I suffered from childhood trauma. I am the only child that my parents have together, also the first girl for both of them but second child for both as well.. I came in my parents life I will say not the right time, it was durning the Liberian war. I stayed with my mom until I was like 5/6 yrs old but then my mother give me up to my dad family becuz she said she couldn’t take care of me and her other kids (financially). I stayed with my dad family but have never met my father until a year later. Growing up with my dad was like a parent in the house that you don’t see.. my father never hug me, celebrated my birthday, came to my graduation (6th grade) I had a rich politician father living in the house yet I only had 2 pair of shoes. My father never allowed me to play outside or friends visiting. So it was school and then straight home. I was bullied in school and when I came home my older cousins will beat me for no reason and also my father girlfriends (whatever flavor of the week). I was afraid of everything. Came to the USA stayed with my father older sister (my aunt) and she treated me the same as well. I missed out on my childhood and teenage years. I didn’t know about trauma until I was 23 years old taking a psychology class in college. Psychology helped me a lot because I knew I was hurting but I didn’t know what it was. My brain repressed my traumatic experiences as a way of defense against the stress as a child. In psychology it’s called REPRESSION (Freudian theory). Imagine trying to heal from a problem you can’t remember. I can’t asked my family becuz they act like no such thing ever happened.. so when I watch this episode, it felt good to know that I am not crazy and it’s not my fault. But I am healing and knowing better.
Husband Material's question was very valid. The guest's perspective was also quite valid. They just misunderstood each other and Nedu should not have spoken that way to his colleague. The guest meant, as a person you can't change anything but HM was also pointing out the error in blocking out issues. I guess the middle ground is when you cannot change a situation, do not let it overwhelm you so that you protect your peace.
@@4DericJust going around insulting people. It is you who has a 2 percent brain. Both of them can actually be right in their arguments. Asking for change from those who can do something about it is not considered along with bad energy or bad vibes because it is in that perspective a personal choice by that person to seek for justice and for the right. While in her own perspective it is okay to dodge those things to protect your peace but it won't be for everybody. So Husband Material question is that are you going to go about telling people to protect their peace about issues affecting them and their country men especially bordering on people who can do something about it. Leaders and people can as well adopt such ideologies while things go wrong in their jurisdictions and they do nothing because they want to protect their peace. People fought for us to be where we are today as Nigerians and black people. If they had just accepted their chains and did nothing, none of us will be here at the human level we are in. Husband Material had a lot of sense in what he was saying because he knows the lady prescribes this to people she speaks to. It shouldn't be generalized.
@@okebuluagwu5928outstanding write up. 👏👏👏👏👏 invalidating anger and negating it is just unacceptable to me. All emotions play a role for human preservation. Off course self control is needed, but we must not stand idle and say “I want to preserve my peace” then watch things happen. That is self sabotage if you ask me.
This lady knows what she’s saying, I can relate with this trauma talks, mostly “repression”. Also, this podcast is so educative and focuses on different topics like relationship, traumas, entertainment, politics, comedy, etc. Kudos to you guys for bringing great guest weekly. 🙏🏽👌🏾
After watching this podcast am just smiling and grateful because I realized am healing to some extent because I realized my trauma at early age and I started working on myself, Am at a point where I have created my own life and how I want it to be, I know my limit and my boundaries and anytime am going out of line I quickly do a check talk to myself where I have a time alone and evaluate my environment and call myself back to order. But the only issue I have not been able to get use to it is to pick my phone and call someone😢 even if mind is on them and it's not that I don't care but I don't just feel the need to call someone if I don't have any important thing to talk about because growing up anytime I call my parents they'll always tell me am busy and they'll always call back at their own time and ask me to only call if I have something important to discuss. So expect people to call me when they have something important to say even in relationship I have little or nothing to say if I feel it's not important.
Husband material is an apt example of a choleric: very knowledgeable about so many things, so when you have a contrary opinion to their views they easily get upset but people like him need to know there is no one answer to a question. learn to respect people's views. I am a big fan of Husband material because e dey always dey make sense. Kudos to your guest.
I actually understand where Husband material was coming from. They didn't actually address his issue. So because Corruption will fight back when we fight it means we shouldn't fight it?
As a Therapist I learned alot from this episode. There are alot of false narratives parading the society that really need to addressed. Kudos Ma Deyola Kingsley you are a blessing 💐
This podcast simply resonates the fact that parents can make the children they want. The formative years of a child should be used in the right way by the parents to teach and make a wholesome person.
God bless the Honest bunch crew. Your episodes are top notch, educative, inspiring and knowledge filled. Appreciate. On this particular episode I wish I could do a VN but will type as much as I can. There are so many diversions; I would slate few observations and facts. 1. Nothing on earth is natural; it's a spiritual world. 2. Adeola case and trauma are personal, it's not general . Perhaps her parents should have done more of the therapy when she was young. 3. Life is a stage, there are times when parents are to inculcate and direct and that's the more reason we should have a mentally, psychologically balanced people as parents. 4.she is good, educated and sound in her experience. A ministry is a result of your personal encounter. (ADEOLA. MRS) 5. Thanks to our parents for the No,s and the Yes, es. 6.An interview or seminars on PARENTING will go a long way. Let me pen- down here. I love you guys.
