My husband followed me to Europe to destroy my life, cut off my nose and damage my face | LNN

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  • Опубликовано: 2 окт 2024
  • If there is one thing Abbi knows, is the fact that she was a great wife and an amazing mother but all that would come crashing down 11 years later when she realized she was living a lie with a man she deeply loved.
    Today, she shares her story of failure and triump, moving to Europe to save her life,to having her husband follow her there and causing massive damage to her beautiful body.
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  • @LynnNgugi
    @LynnNgugi  Год назад +91

    Hello Team LNN,
    I hope we can all learn from Abbie's story:)
    What message do you have for her, feel free to connect with her here youtube.com/@abbiemumbi
    To share your story with us, send a summary to lynn.ngugi@Lnn.digital or info@Lnn.digital for consideration
    Thank you so much for watching:)

    • @nemysown1645
      @nemysown1645 Год назад

      Very moving and inspiring story. Please Ms. Ngugi encourage your country women to educate themselves about NARCISSISTIC ABUSE. It’s a personality disorder (NPD) in psychological terms but spiritually it’s driven diabolically. Satan is the chief of all narcissism! BEWARE!

    • @stellahmarriswambuwah9919
      @stellahmarriswambuwah9919 Год назад +1

      GOD BLESS YOU ABBY AND LNN TEAM🌹🙏🏾 THANKS BE TO GOD MY DAUGHTER IS BACK WITH ME AFTER STAYING WITH HER NARCISSIST FATHER FOR 8 YRS WHEN I LEFT HIM AND CAME TO WORK IN SAUDI ARABIA TO SAVE MY LIFE.💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

    • @joykuria9844
      @joykuria9844 Год назад +4

      Hello Lynn ngugi ,i need your help .i did wrong and i can't face it i need you to help me seek forgiveness aky

    • @carolinew1476
      @carolinew1476 Год назад +3

      I always look to.my mother for strength..she has gone through a lot and she is the reason am.here...my father is like this or even worse I don't know am.really glad she had strength to leave and waited for us to grow up till we can stand on our own two feet then she move!!
      Who.knows what she had been going through all that time.
      More reason as to why am.always scared of getting married up to now35 yes and no child no husband to call my own..
      Women and men go through gh alot in general as well as men..its a tough world out here only God sees us through to the very end.
      Thank-you Lynn for the people you bring to your show I also get inspired and encouraged and learn alot as well.

    • @Bogohoney
      @Bogohoney Год назад +1

      Lynn..when you forgive do you call the person and tell them I forgive you

  • @jeddymoon3803
    @jeddymoon3803 Год назад +543

    “I don’t think people realize how much strength it takes to pull your own self out of a poisonous situation with someone you love deeply. So if you’ve done that today or any day, I’m proud of you.”

    • @doreennkonge94
      @doreennkonge94 Год назад +31

      People have no idea at all! Its so hard. Took me almost 20yrs. Family and friends gave up on me coz they felt it was me refusing to let go..hawajui sio easy. Anyone going through the same please be patient one day they will leave and dust off.

    • @sadelshiko7210
      @sadelshiko7210 Год назад +39

      I walked out on a new year last year, as people were celebrating entering into a new year it was exact 1 hour into a new year he almost killed me with my girl, but I thank God I manage to excape, what hurts me to date is that my baby girl usually asks "mum bona daddy alikua ananifinika na pillow Ile siku nashindwa kupumua" this word uwa zinanihurt sana his aim was auwe mtoto then me next but I remember that day I had told God to show me the way and intervienne because I was in a toxic marriage, he used to beat me adi naogopa kwenda hosy juu sasa ntaambiana nn, atimes mad at myself on why I allowed someone to torture me like that besides the abuse also totured my baby mentally, but all in all I thank God I moved on with my baby Gods grace has been sufficient to us I secured a job in Dubai late last year at least I can pay fee for her and give her a good life. One day Lynn I'll really like to share my story in your channel to motivate someone

    • @nemysown1645
      @nemysown1645 Год назад +5

      Thank you for sharing this. You’re spot on.

    • @ephatmaina2657
      @ephatmaina2657 Год назад +4

      Spoken like a thousand people

    • @Jojo-pv3uf
      @Jojo-pv3uf Год назад +6

      @@doreennkonge94in hindsight what could have family done kama hautaki? You’re an adult, take some responsibility for your life. People watachoka. Its you getting abused not them, so getting out of the situation is also you.

  • @camille121
    @camille121 Год назад +195

    That’s why I left my very abusive hubby. He stabbed me , I was a punching bag and thank God for my house help then, otherwise would be 6 feet under.I knew it was time. Applied green card, by Gods grace I won. I left with my two kids to USA and left the abuser behind and for Good. 10 years God has been so faithful. I had to build my self esteem again, love myself again. Was hard to forgive but I had to.Big up to all women who emerge strong after abuse.

