This is great advice, not just for relationships but for life in general. Thanks Matt! We can't live in fear of the what ifs, just have to trust that we are strong enough to deal with whatever challenges life throws at us.
Yaa its good to date the person , form a judgement and then get into a relationship and start building trust. He says we are responsible for ourselves. We are responsible to make a good judgement for ourselves too before totally trusting. The rest comes later.
This is a massive reality check. The price we pay for Loving someone is the risk of being hurt. You have to be ready to experience the bad along with the good.
If you hurting you are worrying about that someone. If you worry about yourself... You will have the courage to pick yourself up, move on and be happy already. Trust yourself that you can handle it.
We are also responsible to make a good judgement for ourselves. Its our responsibility to get into a relationship only if we have some cues of loyalty, rest the time will tell.
Also, and this is just my point of view, if someone were to cheat on you, would worrying about it really change anything? And even if it miraculously did, do you really wanna be with someone that doesn't cheat on you simply because you're always on top of them making sure that they don't? That just seems like a waste of time and energy on what would most likely be a terrible relationship.
@@rajeevasokan8714 yeah, but what does keeping an eye do? That's exactly what I'm saying. It does nothing and it's a really bad behavior to not trust your partner. Even if you keep an eye, you're gonna stop her from cheating on you? You wanna stay together with her on a technicality? And even if you do, you wanna keep looking over your shoulder and suspicious your whole life?
Exactly! Be like the bird on the branch ,she doesn’t know if that branch is going to break, the bird knows she can fly away. In Love getting hurt ,rejected ,ghosted ,breadcrumbed etc.,is a risk taking to get to the right one. With billions of people on the planet there are a ton of great men and women out there. Release the bad as soon as possible so you can create a space to let in the GOOD!
Yea being a bird you can fall, jump, or bang right into any ole branch at any time. No reason to give a shit about the branch your on. It’s only a branch after all.
I love the way she reacts to love advice. Every time she seems as if it hits her right in the heart in a good way of course. She’s just a compassionate spirit I feel 😂❤
I don’t doubt that I can move on easy enough if I found out I was cheated on….that’s easy. ITS NOT KNOWING and them staying with me that grinds at my thoughts. It’s them not getting caught and keeping me tied to a cheat. I have no issues with moving on, being alone or finding another - it’s never knowing that someone is betraying me whilst I stay loyal that frightens me. I have this fear of being the fool.
This is my worry too. Especially considering that you can even catch an STD from your cheating spouse. Thankfully for me, my wife is the first and only woman I ever had sex with, so if I catch something, I'll know for a fact that she was cheating. But yeah, I'm 10x more afraid of not knowing that I'm being cheated on, than knowing that she wants fo leave me. I'd rather a woman just flat out tell me about a new guy BEFORE she sleeps with him, than for her to sleep with him, then hide it from me for years. That's such a heartless act. It's also unfair because Im sitting here, resisting the urge to hit on other women, meanwhile I could have been working on a replacement this whole time.
The cheating isn't the hang-up for some people. Every person at some point or another will screww up somehow. It is the lack of conscience that is disturbing. To have no guilt, remorse, accountability for actions, and no acceptance of consequences - those are the unforgettable transgressions, not the act that took place while a situation or relationship was compounding stress.
That's the hardest thing I learned from my past relationship. I'm not afraid to walk away now if someone betrays or mistreat me. I've become stronger and fiercer now. It hurts but I can handle it better now unlike before.💪💪
This also comes down to focusing on what others are doing more than what you yourself are doing. It's too easy to get fixated on how someone took longer than you thought to get lunch, to text you back, come home from work and we end up being this unattractive needy person. Allow people to make decisions in their life and allow that to be the determining factor whether or not that person is worthy of being in your life.
Damn I need to start watching this guy’s videos cuz he’s so accurate and so on point about so many things in relationships! As someone who has never dated or been in a relationship before his words are really gold
I'm crying because i am right there with you and this stopped me quite literally from turmoil i have been hurting in and this was the key exact answer i needed to learn!!! Ahhhhh... Released✨👌
I think what I can't trust is dishonesty......if someone stuffs up in a relationship or their feelings change towards us it can be talked about with a big heart to heart...it's sneakiness, lying and lack of openness that escalates things from bad to worst. This can all be avoided by open ,honest communication and forgiveness, also the biggy 'realising every human can drift' 🧚♀️
Yaa dishonest is a cue for me that i will feel mentally insecure in a relationship with the person. And what if they live a lie with u. Dishonest people are most likely to cheat.
