it's bitterly funny how they "care" so much about possibly hurting the other person's feelings so they sacrifice yours for the sake of preserving theirs
Forgiveness does not mean reconciliation. Forgive them and let them go. Forgiveness frees you from being a life long victim and slave to the offense. Let these kind of people go 💯💯💯💯
I will be just fine never forgiving him. I can absolutely heal without forgiving him and I don't have to forgive him. I only have to forgive myself for staying as long as I did. 🙏💖
Me being foolish kept taking my Narc husband back and it got worse…..He didn’t care….. He wrapped his arms around me gently and whispered in my ear “You’ll never leave me.”
Forgive them for part of your healing process but that's doesn't mean taking them back. Kick that damn bucket to the curb!!!! Turn around and walk away. Don't look back cause you are not going that direction 🎉
I tried to reconcile because we were married. But the rabbit hole kept going deeper and deeper, and her behavior only improved for a little while. I couldn’t handle it anymore. The contempt just kept growing and growing. Any time I looked at her, all I could think about was the lies and her who knows how may affair partners. I finally realized she was not capable of or willing to take accountability or feel bad for what she did, because she wouldn’t accept my feelings about what happened. Now I struggle because I never got closure and I am struggling so hard to forgive her.
I have felt this way before. I learned that closure has to come from ourselves. She doesn’t care about you or your feelings, and she didn’t care that she hurt you. That should be closure enough because you will forever chase the closure you think she will give you by admitting what she did hurt you. It won’t happen and you will be trapped. I’m sorry you’re going thru it. I have been here before so I understand. Stay strong and keep moving forward with healing.
Once you accept the behaviour and new bodies into the “relationship” that’s when they totally abuse you. They’ll respect you more once you never take them back! Go meet someone else and be happy
You always know when a normal human being is going to step up and be a grown person and apologize and be serious about their approach. You know how narcissistic people apologize so it's not hard to pick up on it.
I felt the reconciliation process was rushed with my inlaw. Almost like "hurry up so we can get back to normal." She apologized profusely via text which I thought was odd given the gravity of the situation. When we drew boundaries and reminded her we aren't children any more and to please allow us to make decisions, she didn't respond to the text. It's been almost 2 years since she decided to stop talking to us.
My guy messes with my Notifications. Either Love Bombing or blocking my fave videos. That is his number one go too. However, I work around this. As God is my witness, he is a crown prince. I am hoping that his New Feed/ his new wife will occupy his time. All this time I didn't even know he had an agreement to marry her. I thought he didn't have a girlfriend. On Christmas Day is when I found out he had gotten engaged and married same day, 5 days before Christmas. I got help through Jesus the Bible and nice peoples like you. There is always hope in Jesus. Thank you!
i'm tired of positive "what ifs" because i only end up disappointed over and over again. and i don't care anymore to see if those "what ifs" would really happen or no
You’d have to yank out all your dreads for the amount of times that I took him back after him only saying “sorry” with no proof of consistent changed behavior… in fact I don’t think you’d have any hairs left…. 🤦🏻♀️I dumped him finally tho. Thank the Lord. 9:10
Lee you and I both know these people just don't take anything or anybody seriously. You only asking to be duked again so u have to just know what it is. 😂😂😂
@MentalHealness 😂😂😂😂😂 they have no intentions on doing the right thing. And this true forgiving them is saying it ok with everything they are doing it like rewarding bad behavior and they take u for a joke and a fool when u do that. It's a neverending story
@MentalHealness you know the difference between someone who is really sencer about being sorry and trying to what's right. So u have to be very careful cause it can seem real but it's all a game.
Please remember that forgiveness is for you, not just the offenders. Forgiveness allows you to move on with your life, to let go of past and have a clean and clear conscious!! Studies show that people who forgive have less health issues and live longer. ALSO PLEASE REMEMBER THAT JUST BECAUSE YOU FORGIVE DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU CONDONE!! I know it's not easy, but I promise when you do, you will feel much mentally and emotionally stable. And you will sleep better knowing that it's in GOD'S HANDS ❤
@@nleativa You’re not alone …. Every time I forgave him ( Let his pathetic behavior go)…. He would change for a few months then was back to his same ole self…..
