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  • @bigthink
    @bigthink  4 года назад +18

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  • @neigh102
    @neigh102 6 лет назад +131

    I'm am an introvert, but I think the earliest sign that I was a writer was my passion for stories.

    • @Inalienablerights15
      @Inalienablerights15 Год назад +2

      Give us a short story, right now.

    • @Wylsonic
      @Wylsonic 11 месяцев назад +14

      ​​@@Inalienablerights15why the hell would they waste time on you?

    • @reginaldforthright805
      @reginaldforthright805 5 месяцев назад

      @@Wylsonicbecause a gentleman never refuses a challenge to his honor.

    • @reginaldforthright805
      @reginaldforthright805 5 месяцев назад

      My lifelong disinterest in stories and strong aversion to writing make me an unlikely author, yet I am determined to become one (and hate every minute of it).

    • @reachthezora1912
      @reachthezora1912 4 месяца назад +3

      @@reginaldforthright805 ... but why?

  • @alexanderthegreat5255
    @alexanderthegreat5255 11 лет назад +806

    In my opinion the reason that introverted people are more often writers then extroverted people is because they think inward, they spend more time in their mind, feeling their emotions deeper then extroverts. That doesn't necessarily mean that extroverts make bad writers, it only means that introverts are more often writers because it appeals more to their mindset. The average extrovert is less likely to have an interest in becoming a writer, just as an average introvert is less likely to have an interest in becoming a journalist, or a talk show host.

    • @theglasswolf3206
      @theglasswolf3206 7 лет назад +2

      Nathaniel Morgan 3 years late- like me!

    • @toastertoasterson3282
      @toastertoasterson3282 7 лет назад +6

      So journalism isn't writing anymore apparently? Good thing Hunter S Thomson died before that was decided.

    • @lynphillips2109
      @lynphillips2109 7 лет назад +14

      Nathaniel Morgan well said, er written. There does seem to be a stigma against introverts, as if being an extrovert is superior. Introverts can also be sociable. I think the key is that introverts need solitude to be recharged, and extroverts need to be around people to be recharged. It's okay to be either one. Yes, I agree that an introvert would live in his mind a lot and be introspective, and that sounds like a writer to me. An extrovert can also be a writer, as my introverted mind can imagine ;)

    • @lynphillips2109
      @lynphillips2109 7 лет назад +9

      Toaster Toasterson yes, apparently journalism is generally not writing. Not any more. Mostly a bunch of biased hacks. :)

    • @pinchebruha405
      @pinchebruha405 3 года назад +2

      hello raging extrovert i finally have time to write, introverts write because they dont want to actually talk to people, they writze about their feelings i write about everyone elses haaaa haaaaaaaaaaaa haaa. im so hyper trust me so so so much i want to put on paper, extroverts are more crzeatrive so i dont think introverts gotr anything but more time on thier hands to write, IMO

  • @SystemFreaKk13
    @SystemFreaKk13 10 лет назад +1280

    This sounds more like, "How to Tell if You're an Introvert."

    • @SystemFreaKk13
      @SystemFreaKk13 10 лет назад +10

      alberto balsalm Very true. I'm both a writer and an introvert (89% Myers-Briggs) actually.

    • @SystemFreaKk13
      @SystemFreaKk13 10 лет назад +5

      Working through an epic fiction and a short story anthology, but I write mostly fiction and occasionally poetry

    • @SystemFreaKk13
      @SystemFreaKk13 10 лет назад +1

      alberto balsalm Basically yea. Though its not centered around the classic fantasy mythos; dragons, castles, siege battles, medieval romanticism, etc. Its a little more contemporary, dealing with modern war, resource strain, ecological crises, stuff like that.

    • @SystemFreaKk13
      @SystemFreaKk13 10 лет назад

      alberto balsalm Hahaha we'll see anyway

    • @SystemFreaKk13
      @SystemFreaKk13 10 лет назад

      alberto balsalm Haha I DON'T. I'm meticulous and a purist, so I try to make sure that its all my own style, and that it all comes from my own head. I try to be vigilant and hard on myself so that I'm always trying to improve, and I find that if I read a great novel or short story that effects me deeply, I unconsciously mirror the style in my own writing, and that tends to annoy me.

  • @PolarChimes
    @PolarChimes 10 лет назад +512

    I think people who like to get lost in books, movies, and games, could make good writers also. Introverts might be better at internalizing the words they write, bringing them to life inside their minds. Writing becomes a powerful, cerebral adventure when you live with a rich inner life already.

  • @sleek24
    @sleek24 7 лет назад +88

    Being a writer is to leave a piece of you out there for people to see and hopefully understand. You have a good chance of being a messenger if you spend time alone, using your senses, and observing yourself. You can share it any way you want including a written form of communication.

    • @a-renheit4803
      @a-renheit4803 Год назад +1

      written beautifully

    • @Bella.Fiori.
      @Bella.Fiori. 10 месяцев назад +1

      Not Everyone as writer is like that, it truly just depends on the person . Ones who make acceptable writers and stories tellers are ones who care about others more than themselves, they aren’t selfish , them writing isn’t for their own benefit but for ours. That’s what truly makes an amazing writer 📝

    •  8 месяцев назад

      @@Bella.Fiori. All writers write for themselves. There are no selfless writers. Art is for the artist. The audience, if there is one, is secondary. And that has nothing to do with whether they are 'amazing' or not. Stop giving yourself more importance than you have.

    •  8 месяцев назад +1

      No one ever understands anyone else. People don't even understand themselves. All you know of others is your perception of them, which is not who they are.

