This isn't really tips on surviving, it's more like tips on trying to fix it so you don't need to survive it. Let's assume they are disinterested in communicating and meet your attempts with anger. I think a lot of people already know communication is the way to fix it and have tried that repeatedly before. How do you survive/cope with that? Especially when you have kids and really don't want to break up your home for their benefit.
My hubs & I had a weekend away for our 16th. In the first 2hrs told me to shut up more times than he’s said he loves me in a week. I’m reevaluating my entire life right now.
Totally unhelpful as to the video title. Need tips on how to stay in it cannot leave, and it is futile to engage the spouse in the relationship the apathy is too great.
I get this from my wife too. I don't know if the anger and insults are intentionally done to shut me up or if she just isn't mature enough to talk about relationship problems. Either way it's super frustrating when you look for advice and all you find is the "communication" advice. But I guess she does say it requires a will to fix from both people.
Clickbait. Want to know how to stay in a loveless marriage. Not to convert it into a ‘lovey dovey’ one. We are watching you since we have tried everything to enliven the marriage already.
I think we need to establish if there is Love there or not. Then you know what you're working with. If there is Love, that's Good. It doesn't always mean it will work out, but compassion towards one another can only be helpful. If the love is not there, then at least you can accept that and move on, together or not
It's difficult to make this marriage work when my wife spends all her time shopping. She spends no time with me at all not even 1 hour. Then, after she shops she goes downstairs to her mother and sister and hangs out there for 6 to 7 hours. She leaves me alone with our six children she collects all the income tax and doesn't give me a dime. The funny thing is that she said she never wanted the children. She taught our first born son to hate me and he expressed his hate even though I did everything for him. The sad thing is that our three daughters see it all but it hurts my oldest daughter the worse because she knows and understand.
This must be hard during this quarantine, I feel you in a way cuz my husband works long hours then spends the rest of his time on his phone or just Tv & if I don’t comply with this then I’m demanding & don’t understand cuz I don’t work! Well I’ve worked before but was keen on spending quality time..it seems that I lived in isolation for too long, perhaps your wife spends so much time with her mom & sister as a backup system, I dunno her side of story, but if you can try to be engaged with people or something..feeling alone is the worst it takes away your power gradually
Hmmmm. Some marriage counselor will tell you not to dive in and save your spouse every time because it's not attractive. Then sometimes the issues are not so much about you but about the other person.
There’s one person watching this video which is most likely the person that’s already tried everything and still not getting anywhere.
This isn't really tips on surviving, it's more like tips on trying to fix it so you don't need to survive it. Let's assume they are disinterested in communicating and meet your attempts with anger. I think a lot of people already know communication is the way to fix it and have tried that repeatedly before. How do you survive/cope with that? Especially when you have kids and really don't want to break up your home for their benefit.
My hubs & I had a weekend away for our 16th. In the first 2hrs told me to shut up more times than he’s said he loves me in a week. I’m reevaluating my entire life right now.
I’m sorry to hear this. Sending prayers he has a conversion of heart.
Totally unhelpful as to the video title. Need tips on how to stay in it cannot leave, and it is futile to engage the spouse in the relationship the apathy is too great.
Every time I tell my husband what bothers me he shuts down and gets really mad.
So does mine … I’m sorry your going through this too
We in same shoes
Yep. Same
I get this from my wife too. I don't know if the anger and insults are intentionally done to shut me up or if she just isn't mature enough to talk about relationship problems. Either way it's super frustrating when you look for advice and all you find is the "communication" advice. But I guess she does say it requires a will to fix from both people.
My husband does the same, what does it mean?
Hard to fix "It's not important to ME"
This!
@@BrookeHamilton-i4o Nothing says "I love you and care about you" like forced celibacy
Clickbait. Want to know how to stay in a loveless marriage. Not to convert it into a ‘lovey dovey’ one. We are watching you since we have tried everything to enliven the marriage already.
I think we need to establish if there is Love there or not. Then you know what you're working with. If there is Love, that's Good. It doesn't always mean it will work out, but compassion towards one another can only be helpful. If the love is not there, then at least you can accept that and move on, together or not
It's difficult to make this marriage work when my wife spends all her time shopping. She spends no time with me at all not even 1 hour. Then, after she shops she goes downstairs to her mother and sister and hangs out there for 6 to 7 hours. She leaves me alone with our six children she collects all the income tax and doesn't give me a dime. The funny thing is that she said she never wanted the children. She taught our first born son to hate me and he expressed his hate even though I did everything for him. The sad thing is that our three daughters see it all but it hurts my oldest daughter the worse because she knows and understand.
This must be hard during this quarantine, I feel you in a way cuz my husband works long hours then spends the rest of his time on his phone or just Tv & if I don’t comply with this then I’m demanding & don’t understand cuz I don’t work! Well I’ve worked before but was keen on spending quality time..it seems that I lived in isolation for too long, perhaps your wife spends so much time with her mom & sister as a backup system, I dunno her side of story, but if you can try to be engaged with people or something..feeling alone is the worst it takes away your power gradually
She obviously is not happy !!!!
I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. Sending prayers for you and your family. I will say the over spending could be a coping mechanism.
Hmmmm. Some marriage counselor will tell you not to dive in and save your spouse every time because it's not attractive. Then sometimes the issues are not so much about you but about the other person.
False representation. Don’t waste time in this video
Clickbait
I love you for all time!