  • @abbiemumbi
    @abbiemumbi Год назад +123

    Thanks Lynn. GOD Bless you for allowing me to minister to God's people on your platiform

    • @neyomi8155
      @neyomi8155 Год назад +6

      You're such a fighter Abbi...from your story as a 23 year old single mum I have learn a huge lesson...forgiving doesn't mean people have to reconnect🙂

    • @margaretmutuku2159
      @margaretmutuku2159 Год назад +3

      Abbie you are such a kind hearted mother to me

    • @beverleybrathwaite396
      @beverleybrathwaite396 Год назад +3

      Keep Rising Queen Abbie. ❤

    • @sonyia7521
      @sonyia7521 Год назад +1

      Wow, we are more blessed to have listened to you, such an inspiration. It gives us hope. We are agemates and am so inspired as a mother of grown children. Blessings to you Abby.

    • @yvonnemartine9408
      @yvonnemartine9408 Год назад +1

      ❤️❤️❤️

  • @panafrican.nation
    @panafrican.nation Год назад +77

    1:15:38 this lady said exactly what I was thinking when I started watching this video. If the people who are violent in marriages have anger issues, why is it that they're not out there fighting everyone else in society? If anything, some maintain well put together, holier than thou images in public

    • @abbiemumbi
      @abbiemumbi Год назад +3

      They are charmers! Making everyone believe you are the bad guy

    • @zipporahnjauimwe6963
      @zipporahnjauimwe6963 Год назад +2

      I had a toxic mother in law n her son would always say its because of old age that she was so insultive to me n I would ask him "how come your mother gets old only on myself n not this other woman who is living here with us in the same compound*

    • @panafrican.nation
      @panafrican.nation Год назад +1

      @@zipporahnjauimwe6963 Pole sana

    • @abbiemumbi
      @abbiemumbi Год назад +1

      Thanks. Your on point in your observation

    • @cate1175
      @cate1175 Год назад

      @@abbiemumbi your strong woman 💪

  • @gracemwendia341
    @gracemwendia341 Год назад +11

    Oh my God! I knw her she was my mum's friend before she left kenya. I heard about her story and have been asking God what happened after. Am grateful to God now. Thanks Lynn.

  • @chriskianga2666
    @chriskianga2666 Год назад +129

    Been watching lyns episodes and I sweared to myself that I will Love my woman like no other mans business when I get married..have learned alot through all the episodes

    • @MarthaMuiru
      @MarthaMuiru Год назад +13

      👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾and I pray you get a woman who will appreciate you and love you back with everything they've got

    • @sonniem5315
      @sonniem5315 Год назад +11

      Pray you mean each word and may God guide you also may you have a woman who matches your vision of a peaceful union

    • @chriskianga2666
      @chriskianga2666 Год назад

      @@sonniem5315 Amen 🙏

    • @willhector9478
      @willhector9478 Год назад +7

      Remember to pray for a good wife too, I do pray for my son that when the right time comes my son will be blessed with a good wife too 🙏

    • @jeriothmbai2108
      @jeriothmbai2108 Год назад +2

      May God give you a deserving and equally respectful woman

  • @WanjiruMuya
    @WanjiruMuya Год назад +76

    That's too much hatred from that man😑Mumbi you are a Warrior ✊
    Merry Christmas Team LNN

    • @abbiemumbi
      @abbiemumbi Год назад +4

      Hey Wanjiru Muya. Awesome to see you here darling gal

    • @karichsamoei4630
      @karichsamoei4630 Год назад

      True ......merry Christmas too

    • @marynjeri5176
      @marynjeri5176 Год назад

      Merry Christmas wanjiru

  • @nancyblessing8411
    @nancyblessing8411 Год назад +23

    Narcissist personalities know who to go for. They can be men or women and one major charateristic that they have is that they do not want anyone or anything that takes attention away from themselves. Abuse starts when children are born to the couple or the victim chooses to advance themselves via education or business or are earning more money. The victims are easy going, fully trusting, hard working, and empaths.
    Abbie I thank God that you are alive.

  • @terryshiku845
    @terryshiku845 Год назад +27

    Where do men get the strength to beat a woman????I have 2 boys and I am always going to teach them to never hit a woman,,,,it's not good at all at all at all...

    • @sharzie2800
      @sharzie2800 Год назад

      More like how do husbands hit the mother of their kids... utterly pathetic 🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @esthermaiyo2833
      @esthermaiyo2833 Год назад +1

      Terry I have 3 boys and they are so young but i always tell them that they should never lay their hands on any girl ... I hope that when they grow up and one day i wont be there they will always respect women.

    • @terryshiku845
      @terryshiku845 Год назад +1

      My older son witnessed his dad beating me and even hitting my head on the wall and it haunts him till today,,,, am now working on teaching him to never lay a hand on any woman

  • @doreenmwenda939
    @doreenmwenda939 Год назад +131

    My dear women, never love anyone more than yourself. Always love yourself first, being single & happy is far better than staying in abusive relationship or marriage

    • @TheBizuzu
      @TheBizuzu Год назад +9

      Mungu Akubariki Doreen Mwenda....Well said ...no one is born to die for another person ...Our Lord and Savior Jesus-Christ of Nazareth did ! We should love ourselves first!

    • @Jojo-pv3uf
      @Jojo-pv3uf Год назад +6

      Even the Bible says love your neighbor AS YOU LOVE YOURSELF. Its a commandment to love yourself, for its only with the love we have within can we love others.

