There is a lot more social norms and expectations placed on girls and women, and we're basically taught to put up and shut up about a lot of things. Boys are given a free pass far more than girls, and boys are not expected to mature as quickly as girls. Society is unfortunately still very sexist and patriarchal; also, as a woman, it's so much harder to get taken seriously by medical professionals. My brother, dad, and grandad all have/ had autism, but my sis and I were never even assessed for it, despite showing signs of it. At 34, I still haven't had any kind of assessment for it, and my daughter hasn't either, despite showing signs. It's so frustrating, and I'm really glad you were able to get diagnosed. Thank you for sharing your experience and knowledge of autism
Yess!! I know. So you end up either laughing when noone else does, because you think it's a joke, or just looking confused and everyone looks at you weird 🤦♀
I can often detect passive aggression (I’m guilty of it, too, but I try hard to avoid it), but I’ve often missed ‘jokes’ where the other person seemed serious, but they had to literally tell me they were joking. Same with pretend crying, which I loathe unless it’s obviously a joke. It’s exhausting sometimes.
Let me know if any of this resonated with you!! I honestly thought for so long that it was just me and I was a weirdo. But I'm learning that there are so many others, and it's amazing to share experiences ❤
my therapist has recommended an autism diagnosis (she believes its likely i have aspergers). im so glad that the internet has resources like this. thank you :) i feel less alone
Thank you for sharing! You are definitely not alone haha, I thought I was for a long time, but by starting to share online I've found others who share my experiences! Good luck with getting a diagnosis 😊
I find you so relatable and very easy to listen to 😊. You explain things very well! Currently on the very long NHS waiting list for an assessment 😬. My worst sensory issue is bananas and once, to be polite and to mask, I ate a banana creme brulee when my friend's parents took me out for dinner. I was sick all night 🤣.
Ahh thanks so much! The banana thing made me laugh, it's lentils for me, and I have vivid memories of trying to force down lentil soup to the same effect as your creme brulee so I can fully relate 😂 hope you're not waiting too long for your assessment! The waiting can be the worst part.
My daughter had a quite late diagnosis. But as she was growing up and at school i remember her being bossy and wanting to control gameplay also she was quite sensory. She didn't like her hair being brushed and any labels in her clothes had to be cut out. Its just me and her living in a house now and its made her a lot happier because i can understand her and can let her be herself and not put demands on her. She is lucky enough that she has managed to find work which she likes doing. I remember the masking after a day at school she would be exhausted as she had to get through the day with people who didnt really understand
A lot of what you've said about your daughter hits home. It's great that she's found something she enjoys doing, it makes everything so much easier. Having to do something you don't like/aren't interested in can be exhausting! Thank you for sharing this.
@@CharlotteElizabeth3000 thank you it really makes a difference hearing someone as Frank and honest as you about the whole subject. I guess it's still taboo for a lot of people. When we getting assessments done on the two younger ones there were other parents who consciously don't go through the assessment process because they don't want "a label on their child" but they want all the help
All of those traits does not make one worse, or stupid, or anything... just different. And that's just beautiful :) My wife check all the same checkboxes
Omg the fairy lights and lava lamps are eye opening for me didn't realise you could visually stim also the clumsiness 😭😭😭😭 Just to add this while damn video is amazingly informative you have validated maaaan of my own behaviours that I also thought was just me being weird, my therapist wanted me to get a diagnosis but it's so expensive/long wait time here! Had to have a small giggle at the bossy play because my sister was not allowed to play dolls with me because she got the characters and voices wrong everutime 😂 Also it was concise!
Hi, just want to say I stumbled on you're channel about 24 hours ago... and as a man with autism spectrum I've learned quite a bunch from you and had a few laughs. Especially this video about female autism. There is much more to learn about this topic, thanks for sharing this. Glad to subscribe and like 😊👍🏻 ❤️
Thank you for this!! It's so humbling to hear. Everything in this video can absolutely apply to males too, it's just from the perspective of me... a female 😅 thank you for subscribing, very happy to have you here! ❤️
@@CharlotteElizabeth3000 that's true it's a spectrum after all ❤️ it can apply to both. I do seem to mask it like most female did, but it's always been there ofcourse. Sending you positive vibes from the Netherlands 🇳🇱. Keep on being you! 💪🏻
It's such a weird thing, especially not being able to give a reasoning to 'why' we don't do things haha - just quite simply not doing them 🤷♀ thanks for sharing!
