Yeah the very concept of shrinkage never sat right with me because it implies that straight-looking hair is the default when that's not the case at all when it comes to our hair. They be like "the shrinkage is real, your hair could be so long" but my hair IS long, CURLY! it didn't shrink because my hair isn't straight 💁🏿♀️
I find that people who have the most unreasonably complicated hair care are the ones who are desperately trying to have anything but their natural hair texture. The random salves that “stretch” hair and whilst having to keep keeping tension on it all the time will of course make things more difficult. 🙄 Just take care of your hair by keeping your scalp clean and use a conditioner and you’ll be fine. if you’re still desperate for a straighter hair texture accept you’ll need to use heat and that continued use will damage your hair. 🤷🏿♀️
I disagree with the protective style comment. When we do legitimate protective styles correctly, your hair does rain length. Protective styles I'm referring to are flat twists and cornrows.
I agree, believe it or not curly hair tangles easier. It’s a fact. Protective styles are stretched states that will prevent tangles and knots therefore retaining length. BUT alot of protective styles we see today are marketed as such but are NOT. I saw a guy say a protective style must protect your edges, ends and roots. Alot of these extremely long braids from extensions are pulling at the roots and removing weak, finer edge strands… how is this protective exactly?? Who told us this lie?? People want to grow their hair but their hair never takes a break. From braids to braids, being straightened etc. Some stylist are also really heavy handed and remove hair manually.. 7:40
Also the longer your hair, lets say you have waist length hair, means that its harder to go along with the defining process of the hair using a ton of gels, raking through, defining. Having a braid out or a twist out is okay… doesn’t mean you hate your hair. It just means its stretched, wont tangle and knot as much, saving you time on your wash day and retains length.
I avoided the "community" long ago. The writing has been written in graffiti tags, calligraphy, Klingon and other ways for a few decades now. All of that anxiety for nothing.
Your videos really made me look differently at my hair and now I'm like. It will grow anyway all I have to do is prevent damage. How? Keeping my hands out of my hair the rest of the day😂 I'm still working on my image towards my hair. Long flowing hair = pretty, really got pushed into my mind.
Water gives hydration but you need moisturizer to retain it (or add to it) Your hair has a cuticle layer that needs added protein and oils to retain the moisture barrier. You don’t just use water to “moisturize” your face and body, you use lotion, body butters and face moisturizers. Why is it any different with your hair? lol if you only spray water in your hair day after day with nothing else. Your hair will become dry, brittle, split and break off…
it doesnt need added oils, thats what shampoo and conditioner are for, as well as the oils from your scalp, which is constantly producing oil. for skin you use products that are water based to retain moisture bc water attracts water, which means moisture. and i never said you only spray water in your hair - i dont only do that, i use botanical gels to style my hair when i come out the shower on wash day. the reason yall think like that is bc the natural hair industry misled yall into thinking that moisture comes from a product. it doesnt. btw, hair IS protein. you likely don’t need more of it.
@@sigh_yuri If you bleach your hair you do need to replenish and strengthen the protein bonds, it’s not all a conspiracy lol if you think these botanical gels are moisturizing enough for your hair long term you will constantly be stuck in the cycle of dehydrating and damaging your hair. There’s a reason why the girls who excessively wash their hair, put it up under the dryer and only use gels, have constant split ends, which is the cause of excessive tangling which leads to having to go back to your curl specialists that end up cutting your hair every 4 months. Then you’re back to square one. This method hinders length retention. I have yet to see anyone from this method have long healthy hair. The proof should be in the pudding….I suggest watching channels: Razorempress, joy-el, Afrikan hairgod and crownofglory to reference how to properly moisturize and maintain the length of Type 4 hair.
@@missnicolemarleyI learned the hard way too. I’m definitely going the butter it up, then twist it up route this time once I grow out of my TWA. I’m probably going to blow out my hair on cool first too. The more I can do to keep it stretched and decrease tangling the better.
the reason people say to only put conditioner on mids to ends is because you have sebum that coats the portion on hair closest to the scalp, but it takes longer to slide down to reach the mids to ends, hence where conditioner comes in. also, conditioners are polymers which can put a film on your scalp so staying away from the upper portion of the hair shaft helps keep the conditioner off your scalp.
