My Cyber Stalking Experience: How I Discovered It and Sought Help | Women's Online Safety

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  • Опубликовано: 2 дек 2024

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  • @jll826
    @jll826 7 месяцев назад +2

    So sorry this happened to you! Thank you for sharing this information! We go through crazy things as women 😢 you are so strong and brave!

    • @BlancaBota
      @BlancaBota  7 месяцев назад

      It's really unfortunate all that we go through as women. But thank you for your kind words. It truly means a lot. 🩷

  • @carolanne
    @carolanne 7 месяцев назад +3

    That detective who was so dismissive and the department who closed your case and couldn’t do the bare minimum research about the photos should be investigated. Infuriating. I feel like I’ve done more research on guys my friends and I have dated 🤦🏻‍♀️
    The call was disgusting and ugh I’m so sorry this happened to you. I appreciate you sharing your story and please stay safe 🩷

    • @BlancaBota
      @BlancaBota  7 месяцев назад +1

      Yes, it was so frustrating because they did not care at all. I felt defeated. But I took matters into my own hands, and I got a lot more tech savvy since then. If it ever comes to light, I'll have the information I need to move things forward. Also, karma is real, and I believe it will come around.

    • @carolanne
      @carolanne 7 месяцев назад

      @@BlancaBota I can’t even imagine. And I’m so glad you have all the documentation for when the time comes. Karma is so real and I’m sure justice will prevail in the end. You are a fighter and I’m glad you took it into your own hands!

  • @RockinGirlx93
    @RockinGirlx93 6 месяцев назад +3

    Someone definitely should make a document on this case. Everybody should know about this shady site.

    • @BlancaBota
      @BlancaBota  6 месяцев назад +1

      There are so many of these sites.. They need to make better laws cracking down on the 3rd parties that allow this.

  • @brittcoffee913
    @brittcoffee913 7 месяцев назад +3

    The phone call 😡 Unbelievable.

    • @BlancaBota
      @BlancaBota  7 месяцев назад

      Before dealing with the police I had the strength to fight them... But after getting them involved, I felt completely defeated. They treated me as if I was doing adult content and lying about it. It was so demeaning. I never want to experience that again.

  • @shellleven
    @shellleven 7 месяцев назад +1

    This is really sad! I am so sorry you went thru this. Thank you for sharing because I was unaware this could happen. I will share with others. Sending you love & healing 🫶🏻💕🙏🏻

    • @BlancaBota
      @BlancaBota  7 месяцев назад +1

      Thank you for spreading awareness ❤️❤️

  • @Sue212
    @Sue212 Месяц назад

    I think this almost happened to me years ago. I used to make RUclips videos and I stopped when I started getting inappropriate comments on OOTD videos that weren’t even provocative.

  • @SimplyTrinadoll
    @SimplyTrinadoll 7 месяцев назад +4

    The police officer made my blood boil. He wasn't hearing anything you were saying and was just waiting to try and defend his fellow officer. The amount of times he cut you off and accused you of doing this to yourself. My god, this is terrible.

    • @SimplyTrinadoll
      @SimplyTrinadoll 7 месяцев назад

      Ugh when he said "detective Daal With a BIG D" He should be fired!!!!!

    • @BlancaBota
      @BlancaBota  7 месяцев назад

      Yes, hearing the audio again made me cry so much. I haven't heard it in over 2 years. So feeling that all over again made it feel like it was yesterday.

    • @RockinGirlx93
      @RockinGirlx93 6 месяцев назад

      Maybe he is a member of this site

  • @heathersargent289
    @heathersargent289 6 месяцев назад +1

    I'm so sorry u had to deal with that and then the disgrace of that police department. All of those detectives are not professional and a disgrace to sit there and treat a victim like they did you is absurd. U should have started a law suit. I'm feel so bad for what u delt with but u are brave enough to keep going on and starting over .

    • @BlancaBota
      @BlancaBota  5 месяцев назад

      Thank you. I was so overwhelmed, a lawsuite would have just sucked the life out of me.. But I am glad I was able to move forward and not let those perverts and police stop me from enjoying life and doing the things I love.

  • @Cloud-fw4hu
    @Cloud-fw4hu 7 месяцев назад +2

    im so sorry you went through this, this should have been huge news especially for how vile their behavior was towards you. And a few year ago if they had any competence they would know what Photoshop and deepfakes were, I swear by 2016 that was a big topic covered in news media educating the common public on those, so either they knew and didn't care to listen or were severely incompetent, ime it's usually comes across as the 1st when talking with someone who has power over you. again I am so sorry, and I wish you the best.

    • @BlancaBota
      @BlancaBota  7 месяцев назад

      I honestly feel the detective assigned to my case genuinely had no idea. I had to walk him through everything, and he still didn't understand. It seemed like he wanted to be out chasing physical crimes. My case had him in the office on a computer. He hated it once he realized all the links, profiles, and screenshots I had. It was easier to accuse me of lying than sitting down and going through everything.... I kept records of EVERYTHING still to this day.. Honestly, this whole situation made me so much wiser on what I share online and tech savvy.

  • @eileenintoccia1660
    @eileenintoccia1660 7 месяцев назад +4

    What about bringing it to the attention of the media? Sounds like this is a story to be investigated. Also, what about the FBI Not sure if they would be interested or involved in working.

