Parental Alienation - Part 1 of 3: Behaviors of alienating parent, alienated child & harm caused
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- Опубликовано: 9 сен 2022
- Law Office of Kelly Peterson, www.kmpetersonlaw.net/parental-alienation/ (801) 616-3301
This interiview (1 of 3) explains the behaviors of the alienated child and the alienated parent, together with the harm caused to the alienated child. Parts 2 and 3 will explain such aspects as how to prove alienation, judicial myths surrounding alienation, why so many professionals mishandle alienation, and effective remedies a court can fashion to deal with alienation
My childs mother must have watched this video to get all the tactics available, and she has deployed almost all of them!
I have not seen my little girl for more than a year (despite what the court order says).
Parental alienation is very real and very painful. It is like grieving a death over and over, an endless pain that can never be resolved.
I haven't seen mine in 14 years and their grown so there isn't much hope for my situation. It's exactly like experiencing a death of your child over and over! ❤ stay strong and resilient!
There's another concerning issue and that's when a narcissist, controlling Grandmother (who alienated her own child from the Father) alienates her Grandchild from its Mother and keeps the grandchildren from their Mother by lying and manufacturing false scenarios.
I found a similar situation in my ex’s family. PA is generational.
I'm living through this right now
This is my life and it's horrible. I'm so sorry youre going through this
@ygmitch09 me too. Cps empowers psycho grandma's and encourages incest. Very weird. This woman wanted my babies for herself and found a way to do it. That's a psychopathic person who shows no remorse. The only remedy is through the law
Narcissistic people are always triangulating. They never stop triangulating and it carries on forever.
My God, you're describing my experience with my kids. The secret cell phones, the calling my kid all day long, making them go to his house even when it's not his weekend. Kids assaulting me, running away, defiant lying, I'm always the bad parent. My kids hate me now and it's too late. My son will argue with me about the color of the sky! His father tells him about things that happened 10 years before he was born. Blaming me for his drug use, shit like I can make a person use drugs! My ex has been on a narcissistic vengeance for me since he came back in our lives. My son wouldn't acknowledge me as his mother but my ex-husband girlfriend as his stepmother. It's weird bc my son couldn't stand her when he was younger bc she dominated him in conversation. She disrespected my son and I couldn't stop it. My ex made him so afraid hed cry and hide in the closet at 10. I couldn't get a therapist to listen to me. Now they're adults and it too late.
This guy gets it. I just had a stark flashback to seeing my daughter's contact list when she was given a cell phone...listing me by my full name, and listing the stepfather as "Daddy _______." The ex even had herself listed in the phone as "Mommy ________." At the time, I really didn't like it, but I didn't act it on it like I should have. About three years later, daughter was fully alienated...
Wow, he is right on point!! I hope the system is able to recognize the atrocities committed against the child and the alienated parent.
They know it. They know it happens in every case. But it's ignored. It doesn't fit the narrative of the government and makes money for people involved.
The problem is defining what is "good reason." The child feels their reason is good,but often those feelings are based on a delusion that has been imparted on them by a psychologically unstable "prefered" parent. Splitting is a telltale sign. This is excessively damaging and courts andmental health protection MUST take action to protect the child. Judges don't want to disrupt the apple cart. Make no mistake, it IS SEVERE ABUSE.
"child abuse" DOES NOT MATTER until proven by recordings, texts, witnesses, etc.
"Therapists" = pseudo-science QUACKS.
Forget the children, traumatized or happily hateful - Parental Alienation is about KIDNAPPING, denial of PARENTAL RIGHTS. Victimization, or not, comes from the REACTION to adversity, and is not intrinsic to the "abuse."
My children (older teens) became vocal about my monstrosity as Covid lockdown interrupted my diligently followed possessions over ten years since divorced.
I knew they hid doctors names and school ID numbers, and that their DIAGNOSED Personality-Disordered mother probably interrogated them, but CORRECTLY thought the Family Court unlikely to do anything about such trifles.
Boy, was that correct - Courts can't even handle obvious (9 denied possessions?) Contempt of Court, when "child-centric." After proving my case of Contempt, an interview with my four SEVERELY DELUSIONAL ALIENATED teens 13 and 17.9 years old convinced the judge of my monstosity and need for supervised visitaton!
SUPERVISED VISITATION for older teens with cell phones that record audio and video, with friends, driver's licences, knowledge of 911 and how to call someone to come get them, or simply old enough to WALK OUT and find a way "home!"
Paid $1,000 for Court transcript to document the incredible ( yet the Ass. Judgelette obviously found it credible!) amounts of perjury, and when shown during Mediation, that forced her to restore all my parental rights, plus "family reunification" for everyone. (Ass. Judgelette originally did NOT include the DIAGNOSED PERSONALITY DISORDERED Ex, the cause of our family's destruction. He must have believed I made up the story of her Personality Disorder and Meds, or more likely, was prejudiced by "ageism," or simply enjoyed golfing with her lawyer, etc. and I defended myself Pro Se, which insults their special status as arbiters of justice).