This is so True.... We actually just worry about whether to trust someone or not. We should worry about ourselves and how prepared we are to face the worst...
Truth. When someone says they are praying that my son with a chronic illness will be pain free I tell them no. Pray that he has the strength to endure and that I have the strength to help him find his and be his best advocate. Life isn’t just a stable good or bad… it is liquid. Constantly moving through pain and pleasure and joy and disappointment. The key is having the strength to endure and maybe even seeing the benefits in its challenges
Where have you been all my life. Not only do you give the best advice your delivery is genuine. This in turn shows that you really do care if someone is hurting. Also you show how to look at the situation differently..most....maybe I should say many of us need this most of all..it is something that will benefit us in our future as well a the future. You have not only give me great advice but you showed me how to take back my confidence. To feel whole again.God bless you and all you do!
I really needed this!! I’m obsessed with it and I hate myself for it… I wanna be normal. Now this is giving me another point of view! I’ll keep this in mind forever
I used to feel the same way. Then I listen to cardi "becarful" theres a verse that said teach me to be like you so I cannot gaf. That changed my perspective.
❤️ this just resonate so much in my soul...the failure is not taking chances, not getting out there and take a risk, see someone curious about who they are...a unique individual that worth while getting to know...🌻
I struggle so much with jealousy and have massive problems being calm when my bf is going out etc but THIS can ALWAYS comfort me immediately, it is insane. He phrased it perfectly and in a way that truly speaks to me, so inspiring
@@emilyn7572 her name is Lisa Bilyeu, she's the Founder of Women of Impact. Here's that specific talk between them: ruclips.net/video/ny2KL8mYyFE/видео.html
Wow! This made me cry! So enlightening and promotes the inner strength we have that we can expose our hearts again after trauma and heartache, and be strong enough to get through doing this whatever the results may be! And to remember that whatever happens each life lesson makes us stronger and a more wholesome being, and we are on a path to create a pure heart no matter what xxx
That's just powerful beyond words!!!! Worry about your own strength, love for yourself to know when something and someone isn't serving you, to walk away. It just makes me giddy with self-love❤️🔥🌟
I've been trying to figure this out for myself. You put it into words that I completely understand. I'm saving this for the future when I start to get into my head again. Thank you!
I totally understand what you mean. I think that I have been thinking like you that I cannot handle it and I am worrying because I am constantly protecting myself. Also, people constantly judges… But it is my energy and I use it in the best way to protect myself so I can walk even if it is to walk away but the important thing to me is to continue walking.
The only person I trust is myself. Putting faith in another individual is totally out of the picture for me. Some would probably call me bitter or jaded, but I like to think that I'm just smart enough to know not to touch a hot stove after being burned the first time. To each his own 🤷🏽♂️
You'll never be truly happy until you become vulnerable. True happiness does not come without risk. You'll recover. You did it once, you'll do it again.
Mine were 100% correct. He was cheating on me. It was just a guy feeling but after looking at his phone, which I have never done before, I was mortified. I found out yesterday that he cheated on me. I don't know how to handle it and the physical stress is more than I can bear. I am just so confused about my decisions and choices that I need to make.
Exactly!! You said my thoughts right there. I don’t doubt that I can move on easy enough if I found out I was cheated on….that’s easy. ITS NOT KNOWING and them staying with me that grinds at my thoughts. It’s them not getting caught and keeping me tied to a cheat. I have no issues with moving on, being alone or finding another - it’s never knowing that someone is betraying me whilst I stay loyal that frightens me. I have this fear of being the fool.
And that’s the key knowing that at any time you should be able to handle it, and walk away. That way you don’t get too invested in the relationship in the first place. Period.
I love replaying this. I made the same face she did inside my heart! I went DAAAANG!!! hehe makes sense. God's clearly gifted Matthew. I hope he goes to a Reformed church someday. I'd love to see him around, as a human being whose taught me so much!!
This is great advice, not just for relationships but for life in general. Thanks Matt! We can't live in fear of the what ifs, just have to trust that we are strong enough to deal with whatever challenges life throws at us.
