Hey guys hope this was helpful! Leave me a comment with your thoughts? Be sure to check out my brand new masterclass on the 5 Proven Steps to Rebuilding Your Relationship/Marriage. (Warning: Spots are limited) 💪 Here is the link to the MASTERCLASS! -> relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass 🎁 Download the FREE GUIDE! -> relationshipsmastered.com/healing-partner-emotions 🗣 Join the FB Group! -> facebook.com/groups/1032426806961329/
Married 15 years with a kid. She wanted a divorce and said this 2.5-3 months ago. She was planning on moving out. I had NO where to turn. Did the #1 thing that came to mind and begged and pleaded to stay and got NOWHERE. Been following this guy’s suggestions and she is still living home and I was supposed to be served 2 weeks ago. She is talking to me more and still have not been served. Not asking why. Just keep doing what I need to in order to change. I know she sees it but like she said 7 years of hurt can’t be forgotten in 3 months. I really feel this guy has helped me a lot. If I had the $$ I’d love to speak to him one on one. Thanks for the free help. I do get discouraged and at times think to just give up but then I remember his points and that this is natural from them and to just not give up. I have not and like I said. She still lives home and talks more to me as the days go by.
I’m literally on the same boat. She wanted divorce 2 months ago. Filed 3 weeks ago and haven’t received anything. Not sure if I’ll be served soon or not but she is still living at home with me and our 2 kids. She talks a lot more now and we have even had some minor sexual encounters. It’s only been 2 months since she found out and I feel super confused about my situation. But I am holding strong and changing my ways without backing down. Super confusing to me to be honest
@@TheonlyBacelona10 amazing I really needed to hear this. I want to make things right with my girlfriend because I want to make her my wife in the near future. Thank you!!!
You genuinely have the best advice and ideas out of anyone that I’ve watched videos from. You offer real solutions to problems and not just temporary fixes, so I just wanted to say thank you. Anybody in my life with relationship problems, I’m sending your way.
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Very powerful and true been fighting for my marriage since January 9 2021 uts improved tremendously but you have to stay consistent some days are better than others but you can't quit.
Absolutely right! You have to remain confident, consistent and show your partner the leadership qualities to save the relationship. If you’d like to learn more, you can begin by joining our free masterclass here. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass At the end of this masterclass, you will also get some information on how you can submit your application for the program. And in case you’re curious as to how life-changing this program is, or how it is MILES beyond what other programs can offer, check out the links below! Client Review Videos: ruclips.net/p/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU
My wife of 14 years told me she wanted out of the marriage because she’s “done” and no longer has any love for me. This was towards the end of November. I have been watching these and other coaches as well trying to figure out what to do next. I am working on myself but it’s hard to not make saving my marriage the focus of my changes. I moved out 3 weeks ago to give her space. We meet up once a week to catch up and see how we’re feeling. She has noticed my changes but still says it’s ot going to change how she feels. I really believe that we can work out the issues but she just doesn’t want to try. I asked to move back in and she said it’s going to make her feel like she needs to leave even faster. Im not sure what else to do now. I know I need to be patient and give this time, but it feels like it’s just slowly going downhill without any way to stop or slow it down. I just hope she reconsiders at some point, and I hope she also has patience with the situation because right now she seems to want out as soon as possible.
Hey man just wanted to say how grateful i am long story short your advice is awesome watched 3 videos that was enough to turn my whole relationship around now i decided to watch all your videos so i can better myself in general my relationship went from "there is no chance in hell im gonna stay together with you and there is nothing you can do" to "i think i love you" in less than a week instant results... all i can say is thank you. You changed my life for the better keep up the great work
@@stewart2313 update: still working on it nothing special to report at least now is gone from im leaving you to well lets see what happens guess im getting a second chance ill update you on how things go
Update: hey guys we are still together and yesterday i got my first i love you in months and stuff is starting to go back to normal and again thank you so much for the videos really helped
What I’m going thru is exactly how you are describing it my early attempts failed as you said it would I’m glad I found you now I’m pointed in the right direction
I love your videos, as a woman, I totally feel like it's up to two people to change the relationship...not just the man or not just the woman. It takes two to tango.