    • @snf327
      @snf327 5 месяцев назад

      Wooooo 10000%! I want to write for a lot of reasons, but at the core is wanting to be understood and to understand. Sharing a part of me, the ones I feel like others aren't interested in or overlook, through a medium that can showcase that/make others feel seen as well. Per the comment above me, while no one can truly know you as well as yourself, there are people in my life who I'm lucky to say almost fully understand certain components of who I am! We also naturally learn about ourselves through other people from the very beginning and those things make it even more special in my opinion. L

  • @Lotus1111
    @Lotus1111 Год назад +17

    The words, “by myself”, “being alone,” resonated so deeply. While cleaning out my childhood home after my parents’ passing, I found so many of my long forgotten, young writings in the attic. I proclaimed that art & music were my interests and that I would become a writer. Now, at 59, burned out & retired from a beautiful career in medicine, I am pursing a long ago dream. It is so important to “know thyself” & live in alignment with that way of being. Thank for this short, impactful clip.

    • @UnidentifiedPurple
      @UnidentifiedPurple 8 месяцев назад +1

      How is this new adventure unfolding for you? Got me curious friend

    • @loreleibrewer3803
      @loreleibrewer3803 4 месяца назад +1

      It's never too late, don't let those fires in your soul die

    • @oilairnalo
      @oilairnalo 4 месяца назад +1

      "Start writing after 40!"

    • @zeddybear257
      @zeddybear257 Месяц назад

      Yes, I’m with you.

  • @hermetickitten
    @hermetickitten 10 лет назад +238

    I can relate to every single word. And I would like to become a writer as well. I have always thought that being alone was my big flaw, my introverted pleasure. Instead, it gives you more time to think and possibly, allows you to write more and better.

    • @denissdennis
      @denissdennis 7 лет назад +9

      Isolation is the gift
      - Charles Bukowski

    • @vibewithsky
      @vibewithsky 6 лет назад +3

      Hermetic Kitten me too iam kind of introvert person I rather wanted to be in room with a book than to go outside and partying

    • @yatharthsinghchauhan9161
      @yatharthsinghchauhan9161 6 лет назад

      Hermetic Kitten yeah i am not an introvert though but still i need and enjoy some alone time too.

    • @SlashcamStudios
      @SlashcamStudios 5 лет назад

      Man U want sucky

    • @jomoody798
      @jomoody798 3 года назад +1

      Then write

  • @Emil-ul4kb
    @Emil-ul4kb 8 лет назад +96

    I like being by myself. I am comfortable with myself. Also my first book will be out in July/August 2016. Writers have to have a certain amount of wanting to be alone. They must spend time with their thoughts. Develop a story, be with story characters.

    • @AG-kh3pl
      @AG-kh3pl 7 лет назад +6

      Emil whats your book called

    • @danielsister2467
      @danielsister2467 2 года назад +2

      How are things going?

    • @Gwagwewe
      @Gwagwewe Год назад +2

      How has your story been doing so far

    • @JosephCusumano-u6h
      @JosephCusumano-u6h 9 месяцев назад

      100%!

    • @libbyAnn-g9j
      @libbyAnn-g9j 3 месяца назад

      Now I know why I love reading books and always like staying alone.Even during childhood I would lock my room and indoors with comics instead of playing around with siblings.

  • @loverainthunder
    @loverainthunder 11 лет назад +419

    I'm a fetus and I like being alone. But my mother is always around me. Selfish woman.

    • @Thehamstersgiude2u
      @Thehamstersgiude2u 5 лет назад +19

      loverainthunder when the cord it cut then you’ll be alone.

    • @tanyabotha9500
      @tanyabotha9500 3 года назад +14

      Random and quirky, yet accurate and hilarious!!!!

    • @HuongNguyen-hm9rg
      @HuongNguyen-hm9rg 3 года назад +5

      😂😂😂😂

    • @servantoftheexpander9688
      @servantoftheexpander9688 2 года назад +8

      You exist because your mother does; She isn't around you but she is with you; She isn't selfish but she is generous. She is your life and you are her life.

    • @LordBrittish
      @LordBrittish 2 года назад +3

      Helicopter parents

  • @BlueMaxx86
    @BlueMaxx86 11 лет назад +116

    He's not saying being an introvert makes you a writer and there is no other aspect. He's saying being a loner helped with the task of writing. Which a writer usually is someone that sets themselves apart from others to be left alone with their devices, more often than not.

    • @toastertoasterson3282
      @toastertoasterson3282 7 лет назад

      And I'm saying proper grammar probably helped him too. A writer is usually someone that sets him or herself apart from others with the ability to fucking write a decent fucking sentence! FUCK YOU AND FUCK THE SIXTEEN PEOPLE THAT LIKED THIS COMMENT! JESUS FUCKING CHRIST!

    • @bullymaguire2061
      @bullymaguire2061 4 года назад

      Loner is the wrong word.
      Introvert is the correct word.