Yaa its good to date the person , form a judgement and then get into a relationship and start building trust.
He says we are responsible for ourselves. We are responsible to make a good judgement for ourselves too before totally trusting.
The rest comes later.
YES ❤SELF
Yes. And trust that even if we aren't, our God is✝️
You cannot change the people around you. You can only change yourself.
I can help you to connect to someone who helped me to Attract my husband back to me after separation.
True.
You also cant control what ppl do, you can only control how you react to them.
You can change the people around you. You can’t change a person that doesn’t want to change.
Yes your right norma_gene
You can't change the people around you but you you can change the people around you.
Please read it again. 🙏
This is a massive reality check. The price we pay for Loving someone is the risk of being hurt. You have to be ready to experience the bad along with the good.
"the price we pay for Loving someone is the risk of being hurt"..
Wow that's true.
@@jessicahernandez4176 i am already hurt and reading this makes me more hurt
If you hurting you are worrying about that someone. If you worry about yourself... You will have the courage to pick yourself up, move on and be happy already. Trust yourself that you can handle it.
We are also responsible to make a good judgement for ourselves. Its our responsibility to get into a relationship only if we have some cues of loyalty, rest the time will tell.
Very well said
Also, and this is just my point of view, if someone were to cheat on you, would worrying about it really change anything? And even if it miraculously did, do you really wanna be with someone that doesn't cheat on you simply because you're always on top of them making sure that they don't?
That just seems like a waste of time and energy on what would most likely be a terrible relationship.
agreed
This is true only if you are in a casual relationship..if you wanna have a child and a family, it does matter
@@rajeevasokan8714 how so?
@@tomaspeixinho4447 If you are investing your time and energy on a woman and want to make a family out of her and you will care to keep an eye.
@@rajeevasokan8714 yeah, but what does keeping an eye do? That's exactly what I'm saying. It does nothing and it's a really bad behavior to not trust your partner. Even if you keep an eye, you're gonna stop her from cheating on you? You wanna stay together with her on a technicality? And even if you do, you wanna keep looking over your shoulder and suspicious your whole life?
Exactly! Be like the bird on the branch ,she doesn’t know if that branch is going to break, the bird knows she can fly away. In Love getting hurt ,rejected ,ghosted ,breadcrumbed etc.,is a risk taking to get to the right one. With billions of people on the planet there are a ton of great men and women out there. Release the bad as soon as possible so you can create a space to let in the GOOD!
I love this comment! Thank you 🌟
Wow
Yea being a bird you can fall, jump, or bang right into any ole branch at any time. No reason to give a shit about the branch your on. It’s only a branch after all.
Great analogy
🙏 well said
Amen. I never snooped and when I found out, I left a week later. I love myself❤️ I walked away. And I’m so happy.
This 👏👏👏
How did you find out without ? Did it just come to you?
I love the way she reacts to love advice. Every time she seems as if it hits her right in the heart in a good way of course. She’s just a compassionate spirit I feel 😂❤
Worry is like a rocking chair, it’ll give you something to do but won’t get you anywhere.
Realest shit ive read all day
I don’t doubt that I can move on easy enough if I found out I was cheated on….that’s easy. ITS NOT KNOWING and them staying with me that grinds at my thoughts. It’s them not getting caught and keeping me tied to a cheat. I have no issues with moving on, being alone or finding another - it’s never knowing that someone is betraying me whilst I stay loyal that frightens me. I have this fear of being the fool.
Yep...... I’m with you on that one Mr Z!!!!!!
This is my worry too. Especially considering that you can even catch an STD from your cheating spouse. Thankfully for me, my wife is the first and only woman I ever had sex with, so if I catch something, I'll know for a fact that she was cheating. But yeah, I'm 10x more afraid of not knowing that I'm being cheated on, than knowing that she wants fo leave me. I'd rather a woman just flat out tell me about a new guy BEFORE she sleeps with him, than for her to sleep with him, then hide it from me for years. That's such a heartless act. It's also unfair because Im sitting here, resisting the urge to hit on other women, meanwhile I could have been working on a replacement this whole time.