    • @brendakabanda2181
      @brendakabanda2181 Год назад +4

      I hope my African sisters take this to heart and choose themselves. Being abused to continue someone's bloodline isn't worth it.

    • @lizsarah4580
      @lizsarah4580 Год назад +3

      Well said

    • @kidsentertainmenthub4126
      @kidsentertainmenthub4126 Год назад +8

      Well said sissie iv even learnt how not to attach feelings,so when i smell any form of disrespect i leave faster than i came in and forget that i ever knew you.

  • @florenceachieng
    @florenceachieng Год назад +136

    Whenever I listen to this story about a mother being abused,it really breaks my heart,A lot of woman go through Gbv everyday

    • @carlosmakau3634
      @carlosmakau3634 Год назад +7

      Florence, while I acknowledge that women have been the traditional victims of GBV, men go through a lot of this abuse today but they can't talk about it in public due to stigma. This is a societal issue and spouses need to be sensitized about mutual respect. Negative conflict and violence doesn't solve relationship problems.

    • @carolyneogutu6489
      @carolyneogutu6489 Год назад +8

      Sure. I grew up in a violent home, now I'm taking antidepressants. It's so traumatic.

    • @florenceachieng
      @florenceachieng Год назад +4

      @@carolyneogutu6489 hugs mama

    • @martoscorner
      @martoscorner Год назад +4

      @@carlosmakau3634 what I can advise any one wanting to be involved in relationships is to pray for your Godly anointed partner otherwise, stay without, its not bringing kids to this world in an environment not favorable.

    • @gladysnyakenyanya8758
      @gladysnyakenyanya8758 Год назад +1

      Me too

  • @janetwairagu4462
    @janetwairagu4462 Год назад +13

    Do you guys know that most of the marriàges in the 80s were horrific stories like this ? With most of the women doing emotional labour and giving up their dignity to keep the society happy and maintain social respectability while being beaten every day ?
    The number of people who have had to keep up this rousse are many.
    Ukiona grown women who want nothing to do with their dads in the old age ,this is the reason . Abuse ,sabbotage and trauma.

  • @annemwangi2411
    @annemwangi2411 Год назад +20

    You are amazing my friend Mumbi ,all the back in Botswana to UK.I remember all how strong and encouraging you always were.....you are a true testimony of Gods love....

  • @doreenmwenda939
    @doreenmwenda939 Год назад +16

    Dear Abbi, you're so beautiful and sorry for what you went thru.
    Kindly, If in an abusive relationship or marriage , please check out

  • @annkamau4144
    @annkamau4144 Год назад +44

    That bit about Kikuyu men wanting the woman children to suffer when the part ways is sooo true.

    • @ruthnjoroge693
      @ruthnjoroge693 Год назад +4

      True mine wishes My children to grow up poor and may be I die early and leave them suffering

    • @aesinam
      @aesinam Год назад +3

      @@ruthnjoroge693 God won't let that happen! He's with you and your children.

    • @janeateka1148
      @janeateka1148 Год назад +3

      Any man who is violent and a narcissist feels this way for their kids and wife after parting ways ...they are animals in human skin I tell you..

    • @PetonillaNzomba
      @PetonillaNzomba Год назад

      Very true

    • @user-wr9fn4ny4i
      @user-wr9fn4ny4i 10 месяцев назад

      Kikuyu women are trick too.

  • @lucyndege7679
    @lucyndege7679 Год назад +9

    She is my sister’s best friend….continue winning Mumbi

  • @nkirotevictoria2667
    @nkirotevictoria2667 Год назад +54

    The worst thing that can happen to a person is to have their pain undermined. To hear people say abuse is normal. Where I come from I've observed alot of abuse in my home and in neighbouring homes but the women don't leave because of 1. What people will say
    2. What will become of my kids
    3. This man can get us from anywhere
    4. I'll loose my position in society
    5. I'm not worthy of anything better
    And a million other things. Thank you Abbie for sharing your story. You are a strong woman.

  • @zubodospectacular8598
    @zubodospectacular8598 Год назад +20

    This is such a powerful testimony, thank you mum for sharing. It was such a difficult thing to go through, we all thank God, how you chose healing despite going through such a terrible difficult thing.

  • @selfaakinyi2986
    @selfaakinyi2986 Год назад +69

    I WISH MY SISTER COULD LEAVE HER MARRIAGE, EVERY DAY I SEE HER CALL AM SO SCARED I FEEL SOMETHING HAS HAPPENED TO MY SISTER, I HOPE SHE WILL COME OUT ALIVE TO RAISE HET 3KIDS,🙏🏽

    • @missrono9045
      @missrono9045 Год назад +3

      💗Sending Hugs Akinyi. Am praying for you, mom and your sister. Keep your heart strong. Keep talking to her, keep listening, it is not in vain.

    • @selfaakinyi2986
      @selfaakinyi2986 Год назад +2

      Amen

    • @annitotia11
      @annitotia11 Год назад +5

      May God protect your sister Akinyi... when you are in an abusive relationship only other people see it takes God intervention for the person to walk out...

