I hope you guys enjoy my first attempt at a podcast. Audio only is available on patreon for $1.00 :) I am still learning how to do this, so thank you for being patient with me! Can't wait to hear your thoughts! Let's discuss! If you like my sweater check it out here: teespring.com/humans-gonna-human-black-hoodi?pid=212&cid=5819 Second channel: ruclips.net/channel/UCvdJukcm5RFzaPGIOXRPvoA Book mentioned: Covenanted Happiness Love and Commitment in marriage by Cormac Burke.
Hey! I am broke af right now, but I would like to pay for this podcast. Is there a way I can listen without signing up for a recurring fee? (This is something I would like to do when I am no longer said levels of broke 😊)
@@BrittanySimon Thank you ! I just finished watching it and thought it was excellent. Really enjoyed what you had to say, whether I completely agreed or not with each point. I was confused, as I thought it was only going to be on Patreon, for some reason. Just having a derp moment... 😉
@@22SeaJay ahh I see ♡ Glad you enjoyed it! I am happy to post for free, this is what I love to do, hopefully a sponsor picks it up but I'm not holding my breath 🤣🤣
I think a lot of people just kind of don’t question their gender. And it seems like Elliot opened Pandora’s box at some point by questioning it and realized they were not a woman. I think it’s possible that a lot of the discourse about gender has encouraged people who otherwise wouldn’t have thought about it to think about it, and that’s why we see some late in life realizations from people who you would think had had the opportunity to question gender identity.
On the first point, I agree 100%. Stereotypical femininity and womanhood are not equivalent and girls/women should not feel pressured to identify something other for not fitting into some arbitrary box. Almost nobody meets those expectations and roles completely, and that's what makes humanity so interesting and beautiful! That being said, I completely support trans people to live their lives as their most authentic selves, and I don't think it's right for any of us to dictate what that means for someone else. Really enjoyed hearing your thoughts on this complicated topic💗
I am non-binary. I am not confused about this. When I go off on my own, remove myself from the world and its expectations, I feel to my core that I am not a man nor a woman, just a human. I do recognize that most others perceive me as a woman and that, according to their worldview/reality, I'm a woman. This is why I am still treated like a woman and experience sexism, etc. But the way society sees me doesn't dictate who I am. When I was younger and tried to think of myself as a woman, I used to feel confused. I asked myself if perhaps I was a trans man, but that also didn't sit right. Then I learned there were more than two options and it clicked for me. I've felt clarity about who I am ever since. Also wanted to add that the idea of genders outside of the binary doesn't just come from Eastern cultures. It's found all over the world, including in many Indigenous societies. I'd recommend checking out Alok Vaid-Menon and QueerAsCat (here on RUclips) if you're interested in other non-binary perspectives.
It's true that in the West we have gender non conforming people but that's through culture and religion, correct? That Native people I know consume it through culture not science. As does the east.
I have a very similar experience with gender. I love to dress as feminine as they come, but I definitely don’t feel like a woman. I feel much better, much more mySelf, when I recognize myself as agender.
@@BrittanySimon most cultures throughout history have been spiritual and have had spiritual systems strongly interwoven into their cultures. That doesn’t mean that they aren’t based in “reality”. These systems are just a different way of articulating people’s experiences. Just because the very short lifespan of science relating to sexuality and gender hasn’t yet* articulated some* of these ideas doesn’t mean that non binarism is somehow inherently linked to spirituality, especially something as specific as eastern spirituality.
see, it's interesting cus I class myself as a woman, but I find no meaning in being a woman specifically, as in I don't look at the of core myself and think ah woman, or take sanctuary in the knowledge of being a woman. I've had insecurities about being a woman socially, and I'm definitely far from stereotypically female, but I've not taken issue with the actuality of being one. my insecurities stemmed from not being 'normal', not not being a woman, if that makes sense. especially not to the extent of trying to find something else to fit me. I think I think of it as I am me, literally just me, and biologically I'm a woman and I have no problem with that. I definitely think a strong difference and something that always comes up with trans people in general is body dysphoria. it's really interesting to hear perspectives where it's not "I'm making this insecurity my personality/identifier", so thank you for that (even though this comment was a year ago and you may never read this lol)
My Dad is religious. I am not. My Dad just recently viciously screamed at me about "not looking at things the right way". As in not looking at life through gods eyes. Using my intellect offends him bc I should think about it through his religious perspective. My mom has said in the past, "please don't say that you don't believe in god infront of your father. It makes him upset." So by trying to accept him I stiffle myself. Not that I want to have great big long debates about things he will never understand bc of his religion. But it affects everything which Ive just noticed. The fight we had was about how natives up North in Canada still dont have everything they need to live. I can't live in a world where people deny reality and say "god will take care of everybody. This was all planned before we were born." Bc I educated myself and have lived through a brutal upbringing, I feel like I cant relate to other people very well. This is bc they live in a fanasty land in my opinion. I dont understand it bc Im a practical but very compassionate person. Sooo... lol I really appreciate this video. Bc I honeslty thought I was being disrespectful to my father talking about things from my perspective knowing his. Thank you so much. Your perspective is helping me grow. I am finally becoming who I really am.
I do hold back when speaking to my family, as a form of love and allowing them a space to feel comfy. So, if I talk my opinion, I make sure that everyone in the room can handle the convo and that it won't trigger them, because I love them and I'm invested in their happiness. I'm not invested in the worlds happiness but my family? yeah, I work extra hard to know them and protect them. We don't talk about all things, I def keep parts of my life private out of respect to them. it's all about that love and balance ;)
I always enjoy your content even when we don't agree. I wanted to share comment that I have about Elliot Page and identity. You mentioned that "to know who you are, you must know whether you are a man or a woman" and I think that highlights your worldview. While that may be true for you, I don't know that it is for all humans universally. I'm super sure of who I am, who I like, and what my values are. I feel kinda "meh" about my gender and love playing with gender expression. Depending on how I'm presenting on any given day people may perceive and treat me as a woman or a little boy (never a man lol, they always think I'm a child). I never correct people and feel indifferent about pronouns. I imagine I can't be the only one that feels that way. Maybe Elliot and others might feel similar to me, and maybe that's why some folx figure out or put language to their gender identity later in life. A note about nonbinary identities - several indigenous cultures have recognized a third gender, not just in the east. While I agree that it seems to be trendy for white liberals to co-opt the term, I think that's a bit of a simplistic summary.
Very relatable. For me.I know who I am, I know what I like, I know what I care about. At my core I know I am a human. Gender however is not a part of my understanding of my identity. I'm not that sure if I just don't get what gender is, if it's misunderstanding due to words carrying multiple meanings, if some people are way more connected to it than others, or if multiple of the reasons are correct. I express myself in multiple ways. It's fun I wear what I want. People perceive me in many ways and I don't really care. I don't correct people because I don't think there is anything to correct. I'm fine with the standard (she/he/they) pronouns. It makes since to me how someone could be unaware that they're trans. I thought of this account from a trans guy (Or trans masc. I don't remember). ruclips.net/video/ZQ1KK-ASR7s/видео.html He knew something was up but didn't recognize that as him being a man,or having gender dysphoria until years later. His gender didn't come as innately to him as with other people. That said I strongly agree with Brittany's point about. Being weird for your gender doesn't mean you must to be something else. Women can look and act however they please and still be women. You can be an abnormal man and still be a man. Also it bothers me so much when people classify gender nonconforming people as genderqueer, it's not a gender. It's a descriptor of someone's gender expression not a gender.
Loved this by the way. I enjoy your opinions both when I don't fully agree and when we are on the same page. One thing I just wanted to say was about Elliot Page. I think one way to understand them coming out when they did is that you have to consider how much non-binaryism is talked about now versus how much it was talked about as folks of Page's age has grown up. Elliot might have always known he was something outside of what society pegged him as but just didn't have the language for it. Now that being non-binary is way more talked about and way more common people can be all - hey that's me. As for non-binary as a concept I think humans as a whole have an ever evolving idea of what they are. Not just individuals. The binary might be as 'made up' as the religious version or possible inspiration for those who exist outside of that. We are all making up ways to perceive and move through reality and establish what we believe is reality. As for me I enjoy observing where that is going to go. c:
Another reason is probably that Elliot just wouldn't have had the success as an actor if they came out earlier. They wouldn't have been given male parts to play, because they don't pass. and they would have found it hard to get female roles. Maybe they sacrificed their true sense of self for success in their chosen industry.
I always tell people, we are all tropes in an anime, just gotta figure out which one. Anyone who thinks that they aren't a trope, is forgetting they're human ;)
Hey just a few things I wanted to mention (and this is purely from my experience and the experiences of people i know) about dysphoria. Personally, I would call my gender dysphoria a mental illness because of the severity of the intrusive thoughts. Its not just that I feel like a man, its that being misgendered can have a disproportional effect on my day or normal things like getting dressed or showering become more psychologically difficult. Of course, this is by no means how every trans person feels and I'm sure there are a million different confounding variables in each person, but this is something I go to therapy for and its not like alleviating the dysphoria of having long hair just by cutting it. Also, personally, it took a bit longer for me to discover I was trans and I think that was at least in part due to the fact that I was sick with an undiagnosed illness for a lot of high school. I sometimes describe it as being "too low on maslows hierarchy of needs to reflect on my gender". Also, I think the pandora's box analogy that someone made in the comments is apt. Once I realized how amazing it felt to dress in the way I wanted and be referred to by gender I identify as, it became incredibly obvious how unhappy I actually was as a girl.
btw im 21 and ive been our for two years now if that gives context to anything. I would also compare the experience of dysphoria with how it felt to become sicker and sicker to the point where I was dying and had barely even mentioned it to a doctor. I mean there were lots of reasons that I didn't get the help I needed early, but I just think people can underestimate the lengths to which people will go in their own minds to avoid having to acknowledge to issue. As always, you explain your ideas so eloquently and I always enjoy watching. I just hope I can help to give someone a different insight into a topic they might not be super familiar with!
This was a lovely first episode! I can't wait to see more! Also this is perfect timing because I've been having an ongoing conversation with friends about gender. These friends are very progressive leaning and one identifys as agender. They were telling about something called akioromantic/ akiosexual which is someone's who is agender/nonbinary that has romantic/sexual feelings for someone but loses them once they are reciprocated. Bitch, my eyes rolled to the back of my head. This was crazy stupid to me. I've been studying psychology and philosophy for three years so this felt like a joke. How is your gender identity a personality/behavior trait?? My friend got insulted because I told them this sounds like someone who has either aviodant attachment style or just something new that people want to attach themselves to as a way to belong. This also shows me more how much people are just wanting to belong and wanting to feel comfortable and part of something. I think that's beautiful but does that beauty come from a place of falsehood? Is it ethical to brand your insecurities as your identity? I don't think so
I do agree I think that people without their LGBTQ+ oppression would be lost kids/ teens/ young adults or just super privilege. creature a community that is less based around love and acceptance and more based around the likelihood that without their identities they would have no personalities.
Wondering what you mean by 'ethical' here? Because it might discourage someone from acknowledging and working on their insecurities and so do harm with that? I think your comment is spot on btw, and I would've had the same reaction as you. But I tend to look at this in a 'each to their own' kinda way, I hadn't considered it an ethical issue so your comment is making me think.
@@dassijes5943 I'm always a firm believer in "be who you are" and "you do you". Everyone has the personal agency on how much to give a damn or not give a damn about anything, especially involving what I say. I believe everyone has the right to be a toxic or problematic or kind or normal presenting as they want to be. I would say it's not ethical and efficient for your mental state to have your core identity be your insecurities. It's healthy to want to find the root of your trauma/insecurities or to find support for your trauma/insecurities by using it as a catalyst to reach out to others with a similar experience (example assault survivors groups or alcoholics anonymous). But if all you are to your core identity is your insecurities or trauma then you will remain forever stagnant in that perception. It's like the girls in high school who pride themselves with being the "crazy jealous girl who will slashed your tires if they think you're looking at another chick". In this case, if your gender identity is rooted in insecurity and not being able to reciprocate feelings of love when it's presented to you, I'm sorry but I don't find that average and that's not a gender identity. That's a behavioral trait or could be a forming mental illness. Now I'm not saying that these people are bad or anything like that, I think this is just an attempt of someone trying to create something as an attempt to fit in.
@@LightChashers469 I totally agree, yeah. I think aligning your identity with your trauma is waaay unhealthy and unhelpful. I understand your use of ethical now, it's just not a word I'm used to in this context, I think. Thanks for clarifying, and for the new perspective.
I never knew the basics. I always felt the basics. I also was a loner so I did not copy. I liked David Bowie. Duran Duran. Grace Jones. Micheal Jackson. The Cure. Depeche Mode. Jing with a bit of Jang. Jang with a bit o Jing. Never liked pop stars who exagorated either masculinity or feminity.
I mean, I'm fine with (and like) drag queens for example. They know exactly who they are. I feel like this is an issue that Brittany and I are going to disagree on. If you believe in freedom so much, why isn't gender freedom okay as well? I mean, I think nonbinary people exist mostly because butch lesbians are out of fashion, but I just don't care because I don't think I need to.
