Crazy this world is. Paul was actually my therapist as a kid, I was in foster homes and barely making it through life and Paul was my only friend at times.... So I’m going through RUclips and he pops up 😍😂😂 Thanks for everything you do Paul and thank you so much 👊 I now have my own beautiful family and I have been a great person and parent because of everything you taught me as a kid 👊 but I’ll be watching all the videos to always be getting better and more complete 🙏 take care of each other out there 🖖
Hello Justin, great to meet up again. Thanks for letting me know how you are. Your own family? That is awesome. If you have any ideas for topics of episodes, something that helped you a lot, let me know. Glad you are a part of our positive community.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV well not sure if you’ve covered these, but learning to listen and be present in the moment with child or partner is something I think we all need to keep getting better at and coming up with tools to help and indicators of when we’re off our game. Parents should always be aware of the tone of how they communicate because children feel your vibrations before they understand the words you say and calm loving vibrations help set the tone for your little person. You were such a huge blessing and impact for my life and I’m glad to see you have a platform to help others 🙏 you deserve the world and I hope you get just that 👊
I remember in High School, there was a girl who always looked sad, and her hair and clothing was always unkempt for many months, until one day I saw her looking happy, smiling a lot and really dressed up and makeup, and my friends and I wondered what had changed her, and when asked this question to her, her reply was simple, she said, “My mother said ‘I love you!’ to me for the first time in my life!” ... The power of words!💗
So touching... I always tell my daughter I lover her.. even when im stressed out by her and she just wants to see if I still care about her and I always say I love you back and give her a big hug. Cause even tho we go through hard times, she has to know I will always love her
Great advice! I'm going to start saying "You can handle this, and I will help you. What should you do about this?" when my daughter comes to me with an issue. That statement, "You can handle this," is SO powerful! I wish someone had told me that as a kid over and over.
Honestly, this book ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’ gave me the encouragement I needed to stay strong in raising my kids with Christian values, it’s comforting to know Im not alone on this journey
I disagree! Being a stepparent is the hardest job. I have done it both (parent and stepparent). Being a parent is a piece of cake compared to being a stepparent - especially if you are the one spending more time with your stepchild than any of the parents do. You do everything for them, yet you are the bad guy while the parents can do no wrong (in the eyes of the child).
After watching so many of your videos, whenever I get upset about my kids, now you seem like a family member. Your tips work like magic. I've made so many mistakes before I found your lectures. Wish I had known these things before.
If it wasn't for dr. Paul, I wouldn't know what to do about kids. I applied his tips. We didn't even say I love you, in our family. But now it's better. Thank you!
You're a life saver! So glad I searched out for a channel like yours. I've been implementing smiling more and I can see their little brains working. It's great! Thank you soo much!
@UCYOp8WWencps_y9w2PUVNiw not so hot, feeling under the weather with my 1.5yo. Small head cold. But we will make it. Thank you for asking. How about yourself?
All are correct but your number 3 is spot on for me !! I have witnessed that with my oldest. Had I known then, I would have allowed her to do much more on her own, because without realizing it she was already going through anxiety from having over 30 surgical procedures and by me doing everything for her made is 100 times worse !
I love what you said about handling things. I am 47, mom of one little boy, and I just recently figured out that all of my many anxieties stem from the belief that I CAN’T handle it! Excellent information…I will definitely include all four of these phrases into my son’s daily routine!
Both of my daughters are ADHD. I have Aspergers. Their dad is ADHD. I did remind them to do things. I have to hack my life in so many ways just to survive. I actually sit down and write out an activity board to remind me what I need to do or whatever it is doesn’t get done. I come across as being controlling but it’s how I survive. I’m quite happy with routine. I have come to realize my ideas of routine drive them nuts. Some people find me very rigid and not too open to change. I can but I’m not very good at it.
All great advice! Thank you Dr. Paul! I believe #4 and #3 are related....the more mature you are, the more capable you are of handling a situation....obviously a child needs to learn safety, boundaries before telling them they can handle a situation (eg. Learning to swim in the deep end of the pool, learning not to run into the street, learning not to go with a stranger, etc.)....we must Prepare them first to handle challenging situations. Thanks for all the great content!
I disagree. Its not about maturity - whatever that is! It's about skills. Knowing what to say and how to say it, how to act and how to act it. Being able to read situations and understand what the real dynamic is. Maturity is being content with yourself and believing in yourself, which you can't do without successful intrapersonal skills.
This is excellent content, I have a stuck child inside me and these really resonate, on my journey of Re parenting myself I will use these. Thank you so much.
Thank you for putting your wisdom & knowledge on this platform. I’ve been implementing what I’ve learned from you and your wife since I found your videos yesterday and IT WORKS!!!!
Did this message resonate with me? Yeah, I'm a little teary eyed thinking how my dad, who passed away at age 97, never once told me he loved me until he was 95 years old and was relying on me as his only caregiver because he had Alzheimer's. Frankly, he was a malignant narcissist most of his life, a subject that's addressed on a whole buncha other RUclips channels. I forgave him long ago because he was mentally ill. Interestingly enough, his lifelong malignant narcissism eventually was eclipsed and overpowered by Alzheimer's, deafness, near-blindness, and an inability to walk. Up until his fatal heart attack, he was still a potential danger to me in that he was highly likely to give the family "fortune" to outsiders either to spite me and my sister or inadvertently.
