I’m already seeing some very odd takes and I need to say this. No one is above being abused. No one. You can vet a man for years, finally give him a chance, and he turns on you. The fact is people are multi-faceted and can change with every life experience. While I don’t agree with Keke dating and having a baby with this man in a short period of time, I also know how easily someone can make you feel loved and also devalued in the same breath. The onus is always on a woman to choose better but the reality is simply dating any man puts you at risk of abuse. Because patriarchy and the socialization of the male gender upholds some very dangerous ideologies. Sending love her way and to anyone who has been abused and made to feel like you didn’t do enough. ❤
The KeKe & Darius situation is a prime example of why Tyler Perry's statement was so dangerous. Most men hate when their wife or girlfriend/baby mama makes more money than them.
It was probably about more than the money. He saw her low self esteem and pounced on it. He groomed her, love bombed her and then his true self was exposed. They can never hide for too long which is probably why he got her pregnant so quickly
I really wish there was a more ‘safe’ space for bw who really have experienced things that could be deemed as dark. Suffering in silence shouldn’t be our default.
I actually really do think societal forces either desire or force Black women to experience the negative parts of life in silence... I will say Black women are often very brave and speak up, but the consequences are real.
I was actually shocked to see these security cam images. I knew something was up with him but I didn't think things were physically abusive. It's very unfortunate that all this was going on behind closed doors.
Steph, thanks for sharing this story. Yes, unfortunately it's not safe for folks to post their personal life…even when you're not a content creator. People online are absolutely unhinged and hostile.
I really hate that you’ve experienced this. I believe your content threatens many narratives and that scares people. It’s scary to think that despite your best efforts, sometimes shit goes terribly wrong for no good reason. So people have to make you the problem instead of accepting life is messy af and oftentimes things are out of our control. I’m happy you’re protecting your peace and deeply saddened that people do not have the emotional maturity to engage with your more vulnerable content in a healthy way.
I definitely agree with you. The fact that even as you grow older life can still be messy and not work out the way you have hoped is scary. I guess people expect having that happy ending at a certain age but it’s not realistic for a lot of people.
Yeah. I understand now why she has not continued. She was breaking barriers but people make that soooo difficult. It's a shame it got so intense. I'm sorry i ever pushed. I just miss a particular sound bite I guess.
Steph, You apologize or justify yourself a lot. You are allowed to make mistakes, talk through things in the medium you want, and stand in your story. The experiences you had ached you and oversharing was a part of your healing. Let it rest now without apologizing for who you were then. Choose who you are today based on what your instincts say and not the response you got.
I’m saying this out of support and love from one black woman to another…..don’t share your personal stories online. There’s a lot of miserable people out here who wants to bring you down or “humble” you by literally destroying your confidence. It’s crazy because when I go through bw influencers comment sections, it’s always us coming at eachother 🤦🏾♀️🥴
I see what you’re saying, but I’d rather share my personal story just to reach out to somebody who could be dealing with the same thing behind closed doors. Nobody can hurt me with what I’ve willlingly put outline
I’m not passing any judgment on Keke. At this time I just want her to do whatever she feel is best for the safety and wellbeing of her and little Leo. She will overcome this situation!
If others want storytelling so badly, maybe people could send you their stories and not your own personal stories. I think if you don’t want to share personal stories, then don’t and protect your own mental health.
🎯 I believe ALL women should take note 📝 of EXACTLY THIS. Over 20 years in the game and ZERO Issues until she started dealing with this MAN who she was NOT EQUALLY YOKED with. Men can truly be your downfall if you choose wrong be very careful…
I’m shocked and disgusted by some people. I'm so sorry your content creation experience has been so traumatizing Steph. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: I watch and support you religiously! Whatever direction you want to take with your content, I’ll be here to support it.
If there was anyone’s take on this situation that I wanted, it was definitely yours! I agreed with every point. Sorry you’ve had such a tough time in your personal life.
I appreciate your vulnerability and I’m sorry the internet is such a bad place! I hope you are able to discuss your life and difficult issues with people in your life who love and support you and understand you. As someone with a complicated dating life, I also have realized that 99% of people aren’t helpful to talk to about these things.
You’re one of my favorite creators and I’m so sorry you’re being treated this way. It is so hard for Black women to have an outlet! I want you to know I will ALWAYS support you! Wishing you nothing but happiness 💓
Tbh I was peed tf off when you expressed how you were being treated for sharing your story times. I can't say I don't miss the humor and how relatable things were but I sincerely Respect your decision. Much love and support from Ky.
I’ve learned to be very selective with what I share about myself on social media. No one’s life is perfect. As a coach, people’s lives change when they’re ready. Not through shame and judgement. I’m sorry you experienced so much unkindness 🧡
I'm not sure our society's culture affords a "safe space" for black women. It's so easy for people to punch down because no one is held accountable for stepping on the least powerful among us. It's the apathy, for me! With that being said, do whatever you feel you need to do to protect your mental health and I will continue to watch. Thanks as always for sharing.
I’m a survivor of verbal AND physical domestic ab*se. Imma just say, people don’t need to lay a hand on you to physically ab*se you. The line with my ex was that I would leave if he laid a hand on me. Instead he found other ways.
I am proud of you for setting boundaries! I’m sure this is going to be scary, trying to discover what videos you would like to post more of , but you will find the right people that like what you are doing❤️
Hey Steph, I’m not a commenter on videos nor am I sure you’ll ever see this but I want to tell you something. Thank you so much for the videos, personally I enjoy your content-whether it’s your romantic life, commentaries etc. I enjoy it because you’re the one who’s making it. You have a gift of speaking and I think it’s completely fine that you have lived a life and desire to share that with all of us. I’m sorry that your experience on social media has been harsh to say the least but thank you for your vulnerability and authenticity. Thank you for being you and may God bless you always! So, even though I know that this comment will never erase the pain or memories you’ve experienced but you are NOT a joke. You are gifted, called, and deserving of all the love you could ever possibly receive. So, I hope that one day the social media world will be a safer place so others can share but until then, do what’s best for you my dear and live. Be blessed hun!
Honestly, Steph, I appreciate watching you grow your channel. We often see the perfection but not the work it takes to find our way. So I am looking forward to seeing how you work out your channel. Though I, an awkward black girl in my 30s whose life hasn't gone the way I thought it would, will miss the old content. It was refreshing to see that everyone else doesn't have it figured out either and that it's just life. But as someone who has seen the forums, I COMPLETELY understand. ❤
Some people are just disgustingly mean to Black women for no reason 😕. And people seem to love personal dating stories depending on what shade skin you have. Remember: Sex in the City, Girls and Friends were about 30 somethings dating and telling their stories. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Please do what is best for you, your real supporters will always be here ❤❤❤❤.
@raqui174 sometimes that us true. Unfortunately, in this case it isn't. I'm speaking in the context of how BW are treated by people in general and the Black community in particular. They act like our stories and our feelings don't matter. That's why Sex in the City was a hit and this young lady telling her stories are met with vitrol.
@@raqui174No, black women are disproportionately attacked on the internet and in real life because of our race and sex. They are many statistics and studies that support this. Do not all lives matter our trauma.
