I lost both my parents and have no friends, most of my other family don't care about me unless I'm doing stuff to help them. I have Schizoaffective Disorder so I hear voices that aren't there, calling me names... In short I have no one as well, no one to tell my problems too. I pray everyday that God gives me strength... I hope things get better for you and your able to pull through all you're going through... Take care, and God Bless you and your family.
You've got one real friend, one you can trust, who will never turn away. One you can be 100% honest with anytime day or night, because he understands everything about you, all of your feelings, thoughts, worries. Why? Because he is God your Father, he created you for a specific purpose. Whatever the problem, he is the only answer. Stay close to him and watch things change. It may take time, but persevere things will get better, I can guarantee it. I was in a smilar situation for decades and if God can turn my life around, he can turn anyone's life around. You got this!
@@toomuchcoke233 I am really sorry I really wish I could help you . The person replying to you is right tho ! You can always trust in god and I pray for you that you’ll find the right people that will become close like family members. Don’t give up because it’s hard for me too but every day is a new day trust me things will get better we just need to be patient 🙏
@Jay.g707 wanting to be alone and loneliness are 2 different things. There are times when u want to be alone, but we are a social species, and we don't desire that 24/7. Even if they're are ppl who do desire that just look at those ppl they are socially inept shut ins who gave up on everything and resort to escapism to cope. Loneliness is not good and telling yourself it is won't help unfortunately
I don’t have friends either. I don’t mind being alone, what I don’t like is feeling lonely and missing people that were never really my friends and feeling bad about it. There’s way too much pressure to fit in with the crowd. We must get rid of the need for company. It’s actually pretty rare to have zero friends. Recognize how unique it is. You stand out to God.
@@Z-A-C there is indeed much pressure and I also miss ppl who were never really my real friends! Thanks for not thinking that I’m weird I’m glad that you don’t mind being alone but we all deserve friends 🙏
I respect you for having the courage to bare your soul and be vulnerable like this. I hope you find some good friends and that you start feeling better soon!
Sit down, meditate, learn how to clear your mind. Remember what you are. You are not your body, you are not your mind/thoughts, you are not your emotions. You are consciousness, infinite and eternal. The life in you is the same life that is everywhere. You are not a part of existence, you are ALL of existence. Sometimes we have to spend years upon years in solitude to learn we already are the love that we seek. Peace and blessings 🙏 ❤️
Firstly, please know that you're not alone in feeling lonely. Many people experience loneliness, and it doesn't define your worth. You are more than your feelings, and you deserve love, connection, and happiness. It's understandable to feel frustrated and stuck, but please don't give up hope. You've survived every difficult day so far, and you can continue to do so. Your life has purpose, even if it's hard to see right now. Your feelings are valid, and it's okay to acknowledge them. It's also okay to not be okay. You don't have to put on a brave face or pretend everything is fine when it's not. Remember, you are loved, even if it doesn't feel like it right now. You have your mom and sisters, and there are people who care about you deeply. Maybe you haven't found your tribe yet, but that doesn't mean you won't. Your imagination and thoughts are a gift. They can help you cope and find solace in difficult times. Don't be afraid to dream and envision a better future for yourself. Lastly, please don't consider ending your life as an option. You are precious, and your life has value. If you're feeling overwhelmed, reach out to a trusted adult, a crisis helpline (like the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255)), or text the Crisis Text Line at 741741. You got this, even when it feels like you don't. Keep moving forward, and know that better days are ahead. Sending you love, hugs, and support.
@@RajaDNPOfficial hey thank you so much for your kind words ! 🙏It actually makes me feel better that I’m not the only one feeling this way ! It’s hard to wake up every day and feeling lost but I really wanna try my best to keep going and see things more positively. I pretty much question my purpose of living everyday but I don’t wanna end my life anymore I know it’s a sin
I feel for you. The thoughts of loneliness and feeling like you’re not accepted. Sometimes, those thoughts keep me awake at night and constantly attack me. But you have to remember that they’re only thoughts. There are people out there just like you searching for someone to love and who yearn for the company of another. I hope things get better for you. God Bless You
@@DarkRider606 thank you I really try to believe that my thoughts are not real but sometimes I just believe them . I always think that everyone hates me and that they are not wrong for feeling this way . But you’re right one day I’ll find someone who will like me for who I am hopefully I’m praying 🙏
Jay, I get you so much. I suffer the same situation. I unfortunately was rejected by my other male peers in highschool and learned to not have any desire for same sex friendships. Girls hurt me in relationships in high school so I withdrew from them too. I resolved my trauma and am into dating, but it’s as far as things go for me as for social interaction outside of the gym, class and work:( I have no desire for friends as school taught me to fend for myself, being 21 now and navigating the world, I live in the pain of waking up wishing I didn’t have this curse. I am codependent on having relationships because I crave compassion, so bad, my desire for it really rules my mind and it hurts me everyday I don’t have a girlfriend or girl I’m talking to. My heart breaks for you, because what your talking about hits so close to home for me. It’s reassuring knowing someone out there knows how I feel, that maybe there is hope that I can find a group of people that feel like this. I hope I can learn to open my mind to having friends and hanging with them when the time does come. I pray for you Jay:(
You have some new digital friends now, hope it brings some comfort. You have a great heart. Keep improving on yourself and become a better you. Try team sports, great way to meet people(not at a bar).
@@killstreamable I am actually so thankful for all the kind comments 🙏 people actually encouraging me not to give up makes me feel sm better ! And thanks I’m just so bad at sports 😭 but will try to find something !
@@Jay.g707 maybe try bjj, good for self defence and a lot of women partake in it as well, or volleyball theyre both good, you dont have to be good at sports people will help you as a beginner you will even find other beginners like you
@@Kasuar-s6v why you acting like u r 50, most people i know didn’t start having fun until 25+ bc of either financial or family problems, you still got plenty of time for what ever you wanna do. People older than you did it, you can too.
Bold, brave woman you are, Jay. I feel lonely so much as an autistic black man raised by deeply emotionally immature parents. I don’t know how to connect with people or myself all that much. I know that this is a dark time (I feel it on my end, too), so I want to honor your feelings and be as present as I can with you in them so that you may feel more consoled. And when you have some time when you’re ready to hear a possible solution, read this next comment. ❤️🩹🫂
I dove into my loneliness this year, and it led me to a solution I’ve decided to pursue: If no one immediately around you accepts or understands you, do what you did here: Reach out. ❤ Anything you are capable of feeling, you can find others who are also feeling it. I started uploading to my channel because I wanted to answer a question for myself that was burning a hole in my soul (and honestly still does most of the time): Am I really as alone as I feel? I’ll give you a personal example: I uploaded 34 videos in less than 2 months, and doing so began to let me know that the answer to my question might be no, actually. There are people who gel with what I have to say and what I think. I can only share with you what I know, and If you think it might help you, I invite you to keep putting your thoughts out to us like this. Anything you wanna say. Tell us your story. As much as you’d want a best friend to hear, you can tell us. I love you, Friend. ❤️🫂🥹 If you need support and can’t find it at home or in your town, let yourself be supported by us. There are thousands of people who saw you in this video, and we see you, Jay.
big ups bro, i don't know how hard it would be with black parents and black community, i heard being autistic in that environment is terrible. i have autism too, but high functioning, which is pretty crappy because people assume i can do everything as good as others, so if i was with other neurodivergents i'd have to be in charge, i don't like being in charge, being in charge is stressful.
This felt like hearing my own thoughts spoken out. Please. I want you to know that you are not alone with all these emotions, and feelings, and all these thoughts! You are not alone. I know this pain so deeply, I feel with you so much. Why do they always leave? Am I not lovable at all and is this how my life really is supposed to be. This can’t be it. Am I really so weird?“ We are all one in this world. We are all connected somehow. And trust me, what you are experiencing right now, in this moment, this is such an universal thing. It really is, that when you know and understand you are not alone with this, and I hope you find and watch similar videos like your own here on RUclips, it really helps so much. This helped me. I want to thank you for your strength in talking openly about this publicly. You really are one intelligent human being right here let me tell you, and you got this. I hope my words also helped you. I could only dream of a friend like you!
@@wvanessa-e7j your too kind thank you 😭I feel so sorry that you feel this way I slash thought I was the only one but now knowing that so many people share these thoughts as well makes me feel not alone anymore! You’re so right that we are connected somehow and I wish that one day I’ll find the right people I hope that you’ll find the right kind of people , too ! I would love to have friends that share the same kinds of emotions and I’m just so sorry that you’re having the same thoughts ! It’s worth living I know it’s easier said than done but i really hope that one day everything changes for the better 🙏
You are so brave, and your dreams are beautiful. When a person has such a beautiful desire as love, it can be tough to endure not having it at a particular moment. Don’t be too hard on yourself; your wishes will come true eventually. Starting with this video is a positive step-be authentic, and we are all watching and listening. It will ease your mind, make you feel more comfortable, and put a wider smile on your face. Your doubts will fade. Keep posting. Love and peace.✌
@@Jay.g707 I agree that she has taken a very positive step with uploading this video. There are many people who feel this way, but few with the bravery and authenticity to share it with the public, online or otherwise. It also struck me how she referred to "not being part of group chats" as something negative. It certainly isn't!! It took me many years to realize that many folks in group chats, who appear to have big circles of friends are often feeling empty inside. It's infinitely better to have one genuine, authentic friend like this lady than 100 superficial ones. Anyone would be so privileged to have a friend like this, but very few people have.