Thank you for sharing your experience. I cannot imagine what it would be like to have experienced a lifetime of what you experienced. Reading your story gave me a new perspective on things going on in my own life.
I completely understand 😌 I also had an unhealthy relationship with my mom. Now, she's 95, partially blind, has Dementia and I care for her 24/7. She never apologized to me for anything she did to me, until the Christmas before the pandemic. Due to circumstances, I accepted the responsibility of caring for her. I've lived through this experience because most of the time she thinks I am someone else!
@@EdilySi this is interesting, just yesterday I saw a video of a young lady trying to find a support group for adult children caring 24/7 for parents who did not care for them. It would be so hard.
Pointing out that death is a given is NOT insensitive, it's an extremely important conversation!! People get so wrapped up in life that they forget to live. Talking to everyone, in an age appropriate way, that they have an expiration date is the most loving thing we can do!!
@@LiveOnPurposeTV That's a very true statement and one I echo. We have a saying in our house, "That's above your pay grade.". We have a level for all info dissemination. The test is, if it'll generate a nightmare, you don't need to know yet.
These are great points and I think I've been grasping them as my kids grow. I practice thinking about how much I love my children and how valuable they have been in my life in my prayers and journal. So when I'm about to go to bed I don't want to skip going to my teenage sons and telling them i love them. I also definitely recognized the value of letting my kids find their own way in life. As they got older, they spent more and more time on their own so I really tried to make sure, even when I felt busy and overwhelmed with taking care of younger kids, to set down whatever I was doing when my teenagers come to me. They want to talk, I'm listening. I'll work on these four things to communicate daily.
True. My kids have coped with everything they've faced SO FAR. This is true. I always tell my daughter to have faith in herself that she will handle whatever obstacles present. I have a good relationship with my daughter 18 but my son 15 hardly ever really communicates with me. Should I say ''I love you as he brushes past me? I don't know how to love-as- a- verb to my son anymore even though I do love him of course! I say ''HELLO GREGOR!'' every time he comes in to the room because I don't know how else to show him that he matters. I wrote him a letter a while ago to say that I wanted to support him if he wasn't happy at school and to tell me what ideas *he* had wrt his education. He didn't mention it. He does nothing he doesn't want to do and I am reasonably accepting of that but if there's something I can do to help him I'll do it, but what!?. I can't make him study, I can't make him leave his bedroom. I'd like to help him not self-sabotage though. He was the most gorgeous gorgeous little person when he was a little boy. So adorable. At about four years old he said ''when I'm grown up, we'll swap numbers and stay in touch''. We still live in the same house and we're not in touch! He listens to my daughter sometimes, she gets through to him but i don't want that to be a responsibility for her to bear.
Susan C, acknowledging him is good. Try the I Love You and see if it gets a reaction. You are right, don't put too much on your daughter. Let him know you are there for him and that you love no matter what and even if. Don't worry about him not responding to the letter, write him another and just tell him you love him. I hear so many stories like this where it seemed like the words weren't making a difference, but then something happens and the kid thinks back and it helps.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Thank you, I'm going to tell him I love him today. I told him every day until about about 2 years ago and then he got all gruff with me. But nobody ever died from hearing ''I love you'' from their mum.
Just wanted to say thank you for consistently creating brilliant and grounded content. Your wisdom shines through every time, and I truly appreciate the impact it has. Your work is valued and admired. With gratitude❤
I definitely do! I am looking for advice on how to effectively parent my children's behavior now that I have become more self-aware, healed, and grounded. I want to learn how to move forward and address the damage that has been done in the past. Dealing with some of these behaviors has become challenging for me, and I would really appreciate some guidance. It's quite ironic, isn't it haha 😬😅
Dr. Paul, I wish I can meet you in person to get my parenting classes from you. I really love my kids because they're innocent, and cure at the same time, but I yell at them so much whenever I get upset and this happens quite often. I saw your previous video which you said starting from 10. No Yelling at your kids. I love your team as a power couple. I'm a single father now, and I'm struggling to take control of myself and my kids. I want to be a better father for my beautiful kids. God bless you and your family. ❤❤❤
Seriously this channel is really helpful to me in raising my child, it has really taught me a lot I don't know about parenting and it works like magic. I am being more intentional and I am happy about it. Thank you sir ♥️
Luck is not control. I say control what you can control and be as wise as you can. You can handle this. Only if you know they can. Support them if it is out of thier current skill level. If you have any question ask. As a trainer if people need to ask I know I didn't train them properly. I go over each step till I know and they know they know each step in a procedure and are confident doing it. I love you. I used to think that was great then I discovered acceptance. I accept you and I honour your uniqueness.
I don’t even have kids but I’m glued to this channel! Every one of these can serve as a powerful mantra for ourselves. Also, I’m an aunt to 3 young girls and these videos are so helpful! 🙏❤️
Making your children independent at young age is so important. I was a helicopter mom and I believe as a repercussion this is one of the reasons it has been over a year since he has spoken to me
I hear ya, Ta ta. Such a hard job. I personally did a lot better with my third child after learning this quote along the way. “Our only job as parents is to help our children successfully fit into society (however that is) when they turn 18”. By helping my son to gain his adult skills and independence, he is correspondingly still happy and talking with me. 😉🦋 I definitely wish I had learned this earlier for the benefit of my older children. With love from one mother heart to another. Take care, 💕👋🇦🇺
Ta ta, we don't realize that parenting is the job we are supposed to work ourselves out of. I hope he understands that the relationship he can have with you as an adult will be different.
