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When men want something, they go for it. Stop thinking with feelings or searching hints... stay focused on facts. If he doesn't make a move, he's not interested.
@@xm377Moyocoyatzin This is what's happening in his mind. That's why I think sticking to facts is the simplest move. Because at the end of all his thoughts, facts tell that he doesn't want you.
@@xm377Moyocoyatzin Wow, you have issues with women to work on. Guys are just as good or better at mental and emotional manipulation, bud. Try being a woman. You HAVE NO IDEA. Take R kelly for example, or Trump.
@@xm377Moyocoyatzin at the expense of men. Yet is it men's fault, they oppressed women for most of history!! Women had to learn to keep up with men the mental and emotional manipulation.
I actually did the "Smile& Wave" to someone I hadn't met yet, but had friends in common.. I didn't think twice about it so it was supernatural and he loved it! we are dating right now..
@@nofybn7794 shhhhh they wanna keep lying to themselves to pin it all on something to do with the guy and not them. Funny they said something about waking up, people who are so sure that they're right 100% of the time are forever spiritually asleep.
Several guys that I started chatting with first didn’t initiate for these reasons: 1) they thought I wasn’t single 2) they thought my male friend was hard competition 3) I wasn’t interested 4) I made a face or didn’t say hi because I thought they were ugly or something. Don’t discourage women from shooting their shot like this! What you’ve said is probably true when you’ve had a one night stand or a date and he never calls you back. But not when you’ve never flirted/talked to him etc. It makes sense, because I’m drawn to quiet and shy guys. I hate macho players.
@@nofybn7794 all the MeToo advocates and harassment law that have been passed in Europe the past few years. It's already illegal to approach women. In today's context, he can't anymore even if he want to. Too many accusations
Yea say that to all the MeToo advocates and harassment law that have been passed in Europe the past few years. In today's context, he can't anymore even if he want to. Too many accusations
If I seen a guy look my way a little too long then turn away when I look at him I would stay looking at him until our eyes meet again and then I would smile and wave and that usually give them enough courage to come up to me, and it always worked for me that’s why I’m in a committed relationship now
Let me just tell how I feel about it: I'm a guy and I was completely clueless if a girl was kinda into me. I'm still clueless but that is something that I'm working on on reading the body language and facial expressions. I'm more reserved and "introverted" and so I rather stay in my corner than go approach a girl that is looking at me...I'm also looking at you so what? Doesn't mean I'm not into her, it is just my way of being, the effort gotta be from both parts and girls have it easier because we guys are super chill, if you are interested come and talk or say something...we can't distinguish when you are looking for ego boost or interested. Some men will be more proactive on approaching and others will not, everybody is different, same with women.
Those "shy guys" are the real gems! Same for short guys. And there's nothing wrong with sending subtle body "messages" or even approaching a guy that appears interested in you. Just play it low key at first. And see what happens.
@@felicityolivares258 BS. Don't give a sugar coated lie. I can't stand people doing that. Just the way life is. I am not beautiful. That's a fact. No amount of goodness is gonna change my looks. Just a fact of life. It is not a magic cure all. It only helps some.
@@nofybn7794 I agree! No sugar coating. There are facts in life which we need to accept because that's how life and the world work. Sugar coating is not going to take us anywhere and will in fact keep us away from accepting facts! I have been through this myself and all the sugar coated bull shit I was told made me miserable. I am the way I am.
My husband never wore his ring... we got divorced last week. Yeah... My sister was talking about this friendly cute guy in a gym class and she was like, he’s so into me, he talks to me all the time! Yeah, he was gay. 😂 Shes so pure.
If you see a woman staring at you everytime she sees you then approach her. Give your number and take off it's not that hard..omg this guy I like doesn't get the hint or he's just not interested.
Yea say that to all the MeToo advocates and harassment law that have been passed in Europe the past few years. It's already illegal to approach women. In today's context, he can't anymore even if he want to. Too many accusations
Im the same way. Always been confident in myself and it shows. Means I’ve not always been approached by guys. But I did get approached by a guy as confident as me once and it was great. He made me smile and laugh and he asked for my number. Don’t lower your standards.
You don’t have to change. Some guys are just lame. Never change for a guys attention. That will only cause you anxiety. Also if there is a guy you like who seems interested there is nothing wrong with approaching him first. Just ask questions and listen. If you don’t connect keep trying. It might feel awkward at first but it does work!
If you’re having an “off day”, you won’t meet up with your dream guy, you’ll meet up with another guy who’s off....just like you. It’s attraction, folks. 😏
So there was a cute girl in one of the gyms I visit, near work. So after numerous instances of glancing at each other I found a good moment to make contact. She was doing romanian deadlifts so I noticed issue with her ankles. After she finished I decided to use this as a topic. So, I said hi and shared with her my thoughts asking her if she thinks this way will feel more comfortable. She didn't react well to it she rather chose to end the conversation rather fast. I could feel it. Needles to say I felt really terrible and now every time I saw her at the gym she was avoiding any contact with me. So... I think that now I am just another creep. I don't know when or if ever I will do something like this again... Made me feel really terrible and stressed out.
I don’t understand. He approached me once to help with my bike and looked a little uncomfortable. An other time he tried to talk to me by waiting for me to pass by. After that I saw the light realizing he might be interested. So then I tried to get his attention but somehow nothing has happened yet.