@susanhenderson9739 we have to forgive and let go of the person, that's how they are able to play on you. Our actions will always speak louder than words!
@@Annie-ol3jx He haunts me from his grave…. I wanted to get remarried and unfortunately that’s not going to happen for me…I learned to accept it and focus on my well being and my children…He did this on purpose…. He deliberately canceled one of his life insurance policies just to make everything harder for me financially…. Lee’s platform is very beneficial to me I started watching a few months ago…
When a 3rd party that's with a narcissist. When they get out in the opening in public act like there all smiling and happy.are they going through behide doors treated badly?
I gave myself a deadline of Jan 1, 2025 if he didn't change and get actual therapy and help. I left and moved back to LA and got my own place. DON'T GIVE THEM EXTRA TIME!
You can forgive sure we are suppose to and you don't have to let that be known. Cause u and God knows you forgave but if u go any further u are entering at your own risk cause u can rest assure it's a game 😂😂😂😂😂
@myfriendjosie I mean as long as u and God knows you forgave shouldn't that be all that matters. I don't hold on to things I forgive and let it be. Cause I mean what am I gaining from not forgiving
@myfriendjosie I learned people just don't care it's something I came to grips a long time ago. I just really don't say anything I forgive and I let it be as it is.
@myfriendjosie my life is very busy so I don't sit around crying and worrying about things I have absolutely no control over. I can't let that stop my growth I c the postive through everything negative that's just how I look at the side of things some c the glass full some c it as half full. Take it for what it's worth
A narc just blocked my number and from insta for texting n calling after says dont text me this is final, i dont wanna hurt u more but unblocked texting after a few days. I didnt write, she didnt write but look my stories. She wants reverse hoover?
Yo these people don't think the way a normal human being does they live in a delusional world 🌎. And you just find the humor in it cause u look back at things and say Wait, what did I go for did I really fall for that 😂😂😂😂😂😂 trust me it took many times of getting duked but after awhile I was like ok I c the circuses show so u know to start your clock count down for the childs games and the fu*kery 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
it's bitterly funny how they "care" so much about possibly hurting the other person's feelings so they sacrifice yours for the sake of preserving theirs
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Exactly!
Right? Blame you for what’s wrong with them ayyyyy!😂
Once you accept the disrespect that’s when they get the green light to go in
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So true 💯
Forgive in silence and never reconcile. That’s the key.
Exactly what I did . I’m at peace with my self 💖
I treat this Narcissist the same way he treats me..live your life daily and do what makes YOU HAPPY not the Narcissist. Praying for all💯🙏🏿
Well said!
Yes that's what they doing making themselves happy so ...
Forgiveness does not mean reconciliation.
Forgive them and let them go.
Forgiveness frees you from being a life long victim and slave to the offense. Let these kind of people go 💯💯💯💯
I will be just fine never forgiving him. I can absolutely heal without forgiving him and I don't have to forgive him. I only have to forgive myself for staying as long as I did. 🙏💖
Exactly forgiveness is for you. The Bible says forgive, but the Bible also says to AVOID such people….The liars, manipulators, thieves etc.
@@KK_YAHshandASMR ✔️🙌🏽🫡
You’re absolutely right. My ex must’ve thought I forgave her and tried to come back….absolutely NOT! Leopards don’t change their spots
Me being foolish kept taking my Narc husband back and it got worse…..He didn’t care….. He wrapped his arms around me gently and whispered in my ear “You’ll never leave me.”
Forgive them for part of your healing process but that's doesn't mean taking them back. Kick that damn bucket to the curb!!!! Turn around and walk away. Don't look back cause you are not going that direction 🎉
I tried to reconcile because we were married. But the rabbit hole kept going deeper and deeper, and her behavior only improved for a little while. I couldn’t handle it anymore. The contempt just kept growing and growing. Any time I looked at her, all I could think about was the lies and her who knows how may affair partners. I finally realized she was not capable of or willing to take accountability or feel bad for what she did, because she wouldn’t accept my feelings about what happened. Now I struggle because I never got closure and I am struggling so hard to forgive her.