Stay strong, Jay! I was like you for years... Sometimes still asking all those questions.. We come to this world on our own and we leave this world on our own. So you dont need anyone to be happy, Jay! Not a single person. Try to look how beautiful is the sun when you wake up, look at the birds and how beautifully they sing, little kitties on the street..
I relate a lot to what you said. I'm struggling with life too. No career, no relationship, no friends, and I'm getting older. I think there's something wrong with me from birth that makes my life a lot harder than for others. I've been going to a psychiatrist and it helps. Some things you said worry me, like you considering ending it all. Please don't do it, I'm sure you will bring a lot of joy to those around you over the course of your life by staying with us, even if you don't think so right now. Also please consider going to psychiatrist, they try to fix exactly the kind of problems we are dealing with. Stay strong ♥
@@wander5355 hey first of all I’m so sorry that you feel this way . There is nothing wrong with you and I do relate of feeling like there is something wrong with me . And thank you for the advise I actually got one but he hasn’t been very helpful:( I’m glad therapy helps you ! And dw about me I try to keep it up even if it’s hard 🤍
Hey just wanted to reach out and say this was a great first step. I think the beauty of the internet is that you can be connected to so many people at an instant. I hope this video can maybe reach the attention of someone in your area that may be willing to reach out and connect with you and become a genuine friend or connection. I’d love to offer that to you myself as well. Wishing you all the best 🤞🏼
i know, same here. i have been dealing with isolation for 30 years now and am close to 50. its very exausting. i wont tell you it gets better or that theres a reason for everything and god has a plan or it makes you stronger or you are not alone or any of that stuff that other people say. thats all bullshit. you are alone and you will have to deal with that on your own. no one is comming to help or save you. i know because no one came to help or save me. the only way to get out is to fight. what i will say. is i feel you and am moved by your story. sending love and thanks for sharing. good luck on your quest.
i understand. i often feel lonely even if im in a room, or a whole building full of people. i promise it’ll be okay. and if you ever want a friend, ill be your friend!
Coming from a complete stranger. We live in a messy world. We do messy things. And there’s all types of things going on. But you are great. You have something you can’t see. The people around you may not see it. But other people who may be nowhere near you do. Take time to evaluate who you are. Your interest. Who you were as a child and grown through adulthood. You’ll realize, life is messy but your can be something. Something beautiful. But the choice is yours, but you will always be a soul worth something.stay strong. Hang in there and keep practicing self care and reminding yourself that sadness is not eternal. You can be happy. Don’t forget that.
Hello Jay, Ik I’m a random person on the internet but I know how you feel. After I graduated from high school all of my friends disappeared. It’s just me now, but we have to accept the fact that losing friend along the way is a part of life. You are still so young and you have some much life ahead of you. Just keep moving forward and never give up 👍
Hey jay I know how u feel I don’t have any friends either😔life is hard but GOD chose u for a reason your a fighter jus keep fighting and he’ll make an path u always wanted💪🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾an jus a lil advice get in to any type sport it’ll build your confidence, self esteem and much more an it’s for sure a possibility you’ll make some friend😁that’s how I flipped my life an u will too💙💪🏾🙏🏾(JUS TRUST GOD)
I don't choose to be lonely, but i have no choice i feel either. I had a panic attack last November and i had to take fmla from work. I was so tired of bring alone and it was the holidays, so i was thinking of my mom who passed years ago, and i was diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder. I ended up losing my job and have been unemployed for 5 months. Hard to get a job now. I'm in that constant loop too. My life has totally shifted and Im scared I'm going to be homeless. I'm so stressed and am at my lowest, and I've always tried to work on myself, but how much longer do i have to do that. I've completely fallen down and don't wanna lose hope, but this life is something else. All i can say is that you can't give up on the life you want. This is coming from someone whose almost lost hope, but no matter how much pain we go through, we gotta do our best given the circumstances we are in. You're not alone with this feeling.
I can relate to you. God is with you. Here a quote for you. " Be so rooted in yourself that nobody's absence or presence can disturb your inner peace." It’s a challenge but if you get this mindset and you work on that I promise you you will feel better. Take care of yourself.
I’m 39 and I don’t have any friends. I learned that you have to love yourself, ( not be vain, but be good to yourself ) and people will see the real inner you! Be kind to people. Much love ❤️
Nahh, I feel you. Everything you say, I live it. How do I survive? Well, I just accept it and entertain myself with my passions and I meditate when I don't feel like doing anything.
I’ve suffered from loneliness for some time now. At first, loneliness felt horrible. You feel lost and the connections that were once deep no longer exist. However, you start to value loneliness and start to feel comfortable in your own skin, you start to like feeling lonely. But that’s where it falls. It completely distorts and sometimes ruin relationships. Twist your perspective on everything…even to the point of severing the connection with yourself. Anyways, I hope all of us can make it. Loneliness sucks, but for some reason, I find comfort in the sadness. Much love
I struggle with loneliness as well and I promise you’re never alone, especially because god is the only one who won’t leave you alone I promise it’ll get better!
Same, I’m struggling badly especially in the house daily by myself with gerds I feel like I’m burning up, it’s hard to breathe, my anxiety is worsening, I cry daily, I lost my appetite, I feel like passing out sometimes, Life is very hard, But remember even if your not Christian or religious, Jesus loves you and God has a plan for your life. Stay strong 🙏🏾
I wish I could give you a hug and be your friend in real life. It will get better trust me. You will eventually find someone who truly understands how you feel, and love you for who you truly are, both the good and the bad. Please don't let the negative thoughts consume you. Look on the brighter side you have your whole life ahead of you and so much can happen in a short period of time and each day is an opportunity. You are so beautiful.❤
I understand what you going through I once was struggling with abandonment issue as well but Jesus Christ can help you my sister please don’t give up on life I understand what you going through just call upon him I’ll will guide you promise!!!❤️pray and read the word 🙏🏽
Hey Jay G! Do you like writing? Writing stories perhaps? If so, I suggest you begin writing a story book or a novel, if you haven't already. If this reality becomes unbearable for you at times, you can enter your OWN special world with your own special characters and special places and special stories. Then, you can be in this reality, and if you don't like it, you can hop into your own reality, then hop back into this reality again 😊 Keep going! Bad times don't last forever, even though it may feel like that right now! Thank you for sharing this.
This video is my sign good things are coming so hopefully this comment can be the same sign for you. My initials are J.G. & that’s what my old school friends used to refer to me as. I moved immediately after graduation & haven’t kept in touch with anyone, even deleted all social media other than this years ago. Thank you J.G.
Harness your power. From what I can see, God blessed you with great strength, introspection, and a beautiful mind. Embrace it, and you shall attract the right people. You can do this.
I won't say I relate because really I don’t. But i have experienced addiction to some extent and it sounds like a similar experience. You feel almost loyal to the very things you hate and consciously try to leave. It's so painfully paradoxical. Sometimes it feels like your fight is being ignored and so maybe your doomed to this fate. Truthfully, you have so much power and control within your actions and thoights. Alone you can't do it so I pray for God to be with you and for you not to leave Him (cos i know for sure it feels better to form experience). My advice is go all out. Do something so outside your comfort zone and absolutely put your all into it. Dont try and change/adapt your personality. Even as you are you're so valuable. Every human is so valuable. Open yourself to be valued. YOU ARE SPECIAL. Don't forget that🙏🏾🤍
I don't have the answers but I recognize the pain you have and I definitely empathize with you. What might help is if you focus on building a relationship with yourself. It sounds like you base a lot of your self-worth on validation from others and when you don't get it, it hurts. I do the same thing. But I've found that focusing on myself, learning who I am and what I want helps. Then I have more of an idea of who I am to offer others and that actually attracts more people. Now I'm on a journey of self-discovery and realizing I'm actually a lot different that what I thought I was and this gives me relief. The more I know myself, the more I am attracted to different types of people than I have been in the past; people more suited to my real personality. Building a relationship with myself also helps the loneliness because I can be with myself without desiring to be with others as much. Because I'm not as dependent on others for validation, my social life actually improves because I socialize because I really want to and not because I need the validation from others to feel okay. This stuff is really hard and I have certainly not figured everything out, but I am in the same boat and we're all just trying to survive! Wishing you the best.