    • @sharonkiruki9239
      @sharonkiruki9239 Год назад +2

      @@annitotia11 true

    • @aisharicci6400
      @aisharicci6400 Год назад +6

      People really don't talk about the anguish and helplessness families of abused people go through. Most times these families and friends try all they can to get their loved ones out of the abusive situation but only the abused can make the final decision of walking out!

  • @julieandega1505
    @julieandega1505 Год назад +72

    At my early 20s I was a victim....feared to be a single mom of only 1boy,never even shared my story with even my mom nor any friend.....feared about how people could view me... after 3yrs I got strength 💪 picked up my broken pieces and said enough is enough...I had to leave the country too and I managed to overcome everything....it wasn't an easy journey but I made it

  • @juddiewandera
    @juddiewandera Год назад +42

    I am encouraged to follow my dream even after just listening to what Lynn has just read from our guest today. Abby the inspirer🙏🙏

  • @salomemainatv
    @salomemainatv Год назад +10

    Oooh what a sad 😔 story! The Lord having rescued you from jaws of death, I just thank God for your life. Thanks mama for sharing.

  • @murenenellus7850
    @murenenellus7850 Год назад +9

    My heart sunk🙆🏻‍♂️🥲this could have been me🙆🏾‍♀️ I went through all this lady went through and even worse, BUT I almost brought him to stay with us in Europe thinking he will be better. My gutts stopped me, the phone harrasment and abuse. God save your children🙌🏽

    • @abbiemumbi
      @abbiemumbi Год назад

      Your guts dud you well. Gut feeling is usually right ✅️

    • @abbiemumbi
      @abbiemumbi Год назад +1

      Let us listen to our 6th sense or gut feeling. At least give ourselves the time advantage.

  • @tabithashultz6377
    @tabithashultz6377 Год назад +119

    This story is similar to mine, I survived the abuse after moving to the US and having my husband deported due to abuse. Whenever I think of the whole thing and about my survival and that of my children I see the hand of God

    • @phoebeadikinyi3441
      @phoebeadikinyi3441 Год назад +4

      Hugs mummy,hope hamkurudiana na the nigga

    • @margybernard
      @margybernard Год назад +1

      That’s terrible. Why so much violence?

    • @juliahkamau8792
      @juliahkamau8792 Год назад +3

      When she said"for the sake of my young child God save me" Faith moves mountain. She's a strong woman.

    • @lydiajackson8081
      @lydiajackson8081 Год назад +2

      Praise God u made it

    • @rosemarynganga9951
      @rosemarynganga9951 Год назад +3

      Mama you are a great woman of God. Its well you are alive. You are a heroin. You will see your third generation and praised God.

  • @becsower5978
    @becsower5978 Год назад +8

    I can relate with you mum..God bless you so much for sharing... I missed being killed by my ex-husband with a dagger very narrowly... Thanks God to someone who got no peace until she called me and told me to escape... God bless those who helped me escape to a women shelter safely.... We must learn how to spot these red flags in advance🙏.

  • @Wakama783
    @Wakama783 Год назад +11

    This are the kind of women who should be running FIDA. An experience is worth a theory talk in class. The western world protects women. If we can't learn from Botswana then where??? There's so much domestic violence in Kenya but they've nowhere to run to. Hence the question, where do I go??? Can we give them a solace??? Am talking from a sister in law who sees this every time I travel back home. Lynn Fanya kitu fungua Safe house

    • @eveoirongo7081
      @eveoirongo7081 5 месяцев назад

      True. How I wish there can be a safe house and opportunity to exit for resetting. May God grant Lynn partners for saving lives.

  • @veronicambiyu5359
    @veronicambiyu5359 Год назад +9

    As a survivor of domestic abuse I think we need an action plan for Kenyan women. There should be cultural and religious re-education. The discussion concerning what men are taught during initiation need to be addressed.

  • @sallychepkosgei6923
    @sallychepkosgei6923 Год назад +14

    Some people were never meant to marry anyone I mean marriage is not meant for everyone.

  • @phoebelukelabibombanga8956
    @phoebelukelabibombanga8956 Год назад +5

    I'm more than a face more than just a name it's not over until God says so I'm encouraged

  • @estellasimpson9975
    @estellasimpson9975 Год назад +2

    Abbie.. Abbie.. Abbie you’re loved by God. You were saved for a reason 🙏🙏☝️❤️❤️ may you continue to inspire others. This story has left me speechless.

  • @monicaopondo2150
    @monicaopondo2150 Год назад +17

    Lynn, I have realised that every girl brought up by loving and peaceful parents, admire their parents and are always positive towards marriage, but most of them end up in toxic and brutal marriages. I am one of them. And many more I know are victims! Lynn, its sad.

    • @daisychemutai9967
      @daisychemutai9967 Год назад

      Very true Monica.I agree with you.

