I am a super empath who set clear boundaries and went no contact with a narcissist. The narcissist avoided me but engaged in a smear campaign amongst other colleagues. I sensed what was going on. I requested a FOI request and received all his email exchanges with the colleagues we worked with. The emails were toxic and disturbing. I sued him for workplace sabotage. His career is over.
Yes, I've watched when narcissist is exposed for abusing others, Narc goes on social media bringing smear campaign. I'm watchful on social media, learned how to report abusers, block problem persons. I've learned to set boundaries, going no contact with worse abusive narcissist in my life.
I don't think people with narcissistic traits can cope with the messiness of being human. They aren't interested or curious about their inner world. It makes them really shallow and boring to be around.
My friend told me she was an empath. I told her “No you’re not, you’re a normal.” I have seen her in quite a few situations where she lacked empathy. I get the sense that a lot of people view themselves as empaths because their narcissistic traits tell them that is what they are.
I think you may be right. I found out I possess a high level of empathy while in therapy for social anxiety. Not sure if I’m technically an “empath” but I’m certainly very sensitive and was very codependent before I worked through that and I had been told “you’re too sensitive” my entire life. I hear people proclaiming to be empaths and then behave in a way that I’d literally be sick behaving, particularly lying and attempting to manipulate people. I have a lot of trouble lying, even in situations where lies are preferable and non harmful, it’s like my brain has a block and won’t let me do it 😂 I have to be purposeful about viewing things concretely and not emotionally. I wish I could become a “super empath” because that seems to be a way to weaponize empathy and I’m just to the point where it doesn’t debilitate me, certainly not ready for weaponizing it 🥴
@@just.jaimie. I had a similar experience growing up and was also diagnosed with social anxiety among other anxiety disorders, I'm also nergodivergent; empath to me has such a pureness to it that I wouldn't dare call myself it, I believe I'm a normal person who just suffered narcissistic abuse that lead to hyper vigilance that resembles empathy and an extreme hatred for narcissists, it was so bad I had to seeking out therapy because I was afraid of what I might do (to them). I'm definitely not an empath considering how much anger roars inside of me towards my ab*sers.
yeah someone I jave know said 'we are empaths' and I was like oh noo. but I would never say that and weirdly most of the narcissists that lock k to me seem tonknow I am lrobably an actual empath. The thing is that I know is that they either think they are or they are morroring me on ourpose cause they need me. I am quite bold in that I know who is going to be a problem and I do pay attention in a reactive way and I do protect others and myself when trigger happens.
Correct. 'Empaths' are hyper-aware individuals who become sensitive to stimuli be it people's reaction/body language as a result of trauma response. All neurotypicals have a capacity for empathy, not just select individuals.
I've been surrounded by Narcs my whole life! They do make a lot of noise...lol i have however walked into a room or approached a group and SILENCE!!! Its SHOCKING CLEAR that they don't want me to hear the conversation. My family was so secretive...I was the Scapegoat !
Same! I asked my mother to stop gossiping about me and I haven’t heard from her since. She will not email me anymore, where I couldn’t get her to leave me alone before. If I would have known it was that easy I would have asked her to stop gossiping about me a long time ago. 😅
@@pauletteforeman2194 Your comment resonates with me so much. My mother would smear my sister to me for years, and every single time she was shocked when I admonished her and refused to continue to the convo. I only found out the worse of what my mother said about me after she died.
A super empath who is aware can spot the toxic personality almost immediately and will put up barriers. Usually by being indifferent to the narcissist, grey rocking them and narcissists hate this, they hate feeling ignored and they will in response act dismissively whether its a backhanded compliment, a stab of sarcastic humour or the haughty turn of their head and face or even the blatent ignore tactic as if they did not hear you. Whatever it is they do it happens fairly quickly in these social settings. Sometimes they will try and latch on to you and just blab on about whatever is on their mind. If they know you then it is a guarantee that they are always smearing you. An aware super empath is no match for the narcissist. The narcissist may win over how some people view the super empath but he will never gain a foothold over this person, ever. Peace!
I owned a cafe with my narcissistic ex husband who would go silent around anyone he was planning to recruit as a flying monkey! He would stand back whilst I made small talk with the customers then seek out their friendship in private and tell them I was controlling and abusive! Of course from observations they believed him and that gave him the inroads to take money from them when they offered help. I've been free of him for 5 years but the scars run deep
Narcissists are rarely silent that I know of. They assert dominance wherever possible. From what I've seen there can be a lot of braggadocio and bullshit. The message is always "you should admire me, you should want to be like me, you should want to be in my good favor, you're lucky I like you, your life is better because I'm in it." Not all are like that, some are much more subtle about it, but the message will still come through. They are silent to punish and gain control of someone who has displeased them. Watching the person suffer the silence is a potent fuel for them I think.
yeah, as an American, I couldn't possibly care less about the vile royalty of other countries. The only reason they're even in the American spotlight is because they literally pay women's magazines to write articles about them. They can DIAF for all I or any of the other 350,000,000 Americans care.
The difference between you and I, is that I can be completely content on my own. And you will never be content. And what you lack to appreciate is the fact that you ever got to be in my presence Amen.
My friend, who is very dear to me, says that we are both empaths. She talks about herself being extremely empathic all the time. But I can't bring myself to say it about myself, because it has such a positive connotation that I don't think it's fair to use that label to make myself look better. Especially when nobody is perfect. We're all mixed bags. I know I'm very sensitive and reactive to dishonesty, unfairness, manipulation and fakeness. So I know I didn't inherit my mother's narcissism. But I'm also sensitive to and uncomfortable with people excessively saying that they are empaths all the time.... 😒
I worked w/a woman who talked about being an empath. It was a few years ago, long b4 my introduction to HG. It always bothered me, it just seemed self-aggrandizing🤷♀️. My husband and stepson have said about me that I am the most empathetic person they have ever known. But I would never, ever, say that about myself. It would just b wrong; for the same reasons u stated. It is wrong.
Secarah, if you haven't already, I highly recommend the empath detector test offered by HG. Your discomfort with describing your self as an empath is...well...a classic trait in a super empath. :)
@@Kinypshun Thanks, though I don't think that I would want to say I was a "super empath" either. 😬 I'm just a regular person who likes HG Tudor videos, because I think his videos help people and he has a nice voice. I understand that he's not doing it to help, but rather to ensure a legacy that will exist posthumously. But still. He's a lovely narcissistic psychopath and he's very polite. And I hope he manages to get more sleep, even though he said he doesn't require much sleep. I do want him to have sufficient sleep... and hugs. If he likes hugs....
My 'friend' used to continuously try to convince me he was happy - I cut him off. I'm mostly happy and I never feel the need to express it to anybody - primarily because when you're happy, you're just happy. I feel you can relate the situation
I really appreciate these types of videos.Narcissists are indeed NOT SILENT around super empath.Silence is a tool they use to abuse their victims. Great video 👍
Mine has avoided me line the plague cause "I'm the only one who knows who he is" he snarled in my face just before he dropped the bomb into our lives and has spent 17 years past the discard, after 23 hoover and collecting data to use as he was building his future persona.i can smell him and his rat family who work hive and they just build and destroy as a repetitive process. Same as tne dark ones who have ruined ruined this planet multiple times and caused extinction. This time there is much more light and even the narcs are exposing themselves to us to empower us not them .So it's kind of interesting once you learn how to survive and beat the programing. Authentic children are excellent at using the habits to survive We had 6 kids and friends who took care of each other and thst was helpful later though children are in lock down from birth nowadays. I have to.beliwvw this wint work this last final "solution " the super narcs Falken creatures plan. I've survived so many attempts to destroy I'm their worst enemy and they hide
Jesus can shut up the devil though. But yeah intelligent super empaths could to some certain extend call on their honesty etc. But still as the narcissists are not an open book the super empath will never be able to have an honest conversation with the narcissists. Maybe they on the other hand see an honest conversation as manipulation and it is their way of protecting themselves not to become human and normal in their social skills.
Touché you are exactly right Narcissist are never quiet and that is their downfall It is the exact reason Super Empaths are able to expose and take down Narcissists
Love this channel! Nothing will shutdown a narcissist like knowledge. Most of them are not that sophisticated. Rarely have I encountered one as intelligent as Hg Tutor! I appreciate your insight as a person who never viewed life from this perspective.
