The Struggles Of Being An Asian American | Refinery29

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  • Опубликовано: 16 янв 2025

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  • @refinery29
    @refinery29  6 лет назад +161

    Have you ever had an experience like this? Let us know in the comments!

    • @justinageorge9136
      @justinageorge9136 6 лет назад +22

      when I was in 3rd grade our year long project was to pick and research a country that our family was from. I picked Laos, I am more Lao than white so that was an obvious choice. Part of the project was to present what we learned and share a food. Not one person in a class of 30 would try it, not even the teacher. It was my favorite Lao dessert that my mom and I spent all night making in individual servings- banana and coconut sticky rice. I went home crying that day and even felt ashamed of my heritage. Not even the teacher who was an adult had a open mind to eat a banana and rice. Now as an Asian American adult I love and embrace my culture and i am so proud/thankful for my family's journey

    • @ivosmiley
      @ivosmiley 6 лет назад +4

      Justina George Thank you for sharing! ❤️

    • @jasonvanegas3411
      @jasonvanegas3411 6 лет назад +3

      See in my school white kids are the minorities because I am in Texas but no not really, im Chinese but no one really says stuff like that but only when they joke around. You should have ask sone men too just to see their side of the story in the video.

    • @sarahpalmer4196
      @sarahpalmer4196 6 лет назад +1

      Refinery29 yep

    • @davidshanlay
      @davidshanlay 5 лет назад

      Worse than you guys talking about. Don't even consider as human is what we experienced.

  • @sophienguyen5171
    @sophienguyen5171 6 лет назад +1289

    Someone asked me if I spoke Asian then I said I’m Vietnamese so I speak Vietnamese but I am asian. Then he said you can’t be both. He was also asian.

    • @aprilcherrybomb
      @aprilcherrybomb 6 лет назад +176

      Sophie Nguyen lol I guess Asians can be stupid too.

    • @kyoza8258
      @kyoza8258 6 лет назад +18

      *INHALE*

    • @twig5552
      @twig5552 6 лет назад +51

      For me, it’s like:
      *So you are Vietnamese? So you aren’t white? Why do you look so white? You look 50% white.*

    • @carakohler5242
      @carakohler5242 6 лет назад +37

      I’ve gotten that too...like tf someone told me to speak “China” no bish I’m from Kazakhstan 😩

    • @myronsmith2114
      @myronsmith2114 6 лет назад +6

      Why are you using a black persons image .We are not Mimes

  • @Emily-uc1om
    @Emily-uc1om 6 лет назад +748

    What basic people think Asia's maps are: China, Japan, Korea. Then they will almost automatically put you in one of those races if you tell them you're Asian. Then they're like "They all look the same anyway". Like Asia's the biggest continent, there are not just those countries!! Most probably know more countries in Europe which is way smaller than in Asia.

    • @ddenahi5080
      @ddenahi5080 6 лет назад +40

      I'm pretty sure average American can name only few biggest countries in Europe. Asia or Africa is out of their level lol

    • @maggie12md18
      @maggie12md18 6 лет назад +5

      Munchkin Monster
      Well ofc most would know some of the countries in Europe, such as the Major ones where most of them come from, such as Germany, England, France, and the UK, cause that’s where their dumbass is originated from, since America is composed of many 10th generation immigrants from the 1600’s,
      But people always forget about the Filipinos, Vietnamese, Thai, Mongolian etc, and the middle easterners. I don’t know about Russia tho, it’s confusing for me.

    • @standpointtheory3869
      @standpointtheory3869 6 лет назад +13

      Strong hard-power makes your nation one of richest or advanced nations Strong soft-power makes your nation's value a unique and worldwide brand.
      Why always China, Japan, Korea come up first when people normally think of Asia? Because only the 3 nations in Asia have the both strong powers.
      Same goes to Europe too.
      Only few European nations like Germany, France, U.K. Italy, Spain have the both and strong. Everybody knows they are just few from the entire European nations.
      Just even getting that strong hard-power is still unrealistic dream for the most of nations in this planet though...

    • @jiariin
      @jiariin 5 лет назад +1

      i relate to this way too much

    • @jesseruvio1521
      @jesseruvio1521 5 лет назад

      cinnamonbun how the heck do you relate to this?

  • @Elsisalittleconcerned
    @Elsisalittleconcerned 5 лет назад +305

    I’m an adopted Chinese American raised in a white family and the internal racism from my parents is so weird sometimes. My father doesn’t consider me asian and says I’m “basically white” but I do not want to forget the country I was born in and the culture I was raised in. I’ve gotten micro-aggressions and such and they have no idea why it bothers me so much. Sometimes I’m too white, sometimes I’m too asian. Sometimes people don’t even believe in Chinese because I’m too dark.
    Asians should be proud of being Asian. We come from so many different walks of life. You don’t need to validate yourself when you’re already valid!

    • @bendover6909
      @bendover6909 4 года назад +5

      Most people really don’t give a fuck about whatever you think your race is

    • @hhzhou6614
      @hhzhou6614 4 года назад

      还在?讲句人话?

    • @Elsisalittleconcerned
      @Elsisalittleconcerned 4 года назад +19

      ACringey Name I guess?? But in my experience growing up in a mainly White area of America, my bullying come from me being the only Asian (and adopted) and I’ve been held to standards that Asians are typically known for which resulted in not receiving the help I needed when I was younger and in elementary school. There’s also microaggressions that I still face today and with COVID concerns, those microaggressions may become full aggressions. I’m an Asian woman-and that makes up a large part of my identity alongside many other qualities. To know one’s roots is kinda important to personal identity in general. You may not care about “whatever race I think I am,” but I certainly do-and unfortunately and apparently, when it comes to stereotypes and discrimination, other people do too.

    • @Elsisalittleconcerned
      @Elsisalittleconcerned 4 года назад +2

      @@hhzhou6614
      你好!我使用Google翻译,所以我的回应可能有点差,但是我在美国,自从我被婴儿收养以来就没有去过中国。我不会说,不会读,不会写中文,所以很抱歉,如果这对您的问题没有帮助. 我英语流利,但也学习法语。

    • @hhzhou6614
      @hhzhou6614 4 года назад

      @@Elsisalittleconcerned 好啊好啊好啊 又是一个无根浮萍 一戳就爆的气球 doesn't really matter tho
      lemme ask you some questions.male or female? how tall are you? do you stand straight up?are you in anyway bodily fit?
      what would you do when you get “micro agressions”? how often do you stare offenders right in his or her eyes? how often do you talk back offenders as loud as you can? how often-or did you ever get into physical clash with offenders?

  • @krijandro
    @krijandro 5 лет назад +137

    It's sad because I grew up not wanting anything to do with my filipino culture. I didn't learn the language, refused to take the food to school, and tried all of skin bleaching soaps / lotions since I was blessed with a darker skin tone. Then when I turned 20 I realized how dumb it is and ever since I've been doing all I can to embrace my culture!

    • @TristonPendarvis
      @TristonPendarvis 4 года назад +1

      well you only have one life and after thats its just a big white light for ever like 2 million years passed your still looking at a light and a 500 billion years passed now you realize you have no escape and just go with it

    • @debdebcast
      @debdebcast 3 года назад +1

      A lot of Mexicans feel that way.. I love my Mexican culture and it’s nice knowing a second language. I encourage my siblings to teach their kids Spanish.

    • @JP-br4mx
      @JP-br4mx 2 года назад

      Me too but different

    • @sidus1911
      @sidus1911 2 года назад +1

      You are just dumb. Sorry (not really)

  • @NowNorie
    @NowNorie 6 лет назад +705

    “they don’t even think about people in Bangladesh” lmao

  • @awesomedude2556
    @awesomedude2556 5 лет назад +487

    Some homeless lady told me to go back to “Japan or wherever the hell you come from”
    Lol, I mean, I get why she doesn’t have a job

    • @enmamu1430
      @enmamu1430 5 лет назад +5

      +1

    • @iDiamonda
      @iDiamonda 5 лет назад +36

      She was disgusting wtf.