Exactly, like it might take me a little while to move on, but I'm afraid that I won't know it's happening and I'll stay loyal while she is not
The cheating isn't the hang-up for some people. Every person at some point or another will screww up somehow. It is the lack of conscience that is disturbing. To have no guilt, remorse, accountability for actions, and no acceptance of consequences - those are the unforgettable transgressions, not the act that took place while a situation or relationship was compounding stress.
Like the song says everybody plays the fool sometimes there no exception to the rule
That's the hardest thing I learned from my past relationship. I'm not afraid to walk away now if someone betrays or mistreat me. I've become stronger and fiercer now. It hurts but I can handle it better now unlike before.💪💪
This also comes down to focusing on what others are doing more than what you yourself are doing. It's too easy to get fixated on how someone took longer than you thought to get lunch, to text you back, come home from work and we end up being this unattractive needy person. Allow people to make decisions in their life and allow that to be the determining factor whether or not that person is worthy of being in your life.
I can help you to connect to someone who helped me to Attract my husband back to me after separation.
I Like This
true. at the end of the day, if somebody chooses to dissolve the relationship over impulses, it is their problem. not yours
Best advice ever….trust that I can walk away and get through it! I wish I would have known this decades ago
Damn I need to start watching this guy’s videos cuz he’s so accurate and so on point about so many things in relationships! As someone who has never dated or been in a relationship before his words are really gold
He is married.
@@carmendecker4439 engaged
This hit me like a freight train 😩❤️ needed this wisdom today 🥰
I'm crying because i am right there with you and this stopped me quite literally from turmoil i have been hurting in and this was the key exact answer i needed to learn!!! Ahhhhh... Released✨👌
That last line is my life's motto. Thanks for reinforcing it into my brain.
You are most welcome
Some words can hit you harder than you think... That's the power of words 🤗
I think what I can't trust is dishonesty......if someone stuffs up in a relationship or their feelings change towards us it can be talked about with a big heart to heart...it's sneakiness, lying and lack of openness that escalates things from bad to worst. This can all be avoided by open ,honest communication and forgiveness, also the biggy 'realising every human can drift'
🧚♀️
I can help you to connect to someone who helped me to Attract my husband back to me after separation.
ruclips.net/channel/UCNBYJNWFanoD3xW7Bhlisbg
Exactly! I was in a situation where I knew this person wouldn't cheat but I could notice that he was being dishonest sometimes when meeting friends
Yaa dishonest is a cue for me that i will feel mentally insecure in a relationship with the person. And what if they live a lie with u. Dishonest people are most likely to cheat.
@@aishwaryasoni1542 yep I totally agree
This is so True.... We actually just worry about whether to trust someone or not. We should worry about ourselves and how prepared we are to face the worst...
Yes 100% I do not ever worry about my husband being faithful.Because if that happens it just means it’s time to walk away.
But what if you don’t find out…..before he dies.
@@Emptytopfloor 😨that’s a good point!
i found out after he died..
Truth. When someone says they are praying that my son with a chronic illness will be pain free I tell them no. Pray that he has the strength to endure and that I have the strength to help him find his and be his best advocate.
Life isn’t just a stable good or bad… it is liquid. Constantly moving through pain and pleasure and joy and disappointment.
The key is having the strength to endure and maybe even seeing the benefits in its challenges
Where have you been all my life. Not only do you give the best advice your delivery is genuine. This in turn shows that you really do care if someone is hurting. Also you show how to look at the situation differently..most....maybe I should say many of us need this most of all..it is something that will benefit us in our future as well a the future. You have not only give me great advice but you showed me how to take back my confidence. To feel whole again.God bless you and all you do!
I really needed this!! I’m obsessed with it and I hate myself for it… I wanna be normal. Now this is giving me another point of view! I’ll keep this in mind forever
I’m obsess with it too and I hate it! It drives my partner insane and I don’t blame him for being fed up. I too want to be normal - I feel you ❤🙏🏻
I am right there with you…
I used to feel the same way. Then I listen to cardi "becarful" theres a verse that said teach me to be like you so I cannot gaf. That changed my perspective.
When you accept death you begin to live. 🌱
@watercolor That is soooo true💯
I absolutely LOVE this whole interview, Matt! Kudos to Lisa for bringing you!
I can help you to connect to someone who helped me to Attract my husband back to me after separation.
