Great job having guests like hafsa on. Not only does this conversation bring awareness of mediation it also highlights how the increase of divorce rates in the southeastern community needs to look on supporting services to work through these challenges. Would like to hear more from this guest!
Great conversation, as a pre marital coach I find it so hard to get people to understand how important it is to undertake some coaching before splashing out on a huge wedding- firstly are you compatible, you need to create a mindset of teamwork between spouses The rate of divorce is so high that it only makes sense to lay some foundations and agreements if things go wrong- this is an easier conversation to have with an outsider who knows the challenges of marriages
This is a great topic to discuss Thank You brother for bringing sister Hafsa very interesting to know and gain a lot of knowledge. Divorce and family break down is very high in our Muslim community and society as whole .Divorce can trigger from various forms of reasons for example Domestic violence/ abuse and 3rd party interference. Shahina Chowdhury women’s voice has been campaigning for years and to establish a one stop hub , prevention is better than cure we all myself and other people women and men are supporting sister Shahina Chowdhury. Please support 🙏 this campaign for the sake of saving lives of the victims and silence sufferers behind closed doors .
Great episode This sister has been through so much and especially with a autistic child with complex needs and being a divorcee Yet she’s so full of knowledge and in her own words “ direct “ May Allah keep blessing her with success As she as mediator you know she’s a considerate and conscious individual Yet again another guest who would be great to see appear again IA Love seeing the podcast subs increasing too 🙌🏼
What an eye opening podcast. The divorce issue will feature very highly in the muslim community soon, if it doesn’t already. These types of podcasts will be invaluable, going forward. We should have more of these! What an engaging, knowledgeable and inspiring guest. We look forward to seeing her on other podcasts as well. 😊
Her opinions on feminism (and how that's changed overtime) can Muslim women also be feminists? What is feminism. How has the feminism movement affected masculinity in men? Has that movement resulted in men becoming Les masculine, hardworking etc. all the things she mentioned about men, could it be due to this?
Please can you bring her on again this pod cast was great, Masha-Allah you talking about your child needs which motivate s you everyday, i am in the same situation it can be overwhelming, he watched the video to.he mentioned you look rich and wants a daimond from you.
Wasalaam I'll have a deep look into my network . Also Mufti Zubair is the owner of The Grill restaurant in Stratford. Previously one in east ham too@@kazishafiqur
Sisters have been pushed to be both roles earn protect and provide like men and also be the homemaker baby maker role obey serve. Men don’t want to take on theirs role using every excuse not to around the wife or children gym men only holidays his moms house sport active ect And women now don’t have the energy to be both mom and dad wanting to have. Life of freedom like men work then social life Thus leading to divorce
@@kazishafiqur realistically if a man get a vasectomy or his choosen wife is barren there no way of pregnancies Unc remarried asap after his wife of 30 Years 7 babies passed away, he made sure his 2nd wife was barren so he doesn’t have anymore babies The best way honest conversation before marriage everything from in laws to Islam rules
Please, not hasanat, maybe hasanat is messaging this as he is quite crafty. He wants to stay relavant but think about the msg that is being made by rewarding characters as such.
Everyone we need to take a step back people getting divorce now is a joke instead of solving the problem they just split. Charity there are alot of things going on palestine yeman sudan somalia all these many more got issues. We stand for protest does not so anything we need to get into sectors grow but our Ummah all communites wanna do each other over simple as that we have become a joke to be honest.
@@kazishafiqur thanks for your response Bhai. I always listen to your new releases. In the Bengali culture, since the female in-laws play an influencing role to the husband, I think you are in the right footing if you get on with them from the start. He will be happy about it. The unfortunate reality is even this day and age, these sisters give a hard time to the Bhabee, especially when she is a good submissive religious person. Allah swt knows best and He is is our protection.
@@AKAK-hr7ug what about the influence women family play my friend his wife listens go only what her family say and causing all sort of problem for him when it comes women doing something for her in laws it is troublesome but when the husband does something for your family you will jump in joy then and if your family controls dominates him you will be even more happy
Double standards backwards cultural traditions is the reason why sil don’t get along with in-laws One rule for her separate rule for her sil She’s the paid maid slave and cook for his parents social life Also the husband now requires his wife to work and earn leasing to divorce does she please her husband or obey his parents
People with special need kids tend to divorce quicker as out of the two partners one partner becomes very consumed with the kids & the other parent just clocks out. They feel we are selfish as we don't prioritise them as we used to before the children. Although we can, if we really really wanted to prioritise them, we just don't want to because we build resent towards them as we see how less they contribute towards the need to our children. A slacking partner and business partners causes huge issues, but the perpetrator doesn't see their shortcomings. For example I have 3 special need kids & I care to them 24/7, do all DIY works, food shopping, food prep, roughly 95% of the role as parent role, the other 5% my eldest helps me. My other half expects me to put my kids to bed & be ready for him, I tried before but now I don't want to as I really hate him, we've had mediation but he will be on help mode a week max then back to being a roommate. If I want help & voice my issues he will claim kids are possessed because apparently I am possessed, my signs of being of possessed is because I don't appreciate I have a husband as apparently so many are divorced & just want a husband, my job role is very heavy & the last thing i need is to worry or manage a grown ass adult. He will shout & beat my autistic kids as he claims he needs to gain some authority via threat or they will grow up & be violent towards him. They don't like him as when he interacts, it's always telling them off. Never plays with them, I would hand like a bubble blower right in his hand so the kids warm towards him but he will refuse as he says they will get use to needing him to play like this. Him & his family are known as a very islamic family, but just get 2 sentences from people who are married into the family. He is cousin to the mp lutfur rahman, even he doesn't know the affairs that goes on in this family. They are master minds in fooling the mass.
