Toxic World of Self Help: Hustle Culture, Fake Positivity, Addiction & Pursuing Money | Robin Sharma

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  • Опубликовано: 12 сен 2024
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    Is it time to redefine what it means to live a rich life? In a world where we're constantly bombarded with images of material success, it's easy to fall into the trap of comparing ourselves to others and believing that more money means more happiness. But what if there's more to wealth than just money?
    What if the richest people aren't those with the most money but those with the most meaningful lives?
    This week, I'm thrilled to welcome Robin Sharma to my Feel Better Live More podcast. Robin is a globally respected humanitarian who has devoted over a quarter of a century to helping humans realise their native gifts. One of the top leadership and personal mastery experts in the world, he advises companies such as NASA, Nike, Microsoft, Starbucks, Yale University and the Young Presidents’ Organization.
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    In our conversation, we explore Robin’s concept of the ‘eight forms of wealth’, including physical and mental wellness, rich family relationships, fulfilling work and strong community connections. We discuss why traditional self-help approaches often fall short, particularly in the realm of personal growth and happiness, and how society’s obsession with hustle culture and toxic positivity has exacerbated the problem of burnout and dissatisfaction.
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Комментарии • 394

  • @kmshultz
    @kmshultz Месяц назад +454

    Over a hundred years ago, William James said: "It is certain that the prevalent fear of poverty among the educated classes is the worst moral disease from which our civilization suffers." We must stop worshipping those who pursue wealth at any cost. We must praise those, especially of the younger generation, who turn away from the paths of conventional success, and towards the paths of their hearts. Our culture must make this seismic shift, for the sake of our souls-and all the inhabitants of our planet.

    • @abrakadabrah3031
      @abrakadabrah3031 Месяц назад +5

      🎯🎯🎯🎯

    • @jue7434
      @jue7434 Месяц назад +4

      Loved this so true !!

    • @jonathanperry4189
      @jonathanperry4189 Месяц назад +6

      Thanks for sharing this

    • @lizziewalsh275
      @lizziewalsh275 Месяц назад +3

      This is amazing ❤

    • @mhlorenzo
      @mhlorenzo Месяц назад

      @@kmshultzmaybe now that there's this over communication the message can be more widely spread!

  • @MrsHuntontheTrails
    @MrsHuntontheTrails Месяц назад +23

    When my beloved mum died, all the advice was to start clearing her home by disposing of impersonal and unsentimental stuff. I followed my instincts instead and walked straight into the storm by working on her room. It was full of items, cards and letters that left me in pieces for hours at a time - but it was also very cathartic. After about a week of sitting with my grief, I was better able to cope with clearing other areas of the home. I know grief is highly individual and this approach wouldn’t be for everyone but it really helped me to process what had happened.

  • @philippetahon1167
    @philippetahon1167 Месяц назад +209

    As a psychotherapist specialised in weight and body image issues, I've seen things changing in the last ten years. Many people come and see me after having tried some of these "just do this and you won't believe how your life will change" advices. They've heard about them through some podcast, on social media or in books. They want quick results, quick fixes. But it doesn't work that way, at least on the long term. It takes time, patience and courage to heal from trauma. I often tell them (when they see me to lose weight): being slim won't make you happy but being happy will help you losing weight.
    We have to stop letting people believe that their life can improve with tips...

    • @MachineThreadPainting
      @MachineThreadPainting Месяц назад +8

      its not all about feelings. its about nutrition. its very likely this person with weight issues has had all their eletrolytes burned up dealing with stress.
      the only electrolyte is NOT sodium. healthy electrolytes include calcium
      addressing a calcium deficiency, a magnesium deficiency helped me overcome all of what you described.
      its NOT about emotions. its about nutrition.
      calcium, makes you relax and sleepy, this is what happens to me.
      stress burns electrolytes. emotional type therapy will never work unless the nutritional deficiencies are addressed.
      yes, the emotional side is important, but it will never get better until the physical side is addressed.
      electrolyte tablets are sold on amazon and other places, i take these, they really help.

    • @austinmoorefield6542
      @austinmoorefield6542 Месяц назад +2

      Dude, your job is to give tips...

    • @deepforestenergy60
      @deepforestenergy60 Месяц назад

      People just need motivation, or more precisely, subconscious self-programming. I am 60 years old, and my condition is 30, and everyone who sees me on the sports field begins to subconsciously be programmed for good health, energy, gets motivated to exercise, and, accordingly, reduce body fat. So, you can show my videos to your patients and you will see an amazing effect!

    • @rustyshackleford6637
      @rustyshackleford6637 Месяц назад +2

      My fuckin problem is I can't put on any fuckin weight

    • @kmshultz
      @kmshultz Месяц назад

      @@austinmoorefield6542 While some psychotherapists may view their role that way, in my view the better ones do not.