    • @mugabiamina5120
      @mugabiamina5120 Год назад

      So true ..same here

    • @ruthdavid356
      @ruthdavid356 Год назад

      I agree. I guess many overlook because they didn't see that happen at home and they became so hopeful that it will change someday. Big mistake

  • @dineomocoach
    @dineomocoach Год назад +11

    I am here inspired by her bravery and determination to keep going against all odds. Abbi thank you for sharing our Botswana with the rest of the world, it’s quite interesting to hear what people say about my country, glad that you found Emang Basadi Movement to be progressive. Lynn, there is just something about you show. Love you sis, you are doing an amazing job. 🌟🌟🌟🌟Keep shining . Much love

  • @Rhoda_Wangare
    @Rhoda_Wangare Год назад +3

    He was a charmer..most abusive ones are good to other people except their spouses.

  • @ireneodero1492
    @ireneodero1492 Год назад +16

    That man is perfect example of a narcissist. They begin as prince charming then they evolve to bitterness

  • @emilykibicho3359
    @emilykibicho3359 Год назад +25

    I love this interview. It's good to see the scars though, don't try to forget the scars. The scars are your trophies to remind you of the battles you have won, your strength .

    • @abbiemumbi
      @abbiemumbi Год назад

      It is not possible to forget the scars. I see them everything I look in the mirror.
      But God has healed me from the pain. God gave me beauty for ashes.
      Ps 118;13.
      You pushed me violently so I may fall(die), BUT the Lord helped me. 🙏

  • @sophia4christ
    @sophia4christ Год назад +51

    This one was a malignant narcissist. Thank God she escaped with her life. 🙏🏽

    • @bettygachao9596
      @bettygachao9596 Год назад +3

      Precisely @ Sophia. Even when she said he was very loving at first...I thought ...he only was MASKING. NARCISSISTs are incapable of love they mirror the lover...but calculatedly awaiting for the appropriate time to pounce. The charm is also calculated so no one believes the victim. It's a crime against humanity.

    • @jinnybikini
      @jinnybikini Год назад

      A straight up psychopath. Indeed, thank God she lived to tell the story.

    • @bettygachao9596
      @bettygachao9596 Год назад

      @@janegachema8904Congratulations Jane! Lucky to have escaped with your faculties intact. Yes "heroes outside only"...then abusive behind closed doors. That's why it's hard to convince people they are demons. May God heal you 🙏

  • @jaquellyneazangu7037
    @jaquellyneazangu7037 Год назад +22

    I always see wale wa Mimi ndio wakwanza naomba tulikes sijui ni za kuuza🤗 haya Leo ni Mimi abeg👍

  • @Joyful-gu5bj
    @Joyful-gu5bj Год назад +12

    Whenever I listen to content about abusive marriage, it scares me to get married
    Your Destiny is surely in the hands of God and no devil, no man has power over your destiny until God calls you home himself.

  • @KuiWaKamau
    @KuiWaKamau Год назад +9

    Waaa! This is deep & tragic. The enemy came to steal, destroy and later to kill. We thank God that the enemy was defeated coz he didn't accomplish his "mission" to kill Mumbi. God above all 😇🌻❤💯✔ #SayNoToAnyKindOfViolence

    • @abbiemumbi
      @abbiemumbi Год назад +1

      No to any kind of violence

  • @wilsongoli2747
    @wilsongoli2747 Год назад +12

    Wow, wow, wow !!!. It's not about anger management. Why didn't you hit you boss or parents or the wall? It's about power. I'm a man, but this helps me to counsel people I know who are going through abuse. Thank you, Lynn for you work. Thank you, Aunty Abbie

    • @ritaallahmagani4248
      @ritaallahmagani4248 Год назад

      Thanks very much for this wonderful eye opening talk . It is an eye opener for us abusers that are lost on what to do.

    • @StellaEmmanuel
      @StellaEmmanuel Год назад

      God bless you, Africa need people like you to change for the better

  • @rosebellewaihenya4888
    @rosebellewaihenya4888 Год назад +38

    I see this lady and her kid, she lives near my mum. Her story was in a lot of the media, am glad you did her story.

  • @charitykoech2677
    @charitykoech2677 Год назад +62

    I associate with that feeling of getting stressed towards evening at the thought of going back to my abusive husband😥

  • @shidahmwenifumbo937
    @shidahmwenifumbo937 Год назад +5

    She went through the most 😢and so scary 😟
    What a brave mama and also God is faithful 😢

  • @pollynkirote3762
    @pollynkirote3762 Год назад +21

    This is amazing Lynn for bringing this amazing story we learning and also appreciating our selves for who we are

  • @pammurithi4331
    @pammurithi4331 Год назад +38

    This stories are a lesson to those who are in abusive marriages or situations. Lynn can you imagine my 9yr old boy told me today that he would want to meet you. Reason I don't know why.

    • @sherryrazan8690
      @sherryrazan8690 Год назад

      😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @Zintlle
      @Zintlle Год назад

      Ur doing something right

    • @b2772
      @b2772 Год назад

      Abuse is real and very traumatising.😪😪
      Praise God aunt your life came out of such toxitism.

  • @rosedhieu8618
    @rosedhieu8618 Год назад +14

    Abbi is such a strong woman. This story is just one in many untold ones. Glad Abby and others who are sharing their experiences will help others who are undecided in an abusive relationship be it male or female. However, female victims are more especially in countries where domestic violence has been normalised.

