What An Entitled Narcissist Requires From You
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- As narcissists engage with you, they are guided by distorted thinking. One of their greatest distortions is the belief in their superiority over you, and the entitlements that accompany it. Dr. Les Carter gives clear insights about what entitled narcissist require, then discusses the necessity of finding independent.
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They feel entitled to abuse you on all levels without you setting boundaries and protecting your peace.
Lol 🙃
All narcissist's primary goal is to bring other people down so the narcissist can feel superior.
They expect the highest level of respect from you even when they are abusing and betraying you.
Absolutely, and as if we don't clearly see and understand exactly what they are doing.
Yes, I think I heard Dr. C say, that they want respect with disrespect.
God bless you and I totally understand and I’m so sorry you have gone through this. I pray that the Lord God Almighty will just heal and delete the trauma and what man meant for evil. God can bless you and bless you.
SMILES…TEAM Clarity and thank you Gus. Gus, you work so hard that you are so exhausted when Dr. C needs to deliver the video you created …..ha ha ha
They expect respect when they are being absurd.
EXACTLY. SPOT ON. 👏
To a narcissist, their wants are their needs and your needs don’t matter to them, and the more you give to them, the more they take, and will ask for more.
So true! It’s a very one-sided relationship where all the attention is focused on them. The idea of reciprocating and being curious about another person’s interests is totally foreign to the narcissist.
Ask, More like demand.
@@CousinCarole_ and conform
Indeed!
@@susannakotoff7095 💯👍🏼
Narcissists believe they are the directors and others are simply actors whom they have the authority to control. If an actor refuses to strictly follow narcissists' commands or becomes disillusioned by the narcissist's carefully scripted life, narcissists will immediately pivot to another subservient performer eager to be in the spotlight.
They are delusional. They want people to worship them. I had to leave the craziness behind.
In their tiny piece of the world they see themselves as God. They have their flying monkies to do their dirty work. Let them live in their delusional world and get far away from them.
It really helps when you suggested:‘don’t try to provide insight when understanding is obviously not the narcissists goal’
My narcissist father's delusional thinking was evident. He adopted me when I was 5 years-old and he was 50 years-old. When I was 25 year-old and he was 70 years-old, he tried to compete with me physically. I had been in the 101st airborne, served in an infantry company, and I was lifting weights regularly. My father was digging some trenches by hand to install some plumbing pipes and I was helping him do it. He got upset at me for taking big scoops of dirt with my shovel. Another time he challenged me to contest to see who could dig to a pipe the fastest. Instead of telling me to make a small hole the way he did, I dug a big hole. He got to the pipe first and bragged about how much tougher he was than me. I looked at the hole he dug and it was about half the size of mine. He tried to get me physically hurt when I was working with him. Eventually, I got sick of his passive aggressive and competitive behavior, so I quit and got a job with benefits.
The narcissist in my life thinks that subservience is "respect"
I realized I was conditioned to be subservient and much more. They also use loyalty, but what they actually mean is obedience. Vile 🐍
Many really do!
@Limonaid So true. If I have a different opinion about something, my narc husband thinks I'm not being loyal to him!!! 😮 🙄😳
@@MarianneCatherine then you’ll get punished in either a direct way or worse, an indirect way in the future. Which will cause confusion becuase you don’t know why they’re upset and you start feeling like you did something wrong and BAM, you’re the one apologizing. Nasty manipulation and gaslighting
@@Limonaid they do have excellent memories for all the wrong things (of course)!!! My husband can actually dig up things from decades ago in an instant! It's like he should be on a quiz show or in the circus 🎪 as the elephant 🐘 that never forgets!!! 😂😲😅
My former Narc would blatantly state that with all his accomplishments he is better than others ! He firmly believed that and me and all others were beneath him.
"All other things being equal..." Wait! When are they ever with a narc? What they require from you is - you! Everything! Unquestioningly, unyielding loyalty, compliance and servitude. Yeah, I don't need that in my life! Neither do you! Stay Healthy!
Definitely not ❤
Gus has this priviledge to be relaxed,because he senses that you take care of us listeners. Dog lover here,totaly narc free,enjoying your speaches.Thank you!