4. Good luck 3. You can handle this 2. If you have any questions, ask. 1. I love you no matter what, even if Great watched last night and was thinking ablut these all day.
I'm a re-formed and rehabilitated helicopter mom. My husband is a reluctant former helicopter dad...we both grew up in South Florida, in the same area where Adam Walsh was abducted. I also lost a brother when I was very young. It has been hard learning to let them do their own things, to step back and allow them to make decisions for themselves. We are still learning, but acknowledge that we are raising Adults, adults who will be part of society and contribute to the world around them. Hardest thing I've ever done in my life. I just pray we do something right.
Hey Thank you so much for all the beneficial videos.they help me alot or atleast give me some peace of mind. I have depression and anxiety and I struggle on daily basis to handle my kids. Do you have any video on similar topic that can be helpful.
The tips and advice you give are solid… But more than that I really resonate with your presentation style. Thank you so much for helping me better be a better parent and partner.🙏🏻
@@LiveOnPurposeTV my Disney executive vice-president sister was paying my ex-boyfriend to psychologically abused me and my children and be their pill pusher. These millionaires are all off the chain that hurt the children. Stay blessed.
I don't say "Good luck." Life happens. "Make it an amazing day!" "The choice is Yours!" "You got this!" "Si say puede!" "Be noble!" "No bull!" "Be You to full!"
I feel that no matter how I try to be a good parent, to be ready, to be open minded, my teenager still finds a way to make me mad and create a drama. Seems that she just needs to rebel to prove her existence.
Thank you I have a question When a child (four and a half ) wants to overpower another child , but without violence just touching the other children is that considered bullying? In my eyes it's a way of provoking attention or reaction for interaction, but I'm not sure if it's bullying or attention seeking or wanting to overpower I really need your help on this because the kids who receive this action don't seem to be bothered but the mothers have a problem with this and they respond by telling off my son, and I don't know how to respond to all this . This channel has helped me keep my sanity ! I appreciate it
Thanks a lot for the tips! I will make sure to never forget them! One question, what about a helicopter grandmother? Our boy, 19 months, spends a lot of time at his grandmother's when we are working. And I notice she jumps in and hovers a lot. I have told her to let him try things and learn by himself and relax a bit, but she keeps at it. Any tips? (Also, off topic, you have a very symmetrical nose👃, nice👍🏻)
Berivan Hosiyar, Come back anytime for a refresher. All you can do is ask her and model it for her. Perhaps give her an article with the benefits. Other than that you have the option of taking him elsewhere for care.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV We do our best. Being positive could mean so many things to someone. Your four positive things are concise and with your experience, it is sage advice.
(FACTS OVA FEELINGS). The Purpose of CHILDREN is Not just the EXPANSION of YOUNIVERSAL CONSCIOUSNESS it is ollso the EXPANSION of hOUR CONSCIOUSNESS az PARENTS
I have depression and am the opposite of a helicopter parent. His dads family who I was forced to live with every good thing I tried to do they spitefully told him not to listen to me and would let him do whatever he wants. I work 5 nights a week & do all the chores by myself as well as the chores but haven’t been able to escape his dad yet. I was forced into getting pregnant and never had a bond with my child. I try to be patient and of course helpful and I do care but it’s a huge struggle.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Thank you. I’m working on getting over my anxiety and trying to find someone to help with training to get a license. Then I’m going to get a 2nd job and leave.
Hi Paul , I don’t know if you can do a video about how to prepare our children for bullies. I have a 4 year old and his 6 year old cousin is sometimes mean to him. Kind of pushes him to the side and talks mean to him. My 4 year old is too kind sometimes and doesn’t do anything but I wouldn’t want him to be walked over.
I'm a mother of 2 have a husband that has no idea how to be a parent, so basically I do his job and my job. My oldest is 5,5 she is in the 1st grade, worked so hard to get her here without any support from my husband. These days going through so much difficulties and need help to stay strong and beneficial for my children. I'm glad I found this channel very helpful and informative. As children grow parenting gets more harder when you do it alone its gets even more harder. Good luck to all the beautiful and strong moms with their parenting. We can do everything and make everything work.🙂
00:03 Vier wirkungsvolle Tipps für eine positive Kindererziehung 01:10 Kinder bestimmen ihr Leben selbst, je nach Reifegrad 02:10 Beim Helikopter-Eltern wird der Eindruck erweckt, dass Kinder ihre Herausforderungen nicht allein bewältigen können. 03:03 Du kannst damit umgehen. 04:01 Jeder stirbt irgendwann 04:55 Ermutigen Sie Ihre Kinder, Fragen zu stellen 05:49 Geben Sie unaufgefordert nur Ratschläge, wenn Sie danach gefragt werden. 06:52 Bringen Sie Kindern Verantwortung mit fünf wirkungsvollen Geheimnissen bei
I am glad to know I have already been telling #1,2 and 4 to my kid. I can't tell #3 to my kid yet because her one and only question right now is 'Can you buy me this toy?"