Kidding about bluebirds aside, I think you’re 100% correct about the hyper vigilance, which must be a burden and discipline for so-called super empaths to live with. I imagine the super empath (not the narcissist) becomes a person who welcomes silence and isolation *as a lifestyle* after habitual or prolonged exposure to narcissistic abuse collides with a deeply empathetic nature. Narcissists are like apex predators of sensitives-so isolation would be an easy choice. Just a thought or three.
I am an isolate not so sure about this empath epithet that is flying around. Much destroyed by narcissists. Took to the hills, not to look down upon but to burrow away from society as a hellish whole.
The title at first made me do a double take! As I have commented on some previous videos, thanks to you I applied GOSO, surprised him with divorce papers on Christmas Eve Day, he ruined every holiday, so I gave him a Christmas gift, 😄. He didn't leave on his own either! He wanted to stay even after the divorce was finalized. I had to get a court order to have him evicted! I never looked back! That was 2 years ago. "Once you know, you go." Thanks ever so much HG! Great video as always 👍
“Super Empath is one who draws a line in the sand at certain abuse and resists and fights back”. Right in the middle of that one. Have gone NC and there’s lots of NOISE from him. Hi HG, long time, no hear. Sorry to say I’m having to listen to you again after years of peace. I guess I can’t resist a certain kind of narcissist. Until I have to. ~Bethany
Absolutely true. I may not see it at first, but I pick up on the true nature of narcs very quickly and won't hold back on my opinion of them. It's actually kind of fun because they are usually not nearly as intelligent as they think they are and I can easily put them in their place which is most satisfying.
I feel being around a high functioning narcissist is like playing a game of chess, silence will be golden for awhile for the highly intuitive empath until the narc charms himself/herself back into the empath's life, and yes the narc does have charm and wit but also the need to feed his ego and pull you back in, yet the empath can see through the narcs BS and eventually knows the cycle will begin again till the empath has had enough and calls Checkmate.......
Thanks, HG . You are a great teacher. I appreciate you very much, I am being transformed by your videos that I watched about 4 hours every day. You are my best therapist, and I am very grateful to you and your kindness. ❤
When I was around 11 my mum was with an awful man. She was a working single mum to 3 kids. He quickly moved in, paid no rent, nothing towards food. One night I was in the bath and hear banging around and my mum screaming. I grabbed a towel, ran downstairs and my mum was laying on the sofa with his knee in her chest, pinning her down. I looked to the phone to see the phone lead and entire socket ripped from the wall. I remember shouting at him to get off her, took a couple of times until he actually did, then he left. My mum nearly got back with him. I told her if he moves back in I'd move in with my grandma... and I meant it. He told my mum I had a cold and unforgiving heart. Thankfully he didnt move back in and the relationship ended. I'm not sure if thats related but violence really does trigger me. Not long after, my best friend was set upon by a group in the local park. I stood up in defence of her and ended up taking the beating myself. My friend ran away but we're still friends 30 years later because she ran to get help, I knew she wouldnt cope with what was going to happen to her. She had enough problems already. Why is the world so nasty sometimes?
@@Vacherie.de.vacherie That was a very tongue in cheek statement on my part. My ex husband a covert narcissist would use the silent treatment on me and I remember following him around like a puppy dog saying what's wrong...why won't you talk to me and so on...and being baffled as to what I had done. All it did was provide him with fuel. Now that I know about narcissistic personality disorder, I realise how demeaning it was for me to react in this way. You cannot call out a narcissist for their behaviour or ever hope for resolution but you can use their own weapons against them.
narcissists are silent among truth-tellers. my mother won't reach out to me in over 3 years because I have all the information about how she has lied to all of us and she knows that I will be happy to expose her ass. this is the one time that the silent treatment is doing me good.
Thank you for saying that. I have told the narcs in my family ( both parents and both siblings) that I am onto them and have exposed them to each other’s lies via email. I have spoken the truth and they didn’t like it. So I agree with you that they will avoid truthtellers like the pestilence, especially if they can’t gaslight you anymore because you just call them out each time. Mine know after 50 years of this nonsense that I am finally done with them. Of course they talk about me behind my back in whichever version suits their needs ( either I am a villain, crazy or unconcilliatory) and in furtherance of positioning themselves at the head of the family ( after the super authoritarian father passed away), but I have gone no contact. The sister will claim she dumped me first but I told her I knew exactly what she was. They know they won’t get anywhere with me, and pretend I am the difficult one. But deep down they know they can’t ever talk to me again because they would be vulnerable. Hence they are silent. A form of punishment as well. So I don’t know what HG means that narcs are not silent. They are silent when they can’t be bothered to listen to facts or fear exposure.
He has great videos on the types of empaths out there. They’re on his knowing the narc channel, but fake empaths are on this channel. Very informative.
Hi H.G Most Super empaths suffer from neuralgia and their illness gets worse as time goes by ....an empath can’t stand the negative part of this world ...most important an empath is always ready to depart from this earthly living just as nuns, monks and priests dedicated to religion is .... Love your lessons H.G 🌈🇨🇦 Thank you for having me to understand myself :)
I dealt with my mother-in-law by simply having as little to do with her as duty demanded. Most particularly I refused to go to their place on Xmas day. Xmas brought out the worst in her and after a couple I decided I wasn’t doing that any more. I also refused to take part in the “how wonderful is nana” sessions. She was remarkably accepting of it and after a few decades we achieved an equilibrium. She focussed her energy on hating her other daughters-in-law. She didn’t ask to be who she was, and it was clearly rather unpleasant being her much of the time, but I didn’t see any reason to sacrifice myself on her altar.
I love your statement on not sacrificing yourself on her altar! Will keep this in mind next time I see my mother dearest. Mind you I am "no contact" since Feb and I think less and less about her.
@@nathaliemccaughey5456 I've been in so contact with my mother since April 2013. I never think about her now. I have heard she is smearing me every chance she gets. I dont care. I used to go to church with lots of narcs there as well. They also went quiet around me when they saw me and I used to leave services feeling super drained. I stopped going there as well and feel so much better. ealing hugs and stay strong
Several narcissists in my life have lambasted me for not being more talkative. Sorry but I'm an introvert and I tend to stay in "Observe and Report mode" most of the time.
Idk about that, i have found that it's usually narcissistic people (or other people from "cluster b" personality disorders) who are the ones who are quiet and in the "observe mode".
I talked too much when I was with narcissist, since escaping and learning with HG I’m in watch & observe mode too. The LB ‘The virtues of keeping your mouth shut’ is serving me well.
I like the fact you know how you hurt and why you can not love and instead of staying quiet you share your thoughts so people can understand even a small bit how you think. Even if you don't realize you are doing a lot of good with these videos. Thank you
HG once again bravo... It's so nice for me to listen to your in-depth analysis of what all these psychopathic behaviours are and how people display these character traits. I've always believed when a person really knows who they are, they don't have to say it, or tell people about it.. a true Master doesn't need to brag about anything cause he or she is already showing others what he is by keeping their mouth shut...
Good one HG - had me fooled with that title, for a moment or two anyhow. Us empaths always hope for cures and remedies. Its as you say, our affliction. I know narcs simply cant stay silent forever, due to their ability to calculate, macchinate and manipulate. Because they can ONLY remain silent when in full-on sulk mode, which can last for days, but never because they cant find something manipulative to say, theyre just working up to it for future reference. Here you go - ⛽ Signed, a super empath
My father is a well-renowned businessman. And he always told me... it is best to not speak. Do you know what it is like to grow up in the home of a father who does not speak to you? I am the opposite of my father. I say ALL.
I’ve been narc free for a good five years except in work context / work in mental health so find it interesting. But so empathise with anyone in these relationships or friendships. The best thing really is to go no contact, heal and then amazing to have healthy empathetic people in your life with healthy love and attachment styles. Health in all areas improve and life expectancy too ❤
Thanks for the video, HG. Once again, so spot on. I have a few people in my life that are exceptionally empathetic. They never claimed to have empathic superpowers. They just showed me by being unassuming, patient and kind. On the other hand, those who did make such claims turned out to be the biggest narcissists I ever encountered, and just like you explained it, they remain completely blind to it. I know you've clarified this already, that you're doing all this work to serve your own agenda, but your content is so expansive and thorough, and it seems like you put so much heart into it, that if I didn't know any better, I'd think it was because you want to do us or society a great kindness. Your videos have educated me and helped me a great deal, both in terms of getting closure as well as self-introspection. You deserve to be more recognized.