I would love hear more content from this guest. Great depth and knowledge in this sector.
Inshallah let’s see what others say.
Great job having guests like hafsa on. Not only does this conversation bring awareness of mediation it also highlights how the increase of divorce rates in the southeastern community needs to look on supporting services to work through these challenges. Would like to hear more from this guest!
Thank you
Great conversation, as a pre marital coach I find it so hard to get people to understand how important it is to undertake some coaching before splashing out on a huge wedding- firstly are you compatible, you need to create a mindset of teamwork between spouses
The rate of divorce is so high that it only makes sense to lay some foundations and agreements if things go wrong- this is an easier conversation to have with an outsider who knows the challenges of marriages
This is a great topic to discuss Thank You brother for bringing sister Hafsa very interesting to know and gain a lot of knowledge.
Divorce and family break down is very high in our Muslim community and society as whole .Divorce can trigger from various forms of reasons for example Domestic violence/ abuse and 3rd party interference. Shahina Chowdhury women’s voice has been campaigning for years and to establish a one stop hub , prevention is better than cure we all myself and other people women and men are supporting sister Shahina Chowdhury. Please support 🙏 this campaign for the sake of saving lives of the victims and silence sufferers behind closed doors .
Very interesting episode... keep up the good work 👍🏼👏🏼
Thank you please do share with family and friends.
Great episode This sister has been through so much and especially with a autistic child with complex needs and being a divorcee Yet she’s so full of knowledge and in her own words “ direct “ May Allah keep blessing her with success As she as mediator you know she’s a considerate and conscious individual Yet again another guest who would be great to see appear again IA Love seeing the podcast subs increasing too 🙌🏼
Thanks Clare. Jazakallah.
What an eye opening podcast. The divorce issue will feature very highly in the muslim community soon, if it doesn’t already. These types of podcasts will be invaluable, going forward. We should have more of these! What an engaging, knowledgeable and inspiring guest. We look forward to seeing her on other podcasts as well. 😊
What else would you want to ask her if she did a Q&A?
Definitely get her back on and discuss the roles of men and women from different societal aspects
Do you have any particular questions in mind?
Her opinions on feminism (and how that's changed overtime) can Muslim women also be feminists? What is feminism. How has the feminism movement affected masculinity in men? Has that movement resulted in men becoming Les masculine, hardworking etc. all the things she mentioned about men, could it be due to this?
Best episode so far! Really want to hear more from her
Would you have any questions in mind?
This was great. Lets do a two-way 🤝
Please can you bring her on again this pod cast was great, Masha-Allah you talking about your child needs which motivate s you everyday, i am in the same situation it can be overwhelming, he watched the video to.he mentioned you look rich and wants a daimond from you.
What would you want to ask her if we were to do another episode?
A great interview! One of the best ones so far- very interesting 👍
Glad you enjoyed it! Please share it far and wide.
That was brilliant... More more more
Inshallah. Jazakallah
Cover more topics with her.
Let’s see what others say…
35:20 kazi finding it difficult
36:35 feeding into anger
58:30 emotional intelligence for men
1:07:00 kazi immaturity of a life sentence
Give me a bit more context?
Good Discussion and Topic
How can people contact Hafsa for mediation advice? She made a key point about the network around us or ex, often they add fuel to the fire.
She has a website you can visit
Interesting topics covered, Would like to hear more from
Her.
Are there anything specific you’d like to hear from her?
Great set.
The guest or the studio?
You should get Mufti Zubair Patel on here the founder of the muslim family foundation. Ive got a line up of guests who you might be interested in
Salam please tell us who else you think is appropriate? One thing to keep in mind is that they need to have some sort of a business angle to them.