This is an older podcast episode, but thought my comment might contribute anyways. I identified as genderfluid/nonbinary etc as a teenager, I was very vocal about it etc. I later realized that 1. People with autism (like myself) are more likely to identify as trans. It's very interesting to me and I think that it might have to do with already feeling like "other". 2. Being incredibly insecure about your body doesn't most of the time have to do with gender disphoria. 3. With it being more easy to access information about this, it's easier to, as a part of self discovery identity as a nonbinary person.
I keep seeing these comments saying "I enjoyed watching even if we didn't agree" and like...I can't relate. This was genuinely so hard to watch. I stopped watching you for a bit because you were saying stuff about non binary that really rubbed me the wrong way. I think its extremely weird how you've formed your opinion around the matter. I feel like normally I'd find it emotionally fulfilling to leave a paragraph explaining what my feelings around what non binary is to me and see if that is relatable to you, but idk why, this just seriously put me off. As someone who's never associated myself with gender I can spot people who really are intensely "I am a man/I am a woman," and you are definitely one of those ppl. This whole video just felt like someone who doesn't understand bisexuals and is like "so when a bisexual woman marries a man they're straight then, right?"
Hi! Hope you've been well! ♡ In terms of non-binary people, I hope they live their best lives. That's what i wish for everyone, because that's what I want for myself. We all only have one life, might as well enjoy it ;)
I feel exactly the same way. Incredibly off-putting and reductive perspective from a self-proclaimed "level 5" lol. Weird that gender even matters so much to someone who ~has it all figured out~ and sees through all the bullshit of existence.
Why is it crazy for it to take a long time to figure out if you are trans? Society is much more accepting of gay people currently than trans people, that could be one reason to take a while to “come out.” Couldn’t there be a whole host of reasons why it took that long? I can understand why it would take him a long time to figure out if you are trans and then if you want to tell the world.
Love love LOVE the bit about identity not being focused on how others see you. It’s most definitely a white westerner thing to do that because I’ve noticed that it’s largely westerners who think that others MUST validate their identity and it’s like irreversible evil if people don’t. I think all humans need and like to be known and understood by people because we need other humans, but if your identity falls apart the second that someone else doesn’t understand it or doesn’t validate it, it’s not who you really are or you are not comfortable with being who you really are so you need validation from others because you can’t validate it yourself. Speaking as a gay woman coming into my 20s, I definitely used to seek more validation in how others saw me and I would get very upset if someone didn’t understand my gay reality because I didn’t feel comfortable with actually being who I am and feeling love and acceptance for my own identity. Now my only request is that people don’t attack me for my identity or don’t literally harm me for my identity, but otherwise, they can have whatever perceptions of me that they want. I know who I am and my identity is part of my reality that doesn’t go away just because someone doesn’t like or understand it or perceive me the same way I perceive myself.
Watching this cause I wanted to see if you were consistent from the start, you did not disappoint. I am blown away how your channel just fell in my lap. I needed your perspectives. Thank you for making this content.
I saw myself as female at 4 yrs old, heart broken when I found out soon after that I can't grow or turn into female and that ppl don't get to choose, when I was 10 or 11 I saw talk shows that showed trans people and I saw hope Years later I finally came out, identifying as female and how ever up or down my life gets, I roll with it. No longer with a cloud a looming dooming cloud of depression or emptiness. I rolls with the punches of life with a confidence I never had before. I stand up for myself , I take on tasks that includes adventuring into the unknown of life with a pep in my step I had never felt before. Thick or thin, I want to experience al that a person does when going from girl to woman and so on. I love my body now, I love myself can now love and trust others around me like never before
I think with the whole situation around Harry Styles wearing a dress, and how it could be considered as a ‘masculine statement’ could very be interpreted that men can still wear feminine apparel like dresses, while still be comfortable in their masculinity. While some men may very well be afraid of being looked at as feminine, that may not always be the case. Like I said, it may be a case where a man is trying to explore his masculinity in a healthy and productive manner. Now, I haven’t researched too much about the Harry Styles situation, except from hearing the statements Ben Shapiro and Candace Owens have made and people’s responses to them, but I don’t know where you heard that it’s considered as a masculine statement. I’ve always assumed it to be more of a feminine move, but a bold one at that. Although, dresses were originally made for men anyways, so who am I to judge who should wear what? That was just one part of the video I had a slight problem with, but overall, I enjoyed your first podcast!
As someone who has grown up from childhood between a man or woman, i did struggle with some of your views. I decided this video just wasn't made for me. The message I suppose came down to people shoving their business in everyone else's face. It doesn't matter what anyone else does as long as its done with respect. Its about intent. If your intent is founded in disrespect to whoever the other person, it just isn't right. It's about the gray area for me. Sliding scale in terms of community anyway. If that made sense ill give you hugs. :)
The fundamental question about gender is what is gender? Some people say it is a biological reality, some say it is a social construct, some say a mix of both. It is scientifically proven that our biological reality has an impact on our behaviors and preferences, which is what distinguishes our gender. Just as people don't choose their sexual orientation, people don't choose their gender. The idea of masculine and feminine comes from the observation of the most common and distinguishing behaviors and preferences of men and women. Where the issue comes up is for the outliers who do not follow these behaviors and/or align with preferences that we would expect them to in accordance to their biological reality. There are also variations in development that would leave, for an example, a woman with higher levels of testosterone. In turn, this will impact their behavior and preferences, and may leave them questioning or confused about their gender or biological reality. This is where the societal perception of biological reality becomes toxic and where the social construct aspect comes into play. There is also a psychological piece where people who have a biological reality that aligns with the common reality will identify differently because they are simply unhappy. Perhaps they have been treated badly because of their gender, and to fix the problem they decide to identify as the opposite or none at all. They then realize they are just as uncomfortable or treated just as badly and change their minds about how they identify. What it comes down to is that we cannot put people in a box. We cannot say "you are not a man/woman because you dont look like it" or "you are not a man/woman because you do not understand the plight of a biological male/female." Or any other of these arguments. Because the fact of the matter is it is not so simple to say one or another. People do the best they can to feel fulfilled and happy, and they should be supported rather than put down. And if they change their mind, who cares as long as they are happier for it. For those who go back and forth all the time, or who have a psychological issue that results in their constant identity changing, just talk to them. Hear their story, perhaps they will realize something they did not notice before.
I think I love your videos so much because they feel so conversational (something I’m definitely missing in quarantine). This podcast feels even more so like a conversation because of the way it flows from topic to topic so beautifully. I really love it!
Identity is a tricky thing, a very personal thing. I am glad for you that it makes sense at your core that you are a woman. A thought I might posit is my understanding between the difference of sex and gender. Sex is biological and gender is a social construct. A social construct is something that is real but intangible. As society shifts social constructs change. One means something in one area of the world and in one time period doesn't mean the same in other places and times. Marriage for example, a social contract and therefore a social construct, means a very thing in the Middle East a thousand years ago to Europe five hundred years ago to the U.S in 2021. Identity shapes how they see themselves in the context of society, so evolves with society with it's social movements. Individualism exists in a way like never before. And so people have the opportunity to individually explore their gender like never before and learn words that fit their existence that they never knew how to describe before. For example I am agender. Growing up and into young adulthood I never identified with girlhood, femaleness, or womanhood. I saw myself primarily as a person. To this day I feel most seen when people do not refer to me with gendered terms. Whether or not I wear feminine clothes or masculine clothes or androgynous clothes does not change how I feel. (The fact that those terms are subjective could be another conversation). I am in a period of growth where I am learning to accept that although I have gained a lot of personal happiness from a better understanding of my identity, and that my labels help me feel a sense of community and understanding with other queer or lgbt+ people, that much of the world will never view me how I hold myself. This is not the most coherent I could have been but I hope if this reaches you there is some food for thought. My hope is that you can come to more of acceptance of non-binary identities through the understanding that people have a wide array of relationships with their bodies. I do appreciate that whether or not you come to the understanding I hope you will that you are treating the topic with respect.
Did you mention the name of the book by the priest?? Tried to scroll around looking for it but couldn’t find it. It sounds super interesting though, would love to read it. Also congrats on an awesome first podcast!!! Don’t agree with everything but you do make me question some things and I love hearing your point of view. Mad respect.
I’m a bit more than half way through and I love this! The comments are great so far too! There’s a really interesting conversation happening here. I dig it.
Knowing the basics of who you are before you go around telling who they are or should be is everything. And I honestly believe even after I found those building blocks of who I am I have no need to tell people who they are. Sure, I can explore who they are with them walk with them on their journey or self discovery, ponder their existence and their footprint in the world/existence (which will always be small) but what a waste of breath to tell people who they should be. And then in just writing this i'm putting out an example on how to be, but this is just my journey and i claim no following. (not-so-sober rant over) :D
To Brittany and people who watch her content: I love how everyone here has different opinions and I truly find these comment sections interesting and productive, so I just want to appreciate this "community" (?). I don't know what word to use to describe this space (don't know if community is quite the right word) , but y'all know what I mean. ❤❤❤
I want to just say I remember on a live chat I asked when you were going to make a podcast and to see you be so just at peace and confident! I love the discussion, however have some different views. I love listening to you and thank you so much for making this, I listened while cleaning my “depression” room (due to mental illness it got really bad for a year). Thank you❤️
I absolutely ADORE this series already, and can't wait for future episodes! I don't know if you'd be willing to do this but I'd be super interested in a video where you dive into how Eastern religions are related to non-binary ideals and the concept itself as that is something I've never heard of nor know nothing about. If that's not a video you'd be into, is there anywhere specific you'd suggest for learning more about that? I feel like simply googling it will come up with some truths mixed into a whole bunch of crap, if you get my drift.
I don't want my channel to be a gender channel cause that happens (so I don't want many focused videos on it) but check out how India works with multiple genders or Native Americans, it's through spiritualism, religion or culture (these things are subjective). If these concepts are spiritual, they are not factual, they are subjective. That's fine. I'm all about freedom. But in the West, we have a habit of needing things to be "REAL" to be accepted. I believe freedom should be our focus, because if we only focus on what's "real" we would never allow multiple religions, let alone multiple genders.
I found this video interesting because I didn't really see myself reflected in your examples of the nonbinary people that you've encountered. For context: I'm Black, currently 20 years old, and I currently identify as a nonbinary woman. I'm obviously still young and still exploring. (For the record, my spirituality does play a part in my beliefs about gender.) Similar to what you described as the binary trans experience, I've always viewed myself as encompassing or switching between both genders. I just didn't have the language for it. As a teenager, I found the language and then recently realized that I had been adopting the experience of others in a way that wasn't authentic to me. At the time, I identified as agender. Having that language gave me other agender people to compare myself to. My reality literally began to change. I adopted dysphoric "phantom pains" that weren't my own. I thought that I had to be uncomfortable with being gendered, I thought that I wanted to (or needed to) exclusively use they/them pronouns, and I began to develop feelings about my body that weren't there originally. For example, I've always identified more with having a penis, although I don't have one, but I was never bothered by my breasts until I was identified as agender and then was SOCIALIZED into that reality because I thought I was like these people. Then suddenly I was considering top surgery and HRT, which I now realize that I never wanted. Suddenly I didn't want to be called "she" and I didn't want to be associated with gendered terms, even though those things hadn't bothered me before. Part of that is being a teenager on the internet, but I find it deeply fascinating. My identity at that time was based on authentic feelings, but labeling myself meant that I adopted the feelings of the community that I entered. Now, my identity feels more authentic - but I acknowledge that it is changing as I work through trauma and I don't know where I will stand once I have healed. Here's how I feel now: I am a nonbinary woman. I don't relate to the example of nonbinary women/men that you mentioned in your video. For me, nonbinary is what I identify as for my gender. But because I live in this reality, I had to come to terms with the fact that the way that I'm perceived will dictate my reality. I decided that it was counterproductive to be upset with people for viewing me as a woman. I have been socialized as a woman, I am viewed as a woman, and it has a large influence on my life. Therefore, I am a woman. I needed to accept that the way I am viewed by society means that I'll be called a woman, she/her. Internally, I don't identify with gender for myself, but it is my reality. Being a woman is an experience, in a lot of ways. It is a deep, deep part of my socialization and it's part of how I socialize with others. I decided that it is not HEALTHY for me to live in a reality where this bothers me or causes me dysphoria. It is not healthy for me to try to detach from reality. I don't want other people's view of me to rule my life. I don't want a word to upset me. That's why I choose to exist in this way. I'm not sure where I end up in this conversation, because I think a lot of nonbinary people are uncomfortable with thinking about gender in this way. I also think that people don't talk about this because it feels counterproductive to the movement to say that trauma and labels affected my identity. I don't really care about that. I had to be very honest with myself about what being nonbinary meant to ME. And to me, that is: I don't identify with gender but this is what society sees me as. My personal feelings on my gender will affect my personal life ONLY. The view of me will affect my entire life and it is unrealistic for ME to try to make my feelings into my reality because that makes me unhappy. Frankly, most of the world doesn't care about how I feel and as long as my people get it, then it's fine. For me, my gender is personal. My friends know the depth of my feelings about gender. To pretty much everyone else (besides leftists), I'm just a woman and I've made my peace with that. And to many people, what I've shared will just sound like I'm a cis woman. Anyway, I really enjoyed this video because it made me think. Your content challenges me to absorb information and different viewpoints without taking them as an attack. I appreciate that. Have a good night!