HG Tudor, you fascinate me, you're an enigma. A benevolent narcissist seems contradictory. I subscribed to learn more. I'm an empath, and deeply interested in the mind, nature of consciousness, learning process and similar. Thank you for revealing a possibility I had not considered.
I am an Empath. Maybe even a Super Empath. You are helping me so much. I appreciate your honesty and your frankness. I am much better at avoiding Narcissists these days. Although those Pesky Vulnerable Narcissists do occasionally slip through. But only temporarily
I gotta deal with 3 different types of your brethren at work and beyond lol. Using logic to prove that they are annoying and problematic to the overall peace of mind of the normals and others is so easy, and necessary I think. It is my pleasure to put them in their place. God bless. Have a beautiful weekend
Thanks! This video was validating. I have escaped and overcome in many ways, but I am scarred and broken too. I am sorry that you were hurt too. Therapy to me is spreading trauma. I have been listening to you for a few years now and have utilized the knowledge you have provided. I appreciate what you are doing even if it is not coming from altruism. I saw an older video last night and you mentioned a sister channel where you read poetry. Where can I find this? 🤔 sometimes we need a break from personality analysis. 😊
The narcissist was only silent with me was when I ignored them at an event, I refused to even make eye contact. I feel their facade was at risk of exposure as they'd hoped I'd be noisy with them and back up their smearing that I'm crazy ... thanks HG x
The only time narcissists are silent is when they need to assert their control over you. If anything, if /when they’re worried about what you will say they will choose their words and narrative more carefully to avoid any arguments you could possibly have with their behavior.
This is going to be very interesting for me in particular. With several female role models who are narcissists, I think this will help me. I am not a normal and not a narcissist. My closest people in my life told me I'm an empath. This was before I even found H.G.'s channel. I'm all in.
Hi HG: I noticed more RUclips channels stating : The narcissist never gets over the super empath.... I listened briefly, got nauseous from what I heard. I left a comment stating to get the facts. And get it right. This is where to get those facts: HG Tudor: Knowing the Narcissist . Many audios all amazing and educational. Why because you are getting the facts from a self acclaimed Narcissist/Psychopath person ..He is someone you must listen to. If you truly want the truth without the fluff..
@@monicahocking1507: wouldn't you rather be armed with the knowledge that you can take the proper defensive measures to protect yourself from becoming entangled with "one of his kind". You will always be the prey or plaything of the "devils" and "fools" in this world, if you in your naivety expect to see them going about with horns or jangling their bells..
🇨🇦I agree … thank you HG Being in a relationship when we are devalued as human beings To the silent treatment … is not from a higher up narcissist but from a mid range or lower form of a narcissist is still frustrating What did I do or say to deserve this ?? They feel too good to explain but won’t use their words to communicate I am so done with the goof I thought was compassionate and understanding He wasn’t … he was a lower or vulnerable narcissist using me as fuel for his own benefit Two yrs later I am Happy to be me ❤✅🇨🇦💦😉
I’ve been loving this content, but this one is disagreeable - I think the thing that’s never quite highlighted is that there is an inherent insecurity with narcissism. It comes in as self confident because by the time some traits can be recognized - the Narc has already had their ego inflated or stolen characteristics of those they feed off of. I think the SE do silence them at one level and that is they cannot obtain the humanity and compassion or emotional intelligence of an empath (not all) and therefore silence isn’t just “voice” it’s the silence of their otherwise presentation to others that is quiet, because the SE sees the person for exactly who they are and is able to quell the need yo be right, but in truth they are “all knowing”
This is a good analysis to read. This guy and Sam Vaknin both say they are dominating persons, so listening to them implies a weak listener. They don’t win unless the inhuman qualities are used to measure.
I was wondering about why do they need validation if they feel they're superior? It's bec they are insecure deep inside. They're sense of self is undeveloped and they have no sense of self emotionally so they need others to make them feel good
Great one! When I saw this video I said to myself surely this isn't true but if HG is saying it I'll have a listen. I think it has more to do with the school of narcissist. Although I have not undergone the narc Detector I believe I was involved with a lower mid ranger. He was EXTREMELY passive aggressive and loved to deploy the silent treatment. It was his go to power move. He almost never got his hands dirty so to speak. He would just deny that he was giving me a silent treatment at all when it was very clear he was.
As Tudor said, the person going silent is most likely an anxious victim trying not to trigger the narcissist by staying silent. It also could be a victim going grey rock. The actual mid rangers give silent treatment to everyone, not just the Super Empath.
I love these short films and I'd love to tell you my story of survival, but I don't trust you - I think I've finally developed some boundaries, thank you!
I’m a huge fan of your work…especially narrating the original animation feature film, “The Grinch” lol. No but seriously…always appreciate your uploads. Very interesting and ever insightful. Thank you. Love listening to both your voice the content delivered.
Empathic individuals are created from childhood experiences, and or trauma. Having to be highly in tuned to the people around them. Like an abuser, or drug and alcoholic parent. Highly sensitive to small shifts in a person's mood, behavior, body Language, habits and or routines. Become people pleasers as adults trying to prevent that uncomfortable feeling the had as children so often. NPD implants himself in the victim and proceeds to abuse himself but he is now in the power of his childhood abuser.
Beware the “empath” that can’t stop talking about it, it’s another way narcissism shows up. I had a friend that would constantly talk about how super empathetic she is, and claimed her neighbors were psychically attacking her in her dreams… 🚩 When she felt bad about her life, she would blame it on her extreme empathic powers. It was blame shifting, she is just an asshole that is easy to to anger and she cuts people out of her life because they were “abusing her.” My “abuse” was not calling her back because I needed a break from her constant sharing of her problems - I simply needed more space for myself in the friendship, but she couldn’t sense that ever…as an “empath”🚩
I was intrigued by this title wondering if anyone could shut them up short of ending their lives. I have often thought Steven King's dark novels suggested that he too had been raised by a Narcissist. I really looked forward to getting the silent treatment. Unfortunately Mom eventually realized this plus following me around with just her evil eyes
During the premiere, I asked if walking away from the silent treatment was a good response, and, in an unaddressed reply, (I think directed at me, but not sure) HG said that the mid range would respond with pity play, (which I have experienced), and then threats, (I've received those, too). I should clarify; I think that a large part of my walking away is to distract and calm myself. I am no longer trying to engage the narc too much, and I know that he can out-manipulate me in his sleep. I'm not trying to change his behavior so much as I'm trying to avoid escalation. I'm just civil, until I can change my living situation. I may end up having to involve law enforcement to do that, but will also need to involve an attorney, and that will require funds that I don't currently have. For now, I think I'm sort of doing the "Grey Rock," approach. I will have to see if HG has any Grey Rock videos.
Hi Kimberly I read your post. In much respect and kindness to your scenario it sounds like a mental and physical safety issue. This is a risks vs benefits situation. Environmental safety be it physical, financial or psychological are components to one’s personal health. At what tipping point are you willing to go before deciding it’s not worth your energy or time staying in the environment you currently are in. Sometimes change to the unknown is the best option to escape the chaos caused by the unconscious narcissist. Speaking from experience. Wishing you much care and compassion in your journey to finding freedom from your narcissist.
Happened to me too. I used to joke to people “I married my stalker “ little did they know…. I did what your doing now, putting your escape plan in order, staying as normal as possible lest he find out. Hes my ex now, but there was a lot of noise from him until he found a girlfriend and got married. We share a son, so of course he told the new wife how awful i am. Dickheads.
The guy narrating this video LITERALLY HAS THE DOPEST VOICE + VOCAL TONE EVER. MY MAN, you should be getting paid BIG $$$ to narrate all sorts of documentaries and what not. Great message too.
Well as a super emphats who is married to a narc yes he dies do this to me he looks at me up and down and tried to devalue me CONSTANTLY in a daily basis but I just tell him if your not happy with this then there's the door period and leave it at that.
