You are wonderful Dee , and just what the world needs more of. This topic is so helpful, and you speak with much clarity, and kindness in your voice. You keep me grounded. Thank you ❤
IF I wouldn’t have made all the life choices I made I wouldn’t be here listening to your lovely voice help me find my way along this crazy journey of life. Thank you so much for all your videos/wisdom(words could never describe how incredibly amazing you are and how much YOU’RE appreciated🤍)
Morning lovely Dee. I know for sure that we are stronger and better people for listening to you. The times I have said or thought “if only…”. Now I’m going to minimise that and give “if I do this …” a go. It makes perfect sense. Thank you! ❤❤❤
Very inspirational! I constantly wonder on the “If” of my life and how could i make the past better, but there really is no way to change the past, you just have to improve yourself in the future and learn from your previous mistake to try and not make them again. Loved this one❤
Hello again Dee ☺. You are so right. If I hadn't fell and broken my shoulder, I could have held him (Terry) tighter! If he had gone to the doctors sooner (it wouldn't have made a difference with pancreatic cancer, it's quick and nasty). If I hadnt had to reply on others to transport me about! If the Kits 🐾🐾 hadn't had to go into the cattery for 9 weeks! Oh dear so many IFS ... Thank you Dee. Take care . Sending love, light and bright blessings 🌹🐺xx
And back to you with lots of hugs. We really do use 'if' to beat ourselves up - even if the things about which we are beating ourselves were way beyond our control. Take care. D
Many years ago I realized that, for me, any thought which began with "What if..?" wasn't going to go anywhere good. But you make an excellent point of reframing a "what if..?" as a positive e.g. What if it all works out? What if this is the thing you have been searching for? A quote that helps me manage that "If only I'd done A/B/C..." is Maya Angelou's 'Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.' It's only because of where we are now that we can look back and wish we'd done things differently.
You are a big help to get my thinking in the right patch!Dont like negative thinking but it happens,Your videos are the kick in the butt I need at times.Thank you for YOU!
Thank you Dee! How many times have I said “IF”.. Moving forward with my life & choices I hope I don’t have to say it anymore. I look forward to you hopefully reading us the IF poem. I love your pretty blouse 🌷
You and so many others fling negative ifs around regularly. Not had a chance to find my book with it in - not sure about reading it as I have already talked about 'if' and it isn't a short piece! D
Ok. You really hit the nail right on the head with this video. I’m stuck right now…trying to sort out what to do…and I’m still torn between one choice or another. Neither one will be easy…and may cause me sadness…but I am tired of giving and giving and giving and helping and supporting others…all the while feeling as if I’d not given and given and helped and supported so many humans (I am an animal lover…animals tend to appreciate me…they don’t appear to take me for granted). Sounds silly, I know. I’m upset because I’ve gone through all of my savings to help human family members over the past 50 years…my choice…and they did need my help. Worked very hectic job and thought ‘well I won’t live long, almost every family member passed/tends to pass at a young age’. So…at that time…over so many years, I did what I thought I should do…not always happy about helping some family members over and over, but there must be a glitch in my brain matter. I have a very compassionate heart…and that’s been a curse and blessing. I remind myself often, what’s done is done. And I can’t change the past. Boundaries. I didn’t really understand about setting boundaries back then. I barely hear from these family members now. Especially the greedy, narcissistic, egotistical son in law I helped the most after my younger daughter passed (and a superstorm demolished their home 7 months later). Such heartache, There were 4 children who needed shelter, food, patience, stability and love (oldest child lived in Connecticut for years but we saw him frequently). In fact, he’s much older and still unable to fend for himself in many ways. His father and step mom want nothing to do with him. Funny how life turns out. I choose to look at it that way anyway. Or I’ll cry. What can I do now? It amazes me. This son in law (who was married to my youngest