    • @KyranSparda
      @KyranSparda 4 года назад +31

      "You got shipped over from hell? Looks like you need to get your ass back."😂

    • @bendover6909
      @bendover6909 4 года назад

      Lmao my guy

    • @raniajudavar
      @raniajudavar 4 года назад +24

      U should’ve told her to go home🤡

  • @humayraalom9627
    @humayraalom9627 5 лет назад +129

    “They don’t even think about people from Bangladesh” 🇧🇩 😂
    (True tho)

    • @kutukutilk
      @kutukutilk 4 года назад +3

      @T.A. Peace Hi I'm from Bangladesh and lived there for 18 years and I'm 19 rn. We don't give a shit on how others pronounce the name of our country.

    • @shahidzaman3054
      @shahidzaman3054 4 года назад

      @T.A. Peace bung means fog and ladesh means country? In which language?

    • @shahidzaman3054
      @shahidzaman3054 4 года назад

      @T.A. Peace সত্যি? জানতাম না তো!

    • @kutukutilk
      @kutukutilk 4 года назад

      @T.A. Peace I always say "bung-ladesh". I am sorry, amar kotha mone hoy bujhte ektu koshto hote pare. I meant not a lot of ppl stress about how you pronounce the name of Bangladesh. Yes "bang-ladesh" sounds weird af, but ppl in bangladesh say it. Legit

    • @shahidzaman3054
      @shahidzaman3054 4 года назад

      @T.A. Peace okay then.LOL😂

  • @fatmaatma5280
    @fatmaatma5280 6 лет назад +178

    I think the bigger struggle is that people think asian americans are limited to chinese, japanese or korean. Brown people are totally confused as indian which is also asian btw but not many are aware. asian dont have a Homogenous culture it has so many beautiful languages, culture and ethnicities.asian americans struggle to hold on to tht identity while also adjust to the American identity and there is nothing wrong with that but are made to feel ashamed for not letting go of their baseline cultural identity.. being far away ftom ur own country thr parents stress even more to hold on tight to those roots and are stricter than average asian parents in any asian country. They have to achieve so much to proove the hardships thier parents went through worth thier salt but thier flexibility to live life on thier terms are missing or limited.

    • @refinery29
      @refinery29  6 лет назад +3

      +fatmaatma Thanks for your input!!

    • @fatmaatma5280
      @fatmaatma5280 6 лет назад +3

      Refinery29 welcome. U are doing an excellent job sharing culture :-)

    • @v1das007
      @v1das007 6 лет назад +1

      @@fatmaatma5280 " the bigger struggle is that people think asian americans are limited to chinese, japanese or korean" - but why do you want to be included and acknowledged as some kind of generic "asian"? You wrote it yourself, Asia is diverse. So you should present your own culture and nationality, not the full continent itself. On the one hand, you complain about not being counted as an asian, but on the other hand you complain for being confused with an indian (which is kind of natural, if you don't give more information about yourself). Pick your priorities of how you want to present yourself to the people.

    • @rushda9830
      @rushda9830 3 года назад +1

      @@v1das007 it's about people not knowing basic geography. A person who lives in India is literally an Asian no matter HOW THEY CHOSE TO BE REPRESENTED. They are technically asian and should be acknowledged as one AREA wise other than that it's upto them what they prefer to be called coz India itself has a lot of cultures and religions.

    • @sidus1911
      @sidus1911 2 года назад +1

      Why dont you tell them if its a big struggle 😂

  • @lanunselatable5449
    @lanunselatable5449 5 лет назад +55

    Got a guy I know. He's a halfie with Chinese father and Italian mother. Naturally, he took his father Chinese surname. After graduation with degree in design, he applied for a job as a creative designer. His application was rejected twice. Then he use his mother's surname and send the application again. He got the job on a first try. Same resume, same degree, even the same photo he use before.

    • @HueyPPLong
      @HueyPPLong 5 лет назад

      Italian American or Italian Italian?

    • @toneysopranoo4482
      @toneysopranoo4482 3 года назад +1

      Figures... Everyone hates us Whites Now. The Racism against us in 2021 is insane... i guess it comes with being the best.

    • @Lee-hq1er
      @Lee-hq1er 3 года назад +6

      @@toneysopranoo4482 how does this make sense in the context of his comment, he used a white last name and got the jobs while an Asian last name got him rejected multiple times 😬

    • @mrgiraffelover7388
      @mrgiraffelover7388 2 года назад +2

      @@Lee-hq1er Racism . That's why.

    • @Thoughtcorner224
      @Thoughtcorner224 Год назад

      I have a very similar story with renting apartment. I'm kind of stressed cause now I need to find an internship.

  • @soulfulblossom3791
    @soulfulblossom3791 6 лет назад +116

    I’m Half Brazilian , half Korean, raised in England (London). I have definitely struggled growing up as I look strongly Korean, yet I was raised by a single mum who looked nothing like me. Ppl used to ask is that your babysitter, I also struggled at school, with the bullying, I was constantly called Chinese, although I’m Korean, but ppl believe we are all the same. In England the East Asians aren’t at all in the British film or television industry yet so I had to give up my acting dream because for me moving to asia wasn’t an option. I have been strongly fetishised by men, when everyone started calling themselves chyna and Asian girls became more popular in music videos, I became a target, also been told “ oriental girls have tighter vaginas “. I struggle to accept that I am Asian myself, I’ve never experienced the culture, I was raised by Latinos but the world see me as Chinese, even bought I’m fucking Korean.

    • @refinery29
      @refinery29  6 лет назад +7

      +soulfulblossom Thanks for your input!

    • @thegigadykid1
      @thegigadykid1 6 лет назад +6

      You shouldn't give up in your dreams.

    • @saga2795
      @saga2795 4 года назад +7

      As a Chinese-American, I’m truly sorry that you had to go through all of this. Even though I am Chinese, it still irritates me when people automatically assume every East Asian is-I have a friend who is Japanese, and she always gets called Chinese. Unfortunately, it’s completely true that Asians are almost invisible in the western entertainment industry, and, to be honest, it’s so difficult to make a living as an Asian actress or singer in western countries that I can’t even suggest you to “not give up on your dreams” without feeling guilty.

    • @carsonchan5102
      @carsonchan5102 4 года назад +5

      who cares if people think if you are korean, japanese, chinese, or filipino? what is the difference? you wouldn't be able to tell if someone is Irish, scottish, czech, or russian? (no, because you don't care)

    • @underwoodziv9456
      @underwoodziv9456 4 года назад +6

      I feel ya gal, I'd say Europe is a lot less diverse than North America in General, especially in East Asian representation, and trust me London is arguably the least racist place in the uk, so try to make the best out of it in acting or any dream of yours.
      If you ever lived in any of the small town up north where the two families who own the Chinese take out and Indian restaurant are the only Asians in town, you'll be glad that you're in London.Plus,there are Asian actress from london who made it as leads in channel 4/Sky series and all, it's getting better now.

  • @gumball4762
    @gumball4762 5 лет назад +287

    *Who's here, because they get bullied or maked fun of, for being Asian? Me💖*

    • @shurkeys419
      @shurkeys419 5 лет назад +4

      Sadly yes

    • @ashleyheyer9939
      @ashleyheyer9939 5 лет назад +2

      My friends don't think it's a big deal and they i should just ignore it, but it's not that hard. They think people are just being sarcastic, but people actually say these things to me and are serious.

    • @trevorbatchelor3269
      @trevorbatchelor3269 5 лет назад

      No one lol

    • @clvrswine
      @clvrswine 5 лет назад +1

      Waahhhaha. Grow a pair.

