I wish I could say that I feel content. I’ve been married for 14 years. When my husband and I got married either one of us REALLY cared about anything religious. I said I believed in God but I didn’t live for him. So we got married, we have been very happy together, we’ve had our ups and downs but we’ve always been best friends. Back in September I really started taking my salvation seriously and seeking Jesus. But my husband has not. Now I feel so isolated. Even when he’s in the room with me I feel alone in a sense because I can’t relate to him as much as I used to. Watching movies used to be something we loved to do but there is a lot I don’t watch now. We don’t listen to the same music anymore or joke with each other like we used to. In a way I feel like there is this wall between us and I haven’t figured out how to be able to keep that same best friend relationship we used to have. He still loves me and respects me and I him, but things are awkward right now. I worry that I’m the future he might not want to be with me anymore and I would have to let him go and not chase after him. It absolutely breaks my heart. I also worry about his eternity and if he will ever come to Christ. The whole situation has been dragging me down quite a bit. I want to pull my best friend to the other side with me but I can’t.
It's been 2 years since you commented this. I hope you prayed for him and God opened his heart. Hope things are better now. If God chose you and made you serious then it wasn't for nothing. I believe he wants to save your husband too.
Yesss girl. Been married for 4 years and I’m so glad to hear this.😊 the world’s view of marriage is so different than God’s. It’s about loving and laying your life down for the other and for the sake of oneness. It’s not about our feelings and how the other makes us “feel”, like so many people in the world put an emphasis on. 💕thanks for being you, beautiful girl.
You're misunderstanding what she's saying. Yes, marriage may start with a "feeling" of being in love. Which is a nice feeling. But, eventually that feeling wears off, and you eventually learn that love is a choice, not a feeling. It's a choice to choose to remain committed, to be selfless, to be considerate, respectful, etc. Love has to be a choice because feelings are fleeting. And then there are the hard days where your spouse is getting on your last nerve, and you have to choose to love them, even when you feel like you don't like them. Choosing to love your spouse is a choice to remain committed, even when it's hard. I love a line from the movie Fireproof, "you LEAD your heart." You don't follow it. Following your heart is like following Dory. One minute it seems like she knows where she's going, the next she doesn't even remember who you are.
YESS BECCA!! Someone needed to say this! As a young person still in high school, people ask me all the time why I'm not dating right now and the answer is because I need to put Him first! I feel like right now I need to focus on my relationship with Christ before I have a relationship with someone else. I feel like having this view is sort of taboo, but I'm glad that you are enjoying your singleness and making the most out of it. Love you!!
Faith Franklin I love your point of view and I completely agree. I am also young, in high school and I struggle with wanting another guys to give me attention. But thankfully, Jesus is helping me out a lot and the deeper I get in a relationship with Him, the more I realize that other people's attention is worthless, because I already have His.
Best taboo I've heard from this section! God ripens and prepares us for our relationship! He teaches us to forgive and love as He has done to us, the church, so mercifilly and unconditionally. He's all we need! I need to get this down! Amsn!
And yes I was totally that girl alone in my dorm room praying on so many nights in college🙈 I called them my date nights with Jesus. (Which sounds kinda cheesy, but they were so beautiful to me.)
My anxiety has been causing me to struggle lately, and it’s words of encouragement like this that make me remember that in Christ alone, I am whole and loved. Thank you for sharing this!
heykiley I've struggled with anxiety too and what I do when I feel even a reensy bit of worry, I repeat a Bible verse that speaks about peace like 2 Timothy 1:7 and it really helps so I just thought I should share that with you :) You can get through this, girl!!
hi becca , my name is kennedy and i am 13 years old , and you are my inspiration. i love your videos and i want to be just like you lol ! you may not see this but i pray for you all the time and hope one day my heart can be filled with love and kindness like yours. i see this happiness in you that i know is jesus and i want that as well. i have been reading my bible and trying to build my relationship with god ! i have literally watched and liked all of your videos, but basically i look up to so much you are like my online mentor although we don’t know each other lol. overall i love you and keep inspiring girl ! 💕 god bless
THIS WAS THE SWEETEST THING EVER! You are SO sweet!!! Holy cow! Thank you soooooo much, from the bottom of my heart. Praise God...It's all Him in me! I know He has AMAZING plans for how He will use you in your future! Keep seeking Him every single day - He has soo much in store for you and will use you in ways beyond your comprehension! :) You are LOVED girl!
your username suits this comment well! :) this was so nice to read, such a kind message. you really can move mountains with the way you express gratitude!
What you've said is a beautiful truth. Keep striving to have the heart you're showing here. It may not always be there, but you can always keep aiming for it, chasing after it. Chasing after Him. I'm 29, and I still struggle with feeling pulled toward that anxiety that I might mess up God's plan for me if I'm not attractive, charming, godly, or desirable enough. There have been seasons where it's been easier to just enjoy the journey He's had me on and seasons where I've really felt a sense of loss in not having a family yet. Both are okay, and He is present in both. I love the ministry you're doing. Keep it up!
Oh my God, I Just found courage from this channel, I wasn't thought that this kind of person in America, God has some real people in this world who are really lived for him. Thank you Sis! You are blessed!
Great message, Becca! I think many times when people put relationships with others above their relationship with God, it's because they don't realize how amazing our relationship with Him can actually be. I'm a long way from knowing the fullness of what it can become, but what I've discovered so far is incredible. He is so good!