  • @carolyneogutu6489
    @carolyneogutu6489 Год назад +15

    It's true, abusers are charming to other people so that when you're hurt no one will believe. I remember my violent and tyrant father when selling harvest he would add soooooo much to neighbors yet we were not allowed to take a portion to eat. We grew and harvested much then he sold everything and my mum had to buy the same for us to survive. Sad❗

  • @teresagacheru7340
    @teresagacheru7340 Год назад +2

    What a beauty inside out !? She's too bold n one in a million to came out n share such a life threatening happening ! Am inspired n have learnt alot from the testimony. It can never be over before it's over! Kudos Madam n may the Almighty continue strengthening you to writing more educative n inspirational books🔥👏👏👏

  • @joddymartha7296
    @joddymartha7296 Год назад +4

    I am more than just a face ! This is more than just an inspiration oh my God🙏🏼

  • @sanyuelpuganda3581
    @sanyuelpuganda3581 Год назад +3

    Yes! Spouse abuse is not about anger management! It is about power...

  • @thato97
    @thato97 Год назад +27

    Thanks you. I am from Botswana. When we tell people that we are far much better than any African countries only that we keep low profile. People think we are nothing but better.In Botswana free education and free health care.

    • @rexona1178
      @rexona1178 Год назад

      Are you competing only with people below you, typical mentality of us Africans. There are countries in South East Asia that were far poor but are now inventing things. What are your people doing with all their resources and what is their level of IQ?

    • @muisyofrancis4371
      @muisyofrancis4371 Год назад

      MAKOROKOTO

    • @alicemachoka446
      @alicemachoka446 Год назад +1

      Am your neighbor here

    • @winnieshikanga9235
      @winnieshikanga9235 Год назад

      Soooo

    • @janethbyegon
      @janethbyegon Год назад +1

      It's why I want to go to Botswana one day soon.

  • @susanmukasa4213
    @susanmukasa4213 Год назад +1

    You are such a great woman and a living testimony.Thanks for talking out to young people that for a good marriage,you don't get impress by what your eyes sees but the character.Your voice is the rescue of many people.

  • @nyamburarachel8184
    @nyamburarachel8184 Год назад +43

    Marriage has really changed its meaning 😥

    • @gloriouswomandaily
      @gloriouswomandaily Год назад +3

      Sadly...but all is not lost

    • @athyjudy5682
      @athyjudy5682 Год назад +1

      So sad🥲

    • @isaacm-kenya9172
      @isaacm-kenya9172 Год назад +2

      As long as you continue watching negative stories your statement will remain true.
      There are very functional marriage and good husbands.I am not sure which channel to refer you to....
      Filter what you need to watch and hear.
      Tafuta positive stories

    • @nyamburarachel8184
      @nyamburarachel8184 Год назад +2

      @@isaacm-kenya9172 kindly direct me to those channels

    • @payingitforwardwithcarol
      @payingitforwardwithcarol Год назад +1

      @@isaacm-kenya9172 what of us who grew up in homes where the only thing we saw was violence. I have been trying to let go but weuh. When I sleep all the episodes starts playing in my mind

  • @veraonsongo2338
    @veraonsongo2338 Год назад +1

    May you get many platforms to tell this powerful story to encourage people to walk away from abusive relationships. Power and respect to you WARRIOR QUEEN🎉🎉!!!

  • @patriciakoroma587
    @patriciakoroma587 Год назад +17

    Aunty Abby, so glad to hear your story. Domestic violence is really soul destroying, the child/children are also affected by these abuses.

  • @sandraclarke8003
    @sandraclarke8003 Год назад +2

    This is truly captivating your story will help more than you know. I do understand that you have more to share we are blessed to have you as a survivor

  • @sandrastapleton290
    @sandrastapleton290 Год назад +5

    HOW GREAT IS OUR GOD .PRAISE HIM TODAY AND ALWAYS. ABBY YOU ARE ALIVE FOR YOUR CHILDREN AND TO SHARE YOUR EXPERIENCE WITH OTHER WOMEN

  • @mercyohuru110
    @mercyohuru110 Год назад +1

    Mama you're a strong woman. Your story is so touching but am happy that you overcame about all that you went through. May our good Lord protect you always.

  • @doreenmwenda939
    @doreenmwenda939 Год назад +12

    She forgive him becoz it was her way of healing. She needed to let go.

  • @bettymbeki6748
    @bettymbeki6748 Год назад +3

    Thanks to God for letting you survive. Cos for sure that was a miracle. You are a strong and an amazing woman. True inspiration. May all ladies going through abuse borrow a leaf from you. And also for the men going through abuse as they are there as well.

  • @lucywambui1672
    @lucywambui1672 Год назад +2

    I really enjoyed the testimony. So moving and I have learn alot at same time. Keep shinning mom and be bless Lynn

  • @Annah21526
    @Annah21526 Год назад +21

    I rule out that singleness has never killed any one.

    • @julietkutegeka1513
      @julietkutegeka1513 Год назад

      True but children are the main reason here and anyone can have a child

    • @gladysgitau7458
      @gladysgitau7458 Год назад

      Exactly 💯

    • @susanwanjiruwairimu6339
      @susanwanjiruwairimu6339 Год назад +1

      Yes also God always help when you walk out

    • @Mother.Confessor
      @Mother.Confessor Год назад +2

      Aki being single, dating, married or celibate doesn't protect you from violence or death by the hand of a human. I fear humans.