Please address the formulations of these natural hair products 👏🏾 I really wanted these all natural, no this, no that, black-owned products to work for me, but I’m slowly transitioning back on over to products that work for Becky and nem 😭
gurrrrrrl you and me both!! i still got a few thats for usses but thats purely cuz of the product itself, not bc its black owned. i WISH black owned guaranteed good formulation, but it makes me feel better that most of the stuff becky an nem can snatch off the shelf at walmart are also trash, i dont put those in my hair either 🙅🏽♀️🙅🏽♀️🙅🏽♀️
I'm doing the same thing. I switched back to good ole herbal essence shampoo. The natural hair ones had too much hair falling out when shampooing. I just bought some regular curl activator and gel to make some patterns come thru. Tired of spending $25 a bottle on products.
I just returned to my lnh after almost 4 years of being loc'd. I felt very called out by this video! LOL! When I had locs, I washed my hair on a weekly basis. Now, I'm stressing out about protective styles, proper shampoos and conditioners and retaining length. Trying to find a simple and effective hair maintenance routine is stressing me out. You're right, though. We overcomplicate things, and it's good to understand that. What you said here is very helpful and has given me lots to think about, so thank you.
I have been cowashing for years and my hair is perfectly fine and healthy. There are cowashes that have cleansing agents. Also I don't use a ton of products or heavy butters and oils on my hair and that helps also. I do use clay washes 1ce or 2ce a month to clarify.
I totally agree that first off folks are calling certain styles protective when they just plain aren't, or are using protective styles not to protect or help the health of their natural hair but all to avoid, get a break from, or defeat their own natural hair. However, there are absolutely protective styles and absolutely people who use those protective styles appropriately. As a person with high porosity hair who lives in a very unfriendly, harsh, and variable climate, protective styling was quite necessary and a God send to protect my natural hairs health and strength.
I think protective styles stop becoming protective styles when it's causing pain, ripping/pulling the hair and causing it pain, and is causing tension on edges and worn WAY too long (past whatever your hair can handle). Overall, I think protective styles are great and actually work. Coils have been my go to protective style and it's beautiful, twists too, but coils are my favorite. It's all about how you use it and if you're doing it properly. After that, it can really help the hair grow especially against tangles and breakage. In fact, I feel it helps the hair grow without any obstacles (also depending on your area/climate.) Not everyone needs protective styles to grow hair, but doing them, will definitely help it grow at the same time.
Nothing but the truth in this video! & deep down I feel we know this but we are looking for a quick route to waist length. Not all of us are meant to be at waist length. Love your natural hair and take care of her!
I love your videos, thank you for posting them! I have 3 mixed daughters and I wanted them to love their curls, and as they got older I knew I couldn’t tell them to love their curls while relaxing mine. So 4 years ago I stopped relaxing and cut it all off. It’s been a hair journey for sure, but now I absolutely adore my curls. It feels so freaking good to finally be here after all that learning, trial and error. My wish is for eventually everyone to feel this way about their curls.
8:30 mark had me giving you a standing ovation because that was a WORD!!!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽This video is absolutely amazing. I had concerns about my hair shedding and your video gave me so much clarity and putting my common sense to good use DUH. Of course my hair is going to shed for not washing it going on 3 weeks.Recently cut my hair (big chop for the 4th time) in February and came to realization that doing less to your hair is better. Thank you so much 😊
6:17 i think stretching the hair without heat is necessary for 4c hair or tighter coils because naturally our hair likes to tangle especially the longer it grows. It isnt a bad thing in itself but i think some people overdo it because they subconsciously want looser textured hair and force their hair to bend beyond what it needs to.
proper detangling fixes extreme tangles without stretching. curly hair will tangle. that’s what it does. stretching ruins elasticity and compromises hair health.
As soon as my TWA gets long enough to start tangling, I’m going to stretch it before styling. My number one goal is to mitigate tangles this time. I don’t think stretching our hair when it’s wet ruins our elasticity. We’re just reforming the hydrogen bonds. I got my hair blowdried and styled regularly as a kid and my curls never went anywhere.
I need to learn how to braid on scalp and part cleanly. Practice, practice, practice. I'm getting better but I ain't "wear it out in public" yet. Lord, help me.