daughter) has a great job now, brand new big home, pool, brand new $25,000 car, drones (why you ask…I do not know), kids are all finally grown…most relocated..and I haven’t seen or heard from him in almost 3/4 yrs. Lives in next town over. He’s not ever offered to pay one cent back to me…nor does he check to see if I need any help with repairs or yard work… or anything. I never thought of myself as a ‘pushover’. I just cared and didn’t really hesitate when he asked for help. I did what I did for my daughters, my grandchildren….and a few other family members (who are now gone)…and many neglected shelter dogs/cats. As I stated, I also feel a strong connection to non humans in need. I do not regret helping them at all. Still do, if possible. I’m thankful for your videos..they remind me to be more aware and to ‘let go’ and, being old and not in the best of health, I am feeling emotionally stressed, but a bit stronger also. It’s a work in progress. I have choices to make. And so, I think I might have to re watch a few of your ‘let go’ videos again and again. Thank you Dee. Please continue to share your insight and wisdom with others..especially those like me. When I meditate, sometimes I imagine I’m a huge gigantic tree, strong and able to withstand whatever comes my way. Able to gently allow my big branches to bend (without breaking) in order to survive whatever comes next. And reminding myself to focus more on the here and now…which is exactly where ever I am in the present moment. Sorry…I am trying to cut back on the rambling. I feel a bit like I’m talking directly to you. Thank you. Hugs to you and Mishka. 🫶❤️🌺🌼
I just recommended you to another big Utube channel where this subject is so helpful to their discussion of accomplishing needed goals. You are such an encouragement that really strengthens a person to move forward in a positive way. Thank you so much❣️
Thank you for this video Dee! I have been wondering why regrets and the "what ifs" seem to come to mind more as we get older. Sometimes it seems they haunt my mind when I am doing mundane things. I just tell myself "you've gone BACK" to remind me to come back to the present moment. I guess it's just part of getting older??? You are so helpful! Thank you for your wise words!☺❤
@@Cheshirelass Yes, I will do that Dee. Thank you so much for reminding me that maybe the past made me who I am today. I value your counseling so much!❤
Brilliant Dee. A creative, thought provoking message around the word If - inspiring. It's a funny thing about books - if I used the word 😁 our memory is of reading in a book that's where we are drawn to read from. I've always loved that poem and believe it applies to both sexes as you do. Big love from Scotland as always ❤
Have a go at spinning them - use 'what if' in a very positive voice, a very positive way - what if I get all of my planned gardening done this afternoon - how good will I feel? Then, so long as your targets are SMART ones, you are looking at best or at least better case scenarios. Have a go. D
I am plagued with this constantly throughout the day, everyday. It's like a war in my mind. If you do find the If story, I would love to hear it. Honestly, I think you may have cracked the code to turn off the self deprecation! ✝️🙏🕊
Dear ma'am nice to see you, Ma'am you were right I can't force someone to be my friend, today she greeted others in front of me but not not for me, before she was talking to me she says nice to meet you every time when she meet me, but I did nothing wrong why she started avoiding me , it hurts me I'm feeling guilty, she is not first one many people did the same am I bad person ma'am, I cried today loudly. Ma'am I not bad person.
Morning Dee. Do you like Kipling? I don't know, I've never kippled 😅 I like to think (these days) that life happens FOR me, not TO me. When I look back, I can see that if that hadn't happened, I wouldn't have met this person and done that. It helps being old, so you can look back and say, ahhhhh. Now I get it. Lots of love. ❤
It's such a shame that most of us don't get those 'I get it' kerching moments earlier in life. Maybe we do, then just accept them and move on? I haven't kippled much either - though have read 'If' on quite a few occasions. Thanks so much for sharing with us - always appreciated. D
Greetings, Good morning. The strangest part of mine that I can do many stuff but sometimes i just want to end my life at any moment but also I want to see myself old. Maybe because I want to see if I have achieved something? What will you say?