  • @mikeberam5716
    @mikeberam5716 Месяц назад +94

    I've been what I call a chronic early riser as long as I can remember. I love mornings but there are times I wish I could sleep later. That said, my early morning walks around my suburban neighborhood are something I enjoy a great deal. I used to be a gym rat, which is fine for exercising. And I still go once or twice a week. But today, I wouldn't trade my walks for any other form of exercise. It's not exactly walking in what most people would think of as nature. But at 4 AM, when it's dark and quiet and you can hear the birds and see the many trees silhouetted against the moonlight - not to mention an occasional coyote - you realize that you are, indeed, walking in nature. Safe travels and many blessings.

    • @jakepaul3033
      @jakepaul3033 Месяц назад +3

      That is my experience as well. I feel like I discovered such a depth of wealth just in getting up at 4am.

    • @insertmyidentityhere
      @insertmyidentityhere Месяц назад

      @@jakepaul3033 people love to act like they're admirable & disciplined for getting up abnormally early lol. There's nothing virtuous about getting up at a time when your brain is supposed to be recovering.....🙄

  • @dankrozonouski
    @dankrozonouski Месяц назад +18

    This podcast is a breath of fresh air. Ive had to stop listening to most podcasts these days as they have become so toxic with this hustle culture, positive thinking, make money, it’s either all your fault or all someone else’s fault kind of mindset. There seems to be no authenticity and exploration into one’s true self anymore. It’s sad. Thank you for this.

  • @petestevenson1004
    @petestevenson1004 Месяц назад +40

    Five questions 53:30 -
    1. What am I grateful for?
    2. Where am I winning?
    3. What will I let go of?
    4. What does my ideal day look like?
    5. What do I need to hear (from my loved ones) at the end?
    Eight Forms of Wealth 1:13:28 -
    1. Growth
    2. Health
    3. Family and friends
    4. the Craft/work
    5. Money
    6. Community
    7. Adventure
    8. Service

    • @vedawattieram1974
      @vedawattieram1974 Месяц назад +4

      Thank you so much!! I was trying to find the questions. How very kind of you😊

  • @novastariha8043
    @novastariha8043 Месяц назад +30

    “Rumi”
    “The Way Out of the Pain” is through the Pain”

  • @user-yb7zz9cc9s
    @user-yb7zz9cc9s Месяц назад +10

    I learned the biggest lie sold to people is this idea of sustained happiness. Happiness, like any other emotion, is a fleeting one. It's impossible to sustain, thus, all the unhappiness that still prevails. Being in the state of gratitude is the key to content, which leads to joy and a more serene life.

    • @4465Vman
      @4465Vman 27 дней назад

      no real leader is trying to sell completely sustained happiness...happiness is an emotion but its also a state thats an be sustained and developed, not sustained like someones always happy but they have a higher level of happiness on average than people who dont work on it

  • @ivadedeva7005
    @ivadedeva7005 Месяц назад +43

    Positive thinking and the culture of optimism are Business for billions. Also positive thinking help corporations to maintain ppl “positively” so they are more productive!

    • @worldview730
      @worldview730 Месяц назад +4

      The difference is what your positive & Optimistic is about

    • @GracieDontPlayDat
      @GracieDontPlayDat Месяц назад

      It started with New Thought, i.e. mainstreaming New Age doctrine by elite larkers who were bored with their wealth and comfort, and decided to push their personal religious beliefs on the plebes. Watch “The Submergent Church.”

  • @Sarara-mv5sx
    @Sarara-mv5sx Месяц назад +107

    We aren't even allowed to properly grieve anymore. When my father died, the family decided a "Celebration of Life!" was more appropriate than a proper funeral and luncheon. This was a man of great personal dignity and faith. I'm sick of the shallow, self-indulgent, rah-rah mentality from people who cannot cope with life on a deep an meaningful level. It's so crass and horrible.

    • @sbella6719
      @sbella6719 Месяц назад +15

      I love the 'celebration of life' theme but I also understand what you're saying. There's a solemn reverence that goes with traditional services and I love that too

    • @barbarafairbanks4578
      @barbarafairbanks4578 Месяц назад +12

      Yah, puts that whole C.O.L. thing in a whole new light.
      E.g. - we can't grieve openly or even admit to our grief?
      So, instead...Let's 🥳 Celebrate!🎉

    • @Sarara-mv5sx
      @Sarara-mv5sx Месяц назад +4

      @@barbarafairbanks4578 Exactly.

    • @Anonymas-di6zc
      @Anonymas-di6zc Месяц назад +4

      I feel with you 😢
      Poeple become cruel because they don't want to face death and don't let grieff those who need it, i do 😢
      And for most of my problems i'm the trainer, i learn, put in practice and if it's a winn it will work
      There's no saver, no easy and the true way, without craying what do i do whith all my feelings, let them eat me? 😂😂😂

    • @Fibonaccisghost
      @Fibonaccisghost Месяц назад +18

      I hated that too. My dad put a bullet through his head and when his friend said the funeral should be a celebration I said fuck off dude. We didn’t feel like celebrating shit

  • @Grungefan2018
    @Grungefan2018 Месяц назад +44

    Toxic positivity is so annoying.

  • @sbella6719
    @sbella6719 Месяц назад +17

    We've gotten so use to saying we're ok that saying we're not ok makes others uncomfortable.