When it comes to gender identity, I will respect any identity you tell me. In some cases, I may question it but I will respect it if that makes sense, and I honestly don't care or see the need to question it, aside from some rare instances when I see people conveniently becoming trans/enby to deflect from responsibility like with (imo) Demi Lovato doing so as soon as they got in hot water for trying to ruin a small business for no legitimate reason, or for particularly identifying to be a predator like the Jessica Yaniv situation. In those cases I find it necessary only because we as a society need to accept this does happen and be able to recognize when most likely this is happening in order to hold people accountable for their behaviour. Or like the case of onisions husband, Kai, where it is VERY possible Kai has been abused and brainwashed into believing he's trans due to Onisions documented fetish for defeminizing women. There are tomes when spectisism has it's place in my opinion. That said, even still, someone like Yaniv, or Kai, who I personally HIGHLY doubt is trans, I still will call her her or him he respectively. Because in the grand scheme of things it doesn't really matter. If you are what you are, then it doesn't matter except in terms of human rights and saftey, and like I said above, I respect all identities, therefore I would support policies that respect identities. That said, on an individual level, like I said, some people I might doubt, others I whole heartedly believe. The point is it doesn't matter. But just for the sake of sharing ideas, on the legitimacy of nonbinary, I think it is simply because it is a social construct and social constructs change. I could easily be considered non-binary within today's culture because I partake in both masculine and feminine behaviours and aestetic and I do no identify wih the archetypal idea of female. But for me, I don't see the need to identify as non binary because to me, my sex being female has very little to do with my gender expression and the fact that society places labels and assumptions on me for being female is a societal issue. I personally feel no need to rewrite the terminology in order to exist as I am. But that doesn't mean I'm more or less right than someone who disagrees. In terms of sex, do I believe in female and male anatomy as such? Simply, yes. It is genetically more complicated, but in a nutshell, I do. But do I KNOW that? No. I'm dumb, I don't understand science that well nor am I able to completely think outside of my culture and time period. So long story short, as for Elliot Page, I personally believe Elliot is trans. But I don't know that, and my opinion ultimately doesn't matter. As long as he has his freedom of expression, that's all that matters, and people need to learn to accept that people make conclusions and live in their own version of reality and stop worrying so much about what others are doing. I believe over time, like you said, clarity comes. We are obviously in the middle of a revolution in many ways right now, and soeveruthing is extreme and important, and evil, and good, but I believe over time we will level out. Until then I really try my best to "harm none and do what I will"
it takes a lot to figure out someone's identity, i thought i was Cis for so long, i knew about trans people and people going by they/them. But i thought that i was Cis because i suppressed of how i saw myself because i didn't want to be a bother to other people. After 7 years of trying to figure out my gender with the pressure of not wanting to bother people with my change. i started questioning myself when i was 11, i knew my sexuality (pansexual, recently found out I'm polyamorous too) and now finally when i'm 17 (18 in September) i figured out that i see myself not as male or female but as both a balance in between the two. some of it's spiritual yes, but it's of how i have seen myself for so long. i am non-binary going by they/them.
If I may, I dont think poly is an orientation and the way you used it, made me think you do? Please let me know. Just trying to understand what you believe.
@@BrittanySimon well poly is different from the normal society structure so it welcome in the community as it has hate from people as well. Some people who are poly do use it as a sexual identity when placed with another sexuality. Kind of a add on in a sense.
Demi women here! If you interested in figuring out why someone might choose to identify this way then feel free to read my experience with gender bellow. To answer why I identify this way, I need to explain how I see gender. Gender is a social construct. Sex is biology. Gender Identity is a person's own way of connecting to gender. (therefore I believe it is an oversimplification to say gender is genetic. I feel this way about sexuality too) When I was younger I didn't know I would hit puberty. When I started developing boobs I thought I had cancer so I hid it to myself for weeks until I told my mum "I think I have cancer" told my mum to touch my chest and she laughed and told me "you just have boobs". I cried because even though I knew I didn't have cancer I didn't want to change either. This is reflective of how gender and sex were not on my radar at all. I knew of others but my own did not cross my mind. Later in life, I met a trans guy who was my best friend. I researched gender so I could understand him more. When doing this research I realized I could connect to SOME of what they were saying so I kept researching. This is when I discovered nonbinary. At this time I was questioning and dabbling with gender-fluid as a label. When I was having guy periods of time I wanted to transition, use he him pronouns, etc. When I was having nonbinary periods I wanted to transition also, but in a way that would conceal any sign of my binary sex from the outside world. When I had female periods I felt like an insecure girl (I was 13 after all) and still trying to navigate what it meant to be a girl. In the end, I stopped having boy or girl periods of time and I started identifying as nonbinary only. I was highly dysphoric during this time of my life. I would sleep, exercise, and live in a cheap binder that I had gotten off of amazon because I was so uncomfortable with my chest. Until my mum stole my binder and I had to learn to live without it. I started thinking and I realized WHY I was experiencing dysphoria when I never had before. It was because I was not being perceived by others the way I saw myself and I blamed my chest because it was a clear indicator of my sex. This lead me to reflect deeper on why this even mattered. I came to the conclusion that if I am a nonbinary person then this IS my nonbinary body and with this idea, my body dysphoria went. Fast forward to now, I had felt that nonbinary was a good label to define me for YEARS. Now I'm in university and I've realized my connection to gender has changed (AGAIN haha) I now feel a sense of womanhood within myself. My mind started to change. When I thought of my future I used to want to be a parent, a partner and these were words that brought me comfort. Now I want to be a girlfriend, wife, mother and I long for these things. I still get uncomfortable with expressing these ideas because I do feel a connection to being nonbinary. I identified that way for many years so I feel it's only natural but at the same time I feel a connection to women hood in a way I never did before and that's why I identify as a demi woman. This label is personal to me. I just tell people I'm a woman and use she her pronouns now because I don't see the point in explaining it to everyone but I know within myself that this label describes how I connect to gender rn. My gender has never been connected to my expression although it has been informed by it sometimes. My expression has been all over the place all my life.
Random thoughts, throwing things to the wind here. Not all my points are reactions to you but you've inspired some thoughts I've been thinking ;) Thanks for that
@@BrittanySimon I dont see how gender could exist as anything other than a social construct. Therefore your statement implies that you do not believe in gender which would make sense if you did not support trans people. Because the idea that gender does not exist does not support the existence of trans people since by definition, trans people are people who identify with a gender that is not typically associated with the sex they were assigned at birth. Therefore the idea that gender does not exist invalidates their existence. If the definition was a different one. eg: trans people are people who change their sex. Even this would not support their existence since it is an oversimplification of the science. You can not change a person's chromosomes. The only thing you would have left is that trans people are people who change their expression to mimic the traditional expression and sometimes biological sex of a sex that they were not born into. I have a problem with this since I believe the person's relationship to gender as it exists is what forms the motivation for the person to transition and therefore is at the root of what makes a person trans, not the transition itself. When the presentation and transition of a person become the focus than how are we meant to tell the difference between a trans person and a cross dresser? I do think the two are different and a person who does not is oversimplifying their existence. All of this is only relevant if you ONLY believe in sex and that gender isn't a thing. However, if you do believe gender exists (which I don't see how it can beyond a social construct) then please explain to me how you see gender? since in this video and in your response you only seem to describe sex. My relation to gender as a social construct is simple. My biological sex is female but my identity is nonbinary and female because that's the connection I feel. people who choose to ignore gender don't bother me because they don't exist in the same reality as me but if they choose to live that way I don't see how they can rationally justify the existence of trans people at all? ither gender and trans people exist or gender does not exist and their is only sex
@@chipperFangirlsage I believe people are male or female and can choose to live as either, and that that choice is their right. I believe trans people are reasonable and make these choices to seek a better understanding of themselves and I support them in that ♡
I love your thought process and how you are able to easily convey each step you take as to why you think a certain way! Not many people have that ability and thank you for sharing your amazing mind!
@@BrittanySimon please keep making these podcasts whenever you can! I love your philosophical ideals that make up the way you conceive the world. The unbiased and thoughtful manner in which you navigate situations is hard to find on RUclips. I really do wish I could fund you but sadly I cannot. In the future though I will for sure!
@@BrittanySimon I appreciate the content you make! Happy New Year and I wish you well for this year and the rest to come :). How do you discover new philosophical ideas? I assume books.
So I'm dying to say this is a former follower who used to like your old podcast with your 'quad- EV, mr.te, QC,' and I unfollowed when you all got your high horses. I love seeing the new and better Evie and Brittany. I'm glad to see better versions of you and her. Much better content, you've both grown in the 2 years I've stopped listening to you guys.
The science community largely agrees. Gender is a spectrum. It's not a religious thing driving this as much as. What is observable and is understood about society. Ultimately I can't get behind this idea that it's okay and acceptable to have this idea that it's okay to have 2 acceptable realities that are incongruent with one another. One is going to win out. And normally the one that loses is the one with the minority people.
About non binary people: personally, I accept them as existing in reality (as I understand it) because there are MANY humans that I see in the world that I cannot categorize as man or woman. As a woman, I can’t truly imagine what it would be like to not be categorized as something other than a woman by society, but I accept that it is possible for a human to exist in society as neither man or woman. This is how I understand gender in general to be honest. So if someone tells me that they are mentally/spiritually incapable of categorizing themselves in society as a man or woman and instead describe how they ARE capable of being categorized, I gotta believe em.
Hi Brittany! Congratulations on starting your podcast--I'm very excited to see how it progresses and will be following it. I'm curious about something because I've already had one viewing of this episode but want to watch it again to gain a firmer understanding of everything you shared regarding your philosophy and how you perceive people's self-exploration around gender identity and expression. I also noticed that you set some boundaries around how you want to be approached regarding these things--saying that you don't want people to challenge you to question your sense of reality when you're "sure of the basics." I'm noticing a need to express a personal sense of objectivity around self-identity in these words, being that you're human and a woman. So, how do you want to be approached by others who want to have a dialogue with you regarding your philosophy of self-exploration, identity, expression, and what it means to have a sense of self? Is there room for being challenged? What does that look like for you if so? Curious to know and again, congrats~
Great questions♡ I am always open to having discussions and exploring. I ask that people make an appointment with me through patreon to set up a time to chat via Skype or hangouts. I offer one on one calls for these discussions because I wake up to hundreds of notifications and messages everyday. My statement about reality differences mostly come into place when people are trying to limit peoples freedoms based on their understanding of reality versus an objective sense of reality. Ie. People who say god is real and want to deny gay rights. I don't entertain their beliefs over gay peoples rights. I think there is a way for everyone to live together and not kill each other but that's asking alot of people who are so determined to see everyone different from them as the enemy. No one is my enemy unless they choose to be.
Just because Elliot Page came out as trans doesn't mean that he didn't know he was trans until he was 30. I'm positive Elliot was aware he was trans before he decided to tell the general public in his 30s that he is trans.
So, that begs the question. Did he lie about being a lesbian for clout? Money? Women? And if someone in a position of privilege lies out of fear of losing fame and money does that make them bad? Selfish? Dangerous? Is he just good at playing the game? is that the same as someone who is in fear of death or homelessness feeling they have to lie? Im trying to understand the difference between someone who is just good at capitalism and someone who is actually an activist....maybe in Hollywood it's always about money and clout and that's why nothing ever gets done there♡
I love hearing your take on this. I had the same feelings about Elliot Page but if you voice that opinion you’re transphobic. I don’t see why it isn’t ok to be a person who evolved to being trans as opposed to being born trans. Why can’t both be true? How does the idea of evolving delegitimize the trans community? People evolve to other identities all the time and it’s normal. It’s even normal to try an identity on to see if it fits, especially if you’re young. Our society is so rigid about fitting everyone into a group or label. People who are looking for their path are almost shamed for turning around or choosing a different path. Sometimes you go down a path just to see what’s there.
Great video. I agreed with you on the most part. Though, the echo chambers you are talking about are not echo chambers anymore. Some of them are constantly becoming part of the culture. So, 'humans gonna human' applies more on echo chambers and inter-personal relations, not on the societal level. I think chaos(especially the kind we have never experienced before) should be handled very carefully because not only it has potential to be extreme but also can breed extreme forms of order.
Ugh, a lot of misconceptions in here that would probably be easily cleared up if you talked WITH non-binary people about their experiences instead of just kind of aimlessly postulating about them.
I've dated NB humans, been to events, talked to hundreds over the last six years of my life. I've read the books recommended and watched the videos. I must just be stupid.
Nonbinary "transness" and difficulty in discerning your own gender for decades has a possible neurological explanation. It's somewhat controversial, but there's a real substantial body of potential evidence that our neural architecture was altered or otherwise deviated from our body's development in the womb, but I think it would be a bit overzealous to assume that means boy/girl brains in the opposing sex's body. Based on the studies I've looked at and my own experience with body dysphoria, I think whatever prenatal fuckery caused that deviation in our neurology wouldn't likely cause a consistent degree of difference for every trans person. I'd imagine that all of us have different regions of our brains that are altered to differing degrees. I think that's why some of us can transition comfortably without HRT while others like myself would kill ourselves without it. Or like how some of us don't want bottom surgery and some of us need it. I think the idea would apply to how we identify ourselves and since there isn't exactly a girl or boy brain architecture(however there are consistent dimorphic trends), whether we end up boy, girl, or somewhere in between, and our ease in discerning our own gender identities would be relative to what degree of altered development we've received and possibly whatever type of endocrine disruptors caused it. :P Just speculating, but it's food for thought.
