I Have No Friends | Why I Don't and How I've Learned to be Okay
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- Опубликовано: 19 июн 2024
- I guess I'm just hoping this video resonates with someone, even if you can just relate to feeling lonely or wanting that best friend person to do things with. I’m still not sure why I shared this and like I said in the video it wasn’t for sympathy, I think it was just more to get it off of my chest. If you can relate, let me know in the comments.
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I don't really have any friends and spend a lot of time alone. Sometimes it makes me feel sad and lonely, but when I do hang with people I realise why I don't have any 😂. I find humans hard work
Omg so true 😂
Same..👍👍
This is so true
True HSHAHHA
I(30) never had a friend in my life.
I always was mocked in my life, that I never made a friend. I was always interested in other people, but they didnt care. I even bought a birthday present for a person, I thought was my friend. He said, I should stop contacting him.
I also never experienced Love. Every Girl rejected me. No hug, no kiss, no own family.
Beside that I work in a dead end job. I always do overhours to meet end needs. But thats mostly not enough. I need to turn to alcohol or other drugs to deal with daily stress of poverty and social isolation.
Any Advice?
Read the comments, everyone. It helps knowing there's a bunch of others that feel the same way.
May God bless you and be with you.
I share this, is about Jesus.
John 14: 21 He who has My (Jesus) commandments and keeps them is the one who loves Me; and he who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him and will disclose Myself to him.” 22 Judas (not Iscariot) *said to Him, “Lord, what then has happened that You are going to disclose Yourself to us and not to the world?” 23 Jesus answered and said to him, “If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our abode with him. 24 He who does not love Me does not keep My words; and the word which you hear is not Mine, but the Father’s who sent Me.
John 7: 37 Now on the last day, the great day of the feast, Jesus stood and cried out, saying, “If anyone is thirsty, let him come to Me and drink. 38 The one who believes in Me, as the Scripture said, ‘From his innermost being will flow rivers of living water.’” 39 But this He said in reference to the Spirit, whom those who believed in Him were to receive; for the Spirit was not yet given, because Jesus was not yet glorified.
Where can one start reading the Bible?
John (4th Scripture of the New Testament) and/or Acts of the Apostles (5th Scripture of the New Testament)
This is my website, is in dutch but the videos are in English
jezus.simplesite.com/
May God bless you.
Not really. Doesn't change a thing.
@@davidamrama it helps to know it’s not just you
I thought I was the only person who had this kind of situation. Comments section helps me a lot by knowing other people's emotion. I don't know who they are but I know how they feel. #StayStrong everyone!
@@charlieschurk Doesn't help in any way whatsoever.
The problem is, where the heck do you find the right people?
That's true, its hard to meet people that you are interested in and enjoy hanging out with. Most people annoy me and the ones I like are usually involved with other people.
You could try meetups those are for people with similar interests. Lol I met a few people on there but I wouldn’t call them friends... people are very evil now a days
Well it depends on where you live. If you're into sports, try joining a sports league. I live in San Diego and I joined a dodgeball league and made friends that way.
At work. I found some people became really close at work
burning man community saved my life. look for desert parties and hippies
From what I've observed, the loneliest people seem to have a lot going for them. You're authentic, attractive, show depth, able to think independently and self motivated. It may actually be because of your lovely, rare qualities, that you haven't found friends to connect with yet. 🌷💕
Love this!! I totally agree and I'm trying to convince myself that these are the reasons why.. so hard. The negative self talk.. It sucks!
That superiority complex might be why some don't have friends.
@@NotANoob27x7 seeing the positive qualities in people isn't a superiority complex.
@@empressjewellery you comment is basically "you are so wonderful and unique, unlike the majority, so that's why you have no friends".
We are essentially strangers. I am just trying to give you an outside, objective perspective on this comment based on the words you chose. Take it or leave it, idc.
@@NotANoob27x7 I don't believe anyone is superior to anyone else, but she does possess rare, lovely qualities. She obviously has a direction for her life, which can unfortunately attract a 'crab in the barrel' mentality from people who haven't found their own vision yet. My choice of words probably didn't aptly explain my meaning, and certainly isn't a slight against anyone, just positive encouragement for people who are currently having a hard time.
I also feel like I'm always the one reaching out and feeling like my friends don't genuinely care, cause they would have asked if they cared
Same. Been there before.
Yes. Truth. I stopped doing that. And I find my so called friends have made plans with other friends and they never ask me to go anywhere with them. So...anyway...I've been without friends for a long time.
Same :(
I feel the same way
You too pretty to be lonely you aint trying hard enough thats for sure
I’m lonely too I feel like I unintentionally push people away..😞..not to mention it’s extremely hard to make friends especially when your an introvert,quiet and who looks unapproachable .. I’m just super sad idk why I usually get sad for no specific reason I guess I’m depressed or something wish I could feel better though and it’s crazy cause it’s billions of people on earth why can’t we all just find one person who meshes well enough to be close enough to us to be vulnerable and true
Yes, I relate to this comment so much!
Yea same boat
same here, i want friends but yet i push people away from me :(
@@buffycatnip same having no friends suck😭
Same here 😭😭
I am 30 year old guy, zero friends. I do not need them. I walk alone, I eat alone, I live alone, I spend my time alone. I go to eat alone, I go to swim alone, all alone. I don't miss friends. All they do is this: as soon as you have nothing for them guess what everyone is gone. Without friends living alone I can go bath door open and spend my time wisely doing what I like with no drama.
How do you cope with it.Im used to be alone but sometimes im scared to be alone.During this pendamic its much harder.Sometimes u really wished someone was there for u.
@@prayfortheworld7960 Thanks for asking. For me listening music helps. I also do not feel like dating someone will make you happy. You should find that happiness inside. So many people nowadays can just be around for a while. When there's nothing to gain, they are away. It's so much better to feel alone. Sometimes I wish too to have some friends, but... then I remind that why having them is better? Do I want to be distracted or do I want to improve myself not to feel alone when alone? You can be your best company, go for a walk and connect with nature :) Having no friends and no partner is like a dream life. There is no drama and you can spend your time as you wish. Good deal!
@@erakkovaatainen Thanks for replying me.I felt a little bit down lately.This year just sucked.I used too be alone too i had problems on trusting people.Through out my life i had been betrays so many times.Life is sucked sometimes
@@prayfortheworld7960 You get used to it. I am for 15 years no friends. Corona time was hard at times, but now I enjoy nature more. Life is hard sometimes, but life can be easy too. Just take what it needs to feel better with yourself. You need no one to live, only yourself. Trust yourself and you will never feel lost again in life.
@@erakkovaatainenI loves nature too.I wished someday i can live like you too.I worked 6 days a week so life is pretty boring.Sorry for my bad english,this my second languages.
I have always been the last resort friend. Never felt genuine! I feel like when someone is bored they will text me or call me. Sucks
Same... wanna be online friends?
I get this
Ella I’ll be your online friend
@@xoxo-vp7ww Really? Thanks, that makes me so happy :)
Do you maybe have Instagram or Snapchat? I feel like it’s better to communicate with than RUclips
hey guys please include me as well
I have no friends by choice, and people make me feel like there’s something wrong with me. But like Aristotle said: He who hath many friends, hath none.
I like this quote. What’s your snap? :)
@@dailystriver2727 Adriana_Ardash
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Can I speak to u both please 🙏.?..
Wow !! I had no idea Aristotle was such a relevant dude. Could almost be interpreted as a slam against extroverts.
I feel like this and I’ve felt like this pretty much my entire life. It sucks not having friends and doing everything by yourself. You’re not alone in this.
I agree.On the other hand,you can be with someone and that person may not treat you in a nice way,in that case I would rather be alone.
I'm 57 and I've been exactly like you all my life.