OK..... sooooooo there is this guy that works at my grocery store, around Christmas time he went above and beyond to look for a computer chair that was out of stock but he like asked a few people in the store on his walkie talkie and went in the back of the store to look, we walked all over the store together to find the chair that wasn't non existent anymore. So since then when ever I'm at the store we will lock eyes from a far. Whenever we see each other we say hi but we are both realllllly shy he stocks the shelves so I see him usually every other time I'm at the store. Ok... heres where I messed up and embarrassed the heck out of myself... and he laughed at me (sweetly) I apparently and so clueless sometimes he'll wave or say hi and I'm not paying attention and I keep going. My friend told me and I went back down the aisle and I'm like "I'm so sorry I didn't say hi, I wasn't paying attention" he goes "it's ok haha, don't worry" I go "well it was nice seeing you have a great night" he chokes up and is like "yeah, uh yeah have a great haha uhm night yeah night haha" like we both were so awkward and shy and smiling and looking away. I really like this guy but I'm nervous to ask him to lunch and wish he would just ask me. I saw another female worker our age talking to him flirting and he was so platonic like not interested at all in her the way he talks to me... I just don't know what to do
Reason Zero.. He's afraid of being accused of sexual harassment. Even if he's 95% sure she wants to be approached, that 5% doubt is still a huge risk. He knows that work HR, the law enforcement and court systems are all biased in favour of the woman. All it takes is being accused. You won't get a fair chance to defend yourself, and your career and life are over. It's basically a death penalty. It's a risk / reward analysis, and the risks are astronomical these days.
Listen bro, I get you being red pilled and all but at the end of the day you still need to live and enjoy your life. You can't live it in fear or worried that some chick who's off her rocker, is going to accuse you of sexual harassment/aasault. The only thing I can tell you is that if you're interesting in dating/relationships then go to places where there are lots of people around. Either let the woman approach you or you approach her around a public space so that way if anything happens, there will at least be several people around to see you didn't do anything wrong. However it's very common for men to be terrible at reading body language. I don't understand why. Y'all need to work on that and your confidence. Watch some of Dan Bacon videos to understand it more.
And you need to not only work on your confidence but your perspective as well. You have a less chance of an allegated sex assault than you do striking up a conversation with a woman. Stop always blaming the system around you and start changing your perspective. Renew and transform your way of thinking.
@@Penelope416 why should men have to be borderline telepathic? Can thoughts not just be translated into language for people to understand like in almost every other area of life? Or does that make it too easy and allows the "unworthy" men to actually have a shot at being happy husbands/fathers and people, like everyone is constantly preaching everyone deserves to be? Or is that too logically consistent to be allowed in dating since its supposed to operate on irrational emotion and one big appealing to nature fallacy?
@@Penelope416 well I said "borderline telepathic" which is what saying men have to be really good at reading body language means. Being telepathic means you can read thoughts from variables that aren't thoughts, so how exactly is saying men have to read body language (and thus translate that into what you're thinking) not basically saying they gotta be somewhat/borderline telepathic? This has nothing to do with your response but to do with that general attitude, we could all just be truthful and up front instead cause that makes things easier for everyone not even just in dating but everything, but I guess everyone has a hard on for life being harder than it absolutely has to, even if literal lives are lost as a result. Oh well, I'm just a consciousness soaring through the cosmos on a big rock so what do I know.
Girls who actually workout are way sexier than the Instagram thots who just spend their session taking selfies and doing distracting leg/glute exercises.
@Maria sanecka: you seem very beautiful 😍💓 to me I don't know why we guyz do like that, may be we are shy and feel that if we approach u too much we might be seen as desperate or clingy that's why we seem to appear cold over text! Nice to meet you. A very warm greetings and love from 🇮🇳India
@@weaksupremacy3799 hahaha 🤣😂 hello brother I understood u completely what u mean, I am not a simp bro I am not into relationship in the first place, I love racing and superbikes, I go for track racing, but I have seen my friends go through this so I am well aware of the situation and change my approach towards women . 😊😇🙏
bahaha "omg she waved at me!" haha I think I did this once to a stranger I thought I knew... I was wrong lol was a rando guy and he came up to talk to me :D
I’ve been dating with someone. When we text & going out it seems just fine. He’s nice and funny. It’s been 4 months already. But then last week he went to his hometown & have internet interuption so we didn’t text. Now he is back in town but still he didn’t text me like usual before. Before this, he text me everyday. But now since he is back in town he only text me once. Like suddenly he is being cold. I bet maybe this is he’s normal life. I don’t know. So what should i do? 😅
This guy of mine is so shy regardless his ‘confidence’ look. I noticed he tried few times to talk to me by getting in the same lift whenever possible but no words came out from his mouth. Few times i heard him sigh...deep sigh..😝 i think the problem is with me. I have this anxiety whenever i sees him. I guess he thought that im not interested with him. So he tried to avoid me...sad..
Too many You Tube videos consist of an attractive, confident person saying nothing. He divvies stuff into meaningless categories and says obvious stuff. At the 11 minute mark he says something that makes sense: if you see a guy you find attractive, smile and make eye contact. Then he follows it up with weirdness: you should also wave, cause it's weird. ? Then the video ends. Waste of time. If a man is interested, he will approach you. The others don't matter and they aren't really interested but yes, smiling, and being approachable helps. The conflicted whining of men who don't approach women doesn't matter. I took a lot of yoga classes long ago. I met zero men there. My friends met zero men in yoga classes.
Thank you for the initial compliment, Diane. But I'm confused... what brings you to my channel and why did you watch this video (all 11 minutes of it, no less) if I was just saying "nothing" the entire time? Surely you have better things to do with your time if you felt that after minute #2. Many women want to know why men don't approach them, just like many men want to know *how women will react* if they do muster the courage to approach women. You'd know that if you read even some of the comments in these video threads. The psychology of male/female interpersonal relations is a real, nuanced thing. I'm happy to have people disagree with specific things I'm saying, but making blanketed statements about "meaningless categories" and "obvious stuff," doesn't really help move a productive dialogue forward.
Ryan, I am new to your videos and really enjoying. I really would like you to do one on our men deployed and overseas. I am having a very rough time figuring this one out, as I do not know their schedules, the time they have to converse on line, etc... I have been talking to him for 2 weeks, very interested with me at first, gave me much info. To not question, and now backing off a little. Saying we are so busy, going on convoy tomorrow. In this 2 weeks has always said at least how are you or good night. But long conversations are getting shorter and I am always cautious. If you know anybody or can give info. as what and how their schedule is overseas please make a video. Thanks so much.