I have felt this way before. I learned that closure has to come from ourselves. She doesn’t care about you or your feelings, and she didn’t care that she hurt you. That should be closure enough because you will forever chase the closure you think she will give you by admitting what she did hurt you. It won’t happen and you will be trapped. I’m sorry you’re going thru it. I have been here before so I understand. Stay strong and keep moving forward with healing.
If you forgive it will be worse! They will punish you.
You can forgive and not take them back in your life !
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Bingo, just because we choose to forgive does not mean we have to associate with them.
Once you accept the behaviour and new bodies into the “relationship” that’s when they totally abuse you. They’ll respect you more once you never take them back! Go meet someone else and be happy
😂😂😂 Hyperventilating while talking is soooo on point. ✅
You always know when a normal human being is going to step up and be a grown person and apologize and be serious about their approach. You know how narcissistic people apologize so it's not hard to pick up on it.
They get worse
I felt the reconciliation process was rushed with my inlaw. Almost like "hurry up so we can get back to normal." She apologized profusely via text which I thought was odd given the gravity of the situation. When we drew boundaries and reminded her we aren't children any more and to please allow us to make decisions, she didn't respond to the text. It's been almost 2 years since she decided to stop talking to us.
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A rare blessing.
Believe me she did you a big favour!! Freedom is best way out
My guy messes with my Notifications. Either Love Bombing or blocking my fave videos. That is his number one go too. However, I work around this. As God is my witness, he is a crown prince. I am hoping that his New Feed/ his new wife will occupy his time. All this time I didn't even know he had an agreement to marry her. I thought he didn't have a girlfriend. On Christmas Day is when I found out he had gotten engaged and married same day, 5 days before Christmas. I got help through Jesus the Bible and nice peoples like you. There is always hope in Jesus. Thank you!
i'm tired of positive "what ifs" because i only end up disappointed over and over again. and i don't care anymore to see if those "what ifs" would really happen or no
protect your peace
@MentalHealness 🙏💪
I forgive the narcissist, but access is Denied ✌️🎯 & NO Contact
These people are really special and I do mean special 😜😂😂😂😂
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@MentalHealness 😜😜😜😜
Lol facts❤
@KimberlyGray-cd3lt interesting people
@KimberlyGray-cd3lt sorry I was moving some things before I go to work
Narcissists permit themselves too much already in the relationship, that's the problem if you ask me!
LEE!!!!!! You need a comedy show!!! SERIOUSLY
I forgave my ex and he said thank you! I did not take him back! Forgiving him was to heal me.
Please don’t rip out a dread lock. We got it! We’re not taking the narcissist back 😂
You’d have to yank out all your dreads for the amount of times that I took him back after him only saying “sorry” with no proof of consistent changed behavior… in fact I don’t think you’d have any hairs left…. 🤦🏻♀️I dumped him finally tho. Thank the Lord. 9:10
Shii I was taking him back. And he didn't even say sorry might hang up on me if I asked😂😂😂 take it from me it gets real hectic beyond yo nightmares 😢
Lee you and I both know these people just don't take anything or anybody seriously. You only asking to be duked again so u have to just know what it is. 😂😂😂
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@MentalHealness 😂😂😂😂😂 they have no intentions on doing the right thing. And this true forgiving them is saying it ok with everything they are doing it like rewarding bad behavior and they take u for a joke and a fool when u do that. It's a neverending story
@MentalHealness you know the difference between someone who is really sencer about being sorry and trying to what's right. So u have to be very careful cause it can seem real but it's all a game.
Normal people move in a very different way on being apologetic and what their intentions are u just have to be able to tell the difference.
If u forgive them forgive them in ur head
That's right! You actually should not tell them you forgive them. When you can forgive, just forgive and carry on with no contact.
Please remember that forgiveness is for you, not just the offenders. Forgiveness allows you to move on with your life, to let go of past and have a clean and clear conscious!! Studies show that people who forgive have less health issues and live longer. ALSO PLEASE REMEMBER THAT JUST BECAUSE YOU FORGIVE DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU CONDONE!! I know it's not easy, but I promise when you do, you will feel much mentally and emotionally stable. And you will sleep better knowing that it's in GOD'S HANDS ❤
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Thank you for sharing. Sometimes, I have a hard time forgiving....thinking it's the same as condoning his behavior.