Seriously, I believe you can tell a lot about a person by watching how they respond to animals, children, and the elderly.
@@SurvivingNarcissismSO True!
@@SurvivingNarcissism ...and the seriously ill and disabled.
@@SurvivingNarcissismabsolutely!
True. But they also can fake it very well. 😢
My mother stated that my travel-sickness was 'mind over matter'. I worked out what that meant- 'i mind , and you don't matter'.
😂😳😅🤣😂😂
I think there is some truth in her words some things you can mentally plow thru but others need aid.
Rule: It is okay for me to go into a narcissistic rage at any time because I need to let off steam.
You must behave properly at all times.
Exactly👍
So true! Or you're deemed to be the crazy one!!! 😳😲🙄
One pattern of behavior I have noticed in the narcissistic people I had the misfortune to associate with is : They have no compunction or shame in using you, your time, your intellect. But when they no longer have need for you they will flare up into narcissistict rages into tiny oversights on your part, their perceived lack of loyalty on your part for taking a genuine or authentic loyalty ( their distorted version of reality), they will then invite everyone except you to a wedding in their families, so that you feel used and discarded. Whatever evil they do, you are expected to be their flying monkey/ accomplice. They are totally lacking in empathy. It is always about them. They devalue others experiences, suffering, sacrifices. They dominate conversations. You try to get in a word or syllable sideways, you are snubbed and dismissed with scorn. They excel at body shaming. They always make you look small so they can elevate themselves. As you said it's not mere respect they demand. They want to be put on a pedestal. They imagine there's a halo around them. One day they will hurt you with the most vile and abusive language, the next day they will expect you to babysit their children. It is very difficult when a sister is a narcissist. I cut off relations with her a few years ago after tolerating a lifetime of verbal, emotional, psychological, financial, intellectual abuse. Enough is enough. The peace and serenity , that we, the rest of the family now enjoy , is indescribable.
They need attention from others without deserving...😮
The narcissist in my life seems to think I am his mother. I already raised our children and I have no intention of putting up with his nonsense. He is a seventy plus year old toddler. Thanks for your help in my healing journey.
Yep - a toddler in a meat suit! The NEX expected a mommy too - he ended up with a Nanny who’s just like him! I feel so bad for their children (all grown now) & hope they deciphered their upbringing.
They're all toddlers at heart
My ex husband saw me as an “appendage” or “extension” of himself rather than an individual with my own thoughts, perceptions, values, etc. He grew up with a narcissistic and unfit druggie mother so what he never got from her, he tried to get from me but so maliciously.
Everyone is mother to a narcissist because they never separated from the original caregiver @ age 2
This is so spot on!! It took a good amount of therapy for me to see just how delusional and entitled my brother and sister in law are. They truly wanted to hear from me "even though you do the things you're getting mad at me for doing, I'm the one who is wrong and inconsiderate." Or "You're right. It's wrong of me not to prioritize your family's needs over what I need to do to protect my own and my daughters mental health." Or my favorite "yes, I should run all my decisions about my life by you to make sure you approve." 🤣🤣🤦♀️
This is just so sick to me. This narcissist is sweet as pie to everyone else accept me. I've observed a totally different person whenever guest came over or on the outside of home. I get no respect treated like crap this is insane.
I understand. Same here. They are nice to everyone else because they are " supply seekers." It is a mask they put on. They use people. Unfortunately, people do not see behind their mask. If they did, they would not want to be around them.
Two words. Record him, but just don't let him know! It will come in handy some day. 🤔 Good luck! 👍
Yes, I was the one always apologizing and negotiating.
Yes me too🙄
No matter what you do, how hard you try, or what you sacrifice, they never see it and always want more. It's never good enough. They always see what you didn't do, what you didn't sacrifice, and that you didn't try hard enough!
"They always see what you didn't do...."
That's brilliant and so true!
So true!
Willing participation in your own debasement and ultimately self-destruction.
That pretty much sums it up!!!
That is fun for them.
@@t_nels Indeed! It's not just fun it's euphoric!
@@amandaliverpool3374 That just took it to another level. Been up since 5am with a terrific headache.
Resistance is like cleaning the glue off your hands, they become stickier before it comes off. I hope for the least amount of residue.