When it comes to shrinkage and its affinity for creating excessive knots. Like doing wash n gos for example- what I’m saying issss twist are my saving grace and will be my ROD 4L 😂
I really appreciate your video and i just stumbled on it😂. Recently a lot of rules have come over the years and now I'm confused if all the times i washed and dried my hair even took up to half a day (aside from removing the weave it was on). Also with the moisturizing part. When i used leave in conditioner, my hair still didn't change at all. In fact, it made me feel like there were too much products on my hair. And lastly, my hair has been growing fine for a very long time now with just the normal washing, conditioning, use of hair cream and weaving. I always thought a bit of hair loss after every wash is normal and I like having my hair give a squeaky feeling knowing that it's clean. I've been getting braids since i was a little girl and i never knew it as something of a protective style. My hair has been doing fine with just using my hair without extensions. There's still more to say but yeah coming on social media and a lot of things being pushed to your face may change your mind on think all the things you were doing before now were wrong. Luckily, I've not really taken much of the advise i hear online about our hair because I realized that all these products don't really work for me. It could be different for everyone but just know what works best for you.
I just need to say this: as an African who uses an ANCIENT method to stretch the hair (threading), (and my mom, who has used it on me at first), trust me it has NOTHING to do with “vanity” or even “eurocentrism”, which sounds even crazier and i really despise that notion, when it comes to this topic. Usually the shrunken state of our type 4 hair tends to tangle more (which can lead to breakage- rocket science!) So therefore if you stretch the hair, there will be a high chance of reduced tangles. REDUCED i said, cuz tangles are inevitable, however it’s nothing to compare to the amount of tangles that you’ll get from when it’s shrunken 24/7 (I’m speaking from experience). Now that doesn’t mean that I hate my natural shrunken state after wash, but I do want to retain my hair health. If anything our ancestors came up with a great, safe and heatless option, and it’s not “eurocentric” or “vanity-driven” to use it. Unless yall have a perfect strategy of wearing your hair shrunken, while having less tangles and preserving the health of your hair overall, personally im not gonna stop stretching it.
Great video overall but I have to say I like the look of stretched hair not for the length aspect of it but the look. I like the look of fluffy, cloud like hair stretched hair and this state makes for the best updos on my natural kinky hair.
Pre poos with products that ACTUALLY reduce hair shedding does work. For example green tea. People do suffer from increased hair shedding, who knows maybe from having a child and such. Let people prepoo! Not everyones the same and not everyone is you.
you say this like i came to your house and snatched your prepoo routine out of your hands. wdym “let,” i didnt order you to do anything, if you dont wanna do it than don’t. and “not everyone is the same” is a defense mechanism - nobody complains when the natural hair community gives their “advice.” you don’t have to be me, although im not sure what makes my hair so “different” from yalls
You said ‘pre pooing does not prevent shedding’. Which is false. People complain when the information is false. Your hair is short. And you want to keep it that way, other people grow their hair and want stronger strands to retain that length. Thats what’s different.
Lol I only finger detangled for years once, and when I finally decided to give myself a silk press, wow, it looked like I shed a whole head of hair and surprisingly enough my hair was still full lol. Lesson learned. Stopped detangling with only fingers.
I’ve started using African black soap instead of shampoo and it is perfect for a balance of moisture and cleanliness. I don’t plan on going back to shampoo.
I'll drop a gem cuz I don't gatekeep: Breath of Fresh Hair by Urban Hydration. Check out their products. They simplified and drastically helped my natural hair routine. Highly recommend checking out and prices are nice!
I know this isn't the right video to ask this but have you always had a passion to sing? I think i recall in one of your most recent vlogs you mentioned you are taking singing lessons. Did you always have a voice and you want to hone it/refine it? You also mentioned about just singing background which i think is dope too. Static Major being one of my favorite artists who contributed so much to R&B but was mostly just background/producing/writing for people but his voice was also amazing. How often do you go to lessons? and do you do vocal drills of any kind to warm up your voice and maintain your training? sorry for long comment but I would like to start really training my voice and was wondering what your experience has been like.
oh no those weren’t pro singing lessons, my friend’s uni was having a cultural showcase and asked me to be a part of it, so i was just there for rehearsal for the song
i am not. moisture is the prolonged presence of hydration. both come from water. who is confused is the natural hair industry’s consumers as a result of their deceptive marketing. in every other discipline moisture is understood to be water. think abt what it means when someone tells you smth is moist or when the weatherman says there’s moisture in the air.
