3 Female Fantasies Girls Are Into Without Even Realizing It
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Always get CONSENT, always NEGOTIATE what you're ok with beforehand, and ALWAYS establish a safe word before trying to play out any of these fantasies. Also please learn the difference between abuse and kink. And don't confuse the two.
There are 3 common fantasies that many BUT DEFINITELY NOT ALL girls are drawn to often without even knowing it's a thing.
Many girls do not take the time to research, excavate, and uncover their sexuality and unique sexual interests, but if they did they would understand why they are drawn to certain movies, tv shows, clothing items or styles, and certain behaviors they crave from men.
As a guy you will often need to be the one to suggest or offer that a girl might be into something and see if she lights up or says she is into it, since girls often just passively accept what is offered to them in the bedroom. Therefore you should understand common female fantasies and kinks as deeply as possible. If she does happen to be into it and you get it, this will cause you to blow her mind and give her an experience light years beyond most guys capabilities.
3 Female Fantasies You Should Know:
1. Being a brat and being brat tamed by a brat tamer
This one is about the desire to be put "in your place". The desire to provoke, push, angrily rant against and have the guy not back down, but take it totally next level and take control of the situation...often ending in being disciplined or somehow utterly one-upped.
2. CNC
This one can be many things to different people and is a surprisingly common fantasy among women. I would type more here but idk if I'll get in trouble so listen in the video.
3. DDLG
This one is about the desire for a pure unconditional strong nurturing kind of love that may have been lost as we age.
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"hope I don't get kicked off RUclips for this". Hell no, we need MORE of this, it's so honest and so well done.
@@mynonleatherlife agreed! thank you so much for your honesty
@@mynonleatherlife what up
Great video & keep being a good girl & keep producing this awesome content, honesty is the best policy
Not likely to happen if no one goes against the larger narrative.
😂🎯👍
I've listened to PhDs and other experts who do not come close to your thought provoking insight! Most of your explanations make sense and are helpful. Thank You for sharing raw reality in this matter.
wow thanks Ciro!
The only mistake she did was saying the man should ask. It should never even be discussed between the two.
IF what she says is true, it explains why many couple have trouble understanding each other. She has unspoken expectation, hopes, fantasies, and dreams and looks to him to act in a certain way. He has no idea about her mindset and since he can't read her mind, he is confused.
I agree... many women don’t understand their deeper sexuality yet and expect a guy to know when they don’t know themselves yet
a woman is like a river that slowly carves into the landscape creating this visual history a narrative turning dull landscapes vibrant and full of life.
a man is like a boulder rolling down hill he is going the direction he is going the only thing that will change that? a river he will either get swept away by the tide or smash through to the opposite bank creating a new path for the river to explore driving each other forward. or everybody's ninja turtles?
One of the most honest channels on RUclips.
Agreed.
Obviously you haven't visited the DARKEST side of RUclips.😂
@@dashermorgan 😂😂yeaa
@@studiouslife501can you share some of the channels
You have no idea, how much you are helping out men through this channel.
why Ashin? What else do men like yourselves need to know in your opinin please share any thoughts with me, I'd love to know cause it's hard for me to know what are the most misunderstood and pressing things guys are struggling with
@@mynonleatherlife I think the biggest issues involve women expecting men to read their minds or give signals so subtle that men don't notice.
Women can pick up on each others subtle signals but men do not communicate at that level, with women or each other. This leads to many women getting annoyed at men or regarding them as stupid. Men also usually end up blaming themselves for not being (for them) hyper-aware more.
The collective self esteem of men is at an all time low, as women assume that the way they perceive reality is the Only way.
A lot of men aren't really even sure what masculinity is due to various reasons, and could do with a reminder.
How to play to our strengths.
FACTS.
yes except for the humorous scenario where you try to guess what kinky thing she's into and you suggest it and she says yes because she thinks you're into it and you only realize later that you're doing this kinky shit that neither of you are actually into because you both think the other one is into it.
haha oh no
God yes... That's the problem with feminine passivity.
Don't get me wrong, I'm on board with men taking the lead, and women submitting... But there has to be some honesty, or else the man has a great probability to God down a bad road.
@@breakingthemasks i never experienced this until i got older. growing up i really only knew smart and "strong" women, i guess you'd call them, so communication was easier. As I got older I encountered some dumb very passive and often more republican chicks and sometimes it felt like i was sexing them and i wasnt sure if they wanted it or they just felt obligated.
Probably better to very slowly build up to these things and observe her genuine reaction. It's sexier than flat out asking and prevents her agreeing simply to please. Just make sure you have some trust between you and it's slow
@@mynonleatherlife how often do women think about getting tied up
The consensual non-consent is something i feel in my psyche too as a man....i want to meet a woman who wants to play that game, but so far i didn't.....i remember my friend telling me how he and his wife were having quiet sex cos a student was staying in an adjoining room in their house...his wife started getting a bit noisy so he put his hand over her mouth and continued, and this drove her into a sexual frenzy..so more by luck than judgement he discovered one of her deep dark fantasies...so i think you are spot on with these 3
Ive met 2 that ik of... they're out there bro they just haven't told you or don't know yet themselves...