I know the hate is louder but for what it's worth, I love your content. I appreciate you and your life, your experiences and your decision to create your channel, be vulnerable and upload your stories. I hate that ppl are so lame and judgemental and spew negativity while being cowards and gutless. But I found your channel exactly when I was most vulnerable and needed too hear what you were saying. I'm grateful you exist in this space and I truly love your content and relate so much to you.
Maybe I’m just not aware, but I think Steph is like in her late 30’s so I don’t think ageism is applicable here. She might be older but I’m sure she isn’t old
@yourmotherhatesyou641 Ageism definitely plays a part, it probably plays the biggest part like Steph mentioned - people are more forgiving of a 24 years old having a messy dating life than they are of a 38 year old. There's this expectation that you shouldnt being dealing with that in your late 30's. You can not tell me you've not seen the sentiment online about a woman's life being over at 35 if she isn't married with kids by then. Women expressing real fears at not having achieved life milestones by a certain age.
This most definitely needs be pinned! I also feel as though jealousy of her up bringing. "We"( as ppl love to say and think🙄) don't all have the same experiences!
I don’t think it’s age cuz lots of 30+ women tell bad dating stories I think it was that you shared from a vulnerable place where you spoke on your honest feelings instead of a “girl lemme tell you what this man did” perspective where you end with “his loss, onto the next” type of attitude
But they are lying .. it is never when a woman is alone “his loss, onto the next” attitude especially when you don’t attract men normally. I def dnt say that lol
You are an excellent and eloquent story teller, I'm sure there are people that admire you but unfortunately there will be some haters too, keep your head up
Aye you interested in talking on other’s stories. Viewers submit their stories and you put your two sense on it. I feel like that content would do so well. I’m in my mid twenties and your few on things is so refreshing. I love tuning in your channel. I never comment but I like the videos
I’m deeply sorry you’ve had such a negative experience with your channel and patreon page. The internet can be truly scary, and there’s a lot of awful people out there. Please do whatever you need to protect yourself. Change the direction of your channel as much as you need. I’m sending love and light your way. 🤍
girl I commented before even watching! keep doing you it is so refreshing to see a black woman just be. love your opinions and stories ill watch anything you post lol
I totally understand why you’re going a different route with your channel, Stephanie. You’re multitalented and deserve to discuss multiple topics that interests you. Us as viewers have to understand your boundaries. I’m not as big as you, but content creation should be a safe space. Regardless if you do not like the content, the creator, or both. The issue is some viewers get a little too comfortable being a hater. As for the Darius and Keke Palmer situation… I’m happy that Keke and her mother are speaking out. Sarunas Jackson sure is messing up his reputation for siding with his little brother. Even if that’s your brother, wrong is wrong. Plus, his actions are affecting his nephew as well🤷🏾♂️💯
Keke became pregnant just 2 months after the CCTV stills of her being hurt by Darius on the stairs. I can’t imagine what was going through Keke’s mind, knowing she was connecting herself, and preparing to co-parent with this man whom she loved, but whom was being incredibly harmful to her. I just hope Keke and her son are safe and surrounded by those who love them.
Stephanie, I admire and aspire to have your strength of character. I could not imagine being attacked so viciously and publicly for simply sharing my vulnerabilities and lived experiences, and not only bouncing back, but loving myself enough to have such strict and protective boundaries for myself. None of us are perfect, and it’s a shame that your natural, beautiful imperfections were taken up as arms against you. I love hearing you speak about anything, so I am grateful that you’ve created this boundary, since that is how we can continue to hear your voice. Much love
I like your content about reality tv and current events and celebrity stuff. We still get YOU and your perspective. I like your videos because I like it feels like I have a friend. I nod and respond back to you all the time 😂😂 Don’t put your personal stuff out there unless it makes sense. Like a Christmas Card photoshoot or something idk.
It's sad that so many of our women are abused this way. But's its even sadder that a woman can achieve as much as she has--and many of our other black female celebs--and still feel that they had to accept that.
I remember commenting on a video you posted. I am an auntie by nature, and gave my 2cents. Let me say now that if my comments were part of those comments that hurt you, I apologize from the bottom of my heart. I never meant to diagnose your situation to the extent that it made you feel a way. I have lived some of what you talked about- that is why I had opinions. But it should never be hurtful. ❤❤❤
Just started but I want to say that the GRWMs are some of my favourite videos of yours! That, the try-ons and any vlog style videos. It's really fun to see you in a more casual setting. edit: I'm definitely one of the viewers who preferred your story-times but I really think it speaks the entitlement and the expectations we have online to be engaged/stimulated constantly. It shouldnt take you explaining yourself and your decision to step back every few months for those of us that came because we enjoyed your previous content, to respect your boundaries. It's absolutely awful the lengths people have gone to harass you but honestly even without the justification, I just wish you saying that you didn't feel like it anymore would've been enough. Wishing you love, light and a good ending to the year. 🙏🏾
There’s not a lot of people on RUclips I drop everything for to watch. Your content is always refreshing. I will say though I was on those people who silently were bothered by your consistent dating failures. I think you really hit the nail on the head with ageism. It is not your fault or responsibility, but as somone who is in my early 20’s we see nothing but “red pill men” bash black women and pick them apart for being “unlovable”, then when I see somone as beautiful and lovely of a woman as you go through those things it strikes a cord of insecurity. But after your videos I think you’re absolutely right that after 30 should be able to make mistakes and people shouldn’t be attacking you.
Hi stephanie! I’ve enjoyed every one of your videos, no matter the subject. Because I operate from a peaceful spirit, I am able to watch and comment positively or not comment at all. Unfortunately, many people in our world are broken souls and therefore are breaking other souls. You have grown so much and I love your personality and sense of humor! Bless you on your life journey! 😎🙌🙏🏻
You really didn’t deserve all that hate you described in this vid!! You’ve been through so much omg stop asking her to go back to that! I love your storytelling and I support you because I see myself represented in you and your stories. I’m 30 and I’ve been in really similar situations as you so your vids provided real comfort! I hope your comment sections and content on the net pushes out all those hateful people, with only supporters remaining! Stay the course! And maybe think about accepting stories from other black women who would rather have you narrate! I feel like the reality tv content viewers are too pathological atp. I love your charming and positive spin on unfortunate situations. You’ve shared enough of your own tho!!
They are super young, but they are also lighter skinned. This is light skinned privilege as well. Find Chrissie, she'll illuminate ALOT colorurism doesn't get enough play. Ageism is real as well, you have a point
Glad you're changing some things for your comfortability. fuck the haters fr. I find it interesting that you searched to see if other content creators are experiencing the same thing you are. I don't think it would be possible to really find an "equivalent", in any capacity, much less on youtube. I hope you find your happy medium, I shall continue to support you & keep up with your journey! good luck
I’ve been in an emotionally abusive and manipulative relationship. The roller coaster ride of emotions have this crazy way of making you love them harder and feel like it’s you and him against the world. Once you escape you gotta keep moving. I hope keke is okay and I’m glad her family is behind her
I'm so sorry that you go through these things for the sake of your content. If I have ever come off as not empathetic I apologize. Thank you for being vulnerable in this space.
So sorry that you went through and are going through that. Continue to do what's best for your mental health and your peace. Everyone else will be OK.💕 P.S. You have this sort of matter of fact, take it or leave it, confident tone in this video and I love that for you! Hopefully people respect your boundaries and dont continue to ask you for the type of content that has caused you so much trauma.