@@samu9048 thank you actually for your advice! I really wanna love myself more I just don’t know how but I guess I need to find out in my own journey of self-discovery 🙏
I believe it will get better, I have done a lot of rough travelling as well. Nothing much hasn't worked out for me personally either and I'm middle aged.
I think I relate a little too much to this. I’m almost 18 and I never had any proper friends. Not in elementary or highschool. I really hope you meet a friend, because you deserve one.
You don't have to be sad or worried about not having friends my be God have a better plan for you and that's why he get away from those who don't deserve you I am also graduating and I have. No experience but I started learning computer and soon I am going to start designing school So don't worry and we have time to have skills And the most important read about islam I promise you won't regret insha Allah As a Muslim Allah doesn't want as to be sad
@@Litt-bk7rd thank you ! I believe that too ! I only trust god now and praying helped me to feel better overall even if I spent most of my time by myself! I’m actually religious but neglected praying a bit in the past
I get it feeling like this and it’s gonna feel rlly intense which sucks. Your thoughts feed into your feelings so you have to think like u can make friends and that u can do it. Ik u probably feel so stressed out right now. But the fact that you’re wishing u want more friends is a sign that you’re not ready to give up. One thing I can say is u can’t pity urself and feel like ur never gonna make friends bc those thoughts aren’t true at all. U have to keep going with the smallest things that make u feel alive and happy. Do anything that makes u keep going. Things always get better trust me girl ❤️❤️
@@viliviana that’s exactly how I feel ! I always think so negative idk why every single time I meet someone I know they’re going to leave me ! Maybe your right that I should see things more positively even if it’s hard ! Thanks tho for not thinking that I’m a freak or something 😭🩷🤍
@@Jay.g707 try and focus on one person, preferably one that a girl that is dealing with your issues, or a shy boy lol, thats corny but true. in that situation you kinda have to do a bit of the work, because boys are stressed and see everyone as potential threat, meaning you have to calm him.
I know how you feel. I’m 21 and I’ve gone through seasons of loneliness and depression too. Loss of desire and increases in despair. Sometimes I still do. Most of it came from friends leaving, rejection from girls and feeling like things never went right. But God really does make a difference. He loves you so much. He made this world and the thought occurred to himself that it HAD to have you in it. That’s why you’re here! He died on the cross for you so that you could place your faith in him and be with him forever in heaven. You are not only loved by God, he sincerely likes you and delights in you. He feels your pain like a father does with his child . He is sad that you’re sad. But he wants to love you through what you’re dealing with. If you haven’t yet. I encourage you to place your faith in Jesus to fully accept God’s love for you. This isn’t to say that the feelings will immediately go away but God’s love is deeper than our feelings. And I’m certain that one day you’ll feel better. God loves you ❤
I’m terribly sorry to hear this, I just you to know that you’re not the only one feeling this or experiencing this, it will get better ASAP. Just try to start a new lifestyle and push yourself to your goals more than you ever could, work out at the gym 5-6 days a week, eat healthy, go out and try to meet people, try to go on a vacation maybe. That will all help. Sometimes I myself question if my friends are 100% right for me even though I get along with them perfect. My best friends at the minute are different in interests than me and it’s sometimes hard to communicate with them at certain few times because of that. You’re not alone, I want you to know you’ll find your way ASAP. Just give it time.
Look, I had those same feelings, the same thoughts, the same alternate version of myself. Even the urge to give up. But there's one detail about me: I don't give up on myself. And I finally understood that even with these feelings and thoughts, I made it my life's purpose to take care of myself. Alone or with others, rich or poor, sick or healthy, sad or happy, I'm there for myself. So don't give up on yourself, and don't be afraid to express yourself. I wish you all the best.❤
You’re not alone. I’ve also been alone since the age of 10. I always sat alone during lunch in middle school and high school. Never made any friends. During college I’ve never made any friends either and the pandemic made it harder. I have a job now, and my co workers can clearly see I’m a loner and they give me like a pity treatment. I don’t like it and the loneliness hits me hard sometimes but I’ve gotten used to it. I also feel like it’s over for me, because like you said, I don’t know what normal is. I have horrible social skills and feel stumped compared to others. I don’t really have any solutions, I’ve just learned to live with it. But just know you’re not the only one experiencing this.
@@user272-28 thank you I’m sorry you feel lonely too I wish I could help but I don’t even know how to help myself 😔 my social skills are bad too. But it makes me so sad you feel that way sending much love 🫶🏼
I feel this. I lost my grand parents to cancer kind of recently. I watched them wither away as they got worse and worse. I couldn't save them. Its something I blame myself for. Now they are gone. Now I live by myself, and the house is so quiet, and its not the same anymore without them. I miss them so much I have been talking to a picture of them, and my aunt when I go to my kitchen, when I leave the house, when I come back I tell them I'm home. They were all that I had, and now I have.. nothing. Ive been struggling with MDD ever since I was 3 years old, and dealing with PTSD from sxul abuse. Alot of things happened to me, and I just don't have anyone. Its lonely. Idk why I'm here at times. Idk how I'm here. Its hard being alone especially since you have been this way since you've been a young child. It has changed my view on life. Been living with this my whole life. I feel like at times all the life has been drained out of me. I don't really know what its like to live a normal life. I haven't had that ever. Im an adult but I really feel like at times I haven't had the transition from kid to adult. I have just been exposed to adult things for my whole life that I shouldn't have, and I had to grow up way too fast. Ive just experienced so many things that I wouldn't want anyone to ever see, or deal with all at a very young age, and my teen years. I'm just rambling about something nobody really cares about, but I get how you feel. Its not easy and it does eat away at you at times. But.. please try and find something that you like. Dont end up like me :)
@@simileee you’re not rambling you’re feelings and concerns are valid I’m sorry for your loss . I can imagine how hard it must be to be in your position I wish I could help if you ever wanna talk I’m here . Sending much love ❤️
I have often felt the same way, almost exactly in fact. I am 21. I have no friends I regularly talk to, I have very little money and no idea how to be able to afford things, no GF, and i have a unique medical condition that almost makes me wish it would have let it kill me. Not a day goes by where i dont think about it. On top of that ive been haunted by memory of previous sins i had done. I think sometimes that i am evil. I dont know if i am. But i keep going by, taking every day by day. Thats whats been working for me so far. Just Day by day. Just get through today. And i ask the lord for that strength when i need his help, and thank him when i dont need it or when he does give it.
Projects got me out of the valley. Felling stuck and trapped can be awful. Once you have forward motion and you'll gain momentum. Start small and begin to expand you ambition. It will fill your life with meaning and purpose.
I typically don't leave comments on these videos, but I felt compelled to respond to your remark about it not being deep. Trust me, it is. Dwelling on negativity only attracts more of it. So, strive to do your best even if you fail. In the end, it only showcases the courage you possess, a virtue that not many have but wish to have.
Hey I really appreciate your comment and it actually made me realise that you are right and that thinking negative only attracts more I wish I could be more positive about my life I really do I feel like I definitely need to focus on myself but it's easier said than done just do not know where to start but thank you for opening my eyes a bit
I'm 34 and sitting in the same situation as you. Unfortunately I have no idea how to get out of it/ so I won't tell you some bull shit solution/because I can't find it myself either. Only thing I can say is to keep trying no matter how difficult it may get/ because in my humble opinion being here with misery is better than being gone. Hope things get better for you eventually and all this pain just memory in your past. Thank you for making this video/ I really appreciate it so much and it's help me alot.
hi hope you're doing better ! I just wanted to say that I know what you're going through and it feels like hell sometimes but please don't let anyone make you believe that you're not normal you're trying your best and it sucks that we can't easily find people to love us back or even like us for who we are . please try a little bit more for you and keep a positive mind . don't give up its ok you're ok don't let fear win 🦋
@@irenek1700 it really does suck sometimes I wonder if I was born into the wrong generation:( I really wish I can find someone that actually understands me but thanks for your advices I guess it’s not too late for me after all to find happiness 🫶🏼🙏
@@Jay.g707 I had the same thoughts and I know what you mean but I don’t think so there’s a reason we are born in this generation !! We’re not like the crowd so that’s why it’s difficult for us ! You’re gonna find happiness I’m sure. Have faith and in the meantime do or search for things that make you happy 🫶🏻🦋
Things won't get better. What will happen, though, is you'll grow to be more resilient and strong to life's way of screwing you over. If talking about your feelings makes you feel better or cope better, then keep doing it.