I love your videos. They are soo encouraging. There are so many people, who feel less than and incomplete because they are single, but we should truly cherish are singleness and use it to live for God completely. Jesus makes us whole, he is the living water, he satisfies us, he fills us up. I pray that those watching your video will see who they are in Christ and that they are turly loved by Him. Love you xx
Becca, :) Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic! Allowing myself to feel content and whole in my season of singleness has been very difficult with the transition into college. Your message has reminded me to stop idolizing marriage but to refocus on my relationship with Christ instead. I find myself relentlessly searching and grasping for "The One," but He has been there all along! Jesus is "The One." He is all that I need. 🙌💕 Peace, - Emily
Hi, I’ve recently have been coming across your videos because these couple of months I’ve been watching Christian related videos. This video honestly made me tear up. Throughout my whole life I’ve always been insecure and thought that having a boyfriend would make me feel loved and I wouldn’t be happy because I’m alone. You literally just showed me through your confidence in being a whole person because of Jesus alone is all I need in life. Thank you so much for this beautiful video. Til this day I’m still learning to love Jesus, learn everything I can about him, and love myself. It’s a struggle every single day of my life, but videos like these make me happy and hopeful that I can do it. Thank you 🧡
Dear becca, you might or might not read this. Yeah it's true, In the lowest valley of life we find out He's the One and only "person" we have. Bible, prayer, gospel songs and reading christian books help a lot. Im still going through loneliness, break up etc. Been watching your videos almost everyday. May God bless you and what you do. Im fr indonesia btw.
Man. This video was exactly what I needed today.💛 I feel like I'm at my lowest, and like I've lost everything I cared about. Today specifically God just showed me what a blessing it is to only have Him and to know that He's all I need. I don't know if a video has ever felt so spot on in the timing I watched it. Thank you for speaking God's truth.😊
Hey, thanks for posting this. It really encouraged me in this season I'm in. It's been a season of loneliness since I've moved back home for college and don't really have many friends. Being content in this circumstance of being single and lonely has been hard, but this really encouraged me. I'm definitely going to be meditating on Phil 4 now
Hallelouhaj Becca !I feel motivated and touched by God 's words coming out of your heart !! Thanks fr sharing with me this great message!! May God Blessed you and keep on encouraging one another through Christ alone !!!
Wow... I have seen a lot of your videos and as an orthodox Christian I have to say that based on your argumentation you have an orthodox view of things, to the point that I thought that you are an Orthodox and I clicked on the description to see if you are indeed (but found nothing). Anyway, what you say about the completion of people by God’s Grace is something that can been clearly seen also in the monasticism (hesychasm), practiced since the 4th century A.D., by ascetics like Great Anthony and Great Athanasios. In monasticism people consciously choose to not find „the other half“, but devote their whole lives to Christ instead. In Greece there are many monasteries, I have been until now to four women monasteries which I love so much, and there you can see this joy, love and kindness and light in the eyes of the nuns and the abbess, which is really heart-warming and strengthening. A great book about marriage is the book written by St. Paisios the Athonite (which was a monk himself) with title „Family life“. At this point I have to mention that my parents got to know each other and married through this man, who -through God’s Grace- made a miracle to my parents and revealed to my dad who was the woman he was gonna marry, before they even met each other (my father went to see father Paisios especially for this matter, so that father Paisios would pray for him to find a good woman to marry). When I was 3 years old, I and my whole family went again to visit father Paisios for the last time (just days before he died) in the monastery in Souroti, in Thessaloniki (my hometown, where the grave of St.Paisios also is). That was a true blessing for my family, and more than this the fact that in the recent years (I think 4 or 5 years ago) this man was announced a Saint by the Patriarchate of Constantinople, because he made a lot of miracles to people, even after his death. I am very emotional when it comes to the intercession of saints, because me and my family were blessed to receive their help numerous times on critical moments of our lives. I just want to say this, I am so thankful to God, for He sent to us His Son to bestow upon us the Eternal Life. Christ is Risen, so there is no death anymore. The spiritual world is one and united, the souls live eternal after the death, and God is what holds us to existence. Glory to God for all things.
Becca, tears are pouring down my face as I type because this was just the perfect timing. I felt like you were speaking directly to me in person or something...I was not even trying to find anything like this whatsoever and I had just been crying because I have been emotional lately thinking about the guy I broke up with several months ago and how much I miss what we had before...it just hurts so bad! :( Anyway I JUST happened to see this title and it peaked my curiosity so I clicked on it and what a loud and clear alert of what I needed to hear and what an encouragement. Thank you so much, sister!
FarAwayDistance Amen! Thank you! So true and I even just made a video the other day singing the new Mandisa song Unfinished :D Haha so again perfect timing!
Just started watching your videos and the advice you give in your videos are what i’ve seriously been needing this week. I’m glad there’s still people like you in this world; who are not afraid to speak the truth. Thank u soooo much your videos are so inspiring to me. Keep doing what you do because I know that God will reward you in so many beautiful ways!!✝️💟. Much love from Hollister Ca.💕
When I was 15, I wrote a letter to my friend about this exact subject! I don't agree with the notion that if I experienced romantic love with someone, they would be my 'other half', and when my best friend suggested that I'm her significant other, I had to let her know how I saw things. I don't even believe there is a specific person out there for me, like a predestined person that I can connect with romantically like no one else. it's nice to think that, and maybe I'll find someone special, but love takes time. so I told my friend that I don't think of us as linked halves, but as two cool individuals supporting each other in the name of friendship, growth and love. if things don't work out, it's okay because we want each other to be happy more than we want to be best friends. I understand that relationships require commitment. but I feel like if I sacrifice myself, things will break down slowly because no matter how much love I get from others, which I an genuinely grateful for, it can't replace my love for myself of God's love for me.
