Podcast Episode #89: Discover if You're a Victim or a Victor! (w/Dr. Trish Leigh)
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- Опубликовано: 21 окт 2024
- In this episode, Dr. Trish Leigh breaks down the difference between a victim and Victor in your own life, and if you've been struggling with chronic illness, attention difficulties, lack of motivation, internet addictions, and more, you are in the right place. There's a simple difference. The victim feels like things happen to them on purpose, that they have little or even no control over, and that it is always everyone else's fault. The victor feels like they can use a skill or develop an attitude or behavior that will improve their position.
Dr. Trish Leigh is a Board Certified Neurofeedback doctor and Brain Health Coach. She works tirelessly, providing Neurofeedback Therapy and Neuro Coaching.
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10 days free of PMO here and I'm enjoying the mental clarity
Nice to hear brother, keep going
I just want to say that this world needs more people like you and, yes, you are a diamond. I wish I knew the things you are trying to teach us earlier. You are so sincere and honest that I had to watch this video till the end despite its length LOL! Keep up the good work..
Dear Dr. Leigh: thank you for what appears to be a great public service.
I think we would all appreciate you doing a video only addressing your fees and sliding scales.
I'm a victor..I destroyed the cycle of abuse before I became a single father and during that time. I try to stay out of the victim mentality because it leads to nothing but bad feelings. I try to make sure that I start off with a positive attitude every day. I am not always successful. I don't want to have anything to do with the internet. I want to be hiking and riding atvs in Utah and Wyoming. Horses too. I miss so many things so much. There's so much to do outdoors there. I'm not happy and I am still struggling with many things. Back injuries. Grief . Being in a season of waiting for several years. I'm blessed. I am making short term and long term goals. I have worked on 15 or 16 movies and some videos. I did that on the side when I was a single father. I'm getting to this point finally. It took several years after my mom, ex girlfriend, best friend, last roommate and dog died within a short period of time. My 1st cousin died here to as his brother was trying desperately to bring him back with CPR.I sat with mom alone as she died. No one was there to hold my hand...but actually Christ was I just didn't know it. I had mold but it's been 112-115 heat index everyday for about 2 weeks and it's not there now..I didn't have it tested but was about to.
Thank-you for sharing your story with us! You are a diamond! 💎
Dr. Trish Lee
The Angel Who is helping thousand of devisor men's ❤
The God gifted angel hat's 👑⛑👒🎩 of you
Thank You for helping fools which are assuming porn is life
Thank You So Much Doctor
I'm Alive Because Of You
❤ You Saved My Life ❤
Your videos are abundant with essential facts which everyone should know , so i aligh with content of your videos. I can perceive your videos without subtitles. Thanks a lot.
Thank God it was gone The large cancerous looking nodual. Amazing Dr. Trish.
Definitely a victor.❤
Doc .. how can I find the well experienced RIGHT doctor for neurofeedback , EMDR and somatic therapy in Connecticut? If you know please guide.
Any content you plan to put out regarding maintaining good air quality in the home? thanks
I want to go do something. Lol...I have to make myself sit here this long. I have faced many kinds of fears. Everything passes. This to shall pass. I'm definitely the Victor. I do not have time to feel sorry for myself. Life is to short. Especially now. I am going to be tested for toxins. From mold etc just to be sure. I can go into every mode in one day. Personal investment is hard work but, unfortunately sometimes it is necessary.
I realized yesterday, or accepted rather, that on some level I'm still waiting for my parent's permission. For them to say it's okay for me to exist. Having always been basically alone and on my own in everything, it was too dissonant. I pushed it to the corner of my mind. How could it be? However after my father died in particular, it is undeniable that I took on a robotic character. With my mother I had to play all roles. Child, friend, father, brother. I rejected her over and over again, ignored her, ignored her calls. I tried to conquer myself through her. You are causing this in me and I need to find a way to change you. Or I have to escape you, or harm you until you go away. She's the kind of person where if you don't do it she'll do it herself and so reckless you know it's just a mattter of time, or something terrible happens and then it's your fault. I was frequently reminded as a child, imagine that was the last thing you said to someone, and then they died thinking you hated them? So it would seem. A sort of parentification, and loosely, spousification.