I agree with you! And you know what else I am thinking? That the advice he provides--and all the effort that goes along with it--is best reserved for married couples. In dating relationships, it feels out of place for one partner to do all the work, while the other partner only offers resistance and rejection. That can enable and to an extent, justify emotional abuse, so I couldn't agree more with you. Thank you for sharing this comment 🙏
My wife says i changed to fast so now its like wtf. I really have but I have been in a deep depression and been on a medicine that made me feel nothing now i feel everything and its like a light switch chamged in me i have the most motivation ive ever had in my life. So its like idk what to do.
Hello guys, Iv been with my girl for over 3, years , I proposed to her, we bought a house, but since we moved in I stopped progressing in life start lie to to her and most important to myself I said I gonna do things but I don't and it's builder up into trust issues 2months ago she made her decision to break up with me, I can't describe how happy I am that this thing happend to me cus I finally managed to face my self deep inside and kill everything what's toxic about me and never felt such a buzz after I do something what I said I gonna do, looking into life with different bigger picture, I feel I changing into new version of myself. We living in same house just different rooms, it's most painful thing to go through, she's trying to break me emotional and stuff but I keeping strong, cus she said she domt believe I can change and now when I am doing changes its scary her more and push me away cus it's makes her feel that way that she wasn't enough for me to change. I think different if she wasn't good enough I wouldtm even faced myself at this point!. Peace and love to all man who going through same thing! That's the most painful thing!. ❤️
This video is incredibly thought provoking and it makes me feel hopeful for what I am able to accomplish in my own life! As you said, the paradox of change and confirmation bias applies not just in relationships, but in all other domains of life as well. As someone who has overcome a lot of hardship in her life, anytime I hit a wall that reminded me of the past, I got discouraged. But watching this video has made me reflect on ways to be more patient with myself, with the process of change and with the harvest that in due time will emerge. Thank you for presenting this information in such a clear and memorable format, as that makes learning so much easier and effective. Truly, thank you! And all the best on your continued, excellent work🙏
I just found these videos. They are amazing. I actually did all the things in these videos years ago. And afterwards, I was doubted and reverted back. Years later, I am here again with even less trust. So, I have the added burden of making changes that stick and not letting up. Giving up afterwards was the biggest mistake I ever made. Not just for my wife, but for me. I spent another few years angry at the world. But, I will get back to the me I love and that she can trust
@@GeoffreySetiawan I think it helps me understand that the base issue is a loss of trust. From there I can understand how my action/inactions led to this. Then I can understand how I need to demonstrate different behaviors over a long period of time to regain her trust.
This is what were in right now. She doesnt believe my changes and i'm continuing to bettering myself regardless of the outcome or what she might think. I trust she will eventually realize that ive change for the better. Good thing i watched this July, and I see it to myself that Im changing.
I needed this video today. My wife wants a seperation and says the changes I am making are manipulative and driving her further away. I was beginning to doubt myself. Thank you...
@@GeoffreySetiawan your dead on with her responses. She has said that our future is hopeless and has given up. She has stated my changes are weird, confusing, manipulative and doubts I can keep them up
Bro you’re an absolute genius I just follow the process is from the RUclips videos and I got my whole situation and turn around in five days now I just have to keep these process is going
Hi Trillo Steel, Excellent, now make sure changes are the right ones, the massive ones, and the permanent ones or you will find yourself right back where you started. Keep it going and thank you for you comment and support.
I’ve watched this before and I’m rewatching it again. This video is one of the most relatable videos from this channel. I love the part where he’s saying that when people question your intention/plans, you also start to doubt yourself even if they’re doing it on a very subtle way. He was sharing his experience particularly in starting his relationship guidance business. His family, friends, and co-workers were doubting him and asking him “Are you sure?” because his then work (data scientist) was far from his plan. Another point that I like is if you want to be happier, more successful, or have a better life, you definitely have to change. You don’t expect different result from the same output that you’re giving. All these quotes re “this is me and I’m not gonna change” or “someone out there will accept me for who I am” are just excuses not to make ourselves better.
Ariene, you are 100% spot on! So glad you are able to take away the true message of what I am saying here and how our thoughts and words often keep us stuck from unlocking our true potential.
It's just me all the time to make changes, she has flaws also but I feel like there is no hope, giving up and going down the Divorce rout maybe the best option for us going forward.
My girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me last night and wants space and she feels hopeless. Now if I try to better myself and be better won’t that show her that I’m better off without her and make her not want me back even more?
Thank you Geoffrey, I appreciate your support and information. I am recieving little bits of improved feedback and the door closes...I am grateful that your message constantly prepares us for the resistance.