Her signiture another lie - "Kids don't want to go to therapy."
NOTHING CHANGED after two years of my successful lawyering!
Timeline:
Covid enabled my DIAGNOSED with Meds prescribed Personality Disordered ex.
An incompetent THETAPIST called Protective services and NEVER talked to me, although 2 CPS cases and one police investigation (accusing me of sexual abuse against my own children!)
ALL THREE investigations closed after ONE interview EACH with me.
This should ONLY be about parent's rights.
Everyone knows about fake allegations of abuse meant to help "erase the Ex.".
In divorce, it has the acronym SAID - Sexual Abuse allegations In Divorce.
Help stop this nonsense!
Put your cart behind the horse, stay in contact with your kids through parenting, and give them some ideological balance, strength, and experience in dealing with life's complexity.
That's our job as PARENTS.
POLICE ENFORCEMENT of all, even the tiny ones, of the Standard Possession ORDERS, with fines, tickets and JAIL (Illinois 3rd denial means jail) will most likely stop EARLY the Alienator's instinct to "erase the Ex."
Without police enforcement of our glovebox doc's ORDERS, we allow arbitrary pseudo-science psychology to influence arbitrary, illogical rulings "in the child's best interest."
Parenting is OUR job, not the Courts, nor the incompetent "therapists" they pimp!
Why psychology is not considered a science?
"Because psychology often does not meet the five basic requirements for a field to be considered scientifically rigorous: clearly defined terminology, quantifiability, highly controlled experimental conditions, reproducibility and, finally, predictability and testability. Scientific American, Aug 13, 2013"
QUACKS
___ Pseudo-science Quacks profitting from damaged families: ___
"Dr." Amy Baker (amatuerish pamphlet "books" sold to lawyers, etc)
"Dr." Richard Warschak, author of "Divorce Poison," (descriptive but useless!) promotes Family Bridges' 3 day (THREE DAYS!) Family Reunification retreats costing more than $15,000 USD, booked OVER A YEAR IN ADVANCE! Super-useless....
"Dr." Childress convinces with an analysis that instinctual parent-bonding among mammals needs extraordinary influences to become damaged, and even hatefull. Yeah, it is Parental Alienation KIDNAPPING, so address the denial of Parental Rights FIRST!
Etc. etc.
SEVERELY Alienated teens probably (check the stats!) most likely may NEVER get over negative delusions about you as the Targeted Parent out of self-defence, to avoid their own guilt, for prolonging a nightmare they could have ended simply by getting into your car.
You want to throw your family to a pseudo-science blinded by USA's sexually repressed, accusatory, hyper-religious and uber-judgemental "local values" of accuse, condemn, and punish - religious concepts mired in our WASP culture?
I pity your children, for you will become party to the abuse, if you keep Parental Alienation "child centric."
Keep psychiatry, and above-all, any "therapists," out of the current antagonistic Family Courts!!
I think what's implied re: 'good reason' is ---- 'without an objectively good reason' (not a subjectively good reason)...or even better, 'without a RATIONAL reason.' When there is zero historical evidence of abuse beyond what is generally acceptable as 'normal parenting' or 'common discipline' etc., the child's outright full rejection of that parent is 'not rational' by any measure, especially when it has been proven that kids who are truly abused (well above and beyond normally-accepted parental discipline) will NOT outright reject such a parent.
I don't disagree with you that the child certainly feels their reasoning is justifiable.... but what the child feels doesn't define what alienation itself is. An experience therapist, judge, lawyer, whoever can look at the issue and objectively determine when a child's rejection of a parent is rational or irrational. If we went by 'what the child feels' then EVERY child at some point would be justified in rejecting a parent. This is why it is absolutely criminal for lawyers and judges --- and people like Samantha Boss, for one ---- to suggest "we always MUST listen to the child." Just no.
ALL of this is exactly what my son is doing against me. He has become a carbon copy of his dad, who abandoned and wanted nothing to do with parenting even before divorce.
My older children was alienated and then came back to me as a pre adult to influence my other children to go against me and then nothing I do or say is value I get alienated now from my grandchildren. It doesn't end..I'm so broken because I just found all this but my relationship with the most important people ever is not there
Thank you for this valuable and eye-opening education. I am truly grateful to watch videos of yours and like yours in order to gain a better understanding as to how to approach when confronted in the appropriate manner.
I am going through this currently with the mother of my children, and I have always torn me up to see how they are being affected in our divorce.
All I can do is my best to be overly patient if that is what it takes as they are still in a fragile and impressionable state of mind. I try and speak positively about her or nothing at all. I do my best to think before I respond.