Hi I’m Julia, this is your sign I feel like I need to reach out and say this, I’m crying watching this video right now because I relate so much to everything your saying as corny as this might sound things will change time will change things, the only people I ever hang out with are my family and people I work with while I’m at work I haven’t hung out with “friends” in years I have fomo but again I push away others because I’m scared of getting hurt but then I wish so hard I had people to connect with and love and I wish so badly I have someone to love me what helps me if hope and faith that whatever god you believe in has a plan for you you are not crazy you are human and you are normal your not meant be understood your purpose isn’t to know how others feel about your or what they think about you your purpose was this video to reach out to others and connect this video right here shows that your able to connect with others and your loneliness makes me feel less lonely because I know we’re in it together you are beautiful and an amazing person and you will find your people and you will find love it is out there waiting for you keep fighting you are so much stronger than you think sending you love and faith and the ability to forgive yourself and others
@@juliasamp1677 hey Julia thank you so much for your comment! I feel so sorry that you relate to some of the thoughts I’m having :( I wish I was a better person but I keep thinking that I break everything I touch. Life had been pretty tough for me but I’m glad that I’m not the only one feeling this way ! I actually had no idea that other people might experience the same things as me but you’re right ! It makes me less lonely ! And thank you I really pray I find my people and I hope that for you as well ! I’m sure you’re a very kind person and got an awesome personality! we just need to have more hope . Every day is a new day 🫶🏼🙏
Don't you even think of doing anything to hurt yourself girl. I know what you're going through because I am the same way too. You're beautiful... Please weather the storm in your mind.
Don’t cry, everything will be okay my friend, don’t feel like people will abandon you because although some jerks might not everybody will. There’s always people out there who won’t and they will stay with you and support you because that’s what friends are for.
Hey Jay!!! i don't usually comment on peoples vids but this vid really made cry and i just wanted to say that you are amazing and deeply loved by God. Just know that God is always with you and he loves you so much. Have faith and know that things will get better i promise you.I'm always here for you.
I know what it's like not to have friends and be lonely sometimes. It can hurt. It's worse than pain seeing people w their friends that are literally like family. And I'm sorry you're feeling like that❤ wish I could hug you
I want to give you a hug 😊i promise you I care and I understand to a degree and a lot of people do. Just remember you are always ok being just who you are.❤
Something worth noting is that loneliness is a completely normal experience. It even effects people who don’t seem lonely on the outside. As someone who has had no friends for most my life, it has always affected me and it continues to leave this feeling of a void in my life. I’ve come to understand that being social is just in my nature as a human being, and I can’t just change what I am. I think part of my loneliness is my fault, and there’s a part of me that almost wants to be alone. I could have tried to apply myself more, and attempt to make friends, but I haven’t. But the best thing that has come out of my experience is that I have learned so many things about my life. As tough as it is, I feel like my loneliness has helped shape me into a better person, and I now understand that no matter what path you are on there will always be some good that comes from it. I’m kind of rambling and idk how coherent this is, but I’m kind of just sharing my thoughts based on my own experience. Maybe my loneliness is different from your loneliness and what I’m saying might not be relevant to your situation. Currently I am putting my focus on 2 main goals which is 1. Working on self worth / acceptance, and 2. Put more effort into socializing and connecting with others (because even if I don’t make any friends from it, I believe socializing is important for mental health). Idk if anything I’m saying here will be valuable to you or anyone who reads this, but I appreciate you using this platform to reach out and discuss this. It definitely helps to vent and see how others approach this problem as well. Anyways, I’m wishing you the best!!! ❤
If you need a friend I'm here for you. I only have one friend in the town. I live in, but he travels a lot. I'm single 60 years old and he's the only friend I have here. I have not had company in 3 years. I love yet I get very lonely. I'm here for you if you need me. I subbed your channel, by the way. ❤
Ngl i met some of my best friends online playing video games. Just recently was a groomsman for one of their weddings. There’s people out there for everyone. Don’t give up.
never had friends most of my life...not social no girlfriend no nothing...then covid happened then i realized how lonely i was...i do try to reach out to people and build up some relationships but never really works...i did find a few people that i would call friends but internet people but i am thankful i have them
@@Believe_it_9tails you’re right but I feel so weird . Why are we like that ? Like are we really that different from others ?I really hope we can find happiness eventually
Being alone is the world's way of teaching you how to be perfectly comfortable being dolo Imho. As long as you have meals on the table, clothes on your back, and your health, then nothing is really as bad as it seems honestly. Sending you nothing but love, hope things get better. Remember there's honestly no one on this world who can make you happier than YOU.
“No tree, it is said, can grow to heaven unless its roots reach down to hell.” ― Carl Jung Stay strong, fellow Jay. You are not what has happened to you; you are what you choose to become.
You have no idea how much I relate to you! I just wish that I could meet the right people. You can easily find associates, but not people you can have a deep connection with. Life is becoming tiring, and I’m only 23. Sometimes, I can’t imagine living all the way up to my 70s-80s. I’m grateful for my family and all the small blessings, but Idk what to do in life. I believe that we are all here for a purpose though. Just waiting to see what my purpose is.
It's heartbreaking to see so many people struggling and feeling alone. While going through tough times on your own can build resilience, I can't help but wonder why we often settle for just offering advice instead of truly being there for someone. I get it-it's hard to connect deeply with someone you don't know, especially a stranger sharing their life online. But I can't just scroll by without feeling the need to reach out and actually be there, even for those I've never met. It baffles me how hard it is to make real connections, even though we're just a message away from each other. Isn't that what social media was meant for? To bring us together? Yet, we often just leave a comment and move on. I understand the fear of trusting others-trust doesn't come easy for me either-but I don't care about that. I just want to create a genuine bond, human to human, soul to soul. We all need people in our lives, especially during tough times. If anyone feels the need to connect, please don't hesitate to reach out. I'm here for you. Remember, you're not alone, and never give up! Sending love to everyone. Let me be your friend!!
making friends is hard man I tried so many times getting out of my comfort zone😂 maybe because I’m mildly autistic also got social anxiety which made me even more cooked but idk maybe things won’t get better but you’ll get stronger
See it this way you're never alone if you have family and you have God, plus remember we are born alone and we die alone. Keep your head up as being alone for a while is good it'll help you find yourself. Also love yourself first and then this will be mirrored to you by others. Everything starts with self.
I lost both my parents and have no friends, most of my other family don't care about me unless I'm doing stuff to help them. I have Schizoaffective Disorder so I hear voices that aren't there, calling me names... In short I have no one as well, no one to tell my problems too. I pray everyday that God gives me strength... I hope things get better for you and your able to pull through all you're going through... Take care, and God Bless you and your family.
You've got one real friend, one you can trust, who will never turn away. One you can be 100% honest with anytime day or night, because he understands everything about you, all of your feelings, thoughts, worries.
Why? Because he is God your Father, he created you for a specific purpose.
Whatever the problem, he is the only answer.
Stay close to him and watch things change. It may take time, but persevere things will get better, I can guarantee it.
I was in a smilar situation for decades and if God can turn my life around, he can turn anyone's life around.
You got this!
@@squareapples5118that's the sweetest thing ever bravo 💗💗💕💕totally agree only with God's help and love ❤❤
@@toomuchcoke233 I am really sorry I really wish I could help you . The person replying to you is right tho ! You can always trust in god and I pray for you that you’ll find the right people that will become close like family members. Don’t give up because it’s hard for me too but every day is a new day trust me things will get better we just need to be patient 🙏
I used to hear voces i listen to rife frequency for alucination and now i dont listen
You’re pretty I’ll be your friend 🥰💕
accept loneliness.
Isolation is a gentle friend,
Where self-discovery has no end
@@yungali8612 but it’s also hard tho to accept it
@@Jay.g707 its not permanent, things will get better once you discover yourself
Accept Solitude, not loneliness. Being alone is being with yourself. You are not lonely.
@@avengingsylph that’s a good way to think of it thank you !
@Jay.g707 wanting to be alone and loneliness are 2 different things. There are times when u want to be alone, but we are a social species, and we don't desire that 24/7. Even if they're are ppl who do desire that just look at those ppl they are socially inept shut ins who gave up on everything and resort to escapism to cope. Loneliness is not good and telling yourself it is won't help unfortunately
You could model! Your features are top notch
@@Bratlolxoxo Omg you’re too kind thank you 😭🩷
I don’t have friends either. I don’t mind being alone, what I don’t like is feeling lonely and missing people that were never really my friends and feeling bad about it. There’s way too much pressure to fit in with the crowd. We must get rid of the need for company. It’s actually pretty rare to have zero friends. Recognize how unique it is. You stand out to God.
@@Z-A-C there is indeed much pressure and I also miss ppl who were never really my real friends! Thanks for not thinking that I’m weird I’m glad that you don’t mind being alone but we all deserve friends 🙏
@@Jay.g707miss i go through the same tings as you you are not crayz i dont judge you at all queen
I respect you for having the courage to bare your soul and be vulnerable like this. I hope you find some good friends and that you start feeling better soon!
@@chimpchimpleton3528 thank you !it wasn’t definitely an easy thing to do but I just felt so hopeless
Sit down, meditate, learn how to clear your mind. Remember what you are. You are not your body, you are not your mind/thoughts, you are not your emotions. You are consciousness, infinite and eternal. The life in you is the same life that is everywhere. You are not a part of existence, you are ALL of existence. Sometimes we have to spend years upon years in solitude to learn we already are the love that we seek. Peace and blessings 🙏 ❤️
Firstly, please know that you're not alone in feeling lonely. Many people experience loneliness, and it doesn't define your worth. You are more than your feelings, and you deserve love, connection, and happiness.
