I sent a card to Judge Simpson thanking him for what he does and the spirit with which he does it. In return I received a note card "from the chambers of the honorable J. Cedric Simpson "Dear Ms. X, My apologies for not getting back to you sooner. Thank you very much for your kind words. They mean the world to me. God Bless, Hon. J. C---[unintelligible! chicken scratch]" I love him. He's so good.
I feel so bad for the wife, she's doing everything she can to keep her husband at peace with all his challenges and he has a wonderful support system. They should not be forced to move because of what someone else is doing, a little kindness goes a long way here. Love Judge Simpson, he's a class act.
He broke down someone's door. You don't get to do that. It's an extremely difficult situation but do you seriously not get that other people deserve to feel safe as well?
@@DeviceAnathema maybe that neighbor was provoking him that no one else seen and the man with dementia can't tell because maybe he just doesn't remember that. It's sad because this elderly man with dementia is going through something that I'm sure he doesn't understand. You need to get some empathy. Wow. I'm not saying people should be allowed to break down doors. The man has dementia for goodness sakes.
As my dad had dementia I understand the wife’s side. In addition to knowing how dementia works, I also see the neighbors side too. Come at me idc, but if someone was on my property threatening me I would call the cops too but also make sure they are getting help
I can personally relate to the wife. My father has vascular dementia (a form of dementia caused my many small strokes), my mother is his primary caretaker, and I help with things like certain purchases including groceries. He's basically terminal now. Every day is getting more difficult, now he can barely walk even with a walking aid (we're considering buying a wheelchair), his speech tends to be slurred, he can't think straight and I'm thinking he's slowly getting blind. Fortunately, most of our neighbours and the security guards in the neighbourhood have been very supportive.
Feel for you. My mom has some sort of dementia. In her backwoods area where no decent doctor stays, they haven't even determined what it is. I call it the disease of a thousand deaths. It's been a living hell for her and heart wrenching doesn't even come close to seeing her live through this. No one should ever have to live with any mental ailment, it's torture beyond words. Best to you.
My heart goes out to this dear lady and her family. It's tough dealing with a loved one with dementia. I grew up in the Vietnam era so we're about the same age.
Thank you for this update! My grandfather has dementia and has to be in a memory care home with my grandmother (who has no memory issues, but falls a lot). This hits too close to home for me. I feel so bad for him and his wife!
I've had a great grandmother who's dementia was so extreme at the final stage, that she was literally an 80-90 year old baby. I'm not kidding. She literally had to be taken care of like a baby. My maternal grandmother had Alzheimers, and when she once slipped and broke her hip, with surgery done and rehab refusing to take her in because she would have to consent herself but couldn't (and I guess even a power-of-attorney was no good), the whole incident combined with her dementia caused her to eventually die from the effects of a pulmonary embolism, a day before my mother's birthday no less.
@@bundesautobahn7you need to do some research and sort your facts out, yes your great grandmother was not able to give consent, you say a power of attorney wasn't enough? Something in that isn't right, either the POA didn't include, specifically a durable medical POA or that facility didn't take people, for example, that cannot handle their own toilet issues and connected hygiene, my mother indured vascular dementia, very rapid decline, it's tough, get a social worker, an advocate, someone to make sure everyone understands all the moving parts of this
Well, you’re a decent human being. Unlike this family’s neighbor. Who probably moved in a couple years ago, and feels more entitled to his own property and believing that he can bait this man into going back into jail, which is what he did with the flowers. This “victim” is trash. and I’m also disappointed in police who wrote out the charging document
This is one of the many examples why Judge Cedric Simpson is an exceptional judge. He uses just really good empathetic judgment. He is a very understanding judge who looks at everybody’s side and he calls it out the way it is. He’s an exceptional judge. I love watching his hearings. Thank you for sharing this.
I have followed this case and cried at every hearing. I recently lost my husband of 54 yrs to Alzheimer's. There are no words, no way to describe how horrible it is to watch the person you love dearly, your very best friend, go through this. Thankfully I have wonderful, understanding neighbors. My heart goes out to this couple. They were trying to treat this man as a bad man. The MAN is not bad. The DISEASE is bad. The DISEASE does bad things.The MAN is a good man and he doesn't understand what's happening to him. He is scared. Before my husband became really bad he used to say to me "I'm scared". That broke my heart! He was a very strong man, Vietnam Vet, and he was scared and there wasn't a damn thing I could do to alleviate that fear. He was a social person but in the end his friends disappeared one by one because "it was too hard to see him like that". We live in a sad society that wants to lock up old ppl and forget about them. I believe one day, when they are old, they will change their mind on that. I love the way Judge Simpson handled this with the compassion it deserved. I am sending heartfelt love to this couple and to the judge. Unfortunately, this woman has a very long, hard journey ahead of her, it does get worse. Much worse. The love she has for her husband will carry her through. I know that first hand. To the person in the chat saying "that's why there are dementia places", get on your knees and pray that you never find yourself in this position because it can happen to you.
Firstly, I am so very sorry for your loss. 😢. Your comment really touched my heart. To have your husband tell you is was scared, broke me. Your husband is at peace now.
The chatter that commented that "that's what dementia wards are for" ticked me off. so much so that I wrote a long explanation of the realities of dementia and in-facility care then thought better of it. tl;dr I am a Certified Dementia Practitioner. My mother has mid-stage vascular dementia. Dementia decline takes up to 10+ years. Yearly in-facility care is incredibly expensive, the same as the yearly income of a middle class household. Most states and Medicaid are moving away from inpatient to homecare services as the norm because it's cheaper for the state and better for the quality of life of patient.