You are helping me a lot but the one thing is me and my wife are in no contact that's how she wants it but she messaged me asking me if I'm OK and if I don't answer right away she will get mad idk what to do can you help me please
We been together for 4 years. During the four years it was good and bad. Since last month she been saying she want space which i really cant understand because our relationship is now a long distance relationship since last month. I beg and plead but she is just not having it she is like a change person i really dont know what to do!!!
If you cannot understand why she wants space, still begging and pleading, and confused by her reaction then you haven't watched enough of my videos yet. :) ruclips.net/p/PLQ8tvyhQlPzuZlgiyA__zwlBxckcLxe3p
Hey man any updates, my situation kinda similar only it’s been an 8 year relationship and I’m supposed to see her this week but she still hasn’t reached out yet? Any way I hope you doing good and things are well.
Married for 40 years, two great kids, gone from the home, now she says she has changed, wants a divorce but be roommates in our nice home. We both retired 3 years ago and the dream of our wonderful new life has vanished. She wants to go on coffee dates with men, but says she will never re marry. We do not fight and there is no abuse. I don't get it
Hi Bob Martens, Come see why your partner does not have enough emotional safety to express her feelings and why she has become distant to the idea of only having a relationship just between the two of you. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
Hey guys hope this was helpful! Leave me a comment with your thoughts?
Be sure to check out my brand new masterclass on the 5 Proven Steps to Rebuilding Your Relationship/Marriage. (Warning: Spots are limited)
💪 Here is the link to the MASTERCLASS! -> relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
🎁 Download the FREE GUIDE! -> relationshipsmastered.com/healing-partner-emotions
🗣 Join the FB Group! -> facebook.com/groups/1032426806961329/
Married 15 years with a kid. She wanted a divorce and said this 2.5-3 months ago. She was planning on moving out. I had NO where to turn. Did the #1 thing that came to mind and begged and pleaded to stay and got NOWHERE. Been following this guy’s suggestions and she is still living home and I was supposed to be served 2 weeks ago. She is talking to me more and still have not been served. Not asking why. Just keep doing what I need to in order to change. I know she sees it but like she said 7 years of hurt can’t be forgotten in 3 months. I really feel this guy has helped me a lot. If I had the $$ I’d love to speak to him one on one. Thanks for the free help. I do get discouraged and at times think to just give up but then I remember his points and that this is natural from them and to just not give up. I have not and like I said. She still lives home and talks more to me as the days go by.
Yaoza! Love it brother!
I’m literally on the same boat. She wanted divorce 2 months ago. Filed 3 weeks ago and haven’t received anything. Not sure if I’ll be served soon or not but she is still living at home with me and our 2 kids. She talks a lot more now and we have even had some minor sexual encounters. It’s only been 2 months since she found out and I feel super confused about my situation. But I am holding strong and changing my ways without backing down. Super confusing to me to be honest
Update. She called off divorce and we have been very intimate now. I seem to be doing good, so don’t give up hope guys.
@@TheonlyBacelona10 amazing!
@@TheonlyBacelona10 amazing I really needed to hear this. I want to make things right with my girlfriend because I want to make her my wife in the near future. Thank you!!!
You genuinely have the best advice and ideas out of anyone that I’ve watched videos from. You offer real solutions to problems and not just temporary fixes, so I just wanted to say thank you. Anybody in my life with relationship problems, I’m sending your way.
Awesome man. And thank you :)
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Consistency / Time = Trust
Very powerful and true been fighting for my marriage since January 9 2021 uts improved tremendously but you have to stay consistent some days are better than others but you can't quit.
Absolutely right! You have to remain confident, consistent and show your partner the leadership qualities to save the relationship.
If you’d like to learn more, you can begin by joining our free masterclass here.
relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
At the end of this masterclass, you will also get some information on how you can submit your application for the program.
And in case you’re curious as to how life-changing this program is, or how it is MILES beyond what other programs can offer, check out the links below!
Client Review Videos:
ruclips.net/p/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU
My wife of 14 years told me she wanted out of the marriage because she’s “done” and no longer has any love for me. This was towards the end of November. I have been watching these and other coaches as well trying to figure out what to do next. I am working on myself but it’s hard to not make saving my marriage the focus of my changes. I moved out 3 weeks ago to give her space. We meet up once a week to catch up and see how we’re feeling. She has noticed my changes but still says it’s ot going to change how she feels. I really believe that we can work out the issues but she just doesn’t want to try. I asked to move back in and she said it’s going to make her feel like she needs to leave even faster. Im not sure what else to do now. I know I need to be patient and give this time, but it feels like it’s just slowly going downhill without any way to stop or slow it down. I just hope she reconsiders at some point, and I hope she also has patience with the situation because right now she seems to want out as soon as possible.