I've come to know that friends will always disappoint you at some point so better to be alone.
I have no friends.I'm 22. Sometimes I think life isn't worth it. Always been lonely. Got no siblings, my mom sucks and my dad isn't often there....But that's all okay. Ultimately; it's okay. I'm healthy and privileged enough to waste time watching youtube videos :') ....So here it is: It's hard to trust people with your feelings, and that's probably why you don't let people in. You have to realize that, at some point, you have to take responsibility for what happens to you. If you feel that you are capable of being a good friend yourself, then you'll attract that. If you're insecure, and not trusting, you find yourself boring...then that's the kind of energy you attract. Start by wanting to be friends with yourself. Be nice to people regardless. You'll make friends when you're good and ready to let people in. Trust the process. So...yeah. Good luck girl!
Much depends upon your personality type. Extroverts can generally make friends a lot easier because they are naturally outgoing and sociable by nature. The world is pretty much set up to benefit individuals with an extroverted personality. Because we live in hyper connected times (i.e. social media, internet, etc) - society will naturally favor those who can communicate and interact with others more effectively. Extroverts are generally described as the "life of the party" and so society will favor such people as a consequence.
Introverts, on the other hand, will find it much more difficult to make friends. Introverts are generally more reserved and quiet and prefer one-on-one interactions as opposed to being among a group of people.
The ability to develop a friendship largely depends upon your personality and finding somebody with whom you can make a meaningful connection. If you can't connect with people - then you will remain friendless. This has always been my problem.
Nobody wants to be seen as an 'object of pity' - but in the end - things are what they are!
@Lillymay Parker Thank you for your constructive criticism. Have a nice day! :)
@Lillymay Parker well we all know why you don't have friends
its always worth it stay strong
Iam you freind
At least you have a boyfriend who is there for you I cant even find that and I have no friends
i will be yur friend ;)
Yoir 16 you shouldnt have a lover
@Left Right
Can we be friends?? Do u have snap chat
Same
I(30) never had a friend in my life.
I always was mocked in my life, that I never made a friend. I was always interested in other people, but they didnt care. I even bought a birthday present for a person, I thought was my friend. He said, I should stop contacting him.
I also never experienced Love. Every Girl rejected me. No hug, no kiss, no own family.
Beside that I work in a dead end job. I always do overhours to meet end needs. But thats mostly not enough. I need to turn to alcohol or other drugs to deal with daily stress of poverty and social isolation.
Any Advice?
Why does everything needs to be so hard in my life?
I feel this entirely too much. Eventually you just assume that how life is and get used to it. Easier said than done. Life keeps rolling.
Love your videos, keep up the good work.
Exactly you can keep going or not. Simple
@@obstchaton4245 every word you say is true. OBVIOUSLY people want to hear the positive. Nobody wants to hear the negative. Sometimes "it gets better" is just false. The truth is it (can) get better, but no guarantee! Thanks for your honesty, I rather hear honesty than false hope.
I hope your feeling better! Also you have yt friends!
Just got here from your video man and I’m only 19 but I can see my life headed in that same direction, life’s crazy.
I'm 29 and have no friends. I totally understand when you say you're comfortable with who you are now and you are used to it. I used to be extremely depressed for years. It literally got me stuck on every part of my life, but now I just accept and love doing things by myself.
Which country you are from?
Same
Same, 32 here, fully accepted it. Once you've accepted it life keeps rolling. No point thinking "what if this or what if that". Just live your life we have no control over the future anyway
Do u go out alone? Party alone etc..? Im 28 too and its hard
It's not a measure of good health to be well adjusted to a profoundly broken society
Jiddu Krishnamurti
You’re not alone in being alone. Also it just makes others who feel the same way have much less of a sense of stigma surrounding them about this common thing
Yes! I think it’s important to know you’re not always as alone as you think.
May God bless you and be with you.
I share this, is about Jesus.
John 14: 21 He who has My (Jesus) commandments and keeps them is the one who loves Me; and he who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him and will disclose Myself to him.” 22 Judas (not Iscariot) *said to Him, “Lord, what then has happened that You are going to disclose Yourself to us and not to the world?” 23 Jesus answered and said to him, “If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our abode with him. 24 He who does not love Me does not keep My words; and the word which you hear is not Mine, but the Father’s who sent Me.
John 7: 37 Now on the last day, the great day of the feast, Jesus stood and cried out, saying, “If anyone is thirsty, let him come to Me and drink. 38 The one who believes in Me, as the Scripture said, ‘From his innermost being will flow rivers of living water.’” 39 But this He said in reference to the Spirit, whom those who believed in Him were to receive; for the Spirit was not yet given, because Jesus was not yet glorified.
Where can one start reading the Bible?
John (4th Scripture of the New Testament) and/or Acts of the Apostles (5th Scripture of the New Testament)
This is my website, is in dutch but the videos are in English
jezus.simplesite.com/
May He fills you.
Hello.Being alone is more common then people realise.The older I get,the more I see this.I am 58.
I basically have no friends anymore. Most of them got married/ had kids or at least in a relationship and it’s just awkward trying to make plans with people who have their own lives going on. I used to not mind my own company but I’ve been getting lonely lately.
I can relate perfectly..are you also introverted?
Gosh! Can totally relate!
Just because they got married or have kids doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have friends. I’m still friends with people from high school and we all have kids/married and we still hang out.
@@hueso5071 I do hang out with them occasionally however I do not personally have kids or want any so for me it’s not as fun hangin out with several families while being the single one. Just different priorities and not to mention I just don’t relate to them as much since I don’t have my own family.
I can very much relate to this. It feels like at this age people are "supposed" to only have kids and spouses but not friends. While I still want and need friends and don't want kids...
I am seeing so many more of these 'I have no friends' videos that it goes to show loneliness can affect anyone at any age. It does feel like therapy getting our thoughts out there, much better than keeping our feelings bottled up inside.
Stay strong.
LOl i just said this exact thing today.. 6-20-21
They say loneliness is an epidemic in many parts of the world these days, computers and social media are making it worse for many people.
@@localman12 why? Arent we more connected?
@@drdwgmd14 By being on the phone all day, you miss out on being outside and having to talk to others in public. Because you would be forced to socialize if you didn't have a smartphone. For example, in my university classes, a LOT of people are on their phones and laptops instead of looking around and interacting with others.
“Friends” are overrated but when you truly have one it’s worth it.
If it doesn’t happen then enjoy life for what it’s worth.
You are responsible for your happiness
This made me cry because I completely feel the same
May God bless you and be with you.
John 14: 21 He who has My (Jesus) commandments and keeps them is the one who loves Me; and he who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him and will disclose Myself to him.” 22 Judas (not Iscariot) *said to Him, “Lord, what then has happened that You are going to disclose Yourself to us and not to the world?” 23 Jesus answered and said to him, “If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our abode with him. 24 He who does not love Me does not keep My words; and the word which you hear is not Mine, but the Father’s who sent Me.
John 21: 24 This is the disciple who is testifying to these things and wrote these things, and we know that his testimony is true.
25 And there are also many other things which Jesus did, which if they *were written in detail, I suppose that even the world itself *would not contain the books that *would be written.
Where can one start reading The Bible?
In The New Testament: The Gospel of John and/or Acts.
about existence of God:
ruclips.net/video/BljrAME1LLw/видео.html
ruclips.net/video/7c9PaZzsqEg/видео.html
about Scriptures, videos are in English:
jezus.simplesite.com/435491565
Romans 6: 23 For the wages of sin is death, but the gracious gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.
John 17: 3 And this is eternal life, that they may know You, the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom You have sent.