I wish the neighbor could have been there to present his side. If I had a neighbor who was always yelling at me and banging on my windows, I would be scared! But if I went to court and heard more about this, it would be easy to compromise and come to a solution that would work for both neighbors.
I think majorally ill informed. Seems like he thinks this older gent is doing it on purpose and he isn't. He's probably hallucinating or just acting out (not conciously) after being triggered by noise, which is common.
Sadly, This is the world we live in today. One in which the young generations (Especially Gen Z's) Have ABSOLUTELY ZERO Respect for those that have served this Great Nation. Most of them where NOT even born when the "GWAT" (Global War Against Terrorism) started in late 2001. As a Veteran and Combat Contractor that has served and worked in "Active Combat Zones " in the Middle East and Northern Africa. I've been called everything from a "Murder, Baby Killer, White Supremacist Nazi, War Mongering Fascist Right Pigs. To multiple different slurs associated with being a Infidel" And these where White American Kids that where born in this country and HAVE ZERO RESPECT for those of us that fought,spilled blood, And some that gave the ULTIMATE SACRIFICE. And they will spit in your face and say "You should have been killed, Along with everyone you served there with" These are the same young adults that wore the masks in 2020 that where involved with the BLM movement and riots. How do we know this?? Because they have admitted it, Because they are proud of it. And some even vow that given the right opportunity and the correct leadership in the country. They will rise up and SUPPORT turning this country into a "Socialists Society" in which they believe they will be at the head of the table in. And there first goal is to SILENCE those of us that saw what FASCISM real is. And then support modifing. Or there real goal, Of tearing up the US Constitution. Especially the 2nd Amendment. So we don't have the right or the capability to fight back against a movement like such. And you just got a slight glimpse of the neighbors that want to SILENCE a old Veteran that saw and fought what true FASCISM was, and is.
@@kh7794 I would agree with you if not for the last situation, the prosecutor before definitely has talked to the neighbor “ so-called victim” about this gentleman’s condition. And his answer was then he shouldn’t be allowed in his driveway and he should have to sit in his house all day long. Who the hell says that. When he found out that this man can go in his driveway. He clearly was unhappy and decided he wanted to show the judge that this man was going to break the bond. So what does he do, he put flowers right next to the driveway. Intentionally trying to provoke someone with dementia, and the proof that it was intentional is him calling the police. If my neighbor ripped out all of my flowers, I would be pissed, but I certainly wouldn’t call the police. Especially if I find out my neighbor was ill. But this person already knew his neighbor was ill. This is about being uneducated, this is about a neighbor who is trying to force the caretaker into either moving or removing this man to a care facility. It’s gross what he doing. Because it absolutely is intentional.
Because they want to feel safe in their own home? Really? What's despicable is the lack of mental health resources we have. No one should have to deal with death threats and break-ins, period.
Judge spoke on a beautiful lesson in life. It can be dangerous but each person is different. Do what you can to mitigate the situation. Comes down to respecting this horrible situation. Both of my parents went this way, it was a long Journey and difficult one. Without neighbors and friends, it is impossible. Thank you!
It sounds to me like they need a restraining order against this neighbour!! She should not be having to lose her home of 40 years. She’s literally living in fear.
@@smarttechaddict I agree, but the whole flowers situation is the neighbor trying to provoke this man, I think the judge got it completely right the neighbor was pissed when the court refused to restrict this man to his home. No one should have to be on house confinement when they’re sick.
I would love to know who this awful neighbor is. Why isn't he showing his face. This is awful. This neighbor needs to be helping this man instead of upsetting him. This makes me MAD!! Who doesn't the neighbor MOVE!!
It's all shameful that this man even went to jail. I have no words for how this hurts my heart for this elderly couple. They are the victims, not the neighbor. And Mr. Emmons is very unkept, unprofessional looking.
I am so impressed with Judge Simpson every time I see cases he handles. If I ever get in trouble I'll make sure I go to his jurisdiction. I truly admire him.
CanNOT believe they kept that old man in jail for ANY length of time! Unbelievably disgusting behavior by the prosecutor and police. If I find out who that neighbor is, I’m gonna call every inspection agency out there to check and make sure his garbage is in order.
As a 100% service connected disabled Veteran. My VA is crap. My VA cut my home health care from 40 hours a week to 6 hours a week. My husband has to be my caretaker. After a TBI I have lost quite a few functions, no legs, one arm, and service dogs are not free. I hope this is not my future. From a fighter pilot to power wheelchair.
I have watched my mother and her mother go through dementia and ultimately die from it..... why can't people just leave people alone who have this horrible life altering disease ???
At 14:45 or around about. Pros Jon Emmons says the neighbor said " Just keep him in the home". How utterly disgusting. Lets keep them locked up in their own home so the elderly couple don't have to worry about him. That statement plus what the wife said about all the neighbors including this neighbor knows what's going on with her husband makes me think this neighbor instigated all this. Like Judge Simpson said "there people who have difficulties on our planet and in our society doesn't mean we get to hide them so we feel better." That's why when the neighbor said about keeping him inside first thing I thought was he instigated this because he doesn't want to "deal" with the older man next door. What a horrible person.
And the fact that the DA didn't tell the complainer to shut the f up when he was told that shows the DA's compliance in this entire thing. Or stupidity. One of the two.
@@phobos258 when my fiance saw the pros on the tv he said he looks like an alcoholic 😆 I agreed with him because everytime I've seen him he always looks disheveled & like he is hung over.