I think it's natural. Comes from our evolution. Sometimes you gotta put a woman in her place and just f her. Like we did so many times before.
Sounds like fun... I would love to try that with a woman one day.
I'd suggest a huge level of trust between you and your partner for this. It can backfire in so many ways. But if you get one that you can trust, it's a blast, and help you work out some of your Shadow work.
I discovered that with my ex who wanted me to call her a slut and other names (except fat) lmao.
Women like to feel that wild sexual feeling of domination that comes from men or in case of lesbians from masculine women.
You're a monster to even talk about such things....keep going.
^ This type of shit's a scam if someone didn't know. Fyi hacking sites are highly illegal if legit.
@@jefferysilerjr2330 Yeah I've been seeing a lot of that crap popping up lately. Then there's a follow up post confirming it.
Lol he said keep going. I just tuned in.
😂😂
@@jefferysilerjr2330 Pilot truckstop
The vast majority of women I have been would absolutely fall in this category. I love it and it turned me on hearing you talk about it.
Very interesting, thx Raul
This video is raw truth. I've had conversations with female friends confessing the taboo roleplay to me. Thank you for being honest with us, most women dont reveal these secrets. Subscribed
these are dangerous to reveal cuz you could never work again in the corporate world...very taboo stuff
What taboo role play? Any examples?
This was amazing and is exactly how I think. The deep dark desires of people are all hidden behind a door to what's acceptable in society. We all want the forbidden deep desires behind the door
@@mynonleatherlife hey I am Richard edge I am bisexual and had a fantasy about me and my mom taking a shower together
@@patriciawalker1731 lol
Yeah, but they're hidden behind a door for a reason. If unleashed, society falls apart...like it does right now.
@@patriciawalker1731wtf thats not normal
@patriciawalker1731 that's sick man
Great video! I am 70 years old and over the years I have Been with many women who insist that they have no kinks but exhibit everything that you talked about. Thank you!
Most people don’t know what kinks really are all about so they don’t know if anything they happen to like connects to a kink
@@mynonleatherlifesounds trauma based
@@AV5ohthat’s because kinks are just the corruption of the natural human desires. Trauma corrupts what is natural and healthy, resulting in a kink.
You are remarkably observant. These "concepts" which I have never heard anyone put so succinctly have served me well my entire adult life *winks and smiles*
The world needs more brave women like you.
Thank you for the vid *bows*
It's refreshing for a woman to be talking openly about her desires. Well done. Keep it up.
Honesty. Men should always be themselves it works better than trying to 'fit' women. All the best from England.
A real gun is always more useful than a convincing looking airsoft
@@erojerisiz1571 totally
Truth!
Agreed, you will live happier. Life is too short to compromise to people who just want to take advantage of you.
Everyone should just be themselves. Easier to weed out those that don't fit together.
Your channel is under rated very nice insight into the raw female psyche from a woman’s perspective
Thanks a lot for the kind words. Anything u would want to get some insight on from a woman’s perspective?
@@mynonleatherlife Yeah I would like as far as a woman turning you down but the man being consistent and she “gives in”eventually I’ve seen this work several times & never understood why.
@@mynonleatherlife why do some women seek attention from a guy who is minding his own business, when they are already in a relationship or talking to three other guys?
I never understood women or the girl your after, goes after the bad boy and never goes to the good guy wen she wants to get treated like a queen but gets treated like shit with the bad boy and friend zone the good guy??.. til it's too late to go back to the good guy and realized what u could'a had?🙄
@@wileyjaycomedy good advice thank you Wiley
I like how this all is just plain raw and unedited. Respect and please keep on doing what you're doing. You're real treasure.
absolutely brilliant analysis of the often unconscious dark side of the female psyche
@@DosYeobos True! Thanks for pointing that out. But I think it shows how much we need to discuss these issues and how hungry men are to understand the female psyche in all its aspects.
Lol this womans giving waaay better advance than any male dating coach ever will, and this is inside info guys take note
I wouldn’t say that. But I will admit she’s giving a lot more than most females ever would for sure.
i'm the 69th like ;)
This is actually covered in a lot of pick up stuff. I learned it about 15 years ago or so. There's actually quite a lot of good stuff I learned from it that just puts a lot of stuff in perspective. A lot of guys get angry at first because you realize society has been lying to you.
No that’s not true. Your going way to far mate
@@wakewind4129 nah these male dating “coach’s” are scams and say the same bs that everybody else says, they’re all the same. But she is the real deal
It's good to hear things like this as a guy... it's all about communication and understanding, once there's a mental understanding of freedom and limits with darkness attached with the mind -- free to have and explore with security knowing no matter where she moves or what is said or done, she has a refuge inwardly in the partner and the relationship is secure because he knows her and she knows she's mentally free with him. This was an excellent understanding of the dynamic between understanding and nurture for unity in a relationship or in male/female emotional security.
Damn. /
100% seen and lived this. Especially the "being taken" fantasy.