John 7: 37 Now on the last day, the great day of the feast, Jesus stood and cried out, saying, “If anyone is thirsty, let him come to Me and drink. 38 The one who believes in Me, as the Scripture said, ‘From his innermost being will flow rivers of living water.’” 39 But this He said in reference to the Spirit, whom those who believed in Him were to receive; for the Spirit was not yet given, because Jesus was not yet glorified.
Me too 😢
There is a best friends. and groups of friends for everyone. Sometimes it just takes longer to find that person/circle of people, or for that person/them to find you.
The best way to engage with others is by joining a club/group that is all about whatever you are interested in/your present or future hobby!
It can seem like a mountain of fear to climb, to pick up thr phone to join, or turn up the first time to meet him/her/them, but the feeling of achievement, joy and sense of belonging, you get when you force yourself (yes it is hard and yes it might take a few tries) past "roadblocks" of fear, accumilated failed attempts/bad experiences of the past, possibly the sense of "being different", and possibly meet your "kindred spirit/spirits", is 100% worth it.
I have Asperbers and adhd and I know how hard it can be to "just do it" or find and reach out to that group that actually are interested in the same "weird stuff"/obscure hobbies or/and talents. But I promiss you, they are out there👍🏼
I'm 16 and I have no friends. Absolutely no want to talk to. No one to share my feelings with. I hope I will going to get a true friend some day.🙂
We can be friends !! Do u have snapchat
@@channelfive7883 nope I have ig
Hey, I just read your comment. I'm trying to make friends too, soo... wanna give me your Instagram so I can follow you?
(Hope this doesn't seem weird...)
May God bless you and be with you.
I share this, is about Jesus.
John 14: 21 He who has My (Jesus) commandments and keeps them is the one who loves Me; and he who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him and will disclose Myself to him.” 22 Judas (not Iscariot) *said to Him, “Lord, what then has happened that You are going to disclose Yourself to us and not to the world?” 23 Jesus answered and said to him, “If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our abode with him. 24 He who does not love Me does not keep My words; and the word which you hear is not Mine, but the Father’s who sent Me.
John 7: 37 Now on the last day, the great day of the feast, Jesus stood and cried out, saying, “If anyone is thirsty, let him come to Me and drink. 38 The one who believes in Me, as the Scripture said, ‘From his innermost being will flow rivers of living water.’” 39 But this He said in reference to the Spirit, whom those who believed in Him were to receive; for the Spirit was not yet given, because Jesus was not yet glorified.
Where can one start reading the Bible?
John (4th Scripture of the New Testament) and/or Acts of the Apostles (5th Scripture of the New Testament)
This is my website, is in dutch but the videos are in English
jezus.simplesite.com/
May God bless you.
I am 16, and i dont have a friends
Folks who are lonely: I've NEVER had good friends in my life. They were all users so I fill my time with studying different things, hobbies, preparing healthy food and praying and reading the Bible. Growing my relationship with God instead of worrying about what I don't have and being lonely. God is with me and I'm never alone.😊💜 I'm sending love and hugs to people who feel bad about not having friends. I just have people I know and acquaintances though who I'm friendly with and that's ok for me.
yes , thanku
@@savikabansal66 you're welcome!
This is the only path which won‘t lead into destruction .
Rather being alone than having shallow relationships any kind.
@@agape13 truee
I also don’t have any friends like at all and I also feel like I’m the problem, at times. I am an introvert and suffer from anxiety and depression and I feel like that has a lot to do with it. I am very friendly and loveable but just can’t make any friends. You are definitely not alone hun.
@@jo-victorychampion72 yes I do
When you said ride or die girlfriend. Hit me hard, haven't had that kind of friend in a long time. Makes me sad that after school friends end-up in different paths and loose connections.
Yes. Never had a ride or die friend.
I have no friends...and I've accepted that I'm going to die alone...yep...
Same
Everyone dies alone. Try to be happy and be grateful for what you have. Your never going to be happy if your always complaining. Thats what i learned.
May God bless you and be with you.
John 14: 21 He who has My (Jesus) commandments and keeps them is the one who loves Me; and he who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him and will disclose Myself to him.” 22 Judas (not Iscariot) *said to Him, “Lord, what then has happened that You are going to disclose Yourself to us and not to the world?” 23 Jesus answered and said to him, “If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our abode with him. 24 He who does not love Me does not keep My words; and the word which you hear is not Mine, but the Father’s who sent Me.
John 21: 24 This is the disciple who is testifying to these things and wrote these things, and we know that his testimony is true.
25 And there are also many other things which Jesus did, which if they *were written in detail, I suppose that even the world itself *would not contain the books that *would be written.
Where can one start reading The Bible?
In The New Testament: The Gospel of John and/or Acts.
about existence of God:
ruclips.net/video/BljrAME1LLw/видео.html
ruclips.net/video/7c9PaZzsqEg/видео.html
about Scriptures, videos are in English:
jezus.simplesite.com/435491565
Romans 6: 23 For the wages of sin is death, but the gracious gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.
John 17: 3 And this is eternal life, that they may know You, the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom You have sent.
@@vibrantlotus8154 May God bless you and be with you.
John 14: 21 He who has My (Jesus) commandments and keeps them is the one who loves Me; and he who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him and will disclose Myself to him.” 22 Judas (not Iscariot) *said to Him, “Lord, what then has happened that You are going to disclose Yourself to us and not to the world?” 23 Jesus answered and said to him, “If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our abode with him. 24 He who does not love Me does not keep My words; and the word which you hear is not Mine, but the Father’s who sent Me.
John 21: 24 This is the disciple who is testifying to these things and wrote these things, and we know that his testimony is true.
25 And there are also many other things which Jesus did, which if they *were written in detail, I suppose that even the world itself *would not contain the books that *would be written.
Where can one start reading The Bible?
In The New Testament: The Gospel of John and/or Acts.
about existence of God:
ruclips.net/video/BljrAME1LLw/видео.html
ruclips.net/video/7c9PaZzsqEg/видео.html
about Scriptures, videos are in English:
jezus.simplesite.com/435491565
Romans 6: 23 For the wages of sin is death, but the gracious gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.
John 17: 3 And this is eternal life, that they may know You, the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom You have sent.
Basically me af
I’m 44 and as of this year I’ve decided from now on I’m on my own. There are no true friends out there. It’s just not worth the heartache anymore. I’d rather feel lonely. I can deal with that easily. ❤️👍🏻
I feel this too but it's still so depressing.
Exactly the longer you practice so to speak the easier it gets,
40 here and it's hard to find a friend that's worth a crap nowadays
Hmmm...
Exactly.
I have come to the conclusion that I have no friends. I mean I know a lot of people, and I lot of people know me but I don’t talk to anyone all I do is watch Netflix and having social anxiety makes it 10x harder
I’ve been struggling with having no friends for awhile now and lately it’s been really heavy knowing I truly don’t have anyone. I was home schooled as well and I was socialized and had friends growing up, but all of those childhood and young teenage friends have all moved on with their lives. I stoped talking to my best friend two and a half years ago and since then I really haven’t had anyone. I feel like all I do is work, eat, sleep and repeat. Like today is my day off and I’ve sat around the house thinking about how I wish I had somebody to just talk to. I enjoyed your video because it reminded me we’re not all alone in feeling alone.
I know I'm kinda late but... wanna be online friends?
I(30) never had a friend in my life.
I always was mocked in my life, that I never made a friend. I was always interested in other people, but they didnt care. I even bought a birthday present for a person, I thought was my friend. He said, I should stop contacting him.
I also never experienced Love. Every Girl rejected me. No hug, no kiss, no own family.
Beside that I work in a dead end job. I always do overhours to meet end needs. But thats mostly not enough. I need to turn to alcohol or other drugs to deal with daily stress of poverty and social isolation.
Any Advice?
@@ellaadair hey i know i'm not andrea but i could always use an online friend :)
@@buffycatnip Sure :)
Do you have Instagram or Snapchat?