This is the best answer I've heard
❤️ this just resonate so much in my soul...the failure is not taking chances, not getting out there and take a risk, see someone curious about who they are...a unique individual that worth while getting to know...🌻
I struggle so much with jealousy and have massive problems being calm when my bf is going out etc but THIS can ALWAYS comfort me immediately, it is insane. He phrased it perfectly and in a way that truly speaks to me, so inspiring
I love Lisa's raw reaction!
It had the same mind-blowing effect on me 🤯
I can help you to connect to someone who helped me to Attract my husband back to me after separation.
What's that woman's full name or RUclips, IG info please. Want to see the entire video
@@emilyn7572 her name is Lisa Bilyeu, she's the Founder of Women of Impact. Here's that specific talk between them: ruclips.net/video/ny2KL8mYyFE/видео.html
@@CarlaSophieMar thank you so very much. Have a blessed day
The walk away piece is where everyone gets stuck....your ego actually is the problem. The inner voice telling you you can make it work or fix it
Thank you Matthew. So very true. Needed to be reminded of this.
I can help you to connect to someone who helped me to Attract my husband back to me after separation.
ruclips.net/channel/UCNBYJNWFanoD3xW7Bhlisbg
Wow! This made me cry! So enlightening and promotes the inner strength we have that we can expose our hearts again after trauma and heartache, and be strong enough to get through doing this whatever the results may be! And to remember that whatever happens each life lesson makes us stronger and a more wholesome being, and we are on a path to create a pure heart no matter what xxx
Mind blowing! It's crazy how one sentence from someone can change your perspective.
Matthew you are gold. You know what's up. Keep spreading your word. Don't be a victim, handle it. Best advice ever.
I dealt with this in my younger years. He's right. The worry is what will kill you. Trust !!! Energy can be disbursed in other ways!
Damn I gotta save this video somewhere ♥️ this is golden advice
That's just powerful beyond words!!!! Worry about your own strength, love for yourself to know when something and someone isn't serving you, to walk away. It just makes me giddy with self-love❤️🔥🌟
Best Life changing advice ever in dating! Thank you!! I can move with ease and peace of mind.
I needed 2 hear that! Now im writting it down and put it on my fridge.. so i can read it every day over and over again, cause its so so true
This is the BEST advice you have ever given, Matthew!! ❤ THANK YOU!!
This man is a blessing. ♥️ thank you for all the inspiration Mathew Hussey!
I've been trying to figure this out for myself. You put it into words that I completely understand. I'm saving this for the future when I start to get into my head again. Thank you!
Great advice!!!! I been wasting my time worrying
I can help you to connect to someone who helped me to Attract my husband back to me after separation.
ruclips.net/channel/UCNBYJNWFanoD3xW7Bhlisbg
Wow. This is 100% the right answer. Needed this, timing is crazy right now.
Yes, this is something to think abt. Thk u for pointing this fact out.
Nah I don’t think I’d be able to handle it, emotional pain is worse than physical pain ong
I totally understand what you mean. I think that I have been thinking like you that I cannot handle it and I am worrying because I am constantly protecting myself. Also, people constantly judges…
But it is my energy and I use it in the best way to protect myself so I can walk even if it is to walk away but the important thing to me is to continue walking.
It is
NFS
@@nettyperez7611i am right with what you said
Need to listen to this everyday
The only person I trust is myself. Putting faith in another individual is totally out of the picture for me. Some would probably call me bitter or jaded, but I like to think that I'm just smart enough to know not to touch a hot stove after being burned the first time. To each his own 🤷🏽♂️
Very hard to trust anyone.
We all make mistakes
You'll never be truly happy until you become vulnerable. True happiness does not come without risk. You'll recover. You did it once, you'll do it again.
👌💯
This advice literally changed my life
Mind blown! Putting this on repeat Alllll day!
This is so precious thank you!
I’ve heard of women that were cheated on for 15 years. She regretted not checking up. Her time is gone. Partly because she trusted.
Well said. You're absolutely right.
Love this advice! Worry only about yourself! Trust yourself and your reaction to life's adversities.
I needed this today. Thank you
Between all the videos I have watched these past couple days I think this is the one I needed to come across the most💯
Yes, trust yourself and your own decisions. Great advice!
I can help you to connect to someone who helped me to Attract my husband back to me after separation.