YOU HAVE OPENED A FLOOD GATEWAY INTO GETTING ALONG BETTER WITH YOUR IDEAL WOMAN... THANK YOU VICKTORIA.... YOU'RE THE BEST... PLEASE DON'T STOP MAKING VIDEOS LIKE THIS. YOU'RE MAKING THIS WORLD A BETTER PLACE !
hahahah thank you john doe. Were you surprised by any of this, sensed it in the past, have any experience with women wanting this?
Great insight, you have so much awareness. I have found very submissive bratty girls can carry alot of baggage, with the underlying assumption that a strong guy will fix her problems. Unfortunately this can go wrong for her in so many ways.
@@mynonleatherlife I have to say I find this subject matter really fascinating but at the same time I am treading super carefully here. And, though I have had enough experience with brats, I am not a physiologist! But it's a simple way for a girl to weed out sensitive guys and can give her a feeling of power with them, also can also trigger a "button" of disgust at a weak man, justifying her to further humiliate him, although this can be harmful for both the weak man AND the brat... as one aspect of this, it reverses the natural resting states of masculine and feminine. This method doubles up as a strong man will see through her act and can enjoy the "push-pull" of the "game" whilst remaining strong and unattached. She will then let go of the act submitting completely. She can then reassert the act to keep the man "strong" and keep him in his masculine energy, allowing her to feel safe and in her feminine energy. This is mostly not conscious for either party though.
@@mynonleatherlife sure. I really struggled with girls as a teen but through self observation, meditation and observation of unconscious patterns in myself and others things become more clear. It is a continuous learning curve for me. As soon as I was able to see my ego I could observe it and accept it when in the company of attractive women. I became less nervous and am able to enjoy the play of seduction whilst realizing it's all just a bit of fun and as a guy you won't die if you approach a girl, but your ego will be challenged for sure! As soon as you see your ego (unconscious behavior patterns) it has less effect on you as there is the destination between what is you and what is just your thoughts and emotions. People who are completely identified with their thoughts genuinely feel the emotion of facing death as what they believe in could be challenged or worse crushed!
@@mynonleatherlife this channel is great btw, very raw production and just honest from the heart!
@King Of The World....... Interesting name sir! I wonder if it is this status that gives you the right to talk about women in such a way. Indeed it is interesting to notice how women in particular have a talent in exploiting ignorant so called "alpha men" who have no emotional intelligence or awareness.
@King Of The World Best of luck coming out of the Red Pill Rage phase. We've all been there
This is another Deep & Satisfying tutorial on common men & women's sexuality & their fantasies that are healthy to play out with consenses & with safety barriers in place between willing couples! Thank You So Much Lady Teacher & Stay Safe & Stay Humble! 🕯🌷🕊
I really appreciate you doing this, Victoria. In a way, it is vulnerable yet...selfless, because it is awkward insight that many guys need to hear, thank you!
thank you
8:05 - Thank you for your honesty. It's very attractive when a woman is in tune with her feelings, desires and wants. That is sooooo helpful as a man trying to make sure those needs are met. I mean how I can take care of you if you don't let me know what you want/need!
I find that irritating about some women, the whole "if he knows me deeply he'll understand me and what I want." WTF! We're not telepathic. Those emotionally games grow tiring as the relationship progresses.
I am sharing your channel with friends who will appreciate it. Im a woman of a certain age, snd I wish I could send it to my sons & nephews who are in their 20s, 30s & 50s. They need it. You are giving such great love & support, you can tell by the comments that it is appreciated. You should have a million subscribers and I also want to thank you for the book list that you've linked in your description. Everyone, if you haven't checked out Victoria's book list go to the description and look for the link.
I am on the cusp of bringing someone into my life after more than 10 years of hiding out, and I think I may get several of your books for Valentine's Day.
All the best to you, Tor. ❤
thank you so much 🙏 and how do you know my real name is Tor?
@@mynonleatherlifeI heard your sweetheart say it in a video (the one where he is answering all the tough questions....very ably & sweetly I might add.... And I also appreciated how positive you were about his input.)* And I saw it on the book list.
Thank you for responding!
*Your example there reminded me of a great lady philanthropist I admire-- I was with her in a gala meeting where the younger women were bemoaning their husbands. She spoke in a few glowing and heartfelt terms about her own husband. I don't know if she meant it as a reprimand to them, but her example stopped the husband bashing. That's a kind of true nobility.)
Please keep doing what you’re doing. There are a lot of men and women who could benefit from this
This is so revealing and glad you are talking about this frankly. I believe women have these type of fantasies based on deep sub conscience desires rooted deep down but as you know in polite society won't verbalize it as they are afraid of being labeled slutty. A man can be aware of this and make it into fabulous foreplay and roleplay - it can be made fun and intriguing and as we know women get excited by the thoughts and emotions before anything physical. In other words a man can play on these fantasies without calling them certain things or making a woman feel she may be labeled - but she can just get into that fantasy and really be satisfied mentally as well as physically. Obviously this should all be consensual and discussed as needed but can open up a fun and very satisfying experience for the man and the woman. You can make it fun and playful plus guys love thinking of and planning things that he knows she will like but may not be able to specify it. I really like these insights and you know wether you are male or female you should and are entitled to have a satisfying sex life and like everything else it benefits from research, experience and learning from others.
