Cutting Toxic People Out, Dissociation, & Emotional Release

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  • @ksn3346
    @ksn3346 Год назад +89

    You are on such a high level of self-reflection! Give yourself grace, yes! Allow yourself to be slower with all the unpacking, because you‘re not being lazy, you just need your time for processing so many things.

  • @carrieanderson6787
    @carrieanderson6787 Год назад +39

    You're so real and honest and vulnerable. It's refreshing. Thank you for sharing!

  • @lucycooper1770
    @lucycooper1770 Год назад +13

    i love how close you sit to the camera- it makes me feel like i'm having a deep convo with a friend over a cup of tea

  • @MrsAlmaTrumble
    @MrsAlmaTrumble Год назад +44

    We love you, Cam. You gotta do what's best for you and the girls.

  • @pinkmarshmallowsh
    @pinkmarshmallowsh Год назад +7

    I have an unfortunate way to relate to your videos; 25 year old recent widow, going back, and re-watching your grief/loss related videos have been a helpful perspective.
    How you spoke about being with Landon's family and not him has been a hard thing to experience in my situation. But seeing your healing journey is also giving me so much hope 💛

  • @rubyolive2538
    @rubyolive2538 Год назад +15

    🧡wishing you all the happiness, cam! unpacking slowly can be frustrating, but it can also be a great time to actively think about where you want things to go instead of just putting them places so they're out of boxes.
    i would love a video on journalling if you have time for it! hearing how you talk about it to process your emotions makes me quite eager to try and do that myself. sometimes writing things down on paper can be so cathartic!

  • @moopox
    @moopox Год назад +15

    You’re so right about your girls Cam. I’m sure they’re both going to light up any room they are in ❤

  • @Emmadilemma518
    @Emmadilemma518 Год назад +27

    No one hates you no one blames you you were going through grief and lashed out at those around you which is totally understandable we all love you and your content if you have to cut people off cut people off no matter how sad it will make you feel trust me as someone who has done that three times now it’s worth it to cut the people that don’t care about you out of your life because sometimes those people make you feel like your life is not worth living and no one deserves to feel like that you are needed you are loved and you are seen.

  • @dramaticballerina1550
    @dramaticballerina1550 Год назад +3

    I don't usually comment on anything but what you said about constantly being defensive and overwhelmed by emotions and picking apart your body and yourself and just generally hating yourself and being so uncomfortable and sitting in all of that emotion reeeally resonated with me. It's the state I've been in my whole life and I've never even thought It's something that I don't HAVE to live with. I always thought it's just who I was but maybe there's a way out. I don't know. I've been following your journey since the very beginning but something about this video really resonated with me and is definitely making me think so thank you.

  • @hehehehe9456
    @hehehehe9456 Год назад +78

    I just wanted to say that I really appreciate you for making this video me and my boyfriend just broke up and even together for almost 2 years. So thank you so much cam. I've followed you for a long time.

    • @foxsox1852
      @foxsox1852 Год назад +5

      I'm so sorry you're going through that, that's so painful and I hope you know you matter and you aren't alone💖

    • @tabitha-g5x
      @tabitha-g5x Год назад +7

      U will get thru it I broke up with my bf too and tbh feel depressed but do things like blast ur fav music in ur headphones and eating food u love will be a distraction 💕ur Stronger then u know gurlll

    • @daynatomer4414
      @daynatomer4414 Год назад

      Aw I’m sorry sorry. But girl 2 years is NOTHING. A mere blink of an eye.

  • @laurajimenez7878
    @laurajimenez7878 Год назад +4

    the thought of new ppl at christmas that he didn't know really hit me... my grandpa passed 13 years ago and most of the family either didn't know him or like me being just 9 at the time I've forgotten a lot, whenever were at family parties I think of how good it would be to have him around and how he'd get along with everyone.

  • @lexiefournier
    @lexiefournier Год назад +5

    I lived in Ohio for 3 years and I was so miserable because of some things I was going through… I was in an abusive environment, I was away from my family and I missed it so much that I was romanticizing my hometown so I moved back here… which was a very healing move and the best move I could have made - however, I took all my emotional trauma with me. I dreamed it would all be so perfect and it would be my saving grace… while yes, a location change did help me, it didn’t solve all my problems like I dreamed. I had a lot of work to do on myself and my thought processes. I was very jaded and cynical because of it all. Happiness is an inside job. We can’t control what happens to us in this life, but we are responsible for our own healing.