Heyyyy girl. These other story time content creators actually tell crazy stories that don’t sound real? Your stories seem real to me. I’ve enjoyed them and understood them. Your stories were relatable to us 30 something’s. There are sooooo many women that experience what you’ve experienced. I wish I had the guts to share my experiences lol. And trust me, they are wayyyyyyy crazy. Lol. Anyhow, I shall watch whatever you put up.
Steph love your channel. I’m sorry you’ve been a target I def couldn’t handle it! Just fyi I’ve heard other RUclipsrs (non controversial channels) talk about hate in their comments, they delete upsetting comments so you may not see the hate others are getting. Just don’t want you to think you are alone.
Yeah & many don't do it themselves they have programs that scan for certain words & phrase & automatically delete them or have mods who go through the comments & delete them. That way it lessethe emotional burden on the content creator.
I saw a comment yesterday where a Cardi B fan was angry that she was having dinner with Patti Labelle and not making music. When i mentioned that we dont own these people they lashed oit at me. Some of these people are just miserable or have mental issues. When they see others having a hard time they feel better about themselves. Steph, how dare you protect your mental health.
44:17 I’m grateful that you talked about it. Your story of feeling like you over shared! It gives me guidance on what to do when I restart my channel! And I send love and uplifting spirits to You and Keke! Y’all did NOT deserve any of that abuse!
I for one will miss your personal stories, you're one of the few channels I watch consistently. I've found your content to be very relatable and also found wisdom in it too. So for that I thank you. 💖 I completely understand why you are going a new direction with your channel and will 100% support you in your new season. Wishing you all the best.
I miss your story time’s as well, but I know that it’s better to protect your peace and privacy! I’m glad that I was able to see the content while it was available! I thank you for your vulnerability my romantic life and yours mirrors so much it helped me knowing that someone could understand!
I hope you see my comment over the negative ones …. I have always enjoyed your content and think that you do offer an insightful perspective often a perspective that is usually unheard or overlooked in topics. I’m happy your channel exists cause it does offer some balance to the topics out there. Imma be here tuning for your thoughts always. I think you are funny and brilliant. You’re very kind and thoughtful despite how the internet decides to treat you. I hope you know I see immense value in your videos and I love how no matter what you continue to put out your voice and perspective. You are a force and I personally love listening to you. The ppl are coming at you because you are a black woman and like to “dunk on you” cause it makes them feel good those ppl are pathetic and it’s a reflection of themselves. So I hope you let those comment roll right off. Ik it’s easier said than done 😉😅 but I think you are fabulous in your own right I love to see your transformation and growth in every video. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ I love you much!
I also think unless you’ve been in an abusive relationship it’s hard to understand how it can happen and how you can get stuck. Abusers are extremely manipulative and strategic and lots of times their victims are confused, hurt, ashamed and so on and so forth. My heart goes out to keke. This could happen to anyone! YES even you! I’ve read so many stories of men hiding behind a facade for years before revealing their abusive nature.
You were telling an uncomfortable truth about dating that still needs to be told. Everybody doesn't get a romantic happily ever after. A lot of ageing church girls have similar stories about fertility, loneliness, and unexpected singleness at a particular stage in life. The attack isn't really against you but the shattering of the fantasy that life gets easy, breezy after 30. As a former teacher, I also connected with the financial constraints that limit travel and socializing in places where suitable partners might be hiding. 😁 Your perspective has more impact than the younger girls which is why they don't get attacked. You are a disruptor who intelligently articulates the secret struggles of a lot of women. You were once brave enough to put your authentic self out there and tell your stories. Instead of retreating, hopefully you can embrace that fearlessness once again.
Not everyone is built to take the onslaught of toxicity that comes with being online. Other ppl finds ways to deal with it & even uses it to get their bag. If Steph is not one of those ppl & realises it its good for her.
She explained the effects of what telling personal stories had on her personal life and you’re STILL pushing her to do so. I will be the first to say I miss her original channel setup with the personal story times, but after hearing and seeing how disgusting she was treated how people slandered her name on the internet, I would never want her to go back to creating that type of content. She is a real person. Steph doesn’t have to create vulnerable content just so we feel “seen” at her own expense.
I think your take on situations is often made without an attempt to interpret what could be behind the glimpses we are catching. A man who comes out to be 'messy' online, when his partner is a popular/famous person, is doing more than just being messy, they are trying to destroy their public image. They are trying to burst the doors wide open to the private life of a public persona. You keep it very light and very superficial at times, and you swerve the harder questions we could be asking ourselves.
It’s been on my heart to start a RUclips channel for so long but this is the kind of stuff that terrifies me. I’m a hospital Chaplain and so I deal with illness, suffering, death and dying all day. I do it happily because I feel so so so so honored to support so many patients, their families and the staff BUT in order to do that work, I need to live a stable, peaceful, healthy life that can support me. If I open myself up on the internet (I wanted to share wellness tips) I also open myself up to harm and that might break me… if that happened, I wouldn’t be able to continue to do my work at the hospital… so I just haven’t done it.
I just love hearing you talk. I love your stories. I love your academic analysis on hot topics. Whatever you have ... Whenever you have it. I'm here for it.
I just wanted to say I’ve been a huge fan of yours since the pretty privilege video!! I love how you present your truth and don’t just only highlight the shiny feel good parts. I wish you the best in whatever you do, and look forward to seeing your future content, whatever it may be.
I'm SORRY! I was one of the people that would ask for more of your personal stories, but I finally understand it's been painful for you & I won't do that again. I support you girl, no matter what you post!
You are one of the top 3 most resilient and quality persons or personalities I have ever encountered. Your videos are always a treat. If there is any sort of karmic justice or balance, there is an alternate universe in which you are rewarded and not punished for these qualities.
I rarely comment on any pages where I’m subscribed, but I felt compelled to say that I never could have imagined that you were going through all these things. I understand now why you chose to pivot your content.❤
Thank You so much and Im so sorry you were attacked.. However this is the truth of woman who look like us. Ppl who don’t fit the FAKE society. I love you my sister and in real life I live your reality everyday.
I'm baffled, offended and irritated by the colossal amount of UNNECESSARY animosity that UNHINGED people send your way. Watching your videos is not compulsory. These people can choose another channel. There are so many options on this platform. Anonymity gives some people internet courage that they probably don't have offline. I'm sure you know this Steph but in case you don't, let me remind you that you're a powerful and intelligent voice on RUclips. I and THOUSANDS of your subscribers (StephGang!?) appreciate your content. You're entitled to post WHATEVER you want. WHENEVER you want & HOWEVER you want. In theory, yes, but you're wise to pivot, protect your mental health & restrict your content. Some people, the ones who joined your Patreon for malicious reasons- are just downright disturbing! My question to them; *Is everything OK at home?*
I listened to the most recent season of “and just like that…the writers room” podcast and they said the same thing about how cathartic writing is and how that is how they work through what’s going on. I’ve always loved all your content!!! I hate how mean spirited some people can be.
You’re very sensitive on RUclips, yet so strong and I love how you set your boundaries that allow that necessary comfort for your sensitivity on the internet. More people need to do the same instead of acting tough and arguing back and forth with people on comment sections who they’ll never meet.