Great advice steve
@@mynonleatherlife Thank you so much! Enjoy your insights and they always get me thinking.
Those brats are fun to play with but they can be exhausting in the long run and God help you if you ever get two of them together in the same room because they will just constantly wind each other up!
I find that play to be psychologically unstimulating. I met 2 bratty girls once at a party telling me "you can't have us." I looked at them both and said "I don't want you!" I quickly got bored and found another chick.
Im glad you bring up cnc. I was surprised at the amount of girls I've met in my life who LOVE that shit
What is CNC ?
@@fleadoggreen9062 consensual non consent
@@nomask3394 What's that?
@@D33Lux some weird shit lmoa, its basically "pretend rape". She acts like she doesnt want sex, but you as the dominant male fuck her anyway. So its like the consent is there but youre "pretending" its non consensual. Crazy that women actually like this.
my first wife was passive aggressive and really messed up. My current wife just speaks truth to me, and I love her for it.
Hi Victoria, Hope you're having an ace time! I remember seeing a tv program where a psychiatrist said that it's not uncommon for rape victims to develop a kink about it. They said it was how the victim dealt with the situation because now they were in control. I think the same thought process can be applied to lots other experiences. Another example would be that a person may develop a kink about cheating after a loved one has cheated on them. This made a lot of sense to me when I really thought through it. Have a happy new year!
Sounds like a fascinating tv program. I know personally unwanted experiences have developed into kinks for me. I have heard that explanation as well that the psychiatrist gave but I feel like it’s not that simple. I think it is just 1 theory but the true cause of why they develop is still unknown. I know cause I search around for the answer all the time but there seems to be no definitive research on it. I would absolutely loveeee to understand it. Thank u very much for your interesting comment.
@@mynonleatherlife That's interesting. All our emotions, feelings, primal reactions are bodily safety mechanisms. What do you think about sexualising those parts of us we don't like about ourselves into sexual fantasies to make them palatable to ourselves? The audiobook 'Unwanted: How sexual brokenness reveals our way to healing' by Jay Stringer casts an interesting light on what our fantasies are telling us.
@@grahammcbean6362 that’s really interesting. I could see that. There are parts of myself I’m really bothered by that I have turned into kinks. I like that theory for why a lot
It has more to do with evolutionary psychology specific to females, you see rape fantasies are common in women but not men according to studies
It's quite common for women to experience orgasm when overpowered sexually, so somewhere in the back of her traumatized mind is the need to feel it again. Sometimes, she feels better after she's had a guy who knows how to do it right.
You are at the core of a lot of problems that desperately need to be understood, thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you
Loved the video. The prettiest girl in our group of friends has a boyfriend and sometimes she goes too far and I put in her place in a aggressive tone but she never seems to say anything back she just takes it. The boyfriend you can tell doesn't do any of that. Its kinda like she misses that kind of energy
@King Of The World shut up dude
Dude you can LITERALLY go to prison for following her advice.
@@icarus9097 how? Everthing she talked about was with consent and being in a Relationship
@@noice9163 Yeah until it's her words against yours in a court of law.
@@icarus9097 record the agreement as evidence
I kind of knew this for a long time since I got my own kinks that go along the same lines and I was observing women talk a lot in an online forums about this stuff (Brat groups and BDSM communities with a lot of female subs looking out for doms, etc) but I can't tell You how much effort other women put in to masking this.
#1 - @1:49 The kink of being a brat and being brat-tamed.
#2 - @ 5:42 Consentual non consent.
#3 - @ 8:09 DDLG - Daddy Dom little Girl
@@mynonleatherlife - Content is excellent, I subscribed.
Spot on.
I love the thought of reframing the idea of "tests" from a woman as "bait"- it makes the interactions so much more fun! Especially with that 1st brat fantasy
This woman is telling it all and I love it
This woman right here is the REAL DEAL Cold Hard Facts. Subbed.
Same im binge watching her videos
ACTUAL BRUCE WAYNE? PogChamp
Totally taken in by her videos since I stumbled upon them.. Thought I was all alone out here on these topics.
So, If I had any doubts about staying single, this settles it for me. Thanks for sharing! ✌️
I dated a woman who became offended when I asked her about her kinks. She said if I loved her I'd know by intuition. Hearing this obvious sign of unreasonable expectations, I walked.
telling you ruins the story she is creating in the same way indirect conversation turns you off you are using the same words but speaking different languages
she didn't know how to tell you what she wanted and you didn't know how to ask it feels like 80% of the male/female tensions come from just this alone
The level of introspection 🔮psycho-analyzed by this woman is unreal 💯
The red pill community appreciates you. Respect
thanks a lot DKWAN, I think this stuff is pretty common knowledge tho for people who are into kink
This type of info has been out there for a while but now there's a woman openly validating it. Watch out for the PC smear merchants.
