]

Number 4 is the one I got to focus on big time

[@puertoricosf]

Thank you for this video! Was defiantly resourceful for newly wed men!

[@BrettUllman1]

Glad you enjoyed it. I have another talk called the man talk on this channel as well you might like.

[@jonathandavis7535]

I needed to hear this. Thank you

[@michaelmcclain9577]

Man, I just watched this and have been praying about wanting to be a better husband and dad because I’ve been terrible at it for so long. I didn’t have a great example of it growing up and neither did my dad because he didn’t have an example either so it has been this ongoing thing but my wife deserves better. And I want to be that better. It starts with honoring your wife and loving your wife as Christ loved the church.
I have failed at this and I’m past the point of words with her. I have to prove it to her. God help me as I spend the rest of my life proving my love and devotion to my wife.

[@BrettUllman1]

Thanks for your comment. I am glad you enjoyed the video. I have another talk called “The Man Talk” you might enjoy as well. It is on this same youtube channel.

[@framboise595]

@ Michael Mcclain
Wives , submit to your husbands in everything . That is what the Bible puts first and foremost in e very marriage instruction.
But of course , all those modern wimps who worship woman never speak the truth about it.
Wives are told to be "loved" ( they play with the love stuff just like Delilha played with it and trapped Samson) but NEVER to obey their husbands.
They are also told that they still have ownership of their bodies , which is plain devilish.
If it was not so , why would this man in the video tell husbands not to "force themselves" on their wives sexually ?????????
Does not the BIBLE teach that the wife's body belongs to the husband ? Does not the Bible teach that we all get married in order to be safe from sexual temptations?
See how DEVILISH modern teachings regarding marriages are ?
Western Christianity is under a curse. Isaiah 3:12

[@zakonkrzyzacki3921]

I'm coming up really short based off of what you said.
I'm here though.
I just want to be a better man and husband than I was yesterday.

[@BrettUllman1]

Better today than yesterday is a good plan

[@IgnoretheButter]

I have such a beautiful wife who deserves nothing but the best. My wife has acknowledged that I've been working on myself, but I know I haven't done enough. I've been working hard on not being so critical and also being soft spoken. For a while, it seemed like every word that came out of my mouth was critical or harsh. My wife felt disconnected from me for a bit. I'm making big steps to stop negative behavior. One of my biggest struggles is addiction that many men get introduced to. Its very very hard to break from it, but I know its very possible as you said. I love my wife, so the battle to be better is worth it

[@BrettUllman1]

Thanks for sharing. A good Counsellor might be helpful in your journey.

[@6579juan]

I would love to be a great husband one day, but I didn’t have a dad to get advice in what to do, but this right here is some great stuff!

[@sengphethkeopraseuth5646]

Thank you very much for sharing your wonderful thoughts

[@BrettUllman1]

Glad you enjoyed the video.

[@herculesmclovin]

I wouldn't put things in the way you have said, but I can easily grasp the underlining point and that resonates for me. So thank you x

[@starmax5804]

Awesome needed this

[@aaliyahsplayhouse6335]

Your advice & wisdom speaks great volume

[@yaserabdul8361]

I am going to be a good husband. I’m gonna follow these 10 ways.

[@clips4life874]

Brett, thanks for this video. Although shamefully I seemed to check all the signs I’m trying to better myself not just for me but for my family. This video will be a big help into this process. Thanks

[@DJANGO2DEEP]

I love my wife, she's an incredible woman!! We will be married going on a year in 5 days.I know #5 for me is where I need to focus on. Sometimes it's hard because I'm a truck driver and she right here with me all the time but still complain Sometimes and it's upsetting because I look at it like if I was in that position to kick up my feet and my partner pays everything life is great. So Sometimes I don't look at her as equal.

[@ElChuvyDuvy]

Thank you for this video!

[@BrettUllman1]

Your welcome. I am glad you enjoyed the video.

[@duckfreeman5278]

Thanks a lot for the great advise

[@MAKATARAYsVlog]

Gonna share this vid to my hobby.. it can help him to understand. Thank u sir!!! I really want to save our relationship but if he cont. His wrong doings idk... maybe giving up is mylast option.