I loved your personal stories too! I don’t think your content is bad at all! However, I am noticing a trend of over explaining to your audience why you run your channel the way you do. It’s over 20 mins in and we’re still hearing about why you don’t post personal content. When do we get to Keke Palmer? We hear more about your social media journey than anything else at this point 🤐
@@Marie-pn5trExactly. The thumbnail is of Keke, but it’s over 35 mins now, and she’s barely touched that topic. Instead, comparing her creator experience, talking numbers etc… love this channel DOWN, but I think that’s a bigger topic than her personal stories at this point. We’ve learned enough about her creator journey. Give it a rest sis 🙏🏾😭
It’s been a common theme, so I think her channel changes would be good for another thread of videos instead. I understand there are those who won’t be supportive, but I’ve welcomed each change and commented positively almost every time. Atp, I feel like I’m hearing the same thing one berm hearing for a while. Which I’m sorry it went this way, but I’m excited for the new content and commentary.
Wow ,no wonder she speaks in the manner that she does. I don't understand why anyone who believes that she is taking too much time would stay for the entire video just click on the next video. However, I bet you will watch a 55 minute video of a person showcasing all of their belongings/assets. I do not mind vlogs but when I see they are an hour long, I say No way ! You and the others who replied have the opportunity to do the same thing. click out of it We just don't get to dictate how a person does their job. We just say I don;t support this person No input needed
@@Marie-pn5tr We are absolutely allowed to have an opinion but just imagine that you were critique by a supervisor on everything you did but not because its wrong but just because it was not the way he or she would do it How exhausting
The fact that people were PAYING YOU to bash you & be discouraging is crazzzyyy. I love your honest content. It takes bravery and I’m sorry that some damaged people could not honor your vulnerability. ❤
I’m sorry about the entitlement and animosity that you’ve had to face! It sounds very tough and I think you’ve explained yourself enough. You definitely don’t owe us anything and it’s your life at the end of the day - we can’t bear the negative consequences of your vulnerability even if we wanted to. I will definitely stick around just to hear you talk about whatever. You’re a thoughtful person and that’s what stood out to me about your videos from the start. Glad you know that showing this doesn’t require harming yourself.
Also Steph I’m sorry to hear about what you went through and personally sorry for commenting anything on your videos that ever came across as an attack. We all want to see you win.
So that story about that guy really help me decide something’s. So sorry it was used poorly. You we’re vulnerable and its good you see what happened and said I could have did different for my sake. For the people who get mad that your mad, doesn’t care about you. That shit hurts when you realize it could be a large part of the people you know. But anger is a secondary response to something much deeper. So to be angered at your anger says a lot. And maybe they care but they can’t hold space for you and how you are really doing something so rare. Which is being authentic and brave to be seen. Either way it’s the fact that the result is the same and they may not be safe for you to be around. And for you to be close with. If you are a deep feeling person and you have friends who aren’t deep feeling and thinking like that, it will naturally but a bridge between you. People can only meet you as deep as they meet themselves. I hated to hear that at first but lately I have seen that and understand it more. Protect yourself on all levels and know sometimes you have to let people leave, and let people be. They gone be mad , so you boo.
Your commentary on why Keke stayed in the relationship despite the abuse is kinda foul and borderline victim-blamey. And you using your experience with abuse to ask why she didn't behave the same way as you??? It was giving, "well I escaped my abuser why can't you?" Because abuse is a cycle and it's stepwise and it's manipulation. It takes women 5-6 attempts to leave before they actually do because they have been beaten down emotionally (and in this case physically) to believe that that's what they deserve. It doesn't matter if they have as much power as Keke Palmer or as little as regular non-famous women in your community. I'm really disappointed in you, Steph. Especially when you have shared stories of being manipulated and led to believe that you were cared for and safe with men. You should know more than anyone how hard it can be to realize the person you are with is not who you thought they were.
Hi Steph, so sorry that you experienced this harrasment, I’ve been here from the beginning and I’ve enjoyed the new content so will continue to watch your videos. I’m also sorry some of your personal friendships have dismantled (but also wondering why they couldn’t support you and you all could have worked through). I will continue to be your fan/viewer. Also, I’m in Houston if you ever consider having a meet up. I’m happy to support you in whatever way. I hate that people are so vile and disgusting but seems as though their internal issues and anger is being directed towards you. Heads up girl you got this!
I know I commented something similar on videos before, but I absolutely loved your story times, I watched several of them over, not in a voyeuristic, making fun of the way, but because you are a natural storyteller and your comedic timing is absolutely chefs kiss perfect. You are truly a gifted comedic, storyteller, and it is so disappointing that because of idiots behind their iPhones you no longer feel comfortable. I would watch a Netflix special of you telling your stories, you are relatable and funny, in such an amazing and unique way, I hope you someday find a platform to show off your talent without all the idiot commenters. ❤
Thank you for showing the girlies how to stick to their boundaries- even when it's difficult! I love your content! I hope you continue to enjoy your journey in front of the camera. Sending love, support, and positive vibes! ...Also, I am so sorry that you've experienced such terrible people and experiences. I truly hope full restoration and healing comes.
I think she put up the front because she wanted a family for her child and to avoid public baby mama shame. I went through the exact same thing. It’s very hard to leave with a new baby.
That is why men like these get you pregnant quickly so that it's more difficult for you to leave & they can use the baby as a weapon for you to stay. And society plays into that by referring to single moms as the least desirable.
Thank you for sharing this! And I understand now why you don’t want to share those types of stories anymore. A lot of us had no idea what you were dealing with behind the scenes. Thank you for continuing to make videos. The true supporters will stick around.
I am so extremely sorry for how unprotected you are, like the fact that you aren’t even allowed the basic decency to expression your emotions (bc your a human being) is deplorable. I completely understand you protecting your humanity, and I’m so sorry that you’ve received such a massive amount of hate/harm. There are not enough words, to even begin to express my utmost gratitude for your perspective over the years and the level of honesty and vulnerability that you have shown. I’m excited for the up and coming content that you plan on sharing with us ♥️
I see a lot of tik tokers keeping themselves in toxic situations just to keep up a storyline/theme for their content. And the moment they try to pivot the views go down and they go right back to the toxic behavior. It takes courage to pivot and stick to it
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I’m already seeing some very odd takes and I need to say this. No one is above being abused. No one. You can vet a man for years, finally give him a chance, and he turns on you. The fact is people are multi-faceted and can change with every life experience. While I don’t agree with Keke dating and having a baby with this man in a short period of time, I also know how easily someone can make you feel loved and also devalued in the same breath. The onus is always on a woman to choose better but the reality is simply dating any man puts you at risk of abuse. Because patriarchy and the socialization of the male gender upholds some very dangerous ideologies. Sending love her way and to anyone who has been abused and made to feel like you didn’t do enough. ❤
Yes & yes!
Agreed!
Preach!
Absolutely
This!
How pathetic does a person have to be to literally PAY MONEY to bring somebody down 🙄
💯
The KeKe & Darius situation is a prime example of why Tyler Perry's statement was so dangerous. Most men hate when their wife or girlfriend/baby mama makes more money than them.