Truth is women never contribute to why a guy should approach them. All they give is “signals/ hints”, but they lack to communicate. In 2021 where laws favour accusation and sabotage someone’s life for some girl to accuse someone of something when it’s not proven but taking seriously by society. That’s where the common ground ended for guys. I personally can’t read signals. I don’t understand them. When women give it to me I don’t know what to say. There are many times that women give signals but when you approach they’re acting like they weren’t (playing hard to get). No guy has ever said he like a women who gives subtle hints or playing hard to get. Hinting or being subtle about your interest is the biggest turn off for me. In the future women will be approaching. But not everyone including yourself will be young to enjoy women approaching guys. Most guys in their 20’s are all loners. And it doesn’t help it at all when a women gives a signal. 99% of the pressure is on the man. From “reading” her signal. To approaching her. To making her “feel comfortable” To trying to escalate it sexually A women is just a spectator and a judge most of the time. You can never say what you want with a women because they’re very, very judgemental and will lose attractions for you.
I see my ex at the gym all the time. Today he made dead eye contact with me...but I was drinking water and almost choked. I wanted to smile and wave but it was bad timing😤😂😭
my sister messaged a guy on a dating app. and he responded by saying “you’re a racist.” my sis was like 🤔 obviously like “huh why do you say that?” he responded because “your profile pics only have white ppl in them”. pretty messed up cuz my sister pretty much only dates latin guys😂🤣😂🤣😂. if she’s racist then she’s racist against white dudes. dating apps huh🤪
So there's this guy I see a lot at the young adults group I go to at a church and he has asked how I have been and such. And the last time I've seen him lately was when the group had a little Thanksgiving potluck. And at some point I got up to get a slice of pie and he came after getting a slice too. I asked how he was and he mentioned how busy he has been with ministry work. And I commented how it's been the same with me but at another church. He sounded interested and so I told him a small bit of what I do and he was smiling the whole time and had straight eye contact with me. And when I mentioned that I was teaching myself piano and such, he fist bumped me. And he's like "we should talk more about that sometime." And later on I had to leave so I wrote my number and gave it to him saying "if you ever want to talk sometime, here's my number" He smiled and said thank you as he was taking it. Haven't heard from him since though...not sure if it was too forward, if he was just being polite, or if he's really busy. But does this mean he's just nice or interested or what?
I don't know for sure but it sounds to me as if he is interested! Maybe he is just shy when it actually comes to texting you for the first time and he is procrastinating it? Maybe next time when you see him in church, you could talk to him again and figure out his body language? Either way, I'm proud that you gave him your number! You'd probably regret it otherwise! :)
There is a guy at school who knows of me (different class) and I know of him but better because he's held an outdoors day for the school and stuff so I at least know his name. He looks a lot in a discreet-but-not way, it's not creepy though but obvious. I've tried to talk with him but he often listens to music and I don't know how to talk with him because he's just. So shy. I don't even know if he wants anything or to just look but I feel like I have to make a move somehow. I am, however, up in my family life so now is not a good time for that anyway. I want to ask for his number or something But I don't want to put him on the spot with it, like asking when his friends can see or my friends in case I actually have misunderstood his intentions. Tricky.
First I just want to say I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS!! ♥️♥️❤️❤️ They’re great and so helpful.. I just want to know, more than anything, How THE HELL DO I FIND A GOOD MAN When all I do is work and go home??? 😒😒🙁🙁 I’m 30 years old. I’m 31 in December 🥺😩 I’m and ok physically, I think I can say I’m a 6 body and a 8 face. There is one guy at work who I have my eye on. I catch guys looking at me sometimes. But they always look away or look down when I see them. Like they’re in trouble. But I wish they would approach me😭😭 I’m too shy and old school to approach them. And the big thing is. All I do is work and go home. So what can I do to date? When all I
True. And some women make guys want to run for the hills. Have been on a cruise a while ago. Two very loud, obnoxious women (in the heavy side) were amongst the guests. Everybody avoided them like the plague. Never seen guys getting out of a hot tub that fast... But I guess they will claim to be a victim of some sort.
most women are looking for mr perfect and not your av guy , most guys have had a bad experience when approaching a woman only to be rejected and sometimes badly eg f off you creep etc ,just like the me too movement the mgtow is huge now ,guys cant be bothered with the hassle of trying to pick up a girl these days , risk is zero
Hi Ryan. I really like this guy at school, we get along very well, we've been on a few dates but we didn't call them dates, just hanging out as colleagues. Also been at his house a couple of times, but after 3 dates like this he said he's not ready for a relationship. I know he likes me, and we have many things in common. He says he's busy with job and school and doesn't want to disappoint me if he won't have time for relationship. I will give him time but I don't want to lose his interest. What your advice would be? Thank you! 😃
The guy is lying. This is a common excuse we guys use to not break a girls heart that we find nice but not enough to commit. People make time for what they want, him working and going to school cant really prevent someone from dating, if that was true then adults really cant do it since their lives are so much more busy. Don't wait around, date other guys in the meantime, waiting around is the worst thing you could do since hell take that as a sign of you being whipped. Of course their a chance that he really is busy but that's slim. You're very attractive, know you're worth.
There's a guy that delivers to the leasing office next door to me. I only see him once a month but he is extra friendly. I think he likes me and I like him. Tell me what to do.