It's understandable to feel frustrated and stuck, but please don't give up hope. You've survived every difficult day so far, and you can continue to do so. Your life has purpose, even if it's hard to see right now.
Your feelings are valid, and it's okay to acknowledge them. It's also okay to not be okay. You don't have to put on a brave face or pretend everything is fine when it's not.
Remember, you are loved, even if it doesn't feel like it right now. You have your mom and sisters, and there are people who care about you deeply. Maybe you haven't found your tribe yet, but that doesn't mean you won't.
Your imagination and thoughts are a gift. They can help you cope and find solace in difficult times. Don't be afraid to dream and envision a better future for yourself.
Lastly, please don't consider ending your life as an option. You are precious, and your life has value. If you're feeling overwhelmed, reach out to a trusted adult, a crisis helpline (like the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255)), or text the Crisis Text Line at 741741.
You got this, even when it feels like you don't. Keep moving forward, and know that better days are ahead. Sending you love, hugs, and support.
@@RajaDNPOfficial hey thank you so much for your kind words ! 🙏It actually makes me feel better that I’m not the only one feeling this way ! It’s hard to wake up every day and feeling lost but I really wanna try my best to keep going and see things more positively. I pretty much question my purpose of living everyday but I don’t wanna end my life anymore I know it’s a sin
This^
Same. I haven’t had friends in 11 years. Hope we all get fixed soon
Friend
I feel for you. The thoughts of loneliness and feeling like you’re not accepted. Sometimes, those thoughts keep me awake at night and constantly attack me. But you have to remember that they’re only thoughts. There are people out there just like you searching for someone to love and who yearn for the company of another.
I hope things get better for you. God Bless You
@@DarkRider606 thank you I really try to believe that my thoughts are not real but sometimes I just believe them . I always think that everyone hates me and that they are not wrong for feeling this way . But you’re right one day I’ll find someone who will like me for who I am hopefully I’m praying 🙏
@@Jay.g707Excatly How I Feel And It Really Really Upsets Me And Frustrates Me Tremendously Bigtime
Keep going. I can definitely relate to you. It's not easy. But you gotta continue to push on.
True❤
@@MoveInSilence919 thank you 🤍and yes it’s not easy at all
same i dont have friends.. we do not need friends but we can have people in life
Jay, I get you so much. I suffer the same situation. I unfortunately was rejected by my other male peers in highschool and learned to not have any desire for same sex friendships. Girls hurt me in relationships in high school so I withdrew from them too. I resolved my trauma and am into dating, but it’s as far as things go for me as for social interaction outside of the gym, class and work:(
I have no desire for friends as school taught me to fend for myself, being 21 now and navigating the world, I live in the pain of waking up wishing I didn’t have this curse. I am codependent on having relationships because I crave compassion, so bad, my desire for it really rules my mind and it hurts me everyday I don’t have a girlfriend or girl I’m talking to. My heart breaks for you, because what your talking about hits so close to home for me. It’s reassuring knowing someone out there knows how I feel, that maybe there is hope that I can find a group of people that feel like this. I hope I can learn to open my mind to having friends and hanging with them when the time does come. I pray for you Jay:(
You have some new digital friends now, hope it brings some comfort. You have a great heart. Keep improving on yourself and become a better you. Try team sports, great way to meet people(not at a bar).
@@killstreamable I am actually so thankful for all the kind comments 🙏 people actually encouraging me not to give up makes me feel sm better ! And thanks I’m just so bad at sports 😭 but will try to find something !
@@Jay.g707 maybe try bjj, good for self defence and a lot of women partake in it as well, or volleyball theyre both good, you dont have to be good at sports people will help you as a beginner you will even find other beginners like you
@@ShinmenTakezo. thank you so much :)
@@Jay.g707 your welcome :)
Jay, you are wonderful. Stay strong, it will get better. Trust me.
@@HJGAMER-tj8uyit actually gets better, but not on its on lil bro
as a 28 year old i can say no it doesn't
@@Kasuar-s6v why you acting like u r 50, most people i know didn’t start having fun until 25+ bc of either financial or family problems, you still got plenty of time for what ever you wanna do.
People older than you did it, you can too.
@Bloomedsun yeah but who wants to be that old
@@LilXancheX someone who doesn’t want to be stuck while everyone is outgrowing them
I understand. Feel bad until you feel good. You got this 👌🙌💪💯
Bold, brave woman you are, Jay.
I feel lonely so much as an autistic black man raised by deeply emotionally immature parents.
I don’t know how to connect with people or myself all that much.
I know that this is a dark time (I feel it on my end, too), so I want to honor your feelings and be as present as I can with you in them so that you may feel more consoled. And when you have some time when you’re ready to hear a possible solution, read this next comment. ❤️🩹🫂
I dove into my loneliness this year, and it led me to a solution I’ve decided to pursue:
If no one immediately around you accepts or understands you, do what you did here:
Reach out. ❤
Anything you are capable of feeling, you can find others who are also feeling it. I started uploading to my channel because I wanted to answer a question for myself that was burning a hole in my soul (and honestly still does most of the time):
Am I really as alone as I feel?
I’ll give you a personal example: I uploaded 34 videos in less than 2 months, and doing so began to let me know that the answer to my question might be no, actually. There are people who gel with what I have to say and what I think.
I can only share with you what I know, and If you think it might help you, I invite you to keep putting your thoughts out to us like this. Anything you wanna say.
Tell us your story. As much as you’d want a best friend to hear, you can tell us.
I love you, Friend. ❤️🫂🥹 If you need support and can’t find it at home or in your town, let yourself be supported by us. There are thousands of people who saw you in this video, and we see you, Jay.
big ups bro, i don't know how hard it would be with black parents and black community, i heard being autistic in that environment is terrible. i have autism too, but high functioning, which is pretty crappy because people assume i can do everything as good as others, so if i was with other neurodivergents i'd have to be in charge, i don't like being in charge, being in charge is stressful.
This felt like hearing my own thoughts spoken out. Please. I want you to know that you are not alone with all these emotions, and feelings, and all these thoughts! You are not alone. I know this pain so deeply, I feel with you so much. Why do they always leave? Am I not lovable at all and is this how my life really is supposed to be. This can’t be it. Am I really so weird?“
We are all one in this world. We are all connected somehow. And trust me, what you are experiencing right now, in this moment, this is such an universal thing. It really is, that when you know and understand you are not alone with this, and I hope you find and watch similar videos like your own here on RUclips, it really helps so much. This helped me. I want to thank you for your strength in talking openly about this publicly. You really are one intelligent human being right here let me tell you, and you got this. I hope my words also helped you. I could only dream of a friend like you!
@@wvanessa-e7j your too kind thank you 😭I feel so sorry that you feel this way I slash thought I was the only one but now knowing that so many people share these thoughts as well makes me feel not alone anymore! You’re so right that we are connected somehow and I wish that one day I’ll find the right people I hope that you’ll find the right kind of people , too ! I would love to have friends that share the same kinds of emotions and I’m just so sorry that you’re having the same thoughts ! It’s worth living I know it’s easier said than done but i really hope that one day everything changes for the better 🙏
you are so brave for putting this out there! just know real ones barely have anybody💯
I Could Relate Love Thank You For Sharing I Hope It Gets Better For All Of Us Sis.
Be Safe XOXO💚
@@dschannel5859 I hope so too thank you xx🤍
@@Jay.g707 U Welcome Hun
You are so brave, and your dreams are beautiful. When a person has such a beautiful desire as love, it can be tough to endure not having it at a particular moment. Don’t be too hard on yourself; your wishes will come true eventually. Starting with this video is a positive step-be authentic, and we are all watching and listening. It will ease your mind, make you feel more comfortable, and put a wider smile on your face. Your doubts will fade. Keep posting. Love and peace.✌
@@jessepinkman1853 thank you so much ! I really do hope my wishes come true 🙏
@@Jay.g707 I agree that she has taken a very positive step with uploading this video. There are many people who feel this way, but few with the bravery and authenticity to share it with the public, online or otherwise.
It also struck me how she referred to "not being part of group chats" as something negative. It certainly isn't!!
It took me many years to realize that many folks in group chats, who appear to have big circles of friends are often feeling empty inside.
It's infinitely better to have one genuine, authentic friend like this lady than 100 superficial ones.
Anyone would be so privileged to have a friend like this, but very few people have.
@squareapples5118 I used to. But people change…
I am happy you made this video; I needed it. Please know, you aren't alone. I share much of the same feelings as you. Stay strong. ❤
Stay strong, Jay! I was like you for years... Sometimes still asking all those questions.. We come to this world on our own and we leave this world on our own. So you dont need anyone to be happy, Jay! Not a single person. Try to look how beautiful is the sun when you wake up, look at the birds and how beautifully they sing, little kitties on the street..