Yesterday I told my son to make his bed before his grandma picked him up for the weekend he asked if she was otw I said that she was then he said , kinda under his breath, "good luck"....
But what happens when my teen twins become complete jerks, ignoring their chores, blowing off schooling (they're home-schooled) & I just can't love them anymore? If I start saying these 4 things out of the blue, my kids will think I'm lying. Truth be told, my mom over-protected me when I was growing up, which told me that I couldn't handle this rotten world. And she was right. This world is definitely rotten, & I completely can't handle my family at all & want out. Every night I hope to die in my sleep. And every morning I wake up disappointed.
Lisa, sounds like you could use some hep. How can you help your children when you don't have anything in the tank. Figure out a different schooling situation for them and get some help.
i strongly agree with these four points, but, unfortunately, my parents didn't say any of these things to me except the last one--but they didn't mean it. they have never defined the word "love" and i believe you can't give what you don't understand. the way that children are abused so often in this country with no consequences is an abject tragedy. and it's by design.
Crazy this world is. Paul was actually my therapist as a kid, I was in foster homes and barely making it through life and Paul was my only friend at times.... So I’m going through RUclips and he pops up 😍😂😂 Thanks for everything you do Paul and thank you so much 👊 I now have my own beautiful family and I have been a great person and parent because of everything you taught me as a kid 👊 but I’ll be watching all the videos to always be getting better and more complete 🙏 take care of each other out there 🖖
Hello Justin, great to meet up again. Thanks for letting me know how you are. Your own family? That is awesome. If you have any ideas for topics of episodes, something that helped you a lot, let me know. Glad you are a part of our positive community.
That’s amazing
@@LiveOnPurposeTV well not sure if you’ve covered these, but learning to listen and be present in the moment with child or partner is something I think we all need to keep getting better at and coming up with tools to help and indicators of when we’re off our game. Parents should always be aware of the tone of how they communicate because children feel your vibrations before they understand the words you say and calm loving vibrations help set the tone for your little person. You were such a huge blessing and impact for my life and I’m glad to see you have a platform to help others 🙏 you deserve the world and I hope you get just that 👊
Omg my heart! That is so cool and sweet.
Awww…this is wonderful. Thank you for sharing & your kids are fortunate to have you.
1-I love you
2-Ask if you have any questions
3-You can handle this
4-Good luck!
Enrico, you get an A+
Enrico, you get front seats! 😉
God Bless YOU
Thank you thank you thank you
Thank you
I remember in High School, there was a girl who always looked sad, and her hair and clothing was always unkempt for many months, until one day I saw her looking happy, smiling a lot and really dressed up and makeup, and my friends and I wondered what had changed her, and when asked this question to her, her reply was simple, she said, “My mother said ‘I love you!’ to me for the first time in my life!” ...
The power of words!💗
Wow! That is powerful, thank you for sharing.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV 😊👍🏼
So touching...
I always tell my daughter I lover her..
even when im stressed out by her and she just wants to see if I still care about her and I always say I love you back and give her a big hug. Cause even tho we go through hard times, she has to know I will always love her
Great advice! I'm going to start saying "You can handle this, and I will help you. What should you do about this?" when my daughter comes to me with an issue. That statement, "You can handle this," is SO powerful! I wish someone had told me that as a kid over and over.
Laura Morris, it is very powerful, you are the mom your daughter needs.
Honestly, this book ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’ gave me the encouragement I needed to stay strong in raising my kids with Christian values, it’s comforting to know Im not alone on this journey
I tell my kid that I love him and God loves him.
Perfect.
Being a parent is one of the hardest job on earth and perhaps the most important one. Thanks for the tips!🙂🙂🙂
Hello cloud how are you doing today ?
I disagree! Being a stepparent is the hardest job. I have done it both (parent and stepparent). Being a parent is a piece of cake compared to being a stepparent - especially if you are the one spending more time with your stepchild than any of the parents do. You do everything for them, yet you are the bad guy while the parents can do no wrong (in the eyes of the child).
Cloud7 Travel, you are welcome.
Yes I agree totally...
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After watching so many of your videos, whenever I get upset about my kids, now you seem like a family member. Your tips work like magic. I've made so many mistakes before I found your lectures. Wish I had known these things before.
I'm so glad! You got this!
If it wasn't for dr. Paul, I wouldn't know what to do about kids. I applied his tips. We didn't even say I love you, in our family. But now it's better. Thank you!
Love that! Glad you are implementing the principles on the channel.
You're a life saver! So glad I searched out for a channel like yours. I've been implementing smiling more and I can see their little brains working. It's great! Thank you soo much!
@UCYOp8WWencps_y9w2PUVNiw not so hot, feeling under the weather with my 1.5yo. Small head cold. But we will make it. Thank you for asking. How about yourself?
You are welcome, DenariusAg.
You make this world a better place! God bless you and your family!😍
You are so kind
All are correct but your number 3 is spot on for me !! I have witnessed that with my oldest. Had I known then, I would have allowed her to do much more on her own, because without realizing it she was already going through anxiety from having over 30 surgical procedures and by me doing everything for her made is 100 times worse !