It was probably about more than the money. He saw her low self esteem and pounced on it. He groomed her, love bombed her and then his true self was exposed. They can never hide for too long which is probably why he got her pregnant so quickly
facts
Oh wow. I had no idea you were experiencing all the hate. Thank you for being vulnerable and I'll support you through this change.
Yeah the way some folks would come at her in those comment sections was ridiculous (I kinda want to say evil but don’t want to be dramatic 😅).
I really wish there was a more ‘safe’ space for bw who really have experienced things that could be deemed as dark. Suffering in silence shouldn’t be our default.
There is, but it's more likely to be offline or within a private online forum. Public safe spaces for BW are a contradiction in terms.
I actually really do think societal forces either desire or force Black women to experience the negative parts of life in silence... I will say Black women are often very brave and speak up, but the consequences are real.
Agreed
I was actually shocked to see these security cam images. I knew something was up with him but I didn't think things were physically abusive. It's very unfortunate that all this was going on behind closed doors.
SAME.
He’s gonna be insecure with someone like Ke Ke. She’s so accomplished. He isn’t. Jealousy.
1 thing i love about Steph from day 1 is she made me feel like it's ok to be human
Steph, thanks for sharing this story.
Yes, unfortunately it's not safe for folks to post their personal life…even when you're not a content creator.
People online are absolutely unhinged and hostile.
I really hate that you’ve experienced this. I believe your content threatens many narratives and that scares people. It’s scary to think that despite your best efforts, sometimes shit goes terribly wrong for no good reason. So people have to make you the problem instead of accepting life is messy af and oftentimes things are out of our control. I’m happy you’re protecting your peace and deeply saddened that people do not have the emotional maturity to engage with your more vulnerable content in a healthy way.
I definitely agree with you. The fact that even as you grow older life can still be messy and not work out the way you have hoped is scary. I guess people expect having that happy ending at a certain age but it’s not realistic for a lot of people.
Yeah. I understand now why she has not continued. She was breaking barriers but people make that soooo difficult.
It's a shame it got so intense. I'm sorry i ever pushed. I just miss a particular sound bite I guess.
Absolutely 👏🏾
This is exactly it!
Steph, You apologize or justify yourself a lot. You are allowed to make mistakes, talk through things in the medium you want, and stand in your story. The experiences you had ached you and oversharing was a part of your healing. Let it rest now without apologizing for who you were then. Choose who you are today based on what your instincts say and not the response you got.
I love this!
Completely agree!
I’m saying this out of support and love from one black woman to another…..don’t share your personal stories online. There’s a lot of miserable people out here who wants to bring you down or “humble” you by literally destroying your confidence. It’s crazy because when I go through bw influencers comment sections, it’s always us coming at eachother 🤦🏾♀️🥴
Irony is bw be our own biggest cheerleader’s but also biggest critiques
I see what you’re saying, but I’d rather share my personal story just to reach out to somebody who could be dealing with the same thing behind closed doors. Nobody can hurt me with what I’ve willlingly put outline
I’m not passing any judgment on Keke. At this time I just want her to do whatever she feel is best for the safety and wellbeing of her and little Leo. She will overcome this situation!
If others want storytelling so badly, maybe people could send you their stories and not your own personal stories. I think if you don’t want to share personal stories, then don’t and protect your own mental health.
Yea I think having people sending her their stories would be good as well.
That's actually a pretty good idea. Anonymous storytime videos.
She definitely tried to make that happen.
Thats a great idea!!!
How do i send you stories steph!? Ive got STORIESSSS boo lol
A man will bring you to his level. Sis really had no issues with her image 20 years in the game. Your man will be your biggest op.
🎯 I believe ALL women should take note 📝 of EXACTLY THIS. Over 20 years in the game and ZERO Issues until she started dealing with this MAN who she was NOT EQUALLY YOKED with. Men can truly be your downfall if you choose wrong be very careful…
@@tbirlon Steve Harvey told her right. I had to learn this the hard way. Emotionally hard.
I’m shocked and disgusted by some people. I'm so sorry your content creation experience has been so traumatizing Steph.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: I watch and support you religiously! Whatever direction you want to take with your content, I’ll be here to support it.
If there was anyone’s take on this situation that I wanted, it was definitely yours! I agreed with every point. Sorry you’ve had such a tough time in your personal life.
Although I miss your storytimes because I felt seen and safe, I empathize with you and respect your new direction. I am excited for your new journey.
I appreciate your vulnerability and I’m sorry the internet is such a bad place! I hope you are able to discuss your life and difficult issues with people in your life who love and support you and understand you. As someone with a complicated dating life, I also have realized that 99% of people aren’t helpful to talk to about these things.
Couldn't have said it better myself. Totally agree.
We'll still be here. I'm so sorry for the negative experience you had online. Absolutely! keep protecting yourself!
You’re one of my favorite creators and I’m so sorry you’re being treated this way. It is so hard for Black women to have an outlet! I want you to know I will ALWAYS support you! Wishing you nothing but happiness 💓
Tbh I was peed tf off when you expressed how you were being treated for sharing your story times. I can't say I don't miss the humor and how relatable things were but I sincerely Respect your decision. Much love and support from Ky.
I’ve learned to be very selective with what I share about myself on social media. No one’s life is perfect. As a coach, people’s lives change when they’re ready. Not through shame and judgement. I’m sorry you experienced so much unkindness 🧡
I'm not sure our society's culture affords a "safe space" for black women. It's so easy for people to punch down because no one is held accountable for stepping on the least powerful among us. It's the apathy, for me! With that being said, do whatever you feel you need to do to protect your mental health and I will continue to watch. Thanks as always for sharing.
I’m a survivor of verbal AND physical domestic ab*se. Imma just say, people don’t need to lay a hand on you to physically ab*se you.
The line with my ex was that I would leave if he laid a hand on me. Instead he found other ways.
I am proud of you for setting boundaries! I’m sure this is going to be scary, trying to discover what videos you would like to post more of , but you will find the right people that like what you are doing❤️
Hey Steph, I’m not a commenter on videos nor am I sure you’ll ever see this but I want to tell you something. Thank you so much for the videos, personally I enjoy your content-whether it’s your romantic life, commentaries etc. I enjoy it because you’re the one who’s making it. You have a gift of speaking and I think it’s completely fine that you have lived a life and desire to share that with all of us. I’m sorry that your experience on social media has been harsh to say the least but thank you for your vulnerability and authenticity. Thank you for being you and may God bless you always! So, even though I know that this comment will never erase the pain or memories you’ve experienced but you are NOT a joke. You are gifted, called, and deserving of all the love you could ever possibly receive. So, I hope that one day the social media world will be a safer place so others can share but until then, do what’s best for you my dear and live. Be blessed hun!
Honestly, Steph, I appreciate watching you grow your channel. We often see the perfection but not the work it takes to find our way. So I am looking forward to seeing how you work out your channel.
Though I, an awkward black girl in my 30s whose life hasn't gone the way I thought it would, will miss the old content. It was refreshing to see that everyone else doesn't have it figured out either and that it's just life. But as someone who has seen the forums, I COMPLETELY understand. ❤
Some people are just disgustingly mean to Black women for no reason 😕. And people seem to love personal dating stories depending on what shade skin you have. Remember: Sex in the City, Girls and Friends were about 30 somethings dating and telling their stories. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Please do what is best for you, your real supporters will always be here ❤❤❤❤.