You captured my thoughts in words. Cos her story is one of a traumatized childhood. I had a pretty normal one inclusive of the childish exuberances which my parents and seniors indulged. I was pretty stubborn but turned out okay. Requisite Discipline is a necessity to guide a child, her parents may have taken it over the top which spiralled into what she became but I'm happy she found her path to healing eventually.
I was just smiling whiles the guest was speaking because she's full of exceptional knowledge and wisdom. I also learnt allot from her. I love her kind of wisdom kai❤❤❤❤. I am a big fan of husband material, but in this particular session, he lost it. May be assuming he calmed down, he would have understood the perspective the guest was talking from which was so vivid. Husband material didn't apply emotional intelligence in this session at all kai. It was as if he came to this podcast offended from outside😂😂😂😂
He should learn to listen more. She kept explaining and explaining.. He was just trying to prove a point even when she clearly answered him. This is what happens when you think you’re the highest in the room..
Husband Material just went cold and quiet because the answer to his question was not met It's the first time I'm seeing him like this,I feel for him but he can't afford to be this emotional for a man in his position, cheer up man
@@okebuluagwu5928 she did, ask the question and I’ll answer you here using her exact words. Or you can save me the stress by watching the video again.. But if you can’t decipher the answer then I’ll help you.
I must confess this is one of the most educative session and I enjoyed every second of it. The knowledge and therapy that I could've paid millions because it worth every cent.. Thank you @Honest Brunch Also our guest. Much love
But that's common knowledge right from aeon. We conduct electricity. Our bodies generate electricity though it very minutest amount. Okay, ordinarily when you fold your hand, doesn't it get warm In seconds?. That's no new facts abeg.
What HM is saying is. For instance a person comes to her with the same issue that the country is weighing him or her down mentally and they need psychological help. with what she saying that's what she will tell them and construct thier mind to do so. Meaning if the whole of Nigeria chooses to do what she does since it works for her it should work for them too. But in doing that we all fall into an illusion and damn the country.
Adeola was speaking for herself and what works for her and not others so it was right for Husband Material to ask that question for general purpose and dumb for Nedu to try to shush him because I feel Nedu wasn’t standing on what he knows but on what he feel Adeola knows.
Thank you. Exactly. This was my view too. Husband material knows that she is a principal in that space and her answer looks generalised as what she would proffer to anyone if asked and knowing the state of things in this country or world their are people who have to ask for the right things to be done. And also people who should do right in their positions. If everybody escaped this to protect their energy what will be our fate? People, PanAfricanist and Nationalist fought all over the world for we black people to enjoy certain freedom we enjoy today. Protecting your energy should have a perspective. Some people's peace of mind comes with fighting for their right even. Don't mind Nedu he was just trying to protect the lady not to make thing awkward.
Haven't you seen movies where the warrior stands still in the midst of a battle, shuts his/her eyes, comes into a state of calm, opens his/her eyes and begins to make rational moves? That's an illustration for what Adeola was saying about handling realities. Husband Material made a solid point by pointing out that it it is ineffective for people who have the capacity to do something about their situation to seemingly dwell in a state of illusion. BUT . . . . . i think he misconstrued Adeola - I think Adeola was basically referring to keeping a clear head instead of always worrying, because the energy that's used to worry and gripe and complain, could have been used to calm down and think. / / / / / / / / / / / / / / I don't think Adeola meant shutting out reality just to be able to sleep and behave like nothing is happening / / / / / / /
God bless You Husband Material for that question..if we all decide that we can't do anything about it. it will persist. In the Nigeria situation, we need to realized that we can actually do something about it by demanding for better forcefully! I believe it is absolute selfishness that if for the sake of your own peace you decide not to be bothered about the troubles of others. IF IT WERE YOU AFFECTED DIRECTLY BY KIDNAPPING FOR INSTANCE WOULD YOU SIMPLY DECIDE TO NOT LET IT WORRY YOU BECAUSE YOU CANT DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT!? The moment we start putting ourselves in the shoes of many other Nigerian Victims (which we actually all are) . We will realize that empathy in it self could propel a level of action. No matter how little!
I guess you guys still really didn’t understand the woman, what she meant was worrying over an issue never solved it, it only damages your mental health, think more about the solution and fix it if you can but if it’s beyond your power let it slide. Just like what Nedu said, if you can fix it why worrying and if you can’t fix it why worrying 🤷🏻♀️
@@tolulopestephen1648okay, look at it in this angle, for instance her relation or someone very close to her was kidnapped twice, the first one was killed and the second is still in kidnappers den, will she still main same energy of not worrying? That’s the point. I wish us all the best anyway ❤ God bless and protect us all.
I can’t love this podcast enough, I love all the questions the all the host always ask their guests & the very educative answers the guest come up with. Thank you all so much your podcast is very educative in an entertaining way.