  • @Mexicobeanpole
    @Mexicobeanpole Месяц назад +46

    “Learning the skill of letting go.”
    This is something I haven’t yet been successful with yet.

  • @Vlatka211
    @Vlatka211 Месяц назад +14

    I f...ed myself up so much with positive thinking. Firstly, I was very dishonested to myself, secondly, I went into this narcisoid mode of "loving myself" and " working on myself", and thirdly, I was overwelmed with responsibility of creating my life with my thoughts. And I definitely can't control them. I saved myself with the work of Byron Katie and questioning my thoughts. And taking responsibility of my faults and bad behavour.

  • @sbella6719
    @sbella6719 Месяц назад +47

    1:28 "you're training yourself for self-respect...the more you respect others, the more you'll respect yourself" Earlier today, before even hearing this, these very same words came to me. It's nice to get confirmation.

    • @MachineThreadPainting
      @MachineThreadPainting Месяц назад +2

      self respect comes naturally for me, this talk of training for self respect bothers me because who is the trainer?
      self respect comes naturally when you live right, address nutritional deficiencies like calcium, magnesium, ie electrolytes.
      there is a physical aspect: nutrition and exercise are huge.
      self respect has always come very naturally for me, not sure why there are so many channels on this, its not that complicated.
      must be people making money.

    • @sbella6719
      @sbella6719 Месяц назад +1

      @@MachineThreadPainting This is truly my first time hearing someone relate a character trait like respect to nutritional deficiency. I am 61, from childhood my misconception of giving respect meant giving others authority over you, that only people in elevated positions were deserving of respect. So now I'm learning what it truly means...That's great that it comes naturally for you but can you direct me to those other channels that talk about respect as part of character development. For some of us it doesn't come so naturally because of prior programming.

    • @SaulEmersonAuthor
      @SaulEmersonAuthor Месяц назад +3

      Synchronicity is speaking to you. It's a thing - please don't ignore it.
      'Follow Your Highest Excitement...' the breadcrumb trail you laid out for yourself before you came here.

    • @sbella6719
      @sbella6719 Месяц назад +1

      @@SaulEmersonAuthor thank you ❤️

    • @SaulEmersonAuthor
      @SaulEmersonAuthor Месяц назад

      @@MachineThreadPainting You can train for something without a 'trainer'. Going for a long run can be training for a marathon.

  • @mike-yp1uk
    @mike-yp1uk Месяц назад +12

    I feel our society has accepted money as a marker for success but it's the way you utilize time for good

  • @user-ej5gx7ph7q
    @user-ej5gx7ph7q Месяц назад +12

    Self help is marketing to an ever growing, disconnected consumer base.

  • @rigoelliot115
    @rigoelliot115 Месяц назад +15

    I agree about not ignoring all the negative feelings. The challenge is being uncomfortable in the struggle and accepting what you can’t change and doing what you can control.

  • @jenniferbalogh4090
    @jenniferbalogh4090 Месяц назад +38

    I highly agree that you can't ALWAYS be positive. Sometimes we must embrace and address our negative feelings too. We need to grieve first, in order to let go later. We can't dissociate always. I tried many times suppress my negative emotions, but it always come back to me and literally saying to me: grieve me first.
    Savoring..one of the best: being present in the moment, literally enjoying every second of that one cup of coffee, being aware in every second of your environment.

    • @user-yb7zz9cc9s
      @user-yb7zz9cc9s Месяц назад

      That's the universe's way of saying, acknowledge these negative feelings, right? If not , as you say, they will always resurface until you do. We acknowledge our positive emotions, so why wouldn't we do the same with the negative. I also learned that if I don't acknowledge my darker emotions, it always comes back. But once I do, they never resurface.

    • @jenniferbalogh4090
      @jenniferbalogh4090 Месяц назад

      ​@@user-yb7zz9cc9sYes, I guess the universe trying to lead me on the right path, but sometimes I still pretty resistant. When the "voice" is very loud, I can't help, I must pay attention to that. The positive emotions are easy to embrace cause they feel "warm" to our soul. Negative emotions do the opposite to our soul, but I believe if we take the time to process them, then this way we can grow emotionally, psychologically, and we can become emotionally strong after a while.

  • @Maxx-mw2zt
    @Maxx-mw2zt Месяц назад +4

    Basically stand in your truth so you can address your feelings head on rather than say you're okay when you're not. This is the journey to healing.