Get the things that are probably going through your head out on to paper. Then see what needs sorting - and how you can do that. If you feel that you need support, do consider seeing a therapist for help. It is hard to judge from your few words. Take care. D
I look forward to your videos 🤍 I found them while in a dark place & they have helped me while I continue to grow. At 24 years old sometimes I forget to slow down. Positive thinking is everything. Thank you for your videos
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Thank you Dee blessing for you ❤
Dee you radiate peace. Thank you for putting it out into the world. Sincerely, an anxious 30yr old who’s still trying to figure out life.
I too am still trying to do that! D
IF (for me) always brings to mind Rudyard Kipling’s powerful poem 🥰
You are wonderful Dee , and just what the world needs more of.
This topic is so helpful, and you speak with much clarity, and kindness in your voice.
You keep me grounded.
Thank you ❤
Thank you so much. D
IF I wouldn’t have made all the life choices I made I wouldn’t be here listening to your lovely voice help me find my way along this crazy journey of life. Thank you so much for all your videos/wisdom(words could never describe how incredibly amazing you are and how much YOU’RE appreciated🤍)
Wow, thank you so much. D
Morning lovely Dee. I know for sure that we are stronger and better people for listening to you. The times I have said or thought “if only…”. Now I’m going to minimise that and give “if I do this …” a go. It makes perfect sense. Thank you! ❤❤❤
To quote that title of a book from many years ago - The power of positive thinking. D
I was thinking of Kipling’s If just then too! I’ll do the same!❤
Very inspirational! I constantly wonder on the “If” of my life and how could i make the past better, but there really is no way to change the past, you just have to improve yourself in the future and learn from your previous mistake to try and not make them again. Loved this one❤
True - but you can change how you look at the past. As well as learn from past mistakes as you say. D
Much appreciate your work grandma 👍
My pleasure D
If only I............
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I am doing .
Watering the garden now 😊x
I am about to water my hanging baskets - just in from a walk. D
I love this! Going from the negative self-talk to thinking positively, what we could do! Thankyou❤❤
You are so welcome! D
Hello again Dee ☺. You are so right. If I hadn't fell and broken my shoulder, I could have held him (Terry) tighter! If he had gone to the doctors sooner (it wouldn't have made a difference with pancreatic cancer, it's quick and nasty). If I hadnt had to reply on others to transport me about! If the Kits 🐾🐾 hadn't had to go into the cattery for 9 weeks! Oh dear so many IFS ... Thank you Dee. Take care . Sending love, light and bright blessings 🌹🐺xx
And back to you with lots of hugs. We really do use 'if' to beat ourselves up - even if the things about which we are beating ourselves were way beyond our control. Take care. D
Many years ago I realized that, for me, any thought which began with "What if..?" wasn't going to go anywhere good. But you make an excellent point of reframing a "what if..?" as a positive e.g. What if it all works out? What if this is the thing you have been searching for? A quote that helps me manage that "If only I'd done A/B/C..." is Maya Angelou's 'Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.' It's only because of where we are now that we can look back and wish we'd done things differently.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts - and Maya Angelou's too!
You are a big help to get my thinking in the right patch!Dont like negative thinking but it happens,Your videos are the kick in the butt I need at times.Thank you for YOU!
We all need that kick sometimes!! D
Thank you Dee! How many times have I said “IF”.. Moving forward with my life & choices I hope I don’t have to say it anymore. I look forward to you hopefully reading us the IF poem. I love your pretty blouse 🌷
You and so many others fling negative ifs around regularly. Not had a chance to find my book with it in - not sure about reading it as I have already talked about 'if' and it isn't a short piece! D
@@Cheshirelass Yes I agree Dee! We have covered IF.. thanks again for your inspiring words 💝
You are so beautiful! Thank you
You are very kind. D
@@wheyquid right?
Yes ma'am it is true, It is cognitive distortion in CBT I was taking this therapy.😊
Ok. You really hit the nail right on the head with this video.