GOTTA tell YOU, my mom & dad met at work place!!!!!! They were HAPPILY MARRIED for 38 years! Life long Soul Mates & a tough act to follow!!! Had they had that “no no work place”nonsense, they’d have both- missed out ON LIFE LONG LOVE ❤️. They were crazy happy together their ENTIRE MARRIAGE
What about some one who graduated university before you and now works at said university that you still attend and you work with them some and you see them everyday and catch them staring all the time but he doesn’t make a move and you don’t know if you should make a move bc you don’t know if he is interested or available or allowed to bc of the fact that you are still a student. 😪😪
I thought he liked talking to me. He will chat with me .time to time. So I asked him does he want to hangout outside the gym. He said sure. I told him. I don't have my phone with me. He pull his phone out. I gave him my # but he didn't msg me. Sometime I see him around still so we just say hi. :l
@@_isabelle19_ I thought he was at least okay with me since he talks to me...(at least as friend, and I don't mind) then after me commenting and giving my #. He never msg me and now seems a little distance if I see him around.
Personal_Rarity Duchess well that’s worrying . Work on yourself be a wholesome person and dress cute bt too provocative. You deserve you’re own man and happiness.
Men are visual creatures. Fact. They are more likely to approach the pretty women and/or the women with good bodies. Just be honest with yourself: how attractive are you? Your great personality may score you one of two points but the rest will unfortunately be your physical appearance. Good news: that you can improve your appearance! It will take motivation and time. You get what you can bring to the table.
They also like fun and outgoing women! Not all of us can be drop dead gorgeous. But you can keep in shape and learn to be a more fun and social kinda person. Just do the best with what you have!
The ONLY “men” today that are confident & secure enough are MARINES! at the gym, these are the only men who politely approach me! Guess what? They don’t disappoint either
Oh my god, this is so what happened to me. I was waiting for that cute guy at work to make the move, we already had eye contact, and he did it on a day when I was totally off. I was almost sleeping on the armchair at the restroom . And then he visited my office when I was with that co worker that I hate, she wasn't so much nice with me that day, and I was making a face. It took me a lot of time toget over it, 'because I also knew that co workers were talking bad about me behind my back. Those situations are terrible, 'cause it seems you can't do nothing about it. This person doesn't know you and probably never want to try again. Wouldn't have a lot of consequences if you weren't working at the same place but you still have to go and face it. Mhmh
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When men want something, they go for it. Stop thinking with feelings or searching hints... stay focused on facts.
If he doesn't make a move, he's not interested.
@@xm377Moyocoyatzin This is what's happening in his mind. That's why I think sticking to facts is the simplest move. Because at the end of all his thoughts, facts tell that he doesn't want you.
Not true. Guys are afraid of rejection, won't make a move if he doesn't know how she feels. This is very false, guys are lazy af.
@@xm377Moyocoyatzin made a mistake? Wow. Rude.
@@xm377Moyocoyatzin Wow, you have issues with women to work on. Guys are just as good or better at mental and emotional manipulation, bud. Try being a woman. You HAVE NO IDEA. Take R kelly for example, or Trump.
@@xm377Moyocoyatzin at the expense of men. Yet is it men's fault, they oppressed women for most of history!! Women had to learn to keep up with men the mental and emotional manipulation.
I actually did the "Smile& Wave" to someone I hadn't met yet, but had friends in common.. I didn't think twice about it so it was supernatural and he loved it! we are dating right now..
AWESOME! See haha! Love this tactic 😊
@Cindy Lou Love the Legally Blonde reference! Lol 😄
😂😂😂
aww are y'all still dating?
That is SO COOL!!
If he is not moving, don’t wake him up. Move on. He is not into you and don’t waste anymore of your time 🤣😂🤣
Not always, maybe there are reasons. He doesn't know how she feels, work, life.
@@nofybn7794 shhhhh they wanna keep lying to themselves to pin it all on something to do with the guy and not them. Funny they said something about waking up, people who are so sure that they're right 100% of the time are forever spiritually asleep.
Several guys that I started chatting with first didn’t initiate for these reasons: 1) they thought I wasn’t single 2) they thought my male friend was hard competition 3) I wasn’t interested 4) I made a face or didn’t say hi because I thought they were ugly or something. Don’t discourage women from shooting their shot like this!
What you’ve said is probably true when you’ve had a one night stand or a date and he never calls you back. But not when you’ve never flirted/talked to him etc.
It makes sense, because I’m drawn to quiet and shy guys. I hate macho players.
@@LyrasRaven finally someone who gets it 👍🏻👌🏼👏🏼
@@nofybn7794 all the MeToo advocates and harassment law that have been passed in Europe the past few years. It's already illegal to approach women. In today's context, he can't anymore even if he want to. Too many accusations
How on earth can I wave and smile to a guy without appearing like a weirdo?😅
죄CK Own it👸
@@doragarcia6125 step by step guide please
A cute girl in a jeep waved and smiled at me once. I didn't think she was a weirdo, but I did think she was probably a hoe... Maybe don't wave lol
Yea say that to all the MeToo advocates and harassment law that have been passed in Europe the past few years. In today's context, he can't anymore even if he want to. Too many accusations
If I seen a guy look my way a little too long then turn away when I look at him I would stay looking at him until our eyes meet again and then I would smile and wave and that usually give them enough courage to come up to me, and it always worked for me that’s why I’m in a committed relationship now
lucky... my crush cant see me smile because of my MaSk
@@lvnxria7745 😂😂😷😷
Solid advice
@@lvnxria7745 literally lmaoo
Let me just tell how I feel about it:
I'm a guy and I was completely clueless if a girl was kinda into me. I'm still clueless but that is something that I'm working on on reading the body language and facial expressions.
I'm more reserved and "introverted" and so I rather stay in my corner than go approach a girl that is looking at me...I'm also looking at you so what? Doesn't mean I'm not into her, it is just my way of being, the effort gotta be from both parts and girls have it easier because we guys are super chill, if you are interested come and talk or say something...we can't distinguish when you are looking for ego boost or interested.
Some men will be more proactive on approaching and others will not, everybody is different, same with women.