I relate a lot to what you said. I'm struggling with life too. No career, no relationship, no friends, and I'm getting older. I think there's something wrong with me from birth that makes my life a lot harder than for others. I've been going to a psychiatrist and it helps.
Some things you said worry me, like you considering ending it all. Please don't do it, I'm sure you will bring a lot of joy to those around you over the course of your life by staying with us, even if you don't think so right now. Also please consider going to psychiatrist, they try to fix exactly the kind of problems we are dealing with. Stay strong ♥
@@wander5355 hey first of all I’m so sorry that you feel this way . There is nothing wrong with you and I do relate of feeling like there is something wrong with me . And thank you for the advise I actually got one but he hasn’t been very helpful:( I’m glad therapy helps you ! And dw about me I try to keep it up even if it’s hard 🤍
You are not alone !! God Loves you! And that's the best love you can ask for !!
@@Ghostherob thank you I really hope that he does love me I keep praying that I’ll feel better soon !
@herahera9226 he does ! You on earth for a purpose
Hey just wanted to reach out and say this was a great first step. I think the beauty of the internet is that you can be connected to so many people at an instant. I hope this video can maybe reach the attention of someone in your area that may be willing to reach out and connect with you and become a genuine friend or connection. I’d love to offer that to you myself as well. Wishing you all the best 🤞🏼
A lot of people can relate, you're not alone. Its a tough battle but every challenge makes you stronger 💪 keep on keepin' on, you'll get through this!
YOU REALLY DESERVE FRIENDS, YOU ARE NICE AND BRAVE TO TELL YOUR LIFE, COME ON JAY, IF YOU WANT A FRIEND, I WILL BE YOUR FRIEND 🤝♥️
I’m gonna pray that God guide’s you on your path and opens doors filled with blessings and opportunities and give you an abundant life amen. 🙏🏻 ❤❤
@@BlessedbyJesus777 that’s honestly so kind of you thank you 🙏🤍🤍
Or the flying spaghetti monster
i know, same here. i have been dealing with isolation for 30 years now and am close to 50. its very exausting. i wont tell you it gets better or that theres a reason for everything and god has a plan or it makes you stronger or you are not alone or any of that stuff that other people say. thats all bullshit. you are alone and you will have to deal with that on your own. no one is comming to help or save you. i know because no one came to help or save me. the only way to get out is to fight. what i will say. is i feel you and am moved by your story. sending love and thanks for sharing. good luck on your quest.
Your beautiful,smart,hot,kind and u don't deserve to be alone we got u
i understand. i often feel lonely even if im in a room, or a whole building full of people. i promise it’ll be okay. and if you ever want a friend, ill be your friend!
Coming from a complete stranger. We live in a messy world. We do messy things. And there’s all types of things going on. But you are great. You have something you can’t see. The people around you may not see it. But other people who may be nowhere near you do. Take time to evaluate who you are. Your interest. Who you were as a child and grown through adulthood. You’ll realize, life is messy but your can be something. Something beautiful. But the choice is yours, but you will always be a soul worth something.stay strong. Hang in there and keep practicing self care and reminding yourself that sadness is not eternal. You can be happy. Don’t forget that.
@@Blakkoutval thank you for your kind world . It’s true that we live in a messy world it sucks but I hope that eventually I’ll feel better
Hello Jay,
Ik I’m a random person on the internet but I know how you feel. After I graduated from high school all of my friends disappeared. It’s just me now, but we have to accept the fact that losing friend along the way is a part of life. You are still so young and you have some much life ahead of you. Just keep moving forward and never give up 👍
Hey jay I know how u feel I don’t have any friends either😔life is hard but GOD chose u for a reason your a fighter jus keep fighting and he’ll make an path u always wanted💪🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾an jus a lil advice get in to any type sport it’ll build your confidence, self esteem and much more an it’s for sure a possibility you’ll make some friend😁that’s how I flipped my life an u will too💙💪🏾🙏🏾(JUS TRUST GOD)
I don't choose to be lonely, but i have no choice i feel either. I had a panic attack last November and i had to take fmla from work. I was so tired of bring alone and it was the holidays, so i was thinking of my mom who passed years ago, and i was diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder. I ended up losing my job and have been unemployed for 5 months. Hard to get a job now. I'm in that constant loop too. My life has totally shifted and Im scared I'm going to be homeless. I'm so stressed and am at my lowest, and I've always tried to work on myself, but how much longer do i have to do that. I've completely fallen down and don't wanna lose hope, but this life is something else. All i can say is that you can't give up on the life you want. This is coming from someone whose almost lost hope, but no matter how much pain we go through, we gotta do our best given the circumstances we are in. You're not alone with this feeling.
I can relate to you. God is with you. Here a quote for you. " Be so rooted in yourself that nobody's absence or presence can disturb your inner peace." It’s a challenge but if you get this mindset and you work on that I promise you you will feel better. Take care of yourself.
@@alextuyidebe thank you for your kind words and yes i really pray that I’ll feel better eventually thank you so much for the quote it did help me 🙏
I’m 39 and I don’t have any friends. I learned that you have to love yourself, ( not be vain, but be good to yourself ) and people will see the real inner you! Be kind to people. Much love ❤️
Nahh, I feel you. Everything you say, I live it. How do I survive? Well, I just accept it and entertain myself with my passions and I meditate when I don't feel like doing anything.
Things will get better. Stay strong. I can tell you have a beautiful heart and soul. People like you always find their way. Always. 🙏
I’ve suffered from loneliness for some time now. At first, loneliness felt horrible. You feel lost and the connections that were once deep no longer exist. However, you start to value loneliness and start to feel comfortable in your own skin, you start to like feeling lonely. But that’s where it falls. It completely distorts and sometimes ruin relationships. Twist your perspective on everything…even to the point of severing the connection with yourself.
Anyways, I hope all of us can make it. Loneliness sucks, but for some reason, I find comfort in the sadness. Much love
@@ponderingeyesO_O thank you and yes loneliness can be scary at the beginning I guess I’m almost used it to it now
Stay strong queen. Just know that everything is temporary you will find your purpose.
You’re beautiful Jay ❤️💯
I struggle with loneliness as well and I promise you’re never alone, especially because god is the only one who won’t leave you alone I promise it’ll get better!
i understand the pain and frustration, its a terrible sensation to feel. i hope u finding healing in your journey
Same, I’m struggling badly especially in the house daily by myself with gerds I feel like I’m burning up, it’s hard to breathe, my anxiety is worsening, I cry daily, I lost my appetite, I feel like passing out sometimes, Life is very hard, But remember even if your not Christian or religious, Jesus loves you and God has a plan for your life. Stay strong 🙏🏾
God nothing. If god loved you he wouldn’t make you suffer so much
@@LilXancheX God puts you through trials to grow your character my friend. He doesn’t punish people for no reason.
I wish I could give you a hug and be your friend in real life. It will get better trust me. You will eventually find someone who truly understands how you feel, and love you for who you truly are, both the good and the bad. Please don't let the negative thoughts consume you. Look on the brighter side you have your whole life ahead of you and so much can happen in a short period of time and each day is an opportunity. You are so beautiful.❤
Keep your head up everything is going to be okay u r very beautiful God bless u
I understand what you going through I once was struggling with abandonment issue as well but Jesus Christ can help you my sister please don’t give up on life I understand what you going through just call upon him I’ll will guide you promise!!!❤️pray and read the word 🙏🏽
Hey Jay G! Do you like writing? Writing stories perhaps? If so, I suggest you begin writing a story book or a novel, if you haven't already. If this reality becomes unbearable for you at times, you can enter your OWN special world with your own special characters and special places and special stories. Then, you can be in this reality, and if you don't like it, you can hop into your own reality, then hop back into this reality again 😊
Keep going! Bad times don't last forever, even though it may feel like that right now!
Thank you for sharing this.
This video is my sign good things are coming so hopefully this comment can be the same sign for you. My initials are J.G. & that’s what my old school friends used to refer to me as. I moved immediately after graduation & haven’t kept in touch with anyone, even deleted all social media other than this years ago. Thank you J.G.
Harness your power. From what I can see, God blessed you with great strength, introspection, and a beautiful mind. Embrace it, and you shall attract the right people. You can do this.
I won't say I relate because really I don’t. But i have experienced addiction to some extent and it sounds like a similar experience. You feel almost loyal to the very things you hate and consciously try to leave. It's so painfully paradoxical. Sometimes it feels like your fight is being ignored and so maybe your doomed to this fate. Truthfully, you have so much power and control within your actions and thoights. Alone you can't do it so I pray for God to be with you and for you not to leave Him (cos i know for sure it feels better to form experience).
