I am obese, however I've been bike riding (road) everyday for the past 5 months and lost 40 lbs. I feel much better about myself, sleep more efficiently and stand straighter. Edit: recently started doing calisthenics to avoid squirrel wing skin
I was obese for 23 years. I have changed my lifestyle, lost 75lbs and kept it off. By every measurable and subjective metric, I am healthier and happier. I can also confirm that fat shaming doesn't help. It is simply hurtful.
thats true u need to help obese ppl be healthy in a healthy way not lie to them and keep saying "oh u look nice i agree u r healthy u should love urself just how u r" thats not nice
She says it all right at the start "I dont think being aware of the health risks of being fat is fat phobic" As a fat person I agree with this statement 200%
This, So much. Those who yell at folks for being fat phobic are supportive when they side with being happy with their size, but turn on a dime when being happy with thei size is not the same as actually being HEALTHY with their size.
Agreed, I'd rather have a doctor tell me the truth, than lie to me to keep me happy instead of healthy. But there is a fine balance. If you try to lose weight because you hate your body, it might turn extreme, go too far or end up being a huge disappointment which screws with your mind even more... so loving your body should not be the same as "I'd rather be obese than skinny, because I am healthy no matter what". It's great to love your skin and body and shape, but also be real about the risks you are getting into... so yeah I care for my body, and my goal is not necessarily to become "skinny", but to feel healthy, be healthy, and love myself in the process. I know a lot of people who fail diets because every time they "have a relapse" or haven't lost their goal amount, they end up in a bad spiral which only makes the situation worse... You have to be realistic, and know that losing weight is not a straight line... you will lose some, gain some, but as long as you are able to change your lifestyle, that in itself is amazing! And will help you throughout your life!
Yes, a million times! I know it’s different for everyone but it’s frustrating for me to see people up in arms about “fat phobia” and how heavier celebs are getting “cancelled” and attacked for wanting to lose weight. They should! I think the hardest thing for me being 60 lbs over my normal weight (which already isn’t very thin) is noticing how different parts of my everyday life are harder being overweight. Being overweight isn’t good for you (although it’s better than disordered thinking and unhealthy weightloss) so attacking people and calling them fat phobic when they say that and want to help is just wrong.
@@ilovecatsz that’s part of the issue. It shouldn’t have to be a doctor to be concerned about a person. Friends, family, and other people involved in your life should be able to express their concern
@@ilovecatsz one of the many bs arguments every haes and body positivity zealot comes up with. When someone without a medical degree criticizes them it's fat shaming. When a doctor does it they're fatphobic and biased. When a friend, relative, or loved one does it it's concern trolling. If they spent half the time putting in effort instead of coming up with excuses they'd have lost the weight already.
@@ilovecatsz They live in the same world as me. It is my business. I won't dictate to them, but I can and will pre-judge them, just like I do with everyone else. I tried for 3 decades to not prejudge people and I learned the hard way that, that is not a good idea. I will prejudge. I can better anticipate the dumb things they absolutely will do, if I add it to my calculations. Trip hazard, blocking hazard, driving hazard, accident hazard, attitude hazard. I keep track of people, because people destroy everything.
I was obese and the only thing I can say is: Being healthy is part of loving yourself. The more I exercised and ate healthier, the more I felt comfortable with myself and helped me a lot with my self-love
That's right! That's what I say all the time too. Actually taking proper care of your body makes you feel great. That doesn't at all mean you have to be skinny, like so many people assume. Being too skinny is horrible in so many ways as well. I used to be extremely underweight and I felt horrible. I hated my body so much. At my skinniest I thought I had to lose even more weight to feel better, your self image becomes so distorted holy crap. I've gained a fair amount of weight, bad feel so much better. I've probably gained 15-20 kg since I was at my skinniest. Let me tell you, this feels so much better. I'm still lean, my collar bones still stick out a little bit and stuff like that. At least I'm well in the range of a healthy bmi. Both my brain and body function so much better now. I still have health issues, but not due to weight anymore. Now I don't at all want to lose weight - I'd love to trim up a little more to help ease my muscular pains, bad back and bad knees and such,but that's to feel better and actually be healthy. It doesn't have anything to do with appearance for me, I just want my body to support me living my best life instead of dragging me down. I think that's completely fair and healthy thinking. I'd rather want a functioning body than a skinny body. The gret bonus about staying healthy is that your outside appearance looks better as well, so focusing on inner health instead o outer beauty is just a great win-win situation. Like Dr. Mike says, stay happy and healthy! 🖤
Love the sentiment! It's also very possible that as a person loses weight, they don't like their body even more. I have felt this way many times, thinking the extra skin is uglier than the fat body. It's a hard rut to overcome, not gonna lie.
@@leonlam5830 That’s despicable. Guys are held to unrealistic and harmful standards too. Including everyone in body positivity doesn’t just help women, it helps break down the concept of beauty standards in the first place-which can only be better for everyone. Well, except the beauty industry, I guess...
@@Zephirite. ya that's my point. What I said is definitely not my opinions but the general comments from the feminist group. The feminist group used to fight for equality but now i feel like they are abusing it.
The fact that dr. Mike invited someone that’s more knowledgeable on this topic, shows how seriously he takes this subject and wants to make sure people get a good education about the subject. He knows the limits of his knowledge and wants to make sure people get the right information through the right person. Thank you so much for that!!
You're more optimistic than me. I was just thinking that he had her on (a bariatric surgeon...hmmm) so he didn't have to say anything judgmental and get negative comments.
... I'm also annoyed with both of them for not differentiating between different types of diabetes, honestly. And I usually really like Dr. Mike's videos
As someone who was obese and is now overweight, and working on a healthier lifestyle daily. I've noticed less aches and pains, I don't get sick as often anymore, and I have far more energy than I used to. Being healthy is a huge part of self-love, I want to feel my best so I have to give my body the best.
I am so happy for you, truly. (Ps. this is coming from someone who have yet to incorporate, long needed, physical activity in their life. So I am far from on a high horse.) Very well done indeed.
As an obese person myself, 34 waistline will always be better than a 50 waistline. I’d be dishonest and pretentious if I prefer the latter. We fat people only needed love, acceptance and support. Being fat is very difficult and stressful, some people don’t know the emotional toll it gives us every single day. The last thing we can ask for is false ideologies to make us feel good and to justify our unhealthiness.
Partially agreed.I think supporting people with obesity into helping their health and losing weight is good and loving themself is good.But supporting people being obese because its "okay to be” isnt really a good message.
@@GiaDiamond4 um not directly, no. But people are saying stuff like "it's okay to be big, it's just how body works" and "diet culture is a form of fatphobic/fat shaming". Though they are not directly telling others to get fat, they sure are promoting these lifestyles
I’m chubby, and I stand by “Loving yourself is healthy but I am responsible for loving myself CORRECTLY.” I am responsible for being active, eating correctly but also let myself enjoy the little things, being a dessert or a healthy smoothie.
I was overweight before and it's important to distinguish your actual self with your outer appearance and the weight. It's a sticky trap if u let it become a part of ur identity. If ur trying to lose weight, my tips would be that u start small. Measure how much u eat and try to set really small goals. They're easier to achieve and get u motivated. Also using laziness is effective too. Make it harder to get to the food. Best if u try making food at home. Sometimes I was so lazy to make food I had like 2 meals in the day lol. Good luck and cheer up!😄
I’m also chubby and I’m not overweight, my BMI is 20.5 cause I’m 5’11 and 145 pounds and I’m still a fat person. It’s so horrible that people don’t understand that fatness and obesity are two completely different things. You CAN be fat and healthy.
@@juanperezlopez751 yeah weight is just a number. It matters in what form that weight is. Some people can be overweight by BMI but actually healthy cuz most of it is muscle. I was slightly overweight before but the extra weight was all fat so it was kinda unhealthy. Just important to eat healthy and be active
@@redhidinghood9337 the BMI is not perfect but it sorta helps to understand the health of your body. The problem is that people think that they can tell your BMI just by looking at you, and that’s not possible. A doctor is the one that should be telling you that you’re unhealthy not people that just looked at you in the cover of a magazine. The fact that people think that fat people are overweight or unhealthy is just a prejudice caused by fatphobia.
It’s not an easy topic. I’m overweight and I’m in no place to judge other people. But I’m also not going to pretend that I’m as healthy now as i would be if I weight 70lbs less.
I love the mixture of self awareness and the understanding that the narrative should be and is frought with nuance. I have a lot of respect for this outlook.
It does seem like an easy topic. Pretty much what you said. I say it’s an easy topic because it’s actually odd to think some people see this different.
@@Mike_Dubayou I would say that it is easy on paper, and by itself. However this topic is almost never the sole topic, it has a lot of nuances. We all know that obesity is caused by eating more calories than you burn off. So on the surface it is that easy. However we have to find out why the excessive eating is happening and why the exercise is not. Are their medical issues, mental health issues, we have to understand the individual's early childhood socialization. This on it's own is an entire research field. In order to assist the person in reaching their healthiest state, we have to understand the person and that is where it is complicated.
@@Mauze489 yes, a lot of weight issues stem from personal or mental issues. Some cope by eating or NOT eating. It’s not an easy topic because people struggle to become healthier. Even those who are of healthy weight eat junk food and have high cholesterol and they would get offended if you tell them they are getting unhealthy and need to stop eating junk food.
As a type 1 diabetic, I would really appreciate if they would specify that they're talking about type 2 diabetes. Type 2 has a chance of reversal with lifestyle changes. Type 1 is an autoimmune disease that currently has no known cure. Type 1 and 2 are almost completely different diseases in terms of symptoms and lifestyle.
Yeah, I think there might be a touch of professional blindness going on there in that they might subconsciously assume that *everybody* knows the difference between Type 1 and Type 2 when a lot of people actually don't.
I agree. As a T2D, it's confusing to me when anyone refers generically to 'diabetes,' as if there's only one type. I don't have to be on medication, and am controlling the diabetes through my diet. But T1D has to have insulin daily, and there's an enormous difference in how the two have to be treated!
I couldn't agree with this more! I'm a dietetics student. To add on to that, people who do have type 2 diabetes cannot reverse the damage done to the pancreas (organ that produces insulin, among other things). They can, however, slow down or halt further damage to it and support the health of the rest of their bodies with diet changes and medications. It can provide a reversal in symptoms and secondary effects of diabetes, but the damage done to the pancreas cannot be reversed.
yes!! thank you! when I was a little kid I would always hear people talking about ways to reverse your diabetes and I would get so exited seeing commercials on TV for medications that would lower A1C and help you get off insulin little did I know they were all for type 2 it was incredibly discouraging
I could never find information about hypoglycemia not related to diabetes. I do not have diabetes but have struggled with hypoglycemia my whole life due to my celiac disease. But yes, there is a huge difference between insulin dependent and non-insulin dependent diabetes that the general public is usually unaware of. Autoimmune diseases are still very much misunderstood and there isn't much information or care out there for those of us that have them. Maybe Dr. Mike can do a video about some of them and what is known. I have 4 of them myself and I've had my Dr.s google them in front of me before.
I really like the “body neutral” movement. Like, it’s our body, we don’t have to LOVE it all the time but we don’t have to hate it either, we just have to accept it and take care of it.
This isn’t a concern of appearance -_- it’s a concern of health. I’d sure as hell ignore all Americans getting fat and dying early but if my family members were getting obese... I’m telling them/ forcing them to get their shit together for their benefit. Yall too soft man
I think that's a great idea for a movement. Loving yourself all the time is really hard, but not hating it is the real hurdle. I think stamping out that hatred makes it so much easier to be motivated to take care of yourself.
@@fuadrahman2783 what makes you think they'd be interested in listening to you? 😂 Most people don't react positively to attempts to 'force' them to do anything.
I like his interview style a lot. Let’s the expert finish their complete thoughts, with meaningful probes that help trigger detailed answers. Great interview.
YES. I’m 250lbs. I KNOW I’m a bigger girl. I’m confident in the body I’m in. But I KNOW that it has attributed to my current health issues. I don’t get offended when I’m told I need to lose weight at the doctors to help myself. Because it’s true.
If you know that your size influence your health in a bad way you should not feel good in it, because it creates the fake statement,that obisity is good.🤦♂️
Same here! I’m obese and I am trying to lose weight for myself because I would physically feel much better. I don’t feel a need to be super skinny, all I want is a healthy weight and to be able to maintain it.
@@megp9id Absolutely! Although we all have different starting points, what matters is that we do what we can to live healthier lives for as long as we can live it! There should be no cookie cutter shape for humans, no need for anyone to try and fit themselves into a prebuilt image of a supposedly perfect physique. We're all different and that's what makes us beautiful. Cheering you and anybody else reading this on your journey!
I have anorexia nervosa, and I'd like to bring something to this: being underweight can have just as many (if not more) health complications as being overweight, but they are approached with different attitudes. My family and friends saw my obsessive exercise and starvation habits as "healthy" and "tenacious". I eventually had to be hospitalized and went through extensive recovery to reach a normal BMI, and even then my family believes it "couldn't have been that bad" because I was never "put on a feeding tube". Even though I have permanent health complications from it. Later on, I was on the heavier end of normal due to a medication I was on (125lbs. Still within normal BMI range for 5'2", but I was still working out a lot, so muscle mass figures in too). I got a LOT of comments of "concern" from family, partners, and even random friends-of-friends about my weight and how I "let myself go". Also "positive" comments about "being chubby, but that's okay!"... And it's weird to be called "chubby" when you're fit and average. Due to a lot of sociological factors, regular people have warped standards for what constitutes a "healthy weight", especially from person to person. Sometimes fit people don't "look" fit. Sometimes someone doesn't look as skinny as you're used to seeing them. Sometimes you can't get an intrinsic understanding about someone's health versus how they look without first getting some VERY invasive information about their medical history. But that's strictly for the doctor's office!! My PCP doctor seemed to be the only person who was actually HAPPY with my body, having the context of my recovery, blood work, blood pressure, etc. I think the movement should be interpreted as being less about "don't worry about your weight" and more about "we should stop worrying about OTHER people's weight. They could be healthy - that's between them and their doctor". Isn't it annoying to doctors when people who have no understanding of any medical practice give unsolicited health advice? I think if we view it from that mindset - leaving this issue to the doctor's office - it makes more sense. We should change the language of this movement from "THIS is healthy" or "THAT is healthy" to "mind your own business, ask your doctor."
I agree with you 100%. I remember when I first lost an unhealthy amount of weight very quickly due to Crohn's disease and everyone was praising me for how skinny I became and how pretty I looked, saying I looked like a Barbie doll and that now I had to "maintain it". I was so underweight (79 pounds out of the hospital) that I even struggled to walk and my blood pressure was really low. I always had body image issues and anxiety related to it, so everyone finally calling me beautiful when before I was the "fat sister" among my sisters, really hurt my mental health. It was so difficult to get back into a healthier weight. At a healthy weight I feel like I look fat. I wish people would just hold their tongue instead of pointing out a person's weight fluctuations. They don't know why the person lost or gained weight, it should be none of their business.
I experienced this as well. My periods of fast weight loss were when I was having health issues. I noticed and was concerned, but of course others noticed and we're very complimentary. It was incredibly uncomfortable. Especially when I finally got my health under control and gained those lbs back.
Welp your comment made me cry. In high school I had a series of very unfortunate events that not only lead to a lot of stress but also to me not always having money for food. In a VERY short time I lost insane amount of weight. I was miserable. I felt unhappy and unhealthy. But that period of my life was when I got THE MOST compliments from other girls. I got back to healthy weight, still on the lighter side AND THEY STARTED TO BULLY ME ABOUT BEING FAT
I really resonate with this. I’m overweight for the first time in my life, but simultaneously the healthiest I’ve ever been. Thin does not equal healthy. && I LOVE that last line. “Mind your business-ask your doctor”
"I don't think that being aware of the consequences of obesity is the same as fat-shaming". THIS, THIS, THIS! EDIT: Since this has blown up a bit, I'm going to add my two cents to the reason why this quote stands out to me. If I have a friend who is struggling with drug abuse, alcohol dependency, or food dependency, I'm going to call them out on it and encourage them to be better. If I have a friend who is obese or severely underweight, I'm going to confront them about it. I have a friend who is underweight I have to remind to eat all the time because she forgets-- it's not shaming her and she appreciates it. Likewise, if I have a friend who is at an unhealthy weight, I'm going to suggest they chose the healthier option or the smaller portion. I'm going to push them to choose physical activities over sedentary, and I'm not going to be afraid to tell them it's because I'm worried about their health ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I think it’s the person themselves that need to be aware of it and nobody but that person’s doctor should be telling they are obese and that they need to change
@@machaelamcinnis9839 If my friend starts letting themselves go and they either become overweight (or even underweight), I will tell them, and I will try to encourage them to take care of themselves and offer help to achieve that. I feel like if I don't show that I'm worried about that friend, I'm a bad friend. There are nice ways of saying that someone is becoming unhealthy. Tldr: Doctors shouldn't be the only ones saying someone is unhealthy, friends/family should be a part of that aswel (in a non-toxic way).
It's more of an issue of fat bias than fatphobia. I had to leave a long term doctor because she no longer could focus on any medical issues aside from my size even though my bloods were fine. The next doctor I saw diagnosed me with PCOS and said I was on a dangerously low dosage of my antidepressant. This is why fat bias is important.
@@missbeaussie I'm sure there are bad doctors out there, but this particular doctor has never demonstrated anything outside encouraging good health. To attack him is ridiculous.
@@rockstar9ism Valid question to ask, though the other person may not want to reply. The important thing to understand is being fat does not imply being unhealthy and vice versa.
@@deadalpeca8099 No, but it does imply that they either have some kind of issue controlling their weight, whether genetic or from another underlying problem, or they have a past where they may have eaten too much or exercised too little. If they are already improving on or controlling whatever one of these points is causing it, great, but if not, they're only going to get worse.
Body positivity is accepting the flaws in you that cannot be changed, not embracing own bad habit Edit : people seem to think im just straight up fat shaming. If someone is obese or overweight because of a medical condition then that falls under the flaws that cannot be changed. People are just so dense and defensive for no reason.
is it the same if i try and exercise to change my body? because as much as i’d like to love how i look i really don’t, and the only way to get where i want to be is to exercise my insecurities away
It's so difficult to speak about obesity without accidentally upsetting someone or seeming fatphobic so I think this interview was carried out very well and was objective. Thanks Dr. Mike!
Eh. I mean, I get what you're saying, but we've gone too far with "caring about feelings". It's kinda gotten in the way of facts. At a certain point we have to STOP worrying about peoples' feelings because, well..."facts don't care about your feelings". Furthermore, if an uncomfortable fact upsets someone, well.....that's their problem, they need to deal with that, and then deal with the fact staring them in the face. I'm not advocating viciousness or lack of empathy. I'm just saying facts are facts. Some make us smile and some make us sad.
@@mrenygma181 I agree, but if you are a public figure, it often is better to try and minimize how many people you offend with what you are saying. It's just how society is nowadays. It's generally a bad idea to act insensitive when you need to maintain a reputation.
@@mrenygma181 That’s... Kinda the point. He was glad that the interview was conducted in such a way that potentially upsetting facts were presented in such a way as to not be upsetting. Which is... a good thing. Facts don’t care about our feelings and it’s a fact that caring about others’ feelings is often a very efficient way of making them understand and accept the facts. We’re fortunately and unfortunately very often emotional and empathetic creatures, so as much as you and I may like the world to be as simple as just « if I state a fact to you and you can verify it’s true, you accept it’s true », we have to take into account that many people won’t react like that and thus that short of forcing them, we have to present the facts to them in a fashion they’ll accept.
My dad just broke the 100lbs weight loss mark after his bariatric surgery. He is working out and moving and feeling happy with himself. I am eternally grateful for that medical innovation. I have been scared my whole life that my children wouldn’t be able to meet my amazing father.
Thank you for addressing food deserts and the socioeconomic roots of obesity. It can also be very difficult to eat a healthful diet when we get inconsistent messages about nutrition from various sources--e.g., "low fat" items that are full of sugar and salt, constantly changing guidelines from the government, huge and hugely funded ad campaigns from various lobbies. It is hard work to find the truth among all the noise.
The truth is that it is better to eat good ingredients and unprocessed foods. The more vegetables and quality meat then that's better than buying food that is already procssed (boxed mac n cheese, fat free yogurt etc).
I'm 68 years old and for my entire life, I've been a prisoner of my own self. I have paid the price with heart disease, crippling arthritis, mental health issues. Right now , my weight is good, but I fear it won't last. My entire life has been a living hell with weight issues. Please take care of yourselves don't be ashamed of who you are, but time does catches up with us all. Find a doctor, who will work with you, be honest and non judgemental. Lastly love yourselves.
Your fear it wont last sounds like not loving yourself, you should love yourself too, just as much as you want others to love themselves, you're doing everything you can so there is nothing to worry about, so, it's much better to hold hope.
I think that the body positivity movement is "every body deserves respect no matter the size and shape because they hold people in them" and not "every weight ever is healthy and obesity doesn't matter" A lot of people tend to overlap the two
people who don't actually talk to fat people about the movement will confuse the two... people who only talk to obesity researchers about a movement regarding fat people confuse the two.
@@nielse2548 this is dumb. fat people and disabled/deformed people should all love their bodies. and what if disabled/deformed people are fat, are they then not aloud to feel positivity about their body?
@@Indiaaiscool if you’re fat and you love increased risk of death and disease and want to make your life hard then sure. I guess never lose the weight because you love being uncomfortable and unhealthy, can’t stop anyone there. Anyone’s allowed to love their body, what I’m saying is the “fat movement” takes away from people who cannot control what they look like. If someone’s fat and disabled they’re still disabled which would still fall in the boundaries of what I think body positivity should be focused on.
@@nielse2548 did you miss the part of the video where the professional said that diets are only effective 5% of the time? if you listen to fat people about the body positivity movement and not what other people have to say about fat people then you will understand it focuses a lot on shame-free healthy lifestyle choices. No one wants to be sick, it can be left at that. If a fat person is sick they will take care of it. If there are fat people that are sick and don't want to take care of themselves there are much deeper underlying mental health issues that cause a lack of self-care.