Ppl are mean in general does not matter the race
@raqui174 sometimes that us true. Unfortunately, in this case it isn't. I'm speaking in the context of how BW are treated by people in general and the Black community in particular. They act like our stories and our feelings don't matter. That's why Sex in the City was a hit and this young lady telling her stories are met with vitrol.
@@raqui174No, black women are disproportionately attacked on the internet and in real life because of our race and sex. They are many statistics and studies that support this. Do not all lives matter our trauma.
I know the hate is louder but for what it's worth, I love your content. I appreciate you and your life, your experiences and your decision to create your channel, be vulnerable and upload your stories. I hate that ppl are so lame and judgemental and spew negativity while being cowards and gutless. But I found your channel exactly when I was most vulnerable and needed too hear what you were saying. I'm grateful you exist in this space and I truly love your content and relate so much to you.
Same
Colorism, featurism, Ageism, racism and in that order Steph. Don’t ever share personal stuff because people are mean.
So how do we change that? Cuz that includes all of us lol
Maybe I’m just not aware, but I think Steph is like in her late 30’s so I don’t think ageism is applicable here. She might be older but I’m sure she isn’t old
@yourmotherhatesyou641 Ageism definitely plays a part, it probably plays the biggest part like Steph mentioned - people are more forgiving of a 24 years old having a messy dating life than they are of a 38 year old. There's this expectation that you shouldnt being dealing with that in your late 30's.
You can not tell me you've not seen the sentiment online about a woman's life being over at 35 if she isn't married with kids by then. Women expressing real fears at not having achieved life milestones by a certain age.
Exactly my 1st thought in exactly that order! 👏🏾
This most definitely needs be pinned! I also feel as though jealousy of her up bringing. "We"( as ppl love to say and think🙄) don't all have the same experiences!
I don’t think it’s age cuz lots of 30+ women tell bad dating stories I think it was that you shared from a vulnerable place where you spoke on your honest feelings instead of a “girl lemme tell you what this man did” perspective where you end with “his loss, onto the next” type of attitude
But they are lying .. it is never when a woman is alone “his loss, onto the next” attitude especially when you don’t attract men normally. I def dnt say that lol
hmm , you may have a point here.. ppl love faux optimism these days
You are an excellent and eloquent story teller, I'm sure there are people that admire you but unfortunately there will be some haters too, keep your head up
Aye you interested in talking on other’s stories. Viewers submit their stories and you put your two sense on it. I feel like that content would do so well. I’m in my mid twenties and your few on things is so refreshing. I love tuning in your channel. I never comment but I like the videos
This is a good idea.
That’s a great idea!!!!
I’m deeply sorry you’ve had such a negative experience with your channel and patreon page. The internet can be truly scary, and there’s a lot of awful people out there. Please do whatever you need to protect yourself. Change the direction of your channel as much as you need. I’m sending love and light your way. 🤍
girl I commented before even watching! keep doing you it is so refreshing to see a black woman just be. love your opinions and stories ill watch anything you post lol
Stephhh I’ve been here for every season you’ve been able to show us and I appreciate all of them! Thanks for keeping me entertained these years 🩷
I find you extremely empathetic in your commentary and so well spoken with good humor. You're doing a good job Steph ❤
I totally understand why you’re going a different route with your channel, Stephanie. You’re multitalented and deserve to discuss multiple topics that interests you. Us as viewers have to understand your boundaries. I’m not as big as you, but content creation should be a safe space. Regardless if you do not like the content, the creator, or both. The issue is some viewers get a little too comfortable being a hater.
As for the Darius and Keke Palmer situation… I’m happy that Keke and her mother are speaking out. Sarunas Jackson sure is messing up his reputation for siding with his little brother. Even if that’s your brother, wrong is wrong. Plus, his actions are affecting his nephew as well🤷🏾♂️💯
hey, it is okay. Thank you for the times you shared your personal stories. they were entertaining, and relatable to me. many thanks
I was wondering if you would talk about this. I'm glad you decided to.😊 I love all your content. Thanks for continuing to make videos.
Keke became pregnant just 2 months after the CCTV stills of her being hurt by Darius on the stairs. I can’t imagine what was going through Keke’s mind, knowing she was connecting herself, and preparing to co-parent with this man whom she loved, but whom was being incredibly harmful to her. I just hope Keke and her son are safe and surrounded by those who love them.
whaaaaat ?!
Stephanie, I admire and aspire to have your strength of character. I could not imagine being attacked so viciously and publicly for simply sharing my vulnerabilities and lived experiences, and not only bouncing back, but loving myself enough to have such strict and protective boundaries for myself. None of us are perfect, and it’s a shame that your natural, beautiful imperfections were taken up as arms against you. I love hearing you speak about anything, so I am grateful that you’ve created this boundary, since that is how we can continue to hear your voice. Much love
I like your content about reality tv and current events and celebrity stuff. We still get YOU and your perspective. I like your videos because I like it feels like I have a friend. I nod and respond back to you all the time 😂😂
Don’t put your personal stuff out there unless it makes sense. Like a Christmas Card photoshoot or something idk.
It's sad that so many of our women are abused this way. But's its even sadder that a woman can achieve as much as she has--and many of our other black female celebs--and still feel that they had to accept that.
You should be able to talk about your life experiences without being bullied. I find your story times on relationships relatable and I'm 43.
I have been following you for a while, and yes it can get to you when ppl don't know you, but judge you. You have to do what's best for you.
I remember commenting on a video you posted. I am an auntie by nature, and gave my 2cents. Let me say now that if my comments were part of those comments that hurt you, I apologize from the bottom of my heart. I never meant to diagnose your situation to the extent that it made you feel a way. I have lived some of what you talked about- that is why I had opinions. But it should never be hurtful. ❤❤❤
Just started but I want to say that the GRWMs are some of my favourite videos of yours! That, the try-ons and any vlog style videos. It's really fun to see you in a more casual setting.
edit: I'm definitely one of the viewers who preferred your story-times but I really think it speaks the entitlement and the expectations we have online to be engaged/stimulated constantly. It shouldnt take you explaining yourself and your decision to step back every few months for those of us that came because we enjoyed your previous content, to respect your boundaries. It's absolutely awful the lengths people have gone to harass you but honestly even without the justification, I just wish you saying that you didn't feel like it anymore would've been enough.
Wishing you love, light and a good ending to the year. 🙏🏾
There’s not a lot of people on RUclips I drop everything for to watch. Your content is always refreshing. I will say though I was on those people who silently were bothered by your consistent dating failures. I think you really hit the nail on the head with ageism. It is not your fault or responsibility, but as somone who is in my early 20’s we see nothing but “red pill men” bash black women and pick them apart for being “unlovable”, then when I see somone as beautiful and lovely of a woman as you go through those things it strikes a cord of insecurity. But after your videos I think you’re absolutely right that after 30 should be able to make mistakes and people shouldn’t be attacking you.
Hi stephanie! I’ve enjoyed every one of your videos, no matter the subject. Because I operate from a peaceful spirit, I am able to watch and comment positively or not comment at all. Unfortunately, many people in our world are broken souls and therefore are breaking other souls. You have grown so much and I love your personality and sense of humor! Bless you on your life journey! 😎🙌🙏🏻
I agree, I feel the same way.