[@SakuraYoshita]

Please never stop making videos

[@remyhinton7691]

Thank you for creating this video.

[@rohitkoulgupta1972]

Sir with greatest respect it works both ways

[@alzheimer7324]

Good Wisdom 😎
Thank You For Sharing ❤
Wish I heard this when I was Young. ☹

[@rickymorales2106]

This is excellent Brett!! Every man should start doing this. When I grow up, I wanna be like you.

[@BrettUllman1]

Glad you enjoyed the video. Many more videos like this on my channel.

[@dichael5275]

deal with your addictions too.. right.. im addicted to smoking :(

[@dominoeffectzz7670]

I’m a newlywed but I’m grateful for this Thank you

[@BrettUllman1]

I am glad you enjoyed the video.

[@Michelle_frm_Hawaii]

What a great video. It hits on all the important things that make up a marriage on a day to day basis. Very straight to the point and these suggestions can help a marriage today like right now! Thank you.

[@BrettUllman1]

Your welcome. Glad you enjoyed the video

[@julianrosas9446]

I’m 19 years old and married. I feel like I’m messing up but I’m here cause I don’t want to lose what I have with my best friend:/

[@BrettUllman1]

Thanks for your comment. Lots of videos in this area that can help on my channel.

[@user-do7rw3jm1o]

I game to much my marriage is about all done so i stopped slowed way down paying more attention to her i hope it works im ready for my change this video was excellent i will apply this to better myself and marriage treating my wife more like my queen she is

[@framboise595]

@ Tim
If your wife is a queen , then YOU are the king. You rule your kingdom .

[@CataSowl]

I'm a woman, working to he a good wife (I'm not even married yet, if I do get married I wanna do my best), I'm watching this video to see what to look for in a man.

[@SolRaCFilMs2345]

This video was great , thank you.

[@sashagumbs09]

I love this!! Thank you!

[@PabloDiaz-sf9ln]

Amazing video! You couldn’t had said it better. Awesome advice. Thanks!🙏🏼

[@BrettUllman1]

Thanks. Glad you like the video. Many more videos for men similar to this on my channel.

[@bansyit9041]

Thanks for the video brother🙏

[@josiahpaul507]

The moment u said "honour" I knew u were a child of God!! God bless 😃

[@framboise595]

@ Josiah Paul
A child of God who teaches husbands how to submit to their Almighty Wives ? A child of God or of the devil ?

[@raeshadblankenship7560]

Well what I heard was all good points being I'm about to be a married man. Need to know more

[@Jarhead6]

Great video thanks!

[@BrettUllman1]

Your welcome. Glad you like it.

[@kevinfigueroa7305]

Thank you

[@xavcuttinoakatheinspiratio4353]

Great 👍🏾 video I’m motivated!!

[@BrettUllman1]

Glad you like the video. Many more similar videos like this on my channel.

[@TheProtea09]

Thank you for this

[@andygthegreatgaming9223]

Thank you for the video I really enjoyed.

[@BrettUllman1]

Your welcome. Glad you enjoyed it

[@ishvararameti8007]

Thank You for your Good Work

[@lifeguardlloyd]

Helpful! Thank you!

[@jsjsanch562]

On point

[@bobsagget9212]

Hey this guy is pretty great. I'm not yet married, just preparing to speak with her father, and this video helped a lot.

[@stephenwweber]

Thank you very well done. 👍

[@brucewayne7773]

You ever go to church and feel like the pastor/priest/preacher was speaking directly to you? That how this video felt.

[@chingweiyulo6384]

How to do that if we have a long distance relationship?

[@brianballenger36]

What if you have a learning disability? My wife is the most amazing person. She's getting stressed with two dogs and myself. I want to Help. When I can't remember where dishes go, that's not helping her

[@BrettUllman1]

Thanks for your message. You need to find ways you can help that you are able to. Work at helping in the area of your strengths. You could also see if there are ways you can assist you. Pictures of where the dishes go?

[@jessikakim2105]

This is an age old problem in my house too. Just like I don't know where his tools in the garage go, I just put them neatly in the garage and allow him to put those things away. Put away what you can in the kitchen, and leave a stack of items you aren't familiar with and a nice note that says "I couldn't remember where to put these, if you'll show me, I'll make a note and remember for next time :)"
It goes such a long way! My husband asking me every 10 seconds where something goes is the exact opposite of helping.