Thanks for making this video ! I am single as well and I see these posts that you are talking about all over social media. There are some people who are posting a lot of details whether its snapchat, facebook and instagram and saying that its their other half and in a way worshiping them instead of worshiping God. Being content with yourself and having a relationship with God is so important !
Absolutely. This is what I totally believe. I am content being single, though I do find peace in the fact that God grants the desires of your heart. Growing up I would get dreams of my future. But... recently a lot of the details from those extremely vivid dreams are now even less likely. In my dream, I was with my children and my husband. I was able to walk, that might be a sign, or it might be the fact that when I was getting these dreams nightly, I was not yet diagnosed with a Chronic Illness that is taking a lot of my freedom away from me. Either way, I am content being single, but there is still a burning desire in my heart to fall in love with someone who can help me grow in my faith, and me with them.
Amen! It's interesting that the one place in the New Testament where we ARE each spoken of as "parts" rather than wholes doesn't involve a significant other but our belonging the Church as the Body of Christ (1 Cor 12:12-27). But as Christians this is a body we're already part of in a mystical way, so it's a matter of living out what we already are, not gaining what we're lacking (as in the soulmate example). So the point I'd add to your excellent video would be: the way we can demonstrate to people that they don't need to look to relationships or anything merely earthly for personal fulfillment is by being the sort of communion that embodies and radiates the only love that CAN fulfill. So the Church needs to be a body where people from every conceivable walk of life -- those with "successful" earthly relationships and those who feel like their relationships have failed, or maybe never even got off the ground -- have a home.
💓💓💓💓 My goodness... I've been struggling with this very thing and I've been trying to explain to others why I had to end a relationship and I think it's hard for some to grasp. But I'm so grateful that I'm not the only person who has experienced this. Thank you for the great encouragement! Keep being a blessing! Blessings!
You and your videos are a breath of fresh air. I wish more women were like you and just content in who they are and who God is. You have encouraged my heart, God Bless you richly Sister!
Amen. We are complete in Christ. I’ve had to learn this lesson this past year. Thanks for putting yourself out there and sharing. Thanks and God bless!
Lots of wisdom and knowledge, these types of videos usually seem to be about makeup or some superficial thing but this girl gets on here and preaches; so awesome, keep up the great work👍
I love this so much. I am 21 and have always been single and I don’t see it as an issue. I always know that I’ll love Jesus more no matter what, any thing other than that seems like extra stuff. I would love to get married one day, but if not, I have Jesus and that’s all I need. I’m already fulfilled!
When you said a 17 year old junior who had gone through a breakup a part of me knew I was supposed to hear this message thank you for this video, although I’m a senior not a junior I hit rock bottom recently and I really needed this❤️
So many wonderful truths in this video! Thank you for saying that! Whether I stay single for the rest of my life or get married, I want to live my life for Christ!
wow! this is greatness Becca! Love the honesty and such a needed message! like the song at the end says (nice touch by the way, my favorite hahaha) "What do I have need of? now that I know you Jesus!"
Becca, can you make a video on how to be a complete person? I know it's different for everyone but just general advice on how to be content as an individual would be very helpful 💞
Hi Becca. Found your channel today and i’ve felt so inspired! God bless you for sharing this. I know you re busy but when you get the chance i do have a question ( unless it was answered already somewhere, in that case just point me to the correct link). You mentioned in the video that at one point you hit a rock bottom in your life, i feel like thats where I ve been the past 8 months. The man I thought was my potential husband is engaged to someone else, and most of my friends dont know God and most of them are either engaged, married or in a relationship so its been quite depressing time for me as a single person. How did you get through your toughest and saddest times in live? How long did it take you? What kinds of things did you do to protect your mind from the enemy attacking you? I m trying to have faith that God has a plan for my life but its hard when things are going the opposite way. Any tips and Suggestions would help. Thank You
3:06 i didnt know girls did that haha, thats funny, explains why some of the girls in my church started talking to me, got them bible verses on instagram lol
I love your videos so much! They're so encouraging and I feel like the Lord is doing so much through you. And you inspire me to prioritize my relationship with God and Jesus Christ. 💕
Selloane magakwa If you have accepted Jesus as your Savior, his Spirit (the Holy Spirit) lives in your heart. God uses the Holy Spirit to speak to you through the Bible by revealing scripture passages to you, and the Holy Spirit will convict you about unconfessed sin. I hope this was helpful!
God speaks in all sorts of ways...It's so cool actually!! It can be through reading the Word, through sitting in quiet time with Him, through a friend, through a prophetic word (if you've never heard of that I can totally explain it!), through a sermon you hear, even through a whisper to your heart / a scream to your heart (sometimes that's Him convicting us but definitely not always!) He does it in ways we never expect...and He does it in such a personal way for each of us because we are all wired so differently, but since He made us He knows exactly how to do it & when to do it & what to do in those moments. I hope that helped, I would love to talk more about it with you if you're confused!! OH wait you also asked how - So I read in the Bible for SO many years that God spoke to us in those ways (and I heard about it in church) but never believed it was true. Then when I started to believe...I started hearing from God all of the time. The Bible talks about Him being the God of peace, how He convicts our hearts, how He speaks through prophetic words, etc. all throughout it, and I've seen those things TRULY happen...it's so so so cool.