Honestly Home, that is a hard one to navigate, you did your best and she can learn now.
Thank you!
You are welcome.
Thank you Dr Paul
You are welcome.
I love what you said about handling things. I am 47, mom of one little boy, and I just recently figured out that all of my many anxieties stem from the belief that I CAN’T handle it! Excellent information…I will definitely include all four of these phrases into my son’s daily routine!
Awesome, thank you.
Most of them apply for teachers
Thank you 💜💜
You are so welcome
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I love you
I completed the sentence.
No matter what and even if 😍😍😍
CAUSE MY JOB AS A PARENT IS TO LOVE MY CHILD NO MATTER WHAT AND EVEN IF .
Shez Di, Yes, you get an "A".
@@LiveOnPurposeTV 😍😍😍
I am so grateful for what you share in this channel 💕
sukkar, honored to be on your team.
Amazing advises !
Barbara Melady, thank you.
Death smiles at us all. All we can do is smile back. Marcus Aurelius quote
Thanks for sharing, Ines. I love quotes.
This all works great on my husband too! The less I control, the happier we are.
Rachel, true principles can be applied in different ways.
Lol 😆
Lol. True.
I am so grateful to this video
Grateful that you are here.
Great advice Doc👍Thank you !
Norme Mallo, you are very welcome.
Omg what an eye opener !!
PK Rao, thanks for watching.
Those videos are pure gold. Thanks so much Dr. Paul, I started to apply your precious advices, and I can tell things are already getting better.
Wonderful! Thanks for letting me know.
Both of my daughters are ADHD. I have Aspergers. Their dad is ADHD. I did remind them to do things. I have to hack my life in so many ways just to survive. I actually sit down and write out an activity board to remind me what I need to do or whatever it is doesn’t get done. I come across as being controlling but it’s how I survive. I’m quite happy with routine. I have come to realize my ideas of routine drive them nuts. Some people find me very rigid and not too open to change. I can but I’m not very good at it.
Guyla Mullins, do what works for you. This probably helps everyone in your household.
Thanks for these tips
You bet!
All great advice! Thank you Dr. Paul! I believe #4 and #3 are related....the more mature you are, the more capable you are of handling a situation....obviously a child needs to learn safety, boundaries before telling them they can handle a situation (eg. Learning to swim in the deep end of the pool, learning not to run into the street, learning not to go with a stranger, etc.)....we must Prepare them first to handle challenging situations. Thanks for all the great content!
Well said! Glad you are here at the channel.
I disagree. Its not about maturity - whatever that is! It's about skills. Knowing what to say and how to say it, how to act and how to act it. Being able to read situations and understand what the real dynamic is. Maturity is being content with yourself and believing in yourself, which you can't do without successful intrapersonal skills.
This is excellent content, I have a stuck child inside me and these really resonate, on my journey of Re parenting myself I will use these. Thank you so much.
You are so welcome, glad to have you at the channel.
Thank you for putting your wisdom & knowledge on this platform. I’ve been implementing what I’ve learned from you and your wife since I found your videos yesterday and IT WORKS!!!!
thank you for your kind comment.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV you’re welcome. I’ve learned so much from your channel and I am so very grateful. 🙏
Thank You for informing us our job as Parents 🎉
Our pleasure!
I have a long way to got go but thanks to Dr. Jenkins advice I have improved a lot. I even see improved in my children, sometimes 😁
Hang in there, it may not be noticeable for a while, but you are making a difference in their lives.
I really enjoy your videos! I tell my son's I love them every day and they're 18 and 20! Thank you for this great information! 👍👍💕💕
Holly J, never too old to hear I love you from mom.
@Gemma Dann I watch all of his videos and I'm not looking for a video on how to let go of my adult children. Thank you.
Thank you again, everyone stay safe 💖
Thank you too!
Thank you so much Dr.Paul for this great parenting advice.😊
Jessica Tang, you are very welcome.
Danke!
Bitte.
Did this message resonate with me? Yeah, I'm a little teary eyed thinking how my dad, who passed away at age 97, never once told me he loved me until he was 95 years old and was relying on me as his only caregiver because he had Alzheimer's. Frankly, he was a malignant narcissist most of his life, a subject that's addressed on a whole buncha other RUclips channels. I forgave him long ago because he was mentally ill. Interestingly enough, his lifelong malignant narcissism eventually was eclipsed and overpowered by Alzheimer's, deafness, near-blindness, and an inability to walk. Up until his fatal heart attack, he was still a potential danger to me in that he was highly likely to give the family "fortune" to outsiders either to spite me and my sister or inadvertently.
Thank you for sharing your experience. I cannot imagine what it would be like to have experienced a lifetime of what you experienced. Reading your story gave me a new perspective on things going on in my own life.
I completely understand 😌 I also had an unhealthy relationship with my mom. Now, she's 95, partially blind, has Dementia and I care for her 24/7. She never apologized to me for anything she did to me, until the Christmas before the pandemic. Due to circumstances, I accepted the responsibility of caring for her. I've lived through this experience because most of the time she thinks I am someone else!
BoxadorsR Us, you sound like an amazing person, so forgiving and understanding, seeking to help. You have been through a lot.