AMAZING !!! You are really a wonderful Person, because you expose everything that all my EX is and has done !!! Justice for DV Victims !!! Sick minds need to learn their lessons, as AH's !!!
I have a radar for fakeness and throughout my life I've met people with personality traits that I have never trusted. Down the road, my suspicions were right, but I wouldn't call myself an empath. I started hearing your takes on narcissism and I found the explanation for the behaviour one of my supervisors had while I was working on a cruise ship. I just called her a psychob#tch, I was sure there was something wrong there, she gave me the creeps, but I had no name for her behaviour. Now I can align certain episodes with examples you gave about narcissism. She was an awful person who acted all charming in front of guests and management, but horribly with whom she deemed less than her. Well, and I didn't bend over backwards for her, so I was a scapegoat. Sometimes she had these meltdowns when things weren't going her way. Oh, yes, always blaming others for her shortcomings. Anyway, as I was one of the few who didn't buy into her "nice" persona, she made my life a living hell for 4 contracts. So conniving. The last two weren't that bad because her focus moved to another target. LOL
A question for you Mr Tudor. If super empaths are really so very rare, how can you actually be sure you've ever met one? And is it possible that your own grandiosity and narcissistic pride would not allow you to entertain the thought that someone could be resistant to your bag of dirty tricks? I do not claim to be an empath so I have no opinion either way. I am genuinely curious and would like to known if a narcissist would ever admit to having met their match in someone who is not a narcissist?
I’m a super empath. I’ve been all over the world, and we are very rare. This creature is a narc. And narcs are VERY annoying to us super empaths. But I can always put them in their place very easily. But they aren’t silent, they will be as annoying, defiant, and try to covertly insult or inconvenience me at every opportunity. I’ve dealt with it all my life. But I win every time. And they lose.every.time.
Hi HG. Case study: I'm a sigma empath. Family acquired a MR grandiose narc thru marriage. She told IPPS and MIL that I disliked her after our 1st meeting where we spoke for 5 min and I was indifferent to her. IPPS and MIL runs around manically trying to FIX the situation to no avail. Narc tried smearing, triangulation, insults to my face before witnesses. My response: silence. She started actively avoiding me but MIL was still in fix-it mode and sent me on peace missions on semi-regular basis for 2 years which I took to mean show up at her door, talk for 5min then leave. Her response: rude text each time after I leave. My response: silence until the next peace mission. Voluntarily went no contact for 5 years after I witnessed a weird adult-size tantrum that pushed my buttons enough to enrage me. MIL saved narc from my response by evacuating the household before I exploded. Today, she acts like I'm a man-eating bear or a rattlesnake any time I come within 10ft of her. Question: What is going on inside the Narc's head?
In my opinion, those who suffer from NPD have internal turmoils. Their lives are chaos, loneliness , and madness. I used to explode back as my pride would kick in. I used to blame myself and wonder how can I make things better? The idea of him with other women would put me in a rage and I sent him a text saying I was going to do exactly what he was doing and feed him his own cake. God help me if I had a couple of drinks, then everything bottled came at him full force. But then, I remember seeing him sit alone in the dark staring. Always looked miserable. Never enjoyed a beautiful sunny day. How could anyone stay angry with a mentally ill person. His hands always felt clammy. His eyes empty. The smile he had was picture perfect during photo ops but then quickly became a look of depression. What kind of a life is this!? Who wants to live this way? Understand the material, don’t play the victim, and understand why you allow to be treated badly. And let them live the way they only understand how. They are not devils. They are not well and if they could choose they would choose to be in love and grow old with one person. Everyone deserves happiness, just move on and let them be. Think positive.. fill your heart with love and the right one will come. God bless🙏🏻
Bang on with this one. They never shut up in my experience -- except for (p) silents, which unfortunately are a trigger for me (and give me church giggles). Warning: a narcissist can find it quite wounding to be met with stifled laughter and, "Are you really going to do that?" then leaving the room when they refuse to answer. There's nothing "super" about getting smacked by a narcissist.
Emotional thinking, emotional thinking...I have to put that up on my wall..to remind myself. It's a problem. And 'threat to control'... Maybe I will cross stitch them. No joke, it helps me to remember.
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. I have learned well. Took copious notes. Every Hoover is expertly thought out. It’s now like a strategic chess game. Never knew what a Narc was, or was capable of. Coiled up and hissing......silent as the night until he strikes. Checkmate.....
My best friend and I are empaths. Her narcissist ex tends to stay silent around me and then would talk rumors behind my back. And has this extra hatred and silence around me when I am near her
I hate the cacophony of the narcissist, flooding me with messages or verborrhea. They pick up minute flaws in me or in what I had to do for them and go on forever criticizing that minute flaw to feel superior . Now I just impose boundaries, I tell them be objective and treat me with respect, not insults, contempt or criticism or I'll leave right away.
I think it is probably often the case that the super empath is silent around the narc because they can sense this person's predatory nature even if they are unsure about it in the moment. The narc will try to figure out a way to exploit that sense of discomfort...and the campaign begins...
Thank You HG for this video. We need more of these videos that debunk the rubbish to be found on YT and elsewhere. I don’t listen to the others- not after discovering your channel. Look forward to listening to more of your videos
I am a super empath who set clear boundaries and went no contact with a narcissist. The narcissist avoided me but engaged in a smear campaign amongst other colleagues. I sensed what was going on. I requested a FOI request and received all his email exchanges with the colleagues we worked with. The emails were toxic and disturbing. I sued him for workplace sabotage. His career is over.
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Wow!
Yes, I've watched when narcissist is exposed for abusing others, Narc goes on social media bringing smear campaign. I'm watchful on social media, learned how to report abusers, block problem persons. I've learned to set boundaries, going no contact with worse abusive narcissist in my life.
I don't think people with narcissistic traits can cope with the messiness of being human. They aren't interested or curious about their inner world. It makes them really shallow and boring to be around.
Well said
So true, they are so very very boring.
My friend told me she was an empath. I told her “No you’re not, you’re a normal.” I have seen her in quite a few situations where she lacked empathy. I get the sense that a lot of people view themselves as empaths because their narcissistic traits tell them that is what they are.
I always chuckle when I hear someone say that
I think you may be right. I found out I possess a high level of empathy while in therapy for social anxiety. Not sure if I’m technically an “empath” but I’m certainly very sensitive and was very codependent before I worked through that and I had been told “you’re too sensitive” my entire life. I hear people proclaiming to be empaths and then behave in a way that I’d literally be sick behaving, particularly lying and attempting to manipulate people. I have a lot of trouble lying, even in situations where lies are preferable and non harmful, it’s like my brain has a block and won’t let me do it 😂 I have to be purposeful about viewing things concretely and not emotionally. I wish I could become a “super empath” because that seems to be a way to weaponize empathy and I’m just to the point where it doesn’t debilitate me, certainly not ready for weaponizing it 🥴
@@okaycola2 first time I have heard it.
I've seen a few narcs trying to pass themselves off as empaths.
@@just.jaimie. I had a similar experience growing up and was also diagnosed with social anxiety among other anxiety disorders, I'm also nergodivergent; empath to me has such a pureness to it that I wouldn't dare call myself it, I believe I'm a normal person who just suffered narcissistic abuse that lead to hyper vigilance that resembles empathy and an extreme hatred for narcissists, it was so bad I had to seeking out therapy because I was afraid of what I might do (to them). I'm definitely not an empath considering how much anger roars inside of me towards my ab*sers.
People who brag they were empaths, usually aren't
yeah someone I jave know said 'we are empaths' and I was like oh noo. but I would never say that and weirdly most of the narcissists that lock k to me seem tonknow I am lrobably an actual empath. The thing is that I know is that they either think they are or they are morroring me on ourpose cause they need me.
I am quite bold in that I know who is going to be a problem and I do pay attention in a reactive way and I do protect others and myself when trigger happens.
It ALWAYS happens when the so called empath blames the so called narcissist just to stay in a good light.
Untrue
Correct. 'Empaths' are hyper-aware individuals who become sensitive to stimuli be it people's reaction/body language as a result of trauma response. All neurotypicals have a capacity for empathy, not just select individuals.