  • @chantakchantal6065
    @chantakchantal6065 Месяц назад +41

    I turned to Christianity and all the horrible feelings went away almost instantly. I don't care what others say but it works. I am calm, at peace and sleep well now as never before. The self help stuff did my head in instead.❤✌️🙏

  • @heartwisdomlove
    @heartwisdomlove Месяц назад +7

    My father has tons of money, plenty of time to do all his creative writing, and he is the most resentful person I’ve ever known, so obviously all his lifelong resentments that are never ending, and never healing have not affected his wealth or his creativity

  • @timferguson2682
    @timferguson2682 Месяц назад +30

    Robin Sharma, thanks. I'll find your books and read them. I do have a quibble about words. "Professional" means you get paid. "Amateur" means you are working out of love.
    Boat builders (amateur ones) say "Professionals built the Titanic but an amateur built the ark."
    Cheers

  • @mirandaandrea8215
    @mirandaandrea8215 Месяц назад +23

    Great points regarding looking at phone in morning! I'm 66 and didn't use a computer till I was 53! I hate the fact I look at the phone as soon as I get up! I must stop!😮

    • @Marcus_C51
      @Marcus_C51 Месяц назад +1

      I've got quite a few things I'm working on changing but fortunately being addicted to my phone is not one of them. I prefer larger laptop screens so that has saved me-ha ha! I wish you well on curing yourself of the phone reliance.

    • @kcz81582
      @kcz81582 Месяц назад +1

      The y uh yo

  • @sbella6719
    @sbella6719 Месяц назад +13

    Thank you for this. I have a problem allowing myself to feel sadness because I'm so afraid I'll fall into a deep depression. So I tend to get mad instead.

  • @vegashainning8071
    @vegashainning8071 Месяц назад +11

    Heal what hurt you, So you don't bleed on others that have not touched you!💥☝️ Blaaam😊

  • @13thJurorVote
    @13thJurorVote Месяц назад +7

    I often wonder what would happen if the grid crashed, gas wasn’t available for people to commute & sports were not there to distract people from dealing with reality. It would be horrible. All these toxic positivity & materialistic people would prob be unable to cope long. Hustle culture has almost killed me. I’ve learned now to hustle means to do what I can and cut myself some slack that I’m not on it 24/7. It’s hard but I’m trying to let those mindsets go

    • @sbella6719
      @sbella6719 Месяц назад +2

      We got a version of that during covid. I think a lot of people are still in recovery mode.

  • @shanti888
    @shanti888 Месяц назад +31

    Perpetual self help leads to never living our lives. See the perfection of who you are and embrace it

    • @yumorules
      @yumorules Месяц назад +1

      So true. It's a waste of time too I wasted years being addicted to those books.

    • @sbella6719
      @sbella6719 Месяц назад +2

      ​@@yumorules not meaning to be disrespectful but yet here you are on this podcast. Has anything really changed for you? I feel I'm addicted too and haven't been able to make any significant progress

    • @yumorules
      @yumorules Месяц назад

      @@sbella6719 Not all of it is a waste of time. Brian Tracy is well worth the time. He really inspires me.

    • @JohnJesus
      @JohnJesus Месяц назад +3

      The problem is that people do not take the words/teaching they learn into APPLICATION.
      We are not perfect. That statement of "see the perfection of who you are" is a big problem. Indeed, it is important to embrace oneself fully, the good and the bad - and then dedicate oneself (through living application) to better oneself. It is not by reading another book and watching another podcast that things will change - it is by picking ONE thing that you want to improve and dedicate yourself to it. Writing is key to deconstruct the problem and discover solutions. It took time to become who we are today, it will take time to change - but if you give up = the preprorgamming will kick in and you're doomed to remain the same, dissatisfied with yourself and with life.

    • @sbella6719
      @sbella6719 Месяц назад

      @@JohnJesus by "writing is key to deconstruct..." do you mean journaling or repetitive affirmations?

  • @mhlorenzo
    @mhlorenzo Месяц назад +9

    Oh, nice paraphrasing around minute 15 regarding people who are not wealthy and Jim Carrey's statement. Way to go Dr. Chatterjee... Such a pleasure to have someone leading the conversation so masterfully, yet humbley. It is almost like you were trying to translate the aspects that might be challenging for both your audience and the people you invite! Amazing.

  • @710danrac
    @710danrac Месяц назад +4

    I have been a big fan of Robin Sharma for over 25 years, heard him present several times and watched his growth.. Dr Chatterjee is new to me but am enjoying listening to him now too. This interview with the two of them is brilliant and I’m savouring every minute. Nuggets of gold.

  • @rachelkaplanRSS
    @rachelkaplanRSS 13 дней назад +1

    As someone who struggled with depression for years and is now an EXTREMELY happy person, I can tell you that there absolutely are ways that you can become happier. And I'm not saying that you will be feeling positive emotions all of the time. Nor should you because being positive every second of every day is a sign of mania. But true happiness is about both feeling good most of the time and living up to your values. I'm thankful for the times that I struggle because one of my values is to be a life long learner and challenges are how I best learn. Also it allows me to relate to people who are still struggling like I used to, especially my clients. I work with people with mental illness and I have so much hope for them. Just because you're depressed now does NOT mean you will be depressed forever and yes it is possible that someday you'll be so happy! Good luck to everyone who wants more happiness especially if you're struggling!