@@BrittanySimon I doubt I'm the only one to suppose this, but I never hear anyone mention it. Unfortunately most conversations in leftist circles avoid discussing trans brains altogether because they're afraid it would "medicalize" the concept of transness and gatekeep it from less conventional cases. It's really frustrating to me. Obviously gender dysphoria is a clinical issue, but simply discussing medical studies that would honestly do well to humanize us to a lot of otherwise disassociated fence sitters and provide a potential explanation grounded in *physical* reality would at least add to the discussion. Instead they tend to cling to self identification, which has its place, but by actively avoiding to even mention the medical data that's out there and *relying* on such abstract arguments - essentially making it entirely a philosophical debate - it just makes us look delusional(or that it's all a personal choice) to really anyone who thinks about it critically but isn't invested enough to investigate, and gives haters an easy strawman to tear down. :/ While I didn't agree entirely with your take on Elliot Page and nonbinaries, it's really refreshing to hear you discuss this sort of thing with an actual open mind and critical eye. A lot of trans advocacy discourse grinds the ever loving tits out of my gears. Not that I don't appreciate it, but it feels so counterproductive and thoughtless. Anyway; Keep up yo mojo girl! I subscribed years ago and only recently got started checking out your comeback stuff and I'm really digging it.
Thank you!!! I think this is a much more reasonable and interesting take on anyones life. The nuance that life offers should be explored instead of denied. Happy for Elliot and his journey and hope he remains happier everyday ♡
3:09 World is two: this world and the world. This world chages, conceed but the world changes I deny. The world is the point around which this world revolves. You 8:12 are not your body because you're able to know that it's YOUR body and what is yours is distinct from you i.e. whatever it is that is signified by first personal pronoun I at any given time. Just as it would be your bag, your purse, are distinct from you. 7:34 word you want is the biologist's expression which means "wiseman" in english( Homosepeians). 9:06 It's not true to say that we "are humans"( that is objective truth which Nietzsche, Marx etc. would object to. In Twilight of Idols he says: "The true world is unattainable, it cannot be proved, it cannot promise anything; but even as a thought, alone, it is a comfort, an obligation, a command...The true world-is it unattainable? At all events it is unattained. And as unattained it is also unknown. Consequently it no longer comforts, nor saves, nor constrains: what could something unknown constrain us to?...The “true world”-an idea that no longer serves any purpose, that no longer constrains one to anything,-a useless idea that has become quite superfluous, consequently an exploded idea: let us abolish it!..We have suppressed the true world: what world survives? the apparent world perhaps?... Certainly not! In abolishing the true world we have also abolished the world of appearance!).since according to certain schools of philosophy they will you the expression "appears to be human" or "appears to be called human"( it is the word borrowed from Greek "phenomena". Scientists also use this world thus mainly science also studies appearances which they now call "models" mostly to predicate what will happen so they can do something with it.). People who do believe in objective truths like we, i.e. we humans, are humans are realists.
If you want me to watch it, no guarantees (because of time unless you join patreon at the call level and use that time to have me watch it) keep vids under 15 mins please and link it here, so I can see it.
this makes me so curious to know what you would make of my journey of realizing im trans. also what are your thoughts on nonbinary people who knew they were nonbinary since childhood?
why do you think you know more than scientists that have worked on the vaccine and tested it? you put emphasis on the government asking people to get it, but what they are doing in this case is what scientists are saying is best.
Omg been struggling with that sinus infection crap too. First one I've had in 2 yrs. I skipped last yr. Came back with a vengeance this year ugh. I'm just now shaking it off after a couple weeks of it leasing a 2 bdrm 2½bath plot in my skull. Don't wanna be germicist or evict without notice but it had to GO :P good luck, Ms.! I was born inna' 80s and I am so happy I can transition and just EXIST as a female. I don't have any other motives or what have you. I just wanna blend and exist. I just wanna soak in the femme and bathe in the glow and just live it. I don't haffta hide anymore. I don't haffta look longingly at other females enjoying this period in time with everything from emotional awakenings to something as seemingly mundane as fashion and accessories , beauty trends and styles in gener Al etc.i was imprisoned in my body before and though I didn't hate it, I wasn't happy in it. Now I am as close as I can get without causing myself physical and subsequent emotional agony. I'm existing. And I'm happy to do it.
interesting podcast. Eliot's career in film started when she was in her early teens she's probably always known she was trans, but the platform wasn't there for him too come out, the lesbian community can be very transphobic and has been for many years. Hopefully she will be able too continue making films.
Hey Brittany, I just wanted to comment to let you know that Janet Mock has acknowledged the existence of trans non-binary people and has also spoken up in support of them in her interviews dating back to the years 2016-2018 (I’m sure there are more recent instances that have occurred but these are the dates of the first few articles of a google search). I interpreted you mentioning her in the context of the video as she being a trans woman who did not support non-binary people- but that is not true! And I figured if I had interpreted it that way, I couldn’t be the only one. I’m not sure if you or everyone else is aware of this information or not, so thought I’d just drop in. Also, although I do not speak for Mock or claim to know every opinion she has, one of her main missions she has been very outspoken about in sharing her and other trans peoples story’s is to spread the idea that transness is not a monolith and not everyone is going to have the same experiences, that being said there is a lot of comparison between her story and Elliot’s in your video and doing this seems to go directly against the message she is trying to send or puts forth even if it is out of confusion and/or misunderstanding. Although, I do not agree with majority of opinions in this video, this comment has no ill will or intent- only wanting this information to be brought up since it is not mentioned in the video itself. Thank you and good luck with the channel!
I appreciate this comment. I wasn't sure on Janet's thoughts on NB people, her story just resonated with me and I adore her ♡ Elliot seems better and is doing well, the last I checked updates and that's good♡
I'm not involved directly in politics nor identify with it anymore. I have been asked to do this before but I just dont think I'll enjoy it very much ♡ Thanks for thinking of me though
Omg yes! Thanks girl :) I'm so lucky to have found it! In all my travels I've met so many different bubbles, all have their own advantages and disadvantages but I'm so lucky I found one that works for me. Happy Sunday!
@@BrittanySimon No problem, dude! You just keep those trips going! No, but seriously. I like your videos, I've been a follower for years. But this "opinion" took me off guard. First of all, not everyone's core is their gender. That should not be such wild of a concept for a 5 that they won't even consider it in a situation like this. Second of all, the transfobia... It wasn't blatant, at least you have some decency and manners. But there is research out there, where scientists agree that nonbinary genders do exist. All I've seen is behind paywall, I'll give you that. It's not public knowledge you can just google. But even the concept isn't that complicated to understand. Sex is your biological sex and gender is your own perception of who you are. If they align, you're cis. If they don't align, you're trans. One's gender can be male, female or other, or somewhere between any of these three, sometimes fluctuating (to over-simplify the whole human experience of gender). I think this is far more simple than biological sex, with all the chromosomes, hormone levels, etc that make any person a variation between the polar opposites of male and female... Such lack of willingness to learn, grow and widen your perception as a person when coming across things that you don't know are real or not, is a pretty good demonstration of a bubble you haven't yet bursted. I'm gonna try this one time, for my own selfish reasons of wanting to watch a more educated Brittany, but I'm probably failing. In that case, it's obviously not my (a random person on the internet) bubble to burst. Someone else will do it at some point, or you'll see the world move forward as you are left behind. Which probably happens to most people anyway, as they get old and can't keep up anymore. Edit: Small grammar error. This is not my mother tongue.
@@Zinetha I figured you were aware that I take a very literal stand on existence. Humans aren't special or magical. We are creatures of our biology, intellect and problem solving skills. We can live and exist in different belief systems but we do not have any literal power over what we are. I have no issues with any human living their best life. We all want to love and be loved. SOME scientists might agree that some things are constructs. Science is a tool, sometimes, humans make errors, I'm not invested enough in any specific kind of existence, just the freedom to have one. Trans humans deserve every legal right to be themselves. They deserve protection, just like anyone else. Humans think their differences make them special, it just makes them human. If we treated all humans as individuals, we'd all realize the details don't' matter. But as long as you focus on the details, there will be chaos.
@@BrittanySimon Sex is a part of the human (and many other species') biology. Gender is a product of the human intellect. Both are traditionally, in the Western society, divided into binaries: male/female and man/woman. Yet, neither is a binary, since intersex people and nonbinary people do exist. For the latter, some people try to argue against it by saying things like "it's just in their heads" or that "those genders are made up" - but so are all genders. They are all social constructs / categories we as humans have created to explain our experience to each other. "Man" and "woman" are just as made up, they've just existed in our language (in the Western society) longer than non-binary genders. As for the religious roots you claim the nonbinary genders to have - might be. I haven't looked into it, I've heard of them from social media first. The idea was kind of mind-blowing, but after some thinking, it seemed plausible, so I went along with it. At some point I had the idea to check if there's research on the matter, and that checks out, too. I'm not an expert on the human brain, so it's nice to hear from people who are. It's never been a religious matter to me. I was a Lutheran (Christian) for several years, but nowadays I'm an agnostic. I cannot prove any god's existence, nor can I disprove it.
how weird that you said (not literally i know) to blow up the dnc on the day that shit goes crazy in dc. and they actually found pipe bombs in the capitol building and rnc.
it is interesting to me how you keep comparing being non binary to the person that "doesn't identify as human," it's a reductive false equivalent in my opinion. you keep repeating how much you identify with the binary, which to me is all you needed to say. you don't relate to non binary people! great! it therefore makes a lot of sense that we don't make much sense to you. you don't make sense to us! identifying --deeply, even,-- with the gender binary could not be less relatable to me. that doesn't mean that i think you are just confused or identify that way to be trendy, lol. there is nothing trendier than the centuries old, strictly enforced binary. but i believe you. it's a shame you feel so strongly about other people's genders while also boasting how much you think you don't care. it's clear to me how much your conservative upbringing and former views still impact your lens through which you see these issues, i wish you luck on your journey of continuing to unlearn those biases.
Confused. You said many times in videos past that you were Jew.. some rare Jew and that's where you get your distinctive nose and I quote that. I've been following you for the better part of 7 years including your exclusive first podcast.
I hope you guys enjoy my first attempt at a podcast. Audio only is available on patreon for $1.00 :) I am still learning how to do this, so thank you for being patient with me! Can't wait to hear your thoughts! Let's discuss! If you like my sweater check it out here: teespring.com/humans-gonna-human-black-hoodi?pid=212&cid=5819
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Book mentioned: Covenanted Happiness Love and Commitment in marriage by Cormac Burke.
Hey! I am broke af right now, but I would like to pay for this podcast. Is there a way I can listen without signing up for a recurring fee? (This is something I would like to do when I am no longer said levels of broke 😊)
@@22SeaJay Just by watching it on RUclips ♡ Otherwise, the audio version will be on patreon later today.
@@BrittanySimon Thank you ! I just finished watching it and thought it was excellent. Really enjoyed what you had to say, whether I completely agreed or not with each point. I was confused, as I thought it was only going to be on Patreon, for some reason. Just having a derp moment... 😉
@@22SeaJay ahh I see ♡ Glad you enjoyed it! I am happy to post for free, this is what I love to do, hopefully a sponsor picks it up but I'm not holding my breath 🤣🤣
I think a lot of people just kind of don’t question their gender. And it seems like Elliot opened Pandora’s box at some point by questioning it and realized they were not a woman. I think it’s possible that a lot of the discourse about gender has encouraged people who otherwise wouldn’t have thought about it to think about it, and that’s why we see some late in life realizations from people who you would think had had the opportunity to question gender identity.
Yes!!
And that's what "social contagion" is
On the first point, I agree 100%. Stereotypical femininity and womanhood are not equivalent and girls/women should not feel pressured to identify something other for not fitting into some arbitrary box. Almost nobody meets those expectations and roles completely, and that's what makes humanity so interesting and beautiful! That being said, I completely support trans people to live their lives as their most authentic selves, and I don't think it's right for any of us to dictate what that means for someone else. Really enjoyed hearing your thoughts on this complicated topic💗
Also Kat Blaque is awesome and I think it's super cool that you two watch each other's videos 😊
@@petalchild I SECOND THIS NOTION
I am non-binary. I am not confused about this. When I go off on my own, remove myself from the world and its expectations, I feel to my core that I am not a man nor a woman, just a human.
I do recognize that most others perceive me as a woman and that, according to their worldview/reality, I'm a woman. This is why I am still treated like a woman and experience sexism, etc. But the way society sees me doesn't dictate who I am.
When I was younger and tried to think of myself as a woman, I used to feel confused. I asked myself if perhaps I was a trans man, but that also didn't sit right. Then I learned there were more than two options and it clicked for me. I've felt clarity about who I am ever since.
Also wanted to add that the idea of genders outside of the binary doesn't just come from Eastern cultures. It's found all over the world, including in many Indigenous societies.
I'd recommend checking out Alok Vaid-Menon and QueerAsCat (here on RUclips) if you're interested in other non-binary perspectives.