"brag?" ;-)
I've been surrounded by Narcs my whole life! They do make a lot of noise...lol
i have however walked into a room or approached a group and SILENCE!!! Its SHOCKING CLEAR that they don't want me to hear the conversation.
My family was so secretive...I was the Scapegoat !
Because they were talking crap about you, putting you down, exposing everything about you and here u come. Of course they're gonna be quiet. 😂
I WAS RAISED IN A FAMILY OF 7 NARCISSISTS.....VERY EXCITING TIME!......
Same!
I asked my mother to stop gossiping about me and I haven’t heard from her since. She will not email me anymore, where I couldn’t get her to leave me alone before. If I would have known it was that easy I would have asked her to stop gossiping about me a long time ago. 😅
@@pauletteforeman2194 Your comment resonates with me so much. My mother would smear my sister to me for years, and every single time she was shocked when I admonished her and refused to continue to the convo. I only found out the worse of what my mother said about me after she died.
I think the narcissist is going to be quiet now. Warned the creature several times throughout the decades. I also have a very good memory. ⏲
A super empath who is aware can spot the toxic personality almost immediately and will put up barriers. Usually by being indifferent to the narcissist, grey rocking them and narcissists hate this, they hate feeling ignored and they will in response act dismissively whether its a backhanded compliment, a stab of sarcastic humour or the haughty turn of their head and face or even the blatent ignore tactic as if they did not hear you. Whatever it is they do it happens fairly quickly in these social settings. Sometimes they will try and latch on to you and just blab on about whatever is on their mind. If they know you then it is a guarantee that they are always smearing you.
An aware super empath is no match for the narcissist. The narcissist may win over how some people view the super empath but he will never gain a foothold over this person, ever.
Peace!
Didn't you mean that "a Narcissist is no match for a Super Empath " (?)
@@BonitaBrandtI Think So
I owned a cafe with my narcissistic ex husband who would go silent around anyone he was planning to recruit as a flying monkey! He would stand back whilst I made small talk with the customers then seek out their friendship in private and tell them I was controlling and abusive! Of course from observations they believed him and that gave him the inroads to take money from them when they offered help. I've been free of him for 5 years but the scars run deep
How sleazy! Hope you have forgiven yourself for being with him, remember you were his main victim, hard to see them coming!
Narcissists are rarely silent that I know of. They assert dominance wherever possible. From what I've seen there can be a lot of braggadocio and bullshit. The message is always "you should admire me, you should want to be like me, you should want to be in my good favor, you're lucky I like you, your life is better because I'm in it." Not all are like that, some are much more subtle about it, but the message will still come through. They are silent to punish and gain control of someone who has displeased them. Watching the person suffer the silence is a potent fuel for them I think.
Less videos on Harry's Wife. More videos on empaths. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 Woo-hoo!!! 👍🏾
More videos on everything except HW. Over done
I agree... Nutmeg is definitely a gonna
I noticed he wasn't asking for opinions.
yeah, as an American, I couldn't possibly care less about the vile royalty of other countries. The only reason they're even in the American spotlight is because they literally pay women's magazines to write articles about them. They can DIAF for all I or any of the other 350,000,000 Americans care.
FACT: In the last week or so, empath videos: a few, Harry's Wife: 0 (zilch, zed, nada). Like H G says: Goody gumdrops!!! 😝
The difference between you and I, is that I can be completely content on my own. And you will never be content. And what you lack to appreciate is the fact that you ever got to be in my presence Amen.
My friend, who is very dear to me, says that we are both empaths. She talks about herself being extremely empathic all the time. But I can't bring myself to say it about myself, because it has such a positive connotation that I don't think it's fair to use that label to make myself look better. Especially when nobody is perfect. We're all mixed bags. I know I'm very sensitive and reactive to dishonesty, unfairness, manipulation and fakeness. So I know I didn't inherit my mother's narcissism. But I'm also sensitive to and uncomfortable with people excessively saying that they are empaths all the time.... 😒
I worked w/a woman who talked about being an empath. It was a few years ago, long b4 my introduction to HG. It always bothered me, it just seemed self-aggrandizing🤷♀️. My husband and stepson have said about me that I am the most empathetic person they have ever known. But I would never, ever, say that about myself. It would just b wrong; for the same reasons u stated. It is wrong.
Secarah, if you haven't already, I highly recommend the empath detector test offered by HG. Your discomfort with describing your self as an empath is...well...a classic trait in a super empath. :)
@@Kinypshun Thanks, though I don't think that I would want to say I was a "super empath" either. 😬 I'm just a regular person who likes HG Tudor videos, because I think his videos help people and he has a nice voice.
I understand that he's not doing it to help, but rather to ensure a legacy that will exist posthumously. But still. He's a lovely narcissistic psychopath and he's very polite. And I hope he manages to get more sleep, even though he said he doesn't require much sleep. I do want him to have sufficient sleep... and hugs. If he likes hugs....
My 'friend' used to continuously try to convince me he was happy - I cut him off. I'm mostly happy and I never feel the need to express it to anybody - primarily because when you're happy, you're just happy. I feel you can relate the situation
its a red flag, its similar to in religion where you are braggin all the time of getting saved or being saved
I really appreciate these types of videos.Narcissists are indeed NOT SILENT around super empath.Silence is a tool they use to abuse their victims. Great video 👍
Mine has avoided me line the plague cause "I'm the only one who knows who he is" he snarled in my face just before he dropped the bomb into our lives and has spent 17 years past the discard, after 23 hoover and collecting data to use as he was building his future persona.i can smell him and his rat family who work hive and they just build and destroy as a repetitive process. Same as tne dark ones who have ruined ruined this planet multiple times and caused extinction. This time there is much more light and even the narcs are exposing themselves to us to empower us not them .So it's kind of interesting once you learn how to survive and beat the programing. Authentic children are excellent at using the habits to survive We had 6 kids and friends who took care of each other and thst was helpful later though children are in lock down from birth nowadays. I have to.beliwvw this wint work this last final "solution " the super narcs Falken creatures plan. I've survived so many attempts to destroy I'm their worst enemy and they hide
Silence after being dumped means they know they can mess with them
Jesus can shut up the devil though. But yeah intelligent super empaths could to some certain extend call on their honesty etc. But still as the narcissists are not an open book the super empath will never be able to have an honest conversation with the narcissists. Maybe they on the other hand see an honest conversation as manipulation and it is their way of protecting themselves not to become human and normal in their social skills.
Touché you are exactly right Narcissist are never quiet and that is their downfall It is the exact reason Super Empaths are able to expose and take down Narcissists
Love this channel! Nothing will shutdown a narcissist like knowledge. Most of them are not that sophisticated. Rarely have I encountered one as intelligent as Hg Tutor! I appreciate your insight as a person who never viewed life from this perspective.
Kidding about bluebirds aside, I think you’re 100% correct about the hyper vigilance, which must be a burden and discipline for so-called super empaths to live with.
I imagine the super empath (not the narcissist) becomes a person who welcomes silence and isolation *as a lifestyle* after habitual or prolonged exposure to narcissistic abuse collides with a deeply empathetic nature.
Narcissists are like apex predators of sensitives-so isolation would be an easy choice.
Just a thought or three.
I am an isolate not so sure about this empath epithet that is flying around. Much destroyed by narcissists. Took to the hills, not to look down upon but to burrow away from society as a hellish whole.
Agreed.
Also; not just, a thought but, an important one.
The title at first made me do a double take! As I have commented on some previous videos, thanks to you I applied GOSO, surprised him with divorce papers on Christmas Eve Day, he ruined every holiday, so I gave him a Christmas gift, 😄. He didn't leave on his own either! He wanted to stay even after the divorce was finalized. I had to get a court order to have him evicted! I never looked back! That was 2 years ago. "Once you know, you go." Thanks ever so much HG! Great video as always 👍
Revenge. You stooped.
Congratulations!!
Nice work !
Noice, if he ever comes around again just call the cops
Setting a boundary is not revenge & only a narc would see it that way.