@@sigh_yuri.....you are when you say "leave in conditioners aren't moisturizing our hair water is." water is what hydrates our hair, dealing with the inner layers (the cortex/medulla.) Moisturizers (conditioners) deal with the outer layers of the hair (the cuticle) and help retain the hydration in the inner layers of the shaft.
Quick question, when you say protective styles....do you mean the ones with extensions? I had this question for a long time because I do lots of twists and braids with my own hair. 😂😊
i mean anything the natural hair community calls protective styles, as in styles that we “have to do to protect our hair.” in other words, styles that don’t leave our hair “just out.”
Bruh I’m so over this shit I don’t even know what to use for my hair at this point 😭 I just bought a castor oil and rosemary oil to massage my scalp but I guess that’s a no go?! Bought a clarifying shampoo that still left my scalp greasy?! Still slapping my wigs on my head to avoid my hair?! I’m tired😭😭
It got over complicated for advertisements. Those influencers are paid / sponsored / given a shiz ton of free products to "routine in" for money not hair growth. Our hair needs just water and oil organically. All a hair butter is, is a water based product that deposits water onto your hair throughout the day prolonging moisture. That's it, nothing fancy. I have cat-4 hair and just use 5 products if you count shampoo and conditioner. My hair is 22" long and growing like straight hair. The black hair community is just hyper-consumerism taking advantage of our insecurity with our hair. People are just impatient and unhappy with their hair, because if you just wear your natural hair, moisturize it and wait a couple years, it will be long. I have 4" to go, 8 months left to hit my 26" goal, then after that I'm just gonna let it keep growing the rest of my life. Its a lot of time but not a lot of work tbh. I think influencers / social media over does it out of boredom too. Just bored and need some type of content to stay encouraged.
Girl, you got all the Black hair care girlies mad in the comments 😂😂😂 Keep up the great work! I started washing my hair every 2-3 days after consisting experiencing single-strand knots/breakage every time I did my biweekly wash days…It took me YEARS to realize this but you’re correct! We freak out during that once a month wash day because we actually don’t know what our hair feels like without all of that product buildup! We’ve been conditioned growing up that afro-textured hair shouldn’t be washed frequently! My scalp feels great! My hair is a lot more shiner! I’m closer to seeing how much my hair actually shreds on the regular. I’m getting fewer knots and tangles at the roots & ends!
Yeah the very concept of shrinkage never sat right with me because it implies that straight-looking hair is the default when that's not the case at all when it comes to our hair. They be like "the shrinkage is real, your hair could be so long" but my hair IS long, CURLY! it didn't shrink because my hair isn't straight 💁🏿♀️
BOOM!!! 👏🏽
"Black with 7G hair" you are hilarious!
thanks! 😂
I have ♾️Z and I agree with you. People have made haircare waaayyyyy too complicated FOR NOTHING 😂
“it was a lie! it was all a lie, they lied!” 😂😂😂
No because why is washing your hair taking 10+ hours. And then the overnight deep conditioning and sleeping in a plastic cap is just ridiculous.
I find that people who have the most unreasonably complicated hair care are the ones who are desperately trying to have anything but their natural hair texture. The random salves that “stretch” hair and whilst having to keep keeping tension on it all the time will of course make things more difficult. 🙄
Just take care of your hair by keeping your scalp clean and use a conditioner and you’ll be fine. if you’re still desperate for a straighter hair texture accept you’ll need to use heat and that continued use will damage your hair. 🤷🏿♀️
Exactly. A lot of people (black women) hate their natural hair and it's sad.
I disagree with the protective style comment. When we do legitimate protective styles correctly, your hair does rain length. Protective styles I'm referring to are flat twists and cornrows.
I agree, believe it or not curly hair tangles easier. It’s a fact. Protective styles are stretched states that will prevent tangles and knots therefore retaining length. BUT alot of protective styles we see today are marketed as such but are NOT. I saw a guy say a protective style must protect your edges, ends and roots. Alot of these extremely long braids from extensions are pulling at the roots and removing weak, finer edge strands… how is this protective exactly?? Who told us this lie?? People want to grow their hair but their hair never takes a break. From braids to braids, being straightened etc. Some stylist are also really heavy handed and remove hair manually.. 7:40
Also the longer your hair, lets say you have waist length hair, means that its harder to go along with the defining process of the hair using a ton of gels, raking through, defining. Having a braid out or a twist out is okay… doesn’t mean you hate your hair. It just means its stretched, wont tangle and knot as much, saving you time on your wash day and retains length.