    • @naomiyokoi9248
      @naomiyokoi9248 5 лет назад +1

      Yeah got called a jap at age 12

  • @vainiv
    @vainiv 4 года назад +44

    So basically there was this one kid that was like “ *This is the Chinese version of Santa Claus hahaha* “
    I was reading a book about genghis khan 😒
    Then he said I was married to him. But he’s dead.
    Then another kid was guessing what kind of music I listen to.
    He said, “ *You listen to Japanese music because your from China* “ I’m not from China and not all people from China listen to Japanese music. Just because your from China doesn’t mean you do listen to Japanese music. I listen to kpop.
    Then another kid goes like “ *So since your chinese, doesn’t your family eat cats and dogs?”
    And when they would pull their eyes. Gosh

    • @akiowongjkd
      @akiowongjkd 4 года назад +5

      just say don't you eat bugs and insects?

    • @_wood_sorrel
      @_wood_sorrel 4 года назад +7

      Seriously... Why the heck do people question things that we don't even do?? Like eating dogs/cats is a lot less gross than eating "spoiled milk" (cheese/yogurt) or some kind of microwave food, (read the ingredientl lower and the nutrition facts and you'll be horrified)
      And People saying Asians have small eyes and stuff like that, It's so normalized that before I would even think that it was okay for people to say that. It wasn't until recently I realized that it's not okay.
      I still remember a time in fourth grade, some guy went up to me and said something in "asian" and he said his friend said "I would understand it"
      Like he was straight up saying giberish. It was something like ching chong something . I still can't believe I just brushed it off like it was nothing. I might've screamed at him if I had more confidence

    • @sweetkristy9932
      @sweetkristy9932 4 года назад

      @@_wood_sorrel ikr. Plus, China banned eating dogs and cats. Not all Chinese people who are born and from China eat those disgusting things. Only weird crazy people. Also, don’t forget United States. US they eat insects, snails, and crocodiles. When I went to New Jersey in Ocean City, they sell insects in candies. It’s so disgusting.

    • @_wood_sorrel
      @_wood_sorrel 4 года назад +1

      @@sweetkristy9932 ikr like in some gift shops they have insect lollipops and I would stand as far away as possible from them. There's also a football stadium I've heard of that sells fried crickets as a specialty snack
      I'm not saying that it's not okay to eat that, it's just that a lot of people are being stupid hypocrites

    • @sweetkristy9932
      @sweetkristy9932 4 года назад

      @@_wood_sorrel ikr

  • @kiannahlouie8524
    @kiannahlouie8524 6 лет назад +84

    it’s honestly so disappointing to see so many negative comments on this video. refinery29 is such a positive feminist channel, and you would think that the people watching this video would support other women. obviously asians might not experience as much racism as other races, but every minority experiences its own struggles and has its own stereotypes to fight. it’s absolutely pointless to
    try to denote other peoples struggles because there will ALWAYS be someone out there who has it worse than you, but that doesn’t mean your own struggles aren’t valid

    • @refinery29
      @refinery29  6 лет назад +4

      +kiannahlouie Thanks for sharing!

    • @theshermantanker7043
      @theshermantanker7043 5 лет назад +1

      It's because of the stupid western feminists saying men shoud be fucking banished now because of them actual legit feminists and race rights campaigns are getting shit on by everyone because they think they're just more dumb feminists

    • @TristonPendarvis
      @TristonPendarvis 4 года назад

      @@theshermantanker7043 feminist arent stupid they dont criticize on other genders totally not

  • @addysenkloysuntia8567
    @addysenkloysuntia8567 6 лет назад +49

    “are you thai or asian” -literally everyone

    • @longphung7637
      @longphung7637 5 лет назад +5

      Addysen Kloysuntia
      no it was your
      Big brain random person :Chinese right
      Me: No
      Big brain random person: What are you?
      Me: Vietnamese
      Big brain random person: Oh so your not asian or Chinese
      Me: I’m Hit Chinese but I’m asian
      Big brain random person: so your Chinese
      Me: .... No I’m Not Chinese
      Big brain random person: but Chinese are Asians
      Me: It doesn’t matter
      Big brain random person: So you aren’t asian or Chinese after all

    • @clvrswine
      @clvrswine 5 лет назад

      Good. It's all the same.

    • @khoiphan2990
      @khoiphan2990 4 года назад

      Widowmaker S. wh at

    • @hellothisisnotava
      @hellothisisnotava 3 года назад

      that’s literally like saying: “are you italian or european?” theres a difference between race and ethnicity for hecks sake 😭💀

    • @hentai6582
      @hentai6582 3 года назад

      So are you Chinese or Japanese?

  • @JessBess
    @JessBess 4 года назад +25

    i've always felt 'too Asian' amongst Western friends and 'too Western' amongst Asian friends

    • @hanagabriellebidon9330
      @hanagabriellebidon9330 4 года назад

      Same.

    • @thatpieceofdustonthefloor30
      @thatpieceofdustonthefloor30 4 года назад

      Same dude

    • @FunkyChild718
      @FunkyChild718 Год назад

      Maybe you just had some unsophisticated friends? Why would you need to be the same ethnic group as someone to be their friend? I'm Filipino and grew up with every type of ethnic group in Queens, NY and not one of them required me to be the same ethnic group as them to be friends. It's probably different if you grew up in a small town though.

  • @christopherjohnespiritu9642
    @christopherjohnespiritu9642 4 года назад +16

    In the Philippines everytime we see a Caucasians most of us assumed that they are Americans.
    When we see people from South Asian (e.g Bangladesh, Pakistan) we assumed that they are from India.

    • @otakuismybae2700
      @otakuismybae2700 4 года назад +1

      When I was young I'd assume the same thing but well I'm now old enough to not assume such things.

  • @kakyoin9831
    @kakyoin9831 4 года назад +13

    The struggles of being Asian is that one question that annoys everyone ‘Where you’re really from’ that is not asking where I’m from that’s asking where my parents or ancestors from

  • @kdog1703
    @kdog1703 4 года назад +26

    Being asian American is tough no body knows dating outside your culture is hard for an asian American male. But for an asian American woman is easy this is what they don't get... being an asian American male is more rough this is why you see alot of asian American man date inside our culture ....this is what I see alot.... alot of asian men are single alot these days or they date only asian woman it's sad for my asian race... wish things could change .

    • @lianarose1384
      @lianarose1384 4 года назад

      It does look a little not rare, Can you explain why?

    • @gilnahnu
      @gilnahnu 3 года назад +6

      @@GVH1305 maybe because Asian women are fetishized as they are seen as small and obedient whereas Asian men are demasculized.. they are seen as tiny and feminine

    • @kdog1703
      @kdog1703 3 года назад +1

      @@Blackmalechrissie this is why you probably won't see much asians around in another 10-15 years people moving. United States is terrible.

    • @booboobunny5655
      @booboobunny5655 3 года назад +2

      @@kdog1703 I don’t blame you, BBQ. As a Caribbean American myself living in the US has taken a major toll on my mental health. I can imagine that that would happen for most of not all POC in some way.

    • @sidus1911
      @sidus1911 2 года назад +1

      You are dumb. You should date your own race and not be a traitor. That is a good to date your own race. Also you might be ugly if no one wants to date you. 😂

  • @Myflopera1
    @Myflopera1 3 года назад +4

    I’m black.. and yknow.. I *UsEd to be a lil ignoret towards Asians until I started reading about their history and learning more about them on RUclips. But what really got me interested in Asians is kpop- look ik most Asians might find that annoying or disrespect but that’s how I started liking the Asian community.. and then the more I watched the Korean culture I got into the Chinese culture then I got into the Japan culture then Taiwan culture then Vietnamese culture and so many more. All those positive things!, but when it came to the negative parts. About *racism* i was shocked, cuz I never knew Asians went through racism!. But knowing that racism towards Asians is starting to escalate quickly.. we gotta do something to end alll of this. Because tbh god didn’t want none of this for us.. at all..

    • @Wolfie-Echo
      @Wolfie-Echo 2 года назад

      I know racism is such a huge thing and it will probably never fully end but everyone should try their best to stop it!
      We need to do something about this kinda stuff! And I’m so glad ur learning about my people culture 😊

    • @FunkyChild718
      @FunkyChild718 Год назад

      Asians are culturally the most similar race to Black people believe it or not.