    • @Iamthepossum
      @Iamthepossum 3 года назад

      Speaking from experience; 'maladaptive daydreamers' are likely just traumatized people, whose excessive and extraordinary capacity for pragmatic language is activated by limbic-encoded trauma with such force that the individual is compelled by an unrelenting need to dissociate and practice avoidant behaviors via interminable creative thought. It is an unfathomable creative hell. Hope you are well, and finding that writing can help exorcise some of those demons by providing a constructive outlet to your unending loops of creativity. A better 'Big Think' question would be: how many 'writers' meet the diagnostic criteria for a dissociative disorder for which maladaptive daydreaming is a component? Or perhaps the correct answer to the 'how to tell if you're a writer' question posed by this video is: I found out I was a writer, when I learned that my malignant creativity was considered a form of mental illness by naïve and uninformed 'children of a lesser God'. Take care, 'Maladaptive Daydreamer'. :)

    • @punchy5852
      @punchy5852 3 года назад +1

      @@Iamthepossum This is very interesting. I wonder if I am like this. I get excited to have spare time where I can daydream. I often think what the hell was that story I day dreamed about.
      I always thought if I was locked away in a room like jail or something that I would be fine because I could create a reality in my mind to pass the time. I like this daydreamer side and many people have told me I have a create, odd, different, unusual train of thought about things.
      Right now im laying on the floor of my room and I started day dreaming about an exstention cord that is coiled up and some space ships are flying through it and around it like It was a giant power cable on a secret base station on a wastelandish planet.... and Im 32 haha

  • @Nautilus1972
    @Nautilus1972 5 лет назад +6

    I summarised the plot of Star Wars when I was 5 years old at school. I only ever wanted to be a writer. I have sold 3 copies of my first novel, but I won't stop.

  • @SpaceCattttt
    @SpaceCattttt 10 лет назад +194

    Well, I'm always alone. Should I pick up a pen, or what?

    • @nemoskull2262
      @nemoskull2262 10 лет назад +28

      when life sucks, writing is a great way for me to escape into another world.

    • @SpaceCattttt
      @SpaceCattttt 9 лет назад +1

      ZEROZEROUFO
      Yeah, and then I'll write about it and send it in a letter to you.

    • @SpaceCattttt
      @SpaceCattttt 9 лет назад +1

      *****
      I've kept a dream journal (or diary) for years.
      I call it my "LSD novel", because it's WEIRD.
      Don't expect to get it published any time soon, though. ;)

    • @SpaceCattttt
      @SpaceCattttt 9 лет назад

      ***** You can buy the publishing rights.
      After that, do what you like.

    • @SpaceCattttt
      @SpaceCattttt 9 лет назад

      ***** And I just want to get rich.

  • @giorgigudiashvili4876
    @giorgigudiashvili4876 8 лет назад +389

    These topic-baits are very annoying.

    • @memyselfandinobodyfromnowh9087
      @memyselfandinobodyfromnowh9087 8 лет назад +3

      Giorgi Gudiashvili, what do you mean?

    • @ericstrahler5767
      @ericstrahler5767 7 месяцев назад +4

      This is very pertinent a trait to being a writer. Noone writes with distractions around.

    • @Bunnyi589
      @Bunnyi589 5 месяцев назад +2

      Then don’t watch them 😑

    • @codyfsw
      @codyfsw 4 месяца назад

      You’re annoying

    • @codyfsw
      @codyfsw 4 месяца назад

      No, you’re a towel

  • @TundraTress
    @TundraTress 10 лет назад +57

    Actually I feel the same way... I seem to have social want during the school day.. almost as if I'm disappointed that I'm not as social as some people, but when I get home... I feel perfect.

  • @EXHellfire
    @EXHellfire 10 лет назад +56

    I agree. Writers need time by themselves to think and muse. At least, at heart I know I am a writer and I feel addressed by this.

  • @kelly774
    @kelly774 10 лет назад +9

    This makes me so happy.
    I plan to be a writer when I'm older, and knowing that a famous writer had the same need to be alone as me makes me feel so happy.

    •  8 месяцев назад

      Why would you wait until you are older? Being a writer means writing. That is it. If you aren't willing to do it now maybe choose something else. You mean you want to make money from writing, get published and be famous. Those things are irrelevant to writing. If you are a writer then write.

  • @nunya1738
    @nunya1738 9 лет назад +131

    I'm going to need all of you to get out of this thread, please.

  • @markhanson6563
    @markhanson6563 11 лет назад +19

    "We live as we dream - alone."

  • @roxanacasuso3376
    @roxanacasuso3376 4 месяца назад +1

    Writing for me is like a necessity. I have this stories in my mind, characters, worlds. Starts small and it grows... At times in my life I've tried to ignore it but it does not go away untill I write it down. It's been like this as long as I can remember, even before u knew what a writer was. For me is not even about others reading my work its just about what comes to me ... And the feeling that comes with it it's like nothing I can compare it to, the thing that comes closer is reading.

  • @RoxzRay
    @RoxzRay Год назад +4

    This is SO true, sometimes i feel bad if I tell a family member or friend that I need to go in a different room, and leave them alone, especially if they wanted the company, but it is so, so hard to write when with others, or with distractions. I find it possible sometimes, but it always then needs a lot of reworking and any quality content is few and far between.

  • @Guitarron28
    @Guitarron28 11 лет назад +4

    I remember watching a great documentary by Scorsese titled "Public Speaking," which was a sit-down interview with Fran Lebowtiz and scenes of her speaking in public; almost every topic is interesting but one thing was really significant for me; she said "there are certain experiences in life that help to cultivate an artistic sensibility; when you are excluded, in prison, depressed or whenever one is forced to observe." An introvert can feel excluded, be forced to observe and you have a writer.

  • @adamsteindl5382
    @adamsteindl5382 8 лет назад +1

    Being alone is like a warm cosy blanket for me.