I was really hoping the neighbor would be made to appear in person, but the fact they didn't face Judge Simpson to get their ass wringed out makes me slightly grumpled.
Can someone who cares about Emmons tell him he is no longer 13? Dude needs a haircut and for someone to make his tie look like he didn't just come back from a night of drinking.
I've watched many Judge Simpson videos. He is fair and kind man . Prayers for this couple . Dealing with dementia is heartbreaking for all families. The neighbor better pray they never have to deal with it.
I just love Judge Simpson SO much! He is funny, compassionate, stern, balanced, all depending on the situation. He is an example of the best of humankind. ❤
This is not a violence issue. This case is about a neighbor who knows specific things only set this man off and is thus doing it on purpose. He then uses the police and courts which, if I understand some of the regional codes, is nuisance mischief. The neighbor should be charged and held accountable for harassing this poor man and his wife.
@@freeman0048I think he was arrested for breaking the neighbor's window, but I'm not sure of the exact charge, maybe criminal mischief, or something similar.
I took care of my wife who had Alzheimer’s for over ten years and she died at home holding my hand. Before someone talks about doing something with an Alzheimer’s patient they should try to walk in there shoes. It’s easy to say you should do this, or you should do that. You don’t no what it’s like until you live it 24/7.
So tragic! and the lack of empathy from the hateful neighbor AND the prosecutor makes it so much worse, unnecessarily so. TY Judge Simpson for your integrity, compassion, and careful competent administration of the law ... your passion for justice tempered with mercy ... your appreciation of veterans' sacrificial service that permanently impaired their lives ... TY sir, and God bless you!
It’s hard taking care of elderly parents that have dementia…they still look at you like you’re a kid and we would get into arguments over stuff but there is no way I would put them away unless their health needs could be met better. My parents were married over 65 years…and died within months of each other.😢
This Judge is one of a very few that actually believes in a fair and equitable court and gets to the core issues and tries to right the wrongs of the system. One great guy. Pity politicians cannot act in the same way as Judge Simpson and put people first.
More should be done for vulnerable seniors. Some of us rely on our family to help us live from day to day. Some of us live with our children and try to be an asset to them rather than an imposition to their lives. Thank you, judge, for helping us to be treated fairly and to be safe. God bless you.
He does not need to be locked away from life. It seems to me that the neighbor is just trying to cause problems. The neighbor needs to calm down and realize it could happen to him.
My heart goes out to this poor veteran and his wife. He's been through a lot in his life. I wonder if a privacy fence between the driveways would help. I believe a judge could make that call.
I remember seeing this case. Just knowing this prosecutor was the cop that responded and CHARGED this and put this man in jail. Is absolutely pathetic. And sickens me. As a VET my self. I have meet thousands of other VETS just like this man that fought for myself to be able to fight. And for our freedom of liberty and this “neighbor” needs a man that is fully capable of having a good ole boy conversation with him for it to be had. Cause the “neighbor “ in my opinion is a POS
I totally agree about being able to walk in his driveway. Buti also agree the neighbor has a right for a peaceful property accommodation to not be screamed at from an elderly neighbor with potential disruption in the home is their castle. If, the fella can have complete supervision to steer him away from a mental issue that creates chaos in his mind to provide public peace, then ok. But at this current time, that is not available. There has been no suggestion of privately hiring caretakers for this veteran until and unless he is accepted in that care home. This is a sticky wicket.
The wife said the HOA won’t let a fence go up. Why can’t the Veterans attorney file an appeal to the HOA requesting the fence as a reasonable accommodation to a disability? It’s crazy to me how the neighbor is being made out to be the bad guy. Two layers and a Judge and no one thought to challenge the HOA on putting up a fence? And the challenge has to come from the Veterans side of things because it’s the federal law on disability that would over rule the HOA covenants.
Judge Simpson was correct in his determination of the case. I think his neighbor needs to get a grip . I reackon that his neighbor caused most of the trouble in the first place, and would have been trouble for others had this old were not living there.
Placing him in a mental ward for dementia is cruel if he’s not a danger to himself or others. The judge indicated that the neighbor set this poor man up, then complained. Disgusting behavior.
Dementia wards are a living hell and yes, that IS what we do with people like Mr. Pense. Talk to anyone who works in one or has family in one and they will tell you most patients don't get visited purely due to how horrible it is to watch your loved one 1) be locked up 2) forget you 3) not know anything about the world. Many cry and beg for you to take them away and you can't for whatever reason EXCEPT love.
The neighbor should stop harassing this Veteran. This Veteran’s wife should get an order of protection against the a-hole neighbor who is provoking him.
Notice the wife said, WE are moving, we half to, the wife is moving too, here's the thing, caring for someone with dementia is difficult, very, very, very difficult, my mother had vascular dementia, I alone took care of her, my older sister, my older brother did not one to help me, NOT ONE, after 7 years it got so bad she had to go to a memory care facility, I didn't want that but unless you are WEALTHY, RICH, lots, and lots of money you cannot do it alone, I couldn't do it, my sister killed herself 4 years ago, 1 year ago my brother went, they were cowards, everyone is gone now, I'm it, all my family of origin is dead, gone, fck karma
What bothers me (and my husband and I are both US Army veterans with 22 years) is that the Prosecution thinks that it’s a good idea to keep that man off his own DAMN PROPERTY !!!! Please people, try to understand that it’s the NOISE that is getting to him. My husband can’t stand noise, it makes him uncomfortable, jumpy. It’s not easy being a vet with war history (in my beloveds case, multiple wars) the scars, the nightmares. Please, people please try to understand what vets have gone through VOLUNTARILY, for this country, in your place. We both still cry when we sing the national anthem…. do you ? And the sound of taps being played, is a knife in the heart. Not being dramatic, it’s lost friends, watching your brother in arms die as you hold them. Please understand and help a vet.