@@marlonlo9661 it's basic kink 101
@@mynonleatherlife oh cute you got a little gold star from the incels brigade
@@explained7966 I try to give a like if I can as respect and thanks for people who commented
Done a lot of this stuff when younger, now won’t do it unless have a written consent form nowadays, because the behaviours of many women are insane and they could easily cause you legal grieve. The 70’s were the best of times.
One day I was buying something in a store. The young lady behind the counter was wearing a collar. I complimented her on her collar, and told her it suited her. She said something to the effect that it's just some kind of fashion thing. I simply said "I understand."
Lol we all.know what it is 😋😏😏😏
Fashion or not, they subconsciously know what it means.
Every time I see a chain and lock, I just give them that sly look.
Hahaha my ex used to say it's a slut mark
That didn't happen
This has increased my flirting game big-time.. I've used this naturally in the bedroom but not in my day to day public life
Some insane truth have been dropped here.. Keep it that way
A lot of girls like to get hit, bit and choked to point of almost choking... freakin crazies...
don't hate appreciate
@@mynonleatherlife huh
@@thomascintron9576 that's the way they are. Either adapt or don't deal with women.
@@thomascintron9576 my wife in highschool put my hand on her throat and said choke me as I railed her from behind. Been married 10 tears she is crazy and thats what I love about her. We now dominate other woman and after our many encounters I can confirm this is true
@@hybridownzDK white night
It’s totally refreshing that don’t give a damn about society’s norms, there are way to many videos posted that are careful not to offend. Such a breath of fresh air
Frankly my dear I do give a damn but I just think kink is cool and interesting
Thank you for having the courage to speak of complex emotions in an intelligent, respectful, relatable way. Any man instinctually knows what you are saying because we feel the exact opposite and are attracted to women who display those behaviors.
It's too bad that our society has hyperextended the concept of equality of access and opportunities for its individuals to the point of disregarding biological imperatives and impulses.
Do keep making these videos to help awaken the dormant men.
I told my neighbour to try speaking to her husband like that if she's feeling frustrated, reminded me of my English teacher who used to keep me behind after lessons for no apparent reason only to show me her gymnastics qualities while balancing on a chair wearing high heeled shoes, clever lady
try speaking like a brat?
Hey, I am man and I want to thank you for sharing this. If all women were talking more openly our male-female relationships would be much better.
Thank you Bez I agree with u
Agreed
My favorite girl always smiles bashfully when I tell her to behave (when she gets sassy with me). They LOVE being brat tamed. I could tell you stories. lol.
Tell more
I think the kink of dominance is a result of women being told they are bad for having sexual desires. By being dominated, they fulfill two elements, feeling dominated and sexually fulfilled, but with the “excuse” being they had no choice.
I think there's definitely something to that theory, for me it never resonated completely tho
@@mynonleatherlife Actually, I had never given it a thought until I watched your video. I’ve been married 3 times, only because my 2nd wife died, and I remarried too soon. But #3 wanted to be tied up and dominated, something I had never encountered. It wasn’t natural for me to force myself on my spouse. I often wondered why she wanted that. Your video pretty much explained things well enough for me to make my initial comment.
yes, out of their control, but secretly they want to be dominated. You hit it
I don't think so. Genitals are pretty symbolic in that sense. One gets hard and penetrates, the other accepts, gapes and grasps. Dominance is about strong will and far beyond suppression.
Edit: during watching the video... Maybe it's about explosivity too. I see most woman like to be emotionally, desirewise to be explosive. They need I guess a man to put the bar, who knows the perfect spot to dominate so that they can be submissively let themselves free as far as they can.
I feel this channel is about to explode like my mind has been.
ma'am I love you. Thank you so much for being so courageous and unapologetically honest and natural. You are `100 years ahead of women today. You must be from another world. You are a necessity.
Thank you! Appreciate you! Bravo!!!
Chris, thank u so much, I appreciate your support
You've discovered an escape from the contemporary maze of non-distinctive sexuality. You embarked on a quest for liberty amidst the unacknowledged confines and quirks of women's desires. By vocalizing your thoughts, you're forging a path and evolving. Impressive achievement! - From your fan from Munich, Germany
Interesting video. It's nice to see a woman confident in her sexuality and submissive/kinky side. Thanks for validating the beauty in our primal nature . Trust :)
Thx Charles
This woman is a thinker. I am the same way 😊 ...Always trying to figure out what makes me tick and why I like what I like
Yes wtf is with all these underthinkers out there :)
@@mynonleatherlife their lazy i suppose,im always examining new options to indroduce to keep things spicy but you need your partner to do this too,not always putn it on 1 person to be creative
That's why most of us are here right? Deep thinkers. I barely sleep, maybe get 4-5 hours a night, my brain is constantly going, I always have to be learning something new. Problem is I sometimes get bored fast, except when it comes to relationships, I love building on them long term seeing how they change over time and how we change with it and how the world changes around us.
The real pleasure of all this starts in the mind.
Women want men to be men.
Men want to treat women like women.
Women first need to be mentally and spiritually stimulated before they can be physically tantalized and pleasured.