  • @BusisiweMochoane
    @BusisiweMochoane Месяц назад +4

    This conversation is so healing, liberating and refreshing ,such a breath of fresh air ,thank you💆‍♀️🧘‍♀️

  • @user-rh9jg9fu7z
    @user-rh9jg9fu7z Месяц назад +3

    Yep something is not working if you're constantly having to engage with some new self help mechanism

  • @troybutler426
    @troybutler426 Месяц назад +3

    Hey man I heard you say that sometimes money is all we have, no relationship with brother and sister, hold it another very very powerful statement that will stop us all in our tracks....WE HERE TO TAKE CARE EACH OTHER FIRST, WE LOOK FOR MONEY AND LOST....

  • @ozarkrefugee
    @ozarkrefugee Месяц назад +16

    Too many people are not in touch with reality. It is impossible for one to be 100% hyper-happy all the time. I see some of the younger generations with a hyper-Pollyanna mentality, when confronted with real shitty situations they seem to have a meltdown to where more realistic people will acknowledge the situation for what it is and start to deal with it in a practical way.

    • @vedawattieram1974
      @vedawattieram1974 Месяц назад

      Hmmm...

    • @sbella6719
      @sbella6719 Месяц назад +5

      I agree with this. I've also seen others who are too in touch with the negatives of reality that they become paralyzed by feelings of helplessness. It's about balance.

    • @MixedGril
      @MixedGril Месяц назад

      How ​@@sbella6719

    • @rustyshackleford6637
      @rustyshackleford6637 Месяц назад

      Yeah what's gonna happen

    • @Eli-tq8fj
      @Eli-tq8fj Месяц назад

      They will start asking you “Do you want a drink honey”

  • @culturedboor
    @culturedboor Месяц назад +2

    ‘Five hours of sleep is plenty, maybe even too much. The rest of the time you should be wheeling and dealing in your hustle muscle so you can get rich!’ That nonsense is destroying people and only making the same people rich in the long run anyway.

  • @JoshuaTrinityWolf-dc4up
    @JoshuaTrinityWolf-dc4up Месяц назад +5

    EXPERIMENT : About 15 years ago this 16 year old teen across the road told me he was sad because his girlfriend dumped him for another guy.I didn't tell him to smile and suck up the hurt I suggested using art to reach the pain and heal it.I told him to find 10 songs about love that moved him but not angry punk rock or heavy metal anger. He would listen to these 10 songs for days when he felt hurt rising and he came out positive and happy on the otherside.
    Then I worked with him to find his passion in life and his curiousity.He said he loved !! cooking meals for his parents and sister and he had this pleasure smile on his face.He later went to College and is a big chef in Toronto , Canada. His parents think I'm the magic man and they never stopped thanking me. :0) The only way through the pain is to walk into it.

  • @ArtByHazel
    @ArtByHazel Месяц назад

    Thank you for sounding the alarm on how unhealthy things can be with self-help and other old programming that needs to be replaced in order for us all to get back to what truly matters beyond the societal expectations, labels about success, wealth, health, money; and more.

  • @EricCoplen
    @EricCoplen Месяц назад +6

    Inhale. Exhale. Work. Rest. Give. Receive. It's a rhythm and pain and negative emotions let you know when your off beat.

    • @MachineThreadPainting
      @MachineThreadPainting Месяц назад

      ....ignore everything except emotions.....i give up.
      people are too stupid.

  • @vedawattieram1974
    @vedawattieram1974 Месяц назад +4

    Teared up as Robin talked about his parents. ❤

  • @robynsmith2709
    @robynsmith2709 10 дней назад

    People don't want to you feel negative emotions because it makes you stronger which leads them to no longer having access to you. That's what I've learnt

  • @user-tq3np6ud3x
    @user-tq3np6ud3x Месяц назад +2

    I absolutely love this! You have spoke so much truth, love, & wisdom! Thank you for sharing your life experiences!

  • @dannyrenehan7875
    @dannyrenehan7875 Месяц назад +7

    Just got to remember to be moved by the beauty of the mist over the hills in your old tuscan farm house. Money isn't everything guys😂

  • @palaksardana6151
    @palaksardana6151 Месяц назад +15

    Savoured the entire talk completely. However I have a disconnect with the red flag theory that essentially isn’t a brain child of either of the speakers.
    Show me a person on this planet who doesn’t have their own share of behaviours that would come across as red flags to others. We all perceive this world with the glasses of beliefs we wear and it’s next to impossible that someone will measure up to our satisfaction if we don’t become accepting of the fact that people are different and everyone behaves in their own unique way in different circumstances.
    Relationships should not be only about nit picking and skeptically looking out for what’s wrong in others, but finding common grounds where we can connect. There is nothing called a perfect relationship for it doesn’t exist. But since we humans have a huge social need to belong together, we must endure what comes as a part of the package which is people are unique in their behaviours and handling of situations.
    The ones who are looking for red flags will surely find many and if their belief is firm, they will mostly find themselves alone. And yes, no problem in being alone too if one finds solitude soothing to company which is definitely not going to be as per their expectations.