[@danwilliams1920]

If your wife is hung up about things being in their proper place, that's not healthy. No kids yet, eh? Kids will fix that issue right quick. By the time you're both fifty, she be leaving the spatula in the laundry room and crap. Live like cave people, that's my advice. Hey, read "The Pearl," by John Steinbeck. Have her read it, too. You'll both learn about "the song of the family," and what really matters, and it sure as heck has nothing to do with organizing the cupboards, lol.

[@jcchannel1198]

Honor her emotionally is my one thing i feel like i dump all my emotions on her and i dont think thats right to do but she is the only support i have, what am i supposed to do???

[@lakers165]

Great video.

[@BrettUllman1]

+lakers #1 thanks so much. Glad you liked it. I have a large video called The Man Talk as well you might enjoy.

[@paulmosimanegaperamatebele2142]

being there for our better half or other half is wht i think is the best way of being a better husband

[@raeshadblankenship7560]

Just saying I'm very much in love with my fiance and I just want to know WHAT IS THE MAIN GOAL IN KEEPING YOUR WIFE

[@tmorgan906]

Communication... organization.

[@bellison2014]

Very good words of wisdom.

[@jordanliong1661]

Hi brett. Thanks for the video. I really like this topic and very interested to improve in these aspects of life. Can you reccomend me any books that can help me with these issues? Thank you

[@BrettUllman1]

Glad you like the video. There is a playlist on my channel with msn other videos like this for husbands/fathers. I have all the books I suggest in all categories here. www.amazon.ca/shop/brettullman I might start with the book Fair Play by Eve Rodsky

[@aleckjulius9056]

Wooow this just changed my mind and how i will treat my partner

[@BrettUllman1]

So nice to hear you enjoyed the video.

[@seanb5271]

This was really good. Simple, easy to do, easy to remember. Well done.

[@BrettUllman1]

+Sean Botti thanks. Appreciate the kind word

[@benaniahisrael5544]

Be more practical splitting up the housework more throughout the week listen to this video One More Time

[@BrettUllman1]

Great thoughts.

[@connergoldberg]

Still relevant. I'm not the best at getting involved with my kids and doing the housework haha, but actively working on it! And yeah, a lot of the time I'm working on my own business well into the later hours of the night when our kids are in bed so it takes its toll not going to bed at the same time or having as much time to spend with my family like I should.
The way I try to combat it is by actively having a set schedule and alarm every day. My wife hates knowing that I have to fit her into a calendar/schedule so that's just a personal secret of mine haha T_T.
As for the housework, I am trying to get into the groove of making lunches/dinner for our kids while they get fed.

[@backyardblades1010]

Thank you I feel like I would like to show my wife this video but I feel like I might get criticized idk???

[@BrettUllman1]

I have had many women who have watched it and been encouraged we are trying to be better men.

[@smyrnasstory]

“As you look out not only for your own interests, but also for the interests of others”

[@BrettUllman1]

Great thought. I do agree

[@okbustaman]

This video has helped me a lot.... I don't socialize with anyone anymore but my wife I don't talk to anyone at work at the grocery store and I have even stopped talking to my neighbours.... my wife believes I have improved so much and so do I..... thanks to God and this good man.... and we don't have sex unless she say so, I never speak unless I'm spoken to and she told me how to do all the housework we have never been so happy and I really appreciate this video and your time my good man

[@coryscott5799]

Definitely wanted some insight i thought i was crazy looking this up but if you care about your lady and how you can better honor her def watch this video

[@BrettUllman1]

Thanks. I have a number of other videos looking at this topic on my channel as well.

[@JoshKemmerer]

I failed the first thing he said. I didn’t want to get married until I was at least 40 and I got married at 25. Now I am regretting it
All the other points are great! I agree with all of them and I like the perspective to honour our wives. It’s the best thing a husband can do

[@GregoryMcCarthy123]

Oh man… I need to work on all of these things. The only thing I do is work work work. But I don’t help much with house chores, I don’t spend time with my wife. I’m even guilty of checking out hot waitresses…

[@wiston_-dd5td]

very good video!