Becca... Thank you so much. I am learning to her him when He speaks.Quick question... How do you make sure you do not stray away from God during school breaks/ holiday?I am on holiday now and I am afraid to backslide.
I don’t understand this particularly well. I sometimes feel this is true, and really God *should* be enough, but if praying and talking to God was always the way to solve moments of loneliness, then why should we ever do anything else? It’s so much easier to talk to a friend who I can see, touch and feel physically, and feel comforted. Sitting alone at night when I am lonely and depressed never solves the problem. It’s way too easy for us to use “God is enough” as an excuse to not get out, socialize or talk to anyone. Because logically, why would we need to? I want to have friends and social contact. In fact, I really don’t have enough of it and it’s very emotionally and spiritually taxing. Thank you for all of your videos, I’m trying to watch every single one of them.
I don't think the "God is enough," is an excuse to not talk to people. People genuinely feel like their relationship with God keeps them whole, as it should, but that doesn't take away from talking to fellow brothers and sisters in Christ. You should socialize and get to know people and be kind to them and when they ask you why are you the way you are, tell them because of God. Give thanks to him making you in such a unique way that people notice it, but if they don't, don't be so depressed or feeling sad because they aren't your friends because at the end of the day you have God and him within you, should may you feel whole so you don't have to be sad in being alone. I may not be the best at explaining it, but take the disciples or apostles for example, they knew each other and other people in Christ and they certainty did socialize but they didn't take up for their personal relationship with God; they still had that relationship and that was the focus on everything they attempted to do good in or did good in. So I guess the best thing to do is to build a whole relationship with God, so when you have relationships with other people be it friends or someone you love, you are already grounded in the Lord and he will lead you to others also grounded in him and then you all can chat and such. Obviously, there is more to it but I would if I were you, ask God for clarity towards this and make sure your relationship with him is strong, then seek other people with discernment from him to know who will and can be your true friends!
I think I subscribed to you a few months ago and I haven’t watched a video of yours since and I will from this point forth be a regular viewer because I need more people that remind me of how awesome Jesus is
Hey sister in Christ. I love your videos. Well said! This was so on point. I Discovered you a few months back earlier this year. I can't wait to check out the video on waiting until marriage. I too have a video on that topic. Please check out QnA Lifestyle and lets be friends ❤ keeping each other encouraged in the word, bringing others to Christ & working for the kingdom :)
I was feeling it but can't still believe I would ever meet a person who is so strongly believe in jesus like me, everybody around me wanted bad things for me, to take me over from god and jesus, but its not matter what happened, I believe still in jesus and god, you have exactly that feeling like me, like jesus, unconditional strong love. LET ME KNOW, HOW MANY TIMES DO YOU SEE number 33, 333, 300 or 330? ;) I have very strong feeling to meet you and I don't now why, can't explain. Thank you so much for helping others and share and teeling about jesus, bless you
I wish I could say that I feel content. I’ve been married for 14 years. When my husband and I got married either one of us REALLY cared about anything religious. I said I believed in God but I didn’t live for him. So we got married, we have been very happy together, we’ve had our ups and downs but we’ve always been best friends. Back in September I really started taking my salvation seriously and seeking Jesus. But my husband has not. Now I feel so isolated. Even when he’s in the room with me I feel alone in a sense because I can’t relate to him as much as I used to. Watching movies used to be something we loved to do but there is a lot I don’t watch now. We don’t listen to the same music anymore or joke with each other like we used to. In a way I feel like there is this wall between us and I haven’t figured out how to be able to keep that same best friend relationship we used to have. He still loves me and respects me and I him, but things are awkward right now. I worry that I’m the future he might not want to be with me anymore and I would have to let him go and not chase after him. It absolutely breaks my heart. I also worry about his eternity and if he will ever come to Christ. The whole situation has been dragging me down quite a bit. I want to pull my best friend to the other side with me but I can’t.
Hello! I hope you're doing alright, fasting and prayer help me through the most hopeless and toughest of situations!
It's been 2 years since you commented this. I hope you prayed for him and God opened his heart. Hope things are better now. If God chose you and made you serious then it wasn't for nothing. I believe he wants to save your husband too.
Yesss girl. Been married for 4 years and I’m so glad to hear this.😊 the world’s view of marriage is so different than God’s. It’s about loving and laying your life down for the other and for the sake of oneness. It’s not about our feelings and how the other makes us “feel”, like so many people in the world put an emphasis on. 💕thanks for being you, beautiful girl.
You're misunderstanding what she's saying. Yes, marriage may start with a "feeling" of being in love. Which is a nice feeling. But, eventually that feeling wears off, and you eventually learn that love is a choice, not a feeling. It's a choice to choose to remain committed, to be selfless, to be considerate, respectful, etc. Love has to be a choice because feelings are fleeting. And then there are the hard days where your spouse is getting on your last nerve, and you have to choose to love them, even when you feel like you don't like them. Choosing to love your spouse is a choice to remain committed, even when it's hard. I love a line from the movie Fireproof, "you LEAD your heart." You don't follow it. Following your heart is like following Dory. One minute it seems like she knows where she's going, the next she doesn't even remember who you are.