My advice is go all out. Do something so outside your comfort zone and absolutely put your all into it. Dont try and change/adapt your personality. Even as you are you're so valuable. Every human is so valuable. Open yourself to be valued. YOU ARE SPECIAL. Don't forget that🙏🏾🤍
I don't have the answers but I recognize the pain you have and I definitely empathize with you. What might help is if you focus on building a relationship with yourself. It sounds like you base a lot of your self-worth on validation from others and when you don't get it, it hurts. I do the same thing. But I've found that focusing on myself, learning who I am and what I want helps. Then I have more of an idea of who I am to offer others and that actually attracts more people. Now I'm on a journey of self-discovery and realizing I'm actually a lot different that what I thought I was and this gives me relief. The more I know myself, the more I am attracted to different types of people than I have been in the past; people more suited to my real personality. Building a relationship with myself also helps the loneliness because I can be with myself without desiring to be with others as much. Because I'm not as dependent on others for validation, my social life actually improves because I socialize because I really want to and not because I need the validation from others to feel okay. This stuff is really hard and I have certainly not figured everything out, but I am in the same boat and we're all just trying to survive! Wishing you the best.
@@samu9048 thank you actually for your advice! I really wanna love myself more I just don’t know how but I guess I need to find out in my own journey of self-discovery 🙏
I believe it will get better, I have done a lot of rough travelling as well. Nothing much hasn't worked out for me personally either and I'm middle aged.
I think I relate a little too much to this. I’m almost 18 and I never had any proper friends. Not in elementary or highschool. I really hope you meet a friend, because you deserve one.
Hang in there, pray to God every day and work on yourself too ❤️🙏🏾
@@-SPACEBOY- thank you honestly 😭🙏🤍
@@Jay.g707 yeah no worries okay 👍🏾
You don't have to be sad or worried about not having friends my be God have a better plan for you and that's why he get away from those who don't deserve you
I am also graduating and I have. No experience but I started learning computer and soon I am going to start designing school
So don't worry and we have time to have skills
And the most important read about islam I promise you won't regret insha Allah
As a Muslim Allah doesn't want as to be sad
Jesus IS THE ONLY WAY TO ETERNAL LIFE. And Bible is the only TRUTH
@@Litt-bk7rd thank you ! I believe that too ! I only trust god now and praying helped me to feel better overall even if I spent most of my time by myself! I’m actually religious but neglected praying a bit in the past
Same feelings here. I would gladly be your friend!❤
@@zstardustt omg thank you 😭🩷
I get it feeling like this and it’s gonna feel rlly intense which sucks. Your thoughts feed into your feelings so you have to think like u can make friends and that u can do it. Ik u probably feel so stressed out right now. But the fact that you’re wishing u want more friends is a sign that you’re not ready to give up. One thing I can say is u can’t pity urself and feel like ur never gonna make friends bc those thoughts aren’t true at all. U have to keep going with the smallest things that make u feel alive and happy. Do anything that makes u keep going. Things always get better trust me girl ❤️❤️
@@viliviana that’s exactly how I feel ! I always think so negative idk why every single time I meet someone I know they’re going to leave me ! Maybe your right that I should see things more positively even if it’s hard ! Thanks tho for not thinking that I’m a freak or something 😭🩷🤍
@@Jay.g707 try and focus on one person, preferably one that a girl that is dealing with your issues, or a shy boy lol, thats corny but true. in that situation you kinda have to do a bit of the work, because boys are stressed and see everyone as potential threat, meaning you have to calm him.
I know how you feel. I’m 21 and I’ve gone through seasons of loneliness and depression too. Loss of desire and increases in despair. Sometimes I still do. Most of it came from friends leaving, rejection from girls and feeling like things never went right.
But God really does make a difference. He loves you so much. He made this world and the thought occurred to himself that it HAD to have you in it. That’s why you’re here! He died on the cross for you so that you could place your faith in him and be with him forever in heaven. You are not only loved by God, he sincerely likes you and delights in you. He feels your pain like a father does with his child . He is sad that you’re sad. But he wants to love you through what you’re dealing with.
If you haven’t yet. I encourage you to place your faith in Jesus to fully accept God’s love for you. This isn’t to say that the feelings will immediately go away but God’s love is deeper than our feelings. And I’m certain that one day you’ll feel better. God loves you ❤
I’m terribly sorry to hear this, I just you to know that you’re not the only one feeling this or experiencing this, it will get better ASAP. Just try to start a new lifestyle and push yourself to your goals more than you ever could, work out at the gym 5-6 days a week, eat healthy, go out and try to meet people, try to go on a vacation maybe. That will all help. Sometimes I myself question if my friends are 100% right for me even though I get along with them perfect. My best friends at the minute are different in interests than me and it’s sometimes hard to communicate with them at certain few times because of that. You’re not alone, I want you to know you’ll find your way ASAP. Just give it time.
Look, I had those same feelings, the same thoughts, the same alternate version of myself. Even the urge to give up. But there's one detail about me: I don't give up on myself. And I finally understood that even with these feelings and thoughts, I made it my life's purpose to take care of myself. Alone or with others, rich or poor, sick or healthy, sad or happy, I'm there for myself. So don't give up on yourself, and don't be afraid to express yourself. I wish you all the best.❤
@@riquelalmeida thank you that really gives me hope that I won’t feel like that forever . Also wishing you the best 🤍
You’re not alone. I’ve also been alone since the age of 10. I always sat alone during lunch in middle school and high school. Never made any friends. During college I’ve never made any friends either and the pandemic made it harder. I have a job now, and my co workers can clearly see I’m a loner and they give me like a pity treatment. I don’t like it and the loneliness hits me hard sometimes but I’ve gotten used to it. I also feel like it’s over for me, because like you said, I don’t know what normal is. I have horrible social skills and feel stumped compared to others. I don’t really have any solutions, I’ve just learned to live with it. But just know you’re not the only one experiencing this.
@@user272-28 thank you I’m sorry you feel lonely too I wish I could help but I don’t even know how to help myself 😔 my social skills are bad too. But it makes me so sad you feel that way sending much love 🫶🏼
I feel this. I lost my grand parents to cancer kind of recently. I watched them wither away as they got worse and worse. I couldn't save them. Its something I blame myself for. Now they are gone. Now I live by myself, and the house is so quiet, and its not the same anymore without them. I miss them so much I have been talking to a picture of them, and my aunt when I go to my kitchen, when I leave the house, when I come back I tell them I'm home. They were all that I had, and now I have.. nothing.
Ive been struggling with MDD ever since I was 3 years old, and dealing with PTSD from sxul abuse. Alot of things happened to me, and I just don't have anyone. Its lonely. Idk why I'm here at times. Idk how I'm here. Its hard being alone especially since you have been this way since you've been a young child. It has changed my view on life. Been living with this my whole life. I feel like at times all the life has been drained out of me. I don't really know what its like to live a normal life. I haven't had that ever. Im an adult but I really feel like at times I haven't had the transition from kid to adult. I have just been exposed to adult things for my whole life that I shouldn't have, and I had to grow up way too fast. Ive just experienced so many things that I wouldn't want anyone to ever see, or deal with all at a very young age, and my teen years.
I'm just rambling about something nobody really cares about, but I get how you feel. Its not easy and it does eat away at you at times. But.. please try and find something that you like. Dont end up like me :)
@@simileee you’re not rambling you’re feelings and concerns are valid I’m sorry for your loss . I can imagine how hard it must be to be in your position I wish I could help if you ever wanna talk I’m here . Sending much love ❤️
I have often felt the same way, almost exactly in fact. I am 21. I have no friends I regularly talk to, I have very little money and no idea how to be able to afford things, no GF, and i have a unique medical condition that almost makes me wish it would have let it kill me. Not a day goes by where i dont think about it. On top of that ive been haunted by memory of previous sins i had done. I think sometimes that i am evil. I dont know if i am. But i keep going by, taking every day by day. Thats whats been working for me so far. Just
Day by day. Just get through today. And i ask the lord for that strength when i need his help, and thank him when i dont need it or when he does give it.
Projects got me out of the valley. Felling stuck and trapped can be awful. Once you have forward motion and you'll gain momentum. Start small and begin to expand you ambition. It will fill your life with meaning and purpose.
I typically don't leave comments on these videos, but I felt compelled to respond to your remark about it not being deep. Trust me, it is. Dwelling on negativity only attracts more of it. So, strive to do your best even if you fail. In the end, it only showcases the courage you possess, a virtue that not many have but wish to have.