Wasalaam I'll have a deep look into my network . Also Mufti Zubair is the owner of The Grill restaurant in Stratford. Previously one in east ham too@@kazishafiqur
@@kazishafiqurwhat business angle did the fraud criminal hasanat have oh yeah just like you firnas fraud his ruqyah murtad fraud
Get Hamza Choudhury on, used to play football for Leicester city
Do you have any links?
Sisters have been pushed to be both roles earn protect and provide like men and also be the homemaker baby maker role obey serve.
Men don’t want to take on theirs role using every excuse not to around the wife or children gym men only holidays his moms house sport active ect
And women now don’t have the energy to be both mom and dad wanting to have. Life of freedom like men work then social life
Thus leading to divorce
So what’s your proposed solution ?
@@kazishafiqur don’t have babies asap test the marriage first before marriage
Isn’t babies up to Allah? In islam are we not taught against contraception?
@@kazishafiqur realistically if a man get a vasectomy or his choosen wife is barren there no way of pregnancies
Unc remarried asap after his wife of 30
Years 7 babies passed away, he made sure his 2nd wife was barren so he doesn’t have anymore babies
The best way honest conversation before marriage everything from in laws to Islam rules
Can you bring back mahi and Hasanat please
Maybe Mahee if there are enough requests. Not sure about Hasanat.
Please, not hasanat, maybe hasanat is messaging this as he is quite crafty. He wants to stay relavant but think about the msg that is being made by rewarding characters as such.
Everyone we need to take a step back people getting divorce now is a joke instead of solving the problem they just split.
Charity there are alot of things going on palestine yeman sudan somalia all these many more got issues.
We stand for protest does not so anything we need to get into sectors grow but our Ummah all communites wanna do each other over simple as that we have become a joke to be honest.
People need to cw to reality ita costs £££££
Try to get on with his family female members - mother and his sisters. Remember your girls will look like them!
Elaborate?
@@kazishafiqur thanks for your response Bhai. I always listen to your new releases. In the Bengali culture, since the female in-laws play an influencing role to the husband, I think you are in the right footing if you get on with them from the start. He will be happy about it. The unfortunate reality is even this day and age, these sisters give a hard time to the Bhabee, especially when she is a good submissive religious person. Allah swt knows best and He is is our protection.
Not clear
@@AKAK-hr7ug what about the influence women family play my friend his wife listens go only what her family say and causing all sort of problem for him when it comes women doing something for her in laws it is troublesome but when the husband does something for your family you will jump in joy then and if your family controls dominates him you will be even more happy
Double standards backwards cultural traditions is the reason why sil don’t get along with in-laws
One rule for her separate rule for her sil
She’s the paid maid slave and cook for his parents social life
Also the husband now requires his wife to work and earn leasing to divorce does she please her husband or obey his parents
A intelegent woman like u even got devorce o so saaad
Allah is the best of planners
People with special need kids tend to divorce quicker as out of the two partners one partner becomes very consumed with the kids & the other parent just clocks out. They feel we are selfish as we don't prioritise them as we used to before the children. Although we can, if we really really wanted to prioritise them, we just don't want to because we build resent towards them as we see how less they contribute towards the need to our children. A slacking partner and business partners causes huge issues, but the perpetrator doesn't see their shortcomings. For example I have 3 special need kids & I care to them 24/7, do all DIY works, food shopping, food prep, roughly 95% of the role as parent role, the other 5% my eldest helps me. My other half expects me to put my kids to bed & be ready for him, I tried before but now I don't want to as I really hate him, we've had mediation but he will be on help mode a week max then back to being a roommate. If I want help & voice my issues he will claim kids are possessed because apparently I am possessed, my signs of being of possessed is because I don't appreciate I have a husband as apparently so many are divorced & just want a husband, my job role is very heavy & the last thing i need is to worry or manage a grown ass adult. He will shout & beat my autistic kids as he claims he needs to gain some authority via threat or they will grow up & be violent towards him. They don't like him as when he interacts, it's always telling them off. Never plays with them, I would hand like a bubble blower right in his hand so the kids warm towards him but he will refuse as he says they will get use to needing him to play like this.
Him & his family are known as a very islamic family, but just get 2 sentences from people who are married into the family. He is cousin to the mp lutfur rahman, even he doesn't know the affairs that goes on in this family. They are master minds in fooling the mass.
I think if u follow salafi wahabi arabi no matter how practicing muslim u are, devorce is still so easy quick normal .
True.
My only issue with Hafsa is she is not wearing enough make up. Perhaps a bit more next time
Journalistic skills are laughable.
I know and I completely agree with you, FYI I am not a journalist. I’m just a conversationalist.
@@kazishafiquryou still do a better job, apologies for the first comment.
Mikaeel Ahmed Smith- With the heart in mind. Beautiful book about emotional intelligence in prophetic way @kazishafiqur
Amazing. Thank you so much.