I thought everyone did these things haha. Late diagnosed adhd but not ASD. The t-rex hands thing omg. Esp when driving, I have a tight claw in my lap and need to remind I'm better off with 2 hands on the wheel.
It was a very informative video, and I appreciate it. I couldn't quite finish it because of the smacking sound you sometimes make between words. I guess we can definitely check the "sensory issues" box. 😟
I am a 50 y/o male ... I was missed too, despite very obvious signs. I was even misdiagnosed 15 years ago as not autistic after a 15 minute interview with a psychiatrist (oh isn't socialised healthcare wonderful). I am very likely inattentive-ADHS also.
The bullying stories sound interesting for a future video, and do you think you knew you were being bullied on a deeper level, but went along with it 'as a joke' to maintain "friendships"?
I have 5 lava lamps.I don't want to hazard a guess as to the number of hours I have spent staring into the colorful flowing abyss that these things are🤟 I didn't know any these were more prevalent to girls/women🤔 Learning every day! Also, I have slightly tweaked versions of all of these. Love your content… Love (My wife is British. I speak fluent Britain-ese) 😝
The last bit made me laugh 😂😂 thanks for watching! I should have clarified more in the video (there is a text disclaimer at the beginning, but should have maybe said a bit more on it), but these are ALL traits that males can and do share, it's literally just traits I had/still have, and are slightly more subtle than the 'norm' - i.e. females can hide traits a little better than males, and therefore default to the more 'subtle' stims/traits etc. Sorry for ramble, hope this made sense 😅
When I was 10 there were a few girls that I really didn’t know who all gathered around me one day and ushered me way out in a field with a couple of trees, telling that even though it wasn’t my official birthday that they had a surprise for me. And I was like “Really?” Well, down to one of the trees we go where they suddenly commenced to trying to best me up. I fell for it. Totally believed them. I’m still gullible.
@@Heyehyeyeyey11o11o maybe start witb the autism quotient ad proceed with the cat-q test for masking. There is a whole host of tests and quizzes. Just google for "Embrace Autism" and you should find all the goodies :)
Hello Charlotte from my Jerusalem Israel. How are you? I hope work for you is well as well as your start to 2024. I am happy to introduce myself to you. My name is Jonathan Trauner. I will be 30 in Jerusalem this May 15th 2024. I work as a software algorithms tester at Mobileye in Har Hotzvim Jerusalem Israel. I am a poet and performing artist who loves to sing. I was hit by a huge tall tour bus in the area of Mobileye in Jerusalem Israel on June 18th 2023. I broke my left collarbone in three places. I finished recovering last month in Jerusalem. My dream is to become the first poet and artist with Autism to win a Emmy Grammy Oscar Academy Award and Tony Award in 2025 in Los Angeles and to establish Jerusalem Israels second ever coed acapella singing group The JerusaHymns.
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There is a lot more social norms and expectations placed on girls and women, and we're basically taught to put up and shut up about a lot of things. Boys are given a free pass far more than girls, and boys are not expected to mature as quickly as girls. Society is unfortunately still very sexist and patriarchal; also, as a woman, it's so much harder to get taken seriously by medical professionals.
My brother, dad, and grandad all have/ had autism, but my sis and I were never even assessed for it, despite showing signs of it. At 34, I still haven't had any kind of assessment for it, and my daughter hasn't either, despite showing signs. It's so frustrating, and I'm really glad you were able to get diagnosed. Thank you for sharing your experience and knowledge of autism
It’s hard never being able to realize people are making fun or being passive aggressive.
Yess!! I know. So you end up either laughing when noone else does, because you think it's a joke, or just looking confused and everyone looks at you weird 🤦♀
I can often detect passive aggression (I’m guilty of it, too, but I try hard to avoid it), but I’ve often missed ‘jokes’ where the other person seemed serious, but they had to literally tell me they were joking. Same with pretend crying, which I loathe unless it’s obviously a joke.