I think we could communicate more easily there than on RUclips
@@ellaadair my snap is kyliefins :)
I respect the fact that you were able to record yourself saying this, as well as having to edit it and rewatch it. You're strong and if it helps I would love to be your friend.
Found this today, on Christmas Day… searching “I have no friends”. I’m 29 and am the same way. I tend to push people away through depression or acting out when I am triggered, I have PTSD. To everyone dealing with loneliness, I’m so sorry ❤ I don’t even have a boyfriend or any siblings. I just feel so alone.
From a psychologists stand point it doesn't seem like anythings wrong with you, As someone that struggled with loneness all of my childhood I can assure you that you are not alone. What I noticed is you're too hard on yourself and assume that everyone will shut you down. Now more than ever do people need engagement with other people anyway possible. You mentioned that your other friends already had their best friends. Don't be afraid to call them up and ask if you can all hangout sometime. You never know, you might connect with them more. Don't give up, you're a beautiful young women and know you can do this. Good luck :)
Psychologist 'Carl Jung' sheds some light with respect to this question.
He argues that each person seems to be energized more by either the external world (extroversion) or the inner world (introversion). The introvert, according to 'Jung', is more comfortable with the inner world of thoughts and feelings, so they will see the world in terms of how it affects them. Extroverts, on the other hand, feel more at home with the world of objects and other people and are more concerned with their impact upon the world.
Introverts are more comfortable living alone and being by themselves. They depend on their "me time" to recharge: they become immersed in their inner world and run the risk of losing touch with their surroundings or their outer world.
Extroverts, on the contrary, are actively involved in the world of people and things. They are socially active and more aware of what is going on around them. They like to be parts of groups, communities and societies, where they get a chance to interact.. The idea of being alone terrifies them, leaving them alienated from their inner selves.
'Jung' was an intellectual powerhouse. He stated "If you take an extrovert you will find his unconscious has an introverted quality, because all the extroverted qualities are played out in his consciousness and the introverted are left in the unconscious"
Could be BPD as well look that up
Hi... I'm 48 and have no friends haven't had any since I was 15.. I've since found out I'm an introvert that, this is how I was made and that's ok. I also have always never tried to phone anyone or take them up on an offer because I always fear they couldn't possibly really like me..that they're just being nice but they'd really rather not know me..
I also have lots of social anxieties
Hi. Are you open to exchanging emails. I used to be okay with not having friends, but that is no longer the case. I welcome all genuine people into my life. 🌻
Hi can we be friends I am sure you will never regret having me as your friend !!!
I just share, is about Jesus.
John 14: 21 He who has My (Jesus) commandments and keeps them is the one who loves Me; and he who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him and will disclose Myself to him.” 22 Judas (not Iscariot) *said to Him, “Lord, what then has happened that You are going to disclose Yourself to us and not to the world?” 23 Jesus answered and said to him, “If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our abode with him. 24 He who does not love Me does not keep My words; and the word which you hear is not Mine, but the Father’s who sent Me.
Where can one start reading the Bible?
John (4th Scripture of the New Testament) and/or Acts of the Apostles (5th Scripture of the New Testament)
John 7: 37 Now on the last day, the great day of the feast, Jesus stood and cried out, saying, “If anyone is thirsty, [h]let him come to Me and drink. 38 The one who believes in Me, as the Scripture said, ‘[i]From his innermost being will flow rivers of living water.’” 39 But this He said in reference to the Spirit, whom those who believed in Him were to receive; for the Spirit was not yet given, because Jesus was not yet glorified.
@@fernandafefe4323 hi you think we can be friends forever? You would be wondering to have me as your friend.
@@fernandafefe4323 yes I need friend but the real one not for timepass. I am from india age 41 years man. You like to be my friend?
Hope everyone here finds or have found their soul tribe. Us empaths are loners, but there's always a higher purpose for that.
Haven't found my tribe, I don't believe i belong in any. I'm the black sheep of my family also.
"Soul Tribe" I love that! Gonna use it.
I’m the opposite of an empath. When people get emotional I don’t care and leave them cause they’re so damn annoying. The closest thing I ever had to friends was a group of kids I’d sit with at lunch during high school and primary school but I never talked to them. I never even sat with anyone at college though. I tried to make friends in freshman year but it didn’t work out. I was way too awkward. I resent humanity now and don’t want friends anymore because I hate people in general yet I am desperate for connection. I originally wanted to become an engineer because I wanted to save the world with designing green energy technologies. Now I realize the world isn’t worth saving. If the entire world was uninhabitable in 100 years I could care less. I’m just going to follow the money.
@@BimmerWon Wow that's sad...But yea I agree with the last part, follow money!
i’m watching this two years after, and I wish we were near each other so we could be friends! The feeling of loneliness has been with me for a very long time and everything that you said hits home, I don’t find myself to be weird or boring and yet it just feels like people don’t want to hang out with me if they could choose. Anyway, you would probably make for a nice friend :)
I have no friends or get invited .. people literally just look around me or just bypass me... it's hard.. I don't even know what to do .. I don't even make eye contact anymore... just damn lonely...
I've been told I'm unapproachable because I'm too deep. To me, that's stating that I'm not shallow. I take that as a compliment. Unfortunately people do not take the time to consider that having depth also means you have compassion and empathy. Those who refuse to make an effort to understand and know you are those who remain committed to conforming to a superficial society. I consider myself a person who is willing to stand in your corner , but you have to be willing to let me in the door first. I'll knock but I'm more than willing to keep going if it's locked.
That's exactly how I feel too, I'm a very talkative person and love making connections but people are to shallow or can't even hold a 1 minute conversation both in real life and text. Sometimes it made me feel quite depressed but nowadays I just brush it off. It's actually better to not deal with people like which funnily there's a lot, I just do my thing, practice some mindfulness and keep moving forward. Interestingly enough those people who I have come across are not advancing much in their life though they want to keep showing they have a the insta perfect type of life but in reality is not perfect.
@@jeshuarestituyo284 yes...having a meaningful conversation with people is challenging. Social media (Facebook in particular) is very antisocial. I really try to post things that will get communication or conversation going, or if you are on my friends list...I love to comment on your posts or show some interest. However, that is never reciprocated by others. It gets tough, at times lonely but I have to remember that I cannot be the one making all the effort. It gets tiring....so I definitely feel where you are coming from.
I feel very similar to this
There is nothing wrong with that because some people are born deep and super sensitive. It is the non confirmist and outliers that take the society forward and not the majority of the confirming masses. Everyone has a role to play in the scheme of nature. Nature does not confer its best qualities without exacting a price. In the general the price for being different is lonliness and sometimes it can be hard because a human being is a social animal. At the end of the day we have to be ourselves to be comfortable.
Don't feel bad. You're better off being content with you as your number one because people always come and go. I had a "ride or die" for 14 years and it was so easy for her to push me out of her life never looking back, all for a failed romantic relationship with a cheater. Sometimes I feel like you longing for that relationship, but then I remember how deep her betrayal cut me and I feel better off. I think siblings or cousins are your best option for such a relationship because blood is less likely to abandoned you.
Stay strong fellow lone wolf! You're a tough ass chick and your lack of codependency makes you brave, fierce, and a fire much to hard to put out. When you can be content with you and take comfort within yourself... THAT'S POWER!!
I love this so much, thank you! 💙 I’ve definitely gained a great relationship with myself especially in the past few years and I’m happy for that chance and not relying on being dependent on another person. I do have some cousins I’m close to that I’m definitely grateful for!
I just share is about Jesus. May God bless you.