  • @roisinoconnell707
    @roisinoconnell707 Месяц назад +3

    Such a treat, my 2 favourite self help/well being gurus having such a great conversation. Thank you ❤

  • @brys.3131
    @brys.3131 Месяц назад

    For me it took a complete breakdown because my expectations were too high I realized. I was so miserable It broke me and I gave up all my expectations and desires because I didn't know what else to do. Oddly enough it was the best thing I could have ever done. It got me to explore meditation and finding a deeper sense of love within myself and acceptance. I've never plugged into my life so deeply before. If life hadn't come along and slapped me in the face I would have walked myself right over a cliff. Now all I want to do is plug into the moment and find the beauty that is there. Thanks for this great talk ♥️🤙🌞

  • @daleyglobal
    @daleyglobal Месяц назад +3

    This has been beautiful to hear. Would be honored to work with these magnificent individuals.

  • @deborahhoward8043
    @deborahhoward8043 Месяц назад +4

    Love the discussion, so many gems. I do exactly the same in hotel rooms, and have done so for years.

  • @Andy-yi2ot
    @Andy-yi2ot Месяц назад

    I like when rich people say that money doesn't make you happy, yet they are very important part in creating that happiness, i.e. if you know that you you need a therapist and you don't have money you still will be broken emotionally, you would like to travel and you don't have money- guess what you will go nowhere, you would like to learn new things or try new experiences and without money you can't do those either. Obviously money aren't everything but they can resolve a lot because they give you " THE GIFT OF TIME" which will help us to find ourselves, who we are and what we would like or supposed to do in our life. Money helps us to stop and think for ourselves so we don't follow blindly the society and its demands. just a thought 👍

  • @jangriffin-fi1yx
    @jangriffin-fi1yx Месяц назад +3

    When you have a problem want an answer or whatever is a concern to you best advice that can help enormously is to me is to tell yourself "All's well" it's going to be alright I'll figure this out so leave put aside trust going to turn out right or for the better "see it"... then go for a walk daily 😊 all works out maybe not straight away but does somehow.

  • @naginafarida2105
    @naginafarida2105 Месяц назад +7

    Beautiful podcast, so excellent ❤

  • @calvinchew7985
    @calvinchew7985 Месяц назад +2

    Truer words have never been spoken by both speakers in this podcast duh...consider me impressed tremendously

  • @johnkosterimages
    @johnkosterimages Месяц назад +4

    Fantastic podcast.

  • @godsgracenaka247
    @godsgracenaka247 Месяц назад +3

    Thank you to both of you.

  • @kvietimas
    @kvietimas Месяц назад +1

    What a delightful conversation! I think I'll have to listen again to write things down in my journal. Very insightful!

  • @lagoldie9783
    @lagoldie9783 Месяц назад +1

    Thank you for this. I think the self help ideas are going to the extreme!

  • @popps33
    @popps33 Месяц назад +1

    Thoroughly enjoyed this! Will definitely order a copy. My motivation to grow my material is just to invest in my other pillars. My dreams with material wealth isn’t to buy Ferrari or nice watches… my dream is to have my extended family with me when skiing. To have my dear friends when we go to football tournaments or other festivals. Lastly, in investment to the unfortunate so they can increase their quality of life. The returns I desire is positive impact. The reason I use invest rather than give because I do risk assessment in even my giving. I’ve grown to not seek recognition.. too much attention is not what I desire. I just like peace & good times.. even through thick & thin.

  • @PolishInsight
    @PolishInsight Месяц назад +4

    The title of this video is like you just described the life in NYC to me in one sentence. So accurately true unfortunately.

    • @g-dawg79
      @g-dawg79 Месяц назад +1

      Mine too, living and working in Silicon Valley for the last 25 years

  • @urmichowdhuri1977
    @urmichowdhuri1977 День назад

    What a powerful episode this was, Rangan. Loved on how you both touched on so many important aspects of behaviour very relevant in today’s world and lifestyles people are leading. Loved how Robin Sharma beautifully explained so many important concepts in such a simple manner. I am definitely sharing this episode with EVERYONE I know coz this is definitely one of your best podcasts. Thank you for the good work you both are doing and enriching our worlds with such pearls of wisdom. Grateful 🙏🙏🥰

  • @fatherofEgo
    @fatherofEgo Месяц назад +2

    Beautiful piece. Do you part and something even better shall find you in return

  • @jcszot
    @jcszot Месяц назад

    I believe there’s a balance to everything. You certainly want to practice some gratitude, magnify what you do have try not to magnify the deficits, but be aware of them. Admit to them and live in a state of reality and know that they are there and try to be proactive on how to fix things. It could be financial , health , mental , emotional physical, the list can be long. I lost my husband back in 2013 to a catastrophic disease. Grief is one of the most difficult things to navigate, but there is only one way to go and that is through. So whenever I have other difficulties which never compared to that one, I always practice that, that the only way to go is through. Awareness and appreciation is helpful, but denial is not.

  • @boisterous_taco6511
    @boisterous_taco6511 Месяц назад +3

    “Wealth is more than just money, there’s health and relationships”
    Two seconds later
    “OUR SPONSOR TODAY IS VIVO BAREFOOT SHOES”
    J/k great video

  • @alicecellia
    @alicecellia Месяц назад +1

    Nothing wrong with being addicted to self-help. Have as much as you want. Positivity needs to be backed up by knowledge, if you are ignorant about the truth and the universal laws, just being positive without understanding what it is that you're going through won't help. Purification is the first step.