  • @HillaryGaming_Official
    @HillaryGaming_Official 5 лет назад +8

    I am a Chinese girl 🇨🇳 who is born and raised in Canada 🇨🇦 and so I am Chinese Canadian 🇨🇳 🇨🇦

    • @akiowongjkd
      @akiowongjkd 4 года назад

      same
      do you speak cantonese?

    • @akiowongjkd
      @akiowongjkd 4 года назад

      I was born in Toronto

  • @anupamsingh7895
    @anupamsingh7895 6 лет назад +163

    the bald girl is sooo beautiful

  • @_wonlim
    @_wonlim 6 лет назад +84

    plz stop asking to Koreans, "North or South"

    • @jesseruvio1521
      @jesseruvio1521 5 лет назад +3

      Won Lim soooooooo...... which is it?

    • @delilahmurphy1851
      @delilahmurphy1851 5 лет назад +2

      It is super annoying got asked that question heaps in Australia while I was in primary school.

    • @bangsol7914
      @bangsol7914 5 лет назад

      And are you from North America or South America?

    • @delilahmurphy1851
      @delilahmurphy1851 5 лет назад

      @@bangsol7914 I am actually from Australia and I am a mixed Korean and Thai.

    • @bangsol7914
      @bangsol7914 5 лет назад

      @@delilahmurphy1851 OK people seem to be the same everywhere! Anyway my question was actually not meant seriously, but was just a proposed “answer” to the dumb question.

  • @zexalblazer3314
    @zexalblazer3314 3 года назад +17

    As an Asian-American man, I rarely watch this type of content on any media outlet a different perspective that isn't revolved around not knowing how to be an individual in the US, and being a victim of any perceived racial slights. Sure, race-biases do occur in many aspects of life...much like how other biases such as agism, sexism, classism, etc do play a factor.
    This is literally ALL Asian-American perspectives in the media in a nutshell...: "Oh, I don't feel understood or seen as an individual, because I can't decide if I'm too white, asian, black, nerdy, baller...blah blah blah blah blah..." For Asians in particular, there's a ton of insecurity and victimhood mentality being broadcasted across all these media channels about a wide variety of topics. I.e. dating, sports, sexuality etc. and we all know that Asians being smarter is bullshit.
    To my fellow (tbh, un-relatable) Asian-Americans, you need to stop worrying and trying to be just the right kind of American, whatever the hell that means. Just have your own personality, with ur personal likes and dislikes, hobbies, preferences, and goals. Know it, and own it. Get over that shit, IMMEDIATELY, and just start living and playing the game of life. For that, you'll be perceived as a cool individual to some people and not so much to others. And that's the whole point!
    As a realist and an Asian-American man, I think Asian people in the US need to realize, like any other group of people; that being/labeling yourself as a victim of unfair treatment will do little in helping you achieve your goals in life. And it sure as hell isn't healthy when the media perceives you as such. Especially if you play into that self-destructive narrative when given the opportunity to voice your thoughts in the media

    • @hierochloeodorata9692
      @hierochloeodorata9692 Год назад +1

      While I appreciate the spirit of your comment (i.e., give less f*cks about what other people think of you), it’s also grossly trivializing a serious issue.
      Experiencing racism and/or micro-aggressions systemically and/or constantly would give anyone a lot of mental and/or physical wear-and-tear.
      Imagine a greeter who always welcomes everyone but you and people like you (in terms of race/ethnicity). This may not be something that causes you mental distress in and of itself. This may just be one instance of a racist person in and of itself. Multiply this experience or a similar experience in a variety of scenarios and over time and with different people. I would not fault you for starting to feel like “other” in the very place that you call home.
      Beyond simple multiplication, consider intensification of severity. Imagine that you are experiencing an extreme pain of unknown origin. You go to a doctor to get help, but they don’t treat you or treat you with as much consideration because of a preconceived notion that “your people” can handle it or are exaggerating. This may not be your death sentence in and of itself. This may just be one instance of a racist person in and of itself. Multiply this experience or a similar experience in a variety of scenarios and over time and with different people. It would only make sense that your overall quality of life is severely degraded.
      Imagine now that you are a child or a teenager who is experiencing the cumulative mental and/or physical consequences of racism and/or micro-aggressions.
      Real and lasting mental and/or physical harm is being inflicted on the victims of racism and/or micro-aggressions. The solution is not, as you propose, to just “brace up”, when the reality is that we live and work with others, who may have a real impact on our own lives and/or the lives that we care about (e.g., our parents, siblings, children, friends, neighbors, etc.). The solution is to instead start these kinds of conversations and learn how we can all become better human beings to each other.

    • @The_king567
      @The_king567 Месяц назад

      @@hierochloeodorata9692wrong you are clearly not Asian are you because if you did you would know that we don’t care about racism or any micro aggression nonsense that’s all nonsense the media and democrats came up with just go talk to any Asian I’m Chinese American we could care less what people think or say about us and so should you

  • @smellydonut5088
    @smellydonut5088 5 лет назад +32

    The only people who've told me that I wasn't asian were other asians :|

    • @Chee.Y4ng
      @Chee.Y4ng 4 года назад +1

      Lmao

    • @gabrielledennis549
      @gabrielledennis549 4 года назад +4

      You’re whoever you actually are. You’re amazing and valid, and DON’T let anyone tell you otherwise 💕

    • @smellydonut5088
      @smellydonut5088 4 года назад +5

      Gabrielle Dennis tysm girl✨❤️ u r so supportive and thoughtful

  • @MuthaTrucker
    @MuthaTrucker 6 лет назад +6

    I'm an Asian American truck driver. Truckers ask me what " kind of chinese are you boi" and I respond back " I'm Vietnamese Chinese" This world is crazzy, but sometimes I feel like an immigrant even tho I was born here.

  • @kevinnguyen8612
    @kevinnguyen8612 6 лет назад +4

    I had to learn Vietnamese because my family members are not fluent in English. My teachers/professors had high expectations of me -- I was once reprimanded for getting a B+ by my A&P professor in college partly because I only showed up to my classes for quizzes and tests (all the professors in the biology department knew about it). My pathophysiology professor was a Korean immigrant who went to Oxford, got a perfect score on his MCAT by devoting a whole year in a temple somewhere in Korea. He became a doctor, then quit to become an associate professor to play golf (his wife is a director of a local hospital, also Korean). I can personally say the Asian expectations are really up there.

  • @vickeevee5118
    @vickeevee5118 6 лет назад +59

    Thank you for creating this video!! There's just so much to say about this topic. But I can relate to all of these women. Growing up in America hasn't been easy or inclusive. I feel like we're almost overlooked, and nonexistent in many industries and we do face a lot of stereotyping. But I'm happy any time Asian American's are highlighted in the media.

    • @refinery29
      @refinery29  6 лет назад +4

      +vickeeyang Thanks for watching!! We couldn't agree more. Representation is key!

    • @susu959
      @susu959 6 лет назад +1

      Pliz stop being a snowflake

    • @dotdotdot2522
      @dotdotdot2522 6 лет назад +1

      Little Syzygy Go and eat your mayo sandwich.

  • @CambodiaChinita
    @CambodiaChinita 6 лет назад +3

    I am Asian American (Cambodian / Khmer) Growing up, I understood the struggles my family went through living under the Khmer Rouge (1975-1979), surviving the genocide in Cambodia, and starting their lives over again in America. Their perseverance makes me blessed, teaches me that I can never forget my ethnicity and where my ancestors are from🇰🇭 🇺🇸

    • @lol-je3kh
      @lol-je3kh 3 года назад

      BRO IM CAMBODIAN/ KHMER in AMERICA TOO YOOO. But I’m much younger than you likely, My parents survived through the Vietnam war and went told me stories of the land mines. I also discovered that two of my dads brothers died in the war. Nowadays my dad owns a lawn mowing company, she works at a community college, and there are 4 children in our family but I’m the only sister haha. No divorces yet, it’s crazy how things change.. if you’re wondering they’re both cambodians…

    • @CambodiaChinita
      @CambodiaChinita 3 года назад

      @@lol-je3kh Much respect 🙏🙏🙏

    • @Kodeuk
      @Kodeuk 2 года назад

      And in America we face racially gang wars

  • @hannahlytle7206
    @hannahlytle7206 5 лет назад +8

    The fact that people in my school say, " You're Japanese?. I thought you were Asian" kinda leaves me just sitting there

  • @StockyDude
    @StockyDude 3 года назад +2

    I’m Filipino American, and after my parents moved the family to the Philippines for 7 years, I realized that any “struggles” I might have as an Asian American are nothing compared to the struggles of someone who is poor in the Philippines, as many of my relatives are. If they, including the ones who were lucky enough to immigrate to the US in recent years, were to see me take part in a video like this, they would roll their eyes and call me a “Kano” (derogatory for a type of American who is arrogant, lazy, and very spoiled).