  • @suzette--1023
    @suzette--1023 Год назад +7

    I think your a very strong woman for what you went through, give yourself a pat on your back and your daughters are very happy, you are raising your with love and understanding and thats all on you Be proud

  • @wildbeasttamer
    @wildbeasttamer Год назад +7

    “The sun sets so early at like 6”
    me over in Washington at 4:00pm 😭😭

    • @naruhinastarr
      @naruhinastarr Год назад +1

      Omg. I’m here in Cali and the sun currently sets at 4:45. By Christmas time, it’s going to be at 4:30 😩

  • @kaykeescorner
    @kaykeescorner Год назад +9

    Your growth is exponential, Cam. I am so proud of you!

  • @chiara4243
    @chiara4243 Год назад +3

    Thank you so much for saying the part about productivity at the end - I really needed to hear it.
    I’m a college student and finals are coming up but I’ve been going through a really bad depressive episode and dealing with a death as well as being away from home … it’s rough and there’s days where I really can’t get up and moving and I’m trying to give myself some grace

    • @ryanm7249
      @ryanm7249 Год назад +1

      Sorry for your loss. May their memory be eternal. Best of luck at getting through college and your finals during this difficult time.

  • @mdl1083
    @mdl1083 Год назад +9

    the senate passed a bill earlier this year for all states to permanently be on daylight savings (so no one moves clocks in the fall)! goes into effect 2023 if the house and president approve it

  • @fantasyk87
    @fantasyk87 Год назад +14

    I love your tea-chat times and talking about feelings, I find you mature more every self-reflection video you do.
    Btw, Light-saving is actually a great idea, it saved so much energy and $, even though it might be 'annoying' to some. Where I live the sun sets at 4/5 in the winter so I'd say 6PM is pretty great 😂.

    • @bansku9661
      @bansku9661 Год назад +2

      Jep, hyvä video ☺️ meilläkin laskee 4 pm aurinko nyt talvella, päivät tuntuu tosi lyhyiltä 😁 (asun Suomessa)

    • @amylee0870
      @amylee0870 Год назад +1

      Actually the plan in the US is have daylight savings all year. Turning the clock ahead in the Spring and never going back to standard time. I hope it happens-there has been talk about it for years

  • @shellyjay346
    @shellyjay346 Год назад +2

    I did what you did, just upped and moved. Best thing I ever did. You will see your truth more each day! I am SO PROUD of you and excited!!!

    • @shellyjay346
      @shellyjay346 Год назад

      I am SO PROUD of you❤️ It takes a lot of courage and bravery! I realized, after driving 2200 miles by myself with an outdatwed GPS with no sound🤷‍♀️😂 (paper maps, didn't get lost even once, yay me!) that I can do anything now. Leaving was so scary but I was more scared of staying (found crushed up pills in my cofee cup that was served to me😲). I wish you the absolute best that life has to offer! Always remember that upping and leaving (and sounds like succeeding!:) will always mean any and all change is possible cuz you are a warrior💪😃👍

  • @cottonballandbells7605
    @cottonballandbells7605 Год назад

    I'm 12, I get dissociation episodes multiple days in a week as a result of trauma and anxiety aswell as being in a psych ward at 9,10,11 and 12 years old and saw insane things and I get how everyone just needs a break sometimes to get back to normal and although my episodes only last a short amount of time I notice that when more is on my mind its worse and just need to relax.. I've been watching you for years since coco was a baby actually and I think your so inspirational and such an amazing and honest person which is helpful for me so thank you ❤️

  • @katrinarees9397
    @katrinarees9397 Год назад +4

    Crying is a safety valve, you let it out and start again. And these bad days do pass, and you will get strong moments again 😘😘
    And as for getting rid of the toxic, you have to do that to let in the positivity 🤗🤗 thanks for sharing, you are beautiful don't ever forget it.

  • @carina7439
    @carina7439 Год назад +2

    your videos always come at the exact right time ❤️❤️ i feel every word you say cam there is always so so much wisdom in your words

  • @emmathetismgirlie21
    @emmathetismgirlie21 Год назад +3

    You've been such an inspiration for me throughout my teen years Cam 💖

  • @moong1rl777
    @moong1rl777 Год назад

    I'm still in the beginning of my healing journey and you are what I aspire to be. I'm so, so proud of you.