YESS BECCA!! Someone needed to say this! As a young person still in high school, people ask me all the time why I'm not dating right now and the answer is because I need to put Him first! I feel like right now I need to focus on my relationship with Christ before I have a relationship with someone else. I feel like having this view is sort of taboo, but I'm glad that you are enjoying your singleness and making the most out of it. Love you!!
Faith Franklin I love your point of view and I completely agree. I am also young, in high school and I struggle with wanting another guys to give me attention. But thankfully, Jesus is helping me out a lot and the deeper I get in a relationship with Him, the more I realize that other people's attention is worthless, because I already have His.
Christina Dimidenko wow God is so good! I love how when you trust in Him and cast your burdens on Him, things seem to get easier! :)
Best taboo I've heard from this section! God ripens and prepares us for our relationship! He teaches us to forgive and love as He has done to us, the church, so mercifilly and unconditionally. He's all we need! I need to get this down! Amsn!
Amen! 🙏🏿❣️👌🏿👏🤓
I had no idea that's where the idea of "finding your other half" came from! And I loved how you said you can be a whole person even while single 🙌😍
And yes I was totally that girl alone in my dorm room praying on so many nights in college🙈 I called them my date nights with Jesus. (Which sounds kinda cheesy, but they were so beautiful to me.)
My anxiety has been causing me to struggle lately, and it’s words of encouragement like this that make me remember that in Christ alone, I am whole and loved. Thank you for sharing this!
This video IS really encouraging :)
heykiley Christ is with you always. Believe that and you'll be okay.
heykiley I've struggled with anxiety too and what I do when I feel even a reensy bit of worry, I repeat a Bible verse that speaks about peace like 2 Timothy 1:7 and it really helps so I just thought I should share that with you :) You can get through this, girl!!
Amen!
heykiley God brings you where you need to be!
hi becca , my name is kennedy and i am 13 years old , and you are my inspiration. i love your videos and i want to be just like you lol ! you may not see this but i pray for you all the time and hope one day my heart can be filled with love and kindness like yours. i see this happiness in you that i know is jesus and i want that as well. i have been reading my bible and trying to build my relationship with god ! i have literally watched and liked all of your videos, but basically i look up to so much you are like my online mentor although we don’t know each other lol. overall i love you and keep inspiring girl ! 💕 god bless
THIS WAS THE SWEETEST THING EVER! You are SO sweet!!! Holy cow! Thank you soooooo much, from the bottom of my heart. Praise God...It's all Him in me! I know He has AMAZING plans for how He will use you in your future! Keep seeking Him every single day - He has soo much in store for you and will use you in ways beyond your comprehension! :) You are LOVED girl!
FarAwayDistance thank you so much omg i’m freaking out !!! ❤️
Aw I love this comment.❤️
That's so sweet! God bless you! :)
your username suits this comment well! :) this was so nice to read, such a kind message. you really can move mountains with the way you express gratitude!
You make some great points! God's made us whole through Christ, and so we don't need another imperfect person to complete us.
thank you, thank you, thank you. just what I needed to hear. ❤️
What you've said is a beautiful truth. Keep striving to have the heart you're showing here. It may not always be there, but you can always keep aiming for it, chasing after it. Chasing after Him. I'm 29, and I still struggle with feeling pulled toward that anxiety that I might mess up God's plan for me if I'm not attractive, charming, godly, or desirable enough. There have been seasons where it's been easier to just enjoy the journey He's had me on and seasons where I've really felt a sense of loss in not having a family yet. Both are okay, and He is present in both. I love the ministry you're doing. Keep it up!
His grace is sufficient for me😍 he makes me whole😍
Amen.
Amen! I agree!
Oh my God, I Just found courage from this channel, I wasn't thought that this kind of person in America, God has some real people in this world who are really lived for him. Thank you Sis! You are blessed!
Yes! I'm complete in Jesus
A partner is just a complement.
Great message, Becca! I think many times when people put relationships with others above their relationship with God, it's because they don't realize how amazing our relationship with Him can actually be. I'm a long way from knowing the fullness of what it can become, but what I've discovered so far is incredible. He is so good!
I love your videos. They are soo encouraging. There are so many people, who feel less than and incomplete because they are single, but we should truly cherish are singleness and use it to live for God completely. Jesus makes us whole, he is the living water, he satisfies us, he fills us up. I pray that those watching your video will see who they are in Christ and that they are turly loved by Him.
Love you xx
So glad you posted this. I really love everything you post. You are amazing
Becca, :)
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic!
Allowing myself to feel content and whole in my season of singleness has been very difficult with the transition into college. Your message has reminded me to stop idolizing marriage but to refocus on my relationship with Christ instead. I find myself relentlessly searching and grasping for "The One," but He has been there all along! Jesus is "The One." He is all that I need. 🙌💕
Peace,
- Emily
Hi, I’ve recently have been coming across your videos because these couple of months I’ve been watching Christian related videos. This video honestly made me tear up. Throughout my whole life I’ve always been insecure and thought that having a boyfriend would make me feel loved and I wouldn’t be happy because I’m alone. You literally just showed me through your confidence in being a whole person because of Jesus alone is all I need in life. Thank you so much for this beautiful video. Til this day I’m still learning to love Jesus, learn everything I can about him, and love myself. It’s a struggle every single day of my life, but videos like these make me happy and hopeful that I can do it. Thank you 🧡
You are so welcome girl! :) Love you!