It’s exhausting sometimes.
Let me know if any of this resonated with you!! I honestly thought for so long that it was just me and I was a weirdo. But I'm learning that there are so many others, and it's amazing to share experiences ❤
It is often a relief to find out why you are different from other people then you can relax noing it's not your fault and being better at other things
my therapist has recommended an autism diagnosis (she believes its likely i have aspergers). im so glad that the internet has resources like this. thank you :) i feel less alone
Thank you for sharing! You are definitely not alone haha, I thought I was for a long time, but by starting to share online I've found others who share my experiences! Good luck with getting a diagnosis 😊
Thank you for sharing your experiences I must admit i know very little about autism and find this really interesting! Great video!
Thank you!! 🥺 Your words mean a lot and I'm glad you find it interesting! 😊
I find you so relatable and very easy to listen to 😊. You explain things very well! Currently on the very long NHS waiting list for an assessment 😬. My worst sensory issue is bananas and once, to be polite and to mask, I ate a banana creme brulee when my friend's parents took me out for dinner. I was sick all night 🤣.
Ahh thanks so much! The banana thing made me laugh, it's lentils for me, and I have vivid memories of trying to force down lentil soup to the same effect as your creme brulee so I can fully relate 😂 hope you're not waiting too long for your assessment! The waiting can be the worst part.
My daughter had a quite late diagnosis. But as she was growing up and at school i remember her being bossy and wanting to control gameplay also she was quite sensory. She didn't like her hair being brushed and any labels in her clothes had to be cut out. Its just me and her living in a house now and its made her a lot happier because i can understand her and can let her be herself and not put demands on her. She is lucky enough that she has managed to find work which she likes doing. I remember the masking after a day at school she would be exhausted as she had to get through the day with people who didnt really understand
A lot of what you've said about your daughter hits home. It's great that she's found something she enjoys doing, it makes everything so much easier. Having to do something you don't like/aren't interested in can be exhausting! Thank you for sharing this.
@@CharlotteElizabeth3000 thank you it really makes a difference hearing someone as Frank and honest as you about the whole subject. I guess it's still taboo for a lot of people. When we getting assessments done on the two younger ones there were other parents who consciously don't go through the assessment process because they don't want "a label on their child" but they want all the help
All of those traits does not make one worse, or stupid, or anything... just different. And that's just beautiful :)
My wife check all the same checkboxes
Omg the fairy lights and lava lamps are eye opening for me didn't realise you could visually stim also the clumsiness 😭😭😭😭
Just to add this while damn video is amazingly informative you have validated maaaan of my own behaviours that I also thought was just me being weird, my therapist wanted me to get a diagnosis but it's so expensive/long wait time here!
Had to have a small giggle at the bossy play because my sister was not allowed to play dolls with me because she got the characters and voices wrong everutime 😂 Also it was concise!
Hi, just want to say I stumbled on you're channel about 24 hours ago...
and as a man with autism spectrum I've learned quite a bunch from you and had a few laughs.
Especially this video about female autism. There is much more to learn about this topic, thanks for sharing this.
Glad to subscribe and like 😊👍🏻 ❤️
Thank you for this!! It's so humbling to hear. Everything in this video can absolutely apply to males too, it's just from the perspective of me... a female 😅 thank you for subscribing, very happy to have you here! ❤️
@@CharlotteElizabeth3000 that's true it's a spectrum after all ❤️ it can apply to both.
I do seem to mask it like most female did, but it's always been there ofcourse.
Sending you positive vibes from the Netherlands 🇳🇱. Keep on being you! 💪🏻
People think we are grumpy and angry but it's being overwhelmed or anxiety
So true!!
I am on the Mental Health Spectrum, and that Demand Avoidance is dead on in men too ma'am. Thanks for this.
It's such a weird thing, especially not being able to give a reasoning to 'why' we don't do things haha - just quite simply not doing them 🤷♀ thanks for sharing!
I thought everyone did these things haha. Late diagnosed adhd but not ASD. The t-rex hands thing omg. Esp when driving, I have a tight claw in my lap and need to remind I'm better off with 2 hands on the wheel.