Doctor Mike, you may not read this comment in the sea of comments you get in your channel but I just want to thank you for tackling this topic with respect and objectivity as it should be. I have overweight and I've been trying to reduce it for years. Last year I joined a gym with a nutritional program that's meant to re-educate the eating habits. So it doesn't count calories, but instead it measures what of each food group we eat. And it works. Sadly with the never ending lockdown here in Germany the gyms have been closed for more than half a year. I miss going and chatting with the fellow members and trainers as we work out. This pandemic is also taking a toll on all of us psychologically. Germany has been closed for so long, there are so many restrictions out there, it's depressing to even go out to the street for a walk. Every day is Groundhog day, if you know what I mean. That also affects people's weight. We wrongly tend to search for endorphin and dopamine in snacks or things that can give us a shot of fleeting joy. I do notice that some doctors tend to berate over-weighted patients, and that's a big reason to be reluctant to even seek medical assistance. Maybe they do it unconsciously... I wish more people in the medical world talked about this like you have in this video.
Sending support from Germany as well. This pandemic had me reach a weight I've never been in. It's really hard here, and my depression hit an all time high. I hope things would get better for all of us soon ❤
Being over or underweight makes in very hard to seek assistance. Wether it’s extremely or mildly on either end, it causes fear because almost no one feels comfortable asking for that type of help for various reasons. I truly hope that everyone struggling with mental or physical issues due to or caused by weight gets enough support that they don’t need to have that reluctance that you mentioned.
Hi Aurora. Lovely name btw. I'm German as well and I'd like to you ask for the name of this gym/ nutritional program. I'd love to try it myself. In which federal state do you live? I've so far lost 20 kg on my own, but still have lots to lose. Thank you in advance. xx
Something that is overlooked and not often talked about is how much people of bigger sizes are misdiagnosed by physicians (I'm talking in general, not about Dr. Mike). In my country (Spain) a case gained media attention, a girl went to the doctor to ask to be derived to a psychologist because she was having suicidal thoughts and the doctor who treated her refused to sent her because "she was sad just because she was fat and she was going to waste the psychologist's time". The whole exchange was recorded by the victim because it had happened to her before so she went prepared and it became viral here. Following this case a famous body positivity influencer compiled testimonies of people who experienced fatphobia at the doctor and it became viral as well. It was so heartbreaking, I was in tears by the end of it. People's relatives dying because the doctor refused to give another solution to their symptoms other than "lose weight" and they ended up dying of cancer and other illnesses. Obesity is not healthy but obese people deserve the same medical treatment as skinny People without the medical bias of weight.
« Without the medical bias » To be fair, and though of course I agree what that doctor did was atrocious, obesity can be the cause of so many symptoms and illnesses it’s not exactly surprising it’d be the first thing a doctor would recommend to treat before doing anything else. I’m genuinely curious to know if the same could be done with people with anorexia or other similar very obvious conditions that are the cause of so many health issues.
@@nathanjora7627 yes but losing weight is a long term solution to a current disease the patient has, the doctor needs to see what short term solutions there are, and if the problem the patient has right now is 100% caused by obesity, because there is no guarantee that it is. A doctor won't refuse to treat a smoker because they should stop smoking first, even though smoking is unhealthy, you have no guarantee that the patient is experiencing a problem caused by smoking. See the double standard?
@@nathanjora7627but obesity should not be the ONLY differential diagnosis for a patient’s chief complaint. In school, we have to come up with 3 differential diagnoses for EVERY patient even if we think it’s obvious. Every patient deserves a thorough investigation to rule out any critical pathology!
That's *supposed* to be the message of body positivity But now fat activists hijacked the movement and made it a taboo to imply that being fat is unhealthy
being too fat is unhealthy. but it is about choice. if some people like it let them be. I personally think a bit fat is cute, lots of fat is concerning (health wise) but I find everybody have their own charms.
@@suiito-kun5222 but you should still love yourself while trying to lose weight. If you don't, motivation will be lost and then there's literally no point to losing weight in the first place. At that point you hate yourself so much that you don't even care if gaining weight kills you. That's why fat shaming doesn't work and is not a good motive to become healthy
@@suiito-kun5222 don't feel bad!! feel motivated! Staying sad brings different kinds of complications. And don't forget people with hormonal imbalance and PCOS, etc. Your statement can hurt people who are putting in effort but can't lose weight
Body positivity means our bodies come in all different shapes, sizes and colors, and we should love and care for ourselves no matter what. It doesn’t mean that we encourage horrible habits, and ignore legit medical advice. Why is this so hard to grasp?
Well it turned the other way I’m skinny and I’ve said on Tiktok like oh yea me too I feel bodyshamed by my family a lot with the eat a burger or are you starving urself and everyone goes well that’s not body shaming that’s helping you or oh wow look the skinny girls talking when I thought body positivity was positivity for all bodies but it switched for some sad reason
it's not the people with beliefs like yours that are problematic, it's those who do ignore medical advice and promote obesity, like the backlash adele received for losing weight
But acting like it's okay to weigh 500 pounds IS encouraging harm. Weighing more doesn't mean you're less of a person, but it does mean you're less healthy. Saying "it doesn't matter" is not the right message to send to young people. It DOES matter. Your quality and length of life matters or it should.
I've struggled with weight issues after my second child. I tried everything and finally decided that the doctors was not looking at the whole picture and started cuting foods out of my diet that were "healthy" I went to being gluten free first and then went meat free almost 1 year ago. I seen huge improvements and lost almost 40 pounds in a years time. Switched doctors who looked past my weight and seen a lot of other things that needed to be addressed like EDS and PoTS. She found my adrenal gland was also not working correctly. None of these had anything to do with my weight. Having a doctor who listens to you is the biggest issue many over weight people face.
You meant just normal size? If you put healthy in there you do have to be a person who works out, and where do you people see women with six pack in magazines? They are treated as freaks, it's always skinny girls everywhere.
I am obese and am regularly ashamed of how I look. A few years back, I walked to a local bar to meet friends. I felt great that day, I had won Greatest Slimmer award with my weight loss group. I'd dropped more than 40lb in a few months. That was all ruined when a car of guys drove past and called me some really ugly words associated with my weight. I turned round, went home and didn't leave me house for weeks. Even now, I won't go out unless it's dark out so I can't be seen. I've even had to convert to working from home. Thanks to Doctor Mike's advice and views, I have recently started a weight loss journey with advice from my GP. Please be kind to people who are obese. Support them, be kind, take time to listen to their personal stories - many of us are struggling due to things in our past. I was abused, in every way you can imagine. It has an impact! I became an emotional eater when I used to be incredibly healthy, active and athletic. Don't add to the pain, be part of the foundation that gives us strength.
@Curvy Chelle McShorty Good for you that you're taking action and working with your GP. Please don't listen to people who only give negative advice. You can do it! BTW, I need to drop a good 60 lbs (or more), and I'm working my way toward finding something that will work within my physical abilities and not my disabilities. Good luck to you. ;)
People who call you names are just insecure themselves and want to feel better by berating others. Don't let those disappoints of life, stop you from chasing your goals, and become even more healthy.
Can you do an episode on depression? The potential causes, the different ways of thinking that come with it, and how to break away from negative thought patterns, etc ...
2 things I'd like to share: 1. your general practitioner can ABSOLUTELY diagnose a mental health issue and prescribe medicine 2. If you have health insurance, it is much more helpful to get advice from a doctor tailored SPECIFICALLY TO YOU. My partner and I both have major depressive disorder and anxiety and we treat them in completely different ways because they affect us differently, our hormones and genetics affect our mental states differently. And if you can talk to a therapist or conselor (there are free services out there!) they will be able to help you work through things much better than a video can.
But you should never take love your body to the level where you think it puts you in the position to justify being unhealthy skinny or being unhealthy regarding being either over weight or even past being over weight
@@SleepyMatt-zzz Not everyone is able to control their body size. My mom was extremely thin and couldn’t gain an ounce no matter how hard she tried. It was just genetics. And genetics for me came from my dad’s side because I’m much taller and heavier. Yes I can lose some weight but I’ll never be super thin. Then there are those with illnesses like PCOS who can’t control their weight gain because of the disorder they have. So, it’s not always controllable. Accusing someone of “not having an excuse” or saying they don’t try hard enough is bullshit. People do try. How about being understanding and not saying dumb shit just because you haven’t been in that position yourself and don’t know the actual struggle.
I think that's very odd, actually. My German health insurance is really pushing their app which will remind you of regular checkups/vaccinations that you can do free of charge. Their thinking is that they want you to stay as healthy as possible or recognize a serious illness as early as possible so your treatment will cost them less in the long run. Which makes total sense to me. An insurance is pretty stupid for letting you get sick when it is avoidable.
Exactly Heather, because prescription refills makes the income for the pharmaceutical industry, and the physicians get incentives for prescribing these maintenance medications! Pharmaceutical reps come in and provide expensive, recurrent lunches for hospitals and offices for a reason!!!
@@phuqurfeeling Alternatively people could end up saying they dont love their body, or they're neutral, I personally dont really care enough to eat healthily, although I dont really get any adverse effects from it, my willpower is already spread thin with other things which would be made more difficult by one, spreading it with another thing and 2 taking away one of the few things I enjoy, n all that, I wonder what to do in my case. I suppose I just hope it doesnt bring any problems at some point.
In the Netherlands we have a totally different health system. We have different companies which you can choose from, and they all have 'packages'. You can choose a package based on your health, and your child's health as they are insured with you. You can choose the 'base package' or, if you have specific health problems, you can choose a package that addresses those kind of treatments and doctor/specialist visits as well. Even the dentist is included. We don't change health insurance if we change a job, because it's a 'private' choice, it doesn't come with the job but with life. You pay a fee each month and for some procedures you pay a part of the cost, but most is covered.
We have a similar health system in Israel. As an expat I can look back and say that In the US the insurance companies just want more money. They don't really care about people's health or well-being.
I wish childhood obesity was a bigger part of this conversation. It was impossible for me to lose weight while under the care of my father. As an adult I've dropped my weight but it was incredibly hard because I was large for my entire life. I'm glad you brought up mood disorders, the number 1 thing that allowed me to lose weight was Bupropion for my depression.
it's such an important issue. I'm not even overweight but I'm having trouble figuring out healthy meals to eat that I like because my family never taught me how to cook or eat vegetables besides either raw or boiled and the thought of having just one meal without a helping of a substantial amount of meat feels strange and wrong. we also need to normalize breakfast foods that aren't just straight up dessert.
This is such a big issue. Childhood obesity is either a medical issue (that is the parent's responsibility to address), or poor dietary habits (that is the parent's responsibility to address). When your kids already get to adulthood in poor health with poor habits, they face an uphill struggle for the rest of their days.
Not to mention the key factors that can play into children developing obesity. I.e. diabetes and insulin resistance. Environment plays a huge role in how children view food, and some people can never get away from it. As sad as that is, how we are raised, or the lack thereof, education on food and nutrition, and the environment we have no say in being raised in, all forms our behavior as adults. Mental health is the biggest hindsight here.
Bupropion (Wellbutrin) is really an exceptional substance with great potential, it helps and is registered as an anti-smoking agent (apart from being MSAS)
There's always a thin line. Though we don't want body shaming, accepting the FACTS that obesity is harmful needs to be in their train of thought as well.
Thank you for this video. My husband suffered from a stroke two years ago and he over eats a lot and has to lose about 100 pounds. Being overweight is such a hard topic for the general population. I try to encourage him to eat healthy, blah blah blah, but it just turns to him accusing me of calling him fat. His memory is really bad and actually FORGETS he eats and just constantly snacks throughout the day. He constantly begs me to take him to McDonalds, Popeyes, etc.... which I refuse and it leads to arguments etc. Dr. Mike.. any tips to help someone like this lose weight?
that happens where ppl forget what they eat or how much. sticking to certain eating times consistently and keeping a log can help to recognise how much one actually consumes. no need to track food in regards to calories or anything although it could help, but simply to see it written down can help a person really understand the volume of foods they eat, or maybe what foods they eat too much of (even if they do generally eat healthy) etc
Don't restrict too much. The more you refuse your cravings the more you'll overeat until you satisfy that missing craving you have. I also overeat sometime but once I already eat my cravings I really don't want to eat that food after or just choose to eat less because I already have a taste of something I want. Losing weight is a process.. A slow one. It doesn't happen in months but you can see results in a healthy way
If he really "forgets" what he eats, a log / food diary wood really help, just to visualise how much it is over the day. With the fast food cravings - maybe start with compromise, instead of not having it at all, go to McDonalds but have a Salad with the Burger instead of fries. And the third thing, for a lot of people food brings comfort, while life is stressfull and complicated... help your husband to find that comfort in something else. Try out new hobbies together, tell him, you love love him and show it to him.
See a licensed dietician and go on walks with hubby! Dieticians are qualified and understand the psychological aspects of it, the walks get him moving to burn more calories than he would usually do. Try finding some form of physical activity you both enjoy!
As a bariatric patient myself, I find this video incredible insightful, but also relatable. I lost and gained back 100 pounds.... twice in 7 years. Since my surgery 4 months ago, I'm down 95 pounds, and I no longer need my blood pressure meds. My energy levels are steadily increasing, and I find I can do things so much easier in this version of my body. Bariatric surgery was definitely not the easy way out: the preop work is long, the recovery is painful and difficult, and I'm still getting used to how my body interacts with food. But it's a tool, the best tool I now have for managing my weight and my health.
Saying obesity is healthy is an over-correction to fat shaming. While fat shaming is emotionally harmful, saying being fat is healthy is physically harmful which is just as bad.
We need to talk about how unhealthy people are still worthy of respect and dignity. Fat people deserve respect not because they can be healthy, but because all people deserve respect, regardless of health.
This is true, with a huge *. I think what has really been complicating this kind of discussion is that people who often advocate for fat acceptance are also people trying to convince everyone that being obese is healthy, which is objectively not true. Even people who seemingly have good intentions often try to suggest that pointing out potential health risks with obesity are being fat-phobic.
I would have to say, however, that fat shaming is a much less dangerous issue than obesity. I think we should be able to tackle both issues at the same time, but if you have to tackle only one then obesity is much more important
While no one should be shamed for body size, deluding people into thinking that body shape extremes of any kind do not have health consequences is a disservice and hurts patients and their loved ones. This includes people with obesity, anorexia nervosa, bodybuilders abusing PEDs and others. As physicians we are trying to get people to have the longest best life possible and things like this make it hard to help people. This video is well done, nice job Dr. Mike!
“We don’t have a clear cut way for 95% of people to lose weight on their own and keep it off long term” ~ Dr. Mike Given this fact, why are we concerned about “deluding people” about whether their weight is healthy? This is still approaching weight as a moral issue, like people just choose to get fat. That’s not the case for the overwhelming majority. As stated in the video, people’s bodies have a set weight they tend toward no matter what you do. That’s why everyone on my dad’s side is obese even when many of them have been on keto or Atkins or work out at the gym all day. And even the health risks aren’t actually understood, with the only thing we know being heavy causes is some joint stress. Hell, obese and “healthy weight” people have the same average life spans. Overweight people have the longest lifespan. Underweight have the lowest. And too many physicians focus on weight first, letting actual health problems go unchecked under the assumption that weight must be the underlying or at least aggravating factor when many times it is not. I really think we ought to reset a lot of the medical practice around the actual conclusions of the research literature.
@@bicokun People's bodies don't have a set weight they simply gravitate towards. Being obese or underweight isn't a natural thing it's either a severe lifestyle problem or related to a medical condition.
@@bicokun Also that study you're relating to claiming "overweight people live the longest" talks about people who had a normal BMI until around 40 years of age. The same study also found that people who were obese at age 31 and continued to gain weight lived the shortest lives.
@@bicokun As someone with obese and overweight family members, obesity is definitely not hard wired into a person’s genetics but rather a product of their lifestyle and environment. And our eating/exercise habits are often something we inherit from our families and friends. My uncle, aunt, and their two kids are all obese or overweight and it’s not because they were destined to be overweight no matter what they do, but because they generally eat foods that are heavy in carbs and fat and rarely exercise. My immediate family members are also obese or overweight and I myself was overweight until I moved out to a different city and started picking up different eating/exercise habits. Yes not everyone is naturally a super skinny person and what is a healthy weight for me isn’t necessarily going to be a healthy weight for other people. But obesity falls completely outside the bounds of normal weight gain. I’m seriously worried for some of my family members because their weight has begun to affect things like their sleep and their breathing. That’s not normal or healthy and i hate to think that I don’t have much more time left with some of my loved ones because of it.
I’m glad Dr. Mike pointed out the underweight that was so popular in prior years. Due to a major health condition, it was IMPOSSIBLE to be taken seriously because it was like “oh lucky you, at a size 2..” when that’s super dangerous for me. If it wasn’t for the health condition having destroyed my GI system over 10+ years being ignored, I would probably be healthily “overweight” today. I think we need to reevaluate what a healthy weight means, because we’re all made differently💜
This is so important. I vividly remember going to the doctor about ten years ago because of dizziness, anxiety and a whole bunch of other neurological stuff. She managed to say "well, sometimes we recommend losing weight for things like this, but I can see you don't have that problem"?? At the time I had eating patterns that I now recognize as very unhealthy - I counted calories obsessively, freaked out if I gained a pound of water weight, and deliberatly stayed EXACTLY on the border between normal- and underweight because I wanted plausible deniability. This probably contributed to my health issues (turns out my personal ideal weight is very, very average). But since I was thin without being *completely* emaciated, nutrition never came up.
@@zprouk3091 Awesome. *overweight patient:* "Your pathetic little complaint is (allergies, depression, skin condition, whatever ) is clearly caused by you being lazy and eating horribly, so just fix that, now get out." *thin patient:* "Well, you're thin = at the optimum state of health, so, dunno, enjoy being a perfect human being which clearly is more important than being pain free? Bye!" In my experience, even overweight doctors aren't immune to this BS (nor are all slim ones part of it!), but on average I had better experiences with the overweight ones.
I completely stand against body shaming, either it’s skinny shaming or fat shaming. But being on either one of these extremes is not healthy. But people on these extremes need help and support, not bullying and shaming.
I'm fairly underweight and ended up having a low blood sugar attack from my lack of eating. I'm not anywhere near diabetic, I don't have any health issues because of my weight, and yet it still happened because it was a response to an unhealthy extreme. The same can happen to obese people. There may not be health issues now but if you keep denying and ignoring the risks, it doesn't matter how healthy you think you are, it's going to happen. A heart attack can come at any moment, high blood pressure can hit at any moment, even when you were previously tested and completely healthy at that time. After my attack, I still don't have any health issues related to my weight. It can happen without warning.
This message I am writing is not directed towards you, I believe you are a nice person. But with this way of thinking other people often do as much harm as those haters. I am fat and to be honest, I don't need random people's support or shaming. I need random people to mind their own business and look into their own plate. You have no idea how often people I know just told me about their diets, doctors, yt food advice etc. Some random ones were okay stopping me on a street and telling me they were obese and what helped them. You know what's bad in that? This love and support are destructive, because to a fat person, it shows you equal her value and her weight. You believe her weight-loss would make her more attractive as a human, as a professional or anything. Meaning now she is not worthy enough. Unless you are close friends or directly asked for support, we - fat people - just want you, - "healthy people" (who eat absolutely unhealthy most of the time, but just slim or show up in gym now and then) - to not come to us with your opinion and advice and don't bring weight in matters that have nothing to do with it. Not your support or your help or your love. Those are acceptable if I am doing weight loss and I show it on social media or ask you for help, then yes. But not out of nowhere.
The way I see it is that it’s “healthy” to see people of bigger shapes and sizes to be seen doing exercise and healthy activities. Edit : I am overweight myself so I understand what it’s like to be fat. It’s just in the pictures they are clearly in active wear and one model is in a yoga pose. In general you don’t see fat people working out represented in mainstream media. In my opinion that is good as it encourages people to exercise. As we know that is good for not only your physical health but your mental health. Factually being obese is bad for you and I’m not taking away from that. It’s just being in a healthy weight range is not attainable for everyone as there are so many contributing factors to someone’s weight. The least we can do as a society is be inclusive and encourage everyone to engage in “healthy” activities. Ps Thank you for all the engagement x
Kinda lame, but I noticed I was getting healthier when I could walk up a set of stairs without losing my breath. That’s how I can tell my fitness level 😂
Totally agree. Engaging in exercise is a healthy activity for everyone and so showing people of larger sizes removes the stigma that only fit people should be seen doing exercise. No one decides to start exercising and the next day has one of the few body types shown in the media as being physically fit. So showing people at different stages of their physical fitness journey, as well as the many body types that are physically fit and healthy, is important.
I think people forget, health and weight is not exactly tied to morality. You are not a bad person if you are fat. You are still worthy of respect and love.
@@lorry2212 they don't care about their body enough to keep it healthy so how can you trust they are diligent in the other areas of their life? How you treat your body is a direct indicator of what kind of person you are
Ive never struggled with obesity, but I started getting more serious about my health. It wasn’t until I learned to love myself and my body for what it was that I was consistent with my health journey. That’s why I get so angry with people who go into the DM’s/comments of bigger people, who are bothering no one, and harass them about their weight. You aren’t “concerned for them”, you’re a bully who wants to justify your harassment of someone. Having low self esteem made me treat myself worse, not better
For me - and I certainly have 20+ pounds I could lose - I think the goal should be to support people in choosing healthy behaviors regardless of their size, without judging their worth or effort or health based on current appearance. For most of those of us who fell into unhealthy patterns as adults (hello desk job!), I think we will trend toward looking healthier outwardly if we consistently make healthier choices. But the more you have to go toward outwardly "thin," the longer it takes - and running into someone critical or bullying along the long process can make it a lot harder to stick with it. And if a person never reaches the epitome of a "healthy" appearance, they're still going to be healthier on the inside than with unhealthy choices. I guess bottom line is that we don't know where in a health journey a person is, so we should just choose kindness. But kindness does not mean dishonesty, and unhealthy behaviors eventually lead to unhealthy bodies for the vast majority of people.