  • @Kathy-ut9kf
    @Kathy-ut9kf Год назад +6

    You're a beautiful young woman who has been through more than any young woman should. Your self awareness and insightfulness is incredible. You are a highly intelligent woman with two beautiful, young daughters. You're trying to carve out the best life for your family. I admire and respect you. I know you will find the peace and happiness you so deserve. I can't help put think you'd make a wonderful counselor or psychologist from your depth of empathy and natural nurturing for others. I am excited for your and the girls future. I can't wait to see where it takes you. Great things are in store for you and you definitely do deserve them:)

  • @kenneditompkins3609
    @kenneditompkins3609 Год назад +4

    Cam I'm so Incredibly happy for you and they girls ya'll deserve everything In more Ive been following you since before you even had Coco I can't believe you have been on youtube for 5 years now you have grown and changed so much I've never missed In upload ever I've been watching you since your very 1st youtube video on your channel and never left just know I'm always here for you If you ever need anything!!!!!!

  • @mothercoyote351
    @mothercoyote351 Год назад +4

    Cam ur amazing & I ❤️ these talks that u do cuz it really makes me 🤔 about my relationship situations.

  • @samanthakay122
    @samanthakay122 Год назад +1

    Yes be slow and kind to yourself, I am trying to learn that everyday myself

  • @Becca-vk9mq
    @Becca-vk9mq Год назад +9

    Thank you for sharing this. I totally can relate. I struggle with setting boundaries as well. Especially when it comes to family. I admire your strength!

  • @aprilkearby6963
    @aprilkearby6963 Год назад +2

    Cam you are so brave for opening up about are past and for you Ben through.

  • @oliviaclark4269
    @oliviaclark4269 Год назад +4

    you do so much for your girls it’s inspiring ❤❤

  • @river8760
    @river8760 Год назад +2

    You are an incredible Mom and a wonderful person with a huge level of insight at a young age. I’m 50 and I definitely didn’t have the insight you do at your age. I’m not saying that to sound belittling either. I still share a lot of the feelings you are talking about at my age, due to trauma and mental health issues as well. Your girls are a reflection of you and they are going to be compassionate because it’s both engrained in them and modelled by you. 💜💛

  • @lerisadcosta1740
    @lerisadcosta1740 Год назад

    Thanks for sharing your feelings with us Cam. U are an inspiration for many.

  • @kaykeescorner
    @kaykeescorner Год назад +15

    I miss who I wish my mom was, if that makes sense. Every time I try to have a relationship with her I am disappointed. So it was time to say goodbye. And the relief I feel for not having to pine for her love anymore is measurable!

  • @RachelDex
    @RachelDex Год назад +1

    The only thing that needs abolishing, is selfish people who only think of their own needs

  • @mads6431
    @mads6431 Год назад +2

    Love you Cam! Your videos like this always really help me bc I relate to a lot of these feelings! Thank you for sharing ❤️

  • @MaestraJager
    @MaestraJager Год назад +2

    Hey Cam! Just one tip, try taking vitamin D supplements right before and during winter! Its really important once the sun starts setting earlier and you're less exposed to the sun.
    Depending on the country one should take it all throughout the year, but Im not sure that's really necessary where you live.
    Edit to add: Vitamin D deficiency can cause depression so it really helps with " seasonal depression" a lot

  • @shellysnewbeginnings
    @shellysnewbeginnings Год назад +2

    I followed You for along time Since Coco was a baby. I love your videos soo much Cam and You have a Wonderful Family!!!🥰❤💕

  • @gracezook1140
    @gracezook1140 Год назад

    This is the video I needed when I was a young teenager.

  • @krystinemckay3500
    @krystinemckay3500 Год назад

    you neeed to make a podcast , you’ve really helped my grief journey

  • @zkhmzzkhmz7077
    @zkhmzzkhmz7077 Год назад +3

    For me it is actually pretty funny to hear you saying “it is cold“ while you’re sitting there with a tank top 😂 Like, I what I consider cold is having to wear a cozy wool sweater inside the house 🥶❄️

  • @alaynafoss4229
    @alaynafoss4229 Год назад +1

    The coldest weather I've ever experienced at my home was -40 degrees 😂 50 degrees is like, early spring weather for us

  • @elizagrogan9454
    @elizagrogan9454 Год назад +2

    I'm so happy that you've cut off the negative people. I had to do the same. The morning after I brought my baby, a long-term female friend called. She didn't talk about my new baby. She shared the "latest news" about her ex. After 5 minutes, I interrupted her to say I had to feed my newborn. She said she would call back later. I blocked her immediately.
    You are very intelligent. I think there is a great future for you.