  • @rajamohammed8683
    @rajamohammed8683 2 года назад +5

    In my childhood, i was met with some awe by children my age and when it is not exactly friendship, i grew a self confidence in me which i think is fortunate in some aspects because my cousins during those years for some reason bullied and teased me as if somebody made them to deliberately.
    As for being alone, i don't remember i missed anyone when I climbed tamarind trees at the roadsides in outskirts reading books, watching the mountains and forests and farms. I walked long hours through forests and climbed trees and watched plants and read with love for stories. The love for nature made me feel contended.
    From an earlier age i noticed people talk and behave like they were story characters and i rarely interpreted their true adult communication because i am what they say as a late bloomer. I don't regret i came to adulthood so late. The childhood innocence is important for a writer for their imaginative thinking

    • @storiesneverend9514
      @storiesneverend9514 2 года назад

      You have a flair of writing when you are expressing your story although I am no expert writer to tell but from my inner reader. It keeps the reading on to go further down without shutting off. Waiting for your stories. Good blending of self thoughts

  • @punchy5852
    @punchy5852 3 года назад +17

    Im extraverted and still love my alone time. I hated writing my whole life. Now I start journaling and pages and pages just flow out and I feel like I become more and more energised writing in a creative way. I can explain the environment or atmosphere of a place to give the feeling of where you are while reading. I love being around people but I love having my alone time. Its like Iv tapped into my introverted side from years of isolated work and its forced me to get used to the side of me that I was scared of.

  • @223Warlord
    @223Warlord 10 лет назад +17

    I'm thinking about writing a novel. I had already brainstorm an outline for the plot, characters, ect. I'll probably complete it in a year and a half and then i'll send the manuscript to dozens of publishers hoping for a miracle. I'm so excited just thinking about it.... If all goes well, i may just be able to publish my first novel before my 20th birthdays

    • @KManAbout
      @KManAbout 10 лет назад +1

      Good luck 🍀 what is your book 📖. Have you heard of wattpad?

    • @223Warlord
      @223Warlord 10 лет назад +1

      what's Wattpad?

    • @KManAbout
      @KManAbout 10 лет назад +1

      Wattpad is the largest site for amateur/professional writers.

    • @223Warlord
      @223Warlord 10 лет назад +1

      ***** Hm, never heard of it. I'm planning to self publish first on Amazon Kindle so i don't believe i would need a site like that :/

    • @KManAbout
      @KManAbout 10 лет назад +1

      You don't. But if you are starting out as an author wattpad is the best. A lot writers come from there. If you're writing a series put your first book there and get some famous users to read it. If your book is good enough millions will read it.

  • @Pumpkin0_0
    @Pumpkin0_0 9 лет назад +5

    I can connect with the need to be alone at an early age. I didn't have a journal, but I did like to write about fantasy/fiction/adventure when I was a kid, and I do that now on a professional level. Even now, having friends and not being an introvert, I have a great need to be alone, in my own space whenever I can. It's not being alone in the sense of being anti-social, an introvert or not liking to be around other people, it's something deeper than that.

  • @ThirdDimensionalBeing
    @ThirdDimensionalBeing 8 лет назад +100

    Come on, what the hell was this?

    • @faithtipton8409
      @faithtipton8409 7 лет назад

      MAB SADM obviously somebody's been excluded from a lot of parties lmao

    • @hackeritalics
      @hackeritalics 6 лет назад

      I am pretty much alone always and I am no more a writer than I am an astrophysicist. His reaction was perfectly spot on. Being alone has nothing to do with being able to properly express ideas and emotions.^^;;

  • @Mr.PauloSica
    @Mr.PauloSica Год назад +1

    If you like to be alone, you're a writer.
    Got it.

  • @aaronkaminski9357
    @aaronkaminski9357 10 лет назад +56

    If you want to be a writer, you're a writer.

    • @kaleimorales5341
      @kaleimorales5341 10 лет назад +5

      What if you dont have a pen?

    • @Midnighterz.
      @Midnighterz. 6 лет назад +6

      Kalei Morales - then you write with a pencil

    • @secretaband5013
      @secretaband5013 4 года назад +3

      @@kaleimorales5341 writing is not only on paper, nor is it on screen. Written is not only with pens or pencils not is it on keyboards. Writing is a demon inside you, which you can not escape from. Writing will make you fail in life. It will make you hurt. Lose jobs or relationships, sometimes both. Writers mostly never get published. They mostly never get read. But they write because that is all they are. That is writing, not a fucking pen.

    • @geminikid609
      @geminikid609 4 года назад

      Ok don't listen to that psycho if you write you a writer

    • @afanasymarinov2236
      @afanasymarinov2236 3 года назад +1

      You're a writer once you actually start writing.

  • @Smoothbluehero
    @Smoothbluehero 8 лет назад +9

    How to tell if you're a writer: Have you written anything: yes, no? If yes, you have committed the act of writing, and therefore are a writer.

  • @HoodyBoy85
    @HoodyBoy85 11 лет назад +6

    This reminds me of when I was in college on my way to the lake with all my friends and during the drive, no matter how much I was looking forward to the weekend, wished I could be back in my dorm writing.

    •  8 месяцев назад

      Writing can be done anywhere. Pen and paper, simple.

  • @angelamerici7560
    @angelamerici7560 8 лет назад +2

    It happens to me a lot that I want to be alone for writing, thinking or just to be alone. Always thought that a very dark room would be a nice place to write!!

  • @Sherlika_Gregori
    @Sherlika_Gregori 9 лет назад +56

    very stupid comments here. People think that introverts stay in dark room all their lives. I am an introvert with many friends, achieved much, travelled way more and like to write. But I prefer to work on my own. I produce more and better. You need to read the book called 'Quiet! The Power of Introverts in a World that Can't Stop Talking' by Susan Cain

    • @writerforlifeify
      @writerforlifeify 8 лет назад +1

      And now we live in a world that can't stop texting (in a broken, truncated semblance of English). Among the 'weapons of mass distraction' currently at our disposal, I choose to maintain my 2005 Motorola flip phone! Who can beat that?