It makes me angry and sad when popular plus size celebrities get shamed to death when they decide to work out and be healthy for themselves, so many of their fans (whom are maybe over-weight and struggling) looked to them for validity and get angry when they want to loose the weight. People should just encourage others to do their best and be supportive of what happens, but its disgusting that some people would rather see their idols unhappy and unhealthy just to make themselves feel better.
My issue is ONLY with celebrities that made their size a bragging point and then lose weight. So, not Adele or Lizzo, both of them flat out said "this is me take it or leave it" and i love that. But there are musicians in particular who skinny shamed women and then got skinny and i hate that. But mostly I hate body shaming at ANY size.
Agree to disagree In case of body fat it's kinda possible Turn that hate into rage And rage into motivation .. And you'll be surprised how well the results come !! But emotionally What you said is absolutely true !!!
I’ve lost over 200 pounds through diet and exercise. It’s taken me over a decade to do it. I can honestly say, it got a lot easier and the weight came off faster when I could afford good, nutritional foods. I think there is a HUGE correlation between access to nutritional foods and weight loss. When it’s cheaper to get a Big Mac than it is to buy fresh fruit and veg, there’s a huge problem. I very clearly remember one of my earliest birthdays after I started striving to have a healthier lifestyle- all I wanted was a white peach. A fresh piece of fruit. That single white peach was $2.97. And the peach wasn’t even that big, maybe 4 bites total. I didn’t get it, but do you know how much a GALLON tub of ice cream was? It was $1.99. That same concept was across all the food choices- if you wanted fresh, you were paying 2-3 times more. Yes, you can get canned or frozen and it’s nearly as good. But that wasn’t the case in my area- the canned foods were usually either expired or had tons of sodium or other additives, and the frozen foods were usually either expired, damaged, or freezer burned. As far as bariatric surgery goes, I was never offered the option until I was actually under 250 pounds, and by then, they still wanted me to pay $5000 (and that was with insurance) and lose another 50 pounds to prove that I was a good candidate.
yeah, its especially hard when you're on a limited budget or even on food stamps. for me especially since im on food stamps i only get 200USD in food stamps a month and its extremely hard when food that is diet approved is getting extremely more expensive. but unhealthy food are extremely cheap
that is really, really insane. And it get's worse when you factor in that thanks to zoning laws and infrastructure habits, some malls/ grocery shops in the US can *not* be reached safely unless by car. Meanwhile, I've got the next reasonably priced source of produce 10 minutes from my door step (bicycle). The super-duper inexpensive one is a good deal farther, so thank goodness for public transport. Well, what good lucky that there are so many people who care and support overweight people so much that they just have to point out how disgusting overweight is. I'm sure that _annnnnny moment now_ that crowd will start lobbying against food deserts.
So proud to be part of the 5% 😆 Lost 85 lbs and have been keeping it off the last several years. Changed my entire life. I can't imagine where I'd be now if I hadn't done that.
I am not making a scientific observation, by any stretch of the imagination, but it does seem to me that this type of conversation centres a considerable amount around the female body and comes up a lot in women's magazines. I could be way off the mark here but it feels like that is also something that needs to be addressed...it feels like a very one-sided conversation.
Absolutely. Because as much as individuals wish to say they are discussing the issue because of a concern for health, we all know it's a concern for their judgment of a female body. If people actually cared about the health of obese patients, they would recognize that it's scientifically supported that body acceptance leads to a healthier lifestyle. And no one wants to admit that their body shaming is for ignorant reasons.
95% of people with EDs are women. The focus on women is therefore justified, especially since their health are needs are usually ignored completely or only seen as being the same as men. Sincerely, someone with a psych degree
@@Jay-kz7mw Glad this was said. We need to recognize that there are males with EDs, but we also need to recognize that there needs to be equity for women because they suffer from it in higher percentages. I've seen many female only residential treatment clinics becoming unisex in recent years and I think that's okay for some, but it's highly unessesary most of the time and also considering that it might make female patients uncomfortable to be living with males especially teens. I think the right to single-sex treatment centers needs to be preserved.
It really is sad that legitimate health professionals who have no hatred in their hearts and simply want others to be as healthy as they can be being ignored and ridiculed for simply offering their expertise.
Dr. Salles is dead on with a big contributing factor to obesity being access to healthy foods, but even more than that, it's just SO much less expensive to get a burger, fries, chicken nuggets and soda from Wendy's than anything healthy anywhere else. Even people who have access and can afford better options are often so on-the-go that they turn to fast food because it's their best quick option in a fast paced world.
Really? Just as a quick example: Potatoes are 70 cents a pound right now at my local grocery store. A can of fat free refried beans are $1. I can put together a meal in 20 minutes with those and a little salsa($2 a jar). I can feed an entire family a healthy filling meal for what a single person's meal will cost at Wendys. Beans, rice, potatoes, vegetables in season, etc are cheap! People who have the means but are living in a "fast paced world" need to look around and re-prioritize their health along with family time. You shouldn't be so on the go all the time that you can't even feed your family a healthy dinner.
How about fat people would just stop eating so much? Has anyone ever considered that? I doubt you will get obese from eating 3 fast food burgers and some fries a day. Furthermore, no food is EVEN cheaper than fast food food, 2 birds with one stone.
@@CathyGoes depending on the person what you just said would not be healthy that’s a lot of starch and sugar in that. Depending on where you live. Veggies are expensive regardless of season. And that’s if the person doesn’t have food allergies that restrict what they can and can’t eat. Very rarely is it ever one answer fits all
@@CathyGoes You're assuming too much and are forgetting that "time is money". Even 20 mins to cook each day is a luxury. People in poor communities often work multiple jobs every day of the week. It's not healthy in many ways but that's just where we are as a nation. The U.S. is actually an outlier where obesity is more prominent in poor communities. So no, home cooked food is normally actually more expensive than fast food.
@@Al_Gonzo If you had a full time desk job and ate fast food everyday would, then that most assuredly would make you heavy set. The amount you eat isn't the only part of a diet. There is also your body type, routine, and what you eat. A person in an active job like carpeting might be able get away with 3 burgers a day but even that seems like a stretch. Although that's also not counting people with diseases like hypothyroidism, crushing syndrome, diabetes or sometimes just depression that can actually play a part in weight gain. And unfortunately, many people leave such things untreated because they can't afford to go to the doctor.
I don’t think people who aren’t obese realize how much pure hate we get. I have had strange men on the street make disparaging comments about how disgusting I looked, etc. I’m in the process of losing over 100 pounds but the BEST thing people can do to support obese people is to just ignore us as we lose weight! Not making negative comments in the gym & when we exercise is the BEST HELP.
Theres no way a sane person is gonna stop out of there day to say how disgusting you look. Nobody really cares that much about you. The average america is obeste in my whole life ive never seen anyone make fun of a random obeste person on the street if this is false then you have a sad tik tok victim mindset where u have to be a victim 24/7 for attention and sympothy
Making negative comments in the gym is about as evil as it gets. Simply showing up to the gym requires more motivation than most people have. Best of luck on your journey. Dont let haters win.
You have to be evil or plain stupid to criticise and ridicul other people at the gym.... just ignore them they have no authority they are pathetic and deeply insecure. But huge congrats on your journey! It takes loads of strength and courage to start !!
@@dansacco1964 Me who was a fat person, i can relate with this alot. I do think everyone in should get in form, but only for their own health benifit both mental and physical. Even if they have a medical diagnosis. Being fat is a health problem, not something to be proud off. Did you know most fat people have actually a lack of vitamines or have thyroid problems. alot of people get fat from medications too. not forgetting that rich multinationals made healthy food expansive and commercialized the food secotr, so poor people end up eating shittier food. I'm against the normalizing of health problems, but some people are vile.
I know right? Obesity has real consequences and it’s sad that those who accuse Dr. Mike of being fat phobic don’t understand that. I bought into this whole “health at every size” thing for years and it hurt me in a lot of ways. I’ve gotten better the past two years and I’m now under 200 pounds. My back doesn’t hurt nearly as much as it used to and my feet don’t ache after work anymore. Walking around with extra weight is exhausting. The biggest thing for me is that I can keep up with my daughter better and I don’t get out of breath when I play with her.
@@annawood8912 I just want to say congratulations on your success. The best example is probably of your daughter, who undoubtedly loved you exactly the same before and after!
I had a friend who claimed to be "completely healthy" aside from being morbidly obese. He was "completely healthy" until one day he noticed he was losing a lot of weight. He chocked this up to the high protein, low carb diet he was on, but noticed he was tired all the time. He visited the doctor to find he had stage 4 colon cancer. Despite the best treatment available, and that he was given longer to live, he died within a year. Could he have gotten cancer despite being morbidly obese? Absolutely, but research has found the risk for colon cancer among those that are obese is significantly higher than those that aren't.
I worry about this with a good friend. In no way do I think she deserves the mistreatment and rudeness she gets over her weight, but I think the more radical parts of HAES are often telling her what she wants to hear. Her lab results might be fine, but she gets winded after just one flight of stairs. I don't want her to die of something that could have been avoided.
@@aepigeons9375 That's a bad example. Think about it this way. Would you get winded after one flight of stairs, if you were carrying a 100-150 lbs backpack? Yes. Most people would. That doesn't make you unhealthy. Now I agree with the overall message of your post and the video, but this particular example is bad. Of course carrying a bigger weight is harder than carrying a smaller weight.
@@tudornaconecinii3609 Having an unremovable "backpack" that puts stress on your body and makes you winded is unhealthy. Most people don't carry 100lbs backpacks, and certainly not all day.
Actually considering colon cancer is like the number one cancer in America you should probably be worried about getting if yourself. Don't think your immune cause your not fat.
My mum was obese now she's better but still not healthy. She eats little but very unhealthy foods but she claims she is super health because of one bloodtest 😔
This is so tired to hear this. i remember my family specially criticizing me when i was teen because they tought i was fat but not medically obese. Now, in my late 20s, i eat well, i do exercise and i'm healthy and they still citicize me because i'm thin. Anyway everyone will always judge you, from everything. What matters is about yourself and self secure and being healthy to yourself not others✌️
Same here! I have been a yoyo weight person for the last few years (50 lbs range) and when I am over weight as I am now, I feel the implications of it. Difficulty breathing on short walks, Knee pain, difficulty bending over etc... Does that mean we deserve to be hated/shamed by people we know in our lives or online, of course not! But like the doctor said, knowing the implications of our situations is not the same as bullying, and good for us to know so we can try and make improvements, and prevent ourselves from becoming severely sick in the future.
@@sierram3141 I went from weighing 60 kilos to 85 kilos, and I had an accident. Then knee pain is horrible and I already had back pain in my healthy weight (bad posture, though), now sometimes I have to take opioids to deal with it.
@@marialeon6765 wow we had almost identical weight gain! I was 63 kilos and now 85 as well. It’s awful! Hopefully we both can work through this. I’m sorry about the pain your experiencing
@@sierram3141 Yeah, sometimes when I find it's difficult to move, it feels like you're trying to handle a puppet without knowing how to. It's a strange feeling. I get very discouraged when I see healthy food is so expensive in my country and there is a lot of speculation with produce prices, and it's difficult to find quality as well.
As someone that is obese and has been fighting it my whole life, I do find that cover upsetting. I know I am not healthy and I am starting to feel the effects of it. There are all these how-to adult channels out there I would love to find one that went over how to have a good relationship with food. How to go grocery shopping, how to cook, coming up with activities to go do.
Same, I do wish we weren’t so alone with finding a way to grocery shop and cook healthy without seeing if a dietician is covered by insurance. But for those of us who know we aren’t healthy and overweight the first important step is acknowledging it and researching ways to change
Have you tried Noom? It's a program/app that uses psychology to help you make healthier food choices. I think you can get a free 2 week trial. You get a coach, a support group, easy to follow recipes, and daily simple to understand, evidence-based psychology lessons (takes 5 minutes). I love it. I'm just about to start it again after taking a break over the holidays.
Start of slow then increase the intensity of the workout, starting a with intense workout may damage your ligaments especially if your obese. Working out can release serotonin which can improve the quality of your sleep. Obesity is causes so many problems, for example high cholesterol, high blood pressure, diabetes, fatty liver, heart disease, etc. If you reach your goal it will improve your lifespan and quality of life, it will increase your metabolism which lowers the of weight gain and overeating. If you have hypothyroidism eat food that will help balance out your thyroid levels. Say safe and healthy. Show less REPLY
I could say the opposite. As someone who was healthy but bigger (and still athletic), constant shaming of my size is what made me develop body dysmorphia. I became a self-fulfilling prophecy of the family who constantly scared me into trying to become thinner by mocking and shaming other fat people. I quit sports because i was too ashamed of my body to be seen moving in it. I developed disordered eating and became depressed and I gained even more weight due to the constant self-hatred I felt. Seeing that cover had such a huge positive impact on me. The black woman pictured ( Jessamyn Stanley) inspired me to start working out again. Watching her love herself and choosing healthy options out of love for herself and her body really helped me to realize that I had to love myself before I could be healthy. Personally seeing those covers affirmed me in my journey to be the healthiest version of me. Not somebody else's idea of healthy, perhaps not the ideal version, but as healthy as I can be and trusting that whatever my body looks like, it will reflect that. There is still a lot of ableism and fatphobia in the medical industry and times like this show that. The ideal bmi is not an accessible health goal for everyone. 6pack abs are not an accessible goal for everyone. Many folks are trying to be as healthy as they can be and how healthy they can be is affected by often chronic issues like pcos, or physical disability ETC. These people may often not look healthy to an outsider but they are as healthy as they can be at that given time. We need to stop seeing health as a monolith and judging it so and start seeing it as individual, with each person responsible for adopting the healthiest practices for them.
My sister DIED because she was morbidly obese. The doctors were TOO KIND to her and she didn't feel that her weight and comorbidities would ever be FATAL. Now her three preteen girls have to grow up without their mother. Doctors have to tell obese people the truth about how deadly being morbidly obese can be. 😭
That's sad, and i feel bad for you, but any person fat enough to die from it is fully aware of the problem. When i don't work out for a week in a row, i feel worse. when i don't work out for multiple weeks to a month, i start to notice weird pains, tiredness etc. I've never been overweight, and never will be, simply because of the discomfort it brings. Though it helps, it's not the doctors duty to tell you not to be obese, so please don't blame them. Anyone with 2 braincells rubbing together knows this. The rest is just excuses
Just so you're aware, a lot of obesity is caused by either mental illness, disability or poverty. It's not as simple as oh yeah I'll just go to the gym every day and make salads.
I think the concept that you can love the way your body is AND at the same time be obese and acknowledge that it comes with increased risks and it would be a good idea to change your lifestyle... is a pretty high level concept that is somewhat difficult to communicate to the masses and I don't expect most people to get it without significant education. Displaying and writing about different body types in magazines may be a step in the right direction, but only a small step.
The problem is that there are highly obese people on tik tok thinking they are being body positivity "influencers" when all they do is eat unhealthy food and show how "good" that is.
and that is so fucking sad but you SHOULD be afraid. People have lost their jobs for saying the truth and in one of the fattest countries of the world it’s evil that Cosmopolitan would even dare to even do this
I think weight is such a touchy topic because fat people are treated poorly and I think ppl get Defensive. Food addiction is also a disease like drugs and alcohol. If the conversation is already opened then speak your truth but don’t open the conversation to an obese person for no reason.
I’m an obese person trying to lose weight and am eating healthy and I’m just imagining how I would feel if someone came up to me taking about health when I’m already trying to be healthy.
@@justagirllivinglife3663 I agree, it is touchy. But if someone is speaking about it on their channel or whatever and then get attacked for it I think that’s wrong
@@justagirllivinglife3663 of course, that’s unnecessary but I’m talking about the people who get mad over people discussing it on their videos and saying its bad to say being obese is unhealthy
I think no one should be shamed or attacked for having a certain body size, whether it be too big or too small, and I agree with that part of the anti-fatshaming movement. But I think we should separate that from striving for a healthier life, like, no one should attack anyone for the way they look, but if it's something that they can change for the better, I think it should be told, just not in an aggressive way.
I don't agree with you if you're saying anyone should be able to tell anyone else what they're doing to their body is wrong as long as it's "not in an aggressive way". It's not your responsibility or business what other people do when it doesn't affect you. If seeing fat people bothers someone, that's THEIR problem. People these days invest WAY too much of their time and energy on complete strangers and it's pathetic and damaging. Focus on yourself, not others. A fat person already knows their fat. They don't need you or anyone else telling them to fix themselves because you have no idea how or why they became that big and.. again, it's not any of your business. That'd be like someone telling others to quit smoking or quit drinking, yet no one talks about that or even bats an eye over it despite it being damaging to others around them. Both substances are poison for your body, but it's socially acceptable so oh well!
People these days acting like promoting good health is a bad thing or "fat shaming". Ugh, c'mon now. It's never good to be either too skinny or too big. It's surely not okay to shame people for their weight, but completely dismissing science just so that people won't get butthurt is equally harmful, if not even worse. The focus should *not* be on becoming skinny, it should be about becoming *HEALTHY*, so that we can enjoy our lives without too many health problems. That's what we all want, right? Appearance doesn't matter in the end in any way. If you love your body, you'll take care of it. Don't neglect yourself from good health.
@@TheSwauzz I just thought that much was obvious honestly. I think that everything a person does publicly will attract public opinions, such as if there's a public person that's overweight there might be people worried about them that will tell them it's unhealthy. However I personally don't think that's good either, but I'm just saying it might happen. What I had in mind with my comment were friends and family and in private, no need to make it a public scene in any way if you truly care about someone. So I think we think the same things but you didn't get that idea from my original comment. It simply didn't come to my mind that the health warnings would be on the Internet because it's not how I think, so I didn't consider specifying what I meant.
@@TheSwauzz sorry but I respectfully disagree. If someone I care about is taking heroin/drinking too much I'm going to say something, the same goes if they are dangerously over/underweight. I have had an eating disorder for over 20 years, if my family hadn't said something to me I could have died. I think that's what Nick meant by saying "as long as you're not being aggressive" I agree with you that even saying that in a polite way to a stranger isn't quite the same though. I can't count the amount of times some random person has told me to "eat something" because I looked too skinny. I can accept it from loved ones though 😄 Love to everyone reading this from Scotland ❤❤❤
@@TheSwauzz I hate it when people smoke and would like them to change. Unfortunately, my boyfriend smokes and I got used to it, but I still don't like it. So yes, I do bat an eye. Once I missed a train that I had run too and I was exhausted, gasping for air because of the long sprint, and quite distressed, and I was on the phone to tell my dad that I had missed the train. Then I had to walk through a cloud of smoke from a guy who was smoking at the train station. Upset as I was I told my dad something like "... Now I can't even breathe anymore because someone just has to smoke right here. This is so egoistic and inconsiderate towards others." When I said that, I was just walking by that person, so he probably heard me. I didn't look at him, so I'm not entirely sure, but yeah, that was the time that I called someone out for smoking, even though it was just indirectly. Maybe it was rude what I did, but I was quite upset in that moment. Usually, I'm more polite. So I don't really get why you think that people only care about others being overweight and not about smoking and stuff like that. Obese people don't molest me by breathing toxic gases into my face, so why would I care more about them than I do about smokers?
At my highest weight of 160lbs at 5’4 I felt rough! I had sore knees, winded easily, fatigued... I’m down to 138lbs now from eating really well and exercising more regularly and my energy is insane! I get loving yourself where you’re at, but loving yourself means treating your body with respect and care. ❤️
As a plus size person, seeing people that look more like me on the cover of a magazine does not make me feel like I shouldn't try to lose weight or be more healthy. It is nice to see familiar body types. I still want to lose weight and be more active.
Everyone is different. You have a conscious mind that's why you think differently but majority of the people who has obesity won't. Here's a fun fact: A&W third pounder failed because the average person did not understand fractions. The general consensus was that the public thought a quarter pounder sounded like it was more than a third pounder because the number four is larger than the number three.
@@nikosoa Statistics would say otherwise...but I often forget that most internet dwellers are plebs and information like statistics are lost on them. 🤡
The HAES movement forgets about people with anorexia or bulimia. Being extremely thin, regular sized, or plus sized, with an eating disorder, is not healthy. I think "Healthy" would be a better movement but its not catchy.
It would apply to Down syndrome, ugly people, the mutilated and mangled, limbless, skinny, MEN, etc. But nooo, the focus is just on being fat and female. And like any movement, it becomes an angry hate group of bitter coddled people.
yeah i love the focus on omg we put a fat girl on the cover of a magazine but haven’t yet heard any comments on the amount of underweight women on the cover of magazines
@@sleepyqueer Magazines show retouched, beautiful women on their covers but think they are doing something good for putting plus size women on the cover once. Society is easily satisfied.
@Margaret Bush That would be a viral disease. Definition of disease from Merriam-Webster dictionary: a condition of the living animal or plant body or of one of its parts that impairs normal functioning and is typically manifested by distinguishing signs and symptoms. Also see synonyms; disorder.
One thing I never hear addressed is the surgery that's required after the weight is lost to remove the large amount of saggy skin and tissue that no amount of exercise will ever get rid of or tighten up. I'm a massage therapist and I've massaged a few people who've had bariatric surgery. It's like they're wearing a huge human suit. You can literally feel their thinner bodies under it all. If insurance won't pay for the surgery to lose weight they're definitely not going to pay for what they consider cosmetic surgery to remove all the extra saggy flesh.
I really like the quote that Dr. Salles says in the beginning of the video “being aware of the consequences of obesity is not the same as fat shaming.” Being worried about someone’s health is not the same as fat shaming them and making them feel bad about themselves. It’s all about supporting them and being there for them when they are going through a weight loss journey, if they choose to do so.