  • @Beautifulunkown
    @Beautifulunkown Год назад

    You words really help me to deal with life too I really appreciate all the content when you do post thank you

  • @shellysnewbeginnings
    @shellysnewbeginnings Год назад +1

    I love your videos Cam they make me want to keep moving forward in life when, I have been through alot of hard times in life. I love You Cam!!!🥰❤

  • @georgiawilby25
    @georgiawilby25 Год назад +2

    This happened with me this year before I moved away.

  • @toocentgirl
    @toocentgirl Год назад +2

    Hi I have loved ur vid for so long!

  • @tennisfreak8842
    @tennisfreak8842 Год назад +1

    I dissociate too, thank you for talking about it 💕

  • @fernandafarias9883
    @fernandafarias9883 Год назад +2

    i really love u Cameryn and im so proud of

  • @SuperMacprincess1
    @SuperMacprincess1 Год назад +5

    In California, we voted to stop Day Light Savings time :)

    • @naruhinastarr
      @naruhinastarr Год назад +2

      I live here in Cali too.. I’m so happy to hear this!!

    • @ktaula1
      @ktaula1 Год назад +2

      We're not stopping Daylight Saving Time, we're stopping Standard Time, we'll be staying in Daylight Saving Time ALL the time, which is wonderful!! That means we'll have some hours ago the time. 😊❤️

  • @Charis6540
    @Charis6540 Год назад +1

    Here in CA it gets dark at 5pm now

  • @kdaisy1902
    @kdaisy1902 Год назад +3

    Love you Cam❤️

  • @schwartzybuisness
    @schwartzybuisness Год назад +3

    You deserve peace and happiness

  • @shellyjay346
    @shellyjay346 Год назад +1

    AZ doesn't do daylight savings time, it was awesome! Plus, 330 days a year of sunshine!✌️❤️👍 When I first got there in December, I was laying out and swimming cuz it was in the 80's. I left, brrr, MI, so I was sweating!🤷‍♀️😂

  • @CarlieMaria28
    @CarlieMaria28 Год назад +5

    Maybe the girls are able to feel their dad when they're in his room.

  • @Me-jg4yk
    @Me-jg4yk Год назад

    You are a very very good single mom I'm a single mom too but don't get let it get you down someone will come in the future God will put another person in your future

  • @denise7345
    @denise7345 Год назад

    Bruh I’m crying when you were saying about your journals same ):

  • @Happytobehereee
    @Happytobehereee Год назад +1

    You are doing so well…..keep going ❤

  • @masonkline2644
    @masonkline2644 Год назад +5

    where did you move cam? yoyr so awesome gurl congrats your so sweet and you deserve the world

  • @oliviaclark4269
    @oliviaclark4269 Год назад +1

    here for you ❤❤❤

  • @anitahendricks
    @anitahendricks Год назад +2

    Take care, sweetie! 💛

  • @celenaeardley2234
    @celenaeardley2234 Год назад

    Thank you cam
    I need that I feel like that today

  • @aprilkearby6963
    @aprilkearby6963 Год назад +4

    One step at time kiddo

    • @dearleah7299
      @dearleah7299 Год назад

      She’s an adult, not a “kiddo”.

  • @mirandawillie6909
    @mirandawillie6909 Год назад +2

    Hi Carmyn I love watching your vlogs your girls have grown so much Dee is getting big every single day so is Coco man kids grow up so fast I hope you you enjoying the hot weather I am not getting hot weather anymore I am getting cold weather which I wasn't ready for I hope you are having a wonderful day hey 50°F is a lot better then negative degree weather just saying I would take 50°F in Decemer well actually it is now January but still I will take anything that is up above negative degree weather 50°F is way better then negative degree weather how are you Carmyn?

  • @alemato1467
    @alemato1467 Год назад +1

    Remember you (and each one)
    are light, love, a God spark, and the angels are with us . Always be grateful and say thanks for all the good and the bad moments. We all made soul pacts before we born. Blessings 🦋🇺🇾

  • @ashanne2018
    @ashanne2018 Год назад +3

    You should do a video with maddie lambert again just an idea

  • @HozePlaysGames
    @HozePlaysGames Год назад

    thank you cam❤

  • @oliviaclark4269
    @oliviaclark4269 Год назад

    i love your talks you are so smart❤❤❤

  • @aryaaadams8364
    @aryaaadams8364 Год назад +1

    I love you guys so much

  • @leticiacornish849
    @leticiacornish849 Год назад

    Love u girl!