This touches close to home as I am going through this, to some extent, with my father. While he is not this bad, he does get crotchety more and more. The saving grace is that he is not very mobile, so can only take it out on us. In regards to this case, I truly think that the neighbor is the real cause of ALL of this. I think he is "egging him on" and causing him to respond the way he is. I also bet that if they have to sell the house, he is going to be the first one to try to snap it up. It seems like this may be the motivation. That makes him a slime ball.
The woman’s life will be forever changed if she is forced to sell her home just to keep her husband in a dementia facility. Those businesses strip people of their cash and assets for what is generally sub-par care (10k a month minimum.) It would be better if more in-home programs and services were available to hard working taxpayers before funding the lifestyles of drug addicts. My heart aches for these folks. I hope the complaining neighbors can live on into an uneventful old age in a kinder environment than the one they are hell bent on creating.
IDementia family member here. If the neighbor would be willing to have a bit of training it would sure help and I think the issue would become a non-issue when it comes to him. My mom has dementia. She went through an aggressive stage, most do. However, since then, it has changed for the most part. Noise is still an issue but she has been on a farm silent dead at night for almost 60 years. She had/has delusions. I admire this lady for trying to care for him on her own to keep him at home and it is possible but expensive unless you have a VERY large family willing to swap out. I call dementia the disease of a thousand deaths because you lose them one little bit at a time. It's torture, it's heart wrenching, it's cruel. Learning even just the basics would help a TON. It wouldn't even take much time. Even learning how to interact would help. You don't escalate, you don't correct, you don't argue. Half the time their memories are jumbled, they could be hallucinating and especially with being a Vet. I get both sides but this poor man did not choose this, they DO NOT CHOSE THEIR ACTIONS! He isn't being like that to be a jerk, it's a very complicated condition and for the wee little bit the afflicted may bother us, just imagine what the man who knows fuck all about what's happening to him is going through.
The comments on the screen seemed to both be having a debate as if dementia is a yes / no state. In reality, it’s a great deal more complex than that and there is a vast gray scale at play with dementia that needs to be understood.
We have no extra money to help the vets but we have plenty of extra money to help those enjoying the freedoms they provide. Not to mention the excessive amounts given to people in the country illegally and providing nothing.
If I was the neighbour, I don’t see why I couldn’t accommodate,where possible, this man’s dementia. The idea of calling the police is just so removed from any empathy, it just boils my blood. Let’s be honest, he does not have a huge number of years left, and if that meant that I had to monitor my music playing, banging things, and/or if the coast is clear for using my own driveway, I’d do it where possible. Has this neighbour made any attempt to behave in a compassionate, empathetic way, or has he just played his music or banging about because “it’s my house, I’ll do what I want”.
I sent a card to Judge Simpson thanking him for what he does and the spirit with which he does it. In return I received a note card "from the chambers of the honorable J. Cedric Simpson
"Dear Ms. X, My apologies for not getting back to you sooner. Thank you very much for your kind words. They mean the world to me.
God Bless,
Hon. J. C---[unintelligible! chicken scratch]"
I love him. He's so good.
That is so cool! Thank you for sharing that!
Judge Simpson is the best. He will work with people, has a kind heart and is firm when he has to be to the right individuals. ❤
That's awesome.
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Can you give me the address, as I would like to send a thank you note to him. He gets it..
A huge thank you to Judge Simpson 4 caring for my veteran Brothers and sisters
I feel so bad for the wife, she's doing everything she can to keep her husband at peace with all his challenges and he has a wonderful support system. They should not be forced to move because of what someone else is doing, a little kindness goes a long way here. Love Judge Simpson, he's a class act.
Absolutely LOVE LOVE LOVE judge Simpson! So compassionate, understanding and fair. Such a huge heart. ❤
Omg! This case makes me love Judge Simpson so much more than before. I'm all for elders rights. (Even long before I became one, lol.)❤
This is such a heartbreaking case
I can’t believe this poor man with dementia is having criminal charges!
He broke down someone's door. You don't get to do that. It's an extremely difficult situation but do you seriously not get that other people deserve to feel safe as well?
@@DeviceAnathema maybe that neighbor was provoking him that no one else seen and the man with dementia can't tell because maybe he just doesn't remember that. It's sad because this elderly man with dementia is going through something that I'm sure he doesn't understand. You need to get some empathy. Wow. I'm not saying people should be allowed to break down doors. The man has dementia for goodness sakes.
As my dad had dementia I understand the wife’s side. In addition to knowing how dementia works, I also see the neighbors side too. Come at me idc, but if someone was on my property threatening me I would call the cops too but also make sure they are getting help
Thank you SO MUCH for this update!! I agree with you. Just because one is sick, that does not make one less than human!!
Of course not. It also doesn't make it okay to threaten the lives of others.
I can personally relate to the wife. My father has vascular dementia (a form of dementia caused my many small strokes), my mother is his primary caretaker, and I help with things like certain purchases including groceries. He's basically terminal now. Every day is getting more difficult, now he can barely walk even with a walking aid (we're considering buying a wheelchair), his speech tends to be slurred, he can't think straight and I'm thinking he's slowly getting blind. Fortunately, most of our neighbours and the security guards in the neighbourhood have been very supportive.