I’m stuck right now…trying to sort out what to do…and I’m still torn between one choice or another. Neither one will be easy…and may cause me sadness…but I am tired of giving and giving and giving and helping and supporting others…all the while feeling as if I’d not given and given and helped and supported so many humans (I am an animal lover…animals tend to appreciate me…they don’t appear to take me for granted). Sounds silly, I know.
I’m upset because I’ve gone through all of my savings to help human family members over the past 50 years…my choice…and they did need my help. Worked very hectic job and thought ‘well I won’t live long, almost every family member passed/tends to pass at a young age’. So…at that time…over so many years, I did what I thought I should do…not always happy about helping some family members over and over, but there must be a glitch in my brain matter. I have a very compassionate heart…and that’s been a curse and blessing.
I remind myself often, what’s done is done. And I can’t change the past. Boundaries. I didn’t really understand about setting boundaries back then.
I barely hear from these family members now. Especially the greedy, narcissistic, egotistical son in law I helped the most after my younger daughter passed (and a superstorm demolished their home 7 months later). Such heartache, There were 4 children who needed shelter, food, patience, stability and love (oldest child lived in Connecticut for years but we saw him frequently). In fact, he’s much older and still unable to fend for himself in many ways. His father and step mom want nothing to do with him.
Funny how life turns out. I choose to look at it that way anyway. Or I’ll cry. What can I do now? It amazes me. This son in law (who was married to my youngest daughter) has a great job now, brand new big home, pool, brand new $25,000 car, drones (why you ask…I do not know), kids are all finally grown…most relocated..and I haven’t seen or heard from him in almost 3/4 yrs. Lives in next town over. He’s not ever offered to pay one cent back to me…nor does he check to see if I need any help with repairs or yard work… or anything.
I never thought of myself as a ‘pushover’. I just cared and didn’t really hesitate when he asked for help. I did what I did for my daughters, my grandchildren….and a few other family members (who are now gone)…and many neglected shelter dogs/cats. As I stated, I also feel a strong connection to non humans in need. I do not regret helping them at all. Still do, if possible.
I’m thankful for your videos..they remind me to be more aware and to ‘let go’ and, being old and not in the best of health, I am feeling emotionally stressed, but a bit stronger also. It’s a work in progress. I have choices to make. And so, I think I might have to re watch a few of your ‘let go’ videos again and again.
Thank you Dee. Please continue to share your insight and wisdom with others..especially those like me. When I meditate, sometimes I imagine I’m a huge gigantic tree, strong and able to withstand whatever comes my way. Able to gently allow my big branches to bend (without breaking) in order to survive whatever comes next. And reminding myself to focus more on the here and now…which is exactly where ever I am in the present moment.
Sorry…I am trying to cut back on the rambling. I feel a bit like I’m talking directly to you. Thank you. Hugs to you and Mishka. 🫶❤️🌺🌼
Take care - a tree seems appropriate as they have ben shown to support other trees around that are in need. D
Wow, I really need this, thank you Dee... ❤
You are so welcome! D
Unfortunately I am a BIG ‘ IF’ person. Thank you for this informative video Dee.
I just recommended you to another big Utube channel where this subject is so helpful to their discussion of accomplishing needed goals. You are such an encouragement that really strengthens a person to move forward in a positive way. Thank you so much❣️
Thank you, I appreciate that. D
Thank you Dee ❤❤❤
Thank you for this video Dee! I have been wondering why regrets and the "what ifs" seem to come to mind more as we get older. Sometimes it seems they haunt my mind when I am doing mundane things. I just tell myself "you've gone BACK" to remind me to come back to the present moment. I guess it's just part of getting older??? You are so helpful! Thank you for your wise words!☺❤
Take care - maybe give a thanks to the thought for reminding you of where you came 'along your path' then set aside and back to your here and now. D
@@Cheshirelass Yes, I will do that Dee. Thank you so much for reminding me that maybe the past made me who I am today. I value your counseling so much!❤
Powerful video today! Wow! Food for thought ❤
Thank you. D
Brilliant Dee. A creative, thought provoking message around the word If - inspiring. It's a funny thing about books - if I used the word 😁 our memory is of reading in a book that's where we are drawn to read from. I've always loved that poem and believe it applies to both sexes as you do. Big love from Scotland as always ❤
Thank you - I love books - have far too many of them and not enough hours in the day. D
I like this. I am a very pessimistic person. My "ifs" are more often than not worst case scenarios.