"being aware of the consequences of obesity is not the same as fat shaming." Can we just talk about how ridiculous it is that you even have to say something like that? WTF is happening with all this "progressive" thinking?
Most overweight people know they are overweight and what the risks are. No one is overweight because they want to be and there is so many underlying reasons that people become overweight. Pointing it out doesn't help it usually makes it worse. I alway do better when people don't bring up my weight because if im mentality happy then i take care of myself better and try knew things because im not hiding away ashamed hoping know one sees me.
@@chrisakaschulbus4903 I don't think it's helpful or constructive to lump all progressive thinking in the same category, as if people missing the mark on this has anything to do with other progressive thought. I assume you mean well, and I assume this is not your intention, but by blaming progressive thinking in general it makes people feel as if it's better not to think progressively, as if it's somehow worse than conservative thinking. And I think that misses the mark. There are people making errors on both sides of the spectrum, and it's not because they're progressive, it's because they're just making errors. Let's make sure we don't accidentally attribute these thinks to progressive thinking in general. Some people take it too far, and by extension accidentally promote unhealthy lifestyles while they were trying to combat fatshaming, and yes, that's a shame. But the reason they make that error is not the progressiveness itself. People on the conservative side make errors just as often and those errors can be every bit as harmful or harmless. I'm sure it wasn't your intention but I see more and more people see people missing the mark as emblematic of progressive thinking in general, thereby villifying progressive thinking in general, and that just keeps us stuck in conservative thinking.
@@Kaylee-Renee actually most are not aware of the risks. There are some who avoid going to the doctor until they get symptoms. Often times irreversible damage is done by the time they see a doctor.
@@TA-np4mc very valid point. A lot of people who are overweight are unaware or choose to remain ignorant. All you have to do is look at someone like Tessa Holliday who gets pissed off anytime someone calls her unhealthy and will say things like, "Yeah but my blood pressure and bloodwork are all good therefore I am healthy." Which, sure, if those measurements are all in a good range that's great, but it doesn't mean that you aren't at higher risk for a plethora of conditions and illnesses.
I have struggled with obesity. Body positivity and things like that helped me loose weight. I knew the risks of being over weight, but it didn't help, and the shame behind it drove me away from health. I think that love and acceptance by people loving me where I was, helped me make positive changes in my weight.
Facts. I knew my weight was an issue (I’m one of those people who have great lab values/tests/etc but is overweight) and even when I was making amazing progress and feeling great, continuous shaming from my peers drove me off my path. These things HAVE to come from self-love, or it can be so damaging.
I’ve been getting thinner and loosing weight due to hyperthyroidism and I see it as concerning while a lot of people are saying I look good. It’s annoying because I was at a healthy weight before.
I've been losing weight to hyperthyroidism as well. And the compliments are truly annoying because I'm dealing with so many other things they don't notice except the bulgy eyes.
I don’t think Dr. Mike is “fat phobic” - I think he’s just science driven. I will say that I don’t think he relates to, or empathizes with the emotional experience of obesity though. I say that because I struggled with obesity, and as for myself, and (I think) every obese person I’ve met, we don’t look at a picture of a plus sized model and think “Oh good, I won’t bother then”. You don’t “encourage” people to become obese. If anything, from what I’ve seen, it starts at a very young age and seems to run in families. This isn’t something that society either fails to demonize extensively enough to shame people into changing, or else, is excessively supportive to the fact that people who wouldn’t be obese, or people who are already obese, become a chronic statistic. It’s a real problem, and that’s the problem - because we don’t treat it that way. Like depression, we act as though you “just have to fix your lifestyle a bit” and you’ll be fine. That’s the problem I have with Dr. Mike’s perspective on this one. He acts like obesity is a very serious health concern, but then also acts as though people are just being careless or they should be more responsible. Like anyone who hasn’t struggled with obesity, he doesn’t seem to appreciate the fact that many of these obese people are either victims of some serious health issues, or they’re victims of addiction. You wouldn’t tell an alcoholic to be more responsible and make healthy choices…you would treat them with compassion and try to help them overcome the psychological distress that reduced them to alcoholism.
Preach--I thought his line of questioning there was a little silly. No one who's obese is that way because they think it's a terrific idea--it's one or a lot of factors that can be really hard to control. People are generally doing what they can given their circumstances, and if along the way they learn to love their bodies as they are now, surely that's better than them hating themselves.
Higher likelihood for heart attacks, for cramps, for extemely high blood pressure. All those things are more problems being overweight than at least trying to lose weight. The truth is, obese people can lose weight, they're just extremely lazy. That was my family, they were fat, lazy, and unmotivated because of depression. When they got mentally happier, and got help, they actively started to make changes in diet, lifestyle, AND changes in overall fitness.
I am sorry to say but I am one of the obese person who is just lazy and I know many people who have the same mindset as me. Being obese is unhealthy and pretending like that is not a problem is delusional. Just like being too skinny is an issue, so is being fat. That is not shaming that is being accepting.
I like your perspective, it aligns well with what Dr. Salles said at the end. Body positivity is about loving yourself and working to improve the system to be safer and less discriminatory. It still involves self-responsibility and taking proper care of yourself. I think it's also important to understand that self-love includes doing what is best for you. This absolutely starts on a mental/emotional level, and your mindset. From there, it includes working on the physical side, and recognizing how difficult your environment makes it to do so, so reaching out for support and help.
@Dr. Noah Litvak. My BMI is over 60, and my GP has spoken to me about bariatric surgery. But when I did my research, I knew that I wasn’t in the psychological position to go forward. I know I need to act, for my sake and my kids too. But I don’t know where to go for help?
@@boccadice From my perspective, obesity is a complex, multifactor condition. This requires a team approach that helps to support multiple factors. Consider building a team of support, perhaps including a mental health care specialist (like a counsellor), a dietitian or naturopathic doctor, a chiropractor/physical therapist, and maybe a personal trainer. The reality is, one person can not be the end all be all in such a complicated case. Anyone who says they can, or who says that "this one thing will fix all your problems" is not telling the truth. You absolutely can get better, but it takes some hard work and looking through a holistic lens, and having a team to help you approach all factors will help lead to the most success. This should not be a "biggest loser" situation or a something over a short period of time, for real success, it will probably take a couple years at that starting point, but gradual improvement can make a huge impact on your quality of life and your potential for long term success.
I really like her. She seems like a person that does really care. She has compassion and understanding. She can have an honest conversation with her patients with out sounding judgmental.
Not the vibe I got at all in this video. She's a sales woman pushing her solution, underselling risk and underselling the life long care needed. While she's seen as an advocate against weight bias her work on the topic seem to focus on removal of stigma from the surgery and post surgery diligence of patience. Very different tone and approach to other topics she is known for.
@@ttww1590 I don't feel she is underselling risks, I think she is trying to give a realistic risk of the surgery. She states that people used to believe it was a far greater risk than it is. Not that there is no risk. And she talks about why so few people are candidates for the surgery and part of that is due to the life change needed for it.
love that Dr. Mike uses the term “people diagnosed with obesity” and doesn’t just say “obese people.” Obesity is a chronic syndrome that needs chronic management, not the identity of a person. Too many don’t make that distinction and I love that Dr. Mike does!
Not sure exactly where I'm going with this but unfortunately the U.S. in particular seem to be obsessed with identity. Instead of identitying as a person with thoughts and attributes people instead tie their whole identity to what race they are, which religion they belong to, which politic party they vote for, etc. It saddens me when people reduce themselves to labels. Again, I don't know if I really had a point to make, I just wanted to have it said.
"Obese" doesn't define anyones identity, it's just descriptive. If you think "obese" means fat and lazy by default, that's your problem, because majority of people understand obesity is far more than just being somewhat fat or chubby (which is perfectly fine to be btw).
Except that being "diagnosed with obesity" is not an accurate term. In addition to that, many people are not "officially diagnosed" with obesity, but they are still obese. It's not right to pretend like obesity is the same as cancer. It's not something that you are "afflicted" with. It's something that happens because of your bad choices or other health problems that prevent you from being active. It's more of a side effect than a disease. It's the same as the way the media tried to reframe alcoholism. Telling people they are "afflicted" with alcoholism just gives them an excuse to keep drinking. "It's a disease. I can't help it." If we instead look at these things as the result of our own bad choices, then the control to stop them comes right back where it should be - with us. I am the one in control of what goes into my mouth. No one else is. I am also in control of everything else I put into my body. You can't become a drug addict unless you choose to ingest the drugs. You can get cancer through no fault of your own. Big difference. We need to quit removing personal responsibility from the equation and stop pretending like everyone is a victim.
I didn’t even realize you can say that you just aren’t ready to talk about your weight with your doctor. I was overweight for a few years and now I’m back down to a normal weight. I think for most of that time I would’ve been too embarrassed to really go into that conversation until I was ready to make the change.
My doctor literally scared me saying that I’d have diabetes and a lot of medical issues when I came in for something else and not to mention I was like 10 at the time and gained 34 pounds that year bc I was mentally scarred after that visit that doctor messed me up and made me hate myself more I’m glad I never saw him again, very bad doctor
@Michelle Craigmiles I mean you shouldn't be _ashamed,_ but if you just switched drugs for food, that might be an issue. And if you continue to gain weight rapidly, it can potentially be just as devastating to your body as drugs. And your doctor can't "make" you feel ashamed of yourself, and I doubt that's what they're trying to do. They're probably just concerned. If you're feeling shame about that, I think if you're able and haven't already you might really consider getting like a therapist or counselor or something.
@@bayan3488 I am not saying the doctors bedside manner was good cause i was not there so how would i know. That being said how does it make them a bad doctor for saying you could suffer other serious medical issues? Thats the doctors job what wouldve been worse is if you showed up and they didnt say anything at all and you just went on life without knowing the inherent risks. Thatd be like saying i wont tell you about your cancer cause I dont feel that your ready. Its simply there job to inform you of the risks which they did. I wouldnt call them a bad doc for doing their job. But again like I said i do not know their bedside manner which coulve been terrible.
@@cftyler5041 I was a ten year old child. He scared me into thinking that I was going to kill myself. I always had a weight problem and I was aware and was always working to change it but doctors like this who basically tell you you’re not working hard enough really hurts because again I was 10 years old and already suffering with depression and body image issues. I’ve been recently diagnosed with pcos and a symptom is being obese and having a hard time losing weight. But I’m managing it now.
*you can be gorgeous at any size. Doesn’t necessarily mean you are healthy at every size because being majorly underweight and majorly overweight isn’t always healthy, it just mean your still beautiful even if you aren’t the healthiest.*
I wish people would talk about the health risks of underweight celebrities as well. I was underweight all through high school (due to food intolerances and the onset of my chronic illness), and it's miserable. No energy, issues with hair and nails, hormone issues, near fainting, etc. I feel talking about things like problems on the obesity side is more normal than talking about underweight issues.
This happened to my wife. It took them two freaking years of her high school experience to figure out she had developed a dairy allergy. She was MISERABLE because no one ever said, "hey, let's do an elimination diet," back then.
They do cover under weight celebs. Check out Karen Carpenter. Her plight helped blow the lid off of the Anorexia smoke screen. It's not gone. But it's far less prevalent than it used to be.
And annoyingly its a double standard where people within the body-positivity crowd bash people for being "skinny" and "unhealthy", so skinny people don't get much support from them.
what blows my mind is that I am still a size small in clothing here in the West even though I am already overweight. I'm Asian and I would have been a size Large already in South East Asia. Being overweight had already caused me so many health issues over the years and I can't wait for the time I would be back to a healthier me. Losing weight is so hard.
I got the gold standard in bariatric surgery with the duodenal switch and have lost 200 lbs and feel absolutely amazing (and finally have a normal BMI). My doctors are so ecstatic and my labs and health is absolutely amazing. I was nearing the end of what I felt I could do on my own to the point of only water fasting and stalling out with that too. I still have to treat my hashimoto's with thyroid meds but it's an amazing difference and I feel more comfortable in my body and the world now.
The gold standard is changing your dietary habits, having your stomach cut down to a smaller size is not a standard at all but then again, I guess in your mind "you did everything you could", right? Uhu, good for you.
@@Daurentius322You have no idea what Bariatric surgery does for the body and it shows. I suggest you do some research on the topic before you talk out of your ass.
for me ive always been a toothpick growing up. i was so tiny and my metabolism was so fast that i was eating way too much to be healthy, never gained weight from it. i had so many people complementing me and even older relatives wishing they were me (physically like how i was really small). of course i started puberty and started gaining weight and i was still kinda small but not like before. people around me valued my small body so much that when i gained weight, i tried to lose it cuz i thought i was fat (i was a normal weight for my height and age) i think we value a “slim healthy body” way too much, it’s honestly messed me up for life and im not even considered “fat”. i cant imagine what these bigger people have to deal with on a daily basis :(
I think it should be “love your body at every size” or “ everyone is a perfect gym (workout) body” or “move at every size”... everyone has value no matter their size but it’s important to speak medical truth.
"Everyone is a perfect gym body" is genius. Too many people put off working out because they're afraid of how they'll look in front of others. Not saying you need yo go to a gym (home workouts can be more effective with the right level of discipline and knowledge), but a habit of working out in a gym is definitely beneficial, especially when starting out. And if you've ever been to a gym, the majority either A. Ignore everyone and focus on themselves, or B. Willing to give tips to set newer people on the right path
The "body positivity movement" was supposed to help aid the people who are victims of bullying or basically public shaming. But its now used as a defense mechinism to find excuses for their "lifestyle" which really defeats the purpose.
It was for people that have scars or irreversible injuries, etc. Things they can't change. Even for girls that don't have supermodel bodies or guys without bodybuilder physiques. It is not meant to be abused to accept obesity. Obesity itself is usually connected to another issue, I feel that's why it's compounded so much
Is it though? Fat shaming is still a thing. Agreed that saying being obese is healthy is grossly wrong but there's still a need to stop the shaming and bullying.
@@travis1240 He did not argue against that point, he actually said that it was supposed to be that, and not an excuse. You are arguing against a point you agree with.
Hey Doctor Mike: I'm a middle-aged man with Tourette's Syndrome. There are so many stereotypes and misconceptions about Tourette's.... a video about it, dispelling myths, would be nice.
I am so sick of the body positivity movement. I am obese, and I know it's NOT healthy. That isn't fat-shaming. People are mistakenly confusing health and beauty. You can be big and beautiful. You can't be big and healthy.
As a fat person, agreed. I'm not healthy. I know why and my struggles. I do deserve respect and I don't hate my body and that should be the focus of anyone claiming to be body positive.
Hard to be big and beautiful. Lets be honest nobody goes to the club and wants to bang a fat chick. Thats just reality. Maybe some guys with weird kinks or very low standard
I like what Dr. Salles says about a lifestyle change to keep the weight off and stay healthy. I have maintained my goal weight since 2007 by continuing to eat about the same portions a d foods I ate while I was losing the excess weight and exercising every day.
I am obese, however I've been bike riding (road) everyday for the past 5 months and lost 40 lbs. I feel much better about myself, sleep more efficiently and stand straighter.
Edit: recently started doing calisthenics to avoid squirrel wing skin
Good on ya :) If that's your target weight or size, way to go! If you still feel you have a ways to go, keep at it! Either way, booyah! :)
Hope your journey goes well mate!
Good job friend! :DD
Keep going man!! I hope you reach you goals!
Congrats! Im proud of you
I was obese for 23 years. I have changed my lifestyle, lost 75lbs and kept it off. By every measurable and subjective metric, I am healthier and happier. I can also confirm that fat shaming doesn't help. It is simply hurtful.
It’s truthful and some people need truth
Good for you!
Zac fat-shaming doesn't help anyone, how shaming someone about something they struggle everyday is gonna help?
thats true u need to help obese ppl be healthy in a healthy way not lie to them and keep saying "oh u look nice i agree u r healthy u should love urself just how u r" thats not nice
@@hopemikaelson409 bc you dont want to get shamed anymore so you change so that you dont get shamed anymore. simple
She says it all right at the start "I dont think being aware of the health risks of being fat is fat phobic"
As a fat person I agree with this statement 200%
This, So much.
Those who yell at folks for being fat phobic are supportive when they side with being happy with their size, but turn on a dime when being happy with thei size is not the same as actually being HEALTHY with their size.
This. So. Friggen much...
NOT knowing or talking about the risks is ACTUAL fatphobia...since they would fear the HAES community coming after them.
I agree 100%. twitter groups even tried to turn obese into a slur so people can't use obese as a word
Agreed, I'd rather have a doctor tell me the truth, than lie to me to keep me happy instead of healthy. But there is a fine balance. If you try to lose weight because you hate your body, it might turn extreme, go too far or end up being a huge disappointment which screws with your mind even more... so loving your body should not be the same as "I'd rather be obese than skinny, because I am healthy no matter what". It's great to love your skin and body and shape, but also be real about the risks you are getting into... so yeah I care for my body, and my goal is not necessarily to become "skinny", but to feel healthy, be healthy, and love myself in the process. I know a lot of people who fail diets because every time they "have a relapse" or haven't lost their goal amount, they end up in a bad spiral which only makes the situation worse... You have to be realistic, and know that losing weight is not a straight line... you will lose some, gain some, but as long as you are able to change your lifestyle, that in itself is amazing! And will help you throughout your life!
Yes, a million times! I know it’s different for everyone but it’s frustrating for me to see people up in arms about “fat phobia” and how heavier celebs are getting “cancelled” and attacked for wanting to lose weight. They should! I think the hardest thing for me being 60 lbs over my normal weight (which already isn’t very thin) is noticing how different parts of my everyday life are harder being overweight. Being overweight isn’t good for you (although it’s better than disordered thinking and unhealthy weightloss) so attacking people and calling them fat phobic when they say that and want to help is just wrong.
"I don't think being aware of the health consequences of obesity is the same as fat-shaming." Well said, doc.
According to twitter even acknowledging that overweight people exist is “fat shaming”.
@@Meow4B it is if you’re not their doctor. you dont know that person, its not your place.
@@ilovecatsz that’s part of the issue. It shouldn’t have to be a doctor to be concerned about a person. Friends, family, and other people involved in your life should be able to express their concern
@@ilovecatsz one of the many bs arguments every haes and body positivity zealot comes up with.
When someone without a medical degree criticizes them it's fat shaming.
When a doctor does it they're fatphobic and biased.
When a friend, relative, or loved one does it it's concern trolling. If they spent half the time putting in effort instead of coming up with excuses they'd have lost the weight already.
@@ilovecatsz
They live in the same world as me. It is my business. I won't dictate to them, but I can and will pre-judge them, just like I do with everyone else. I tried for 3 decades to not prejudge people and I learned the hard way that, that is not a good idea. I will prejudge. I can better anticipate the dumb things they absolutely will do, if I add it to my calculations. Trip hazard, blocking hazard, driving hazard, accident hazard, attitude hazard. I keep track of people, because people destroy everything.
I was obese and the only thing I can say is: Being healthy is part of loving yourself. The more I exercised and ate healthier, the more I felt comfortable with myself and helped me a lot with my self-love
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That's right! That's what I say all the time too. Actually taking proper care of your body makes you feel great. That doesn't at all mean you have to be skinny, like so many people assume. Being too skinny is horrible in so many ways as well. I used to be extremely underweight and I felt horrible. I hated my body so much. At my skinniest I thought I had to lose even more weight to feel better, your self image becomes so distorted holy crap. I've gained a fair amount of weight, bad feel so much better. I've probably gained 15-20 kg since I was at my skinniest. Let me tell you, this feels so much better. I'm still lean, my collar bones still stick out a little bit and stuff like that. At least I'm well in the range of a healthy bmi. Both my brain and body function so much better now. I still have health issues, but not due to weight anymore.
Now I don't at all want to lose weight - I'd love to trim up a little more to help ease my muscular pains, bad back and bad knees and such,but that's to feel better and actually be healthy. It doesn't have anything to do with appearance for me, I just want my body to support me living my best life instead of dragging me down. I think that's completely fair and healthy thinking. I'd rather want a functioning body than a skinny body. The gret bonus about staying healthy is that your outside appearance looks better as well, so focusing on inner health instead o outer beauty is just a great win-win situation.
Like Dr. Mike says, stay happy and healthy! 🖤
Love the sentiment! It's also very possible that as a person loses weight, they don't like their body even more. I have felt this way many times, thinking the extra skin is uglier than the fat body. It's a hard rut to overcome, not gonna lie.
That’s great, but not every person who eats well and exercise in healthy amounts will lose weight.
@@jacforswear18 well, all you really need is a calorie deficit. You can get that even with a diet of junk food.
I just realized....I’ve never seen a plus size male model.
BRAIN EXPLODES
Body positive movement is exclusively for females. American eagle clothing company made an April fools ad about male body positive...
@@leonlam5830
That’s despicable. Guys are held to unrealistic and harmful standards too. Including everyone in body positivity doesn’t just help women, it helps break down the concept of beauty standards in the first place-which can only be better for everyone.
Well, except the beauty industry, I guess...
@@Zephirite. ya that's my point. What I said is definitely not my opinions but the general comments from the feminist group. The feminist group used to fight for equality but now i feel like they are abusing it.
@@leonlam5830
There are defiantly “feminists” (misandrists, by definition) giving people who ACTUALLY want equality a bad name.
The fact that dr. Mike invited someone that’s more knowledgeable on this topic, shows how seriously he takes this subject and wants to make sure people get a good education about the subject. He knows the limits of his knowledge and wants to make sure people get the right information through the right person. Thank you so much for that!!
You're more optimistic than me. I was just thinking that he had her on (a bariatric surgeon...hmmm) so he didn't have to say anything judgmental and get negative comments.
... I'm also annoyed with both of them for not differentiating between different types of diabetes, honestly. And I usually really like Dr. Mike's videos
He is a doctor.
That may be on purpose. Dr. Mike has been accused of being fatphobic a few times in the comments in his other videos before.