Now it's all become quite obvious. I was made to feel responsible for them. And they locked it in by divorcing ~3, so losing them totally would be associated with death in the infantile core. You try to conquer them, you submit to them, you reject them, you split your mind to see only what you want to see, it doesn't matter. It's wrong and you're a bad person, you messed it all up. It makes intuitive that the mother can create the problem, but she cannot be part of the solution. If you reject she fears being a bad mother and clings. So you jsut have to separate.
Very shameful. I am ought to tell the others in case it eventually helps them out of the labyrinth, however I have gradually regained the capacity for embarassment and self reflection. A burdensome ability.
You still have beautiful teeth. You are still a beautiful lady. It's obvious that you have taken excellent care of your dental health.
So it's been my lifelong experience that having a normal sexual relationship with anyone requires 1) Having a job, 2) being housed, and 3) having spare cash.
Let's just say for arguments sake, that you're not able to obtain any of these things, not that you don't try. So in this worst-case scenario, are we permitted to masturbate? And if so what is the minimum time we should wait for this? (You once suggested in a normal relationship having sex 2-3 times a week.) So as a suggestion, I would argue that not more than three times that length of time should be minimum. This way normal sexual contact is incentivized, but otherwise not unbearable.
What is your professional stance on this?
Nope!
I'm both and neither, superiority and inferiority complex combined, tending strictly towards the latter these days. I did the "impossible", though it may be that I didn't do it well. It's become apparent that I can't manage the libido at all, there's no basis to establish a gradient. I'm a 30 year old virgin, I lack all fo the experiences a person my age should have, and I lack the core traits which make up a real person. All of the key developmental windows were disrupted. I wasn't supposed to be directly aware of this, I thought things happened and so I have to rebuild, but obviously I can't because those were all systems designed by and for a younger person. That frame is gone. I can't really find a reason to continue or bother to do anything. I cannot connect with the others due to the aformentioned, at best I can roboticly pick their brain and figure out how to aid them in their lives, or do my own thing and keep them all at arm's length or whatever. I experienced physical and psychological for like the last 10 years, then I screwed up and got rid of the systems designed for compartmnetalization and doublethink. The human body generates infrasound, ultrasound, ELF, up to higher frequencies, everything from currents along the skin surface to the circulatory system are generating these alternating fields, and the EEG (obviously). They can all detect it. They don't know it, but they feel it, in the back of their minds. So even if it was possible for something to come out of interacting with them, it's pointless on top of pointless. Tragically I have a naturally magnetic personality, so occasionally I become hypnotized by "the world" or lose focus or whatever, and I'll slip into that groove. Then I notice the effect it has one them, being provided with a mirage, and I flip the switch back in my mind. They immediately detect it, it's so bizarre.
So there is no ability to use the libido. I try to return to prior projects I should have finished but didn't, and everything I try to add is ugly, stupid, lifeless, empty, flat, and boring. It lacks that spark or edge. This must be the libido. Even back then I had lost any conception of victor and victim, they were one, and I could win by losing and lose by winning. Now there's... a void. Nothing. Just words, no feeling. Like looking at a blank wall and that's all you see.
I think something changes from 26-30. One thing I lost was the ability to tap the early childhood core as a power source, things like "no one will ever disappoint me again, I don't need you, I don't need anyone". It's there, but it's not a power source. Doesn't spur or move anything. I suspect, aindependent of the factors that caused it, what I'll just call "late stage virginity" alone causes irreparable damage, or perhaps something more like a degenerative effect, to the mind. Then of course you want to double down and try to now turn THIS into a power source, which I just can't bother with or maintain. There is no bridge back to the world. If you cannot use that "apartness", incompleteness, cannot maintain the inner organization to shield yourself from the awareness and grief and thus offset "emptiness", it will engulf you. I cannot fill my life with other things, therefore, it engulfs.
I think this will be a key element in this world, in the days and years ahead. Well, actually, without intervening to change people themselves, like the remake the very core of man, alter the concept of a person on a biological level, this fact actually spreads and ultimately collapses societies from within. As it should.
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