Unrelated but you are so pretty ❤
aww thank you 🥰
Absolutely love this! This came at the perfect time as my mom was criticizing me for wearing my natural 4c hair plainly out
i also used to get criticism for it!
Girl!!! Tell me about it 😭
This cracks me up so much😂😂. We were lied to by the natural hair community and I’m glad that our eyes are open now
I avoided the "community" long ago. The writing has been written in graffiti tags, calligraphy, Klingon and other ways for a few decades now. All of that anxiety for nothing.
Your videos really made me look differently at my hair and now I'm like. It will grow anyway all I have to do is prevent damage. How? Keeping my hands out of my hair the rest of the day😂
I'm still working on my image towards my hair. Long flowing hair = pretty, really got pushed into my mind.
Water gives hydration but you need moisturizer to retain it (or add to it) Your hair has a cuticle layer that needs added protein and oils to retain the moisture barrier. You don’t just use water to “moisturize” your face and body, you use lotion, body butters and face moisturizers. Why is it any different with your hair? lol if you only spray water in your hair day after day with nothing else. Your hair will become dry, brittle, split and break off…
it doesnt need added oils, thats what shampoo and conditioner are for, as well as the oils from your scalp, which is constantly producing oil. for skin you use products that are water based to retain moisture bc water attracts water, which means moisture. and i never said you only spray water in your hair - i dont only do that, i use botanical gels to style my hair when i come out the shower on wash day. the reason yall think like that is bc the natural hair industry misled yall into thinking that moisture comes from a product. it doesnt.
btw, hair IS protein. you likely don’t need more of it.
@@sigh_yuri If you bleach your hair you do need to replenish and strengthen the protein bonds, it’s not all a conspiracy lol if you think these botanical gels are moisturizing enough for your hair long term you will constantly be stuck in the cycle of dehydrating and damaging your hair. There’s a reason why the girls who excessively wash their hair, put it up under the dryer and only use gels, have constant split ends, which is the cause of excessive tangling which leads to having to go back to your curl specialists that end up cutting your hair every 4 months. Then you’re back to square one. This method hinders length retention. I have yet to see anyone from this method have long healthy hair. The proof should be in the pudding….I suggest watching channels: Razorempress, joy-el, Afrikan hairgod and crownofglory to reference how to properly moisturize and maintain the length of Type 4 hair.
@@missnicolemarleyI learned the hard way too. I’m definitely going the butter it up, then twist it up route this time once I grow out of my TWA. I’m probably going to blow out my hair on cool first too. The more I can do to keep it stretched and decrease tangling the better.
the reason people say to only put conditioner on mids to ends is because you have sebum that coats the portion on hair closest to the scalp, but it takes longer to slide down to reach the mids to ends, hence where conditioner comes in. also, conditioners are polymers which can put a film on your scalp so staying away from the upper portion of the hair shaft helps keep the conditioner off your scalp.
Please address the formulations of these natural hair products 👏🏾 I really wanted these all natural, no this, no that, black-owned products to work for me, but I’m slowly transitioning back on over to products that work for Becky and nem 😭
gurrrrrrl you and me both!! i still got a few thats for usses but thats purely cuz of the product itself, not bc its black owned. i WISH black owned guaranteed good formulation, but it makes me feel better that most of the stuff becky an nem can snatch off the shelf at walmart are also trash, i dont put those in my hair either 🙅🏽♀️🙅🏽♀️🙅🏽♀️
The only one I found that works is Mizani. It’s all just marketing though.
I'm doing the same thing. I switched back to good ole herbal essence shampoo. The natural hair ones had too much hair falling out when shampooing. I just bought some regular curl activator and gel to make some patterns come thru. Tired of spending $25 a bottle on products.
don't get stuck on natural
@@Ms_Introvert_4_Life I use Function of Beauty, which I only found out today is sold at Target. The coily hair shampoo was $10
You are so authentic! Love your content! Love from France
Thank you so much!!
