U know when I didn't know adhd even existed I came across your videos and I just watched a whole bunch and I was mind blown cause I couldn't explain to people for so long u I was like this and it's through your content that I showed evey1 n they finally got explanations of my behavior which I couldn't explain and I am so grateful to u for making this content and I'm sure u helping alot of ppl so keep up the awesome work you are amazing
I need to save this video so I can come back to it next time my ableist AuDHD-denying imposter syndrome internal critic tries to tell me I'm just lazy and weird and forgetful and a terrible procrastrinator. Each of these hit me square between the eyes, with the exception of the notebook doompile, my version of which is years of spreadsheets with very similar names, texts to myself, google docs, note apps (evernote), trello type apps... and the only thing that's worked for me at all is google calendar. Thanks for doing the hard work to get this on youtube! Very validating.
Yes same. For me it is Outlook Calender. As soon as I hear something I already have a reminder in the calender 😂 It works, because it sends reminders. Else gone
good ole impulsivity combined with boredom later. I feel this every time I look at my mountaineering gear (much of it is good for hiking too), Raspberry Pi sets, 3D printer (very expensive paperweight!), rowing machine. But at least I'm collecting things... well, dust, anyway.
When I tell myself I don't need to write something down I know full well that I will forget it, and once the thing I've forgotten inevitably crops again up later I'm always taken back to the moment I told myself I didn't need to write it down lol but I never learn my lesson
"I don't need to write that down..." Heckin' yeah relatable. I too am an AuDHDer and with me, I'll write an important date down, never look at it again and will still remember it, so my brain will be like "hmm, guess we didn't need to write that down after all!" How wrong we were, my brain and I. How wrong we were. Now, I write things down twice, even if the event is tomorrow - once in my phone's notes the moment I hear about it and another time on a giant wall-sized poster board I have in my room where I randomly jot down things just cause. "I'm going to love this forever...this is the one" is my version of your second one plus the notebook one. But yeah, equally relatable. Especially now that I have a SteamDeck. With notebooks, it wasn't until I started thumbing through older ones that a noticed I couldn't remember what I was going to do with said notebook. Every few pages was a random shift in content. So, for my next notebook purchase, I'm going to write a giant title on it and see how long it takes because my next next notebook purchase lol. "I'll just say no next time..." BIG. HECKIN'. RELATE. Hearing you say this made my heart sink into a dark place - in a please-hold-my-hand kind of way. It sucks because in my mind (lol) saying no is so easy. But in real life, for me, my 'yes' sounds like 'yes🙂🙂' and my 'no' or even my 'no thank you' apparently comes off as 'P!SS-OFF-YOU-CVNT-WHY-THE-PHXK-WOULD-I-DO-THAT!?!?'. The people pleasing reflex kicks in because I anticipate that people will ask questions about (and therefore will have a problem or may be unhappy with) my refusal. I'm still working on this one. A therapist I saw once related this to growing up with and around people who would use people like us, especially when we were younger, to emotionally regulate themselves. They would manipulate us with ridicule, rejection, abuse, derision, etc to then conditioning us to trip over ourselves to take responsibility for them feeling inconvenienced, and I think about that every time the time comes for me to give a firm 'no' and stand by it but instead I choke.
@@MollysADHDMayhemThey really are! 😂 Mincing Mockingbird. They are blank and have things like “Diary of a Plant Killer” and “Rude Haikus” on the covers 😂😂
All of them, worst part is if I write it down I don't need to look at it again to be reminded. I am trying more and more to say no, and stick to it, but afterwards feel guilty about saying no and not going to what I was asked/invited to. The only notebook I use is to write down my guitar tabs and actually use it.
In my experience being able to experience important things is a myth lol. I can remember the names of characters on tv shows and movies from when i was a kid lol but not almost anything else lol
U know when I didn't know adhd even existed I came across your videos and I just watched a whole bunch and I was mind blown cause I couldn't explain to people for so long u I was like this and it's through your content that I showed evey1 n they finally got explanations of my behavior which I couldn't explain and I am so grateful to u for making this content and I'm sure u helping alot of ppl so keep up the awesome work you are amazing
I need to save this video so I can come back to it next time my ableist AuDHD-denying imposter syndrome internal critic tries to tell me I'm just lazy and weird and forgetful and a terrible procrastrinator. Each of these hit me square between the eyes, with the exception of the notebook doompile, my version of which is years of spreadsheets with very similar names, texts to myself, google docs, note apps (evernote), trello type apps... and the only thing that's worked for me at all is google calendar. Thanks for doing the hard work to get this on youtube! Very validating.