It's true that in the West we have gender non conforming people but that's through culture and religion, correct? That Native people I know consume it through culture not science. As does the east.
I have a very similar experience with gender. I love to dress as feminine as they come, but I definitely don’t feel like a woman. I feel much better, much more mySelf, when I recognize myself as agender.
@@BrittanySimon most cultures throughout history have been spiritual and have had spiritual systems strongly interwoven into their cultures. That doesn’t mean that they aren’t based in “reality”. These systems are just a different way of articulating people’s experiences. Just because the very short lifespan of science relating to sexuality and gender hasn’t yet* articulated some* of these ideas doesn’t mean that non binarism is somehow inherently linked to spirituality, especially something as specific as eastern spirituality.
see, it's interesting cus I class myself as a woman, but I find no meaning in being a woman specifically, as in I don't look at the of core myself and think ah woman, or take sanctuary in the knowledge of being a woman. I've had insecurities about being a woman socially, and I'm definitely far from stereotypically female, but I've not taken issue with the actuality of being one. my insecurities stemmed from not being 'normal', not not being a woman, if that makes sense. especially not to the extent of trying to find something else to fit me. I think I think of it as I am me, literally just me, and biologically I'm a woman and I have no problem with that. I definitely think a strong difference and something that always comes up with trans people in general is body dysphoria. it's really interesting to hear perspectives where it's not "I'm making this insecurity my personality/identifier", so thank you for that (even though this comment was a year ago and you may never read this lol)
“i don’t care if you make up you’re reality. it’s that you demand that it’s the objective reality.” yes yes yes.
My Dad is religious. I am not. My Dad just recently viciously screamed at me about "not looking at things the right way". As in not looking at life through gods eyes. Using my intellect offends him bc I should think about it through his religious perspective. My mom has said in the past, "please don't say that you don't believe in god infront of your father. It makes him upset." So by trying to accept him I stiffle myself. Not that I want to have great big long debates about things he will never understand bc of his religion. But it affects everything which Ive just noticed. The fight we had was about how natives up North in Canada still dont have everything they need to live. I can't live in a world where people deny reality and say "god will take care of everybody. This was all planned before we were born." Bc I educated myself and have lived through a brutal upbringing, I feel like I cant relate to other people very well. This is bc they live in a fanasty land in my opinion. I dont understand it bc Im a practical but very compassionate person. Sooo... lol I really appreciate this video. Bc I honeslty thought I was being disrespectful to my father talking about things from my perspective knowing his. Thank you so much. Your perspective is helping me grow. I am finally becoming who I really am.
I do hold back when speaking to my family, as a form of love and allowing them a space to feel comfy. So, if I talk my opinion, I make sure that everyone in the room can handle the convo and that it won't trigger them, because I love them and I'm invested in their happiness. I'm not invested in the worlds happiness but my family? yeah, I work extra hard to know them and protect them. We don't talk about all things, I def keep parts of my life private out of respect to them. it's all about that love and balance ;)
I always enjoy your content even when we don't agree. I wanted to share comment that I have about Elliot Page and identity. You mentioned that "to know who you are, you must know whether you are a man or a woman" and I think that highlights your worldview. While that may be true for you, I don't know that it is for all humans universally.
I'm super sure of who I am, who I like, and what my values are. I feel kinda "meh" about my gender and love playing with gender expression. Depending on how I'm presenting on any given day people may perceive and treat me as a woman or a little boy (never a man lol, they always think I'm a child). I never correct people and feel indifferent about pronouns. I imagine I can't be the only one that feels that way. Maybe Elliot and others might feel similar to me, and maybe that's why some folx figure out or put language to their gender identity later in life.
A note about nonbinary identities - several indigenous cultures have recognized a third gender, not just in the east. While I agree that it seems to be trendy for white liberals to co-opt the term, I think that's a bit of a simplistic summary.
Very relatable. For me.I know who I am, I know what I like, I know what I care about. At my core I know I am a human. Gender however is not a part of my understanding of my identity. I'm not that sure if I just don't get what gender is, if it's misunderstanding due to words carrying multiple meanings, if some people are way more connected to it than others, or if multiple of the reasons are correct. I express myself in multiple ways. It's fun I wear what I want. People perceive me in many ways and I don't really care. I don't correct people because I don't think there is anything to correct. I'm fine with the standard (she/he/they) pronouns.
It makes since to me how someone could be unaware that they're trans. I thought of this account from a trans guy (Or trans masc. I don't remember). ruclips.net/video/ZQ1KK-ASR7s/видео.html He knew something was up but didn't recognize that as him being a man,or having gender dysphoria until years later. His gender didn't come as innately to him as with other people.
That said I strongly agree with Brittany's point about. Being weird for your gender doesn't mean you must to be something else. Women can look and act however they please and still be women. You can be an abnormal man and still be a man. Also it bothers me so much when people classify gender nonconforming people as genderqueer, it's not a gender. It's a descriptor of someone's gender expression not a gender.
Loved this by the way. I enjoy your opinions both when I don't fully agree and when we are on the same page. One thing I just wanted to say was about Elliot Page. I think one way to understand them coming out when they did is that you have to consider how much non-binaryism is talked about now versus how much it was talked about as folks of Page's age has grown up. Elliot might have always known he was something outside of what society pegged him as but just didn't have the language for it. Now that being non-binary is way more talked about and way more common people can be all - hey that's me.
As for non-binary as a concept I think humans as a whole have an ever evolving idea of what they are. Not just individuals. The binary might be as 'made up' as the religious version or possible inspiration for those who exist outside of that. We are all making up ways to perceive and move through reality and establish what we believe is reality. As for me I enjoy observing where that is going to go. c:
Another reason is probably that Elliot just wouldn't have had the success as an actor if they came out earlier. They wouldn't have been given male parts to play, because they don't pass. and they would have found it hard to get female roles. Maybe they sacrificed their true sense of self for success in their chosen industry.
“White leftists love to identify as non binary” LOL uh oh, they’re not going to like that you said that!
I always tell people, we are all tropes in an anime, just gotta figure out which one. Anyone who thinks that they aren't a trope, is forgetting they're human ;)
Woah hey kalv, didn’t know you watched brittany lol
omg kalvin
Hey just a few things I wanted to mention (and this is purely from my experience and the experiences of people i know) about dysphoria. Personally, I would call my gender dysphoria a mental illness because of the severity of the intrusive thoughts. Its not just that I feel like a man, its that being misgendered can have a disproportional effect on my day or normal things like getting dressed or showering become more psychologically difficult. Of course, this is by no means how every trans person feels and I'm sure there are a million different confounding variables in each person, but this is something I go to therapy for and its not like alleviating the dysphoria of having long hair just by cutting it.
Also, personally, it took a bit longer for me to discover I was trans and I think that was at least in part due to the fact that I was sick with an undiagnosed illness for a lot of high school. I sometimes describe it as being "too low on maslows hierarchy of needs to reflect on my gender". Also, I think the pandora's box analogy that someone made in the comments is apt. Once I realized how amazing it felt to dress in the way I wanted and be referred to by gender I identify as, it became incredibly obvious how unhappy I actually was as a girl.
btw im 21 and ive been our for two years now if that gives context to anything. I would also compare the experience of dysphoria with how it felt to become sicker and sicker to the point where I was dying and had barely even mentioned it to a doctor. I mean there were lots of reasons that I didn't get the help I needed early, but I just think people can underestimate the lengths to which people will go in their own minds to avoid having to acknowledge to issue. As always, you explain your ideas so eloquently and I always enjoy watching. I just hope I can help to give someone a different insight into a topic they might not be super familiar with!
This was a lovely first episode! I can't wait to see more!
Also this is perfect timing because I've been having an ongoing conversation with friends about gender. These friends are very progressive leaning and one identifys as agender. They were telling about something called akioromantic/ akiosexual which is someone's who is agender/nonbinary that has romantic/sexual feelings for someone but loses them once they are reciprocated. Bitch, my eyes rolled to the back of my head. This was crazy stupid to me. I've been studying psychology and philosophy for three years so this felt like a joke. How is your gender identity a personality/behavior trait?? My friend got insulted because I told them this sounds like someone who has either aviodant attachment style or just something new that people want to attach themselves to as a way to belong. This also shows me more how much people are just wanting to belong and wanting to feel comfortable and part of something. I think that's beautiful but does that beauty come from a place of falsehood? Is it ethical to brand your insecurities as your identity? I don't think so
I do agree I think that people without their LGBTQ+ oppression would be lost kids/ teens/ young adults or just super privilege. creature a community that is less based around love and acceptance and more based around the likelihood that without their identities they would have no personalities.
Wondering what you mean by 'ethical' here? Because it might discourage someone from acknowledging and working on their insecurities and so do harm with that?
I think your comment is spot on btw, and I would've had the same reaction as you. But I tend to look at this in a 'each to their own' kinda way, I hadn't considered it an ethical issue so your comment is making me think.
@@dassijes5943 I'm always a firm believer in "be who you are" and "you do you". Everyone has the personal agency on how much to give a damn or not give a damn about anything, especially involving what I say. I believe everyone has the right to be a toxic or problematic or kind or normal presenting as they want to be.
I would say it's not ethical and efficient for your mental state to have your core identity be your insecurities. It's healthy to want to find the root of your trauma/insecurities or to find support for your trauma/insecurities by using it as a catalyst to reach out to others with a similar experience (example assault survivors groups or alcoholics anonymous). But if all you are to your core identity is your insecurities or trauma then you will remain forever stagnant in that perception. It's like the girls in high school who pride themselves with being the "crazy jealous girl who will slashed your tires if they think you're looking at another chick". In this case, if your gender identity is rooted in insecurity and not being able to reciprocate feelings of love when it's presented to you, I'm sorry but I don't find that average and that's not a gender identity. That's a behavioral trait or could be a forming mental illness. Now I'm not saying that these people are bad or anything like that, I think this is just an attempt of someone trying to create something as an attempt to fit in.
@@LightChashers469 I totally agree, yeah. I think aligning your identity with your trauma is waaay unhealthy and unhelpful. I understand your use of ethical now, it's just not a word I'm used to in this context, I think. Thanks for clarifying, and for the new perspective.
I never knew the basics. I always felt the basics. I also was a loner so I did not copy.
I liked David Bowie. Duran Duran. Grace Jones. Micheal Jackson. The Cure. Depeche Mode. Jing with a bit of Jang. Jang with a bit o Jing.
Never liked pop stars who exagorated either masculinity or feminity.
I mean, I'm fine with (and like) drag queens for example. They know exactly who they are. I feel like this is an issue that Brittany and I are going to disagree on. If you believe in freedom so much, why isn't gender freedom okay as well? I mean, I think nonbinary people exist mostly because butch lesbians are out of fashion, but I just don't care because I don't think I need to.
This is an older podcast episode, but thought my comment might contribute anyways. I identified as genderfluid/nonbinary etc as a teenager, I was very vocal about it etc. I later realized that
1. People with autism (like myself) are more likely to identify as trans. It's very interesting to me and I think that it might have to do with already feeling like "other".
2. Being incredibly insecure about your body doesn't most of the time have to do with gender disphoria.
3. With it being more easy to access information about this, it's easier to, as a part of self discovery identity as a nonbinary person.
I keep seeing these comments saying "I enjoyed watching even if we didn't agree" and like...I can't relate. This was genuinely so hard to watch. I stopped watching you for a bit because you were saying stuff about non binary that really rubbed me the wrong way. I think its extremely weird how you've formed your opinion around the matter. I feel like normally I'd find it emotionally fulfilling to leave a paragraph explaining what my feelings around what non binary is to me and see if that is relatable to you, but idk why, this just seriously put me off.
As someone who's never associated myself with gender I can spot people who really are intensely "I am a man/I am a woman," and you are definitely one of those ppl. This whole video just felt like someone who doesn't understand bisexuals and is like "so when a bisexual woman marries a man they're straight then, right?"
Hi! Hope you've been well! ♡
In terms of non-binary people, I hope they live their best lives. That's what i wish for everyone, because that's what I want for myself.
We all only have one life, might as well enjoy it ;)
@@BrittanySimon I appreciate the sentiment and onto you as well.
@@otterpuplover 🥰🥰🥰
I feel exactly the same way. Incredibly off-putting and reductive perspective from a self-proclaimed "level 5" lol. Weird that gender even matters so much to someone who ~has it all figured out~ and sees through all the bullshit of existence.
Why is it crazy for it to take a long time to figure out if you are trans? Society is much more accepting of gay people currently than trans people, that could be one reason to take a while to “come out.” Couldn’t there be a whole host of reasons why it took that long? I can understand why it would take him a long time to figure out if you are trans and then if you want to tell the world.
Love love LOVE the bit about identity not being focused on how others see you. It’s most definitely a white westerner thing to do that because I’ve noticed that it’s largely westerners who think that others MUST validate their identity and it’s like irreversible evil if people don’t. I think all humans need and like to be known and understood by people because we need other humans, but if your identity falls apart the second that someone else doesn’t understand it or doesn’t validate it, it’s not who you really are or you are not comfortable with being who you really are so you need validation from others because you can’t validate it yourself.