Feel for you. My mom has some sort of dementia. In her backwoods area where no decent doctor stays, they haven't even determined what it is. I call it the disease of a thousand deaths. It's been a living hell for her and heart wrenching doesn't even come close to seeing her live through this. No one should ever have to live with any mental ailment, it's torture beyond words. Best to you.
Judge Simpson is a good man
Yes he is.
My heart goes out to this dear lady and her family. It's tough dealing with a loved one with dementia. I grew up in the Vietnam era so we're about the same age.
Thank you for this update! My grandfather has dementia and has to be in a memory care home with my grandmother (who has no memory issues, but falls a lot). This hits too close to home for me. I feel so bad for him and his wife!
I've had a great grandmother who's dementia was so extreme at the final stage, that she was literally an 80-90 year old baby. I'm not kidding. She literally had to be taken care of like a baby.
My maternal grandmother had Alzheimers, and when she once slipped and broke her hip, with surgery done and rehab refusing to take her in because she would have to consent herself but couldn't (and I guess even a power-of-attorney was no good), the whole incident combined with her dementia caused her to eventually die from the effects of a pulmonary embolism, a day before my mother's birthday no less.
@@bundesautobahn7you need to do some research and sort your facts out, yes your great grandmother was not able to give consent, you say a power of attorney wasn't enough? Something in that isn't right, either the POA didn't include, specifically a durable medical POA or that facility didn't take people, for example, that cannot handle their own toilet issues and connected hygiene, my mother indured vascular dementia, very rapid decline, it's tough, get a social worker, an advocate, someone to make sure everyone understands all the moving parts of this
As a neighbor it's called ignore and just let caregivers know. Our neighbor has it and that's what we do. Sure you get yelled at, but oh well.
Well, you’re a decent human being. Unlike this family’s neighbor. Who probably moved in a couple years ago, and feels more entitled to his own property and believing that he can bait this man into going back into jail, which is what he did with the flowers. This “victim” is trash. and I’m also disappointed in police who wrote out the charging document
God forbid this neighbor be considerate while this man waits to get into a facility.
My respect for Judge Simpson has risen to a new high. I’d like to see the neighbor in court too.
This is one of the many examples why Judge Cedric Simpson is an exceptional judge. He uses just really good empathetic judgment. He is a very understanding judge who looks at everybody’s side and he calls it out the way it is. He’s an exceptional judge. I love watching his hearings. Thank you for sharing this.
That neighbor is a piece of garbage.
I'm sorry, that was mean. Garbage didn't deserve that.
I have followed this case and cried at every hearing. I recently lost my husband of 54 yrs to Alzheimer's. There are no words, no way to describe how horrible it is to watch the person you love dearly, your very best friend, go through this. Thankfully I have wonderful, understanding neighbors. My heart goes out to this couple. They were trying to treat this man as a bad man. The MAN is not bad. The DISEASE is bad. The DISEASE does bad things.The MAN is a good man and he doesn't understand what's happening to him. He is scared. Before my husband became really bad he used to say to me "I'm scared". That broke my heart! He was a very strong man, Vietnam Vet, and he was scared and there wasn't a damn thing I could do to alleviate that fear. He was a social person but in the end his friends disappeared one by one because "it was too hard to see him like that". We live in a sad society that wants to lock up old ppl and forget about them. I believe one day, when they are old, they will change their mind on that. I love the way Judge Simpson handled this with the compassion it deserved. I am sending heartfelt love to this couple and to the judge. Unfortunately, this woman has a very long, hard journey ahead of her, it does get worse. Much worse. The love she has for her husband will carry her through. I know that first hand. To the person in the chat saying "that's why there are dementia places", get on your knees and pray that you never find yourself in this position because it can happen to you.
Firstly, I am so very sorry for your loss. 😢. Your comment really touched my heart. To have your husband tell you is was scared, broke me. Your husband is at peace now.
The chatter that commented that "that's what dementia wards are for" ticked me off. so much so that I wrote a long explanation of the realities of dementia and in-facility care then thought better of it. tl;dr I am a Certified Dementia Practitioner. My mother has mid-stage vascular dementia. Dementia decline takes up to 10+ years. Yearly in-facility care is incredibly expensive, the same as the yearly income of a middle class household. Most states and Medicaid are moving away from inpatient to homecare services as the norm because it's cheaper for the state and better for the quality of life of patient.
I wish the neighbor could have been there to present his side. If I had a neighbor who was always yelling at me and banging on my windows, I would be scared! But if I went to court and heard more about this, it would be easy to compromise and come to a solution that would work for both neighbors.
The neighbor is despicable.
I think majorally ill informed. Seems like he thinks this older gent is doing it on purpose and he isn't. He's probably hallucinating or just acting out (not conciously) after being triggered by noise, which is common.
Sadly, This is the world we live in today. One in which the young generations (Especially Gen Z's) Have ABSOLUTELY ZERO Respect for those that have served this Great Nation. Most of them where NOT even born when the "GWAT" (Global War Against Terrorism) started in late 2001. As a Veteran and Combat Contractor that has served and worked in "Active Combat Zones " in the Middle East and Northern Africa. I've been called everything from a "Murder, Baby Killer, White Supremacist Nazi, War Mongering Fascist Right Pigs. To multiple different slurs associated with being a Infidel" And these where White American Kids that where born in this country and HAVE ZERO RESPECT for those of us that fought,spilled blood, And some that gave the ULTIMATE SACRIFICE. And they will spit in your face and say "You should have been killed, Along with everyone you served there with" These are the same young adults that wore the masks in 2020 that where involved with the BLM movement and riots. How do we know this?? Because they have admitted it, Because they are proud of it. And some even vow that given the right opportunity and the correct leadership in the country. They will rise up and SUPPORT turning this country into a "Socialists Society" in which they believe they will be at the head of the table in. And there first goal is to SILENCE those of us that saw what FASCISM real is. And then support modifing. Or there real goal, Of tearing up the US Constitution. Especially the 2nd Amendment. So we don't have the right or the capability to fight back against a movement like such. And you just got a slight glimpse of the neighbors that want to SILENCE a old Veteran that saw and fought what true FASCISM was, and is.