John 7: 37 Now on the last day, the great day of the feast, Jesus stood and cried out, saying, “If anyone is thirsty, [h]let him come to Me and drink. 38 The one who believes in Me, as the Scripture said, ‘[i]From his innermost being will flow rivers of living water.’” 39 But this He said in reference to the Spirit, whom those who believed in Him were to receive; for the Spirit was not yet given, because Jesus was not yet glorified.
John 14: 21 He who has My (Jesus) commandments and keeps them is the one who loves Me; and he who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him and will disclose Myself to him.” 22 Judas (not Iscariot) *said to Him, “Lord, what then has happened that You are going to disclose Yourself to us and not to the world?” 23 Jesus answered and said to him, “If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our abode with him. 24 He who does not love Me does not keep My words; and the word which you hear is not Mine, but the Father’s who sent Me.
Where can one start reading the Bible?
John (4th Scripture of the New Testament) and/or Acts of the Apostles (5th Scripture of the New Testament)
This is my website, is in dutch but the videos are in English
jezus.simplesite.com/
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
"To love oneself is the beginning of a life long relationship". Oscar Wilde
We need to create a chat room/zoom room! 😊
Yes please, this is a good idea. An online community!
Yes ! how ?
Its a good thing but I think personalize meeting is the best thing.
Can I Join
It’s crazy how relatable this is
CRAZY
It’s ok to not have friends. I used to be the type of friend who would wake up at 3am to help you. I used to run into guys who would always want help and never do anything in return. My wife and I dumped a lot of fake friends the last few years. For years we would support their kids magazine sales or what ever business they owned. The one time we asked for help only one person stepped up. I have one good friend but he is not a super close friend. I had a neighbor last year become a good friend. I would message him a week ahead and the day off our plans. He would cancel last minute. I went to a party and saw him hanging out with a new neighbor behind my house. Come to find out this new neighbor was his best new friend. The wife apologized to me about it. This one I took very hard. We did not have much in common. But we got alone really well and had the same upbringing. I never said anything rude or bad. It’s rare for friends to last forever. Most of my wife’s college friends for about 10 years we would hang out. They all eventually dropped off and got different friends. Its sucks. But I am better off alone. I am tired of the hurt.
You are not alone.
Same for me here.I thought she is my bff but she back stabbing me and its was hurt like hell.Still be friend with her though but it was hard for me to forget what she did.Darn.I wished i dont know her.Better be alone.
I thought I was the only person who had this kind of situation. Comments section helps me a lot by knowing other people's emotion. I don't know who they are but I know how they feel. #StayStrong everyone!
Same with me.😟
at least you have a boyfriend. I have no one and I live alone, sometimes i can go 2 weeks without talking to anyone. Some day Im ok with it and someday I cry and feel alone :)
i want to be your friend
That's me too
That goes ditto for me as well, minus the actual crying. I'm don't really understand people who have a pretty great partner, but still feel lonely. That's just life. Very imperfect.
It's the same for me. I felt so lonely that I searched this on RUclips. I've always been an introvert and was never good at making friends and maintaining relationships. And the friends I had ignored me. So I stopped bothering them. I have no one. I am crying as I am typing this.
Awww
I haven't had a friend since I left school at 16. Now I'm 44. No friends. No girlfriend and only one relative left. Life has lost all meaning. I wake up wondering if I want to continue?
Hang in there friend. I have found my strength in God, the Maker of us all. He's the only one who will never leave us or forsake us.
Same here, and i am 9 years older than you. Many days the first thing in the morning when i wake up is the feeling of anger that i woke up again.
I don`t want this "life" anymore. It isn´t living, only existing. Decades with Depression and Loneliness kill you inside.
Wow...you sound like me, I have no friends or family and lost reason to do things, I force myself out to swim or hike once in a while but it doesn't do much good. I used to like building things but no one sees it or shows any interest in what I do.
join some clubs. anything. anything at all. sign up for a course and just do one thing. start from there
Keep going Jacob and everyone here! Find meaning and purpose in helping a cause that you care about, which could also be a good way to make connections with others who care about the same thing. Smile at people, learn a skill, go to church, join a book club, get to know people in your neighborhood, help others... The world needs what you can give. ✨😊
I just lost my two closest friends so It's all lonely here. I can feel you girl.
Same
May God bless you.
John 11: 25 Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and the life; he who believes in Me will live even if he dies, 26 and everyone who lives and believes in Me will never die. Do you believe this?” 27 She *said to Him, “Yes, Lord; I have believed that You are the Christ, the Son of God, even He who comes into the world.”
Jesus: John 14: 21 He who has My commandments and keeps them is the one who loves Me; and he who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him and will disclose Myself to him.” 22 Judas (not Iscariot) *said to Him, “Lord, what then has happened that You are going to disclose Yourself to us and not to the world?” 23 Jesus answered and said to him, “If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our abode with him. 24 He who does not love Me does not keep My words; and the word which you hear is not Mine, but the Father’s who sent Me.
John 21: 24 This is the disciple who is testifying to these things and wrote these things, and we know that his testimony is true. 25 And there are also many other things which Jesus did, which if they were written in detail, I suppose that even the world itself *would not contain the books that *would be written.
John 7: 37 Now on the last day, the great day of the feast, Jesus stood and cried out, saying, “If anyone is thirsty, let him come to Me and drink. 38 He who believes in Me, as the Scripture said, ‘From his innermost being will flow rivers of living water.’” 39 But this He spoke of the Spirit, whom those who believed in Him were to receive; for the Spirit was not yet given, because Jesus was not yet glorified.
Me too
Me too 🥺
❤️
Sending you hugs girlie. I feel you. I honestly blame myself for this.
Same, I also always blaming myself.
Same
I(30) never had a friend in my life.
I always was mocked in my life, that I never made a friend. I was always interested in other people, but they didnt care. I even bought a birthday present for a person, I thought was my friend. He said, I should stop contacting him.
I also never experienced Love. Every Girl rejected me. No hug, no kiss, no own family.
Beside that I work in a dead end job. I always do overhours to meet end needs. But thats mostly not enough. I need to turn to alcohol or other drugs to deal with daily stress of poverty and social isolation.
Any Advice?
@@ashironikko5860 I(30) never had a friend in my life.
I always was mocked in my life, that I never made a friend. I was always interested in other people, but they didnt care. I even bought a birthday present for a person, I thought was my friend. He said, I should stop contacting him.
I also never experienced Love. Every Girl rejected me. No hug, no kiss, no own family.
Beside that I work in a dead end job. I always do overhours to meet end needs. But thats mostly not enough. I need to turn to alcohol or other drugs to deal with daily stress of poverty and social isolation.
Any Advice?
@@ceooflonelinessinc.267 hey dear dont turn to drugs it wont help at all just focus on the things thats in ur life right now like work or anything and if u wanna talk am here
Trust me i have No Friends and im ALWAYS LONELY SOMETIMES I HATE IT THO
I'll be your friend.
@@elizabethtrainer9732 aww thx
Don’t worry, I have Asperger’s and I always struggle to make friends.
Facts but it feel good at the same time
I felt this video so so much. I haven’t had a best friend in years, and no one ever asks me to hang out. So many days I wish I had that one girl friend to do everything with. Coffee, shopping, yoga, walks, talks, everything. I get so jealous of those who have that bond with someone. I totally get what you mean by if you reach out you feel like you’re bothering them, it’s part of the reason why I don’t make much effort anymore and I feel like everyone already has their ‘circle’ if you know what I mean. You really seem like someone I would click with on many levels 🤍 thanks for putting this video out and sharing with us. It’s nice to know we’re not alone feeling this way
Oh dear at 18 and in my early 20s I was so isolated. This isn't uncommon. In time, with a little effort you'll make some good friends and 1 will become your best friend.
That's what they all say
@@keithnayo4582 Because it's true.
@@lightinthedusk Facts!!