You are just about the only honest woman on YT.
I’ve noticed unconditional love as a man is better to show through effort, because the minute I tell you that I love you, something just naturally makes you want to shy away, very strange observation..
By the way, the thumbnail for this video is the kind of beautiful smile I was referring to 😌😌😌
interesting observation rexxx. As for the smiling thing, one secret of the female mind is that they really despise being told to smile. Hopefully you will catch on to that one soon haha.
So how do you response to her: "I Love You"?
@@mynonleatherlife Noted, and thank you for the pointers.
What are u saying, can u explain what u mean shy away? U mean when u tell her u love her -> she shies away?
@@sundvallen Perhaps he means that little girl inside all women shy away. Women want to be treated like good girls, but realize the woman also wants a strong man to take care of them and get things done not just with words. Its not enough to say, you must perform. That's just my perspective, I could be totally wrong.
Consentual-non-consent? I'll have to remember this one at my trial
Key word is CONSENT so you can present the written CONSENT you got in writing at your trial.
@@mynonleatherlife I switched it, please make more speling suggjestions on the internets. People like this.
Lmao
@@Gutch220 you still have more spelling errors so I don’t even know what u switched
@@mynonleatherlife please axcept my humbliest appaligies
Shes is giving some cool inside info, love when women do that to help guys improving their game.
Like her hypnotic non-blinking eyes when she is making pause to clarify something it kinda turns me on.
The first kink is very important 💯🔥💯 This is the heart of the TV Series Californication
ah seriously? That makes so much sense. I've never seen the show but David Duchovny was the guy who triggered my sexual awakening--one day i saw him on tv and it just hit me lol. I have to see the show now. It is a very important kink for a lot of women. I was thinking about it more today trying to get at the heart of it and 4 me it is the fantasy about finding a guy of superior intelligence and the feeling of being out-thunk and outwitted. Like a game of chess, this guy is always one move ahead and always has a trump card that can really blow ur mind proving his ultimate superiority and worthiness 4 evolutionary purposes. The feeling inside 4 a woman is "you think you're in control? Prove it." And she waits for your move.
@@mynonleatherlife You have to watch the show ASAP, it will give you a creative outlook on sexuality and more things to unpack. This put you in your place abstract has always been my thing but once you watch the show californication you realise theres another universe on how to put a woman in her place.
@@mynonleatherlife Funny enough alot of dating coaches allover the internet have always tried to decipher the character Hank Moody on Californication and they fail miserably everytime, but once I hear you start talking about that first kink I just knew you were the closest thing too accurate to the show I ever encountered. KUDOs💯
@@nova6170 ok wow now I do have to watch asap lol thank u for alerting me and ur comment!
@@nova6170 omg. That’s awesome. A lot of dating coaches at least for women know nothing about kink and actually even with some male dating coaches... the ones I’ve seen go the “energy” route a lot and I’m like energy schmnergy it’s called a kink basically idk.
The other thing that I have learned through personal development, is that whatever behavior that we portray as humans, there are 1 or more programs/beliefs behind it. This video here and another one about the masculine energy that women desire, has made me realize that MOST men accept women's behavior FACE VALUE! Most guys don't and don't know HOW to perceive beyond women's behavior but instead address the situation off of the face value behavior.
Now I know to look beyond a woman's behavior for what SHE REALLY wants to do and say to me. Ahhh ok cool lol.
Yea, it is shocking to me how face value men are taking women's behavior. There is so much more than meets the eye and I assumed more men knew this, but now I'm wising up and realizing they actually don't. That's why I'm getting really inspired to explain these basic things girls take for granted to men, I didn't know that guys needed to hear this. especially when it comes to sexuality and things you hate in the real world you can LOVE in the bedroom. It's very paradoxical. And I love that idea of all our behaviors having 1 or more beliefs or programs behind it...do u have any examples like that u have discovered about yourself
@@mynonleatherlife Yes it is true! Our American society has what I call "Media Propoganda" that feeds our mind FALSE information! Our Subconscious mind is responsible for our own behavior and so much more. One major propaganda is to make men WEAK beta males who follow women's lead in the relationship and even in the BEDROOM! With my own personal development journey, I recognized that I had that beta male mindset! I was like "F**K" lol! The beta male mindset causes us men to be NEEDY, whiney sometimes, emotional like a female, unsure of ourselves, and much more.
A mindset is a set of beliefs that then turn into thoughts, then turn into behaviors. There is a Beta Male Mindset and an Alpha Mindset. I am a Personal Development Consultant and I create and sell various subliminal audios to help people get out of their current mindset into a new one. I have my own Alpha male subliminal I use that helps me get out of the beta male mindset and reconditioned into an Alpha. YO! I see the results! 1st thing that occurred was I RECOGNIZED my beta behavior! Then I started to realize the importance of caring A LOT less about women (less calling, texting, and being lovey dovey). My confidence is AMAZING now lol. My masculinity improved greatly too.
These are programs/beliefs and the results in behavior. Get it?
so true - but good way to get arrested !! ("me too!")