Yes same. For me it is Outlook Calender. As soon as I hear something I already have a reminder in the calender 😂 It works, because it sends reminders. Else gone
I relate to the buying stuff you don't need all the time mollyxxx
It’s such an annoying thing 😂
@MollysADHDMayhem In morrisons this morning bought more bedding sets what I didn't need molly
good ole impulsivity combined with boredom later. I feel this every time I look at my mountaineering gear (much of it is good for hiking too), Raspberry Pi sets, 3D printer (very expensive paperweight!), rowing machine. But at least I'm collecting things... well, dust, anyway.
@@ryanb398 mine is lego jigsaws books
@@ryanb398 **stares at pair of nunchucks, random pair of cosplay angel wings (i don't even DO cosplay???!?), and package of cotton balls**
When I tell myself I don't need to write something down I know full well that I will forget it, and once the thing I've forgotten inevitably crops again up later I'm always taken back to the moment I told myself I didn't need to write it down lol but I never learn my lesson
"I don't need to write that down..." Heckin' yeah relatable. I too am an AuDHDer and with me, I'll write an important date down, never look at it again and will still remember it, so my brain will be like "hmm, guess we didn't need to write that down after all!" How wrong we were, my brain and I. How wrong we were. Now, I write things down twice, even if the event is tomorrow - once in my phone's notes the moment I hear about it and another time on a giant wall-sized poster board I have in my room where I randomly jot down things just cause.
"I'm going to love this forever...this is the one" is my version of your second one plus the notebook one. But yeah, equally relatable. Especially now that I have a SteamDeck. With notebooks, it wasn't until I started thumbing through older ones that a noticed I couldn't remember what I was going to do with said notebook. Every few pages was a random shift in content. So, for my next notebook purchase, I'm going to write a giant title on it and see how long it takes because my next next notebook purchase lol.
"I'll just say no next time..." BIG. HECKIN'. RELATE. Hearing you say this made my heart sink into a dark place - in a please-hold-my-hand kind of way. It sucks because in my mind (lol) saying no is so easy. But in real life, for me, my 'yes' sounds like 'yes🙂🙂' and my 'no' or even my 'no thank you' apparently comes off as 'P!SS-OFF-YOU-CVNT-WHY-THE-PHXK-WOULD-I-DO-THAT!?!?'. The people pleasing reflex kicks in because I anticipate that people will ask questions about (and therefore will have a problem or may be unhappy with) my refusal. I'm still working on this one. A therapist I saw once related this to growing up with and around people who would use people like us, especially when we were younger, to emotionally regulate themselves. They would manipulate us with ridicule, rejection, abuse, derision, etc to then conditioning us to trip over ourselves to take responsibility for them feeling inconvenienced, and I think about that every time the time comes for me to give a firm 'no' and stand by it but instead I choke.
That’s all so relatable ❤️🫣
Yessssss, 1-6, all the things. I have recently found some notebooks that I actually use though so…. yay😅
They must be some magical notebooks😂
@@MollysADHDMayhemThey really are! 😂 Mincing Mockingbird. They are blank and have things like “Diary of a Plant Killer” and “Rude Haikus” on the covers 😂😂
Wow this is spot on to the t for me
All of them, worst part is if I write it down I don't need to look at it again to be reminded. I am trying more and more to say no, and stick to it, but afterwards feel guilty about saying no and not going to what I was asked/invited to.
The only notebook I use is to write down my guitar tabs and actually use it.
The guilt after saying No can be so overwhelming can’t it!😭
In my experience being able to experience important things is a myth lol. I can remember the names of characters on tv shows and movies from when i was a kid lol but not almost anything else lol
check, check, check .... yeah 🫤
I’m sorry you can relate 🤪
@@MollysADHDMayhem great video tho!