@@EdilySi this is interesting, just yesterday I saw a video of a young lady trying to find a support group for adult children caring 24/7 for parents who did not care for them. It would be so hard.
Pointing out that death is a given is NOT insensitive, it's an extremely important conversation!! People get so wrapped up in life that they forget to live. Talking to everyone, in an age appropriate way, that they have an expiration date is the most loving thing we can do!!
I get what you are saying, we need to be careful to make sure we know where our kids are in their development and maturity.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV That's a very true statement and one I echo. We have a saying in our house, "That's above your pay grade.". We have a level for all info dissemination. The test is, if it'll generate a nightmare, you don't need to know yet.
These are great points and I think I've been grasping them as my kids grow. I practice thinking about how much I love my children and how valuable they have been in my life in my prayers and journal. So when I'm about to go to bed I don't want to skip going to my teenage sons and telling them i love them. I also definitely recognized the value of letting my kids find their own way in life. As they got older, they spent more and more time on their own so I really tried to make sure, even when I felt busy and overwhelmed with taking care of younger kids, to set down whatever I was doing when my teenagers come to me. They want to talk, I'm listening. I'll work on these four things to communicate daily.
Wonderful, you are the mom they need.
Ooops handle it made me positive
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You are welcome.
Great advice as always❤️ I also tell them every day,”I’m proud of you” “
What a wonderful message to hear from you.
Great work Dr. Thank you for the powerful impact.
You are welcome, Rabi Guerrero.
Thank you that was very nice
You are welcome, Roy.
I LOVE YOUR CHANNEL
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Awesome guy🎉😊
True. My kids have coped with everything they've faced SO FAR. This is true. I always tell my daughter to have faith in herself that she will handle whatever obstacles present.
I have a good relationship with my daughter 18 but my son 15 hardly ever really communicates with me. Should I say ''I love you as he brushes past me? I don't know how to love-as- a- verb to my son anymore even though I do love him of course! I say ''HELLO GREGOR!'' every time he comes in to the room because I don't know how else to show him that he matters. I wrote him a letter a while ago to say that I wanted to support him if he wasn't happy at school and to tell me what ideas *he* had wrt his education. He didn't mention it. He does nothing he doesn't want to do and I am reasonably accepting of that but if there's something I can do to help him I'll do it, but what!?. I can't make him study, I can't make him leave his bedroom. I'd like to help him not self-sabotage though. He was the most gorgeous gorgeous little person when he was a little boy. So adorable. At about four years old he said ''when I'm grown up, we'll swap numbers and stay in touch''. We still live in the same house and we're not in touch! He listens to my daughter sometimes, she gets through to him but i don't want that to be a responsibility for her to bear.
Susan C, acknowledging him is good. Try the I Love You and see if it gets a reaction. You are right, don't put too much on your daughter. Let him know you are there for him and that you love no matter what and even if. Don't worry about him not responding to the letter, write him another and just tell him you love him. I hear so many stories like this where it seemed like the words weren't making a difference, but then something happens and the kid thinks back and it helps.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Thank you, I'm going to tell him I love him today. I told him every day until about about 2 years ago and then he got all gruff with me. But nobody ever died from hearing ''I love you'' from their mum.
Thank you so much, Doctor 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Most welcome!
One of my favorite channels on RUclips! Thank you for providing such great advice!
Hip Mama, so glad you found us.
Excellent message. Thank you for the guidance on encouraging them even when they drive us nuts. Lol
Just wanted to say thank you for consistently creating brilliant and grounded content. Your wisdom shines through every time, and I truly appreciate the impact it has. Your work is valued and admired.
With gratitude❤
You're so welcome! Please share with others.
I definitely do!
I am looking for advice on how to effectively parent my children's behavior now that I have become more self-aware, healed, and grounded. I want to learn how to move forward and address the damage that has been done in the past. Dealing with some of these behaviors has become challenging for me, and I would really appreciate some guidance. It's quite ironic, isn't it haha 😬😅
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This is a great video!
Thank you, markaruski.
Dr. Paul, I wish I can meet you in person to get my parenting classes from you. I really love my kids because they're innocent, and cure at the same time, but I yell at them so much whenever I get upset and this happens quite often. I saw your previous video which you said starting from 10. No Yelling at your kids.
I love your team as a power couple. I'm a single father now, and I'm struggling to take control of myself and my kids. I want to be a better father for my beautiful kids.
God bless you and your family. ❤❤❤
You can do this! Just remember to love them no matter what and even if... Build your support community - take care of yourself.
You can do this! Just remember to love them no matter what and even if... Build your support community - take care of yourself.
I appreciate the timing of this video as school starts in a few days. Thank you!
Becky S, you are so welcome.
I love this because my parents were against all these. We got into trouble asking. I love you sends mixed messages too.
Thank you for watching, Krystal, glad you are at the channel.
Thank you so much ! I found out I’m a helicopter mom to my 5 year and 3 year old .
I will try to use the four powerful tool every day !
Lemonflavored S, so glad we have connected.
Seriously this channel is really helpful to me in raising my child, it has really taught me a lot I don't know about parenting and it works like magic. I am being more intentional and I am happy about it. Thank you sir ♥️
You are welcome. Glad to be of service.