@@Shade01982 yep, so he gets a bariatric surgeon, of all people, to join. That was a deliberate choice and a certain perspective.
As someone who was obese and is now overweight, and working on a healthier lifestyle daily. I've noticed less aches and pains, I don't get sick as often anymore, and I have far more energy than I used to. Being healthy is a huge part of self-love, I want to feel my best so I have to give my body the best.
Exactly! Well said.
I am so happy for you, truly. (Ps. this is coming from someone who have yet to incorporate, long needed, physical activity in their life. So I am far from on a high horse.) Very well done indeed.
Good for you!!! Me too! Proud of you!
As an obese person myself, 34 waistline will always be better than a 50 waistline. I’d be dishonest and pretentious if I prefer the latter.
We fat people only needed love, acceptance and support. Being fat is very difficult and stressful, some people don’t know the emotional toll it gives us every single day. The last thing we can ask for is false ideologies to make us feel good and to justify our unhealthiness.
That's a fatphobia
- Twitter users, probably.
Be supportive to obese people
Don’t be supportive of becoming obese.
Oof this is acc a good one
Partially agreed.I think supporting people with obesity into helping their health and losing weight is good and loving themself is good.But supporting people being obese because its "okay to be” isnt really a good message.
Japple oh, trust me, some people say that
well said :)
@@GiaDiamond4 um not directly, no. But people are saying stuff like "it's okay to be big, it's just how body works" and "diet culture is a form of fatphobic/fat shaming". Though they are not directly telling others to get fat, they sure are promoting these lifestyles
I’m chubby, and I stand by “Loving yourself is healthy but I am responsible for loving myself CORRECTLY.” I am responsible for being active, eating correctly but also let myself enjoy the little things, being a dessert or a healthy smoothie.
I was overweight before and it's important to distinguish your actual self with your outer appearance and the weight. It's a sticky trap if u let it become a part of ur identity.
If ur trying to lose weight, my tips would be that u start small. Measure how much u eat and try to set really small goals. They're easier to achieve and get u motivated. Also using laziness is effective too. Make it harder to get to the food. Best if u try making food at home. Sometimes I was so lazy to make food I had like 2 meals in the day lol. Good luck and cheer up!😄
I’m also chubby and I’m not overweight, my BMI is 20.5 cause I’m 5’11 and 145 pounds and I’m still a fat person. It’s so horrible that people don’t understand that fatness and obesity are two completely different things. You CAN be fat and healthy.
@@juanperezlopez751 yeah weight is just a number. It matters in what form that weight is. Some people can be overweight by BMI but actually healthy cuz most of it is muscle. I was slightly overweight before but the extra weight was all fat so it was kinda unhealthy. Just important to eat healthy and be active
@@redhidinghood9337 the BMI is not perfect but it sorta helps to understand the health of your body. The problem is that people think that they can tell your BMI just by looking at you, and that’s not possible. A doctor is the one that should be telling you that you’re unhealthy not people that just looked at you in the cover of a magazine. The fact that people think that fat people are overweight or unhealthy is just a prejudice caused by fatphobia.
The body positivity movement is toxic because people are promoting obesity and that is not healthy
It’s not an easy topic. I’m overweight and I’m in no place to judge other people. But I’m also not going to pretend that I’m as healthy now as i would be if I weight 70lbs less.
I love the mixture of self awareness and the understanding that the narrative should be and is frought with nuance. I have a lot of respect for this outlook.
That sounds pretty easy... Don't judge, don't be delusional about your health
It does seem like an easy topic. Pretty much what you said. I say it’s an easy topic because it’s actually odd to think some people see this different.
@@Mike_Dubayou I would say that it is easy on paper, and by itself. However this topic is almost never the sole topic, it has a lot of nuances.
We all know that obesity is caused by eating more calories than you burn off. So on the surface it is that easy. However we have to find out why the excessive eating is happening and why the exercise is not. Are their medical issues, mental health issues, we have to understand the individual's early childhood socialization. This on it's own is an entire research field.
In order to assist the person in reaching their healthiest state, we have to understand the person and that is where it is complicated.
@@Mauze489 yes, a lot of weight issues stem from personal or mental issues. Some cope by eating or NOT eating. It’s not an easy topic because people struggle to become healthier. Even those who are of healthy weight eat junk food and have high cholesterol and they would get offended if you tell them they are getting unhealthy and need to stop eating junk food.
As a type 1 diabetic, I would really appreciate if they would specify that they're talking about type 2 diabetes. Type 2 has a chance of reversal with lifestyle changes. Type 1 is an autoimmune disease that currently has no known cure. Type 1 and 2 are almost completely different diseases in terms of symptoms and lifestyle.
Yeah, I think there might be a touch of professional blindness going on there in that they might subconsciously assume that *everybody* knows the difference between Type 1 and Type 2 when a lot of people actually don't.
I agree. As a T2D, it's confusing to me when anyone refers generically to 'diabetes,' as if there's only one type. I don't have to be on medication, and am controlling the diabetes through my diet. But T1D has to have insulin daily, and there's an enormous difference in how the two have to be treated!
I couldn't agree with this more! I'm a dietetics student. To add on to that, people who do have type 2 diabetes cannot reverse the damage done to the pancreas (organ that produces insulin, among other things). They can, however, slow down or halt further damage to it and support the health of the rest of their bodies with diet changes and medications. It can provide a reversal in symptoms and secondary effects of diabetes, but the damage done to the pancreas cannot be reversed.
yes!! thank you! when I was a little kid I would always hear people talking about ways to reverse your diabetes and I would get so exited seeing commercials on TV for medications that would lower A1C and help you get off insulin little did I know they were all for type 2 it was incredibly discouraging
I could never find information about hypoglycemia not related to diabetes. I do not have diabetes but have struggled with hypoglycemia my whole life due to my celiac disease. But yes, there is a huge difference between insulin dependent and non-insulin dependent diabetes that the general public is usually unaware of. Autoimmune diseases are still very much misunderstood and there isn't much information or care out there for those of us that have them. Maybe Dr. Mike can do a video about some of them and what is known. I have 4 of them myself and I've had my Dr.s google them in front of me before.
Fat is not synonymous with ugly, but it is also not synonymous with healthy. Thank you for coming to my TED talk.
Thank you for the TED talk
My favourite TED talk tytyty
Nah, it is kinda ugly, at least in men, it is not attractive at all, it is torture
Actually, it is synonymous with ugly.
Ugly is subjective.. it can be for some and not others..personnaly i find it repulsive.. not everyone has the same tastes..
I really like the “body neutral” movement. Like, it’s our body, we don’t have to LOVE it all the time but we don’t have to hate it either, we just have to accept it and take care of it.
This isn’t a concern of appearance -_- it’s a concern of health. I’d sure as hell ignore all Americans getting fat and dying early but if my family members were getting obese... I’m telling them/ forcing them to get their shit together for their benefit. Yall too soft man
@@fuadrahman2783 as Sarah said "Accept it and *take care of it*" (*^v^)//
I think that's a great idea for a movement. Loving yourself all the time is really hard, but not hating it is the real hurdle. I think stamping out that hatred makes it so much easier to be motivated to take care of yourself.
@@fuadrahman2783 what makes you think they'd be interested in listening to you? 😂 Most people don't react positively to attempts to 'force' them to do anything.
Do you seem any one these women "taking care of it?" No. All I see is accept me for the fat me I am.
I like his interview style a lot. Let’s the expert finish their complete thoughts, with meaningful probes that help trigger detailed answers. Great interview.
YES. I’m 250lbs. I KNOW I’m a bigger girl. I’m confident in the body I’m in. But I KNOW that it has attributed to my current health issues. I don’t get offended when I’m told I need to lose weight at the doctors to help myself. Because it’s true.
If you know that your size influence your health in a bad way you should not feel good in it, because it creates the fake statement,that obisity is good.🤦♂️
Same here! I’m obese and I am trying to lose weight for myself because I would physically feel much better. I don’t feel a need to be super skinny, all I want is a healthy weight and to be able to maintain it.
@@megp9id Absolutely! Although we all have different starting points, what matters is that we do what we can to live healthier lives for as long as we can live it! There should be no cookie cutter shape for humans, no need for anyone to try and fit themselves into a prebuilt image of a supposedly perfect physique. We're all different and that's what makes us beautiful. Cheering you and anybody else reading this on your journey!
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@@megp9id did you Even try
I have anorexia nervosa, and I'd like to bring something to this: being underweight can have just as many (if not more) health complications as being overweight, but they are approached with different attitudes. My family and friends saw my obsessive exercise and starvation habits as "healthy" and "tenacious". I eventually had to be hospitalized and went through extensive recovery to reach a normal BMI, and even then my family believes it "couldn't have been that bad" because I was never "put on a feeding tube". Even though I have permanent health complications from it.
Later on, I was on the heavier end of normal due to a medication I was on (125lbs. Still within normal BMI range for 5'2", but I was still working out a lot, so muscle mass figures in too). I got a LOT of comments of "concern" from family, partners, and even random friends-of-friends about my weight and how I "let myself go". Also "positive" comments about "being chubby, but that's okay!"... And it's weird to be called "chubby" when you're fit and average.
Due to a lot of sociological factors, regular people have warped standards for what constitutes a "healthy weight", especially from person to person. Sometimes fit people don't "look" fit. Sometimes someone doesn't look as skinny as you're used to seeing them. Sometimes you can't get an intrinsic understanding about someone's health versus how they look without first getting some VERY invasive information about their medical history. But that's strictly for the doctor's office!!
My PCP doctor seemed to be the only person who was actually HAPPY with my body, having the context of my recovery, blood work, blood pressure, etc.
I think the movement should be interpreted as being less about "don't worry about your weight" and more about "we should stop worrying about OTHER people's weight. They could be healthy - that's between them and their doctor".
Isn't it annoying to doctors when people who have no understanding of any medical practice give unsolicited health advice? I think if we view it from that mindset - leaving this issue to the doctor's office - it makes more sense.
We should change the language of this movement from "THIS is healthy" or "THAT is healthy" to "mind your own business, ask your doctor."
I agree with you 100%. I remember when I first lost an unhealthy amount of weight very quickly due to Crohn's disease and everyone was praising me for how skinny I became and how pretty I looked, saying I looked like a Barbie doll and that now I had to "maintain it". I was so underweight (79 pounds out of the hospital) that I even struggled to walk and my blood pressure was really low. I always had body image issues and anxiety related to it, so everyone finally calling me beautiful when before I was the "fat sister" among my sisters, really hurt my mental health. It was so difficult to get back into a healthier weight. At a healthy weight I feel like I look fat. I wish people would just hold their tongue instead of pointing out a person's weight fluctuations. They don't know why the person lost or gained weight, it should be none of their business.
I experienced this as well. My periods of fast weight loss were when I was having health issues. I noticed and was concerned, but of course others noticed and we're very complimentary. It was incredibly uncomfortable. Especially when I finally got my health under control and gained those lbs back.
I do not have much to add to this other than you've gone through so much and if you feel better, that's amazing.
Welp your comment made me cry. In high school I had a series of very unfortunate events that not only lead to a lot of stress but also to me not always having money for food. In a VERY short time I lost insane amount of weight. I was miserable. I felt unhappy and unhealthy. But that period of my life was when I got THE MOST compliments from other girls. I got back to healthy weight, still on the lighter side AND THEY STARTED TO BULLY ME ABOUT BEING FAT
I really resonate with this. I’m overweight for the first time in my life, but simultaneously the healthiest I’ve ever been. Thin does not equal healthy.
&& I LOVE that last line.
“Mind your business-ask your doctor”
"I don't think that being aware of the consequences of obesity is the same as fat-shaming". THIS, THIS, THIS!
EDIT: Since this has blown up a bit, I'm going to add my two cents to the reason why this quote stands out to me. If I have a friend who is struggling with drug abuse, alcohol dependency, or food dependency, I'm going to call them out on it and encourage them to be better. If I have a friend who is obese or severely underweight, I'm going to confront them about it. I have a friend who is underweight I have to remind to eat all the time because she forgets-- it's not shaming her and she appreciates it. Likewise, if I have a friend who is at an unhealthy weight, I'm going to suggest they chose the healthier option or the smaller portion. I'm going to push them to choose physical activities over sedentary, and I'm not going to be afraid to tell them it's because I'm worried about their health ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Hell yeah. Common sense!
It’s sad that people actually have to say this.
Well if you shove this opinion about every person you see and think they are obese without them even asking, you are still being very rude and a jerk.
I think it’s the person themselves that need to be aware of it and nobody but that person’s doctor should be telling they are obese and that they need to change
@@machaelamcinnis9839 If my friend starts letting themselves go and they either become overweight (or even underweight), I will tell them, and I will try to encourage them to take care of themselves and offer help to achieve that.
I feel like if I don't show that I'm worried about that friend, I'm a bad friend.
There are nice ways of saying that someone is becoming unhealthy.
Tldr: Doctors shouldn't be the only ones saying someone is unhealthy, friends/family should be a part of that aswel (in a non-toxic way).
The fact that a doctor is accused of being "fatphobic" because he encourages everyone to be healthy.
We have crossed into the twilight zone clearly.
It's more of an issue of fat bias than fatphobia. I had to leave a long term doctor because she no longer could focus on any medical issues aside from my size even though my bloods were fine. The next doctor I saw diagnosed me with PCOS and said I was on a dangerously low dosage of my antidepressant. This is why fat bias is important.
@@missbeaussie I'm sure there are bad doctors out there, but this particular doctor has never demonstrated anything outside encouraging good health. To attack him is ridiculous.
@@missbeaussie do you eat healthy and exercise?
@@rockstar9ism Valid question to ask, though the other person may not want to reply. The important thing to understand is being fat does not imply being unhealthy and vice versa.
@@deadalpeca8099 No, but it does imply that they either have some kind of issue controlling their weight, whether genetic or from another underlying problem, or they have a past where they may have eaten too much or exercised too little. If they are already improving on or controlling whatever one of these points is causing it, great, but if not, they're only going to get worse.
Body positivity is accepting the flaws in you that cannot be changed, not embracing own bad habit
Edit : people seem to think im just straight up fat shaming. If someone is obese or overweight because of a medical condition then that falls under the flaws that cannot be changed. People are just so dense and defensive for no reason.
facts
Yes!! Very well put.
flaws?
@@helloly they meant "flaws"
is it the same if i try and exercise to change my body? because as much as i’d like to love how i look i really don’t, and the only way to get where i want to be is to exercise my insecurities away
It's so difficult to speak about obesity without accidentally upsetting someone or seeming fatphobic so I think this interview was carried out very well and was objective. Thanks Dr. Mike!
Eh. I mean, I get what you're saying, but we've gone too far with "caring about feelings". It's kinda gotten in the way of facts. At a certain point we have to STOP worrying about peoples' feelings because, well..."facts don't care about your feelings".
Furthermore, if an uncomfortable fact upsets someone, well.....that's their problem, they need to deal with that, and then deal with the fact staring them in the face.
I'm not advocating viciousness or lack of empathy. I'm just saying facts are facts. Some make us smile and some make us sad.
@@mrenygma181 I agree, but if you are a public figure, it often is better to try and minimize how many people you offend with what you are saying. It's just how society is nowadays. It's generally a bad idea to act insensitive when you need to maintain a reputation.
@@mrenygma181 That’s... Kinda the point.
He was glad that the interview was conducted in such a way that potentially upsetting facts were presented in such a way as to not be upsetting.
Which is... a good thing. Facts don’t care about our feelings and it’s a fact that caring about others’ feelings is often a very efficient way of making them understand and accept the facts.
We’re fortunately and unfortunately very often emotional and empathetic creatures, so as much as you and I may like the world to be as simple as just « if I state a fact to you and you can verify it’s true, you accept it’s true », we have to take into account that many people won’t react like that and thus that short of forcing them, we have to present the facts to them in a fashion they’ll accept.
Then how about we stop worrying and say what needs to be said. If you're fat, it's unhealthy no matter how many carrots and other veggies you eat
@@AnymMusic um, huh? This was your takeaway from the video?
Love this. Dr. Salles dropping truth!
Wow another doctor I saw you comment on dr mike last video he posted it’s nice to see a another amazing doctor watch dr mike ❤️❤️❤️
Good to know that doctors watch another doctor's videos
@@janaafoxx definently
Just saw your vlog come in my recommended. Going to watch it after this.
I know that every size beautiful, but tbh, those people should've known the risk that comes with being obese. Not a personal attack, but a true fact
My dad just broke the 100lbs weight loss mark after his bariatric surgery. He is working out and moving and feeling happy with himself. I am eternally grateful for that medical innovation. I have been scared my whole life that my children wouldn’t be able to meet my amazing father.
Yay!
Thank you for addressing food deserts and the socioeconomic roots of obesity. It can also be very difficult to eat a healthful diet when we get inconsistent messages about nutrition from various sources--e.g., "low fat" items that are full of sugar and salt, constantly changing guidelines from the government, huge and hugely funded ad campaigns from various lobbies. It is hard work to find the truth among all the noise.
The truth is that it is better to eat good ingredients and unprocessed foods. The more vegetables and quality meat then that's better than buying food that is already procssed (boxed mac n cheese, fat free yogurt etc).
I'm 68 years old and for my entire life, I've been a prisoner of my own self. I have paid the price with heart disease, crippling arthritis, mental health issues. Right now , my weight is good, but I fear it won't last. My entire life has been a living hell with weight issues. Please take care of yourselves don't be ashamed of who you are, but time does catches up with us all. Find a doctor, who will work with you, be honest and non judgemental. Lastly love yourselves.
1 more year and I will give you the ut most respect
@@God-gi9iu XD LOL DA FUK
I have faith in you you are so brave🖤
Your fear it wont last sounds like not loving yourself, you should love yourself too, just as much as you want others to love themselves, you're doing everything you can so there is nothing to worry about, so, it's much better to hold hope.
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Dragonix, your comment is heart felt. Thanks for responding!
I think that the body positivity movement is "every body deserves respect no matter the size and shape because they hold people in them" and not "every weight ever is healthy and obesity doesn't matter"
A lot of people tend to overlap the two
people who don't actually talk to fat people about the movement will confuse the two... people who only talk to obesity researchers about a movement regarding fat people confuse the two.
Body positivity should be about people with physical disabilities or deformities, not obesity.
@@nielse2548 this is dumb. fat people and disabled/deformed people should all love their bodies. and what if disabled/deformed people are fat, are they then not aloud to feel positivity about their body?
@@Indiaaiscool if you’re fat and you love increased risk of death and disease and want to make your life hard then sure. I guess never lose the weight because you love being uncomfortable and unhealthy, can’t stop anyone there. Anyone’s allowed to love their body, what I’m saying is the “fat movement” takes away from people who cannot control what they look like. If someone’s fat and disabled they’re still disabled which would still fall in the boundaries of what I think body positivity should be focused on.
@@nielse2548 did you miss the part of the video where the professional said that diets are only effective 5% of the time? if you listen to fat people about the body positivity movement and not what other people have to say about fat people then you will understand it focuses a lot on shame-free healthy lifestyle choices. No one wants to be sick, it can be left at that. If a fat person is sick they will take care of it. If there are fat people that are sick and don't want to take care of themselves there are much deeper underlying mental health issues that cause a lack of self-care.
Doctor Mike, you may not read this comment in the sea of comments you get in your channel but I just want to thank you for tackling this topic with respect and objectivity as it should be. I have overweight and I've been trying to reduce it for years. Last year I joined a gym with a nutritional program that's meant to re-educate the eating habits. So it doesn't count calories, but instead it measures what of each food group we eat. And it works. Sadly with the never ending lockdown here in Germany the gyms have been closed for more than half a year. I miss going and chatting with the fellow members and trainers as we work out. This pandemic is also taking a toll on all of us psychologically. Germany has been closed for so long, there are so many restrictions out there, it's depressing to even go out to the street for a walk. Every day is Groundhog day, if you know what I mean. That also affects people's weight. We wrongly tend to search for endorphin and dopamine in snacks or things that can give us a shot of fleeting joy.
I do notice that some doctors tend to berate over-weighted patients, and that's a big reason to be reluctant to even seek medical assistance. Maybe they do it unconsciously... I wish more people in the medical world talked about this like you have in this video.
Sending support from Germany as well. This pandemic had me reach a weight I've never been in. It's really hard here, and my depression hit an all time high. I hope things would get better for all of us soon ❤
Being over or underweight makes in very hard to seek assistance. Wether it’s extremely or mildly on either end, it causes fear because almost no one feels comfortable asking for that type of help for various reasons. I truly hope that everyone struggling with mental or physical issues due to or caused by weight gets enough support that they don’t need to have that reluctance that you mentioned.
Hi Aurora. Lovely name btw. I'm German as well and I'd like to you ask for the name of this gym/ nutritional program. I'd love to try it myself. In which federal state do you live? I've so far lost 20 kg on my own, but still have lots to lose. Thank you in advance. xx
@@OperaticEnigmatic Big hug.
Sending virtual hugs from the Czech Republic, I hope your doing better!
Something that is overlooked and not often talked about is how much people of bigger sizes are misdiagnosed by physicians (I'm talking in general, not about Dr. Mike). In my country (Spain) a case gained media attention, a girl went to the doctor to ask to be derived to a psychologist because she was having suicidal thoughts and the doctor who treated her refused to sent her because "she was sad just because she was fat and she was going to waste the psychologist's time". The whole exchange was recorded by the victim because it had happened to her before so she went prepared and it became viral here. Following this case a famous body positivity influencer compiled testimonies of people who experienced fatphobia at the doctor and it became viral as well. It was so heartbreaking, I was in tears by the end of it. People's relatives dying because the doctor refused to give another solution to their symptoms other than "lose weight" and they ended up dying of cancer and other illnesses. Obesity is not healthy but obese people deserve the same medical treatment as skinny People without the medical bias of weight.
This is so heartbreaking
« Without the medical bias »
To be fair, and though of course I agree what that doctor did was atrocious, obesity can be the cause of so many symptoms and illnesses it’s not exactly surprising it’d be the first thing a doctor would recommend to treat before doing anything else.