This is the only podcast that make sense in nigeria others are just fooling keep up with the good work nedu and team love. Why is it not on spotify yet ive been waiting on spotify since yesterday have to come to youtube to watch please post on spotify
@@zinnykalu1308 That's just pure capping and I respect all she has gone through and done but some things she said on this episode no resonate reality to me. It could work for a bit but on a long run test, it fades. I appreciate her depth of wisdom though.
I Soo much acknowledged what she said... " Your adulthood is birthed from your childhood" a paraphrase.... Trauma gets one traumatized.... Personality is defined by who you are.... A seasoned therapist she is... A trained theatrical being to a therapist...
The psychological issues caused by Nigerian government policies/decisions can be damaging. I understand HM's views, but it was a deviation from the discussion at that point. The lady was discussing personal healing and growth which many people need right now... There's time for everything. That time was to address worry and healing from trauma. Una wehdone oh.
Every week I listen and think this is the best Podcast, the next week is even better. You guys are doing amazing. Well done God bless this wonderful team 😍
One thing I learned from this episode is that if we can all be individually sincere to ourselves, we will see that most of the problems we blame people for come from inside us. We do the blame game and play the victim in situations that we orchestrated.
I don’t think people study the 12 laws of the universe enough. Depression isn’t real, people need to stop focusing on the negative things in their lives, it’s the law of perpetual transmutation of energy and also the law of attraction.
@@femola65 you give power to whatever you believe in sir, I’m in a better position when I believe to my self that depression isn’t real. I don’t like anything that takes away power from me, because I can’t control anything going on in the universe except my mind. I’m more efficient to myself when I believe depression isn’t real, but if you choose to believe depression is real then I wish you the best.
This was such an amazing episode… I follow up almost all the episodes since I started seeing this show but this is one of the best ❤❤❤ Screen recording almost every point… Amazing one.
This is the best podcast of Nedu's I ve ever come across with. I will save it to revisit again and again How do I meet Mrs Adeola cause I ve alot to dust off my mind
Hi, husband material You are an incredible host and very knowledgeable but I stopped 57 minutes into the video to drop this comment. I think you missed her point where she was talking about not worrying as an individual, now the country has a lot of problems and she didn't say there should not be means to solve them or podcast or news or awareness to do problems to create solutions. She says as an individual worrying about them and being angry about things you don't have control over actually contributes to the problem. So she is not dismissing the fact that there are problems in the country or the people in the right positions to solve them are doing nothing about it but she also acknowledging the fact that the citizens always ranting about it or worrying at home if not publicly making a point or making an awareness it's also not helping anybody. I think the point she is trying to make is that worrying about uncontrollable outcomes or situations is not good because it feeds bad energy
You just said my mind. One thing i have come to realize with people is that we have difficulty in Listening, what we do is hearing , we are mostly quick to respond rather than calming down to listen and understand.
I understand husband material. Both of them can actually be right in their arguments. Asking for change from those who can do something about it is not considered along with bad energy or bad vibes because it is in that perspective a personal choice by that person to seek for justice and for the right. While in her own perspective it is okay to dodge those things to protect your peace but it won't be for everybody. So Husband Material question is that are you going to go about telling people to protect their peace about issues affecting them and their country men especially bordering on people who can do something about it. Leaders and people can as well adopt such ideologies while things go wrong in their jurisdictions and they do nothing because they want to protect their peace. People fought for us to be where we are today as Nigerians and black people. If they had just accepted their chains and did nothing, none of us will be here at the human level we are in. Husband Material had a lot of sense in what he was saying because he knows the lady prescribes this to people she speaks to. Some peoples peace of mind comes when they speak for the right things to be done and when it is done. The two energies can exist with the right perspective to them. One part shouldn't be generalized.
Good job guys and kudos to the guest speaker, it's good to be knowledgeable and have contrary opinions sometimes but husband material needs to listen to understand not listen to reply .
Husband material might be dealing with a lot of trauma but trying so hard not to be in therapy by Adeola. Why is he being so emotional? Not smiling or being the moderator that we know him for. You’ll be fine bro.
As much I think that stalemate could been resolved better, I believe it’s important to take into consideration the context within which a guest is brought on the show and assess their answers against the backdrop of what they have been brought to talk about. Adeola’s work allows her to deal with the mental health of an “individual” on a “one on one” basis and so in giving her solutions, her aim will be to protect the mental health of a person even if means telling the person to “not worry about a problem”. The truth is the world will always be balanced. Not everyone will adopt her style and her solution will not work for everyone. There are people who will always be outspoken but her advice is still very valid for some specific people. Her answer would certainly be different from what a governor or a gubernatorial candidate would say. Something was amiss with this episode but I hope whatever it is can be resolved better next time. Well done to the team nonetheless, this topic is not a walk in the park.
Edu you are not getting the question from husband material at all. He was asking a very intelligent question: Why was Nedu trying too hard to shut him up?