“Super Empath is one who draws a line in the sand at certain abuse and resists and fights back”. Right in the middle of that one. Have gone NC and there’s lots of NOISE from him. Hi HG, long time, no hear. Sorry to say I’m having to listen to you again after years of peace. I guess I can’t resist a certain kind of narcissist. Until I have to. ~Bethany
Absolutely true. I may not see it at first, but I pick up on the true nature of narcs very quickly and won't hold back on my opinion of them. It's actually kind of fun because they are usually not nearly as intelligent as they think they are and I can easily put them in their place which is most satisfying.
I feel being around a high functioning narcissist is like playing a game of chess, silence will be golden for awhile for the highly intuitive empath until the narc charms himself/herself back into the empath's life, and yes the narc does have charm and wit but also the need to feed his ego and pull you back in, yet the empath can see through the narcs BS and eventually knows the cycle will begin again till the empath has had enough and calls Checkmate.......
Thanks, HG . You are a great teacher. I appreciate you very much, I am being transformed by your videos that I watched about 4 hours every day. You are my best therapist, and I am very grateful to you and your kindness. ❤
When I was around 11 my mum was with an awful man. She was a working single mum to 3 kids. He quickly moved in, paid no rent, nothing towards food. One night I was in the bath and hear banging around and my mum screaming. I grabbed a towel, ran downstairs and my mum was laying on the sofa with his knee in her chest, pinning her down. I looked to the phone to see the phone lead and entire socket ripped from the wall. I remember shouting at him to get off her, took a couple of times until he actually did, then he left. My mum nearly got back with him. I told her if he moves back in I'd move in with my grandma... and I meant it. He told my mum I had a cold and unforgiving heart. Thankfully he didnt move back in and the relationship ended. I'm not sure if thats related but violence really does trigger me. Not long after, my best friend was set upon by a group in the local park. I stood up in defence of her and ended up taking the beating myself. My friend ran away but we're still friends 30 years later because she ran to get help, I knew she wouldnt cope with what was going to happen to her. She had enough problems already. Why is the world so nasty sometimes?
I love the silent treatment. It's my favourite.🤨
I don’t, and hate it. I like to solve the issue or be done with the person. Going round and round on the same issue is just crazy to me.
@@Vacherie.de.vacherie That was a very tongue in cheek statement on my part. My ex husband a covert narcissist would use the silent treatment on me and I remember following him around like a puppy dog saying what's wrong...why won't you talk to me and so on...and being baffled as to what I had done. All it did was provide him with fuel. Now that I know about narcissistic personality disorder, I realise how demeaning it was for me to react in this way. You cannot call out a narcissist for their behaviour or ever hope for resolution but you can use their own weapons against them.
Yassssssss! Silence is golden!
narcissists are silent among truth-tellers. my mother won't reach out to me in over 3 years because I have all the information about how she has lied to all of us and she knows that I will be happy to expose her ass. this is the one time that the silent treatment is doing me good.
Thank you for saying that. I have told the narcs in my family ( both parents and both siblings) that I am onto them and have exposed them to each other’s lies via email. I have spoken the truth and they didn’t like it. So I agree with you that they will avoid truthtellers like the pestilence, especially if they can’t gaslight you anymore because you just call them out each time. Mine know after 50 years of this nonsense that I am finally done with them. Of course they talk about me behind my back in whichever version suits their needs ( either I am a villain, crazy or unconcilliatory) and in furtherance of positioning themselves at the head of the family ( after the super authoritarian father passed away), but I have gone no contact. The sister will claim she dumped me first but I told her I knew exactly what she was. They know they won’t get anywhere with me, and pretend I am the difficult one. But deep down they know they can’t ever talk to me again because they would be vulnerable. Hence they are silent. A form of punishment as well. So I don’t know what HG means that narcs are not silent. They are silent when they can’t be bothered to listen to facts or fear exposure.
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Narcissists like to put the blame on their victim and make it seem like they are the narcissist.
They are loud, noisy, rageful, very angry and other strange behaviourism. No Contact if necessary helps a lot.
Best information I've found in regards to empaths and empathy. Thank you for the facts HG.
He has great videos on the types of empaths out there. They’re on his knowing the narc channel, but fake empaths are on this channel. Very informative.
Everything gets back to simplicity
Narcistic people see you as a meal
Empaths want to give
Hi H.G
Most Super empaths suffer from neuralgia and their illness gets worse as time goes by ....an empath can’t stand the negative part of this world ...most important an empath is always ready to depart from this earthly living just as nuns, monks and priests dedicated to religion is ....
Love your lessons H.G 🌈🇨🇦
Thank you for having me to understand myself :)
how do you know most suffer from neuralgia?
What are you even on about and how come this got so many likes.
I dealt with my mother-in-law by simply having as little to do with her as duty demanded. Most particularly I refused to go to their place on Xmas day. Xmas brought out the worst in her and after a couple I decided I wasn’t doing that any more. I also refused to take part in the “how wonderful is nana” sessions.
She was remarkably accepting of it and after a few decades we achieved an equilibrium. She focussed her energy on hating her other daughters-in-law. She didn’t ask to be who she was, and it was clearly rather unpleasant being her much of the time, but I didn’t see any reason to sacrifice myself on her altar.
I love your statement on not sacrificing yourself on her altar! Will keep this in mind next time I see my mother dearest. Mind you I am "no contact" since Feb and I think less and less about her.
Good for you!
Fabulous example of setting healthy boundaries ❣️
@@nathaliemccaughey5456 I've been in so contact with my mother since April 2013. I never think about her now. I have heard she is smearing me every chance she gets. I dont care. I used to go to church with lots of narcs there as well. They also went quiet around me when they saw me and I used to leave services feeling super drained. I stopped going there as well and feel so much better. ealing hugs and stay strong
The Information provided here is so Valuable. Thankyou HG for your insight. ❤️🌻
Several narcissists in my life have lambasted me for not being more talkative. Sorry but I'm an introvert and I tend to stay in "Observe and Report mode" most of the time.
same. They just want to cut you down.
Idk about that, i have found that it's usually narcissistic people (or other people from "cluster b" personality disorders) who are the ones who are quiet and in the "observe mode".
I talked too much when I was with narcissist, since escaping and learning with HG I’m in watch & observe mode too. The LB ‘The virtues of keeping your mouth shut’ is serving me well.
There are also people in cluster A who would much rather be quiet and observe, such as those with schizophrenia and schizoid pd.
@@izil1fe You mean like D Trump?
I like the fact you know how you hurt and why you can not love and instead of staying quiet you share your thoughts so people can understand even a small bit how you think. Even if you don't realize you are doing a lot of good with these videos. Thank you
HG once again bravo... It's so nice for me to listen to your in-depth analysis of what all these psychopathic behaviours are and how people display these character traits.
I've always believed when a person really knows who they are, they don't have to say it, or tell people about it.. a true Master doesn't need to brag about anything cause he or she is already showing others what he is by keeping their mouth shut...
Good one HG - had me fooled with that title, for a moment or two anyhow. Us empaths always hope for cures and remedies. Its as you say, our affliction.
I know narcs simply cant stay silent forever, due to their ability to calculate, macchinate and manipulate. Because they can ONLY remain silent when in full-on sulk mode, which can last for days, but never because they cant find something manipulative to say, theyre just working up to it for future reference.
Here you go - ⛽
Signed,
a super empath
My father is a well-renowned businessman. And he always told me... it is best to not speak. Do you know what it is like to grow up in the home of a father who does not speak to you? I am the opposite of my father. I say ALL.
I’ve been narc free for a good five years except in work context / work in mental health so find it interesting. But so empathise with anyone in these relationships or friendships. The best thing really is to go no contact, heal and then amazing to have healthy empathetic people in your life with healthy love and attachment styles. Health in all areas improve and life expectancy too ❤
"narc-free"... nice.
Thank you for this video, HG. I found it educating, enlightening and interesting. Much appreciated, HG 💟
I'm benefitting so much from your work, HG. Thank you for all the information you put out there!
I didn’t realize you were a narcissist . New to the channel . Kudos to you for being so aware
Welcome on board
@@hgtudor-theultra Hi..Wondering if you would or have ever make a video about narcissists going into a complete phychosis and why this may happen?
You can tell from his voice. He talk like a robot
First time I hear someone congratulating someone for being aware they are a narcissist 😂😂😂😂🤦♂️
Cool, welcome to the party
This sounds SO like me.