    • @BlancaBota
      @BlancaBota  7 месяцев назад +1

      I reported it to the FBI, but im assuming they have a million reports they have to go thru. And never got to mine.

  • @gutenmorgen9985
    @gutenmorgen9985 7 месяцев назад +1

    Wow thats so sad and infuriating
    :( thanks for sharing

    • @BlancaBota
      @BlancaBota  7 месяцев назад +2

      Yes, it was and still is when I think about it. I am hoping now that a few years have passed. Police are more knowledgeable of what happens to women online. Because if there are 5 million men on one website that does this. Imagine all the women who are victims to their perverted stalking.

  • @evelinevanda9452
    @evelinevanda9452 6 месяцев назад

    I’m so sorry this happens to you.

  • @evelinevanda9452
    @evelinevanda9452 6 месяцев назад

    Can you report this to the District Attorney. This sounds like an SVU episode. Not trying to be funny, but I think you should be able to file a civil suit in some way. So sorry to see the police department do nothing. ❤️

  • @NYCRomez
    @NYCRomez 7 месяцев назад +1

    The screenshots of the websites dedicated to stalking women online are WILD! How is that allowed to be online? They reward each other with medals wtf 😢😢😢

    • @BlancaBota
      @BlancaBota  7 месяцев назад

      You have no idea how bad it actually is. The things they say and do on these sites. I could post it it was too explicit and scary.

    • @BlancaBota
      @BlancaBota  7 месяцев назад

      Couldn't *

    • @robinhoward4204
      @robinhoward4204 7 месяцев назад

      These men have mothers, possibly sisters, wives, girlfriends....or maybe they don't. Charming behaviour - not!

  • @KatM272
    @KatM272 7 месяцев назад

    Starting to listen now… you can see it in your face that it’s still impacting you 😔 damn girl
    These sickos. My god.
    The way the detective was acting you’d think he was part of it. Sheesh. I wonder if a lawyer would’ve been a more effective route. Or maybe a non profit that helps women? How frustrating
    Honestly girl, you might even be able to start your own non profit. You have a lot of insight.
    These officers have such attitude my god. :( are you safe now? What do you do to prevent future issues

    • @BlancaBota
      @BlancaBota  7 месяцев назад

      All the non-profits could do was "give safety tips" and forward me over to the police. I spoke to a few lawyers and one who dealt with similar incidents. She was more focused on suing the websites who were allowing these men to post. It was more about the money for her. When I told her I just wanted these perverts to get caught and stop posting me on those sites. She wasn't interested. I was mentally exhausted and had no intention to try and get money and wanted the men caught and to be left alone.
      When I was helping the girls it was really messing with me. Having to constantly have to go on these sites and see what they were doing to not only me but other girls. I just don't know if I have it in me to put my full-time in doing a non profit.

    • @KatM272
      @KatM272 7 месяцев назад +1

      @@BlancaBota 😩 damn girl. I can sympathize with you, that must have been very frustrating and then Ofcourse a bit traumatic to probably re-live some of this horrible stuff while so kindly helping others. Not easy.
      You’ve opened my eyes tho and I’m sharing ur videos with friends that do post on socials bc I personally don’t really. I hope you’re doing good

    • @BlancaBota
      @BlancaBota  7 месяцев назад

      Thank you for sharing. Women need to be aware. In just the forum I showed you, there were 5 million members.That means 5 million men are online stalking women. And that's just one website. The odds are against us.

  • @SandyDandy12
    @SandyDandy12 7 месяцев назад

    This is absolutely insane. If you didn't provide screenshots and audio, I have to admit this would have been hard to believe. I'm so so sorry you experienced this. Your social media NEVER gave any indication that you would do that. I can't believe the police officer talked to you like that. 😢😢😢

    • @BlancaBota
      @BlancaBota  7 месяцев назад

      I know it's straight out of a movie. At the time, even some of my friends didn't believe me. I just stopped talking to my friends about it because it made them uncomfortable.

  • @pastelpinkappleantlers2512
    @pastelpinkappleantlers2512 7 месяцев назад +1

    Omg im so sorry these things happened to you 🩷😔 I’m new and this showed up on my feed. This is honestly so scary but it kinda reminded me of this video I watched on the channel rotten mango. How these dudes would pay and have access to an online room? And they basically kept these girls hostage even though they technically weren’t? As in they were still out. But they threatened them with nude leaks and stuff. I think the episode was called the doctor? I’m not sure. But true story in Korea (not sure if only there)
    Also when it comes to the family thing I am also on the same page. Just wanted to let you know you aren’t alone 💖 also I wonder if a lawyer can get on your case with the police. That’s so ridiculous

    • @BlancaBota
      @BlancaBota  7 месяцев назад

      Thank you. It took so much out of me, I was severely depressed. I don't even want to try again with lawyers.
      I just pray now that years have passed, law enforcement is more aware that this is real and have more knowledge about the perverts that exist.And now hopefully help girls who ask for help.... They just could not believe that hundreds of men would try and harras a woman online for nudes. I just didn't want to go through the images, profiles, and links I sent them... But I still have everything. All the images, chats, profiles, and vpns of the perverts... If anyone ever actually took my case seriously, it's there to use.

    • @BlancaBota
      @BlancaBota  7 месяцев назад

      I'm sorry to hear you are in the same situation as me with your family. But we can build our own, and what's even better, we actually get to choose ❤❤❤