I do wish I could convey these things to my attorney so she can see that I am being alienated. Unfortunately, it seems to be one of the most taboo topics.
Again thank you for giving me the opportunity to convey what I am going through to the legal system 🙏
You are welcome. If you would a consultation to assist you and/or your attorney in preparation, etc., feel free to reach out.
Oh mine definitely knew what he was doing. He’s a malignant narcissist. He started his campaign before we divorced. He just enjoyed hurting me and like a zombie he was reenacting his traumatic childhood. Never have children with someone until you know precisely what their childhoods were like. If you can get the truth.
This was helpful thank you. Currently dealing with an estranged parent who is accusing me of alienating her. I'm just glad to know I didn't interfere. Although, I would never kick my kid out and not make her feel welcome; I cannot agree with that part.
Estrangement is different than alienation, and is handled differently. These videos are regarding alienation, not estrangement. Feel free to schedule a virtual consultation by contacting my staff. www.kmpetersonlaw.net
This kind of made me hate the other parent as well the other grandparent... this means her mother did this to her now she is doing it to our child, it makes me hate her knowing what she is doing by harming our child its so delusional and disgusting!!!
It was easy for my spouse to do the Alienation of the children as she controlled the finances. I was the one that worked and made the income while she was buying everything fun for the children. At Separation time the children wanted to go with the Abuser for financial gain with the help of the Court system. They took the easy road out with less pain never to learn on their own.
I AM GOING THROUGH EVERYTHING FIGHT NOW THAT WAS ON THIS VIDEO WITH MY 14-YEAR-OLD SON! EVERYTHING! MY WIFE AND I ARE IN A VERY CONTENTIOUS DIVORCE I AM IN AN UPHILL BATTLE WITH HER AND THE FAMILY COURT. I AM ON THE VERGE OF BANKRUPTCY FIGHTING FOR MY SONS! MY YOUNGEST SON, 12, HAS NOT REJECTED ME BUT THEY ARE WORKING ON HM HARD! IT IS TERRIBLE! MY OLDER SON, 14, AND I HAVD A GOOD RELATIONSHIP JUST 20 MONTHS AGO!
If examples of provided along with this video to the Alienators, how do they deny it? Is there any situation where they would stop doing it? My daughter is 18 now. Her grandparents use this fact to keep me away.
THIS IS LIKE THE DEATH OF A CHILD YOU NEVER BURY AND YOU NEVER STOP GRIEVING THEM! THEN YOUR GRANDCHILDREN GET ALIENATED FROM YOU! It's cruel sick abuse!
Hi Kelly.
I need some of the locations of the resources you mention in these 3 videos. Such as the psychological studies you mention, that we may provide to our custody evaluator to help us win our VERY high conflict case from the mother of the child. Could you give me some places to find some of those studies that show the detrimental harm of parental alienation?
Did you find the answer yet on your own?
Do the children say that a target parent threatened them to lie about abuse?
some do
The behaviors he’s describing can also be due to the parents behaviors. I assume he has been never had to try to get a child in a car when the child refuses to get in the car. I’ve literally carried my crying children to the car, they view me as bullying and abandoning them.
Is it Real people ohr do other than I Think it looks like computermanipulated persons❓
This is making me never trust women.
Men do this to women also! My Exhusband did it to me.
This dude is a quack. He contradicts himself. He waters down abuse. He said neglect and abuse can be present and parental alienation simultaneously. Why would a child want to be around their abuser? Abuse IS abuse. He profits from this ignorance and condones abuse.
Weighing in as a “sandwiched” parental alienation (PA) victim…a child alienated from one parent, now the targeted parent. The child doesn’t REALIZE that he is being abused, especially when the abusive parent rewards them with trips to Disney, state parks, the beach; and tickets to major league sporting events, for example. PA is so insidious that the child truly believes that all the crap fed to him by the alienating parent constitutes his own beliefs. It can take decades for said child to uncover the truth, but it must be he who figures it out for himself…he will obstinately refuse to entertain any outside suggestion that his beliefs are not correct. I do think that individual therapy can help to expose the abuse for what it is, and help an alienated child understand what was done to him.
Because they are being abused psychologically. There is not a class on this at age four, or eight. Children are supposed to be able to be children.
Amy Baker (and other experts) Say that abused children have mixed opinions on their abusing parent, but despite that They usually want to be with them, reconnect with them if separated. It may seem counter-intuitive for an adult, but this is how children behave. Think of Stockholm syndrome.
Dig deeper. He is EXACTLY correct. Children choose to be with the controller because they have been conditioned to. The child will lash out at first, but they eventually are brought under the control of the alienator. He is not watering it down, he is calling it abuse.
@@Kemano24No, it’s called manipulation and child abuse.