@t_nels Now that definitely isn't fun. Your poor head. How's your back. A little tip (apologies if you already know). I sleep with a pillow under my knees. It takes the pressure off my lower back. Not a miracle cure, but it helps. ❤️🩹
‘If you’d only agree we wouldn’t have to argue’
I ended up in the hosp. Close to insanity. Your counseling and support saved me😊
Stay strong. Remember, you were receiving input from someone who had no capacity to understand you. That makes his messages empty.
they never carry any guilt from the abuse they inflicted on another person . thats the odd thing about it .
Dr C is very good at helping us see things from a narcasists pov.
"Know your enemy" or "forewarned is forearmed" are helpful strategies.
Its also good to know yourself!
When we learn the power of self care skills we are more able to resist their "requirements"
Thanks Dr C & TH. You are much appreciated
Thank you Stu, this is calming.
Thanks, Stu!
@t_nels Hi🖐 It's hard to find calmness sometimes, but when we do we feel gratitude and appreciation
@SurvivingNarcissism
Cheers Dr C. I appreciate you more than ever
There seems to be projection here as hes doing everything he's accusing the other of. "They don't know life at all". These perspectives lead and lend to our current societies self-righteous criminal behavior. My current situation is where my supervisor is surrounding himself with incompetent people's and undermining the productive people. (High turnover rate) The illicit gaslighting hypocrisy and nonsense is problematic (objectivity) but not by their measure.
"There's only one person in the room that I need to listen to... and it sure isn't you." Hahahah... brings back such bad memories.
The narcissist in my life gives gifts and then expects me to sever them for how long well until the next gift.
Delusional in a position of power. How rare!
"Dear narcissist, I think you do a much better job of making all my decisions than I do. Thank you for planning my whole life in advance so that, if you die before I do, I'll know what to do."
Thank you Dr C! I could not stop laughing at your comments regarding the narcissist's excuses and delusional thinking. After spending 10+years in hell dealing with a nacrssistic family, I made the decision to walk away and I am finally finding peace. I now feel safe enough that I can laugh at their excuses. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with all of us❤
If one does not elevate their ego, the narcissist will manipulate when you least expect it. Another grand video.🎉
I have reached a level of peacefulness in my life and I very sincerely thank you so much for the ongoing therapeutic support that has made this journey successful. You are a master educator on this subject, humble enough to understand the difficulties that humanity faces. Take care and God bless.❤
This reminds me of the time my sister asked me, "You agree that I have better judgment than you, right?" I pretended to agree, and she told me I should date a certain guy, because she was sure we could have a good relationship. This guy was SO wrong for me; he knew it and I knew it. But Narcissister was in charge. (I never dated him and he never asked me out.)
Narcissister!👍
I hope Dr C reads your comment,.
Thats genius to come up with that word.
May I use it, please....(if only in my own head)
You're very clever in many ways! Love that Narcissister!!! 😊 👍😲
Narcissister… love it and is exactly what I had been dealing with my whole life! Best decision I ever made was to GO NO CONTACT to finally have peace in my life!
@@sturobertson6791 You may use it, and please spread it around!
Funny how excuses work with them. They have them all day long ! Ouch if you have one. Don’t give them one!
Walk away.
The funniest excuse I had is after a hurtful, devastating personal criticism, "I'm a Leo and sometimes I roar". Do the Stars control the Mouth??
Hard not to give narcissists an excuse for them to behave badly. They are expert manipulators when coming up with excuses one after another after we at first were only trusting of them at face value same as we would be more trusting enough towards any other human being on the same planet we live on compared to when we are say faced with a large other kind of animal while we are at work helping to maintain a zoo or whatever.
"They create, and then perpetuate the discord."..... "I do not take my cues from someone who doesn’t even know who I am."
Spot on, Doc!
As always, thank you so much.
My narcissistic son in law is extremely mad at me for not “saving” his house by not taking out a huge mortgage and leaving my husband so he could build me a room in his garage and pay all his bills. What the heck is wrong with me 😂
I just want to cry and run away. I am a mother and a daughter so I can not …..
Take a deep breath. Then another. It will be ok.
@@amandaroberts6282 ❤️🩹
@@amandaroberts6282 Big hugs 🫂
I second d what slobart said.