Husband material just shutdown after the 'controversial question'. Nedu was even trying to bring him into a coversation with the 'you remember that I'm not your child's friend video' and he didn't catch that. Husband material would have been firing questions from all angles being an extremely intelligent person. But I know he will learn from this episode and get better. You have my respect bro
He should learn to listen more. She kept explaining and explaining.. He was just trying to prove a point even when she clearly answered him. This is what happens when you think you’re the highest in the room..
My bro I think you misunderstood them too,the answer to HM’s question is quite simple, if a person who has the power to solve a problem is being affected by the problem all he has to do is just solve it, but what Adeola was talking about is in regards to the people who doesn’t have the power to solve this problems,if you don’t have the power to solve a problem then don’t allow it to bother you a lot, the point of therapy is to achieve emotional, mental and psychological stability(peace) which her theory actually helps you achieve in this situation as someone who doesn’t have power to solve the problem. The only thing I noticed here was that they had a mix up and she didn’t really understand HM’s question,maybe for the fact that he didn’t explain himself well.
So is it in all cases we'll zone out and not worry. It's innate in man kind to worry and be anxious even in situations you have no control over. I understand her point of view though, but it's impracticable in all situations
Same way Drs in Nigeria are always going on strike with agitation all the time, but things haven’t changed still. Same way we amplified a lot of systemic issues in the world but it’s been worse now
Never did i ever have the slightest idea that a day will come when the streets will drag husband material 😂😂😂. But if you guys can only understand where husband material is coming from: he's stating a claim that there's a possibility where the person who potentially has the solution to a problem can choose to do nothing about the issue simply because they didn't think they could be the solution, which in itself is a bad thing. I mean, Nelson Mandela wasn't the most affluential person in old South Africa, yet he didn't zone out of the reality of South Africa, and so did something about it even though he paid the price for it. Many times, we tell ourselves we can not do anything about situations because we are either too weak or too afraid to pay the price. So, husband material's argument is valid, and Adeola's arguments are valid as well. We need to learn to be open minded in understanding different people's points of view.
This woman will make heaven biko. So much wisdom
I suffered from childhood trauma. I am the only child that my parents have together, also the first girl for both of them but second child for both as well.. I came in my parents life I will say not the right time, it was durning the Liberian war. I stayed with my mom until I was like 5/6 yrs old but then my mother give me up to my dad family becuz she said she couldn’t take care of me and her other kids (financially). I stayed with my dad family but have never met my father until a year later. Growing up with my dad was like a parent in the house that you don’t see.. my father never hug me, celebrated my birthday, came to my graduation (6th grade) I had a rich politician father living in the house yet I only had 2 pair of shoes. My father never allowed me to play outside or friends visiting. So it was school and then straight home. I was bullied in school and when I came home my older cousins will beat me for no reason and also my father girlfriends (whatever flavor of the week). I was afraid of everything. Came to the USA stayed with my father older sister (my aunt) and she treated me the same as well. I missed out on my childhood and teenage years. I didn’t know about trauma until I was 23 years old taking a psychology class in college. Psychology helped me a lot because I knew I was hurting but I didn’t know what it was. My brain repressed my traumatic experiences as a way of defense against the stress as a child. In psychology it’s called REPRESSION (Freudian theory). Imagine trying to heal from a problem you can’t remember. I can’t asked my family becuz they act like no such thing ever happened.. so when I watch this episode, it felt good to know that I am not crazy and it’s not my fault. But I am healing and knowing better.
I pray you heal and everything goes well with you 😊 much love
Thanks for this, I think you helped me figure out myself better here. I will look into “repression” since I had a shitty childhood too.
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Oh dear
Hugs from me to you🤗.. more healing dear...❤❤❤
For the first time in my life, i finished a 2hours plus podcast without getting distracted. Nice one Adeola
I did too....I was glued to it ....I listened it twice ....
Husband Material's question was very valid. The guest's perspective was also quite valid. They just misunderstood each other and Nedu should not have spoken that way to his colleague. The guest meant, as a person you can't change anything but HM was also pointing out the error in blocking out issues. I guess the middle ground is when you cannot change a situation, do not let it overwhelm you so that you protect your peace.
Rewatch the podcast and if you still think he wasn’t answered you have a 2percent brain.. 🧠 come here I’ll help you decipher the answer. Thanks
@@4Derichmmm nawa for you ooo
@@4DericJust going around insulting people. It is you who has a 2 percent brain. Both of them can actually be right in their arguments. Asking for change from those who can do something about it is not considered along with bad energy or bad vibes because it is in that perspective a personal choice by that person to seek for justice and for the right. While in her own perspective it is okay to dodge those things to protect your peace but it won't be for everybody. So Husband Material question is that are you going to go about telling people to protect their peace about issues affecting them and their country men especially bordering on people who can do something about it. Leaders and people can as well adopt such ideologies while things go wrong in their jurisdictions and they do nothing because they want to protect their peace. People fought for us to be where we are today as Nigerians and black people. If they had just accepted their chains and did nothing, none of us will be here at the human level we are in. Husband Material had a lot of sense in what he was saying because he knows the lady prescribes this to people she speaks to. It shouldn't be generalized.