Hey I really appreciate your comment and it actually made me realise that you are right and that thinking negative only attracts more I wish I could be more positive about my life I really do I feel like I definitely need to focus on myself but it's easier said than done just do not know where to start but thank you for opening my eyes a bit
I'm 34 and sitting in the same situation as you. Unfortunately I have no idea how to get out of it/ so I won't tell you some bull shit solution/because I can't find it myself either. Only thing I can say is to keep trying no matter how difficult it may get/ because in my humble opinion being here with misery is better than being gone. Hope things get better for you eventually and all this pain just memory in your past. Thank you for making this video/ I really appreciate it so much and it's help me alot.
sending virtual hugs to you :( , going through the same.
hi hope you're doing better ! I just wanted to say that I know what you're going through and it feels like hell sometimes but please don't let anyone make you believe that you're not normal you're trying your best and it sucks that we can't easily find people to love us back or even like us for who we are . please try a little bit more for you and keep a positive mind . don't give up its ok you're ok don't let fear win 🦋
@@irenek1700 it really does suck sometimes I wonder if I was born into the wrong generation:( I really wish I can find someone that actually understands me but thanks for your advices I guess it’s not too late for me after all to find happiness 🫶🏼🙏
@@Jay.g707 I had the same thoughts and I know what you mean but I don’t think so there’s a reason we are born in this generation !! We’re not like the crowd so that’s why it’s difficult for us ! You’re gonna find happiness I’m sure. Have faith and in the meantime do or search for things that make you happy 🫶🏻🦋
Things won't get better. What will happen, though, is you'll grow to be more resilient and strong to life's way of screwing you over.
If talking about your feelings makes you feel better or cope better, then keep doing it.
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Hi I’m Julia, this is your sign I feel like I need to reach out and say this, I’m crying watching this video right now because I relate so much to everything your saying as corny as this might sound things will change time will change things, the only people I ever hang out with are my family and people I work with while I’m at work I haven’t hung out with “friends” in years I have fomo but again I push away others because I’m scared of getting hurt but then I wish so hard I had people to connect with and love and I wish so badly I have someone to love me what helps me if hope and faith that whatever god you believe in has a plan for you you are not crazy you are human and you are normal your not meant be understood your purpose isn’t to know how others feel about your or what they think about you your purpose was this video to reach out to others and connect this video right here shows that your able to connect with others and your loneliness makes me feel less lonely because I know we’re in it together you are beautiful and an amazing person and you will find your people and you will find love it is out there waiting for you keep fighting you are so much stronger than you think sending you love and faith and the ability to forgive yourself and others
@@juliasamp1677 hey Julia thank you so much for your comment! I feel so sorry that you relate to some of the thoughts I’m having :( I wish I was a better person but I keep thinking that I break everything I touch. Life had been pretty tough for me but I’m glad that I’m not the only one feeling this way ! I actually had no idea that other people might experience the same things as me but you’re right ! It makes me less lonely ! And thank you I really pray I find my people and I hope that for you as well ! I’m sure you’re a very kind person and got an awesome personality! we just need to have more hope . Every day is a new day 🫶🏼🙏
Don't you even think of doing anything to hurt yourself girl. I know what you're going through because I am the same way too. You're beautiful... Please weather the storm in your mind.
Don’t cry, everything will be okay my friend, don’t feel like people will abandon you because although some jerks might not everybody will. There’s always people out there who won’t and they will stay with you and support you because that’s what friends are for.
Hey Jay!!! i don't usually comment on peoples vids but this vid really made cry and i just wanted to say that you are amazing and deeply loved by God. Just know that God is always with you and he loves you so much. Have faith and know that things will get better i promise you.I'm always here for you.
I know what it's like not to have friends and be lonely sometimes. It can hurt. It's worse than pain seeing people w their friends that are literally like family. And I'm sorry you're feeling like that❤ wish I could hug you
@@dakotafox7326 thank you ! I’m sorry you can relate I hope that everything will work out for both of us 🤍🙏
@@Jay.g707 much love ❤️ and you're real pretty
I want to give you a hug 😊i promise you I care and I understand to a degree and a lot of people do. Just remember you are always ok being just who you are.❤
Checking in on you. I hope you are doing okay
@@realhamshady hey thanks I’m alright !
@herahera9226 I am happy, we are all happy that you are. Do not he afraid to reach out to any of us. We are all here for you!
Something worth noting is that loneliness is a completely normal experience. It even effects people who don’t seem lonely on the outside. As someone who has had no friends for most my life, it has always affected me and it continues to leave this feeling of a void in my life. I’ve come to understand that being social is just in my nature as a human being, and I can’t just change what I am. I think part of my loneliness is my fault, and there’s a part of me that almost wants to be alone. I could have tried to apply myself more, and attempt to make friends, but I haven’t. But the best thing that has come out of my experience is that I have learned so many things about my life. As tough as it is, I feel like my loneliness has helped shape me into a better person, and I now understand that no matter what path you are on there will always be some good that comes from it.
I’m kind of rambling and idk how coherent this is, but I’m kind of just sharing my thoughts based on my own experience. Maybe my loneliness is different from your loneliness and what I’m saying might not be relevant to your situation. Currently I am putting my focus on 2 main goals which is 1. Working on self worth / acceptance, and 2. Put more effort into socializing and connecting with others (because even if I don’t make any friends from it, I believe socializing is important for mental health). Idk if anything I’m saying here will be valuable to you or anyone who reads this, but I appreciate you using this platform to reach out and discuss this. It definitely helps to vent and see how others approach this problem as well. Anyways, I’m wishing you the best!!! ❤
We all are one ❤
There is always the Sun above the clouds 🌞
Trust God 💫
Love
This was spot on.
If you need a friend I'm here for you. I only have one friend in the town. I live in, but he travels a lot. I'm single 60 years old and he's the only friend I have here. I have not had company in 3 years. I love yet I get very lonely. I'm here for you if you need me. I subbed your channel, by the way. ❤
Don’t cry pretty girl. God will deliver. Be patient 🙏
Ngl i met some of my best friends online playing video games. Just recently was a groomsman for one of their weddings. There’s people out there for everyone. Don’t give up.
never had friends most of my life...not social no girlfriend no nothing...then covid happened then i realized how lonely i was...i do try to reach out to people and build up some relationships but never really works...i did find a few people that i would call friends but internet people but i am thankful i have them
i hope you be alright and all the trouble and loneliness are gone ASAP
I'm checking in i hope ur okay 🙏
Most people aren't like us, that's why it's so hard to find friends that actually get us. I'm in the same situation as you my sister
@@Believe_it_9tails you’re right but I feel so weird . Why are we like that ? Like are we really that different from others ?I really hope we can find happiness eventually
Don't give up, opportunities every day to improve. Believe in yourself. I'm here if you want to talk
It's so hard for me to cry and i end up holding it inside so much ❤❤
@@Legend_Gamerboy I used to be like that but now I cry so much . Wishing you the best tho you don’t deserve to feel pain 🤍🤍
@Jay.g707 aww thank you 🫶❤️
@Jay.g707 thank you ❤❤❤❤
keep ur head up
Being alone is the world's way of teaching you how to be perfectly comfortable being dolo Imho. As long as you have meals on the table, clothes on your back, and your health, then nothing is really as bad as it seems honestly. Sending you nothing but love, hope things get better. Remember there's honestly no one on this world who can make you happier than YOU.
@@GawdTy you’re right thank you ! I actually should appreciate what I have and try to accept myself more even if it’s hard 🙏
“No tree, it is said, can grow to heaven unless its roots reach down to hell.”
― Carl Jung
Stay strong, fellow Jay. You are not what has happened to you; you are what you choose to become.
You have no idea how much I relate to you! I just wish that I could meet the right people. You can easily find associates, but not people you can have a deep connection with. Life is becoming tiring, and I’m only 23. Sometimes, I can’t imagine living all the way up to my 70s-80s. I’m grateful for my family and all the small blessings, but Idk what to do in life. I believe that we are all here for a purpose though. Just waiting to see what my purpose is.
Stay strong everybody and myself believe in you.
I have no friends either so I understand how you feel.
It's heartbreaking to see so many people struggling and feeling alone. While going through tough times on your own can build resilience, I can't help but wonder why we often settle for just offering advice instead of truly being there for someone. I get it-it's hard to connect deeply with someone you don't know, especially a stranger sharing their life online. But I can't just scroll by without feeling the need to reach out and actually be there, even for those I've never met.
It baffles me how hard it is to make real connections, even though we're just a message away from each other. Isn't that what social media was meant for? To bring us together? Yet, we often just leave a comment and move on. I understand the fear of trusting others-trust doesn't come easy for me either-but I don't care about that. I just want to create a genuine bond, human to human, soul to soul.
We all need people in our lives, especially during tough times. If anyone feels the need to connect, please don't hesitate to reach out. I'm here for you. Remember, you're not alone, and never give up! Sending love to everyone.
Let me be your friend!!
@@blazeshane it is quite sad I did not realize that many people struggle with loneliness. Thanks for your kind words 🙏
Are you doing better now, and I truly mean it when I ask you this?@@Jay.g707
making friends is hard man I tried so many times getting out of my comfort zone😂 maybe because I’m mildly autistic also got social anxiety which made me even more cooked but idk maybe things won’t get better but you’ll get stronger
See it this way you're never alone if you have family and you have God, plus remember we are born alone and we die alone. Keep your head up as being alone for a while is good it'll help you find yourself. Also love yourself first and then this will be mirrored to you by others. Everything starts with self.