I just returned to my lnh after almost 4 years of being loc'd. I felt very called out by this video! LOL!
When I had locs, I washed my hair on a weekly basis. Now, I'm stressing out about protective styles, proper shampoos and conditioners and retaining length. Trying to find a simple and effective hair maintenance routine is stressing me out.
You're right, though. We overcomplicate things, and it's good to understand that. What you said here is very helpful and has given me lots to think about, so thank you.
I usually use pre-poo as a detangling session, when my hair is very tangled!
I have been cowashing for years and my hair is perfectly fine and healthy. There are cowashes that have cleansing agents. Also I don't use a ton of products or heavy butters and oils on my hair and that helps also. I do use clay washes 1ce or 2ce a month to clarify.
I totally agree that first off folks are calling certain styles protective when they just plain aren't, or are using protective styles not to protect or help the health of their natural hair but all to avoid, get a break from, or defeat their own natural hair.
However, there are absolutely protective styles and absolutely people who use those protective styles appropriately. As a person with high porosity hair who lives in a very unfriendly, harsh, and variable climate, protective styling was quite necessary and a God send to protect my natural hairs health and strength.
I think protective styles stop becoming protective styles when it's causing pain, ripping/pulling the hair and causing it pain, and is causing tension on edges and worn WAY too long (past whatever your hair can handle).
Overall, I think protective styles are great and actually work. Coils have been my go to protective style and it's beautiful, twists too, but coils are my favorite. It's all about how you use it and if you're doing it properly. After that, it can really help the hair grow especially against tangles and breakage. In fact, I feel it helps the hair grow without any obstacles (also depending on your area/climate.) Not everyone needs protective styles to grow hair, but doing them, will definitely help it grow at the same time.
Nothing but the truth in this video! & deep down I feel we know this but we are looking for a quick route to waist length. Not all of us are meant to be at waist length. Love your natural hair and take care of her!
a word!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I love your videos, thank you for posting them! I have 3 mixed daughters and I wanted them to love their curls, and as they got older I knew I couldn’t tell them to love their curls while relaxing mine. So 4 years ago I stopped relaxing and cut it all off. It’s been a hair journey for sure, but now I absolutely adore my curls. It feels so freaking good to finally be here after all that learning, trial and error. My wish is for eventually everyone to feel this way about their curls.
that’s awesome to hear mama 🥹♥️
I'm so here for the series!
I love your videos ❤. The humor and the truth in them is unnatched. Thank you so much
Omg I been waiting for this thank you so much 😊🫶🏾
This is the video, sis 💪🏾
I love your videos about natural hair❤
Talk that talk love! 💕 You explained this extremely well.
Glad you liked it!!
another killer vid!
8:30 mark had me giving you a standing ovation because that was a WORD!!!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽This video is absolutely amazing. I had concerns about my hair shedding and your video gave me so much clarity and putting my common sense to good use DUH. Of course my hair is going to shed for not washing it going on 3 weeks.Recently cut my hair (big chop for the 4th time) in February and came to realization that doing less to your hair is better. Thank you so much 😊
I appreciate you taking the time to formulate this video for us 🎉
Glad it was helpful!
I love your honesty, thanks for sharing
Thanks for watching!
6:17 i think stretching the hair without heat is necessary for 4c hair or tighter coils because naturally our hair likes to tangle especially the longer it grows. It isnt a bad thing in itself but i think some people overdo it because they subconsciously want looser textured hair and force their hair to bend beyond what it needs to.
proper detangling fixes extreme tangles without stretching. curly hair will tangle. that’s what it does. stretching ruins elasticity and compromises hair health.
As soon as my TWA gets long enough to start tangling, I’m going to stretch it before styling. My number one goal is to mitigate tangles this time.
I don’t think stretching our hair when it’s wet ruins our elasticity. We’re just reforming the hydrogen bonds. I got my hair blowdried and styled regularly as a kid and my curls never went anywhere.
@@sigh_yuri by stretching I mean putting your hair especially the ends in some braids or twists or putting the hair in a bun
I need to learn how to braid on scalp and part cleanly. Practice, practice, practice. I'm getting better but I ain't "wear it out in public" yet. Lord, help me.