I'll take the abuse yes, for a little while, (because I love him) but then I have to call him out on it.
Because they are worried they are going to incriminate themselves (in so many words)
Thanks for the video, HG. Once again, so spot on.
I have a few people in my life that are exceptionally empathetic. They never claimed to have empathic superpowers. They just showed me by being unassuming, patient and kind. On the other hand, those who did make such claims turned out to be the biggest narcissists I ever encountered, and just like you explained it, they remain completely blind to it.
I know you've clarified this already, that you're doing all this work to serve your own agenda, but your content is so expansive and thorough, and it seems like you put so much heart into it, that if I didn't know any better, I'd think it was because you want to do us or society a great kindness. Your videos have educated me and helped me a great deal, both in terms of getting closure as well as self-introspection. You deserve to be more recognized.
HG Tudor, you fascinate me, you're an enigma. A benevolent narcissist seems contradictory. I subscribed to learn more.
I'm an empath, and deeply interested in the mind, nature of consciousness, learning process and similar.
Thank you for revealing a possibility I had not considered.
I am an Empath. Maybe even a Super Empath. You are helping me so much. I appreciate your honesty and your frankness. I am much better at avoiding Narcissists these days. Although those Pesky Vulnerable Narcissists do occasionally slip through. But only temporarily
Really helpful video, HG. Like you said, there are lots of self proclaimed experts out there who have it very wrong, or just slightly correct.
I gotta deal with 3 different types of your brethren at work and beyond lol. Using logic to prove that they are annoying and problematic to the overall peace of mind of the normals and others is so easy, and necessary I think. It is my pleasure to put them in their place. God bless. Have a beautiful weekend
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Thanks
Thanks! This video was validating. I have escaped and overcome in many ways, but I am scarred and broken too. I am sorry that you were hurt too.
Therapy to me is spreading trauma. I have been listening to you for a few years now and have utilized the knowledge you have provided. I appreciate what you are doing even if it is not coming from altruism.
I saw an older video last night and you mentioned a sister channel where you read poetry. Where can I find this? 🤔 sometimes we need a break from personality analysis. 😊
The narcissist was only silent with me was when I ignored them at an event, I refused to even make eye contact. I feel their facade was at risk of exposure as they'd hoped I'd be noisy with them and back up their smearing that I'm crazy ... thanks HG x
The only time narcissists are silent is when they need to assert their control over you. If anything, if /when they’re worried about what you will say they will choose their words and narrative more carefully to avoid any arguments you could possibly have with their behavior.
Very true.. they stay silent because just don't want the empath to know what their latest nasty scheme is.
This is going to be very interesting for me in particular. With several female role models who are narcissists, I think this will help me. I am not a normal and not a narcissist. My closest people in my life told me I'm an empath. This was before I even found H.G.'s channel. I'm all in.
Thank you again, HG, for your continuing education about narcissists and addressing the misinformation appearing here on YT.
Hi HG: I noticed more RUclips channels stating : The narcissist never gets over the super empath.... I listened briefly, got nauseous from what I heard. I left a comment stating to get the facts. And get it right. This is where to get those facts:
HG Tudor: Knowing the Narcissist .
Many audios all amazing and educational.
Why because you are getting the facts from a self acclaimed Narcissist/Psychopath person ..He is someone you must listen to.
If you truly want the truth without the fluff..
Really? So your happy listening to the devil. He can be truthful when it suits him to.
@@monicahocking1507: wouldn't you rather be armed with the knowledge that you can take the proper defensive measures to protect yourself from becoming entangled with "one of his kind". You will always be the prey or plaything of the "devils" and "fools" in this world, if you in your naivety expect to see them going about with horns or jangling their bells..
So you were nauseated too? Glad I wasn't the only one!
Thank you?
I used to watch your videos a lot before, but then stopped. And I'm back now.. I need to be reminded of some cold truth stuff. Thanks again
Very helpful. Lots to think about here. Always keep learning. Never assume you fully understand anything.
Brilliant explanation and setting the records straight as per usual HG. GOOD job
You're brilliant HG, but you already know that. Thank you for sharing your brilliance.
🇨🇦I agree … thank you HG
Being in a relationship when we are devalued as human beings
To the silent treatment … is not from a higher up narcissist but from a mid range or lower form of a narcissist is still frustrating
What did I do or say to deserve this ?? They feel too good to explain but won’t use their words to communicate
I am so done with the goof I thought was compassionate and understanding
He wasn’t … he was a lower or vulnerable narcissist using me as fuel for his own benefit
Two yrs later I am Happy to be me ❤✅🇨🇦💦😉
Hello H .G . I'm a new subscriber that appreciates the eye-opening, myth dispelling information you provide.Thank you
Welcome on board
Thank you for clearing that up, HG.
I’ve been loving this content, but this one is disagreeable - I think the thing that’s never quite highlighted is that there is an inherent insecurity with narcissism. It comes in as self confident because by the time some traits can be recognized - the Narc has already had their ego inflated or stolen characteristics of those they feed off of. I think the SE do silence them at one level and that is they cannot obtain the humanity and compassion or emotional intelligence of an empath (not all) and therefore silence isn’t just “voice” it’s the silence of their otherwise presentation to others that is quiet, because the SE sees the person for exactly who they are and is able to quell the need yo be right, but in truth they are “all knowing”
Alrighty then, thx!
Perfectly said!
This is a good analysis to read. This guy and Sam Vaknin both say they are dominating persons, so listening to them implies a weak listener. They don’t win unless the inhuman qualities are used to measure.
I was wondering about why do they need validation if they feel they're superior? It's bec they are insecure deep inside. They're sense of self is undeveloped and they have no sense of self emotionally so they need others to make them feel good
@@deed2157 correct. If they were alone without supply, they will collapse or experience mortification
Great one! When I saw this video I said to myself surely this isn't true but if HG is saying it I'll have a listen. I think it has more to do with the school of narcissist. Although I have not undergone the narc Detector I believe I was involved with a lower mid ranger. He was EXTREMELY passive aggressive and loved to deploy the silent treatment. It was his go to power move. He almost never got his hands dirty so to speak. He would just deny that he was giving me a silent treatment at all when it was very clear he was.
Classic gaslighting.
As Tudor said, the person going silent is most likely an anxious victim trying not to trigger the narcissist by staying silent. It also could be a victim going grey rock. The actual mid rangers give silent treatment to everyone, not just the Super Empath.
Very interesting H.G. This is fascinating and very well explained. You truly are the best.
I love these short films and I'd love to tell you my story of survival, but I don't trust you - I think I've finally developed some boundaries, thank you!
I’m a huge fan of your work…especially narrating the original animation feature film, “The Grinch” lol. No but seriously…always appreciate your uploads. Very interesting and ever insightful. Thank you. Love listening to both your voice the content delivered.
Thank You HG. Another wonderful video. Thank You.
Empathic individuals are created from childhood experiences, and or trauma. Having to be highly in tuned to the people around them. Like an abuser, or drug and alcoholic parent. Highly sensitive to small shifts in a person's mood, behavior, body Language, habits and or routines. Become people pleasers as adults trying to prevent that uncomfortable feeling the had as children so often.
NPD implants himself in the victim and proceeds to abuse himself but he is now in the power of his childhood abuser.
Beware the “empath” that can’t stop talking about it, it’s another way narcissism shows up. I had a friend that would constantly talk about how super empathetic she is, and claimed her neighbors were psychically attacking her in her dreams… 🚩
When she felt bad about her life, she would blame it on her extreme empathic powers. It was blame shifting, she is just an asshole that is easy to to anger and she cuts people out of her life because they were “abusing her.” My “abuse” was not calling her back because I needed a break from her constant sharing of her problems - I simply needed more space for myself in the friendship, but she couldn’t sense that ever…as an “empath”🚩
I was intrigued by this title wondering if anyone could shut them up short of ending their lives. I have often thought Steven King's dark novels suggested that he too had been raised by a Narcissist. I really looked forward to getting the silent treatment. Unfortunately Mom eventually realized this plus following me around with just her evil eyes
Yessssss!!! Right ?!!!!
During the premiere, I asked if walking away from the silent treatment was a good response, and, in an unaddressed reply, (I think directed at me, but not sure) HG said that the mid range would respond with pity play, (which I have experienced), and then threats, (I've received those, too).