@@kh7794 I would agree with you if not for the last situation, the prosecutor before definitely has talked to the neighbor “ so-called victim” about this gentleman’s condition. And his answer was then he shouldn’t be allowed in his driveway and he should have to sit in his house all day long. Who the hell says that. When he found out that this man can go in his driveway. He clearly was unhappy and decided he wanted to show the judge that this man was going to break the bond. So what does he do, he put flowers right next to the driveway. Intentionally trying to provoke someone with dementia, and the proof that it was intentional is him calling the police. If my neighbor ripped out all of my flowers, I would be pissed, but I certainly wouldn’t call the police. Especially if I find out my neighbor was ill. But this person already knew his neighbor was ill. This is about being uneducated, this is about a neighbor who is trying to force the caretaker into either moving or removing this man to a care facility. It’s gross what he doing. Because it absolutely is intentional.
Because they want to feel safe in their own home? Really? What's despicable is the lack of mental health resources we have. No one should have to deal with death threats and break-ins, period.
Judge spoke on a beautiful lesson in life. It can be dangerous but each person is different. Do what you can to mitigate the situation. Comes down to respecting this horrible situation. Both of my parents went this way, it was a long Journey and difficult one. Without neighbors and friends, it is impossible. Thank you!
Wonderful Judge Simpson ❤
Judge Simpson is the right judge for this case. He has compassion, a true since of justice. Bless him.
As an older person just beginning my journey into beginning law school, Judge Simpson is an amazing inspiration.
It sounds to me like they need a restraining order against this neighbour!! She should not be having to lose her home of 40 years. She’s literally living in fear.
He did break the neighbours ours window. The situation thou is no one fault. It's cruel nature.
@@smarttechaddict I agree, but the whole flowers situation is the neighbor trying to provoke this man, I think the judge got it completely right the neighbor was pissed when the court refused to restrict this man to his home. No one should have to be on house confinement when they’re sick.
@myopinionmatters I totally agree. Providing an ill man is disgusting. I wonder if karma will do the same to him.
I would love to know who this awful neighbor is. Why isn't he showing his face. This is awful. This neighbor needs to be helping this man instead of upsetting him. This makes me MAD!! Who doesn't the neighbor MOVE!!
It's all shameful that this man even went to jail. I have no words for how this hurts my heart for this elderly couple. They are the victims, not the neighbor. And Mr. Emmons is very unkept, unprofessional looking.
I am so impressed with Judge Simpson every time I see cases he handles. If I ever get in trouble I'll make sure I go to his jurisdiction. I truly admire him.
Judge Simpson is a great man.
The neighbor best keep his head on a swivel once other neighbors find out about this!
Mr. EMMONS is making a fool of himself!
The neighbors do know
CanNOT believe they kept that old man in jail for ANY length of time! Unbelievably disgusting behavior by the prosecutor and police. If I find out who that neighbor is, I’m gonna call every inspection agency out there to check and make sure his garbage is in order.
They arrested him for breaking his neighbor’s window.
As a 100% service connected disabled Veteran. My VA is crap. My VA cut my home health care from 40 hours a week to 6 hours a week. My husband has to be my caretaker. After a TBI I have lost quite a few functions, no legs, one arm, and service dogs are not free. I hope this is not my future. From a fighter pilot to power wheelchair.
LOL another Forrest Gump loser vet.
Thank you for serving and I’m so sorry for what you have to endure. My prayers are with you, may God bless you.
I have watched my mother and her mother go through dementia and ultimately die from it..... why can't people just leave people alone who have this horrible life altering disease ???
I live with my 91 year old stepdad and take care of him. I don’t restrict him with anything other than his boys telling him he can’t drive anymore
At 14:45 or around about. Pros Jon Emmons says the neighbor said " Just keep him in the home". How utterly disgusting. Lets keep them locked up in their own home so the elderly couple don't have to worry about him. That statement plus what the wife said about all the neighbors including this neighbor knows what's going on with her husband makes me think this neighbor instigated all this.
Like Judge Simpson said "there people who have difficulties on our planet and in our society doesn't mean we get to hide them so we feel better." That's why when the neighbor said about keeping him inside first thing I thought was he instigated this because he doesn't want to "deal" with the older man next door. What a horrible person.
And the fact that the DA didn't tell the complainer to shut the f up when he was told that shows the DA's compliance in this entire thing. Or stupidity. One of the two.
@@phobos258 when my fiance saw the pros on the tv he said he looks like an alcoholic 😆
I agreed with him because everytime I've seen him he always looks disheveled & like he is hung over.
Once again, supremely glad I can’t see or hear my neighbors. People are not meant to be squished together, spread out and grow your own food, people.
I was really hoping the neighbor would be made to appear in person, but the fact they didn't face Judge Simpson to get their ass wringed out makes me slightly grumpled.
I agree, I would love to see that neighbor in court as well. Imagine Judge Simpson looking at that neighbor and telling him what he thinks.
He didn't want to face the music for what could have been a form of elderly abuse even if he wasn't charged with it.
