Why Are INFJs So Grumpy
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My name is Erik Thor and I'm trying to drive a shift in our conversation about personality. To me, personality is a spectrum, and labels are just a tool to research specific groups of personalities. I see cognition and personality as something we can develop over time, and want to talk about health and well-being for each personality type. I'm less interested in making the same old videos about "how to define extroverted intuition" or "why entps feel misunderstood" and instead, want to make videos helping people who relate to the ENTP label connect more to themselves and live happier, better lives.
I absolutely hate when people spring things on me. I need a long time to mull it over and visualize when my choices will lead me. I also have my time papped out and planned. I want to spend my Saturday mornings at home, unwinding and then I’ll have family who wants to come over, making me really irritated.
As an iNFJ i hate everyone but love them just as much (its like my duty or something to love others even though they frustrate me to no end)
I hate people, I love humanity. Simple.
@@kyurei4478that pretty much nails it
What makes me grumpy is when people don't listen to me, how I feel or what I like. I don't like presents, stop buying them. I don't like hugs, stop asking for them. I want to be alone, please stop invading my personal space. I know my requests sound odd but it's truly how I feel and everyone keeps ignoring me until I get upset a them and now I feel like the bad guy. Honesty, real honesty is all I want from you. If you hate me, cool. Just tell me why and I will try and change if I like you, or never look in your direction ever again if I don't like you.
This. Why is this difficult for others to get.
Moody. Yep. Causes relationship confusion. (Once we get away from the Narcissist).. we are spinning so much information at once. The outcomes of these spins can end up in a difficult place for relationship partners. I notice I change my mental state so many times in one day. Interior conversations competing with worldly stimuli.
I take advantage of my INFJ tendencies, I just have one day a week I can spend doing anything without thinking because I've already planned out everything for next week.
Impressive! Do you ever keep open spaces or room for spontaneity?
Dopamine??? Total BS. The real reason is other people are simply draining. I feel all their emotions constantly. Trying to make everyone happy just isn’t possible. Then it’s survival mode. I don’t need you. I don’t care if you’re hungry. Work for yourself and fuck off and leave me alone. Door slam. I can’t stand leeches. That’s why I’m grumpy. Not called the lone wolf for no reason. Because we don’t need anyone. We like people but don’t need them.
Independence is a natural trait in Introverted types and INFJs in particular. Empathy is a typical in Feeling types and INFJs. What you need to learn is how to be yourself around other people and how to have stronger boundaries between yourself and others, so that you only help or step into others feelings or situations when you are invited and when you feel it is the right thing to do, avoiding yourself taking on responsibility for other people's burdens. INFJs easily overburden themselves. But friends and people are supposed to be fun. People all have their problems but first of all these problems are their own, and when you interact with others, you have to find a way to play and relax and let go of expectations and pressures you may feel to be the Empath or Healer for everyone.
being an INFJ , even before I was told by a Psychologist who gave me a number of Tests I had set goals Art, I planed on doing 2 paintings a week. I get the wildlife in just fine, but the hardest part is adding their environment, second guessing when adding plants. If setting is Spring. are some I add not in season yet. or is Fleabane seen in same area as Columbine, due to soli? Which ends up I am BEHIND in my goal, plus fitting all the WEEKLY TO-LIST I have . I do not like Spur of the moment invites.
First time I have seen or noticed you on utube. I'm curious, Are you an INFJ? Two things that are not true to me are your example of going to a new park for exploring and wanting to go home to process/filter so soon. I understand this is interpretive of your findings. I'm the opposite, staying as long as I can at the, not wanting to go home. Spending time in my head is necessary, I discipline myself to keep balance. A few times in life, I have had to pull myself back from loneliness and depression. Our need to be alone along with our introversion can isolate us to much. Second, grumpy a lot, nope, not me, despise negativity. Will always be working on this, however, I catch myself quickly these days and immediately go to my alternate thoughts, positive ones, and gone. Sometimes, several times a day, I work in customer service, but this is working for me. I will look for more videos from you,
Thank you, Mark Beard
I’m slightly more extroverted than your average INFJ, but relate a lot! ☺️
I have these traits but I am INFP
Cool!
Contradictions
What is your Enneagram Type Erik?
925 (like the dolly parton song ;)
@@ActualizedINFJ That sounds wonderful.