Have a go at spinning them - use 'what if' in a very positive voice, a very positive way - what if I get all of my planned gardening done this afternoon - how good will I feel? Then, so long as your targets are SMART ones, you are looking at best or at least better case scenarios. Have a go. D
Thank you for your video Dee, this topic has really made an impact on me. I’ll be using “if” ! 🌸
In a positive context I hope! D
Good evening from California❣️✝️🙏🕊
Good morning! From Cheshire. D
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Wonderful Video.. Xx
Thank you! D
I am plagued with this constantly throughout the day, everyday. It's like a war in my mind. If you do find the If story, I would love to hear it. Honestly, I think you may have cracked the code to turn off the self deprecation! ✝️🙏🕊
Time for a peace treaty in your mind I feel. Take care. D
Thank you❣️👍@@Cheshirelass
Thank you for this Dee -it is encouraging -Ps I can now hear you great, now that you have a new microphone -🌛🌈
You are so welcome - D
Could “IF” be another word for regret. I have so many and every day I wish I had done things differently. 🦋
Yes, 'if's' partner in crime is so often 'only' in these circumstances. D
🇮🇪💕something I heard years ago if all would were water and lathe water ink what would we do for bread and cheese what would 2drink
Dear ma'am nice to see you,
Ma'am you were right I can't force someone to be my friend, today she greeted others in front of me but not not for me, before she was talking to me she says nice to meet you every time when she meet me, but I did nothing wrong why she started avoiding me , it hurts me I'm feeling guilty, she is not first one many people did the same am I bad person ma'am,
I cried today loudly. Ma'am I not bad person.
Just keep away from her. I am not commenting beyond this.
@@Cheshirelass ok ma'am
Morning Dee. Do you like Kipling? I don't know, I've never kippled 😅 I like to think (these days) that life happens FOR me, not TO me. When I look back, I can see that if that hadn't happened, I wouldn't have met this person and done that. It helps being old, so you can look back and say, ahhhhh. Now I get it. Lots of love. ❤
It's such a shame that most of us don't get those 'I get it' kerching moments earlier in life. Maybe we do, then just accept them and move on? I haven't kippled much either - though have read 'If' on quite a few occasions. Thanks so much for sharing with us - always appreciated. D
@@Cheshirelass I know, right? Old heads on young shoulders. 😄
If ifs and ands were pots and pans..
Not heard that one for a long time! D
Greetings,
Good morning. The strangest part of mine that I can do many stuff but sometimes i just want to end my life at any moment but also I want to see myself old. Maybe because I want to see if I have achieved something? What will you say?
If you are serious with your comments above, it would be a positive step to seek support, maybe therapy to work through this. D
Hello there Blessings ❤
Thank you wise kind sweet lady.
@@charityferguson5990 Thank you. D
Idk what to do anymore
Get the things that are probably going through your head out on to paper. Then see what needs sorting - and how you can do that. If you feel that you need support, do consider seeing a therapist for help. It is hard to judge from your few words. Take care. D
Writing things down helps a lot. We can see and examine what's on our minds and it helps us cope.
This was a bit harder to understand...
Do you mean the subject or the language? D
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I look forward to your videos 🤍 I found them while in a dark place & they have helped me while I continue to grow. At 24 years old sometimes I forget to slow down. Positive thinking is everything. Thank you for your videos
I am so pleased that you found us too. Slowing down is important though we don't always realise this until we REALLY need to. D