Appreciate what you're doing in spreading your positivity to parents!!!!
Keep it up; I need these reminders to help keep myself accountable!!!!
Justin Sattler, we all need reminder, glad you are here at the channel.
Luck is not control. I say control what you can control and be as wise as you can. You can handle this. Only if you know they can. Support them if it is out of thier current skill level. If you have any question ask. As a trainer if people need to ask I know I didn't train them properly. I go over each step till I know and they know they know each step in a procedure and are confident doing it. I love you. I used to think that was great then I discovered acceptance. I accept you and I honour your uniqueness.
Thank you for sharing, Mike.
I don’t even have kids but I’m glued to this channel! Every one of these can serve as a powerful mantra for ourselves. Also, I’m an aunt to 3 young girls and these videos are so helpful! 🙏❤️
Jen Graham, What a good aunt.
Making your children independent at young age is so important. I was a helicopter mom and I believe as a repercussion this is one of the reasons it has been over a year since he has spoken to me
I hear ya, Ta ta. Such a hard job. I personally did a lot better with my third child after learning this quote along the way. “Our only job as parents is to help our children successfully fit into society (however that is) when they turn 18”. By helping my son to gain his adult skills and independence, he is correspondingly still happy and talking with me. 😉🦋
I definitely wish I had learned this earlier for the benefit of my older children. With love from one mother heart to another. Take care, 💕👋🇦🇺
Ta ta, we don't realize that parenting is the job we are supposed to work ourselves out of. I hope he understands that the relationship he can have with you as an adult will be different.
I guessed # 1!!
Marie E., yay! Thanks for watching.
4. Good luck
3. You can handle this
2. If you have any questions, ask.
1. I love you no matter what, even if
Great watched last night and was thinking ablut these all day.
LT, come back anytime for a refresher, hope you enjoy some of the other videos.
Tq sir
I'm a re-formed and rehabilitated helicopter mom. My husband is a reluctant former helicopter dad...we both grew up in South Florida, in the same area where Adam Walsh was abducted. I also lost a brother when I was very young. It has been hard learning to let them do their own things, to step back and allow them to make decisions for themselves. We are still learning, but acknowledge that we are raising Adults, adults who will be part of society and contribute to the world around them. Hardest thing I've ever done in my life. I just pray we do something right.
Virginia W, it is difficult, but rewarding and you are the mother your child needs.
Hey Thank you so much for all the beneficial videos.they help me alot or atleast give me some peace of mind.
I have depression and anxiety and I struggle on daily basis to handle my kids. Do you have any video on similar topic that can be helpful.
M Maryam, we do have some videos on how to treat depression and anxiety so check them out on the playlist. You can do this.
Thank you so much.I ll check them.
The tips and advice you give are solid… But more than that I really resonate with your presentation style. Thank you so much for helping me better be a better parent and partner.🙏🏻
Honored to be on your team.
I appreciate you so much! Thanks again for teaching true psychology and not being a mainstream pill pusher who gaslights everyone.
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You are welcome, Ines Prince.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV my Disney executive vice-president sister was paying my ex-boyfriend to psychologically abused me and my children and be their pill pusher. These millionaires are all off the chain that hurt the children. Stay blessed.
Good advice for adults too.
Yes, the principle can be applied in different ways.
I don't say "Good luck." Life happens. "Make it an amazing day!" "The choice is Yours!" "You got this!" "Si say puede!" "Be noble!" "No bull!" "Be You to full!"
Do what works for you.
I feel that no matter how I try to be a good parent, to be ready, to be open minded, my teenager still finds a way to make me mad and create a drama. Seems that she just needs to rebel to prove her existence.
Agnes, it seems that way, hang in there.
I am even hitting the like button before start listening! I trust you man❤️
You're the best!
Thank you I have a question When a child (four and a half ) wants to overpower another child , but without violence just touching the other children is that considered bullying? In my eyes it's a way of provoking attention or reaction for interaction, but I'm not sure if it's bullying or attention seeking or wanting to overpower
I really need your help on this because the kids who receive this action don't seem to be bothered but the mothers have a problem with this and they respond by telling off my son, and I don't know how to respond to all this . This channel has helped me keep my sanity ! I appreciate it
Christina Nal, it is about understanding what is normal for children and your son's behavior is normal. We are labeling too much as bullying.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV you have no idea how much I appreciate your answer, I thank you so much.
Thank you for your wise advice… I usually say God bless you instead of Good luck.
You are so welcome, that works.
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Thank you, mai samir.
This is great advice Dr Paul. We especially love the idea that we are always communicating to our kids, even if we aren’t using words!
TeenSavvy Parenting, when we figure this out, it is a game changer.
Thanks a lot for the tips! I will make sure to never forget them!
One question, what about a helicopter grandmother? Our boy, 19 months, spends a lot of time at his grandmother's when we are working. And I notice she jumps in and hovers a lot. I have told her to let him try things and learn by himself and relax a bit, but she keeps at it. Any tips?
(Also, off topic, you have a very symmetrical nose👃, nice👍🏻)
Berivan Hosiyar, Come back anytime for a refresher. All you can do is ask her and model it for her. Perhaps give her an article with the benefits. Other than that you have the option of taking him elsewhere for care.