When it comes to shrinkage and its affinity for creating excessive knots. Like doing wash n gos for example- what I’m saying issss twist are my saving grace and will be my ROD 4L 😂
😂😂😂😂😂
You spoke nothing but factsssss 🤎
I love her she is funny as heck!!!! But she spoke truth!
I really appreciate your video and i just stumbled on it😂. Recently a lot of rules have come over the years and now I'm confused if all the times i washed and dried my hair even took up to half a day (aside from removing the weave it was on).
Also with the moisturizing part. When i used leave in conditioner, my hair still didn't change at all. In fact, it made me feel like there were too much products on my hair.
And lastly, my hair has been growing fine for a very long time now with just the normal washing, conditioning, use of hair cream and weaving. I always thought a bit of hair loss after every wash is normal and I like having my hair give a squeaky feeling knowing that it's clean. I've been getting braids since i was a little girl and i never knew it as something of a protective style. My hair has been doing fine with just using my hair without extensions.
There's still more to say but yeah coming on social media and a lot of things being pushed to your face may change your mind on think all the things you were doing before now were wrong. Luckily, I've not really taken much of the advise i hear online about our hair because I realized that all these products don't really work for me. It could be different for everyone but just know what works best for you.
I just need to say this: as an African who uses an ANCIENT method to stretch the hair (threading), (and my mom, who has used it on me at first), trust me it has NOTHING to do with “vanity” or even “eurocentrism”, which sounds even crazier and i really despise that notion, when it comes to this topic. Usually the shrunken state of our type 4 hair tends to tangle more (which can lead to breakage- rocket science!) So therefore if you stretch the hair, there will be a high chance of reduced tangles. REDUCED i said, cuz tangles are inevitable, however it’s nothing to compare to the amount of tangles that you’ll get from when it’s shrunken 24/7 (I’m speaking from experience). Now that doesn’t mean that I hate my natural shrunken state after wash, but I do want to retain my hair health. If anything our ancestors came up with a great, safe and heatless option, and it’s not “eurocentric” or “vanity-driven” to use it. Unless yall have a perfect strategy of wearing your hair shrunken, while having less tangles and preserving the health of your hair overall, personally im not gonna stop stretching it.
I can only do 2 strand twist, I use CurlMax curl activator for moisture and Blue Magic grease a sealant
Great video overall but I have to say I like the look of stretched hair not for the length aspect of it but the look. I like the look of fluffy, cloud like hair stretched hair and this state makes for the best updos on my natural kinky hair.
that’s different bc the stretching serves a purpose for the style 🙌🏽
Pre poos with products that ACTUALLY reduce hair shedding does work. For example green tea. People do suffer from increased hair shedding, who knows maybe from having a child and such. Let people prepoo! Not everyones the same and not everyone is you.
you say this like i came to your house and snatched your prepoo routine out of your hands. wdym “let,” i didnt order you to do anything, if you dont wanna do it than don’t. and “not everyone is the same” is a defense mechanism - nobody complains when the natural hair community gives their “advice.” you don’t have to be me, although im not sure what makes my hair so “different” from yalls
You said ‘pre pooing does not prevent shedding’. Which is false. People complain when the information is false. Your hair is short. And you want to keep it that way, other people grow their hair and want stronger strands to retain that length. Thats what’s different.
I personally keep my hair in a bun or twist. In fact anything that keeps the ends of the hair separated is helpful.
Lol I only finger detangled for years once, and when I finally decided to give myself a silk press, wow, it looked like I shed a whole head of hair and surprisingly enough my hair was still full lol. Lesson learned. Stopped detangling with only fingers.
I spent most of my life in a perm.
I just had to learn and it was worth it.
i will never regret learning how to take care of my hair.
I’ve started using African black soap instead of shampoo and it is perfect for a balance of moisture and cleanliness. I don’t plan on going back to shampoo.
So, I finger detangle, but I wash 3-7 times a week. Yes, I said a week, and I have shoulder- length hair
I'll drop a gem cuz I don't gatekeep: Breath of Fresh Hair by Urban Hydration. Check out their products. They simplified and drastically helped my natural hair routine. Highly recommend checking out and prices are nice!
Abeg make this a series🙏🏿
its def coming!!!