Keep going
You'll be ok
One day at a time.
Learn, research, listen, self care skills, you will gradually heal and feel better.
Just keep going🙏
@@amandaroberts6282 Hugs 🫂
Rather than defend myself anymore, I just point out that he does the same things.
Interesting. I find the same and this morning and when he did what he would to upset me, I simply went to my space.
He knows what he did. He tried to play it. Asked what I was doing? Expected a protest or at least some reaction or disappointment. I gave nothing. I looked for a Dr Les video that resonated.
Why should I retreat to a space?
This is something I haven't done, but I will. It's good to remind them about their actions. Thank you.
They need other people to be selfless martyrs.
especially in the religious settings the chaos they create, then so call rebuke with misquoting and twisting bible verses. Never accountable or resolve. There s no communicating with them.
Definitely describes my narc husband. He tells me all the time I need to leave but I paid half for our house.
I didn't want to find out the hard way which half that was going to be according to my own narc husband number two when his lawyer friend from Pakistan had instructed him to offer up a room to me in my own house where I should be according to him then living instead of at a woman's shelter as his then his second wife divorced from him there where I would be finally able to come and go as I pleased without being treated to shouting in public places if I had not first clearly got both his permission and got his best friend a minister's permission too to before spending time with any friend male or female there in only for example a coffee shop. After I had already recieved word from a former neighbor that he had been seen visiting both his ex wife number one who had no children with him or children from any previous marriage living with her ever the whole time he knew her according to him and on top of that his married lady friend right next door to her too whom he insisted on renting to as well while her husband was away too.
@@francesbernard2445 What a guy and so busy too!!! That takes a lot of nerve!!! So sorry and I hope things will improve for you 🙏 😊🙏
What a prince (not). You tell HIM to go!
Do you want to be MISERABLE...FOREVER. WELL.I GUESS YOU DO.DONT COMPLAIN...AND DO NOTHING
I hope it gets better for you,just leave
No wonder they're mad; you won't tell them a lie. Begging for one. They want you to lie to them so they can justify the means to the ends. Smh
Thank you so much Doctor Carter!! Thank you Doctor Gus!!
If you don’t compliment them they’ll do it themselves and brag to anyone nearby. They expect admiration and praise constantly. You better thank them and be forever in their debt just for doing adult things once in a while (like taking out the trash without being asked).
My grown son in his late thirties STILL blames me for everything bad HE'S created in his life and bears no responsibility whatsoever in spite of trying to raise him with consideration for others, empathy, responsibility. Single mom, I didnt coddle him either, but provided many opportunities for him to "launch" in life, but he quit them all. Now, he wants more $$, sends me abusive emails and posts hate about the whole family on social media when we've all tried to love and help him. Ive finally given up hope he'll change and am going on with my life. Sad to be hated by your own son but i will survive like I've always done. Narcs run in the family, guess he's the next😢.
You are not alone. I am observing this in a step-son (the narc) and his Dad who just won’t cut him off. He takes the vitriol and I see it hurting his health. He is educating himself and now knows the truth about his only son, but will not let go. Still financing a 43 year old. Very sad. The mom is totally enabling and co-dependent- so frustrating to watch her get abused, try to stand firm, and then cave again to her “poor baby” narc! God bless you and keep you strong. You are choosing life- and that is the most loving thing you CAN do.
You are not alone in this my son is 60 im 80 he's become a cruel person he also blames me for all his bad mistakes his adult children won't have anything to do with him as for me I finally stood up for my grand kids and myself against him and now have the silent treatment for 18mths and so much abuse it nearly broke me all he cares about is himself and whoever he is sleeping with at the time and the rest of us are being treated like gutter rats sadly iv had to let go
@@nijoleladd7209 Thank you for your kind words. I realized I wasn't doing either of us any good by continuing to enable his bad behavior so I let him go. He's struggling without my help and very angry but I know it's for the best that he figure his life out without me around. I pray the situation with your step-son resolves itself for the best as well. God bless🙏❤️
@@judystevens6039 I'm so sorry you're dealing with this as well. The post-separation abuse is the worst. Very scary and so unnatural for a son to inflict on his mother. I pray you can stand firm in no contact to avoid a repeat situation. It's been almost 2 yrs for me. Our grandchildren deserve it and we do too! God bless❤️🙏
@talonsarise thank you at my age its hard to handle but im getting a lot of help and trying to remain strong 💪 🙏
I just watched your collaboration with Ross Rosenberg on Parental Alienation and boy does it get summed up at 9:15, ownership!