    • @atypical_moto
      @atypical_moto 8 лет назад +4

      Some introverts do stay in a dark room all their lives. Personally I spend a lot of time in a dimly lit room but I do go out for work or to get a helping of human interaction, usually to drink or eat or read in public. Just being near other humans is enough. I don't necessarily need to talk to them.

    • @mrdarky3377
      @mrdarky3377 7 лет назад

      Claudia G not so sure why categorizing can be devastatingly religious.

    • @carrot1160
      @carrot1160 7 лет назад

      Claudia G Hi! Do you have a wattpad account? If so, please tell me. I want to read at least one of your works. I'm sure they're worth reading.

    • @haafeez903
      @haafeez903 7 лет назад

      Claudia G you just self proclaimed introvert proud.

  • @scrumpymanjack
    @scrumpymanjack 3 года назад +2

    This is a great test for finding out if you like to spend time alone. It’s not a great test for working out if you’re a writer.

    • @EstebanleoBrowns
      @EstebanleoBrowns 8 месяцев назад

      Yo haven't understood well you have to read between the lines

  • @Pariah_Larry
    @Pariah_Larry 4 года назад +2

    I write my best songs/poems when I’m at rock bottom, and when I’m heartbroken. Rarely do I write meaningful stuff while I’m in a good place

  • @roamingspirits
    @roamingspirits 10 лет назад +3

    That's totally who I am. Lots of times I felt bad about being kinda different, like not wanting to do the things other kids were doing, I didn't feel comfortable with parties or other social gatherings. It was just hard to speak up, I much rathered just remained silent and spent my time alone or with my one and only best friend. I always wanted to be a writer. That wish always followed me and I always feared that I don't have what it takes to be a writer, meaning that I have no confidence. But the more I am reading about being a writer, the more I am aware that it is what I want and that it would make me happy. I could create my own stuff, a world of my own and hopefully make other poeple happy reading it. I am probably not the best to say this because damn I have some confidence issues, but I believe that whoever feels like they want to really be a writer and whoever sits at home daily thinking of stories and just writes down things for fun, can become a great writer. After all, there is no thing such as a bad book, there will always be people who like something and who don't and who have similar or different tastes in something.
    So good luck to everyone :D Never give up on your dreams.

    • @toastertoasterson3282
      @toastertoasterson3282 7 лет назад

      THAT IS THE CUTEST THING I HAVE READ IN MY LIFE! How the fuck did you only get two thumbs up for that? And that's including mine! I for one, love the way you write. But don't get to confident now because your confidence issues are part of the charm. Same with Proust. If he'd have been confident he would have never been able to write Recherche. So be confident about your lack of confidence. It's marvelous. It really is.

  • @jplayboy7
    @jplayboy7 11 лет назад +21

    … is called being an introvert (INFJ in my case) with a dreamy melancholic disposition. Whose naturally inclined to long periods of isolation rather than socializing, more inclined to self-reflection and finding deeper meanings rather than pursuing superficial relationships while battling the demons of manic-depression by writing. Show me high intelligence, and I’ll show you unhappiness. Show me creativity and I’ll show you madness. Show me madness, and I’ll show you a beautiful mind. Show me a beautiful mind, and I’ll show you a genius.

    • @yuck415
      @yuck415 11 лет назад

      the myers briggs Mbti personality test is actually outdated

    • @graciouspizza
      @graciouspizza 4 года назад

      @@roblaurin7426 why are you shutting someone with beautiful mind?

  • @examinfo
    @examinfo 10 лет назад +13

    "How to tell if being Alone is for you"

  • @jktomas
    @jktomas 10 лет назад +21

    That's called being introvert. I'm an introvert too, I feel confortable being alone. I need to be alone for a big portion of my day to survive. However I'm not a writer, not even close.

  • @albertbullock5115
    @albertbullock5115 10 лет назад +1

    I am 13 and i want to be a director/screenplay writer when i grow up and i always wish i can be alone but the only time i am alone is really late at night and i am often really tired at this point so i just live with it. :(

  • @michaelwilliamson2255
    @michaelwilliamson2255 7 лет назад +1

    I would also like to add to this video the need for silence. There is something about being in a room alone and absorbing silence. It feels...necessary.

  • @chrisburke5365
    @chrisburke5365 8 лет назад +1

    Around 15, a social worker gave me this book called "A Prayer for Owen Meany".
    I was never impressed nor fond of the book, but I always enjoyed reading it.
    I never knew Irving was a big deal. Neeat...

  • @SasapessoS
    @SasapessoS 8 лет назад +1

    Reading and writing at heart are solitary activity. I read in public, too, but get much more 'umami' from stories when I'm alone.

  • @DonChambers-l6n
    @DonChambers-l6n 2 месяца назад

    Your content is always so thorough and well-researched!

  • @KillerBill1953
    @KillerBill1953 8 лет назад +1

    I like my own company and writing (novels) is a solitary profession, but I also like to be with other people. I had my first writing success when I was 9 and have written ever since.

  • @seanhastings4432
    @seanhastings4432 11 лет назад +2

    As a 17 year old aspiring writer, I say he is exactly right.