Good luck, you can handle it, if you have any questions ask, I love you no matter what
Akira, that is it!
This is a much better way to avoid being a nagging parent! Thank you for this helpful video.
IndieUSA, hopefully we can be positive parents.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV We do our best. Being positive could mean so many things to someone. Your four positive things are concise and with your experience, it is sage advice.
Can I ask for a consultation from my growing teen about a problem of mine for the issue of sharing or this will let them think I can’t handle it
Mervat Mansour, consultations are very helpful, in my opinion.
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you are welcome.
(FACTS OVA FEELINGS). The Purpose of CHILDREN is Not just the EXPANSION of YOUNIVERSAL CONSCIOUSNESS it is ollso the EXPANSION of hOUR CONSCIOUSNESS az PARENTS
Thank you.
I have depression and am the opposite of a helicopter parent. His dads family who I was forced to live with every good thing I tried to do they spitefully told him not to listen to me and would let him do whatever he wants.
I work 5 nights a week & do all the chores by myself as well as the chores but haven’t been able to escape his dad yet. I was forced into getting pregnant and never had a bond with my child. I try to be patient and of course helpful and I do care but it’s a huge struggle.
I hope you figure out a way to live the life you want.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Thank you. I’m working on getting over my anxiety and trying to find someone to help with training to get a license. Then I’m going to get a 2nd job and leave.
Hi Paul , I don’t know if you can do a video about how to prepare our children for bullies. I have a 4 year old and his 6 year old cousin is sometimes mean to him. Kind of pushes him to the side and talks mean to him. My 4 year old is too kind sometimes and doesn’t do anything but I wouldn’t want him to be walked over.
Luissy Ortiz, go to the library and ask them about books that talk about bullies. It is a great way to get a conversation going.
I'm a mother of 2 have a husband that has no idea how to be a parent, so basically I do his job and my job.
My oldest is 5,5 she is in the 1st grade, worked so hard to get her here without any support from my husband. These days going through so much difficulties and need help to stay strong and beneficial for my children. I'm glad I found this channel very helpful and informative.
As children grow parenting gets more harder when you do it alone its gets even more harder.
Good luck to all the beautiful and strong moms with their parenting. We can do everything and make everything work.🙂
We are here for you.
4. Goodluck.
3. You can handle this.
2. If you have any questions ask.
1. I love you 🥰
Dep, thanks!
Good luck
You can handle it
If you have any questions, ask..
I love you
You got it!
00:03 Vier wirkungsvolle Tipps für eine positive Kindererziehung
01:10 Kinder bestimmen ihr Leben selbst, je nach Reifegrad
02:10 Beim Helikopter-Eltern wird der Eindruck erweckt, dass Kinder ihre Herausforderungen nicht allein bewältigen können.
03:03 Du kannst damit umgehen.
04:01 Jeder stirbt irgendwann
04:55 Ermutigen Sie Ihre Kinder, Fragen zu stellen
05:49 Geben Sie unaufgefordert nur Ratschläge, wenn Sie danach gefragt werden.
06:52 Bringen Sie Kindern Verantwortung mit fünf wirkungsvollen Geheimnissen bei
I am glad to know I have already been telling #1,2 and 4 to my kid. I can't tell #3 to my kid yet because her one and only question right now is 'Can you buy me this toy?"
itsmepuja, haha, hopefully that stage will pass soon.
(FACTS OVA FEELINGS). The Purpose of Children is Not just the Expansion of hOUR Youniversal Consciousness az Parents
True.
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Hello Sarah.
Yesterday I told my son to make his bed before his grandma picked him up for the weekend he asked if she was otw I said that she was then he said , kinda under his breath, "good luck"....
Kids pick up a lot.
Paul is crazyyy 🤣
have loads of kids that way they become self reliant from a young age and better rounded individuals
S S, yes, they do. Kids need love and discipline.
Raise them that they are saved by the Lord Jesus Christ first before they die.
Thank you.
Do not agree with everything u said. But i can agree with most of it.
But what happens when my teen twins become complete jerks, ignoring their chores, blowing off schooling (they're home-schooled) & I just can't love them anymore? If I start saying these 4 things out of the blue, my kids will think I'm lying. Truth be told, my mom over-protected me when I was growing up, which told me that I couldn't handle this rotten world. And she was right. This world is definitely rotten, & I completely can't handle my family at all & want out. Every night I hope to die in my sleep. And every morning I wake up disappointed.
Lisa, sounds like you could use some hep. How can you help your children when you don't have anything in the tank. Figure out a different schooling situation for them and get some help.
i strongly agree with these four points, but, unfortunately, my parents didn't say any of these things to me except the last one--but they didn't mean it. they have never defined the word "love" and i believe you can't give what you don't understand. the way that children are abused so often in this country with no consequences is an abject tragedy. and it's by design.
Sorry that you had to go through that. I wish there were no abuse, but unfortunately, that is not the case. Glad you are here on the channel.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Thank you for the acknowledgement.
Im 26 and my parents never told me they love me. Not even once.
Wow! I just can't imagine. I know it happens, sorry. You are of immeasurable worth.
I need to add the phrase “ask if you have any questions” to my life. I’m super duper stupendously guilty of giving unsolicited advice. Oops!
You got this, Maureen.