Those "shy guys" are the real gems! Same for short guys. And there's nothing wrong with sending subtle body "messages" or even approaching a guy that appears interested in you. Just play it low key at first. And see what happens.
lol no i’m just ugly
Miranda Mae lol me too bahaha
everyone is beautiful
@@felicityolivares258 BS. Don't give a sugar coated lie. I can't stand people doing that. Just the way life is. I am not beautiful. That's a fact. No amount of goodness is gonna change my looks. Just a fact of life. It is not a magic cure all. It only helps some.
@@nofybn7794 I agree! No sugar coating. There are facts in life which we need to accept because that's how life and the world work. Sugar coating is not going to take us anywhere and will in fact keep us away from accepting facts! I have been through this myself and all the sugar coated bull shit I was told made me miserable. I am the way I am.
Felicity Olivares I wish guys would think that way but they don’t
I get very flustered when a guy approaches me
“He’s just not into you.”
Needed to hear that 😂
Afraid of rejection
My husband never wore his ring... we got divorced last week. Yeah...
My sister was talking about this friendly cute guy in a gym class and she was like, he’s so into me, he talks to me all the time! Yeah, he was gay. 😂 Shes so pure.
he’s lowkey funny 🤣
*highkey . HAHAHA OMG 🤣 is it just me
Aww thanks Jessy! 😄
His facial expressions crack me up. Lol
He sounds condescending
And cute lol
If you see a woman staring at you everytime she sees you then approach her. Give your number and take off it's not that hard..omg this guy I like doesn't get the hint or he's just not interested.
@@xm377Moyocoyatzin sounds pretty sad to me. Have a little faith in us women. We're not all that rubbish!
Then go up to him and talk to him. If u have and he still doesn’t get it the. Tell him. He can’t read ur mind
@@kristinacampbell4645 wise words...it's more likely that he will respond positively than if it was him aproaching
He’s taken or not interested. Period.
He better not be
Yea say that to all the MeToo advocates and harassment law that have been passed in Europe the past few years. It's already illegal to approach women. In today's context, he can't anymore even if he want to. Too many accusations
I’ve been told that people find me intimidating because of my confidence so guys never approach me, I have no idea how to change that :/
Inshirah.J you shouldn’t have to change that. If some guys don’t approach you because of that, they don’t deserve you!
You are an alpha seeking an alpha. Be you, stay strong.
I get this all the time too 🙄
Im the same way. Always been confident in myself and it shows. Means I’ve not always been approached by guys. But I did get approached by a guy as confident as me once and it was great. He made me smile and laugh and he asked for my number. Don’t lower your standards.
You don’t have to change. Some guys are just lame. Never change for a guys attention. That will only cause you anxiety. Also if there is a guy you like who seems interested there is nothing wrong with approaching him first. Just ask questions and listen. If you don’t connect keep trying. It might feel awkward at first but it does work!
If you’re having an “off day”, you won’t meet up with your dream guy, you’ll meet up with another guy who’s off....just like you. It’s attraction, folks. 😏
This is the question I've been pondering and I'm glad I found this video!
Guys that hardly know me make up rumors about me because I don’t pay attention to them. 🤷🏻♀️ Why do they do this??
H Ram83 They’re losers! What man with class and integrity will venture in the rumor pool! It’s just Slimy 🙅♀️
So there was a cute girl in one of the gyms I visit, near work. So after numerous instances of glancing at each other I found a good moment to make contact. She was doing romanian deadlifts so I noticed issue with her ankles. After she finished I decided to use this as a topic. So, I said hi and shared with her my thoughts asking her if she thinks this way will feel more comfortable. She didn't react well to it she rather chose to end the conversation rather fast. I could feel it. Needles to say I felt really terrible and now every time I saw her at the gym she was avoiding any contact with me. So... I think that now I am just another creep. I don't know when or if ever I will do something like this again... Made me feel really terrible and stressed out.
Probably offering advice or correcting her turned her off.
Oh dear, I would rather die if I was to look straight at the guy, let alone smiling and waving. 😂
Literally die 😂😂😂
I don’t understand. He approached me once to help with my bike and looked a little uncomfortable. An other time he tried to talk to me by waiting for me to pass by. After that I saw the light realizing he might be interested. So then I tried to get his attention but somehow nothing has happened yet.
He's was waiting for u to initiate conversation. Is he still on the scene
He wants you to approach her maybe or maybe he is not interested
"Sorry honey." LMAO I'm dying watching these.
OK..... sooooooo there is this guy that works at my grocery store, around Christmas time he went above and beyond to look for a computer chair that was out of stock but he like asked a few people in the store on his walkie talkie and went in the back of the store to look, we walked all over the store together to find the chair that wasn't non existent anymore. So since then when ever I'm at the store we will lock eyes from a far. Whenever we see each other we say hi but we are both realllllly shy he stocks the shelves so I see him usually every other time I'm at the store. Ok... heres where I messed up and embarrassed the heck out of myself... and he laughed at me (sweetly) I apparently and so clueless sometimes he'll wave or say hi and I'm not paying attention and I keep going. My friend told me and I went back down the aisle and I'm like "I'm so sorry I didn't say hi, I wasn't paying attention" he goes "it's ok haha, don't worry" I go "well it was nice seeing you have a great night" he chokes up and is like "yeah, uh yeah have a great haha uhm night yeah night haha" like we both were so awkward and shy and smiling and looking away. I really like this guy but I'm nervous to ask him to lunch and wish he would just ask me. I saw another female worker our age talking to him flirting and he was so platonic like not interested at all in her the way he talks to me... I just don't know what to do
Reason Zero.. He's afraid of being accused of sexual harassment. Even if he's 95% sure she wants to be approached, that 5% doubt is still a huge risk. He knows that work HR, the law enforcement and court systems are all biased in favour of the woman. All it takes is being accused. You won't get a fair chance to defend yourself, and your career and life are over. It's basically a death penalty. It's a risk / reward analysis, and the risks are astronomical these days.