Dear becca, you might or might not read this. Yeah it's true, In the lowest valley of life we find out He's the One and only "person" we have. Bible, prayer, gospel songs and reading christian books help a lot. Im still going through loneliness, break up etc. Been watching your videos almost everyday. May God bless you and what you do. Im fr indonesia btw.
Man. This video was exactly what I needed today.💛 I feel like I'm at my lowest, and like I've lost everything I cared about. Today specifically God just showed me what a blessing it is to only have Him and to know that He's all I need. I don't know if a video has ever felt so spot on in the timing I watched it. Thank you for speaking God's truth.😊
Hey, thanks for posting this. It really encouraged me in this season I'm in. It's been a season of loneliness since I've moved back home for college and don't really have many friends. Being content in this circumstance of being single and lonely has been hard, but this really encouraged me. I'm definitely going to be meditating on Phil 4 now
Concur. And I am absolutely loving Upper Room Dallas. Praise the Lord.
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This girl is so lit! I like the end when that song comes on by upper room worship! Praise God
You are so encouraging. This video is going to help so many people, and you sharing your experiences is truly awesome
Much love for you, dear sister! God is changing people through you.
Hallelouhaj Becca !I feel motivated and touched by God 's words coming out of your heart !! Thanks fr sharing with me this great message!! May God Blessed you and keep on encouraging one another through Christ alone !!!
Wow... I have seen a lot of your videos and as an orthodox Christian I have to say that based on your argumentation you have an orthodox view of things, to the point that I thought that you are an Orthodox and I clicked on the description to see if you are indeed (but found nothing). Anyway, what you say about the completion of people by God’s Grace is something that can been clearly seen also in the monasticism (hesychasm), practiced since the 4th century A.D., by ascetics like Great Anthony and Great Athanasios. In monasticism people consciously choose to not find „the other half“, but devote their whole lives to Christ instead. In Greece there are many monasteries, I have been until now to four women monasteries which I love so much, and there you can see this joy, love and kindness and light in the eyes of the nuns and the abbess, which is really heart-warming and strengthening. A great book about marriage is the book written by St. Paisios the Athonite (which was a monk himself) with title „Family life“. At this point I have to mention that my parents got to know each other and married through this man, who -through God’s Grace- made a miracle to my parents and revealed to my dad who was the woman he was gonna marry, before they even met each other (my father went to see father Paisios especially for this matter, so that father Paisios would pray for him to find a good woman to marry). When I was 3 years old, I and my whole family went again to visit father Paisios for the last time (just days before he died) in the monastery in Souroti, in Thessaloniki (my hometown, where the grave of St.Paisios also is). That was a true blessing for my family, and more than this the fact that in the recent years (I think 4 or 5 years ago) this man was announced a Saint by the Patriarchate of Constantinople, because he made a lot of miracles to people, even after his death. I am very emotional when it comes to the intercession of saints, because me and my family were blessed to receive their help numerous times on critical moments of our lives. I just want to say this, I am so thankful to God, for He sent to us His Son to bestow upon us the Eternal Life. Christ is Risen, so there is no death anymore. The spiritual world is one and united, the souls live eternal after the death, and God is what holds us to existence. Glory to God for all things.
Becca, tears are pouring down my face as I type because this was just the perfect timing. I felt like you were speaking directly to me in person or something...I was not even trying to find anything like this whatsoever and I had just been crying because I have been emotional lately thinking about the guy I broke up with several months ago and how much I miss what we had before...it just hurts so bad! :( Anyway I JUST happened to see this title and it peaked my curiosity so I clicked on it and what a loud and clear alert of what I needed to hear and what an encouragement. Thank you so much, sister!
Aww wow...thank You Jesus for Your timing...I'm so sorry to hear about your breakup, but so thankful this video came at the right time for you
FarAwayDistance Amen! Thank you! So true and I even just made a video the other day singing the new Mandisa song Unfinished :D Haha so again perfect timing!
Just started watching your videos and the advice you give in your videos are what i’ve seriously been needing this week. I’m glad there’s still people like you in this world; who are not afraid to speak the truth. Thank u soooo much your videos are so inspiring to me. Keep doing what you do because I know that God will reward you in so many beautiful ways!!✝️💟. Much love from Hollister Ca.💕
When I was 15, I wrote a letter to my friend about this exact subject! I don't agree with the notion that if I experienced romantic love with someone, they would be my 'other half', and when my best friend suggested that I'm her significant other, I had to let her know how I saw things. I don't even believe there is a specific person out there for me, like a predestined person that I can connect with romantically like no one else. it's nice to think that, and maybe I'll find someone special, but love takes time. so I told my friend that I don't think of us as linked halves, but as two cool individuals supporting each other in the name of friendship, growth and love. if things don't work out, it's okay because we want each other to be happy more than we want to be best friends.
I understand that relationships require commitment. but I feel like if I sacrifice myself, things will break down slowly because no matter how much love I get from others, which I an genuinely grateful for, it can't replace my love for myself of God's love for me.
I don’t know how I found your channel but I’m so happy I did!
Loved this video, thank you for sticking with the truth of God's Word. God is doing great things through your channel!
Thanks for making this video ! I am single as well and I see these posts that you are talking
about all over social media. There are some people who are posting a lot of details whether its snapchat, facebook and instagram and saying that its their other half and in a way worshiping them instead of worshiping God. Being content with yourself and having a relationship with God is so important !