Indah Josiane Stop trolling!!!
So so true. I read something that said "if you have the ability to Love with reckless abandon, you have the ability to walk away if it goes bad."
The only way to find out if you can trust someone is to trust them.
that is something I needed to hear, thank you
Very well explained. Thank you.💛🙏
Every word you say is totally powerfull and truthful 💪✌🏻
That’s true.I spent the majority of my life worrying if He deserves my trust. And finally I got it. OMG thanks.
Just trust your gut feelings, they’re always accurate.
No they aren't
yes they are
I can only speak for myself here. Sometimes my gut is right, but it's been wrong too many times to base a decision solely on that.
Mine were 100% correct. He was cheating on me. It was just a guy feeling but after looking at his phone, which I have never done before, I was mortified. I found out yesterday that he cheated on me. I don't know how to handle it and the physical stress is more than I can bear. I am just so confused about my decisions and choices that I need to make.
@@RavioliytI hope you feel better soon and I hope you've removed that person from your life. I know how it feels.
This showed up timely for me today, thank you for sharing this. I am trying to walk away now, I have allowed him to do to me too many times...
Omg i resonate so accurate💯 with what many are saying on here🥲
You are my favourite relationship coach, when ever I don't pay heed to your advice , situation happen and I am reminded of what you said ❤️
This is probably the single best piece of relationship advice I have ever heard
I needed to hear this. Thank you.
Wow! Trust myself. Trust in my ability to handle things, rather than putting all my trust in another person's ultimate loyalty.
His words shook me. I seriously need to reflect on this.
Matthew,your the king of advice,thank you.
Oh. HECK. NO. NEVER. EXACTLY. RUN. AWAY. AND. DONT. LOOK. BACK. MASSIVE. MESS.
Yes💯 worry only about yourself, observe your own actions and thoughts and motivations. This worrying about another is a rabbit hole
I needed this so so much. Huge
He is brilliant and her reaction is beautiful.
Love yourself give yourself the LOVE so if they do you still have LOVE no matter what
I know I'd be able to handle it... It's the not knowing about it in the first place. Who would tell ya, plenty of people love cheating!
Exactly!! You said my thoughts right there. I don’t doubt that I can move on easy enough if I found out I was cheated on….that’s easy. ITS NOT KNOWING and them staying with me that grinds at my thoughts. It’s them not getting caught and keeping me tied to a cheat. I have no issues with moving on, being alone or finding another - it’s never knowing that someone is betraying me whilst I stay loyal that frightens me. I have this fear of being the fool.
The best piece of advice I've ever heard!
I LOVE THAT!!! I don't worry about if someone will betray me. I trust that I will be able to handle it if they do.❤❤
Thanks Matt. Such powerful message
I will always like this video no matter how many times I see it . Its been life changing advice for me .
I needed to see this. Thank you.
And that’s the key knowing that at any time you should be able to handle it, and walk away. That way you don’t get too invested in the relationship in the first place. Period.
Pointless, waste of energy to worry about.
I like it.....!!👍
Thank you.
OMG Matt...eye candy and damn you are smart! Thank you for validating my belief system! 🙏
If someone cheats it really is all about them and not about you. Say it to yourself over and over again.
True 1000% you are right stay belessed ❤️❤️🙏
Holy Cow! You’ve nailed it!
I needed this. Thanks
Wow… this is huge.. Ugg.. thank you. I’ll never worry about that again.
Definitely needed to hear this.
I love replaying this. I made the same face she did inside my heart! I went DAAAANG!!! hehe makes sense. God's clearly gifted Matthew. I hope he goes to a Reformed church someday. I'd love to see him around, as a human being whose taught me so much!!
I can't say I care if he'd cheat behind my back, feeling disrespected is worse. Actually, I enjoy my own company.
That line man...
Worry only about yourself 🙂🔥
I love you so much, Matthew Hussey
Good advice. You can handle it whether you decide to walk away or mend your relationship. 😊
I really needed this ....thankyou
I already know I'll never be able trust anyone... my trust has been betrayed way to many times. It hurts too much! I know I can't handle it.
I never ever thought of it like this
Great advice
Yes I learned that. It isn’t personal and I won’t take it that way. It’s about how you both feel with each other
Don't get into a strangers car though! 😱 You wait for that bus! ☝️