  • @ninja1676
    @ninja1676 3 года назад +4

    Honestly no matter how much people say about us, We are always proud to be asian because as long as we respect one another and acknowledge them as people instead of races than I guess the world can be a better place.

    • @samueltorres9961
      @samueltorres9961 3 года назад

      When your Asian parents, maybe not yours, stop teaching to dislike black people with all negative stereotype.

    • @ninja1676
      @ninja1676 2 года назад

      @@samueltorres9961 I agreed some asians discriminate black people and hispanic as well.

    • @The_king567
      @The_king567 Месяц назад

      @@ninja1676and other Asians

  • @petitsjoujoux5011
    @petitsjoujoux5011 6 лет назад +4

    I'm a Taiwanese Canadian! My biggest struggle was having to explain that I don't eat rice everyday and that I eat pasta and bread too xD

    • @refinery29
      @refinery29  6 лет назад +1

      +petitsjoujoux Thanks for watching!

    • @europec2082
      @europec2082 3 года назад

      I'm a Taiwanese-Chinese

  • @neonpanda20
    @neonpanda20 4 года назад +5

    I came to watch this because I was really put down for being Asian. I needed to see something from someone else to be proud of myself. Thank you.

    • @refinery29
      @refinery29  4 года назад +1

      +jadeyuhas Thank you so much for taking the time to watch!!

    • @sidus1911
      @sidus1911 2 года назад +1

      Dont talk to people that put you down

  • @PnoyBoi4Ever
    @PnoyBoi4Ever 5 лет назад +1

    Honestly the #1 struggle is just fitting in. The one girl nailed it saying not that Asian enough or not that White enough.

  • @inspiringer6418
    @inspiringer6418 5 лет назад +4

    I'm Half Indian Half Brazilian but my nationality is American and I never experienced problems specific to a single race. I experienced more negative things from Indian and Brazilian kids themselves. I honestly can't blame them because I can't speak either Hindi or Portuguese fluently and I am culturally neither. There is just some things they understand that I will never. Sometimes it just became too much because I could find common ground with them for many things and they still pushed me away. So that is where that famous phrase too [blank] to be [other blank] and too [other blank] to be [blank] fits in with me. It isn't like our upbringings were completely different. This caused me to feel a disconnection towards the places of my ancestry and accept myself as a plain old boring American. I honestly feel like I can relate to white Americans because they are disconnected from their places of origin aka Europe. If they hung around lets say British or German kids they would not fit in. They are too different. Yes there may be commonalities but they aren't much to warrant a strong feeling of likeness. They are as much of a tourist in Europe as I am in Asia and South America. Even though they are many generations American while I am 1st and 2nd. I've never talked to other mixed race people about this other then my siblings and my brother doesn't care about his heritage like me now but my sister tries very hard to be accepted as Brazilian and does not consider herself American. This is why I've avoided events at school like International Night every single time. Going up to an Indian or Brazilian person and saying that I'm half would be them saying cool and that's about it, forgetting it all together. Birds of a feather will flock together. I've learned that from several years of trying to fit in but accepting it as futile.

  • @alipali
    @alipali 4 года назад +5

    Facts for you to know about us:
    China, Korea, and Japan aren't the only countries in Asia
    Not all Asians look the same, WE ALL HAVE DIFFERENT FEATURES.
    Not all Asians have SmAlL eYeS
    It's almost normalised for being racist to Asians. :/
    Japan is not Anime
    Korea ain't full of Kpop idols
    China isn't CORONAVIRUS
    Your racist jokes about us ain't funny
    You should stop pointing out how different we are
    Thanks for reading.

  • @reemzakii9253
    @reemzakii9253 6 лет назад +43

    *Struggle of being Asian Egyptian in Egypt* 💔

    • @angelareece3763
      @angelareece3763 5 лет назад +1

      @Demiclea Who are "they"???

    • @angelareece3763
      @angelareece3763 5 лет назад +1

      @Demiclea Why do you have to put race into this tho

    • @angelareece3763
      @angelareece3763 5 лет назад

      @Demiclea oky so you decided to copy him/her😕

    • @angelareece3763
      @angelareece3763 5 лет назад +1

      @Demiclea but you cant just say omg white ppl are bieng so harassed or bieng treated badly coz all races have been through shit why when whites are bieng treated somehow you have to call ppl out

    • @yeyeye4538
      @yeyeye4538 4 года назад +2

      Jake Park hate people like you. People think you can’t be racist to white people. White is a race to. And those cringe emojis. I can’t wait to get bad replies but I’m not wrong

  • @qingqingzhao8334
    @qingqingzhao8334 4 года назад +2

    We stick together because it’s natural... I never understood why other people thought it was strange because when you see a group of similar looking people together it shouldn’t be stigmatized

  • @JTytshorts
    @JTytshorts 4 года назад +3

    The girl from Bangladesh has good vibes, she looks so fun to be around

  • @remuspierre7573
    @remuspierre7573 8 месяцев назад +1

    Awesome Information

  • @shutdahellup69420
    @shutdahellup69420 5 лет назад +11

    "omg how asian of us" lol that girl is amazing XD

    • @Chee.Y4ng
      @Chee.Y4ng 4 года назад +1

      Lmao thats literally me and my friends everyday at school. We're in a big ass group and taking like 4 tables in the lunch room.

  • @michaelfujimoto8006
    @michaelfujimoto8006 5 лет назад +2

    Dug this line in particular (2:05) ""It's like...Oh, we give you a platform for Asian Americans and yet all it is is these sort of lunchbox stories of saying, "you know, all I had growing up was people not understanding me. The white kids didn't get me- they didn't think I was white and I think that is a larger question of, 'Who do we want to accept us and us accepting ourselves first.'"

  • @carolynbangun5879
    @carolynbangun5879 5 лет назад +3

    I’m Indonesian American.
    There are a couple kids from school that are from Korea or China and I’m Indonesian American..people at school always called us “the Asians” because of they think we know everything so they treat us like google

  • @sakurastrawberries
    @sakurastrawberries 5 лет назад +7

    I remember this girl she, she wasn’t Asian (I’m Asian) she asked me “Did you go to a Chinese School?” I was like
    The heck I’m Vietnamese

    • @yolo9188
      @yolo9188 5 лет назад +1

      Omg, why is that so relateable, I'm Vietnamese as well, but everyone calls me Chinese.

    • @tusk2812
      @tusk2812 5 лет назад

      Im malaysian chinese but people always say im from china so sick of hearing that

  • @starcherry6814
    @starcherry6814 6 лет назад +24

    Hmm I want to hear from the men too

    • @sandyduong6002
      @sandyduong6002 5 лет назад +4

      @@vickytracy105 regardless of race both sides have suffered

    • @The_king567
      @The_king567 Месяц назад

      We don’t care

  • @viviankate7240
    @viviankate7240 3 года назад +2

    Asian Americans always try really hard to be asian. Like trying to be really asian by introducing their culture and them trying to attempt or speak their ethic language. Usually towards non-asian people. But once they go back to their origin countries, they find it hard to fit in because of culture and language. So they fall back on saying they are so used to american culture. They do the blame game of saying "oh its because of in my country we don't speak.. This language or do this". Debatable. But i can accept the fact that asian americans will always be american. I know an asian american friend that find it really hard to fit in here. Because everyone does differently. All i know asian americans just wanna be special.