@@bundesautobahn7 Calling the police when someone breaks your window is not elder abuse.
Go Judge Simpson, his wife has enough to deal with, she can’t be police with her dear husband. Neighbour needs some humanity
Can someone who cares about Emmons tell him he is no longer 13? Dude needs a haircut and for someone to make his tie look like he didn't just come back from a night of drinking.
I've watched many Judge Simpson videos. He is fair and kind man . Prayers for this couple . Dealing with dementia is heartbreaking for all families. The neighbor better pray they never have to deal with it.
I just love Judge Simpson SO much! He is funny, compassionate, stern, balanced, all depending on the situation. He is an example of the best of humankind. ❤
*I wish there were more judges like Judge Simpson!*
This is not a violence issue. This case is about a neighbor who knows specific things only set this man off and is thus doing it on purpose. He then uses the police and courts which, if I understand some of the regional codes, is nuisance mischief. The neighbor should be charged and held accountable for harassing this poor man and his wife.
What was the defendant originally arrested for?
@@freeman0048I think he was arrested for breaking the neighbor's window, but I'm not sure of the exact charge, maybe criminal mischief, or something similar.
God bless Judge Simpson. His wisdom is fortified by his compassion.
~ because they stand on a wall, & they say “not tonight, not on my watch”.
(A Few Good Men)
I took care of my wife who had Alzheimer’s for over ten years and she died at home holding my hand. Before someone talks about doing something with an Alzheimer’s patient they should try to walk in there shoes. It’s easy to say you should do this, or you should do that. You don’t no what it’s like until you live it 24/7.
Thank you. Your videos are always great and your comments are heartwarming.
This is the saddest story I’ve ever heard on this show.❤️🙏😞 God bless them both.
This Judge is a true hero.❤️🙏🇺🇸
So tragic! and the lack of empathy from the hateful neighbor AND the prosecutor makes it so much worse, unnecessarily so. TY Judge Simpson for your integrity, compassion, and careful competent administration of the law ... your passion for justice tempered with mercy ... your appreciation of veterans' sacrificial service that permanently impaired their lives ... TY sir, and God bless you!
It’s hard taking care of elderly parents that have dementia…they still look at you like you’re a kid and we would get into arguments over stuff but there is no way I would put them away unless their health needs could be met better. My parents were married over 65 years…and died within months of each other.😢
JUDGE SIMPSON IS THE MOST COMPASSIONATE HUMAN BEING
Love Judge Simpson!!!!
I love Judge Simpson.
This Judge is one of a very few that actually believes in a fair and equitable court and gets to the core issues and tries to right the wrongs of the system.
One great guy.
Pity politicians cannot act in the same way as Judge Simpson and put people first.
More should be done for vulnerable seniors. Some of us rely on our family to help us live from day to day. Some of us live with our children and try to be an asset to them rather than an imposition to their lives. Thank you, judge, for helping us to be treated fairly and to be safe. God bless you.
Well said!
@ thank you lone wolf!
the da had every option to not charge this.
Judge Simpson is a judicial Saint! God bless this man and watch over him so he may continue to help\change lives.
He does not need to be locked away from life. It seems to me that the neighbor is just trying to cause problems. The neighbor needs to calm down and realize it could happen to him.
My heart goes out to this poor veteran and his wife. He's been through a lot in his life. I wonder if a privacy fence between the driveways would help. I believe a judge could make that call.
I remember seeing this case. Just knowing this prosecutor was the cop that responded and CHARGED this and put this man in jail. Is absolutely pathetic. And sickens me. As a VET my self. I have meet thousands of other VETS just like this man that fought for myself to be able to fight. And for our freedom of liberty and this “neighbor” needs a man that is fully capable of having a good ole boy conversation with him for it to be had. Cause the “neighbor “ in my opinion is a POS
Put a wall of planters along the driveway. Block the view of the neighbors. I agree this judge is compassionate.
I totally agree about being able to walk in his driveway. Buti also agree the neighbor has a right for a peaceful property accommodation to not be screamed at from an elderly neighbor with potential disruption in the home is their castle. If, the fella can have complete supervision to steer him away from a mental issue that creates chaos in his mind to provide public peace, then ok. But at this current time, that is not available. There has been no suggestion of privately hiring caretakers for this veteran until and unless he is accepted in that care home. This is a sticky wicket.
God Bless you Judge Simpson! My prayers are always with you…
There are just times where law and compassion don't work. I'm glad Judge Simpson is doing things his way.
The wife said the HOA won’t let a fence go up. Why can’t the Veterans attorney file an appeal to the HOA requesting the fence as a reasonable accommodation to a disability?
It’s crazy to me how the neighbor is being made out to be the bad guy. Two layers and a Judge and no one thought to challenge the HOA on putting up a fence? And the challenge has to come from the Veterans side of things because it’s the federal law on disability that would over rule the HOA covenants.
If he were my neighbour, I would chat with him and apologise if I had done anything that had upset him. What I wouldn't do is call the police!
Nothing like a good Simpson cry.
Judge Simpson was correct in his determination of the case. I think his neighbor needs to get a grip . I reackon that his neighbor caused most of the trouble in the first place, and would have been trouble for others had this old were not living there.
I am GREATLY THANKFULLY for not not being related to Grigsy!!!! I have deep compassion for his Mother and Father.
Much gratitude LoneWolfUsal! This was a great upload🙏💙
You are so welcome
Placing him in a mental ward for dementia is cruel if he’s not a danger to himself or others. The judge indicated that the neighbor set this poor man up, then complained. Disgusting behavior.