Tic Toc influencers have been convincing kids to not trust their parents. Such good Marxists… whom are malignant narcissists. Consider that at the macro level and whom promotes/pays unfluencers to sabotage the family unit. And before someone attacks me in the comments-do your research. Thank you Dr. C.
When they are disabled. They have so many request to do this. Do that. Move this. They keep you hopping where you cant even find focus time to do the chores you need to do.
My mother has been under this kind of poisonous narcissism from my father her entire life. Her whole personality has slowly disappeared as she contorts herself to fit into his vision of reality. Regrettably, I sometimesI find myself wishing for his passing so that she might be finally free, and in the twilight years of her life at last not be smothered/Dominated anymore.
When the narcissist in my family scream at you they're basically saying out loud the questions that you say they want to hear from you. They want to be told about how great they are and all sorts of other stuff. And every time they scream at you in a fit of anger it shows so obviously
I have an extraordinarily generous but Narcissistic cousin who's 77 and lives in Florida, and owns a house in Estes Park Colorado (you don't want to take a roadtrip with her though, as she criticizes nonstop, and when she's not criticizing she's backseat driving).
I'm a 70 yo retired disabled veteran who had VOLUNTARILY been car camping for 22 months -- it's an alternative lifestyle I chose to travel and have a little adventure, but she let me stay in her Colorado house for a year, during which time I also went to Florida for 3 months to take care of her following surgery. She gave me $3000 to go to the Oregon coast recently, but I took my car to Big-O first and found my car needed $5 thousand in repairs, so there went the trip to Oregon. When I called her to tell her about the car repair expenses and my change in plans, she was outraged 😠 😡 👿, and said in the meanest tone of voice "And that's your HOME. Never forget that's your HOME."
I was so offended and hurt I wrote her a 3 page letter confronting her on all of her insults and verbal grenades. She had zero remorse and texted me, "OBVIOUSLY I'm sorry I hurt you, but why don't you write a book about how you were revictimized by your cousin."
You can't win with a Narcissist; they deflect and blame-shift when confronted. And I regret sharing my soul's wounds and hurts with her because she uses it against me -- she can't say "I'm so sorry that happened to you"; no, she says, "You say the same things over and over, and all you remember is bad things." Smh. She will NEVER change so at the end of this month I'm going back to peaceful car-camping (I'm hearing the old Eagles song, "And I get a peaceful, easy feeling, and I know you won't let me down, 'cause I'm already standing, on solid ground."
I still like the advice way back " whatever"
Ooh I do love team healthy, keep that way, it makes life so much sweeter. Hi to Gus, wishing everyone blessings for good health and happiness.
I love that you love #TeamHealthy
I think I've shared this on another of Dr. C's videos, but the NPD/BPD who tried to take over my life called me "selfish, just selfish" because I wouldn't take her on vacation to Switzerland. I'm so happy she's in my past. Life has never been better.
They are known as masters of projection.
Distorted view of reality… I couldn’t label their actions. I need this information 17 years ago. But that’s okay ! I get it now because I discovered you Dr. C three years ago! Free, happy, and healthy. THANK YOU!
My narc would complain that I never compliment him. But when I did, he would say I was teasing him! I couldn't win, so I stopped giving them. They have under-developed emotional maturity. They can act more like a toddler than your toddler!
When you're 75 years old and the narcissist housemate (or other Cluster-B type personality, who really knows?) sends you.printouts of various mental health conditions YOU allegedly have. And an eviction notice.
😂😂 I’ll get right on saying those things to him!
Even if I said those things, first, it would be lying. Second, it would only last so long because they are never satisfied.
I'm glad you've said they gave a distorted view of reality because there's only one reality and to say they have their reality is giving them too much.
The lack of correction makes for entitlement and they aren't guided by principles. They may hear a principle but it applies to others as far as they're concerned.