  • @LyricLockerEntertain
    @LyricLockerEntertain 2 года назад +3

    This was VERY informative! It's always so shocking to hear about the struggles Asian Americans have in this country. I've never witnessed such shame and I'm glad that's not a norm here in Oklahoma City. We even have a big Asian District that's full of Asian Architecture and Asian culture! I absolutely love driving through there to see it. I have also only shopped in one of their grocery stores once because of the language barrier. But it was an awesome experience. I'm sooooo thankful I wasn't raised to see color or to disrespect someone that looks different from myself! Thank you so much Momma and Daddy! I love ALL CULTURES! #IJUSTDONTUNDERSTAND

    • @Fear_the_Nog
      @Fear_the_Nog Год назад

      That's because they picked the flimsiest snowflakes for this segment. I'm Asian American, I've never even once experienced any of this stuff. Oh I ate my packed lunches in front of everyone alright, I even converted half the class to Asian food because of it. When kids asked me "what is that?" The reply was "real food" lol

  • @MichaelStrawn_I_am
    @MichaelStrawn_I_am 4 года назад +1

    0:35 People feel more comfortable around there own race. It was a prehistoric survival technique.

  • @kerryrunkle6173
    @kerryrunkle6173 4 года назад +4

    there would be days where i would wake up and wish to be white growing up which is SO sad. im happy that now i am comfortable in my own skin but that came as a resultant of lots of growing pains that my white friends didnt understand/ couldnt relate to

  • @raniajudavar
    @raniajudavar 4 года назад +8

    Ppl think whole of
    Asia is china💀 like sis no

  • @imbadateverything2468
    @imbadateverything2468 5 лет назад +28

    (someone):What race are you?
    Me:Oh I'm Chinese
    (Someone):I thought you were asain
    me:😒🌴 (facepalm)

    • @glowstickman
      @glowstickman 5 лет назад +1

      The YT user next time someone says that to me, I’m punching them I don’t care

    • @khoiphan2990
      @khoiphan2990 4 года назад

      Chinese...isn’t a race...

    • @helloootheresirr4839
      @helloootheresirr4839 4 года назад

      your the idiot, not the (someone$

    • @ajjaja892
      @ajjaja892 4 года назад

      Chinese isent a race so....

    • @craftah
      @craftah 4 года назад

      Chinese isnt a race

  • @Expatnema
    @Expatnema 5 лет назад +1

    It is a human nature to feel superior over others. Racism is not just present in caucasians. Even some asians are racists themselves. It is engraved in every soul. And its up to us to accept that we are no better than others in whatever aspect.

  • @yourmom-if7mq
    @yourmom-if7mq 6 лет назад +33

    It’s ok! We love evreyone! American or not #iloverefinery

    • @refinery29
      @refinery29  6 лет назад +2

      +reesefossitt

    • @rudynd
      @rudynd 6 лет назад +2

      they are american lmao

  • @ackermanstan_17
    @ackermanstan_17 4 года назад +6

    This guy in school yelled at me for no reason in science class, “Get back to where you came from!” Like wtf

  • @sorcierego
    @sorcierego 6 лет назад +1

    I'm Vietnamese American and people would just ask me where I'm from and I say, "(insert a State from America)" then they'll say, "No.. where are you really from" then I have to explain the whole process over and over again till they get it.

  • @Ismael_jagne
    @Ismael_jagne 3 года назад +11

    Always be proud of what you’re because it makes you so proud at the end, I love you my Asian brothers and sisters I don’t care where you from, what you look like or what color are you, what matters is “ Humanity “ and need to be respected

  • @annewhen
    @annewhen 5 лет назад +4

    *True Story:*
    I have never been comfortable with telling me my race/pronouncing my last name. So when i was younger, some guy told me "I KNOW YOUR CHINESE! ADMIT IT!!" And im like NOT ALL ASIAN PEOPLE ARE CHINESE! And the kid was like "OF COURSE YOUR CHINESE!! YOU ARE ASIAN WHICH MEAN YOU ARE CHINESE KID!" This was in 2nd grade...are they really teaching 2nd graders to be racist now 😑
    Also i got a 95% on my math test once *Top of the class* and people made fun of me. 😑
    ANDDDDDD once everyone in my class got a certain question wrong and my know it all teacher was about to rub it in my face but then i showed her my worksheet and i got it correct ;-; please explain why my teacher feels the need to make fun of the asian when EVERYONE else in the class got it wrong.

    • @TristonPendarvis
      @TristonPendarvis 4 года назад

      if u are passionate about being living a perfect life do so

  • @lotussong1
    @lotussong1 6 лет назад +34

    I can totally relate to these women. I hate it when people stereotype me. I guess “ignorance is bliss” for some.😕

    • @MrALenCar321
      @MrALenCar321 5 лет назад +2

      You can't expect Americans to know every ethnicity, religion and region of Asia.

  • @missaircraftmechanic3306
    @missaircraftmechanic3306 6 лет назад +1

    I lived in dubai for a year and western people kept saying i'm chinese or vietnamese. They categorized Filipinos as dark skinned and only working as helpers and that seriously hurt me.

    • @crew
      @crew 5 лет назад

      Who cares. As if they don’t have traits that others may find unpleasant and undesirable.

  • @tordlarsson9039
    @tordlarsson9039 6 лет назад +5

    I'm very sorry to every Asian who has ever been discriminated against I'm not asian my self but my race has face somewhat something similar so I know what it feels like I remember in middle school I met this girl who was a Japanese American and she would get bullied all the time luckily she told me about it and got into a fight with her bullies and got detention but atleast she didn't get bullied anymore we have been friends ever since ♡

  • @elizabetharmstrong4108
    @elizabetharmstrong4108 6 лет назад +39

    Blue sweatshirt reminds me of Rosie O'Donnell. all of those women are so beautiful.

  • @jjk4891
    @jjk4891 5 лет назад +16

    “They all look the same” White or black ppl also look the same in the eyes of Asians (who don’t meet foreigners a lot). Ignorant thoughts...

    • @anisseezra68
      @anisseezra68 5 лет назад

      I know right???

    • @theunderrated86
      @theunderrated86 4 года назад +3

      Asians in Asia are just as racist as white people mate. So please stop being a hypocrite.

  • @gandako627
    @gandako627 5 лет назад +1

    it's really hard to be half-asian. I grew you in an asian household and grew up with a philipino church and was surrounded by asians in church. Then when I go to school, I didnt really fit in. I didn't think I was white and I would see the group of asian girl groups in school. I wished I was with them too. Then after a while I found myself. It was like an identity crisis

  • @kenny8341
    @kenny8341 4 года назад +6

    #asianlivesmatter

  • @islae6863
    @islae6863 4 года назад +6

    Why do people call asians or black people African - American and not just American

    • @Gasolineworld
      @Gasolineworld 4 года назад +1

      It was a term created by commies back in the day meant to mock them

    • @islae6863
      @islae6863 4 года назад

      Mo-bamba mode · 81 years ago Wait so why don't we change it as it was kinda racist.

    • @user-di7tg7qf6u
      @user-di7tg7qf6u 4 года назад +1

      We only specify nationality if it has relevance. We are a nation of mostly immigrants. We are American but we are more then just Americans. We take pride in that and respect the identity of family origin.

    • @user-di7tg7qf6u
      @user-di7tg7qf6u 4 года назад +1

      Islanta Gacha lol nothing is racist or formed from commies... generally you’re either white, black, asian, or latin American. But if you know the person is say Mexican you say they’re Mexican if relevant.

    • @islae6863
      @islae6863 4 года назад

      One Two oh okay I live in Canada, and here we just call people Canadian, so I was a little confused, sorry!

  • @naverich4603
    @naverich4603 2 года назад +3

    Here is my problem. I am a really curious person and I love meeting people from all over the world, but I feel like I am doing something wrong when I ask them about their heritage. It is out of curiosity and to better understand what the person comes from...didnt know it can be taken badly.