Man i love Judge Simpson, he is a good man and excellent judge, I say he could be a Supreme court Judge
The neighbors forsure pushe and instagated that man
Dementia wards are a living hell and yes, that IS what we do with people like Mr. Pense. Talk to anyone who works in one or has family in one and they will tell you most patients don't get visited purely due to how horrible it is to watch your loved one 1) be locked up 2) forget you 3) not know anything about the world. Many cry and beg for you to take them away and you can't for whatever reason EXCEPT love.
Great judge! Great video i agree!
The neighbor should stop harassing this Veteran. This Veteran’s wife should get an order of protection against the a-hole neighbor who is provoking him.
Don't take away this veterans valor❤
Love Judge Simpson! Thanks for the vid🤩
I just love Judge Simpson.❤
The people that want this poor old man put away better be careful of Karma, she will come get you when you get old.
Notice the wife said, WE are moving, we half to, the wife is moving too, here's the thing, caring for someone with dementia is difficult, very, very, very difficult, my mother had vascular dementia, I alone took care of her, my older sister, my older brother did not one to help me, NOT ONE, after 7 years it got so bad she had to go to a memory care facility, I didn't want that but unless you are WEALTHY, RICH, lots, and lots of money you cannot do it alone, I couldn't do it, my sister killed herself 4 years ago, 1 year ago my brother went, they were cowards, everyone is gone now, I'm it, all my family of origin is dead, gone, fck karma
This is a very intensely sad situation. I hope they’ve all found peace in the resolution
What bothers me (and my husband and I are both US Army veterans with 22 years) is that the Prosecution thinks that it’s a good idea to keep that man off his own DAMN PROPERTY !!!! Please people, try to understand that it’s the NOISE that is getting to him. My husband can’t stand noise, it makes him uncomfortable, jumpy. It’s not easy being a vet with war history (in my beloveds case, multiple wars) the scars, the nightmares. Please, people please try to understand what vets have gone through VOLUNTARILY, for this country, in your place. We both still cry when we sing the national anthem…. do you ? And the sound of taps being played, is a knife in the heart. Not being dramatic, it’s lost friends, watching your brother in arms die as you hold them. Please understand and help a vet.
This touches close to home as I am going through this, to some extent, with my father. While he is not this bad, he does get crotchety more and more. The saving grace is that he is not very mobile, so can only take it out on us. In regards to this case, I truly think that the neighbor is the real cause of ALL of this. I think he is "egging him on" and causing him to respond the way he is. I also bet that if they have to sell the house, he is going to be the first one to try to snap it up. It seems like this may be the motivation. That makes him a slime ball.
The woman’s life will be forever changed if she is forced to sell her home just to keep her husband in a dementia facility. Those businesses strip people of their cash and assets for what is generally sub-par care (10k a month minimum.) It would be better if more in-home programs and services were available to hard working taxpayers before funding the lifestyles of drug addicts.
My heart aches for these folks. I hope the complaining neighbors can live on into an uneventful old age in a kinder environment than the one they are hell bent on creating.
This is a beautiful Judge. (aa)
I am grateful for your last commentary at the close of the court case Lonewolf❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I love Judge Simpson.
I sure wish we had a judge like Simpson where I live.
Instead, we have a judge who is the brother-in-law to the prosecutor
I remember this case. It was pulling on everybody's heartstrings, I believe.
Judge Simpson is such a compationate man.
*compassionate
Grigsy sounds like a piece of work to me. Yes Judge Simpson is an honorable judge.❤❤❤❤
IDementia family member here. If the neighbor would be willing to have a bit of training it would sure help and I think the issue would become a non-issue when it comes to him. My mom has dementia. She went through an aggressive stage, most do. However, since then, it has changed for the most part. Noise is still an issue but she has been on a farm silent dead at night for almost 60 years. She had/has delusions. I admire this lady for trying to care for him on her own to keep him at home and it is possible but expensive unless you have a VERY large family willing to swap out. I call dementia the disease of a thousand deaths because you lose them one little bit at a time. It's torture, it's heart wrenching, it's cruel. Learning even just the basics would help a TON. It wouldn't even take much time. Even learning how to interact would help. You don't escalate, you don't correct, you don't argue. Half the time their memories are jumbled, they could be hallucinating and especially with being a Vet. I get both sides but this poor man did not choose this, they DO NOT CHOSE THEIR ACTIONS! He isn't being like that to be a jerk, it's a very complicated condition and for the wee little bit the afflicted may bother us, just imagine what the man who knows fuck all about what's happening to him is going through.
This veteran's wife is such a beautiful soul.
Sounds like the poor guy has a horrid neighbour!
The comments on the screen seemed to both be having a debate as if dementia is a yes / no state. In reality, it’s a great deal more complex than that and there is a vast gray scale at play with dementia that needs to be understood.
We have no extra money to help the vets but we have plenty of extra money to help those enjoying the freedoms they provide. Not to mention the excessive amounts given to people in the country illegally and providing nothing.
If I was the neighbour, I don’t see why I couldn’t accommodate,where possible, this man’s dementia. The idea of calling the police is just so removed from any empathy, it just boils my blood.
Let’s be honest, he does not have a huge number of years left, and if that meant that I had to monitor my music playing, banging things, and/or if the coast is clear for using my own driveway, I’d do it where possible.
Has this neighbour made any attempt to behave in a compassionate, empathetic way, or has he just played his music or banging about because “it’s my house, I’ll do what I want”.
Judge Simpson is wise and just. I wish our politicians could take notice of his examples
Thank you I’ve been waiting for this hearing ❤
You are so welcome
This made me cry