Listen bro, I get you being red pilled and all but at the end of the day you still need to live and enjoy your life. You can't live it in fear or worried that some chick who's off her rocker, is going to accuse you of sexual harassment/aasault. The only thing I can tell you is that if you're interesting in dating/relationships then go to places where there are lots of people around. Either let the woman approach you or you approach her around a public space so that way if anything happens, there will at least be several people around to see you didn't do anything wrong.
However it's very common for men to be terrible at reading body language. I don't understand why. Y'all need to work on that and your confidence. Watch some of Dan Bacon videos to understand it more.
And you need to not only work on your confidence but your perspective as well. You have a less chance of an allegated sex assault than you do striking up a conversation with a woman. Stop always blaming the system around you and start changing your perspective. Renew and transform your way of thinking.
@@Penelope416 why should men have to be borderline telepathic? Can thoughts not just be translated into language for people to understand like in almost every other area of life? Or does that make it too easy and allows the "unworthy" men to actually have a shot at being happy husbands/fathers and people, like everyone is constantly preaching everyone deserves to be? Or is that too logically consistent to be allowed in dating since its supposed to operate on irrational emotion and one big appealing to nature fallacy?
@@DoGmAnGuY1758 At what point did I say that men should be telepathic?
@@Penelope416 well I said "borderline telepathic" which is what saying men have to be really good at reading body language means. Being telepathic means you can read thoughts from variables that aren't thoughts, so how exactly is saying men have to read body language (and thus translate that into what you're thinking) not basically saying they gotta be somewhat/borderline telepathic? This has nothing to do with your response but to do with that general attitude, we could all just be truthful and up front instead cause that makes things easier for everyone not even just in dating but everything, but I guess everyone has a hard on for life being harder than it absolutely has to, even if literal lives are lost as a result. Oh well, I'm just a consciousness soaring through the cosmos on a big rock so what do I know.
I wish I looked that good at the gym lol 😂 I’m a red faced, sweaty mess.
So am i! But a worthy guy will understand because guess what???? He is a hot sweaty mess too🤣🤗
That means you're doing it right! Good job 👍
if you think they'd be turned off by that, honey...
Girls who actually workout are way sexier than the Instagram thots who just spend their session taking selfies and doing distracting leg/glute exercises.
@@LeeEverett1 if you approach girls in Gym,You will get your ass smacked.dont do that unless you are top 10% tall hot and rich guy
Can this also be applied to high school? Because I just have no idea how to get guys to even notice me.
Hey there Ryan... I really enjoyed these most valuable bits of advice on the various scenarios.. Hope you're well. 👍
You crack me up with your personality!
These videos helps a lot, because as a very self conscious person they help me understand some situations more 😊
I never smile at guys and I'm not gonna start now.
😬😂
The best calm coach ever I can finally listen , you always go to the point thank you I subscribe
Awesome! Thanks Marla! 🙂
They don’t approach me at all 😂😂👍🏻
Maria Sanecka There’s a season for everything under the sun🌅 Smile, pick your head up, and do you...
Dora Garcia that’s actually true 💪🏻😂
@Maria sanecka: you seem very beautiful 😍💓 to me I don't know why we guyz do like that, may be we are shy and feel that if we approach u too much we might be seen as desperate or clingy that's why we seem to appear cold over text! Nice to meet you. A very warm greetings and love from 🇮🇳India
@@Gianni.chellini Pajiet zimp
@@weaksupremacy3799 hahaha 🤣😂 hello brother I understood u completely what u mean, I am not a simp bro I am not into relationship in the first place, I love racing and superbikes, I go for track racing, but I have seen my friends go through this so I am well aware of the situation and change my approach towards women . 😊😇🙏
A sweet husband should never ever take it off
I honestly went to look up “why don’t men like attention”
but thought I’d stay and watch this..
bahaha "omg she waved at me!" haha I think I did this once to a stranger I thought I knew... I was wrong lol was a rando guy and he came up to talk to me :D
Of course he did! 😂
I’ve been dating with someone. When we text & going out it seems just fine. He’s nice and funny. It’s been 4 months already. But then last week he went to his hometown & have internet interuption so we didn’t text. Now he is back in town but still he didn’t text me like usual before. Before this, he text me everyday. But now since he is back in town he only text me once. Like suddenly he is being cold. I bet maybe this is he’s normal life. I don’t know. So what should i do? 😅
Oh my goodness I can't focus on your topic .Your facial expressions are hilarious !!!!😂😂😂
This guy of mine is so shy regardless his ‘confidence’ look. I noticed he tried few times to talk to me by getting in the same lift whenever possible but no words came out from his mouth. Few times i heard him sigh...deep sigh..😝 i think the problem is with me. I have this anxiety whenever i sees him. I guess he thought that im not interested with him. So he tried to avoid me...sad..
Love the wave tip! Will let you know if it worked xx thanks 😊
Update?
Watching an older vid of yours shows so much how you've improved with making them. Good for you! :D
Thanks for noticing that! 😁
Too many You Tube videos consist of an attractive, confident person saying nothing.
He divvies stuff into meaningless categories and says obvious stuff. At the 11 minute mark he says something that makes sense: if you see a guy you find attractive, smile and make eye contact. Then he follows it up with weirdness: you should also wave, cause it's weird. ? Then the video ends.
Waste of time. If a man is interested, he will approach you. The others don't matter and they aren't really interested but yes, smiling, and being approachable helps. The conflicted whining of men who don't approach women doesn't matter.
I took a lot of yoga classes long ago. I met zero men there. My friends met zero men in yoga classes.
Thank you for the initial compliment, Diane. But I'm confused... what brings you to my channel and why did you watch this video (all 11 minutes of it, no less) if I was just saying "nothing" the entire time? Surely you have better things to do with your time if you felt that after minute #2. Many women want to know why men don't approach them, just like many men want to know *how women will react* if they do muster the courage to approach women. You'd know that if you read even some of the comments in these video threads. The psychology of male/female interpersonal relations is a real, nuanced thing. I'm happy to have people disagree with specific things I'm saying, but making blanketed statements about "meaningless categories" and "obvious stuff," doesn't really help move a productive dialogue forward.