    • @Fear_the_Nog
      @Fear_the_Nog Год назад

      Normal people appreciate being asked where they are from, trust me. These folks you see in this video are snowflakes. Who gets offended with a simple "where are you from?" I'm Asian, I would give you my entire life history of birthplace to current residence and tell you where not to go get food in Asia, and be proud of it. What is wrong with these people, lol

  • @beanofdestruction1982
    @beanofdestruction1982 5 лет назад +1

    As an elementary schooler, I used to live in an all white neighborhood and kids would slant their eyes an tease me with "Chinese! Japanese!" Ironically enough, I don't even have almond shaped eyes- I have bigger hooded eyes from my mother's side(who's mixed). One day after reading a picture book about a troll who had slanted eyes, I went to recess and slanted my eyes as far as I could DIAGONALLY aand decided to have my fun and scream "I'm KoREaAaAn, FaT NoSE!"- being the generally weird kid I was i then proceeded to chase everyone around with my eyes stretched threatening to eat their dogs and turn their parents into burritos(don't ask, our cafeteria made burritos very often). Needless to say, I got a long talk with the crappy counselor and started stretching my eyes and grinning in a weird manner more often .

  • @sonarmass
    @sonarmass 6 лет назад +9

    Asian Americans are some of the most gorgeous women on the planet!💕

  • @sergiocortez5127
    @sergiocortez5127 4 года назад +11

    Respect to all those proud Asian Americans, sadly were I’m from there’s many Asian white boy wannabe, y’all have nice cultures be proud of ur background country’s being American don’t mean act like a white person it’s the most diverse country.

    • @_.m4ine
      @_.m4ine 4 года назад +4

      it’s not easy to be a proud asian. it’s like i have to act white to fit in, and i always get made fun of or called chinese even though i’m a filipino.

    • @toneysopranoo4482
      @toneysopranoo4482 3 года назад +1

      gross

    • @booboobunny5655
      @booboobunny5655 3 года назад

      @@toneysopranoo4482 ÔMG stöp trólling the comments. 😤😤

    • @toneysopranoo4482
      @toneysopranoo4482 3 года назад +1

      @@booboobunny5655 lol it's True lol
      Thoughhhhhhhhhh

  • @aleyahmalone5012
    @aleyahmalone5012 6 лет назад +24

    Being black is weird because I don't know if I'm black enough or I talk too white or I'm supposed to use a certain sassiness like I'm just zealous sweet graceful me on the inside but on the outside, I'm confused. Plus I don't know my culture I don't know what all is in my DNA. I just don't know... Aghhh 😥

    • @refinery29
      @refinery29  6 лет назад +2

      +aleyahmalone Thanks for sharing!

    • @1CBAITY
      @1CBAITY 6 лет назад +9

      Aleyah Malone girl just be you.....if other ppl don't like it so what....they are missing out....love your skin and what's within.....we are the only race that hate on each other.....so from one blk woman to another.....hold your head high and be proud of being @aleyah Malone 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

    • @amanifields464
      @amanifields464 6 лет назад +11

      That’s the problem. Ethnicity should not define how “you should act.” Be yourself because at the end of the day you’re human just like everyone else on this planet.

    • @susu959
      @susu959 6 лет назад +1

      Dilud it's not rocket science talk to however u want noone is gunna give a fuck who u actually talk to🙄

    • @anijahpostell5282
      @anijahpostell5282 6 лет назад +3

      Love yourself Aleyah!💜 You are a Black woman by design, but always remember you are a part of the Human race as well as the Black race. Never feel like you aren’t black enough. Black comes in all different shades and cultures. Be proud of your heritage, know that you come from a beautiful culture. Black culture is different in every household, don’t think you are less because you don’t fit into the stereotypes, nor the public eye of what Black should look like. DNA doesn’t make you who you are as a person; sure it tells you where your ancestors are from, etc. Just be proud to be a woman, a productive member of the Human race, and most importantly Aleyah Malone!❤️

  • @tiendang7531
    @tiendang7531 9 часов назад

    “And then it occurs to me. They are frightened. In me, they see their own daughters, just as ignorant, just as unmindful of all the truths and hopes they have brought to America. They see daughters who grow impatient when their mothers talk in Chinese, who think they are stupid when they explain things in fractured English. They see that joy and luck do not mean the same to their daughters, that to these closed American-born minds "joy luck" is not a word, it does not exist. They see daughters who will bear grandchildren born without any connecting hope passed from generation to generation.” -The Joy Luck Club

  • @4LKay
    @4LKay 4 года назад +7

    i told my friend that my cousin was asian and then my cousin said “IM NOT ASIAN IM FILIPINO”
    i haven’t talked to her since.

  • @FunkyChild718
    @FunkyChild718 Год назад

    I'm Asian American and grew up around mostly Black and Latino Americans in Queens, NY. I work in Private Equity and bought a condo in a very WASPY area of the UWS of Manhattan. Everyone assumed I grew up in the suburbs, went to an ivy league school etc because of my job, but I'm actually extremely HIP HOP and am a DJ and play loud 90s hip hop music all the time. Needless to say it was a big culture shock for my White neighbors and they still don't know what to make of me, but that's how I like it - I like to break boundaries and be around all different types of people, because I grew up in the most diverse county in the US and to me it makes no difference what people's ethnicity is. Just funny to infiltrate different groups and see their reactions though. Most people in America want you to fit in their bubble, and if you don't, they are immediately suspicious of you. 🤣

  • @moyndebs6759
    @moyndebs6759 4 года назад +8

    I’m Black & I love Asian people. Y’all are amazing 😉 👍🙌

    • @samueltorres9961
      @samueltorres9961 3 года назад

      I love Asian people, but that's not a real struggle calling you Chinese when you are japanese. I wish the struggle black people got in America was just that,, are you from Sudan? when your from Nigeria. Not a struggle compared to what other race.

    • @Myflopera1
      @Myflopera1 3 года назад +1

      @@samueltorres9961 what?

  • @plaguegaming1733
    @plaguegaming1733 5 лет назад

    I’m Chinese American and I may had been a loser back then, but surpassed that phase and became one of the feared

  • @abeerawan6559
    @abeerawan6559 6 лет назад +2

    i was ur 5th like

    • @refinery29
      @refinery29  6 лет назад +1

      +roseyrose Thanks for hanging out with us!!

    • @abeerawan6559
      @abeerawan6559 6 лет назад +1

      Refinery29 omg I love ur channel so much!💖♥️❤️♥️💜💜💖♥️ I also have my phone now so I can put hearts

  • @huda1920
    @huda1920 4 года назад +1

    My dad is from Iraq and my mum is from Turkey. I grew up in Turkey and most of the people think that i'm an arab, even though i'm actually kurdish. Cause they don't even think about Kurdish people in any country either. Couple weeks ago a woman started to talk english with me and asked if i can take a photo of her. After taking the picture she started to talk Turkish on her own. It was a weird and silent moment when i said i can speak Turkish too😂

    • @2000Blizzard
      @2000Blizzard Год назад

      Merhaba, I am Turkish American but my mom is Kurdish. I can relate. Some people think I’m Greek, Eastern European or Middle Eastern.

  • @EssenceofMae
    @EssenceofMae 6 лет назад +10

    Is there gonna be an African one? I have some words to share! Loved this video!

  • @empurically
    @empurically 4 года назад +1

    As an Asian, I’ve been discriminated countless times. I been told that I eat bats, cats, and all those, when I don’t. Most of us Asians don’t eat any exotic foods. Please don’t assume based on some people. It really hurts.

  • @yourenotcute
    @yourenotcute 3 года назад +4

    This is interesting because Asian Americans are by far the most privileged group in the US in terms of average wealth, income, level of educational attainment, and life expectancy.

    • @thatcanadian4460
      @thatcanadian4460 3 года назад +3

      Privileged? It’s because we worked hard bitch. We weren’t handed these things.