  • @woodandwheelz
    @woodandwheelz 3 года назад +2

    I always wanted to be alone. My parents would force me to make friends (today I'm thankful for that) and try to get out and try new things. Even to my friends I was strange and odd. My parents had me tested and the conclusion was that I was an Hyperactive Introvert (I also couldn't keep still). Fast forward to when I was 45 (9 years ago) and I learned I have Asperger's. Now everything started to make sense and fall apart. I knew why I was the way I was and also learned that It can't be fixed. Fast forward the 9 years and I'm still the same but have learned to cope and have a loving supportive wife. It's not fixed but it's better. On a side note, on top of the Asperger's, I have Dyslexia and PTSD from the Military. As I told my wife when I met her, I'm a whole plethora of sunshine. All of these things made me stronger as a person and a better writer/dreamer (nothing published). I'm now working on several projects that may or may not amount to anything. But, I have fun doing it. That's all that matters to me.

  • @mckenzierae6140
    @mckenzierae6140 10 лет назад +3

    A writer watches people and how they act. It's like their mind is their friend. They see the world as a metaphor. Writers have a mind of their own as which they feel people don't understand their thoughts and their feelings. That's why they set themselves apart from the rest of the world.

    • @toastertoasterson3282
      @toastertoasterson3282 7 лет назад

      You know McKenzie, I think the lack of understanding you experience might not be so much the result of you having a mind of your own but rather of the inability to construct a proper fucking sentence.

  • @ianoian1
    @ianoian1 Год назад +1

    I've been a professional writer all my life mostly in the energy industries and I am also a published author. Looking back to my school days, I loved English language lessons and hated maths! As for being alone? Not for me, so I am not sure where you're coming from, sir!!

  • @Misserbi
    @Misserbi 3 года назад +1

    Being alone is one part of it. The other is dreaming of the possibilities and knowing nothing is worthy if it can never happen. I call it a childhood dream.

  • @YarrBr0
    @YarrBr0 8 лет назад +1

    I am uncomfortable when I'm alone, and writing is a way for me to deal with that. It allows me to use my solitude creatively. I am just pointing out that a predisposition for solitude is not strictly necessary to write.

  • @coreycox2345
    @coreycox2345 8 лет назад +10

    I have always had that same thing, and I know what he means by this. I wish that simply having a regular need to be alone would turn me into a great writer like John Irving. I suspect that he also has done a lot of work...just writing and writing.

    • @writerforlifeify
      @writerforlifeify 8 лет назад +2

      Writing is a solitary endeavor wherein one is in a continual & exclusive contact with one's Muse. How's that for irony? Such is my experience; one must be alone, comfortably ensconced in one's oasis of solitude, in order to enlist the aid of whispering, unseen sprites. But then again, some writers have hammered out masterpieces on their laptops whilst sitting in bustling cafés or riding a crowded train to a job that pays the bills.....but they're just freely spewing in such settings, riding the erratic comet of an idea. The real writing, meaning the re-writing and/or editing happens behind closed doors & in relative silence.

    • @coreycox2345
      @coreycox2345 8 лет назад

      You write so well.

    • @writerforlifeify
      @writerforlifeify 8 лет назад

      Thank you!

    • @coreycox2345
      @coreycox2345 8 лет назад

      You are welcome.

    • @mylesgeronimo4976
      @mylesgeronimo4976 8 лет назад

      I never in a million years would call John Irving a 'great writer.'

  • @taylorhadfield4056
    @taylorhadfield4056 6 лет назад +1

    As a Myers-Briggs tested 93% introvert, I completely understand this, and like it’s actually comforting to know there’s nothing wrong with how I live/lead my school days since I grew up in an entire family of extroverts who kinda just always had something going on while I just sat back and was like what’s wrong with me? Why am I not like them? Why am I like this?
    I didn’t really learn what introverts and extroverts were until about a few years ago and it is still really hard for me not to long for an extroverted lifestyle, long for the “normalcy” I grew up around, long for friends to hang out with all the time and to feel cool with doing that. I still have to keep myself from beating myself up about the little things that I notice are different about how we interact with others.
    I’m working on it though. I’m perfectly fine the way I am. I’m normal, if there even is such a thing.

  • @hekikoka5792
    @hekikoka5792 6 лет назад +4

    It's not so much the desire to be alone as the creative urge, the impulse an instinct forcing you to discharge your creative juices. Whether you channel this through painting, poetry, dance, music etc it's entirely down to your disposition. I like painting, writing and music. I do all interchangeably. I like being alone but prolonged solitude tends to burn me out as does prolonged exposure to people especially tu mundane type

  • @RodknockRhett
    @RodknockRhett Год назад +2

    That just mean you’re an introvert. Not all introverts become writers. Not sure how that even works. I guess some introverts like me love to write?
    But as I’ve said, I know a few introverts that don’t.

  • @Navesblue
    @Navesblue 9 лет назад +1

    Being alone to help you write doesn't make you introverted. It helps you concentrate on your work and avoid distractions to your creative process, like friends. Too many people in this comment section don't understand that.

  • @andresvalentin7754
    @andresvalentin7754 8 лет назад +3

    I love being alone, it gives me time to think about myself, and to imagine. I walk around my school's field during recess, it's serene and I have time to imagine and write about it in my journal. I'm going to 7th grade and my dream is to become an author, I want write a story no one will ever forget something original like The Hunger Games

    • @bbilal111
      @bbilal111 3 года назад

      Do you remember commenting this? Do you still write?

  • @mishapurser7542
    @mishapurser7542 10 лет назад +1

    I feel the same way. I enjoy being with my friends at school, but at home I spend a lot of time alone thinking, gaming, researching. More recently especially gaming has been taking up less and less of my time.