You’ve got a long way to go man. You’re still tethered and being needy. Change hasn’t happened for you yet.
Hey man just wanted to say how grateful i am long story short your advice is awesome watched 3 videos that was enough to turn my whole relationship around now i decided to watch all your videos so i can better myself in general my relationship went from "there is no chance in hell im gonna stay together with you and there is nothing you can do" to "i think i love you" in less than a week instant results... all i can say is thank you. You changed my life for the better keep up the great work
Thanks for sharing! This totally made my day! :)
Update?
@@stewart2313 update: still working on it nothing special to report at least now is gone from im leaving you to well lets see what happens guess im getting a second chance ill update you on how things go
Update: hey guys we are still together and yesterday i got my first i love you in months and stuff is starting to go back to normal and again thank you so much for the videos really helped
What I’m going thru is exactly how you are describing it my early attempts failed as you said it would I’m glad I found you now I’m pointed in the right direction
You're welcome man. Thanks for taking the time to leave a comment!
I love your videos, as a woman, I totally feel like it's up to two people to change the relationship...not just the man or not just the woman. It takes two to tango.
I agree with you! And you know what else I am thinking? That the advice he provides--and all the effort that goes along with it--is best reserved for married couples.
In dating relationships, it feels out of place for one partner to do all the work, while the other partner only offers resistance and rejection.
That can enable and to an extent, justify emotional abuse, so I couldn't agree more with you. Thank you for sharing this comment 🙏
My wife says i changed to fast so now its like wtf. I really have but I have been in a deep depression and been on a medicine that made me feel nothing now i feel everything and its like a light switch chamged in me i have the most motivation ive ever had in my life. So its like idk what to do.
Hello guys,
Iv been with my girl for over 3, years , I proposed to her, we bought a house, but since we moved in I stopped progressing in life start lie to to her and most important to myself I said I gonna do things but I don't and it's builder up into trust issues 2months ago she made her decision to break up with me, I can't describe how happy I am that this thing happend to me cus I finally managed to face my self deep inside and kill everything what's toxic about me and never felt such a buzz after I do something what I said I gonna do, looking into life with different bigger picture, I feel I changing into new version of myself. We living in same house just different rooms, it's most painful thing to go through, she's trying to break me emotional and stuff but I keeping strong, cus she said she domt believe I can change and now when I am doing changes its scary her more and push me away cus it's makes her feel that way that she wasn't enough for me to change. I think different if she wasn't good enough I wouldtm even faced myself at this point!. Peace and love to all man who going through same thing! That's the most painful thing!. ❤️
How did your situation end up mate?
Geoffrey is the man,I have so calm as of late.Listening to you is so soothing and changing a lot
This video is incredibly thought provoking and it makes me feel hopeful for what I am able to accomplish in my own life!
As you said, the paradox of change and confirmation bias applies not just in relationships, but in all other domains of life as well.
As someone who has overcome a lot of hardship in her life, anytime I hit a wall that reminded me of the past, I got discouraged.
But watching this video has made me reflect on ways to be more patient with myself, with the process of change and with the harvest that in due time will emerge.
Thank you for presenting this information in such a clear and memorable format, as that makes learning so much easier and effective. Truly, thank you!
And all the best on your continued, excellent work🙏
Hi 97T57,
I am happy that this video was helpful. Really appreciate your kind words.🙂
You’re gifted, keep this going. You’re helping a lot of us.
Love it! Thank you for your comment and support.
I just found these videos. They are amazing. I actually did all the things in these videos years ago. And afterwards, I was doubted and reverted back. Years later, I am here again with even less trust. So, I have the added burden of making changes that stick and not letting up. Giving up afterwards was the biggest mistake I ever made. Not just for my wife, but for me. I spent another few years angry at the world. But, I will get back to the me I love and that she can trust
Going through this right now, this video made a lot of sense, thank you!
Glad it spoke to you man! What were your main takeaways here?
@@GeoffreySetiawan I think it helps me understand that the base issue is a loss of trust. From there I can understand how my action/inactions led to this. Then I can understand how I need to demonstrate different behaviors over a long period of time to regain her trust.