Speaking as a gay woman coming into my 20s, I definitely used to seek more validation in how others saw me and I would get very upset if someone didn’t understand my gay reality because I didn’t feel comfortable with actually being who I am and feeling love and acceptance for my own identity. Now my only request is that people don’t attack me for my identity or don’t literally harm me for my identity, but otherwise, they can have whatever perceptions of me that they want. I know who I am and my identity is part of my reality that doesn’t go away just because someone doesn’t like or understand it or perceive me the same way I perceive myself.
Fantastic first podcast! You did great, this was a pleasure to watch!
Watching this cause I wanted to see if you were consistent from the start, you did not disappoint. I am blown away how your channel just fell in my lap. I needed your perspectives. Thank you for making this content.
I love your first podcast! You make my brain work, you push my way of thinking and I am grateful that I found you and you are back. !
Your first podcast is awesome! I definitely think being “other” is in fashion right now, humans are amazing. What will we do next.
Now, that is the question! ;)
I saw myself as female at 4 yrs old, heart broken when I found out soon after that I can't grow or turn into female and that ppl don't get to choose, when I was 10 or 11 I saw talk shows that showed trans people and I saw hope
Years later I finally came out, identifying as female and how ever up or down my life gets, I roll with it. No longer with a cloud a looming dooming cloud of depression or emptiness.
I rolls with the punches of life with a confidence I never had before. I stand up for myself , I take on tasks that includes adventuring into the unknown of life with a pep in my step I had never felt before.
Thick or thin, I want to experience al that a person does when going from girl to woman and so on. I love my body now, I love myself can now love and trust others around me like never before
I think with the whole situation around Harry Styles wearing a dress, and how it could be considered as a ‘masculine statement’ could very be interpreted that men can still wear feminine apparel like dresses, while still be comfortable in their masculinity. While some men may very well be afraid of being looked at as feminine, that may not always be the case. Like I said, it may be a case where a man is trying to explore his masculinity in a healthy and productive manner.
Now, I haven’t researched too much about the Harry Styles situation, except from hearing the statements Ben Shapiro and Candace Owens have made and people’s responses to them, but I don’t know where you heard that it’s considered as a masculine statement. I’ve always assumed it to be more of a feminine move, but a bold one at that. Although, dresses were originally made for men anyways, so who am I to judge who should wear what?
That was just one part of the video I had a slight problem with, but overall, I enjoyed your first podcast!
Read the vogue article itself and just google you'll find the discussions :) Thanks for watching! I can't wait to do more!
As someone who has grown up from childhood between a man or woman, i did struggle with some of your views. I decided this video just wasn't made for me. The message I suppose came down to people shoving their business in everyone else's face. It doesn't matter what anyone else does as long as its done with respect. Its about intent. If your intent is founded in disrespect to whoever the other person, it just isn't right. It's about the gray area for me. Sliding scale in terms of community anyway. If that made sense ill give you hugs. :)
The fundamental question about gender is what is gender? Some people say it is a biological reality, some say it is a social construct, some say a mix of both. It is scientifically proven that our biological reality has an impact on our behaviors and preferences, which is what distinguishes our gender. Just as people don't choose their sexual orientation, people don't choose their gender. The idea of masculine and feminine comes from the observation of the most common and distinguishing behaviors and preferences of men and women. Where the issue comes up is for the outliers who do not follow these behaviors and/or align with preferences that we would expect them to in accordance to their biological reality. There are also variations in development that would leave, for an example, a woman with higher levels of testosterone. In turn, this will impact their behavior and preferences, and may leave them questioning or confused about their gender or biological reality. This is where the societal perception of biological reality becomes toxic and where the social construct aspect comes into play.
There is also a psychological piece where people who have a biological reality that aligns with the common reality will identify differently because they are simply unhappy. Perhaps they have been treated badly because of their gender, and to fix the problem they decide to identify as the opposite or none at all. They then realize they are just as uncomfortable or treated just as badly and change their minds about how they identify.
What it comes down to is that we cannot put people in a box. We cannot say "you are not a man/woman because you dont look like it" or "you are not a man/woman because you do not understand the plight of a biological male/female." Or any other of these arguments. Because the fact of the matter is it is not so simple to say one or another. People do the best they can to feel fulfilled and happy, and they should be supported rather than put down. And if they change their mind, who cares as long as they are happier for it. For those who go back and forth all the time, or who have a psychological issue that results in their constant identity changing, just talk to them. Hear their story, perhaps they will realize something they did not notice before.
Dude, if you did a video of "making a farmers only account to meet country folk" that would be amazing.
There's a dating show in Finland based around that idea.
I think I love your videos so much because they feel so conversational (something I’m definitely missing in quarantine). This podcast feels even more so like a conversation because of the way it flows from topic to topic so beautifully. I really love it!
I'm so glad!
Love the videos sending positive energy 💙
Identity is a tricky thing, a very personal thing. I am glad for you that it makes sense at your core that you are a woman. A thought I might posit is my understanding between the difference of sex and gender. Sex is biological and gender is a social construct. A social construct is something that is real but intangible. As society shifts social constructs change. One means something in one area of the world and in one time period doesn't mean the same in other places and times. Marriage for example, a social contract and therefore a social construct, means a very thing in the Middle East a thousand years ago to Europe five hundred years ago to the U.S in 2021. Identity shapes how they see themselves in the context of society, so evolves with society with it's social movements. Individualism exists in a way like never before. And so people have the opportunity to individually explore their gender like never before and learn words that fit their existence that they never knew how to describe before. For example I am agender. Growing up and into young adulthood I never identified with girlhood, femaleness, or womanhood. I saw myself primarily as a person. To this day I feel most seen when people do not refer to me with gendered terms. Whether or not I wear feminine clothes or masculine clothes or androgynous clothes does not change how I feel. (The fact that those terms are subjective could be another conversation). I am in a period of growth where I am learning to accept that although I have gained a lot of personal happiness from a better understanding of my identity, and that my labels help me feel a sense of community and understanding with other queer or lgbt+ people, that much of the world will never view me how I hold myself.
This is not the most coherent I could have been but I hope if this reaches you there is some food for thought. My hope is that you can come to more of acceptance of non-binary identities through the understanding that people have a wide array of relationships with their bodies. I do appreciate that whether or not you come to the understanding I hope you will that you are treating the topic with respect.
Did you mention the name of the book by the priest?? Tried to scroll around looking for it but couldn’t find it. It sounds super interesting though, would love to read it. Also congrats on an awesome first podcast!!! Don’t agree with everything but you do make me question some things and I love hearing your point of view. Mad respect.
Im trying to find it sorry. I'm in middle of moving rooms in my house. I'll post when I find it
@@BrittanySimon No problem!! Thank you very much :)
Book mentioned: Covenanted Happiness Love and Commitment in marriage by Cormac Burke.
@@BrittanySimon Thank you!
I’m a bit more than half way through and I love this! The comments are great so far too! There’s a really interesting conversation happening here. I dig it.
I totally agree!
It's weird how we have pertty much oposite viewpoints but agree in most things.
I think values are different than opinions and people forget to separate them.
People think opinion reflects values but I'm not so sure ;)
Knowing the basics of who you are before you go around telling who they are or should be is everything. And I honestly believe even after I found those building blocks of who I am I have no need to tell people who they are. Sure, I can explore who they are with them walk with them on their journey or self discovery, ponder their existence and their footprint in the world/existence (which will always be small) but what a waste of breath to tell people who they should be. And then in just writing this i'm putting out an example on how to be, but this is just my journey and i claim no following. (not-so-sober rant over) :D
To Brittany and people who watch her content: I love how everyone here has different opinions and I truly find these comment sections interesting and productive, so I just want to appreciate this "community" (?). I don't know what word to use to describe this space (don't know if community is quite the right word) , but y'all know what I mean. ❤❤❤
For sureeee!!! Great comments! Lovely disagreement♡ couldn't ask for a better audience ♡ They're awesome♡
What is the book by a priest you read?
This was a really good first episode! I love how you get straight into the deep shit, this was an interesting talk, thank you.
Yay! I wasn't sure if I wanted more of an intro but nah haha let's just get started
@@BrittanySimon it worked out really well without the intro.
I want to just say I remember on a live chat I asked when you were going to make a podcast and to see you be so just at peace and confident! I love the discussion, however have some different views. I love listening to you and thank you so much for making this, I listened while cleaning my “depression” room (due to mental illness it got really bad for a year). Thank you❤️
Wishing you well ♡
I absolutely ADORE this series already, and can't wait for future episodes! I don't know if you'd be willing to do this but I'd be super interested in a video where you dive into how Eastern religions are related to non-binary ideals and the concept itself as that is something I've never heard of nor know nothing about. If that's not a video you'd be into, is there anywhere specific you'd suggest for learning more about that? I feel like simply googling it will come up with some truths mixed into a whole bunch of crap, if you get my drift.
I don't want my channel to be a gender channel cause that happens (so I don't want many focused videos on it) but check out how India works with multiple genders or Native Americans, it's through spiritualism, religion or culture (these things are subjective). If these concepts are spiritual, they are not factual, they are subjective. That's fine. I'm all about freedom. But in the West, we have a habit of needing things to be "REAL" to be accepted. I believe freedom should be our focus, because if we only focus on what's "real" we would never allow multiple religions, let alone multiple genders.
@@BrittanySimon Thanks Brittany!
I found this video interesting because I didn't really see myself reflected in your examples of the nonbinary people that you've encountered. For context: I'm Black, currently 20 years old, and I currently identify as a nonbinary woman. I'm obviously still young and still exploring. (For the record, my spirituality does play a part in my beliefs about gender.) Similar to what you described as the binary trans experience, I've always viewed myself as encompassing or switching between both genders. I just didn't have the language for it.
As a teenager, I found the language and then recently realized that I had been adopting the experience of others in a way that wasn't authentic to me. At the time, I identified as agender. Having that language gave me other agender people to compare myself to. My reality literally began to change. I adopted dysphoric "phantom pains" that weren't my own. I thought that I had to be uncomfortable with being gendered, I thought that I wanted to (or needed to) exclusively use they/them pronouns, and I began to develop feelings about my body that weren't there originally. For example, I've always identified more with having a penis, although I don't have one, but I was never bothered by my breasts until I was identified as agender and then was SOCIALIZED into that reality because I thought I was like these people. Then suddenly I was considering top surgery and HRT, which I now realize that I never wanted. Suddenly I didn't want to be called "she" and I didn't want to be associated with gendered terms, even though those things hadn't bothered me before.
Part of that is being a teenager on the internet, but I find it deeply fascinating. My identity at that time was based on authentic feelings, but labeling myself meant that I adopted the feelings of the community that I entered. Now, my identity feels more authentic - but I acknowledge that it is changing as I work through trauma and I don't know where I will stand once I have healed.
Here's how I feel now: I am a nonbinary woman. I don't relate to the example of nonbinary women/men that you mentioned in your video. For me, nonbinary is what I identify as for my gender. But because I live in this reality, I had to come to terms with the fact that the way that I'm perceived will dictate my reality. I decided that it was counterproductive to be upset with people for viewing me as a woman. I have been socialized as a woman, I am viewed as a woman, and it has a large influence on my life. Therefore, I am a woman. I needed to accept that the way I am viewed by society means that I'll be called a woman, she/her. Internally, I don't identify with gender for myself, but it is my reality. Being a woman is an experience, in a lot of ways. It is a deep, deep part of my socialization and it's part of how I socialize with others. I decided that it is not HEALTHY for me to live in a reality where this bothers me or causes me dysphoria. It is not healthy for me to try to detach from reality. I don't want other people's view of me to rule my life. I don't want a word to upset me. That's why I choose to exist in this way.
I'm not sure where I end up in this conversation, because I think a lot of nonbinary people are uncomfortable with thinking about gender in this way. I also think that people don't talk about this because it feels counterproductive to the movement to say that trauma and labels affected my identity. I don't really care about that. I had to be very honest with myself about what being nonbinary meant to ME. And to me, that is: I don't identify with gender but this is what society sees me as. My personal feelings on my gender will affect my personal life ONLY. The view of me will affect my entire life and it is unrealistic for ME to try to make my feelings into my reality because that makes me unhappy. Frankly, most of the world doesn't care about how I feel and as long as my people get it, then it's fine. For me, my gender is personal. My friends know the depth of my feelings about gender. To pretty much everyone else (besides leftists), I'm just a woman and I've made my peace with that. And to many people, what I've shared will just sound like I'm a cis woman.
Anyway, I really enjoyed this video because it made me think. Your content challenges me to absorb information and different viewpoints without taking them as an attack. I appreciate that. Have a good night!
thank you for sharing!
Omg yay the podcast! I’m so excited, I know I’m going to enjoy this content😆😆
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Also I’m so geeked that you have a podcast now! I’ll be tuning in for sure!
When it comes to gender identity, I will respect any identity you tell me. In some cases, I may question it but I will respect it if that makes sense, and I honestly don't care or see the need to question it, aside from some rare instances when I see people conveniently becoming trans/enby to deflect from responsibility like with (imo) Demi Lovato doing so as soon as they got in hot water for trying to ruin a small business for no legitimate reason, or for particularly identifying to be a predator like the Jessica Yaniv situation. In those cases I find it necessary only because we as a society need to accept this does happen and be able to recognize when most likely this is happening in order to hold people accountable for their behaviour. Or like the case of onisions husband, Kai, where it is VERY possible Kai has been abused and brainwashed into believing he's trans due to Onisions documented fetish for defeminizing women. There are tomes when spectisism has it's place in my opinion. That said, even still, someone like Yaniv, or Kai, who I personally HIGHLY doubt is trans, I still will call her her or him he respectively.