@@lightinthedusk Sounds like alot of projection. So what would you tell this woman. Give up and be sad?
I totally relate, I never had a long term friend either, they’ve always moved away as well or we grew apart. Listening to your sorry sounded so much like my own, I’m glad you posted this because I never knew there were other people out there that also experienced this.
Seems like there's loads of us 😅
@@GABbrodog yeah 😂
I can relate so much to this story
May God bless you and be with you.
I share this, is about Jesus.
John 14: 21 He who has My (Jesus) commandments and keeps them is the one who loves Me; and he who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him and will disclose Myself to him.” 22 Judas (not Iscariot) *said to Him, “Lord, what then has happened that You are going to disclose Yourself to us and not to the world?” 23 Jesus answered and said to him, “If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our abode with him. 24 He who does not love Me does not keep My words; and the word which you hear is not Mine, but the Father’s who sent Me.
John 7: 37 Now on the last day, the great day of the feast, Jesus stood and cried out, saying, “If anyone is thirsty, let him come to Me and drink. 38 The one who believes in Me, as the Scripture said, ‘From his innermost being will flow rivers of living water.’” 39 But this He said in reference to the Spirit, whom those who believed in Him were to receive; for the Spirit was not yet given, because Jesus was not yet glorified.
Where can one start reading the Bible?
John (4th Scripture of the New Testament) and/or Acts of the Apostles (5th Scripture of the New Testament)
This is my website, is in dutch but the videos are in English
jezus.simplesite.com/
I’m only just seeing this video now, but I wanted to thank you for being so open and vulnerable. Know that you are absolutely NOT alone in feeling this way. I wish that all of us lonely people could meet and be friends ❤️
I'm 48 years old. I have 5 non family friends (only 2 I consider true friends). Friends come & go over the years. Stay strong.
Same for me. I literally have 0 friends. Not even a boyfriend. It’s really embarrassing sometimes when my parents are like “why don’t you hang out with ____?”
Like I have no friends who am I supposed to hang out with? I have a few acquaintances that I see like twice a year.
A lot of the friends I used to have also got married, had kids and that changes A LOT because they rarely have time and if they have time for you it always has to be planned, there’s a time limit and the kids are there as well. You can’t just spontaneously do something with that person anymore which sucks.
I feel very very lonely most of the time and cry myself to sleep like 5 times a week because I have nobody to talk to or do things with. It’s been like this for so many years I don’t even know what it’s like to have friends or hang out with others.
The holidays and New Year’s Eve are especially hard for me because that’s when you’re supposed to hang out with friends and go to parties and stuff like that.
I even lied about it to my therapist. She asked me if I have a support system, if I have any friends and I said yes because I was too embarrassed to admit that I literally spend all my time alone and never speak to anyone.
I have also been really suicidal because of this and genuinely don’t really see a reason to keep on living if I don’t have anyone.
I know this is a long comment but I just had to get this off my chest lol sorry
How old are you?? I feel very similar to you, I’m turning 28 soon and really freaking out about being this old not having experienced so many things that most people my age have, like hanging out with friends, having romantic partners (i mean even if they don’t work out, just having the life experience that comes with these relationships are important for you I feel) and even living alone..I’m not even motivated enough to move out on my own, firstly my parents don’t care since I do work and help out and in our culture it’s usually common to have generations in a single home..and I also would have NO ONE AT ALL if I left my family since I have no friends of girlfriend that would come visit me...I feel in a rut and don’t know when things will start turning for me, it’s so hard to make friends when you have absolutely zero connections and the only time you leave the house is to work, shop, go to parks or trails with family. The only friend I was still in contact with from way back in high school has now ignored me since last year (he has his own life going on) and the only women I have been able to date (like 3 my whole life) all get disinterested once they find out how im a recluse and have no friends.. yeah its rough.
You should open up to your therapist, don’t pretend to be fine. Everyone goes through different stages in life... fulfillment comes from yourself not from other people.Make your own life, then you can extend your life to others.
How you doing now?
Exactly same condition with me dear, I cry a lot inside and dont want to live, from India
@@mohitgupta840 you are worth it man. Don't feel hopeless.
I’m 20 and I totally felt this. Thank you for sharing because this did help me feel less alone:’) You are so brave for being this vulnerable. You seem like you have an amazing personality, you understand yourself, and you’re motivated and also super beautiful! You got this girl, I know things will get better for you❤️
May God bless you and be with you.
I share this, is about Jesus.
John 14: 21 He who has My (Jesus) commandments and keeps them is the one who loves Me; and he who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him and will disclose Myself to him.” 22 Judas (not Iscariot) *said to Him, “Lord, what then has happened that You are going to disclose Yourself to us and not to the world?” 23 Jesus answered and said to him, “If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our abode with him. 24 He who does not love Me does not keep My words; and the word which you hear is not Mine, but the Father’s who sent Me.
John 7: 37 Now on the last day, the great day of the feast, Jesus stood and cried out, saying, “If anyone is thirsty, let him come to Me and drink. 38 The one who believes in Me, as the Scripture said, ‘From his innermost being will flow rivers of living water.’” 39 But this He said in reference to the Spirit, whom those who believed in Him were to receive; for the Spirit was not yet given, because Jesus was not yet glorified.
Where can one start reading the Bible?
John (4th Scripture of the New Testament) and/or Acts of the Apostles (5th Scripture of the New Testament)
This is my website, is in dutch but the videos are in English
jezus.simplesite.com/
You are most definitely not alone in any of this. You literally verbalized how I have felt my whole life.
Sometimes having a friend that knows everything about you can be great but when you fall out it can be awful because you know that secret stuff is being spread..ive been burnt like that so it's hard to trust someone
I'm an introvert and find it hard to put myself out there I like being by myself most of the time...
Yep. Introvert here too. I work alone all day in my own business so I see nobody but the Mailman lol
I am 31 now. I find it difficult to find true friends. I tried to connect with people even schoolmates but they tend to be envious and likes to make unnecessary drama and gossip... i hate having to even hear them badmouthing each other, etc. People who have real friends that are supportive are lucky. But when i turned 29, i learned to detach myself from people. I only try to talk to them when they talk to me. I rarely go on socialmedia also so I don’t have to be obligated to like their posts since i have some friends or acquaintances who expect you to like their photos on ig just because they saw you online or it will be drama. Yes, that pathetic like highschool kids...😕 i love my dog, my own company, my family and my bf. I still consider a few people my friends but not close friends that i can trust much and talk in a deeper level. Many people are toxic and their presence is exhausting. So im glad to know that i am not the only one who feels this way.
I feel exactly the same way about people in general, they don't know how to act like mature people and it just bothers me. I am also very lucky to have found a pair of really good friends in school despite this, and my family has always been there for me when I needed them the most. But it's always been a struggle for me to get out into groups and socialize, everyone just seems to become something else than themselves and it is bothering and sad at the same time. I just hope one day I meet a group of people that are just like me. Like they say in my country: "The one who searches, finds".
I've been feeling the same. I don't know if it's becoz of quarantine or something. I'm an introvert too. I feel like I'm bothering people too.
You have helped many people by talking about this. The society tends to stigmatize the power of solitude instead of praising people who are strong and independent enough to be on their own. I always say when you gain that power to enjoy your own company and do stuff on your own, it is such a stable state. It’s lovely to have a close friend but it’s hard to find them. I have formed many friendships to find out down the way the “friends” wanted something. It’s like many people don’t know the value of friendship because their own goal in life is having a family. Having a family is great but there are so many other aspects in life. Thanks again for this great video.
I really appreciate this video, it takes a lot of courage to talk openly about this. I'm in the same situation and it really helps to know other people struggle with this. Thank you.
Wow, I relate to this so much. I have been trying to be really self reflective and make changes to be more approachable and be a better friend, but I feel like I always end up disappointed or lacking connection. Thanks for sharing this.