@@nleativa You’re not alone …. Every time I forgave him ( Let his pathetic behavior go)…. He would change for a few months then was back to his same ole self…..
@susanhenderson9739 we have to forgive and let go of the person, that's how they are able to play on you. Our actions will always speak louder than words!
@@Annie-ol3jx He haunts me from his grave…. I wanted to get remarried and unfortunately that’s not going to happen for me…I learned to accept it and focus on my well being and my children…He did this on purpose…. He deliberately canceled one of his life insurance policies just to make everything harder for me financially…. Lee’s platform is very beneficial to me I started watching a few months ago…
The song is R.kelly - I Can’t Sleep
When a 3rd party that's with a narcissist. When they get out in the opening in public act like there all smiling and happy.are they going through behide doors treated badly?
Gets worse 😢😢😢
Lee you crack me up with the voice overs 😅
Short anserw: you'll get hurt again
I gave myself a deadline of Jan 1, 2025 if he didn't change and get actual therapy and help. I left and moved back to LA and got my own place. DON'T GIVE THEM EXTRA TIME!
Therapy just makes them worse. They learn all the words and it's going to be your fault even more
@@edvails1539 so true
😂😂😂😂 Lee your right what your saying there.
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Forgiveness is not access.
Forgiveness is for you, not for them. You can forgive them and stay in NC.
Protect your peace
Forgive but don’t forget
Thoughts of a Cancer ♋️
@@dattyga Scorpio is don’t forgive or forget 😂🤣😂 I’m working on it
And stay safe
@@MentalHealnessGod deals with evil. Vengeance is his he shall repay.
Capricorn is forgive and forget you ever existed.
Lee, you’re on fire tonight whew
Don’t pull a dread you’ll be bald 😂😅😅
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Yeah, that's such a bar forgiveness is not reconciliation.
THIS VIDEO FOR ME 😭
Interstella...jammin!!!😂😂❤
Come on home😂😂😂😂😂😂 9:07
14:21 NOTHIN 😝 haha
Keep it hot LEE 🔥🔥🔥🔥🍕
Never accept
Protect your peace
Special request to do the dread yanking live because you know... somebody's gonna do it!
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You can forgive sure we are suppose to and you don't have to let that be known. Cause u and God knows you forgave but if u go any further u are entering at your own risk cause u can rest assure it's a game 😂😂😂😂😂
That's right. Going to them and telling them you forgive them is just hovering yourself back in.
@myfriendjosie I mean as long as u and God knows you forgave shouldn't that be all that matters. I don't hold on to things I forgive and let it be. Cause I mean what am I gaining from not forgiving
@myfriendjosie I learned people just don't care it's something I came to grips a long time ago. I just really don't say anything I forgive and I let it be as it is.
@myfriendjosie my life is very busy so I don't sit around crying and worrying about things I have absolutely no control over. I can't let that stop my growth I c the postive through everything negative that's just how I look at the side of things some c the glass full some c it as half full. Take it for what it's worth
I've forgiven him in silence. Hatred is so much engery, hatred means you care. I choose not to care.
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A narc just blocked my number and from insta for texting n calling after says dont text me this is final, i dont wanna hurt u more but unblocked texting after a few days. I didnt write, she didnt write but look my stories. She wants reverse hoover?
Yes
Yo these people don't think the way a normal human being does they live in a delusional world 🌎. And you just find the humor in it cause u look back at things and say Wait, what did I go for did I really fall for that 😂😂😂😂😂😂 trust me it took many times of getting duked but after awhile I was like ok I c the circuses show so u know to start your clock count down for the childs games and the fu*kery 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Preach🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
They are hilarious people 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
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@MentalHealness 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
You are very funny lee 😊
I try
Typically is the Greek god of maybe 😂
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If you don't mind me asking Lee how many times did your wife forgive you
Lee you are so dramatic-i need you to quit playing but point taken🤣
I think thats an R. Kelly song
🤔 perhaps
@@MentalHealness It is. "I can't sleep"- R. Kelly
I forgive him but definitely not going back Tf
That’s RKelly’s song btw 😂
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How much is a one on one? How do I inquire?
You there?
?? Im here
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