Autistic Spiky Skill Sets
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- Опубликовано: 2 ноя 2024
- It's a bit weird being super good at one thing and then terrible at something everyone else thinks is easier than the other thing :')
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I relate so incredibly strongly to this video, you basically said my experience, even with understanding science until maths gets involved and then I totally get lost. Love your content, it's very comforting to me as a fellow autistic person.
Awww I'm terrible at food logistics. I (in theory) make a stir fry every Friday, and 50% of the time, there's an ingredient missing or I thought it was fine but it's bad, or I forgot to take the chicken out of the freezer.
I used to work at an art supply store, and it was great (until it was ruined by toxic management who didn't care about art supplies). I was around art supplies all day, I was able to blather to other people about them under the guise of customer service, got to sort them and organize them and make them look nice. I mean, making sure that the nearly-identical-looking graphite pencils were in the right bins sorted by hardness of the graphite? Yes please! Un-randomizing tubes of paint after they had been carelessly put back by customers? Yes please! But I do wish customers weren't allowed to touch certain things, like tubes of paint or nice paper, because they'd get paint ooze everywhere, or touch the paper with their food-y fingers.
It upsets me that people told you to "just study" math, because it's not something one _can_ just study. I'm lucky in that I'm predisposed to logic so math was my best subject and from what I remember of teaching other kids after class you can't just throw problems at people or do it for them over and over again - you have to identify what they're not getting and do your best to break it down into simpler terms. So I don't understand how a person could just study if they're not already good at it in the first place, you can't explain things to yourself when you don't get them in the first place - someone has to do the explaining for you first
I didn't understand algebra at all at school, and no one could explain it to me,10 years after my girlfriend at the time explained and showed me, I couldn't believe how simple it was, the teachers made it so confusing
exactly, if someone doesn't understand math, it means that it wasnt explained to them in a way that suits them
You explained this so well. It's the hardest topic for me to make others understand.
I agree
Thanks for explaining a spiky profile. That makes a lot of sense. I had a neuropsych assessment a while ago and they had told me that my performance was sort of all over the place. I think spiky profile is what they meant. One of the examples is that I had an exceptionally high score on logic and spacial reasoning but then with spoken verbal skills was slightly below average.
My monotropic mind makes my skill set sooooo spikey xD, got so many skills mainly in arts, creative things & programming but can I monetise it, nope T.T
This is sickeningly accurate to my experience throughout school. I’ve never heard of “spiky skillset” but it describes me perfectly, thank you for introducing me to that concept. I always get really down on myself about how bad I am at most things. I cried ALL the time in math and sometimes science, especially chemistry (math + science, shoot me) but english was a breeze and i could write like nobody’s business, and ask me to do a creative project and it was done the next day, whereas i procrastinated everything else til the last second. Its not like i want be this way, but it’s difficult finding stability and consistency for some reason. Also, my dream job is to be a receptionist and I’ve been telling people this for a long time, even though people think it’s silly, i think it’s the perfect job, so it was funny you mentioned that. I feel like we have the same brand of autism.
I got SO lucky and largely had really great teachers too, I can’t imagine how negative an experience it would have been to have had an angry or mean teacher for math
@@DanaAndersenthat’s good, i definitely had a mix of both. my teachers were usually confused at why i was struggling to get a C and they’d say i wasn’t trying hard enough but i would cry out of frustration because i was trying so hard to understand and it just wasn’t clicking. Sounds like you had a similar experience
@randomaccessmemories8912 I more so had my parents/head of year saying I wasn’t trying hard enough, the situations I cried during were usually when the teacher was trying to help me and I just couldn’t understand it, in math at least, I heard it all the time from a lot of other teachers and it was always so hurtful
@@DanaAndersen That’s rough man. I remember those days, the teacher coming over to explain the math problem to me as im crying and it’s still not making sense and then i just feel worse! Haha glad we survived school 👹
I got told to stop daydreaming all the time, or doodling in my books.
My mom likes to say that my lack of skills and a life in general are all my own fault, and I sit there like, "Dude... I'm autistic. You knew from when I was a toddler that I was autistic, even without a diagnosis because it was the 90s and it was hard for girls to get one. YOU. KNEW. And you did NOTHING to help me except homeschool me."
Like, I asked for help with writing a resume because I thought it was time for me to try applying for jobs. Mom responded by sending me links to sites that tell you what to put on a resume when you have little to no work experience, but it all seemed to revolve around volunteer work and education, which for me was very spotty. Dad responded by saying that I "had a template in Microsoft Word, so just use that." (I didn't. I had a template for making business cards.) My sister said she'd help while she was home from university, but then forgot. My brother had already moved out by then and couldn't even be bothered to visit unless I emailed him to tell him he had mail to pick up. I even sought out an occupational therapist, and while she was nice, she didn't really help with writing a resume.
I think parents have this idea of what their duty as parents is and don't really accept that that isn't enough with an autistic kid. My kindergarten teacher tried to alert my parents to my autism, but they just ignored her, because they didn't want the bother. As long as I wasn't getting into trouble, they wouldn't be held accountable, at least not by adults. The fact that I grew to hate them didn't seem to matter. I got zero help on any level, but honestly, neither did my brothers. This was more or less the norm in our whole neighborhood. People think that boomers were spoiled, but in my experience, we were totally ignored. I never had ANY help with homework. My parents didn't even know what colleges I was applying to. They expected me to do everything on my own. Tons of criticism, and never a word of praise. But that was a very common style of parenting in our neighborhood. I confronted my mother about it when I was older, and she said (I kid you not) "Children were not considered people back then." I think maybe they were just burnt out from World War II.
I know what you mean with this. I have moments in my life with this. I do what I can do, but find other things hard.
I interpreted the bible very literally when I read it. Maybe that's something autistic people are more likely to do?
But through experience I now interpret it very differently
Totally relatable! even the subjects you were good at. When you said doing one thing well just leads to expectations smh 🙌 stress
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Spiky skill sets are very relatable, to bad they're not the skill ssociety or the job-market are looking for :p Failing school (or getting failed by school?) with straight A's. And autistic burnout, it is a ***** Many of us had it I assume, did you? how did you deal with it?
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I like doing bit masking on the spectrum
When people say “but you can do this, so you must be able to do that” I was telling a man that I don’t talk on the phone because it gives me massive anxiety so if he calls me I won’t answer. And he said, “but you’re talking fine right now.” I wanted to shake him and say, “This is a mask!”
Me right now: taking 12 minutes to write this stupid "super thank you" comment 😂