  • @RobertDav1s-h5o
    @RobertDav1s-h5o 3 месяца назад

    You explain everything with so much passion!

  • @mytubesofeverything5472
    @mytubesofeverything5472 10 лет назад +4

    It was completely the opposite experience for me. I grew up in a busy house, always jam-packed with people. A writing pad and a black ballpoint pen were the only things that I could hide behind, whilst still in plain view.

    • @Inalienablerights15
      @Inalienablerights15 Год назад

      Give us an idea of some of your writing skills. Make up something now. Just a short story.

  • @courage146
    @courage146 8 лет назад +5

    Such an excellent short video. Being your true self is especially difficult when you are by yourself. I know that's certainly the case for me, but while it's difficult I soon realize that I have a ton of fun writing my thoughts down and creating stories that I like for myself. If other people like it, then that's great :) if not, then that's okay too ;D I hope other people who are interested in expressing themselves honestly understand that it is truly okay to be yourself. Cheers, y'all.

  • @Growndweller
    @Growndweller 11 лет назад +1

    The best writers, I've noticed, are comfortable being by themselves.

  • @LoveHateBlame
    @LoveHateBlame 11 лет назад +1

    This makes it sound like wanting to be alone is a clear sign that you are or can be a writer..you need alot more than that to be or even want to be a writer..wanting to be alone is just a sign of an introvert or a ''thinker''. Being alone is personal..language and writing is interpersonal most of the time..he just happened to be an introvert and follow an authors path..he could have ended up a scientist, theologist, philosopher..people who READ books are alone just as much as someone writing one and that doesnt equate them to being an author.

  • @Skycube100
    @Skycube100 8 лет назад +20

    Lol, the title should rather be "How to tell if you're an introvert"

    • @SnowSNS11
      @SnowSNS11 7 лет назад

      Karl Beltran he didn't say he's an introvert. You can be an extrovert, but when it comes to writing you can't write your best material
      with somebody watching or something

    • @toastertoasterson3282
      @toastertoasterson3282 7 лет назад

      How the fuck can a title rather be something it's not? EXPLAIN YOURSELF!

  • @dietsfreedietkitchen
    @dietsfreedietkitchen 2 года назад

    If I spend a whole month alone in my room at the end of the day, I would tell myself that was not enough, but at the same time, I do enjoy being with people and family as well.

  • @camistired4035
    @camistired4035 11 лет назад +1

    I agree! I love being alone. Just because Im alone doesnt mean Im writing.

    • @Inalienablerights15
      @Inalienablerights15 Год назад

      Has anything ever happened to you? If you can write it down, and supply enough detail, then you can write.

  • @rowanmark21
    @rowanmark21 10 лет назад +2

    he is one of the best writers i have ever read,his books are some of the few i can read to the end and look forward to the next one.Reflection is one of the things that make us human,maybe the only one.

  • @easilydistracted5192
    @easilydistracted5192 10 лет назад +1

    At the beginning I was like: Another dork who wants to tell me how exclusive his talent is. I'm also a fine artist student in online classes and I have enough of people who think their talent is completely natural and ordinary people should have no access to skill. But then he described my life. Darn. No, I stay sceptical.

  • @flamingowen
    @flamingowen 8 лет назад +2

    i'm like that too. i crave solitude and i usually end up writing at some point. been like this since i was little. the other thing about me is that i find a "home" when I'm writing. just holed up somewhere alone writing seems very normal and comfortable. i don't think i necessarily have any talent or that anyone would enjoy reading what i write, but i do think i am naturally a writer. oh well.

  • @TheCenteroftheUniverse
    @TheCenteroftheUniverse Год назад +1

    A writer can be both intro- and extra-verted. I know because I am both. In my twenties I was "that guy." Got a witness. So what? you ask. My late teens and early twenties were in the seventies when house parties might find you introducing yourself as you undressed for introductory sex.
    But I wanted to write things like "Lost Face," and "The Heathen," by Jack London, "The Old Man And The Sea" by Hemingway, and "Dandelion Wine" by the late, great Ray Bradbury. I wanted to create images with my words that would make people think about them later or the next day, or beyond.
    The dissociations from early trauma kept me from accessing all of my abilities until its effects released their grip on my psyche. Three years and 600+ pages of memoir of a unique life later, I have found the ultimate "better late than not at all" in life. I discovered a couple years into the process that I really was going to make my late father proud. When I was 13, he had said to me, "I don't care if you end up being a poet whose poetry is read only by other poets. Just be the best." Agent search underway.

  • @wesley.3250
    @wesley.3250 6 лет назад

    I do feel a desire and a certain comfort in being alone

  • @elizabethk3238
    @elizabethk3238 3 года назад +1

    You're one of US... an Introvert. Love your Storytelling.

  • @DonBelial
    @DonBelial 9 лет назад

    Very helpful. Thank you very much.

  • @mackfarlainethebarenakedau5113
    @mackfarlainethebarenakedau5113 2 года назад +1

    What was your first indication that you wanted to be a writer?
    Me: When I started writing and found that I couldn't imagine doing anything else.

  • @yeahbuddy101211
    @yeahbuddy101211 6 лет назад +1

    I think inwards a lot, but I'm less of an introvert than how most are. I love writing and would like to always write.

  • @NobleNemesis
    @NobleNemesis 10 лет назад

    I agree, introverts are more often than not, the most artistic bunch I've observed.

  • @markdietrich5127
    @markdietrich5127 7 лет назад +1

    Introverts do indeed make better writers. Anyone and everyone can write but introverts just do it better.