@@brockhill1343 That is true to some extent. That is why it is essential to know who you can be this way with and who to avoid it with.
@@mynonleatherlife This is so *ucked making a quest to tell everyone women are ***ores and its true hahahahahaha
The brat/fight kink is interesting. I never thought about that one
Then they report you and now you are In trouble up to years later.
The 1st one yes..I’ve experienced it with a number of women
what was your experience with it like
Very pleasurable😉disciplining women seems to really turn them on..in my cases it made they’re orgasms more intense
Intriguing revelations of some female interests I've noticed yet not always capitalized on or found personally interesting.
wow #1 is spot on. now that you said it I've seen those behaviors in 100% of the woman i've been with and every woman my friends have been with. You defined it so perfectly. The other 2 are next level manifestations of the 1st.
How did u experience them with women u know, please elaborate for us, I’d love to know
Great content. I’m 64, and my wife is just now starting to feel safe enough. To start to explore her sexuality.
that is wonderful
@@mynonleatherlife It wasn’t therapists, it was a heroic dose of psilocybin together, and later MDMA. That brought down our walls, got us close, and talking.
She is still reluctant to open up. But, there are hints, that a little safe dominance, may do the trick.
What's great is that I as a guy am SOOO into these as well
awesome when u find someone who is compatible with these u will blow her mind I am sure
I’m mesmerized with your openness
what do you find mesmerizing about it
How you connect the reasonings women have these needs. It is a deep connection.
@@mynonleatherlife Honesty and intellect is a very attractive quality, you're open for dialogue, easy going and that leads to intelligent sex play and a good partner for life.
Some women need to feel "submissive" or "taken" by a man. . ..gives them emotional security!
You’re right! It’s really huge in romance novels. Take “Haunting Adeline” for example. Definitely favorite in the kinky/smut reading community for a reason😏😈
Yeah, Halloween gives woman the license to dress and act naughty.
SO TRUE! I LIVE IN BROOKLYN AND THEY HAVE A POPULAR MERMAID PARADE HERE. THE WOMAN ARE PRACTICALLY NAKED... WHEN YOU ASK THEM TO TAKE PICTURES OF THEM... THEY REALLY START POSING PROVACTIVELY... AND START ACTING FLIRTOUS... AMAZING HOW THEY CHANGE WHEN IT'S OK FOR THEM TO DO IT. SOCIAL CONDITIONING... HAS REALLY BRAIN WASHED WOMAN IN THIS TIME AND AGE.
And anime/comic book conventions.
WOMEN ACT NAUGHTY WITH THE ALPHA NOT WITH THE BETA
@@JohnDoe-dl1vx fucking hell , culture fucks us so bad
@@gokux75 OMG yes, those anime/comic book conventions are super sexy and most women are very friendly and easy going.
Great list Ive personally experienced majority of these! Most frequent was the humiliation and me being overly aggressive brooding and physically dominant
so basically walk around like The Rock (strong, confident, manly, suave, charismatic, decent attitude, defend your women, do your chores) and cherish your girl and you'll be fine in life. No wonder 50 shades of grey sold over 100 million copies by 100 million females.
Feminists call that toxic masculinity
Chores lol
My experience is that whatever a man is into the woman will follow. A woman can be into one thing with one man and in the next relationship it's totally different.
most women are totally repressed and sexually inhibited and never feel empowered to explore and express what they do want and just follow the lead of the guy SADLY
@@mynonleatherlife Women are sexually inhibited? I hope you're joking. We're literally living in the most whorish culture ever.
And that’s a damn shame. Women are too scared to voice what they are really into.
Your insights are appreciated, spot on and very candid. I understand your position, and need to add the discussion and consent caveats to everything. I'm sure you are very aware that in real life praxeology it is an art not a science, and that blunt point blank frequent discussions of consent invokes the observer effect. The game doesn't work if you always talk about the game. It's like having to act surprised about the surprise birthday party you always know is happening. The game is always risky, if both parties removed all risk, no one would want to play anymore. On one end if the game is too risky no one wants to play if hurt and loss are the predominant outcomes. On the other if the games is tame, and rigged, and everyone knows the outcome before you even start, no one wants to play either.
Well said
the good old shit test.
Wow, I have to commend you on the mature almost academic way you approach this topic. Bringing forth profound and complex observations into the phycology of women.
I didn't know even existed.
Finally a lady keeping it real 😎, keep it going, your doing great 👍🏾
Your content is refreshing and out of the box...... don't change it! Different perspective
Appreciate this, sis!
Very interesting, thank you!
All 3 cases are basically saying, a woman wants to be respectfully dominated.
Wanting to be submissive to the man, but with the man knowing and never crossing that boundary of what is going too far.
These are 3 domination kinks some women have… don’t apply it to all women but recognize the pattern when u see it
@@mynonleatherlife
Well, "respectfully" is the key word in my comment. So if she says she isn't into it, you know not keep going. ^^
Girl, you speak what's real
I will continue listening to you and taking action respectfully but boldly!
Thank you 🥰
caring love and kindness never fails.