  • @nidiagraham7444
    @nidiagraham7444 Год назад +10

    👀👁👁🇯🇲❤🇰🇪. Remember , mad people dress up into clean clothes , well educated, good looking and attractive too.

  • @ngozinwankwo5051
    @ngozinwankwo5051 Год назад +14

    Abbie is a wonderful person and makes a lot of sense. I love the fact that she can laugh again

  • @marthawangui7237
    @marthawangui7237 Год назад +4

    A very strong lady.. though I felt broken 💔

  • @kidsshow1919
    @kidsshow1919 Год назад +7

    Please lynn help baby sagini junior whose eyes were gouged out get Justice, please visit that baby too give him a hug on my behalf once you get there , I can't imagine the pain that innocent child went through for 6 hours

  • @risperwambui8369
    @risperwambui8369 Год назад +5

    Oh God!These stories are such an eye opener .

  • @Fay-wicks
    @Fay-wicks Год назад +40

    I remember back 2018 somewhere at a house I had rented,my so called boyfriend I loved that time ,decided to slaughter me and then himself,guys it was 1am at night I really fought for my life guys,the knife ilinikata mikono only and I managed to throw the knife through a door ikaanguka nje and then alikua amefunga nyumba na kufulia na akaeka funguo kwa mfuko,my guys when I managed to throw the knife away the guy alianguka chini na akaanza kulia uncontrollably,mm nikachukua funguo ,I opened the door na tangu nitoroke upto date sijui kama ako hai ama ako wapi,it was over.sikuamini if I could over power a man,I thank God for my life today,he was determined to kill me completely alikua ameniambia watu watakuja kujua tuko ndani juu ya harufu

    • @lucywairimu9236
      @lucywairimu9236 Год назад +3

      Long live dear sister

    • @jlmchannel5579
      @jlmchannel5579 Год назад +1

      Nasty experience ,bless the Lord at all times 🙏🏿

    • @tabbiemwas7478
      @tabbiemwas7478 Год назад +4

      Glad u took power in ur hands to direct ur life .

    • @Fay-wicks
      @Fay-wicks Год назад +4

      Was really a nasty experience,could tell the man was feeling so disappointed when he didn't manage to accomplish his mission,he knew he had lost it all, allowing me to escape alive,yani I didn't know a man can reach a point of feeling like he can own you ,such that even if you decide to walk away and begin a life on your own,he knows definitely you will make it because am a Nurse and I could hustle here and there,I remember that night begging him to spare me because I was the only hope of my family,he said he want to disappoint them😭😭,will never forget upto date I do have phobia with knives ata nikikosana na mtu first thing I do think of where the knife is😭

    • @lizznjeri9231
      @lizznjeri9231 Год назад +1

      @@Fay-wicks woi mungu anakupenda,

  • @eunicewariara9809
    @eunicewariara9809 Год назад +8

    Went through the same violence, those things can really confuse and drain you badly, I later found out that I was married to a narcissist, and offcourse you know how hard it is to leave to pple, but I finally left being stubbed all over my body 3 yrs ago.. steal in the healing process and I can tell you that am very peaceful now

  • @gloriouswomandaily
    @gloriouswomandaily Год назад +5

    May God heal all the ailing marriages 🫂

  • @rexona1178
    @rexona1178 Год назад +12

    Not really sure of what can really go on in the head of men to abuse their wife like this, especially a woman that stood by you during very challenging times. I have a brother who is doing thesame thing to his wife in Cameroon and I have spoken until I am tired. Pounding her everyday and justifying it. I pray that this woman finds rest.

  • @thechosenlady5607
    @thechosenlady5607 Год назад +14

    What an amazing and inspiring interview. Thank you Abbi for sharing your story and showing so many to get their healing and live their purpose. Indeed nothing / no one can stop the purposes of God in our lives - but us!

  • @reneerenee1792
    @reneerenee1792 Год назад +6

    Forgiveness is devine, but never go back to your abuser. This is touching. Am a victim of abuse, the healing process is a journey and not easy.

  • @agnesnjeri8402
    @agnesnjeri8402 Год назад +12

    Before I finish with the episode..I would like to congratulate team LNN for doing alot in that one week that you were in London..kudos🙌

  • @moraa8683
    @moraa8683 Год назад +1

    I'm glad he got imprisoned, I really hate abusers coz I've gone through that,
    But I thank God Abbie you're okay and very brave.

  • @hannahngigi162
    @hannahngigi162 Год назад +43

    She is a gem. I would call her gold that has really gone through a real fire. May she live long to give this testimony to generations after generations. My mom died as a result of domestic violence at only 38 years. I was 19 and we were left four of us! We have seen the Lord working through us as we give back what God has given to the community.