  • @SkylightSwift
    @SkylightSwift Месяц назад +2

    I totally agree with the self respect and respecting others point in connection to the hotel room scenario that also works in any scenario. In the hotel room scenario I do the same as Robin because rubbish is in bins, cups are rinsed, hairdryer goes where it lives, used towels go in the bathroom in a pile together. Bed is neatened up. It is automatic l.

  • @chriscarter296
    @chriscarter296 Месяц назад +2

    I honour this space in which you exist.

  • @user-rt7tl5je5s
    @user-rt7tl5je5s Месяц назад +1

    Wow! It is a very important talk,thank you !

  • @glorial100
    @glorial100 Месяц назад +1

    Wonderful common sense & wisdom! Thank you.

  • @TheArtsHunter
    @TheArtsHunter Месяц назад

    Positive thinking in this time is ignorance, fleeing from the truth

  • @TeaRose9
    @TeaRose9 Месяц назад +1

    Checking smartphones is the new TV always on in the sixties and seventies.

    • @sbella6719
      @sbella6719 Месяц назад +2

      TV was a whole different experience then. Only 3 channels that didn't run around the clock. No individual tvs, no distracted multi tasking while watching TV because there was no replaying or rewinding

  • @solopreneurjourney
    @solopreneurjourney Месяц назад +5

    I needed to hear this today. Thanks 🙏🏻

  • @mindfulawareness1
    @mindfulawareness1 Месяц назад +1

    I think possibly there might be a few too many ads, but that's how it is, and great guests.🎉

  • @traxsoot
    @traxsoot Месяц назад +1

    Another intelligent discussion on a worthwhile topic. Pleasing to see smart people calling out some misbeliefs created in the self-help and wellness industries. Is there a bigger oxymoron than the organisers of an anxiety management event using a discount timer to panic people into enrolling?
    A true guru seeks reward in results - not revenue!

  • @gracefulexit2023
    @gracefulexit2023 Месяц назад

    I appreciate all the nuggets of wisdom, Robin. You are a legend! Thank you so much, Rangan, for having Robin. ❤ Much love!

  • @RedPandas3111
    @RedPandas3111 Месяц назад +2

    I am a wealth chaser, I want to buy my freedom, freedom is happiness, being able to do whatever you want with your time is happiness.

  • @psychologicalprojectionist
    @psychologicalprojectionist 28 дней назад

    My opinion.
    1. We did not evolve to be happy, we evolved to strive for something. If we have all our needs met, the instinct to strive for something is rationalised by our concept of "happiness."
    2. It can make more sense to fix current negatives than seek fresh positives.
    3. You can only feel positive emotions at the present. You have to make the most of and be grateful for now and also recognise the need to plan for future nows.

  • @sharonlunn1964
    @sharonlunn1964 Месяц назад +1

    I have absolutely loved listening to this thank you so much to you both ❤️

  • @nurbhai111
    @nurbhai111 Месяц назад

    Good to hear from a fellow East African, Sharma! Thanks for sharing your knowledge and thoughts! Have been reading your works for years.

  • @SaulEmersonAuthor
    @SaulEmersonAuthor Месяц назад +1

    On the singing garbage-collector guy:
    The problem wasn't with _him_ (he was literally in a private inner place where he could sing) - but is a testament to society & the local World around him.
    He is so used to toxic interactions, not coming from a place of goodness or love - that an unexpected interaction of love, still had to be processed through the same filter required for the majority of likely interactions - which will be toxic (i.e. where he is treated rudely, ignored, invisible, disrespected).

  • @troybutler426
    @troybutler426 Месяц назад

    We must turn failure into fuel....THIS GOT ME REALLY GOING NOW....I FAILED AT EVERY THING, BUT NOW I HAVE MYSEF AND A GREAT NEW IDEAL ABOUT HOW TO BE EVERYDAY.....JUST LIKE WHEN I FIRST GOT HERE. , NO MONEY HAPPY IN YOUR MOTHER AND FATHERS ARMS...LOVE THESE GUY

  • @leondouglas8117
    @leondouglas8117 Месяц назад

    "I scratch my stomach I wanted to let you know." That line was hilarious
    😂😂
    And love the conversation about working with joy Flow Grace passion. Reminds me of kahlil Gibran quote "work is love made visible.
    Beautiful conversation. Thank You 🙏❤️☮️

  • @peacefulisland67
    @peacefulisland67 Месяц назад +6

    I hate to break it to you guys, but anything can become an addiction or distraction.
    People look for help, self or otherwise, when they are distraught, unwell, confused and uneducated in realms of medicine, mental health and spirituality.
    The subjects and objects are not to blame or at fault.
    It's more about our lack of willingness to give up our time to help those suffering.
    We need very little from the outside to actually support each other in life.
    Time, curiosity, charity (generosity) and willingness to bear with moments that are less than rewarding until much later.