Bless you for this
@@okebuluagwu5928outstanding write up. 👏👏👏👏👏 invalidating anger and negating it is just unacceptable to me. All
emotions play a role for human preservation. Off course self control is needed, but we must not stand idle and say “I want to preserve my peace” then watch things happen. That is self sabotage if you ask me.
This lady knows what she’s saying, I can relate with this trauma talks, mostly “repression”. Also, this podcast is so educative and focuses on different topics like relationship, traumas, entertainment, politics, comedy, etc. Kudos to you guys for bringing great guest weekly. 🙏🏽👌🏾
After watching this podcast am just smiling and grateful because I realized am healing to some extent because I realized my trauma at early age and I started working on myself,
Am at a point where I have created my own life and how I want it to be, I know my limit and my boundaries and anytime am going out of line I quickly do a check talk to myself where I have a time alone and evaluate my environment and call myself back to order.
But the only issue I have not been able to get use to it is to pick my phone and call someone😢 even if mind is on them and it's not that I don't care but I don't just feel the need to call someone if I don't have any important thing to talk about because growing up anytime I call my parents they'll always tell me am busy and they'll always call back at their own time and ask me to only call if I have something important to discuss.
So expect people to call me when they have something important to say even in relationship I have little or nothing to say if I feel it's not important.
This is me
@@miracleijeoma9184 Wow🤍am sending you 🤍
@@miracleijeoma9184 I believe that will also be over soon 🥺am sending you 🤍
The same with me
So mee
This podcast! 🥺 I'm honestly so thankful for this platform.
Thank you for exposing me to constructs I'd otherwise not think of.
This is the best episode so far, very insightful, educational and informative.
I enjoyed every moment of this podcast 😊 Thank you Ms. Adeola and everyone with your questions and contributions
Husband material is an apt example of a choleric: very knowledgeable about so many things, so when you have a contrary opinion to their views they easily get upset but people like him need to know there is no one answer to a question. learn to respect people's views. I am a big fan of Husband material because e dey always dey make sense. Kudos to your guest.
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I actually understand where Husband material was coming from. They didn't actually address his issue. So because Corruption will fight back when we fight it means we shouldn't fight it?
This podcast was worth every dime of time! Thank you so much Mrs Adeola Kingsley, Thank you so much Honest Bunch podcast host.
Adeola you're very educated 👏👏
very very
As a Therapist I learned alot from this episode. There are alot of false narratives parading the society that really need to addressed. Kudos Ma Deyola Kingsley you are a blessing 💐
This podcast simply resonates the fact that parents can make the children they want. The formative years of a child should be used in the right way by the parents to teach and make a wholesome person.
Choosing to be calm in situations is action. You intentionally chose to be calm. Silence could be golden.
God bless the Honest bunch crew. Your episodes are top notch, educative, inspiring and knowledge filled. Appreciate.
On this particular episode I wish I could do a VN but will type as much as I can. There are so many diversions; I would slate few observations and facts.
1. Nothing on earth is natural; it's a spiritual world.
2. Adeola case and trauma are personal, it's not general . Perhaps her parents should have done more of the therapy when she was young.
3. Life is a stage, there are times when parents are to inculcate and direct and that's the more reason we should have a mentally, psychologically balanced people as parents.
4.she is good, educated and sound in her experience. A ministry is a result of your personal encounter. (ADEOLA. MRS)
5. Thanks to our parents for the No,s and the Yes, es.
6.An interview or seminars on PARENTING will go a long way.
Let me pen- down here. I love you guys.
You captured my thoughts in words. Cos her story is one of a traumatized childhood. I had a pretty normal one inclusive of the childish exuberances which my parents and seniors indulged. I was pretty stubborn but turned out okay.
Requisite Discipline is a necessity to guide a child, her parents may have taken it over the top which spiralled into what she became but I'm happy she found her path to healing eventually.
I was just smiling whiles the guest was speaking because she's full of exceptional knowledge and wisdom. I also learnt allot from her. I love her kind of wisdom kai❤❤❤❤. I am a big fan of husband material, but in this particular session, he lost it. May be assuming he calmed down, he would have understood the perspective the guest was talking from which was so vivid. Husband material didn't apply emotional intelligence in this session at all kai. It was as if he came to this podcast offended from outside😂😂😂😂
He should learn to listen more. She kept explaining and explaining.. He was just trying to prove a point even when she clearly answered him. This is what happens when you think you’re the highest in the room..
Husband Material just went cold and quiet because the answer to his question was not met
It's the first time I'm seeing him like this,I feel for him but he can't afford to be this emotional for a man in his position, cheer up man
He was answered
@@4DericNo he wasn't.
@@okebuluagwu5928 she did, ask the question and I’ll answer you here using her exact words. Or you can save me the stress by watching the video again.. But if you can’t decipher the answer then I’ll help you.
@Adeola. Thank you so much for everything, my phenomenal babe ❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉.