    • @Spirit123
      @Spirit123 3 года назад +2

      @@thatcanadian4460 no you don't all
      you do is eating dogs lol

    • @Spirit123
      @Spirit123 3 года назад +1

      @@thatcanadian4460 www.google.com/amp/s/www.washingtonpost.com/news/wonk/wp/2016/11/19/the-real-secret-to-asian-american-success-was-not-education/%3foutputType=amp

    • @pplcantuseyouifyoureuseles6705
      @pplcantuseyouifyoureuseles6705 3 года назад

      @@thatcanadian4460 nah white men and women favor the model minority

    • @yourenotcute
      @yourenotcute 3 года назад +1

      @@thatcanadian4460 that’s just your yellow privilege talking! Jk. But seriously, this phenomenon is a rebuttal of the idea of white privilege/fragility and the extent of “systemic racism.” The fact that two minority groups in the US (Jews and Asians) actual do better on average than white people tells us something important. Legal immigrants go through a filter that allows smarter and harder working people through. Culture also plays a role. White Americans are doing better on average than Black and Native Americans not because of some “privilege” necessarily, but because their (often recent) ancestors arrived with the capital, drive, culture, and education needed for success. Their recent ancestors were not colonized or enslaved. But the idea that Asian in the US are successful because “they worked hard” is too simplistic even if it is essentially true. It really applies to all immigrant and their descendants including people of European descent. Don’t discount the reality that many white people are also successful for the same reasons and are no less deserving of it even if they are the majority. Race isn’t some major advantage/disadvantage in life (even if it feels that way sometimes) compared to class and culture. If it were, white people would be a the top and other groups like African Immigrants or Black Latino immigrants wouldn’t we doing so well either and they would be on par with African Americans or Native Americans.

  • @psyko9660
    @psyko9660 4 года назад

    I was adopted from korea when I was
    4 1/2 months. I was raised by 2 white german lutheran parents and went to a Lutheran school til 9th grade. You wont believe how many racist things people have said to me, "where are you from?", "do you speak a different language?", "you must be good at math" "oh you must know..." "what is it like in your country?" "Do you like rice?" (No I dont)
    etc. People just tell me to ignore it or "don't take it personally", but when this happens almost daily it makes me feel that I'm not appreciated for who I am. If I said something to a white person like they do me, its considered "racist". I just dont understand peoples ignorance

    • @refinery29
      @refinery29  4 года назад +1

      +psyko96 Wow, thank you for bravely sharing your experience with us. Sending you nothing but positivity.

    • @psyko9660
      @psyko9660 4 года назад

      @@refinery29 thanks! One of the things that piss me off the most is when people as for my "nationality" I reply American, but they have to correct me that I'm wrong. I AM an american citizen...ps I have so much more stories

  • @songy67
    @songy67 6 лет назад +19

    The anecdotes brought up in this video are largely superficial. I wish R29 would broach more meaningful issues within the Asian American community such as media representation and the model minority myth.

    • @teawithbronghi
      @teawithbronghi 6 лет назад

      juneseventh I agree, as if there weren’t thousands of other videos scratching the surface of/introducing Asian American struggles...

    • @worshipthecomedygodseoeunk4010
      @worshipthecomedygodseoeunk4010 6 лет назад +2

      Agreed, it also makes a few experiences look like they're supposed to represent all experiences but obviously they don't. And no one takes us seriously, especially other minorities, because our issues don't seem "real" enough. But the truth is, the things that seem subtle can affect someone very strongly. Everyone says that Asian Americans are honorary white people but why do we carry that label in the first place? Well, look at some history and find out. But people don't hear about our history because of the invisibility issue. And since so many of us use assimilation as a survival tactic in our environment, it appears that we don't have any issues at all and many people even outright deny they exist. It's better to break through that bamboo ceiling and show people that the community is definitely still in a fight. Just not a very visible one.

  • @HiddenWen
    @HiddenWen 4 года назад +1

    Asians tend to be accepting and respectful of other cultures yet this is rarely reciprocated.

  • @MaeaCh
    @MaeaCh 6 лет назад +17

    *hey look it's the chinese*
    -cool white boy
    I'm korean

    • @MIDOGALI
      @MIDOGALI 5 лет назад +1

      Hmm ... in Korea it goes like this.
      Hey, look it's the Anerican.
      -cool Korean boy.
      I'm Irish.
      See what I did there?

    • @evanwang5363
      @evanwang5363 5 лет назад

      @@MIDOGALI no

    • @crew
      @crew 5 лет назад

      MIDOGALI But are you really from Ireland?

  • @PoofyLoaf
    @PoofyLoaf 5 лет назад +2

    This made me tear up a bit 😪 thank u for making this video!

  • @helenalbiston8253
    @helenalbiston8253 5 лет назад +4

    This is interesting for me to see because I am fully from Asia, but live in America and have US citizenship. (I can’t quite tell if these people are from Asia, but grew up in America or if they are biracial.)

  • @alyciah5150
    @alyciah5150 5 лет назад +2

    Very powerful conversation - definitely gave me new insights.

  • @JackORackham
    @JackORackham 5 лет назад +4

    For me there a lot of perks being Asian than cons

  • @munkhbayarmendsaikhan4630
    @munkhbayarmendsaikhan4630 5 лет назад +2

    im a asian and a left handed and born on a sam day as my sister but she is three years younger than me and people are just like wow ur asian wow ur a left handed and like wow ur were born on a same day as ur sister but she is years younger than u? u know how annoying is that?

  • @mohamedkhalilabid9
    @mohamedkhalilabid9 4 года назад +5

    Why not include asian males ??

    • @mohamedkhalilabid9
      @mohamedkhalilabid9 4 года назад +1

      @ThatOneAsianBroChick Do you know the jokes made about asian males ? About their sexual tools ? Their virility ? Their look without beard, muscles or their short stature ?

  • @endlesssummer9139
    @endlesssummer9139 Год назад

    As kid my parent would pack bag my food for school I would not feel embarrassed because my food is good and healthy and it make me feel full.

  • @1CBAITY
    @1CBAITY 6 лет назад +9

    I'm so proud of you women on here that can embrace your culture and diversity......😍😍😍😍😍😍

    • @refinery29
      @refinery29  6 лет назад

      +1cbaity YAS!

    • @susu959
      @susu959 6 лет назад +1

      yes but they act like victims

  • @Jaydunnnn
    @Jaydunnnn 4 года назад +1

    Main thing for me is racism is hella normalized to asians

  • @susannahdean584
    @susannahdean584 6 лет назад +7

    The struggle is real. lmao

  • @raesmith2164
    @raesmith2164 6 лет назад

    I'm half Asian. I've "struggled" with these things before. Legit everyone has been nice to me. Everyone wanted to eat my food and wanted to know more of my heritage and culture. I'm also from a hick town in Idaho. Where tf are y'all getting all these stories from?

  • @iamnani_9111
    @iamnani_9111 6 лет назад +14

    Why no Asian guys I’m an Asian guy I bring sushi to my lunch table and the only Asian there is my Indian friend most of my friends are white I go to a white school and I bring Asian stuff well this is the 21 century so yeah

  • @mohammedrashid6137
    @mohammedrashid6137 5 лет назад +2

    AYYY BANGALI AMERICAN SQUAD WHERE YOU AT

  • @calebmatthews4006
    @calebmatthews4006 6 лет назад +3

    my asian mom always gave me asian food when I would have much rather eaten cafeteria food and be normal like everyone else.

    • @Lyaaaamlyaaaam
      @Lyaaaamlyaaaam 5 лет назад

      When we are child, we all want to fit in don't we 😂

    • @lucylou4885
      @lucylou4885 5 лет назад

      I’m primary school I ate what everyone else ate and bought stuff from the canteen every day I was scared that people would start being mean... now in high school I don’t use the canteen anymore I eat my mums chinese food since it is way better than the canteen food. I’ve had people come up to me and legit pay to eat my chinese food 😂😂

  • @zet3136
    @zet3136 5 лет назад +1

    People called me Chinese or Korean because of my eyes. I am always sad but always move on. I know I am Filipino and they know it too. They still do it up until now.