  • @mckenziespillers7298
    @mckenziespillers7298 Год назад +2

    Ive learned It never works out the way you want it to lmao

  • @divaplayz8845
    @divaplayz8845 Год назад +1

    Love this video

  • @estefanigonzalez8514
    @estefanigonzalez8514 Год назад

    In México we don't change time anymore

  • @x0allyssa
    @x0allyssa Год назад

    Girl. Daylight savings was for the farmers, so they would be up with the sun to feed the animals lol. sorry I just had to note that!

  • @kenneditompkins3609
    @kenneditompkins3609 Год назад +3

    Amazing Video! I love your channel keep up the good work girl Cam your super beautiful Collette Is pretty!!! Deliah Is just drop dead gorgeous!!!! I Love You Guys Very Very Much!!!!!

    • @lfox_777
      @lfox_777 Год назад +1

      It may not sound rude in your head but to say deliah is gorgeous and Colette is pretty makes it sound like you're judging them as one being better than the other you said it in the last video too its rude

    • @emilymagnetti8837
      @emilymagnetti8837 Год назад +2

      @@lfox_777 you’re just reading into her comment the wrong way. It’s not rude it’s a compliment 🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @kenneditompkins1754
      @kenneditompkins1754 Год назад +1

      @@emilymagnetti8837 thank you so much I appreacite ate that thank you for your sweet words means a lot

  • @anacoppers7429
    @anacoppers7429 Год назад

    50 degrees is shorts weather

  • @addiedailey7823
    @addiedailey7823 Год назад

    I really feel like we’re friends lmao

  • @Me-jg4yk
    @Me-jg4yk Год назад

    Hey I'm in the same boat with you I am trying to I am trying to get people out of my life that are toxic to me I have three people in my life that are toxic and hopefully they will be out of my life because God's going to tell me not to associate with them people I only say hi and goodbye but that hiding a body is going to be goodbye forever soon I don't like to hang around people that are toxic I chose the path of choosing God over people that are not good in my life and soon three of them will be out of my life because God knows that them three people are horrible people in my life right they're not good friends there not good people but God knows this and he's definitely working on it to get them out of life so thank you God amen

  • @bettynilsson2988
    @bettynilsson2988 Год назад

    We have -20 here , brrrr🙄

  • @jessicaandfidgetsandmore
    @jessicaandfidgetsandmore Год назад +2

    Hey Cam

  • @krystlep7353
    @krystlep7353 Год назад +2

    I have fallowed you and many other RUclipsrs as well giving my life style and way of parenting and the many of positions I have been thought in life such as Lossing My children's father myself and being left to raise a five year plan 15 month old and 6 month old due to a work accident at a lummer yard...
    Give all that up I can relate to much by of your an life but also much of the VanClan RUclips family... Soooo I guess my question ⁉️ is.... Do y'all still communicate/have a relationship..

    • @aislinnt1697
      @aislinnt1697 Год назад +1

      she answered in a tiktok comment insinuating that they are no longer friends

  • @braylens1822
    @braylens1822 Год назад +1

    You should do vlogmaz and get them bands up for them babies future's

  • @aliciaalvarez118
    @aliciaalvarez118 Год назад +1

    This ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @KrustyKrabb
    @KrustyKrabb Год назад +1

    North Dakota and Oregon are Not the states to go to. Below zero degrees

    • @dearleah7299
      @dearleah7299 Год назад

      Oregon is not zero below, silly. I live in Oregon.

  • @DiggersParadiseThriftShopRWhyt

    FIND A THERAPIST. You really need to take a breath and not be so hard on yourself. You're headed for a downward spiral if you keep being this hard on yourself. It's hard to cut people off of your life and it's hard to move it's special across country with two kids. but find a therapist and work on your mental health first before you try to tackle everything else in your life.

  • @chrisjohanson9284
    @chrisjohanson9284 Год назад

    ❤️🙏✌️

  • @kellimckenna7759
    @kellimckenna7759 Год назад

    🥰❤️👍

  • @BoxerDog4life
    @BoxerDog4life Год назад +1

    First

  • @nevebrown9206
    @nevebrown9206 Год назад +2

    I thought we were abolishing it getting lighter earlier and just keeping it darker earlier all year bc that’s what standard time is 🥲

    • @ktaula1
      @ktaula1 Год назад

      No... We're getting rid of Standard Time!

  • @mads6431
    @mads6431 Год назад +1

    Love you Cam! Your videos like this always really help me bc I relate to a lot of these feelings! Thank you for sharing ❤️