May God bless you and be with you.
I share this, is about Jesus.
John 14: 21 He who has My (Jesus) commandments and keeps them is the one who loves Me; and he who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him and will disclose Myself to him.” 22 Judas (not Iscariot) *said to Him, “Lord, what then has happened that You are going to disclose Yourself to us and not to the world?” 23 Jesus answered and said to him, “If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our abode with him. 24 He who does not love Me does not keep My words; and the word which you hear is not Mine, but the Father’s who sent Me.
John 7: 37 Now on the last day, the great day of the feast, Jesus stood and cried out, saying, “If anyone is thirsty, let him come to Me and drink. 38 The one who believes in Me, as the Scripture said, ‘From his innermost being will flow rivers of living water.’” 39 But this He said in reference to the Spirit, whom those who believed in Him were to receive; for the Spirit was not yet given, because Jesus was not yet glorified.
Where can one start reading the Bible?
John (4th Scripture of the New Testament) and/or Acts of the Apostles (5th Scripture of the New Testament)
This is my website, is in dutch but the videos are in English
jezus.simplesite.com/
Beautiful lady, You shared deeply intelligently, no rambling at all; and helped soooo many of us who feel the same...I mostly chose not good friends; and now keep primarily to myself, and am okay with it...Having friends is almost a construct, and certainly overrated, more trouble than it's worth. I've learned to be my own best friend. No beau for several years now
I been losin' friends and findin' peace
But honestly that sound like a fair trade to me - Drake
I am alone but ain't lonely... Having no friends should not mean you should be automatically labelled as depressed, miserable or boring. You can have friends and still find your self unhappy. I don't personally don't mind being alone because it honestly brings peace of mind and joy to me whether you choose to believe me or not, but still I speak the truth... I've given up on making new friends because it only brought stress and anxiety in my life. I've reached the stage in my life where I don't mind being a HERMIT or becoming of a HERMIT one day. I might get judged and people might feel sympathy for me, but I don't care because I know I am a happy person who just wants to be alone.
I think with people like us, we want authentic. I cannot be around drama or fake, as someone will be your friend until something better comes along. I am an artist at heart, introverted, love animals and being outdoors and I have been this way my whole life. I didn't drink or party when I was younger, so I was left behind a lot but I learned to expand on my own loves in life. Enjoy the peace sister!
Exactly - you cannot compromise with fakeness in your life.
The worst thing is me being an extrovert has no friends
💜
I used to be an extrovert but they made me became an introvert
It is just dark loneliness, year after year.
I’m sorry
Wow, this is so relatable from start to end. I literally felt like I was looking at myself. I turned 23 this year, but I couldn't shake off the thought that I lived a solidly wrong life because I didn't have a single friend to open up to. My problem is that even if I meet new people, I can't get rid of that invisible imaginary wall that I built to protect myself and no matter how I get close to people I can't maintain that relationship. I try to use that stress as the driving force for self-development but I'm still lonely as hell. I wish i could be mature as you but i guess it's too hard for me. We've never met and haven't talked, but I feel like I made a friend just like me. Thank you for uploading this video it's good to know someone feels the same way. You'r beautiful just the way you are!!
Wow I really needed to hear this. It’s so easy for someone to say “go out and do stuff” or “go and meet people” but it’s like where? I am your age as well and it’s harder I feel to find people to hang with because as you said most people already have that “good friend” and you don’t want to be a bother. I feel that 100% and not only has it messed with my confidence but my anxiety has somehow gone up too because of it. You are not alone
I had a best friend for years. Then she married a horrid little shit. She allowed him to brain wash her. She started saying racist things that I never knew she felt. So I decided to find a new friend. Yes it takes time. It can be done. Just volunteer or join a club, be gracious and not a gossip. A friendship will grow. It did for me.
Thank you for sharing. I can totally relate to your feelings about connecting with people.
I prefer to have meaningful conversations with people rather than superficial ones so maybe I have high expectations of people in order to call them friends.
I think a person's level of self love is so key to relationships with others. Have not mastered this at all. You don't seem like there is any reason why you should not have friends. You are perfectly sweet and charming. Thanks for sharing this. I am so grateful that you and many others are sharing your struggles to show the rest of us that we are normal. I can relate to feeling like I don't want to bother anyone with my looking for company.
I can relate 100%. I give you credit for being brave and sharing such private thoughts about yourself. I hope that good quality people gravitate to you. It’s true doing things alone is fine but there’s times that you want a buddy to go on an adventure. I have a baseball glove and a softball 🥎 on my home office it’s been there collecting dust for years. I don’t have anyone I can even call to go throw a ball around at the park. Every time I walk past the glove I’m reminded of that fact. Some days it hurts me more than others.
I relate to this a lot. I was homeschooled and I always get in my head about people like or not liking me. I really appreciate you sharing!
Hearing every word you speak, sounds just like my inner dialog. It was comforting to know I'm not alone. ❤️ Thank you so much for sharing
I’m going through the same thing in this moment in my life now. What really helps me feel better is just hearing experiences like yours to let us know that other people have gone through the same experiences that you have and that you are okay and we’ll be too. Thanks for the video!
Gurllll friend
Your not alone 💫
I'm exactly like you!
I relate with you 100%
I'm an introvert as well
most of The time I'm ok...
Every thing your saying
It's like looking in the mirror!
Appreciate you opening up 💞
Your a very strong person
Stay positive and grounded
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I'm 27 and I've been feeling desperate about "finding my tribe". Most people I meet end up being fake or misunderstand me and don't give me a chance to open up, because I take time... they mostly get put off by how reserved, polite and quiet I am. I have a great dad, a great sister, a great boyfriend, a great best friend, so I feel like I shouldn't complain - but most of my relationships are very mature, serious ones. I wish I had acquaintances from work, or college, anybody that shares common daily life stuff with me, but I can't seem to gel organically to just go on a bender after work, share laughs...just be part of a group....I feel like I'll never have that, and feel envious of people who easily make friends, and their experiences. I try to be okay with it but I can't seem to stop feeling this crippling loneliness
I am really amazed that people feel lonely inspite of having a boyfriend and a best friend. I have a lot of friends but do not have a girl friend or a significant relationship. Also I feel that one relationship may not be able to absord the entire gamut or the range of our personality so probably you are right in your feelings. I have a daughter of your age who does not talk to me but luckily I have a lot of friends and a busy professional life. I have not see her in two decades but I could never become ready to meet her.
All relatable! I also don’t have friends & I am used to it. I do miss the company of others who can deeply relate with me, but superficial connections just don’t hold interest. I was social & socialized growing up. Take care, people 💗 this world has grown a bit lonely for lots of us.
Thanks so much for being vulnerable and sharing this. I can definitely relate. I usually feel like a sort of auxiliary friend, not the best friend and so many friends have just drifted away so easily. I thought it was just me! I’m praying for you and everyone else who feels this way😊
It’s totally not just you. I’m 34 and feel the same way. We need to normalize making new friends at all stages of life.
Oh and I stumbled on your video while I was feeling sad and lonely. You sound lovely and I hope you find that really close friend who is like a sister
I could totally see how hurt she felt at 9:05 . As someone who was also brought up that way, instances like that hurt a lot because we know deep down in our guts that we want to be outgoing and sociable but it feels so hard to
Having run the existential hamster wheel when I was in my 20's and early 30's, I can say now with relative certainty that I prefer being alone.
Me too. Im 42 and I have a kid. And my dogs. Been married twice - both were over for good reasons. I am not a negative person at all but I am starting to accept that nowadays it’s more likely you will eventually get hurt. For what? You know? Also, as I have been divorced for a year now, I have also reflected on how people I thought were friends when I was younger, were not. Seems like there is always some interest attached, I really do think it’s harder to find people who will want to be around simply because of who we truly are.