I came here from Spotify just to drop my comment. This is the most educative podcast I’ve ever come across u guys are doing great
This is Amazing....very interesting ❤❤❤❤❤ i love every bit
I must confess this is one of the most educative session and I enjoyed every second of it. The knowledge and therapy that I could've paid millions because it worth every cent..
Thank you @Honest Brunch
Also our guest. Much love
That woman has gained much wisdom. I really would love to attend the training she attended.
THE ENERGY BETWEEN THE HANDS IS TRUE O !!!! , energy dey o , wow !!!
But that's common knowledge right from aeon. We conduct electricity. Our bodies generate electricity though it very minutest amount.
Okay, ordinarily when you fold your hand, doesn't it get warm In seconds?.
That's no new facts abeg.
What HM is saying is. For instance a person comes to her with the same issue that the country is weighing him or her down mentally and they need psychological help. with what she saying that's what she will tell them and construct thier mind to do so. Meaning if the whole of Nigeria chooses to do what she does since it works for her it should work for them too. But in doing that we all fall into an illusion and damn the country.
I watched in bits but my mind was on finishing this podcast till I finished watching it. It was worth my time.
"YOU ARE NOT SPEAKING MY MIND BUT YOU ARE SPEAKING"🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Adeola was speaking for herself and what works for her and not others so it was right for Husband Material to ask that question for general purpose and dumb for Nedu to try to shush him because I feel Nedu wasn’t standing on what he knows but on what he feel Adeola knows.
Thank you. Exactly. This was my view too. Husband material knows that she is a principal in that space and her answer looks generalised as what she would proffer to anyone if asked and knowing the state of things in this country or world their are people who have to ask for the right things to be done. And also people who should do right in their positions. If everybody escaped this to protect their energy what will be our fate? People, PanAfricanist and Nationalist fought all over the world for we black people to enjoy certain freedom we enjoy today. Protecting your energy should have a perspective. Some people's peace of mind comes with fighting for their right even. Don't mind Nedu he was just trying to protect the lady not to make thing awkward.
I’m definitely sharing this with my girls……
Haven't you seen movies where the warrior stands still in the midst of a battle, shuts his/her eyes, comes into a state of calm, opens his/her eyes and begins to make rational moves? That's an illustration for what Adeola was saying about handling realities.
Husband Material made a solid point by pointing out that it it is ineffective for people who have the capacity to do something about their situation to seemingly dwell in a state of illusion. BUT . . . . . i think he misconstrued Adeola - I think Adeola was basically referring to keeping a clear head instead of always worrying, because the energy that's used to worry and gripe and complain, could have been used to calm down and think. / / / / / / / / / / / / / / I don't think Adeola meant shutting out reality just to be able to sleep and behave like nothing is happening / / / / / / /
Very well said Sir!
Solid as a rock we stand gidigbaa 💯💯
This lady is God sent i can actually relate with this topic being traumatised as a child 😢😢
God bless You Husband Material for that question..if we all decide that we can't do anything about it. it will persist. In the Nigeria situation, we need to realized that we can actually do something about it by demanding for better forcefully!
I believe it is absolute selfishness that if for the sake of your own peace you decide not to be bothered about the troubles of others.
IF IT WERE YOU AFFECTED DIRECTLY BY KIDNAPPING FOR INSTANCE WOULD YOU SIMPLY DECIDE TO NOT LET IT WORRY YOU BECAUSE YOU CANT DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT!?
The moment we start putting ourselves in the shoes of many other Nigerian Victims (which we actually all are) . We will realize that empathy in it self could propel a level of action. No matter how little!
I understand what that guy, but the lady is not getting the point, the guy ask a valid question
I guess you guys still really didn’t understand the woman, what she meant was worrying over an issue never solved it, it only damages your mental health, think more about the solution and fix it if you can but if it’s beyond your power let it slide. Just like what Nedu said, if you can fix it why worrying and if you can’t fix it why worrying 🤷🏻♀️
Well said 👏
@@tolulopestephen1648 I get what you mean. At the onset it was about worry but then it divulged into 'doing anything about it'
@@tolulopestephen1648okay, look at it in this angle, for instance her relation or someone very close to her was kidnapped twice, the first one was killed and the second is still in kidnappers den, will she still main same energy of not worrying? That’s the point. I wish us all the best anyway ❤
God bless and protect us all.
"TO YOU THYSELF BE KNOWN"
I love that line!
I can’t love this podcast enough, I love all the questions the all the host always ask their guests & the very educative answers the guest come up with. Thank you all so much your podcast is very educative in an entertaining way.
The most amazing podcast. Always having very deep educative conversations. This woman is packed with knowledge.
This is the only podcast that make sense in nigeria others are just fooling keep up with the good work nedu and team love.
Why is it not on spotify yet ive been waiting on spotify since yesterday have to come to youtube to watch please post on spotify
First time i saw husband material benched in his podcast. This is really an ogbonge podcast
This is the first time I'm watching honest bunch podcast and i got my notepad to write down somethings. This lady is full of knowledge
God bless the team for bringing this up.
The worst is when the toxicity is from an immediately family member.
The President and Government must be held accountable. I stand with HM. Also, this is an informative interview.