  • @Lynnvandenbrink
    @Lynnvandenbrink 9 лет назад +1

    Not all writers want to be alone (that much). I know some of them really want to be with and around others for inspiration

  • @rachaellincoln1572
    @rachaellincoln1572 10 лет назад +2

    This video describes me! Although, I did consider writing as a career choice, but now I prefer to write for fun. Not to mention, I can express myself far better through written words than through any other means.

  • @brianjoyce9040
    @brianjoyce9040 2 года назад

    Irving has nice gifts for us al in his writings

  • @Skitty2Bruce
    @Skitty2Bruce 10 лет назад +3

    I don't like being alone, but I like the quietness with no talking- just reflecting and thinking. I am an animal lover. cats give you love and quietness. you still have company in your alone time. I don't allways like talking.

  • @gyasisirimou2488
    @gyasisirimou2488 10 лет назад +1

    It means a lot even before I watched this I already knew to be a writer means you must love solitude not the one forced by the society or by yourself on you no but natural solitude.

  • @TheMausey
    @TheMausey 11 лет назад +1

    Exactly that. The original question, 'How to tell if you're a writer,' is rendered utterly redundant by Irving's response. The truth is that the many walks of life that the writer/creative leads allows for a more dynamic and diverse array of texts and other works.
    Personally I think Irving knows this too!

  • @lojean7453
    @lojean7453 9 лет назад +1

    I enjoy the comfort of solitude.

  • @Autophage
    @Autophage 10 лет назад +1

    As an aspiring writer I was worried that I might not have whatever qualification Mr Irving was going to talk about. And then he goes on to describe my need for solitude to a T. And here I thought I was unique.
    Well that's a relief. :)

    • @Inalienablerights15
      @Inalienablerights15 Год назад

      Can you tell a story? WIll that story be exciting and drag the reader effortlessly along, through plot twists, past dangerous situations, making us identify with the hero, and finally delivering a satisfying ending?

  • @clarissafox4345
    @clarissafox4345 10 лет назад +7

    Here r some signs, you don`t struggle when writing, and it comes to you easily. Also, many people with a large imagination are amazing writers. Last, your friends, and those who read your work compliment it, and want you to hear more, and you can think up a short original story in less than an hour!!!!!

  • @georgegeysen6499
    @georgegeysen6499 2 месяца назад

    As a psychologist who writes often for the court, conducting extensive evaluations for a variety of concerns, after 25 years I have come to see that I am really telling a story from the point of view of a human psychology. I am creating an explanatory framework for the court. I also am a introvert, working alone in my beautiful private office and realize that I had always set out to become a writer (before changing majors in college). That is exactly what I am.

  • @reedca97
    @reedca97 11 лет назад

    solitude is bliss.

  • @gabo6713
    @gabo6713 10 лет назад

    The same happens to me. Sometimes I really need to be by myself, just thinking...

  • @vilde5445
    @vilde5445 10 лет назад +1

    I really want to be a writer and I can totally relate to this. I absolutely need my alone time in my bedroom with a cup of tea. I started a journaling when I was fourteen as well ;))

  • @bhattkris
    @bhattkris 10 лет назад +1

    It is a great courage to stand alone. Only Geniuses have it. Rest are the part of a crowd. You do not need to do anything for that but agree.

  • @carol-us4xn
    @carol-us4xn Год назад +2

    Writing is a very creative way of expressing one's thoughts on experiences. It's important to be in a great space where creative energy can thrive.. Stupid fool and jerk wouldn't know what the hell to write unless he plagiarized it.

  • @fritzidler9871
    @fritzidler9871 6 лет назад +1

    I once read this memoir, by a very extroverted comedian, who said, they did not want to write a book. They wanted to live the kind of life others would write about. And so did. And could not be more surprised when they found themselves writing a book after all. Which should probably read alone. Otherwise, everyone will think you're crazy by laughing so much.

    • @Inalienablerights15
      @Inalienablerights15 Год назад

      Listen, the best writers do not pay attention to anyone else. They invent outrageous bullshit, and write it down. If it makes sense to another human being, it will probably make sense to millions. Get crazy. FUCK the rules! Writing is supposed to entertain, not educate. If it does that too, then you are Stephen King, or Richard Harris.

  • @EYEC222
    @EYEC222 11 лет назад

    This is what I posted today to a friend on fb....... "And see......I kept going back to writing because it's not so physical. It's something I could do ALONE, LOW OVERHEAD, minimum leg work & close to a bathroom. LOL"

  • @cadude145
    @cadude145 11 лет назад +1

    Okay what he described is a personal trait called introvert vs the opposite trait called extrovert. Now, there are a lot of occupations where being a introvert is actually a benefit, not just writing skills. Now, if you want to find out where you stand find someone who can give you the Myers Briggs type indicator evaluation. You would probably enjoy it.

  • @puppynebula
    @puppynebula 11 лет назад +2

    I'm a 15 year old writer, and I LOVE being alone! :)

  • @lorenrobinson716
    @lorenrobinson716 7 лет назад +1

    Number one way to tell your a writer is if you continually finish writing projects (article, novel, screenplay etc). In my opinion it's that simple. I know a lot of people that like the idea of being Writer and they never actually finish whatever their writing. I'm a professional technical writer & novelist and Pro writers write everyday.

  • @drunkenxrage
    @drunkenxrage 10 лет назад +3

    Thank you John Irving for explaining this better than I can to my girlfriend.

  • @rulemadman123
    @rulemadman123 11 лет назад

    I feel the need to be alone a lot and sometimes when I am I write but not all the time.