Super-interesting comment.
Pathetic that these thoughts are in the narcissist- 🤦♂️
Dr.C Blue is so your color and your videos are a miracle the way they are presented with knowledge and faith.Give Gus a petting from myself.
This is so true, all of what the good doctor says in this video, but the one thing I thought about with the narcissist in my life is if I did actually say all of these things to them out of nowhere, gush and gush and go on and on about how wonderful they are, I really do think the narcissist would be very freaked out, suspicious and thinking what in the world is going on, lol! I do agree this is what they want for sure (to be admired) but they also are ridiculously sensitive and they wanna know not only do you admire them but it had better come off as real genuine admiration, not like you are being sarcastic towards them or mocking in any way, which ironically is what they do to other people!
I've known people who will excuse this behavior with being older and thus wiser, but looking back I never saw them respect anybody older than them in the same way they expected me to bend to them.
They make it up as they go along...
My entitled, narcissistic ex-spouse is requiring of me a payout from a retirement account, but is not communicating to them the info they need to transfer it to her. She (thru her attorney) is threatening that I'm resisting the transfer, but I've done everything that I can do. Somehow, being non-communicative isn't working in her favor. {shrugs}
Is that some kind of weird power seeking behaviour?
Control, even tho it's to her disadvantage
Ugh. They can be the gift (?) that keeps on giving.
@@sturobertson6791Not sure, Stu. Thinking she is maintaining secrecy, while blaming me for lack of results. She must think that is a win-win.
They are never done.
@aaronkwolfe
Sheesh....just when you thought you'd heard of all aspects of N behaviour, this is a new one.
Bless you Aaron.
I'm pleased to see you tell the story without a hint of anger or bitterness
I always listen to him and respect what he says , actually surrender myself for 23 years because of my kids then he started saying that you do not know anything . Learn from other woman . He gave example of other woman to me .Also I realized that woman for him is just a piece of entertainment and fun not more than that
Dr. C and Gus…..thank you …..I still would rather be me then them.
God bless you from Cynthia Ann in JANESVILLE, WI
Well stated, Cynthia.
@@SurvivingNarcissism smiles
Wish they could all be like Gus , yes unconditional love !!!
One of your very, VERY best videos, Dr. C!
They must have some mean insight to be so effectively hurtful and self serving. In my experience.
Dr. Les, you gave me my life back. I married the narc posterchild. It derailed as you would suspect.
Glad you're back on the better path.
Dr Carter how can the narcissist turn your son (who has always been a loving son always happy to care for his mother) into a duplicate of her (his wife) and turn him against his mother and cut off all communications with his mother? How can the narcissist change a good person into a person of hate. I'm 80 years old and she turned him against me two years ago and I haven't seen him and he hasn't contacted me for two years. It's like he has died.
My narc mother in law said to my husband that I don't show any respect to her and that I ignore her :) She has to be at the center of attention every time. She gets annoyed that I was able to understand the type of person she is from the beginning and I never felt comfortable telling her much about myself even though she kept pushing. She got jealous when I was talking to other people in the family and not her, especially when I was having short conversations with her husband. She feels that she is above everyone else, she thinks that she has the right to say all the negative things that she has in her head without anyone asking her opinion and then she says my intentions are always good...I don't want to be close to her and I don't want to talk to her. Even though that I never trusted her and never came close to her, still she affects me especially when I think that this person will be so negative around my children if my husband and I decide to have children. At the moment I have no contact with her because I feel I need to protect myself.
I hope that you will be helped to find strategies to cope with this. You are not alone.
@@barbarakelly1916thank you so much ❤
Thank-you, Dr. Carter. This podcast helps, too.
Great to hear!
Thanks Dr. C. After moving closer to the downtown core I started to find out more about some of the people living in the same city I live in who have gone through far worse than I have ever had to go through while having to cope with people around them with an overdeveloped sense of entitlement too. That is why I feel priviledged to have the opportunity to maybe some day be helping them instead of me being among those who are constant looking to others for help. While I am looking out for number one better too.
My narc lost in court today. He always called me a genius, the most beautiful woman on the planet…then he kicked me in the face and blamed the devil.
He actually tells us he’s a genius !
Says he could have been a rock star!