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such a beautiful and honest message. you did well sis.
Absolutely. This is what I totally believe. I am content being single, though I do find peace in the fact that God grants the desires of your heart. Growing up I would get dreams of my future. But... recently a lot of the details from those extremely vivid dreams are now even less likely. In my dream, I was with my children and my husband. I was able to walk, that might be a sign, or it might be the fact that when I was getting these dreams nightly, I was not yet diagnosed with a Chronic Illness that is taking a lot of my freedom away from me. Either way, I am content being single, but there is still a burning desire in my heart to fall in love with someone who can help me grow in my faith, and me with them.
Great video!!! Great shirt too!
djvunashamed Thanks I just got it hehe
Amen! It's interesting that the one place in the New Testament where we ARE each spoken of as "parts" rather than wholes doesn't involve a significant other but our belonging the Church as the Body of Christ (1 Cor 12:12-27). But as Christians this is a body we're already part of in a mystical way, so it's a matter of living out what we already are, not gaining what we're lacking (as in the soulmate example). So the point I'd add to your excellent video would be: the way we can demonstrate to people that they don't need to look to relationships or anything merely earthly for personal fulfillment is by being the sort of communion that embodies and radiates the only love that CAN fulfill. So the Church needs to be a body where people from every conceivable walk of life -- those with "successful" earthly relationships and those who feel like their relationships have failed, or maybe never even got off the ground -- have a home.
💓💓💓💓 My goodness... I've been struggling with this very thing and I've been trying to explain to others why I had to end a relationship and I think it's hard for some to grasp. But I'm so grateful that I'm not the only person who has experienced this. Thank you for the great encouragement! Keep being a blessing! Blessings!
WOW! That was incredible! I needed to hear that and I'm so glad God is using you to share this message :)
You and your videos are a breath of fresh air. I wish more women were like you and just content in who they are and who God is. You have encouraged my heart, God Bless you richly Sister!
Amen. We are complete in Christ. I’ve had to learn this lesson this past year. Thanks for putting yourself out there and sharing. Thanks and God bless!
I was talking about not feeling whole last night. This was exactly what I needed to hear.
Yes! Thank you so many people have tried explaining this to me, and I didn’t get it until now, thank you! Keep doing God’s work!
Your videos are always right on time for me! Thanks!
“I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength” preach ❤️
Lots of wisdom and knowledge, these types of videos usually seem to be about makeup or some superficial thing but this girl gets on here and preaches; so awesome, keep up the great work👍
Thank you!!!
Lovely message for single people!
This seriously made me cry. Thank you so much. May God bless you!
God bless you as well
I love this so much. I am 21 and have always been single and I don’t see it as an issue. I always know that I’ll love Jesus more no matter what, any thing other than that seems like extra stuff. I would love to get married one day, but if not, I have Jesus and that’s all I need. I’m already fulfilled!
When you said a 17 year old junior who had gone through a breakup a part of me knew I was supposed to hear this message thank you for this video, although I’m a senior not a junior I hit rock bottom recently and I really needed this❤️
Becca you’re such a breathe of fresh air , I love you and your videos 😘
Loved this video :) I really needed to hear this!
Needed this, you are a beautiful sister in Christ. So much love for you❤️
So many wonderful truths in this video! Thank you for saying that! Whether I stay single for the rest of my life or get married, I want to live my life for Christ!
Yo thanks so much for posting this I needed to hear this!
Wonderful message Becca!!
Bearded Ministry thank you so much!!
Thank you so much for sharing this!!!!!
wow! this is greatness Becca! Love the honesty and such a needed message! like the song at the end says (nice touch by the way, my favorite hahaha) "What do I have need of? now that I know you Jesus!"
Preach gurl! So good
I needed this TODAY. Thank you so much. God bless:)
Thank you for this inspirational videos, Becca! 🙂
Becca, can you make a video on how to be a complete person? I know it's different for everyone but just general advice on how to be content as an individual would be very helpful 💞
Thanks for this wonderful reminder!!
Hi Becca. Found your channel today and i’ve felt so inspired! God bless you for sharing this. I know you re busy but when you get the chance i do have a question ( unless it was answered already somewhere, in that case just point me to the correct link). You mentioned in the video that at one point you hit a rock bottom in your life, i feel like thats where I ve been the past 8 months. The man I thought was my potential husband is engaged to someone else, and most of my friends dont know God and most of them are either engaged, married or in a relationship so its been quite depressing time for me as a single person. How did you get through your toughest and saddest times in live? How long did it take you? What kinds of things did you do to protect your mind from the enemy attacking you? I m trying to have faith that God has a plan for my life but its hard when things are going the opposite way. Any tips and Suggestions would help. Thank You
Thanks for your videos. You’re awesome!!
Thankssssss so much this was a blessing!
I completely loved this video.
God bless you.
I watch you from Mexico!😍💕
Beautiful! I needed to hear this.
Even though we know that all we need is Jesus, sometimes we forget about it.
Thanks! Blessings!
Absolutely love this!
Right on time!
3:06 i didnt know girls did that haha, thats funny, explains why some of the girls in my church started talking to me, got them bible verses on instagram lol
Not even that works for me! haha
such a great message ❤️
Thanks so much! I needed this message!
Lovee this so much girl 🙌🏼❤️
I love your videos so much! They're so encouraging and I feel like the Lord is doing so much through you. And you inspire me to prioritize my relationship with God and Jesus Christ. 💕
Wow, it's cool to know the history and stuff. We are whole in Christ! Thank you so much for sharing this!!