She never said they shouldn't be held accountable, she is saying the shouldn't act from a place of anger.. watch the podcast again...
Insightful!
i Stand with Husband material on this oooo . this woman is speaking of what works for her not the general public
She said it na, she mentioned that’s her style and she isn’t telling anyone to adopt her style
Dyg!!!!! That thing she said let’s all agree like we can actually act like we won’t worry when we actually have a problem…. That’s actual cap
@@zinnykalu1308
That's just pure capping and I respect all she has gone through and done but some things she said on this episode no resonate reality to me. It could work for a bit but on a long run test, it fades.
I appreciate her depth of wisdom though.
This is amazing 👏
I Soo much acknowledged what she said... " Your adulthood is birthed from your childhood" a paraphrase....
Trauma gets one traumatized....
Personality is defined by who you are....
A seasoned therapist she is...
A trained theatrical being to a therapist...
this is the best podcast for me
The psychological issues caused by Nigerian government policies/decisions can be damaging. I understand HM's views, but it was a deviation from the discussion at that point. The lady was discussing personal healing and growth which many people need right now... There's time for everything. That time was to address worry and healing from trauma. Una wehdone oh.
This video is priceless. If you key to what Adeola is saying your like will change for the better.
Praise the Lord brother Nedu
Every week I listen and think this is the best Podcast, the next week is even better.
You guys are doing amazing.
Well done
God bless this wonderful team
😍
I believe you. These are Steve corvey principles
Husband material's energy went from 100-0 real quick after that little disagreement with Adeola and Nedu. I felt for him though.
One thing I learned from this episode is that if we can all be individually sincere to ourselves, we will see that most of the problems we blame people for come from inside us.
We do the blame game and play the victim in situations that we orchestrated.
I don’t think people study the 12 laws of the universe enough. Depression isn’t real, people need to stop focusing on the negative things in their lives, it’s the law of perpetual transmutation of energy and also the law of attraction.
Wow, where can I learn about this?
Go and get the book call the secret
@@greatnnawuchi4282 bruhv read your Bible or Quran (which ever side you belong to) everyday, those 2 are free.
That is not true, depression is very real, why will you say that
@@femola65 you give power to whatever you believe in sir, I’m in a better position when I believe to my self that depression isn’t real. I don’t like anything that takes away power from me, because I can’t control anything going on in the universe except my mind. I’m more efficient to myself when I believe depression isn’t real, but if you choose to believe depression is real then I wish you the best.
Kudos to the guest, husband material came down, get the understanding of our guest and trouble urself not. Big ups bro
This was such an amazing episode… I follow up almost all the episodes since I started seeing this show but this is one of the best ❤❤❤
Screen recording almost every point…
Amazing one.
Awesome episode, keep bringing high value individuals like this to the show.
Fav podcast
This is the best podcast of Nedu's I ve ever come across with.
I will save it to revisit again and again
How do I meet Mrs Adeola cause I ve alot to dust off my mind
Yes she's right alot of time bitterness, unforgiving and resentment causes cancers
Hi, husband material You are an incredible host and very knowledgeable but I stopped 57 minutes into the video to drop this comment. I think you missed her point where she was talking about not worrying as an individual, now the country has a lot of problems and she didn't say there should not be means to solve them or podcast or news or awareness to do problems to create solutions. She says as an individual worrying about them and being angry about things you don't have control over actually contributes to the problem. So she is not dismissing the fact that there are problems in the country or the people in the right positions to solve them are doing nothing about it but she also acknowledging the fact that the citizens always ranting about it or worrying at home if not publicly making a point or making an awareness it's also not helping anybody. I think the point she is trying to make is that worrying about uncontrollable outcomes or situations is not good because it feeds bad energy
You just said my mind. One thing i have come to realize with people is that we have difficulty in Listening, what we do is hearing , we are mostly quick to respond rather than calming down to listen and understand.
Even when we stopped pasting food menu in the kitchen, we still had to eat certain food on some days...
I believe it helped us groom ourselves
I love it
I understand husband material. Both of them can actually be right in their arguments. Asking for change from those who can do something about it is not considered along with bad energy or bad vibes because it is in that perspective a personal choice by that person to seek for justice and for the right. While in her own perspective it is okay to dodge those things to protect your peace but it won't be for everybody. So Husband Material question is that are you going to go about telling people to protect their peace about issues affecting them and their country men especially bordering on people who can do something about it. Leaders and people can as well adopt such ideologies while things go wrong in their jurisdictions and they do nothing because they want to protect their peace. People fought for us to be where we are today as Nigerians and black people. If they had just accepted their chains and did nothing, none of us will be here at the human level we are in. Husband Material had a lot of sense in what he was saying because he knows the lady prescribes this to people she speaks to. Some peoples peace of mind comes when they speak for the right things to be done and when it is done. The two energies can exist with the right perspective to them. One part shouldn't be generalized.