I genuinely love this channel.
You really didn’t deserve all that hate you described in this vid!! You’ve been through so much omg stop asking her to go back to that!
I love your storytelling and I support you because I see myself represented in you and your stories. I’m 30 and I’ve been in really similar situations as you so your vids provided real comfort! I hope your comment sections and content on the net pushes out all those hateful people, with only supporters remaining! Stay the course! And maybe think about accepting stories from other black women who would rather have you narrate! I feel like the reality tv content viewers are too pathological atp. I love your charming and positive spin on unfortunate situations. You’ve shared enough of your own tho!!
Like I feel like you’re talented and can bring dignity and clarity to our type of stories.
They are super young, but they are also lighter skinned. This is light skinned privilege as well. Find Chrissie, she'll illuminate ALOT colorurism doesn't get enough play. Ageism is real as well, you have a point
Glad you're changing some things for your comfortability. fuck the haters fr. I find it interesting that you searched to see if other content creators are experiencing the same thing you are. I don't think it would be possible to really find an "equivalent", in any capacity, much less on youtube.
I hope you find your happy medium, I shall continue to support you & keep up with your journey! good luck
I’ve been in an emotionally abusive and manipulative relationship. The roller coaster ride of emotions have this crazy way of making you love them harder and feel like it’s you and him against the world. Once you escape you gotta keep moving. I hope keke is okay and I’m glad her family is behind her
I'm so sorry that you go through these things for the sake of your content. If I have ever come off as not empathetic I apologize. Thank you for being vulnerable in this space.
Sending you love Steph. Keep shining and protecting your peace. ❤
So sorry that you went through and are going through that. Continue to do what's best for your mental health and your peace. Everyone else will be OK.💕
P.S. You have this sort of matter of fact, take it or leave it, confident tone in this video and I love that for you! Hopefully people respect your boundaries and dont continue to ask you for the type of content that has caused you so much trauma.
Heyyyy girl. These other story time content creators actually tell crazy stories that don’t sound real? Your stories seem real to me. I’ve enjoyed them and understood them. Your stories were relatable to us 30 something’s. There are sooooo many women that experience what you’ve experienced. I wish I had the guts to share my experiences lol. And trust me, they are wayyyyyyy crazy. Lol. Anyhow, I shall watch whatever you put up.
Steph love your channel. I’m sorry you’ve been a target I def couldn’t handle it! Just fyi I’ve heard other RUclipsrs (non controversial channels) talk about hate in their comments, they delete upsetting comments so you may not see the hate others are getting. Just don’t want you to think you are alone.
Yeah & many don't do it themselves they have programs that scan for certain words & phrase & automatically delete them or have mods who go through the comments & delete them. That way it lessethe emotional burden on the content creator.
I saw a comment yesterday where a Cardi B fan was angry that she was having dinner with Patti Labelle and not making music.
When i mentioned that we dont own these people they lashed oit at me. Some of these people are just miserable or have mental issues.
When they see others having a hard time they feel better about themselves. Steph, how dare you protect your mental health.
44:17 I’m grateful that you talked about it. Your story of feeling like you over shared! It gives me guidance on what to do when I restart my channel! And I send love and uplifting spirits to You and Keke! Y’all did NOT deserve any of that abuse!
I for one will miss your personal stories, you're one of the few channels I watch consistently. I've found your content to be very relatable and also found wisdom in it too. So for that I thank you. 💖 I completely understand why you are going a new direction with your channel and will 100% support you in your new season. Wishing you all the best.
Society has a lot of vitriol for women of a certain age that don't follow the script. I hope you find a way to keep going on here.
Thank you for sharing your personal experiences over the years ❤
I miss your story time’s as well, but I know that it’s better to protect your peace and privacy! I’m glad that I was able to see the content while it was available! I thank you for your vulnerability my romantic life and yours mirrors so much it helped me knowing that someone could understand!
I hope you see my comment over the negative ones …. I have always enjoyed your content and think that you do offer an insightful perspective often a perspective that is usually unheard or overlooked in topics. I’m happy your channel exists cause it does offer some balance to the topics out there. Imma be here tuning for your thoughts always. I think you are funny and brilliant. You’re very kind and thoughtful despite how the internet decides to treat you. I hope you know I see immense value in your videos and I love how no matter what you continue to put out your voice and perspective. You are a force and I personally love listening to you. The ppl are coming at you because you are a black woman and like to “dunk on you” cause it makes them feel good those ppl are pathetic and it’s a reflection of themselves. So I hope you let those comment roll right off. Ik it’s easier said than done 😉😅 but I think you are fabulous in your own right I love to see your transformation and growth in every video. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ I love you much!
I also think unless you’ve been in an abusive relationship it’s hard to understand how it can happen and how you can get stuck. Abusers are extremely manipulative and strategic and lots of times their victims are confused, hurt, ashamed and so on and so forth. My heart goes out to keke. This could happen to anyone! YES even you! I’ve read so many stories of men hiding behind a facade for years before revealing their abusive nature.
You were telling an uncomfortable truth about dating that still needs to be told. Everybody doesn't get a romantic happily ever after. A lot of ageing church girls have similar stories about fertility, loneliness, and unexpected singleness at a particular stage in life. The attack isn't really against you but the shattering of the fantasy that life gets easy, breezy after 30. As a former teacher, I also connected with the financial constraints that limit travel and socializing in places where suitable partners might be hiding. 😁 Your perspective has more impact than the younger girls which is why they don't get attacked. You are a disruptor who intelligently articulates the secret struggles of a lot of women. You were once brave enough to put your authentic self out there and tell your stories. Instead of retreating, hopefully you can embrace that fearlessness once again.
Not everyone is built to take the onslaught of toxicity that comes with being online. Other ppl finds ways to deal with it & even uses it to get their bag. If Steph is not one of those ppl & realises it its good for her.
She explained the effects of what telling personal stories had on her personal life and you’re STILL pushing her to do so. I will be the first to say I miss her original channel setup with the personal story times, but after hearing and seeing how disgusting she was treated how people slandered her name on the internet, I would never want her to go back to creating that type of content. She is a real person. Steph doesn’t have to create vulnerable content just so we feel “seen” at her own expense.
I think your take on situations is often made without an attempt to interpret what could be behind the glimpses we are catching. A man who comes out to be 'messy' online, when his partner is a popular/famous person, is doing more than just being messy, they are trying to destroy their public image. They are trying to burst the doors wide open to the private life of a public persona. You keep it very light and very superficial at times, and you swerve the harder questions we could be asking ourselves.
It’s been on my heart to start a RUclips channel for so long but this is the kind of stuff that terrifies me. I’m a hospital Chaplain and so I deal with illness, suffering, death and dying all day. I do it happily because I feel so so so so honored to support so many patients, their families and the staff BUT in order to do that work, I need to live a stable, peaceful, healthy life that can support me. If I open myself up on the internet (I wanted to share wellness tips) I also open myself up to harm and that might break me… if that happened, I wouldn’t be able to continue to do my work at the hospital… so I just haven’t done it.
I just love hearing you talk. I love your stories. I love your academic analysis on hot topics. Whatever you have ... Whenever you have it. I'm here for it.