Sometimes I suffer from misophonia,too.But when it comes to being right on time,I MUST be exact on time! Even 5 min is inacceptable for me.😢
It was a very informative video, and I appreciate it. I couldn't quite finish it because of the smacking sound you sometimes make between words. I guess we can definitely check the "sensory issues" box. 😟
Omg 😂😂 thank you for commenting, I definitely appreciate the honesty 👌❤️
I am a 50 y/o male ... I was missed too, despite very obvious signs. I was even misdiagnosed 15 years ago as not autistic after a 15 minute interview with a psychiatrist (oh isn't socialised healthcare wonderful). I am very likely inattentive-ADHS also.
The bullying stories sound interesting for a future video, and do you think you knew you were being bullied on a deeper level, but went along with it 'as a joke' to maintain "friendships"?
That's an interesting question, and honestly I'm not sure 😂 I just know that they would say sorry and I'd be like oh ok then 🤷♀️
I have 5 lava lamps.I don't want to hazard a guess as to the number of hours I have spent staring into the colorful flowing abyss that these things are🤟
I didn't know any these were more prevalent to girls/women🤔 Learning every day! Also, I have slightly tweaked versions of all of these.
Love your content… Love (My wife is British. I speak fluent Britain-ese) 😝
The last bit made me laugh 😂😂 thanks for watching! I should have clarified more in the video (there is a text disclaimer at the beginning, but should have maybe said a bit more on it), but these are ALL traits that males can and do share, it's literally just traits I had/still have, and are slightly more subtle than the 'norm' - i.e. females can hide traits a little better than males, and therefore default to the more 'subtle' stims/traits etc. Sorry for ramble, hope this made sense 😅
@@CharlotteElizabeth3000 I feel as though a masking challenge has been issued🤪 I must warn you! I’m Gold Medal at the Olympics level across the board🤣
Just subscribed.
I can relate to this 😂❤
When I was 10 there were a few girls that I really didn’t know who all gathered around me one day and ushered me way out in a field with a couple of trees, telling that even though it wasn’t my official birthday that they had a surprise for me. And I was like “Really?” Well, down to one of the trees we go where they suddenly commenced to trying to best me up. I fell for it. Totally believed them. I’m still gullible.
That's awful :( I'm sorry that happened to you, thank you for sharing. I'm still gullible too!
I love the last bit!
Clumsiness can also be a sign of dyspraxia which has high comorbidity with autism
I hadn't thought of this! I don't actually know huge amounts about dyspraxia, so thank you for pointing this out as it could be helpful for others.
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I think am autistic because I cant make friends
Honestly making friends can be a really tough one, so I do sympathise!
@@CharlotteElizabeth3000 what should I do then?
@@Heyehyeyeyey11o11o maybe some of the tests on Embrace Autism and the Aspie Quiz, could indicate the possibility of autism for you.
@@drbrainlp which test
@@Heyehyeyeyey11o11o maybe start witb the autism quotient ad proceed with the cat-q test for masking. There is a whole host of tests and quizzes. Just google for "Embrace Autism" and you should find all the goodies :)
Hello Charlotte from my Jerusalem Israel. How are you? I hope work for you is well as well as your start to 2024. I am happy to introduce myself to you. My name is Jonathan Trauner. I will be 30 in Jerusalem this May 15th 2024. I work as a software algorithms tester at Mobileye in Har Hotzvim Jerusalem Israel. I am a poet and performing artist who loves to sing. I was hit by a huge tall tour bus in the area of Mobileye in Jerusalem Israel on June 18th 2023. I broke my left collarbone in three places. I finished recovering last month in Jerusalem. My dream is to become the first poet and artist with Autism to win a Emmy Grammy Oscar Academy Award and Tony Award in 2025 in Los Angeles and to establish Jerusalem Israels second ever coed acapella singing group The JerusaHymns.
Hii! Thank you for introducing yourself, nice to meet you 😊 that sounds traumatic, I'm glad you've recovered now. Good luck in your journey!
Hey there, the editing was improved in this video; a big thing next would be to try and avoid 'jump cuts'.