I’m genuinely curious to know if the same could be done with people with anorexia or other similar very obvious conditions that are the cause of so many health issues.
@@nathanjora7627 yes but losing weight is a long term solution to a current disease the patient has, the doctor needs to see what short term solutions there are, and if the problem the patient has right now is 100% caused by obesity, because there is no guarantee that it is. A doctor won't refuse to treat a smoker because they should stop smoking first, even though smoking is unhealthy, you have no guarantee that the patient is experiencing a problem caused by smoking. See the double standard?
THIS!!!!! going to the doctor has become a nightmare
@@nathanjora7627but obesity should not be the ONLY differential diagnosis for a patient’s chief complaint. In school, we have to come up with 3 differential diagnoses for EVERY patient even if we think it’s obvious. Every patient deserves a thorough investigation to rule out any critical pathology!
Note how she says, "... have obesity" rather than "are obese". Great way to identify the issue, and not categorize the person.
If you’re obese, you’re obese. Tiptoeing around phrasing doesn’t increase your lifespan.
@@mikikiki facts👏
Ummm....you are still obese though. You can't say they "have obesity" and they are not obese. 🤷♀️
It’s synonymous. You can paraphrase things as much as you want. Hop off the cross 🙄
@@mikikiki you literally just missed the entire point of this comment
“Overweight is not healthy, but don’t hate yourself because of it”. -Body positivity.
That's *supposed* to be the message of body positivity
But now fat activists hijacked the movement and made it a taboo to imply that being fat is unhealthy
being too fat is unhealthy. but it is about choice. if some people like it let them be. I personally think a bit fat is cute, lots of fat is concerning (health wise) but I find everybody have their own charms.
@@suiito-kun5222 but you should still love yourself while trying to lose weight. If you don't, motivation will be lost and then there's literally no point to losing weight in the first place. At that point you hate yourself so much that you don't even care if gaining weight kills you. That's why fat shaming doesn't work and is not a good motive to become healthy
@@suiito-kun5222 don't feel bad!! feel motivated! Staying sad brings different kinds of complications. And don't forget people with hormonal imbalance and PCOS, etc. Your statement can hurt people who are putting in effort but can't lose weight
@@suiito-kun5222 faxx
Body positivity means our bodies come in all different shapes, sizes and colors, and we should love and care for ourselves no matter what. It doesn’t mean that we encourage horrible habits, and ignore legit medical advice.
Why is this so hard to grasp?
Well it turned the other way I’m skinny and I’ve said on Tiktok like oh yea me too I feel bodyshamed by my family a lot with the eat a burger or are you starving urself and everyone goes well that’s not body shaming that’s helping you or oh wow look the skinny girls talking when I thought body positivity was positivity for all bodies but it switched for some sad reason
it's not the people with beliefs like yours that are problematic, it's those who do ignore medical advice and promote obesity, like the backlash adele received for losing weight
This person missed the point lmao
But acting like it's okay to weigh 500 pounds IS encouraging harm. Weighing more doesn't mean you're less of a person, but it does mean you're less healthy. Saying "it doesn't matter" is not the right message to send to young people. It DOES matter. Your quality and length of life matters or it should.
no overweight people should not be told any positive or healthy comments that only encourages bad choices and behavior
I've struggled with weight issues after my second child. I tried everything and finally decided that the doctors was not looking at the whole picture and started cuting foods out of my diet that were "healthy" I went to being gluten free first and then went meat free almost 1 year ago. I seen huge improvements and lost almost 40 pounds in a years time. Switched doctors who looked past my weight and seen a lot of other things that needed to be addressed like EDS and PoTS. She found my adrenal gland was also not working correctly. None of these had anything to do with my weight. Having a doctor who listens to you is the biggest issue many over weight people face.
why don‘t they ever put someone with a „normal“ healthy medium sized body on a cover?
Exactly, not everyone who doesn't have a 6-pack is obese or anorexic. There's plenty of healthier options out there.
You meant just normal size? If you put healthy in there you do have to be a person who works out, and where do you people see women with six pack in magazines? They are treated as freaks, it's always skinny girls everywhere.
@@zeroberus0185 yeah look at the rude comments on any female crossfire athletes or any female athlete who's require a bit of muscle.
What is normal though?
Normal healthy can come in a lot of different shapes and sizes.
I am obese and am regularly ashamed of how I look. A few years back, I walked to a local bar to meet friends. I felt great that day, I had won Greatest Slimmer award with my weight loss group. I'd dropped more than 40lb in a few months. That was all ruined when a car of guys drove past and called me some really ugly words associated with my weight.
I turned round, went home and didn't leave me house for weeks. Even now, I won't go out unless it's dark out so I can't be seen. I've even had to convert to working from home.
Thanks to Doctor Mike's advice and views, I have recently started a weight loss journey with advice from my GP.
Please be kind to people who are obese. Support them, be kind, take time to listen to their personal stories - many of us are struggling due to things in our past. I was abused, in every way you can imagine. It has an impact! I became an emotional eater when I used to be incredibly healthy, active and athletic.
Don't add to the pain, be part of the foundation that gives us strength.
You are 100% in control of your emotions and how you react to peoples negative comments
@Curvy Chelle McShorty Good for you that you're taking action and working with your GP. Please don't listen to people who only give negative advice. You can do it! BTW, I need to drop a good 60 lbs (or more), and I'm working my way toward finding something that will work within my physical abilities and not my disabilities. Good luck to you. ;)
U never know someone's journey be kind always
People who call you names are just insecure themselves and want to feel better by berating others.
Don't let those disappoints of life, stop you from chasing your goals, and become even more healthy.
@@graveraider1029 it doesn't work like that
Can you do an episode on depression? The potential causes, the different ways of thinking that come with it, and how to break away from negative thought patterns, etc ...
I mean he is a health doctor, he doesnt deal with mental issues. But maybe, just maybe, I hope so.
Oh no:(( are you okay, do you need someone to talk to?
2 things I'd like to share:
1. your general practitioner can ABSOLUTELY diagnose a mental health issue and prescribe medicine
2. If you have health insurance, it is much more helpful to get advice from a doctor tailored SPECIFICALLY TO YOU.
My partner and I both have major depressive disorder and anxiety and we treat them in completely different ways because they affect us differently, our hormones and genetics affect our mental states differently. And if you can talk to a therapist or conselor (there are free services out there!) they will be able to help you work through things much better than a video can.
@@shannahtheninjaneko6927 he does though. Family docters are trained for many types of mental care
@@sapirlife3217 Go to your own docter. That's I think what hé would say if he sees this
you know what i like? how he got a bariatric doctor who is ALSO a obesity researcher so she is knowledgeable on the subject
It's not "Every weight is healthy."
It should be "Love your body."
Extremely true. Then it won’t be misleading
Hello fellow Vivienne!! ( l spell it with two e’s)
But you should never take love your body to the level where you think it puts you in the position to justify being unhealthy skinny or being unhealthy regarding being either over weight or even past being over weight
If you loved your body, you wouldn't let yourself be obese, otherwise people would experience a lapse of cognitive-dissonance.
@@SleepyMatt-zzz Not everyone is able to control their body size. My mom was extremely thin and couldn’t gain an ounce no matter how hard she tried. It was just genetics. And genetics for me came from my dad’s side because I’m much taller and heavier. Yes I can lose some weight but I’ll never be super thin.
Then there are those with illnesses like PCOS who can’t control their weight gain because of the disorder they have. So, it’s not always controllable. Accusing someone of “not having an excuse” or saying they don’t try hard enough is bullshit. People do try. How about being understanding and not saying dumb shit just because you haven’t been in that position yourself and don’t know the actual struggle.
It's because we have "sick care" not health care". We treat illness, very little preventative care.
It's true.
I think that's very odd, actually. My German health insurance is really pushing their app which will remind you of regular checkups/vaccinations that you can do free of charge. Their thinking is that they want you to stay as healthy as possible or recognize a serious illness as early as possible so your treatment will cost them less in the long run. Which makes total sense to me. An insurance is pretty stupid for letting you get sick when it is avoidable.
Exactly Heather, because prescription refills makes the income for the pharmaceutical industry, and the physicians get incentives for prescribing these maintenance medications! Pharmaceutical reps come in and provide expensive, recurrent lunches for hospitals and offices for a reason!!!
Yes!! So much yes!!
welcome to america
I heard someone say once: Loving yourself includes loving and treating your body well. So if you want to love your body, treat it well.
YES
People are unfortunately getting that message. If they truly loved their body, they would take better care of it.
@@phuqurfeeling Alternatively people could end up saying they dont love their body, or they're neutral, I personally dont really care enough to eat healthily, although I dont really get any adverse effects from it, my willpower is already spread thin with other things which would be made more difficult by one, spreading it with another thing and 2 taking away one of the few things I enjoy, n all that, I wonder what to do in my case. I suppose I just hope it doesnt bring any problems at some point.
In the Netherlands we have a totally different health system. We have different companies which you can choose from, and they all have 'packages'. You can choose a package based on your health, and your child's health as they are insured with you. You can choose the 'base package' or, if you have specific health problems, you can choose a package that addresses those kind of treatments and doctor/specialist visits as well. Even the dentist is included. We don't change health insurance if we change a job, because it's a 'private' choice, it doesn't come with the job but with life. You pay a fee each month and for some procedures you pay a part of the cost, but most is covered.
Which is more or less how Obamacare works.
We have a similar health system in Israel. As an expat I can look back and say that In the US the insurance companies just want more money. They don't really care about people's health or well-being.
Similar in Belgium.
I wish childhood obesity was a bigger part of this conversation. It was impossible for me to lose weight while under the care of my father. As an adult I've dropped my weight but it was incredibly hard because I was large for my entire life. I'm glad you brought up mood disorders, the number 1 thing that allowed me to lose weight was Bupropion for my depression.
it's such an important issue. I'm not even overweight but I'm having trouble figuring out healthy meals to eat that I like because my family never taught me how to cook or eat vegetables besides either raw or boiled and the thought of having just one meal without a helping of a substantial amount of meat feels strange and wrong. we also need to normalize breakfast foods that aren't just straight up dessert.
This is such a big issue. Childhood obesity is either a medical issue (that is the parent's responsibility to address), or poor dietary habits (that is the parent's responsibility to address). When your kids already get to adulthood in poor health with poor habits, they face an uphill struggle for the rest of their days.
I pray you're doing well. God bless 💓
Not to mention the key factors that can play into children developing obesity. I.e. diabetes and insulin resistance. Environment plays a huge role in how children view food, and some people can never get away from it. As sad as that is, how we are raised, or the lack thereof, education on food and nutrition, and the environment we have no say in being raised in, all forms our behavior as adults. Mental health is the biggest hindsight here.
Bupropion (Wellbutrin) is really an exceptional substance with great potential, it helps and is registered as an anti-smoking agent (apart from being MSAS)
There's always a thin line. Though we don't want body shaming, accepting the FACTS that obesity is harmful needs to be in their train of thought as well.
True!!! Also I love your username :)
@RandomDragon I see your point and yes I agree. People's understanding are so shallow this age.
@@shelleyverma4822 Oh...Hehe. I happen to be a K-Pop fan.
@@MultiFandom8isFate Same here! :) I love so many K-pop groups
Thank you for this video. My husband suffered from a stroke two years ago and he over eats a lot and has to lose about 100 pounds. Being overweight is such a hard topic for the general population. I try to encourage him to eat healthy, blah blah blah, but it just turns to him accusing me of calling him fat. His memory is really bad and actually FORGETS he eats and just constantly snacks throughout the day. He constantly begs me to take him to McDonalds, Popeyes, etc.... which I refuse and it leads to arguments etc. Dr. Mike.. any tips to help someone like this lose weight?
that happens where ppl forget what they eat or how much. sticking to certain eating times consistently and keeping a log can help to recognise how much one actually consumes. no need to track food in regards to calories or anything although it could help, but simply to see it written down can help a person really understand the volume of foods they eat, or maybe what foods they eat too much of (even if they do generally eat healthy) etc
Don't restrict too much. The more you refuse your cravings the more you'll overeat until you satisfy that missing craving you have. I also overeat sometime but once I already eat my cravings I really don't want to eat that food after or just choose to eat less because I already have a taste of something I want. Losing weight is a process.. A slow one. It doesn't happen in months but you can see results in a healthy way
I agree. Part of being happy is being healthy
If he really "forgets" what he eats, a log / food diary wood really help, just to visualise how much it is over the day.
With the fast food cravings - maybe start with compromise, instead of not having it at all, go to McDonalds but have a Salad with the Burger instead of fries.
And the third thing, for a lot of people food brings comfort, while life is stressfull and complicated... help your husband to find that comfort in something else. Try out new hobbies together, tell him, you love love him and show it to him.
See a licensed dietician and go on walks with hubby! Dieticians are qualified and understand the psychological aspects of it, the walks get him moving to burn more calories than he would usually do. Try finding some form of physical activity you both enjoy!
As a bariatric patient myself, I find this video incredible insightful, but also relatable. I lost and gained back 100 pounds.... twice in 7 years. Since my surgery 4 months ago, I'm down 95 pounds, and I no longer need my blood pressure meds. My energy levels are steadily increasing, and I find I can do things so much easier in this version of my body. Bariatric surgery was definitely not the easy way out: the preop work is long, the recovery is painful and difficult, and I'm still getting used to how my body interacts with food. But it's a tool, the best tool I now have for managing my weight and my health.
Your story is very inspiring, thank you for sharing!!
Awesome
Saying obesity is healthy is an over-correction to fat shaming. While fat shaming is emotionally harmful, saying being fat is healthy is physically harmful which is just as bad.
Define fat
@@liak6263 straight from the dictionary: having a large amount of excess flesh.
I have actually never seen a better explanation for this
@@tillenleskolesnikpikl3114 no no i mean being fat, when do you count as „fat“
@@tillenleskolesnikpikl3114 fat is not a good description for that. It’s like calling someone underweight „bony“
We need to talk about how unhealthy people are still worthy of respect and dignity. Fat people deserve respect not because they can be healthy, but because all people deserve respect, regardless of health.
Yes 👏🏻 And I think the guest did do a decent job of touching on this but the conversation needs to keep going!
This is true, with a huge *. I think what has really been complicating this kind of discussion is that people who often advocate for fat acceptance are also people trying to convince everyone that being obese is healthy, which is objectively not true.
Even people who seemingly have good intentions often try to suggest that pointing out potential health risks with obesity are being fat-phobic.
I would have to say, however, that fat shaming is a much less dangerous issue than obesity. I think we should be able to tackle both issues at the same time, but if you have to tackle only one then obesity is much more important
Yes they do deserve respect and dignity... caring about their health is a part of that
You are absolutely right... its all about having pure intentions and how you say it.
While no one should be shamed for body size, deluding people into thinking that body shape extremes of any kind do not have health consequences is a disservice and hurts patients and their loved ones. This includes people with obesity, anorexia nervosa, bodybuilders abusing PEDs and others. As physicians we are trying to get people to have the longest best life possible and things like this make it hard to help people. This video is well done, nice job Dr. Mike!
Why can't comments like this get more attention? This is kind, considerate and gets the point across nicely. Thank you
“We don’t have a clear cut way for 95% of people to lose weight on their own and keep it off long term” ~ Dr. Mike
Given this fact, why are we concerned about “deluding people” about whether their weight is healthy? This is still approaching weight as a moral issue, like people just choose to get fat. That’s not the case for the overwhelming majority. As stated in the video, people’s bodies have a set weight they tend toward no matter what you do. That’s why everyone on my dad’s side is obese even when many of them have been on keto or Atkins or work out at the gym all day. And even the health risks aren’t actually understood, with the only thing we know being heavy causes is some joint stress. Hell, obese and “healthy weight” people have the same average life spans. Overweight people have the longest lifespan. Underweight have the lowest. And too many physicians focus on weight first, letting actual health problems go unchecked under the assumption that weight must be the underlying or at least aggravating factor when many times it is not. I really think we ought to reset a lot of the medical practice around the actual conclusions of the research literature.
@@bicokun People's bodies don't have a set weight they simply gravitate towards. Being obese or underweight isn't a natural thing it's either a severe lifestyle problem or related to a medical condition.
@@bicokun Also that study you're relating to claiming "overweight people live the longest" talks about people who had a normal BMI until around 40 years of age.
The same study also found that people who were obese at age 31 and continued to gain weight lived the shortest lives.
@@bicokun As someone with obese and overweight family members, obesity is definitely not hard wired into a person’s genetics but rather a product of their lifestyle and environment. And our eating/exercise habits are often something we inherit from our families and friends. My uncle, aunt, and their two kids are all obese or overweight and it’s not because they were destined to be overweight no matter what they do, but because they generally eat foods that are heavy in carbs and fat and rarely exercise. My immediate family members are also obese or overweight and I myself was overweight until I moved out to a different city and started picking up different eating/exercise habits.
Yes not everyone is naturally a super skinny person and what is a healthy weight for me isn’t necessarily going to be a healthy weight for other people. But obesity falls completely outside the bounds of normal weight gain. I’m seriously worried for some of my family members because their weight has begun to affect things like their sleep and their breathing. That’s not normal or healthy and i hate to think that I don’t have much more time left with some of my loved ones because of it.
I’m glad Dr. Mike pointed out the underweight that was so popular in prior years. Due to a major health condition, it was IMPOSSIBLE to be taken seriously because it was like “oh lucky you, at a size 2..” when that’s super dangerous for me. If it wasn’t for the health condition having destroyed my GI system over 10+ years being ignored, I would probably be healthily “overweight” today. I think we need to reevaluate what a healthy weight means, because we’re all made differently💜
This is so important. I vividly remember going to the doctor about ten years ago because of dizziness, anxiety and a whole bunch of other neurological stuff. She managed to say "well, sometimes we recommend losing weight for things like this, but I can see you don't have that problem"?? At the time I had eating patterns that I now recognize as very unhealthy - I counted calories obsessively, freaked out if I gained a pound of water weight, and deliberatly stayed EXACTLY on the border between normal- and underweight because I wanted plausible deniability. This probably contributed to my health issues (turns out my personal ideal weight is very, very average). But since I was thin without being *completely* emaciated, nutrition never came up.
@@zprouk3091 Awesome.
*overweight patient:* "Your pathetic little complaint is (allergies, depression, skin condition, whatever ) is clearly caused by you being lazy and eating horribly, so just fix that, now get out."
*thin patient:* "Well, you're thin = at the optimum state of health, so, dunno, enjoy being a perfect human being which clearly is more important than being pain free? Bye!"
In my experience, even overweight doctors aren't immune to this BS (nor are all slim ones part of it!), but on average I had better experiences with the overweight ones.
I completely stand against body shaming, either it’s skinny shaming or fat shaming. But being on either one of these extremes is not healthy. But people on these extremes need help and support, not bullying and shaming.
I'm fat and I'm healthy.
I'm fairly underweight and ended up having a low blood sugar attack from my lack of eating.
I'm not anywhere near diabetic, I don't have any health issues because of my weight, and yet it still happened because it was a response to an unhealthy extreme.
The same can happen to obese people. There may not be health issues now but if you keep denying and ignoring the risks, it doesn't matter how healthy you think you are, it's going to happen. A heart attack can come at any moment, high blood pressure can hit at any moment, even when you were previously tested and completely healthy at that time.
After my attack, I still don't have any health issues related to my weight. It can happen without warning.
"Do everything in moderation... except moderation, you have to do that all the time"
- graystillplays(I think)
LOL, no.
This message I am writing is not directed towards you, I believe you are a nice person. But with this way of thinking other people often do as much harm as those haters.
I am fat and to be honest, I don't need random people's support or shaming. I need random people to mind their own business and look into their own plate. You have no idea how often people I know just told me about their diets, doctors, yt food advice etc. Some random ones were okay stopping me on a street and telling me they were obese and what helped them. You know what's bad in that? This love and support are destructive, because to a fat person, it shows you equal her value and her weight. You believe her weight-loss would make her more attractive as a human, as a professional or anything. Meaning now she is not worthy enough.
Unless you are close friends or directly asked for support, we - fat people - just want you, - "healthy people" (who eat absolutely unhealthy most of the time, but just slim or show up in gym now and then) - to not come to us with your opinion and advice and don't bring weight in matters that have nothing to do with it. Not your support or your help or your love. Those are acceptable if I am doing weight loss and I show it on social media or ask you for help, then yes. But not out of nowhere.
The way I see it is that it’s “healthy” to see people of bigger shapes and sizes to be seen doing exercise and healthy activities.
Edit : I am overweight myself so I understand what it’s like to be fat. It’s just in the pictures they are clearly in active wear and one model is in a yoga pose. In general you don’t see fat people working out represented in mainstream media. In my opinion that is good as it encourages people to exercise. As we know that is good for not only your physical health but your mental health. Factually being obese is bad for you and I’m not taking away from that. It’s just being in a healthy weight range is not attainable for everyone as there are so many contributing factors to someone’s weight. The least we can do as a society is be inclusive and encourage everyone to engage in “healthy” activities. Ps Thank you for all the engagement x
That's what I was thinking too but I think its people's interpretation that's the problem. Everyone's getting different ideas
Just because you can do healthy activities doesn't mean you are healthy
@@bobberry1463 No but exercise helps you be healthy and if overweight people feel like they can’t exercise then they are not going to be healthy
Kinda lame, but I noticed I was getting healthier when I could walk up a set of stairs without losing my breath. That’s how I can tell my fitness level 😂
Totally agree. Engaging in exercise is a healthy activity for everyone and so showing people of larger sizes removes the stigma that only fit people should be seen doing exercise. No one decides to start exercising and the next day has one of the few body types shown in the media as being physically fit. So showing people at different stages of their physical fitness journey, as well as the many body types that are physically fit and healthy, is important.
I think people forget, health and weight is not exactly tied to morality. You are not a bad person if you are fat. You are still worthy of respect and love.