Then don't watch his videos.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣the weeding ring part got me rolling on the floor.
Ryan, I am new to your videos and really enjoying. I really would like you to do one on our men deployed and overseas. I am having a very rough time figuring this one out, as I do not know their schedules, the time they have to converse on line, etc... I have been talking to him for 2 weeks, very interested with me at first, gave me much info. To not question, and now backing off a little. Saying we are so busy, going on convoy tomorrow. In this 2 weeks has always said at least how are you or good night. But long conversations are getting shorter and I am always cautious. If you know anybody or can give info. as what and how their schedule is overseas please make a video. Thanks so much.
Omg his eyes are beautiful
Donna Anderson simp
Enjoying your videos. I need suggestions for being in long relationship, getting that conversation and connection back. Been together 16 years
Been there, done that, bought the t shirt...
Great stuff, will try the “wave” & see what happens! ☺️😊
That pink wall and the pink t-shirt you wore in another video looks amazing against your skin tone!
Truth is women never contribute to why a guy should approach them. All they give is “signals/ hints”, but they lack to communicate.
In 2021 where laws favour accusation and sabotage someone’s life for some girl to accuse someone of something when it’s not proven but taking seriously by society. That’s where the common ground ended for guys.
I personally can’t read signals. I don’t understand them. When women give it to me I don’t know what to say. There are many times that women give signals but when you approach they’re acting like they weren’t (playing hard to get).
No guy has ever said he like a women who gives subtle hints or playing hard to get.
Hinting or being subtle about your interest is the biggest turn off for me.
In the future women will be approaching.
But not everyone including yourself will be young to enjoy women approaching guys.
Most guys in their 20’s are all loners. And it doesn’t help it at all when a women gives a signal.
99% of the pressure is on the man.
From “reading” her signal.
To approaching her.
To making her “feel comfortable”
To trying to escalate it sexually
A women is just a spectator and a judge most of the time.
You can never say what you want with a women because they’re very, very judgemental and will lose attractions for you.
I see my ex at the gym all the time. Today he made dead eye contact with me...but I was drinking water and almost choked. I wanted to smile and wave but it was bad timing😤😂😭
I'm not so sure about waving from across the room
my sister messaged a guy on a dating app. and he responded by saying “you’re a racist.” my sis was like 🤔 obviously like “huh why do you say that?” he responded because “your profile pics only have white ppl in them”. pretty messed up cuz my sister pretty much only dates latin guys😂🤣😂🤣😂. if she’s racist then she’s racist against white dudes. dating apps huh🤪
So there's this guy I see a lot at the young adults group I go to at a church and he has asked how I have been and such. And the last time I've seen him lately was when the group had a little Thanksgiving potluck. And at some point I got up to get a slice of pie and he came after getting a slice too. I asked how he was and he mentioned how busy he has been with ministry work. And I commented how it's been the same with me but at another church. He sounded interested and so I told him a small bit of what I do and he was smiling the whole time and had straight eye contact with me. And when I mentioned that I was teaching myself piano and such, he fist bumped me. And he's like "we should talk more about that sometime." And later on I had to leave so I wrote my number and gave it to him saying "if you ever want to talk sometime, here's my number" He smiled and said thank you as he was taking it. Haven't heard from him since though...not sure if it was too forward, if he was just being polite, or if he's really busy. But does this mean he's just nice or interested or what?
I don't know for sure but it sounds to me as if he is interested! Maybe he is just shy when it actually comes to texting you for the first time and he is procrastinating it?
Maybe next time when you see him in church, you could talk to him again and figure out his body language?
Either way, I'm proud that you gave him your number! You'd probably regret it otherwise! :)
@@_isabelle19_ Thank you so much for your thoughts and encouragement!! :) I really appreciate it!!❤
Maybe its 2020 and you dont need a man to approach you?
True. A confident girl is allowed to make the first move. It has always worked well for me and I'm no super model. Just saying.
Ask him out why dontcha! We're all adults now!
Maybe because he is just committed to someone else?
Wow...you look so cute in this vid. Are you using a filter, or just your own natural boyish good looks?
There is a guy at school who knows of me (different class) and I know of him but better because he's held an outdoors day for the school and stuff so I at least know his name. He looks a lot in a discreet-but-not way, it's not creepy though but obvious. I've tried to talk with him but he often listens to music and I don't know how to talk with him because he's just. So shy. I don't even know if he wants anything or to just look but I feel like I have to make a move somehow. I am, however, up in my family life so now is not a good time for that anyway.
I want to ask for his number or something But I don't want to put him on the spot with it, like asking when his friends can see or my friends in case I actually have misunderstood his intentions. Tricky.
First I just want to say I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS!! ♥️♥️❤️❤️ They’re great and so helpful..
I just want to know, more than anything, How THE HELL DO I FIND A GOOD MAN When all I do is work and go home??? 😒😒🙁🙁 I’m 30 years old. I’m 31 in December 🥺😩 I’m and ok physically, I think I can say I’m a 6 body and a 8 face. There is one guy at work who I have my eye on. I catch guys looking at me sometimes. But they always look away or look down when I see them. Like they’re in trouble. But I wish they would approach me😭😭 I’m too shy and old school to approach them. And the big thing is. All I do is work and go home. So what can I do to date? When all I
What if your wife's forgets to wear her ring? And guys come on to her? They only time those rings should come off is for cleaning.
My crush in pe class asked if we could be partners for our activity, seemed like just a friendly gesture... does that count?
That "maybe he's gay" makes me laugh.🤣
Some women just don't wanna be approached.
True. And some women make guys want to run for the hills. Have been on a cruise a while ago. Two very loud, obnoxious women (in the heavy side) were amongst the guests. Everybody avoided them like the plague. Never seen guys getting out of a hot tub that fast... But I guess they will claim to be a victim of some sort.