She is correct about the Daddy thing. It has absolutely nothing to do with a father daughter fantasy at all. Nothing! It is all about dominance. The last 4 girls I have dated all started calling me daddy. They all still try and get with me on occasion.
you must give off very dd vibes, very cool
@@mynonleatherlife it's all in fun
@@mynonleatherlife idk in some cases the DDlg thing is very real. It's probably the most difficult thing a man may have to deal with in a woman.
Interesting that this video deals with some of the most taboo kinks. And yet some of these are also the most common.
You definitely were skating near to a ban with this one so thanks for being brave.
My ex called me daddy it was fun
Sugar daddy?
Keep being true to your authentic self Victoria
Oh hell no. Putting this out there is dangerous and enabling to abusers. Fuck this world today.
ABUSE IS NOT THE SAME THING AS KINK. please educate yourself and learn the difference before commenting on a video about kink because you are actively perpetuating a dangerous myth
@@mynonleatherlife you are putting out the very dangerous message to men that all women are “secretly” into kink. When no, we aren’t. Your message is harmful. I am educated in this topic, unfortunately from the experience of being coerced or forced into bdsm that I DIDNT WANT. And what did the man say when he made me explain to him why I never wanted to speak to him again? “I thought all women were into that”.
And respectfully,
Turn the caps lock off, sweaty. You’re embarrassing yourself.
@@So-fi29 you also used caps lock but I am really sorry you went through that experience and I can see how the title itself could be misleading although I do clarify that this is not ALL women quite frequently throughout the video and the comments. I agree it is a problem if men believe that ALL women want this and also if they are not fully versed in how to negotiate and get consent.
@@So-fi29 Cry more
This probably wasn't the easiest of subjects to discuss, but let me commend you on the way that you put it all together. You did well.
Well that explains a lot about my past interactions (or more to the point failure in interactions) with ladies. All of those things very much turn me 100% off as I have zero desire to be in "control" of someone else in any way nor as a former sexual assault victim am I ok with any format of non consent anything even in a consensual role-play context and DDLG just feels so pedo ish in it's representation of unconditional love that it's a 1000% nope for me. Knowing that most ladies are into that I can now ask probing questions before dating so that I can look for someone with more compatible kinks and thus have a more mutually fulfilling relationship with someone. Thanks for posting this.
Alright John but remember I am not saying most ladies are into it...just that these are common fantasy themes in the kink community and I see others drawn to them as well. I have no idea what percentage of the female population are into them tho. I'm sure many would be shocked and horrified by the very idea of any of these
You have done a very good job of describing these themes as facts of sexual life. I have had many such experiences as a man, almost all fulfilling the quest for deeper intimacy.
This is the first time I have seen your video. I looked and there are many to watch. Thank you. At first I thought you were a Psychologist, but the more I watched, I don't think that. You seem to be regular lady with a great insight into life. I now will watch all of your videos.
Humans have managed to find ways to categorize and label actions, feelings and emotions, and bundle them together as if they were all equal and then file them into subcategories that scatter them around into various taboos, interests and opinions.
There is a built in mechanism in both male and females that drive these fantasies/kinks that nature has graciously provided. However a lot of the desires are suppressed due to beliefs and opinions others have introduced during development for many reasons.
In myself, I understand many of the male components that are opposite of your description of the females. It is more then just a physical arousal that I believe is what these 'kinks' evolutionary purpose might be. Mental arousal is significantly more stimulating then just physical alone. Many men fail to even grasp the concept and just expect a woman to have a switch, that turns on and off like the play button on a porn flick..
I have been studying the concepts of animal behavior and sexual evolution since i was old enough to understand where babies came from. I've said this many times to many people over the years.. The only reason we are still here as a species, is two creatures got lucky one day and no one ate the baby..
I have many topics very similar to yours from an alpha males perspective that I have neglected to share, due to the difficult nature of explaining concepts in ways that are socially understandable.. (acceptable doesn't matter if the subject cant understand it first, their not capable of accepting)
Consuming your information will be very interesting! Subscribed!
Kink: Exploring the interplay on ones vulnerabilities thru the dynamics of ones own submissive desires within a sexually-pleasing, soulmate relationship.
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Semen Retention getting difficult after seeing this video and remembering these scenarios from ladies of my past.
Sometimes strong people seek a stronger opposing force to validate their self image. Superman/ One Punch Man seeks a stronger opponent. A challenge. Inspiration and someone who can emotionally support them. I love this video series.
Oh wow I love that idea. Genius!!!
She's like a more feminine GirlWritesWhat but she is giving away top secret insights into female nature.
Aye Short Bus, she’s a full fledged demon, she said In one of her videos that her body count is too high to mention, and also she was a stripper,however; she does seem to be providing inside information on how a woman thinks.😏
@@johnnyblaze2257 women like her have the most insight because of experience!!!
These are actually open secrets if one takes the time to peer deeper.
@@joaquindelarosa1215 Only a feminine male would do that!
@@johnnyblaze2257 If looking deeper into the female psyche is feminine then I am a proud feminine Male. 😎