  • @manyaradorcas6311
    @manyaradorcas6311 Год назад +6

    What a narcissistic man! I am glad Abbie found herself, healed and happy

  • @agnesnjeri8402
    @agnesnjeri8402 Год назад +8

    Five years wasn't enough for that him to be in jail..that was so soo wrong,I thank God that the lady was strong enough to stand again..that was baad.."more than just a face"that deep

    • @coralsky-o3h
      @coralsky-o3h Год назад +1

      I know, the crime was premeditated attempted murder. I believe the govt so no need to spend taxpayers money on a non citizen criminal. So they gave him 5yrs & sent him right back to wherever he came from.

  • @anneanjao7008
    @anneanjao7008 Год назад

    Super! Love this lady's fighting but gentle spirit. Go! Go! Go! God, Emmanuel, is with you.

  • @joselinekanana3363
    @joselinekanana3363 Год назад +46

    No shame in being a victim 💕

  • @pinkyradebe9037
    @pinkyradebe9037 4 месяца назад

    My goodness, I love this Mother, so much strength and faith in God. More blessings Mama Abbie 🙌🏻🙌🏻♥️♥️♥️

  • @chania80
    @chania80 Год назад +9

    What a strong and inspiring woman. And she's even more beautiful now than in the older photos. Peace is everything. God bless you mum! I am so happy that you are free. Thank you for sharing that abuse is emotional all the way to physical. People underestimate the damage of emotional abuse. Keep educating our society esp to improve systems.

  • @carolkamau3264
    @carolkamau3264 Год назад +1

    This is one of the horrified story I have ever heard. You are a strong woman

  • @juststarskyye
    @juststarskyye Год назад +11

    Please consider putting translation when your guests speak Kikuyu. I've seen that many times.

  • @sandratjen-a-kwoei6727
    @sandratjen-a-kwoei6727 Год назад +6

    my ex-husband told me that the man who will ever fall in love with me after him, is a blind man. I was victim of verbal abuse, it took away my self love, self-worth. from time to time, I still struggle. I am not interested in having a new relation, especially when i listen to stories as Abbie's and other women.

    • @juddykananu1630
      @juddykananu1630 Год назад +1

      Sandra no one opinion should stop you wake up girl and shine only God have your final word ❤️

  • @MburawaUK
    @MburawaUK Год назад +6

    Am shocked this happened in UK. Abby thank you for sharing your story, very proud of you mum. May God bless you.

  • @jenniferkamonjo7126
    @jenniferkamonjo7126 Год назад +9

    She is a really strong woman.. I thank God for sustaining her and keeping her alive .Just like Esther she is here for a time like this to encourage others.

  • @MsKairetu
    @MsKairetu Год назад +5

    Oh God, how much can one person suffer. Stigma to single parenting is still very common but I have parented my own with joy and peace. I would rather be alone than be with a man who I dread to see every evening. May God helps us all 🙏

  • @musicforrelaxation6786
    @musicforrelaxation6786 Год назад +6

    May God gave you streath my sister.

  • @veronicambiyu5359
    @veronicambiyu5359 Год назад +37

    What her ex husband family Sayed after leaving is disgusting. How any person could think she should visit him in prison is brainwashed to see women as inferior.Lets fight against this evil.Thank you for sharing your story ❤️ you are an inspiration ❤️

  • @Kasweetie_254
    @Kasweetie_254 Год назад +21

    Ukifika unalike video tukisonga,just imagine likes za hii video ziambatane na views , wow 💯✌️

  • @Mother.Confessor
    @Mother.Confessor Год назад +6

    Very moving and eye opening. One day we'll all face the truth and our demons. Narcissists know no boundaries. They can control and manipulate you from another planet. Glad you got out, glad you and yours are well.

  • @bibiananjambi5383
    @bibiananjambi5383 Год назад +18

    Thanks Lynne for hosting Abbie she is such an inspiration. Empathy not sympathy as Abbie says gives solutions

  • @ferrolblair1552
    @ferrolblair1552 5 месяцев назад

    Thank you for this story ,GOD BLESS YOU this platform 🙏🏾❤

  • @evejblessing5401
    @evejblessing5401 Год назад +9

    Following Lynn 2022 was worthy,
    Happy new year Lynn Ngugi

  • @giftytengey2066
    @giftytengey2066 Год назад +11

    Thanks Lynn for another educative interview. Indeed our strength comes from the Lord. It has taken your guest years to heal, her experience has made her a stronger person. Life is precious, let's all be take care of ourselves. Bless you Lynn. Gifty from Ghana 🇬🇭

  • @jeddymoon3803
    @jeddymoon3803 Год назад +41

    The scars from mental cruelty can be as deep and long-lasting as wounds from punches or slaps but are often not as
    obvious. In fact, even among women who have experienced violence from a partner, half or more report that the man’s emotional abuse is what is causing them the greatest harm.
    Lundy Bancroft

  • @Ijusthavequestions
    @Ijusthavequestions Год назад +1

    That part about scales 👌👌
    This life is about deeds indeed. Wisdom.
    Those two names are perfect. Mumbi means creator and Abigail was a wise woman. We have a Wise Creator in you. Perhaps thats the image He may have intended for you for we are made in His image afterall.

  • @phyljohns7778
    @phyljohns7778 Год назад +6

    She's super strong and quite a charming survivor. It's a very difficult decision to make. It's more difficult even with narcissists. May God help people in marriages. It's tough