Because in the grand scheme of things it doesn't really matter. If you are what you are, then it doesn't matter except in terms of human rights and saftey, and like I said above, I respect all identities, therefore I would support policies that respect identities. That said, on an individual level, like I said, some people I might doubt, others I whole heartedly believe. The point is it doesn't matter.
But just for the sake of sharing ideas, on the legitimacy of nonbinary, I think it is simply because it is a social construct and social constructs change. I could easily be considered non-binary within today's culture because I partake in both masculine and feminine behaviours and aestetic and I do no identify wih the archetypal idea of female. But for me, I don't see the need to identify as non binary because to me, my sex being female has very little to do with my gender expression and the fact that society places labels and assumptions on me for being female is a societal issue. I personally feel no need to rewrite the terminology in order to exist as I am. But that doesn't mean I'm more or less right than someone who disagrees.
In terms of sex, do I believe in female and male anatomy as such? Simply, yes. It is genetically more complicated, but in a nutshell, I do. But do I KNOW that? No. I'm dumb, I don't understand science that well nor am I able to completely think outside of my culture and time period.
So long story short, as for Elliot Page, I personally believe Elliot is trans. But I don't know that, and my opinion ultimately doesn't matter. As long as he has his freedom of expression, that's all that matters, and people need to learn to accept that people make conclusions and live in their own version of reality and stop worrying so much about what others are doing. I believe over time, like you said, clarity comes. We are obviously in the middle of a revolution in many ways right now, and soeveruthing is extreme and important, and evil, and good, but I believe over time we will level out. Until then I really try my best to "harm none and do what I will"
it takes a lot to figure out someone's identity, i thought i was Cis for so long, i knew about trans people and people going by they/them. But i thought that i was Cis because i suppressed of how i saw myself because i didn't want to be a bother to other people. After 7 years of trying to figure out my gender with the pressure of not wanting to bother people with my change.
i started questioning myself when i was 11, i knew my sexuality (pansexual, recently found out I'm polyamorous too) and now finally when i'm 17 (18 in September) i figured out that i see myself not as male or female but as both a balance in between the two. some of it's spiritual yes, but it's of how i have seen myself for so long. i am non-binary going by they/them.
If I may, I dont think poly is an orientation and the way you used it, made me think you do? Please let me know. Just trying to understand what you believe.
@@BrittanySimon well poly is different from the normal society structure so it welcome in the community as it has hate from people as well. Some people who are poly do use it as a sexual identity when placed with another sexuality. Kind of a add on in a sense.
I want to be a patreon so bad, I love your view and honest explanation of things even if I dont always agree (which makes it even better)
I appreciate that so much! Thanks Caitlin! Whenever you're ready.
What school of philosophy do you belong to? What kind of philosophers do you find yourself reading?
Demi women here! If you interested in figuring out why someone might choose to identify this way then feel free to read my experience with gender bellow.
To answer why I identify this way, I need to explain how I see gender.
Gender is a social construct. Sex is biology. Gender Identity is a person's own way of connecting to gender. (therefore I believe it is an oversimplification to say gender is genetic. I feel this way about sexuality too)
When I was younger I didn't know I would hit puberty. When I started developing boobs I thought I had cancer so I hid it to myself for weeks until I told my mum "I think I have cancer" told my mum to touch my chest and she laughed and told me "you just have boobs". I cried because even though I knew I didn't have cancer I didn't want to change either. This is reflective of how gender and sex were not on my radar at all. I knew of others but my own did not cross my mind.
Later in life, I met a trans guy who was my best friend. I researched gender so I could understand him more. When doing this research I realized I could connect to SOME of what they were saying so I kept researching. This is when I discovered nonbinary. At this time I was questioning and dabbling with gender-fluid as a label. When I was having guy periods of time I wanted to transition, use he him pronouns, etc. When I was having nonbinary periods I wanted to transition also, but in a way that would conceal any sign of my binary sex from the outside world. When I had female periods I felt like an insecure girl (I was 13 after all) and still trying to navigate what it meant to be a girl.
In the end, I stopped having boy or girl periods of time and I started identifying as nonbinary only. I was highly dysphoric during this time of my life. I would sleep, exercise, and live in a cheap binder that I had gotten off of amazon because I was so uncomfortable with my chest. Until my mum stole my binder and I had to learn to live without it. I started thinking and I realized WHY I was experiencing dysphoria when I never had before. It was because I was not being perceived by others the way I saw myself and I blamed my chest because it was a clear indicator of my sex. This lead me to reflect deeper on why this even mattered. I came to the conclusion that if I am a nonbinary person then this IS my nonbinary body and with this idea, my body dysphoria went.
Fast forward to now, I had felt that nonbinary was a good label to define me for YEARS. Now I'm in university and I've realized my connection to gender has changed (AGAIN haha) I now feel a sense of womanhood within myself. My mind started to change. When I thought of my future I used to want to be a parent, a partner and these were words that brought me comfort. Now I want to be a girlfriend, wife, mother and I long for these things. I still get uncomfortable with expressing these ideas because I do feel a connection to being nonbinary. I identified that way for many years so I feel it's only natural but at the same time I feel a connection to women hood in a way I never did before and that's why I identify as a demi woman.
This label is personal to me. I just tell people I'm a woman and use she her pronouns now because I don't see the point in explaining it to everyone but I know within myself that this label describes how I connect to gender rn. My gender has never been connected to my expression although it has been informed by it sometimes. My expression has been all over the place all my life.
if gender is a social construct everyone is gonna have a different way of observing and connecting to it
ruclips.net/video/mgMA1qBIb78/видео.html&ab_channel=DaisyChadra this video breaks down gender pretty similarly to how i see it
Random thoughts, throwing things to the wind here. Not all my points are reactions to you but you've inspired some thoughts I've been thinking ;) Thanks for that
@@BrittanySimon I dont see how gender could exist as anything other than a social construct. Therefore your statement implies that you do not believe in gender which would make sense if you did not support trans people. Because the idea that gender does not exist does not support the existence of trans people since by definition, trans people are people who identify with a gender that is not typically associated with the sex they were assigned at birth. Therefore the idea that gender does not exist invalidates their existence.
If the definition was a different one. eg: trans people are people who change their sex.
Even this would not support their existence since it is an oversimplification of the science. You can not change a person's chromosomes.
The only thing you would have left is that trans people are people who change their expression to mimic the traditional expression and sometimes biological sex of a sex that they were not born into.
I have a problem with this since I believe the person's relationship to gender as it exists is what forms the motivation for the person to transition and therefore is at the root of what makes a person trans, not the transition itself. When the presentation and transition of a person become the focus than how are we meant to tell the difference between a trans person and a cross dresser? I do think the two are different and a person who does not is oversimplifying their existence.
All of this is only relevant if you ONLY believe in sex and that gender isn't a thing. However, if you do believe gender exists (which I don't see how it can beyond a social construct) then please explain to me how you see gender? since in this video and in your response you only seem to describe sex.
My relation to gender as a social construct is simple. My biological sex is female but my identity is nonbinary and female because that's the connection I feel. people who choose to ignore gender don't bother me because they don't exist in the same reality as me but if they choose to live that way I don't see how they can rationally justify the existence of trans people at all?
ither gender and trans people exist
or gender does not exist and their is only sex
@@chipperFangirlsage I believe people are male or female and can choose to live as either, and that that choice is their right. I believe trans people are reasonable and make these choices to seek a better understanding of themselves and I support them in that ♡
I love your thought process and how you are able to easily convey each step you take as to why you think a certain way! Not many people have that ability and thank you for sharing your amazing mind!
I'm so glad it made sense! I am so used to being able to cut out dead space but glad I could convey my ideas :) Thanks for watching!
@@BrittanySimon please keep making these podcasts whenever you can! I love your philosophical ideals that make up the way you conceive the world. The unbiased and thoughtful manner in which you navigate situations is hard to find on RUclips. I really do wish I could fund you but sadly I cannot. In the future though I will for sure!
@@hannahpeden4264 I appreciate that so much! Thank you! Happy new year!
@@BrittanySimon I appreciate the content you make! Happy New Year and I wish you well for this year and the rest to come :). How do you discover new philosophical ideas? I assume books.
OH MY GOD yes! Thank you for making a podcast! Love your content/mind!
So I'm dying to say this is a former follower who used to like your old podcast with your 'quad- EV, mr.te, QC,' and I unfollowed when you all got your high horses. I love seeing the new and better Evie and Brittany. I'm glad to see better versions of you and her. Much better content, you've both grown in the 2 years I've stopped listening to you guys.
The science community largely agrees. Gender is a spectrum. It's not a religious thing driving this as much as. What is observable and is understood about society.
Ultimately I can't get behind this idea that it's okay and acceptable to have this idea that it's okay to have 2 acceptable realities that are incongruent with one another.
One is going to win out. And normally the one that loses is the one with the minority people.
About non binary people: personally, I accept them as existing in reality (as I understand it) because there are MANY humans that I see in the world that I cannot categorize as man or woman. As a woman, I can’t truly imagine what it would be like to not be categorized as something other than a woman by society, but I accept that it is possible for a human to exist in society as neither man or woman. This is how I understand gender in general to be honest. So if someone tells me that they are mentally/spiritually incapable of categorizing themselves in society as a man or woman and instead describe how they ARE capable of being categorized, I gotta believe em.
I just love listening to your opinions and that you don't sugar coat anything. I'm so excited for the next episode!
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Awesome stuff! As always!! Looking forward to future episodes!!
I love your work in podcast form! Can't wait for the next one
Hi Brittany! Congratulations on starting your podcast--I'm very excited to see how it progresses and will be following it. I'm curious about something because I've already had one viewing of this episode but want to watch it again to gain a firmer understanding of everything you shared regarding your philosophy and how you perceive people's self-exploration around gender identity and expression. I also noticed that you set some boundaries around how you want to be approached regarding these things--saying that you don't want people to challenge you to question your sense of reality when you're "sure of the basics."
I'm noticing a need to express a personal sense of objectivity around self-identity in these words, being that you're human and a woman. So, how do you want to be approached by others who want to have a dialogue with you regarding your philosophy of self-exploration, identity, expression, and what it means to have a sense of self? Is there room for being challenged? What does that look like for you if so? Curious to know and again, congrats~
Great questions♡ I am always open to having discussions and exploring. I ask that people make an appointment with me through patreon to set up a time to chat via Skype or hangouts. I offer one on one calls for these discussions because I wake up to hundreds of notifications and messages everyday.
My statement about reality differences mostly come into place when people are trying to limit peoples freedoms based on their understanding of reality versus an objective sense of reality.
Ie. People who say god is real and want to deny gay rights. I don't entertain their beliefs over gay peoples rights.
I think there is a way for everyone to live together and not kill each other but that's asking alot of people who are so determined to see everyone different from them as the enemy.
No one is my enemy unless they choose to be.
What a great start into the new year! Loved the podcast (finally finished it). Definitely will come back to this :)
Yay, thank you!
Great one Brittany! Excited for the next one already 🌷
yayayay! thank you so much!
Just because Elliot Page came out as trans doesn't mean that he didn't know he was trans until he was 30. I'm positive Elliot was aware he was trans before he decided to tell the general public in his 30s that he is trans.
So, that begs the question. Did he lie about being a lesbian for clout? Money? Women?
And if someone in a position of privilege lies out of fear of losing fame and money does that make them bad? Selfish? Dangerous? Is he just good at playing the game? is that the same as someone who is in fear of death or homelessness feeling they have to lie?
Im trying to understand the difference between someone who is just good at capitalism and someone who is actually an activist....maybe in Hollywood it's always about money and clout and that's why nothing ever gets done there♡
@@BrittanySimon lets hope that wasn't the case
Looking forward to this podcast w/ you ! I usually don’t comment but the ideas in this video are certainly challenging 👏🏾
Yay! Thank you so much!!
Found your video's recently and really enjoy the content you make ❤
Curious, since you don't believe in non-binary identities, what are your thoughts on intersex people that identify as non-binary?
I honestly don't have thoughts on it, whatever works for them, I suppose.
I love hearing your take on this. I had the same feelings about Elliot Page but if you voice that opinion you’re transphobic. I don’t see why it isn’t ok to be a person who evolved to being trans as opposed to being born trans. Why can’t both be true? How does the idea of evolving delegitimize the trans community?
People evolve to other identities all the time and it’s normal. It’s even normal to try an identity on to see if it fits, especially if you’re young. Our society is so rigid about fitting everyone into a group or label. People who are looking for their path are almost shamed for turning around or choosing a different path. Sometimes you go down a path just to see what’s there.
Great video. I agreed with you on the most part. Though, the echo chambers you are talking about are not echo chambers anymore. Some of them are constantly becoming part of the culture. So, 'humans gonna human' applies more on echo chambers and inter-personal relations, not on the societal level. I think chaos(especially the kind we have never experienced before) should be handled very carefully because not only it has potential to be extreme but also can breed extreme forms of order.