I know this isn't the right video to ask this but have you always had a passion to sing? I think i recall in one of your most recent vlogs you mentioned you are taking singing lessons. Did you always have a voice and you want to hone it/refine it? You also mentioned about just singing background which i think is dope too. Static Major being one of my favorite artists who contributed so much to R&B but was mostly just background/producing/writing for people but his voice was also amazing. How often do you go to lessons? and do you do vocal drills of any kind to warm up your voice and maintain your training? sorry for long comment but I would like to start really training my voice and was wondering what your experience has been like.
oh no those weren’t pro singing lessons, my friend’s uni was having a cultural showcase and asked me to be a part of it, so i was just there for rehearsal for the song
@13:45 what shampoo brand are you hinting atim curious
devacurl lol
"7J hair" LMAO Great video as usual sis 🩷👏🏽👏🏽
i’m trying so hard to get to a point where i’m comfortable w my natural hair being out. i’m not there yet.. but your videos are helping!
yaaaay that’s the goal!! you’ll get there, i promise!!!
I think you’re confusing moisturizing vs hydrating.
i am not. moisture is the prolonged presence of hydration. both come from water. who is confused is the natural hair industry’s consumers as a result of their deceptive marketing. in every other discipline moisture is understood to be water. think abt what it means when someone tells you smth is moist or when the weatherman says there’s moisture in the air.
Both come from water but water alone will not work
Other things such as oil, aloe etc prolongs the moisture
@@sigh_yuri.....you are when you say "leave in conditioners aren't moisturizing our hair water is." water is what hydrates our hair, dealing with the inner layers (the cortex/medulla.) Moisturizers (conditioners) deal with the outer layers of the hair (the cuticle) and help retain the hydration in the inner layers of the shaft.
Oil does not moisturize. Oil is a barrier to moisture
Quick question, when you say protective styles....do you mean the ones with extensions? I had this question for a long time because I do lots of twists and braids with my own hair. 😂😊
i mean anything the natural hair community calls protective styles, as in styles that we “have to do to protect our hair.” in other words, styles that don’t leave our hair “just out.”
Another banger wheeew do you get tired of being right all of the time lmao😭😭
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Bruh I’m so over this shit I don’t even know what to use for my hair at this point 😭 I just bought a castor oil and rosemary oil to massage my scalp but I guess that’s a no go?! Bought a clarifying shampoo that still left my scalp greasy?! Still slapping my wigs on my head to avoid my hair?! I’m tired😭😭
i got a wash video coming out soon 🙏🏽
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Try wash your hair everyday ❤ it
thats overwashing. i wash twice a week.
I've washed it daily. It hurts nothing. I don't do it because it takes so long to dry because it's long and thick
It got over complicated for advertisements. Those influencers are paid / sponsored / given a shiz ton of free products to "routine in" for money not hair growth. Our hair needs just water and oil organically. All a hair butter is, is a water based product that deposits water onto your hair throughout the day prolonging moisture. That's it, nothing fancy. I have cat-4 hair and just use 5 products if you count shampoo and conditioner. My hair is 22" long and growing like straight hair.
The black hair community is just hyper-consumerism taking advantage of our insecurity with our hair. People are just impatient and unhappy with their hair, because if you just wear your natural hair, moisturize it and wait a couple years, it will be long. I have 4" to go, 8 months left to hit my 26" goal, then after that I'm just gonna let it keep growing the rest of my life. Its a lot of time but not a lot of work tbh. I think influencers / social media over does it out of boredom too. Just bored and need some type of content to stay encouraged.
Hair doesn't need to be SOAKED to be moisturised.
yeah it does. thats how you moisturize it. it just doesnt have to stay like that.
@sigh_yuri soaked completed saturated and dripping wet...
Yes, it absolutely does
Great video! The background music with the lady singing is pretty distracting to me though.
i’ll keep that in mind for future videos 🫶🏽
Girl, you got all the Black hair care girlies mad in the comments 😂😂😂 Keep up the great work!
I started washing my hair every 2-3 days after consisting experiencing single-strand knots/breakage every time I did my biweekly wash days…It took me YEARS to realize this but you’re correct! We freak out during that once a month wash day because we actually don’t know what our hair feels like without all of that product buildup! We’ve been conditioned growing up that afro-textured hair shouldn’t be washed frequently!
My scalp feels great! My hair is a lot more shiner! I’m closer to seeing how much my hair actually shreds on the regular. I’m getting fewer knots and tangles at the roots & ends!