I should clarify; I think that a large part of my walking away is to distract and calm myself. I am no longer trying to engage the narc too much, and I know that he can out-manipulate me in his sleep. I'm not trying to change his behavior so much as I'm trying to avoid escalation. I'm just civil, until I can change my living situation. I may end up having to involve law enforcement to do that, but will also need to involve an attorney, and that will require funds that I don't currently have.
For now, I think I'm sort of doing the "Grey Rock," approach. I will have to see if HG has any Grey Rock videos.
My response wasn’t aimed at you Kimberly
@@hgtudor-theultra Okay. Thank you for responding.
Hi Kimberly I read your post. In much respect and kindness to your scenario it sounds like a mental and physical safety issue. This is a risks vs benefits situation. Environmental safety be it physical, financial or psychological are components to one’s personal health. At what tipping point are you willing to go before deciding it’s not worth your energy or time staying in the environment you currently are in. Sometimes change to the unknown is the best option to escape the chaos caused by the unconscious narcissist. Speaking from experience. Wishing you much care and compassion in your journey to finding freedom from your narcissist.
You still seem to lack the resilience to cut him cold Turkey. Walk away for good and forever
Happened to me too. I used to joke to people “I married my stalker “ little did they know….
I did what your doing now, putting your escape plan in order, staying as normal as possible lest he find out. Hes my ex now, but there was a lot of noise from him until he found a girlfriend and got married. We share a son, so of course he told the new wife how awful i am. Dickheads.
Hmmm. That explains it all. Empaths are powerful!!!
My aunt, this is her all the way, tell them the truth about themselves. And they get quiet
Another great video, thanks you for the great content.
The guy narrating this video LITERALLY HAS THE DOPEST VOICE + VOCAL TONE EVER. MY MAN, you should be getting paid BIG $$$ to narrate all sorts of documentaries and what not. Great message too.
Well as a super emphats who is married to a narc yes he dies do this to me he looks at me up and down and tried to devalue me CONSTANTLY in a daily basis but I just tell him if your not happy with this then there's the door period and leave it at that.
You're brilliant, bang on.
AMAZING !!! You are really a wonderful Person, because you expose everything that all my EX is and has done !!! Justice for DV Victims !!! Sick minds need to learn their lessons, as AH's !!!
I have a radar for fakeness and throughout my life I've met people with personality traits that I have never trusted. Down the road, my suspicions were right, but I wouldn't call myself an empath.
I started hearing your takes on narcissism and I found the explanation for the behaviour one of my supervisors had while I was working on a cruise ship. I just called her a psychob#tch, I was sure there was something wrong there, she gave me the creeps, but I had no name for her behaviour. Now I can align certain episodes with examples you gave about narcissism.
She was an awful person who acted all charming in front of guests and management, but horribly with whom she deemed less than her. Well, and I didn't bend over backwards for her, so I was a scapegoat.
Sometimes she had these meltdowns when things weren't going her way. Oh, yes, always blaming others for her shortcomings. Anyway, as I was one of the few who didn't buy into her "nice" persona, she made my life a living hell for 4 contracts. So conniving. The last two weren't that bad because her focus moved to another target. LOL
A question for you Mr Tudor. If super empaths are really so very rare, how can you actually be sure you've ever met one?
And is it possible that your own grandiosity and narcissistic pride would not allow you to entertain the thought that someone could be resistant to your bag of dirty tricks?
I do not claim to be an empath so I have no opinion either way.
I am genuinely curious and would like to known if a narcissist would ever admit to having met their match in someone who is not a narcissist?
Great question 🙋♂️.
I’m a super empath. I’ve been all over the world, and we are very rare. This creature is a narc. And narcs are VERY annoying to us super empaths. But I can always put them in their place very easily. But they aren’t silent, they will be as annoying, defiant, and try to covertly insult or inconvenience me at every opportunity. I’ve dealt with it all my life. But I win every time. And they lose.every.time.
Great video HG, thankyou, my understanding has been educated. This is most helpful.
Almost at 100k subscribers HG. Nice work.
Hi HG. Case study: I'm a sigma empath. Family acquired a MR grandiose narc thru marriage. She told IPPS and MIL that I disliked her after our 1st meeting where we spoke for 5 min and I was indifferent to her. IPPS and MIL runs around manically trying to FIX the situation to no avail. Narc tried smearing, triangulation, insults to my face before witnesses. My response: silence. She started actively avoiding me but MIL was still in fix-it mode and sent me on peace missions on semi-regular basis for 2 years which I took to mean show up at her door, talk for 5min then leave. Her response: rude text each time after I leave. My response: silence until the next peace mission. Voluntarily went no contact for 5 years after I witnessed a weird adult-size tantrum that pushed my buttons enough to enrage me. MIL saved narc from my response by evacuating the household before I exploded. Today, she acts like I'm a man-eating bear or a rattlesnake any time I come within 10ft of her. Question: What is going on inside the Narc's head?
In my opinion, those who suffer from NPD have internal turmoils. Their lives are chaos, loneliness , and madness. I used to explode back as my pride would kick in. I used to blame myself and wonder how can I make things better? The idea of him with other women would put me in a rage and I sent him a text saying I was going to do exactly what he was doing and feed him his own cake. God help me if I had a couple of drinks, then everything bottled came at him full force. But then, I remember seeing him sit alone in the dark staring. Always looked miserable. Never enjoyed a beautiful sunny day. How could anyone stay angry with a mentally ill person. His hands always felt clammy. His eyes empty. The smile he had was picture perfect during photo ops but then quickly became a look of depression. What kind of a life is this!? Who wants to live this way? Understand the material, don’t play the victim, and understand why you allow to be treated badly. And let them live the way they only understand how. They are not devils. They are not well and if they could choose they would choose to be in love and grow old with one person. Everyone deserves happiness, just move on and let them be. Think positive.. fill your heart with love and the right one will come. God bless🙏🏻
“Empath” is just a fancy way to describe poor emotional boundaries.
YOU ARE BANG ON IN THIS VIDEO HG.....
Hi HG! I've listened to so many of your videos that are amazing but this is my favorite so far. Thank you for all your hard work!
Thank you HG Tudor for explaining this. Your videos are so very informative and helpful in understanding what a narcissist is and how they act.
Bang on with this one. They never shut up in my experience -- except for (p) silents, which unfortunately are a trigger for me (and give me church giggles). Warning: a narcissist can find it quite wounding to be met with stifled laughter and, "Are you really going to do that?" then leaving the room when they refuse to answer. There's nothing "super" about getting smacked by a narcissist.
Emotional thinking, emotional thinking...I have to put that up on my wall..to remind myself. It's a problem. And 'threat to control'... Maybe I will cross stitch them. No joke, it helps me to remember.
Reminds me of "Noisy Investegation" done by Scientology on "Supresive Persons" along the lines of the Scientology "Fair Game Policy"
Your videos are so informative and beneficial!! Thank you so much!!!!
Brilliant🙂 I've learned so much from you...Thank you
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. I have learned well. Took copious notes. Every Hoover is expertly thought out. It’s now like a strategic chess game. Never knew what a Narc was, or was capable of. Coiled up and hissing......silent as the night until he strikes. Checkmate.....
My best friend and I are empaths. Her narcissist ex tends to stay silent around me and then would talk rumors behind my back. And has this extra hatred and silence around me when I am near her
I hate the cacophony of the narcissist, flooding me with messages or verborrhea. They pick up minute flaws in me or in what I had to do for them and go on forever criticizing that minute flaw to feel superior . Now I just impose boundaries, I tell them be objective and treat me with respect, not insults, contempt or criticism or I'll leave right away.
Hoping you will stick to that when your boundary is infringed. Good health to you!
I think it is probably often the case that the super empath is silent around the narc because they can sense this person's predatory nature even if they are unsure about it in the moment. The narc will try to figure out a way to exploit that sense of discomfort...and the campaign begins...
Great upload, thank you!
Thank You HG for this video. We need more of these videos that debunk the rubbish to be found on YT and elsewhere. I don’t listen to the others- not after discovering your channel. Look forward to listening to more of your videos
Best 'Tudor Treatment' ever!