    • @barbarafairbanks4578
      @barbarafairbanks4578 Месяц назад

      @peacefulisland67
      Agree! ❤
      ...and I suspected this was you, b/4 I ck'd to see. (from reading your priors😊)
      Love your mindset!

    • @ridammisra1299
      @ridammisra1299 Месяц назад

  • @dustinmiller2775
    @dustinmiller2775 Месяц назад

    "He is rich who knows he has enough."
    ~Lao Tzu

  • @user-yy7ub6ng6f
    @user-yy7ub6ng6f Месяц назад +3

    This is the best of all your podcasts

  • @Parkinson63
    @Parkinson63 Месяц назад +7

    Rangan offered him the opportunity to acknowledge the very genuine criticisms of the 5 Oclock club, but he skirted around and pretended they're not there. Instead, he carried on throwing out cliches and generalisations. Not one of the best interviews on this channel

    • @1love847
      @1love847 Месяц назад

      Sounded good to me.

    • @whatkatiedug3838
      @whatkatiedug3838 Месяц назад +1

      5am club was such a cheesy book. But I was hooked and have been getting up before 5am for 5 years. It was a game changer.

    • @mommabender5155
      @mommabender5155 Месяц назад

      I noticed this also. Possibly a good example of toxic positivity?

    • @ksmccaw
      @ksmccaw Месяц назад +1

      Can’t put everyone in the same basket. Mothers or Women in general are so different hormonally (for one) than men & this affects the amount of sleep as well as quality of sleep tremendously! Getting up @ 5 doesn’t look the same for everyone. Robin completely brushed off this significant difference between men & women.

  • @withdaryl6144
    @withdaryl6144 27 дней назад

    This man does have a special talent which he keeps such beautiful thoughts

  • @thebrighthugot
    @thebrighthugot Месяц назад +1

    Amazing episode! Thanks for sharing!

  • @bealivingmiracle
    @bealivingmiracle Месяц назад +2

    This is a beautiful and sublime interview that promotes personal excellence leading to serving and lifting those around us.
    @1:11:03 “The past is a school to be learned from, not a prison to be locked in.” - Robin Sharma
    @1:24:10 CBE - Complaining, Blaming, Excusing
    @1:24:22 “You can tell a victim because they give away their power to make changes in the things they don’t like…Leadership is about APR: Absolute Personal Responsibility.”
    -- What am I doing to create this?
    -- What are my choices?
    @1:26:16 “It takes so little to make someone happy.” - quoted Pau Gasol
    @1:28:58 “The more you respect others, the more you’ll respect yourself.”

  • @OranK-zm4wr
    @OranK-zm4wr Месяц назад +2

    2x giants! Been hoping for this pairing for years. Doesn't disappoint 👌

  • @JoyceMartincream
    @JoyceMartincream Месяц назад

    Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge & the real truth on health issues.❤😘🌈

  • @cristinagoh7639
    @cristinagoh7639 Месяц назад

    Thank you Robin Sharma! You are the one who change my perception in life! ❤

  • @EML-cv2zr
    @EML-cv2zr Месяц назад

    Robin Sharma was the first motivational speaker I was introduced to when I was much younger ❤ his content was excellent

  • @sobc2737
    @sobc2737 Месяц назад +2

    I had listen to this one twice.

  • @januszblank175
    @januszblank175 Месяц назад

    The very and only base for any change is a direct experience. For example, no matter how you can argue that money does not count the most only direct experience of abundance or loss can prove and show so called the truth. People who became wealthy or achieved success in society speak from their subjective perspective. People who does not have their experience of abundance have different perspective. They may try to believe them but without direct personal experiences there always be the room for doubt.

  • @monikastrojna232
    @monikastrojna232 Месяц назад +1

    Another amazing podcast Dr Chatterjee. Thank you.

  • @user-rh9jg9fu7z
    @user-rh9jg9fu7z Месяц назад

    When things get too negative and I need an injection of inspiration I can always count on this channel: a much needed dose of IPOP

  • @HashemMasoud
    @HashemMasoud Месяц назад

    An informative & interesting interview. I believe a balanced approach to self improvement and self help is the best path. Thanks!

  • @sbella6719
    @sbella6719 Месяц назад

    "Pain is a purifier." Is it like going through a crucible? Which is related to being crucified.

  • @troybutler426
    @troybutler426 Месяц назад

    Heroic person, Great information for the world to heal...must be seen and watch repeatedly,....He made good points with every word.....He said the brain washes itself.....I can feel in a positive way what his saying, it's healing itself, I was very angry when I turn to this show, now I'm a different person...I love you man, real talk , I love your parents, Thank them for me please , Troy Butler , your son, your brother, here to understand as much as I can, it feels good and I'm atleast thinking 😅😅 good thoughts, I'm gone watch everyday

  • @annaynely
    @annaynely Месяц назад

    Best thing I discovered lately is the Enneagram cuz it seeks balance, understanding & deep comprehension.

  • @mariapadilla7501
    @mariapadilla7501 Месяц назад +3

    :*** Agree with being up early. I wake up b4 5 am, pray start my day.