I love Nedu's honesty. His hand no dey work lol
This podcast is what I can't miss ❤
Respect to this woman wow just wow, so beautiful with wisdom
This episode is enriching ❤
Good job guys and kudos to the guest speaker, it's good to be knowledgeable and have contrary opinions sometimes but husband material needs to listen to understand not listen to reply .
I support husband material 100%
Husband material might be dealing with a lot of trauma but trying so hard not to be in therapy by Adeola. Why is he being so emotional? Not smiling or being the moderator that we know him for. You’ll be fine bro.
Hes not dealing with anything. She didn't answer his question and Nedu kept shushing him and almost made him look stupid.
Cheating is not allowed in Islam. Marrying more than 1 wife is however allowed. Great job to the team as always!
What a wonderful episode #thehonestbunch with love from Kenya....❤ 🇰🇪🇰🇪
Nedu's flinched when he had worster😂. Interesting conversation
Thank you guys for this episode!
As much I think that stalemate could been resolved better, I believe it’s important to take into consideration the context within which a guest is brought on the show and assess their answers against the backdrop of what they have been brought to talk about. Adeola’s work allows her to deal with the mental health of an “individual” on a “one on one” basis and so in giving her solutions, her aim will be to protect the mental health of a person even if means telling the person to “not worry about a problem”. The truth is the world will always be balanced. Not everyone will adopt her style and her solution will not work for everyone. There are people who will always be outspoken but her advice is still very valid for some specific people. Her answer would certainly be different from what a governor or a gubernatorial candidate would say. Something was amiss with this episode but I hope whatever it is can be resolved better next time. Well done to the team nonetheless, this topic is not a walk in the park.
Lovely conversation 👌
Edu you are not getting the question from husband material at all. He was asking a very intelligent question: Why was Nedu trying too hard to shut him up?
So much wisdom as she speaks ❤
Sending Mrs Adeola a garden of flowers & love ❤❤❤❤❤❤
We need VDM on this program please 🙏🏿
Almost Time
I really appreciate this episode
Knowledge is power indeed 👍
Wow Amazing conversation ❤️
honestly you guys are the best among them all, I must say a very big thank you for impacting knowledge in us
I love you guys
This Episode is very Deep...kudos guyzz
Husband material just shutdown after the 'controversial question'. Nedu was even trying to bring him into a coversation with the 'you remember that I'm not your child's friend video' and he didn't catch that. Husband material would have been firing questions from all angles being an extremely intelligent person. But I know he will learn from this episode and get better. You have my respect bro
He should learn to listen more. She kept explaining and explaining.. He was just trying to prove a point even when she clearly answered him. This is what happens when you think you’re the highest in the room..
@@4DericYou're generalising. Do you know for sure if that is how he thinks or not?
YOU GUYS ARE GREAT PLEASE CONTINUE DOING THE GOOD WORK
I felt the heat around my hands, when I brought them together 😊
Clap for yourself
Psychodynamic theory. Freud, exactly what I was reading, thank you for this video
The way everybody interpreted "you have just started" in the unhappy marriage analogy is funny 😂
I like how y’all hype each other. Wish I had friends that hype this way. I’m sure I would conquer the world.😅
This episode is yet to be uploaded to Spotify
I have learnt so much today. Keep it up guys ❤❤❤
Jah bless her……..I love her intellect 🙌🏿🙏🏿🙌🏿
Great one guys 👍🏾
Much love ❤️
Fantastic Episode
This character has no business with being a therapist, husband material is spot on, you don't zone out to solve any problem in therapy
My bro I think you misunderstood them too,the answer to HM’s question is quite simple, if a person who has the power to solve a problem is being affected by the problem all he has to do is just solve it, but what Adeola was talking about is in regards to the people who doesn’t have the power to solve this problems,if you don’t have the power to solve a problem then don’t allow it to bother you a lot, the point of therapy is to achieve emotional, mental and psychological stability(peace) which her theory actually helps you achieve in this situation as someone who doesn’t have power to solve the problem.
The only thing I noticed here was that they had a mix up and she didn’t really understand HM’s question,maybe for the fact that he didn’t explain himself well.
So is it in all cases we'll zone out and not worry. It's innate in man kind to worry and be anxious even in situations you have no control over. I understand her point of view though, but it's impracticable in all situations
Same way Drs in Nigeria are always going on strike with agitation all the time, but things haven’t changed still.
Same way we amplified a lot of systemic issues in the world but it’s been worse now
And in saner climes when such discourse are had, positive change happens.
Never did i ever have the slightest idea that a day will come when the streets will drag husband material 😂😂😂.
But if you guys can only understand where husband material is coming from: he's stating a claim that there's a possibility where the person who potentially has the solution to a problem can choose to do nothing about the issue simply because they didn't think they could be the solution, which in itself is a bad thing. I mean, Nelson Mandela wasn't the most affluential person in old South Africa, yet he didn't zone out of the reality of South Africa, and so did something about it even though he paid the price for it. Many times, we tell ourselves we can not do anything about situations because we are either too weak or too afraid to pay the price.
So, husband material's argument is valid, and Adeola's arguments are valid as well. We need to learn to be open minded in understanding different people's points of view.