Ugh, a lot of misconceptions in here that would probably be easily cleared up if you talked WITH non-binary people about their experiences instead of just kind of aimlessly postulating about them.
I've dated NB humans, been to events, talked to hundreds over the last six years of my life. I've read the books recommended and watched the videos. I must just be stupid.
Nonbinary "transness" and difficulty in discerning your own gender for decades has a possible neurological explanation. It's somewhat controversial, but there's a real substantial body of potential evidence that our neural architecture was altered or otherwise deviated from our body's development in the womb, but I think it would be a bit overzealous to assume that means boy/girl brains in the opposing sex's body. Based on the studies I've looked at and my own experience with body dysphoria, I think whatever prenatal fuckery caused that deviation in our neurology wouldn't likely cause a consistent degree of difference for every trans person. I'd imagine that all of us have different regions of our brains that are altered to differing degrees. I think that's why some of us can transition comfortably without HRT while others like myself would kill ourselves without it. Or like how some of us don't want bottom surgery and some of us need it. I think the idea would apply to how we identify ourselves and since there isn't exactly a girl or boy brain architecture(however there are consistent dimorphic trends), whether we end up boy, girl, or somewhere in between, and our ease in discerning our own gender identities would be relative to what degree of altered development we've received and possibly whatever type of endocrine disruptors caused it. :P Just speculating, but it's food for thought.
Now this is an interesting theory!
@@BrittanySimon I doubt I'm the only one to suppose this, but I never hear anyone mention it. Unfortunately most conversations in leftist circles avoid discussing trans brains altogether because they're afraid it would "medicalize" the concept of transness and gatekeep it from less conventional cases. It's really frustrating to me. Obviously gender dysphoria is a clinical issue, but simply discussing medical studies that would honestly do well to humanize us to a lot of otherwise disassociated fence sitters and provide a potential explanation grounded in *physical* reality would at least add to the discussion. Instead they tend to cling to self identification, which has its place, but by actively avoiding to even mention the medical data that's out there and *relying* on such abstract arguments - essentially making it entirely a philosophical debate - it just makes us look delusional(or that it's all a personal choice) to really anyone who thinks about it critically but isn't invested enough to investigate, and gives haters an easy strawman to tear down. :/ While I didn't agree entirely with your take on Elliot Page and nonbinaries, it's really refreshing to hear you discuss this sort of thing with an actual open mind and critical eye. A lot of trans advocacy discourse grinds the ever loving tits out of my gears. Not that I don't appreciate it, but it feels so counterproductive and thoughtless.
Anyway; Keep up yo mojo girl! I subscribed years ago and only recently got started checking out your comeback stuff and I'm really digging it.
Thank you!!! I think this is a much more reasonable and interesting take on anyones life. The nuance that life offers should be explored instead of denied.
Happy for Elliot and his journey and hope he remains happier everyday ♡
I loved this so much. Thank you for this because this is real and relatable.
Glad you enjoyed it!
3:09 World is two: this world and the world. This world chages, conceed but the world changes I deny. The world is the point around which this world revolves.
You 8:12 are not your body because you're able to know that it's YOUR body and what is yours is distinct from you i.e. whatever it is that is signified by first personal pronoun I at any given time. Just as it would be your bag, your purse, are distinct from you.
7:34 word you want is the biologist's expression which means "wiseman" in english( Homosepeians).
9:06 It's not true to say that we "are humans"( that is objective truth which Nietzsche, Marx etc. would object to. In Twilight of Idols he says: "The true world is unattainable, it cannot be proved, it cannot promise anything; but even as a thought, alone, it is a comfort, an obligation, a command...The true world-is it unattainable? At all events it is unattained. And as unattained it is also unknown. Consequently it no longer comforts, nor saves, nor constrains: what could something unknown constrain us to?...The “true world”-an idea that no longer serves any purpose, that no longer constrains one to anything,-a useless idea that has become quite superfluous, consequently an exploded idea: let us abolish it!..We have suppressed the true world: what world survives? the apparent world perhaps?... Certainly not! In abolishing the true world we have also abolished the world of appearance!).since according to certain schools of philosophy they will you the expression "appears to be human" or "appears to be called human"( it is the word borrowed from Greek "phenomena". Scientists also use this world thus mainly science also studies appearances which they now call "models" mostly to predicate what will happen so they can do something with it.). People who do believe in objective truths like we, i.e. we humans, are humans are realists.
Yay!!!!! I'm so excited for your podcast😊😊😊😊😊
I sense great humility based on your speech and body language. Keep it up.
Veeery interesting. I’d love to respond to this in a video!
Edit: thumbed up because I too, dislike Ben Sharpie
If you want me to watch it, no guarantees (because of time unless you join patreon at the call level and use that time to have me watch it) keep vids under 15 mins please and link it here, so I can see it.
@@BrittanySimon cool! Will do
this makes me so curious to know what you would make of my journey of realizing im trans. also what are your thoughts on nonbinary people who knew they were nonbinary since childhood?
Hey Evan :) Always down to chat, check out patreon for one on one calls! Or when I go live, you can try to call into the show :)
Are you familiar with Indya Moore? They’re a non-binary trans person, she’s pretty insightful!
why do you think you know more than scientists that have worked on the vaccine and tested it? you put emphasis on the government asking people to get it, but what they are doing in this case is what scientists are saying is best.
Omg been struggling with that sinus infection crap too. First one I've had in 2 yrs. I skipped last yr. Came back with a vengeance this year ugh.
I'm just now shaking it off after a couple weeks of it leasing a 2 bdrm 2½bath plot in my skull.
Don't wanna be germicist or evict without notice but it had to GO :P good luck, Ms.!
I was born inna' 80s and I am so happy I can transition and just EXIST as a female. I don't have any other motives or what have you. I just wanna blend and exist. I just wanna soak in the femme and bathe in the glow and just live it. I don't haffta hide anymore. I don't haffta look longingly at other females enjoying this period in time with everything from emotional awakenings to something as seemingly mundane as fashion and accessories , beauty trends and styles in gener Al etc.i was imprisoned in my body before and though I didn't hate it, I wasn't happy in it. Now I am as close as I can get without causing myself physical and subsequent emotional agony.
I'm existing. And I'm happy to do it.
Great podcast Brittany!! 💗
interesting podcast. Eliot's career in film started when she was in her early teens she's probably always known she was trans, but the platform wasn't there for him too come out, the lesbian community can be very transphobic and has been for many years. Hopefully she will be able too continue making films.
Love your podcast keep going 💕
Thank you! Will do!
can "otherness" be a foundational identity like woman is for you?
This was great. I’m gonna by ur. Hoodie ASAP.
yayayayaya! Get a size bigger than you think, it runs small!
unless you like it tight!
Yes thank you!
Hey Brittany,
I just wanted to comment to let you know that Janet Mock has acknowledged the existence of trans non-binary people and has also spoken up in support of them in her interviews dating back to the years 2016-2018 (I’m sure there are more recent instances that have occurred but these are the dates of the first few articles of a google search). I interpreted you mentioning her in the context of the video as she being a trans woman who did not support non-binary people- but that is not true! And I figured if I had interpreted it that way, I couldn’t be the only one. I’m not sure if you or everyone else is aware of this information or not, so thought I’d just drop in.
Also, although I do not speak for Mock or claim to know every opinion she has, one of her main missions she has been very outspoken about in sharing her and other trans peoples story’s is to spread the idea that transness is not a monolith and not everyone is going to have the same experiences, that being said there is a lot of comparison between her story and Elliot’s in your video and doing this seems to go directly against the message she is trying to send or puts forth even if it is out of confusion and/or misunderstanding.
Although, I do not agree with majority of opinions in this video, this comment has no ill will or intent- only wanting this information to be brought up since it is not mentioned in the video itself.
Thank you and good luck with the channel!
I appreciate this comment. I wasn't sure on Janet's thoughts on NB people, her story just resonated with me and I adore her ♡ Elliot seems better and is doing well, the last I checked updates and that's good♡
Any book recommendations for eastern philosophy
I'd be curious to see you take the political compass test live and discuss as you go through it.
I'm not involved directly in politics nor identify with it anymore. I have been asked to do this before but I just dont think I'll enjoy it very much ♡ Thanks for thinking of me though
You seem to really like your bubble. It's so ironic, I can't even...
Omg yes! Thanks girl :) I'm so lucky to have found it! In all my travels I've met so many different bubbles, all have their own advantages and disadvantages but I'm so lucky I found one that works for me. Happy Sunday!
@@BrittanySimon No problem, dude! You just keep those trips going!
No, but seriously. I like your videos, I've been a follower for years. But this "opinion" took me off guard.
First of all, not everyone's core is their gender. That should not be such wild of a concept for a 5 that they won't even consider it in a situation like this.
Second of all, the transfobia... It wasn't blatant, at least you have some decency and manners. But there is research out there, where scientists agree that nonbinary genders do exist. All I've seen is behind paywall, I'll give you that. It's not public knowledge you can just google. But even the concept isn't that complicated to understand. Sex is your biological sex and gender is your own perception of who you are. If they align, you're cis. If they don't align, you're trans. One's gender can be male, female or other, or somewhere between any of these three, sometimes fluctuating (to over-simplify the whole human experience of gender). I think this is far more simple than biological sex, with all the chromosomes, hormone levels, etc that make any person a variation between the polar opposites of male and female...
Such lack of willingness to learn, grow and widen your perception as a person when coming across things that you don't know are real or not, is a pretty good demonstration of a bubble you haven't yet bursted. I'm gonna try this one time, for my own selfish reasons of wanting to watch a more educated Brittany, but I'm probably failing. In that case, it's obviously not my (a random person on the internet) bubble to burst. Someone else will do it at some point, or you'll see the world move forward as you are left behind. Which probably happens to most people anyway, as they get old and can't keep up anymore.
Edit: Small grammar error. This is not my mother tongue.
@@Zinetha I figured you were aware that I take a very literal stand on existence. Humans aren't special or magical. We are creatures of our biology, intellect and problem solving skills. We can live and exist in different belief systems but we do not have any literal power over what we are.
I have no issues with any human living their best life. We all want to love and be loved. SOME scientists might agree that some things are constructs. Science is a tool, sometimes, humans make errors, I'm not invested enough in any specific kind of existence, just the freedom to have one.
Trans humans deserve every legal right to be themselves. They deserve protection, just like anyone else.
Humans think their differences make them special, it just makes them human.
If we treated all humans as individuals, we'd all realize the details don't' matter. But as long as you focus on the details, there will be chaos.
@@BrittanySimon Sex is a part of the human (and many other species') biology. Gender is a product of the human intellect. Both are traditionally, in the Western society, divided into binaries: male/female and man/woman. Yet, neither is a binary, since intersex people and nonbinary people do exist.
For the latter, some people try to argue against it by saying things like "it's just in their heads" or that "those genders are made up" - but so are all genders. They are all social constructs / categories we as humans have created to explain our experience to each other. "Man" and "woman" are just as made up, they've just existed in our language (in the Western society) longer than non-binary genders.
As for the religious roots you claim the nonbinary genders to have - might be. I haven't looked into it, I've heard of them from social media first. The idea was kind of mind-blowing, but after some thinking, it seemed plausible, so I went along with it. At some point I had the idea to check if there's research on the matter, and that checks out, too. I'm not an expert on the human brain, so it's nice to hear from people who are. It's never been a religious matter to me.
I was a Lutheran (Christian) for several years, but nowadays I'm an agnostic. I cannot prove any god's existence, nor can I disprove it.
I made a comment earlier and I sad it's not here anymore
youtube is eating comments, even mine :( Sorry
Off topic but i love your earrings
thank you! Evie lupine got them for me as a present ;)
how weird that you said (not literally i know) to blow up the dnc on the day that shit goes crazy in dc. and they actually found pipe bombs in the capitol building and rnc.
My friend messaged me today "omg check the news!" and I was like "oh boy!"
Adore this!
yay!
Look outside of hunan nature
you're so cute brittany 😆
it is interesting to me how you keep comparing being non binary to the person that "doesn't identify as human," it's a reductive false equivalent in my opinion. you keep repeating how much you identify with the binary, which to me is all you needed to say. you don't relate to non binary people! great! it therefore makes a lot of sense that we don't make much sense to you. you don't make sense to us! identifying --deeply, even,-- with the gender binary could not be less relatable to me. that doesn't mean that i think you are just confused or identify that way to be trendy, lol. there is nothing trendier than the centuries old, strictly enforced binary. but i believe you. it's a shame you feel so strongly about other people's genders while also boasting how much you think you don't care. it's clear to me how much your conservative upbringing and former views still impact your lens through which you see these issues, i wish you luck on your journey of continuing to unlearn those biases.
Wishing you well too!
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Well whether you realize it or not you live in a reality where God exists
chile the same way you view ellen page as a lesbian, the world views you as white.
I dont view him as a lesbian. He came out as a man. He is straight now. At least now
Confused. You said many times in videos past that you were Jew.. some rare Jew and that's where you get your distinctive nose and I quote that. I've been following you for the better part of 7 years including your exclusive first podcast.
I've never ever said I was a Jew. I was raised Catholic. You must be mixing me up with someone else.
Also, I've never had another podcast, except one I did with friends on bdsm? That one? It wasn't exclusive though