Says he should have been a famous preacher!
So why didn’t he accomplish this?
So why his need for entitlement from others if he says he could have been all these supposed successful people.
Not! Wants what others have without a good work ethic.
Get the job, do the job well, get it done on time as stated.
2 yrs and not done.
And it’s everyone else’s fault.
Entitlement All day long!
Impossible to have a relationship with this human.
Tell him to look in the nearest mirror plz
Every moment. Every instance. Every syllable.
YUP….All of the above for sure I have heard.
That word entitled can have different meanings.. It is all about the context that it is used.. I think that the context that you use it is that they are better than you.. It is a form of shame.. I think the way you use it is that they purposely put you down to elevate themselves.. If that is the case I can totally relate..
My mom called me the other day and it brought so much of the past back up.. It sucks that my mom was against me my whole life and got everyone against me.. She did that to my dad too.. I don't even like thinking about this stuff or feeling the feelings that I never felt before..
Dera Dr. C, You always put Gus's name there. Always. Gus has become a very important part of all your videos that I watch. So your so respectful of Gus. He is always there with you. How did you both develop such a friendship.
Gus is over 10 years old, I got him as a rescue when he was 10 months old. The first time he walked into the house he looked around like he’d hit the jackpot. He would go to my office with me and chill out while I was working with patients. He’s been my special little buddy.
Dr. C - this is your funniest video! I can only imagine trying to keep a straight face while saying any of those phrases. 🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭
EASY to SEE how delusional they are.
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❤❤22❤❤ 😊MIRACLES TRULY DO HAPPEN 😊 Thank you for all your hard work and sharing it with everybody 😊😊😊
Yes thank you, master. You’re the most amazing master ever!
I was thinking a lot about a point you recently made about needing you to fill them, and it ties in closely here as well. I found it useful many years ago (mid twenties, I suppose) when I thought that very young children may not really see themselves as individuals, more as the centre of a group with a single shared identity. Many people may remember times when they were confronted by seeing that their primary carers had other parts to their lives that weren't about them, and I conjecture this may be important in coming to see oneself and others as separate individuals.
This view still held in adulthood explained a whole lot that otherwise seemed unpredictable. Expectation of sameness was insufficient as a predictor of abuse, with some differences apparently flipping back and forth between 'good' and 'bad'. I think abuse ensued precisely when and to the extent that something in my life couldn't be absorbed into them. So, in my view, the abuse boiled down to the result of babies in adult bodies being confronted with evidence of the separateness of someone they designated as having a shared identity with them, and, unable to assimilate this, they'd have a tantrum about it instead.
Only ur entire essensce, being, "soul" if you will... as long as you don't tell them no, you'll be fine!
Hi Thrash. I hope you are well.
I like the gentle irony / sarcasm (I never know the difference) of your comment.
I agree, saying no is like lighting the blue touch paper (not sure if thats a phrase used in the US)
Yet learning to say no, and responding healthily to any consequences is something g we all benefit from.
All the best Thrash
I would like to say hi to Gus, too.
Gus appreciates that.
OH MY FREAKING GOD you hit it out of the ballpark with this one! Spot on! I could not stop laughing when you listed out all of the things they want to hear. It's so illogical, egotistical and ridiculous, it's hilarious.
I'm gonna go ahead and be me Perfect.. I'm not perfect, that response is perfect
Thank you, dr. Carter . We are learning so much from you . 🍀🌌🎯
You are so welcome
Its so sad to see people with these thought patterns. They will never be truly happy.😉👍❤️
They compete with people. That´s it. And yeah they always want to win over people. But you know - they have to know the quote: Nobody is perfect. If they really think they are perfect they live in a fantasy world (that´s just it). Plus: If you are in a relationship or whatoever ship you have to set clear boundaries and say NO. And if those people step over them you have to leave.
They also hear "ure a badass",tough old bird",u don't play that fill /blank".
Great Vid Doc. Thank You
Thank you Dr Carter
"Go figure" ❤ D. R. C.
#TeamHealthy
So informative! Thank you Dr C!
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you for the video.
My married (last) name begins with an O. I have dubbed my husband and his two brothers “The Great and Powerful O’z”. 😂
Thank you!