Orrrr... he is just not that into you. Save yourself the headache. Move on.
Yes. But it really hard to understand it☺
I wish I would've found you a year ago
Glad you made it here!
@@datingcoachryanpatrick 😁😁
I'm 13 and I go to a co-op with a boy I like and I want to know if he likes me, can you make a video for 12-18 year-olds?
Dating at work might be the problem 😔
most women are looking for mr perfect and not your av guy , most guys have had a bad experience when approaching a woman only to be rejected and sometimes badly eg f off you creep etc ,just like the me too movement the mgtow is huge now ,guys cant be bothered with the hassle of trying to pick up a girl these days , risk is zero
You’re funny 😄😅 Thanks!
What to do to make a guy i like aproch me ?
Making eye contact while smiling at him 🙂
If you can’t even make eye contact or smile at a guy then no man should approach you.
Hi Ryan. I really like this guy at school, we get along very well, we've been on a few dates but we didn't call them dates, just hanging out as colleagues. Also been at his house a couple of times, but after 3 dates like this he said he's not ready for a relationship. I know he likes me, and we have many things in common. He says he's busy with job and school and doesn't want to disappoint me if he won't have time for relationship.
I will give him time but I don't want to lose his interest. What your advice would be? Thank you! 😃
The guy is lying. This is a common excuse we guys use to not break a girls heart that we find nice but not enough to commit. People make time for what they want, him working and going to school cant really prevent someone from dating, if that was true then adults really cant do it since their lives are so much more busy. Don't wait around, date other guys in the meantime, waiting around is the worst thing you could do since hell take that as a sign of you being whipped. Of course their a chance that he really is busy but that's slim. You're very attractive, know you're worth.
@@Ms452123 thank you very much! You're right, I'm not waiting around. I'm moving on with my life and will date someone else when I feel like it 😊
Never meet ANY single men at my church. Ugh 😩
There's a guy that delivers to the leasing office next door to me. I only see him once a month but he is extra friendly. I think he likes me and I like him. Tell me what to do.
Carlett Walker I would go about my business! If he’s into you, he’ll chase you! If not->breadcrumbing🙅♀️
@@doragarcia6125 wtf?
Wow nice tips evething make sense
GOTTA tell YOU, my mom & dad met at work place!!!!!! They were HAPPILY MARRIED for 38 years! Life long Soul Mates & a tough act to follow!!! Had they had that “no no work place”nonsense, they’d have both- missed out ON LIFE LONG LOVE ❤️. They were crazy happy together their ENTIRE MARRIAGE
I like the binging music 🎶
Or he’s just not interested. Shit happens.
Im too scared
What about some one who graduated university before you and now works at said university that you still attend and you work with them some and you see them everyday and catch them staring all the time but he doesn’t make a move and you don’t know if you should make a move bc you don’t know if he is interested or available or allowed to bc of the fact that you are still a student. 😪😪
I feel you :(
I just wanna say I love you😍😘 (but not in that way 🤣)
Guys dont approach me bcuz im going bald 😂
what type of guy approachs women? is he a creep?
OR HE JUST DOESNT WANT U !!!
I thought he liked talking to me. He will chat with me .time to time. So I asked him does he want to hangout outside the gym. He said sure. I told him. I don't have my phone with me. He pull his phone out. I gave him my # but he didn't msg me. Sometime I see him around still so we just say hi. :l
That's just weird?
@@Z5Z5Z5 you think so too?!
Maybe he's just shy? Otherwise, yeah, weird describes it pretty much
@@_isabelle19_ I thought he was at least okay with me since he talks to me...(at least as friend, and I don't mind) then after me commenting and giving my #. He never msg me and now seems a little distance if I see him around.
@@cc-rz7er Then he doesn't deserve you 💕
Only married/taken men want me 🙄
Personal_Rarity Duchess well that’s worrying .
Work on yourself be a wholesome person and dress cute bt too provocative.
You deserve you’re own man and happiness.
Nikki Sheffield this sound crazy. She could be a nun and a taken man will try to talk to her if that what he plans to do
Me too.
It sucks!
Change your energy!
If a man want you they will get you🤷♀️🤷♂️
How about not in work place? Hahaha
You have a beautiful eyes
There is no reason. He is not attracted to you
Men are visual creatures. Fact. They are more likely to approach the pretty women and/or the women with good bodies. Just be honest with yourself: how attractive are you? Your great personality may score you one of two points but the rest will unfortunately be your physical appearance. Good news: that you can improve your appearance! It will take motivation and time. You get what you can bring to the table.
Im inlove with my co-worker🙁
They don't approach me because I'm not pretty and men usually like a pretty woman don't they?
They also like fun and outgoing women! Not all of us can be drop dead gorgeous. But you can keep in shape and learn to be a more fun and social kinda person. Just do the best with what you have!
You don't have to be drop dead gorgeous
Wow men sabotage themselves too much
The ONLY “men” today that are confident & secure enough are MARINES! at the gym, these are the only men who politely approach me! Guess what? They don’t disappoint either
Can’t we keep it simple? He’s not into you!
Not all people who you like will like you 🤷🏼♀️ if you like 10 people you are lucky if 1 is interested...
❤️
You should do a video where they play hard to get but you know they like you and what to do
Oh my god, this is so what happened to me. I was waiting for that cute guy at work to make the move, we already had eye contact, and he did it on a day when I was totally off. I was almost sleeping on the armchair at the restroom . And then he visited my office when I was with that co worker that I hate, she wasn't so much nice with me that day, and I was making a face. It took me a lot of time toget over it, 'because I also knew that co workers were talking bad about me behind my back. Those situations are terrible, 'cause it seems you can't do nothing about it. This person doesn't know you and probably never want to try again. Wouldn't have a lot of consequences if you weren't working at the same place but you still have to go and face it. Mhmh
😂😂😂he is funny