This is what were in right now. She doesnt believe my changes and i'm continuing to bettering myself regardless of the outcome or what she might think. I trust she will eventually realize that ive change for the better. Good thing i watched this July, and I see it to myself that Im changing.
Thank you for ur wonderful and educative videos, I'm currently having a trust issue in my relationship, I really want to save my relationship
I needed this video today. My wife wants a seperation and says the changes I am making are manipulative and driving her further away. I was beginning to doubt myself. Thank you...
Hi Kevin,
What did you find to be most eye-opening?
@@GeoffreySetiawan your dead on with her responses. She has said that our future is hopeless and has given up. She has stated my changes are weird, confusing, manipulative and doubts I can keep them up
@@Kevin-ql7qwwhat’s your situation now mate?
Bro you’re an absolute genius I just follow the process is from the RUclips videos and I got my whole situation and turn around in five days now I just have to keep these process is going
Hi Trillo Steel,
Excellent, now make sure changes are the right ones, the massive ones, and the permanent ones or you will find yourself right back where you started. Keep it going and thank you for you comment and support.
Brilliant advice, very thorough, inspiring and positive!
Thank you!
I’ve watched this before and I’m rewatching it again. This video is one of the most relatable videos from this channel.
I love the part where he’s saying that when people question your intention/plans, you also start to doubt yourself even if they’re doing it on a very subtle way. He was sharing his experience particularly in starting his relationship guidance business. His family, friends, and co-workers were doubting him and asking him “Are you sure?” because his then work (data scientist) was far from his plan.
Another point that I like is if you want to be happier, more successful, or have a better life, you definitely have to change. You don’t expect different result from the same output that you’re giving. All these quotes re “this is me and I’m not gonna change” or “someone out there will accept me for who I am” are just excuses not to make ourselves better.
Ariene, you are 100% spot on!
So glad you are able to take away the true message of what I am saying here and how our thoughts and words often keep us stuck from unlocking our true potential.
It's just me all the time to make changes, she has flaws also but I feel like there is no hope, giving up and going down the Divorce rout maybe the best option for us going forward.
What books do you recommend reading?
Thank you so much for these videos fantastic when I can hear it like this
This video is EXACLY where I am!!! She doesn't trust me anymore....
My girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me last night and wants space and she feels hopeless. Now if I try to better myself and be better won’t that show her that I’m better off without her and make her not want me back even more?
Thank you Geoffrey, I appreciate your support and information. I am recieving little bits of improved feedback and the door closes...I am grateful that your message constantly prepares us for the resistance.
Awesome my man! glad you are seeing improvements. Stay tuned to this Friday when I post my new video. It's a good one!
thanks for this
For sure!
Its more challenging when one's partner shows signs of bdp, borderline personality...
Thank u for being
Thank you for commenting!
But then that’s also a paradox cause if you continue doing something she is telling you to stop then you aren’t listening…. 😪
You are helping me a lot but the one thing is me and my wife are in no contact that's how she wants it but she messaged me asking me if I'm OK and if I don't answer right away she will get mad idk what to do can you help me please
How your situation now mate?
We been together for 4 years. During the four years it was good and bad. Since last month she been saying she want space which i really cant understand because our relationship is now a long distance relationship since last month. I beg and plead but she is just not having it she is like a change person i really dont know what to do!!!
If you cannot understand why she wants space, still begging and pleading, and confused by her reaction then you haven't watched enough of my videos yet. :) ruclips.net/p/PLQ8tvyhQlPzuZlgiyA__zwlBxckcLxe3p
Hey man any updates, my situation kinda similar only it’s been an 8 year relationship and I’m supposed to see her this week but she still hasn’t reached out yet? Any way I hope you doing good and things are well.
Damn you’re good
Thanks buddy! Glad you are finding this valuable!
Married for 40 years, two great kids, gone from the home, now she says she has changed, wants a divorce but be roommates in our nice home. We both retired 3 years ago and the dream of our wonderful new life has vanished. She wants to go on coffee dates with men, but says she will never re marry. We do not fight and there is no abuse. I don't get it
Hi Bob Martens,
Come see why your partner does not have enough emotional safety to express her feelings and why she has become distant to the idea of only having a relationship just between the two of you.
relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
It sounds to me like she wants to use you for a retirement plan. That's just what it seems like.
Hi Geoffrey scott i would like to join up with you on your help with me
Can you contact him i need help