Nothing like having a best gal friend. It gets more difficult as we get older, life kids and time preferences. All I can say is keep trying to make some friends , we all have the same needs and feelings. I found it’s tough to start a friendship cause there’re a lot of up front bonding time. But being open to making time on occasion for one another. I also have friends who move away a lot. And I tend to analyze things differently.
But I’d be your friend, all the things you listed sound like a ton of fun!!
You also seem very nice. Best of luck and keep trying and be yourself!!! Your not alone and it takes a ton of courage to do a video like this one. You can do it!!
Babysitting for a friend is always positive and hopefully they’d make some time for you back! Thanks for sharing!! 💕
I feel u!! because I used to have the same lonely feeling even though I did have friends. But with time I found out that I also needed to open up to people to feel connected. Maybe it would be good for u to make a list of things that you like about yourself and why you are a person people want to hang out with. For me it was also helpful to lower my expectations of meeting new people. If it wasn’t the „perfect best friend“ as first sight, I wasn’t interested any more. But building a deep friendship takes much time, so give yourself and the other person that time! Wish you all the best 💖
People will usually want to be "friends" with you once there is a NEED of some sort. (money, support, common goal, activity of any kind)
Once the NEED is gone, those same people will be gone just as fast. I'm 41 and I've learned this in the past 20 years.
Exactly. I'm 41 to and know this to be true.
So accurate.
Some personal examples please?
Facts
When you showed up in group chat, and everyone start stop chatting and suddenly the admin kick you out :')
Totally getcha.
Yea I hear you.I just exit unless it's a work or study related group which I don't have a choice but to be in and mostly prefer to be a silent listener unless it's absolutely necessary to chat.
Yes😔
Sad.I feel you.
Thank you for this. Because I been struggling with my own issues of self esteem and no friends to loss of a 11 year relationship. And feeling the overwhelming feelings of loneliness is hard. I definitely not easy with the friends that you have but they are not the ride or die friend that you wished you had. I was never home schooled and had many friends but never ones to actually be there through it all with me. So I feel you on this. I understand you and relate! Thank you for this.
Thank you for posting this! It's nice to know I'm the only one feeling that way! You're brave to open up❤️
Hello Emily, this is the first video I watched of your channel and that is because I actually searched on yourtube "I have no friends" and your video came up. Even though it is an old video in your channel I decided to leave my comment because I can relate so much with what you said.
I think you are very brave and bold of you to film this video and put out there.
I personally have a boyfriend who is my best friend but it is not the same as having a girlfriend. I have some friends like you describe, I m very thankful too to have them and I think they are awesome, but as you said they already have their "ride or die". So that feeling of not want to bother and text them first and ask them how they've been or ask them to go out, I have it too. I am actually 25 too and even though I live in Greece I can relate to the feeling you've described pretty well, as I also have reaserced and became part of social groups. Plus, now in this difficult times of covid-19 I am far away from my family (cause I work in another city than that, that I was born) and it gets much worse. I guess I m trying to say that this video hit right through my ❤️.
I hope you are staying healthy and safe. Thank you for being so honest we need people like you who present their truth.
I can relate to you a lot, especially the sentiment of wanting to wake up on a Saturday and grab coffee or hike with someone. I know people but never had someone that wanted to do that with me. To be fair my only friend in the city is a major introvert. Still I wish I was someone's best friend. Hope you are doing well ❤ you're not alone
Thanks a lot for sharing all of this. It took a lot of courage but is also helping so many of us out here realize we're not completely alone. I wish we could all somehow become friends and support each other. I've been moving around a lot over the years and have zero close friends where I currently live. I think that this is the loneliest I've ever been in my whole life (and of course, the pandemic sure hasn't helped!) I try every day to love myself and be at peace with myself, but it sure is easy for my mind to be my own worst critic and enemy. I'm moving to a new town soon and am trying to put positive intentions out there to meet even one or two people who could eventually become closer friends that I can bare my soul to in due time. Sending love, comfort and light to everyone else who is feeling alone right now and in their lives in general.
I'm so happy that you shared this. I feel the same way. I don't have any close friends and I think this is a result of childhood abuse. I understand exactly how you feel and what you're talking about. It makes perfect sense.
CURRENTLY FEELING THIS WAY . I SENT MY BOYFRIEND A LONG TEXT HOW I WANT TO BE ALONE FOR A LITTLE WHILE BC I FEEL SO EXHAUSTED 😩 ... MY BOYFRIEND IS ALWAYS HERE FOR SUPPORT THOUGH IM GLAD HE UNDERSTANDS WHAT IM GOING THROUGH ❤️❤️ ❤️ . HE’S SO SWEET TO ME AND I REALLY APPRECIATE HIM FOR EVERYTHING 💯🙏🏾
I have a hard time getting along with others, people at my job say “ you drive everyone away, and nobody likes you ” almost everyday.
I don’t let it bother me that much anymore, I’ve found that trying to conform and fit in with others isn’t worth it, at the end of the day, for me at least I would definitely feel more lonely.
I lost all of my best friends who knew everything about me of ten years, and sometimes it’s lonely. However, I learned how to be strong without them and I have a stronger relationship with my family, church, and the small sum of friends I still have.
I would say don’t be discouraged, and yeah it’s lonely sometimes but stay encouraged God is love and he will never leave or forsake you, and for me he’s the best friend I could ask for.
Like you said in your video it’s a phase, and eventually it will pass, and if you come out you will be stronger and better,
Anyway, stay encourage, and talk to the people who want to talk with you, having friends sometimes really is overrated!
@Remi Adesulu - Your situation sounds like mine....maybe we could help each other. Wanna talk?
I'm in my early-mid 20s and It just feels like all my thoughts were expressed through you. About being left out, having a boyfriend who cares but not having friends outside your family who would be your teammate like in a movie. And I also speak slowly and carefully when I share personal stuff. I understand you so much, thank you for sharing this
I’ve always wanted this as well. But it’s also making sure you have the right people around you. I’ve always wanted a really close friend as well
Wow , this is exactly what I’m going through from beginning to end . 😔 well I’m here for you ❤️. You’ve gained a friend just cool that someone goes through the exact same thing I go through in my daily life
May God bless you and be with you.
I share this, is about Jesus.
John 14: 21 He who has My (Jesus) commandments and keeps them is the one who loves Me; and he who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him and will disclose Myself to him.” 22 Judas (not Iscariot) *said to Him, “Lord, what then has happened that You are going to disclose Yourself to us and not to the world?” 23 Jesus answered and said to him, “If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our abode with him. 24 He who does not love Me does not keep My words; and the word which you hear is not Mine, but the Father’s who sent Me.
John 7: 37 Now on the last day, the great day of the feast, Jesus stood and cried out, saying, “If anyone is thirsty, let him come to Me and drink. 38 The one who believes in Me, as the Scripture said, ‘From his innermost being will flow rivers of living water.’” 39 But this He said in reference to the Spirit, whom those who believed in Him were to receive; for the Spirit was not yet given, because Jesus was not yet glorified.
Where can one start reading the Bible?
John (4th Scripture of the New Testament) and/or Acts of the Apostles (5th Scripture of the New Testament)
This is my website, is in dutch but the videos are in English
jezus.simplesite.com/
what's up girl. Do you have a fb?
It's crazy how apart from your schooling and job field, I have these exact thoughts and feelings regarding friends. Literally
Thank you for doing this video. Thanks for being open and honest. A lot of people feel this way .
Emily, I have tears in my eyes watching your video... Most " friends " that I have met are only interested in me if I can do something for them. Financial favors, you name it... You are a wonderful person, you have a great personality, and I can only hope to be as wonderful as you