U too have a beautiful day🍀
This is so beautifully put. Thank you Becca. How does God speak to you? How do you know it is Him?
Selloane magakwa If you have accepted Jesus as your Savior, his Spirit (the Holy Spirit) lives in your heart. God uses the Holy Spirit to speak to you through the Bible by revealing scripture passages to you, and the Holy Spirit will convict you about unconfessed sin. I hope this was helpful!
God speaks in all sorts of ways...It's so cool actually!! It can be through reading the Word, through sitting in quiet time with Him, through a friend, through a prophetic word (if you've never heard of that I can totally explain it!), through a sermon you hear, even through a whisper to your heart / a scream to your heart (sometimes that's Him convicting us but definitely not always!) He does it in ways we never expect...and He does it in such a personal way for each of us because we are all wired so differently, but since He made us He knows exactly how to do it & when to do it & what to do in those moments.
I hope that helped, I would love to talk more about it with you if you're confused!! OH wait you also asked how - So I read in the Bible for SO many years that God spoke to us in those ways (and I heard about it in church) but never believed it was true. Then when I started to believe...I started hearing from God all of the time. The Bible talks about Him being the God of peace, how He convicts our hearts, how He speaks through prophetic words, etc. all throughout it, and I've seen those things TRULY happen...it's so so so cool.
Becca... Thank you so much. I am learning to her him when He speaks.Quick question... How do you make sure you do not stray away from God during school breaks/ holiday?I am on holiday now and I am afraid to backslide.
Selloane magakwa Stay in the Word!!! And in prayer every day!!!:)
Just found your channel, and I love your messages. Thank you! ❤️
Wow so insightful, I sense the presence of God!
I learned a lot from that, thank you for sharing that!
That outro tho! 🙌
Huh, I didn't previously know the meaning of "soulmate," and I didn't know that the phrase "my other half" was more literal than figurative.
Yup! We find wholeness in Christ!
I don’t understand this particularly well. I sometimes feel this is true, and really God *should* be enough, but if praying and talking to God was always the way to solve moments of loneliness, then why should we ever do anything else? It’s so much easier to talk to a friend who I can see, touch and feel physically, and feel comforted. Sitting alone at night when I am lonely and depressed never solves the problem. It’s way too easy for us to use “God is enough” as an excuse to not get out, socialize or talk to anyone. Because logically, why would we need to? I want to have friends and social contact. In fact, I really don’t have enough of it and it’s very emotionally and spiritually taxing.
Thank you for all of your videos, I’m trying to watch every single one of them.
I don't think the "God is enough," is an excuse to not talk to people. People genuinely feel like their relationship with God keeps them whole, as it should, but that doesn't take away from talking to fellow brothers and sisters in Christ. You should socialize and get to know people and be kind to them and when they ask you why are you the way you are, tell them because of God. Give thanks to him making you in such a unique way that people notice it, but if they don't, don't be so depressed or feeling sad because they aren't your friends because at the end of the day you have God and him within you, should may you feel whole so you don't have to be sad in being alone. I may not be the best at explaining it, but take the disciples or apostles for example, they knew each other and other people in Christ and they certainty did socialize but they didn't take up for their personal relationship with God; they still had that relationship and that was the focus on everything they attempted to do good in or did good in. So I guess the best thing to do is to build a whole relationship with God, so when you have relationships with other people be it friends or someone you love, you are already grounded in the Lord and he will lead you to others also grounded in him and then you all can chat and such. Obviously, there is more to it but I would if I were you, ask God for clarity towards this and make sure your relationship with him is strong, then seek other people with discernment from him to know who will and can be your true friends!
Yes, I am always whole in Our Divine King!!!😇
Great video as usual...I believe God is doing great things with them so keep making them...just out of curiosity, how long have you been a christian?
Thank you! :) I was raised in a Christian home but started taking my faith seriously on my own in 8th grade.
sooo true. I Learnt this on a missions trip in relationships panel! changed everything 😍
I think I subscribed to you a few months ago and I haven’t watched a video of yours since and I will from this point forth be a regular viewer because I need more people that remind me of how awesome Jesus is
I love this!
I love this, thank you ❤
Thank u your words are so encouraging
Thank you so much ❤
You and Kirbyisaboss should do a video together :).
Kevin B Yes I️ love Kirby
Beautiful! Enough in Christ!
Thanks this really helped really needed this to help make a decision😊
Great video, like always :)
Hey sister in Christ. I love your videos. Well said! This was so on point. I Discovered you a few months back earlier this year. I can't wait to check out the video on waiting until marriage. I too have a video on that topic. Please check out QnA Lifestyle and lets be friends ❤ keeping each other encouraged in the word, bringing others to Christ & working for the kingdom :)
WoW thank you for this video😊
I'm amazed!!!
I was feeling it but can't still believe I would ever meet a person who is so strongly believe in jesus like me, everybody around me wanted bad things for me, to take me over from god and jesus, but its not matter what happened, I believe still in jesus and god, you have exactly that feeling like me, like jesus, unconditional strong love. LET ME KNOW, HOW MANY TIMES DO YOU SEE number 33, 333, 300 or 330? ;) I have very strong feeling to meet you and I don't now why, can't explain. Thank you so much for helping others and share and teeling about jesus, bless you