Fact check: false
Why should a fat person not get the same respect as a person with "normal" weight?
illy billy It’s not tied to morality but it is tied to mortality. Wishing you good health.
@@lorry2212 because they're fat
@@lorry2212 they don't care about their body enough to keep it healthy so how can you trust they are diligent in the other areas of their life? How you treat your body is a direct indicator of what kind of person you are
Ive never struggled with obesity, but I started getting more serious about my health. It wasn’t until I learned to love myself and my body for what it was that I was consistent with my health journey. That’s why I get so angry with people who go into the DM’s/comments of bigger people, who are bothering no one, and harass them about their weight. You aren’t “concerned for them”, you’re a bully who wants to justify your harassment of someone. Having low self esteem made me treat myself worse, not better
For me - and I certainly have 20+ pounds I could lose - I think the goal should be to support people in choosing healthy behaviors regardless of their size, without judging their worth or effort or health based on current appearance. For most of those of us who fell into unhealthy patterns as adults (hello desk job!), I think we will trend toward looking healthier outwardly if we consistently make healthier choices. But the more you have to go toward outwardly "thin," the longer it takes - and running into someone critical or bullying along the long process can make it a lot harder to stick with it. And if a person never reaches the epitome of a "healthy" appearance, they're still going to be healthier on the inside than with unhealthy choices.
I guess bottom line is that we don't know where in a health journey a person is, so we should just choose kindness. But kindness does not mean dishonesty, and unhealthy behaviors eventually lead to unhealthy bodies for the vast majority of people.
It makes me angry and sad when popular plus size celebrities get shamed to death when they decide to work out and be healthy for themselves, so many of their fans (whom are maybe over-weight and struggling) looked to them for validity and get angry when they want to loose the weight. People should just encourage others to do their best and be supportive of what happens, but its disgusting that some people would rather see their idols unhappy and unhealthy just to make themselves feel better.
Are you speaking about Adele . I don't know anyone else ?
@@DLCS-2 lizzo
My issue is ONLY with celebrities that made their size a bragging point and then lose weight. So, not Adele or Lizzo, both of them flat out said "this is me take it or leave it" and i love that. But there are musicians in particular who skinny shamed women and then got skinny and i hate that. But mostly I hate body shaming at ANY size.
What world do you live in? That didn't happen.
@@katattacksweetheart Research the Lizzo situation.
Just because you're 'thin' doesnt mean you're healthy, but being obese is definitely not a sign of immaculate health
Exactly
Being thin is commonly overlooked but if your obese more people notice
Now take a gamble on every non obese person vs obese person you see and bet who is and isn't fully healthy.
No one said that though.
@@SnickersEatsCookies Your point?
Remember that you can't hate yourself into a version of yourself that you would love better.
Amen!
THis! This! This! I think that’s the thing they should talk more!
Agree to disagree
In case of body fat it's kinda possible
Turn that hate into rage
And rage into motivation
..
And you'll be surprised how well the results come !!
But emotionally
What you said is absolutely true !!!
Wisdom drop!
@@flaredemon9959 how can you agree to disagree AND love what was written?
I’ve lost over 200 pounds through diet and exercise. It’s taken me over a decade to do it.
I can honestly say, it got a lot easier and the weight came off faster when I could afford good, nutritional foods.
I think there is a HUGE correlation between access to nutritional foods and weight loss.
When it’s cheaper to get a Big Mac than it is to buy fresh fruit and veg, there’s a huge problem.
I very clearly remember one of my earliest birthdays after I started striving to have a healthier lifestyle- all I wanted was a white peach. A fresh piece of fruit.
That single white peach was $2.97. And the peach wasn’t even that big, maybe 4 bites total.
I didn’t get it, but do you know how much a GALLON tub of ice cream was?
It was $1.99.
That same concept was across all the food choices- if you wanted fresh, you were paying 2-3 times more.
Yes, you can get canned or frozen and it’s nearly as good. But that wasn’t the case in my area- the canned foods were usually either expired or had tons of sodium or other additives, and the frozen foods were usually either expired, damaged, or freezer burned.
As far as bariatric surgery goes, I was never offered the option until I was actually under 250 pounds, and by then, they still wanted me to pay $5000 (and that was with insurance) and lose another 50 pounds to prove that I was a good candidate.
yeah, its especially hard when you're on a limited budget or even on food stamps. for me especially since im on food stamps i only get 200USD in food stamps a month and its extremely hard when food that is diet approved is getting extremely more expensive. but unhealthy food are extremely cheap
that is really, really insane.
And it get's worse when you factor in that thanks to zoning laws and infrastructure habits, some malls/ grocery shops in the US can *not* be reached safely unless by car.
Meanwhile, I've got the next reasonably priced source of produce 10 minutes from my door step (bicycle). The super-duper inexpensive one is a good deal farther, so thank goodness for public transport.
Well, what good lucky that there are so many people who care and support overweight people so much that they just have to point out how disgusting overweight is. I'm sure that _annnnnny moment now_ that crowd will start lobbying against food deserts.
It's literally never been cheaper to buy a bigmac than fresh fruits and vegetables. It's more convenient, but it's never been cheaper.
I liked that the people on the magazine were being active.
yeah. it shows that you should take care of yourself no matter what your body looks like. i think its great
I think that was the point
I think what it could mean is that they're trying to take care of themselves.
So proud to be part of the 5% 😆 Lost 85 lbs and have been keeping it off the last several years. Changed my entire life. I can't imagine where I'd be now if I hadn't done that.
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Well done!
Well done! 👏 I wish you the best of luck in the time to come
@@benb9417 thank you!
Wow that’s great 😃 go girl !
I am not making a scientific observation, by any stretch of the imagination, but it does seem to me that this type of conversation centres a considerable amount around the female body and comes up a lot in women's magazines. I could be way off the mark here but it feels like that is also something that needs to be addressed...it feels like a very one-sided conversation.
Absolutely. Because as much as individuals wish to say they are discussing the issue because of a concern for health, we all know it's a concern for their judgment of a female body. If people actually cared about the health of obese patients, they would recognize that it's scientifically supported that body acceptance leads to a healthier lifestyle. And no one wants to admit that their body shaming is for ignorant reasons.
95% of people with EDs are women. The focus on women is therefore justified, especially since their health are needs are usually ignored completely or only seen as being the same as men. Sincerely, someone with a psych degree
You don’t need a degree.. your observation is correct.
Women’s bodies are considered open for general comment and discussion in a way that male bodies are not. Your observation is spot on
@@Jay-kz7mw Glad this was said. We need to recognize that there are males with EDs, but we also need to recognize that there needs to be equity for women because they suffer from it in higher percentages. I've seen many female only residential treatment clinics becoming unisex in recent years and I think that's okay for some, but it's highly unessesary most of the time and also considering that it might make female patients uncomfortable to be living with males especially teens. I think the right to single-sex treatment centers needs to be preserved.
It really is sad that legitimate health professionals who have no hatred in their hearts and simply want others to be as healthy as they can be being ignored and ridiculed for simply offering their expertise.
I’m getting bariatric surgery tomorrow actually, this feels like more justifying for me to do this
Good luck on your journey!!
good luck! I hope you do well!
I wish you the best or lucky and an easy recovery
I got it last year. You got this!!!
Good luck!
Dr. Salles is dead on with a big contributing factor to obesity being access to healthy foods, but even more than that, it's just SO much less expensive to get a burger, fries, chicken nuggets and soda from Wendy's than anything healthy anywhere else. Even people who have access and can afford better options are often so on-the-go that they turn to fast food because it's their best quick option in a fast paced world.
Really? Just as a quick example: Potatoes are 70 cents a pound right now at my local grocery store. A can of fat free refried beans are $1. I can put together a meal in 20 minutes with those and a little salsa($2 a jar). I can feed an entire family a healthy filling meal for what a single person's meal will cost at Wendys. Beans, rice, potatoes, vegetables in season, etc are cheap!
People who have the means but are living in a "fast paced world" need to look around and re-prioritize their health along with family time. You shouldn't be so on the go all the time that you can't even feed your family a healthy dinner.
How about fat people would just stop eating so much? Has anyone ever considered that? I doubt you will get obese from eating 3 fast food burgers and some fries a day. Furthermore, no food is EVEN cheaper than fast food food, 2 birds with one stone.
@@CathyGoes depending on the person what you just said would not be healthy that’s a lot of starch and sugar in that. Depending on where you live. Veggies are expensive regardless of season. And that’s if the person doesn’t have food allergies that restrict what they can and can’t eat. Very rarely is it ever one answer fits all
@@CathyGoes You're assuming too much and are forgetting that "time is money". Even 20 mins to cook each day is a luxury. People in poor communities often work multiple jobs every day of the week. It's not healthy in many ways but that's just where we are as a nation. The U.S. is actually an outlier where obesity is more prominent in poor communities. So no, home cooked food is normally actually more expensive than fast food.
@@Al_Gonzo If you had a full time desk job and ate fast food everyday would, then that most assuredly would make you heavy set. The amount you eat isn't the only part of a diet. There is also your body type, routine, and what you eat. A person in an active job like carpeting might be able get away with 3 burgers a day but even that seems like a stretch.
Although that's also not counting people with diseases like hypothyroidism, crushing syndrome, diabetes or sometimes just depression that can actually play a part in weight gain. And unfortunately, many people leave such things untreated because they can't afford to go to the doctor.
I don’t think people who aren’t obese realize how much pure hate we get. I have had strange men on the street make disparaging comments about how disgusting I looked, etc. I’m in the process of losing over 100 pounds but the BEST thing people can do to support obese people is to just ignore us as we lose weight! Not making negative comments in the gym & when we exercise is the BEST HELP.
Theres no way a sane person is gonna stop out of there day to say how disgusting you look. Nobody really cares that much about you. The average america is obeste in my whole life ive never seen anyone make fun of a random obeste person on the street if this is false then you have a sad tik tok victim mindset where u have to be a victim 24/7 for attention and sympothy
Making negative comments in the gym is about as evil as it gets. Simply showing up to the gym requires more motivation than most people have. Best of luck on your journey. Dont let haters win.
You have to be evil or plain stupid to criticise and ridicul other people at the gym.... just ignore them they have no authority they are pathetic and deeply insecure.
But huge congrats on your journey! It takes loads of strength and courage to start !!
@@dansacco1964 Me who was a fat person, i can relate with this alot. I do think everyone in should get in form, but only for their own health benifit both mental and physical. Even if they have a medical diagnosis. Being fat is a health problem, not something to be proud off. Did you know most fat people have actually a lack of vitamines or have thyroid problems. alot of people get fat from medications too. not forgetting that rich multinationals made healthy food expansive and commercialized the food secotr, so poor people end up eating shittier food. I'm against the normalizing of health problems, but some people are vile.
@@liannna212 to be honest, i often give these people advice and support them.
Socioeconomic factors of struggling to losing weight or being overweight are one that I wish was talked about more
I can’t wait for the “responding to comments” video of people who purposely took Dr. Mike’s words out of context
I know right? Obesity has real consequences and it’s sad that those who accuse Dr. Mike of being fat phobic don’t understand that. I bought into this whole “health at every size” thing for years and it hurt me in a lot of ways. I’ve gotten better the past two years and I’m now under 200 pounds. My back doesn’t hurt nearly as much as it used to and my feet don’t ache after work anymore. Walking around with extra weight is exhausting. The biggest thing for me is that I can keep up with my daughter better and I don’t get out of breath when I play with her.
@@annawood8912 I just want to say congratulations on your success. The best example is probably of your daughter, who undoubtedly loved you exactly the same before and after!
@@DeeEllEff thank you! I want to be a good example.
Mike is making bank then, make "controversial" video, make response, double the money
Lmaooo right? Their is no convincing these people.
Loving yourself the way you are is really good and absolutely important, but trying your best to be healthy is also essential. 😊
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I had a friend who claimed to be "completely healthy" aside from being morbidly obese. He was "completely healthy" until one day he noticed he was losing a lot of weight. He chocked this up to the high protein, low carb diet he was on, but noticed he was tired all the time. He visited the doctor to find he had stage 4 colon cancer. Despite the best treatment available, and that he was given longer to live, he died within a year. Could he have gotten cancer despite being morbidly obese? Absolutely, but research has found the risk for colon cancer among those that are obese is significantly higher than those that aren't.
I worry about this with a good friend. In no way do I think she deserves the mistreatment and rudeness she gets over her weight, but I think the more radical parts of HAES are often telling her what she wants to hear. Her lab results might be fine, but she gets winded after just one flight of stairs. I don't want her to die of something that could have been avoided.
@@aepigeons9375 That's a bad example. Think about it this way. Would you get winded after one flight of stairs, if you were carrying a 100-150 lbs backpack? Yes. Most people would. That doesn't make you unhealthy.
Now I agree with the overall message of your post and the video, but this particular example is bad. Of course carrying a bigger weight is harder than carrying a smaller weight.
@@tudornaconecinii3609 Having an unremovable "backpack" that puts stress on your body and makes you winded is unhealthy. Most people don't carry 100lbs backpacks, and certainly not all day.
Actually considering colon cancer is like the number one cancer in America you should probably be worried about getting if yourself. Don't think your immune cause your not fat.
My mum was obese now she's better but still not healthy. She eats little but very unhealthy foods but she claims she is super health because of one bloodtest 😔
This is so tired to hear this. i remember my family specially criticizing me when i was teen because they tought i was fat but not medically obese. Now, in my late 20s, i eat well, i do exercise and i'm healthy and they still citicize me because i'm thin. Anyway everyone will always judge you, from everything. What matters is about yourself and self secure and being healthy to yourself not others✌️
I think the problem is that your family is a group of jerks. I'm sorry to hear it.
Nah, they stop critizing you when you train traps and neck. No one fucks with you when your huge ass traps bulge under your shirz.
I became obese fairly recently, and no one ever can convince me this is healthy. I can love my body, but I notice the difference with this new body.
Same here! I have been a yoyo weight person for the last few years (50 lbs range) and when I am over weight as I am now, I feel the implications of it. Difficulty breathing on short walks, Knee pain, difficulty bending over etc... Does that mean we deserve to be hated/shamed by people we know in our lives or online, of course not! But like the doctor said, knowing the implications of our situations is not the same as bullying, and good for us to know so we can try and make improvements, and prevent ourselves from becoming severely sick in the future.
@@sierram3141 I went from weighing 60 kilos to 85 kilos, and I had an accident. Then knee pain is horrible and I already had back pain in my healthy weight (bad posture, though), now sometimes I have to take opioids to deal with it.
@@marialeon6765 wow we had almost identical weight gain! I was 63 kilos and now 85 as well. It’s awful! Hopefully we both can work through this. I’m sorry about the pain your experiencing
@@marialeon6765 There are always consiquences thats why I do my research but my head is airy
@@sierram3141 Yeah, sometimes when I find it's difficult to move, it feels like you're trying to handle a puppet without knowing how to. It's a strange feeling. I get very discouraged when I see healthy food is so expensive in my country and there is a lot of speculation with produce prices, and it's difficult to find quality as well.
As someone that is obese and has been fighting it my whole life, I do find that cover upsetting. I know I am not healthy and I am starting to feel the effects of it. There are all these how-to adult channels out there I would love to find one that went over how to have a good relationship with food. How to go grocery shopping, how to cook, coming up with activities to go do.
Same, I do wish we weren’t so alone with finding a way to grocery shop and cook healthy without seeing if a dietician is covered by insurance. But for those of us who know we aren’t healthy and overweight the first important step is acknowledging it and researching ways to change
Have you tried Noom? It's a program/app that uses psychology to help you make healthier food choices. I think you can get a free 2 week trial. You get a coach, a support group, easy to follow recipes, and daily simple to understand, evidence-based psychology lessons (takes 5 minutes). I love it. I'm just about to start it again after taking a break over the holidays.
Start of slow then increase the intensity of the workout, starting a with intense workout may damage your ligaments especially if your obese. Working out can release serotonin which can improve the quality of your sleep. Obesity is causes so many problems, for example high cholesterol, high blood pressure, diabetes, fatty liver, heart disease, etc. If you reach your goal it will improve your lifespan and quality of life, it will increase your metabolism which lowers the of weight gain and overeating. If you have hypothyroidism eat food that will help balance out your thyroid levels. Say safe and healthy.
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I could say the opposite. As someone who was healthy but bigger (and still athletic), constant shaming of my size is what made me develop body dysmorphia. I became a self-fulfilling prophecy of the family who constantly scared me into trying to become thinner by mocking and shaming other fat people. I quit sports because i was too ashamed of my body to be seen moving in it. I developed disordered eating and became depressed and I gained even more weight due to the constant self-hatred I felt. Seeing that cover had such a huge positive impact on me. The black woman pictured ( Jessamyn Stanley) inspired me to start working out again. Watching her love herself and choosing healthy options out of love for herself and her body really helped me to realize that I had to love myself before I could be healthy. Personally seeing those covers affirmed me in my journey to be the healthiest version of me. Not somebody else's idea of healthy, perhaps not the ideal version, but as healthy as I can be and trusting that whatever my body looks like, it will reflect that. There is still a lot of ableism and fatphobia in the medical industry and times like this show that. The ideal bmi is not an accessible health goal for everyone. 6pack abs are not an accessible goal for everyone. Many folks are trying to be as healthy as they can be and how healthy they can be is affected by often chronic issues like pcos, or physical disability ETC. These people may often not look healthy to an outsider but they are as healthy as they can be at that given time. We need to stop seeing health as a monolith and judging it so and start seeing it as individual, with each person responsible for adopting the healthiest practices for them.
check kiana docherty's video on the topic
My sister DIED because she was morbidly obese. The doctors were TOO KIND to her and she didn't feel that her weight and comorbidities would ever be FATAL. Now her three preteen girls have to grow up without their mother. Doctors have to tell obese people the truth about how deadly being morbidly obese can be. 😭
That's sad, and i feel bad for you, but any person fat enough to die from it is fully aware of the problem. When i don't work out for a week in a row, i feel worse. when i don't work out for multiple weeks to a month, i start to notice weird pains, tiredness etc.
I've never been overweight, and never will be, simply because of the discomfort it brings.
Though it helps, it's not the doctors duty to tell you not to be obese, so please don't blame them.
Anyone with 2 braincells rubbing together knows this. The rest is just excuses
@@MHjort9 it is the doctor’s duty to tell you are overweight...what?
Just so you're aware, a lot of obesity is caused by either mental illness, disability or poverty. It's not as simple as oh yeah I'll just go to the gym every day and make salads.
@@EdgarRazorlip yes, that is exactly why her doctors should have aknowledged her diagnosis and discuss possible treatments instead of being "kind"
@@EdgarRazorlip A lot, but not all, so it's worth to get that advice out of the way first, imo
I think the concept that you can love the way your body is AND at the same time be obese and acknowledge that it comes with increased risks and it would be a good idea to change your lifestyle... is a pretty high level concept that is somewhat difficult to communicate to the masses and I don't expect most people to get it without significant education.
Displaying and writing about different body types in magazines may be a step in the right direction, but only a small step.
The problem is that there are highly obese people on tik tok thinking they are being body positivity "influencers" when all they do is eat unhealthy food and show how "good" that is.
I’m afraid to talk about these things because you can literally get attacked for what you say
and that is so fucking sad but you SHOULD be afraid. People have lost their jobs for saying the truth and in one of the fattest countries of the world it’s evil that Cosmopolitan would even dare to even do this
I think weight is such a touchy topic because fat people are treated poorly and I think ppl get Defensive. Food addiction is also a disease like drugs and alcohol. If the conversation is already opened then speak your truth but don’t open the conversation to an obese person for no reason.
I’m an obese person trying to lose weight and am eating healthy and I’m just imagining how I would feel if someone came up to me taking about health when I’m already trying to be healthy.
@@justagirllivinglife3663 I agree, it is touchy. But if someone is speaking about it on their channel or whatever and then get attacked for it I think that’s wrong
@@justagirllivinglife3663 of course, that’s unnecessary but I’m talking about the people who get mad over people discussing it on their videos and saying its bad to say being obese is unhealthy
I think no one should be shamed or attacked for having a certain body size, whether it be too big or too small, and I agree with that part of the anti-fatshaming movement. But I think we should separate that from striving for a healthier life, like, no one should attack anyone for the way they look, but if it's something that they can change for the better, I think it should be told, just not in an aggressive way.
I don't agree with you if you're saying anyone should be able to tell anyone else what they're doing to their body is wrong as long as it's "not in an aggressive way". It's not your responsibility or business what other people do when it doesn't affect you. If seeing fat people bothers someone, that's THEIR problem. People these days invest WAY too much of their time and energy on complete strangers and it's pathetic and damaging. Focus on yourself, not others. A fat person already knows their fat. They don't need you or anyone else telling them to fix themselves because you have no idea how or why they became that big and.. again, it's not any of your business. That'd be like someone telling others to quit smoking or quit drinking, yet no one talks about that or even bats an eye over it despite it being damaging to others around them. Both substances are poison for your body, but it's socially acceptable so oh well!
People these days acting like promoting good health is a bad thing or "fat shaming". Ugh, c'mon now. It's never good to be either too skinny or too big. It's surely not okay to shame people for their weight, but completely dismissing science just so that people won't get butthurt is equally harmful, if not even worse. The focus should *not* be on becoming skinny, it should be about becoming *HEALTHY*, so that we can enjoy our lives without too many health problems. That's what we all want, right? Appearance doesn't matter in the end in any way. If you love your body, you'll take care of it. Don't neglect yourself from good health.
@@TheSwauzz I just thought that much was obvious honestly. I think that everything a person does publicly will attract public opinions, such as if there's a public person that's overweight there might be people worried about them that will tell them it's unhealthy. However I personally don't think that's good either, but I'm just saying it might happen. What I had in mind with my comment were friends and family and in private, no need to make it a public scene in any way if you truly care about someone. So I think we think the same things but you didn't get that idea from my original comment. It simply didn't come to my mind that the health warnings would be on the Internet because it's not how I think, so I didn't consider specifying what I meant.
@@TheSwauzz sorry but I respectfully disagree. If someone I care about is taking heroin/drinking too much I'm going to say something, the same goes if they are dangerously over/underweight. I have had an eating disorder for over 20 years, if my family hadn't said something to me I could have died. I think that's what Nick meant by saying "as long as you're not being aggressive"
I agree with you that even saying that in a polite way to a stranger isn't quite the same though. I can't count the amount of times some random person has told me to "eat something" because I looked too skinny. I can accept it from loved ones though 😄
Love to everyone reading this from Scotland ❤❤❤
@@TheSwauzz I hate it when people smoke and would like them to change. Unfortunately, my boyfriend smokes and I got used to it, but I still don't like it. So yes, I do bat an eye.
Once I missed a train that I had run too and I was exhausted, gasping for air because of the long sprint, and quite distressed, and I was on the phone to tell my dad that I had missed the train. Then I had to walk through a cloud of smoke from a guy who was smoking at the train station. Upset as I was I told my dad something like "... Now I can't even breathe anymore because someone just has to smoke right here. This is so egoistic and inconsiderate towards others." When I said that, I was just walking by that person, so he probably heard me. I didn't look at him, so I'm not entirely sure, but yeah, that was the time that I called someone out for smoking, even though it was just indirectly. Maybe it was rude what I did, but I was quite upset in that moment. Usually, I'm more polite.
So I don't really get why you think that people only care about others being overweight and not about smoking and stuff like that. Obese people don't molest me by breathing toxic gases into my face, so why would I care more about them than I do about smokers?
At my highest weight of 160lbs at 5’4 I felt rough! I had sore knees, winded easily, fatigued... I’m down to 138lbs now from eating really well and exercising more regularly and my energy is insane! I get loving yourself where you’re at, but loving yourself means treating your body with respect and care. ❤️
That's great! I am so proud of you.
That’s AMAZING 🤩 keep up the good 😌 work!!!!
I'd be unhealthy skinny at 160. I'm 230
That’s so great of you🤗
Love the thinking of the selflove ✨totally agree
wow, great. keep it going.
Thank you so much for this well rounded conversation! This is the best conversation i have ever seen or listen to this topic.
As a plus size person, seeing people that look more like me on the cover of a magazine does not make me feel like I shouldn't try to lose weight or be more healthy. It is nice to see familiar body types. I still want to lose weight and be more active.
Everyone is different. You have a conscious mind that's why you think differently but majority of the people who has obesity won't. Here's a fun fact: A&W third pounder failed because the average person did not understand fractions. The general consensus was that the public thought a quarter pounder sounded like it was more than a third pounder because the number four is larger than the number three.
@@enigmamyth that’s not true lmao. Being represented doesn’t make people not want to lose weight.
@@nikosoa Statistics would say otherwise...but I often forget that most internet dwellers are plebs and information like statistics are lost on them. 🤡
Same!
@@nebody666 statistics a lot of times aren't very accurate or are too broad
The HAES movement forgets about people with anorexia or bulimia. Being extremely thin, regular sized, or plus sized, with an eating disorder, is not healthy. I think "Healthy" would be a better movement but its not catchy.
It would apply to Down syndrome, ugly people, the mutilated and mangled, limbless, skinny, MEN, etc. But nooo, the focus is just on being fat and female. And like any movement, it becomes an angry hate group of bitter coddled people.
Anorexia is a disease, not a body type. Fat people can have anorexia. HAES doesnt forget about anyone, its not about body size at all.
yeah i love the focus on omg we put a fat girl on the cover of a magazine but haven’t yet heard any comments on the amount of underweight women on the cover of magazines
@@sleepyqueer Magazines show retouched, beautiful women on their covers but think they are doing something good for putting plus size women on the cover once. Society is easily satisfied.
@Margaret Bush That would be a viral disease. Definition of disease from Merriam-Webster dictionary: a condition of the living animal or plant body or of one of its parts that impairs normal functioning and is typically manifested by distinguishing signs and symptoms. Also see synonyms; disorder.
React to injuries in horror movies! (would you rather is recommended, there are tons of injuries)
He already did something similar but in collab with Glam & Gore. He reacted to horror movie makeup. It is in her channel btw.
Please skip the needle injury please.
He did react to injuries in horror movies in Mykie's channel. Channel name is Glam&Gore .
What are your favorite movie injuries? #SimTribe
One thing I never hear addressed is the surgery that's required after the weight is lost to remove the large amount of saggy skin and tissue that no amount of exercise will ever get rid of or tighten up. I'm a massage therapist and I've massaged a few people who've had bariatric surgery. It's like they're wearing a huge human suit. You can literally feel their thinner bodies under it all. If insurance won't pay for the surgery to lose weight they're definitely not going to pay for what they consider cosmetic surgery to remove all the extra saggy flesh.
I really like the quote that Dr. Salles says in the beginning of the video “being aware of the consequences of obesity is not the same as fat shaming.” Being worried about someone’s health is not the same as fat shaming them and making them feel bad about themselves. It’s all about supporting them and being there for them when they are going through a weight loss journey, if they choose to do so.
"being aware of the consequences of obesity is not the same as fat shaming."
Can we just talk about how ridiculous it is that you even have to say something like that?
WTF is happening with all this "progressive" thinking?
Most overweight people know they are overweight and what the risks are. No one is overweight because they want to be and there is so many underlying reasons that people become overweight.
Pointing it out doesn't help it usually makes it worse.
I alway do better when people don't bring up my weight because if im mentality happy then i take care of myself better and try knew things because im not hiding away ashamed hoping know one sees me.
@@chrisakaschulbus4903 I don't think it's helpful or constructive to lump all progressive thinking in the same category, as if people missing the mark on this has anything to do with other progressive thought. I assume you mean well, and I assume this is not your intention, but by blaming progressive thinking in general it makes people feel as if it's better not to think progressively, as if it's somehow worse than conservative thinking. And I think that misses the mark. There are people making errors on both sides of the spectrum, and it's not because they're progressive, it's because they're just making errors. Let's make sure we don't accidentally attribute these thinks to progressive thinking in general. Some people take it too far, and by extension accidentally promote unhealthy lifestyles while they were trying to combat fatshaming, and yes, that's a shame. But the reason they make that error is not the progressiveness itself. People on the conservative side make errors just as often and those errors can be every bit as harmful or harmless.
I'm sure it wasn't your intention but I see more and more people see people missing the mark as emblematic of progressive thinking in general, thereby villifying progressive thinking in general, and that just keeps us stuck in conservative thinking.
@@Kaylee-Renee actually most are not aware of the risks. There are some who avoid going to the doctor until they get symptoms. Often times irreversible damage is done by the time they see a doctor.
@@TA-np4mc very valid point. A lot of people who are overweight are unaware or choose to remain ignorant. All you have to do is look at someone like Tessa Holliday who gets pissed off anytime someone calls her unhealthy and will say things like, "Yeah but my blood pressure and bloodwork are all good therefore I am healthy." Which, sure, if those measurements are all in a good range that's great, but it doesn't mean that you aren't at higher risk for a plethora of conditions and illnesses.
I have struggled with obesity. Body positivity and things like that helped me loose weight. I knew the risks of being over weight, but it didn't help, and the shame behind it drove me away from health. I think that love and acceptance by people loving me where I was, helped me make positive changes in my weight.
No, it's because you have common sense that being fat is Bad
I would say knowing the risks and feeling shame were big motivating factors for you.
Love and acceptance helped you feel better
Mine is low weight just have to keep it the same zone headaches. Good on you caitylin. Lots of skipping baskeball and running helped me rebuild.
Facts. I knew my weight was an issue (I’m one of those people who have great lab values/tests/etc but is overweight) and even when I was making amazing progress and feeling great, continuous shaming from my peers drove me off my path. These things HAVE to come from self-love, or it can be so damaging.
so someone saying to you
example: your so healthy at 400lbs that is a positive message in your mind NOT
I’ve been getting thinner and loosing weight due to hyperthyroidism and I see it as concerning while a lot of people are saying I look good. It’s annoying because I was at a healthy weight before.
I've been losing weight to hyperthyroidism as well. And the compliments are truly annoying because I'm dealing with so many other things they don't notice except the bulgy eyes.
@@aishasaheed7218 Yes!
And this is what fatphobia is.
@@taylorbarnett1199 how do you mean?
Same
I don’t think Dr. Mike is “fat phobic” - I think he’s just science driven. I will say that I don’t think he relates to, or empathizes with the emotional experience of obesity though.
I say that because I struggled with obesity, and as for myself, and (I think) every obese person I’ve met, we don’t look at a picture of a plus sized model and think “Oh good, I won’t bother then”.
You don’t “encourage” people to become obese. If anything, from what I’ve seen, it starts at a very young age and seems to run in families. This isn’t something that society either fails to demonize extensively enough to shame people into changing, or else, is excessively supportive to the fact that people who wouldn’t be obese, or people who are already obese, become a chronic statistic.
It’s a real problem, and that’s the problem - because we don’t treat it that way. Like depression, we act as though you “just have to fix your lifestyle a bit” and you’ll be fine.
That’s the problem I have with Dr. Mike’s perspective on this one. He acts like obesity is a very serious health concern, but then also acts as though people are just being careless or they should be more responsible.
Like anyone who hasn’t struggled with obesity, he doesn’t seem to appreciate the fact that many of these obese people are either victims of some serious health issues, or they’re victims of addiction.
You wouldn’t tell an alcoholic to be more responsible and make healthy choices…you would treat them with compassion and try to help them overcome the psychological distress that reduced them to alcoholism.
Preach--I thought his line of questioning there was a little silly. No one who's obese is that way because they think it's a terrific idea--it's one or a lot of factors that can be really hard to control. People are generally doing what they can given their circumstances, and if along the way they learn to love their bodies as they are now, surely that's better than them hating themselves.
Higher likelihood for heart attacks, for cramps, for extemely high blood pressure. All those things are more problems being overweight than at least trying to lose weight.
The truth is, obese people can lose weight, they're just extremely lazy. That was my family, they were fat, lazy, and unmotivated because of depression. When they got mentally happier, and got help, they actively started to make changes in diet, lifestyle, AND changes in overall fitness.
I am sorry to say but I am one of the obese person who is just lazy and I know many people who have the same mindset as me. Being obese is unhealthy and pretending like that is not a problem is delusional. Just like being too skinny is an issue, so is being fat. That is not shaming that is being accepting.
With body positivity comes self-responsibility. Love yourself in a way you also know what is right and what is wrong...
yep
I like your perspective, it aligns well with what Dr. Salles said at the end. Body positivity is about loving yourself and working to improve the system to be safer and less discriminatory.
It still involves self-responsibility and taking proper care of yourself.
I think it's also important to understand that self-love includes doing what is best for you. This absolutely starts on a mental/emotional level, and your mindset. From there, it includes working on the physical side, and recognizing how difficult your environment makes it to do so, so reaching out for support and help.
Very eloquently said!
@Dr. Noah Litvak. My BMI is over 60, and my GP has spoken to me about bariatric surgery. But when I did my research, I knew that I wasn’t in the psychological position to go forward. I know I need to act, for my sake and my kids too. But I don’t know where to go for help?
@@boccadice From my perspective, obesity is a complex, multifactor condition. This requires a team approach that helps to support multiple factors.
Consider building a team of support, perhaps including a mental health care specialist (like a counsellor), a dietitian or naturopathic doctor, a chiropractor/physical therapist, and maybe a personal trainer.
The reality is, one person can not be the end all be all in such a complicated case. Anyone who says they can, or who says that "this one thing will fix all your problems" is not telling the truth. You absolutely can get better, but it takes some hard work and looking through a holistic lens, and having a team to help you approach all factors will help lead to the most success. This should not be a "biggest loser" situation or a something over a short period of time, for real success, it will probably take a couple years at that starting point, but gradual improvement can make a huge impact on your quality of life and your potential for long term success.
I really like her. She seems like a person that does really care. She has compassion and understanding. She can have an honest conversation with her patients with out sounding judgmental.
Not the vibe I got at all in this video. She's a sales woman pushing her solution, underselling risk and underselling the life long care needed. While she's seen as an advocate against weight bias her work on the topic seem to focus on removal of stigma from the surgery and post surgery diligence of patience. Very different tone and approach to other topics she is known for.
She’s legit saying the truth! Love if
@@ttww1590 I don't feel she is underselling risks, I think she is trying to give a realistic risk of the surgery. She states that people used to believe it was a far greater risk than it is. Not that there is no risk. And she talks about why so few people are candidates for the surgery and part of that is due to the life change needed for it.
love that Dr. Mike uses the term “people diagnosed with obesity” and doesn’t just say “obese people.” Obesity is a chronic syndrome that needs chronic management, not the identity of a person. Too many don’t make that distinction and I love that Dr. Mike does!
He is a good boi
Not sure exactly where I'm going with this but unfortunately the U.S. in particular seem to be obsessed with identity.
Instead of identitying as a person with thoughts and attributes people instead tie their whole identity to what race they are, which religion they belong to, which politic party they vote for, etc. It saddens me when people reduce themselves to labels.
Again, I don't know if I really had a point to make, I just wanted to have it said.
@@-Devy- you do have a fairly good point to make.
"Obese" doesn't define anyones identity, it's just descriptive.
If you think "obese" means fat and lazy by default, that's your problem, because majority of people understand obesity is far more than just being somewhat fat or chubby (which is perfectly fine to be btw).
Except that being "diagnosed with obesity" is not an accurate term. In addition to that, many people are not "officially diagnosed" with obesity, but they are still obese. It's not right to pretend like obesity is the same as cancer. It's not something that you are "afflicted" with. It's something that happens because of your bad choices or other health problems that prevent you from being active. It's more of a side effect than a disease.
It's the same as the way the media tried to reframe alcoholism. Telling people they are "afflicted" with alcoholism just gives them an excuse to keep drinking. "It's a disease. I can't help it." If we instead look at these things as the result of our own bad choices, then the control to stop them comes right back where it should be - with us. I am the one in control of what goes into my mouth. No one else is. I am also in control of everything else I put into my body. You can't become a drug addict unless you choose to ingest the drugs. You can get cancer through no fault of your own. Big difference.
We need to quit removing personal responsibility from the equation and stop pretending like everyone is a victim.
The way she answers and nuances. What an incredible genius. I love her. Need more of her sharing her knowledge.
I almost lost her when she said "fat phobia" because it's not a real term and it doesn't make sense.
I didn’t even realize you can say that you just aren’t ready to talk about your weight with your doctor. I was overweight for a few years and now I’m back down to a normal weight. I think for most of that time I would’ve been too embarrassed to really go into that conversation until I was ready to make the change.
That makes sense. Losing weight isn't just a physical endeavor but a psychological one too.
My doctor literally scared me saying that I’d have diabetes and a lot of medical issues when I came in for something else and not to mention I was like 10 at the time and gained 34 pounds that year bc I was mentally scarred after that visit that doctor messed me up and made me hate myself more I’m glad I never saw him again, very bad doctor
@Michelle Craigmiles I mean you shouldn't be _ashamed,_ but if you just switched drugs for food, that might be an issue. And if you continue to gain weight rapidly, it can potentially be just as devastating to your body as drugs.
And your doctor can't "make" you feel ashamed of yourself, and I doubt that's what they're trying to do. They're probably just concerned. If you're feeling shame about that, I think if you're able and haven't already you might really consider getting like a therapist or counselor or something.
@@bayan3488 I am not saying the doctors bedside manner was good cause i was not there so how would i know. That being said how does it make them a bad doctor for saying you could suffer other serious medical issues? Thats the doctors job what wouldve been worse is if you showed up and they didnt say anything at all and you just went on life without knowing the inherent risks. Thatd be like saying i wont tell you about your cancer cause I dont feel that your ready. Its simply there job to inform you of the risks which they did. I wouldnt call them a bad doc for doing their job. But again like I said i do not know their bedside manner which coulve been terrible.
@@cftyler5041 I was a ten year old child. He scared me into thinking that I was going to kill myself. I always had a weight problem and I was aware and was always working to change it but doctors like this who basically tell you you’re not working hard enough really hurts because again I was 10 years old and already suffering with depression and body image issues. I’ve been recently diagnosed with pcos and a symptom is being obese and having a hard time losing weight. But I’m managing it now.
*you can be gorgeous at any size. Doesn’t necessarily mean you are healthy at every size because being majorly underweight and majorly overweight isn’t always healthy, it just mean your still beautiful even if you aren’t the healthiest.*
yes, people always claim its about health but never say anything about majorly underweight people.
@@nicoleli1345 Mainly because Obesity/Overweightness is more prevalent and common in the U.S. then underweight people.
There are some people in the world you haven't seen that would change your mind in 0.025 seconds, friend.
Agreed
@@TheALV19 additionally anorexic people are usually far more aware that it is unhealthy
I wish people would talk about the health risks of underweight celebrities as well. I was underweight all through high school (due to food intolerances and the onset of my chronic illness), and it's miserable. No energy, issues with hair and nails, hormone issues, near fainting, etc. I feel talking about things like problems on the obesity side is more normal than talking about underweight issues.
This happened to my wife. It took them two freaking years of her high school experience to figure out she had developed a dairy allergy. She was MISERABLE because no one ever said, "hey, let's do an elimination diet," back then.
They do cover under weight celebs. Check out Karen Carpenter. Her plight helped blow the lid off of the Anorexia smoke screen. It's not gone. But it's far less prevalent than it used to be.
And annoyingly its a double standard where people within the body-positivity crowd bash people for being "skinny" and "unhealthy", so skinny people don't get much support from them.
People do people just don’t listen
Like K-pop idols
what blows my mind is that I am still a size small in clothing here in the West even though I am already overweight. I'm Asian and I would have been a size Large already in South East Asia. Being overweight had already caused me so many health issues over the years and I can't wait for the time I would be back to a healthier me. Losing weight is so hard.
I got the gold standard in bariatric surgery with the duodenal switch and have lost 200 lbs and feel absolutely amazing (and finally have a normal BMI). My doctors are so ecstatic and my labs and health is absolutely amazing. I was nearing the end of what I felt I could do on my own to the point of only water fasting and stalling out with that too. I still have to treat my hashimoto's with thyroid meds but it's an amazing difference and I feel more comfortable in my body and the world now.
Happy it worked out so well for you 🖤
The gold standard is changing your dietary habits, having your stomach cut down to a smaller size is not a standard at all but then again, I guess in your mind "you did everything you could", right? Uhu, good for you.
@@Daurentius322You have no idea what Bariatric surgery does for the body and it shows. I suggest you do some research on the topic before you talk out of your ass.
for me ive always been a toothpick growing up. i was so tiny and my metabolism was so fast that i was eating way too much to be healthy, never gained weight from it. i had so many people complementing me and even older relatives wishing they were me (physically like how i was really small). of course i started puberty and started gaining weight and i was still kinda small but not like before. people around me valued my small body so much that when i gained weight, i tried to lose it cuz i thought i was fat (i was a normal weight for my height and age) i think we value a “slim healthy body” way too much, it’s honestly messed me up for life and im not even considered “fat”. i cant imagine what these bigger people have to deal with on a daily basis :(
Yeah same here
I think it should be “love your body at every size” or “ everyone is a perfect gym (workout) body” or “move at every size”... everyone has value no matter their size but it’s important to speak medical truth.
"Everyone is a perfect gym body" is genius. Too many people put off working out because they're afraid of how they'll look in front of others.
Not saying you need yo go to a gym (home workouts can be more effective with the right level of discipline and knowledge), but a habit of working out in a gym is definitely beneficial, especially when starting out.
And if you've ever been to a gym, the majority either A. Ignore everyone and focus on themselves, or B. Willing to give tips to set newer people on the right path
Or even a simple "this is beautiful" would have been cool. Move at every size is fantastic :)
Everyone is worthwhile and important at ever size
This was the most logical conversation I have ever seen about this topic.
The "body positivity movement" was supposed to help aid the people who are victims of bullying or basically public shaming. But its now used as a defense mechinism to find excuses for their "lifestyle" which really defeats the purpose.
It was for people that have scars or irreversible injuries, etc. Things they can't change. Even for girls that don't have supermodel bodies or guys without bodybuilder physiques.
It is not meant to be abused to accept obesity. Obesity itself is usually connected to another issue, I feel that's why it's compounded so much
Is it? Are you part of that cohort? Otherwise stop talking if you aren’t.
Is it though? Fat shaming is still a thing. Agreed that saying being obese is healthy is grossly wrong but there's still a need to stop the shaming and bullying.
@@travis1240 He did not argue against that point, he actually said that it was supposed to be that, and not an excuse. You are arguing against a point you agree with.
@@travis1240 bullying is wrong but we shouldn’t just ignore I think we should punch people to lose weight
Hey Doctor Mike: I'm a middle-aged man with Tourette's Syndrome. There are so many stereotypes and misconceptions about Tourette's.... a video about it, dispelling myths, would be nice.
I think there's one out there. he interviews a female stand up comic with Tourettes.
You could also chech out Anthony Padilla. He does all kinds of interviews on youtube. He did one for Tourettes too.
Make a tiktok about your experience
Great idea !!!
Watch meet pam she barks
Thats what it's about
I am so sick of the body positivity movement. I am obese, and I know it's NOT healthy. That isn't fat-shaming. People are mistakenly confusing health and beauty. You can be big and beautiful. You can't be big and healthy.
And you can be skinny, healthy and still ugly according to beauty standards... definitely different things
As a fat person, agreed. I'm not healthy. I know why and my struggles. I do deserve respect and I don't hate my body and that should be the focus of anyone claiming to be body positive.
Hard to be big and beautiful. Lets be honest nobody goes to the club and wants to bang a fat chick. Thats just reality. Maybe some guys with weird kinks or very low standard
I like what Dr. Salles says about a lifestyle change to keep the weight off and stay healthy. I have maintained my goal weight since 2007 by continuing to eat about the same portions a d foods I ate while I was losing the excess weight and exercising every day.