I just wanted to say I’ve been a huge fan of yours since the pretty privilege video!! I love how you present your truth and don’t just only highlight the shiny feel good parts. I wish you the best in whatever you do, and look forward to seeing your future content, whatever it may be.
I'm SORRY! I was one of the people that would ask for more of your personal stories, but I finally understand it's been painful for you & I won't do that again. I support you girl, no matter what you post!
You are one of the top 3 most resilient and quality persons or personalities I have ever encountered. Your videos are always a treat. If there is any sort of karmic justice or balance, there is an alternate universe in which you are rewarded and not punished for these qualities.
I am enjoying the channel makeover, it is a breath of fresh air.
I rarely comment on any pages where I’m subscribed, but I felt compelled to say that I never could have imagined that you were going through all these things. I understand now why you chose to pivot your content.❤
Thank You so much and Im so sorry you were attacked.. However this is the truth of woman who look like us. Ppl who don’t fit the FAKE society. I love you my sister and in real life I live your reality everyday.
I'm baffled, offended and irritated by the colossal amount of UNNECESSARY animosity that UNHINGED people send your way. Watching your videos is not compulsory. These people can choose another channel. There are so many options on this platform.
Anonymity gives some people internet courage that they probably don't have offline.
I'm sure you know this Steph but in case you don't, let me remind you that you're a powerful and intelligent voice on RUclips. I and THOUSANDS of your subscribers (StephGang!?) appreciate your content.
You're entitled to post WHATEVER you want. WHENEVER you want & HOWEVER you want. In theory, yes, but you're wise to pivot, protect your mental health & restrict your content. Some people, the ones who joined your Patreon for malicious reasons- are just downright disturbing! My question to them; *Is everything OK at home?*
Yup, disturbing is the right word. So sad
I listened to the most recent season of “and just like that…the writers room” podcast and they said the same thing about how cathartic writing is and how that is how they work through what’s going on.
I’ve always loved all your content!!! I hate how mean spirited some people can be.
You’re very sensitive on RUclips, yet so strong and I love how you set your boundaries that allow that necessary comfort for your sensitivity on the internet. More people need to do the same instead of acting tough and arguing back and forth with people on comment sections who they’ll never meet.
I love your new set-up. The lights behind the leaves look very cool. 😊
I loved your personal stories too! I don’t think your content is bad at all! However, I am noticing a trend of over explaining to your audience why you run your channel the way you do. It’s over 20 mins in and we’re still hearing about why you don’t post personal content. When do we get to Keke Palmer? We hear more about your social media journey than anything else at this point 🤐
@@Marie-pn5trExactly. The thumbnail is of Keke, but it’s over 35 mins now, and she’s barely touched that topic. Instead, comparing her creator experience, talking numbers etc… love this channel DOWN, but I think that’s a bigger topic than her personal stories at this point. We’ve learned enough about her creator journey. Give it a rest sis 🙏🏾😭
It’s been a common theme, so I think her channel changes would be good for another thread of videos instead.
I understand there are those who won’t be supportive, but I’ve welcomed each change and commented positively almost every time. Atp, I feel like I’m hearing the same thing one berm hearing for a while. Which I’m sorry it went this way, but I’m excited for the new content and commentary.
Wow ,no wonder she speaks in the manner that she does. I don't understand why anyone who believes that she is taking too much time would stay for the entire video just click on the next video. However, I bet you will watch a 55 minute video of a person showcasing all of their belongings/assets. I do not mind vlogs but when I see they are an hour long, I say No way ! You and the others who replied have the opportunity to do the same thing. click out of it We just don't get to dictate how a person does their job. We just say I don;t support this person No input needed
@@charlenesmith2577 it’s a critique on an open platform 🤷🏾♀️. I truly enjoy this channel, but I’m expressing something I’ve noticed.
@@Marie-pn5tr We are absolutely allowed to have an opinion but just imagine that you were critique by a supervisor on everything you did but not because its wrong but just because it was not the way he or she would do it How exhausting
We love you Stephanie. You are amazing and will continue to support you which ever direction you take your channel
The fact that people were PAYING YOU to bash you & be discouraging is crazzzyyy. I love your honest content. It takes bravery and I’m sorry that some damaged people could not honor your vulnerability. ❤
I’m sorry about the entitlement and animosity that you’ve had to face! It sounds very tough and I think you’ve explained yourself enough. You definitely don’t owe us anything and it’s your life at the end of the day - we can’t bear the negative consequences of your vulnerability even if we wanted to.
I will definitely stick around just to hear you talk about whatever. You’re a thoughtful person and that’s what stood out to me about your videos from the start. Glad you know that showing this doesn’t require harming yourself.
Also Steph I’m sorry to hear about what you went through and personally sorry for commenting anything on your videos that ever came across as an attack. We all want to see you win.
So that story about that guy really help me decide something’s. So sorry it was used poorly. You we’re vulnerable and its good you see what happened and said I could have did different for my sake. For the people who get mad that your mad, doesn’t care about you. That shit hurts when you realize it could be a large part of the people you know. But anger is a secondary response to something much deeper. So to be angered at your anger says a lot. And maybe they care but they can’t hold space for you and how you are really doing something so rare. Which is being authentic and brave to be seen. Either way it’s the fact that the result is the same and they may not be safe for you to be around. And for you to be close with. If you are a deep feeling person and you have friends who aren’t deep feeling and thinking like that, it will naturally but a bridge between you. People can only meet you as deep as they meet themselves. I hated to hear that at first but lately I have seen that and understand it more. Protect yourself on all levels and know sometimes you have to let people leave, and let people be. They gone be mad , so you boo.
Thank you for sharing. It is important to protect your peace over getting views. Your content is still entertaining to watch.
Your commentary on why Keke stayed in the relationship despite the abuse is kinda foul and borderline victim-blamey. And you using your experience with abuse to ask why she didn't behave the same way as you??? It was giving, "well I escaped my abuser why can't you?" Because abuse is a cycle and it's stepwise and it's manipulation. It takes women 5-6 attempts to leave before they actually do because they have been beaten down emotionally (and in this case physically) to believe that that's what they deserve. It doesn't matter if they have as much power as Keke Palmer or as little as regular non-famous women in your community. I'm really disappointed in you, Steph. Especially when you have shared stories of being manipulated and led to believe that you were cared for and safe with men. You should know more than anyone how hard it can be to realize the person you are with is not who you thought they were.
Hi Steph, so sorry that you experienced this harrasment, I’ve been here from the beginning and I’ve enjoyed the new content so will continue to watch your videos. I’m also sorry some of your personal friendships have dismantled (but also wondering why they couldn’t support you and you all could have worked through). I will continue to be your fan/viewer. Also, I’m in Houston if you ever consider having a meet up. I’m happy to support you in whatever way. I hate that people are so vile and disgusting but seems as though their internal issues and anger is being directed towards you. Heads up girl you got this!
I know I commented something similar on videos before, but I absolutely loved your story times, I watched several of them over, not in a voyeuristic, making fun of the way, but because you are a natural storyteller and your comedic timing is absolutely chefs kiss perfect. You are truly a gifted comedic, storyteller, and it is so disappointing that because of idiots behind their iPhones you no longer feel comfortable. I would watch a Netflix special of you telling your stories, you are relatable and funny, in such an amazing and unique way, I hope you someday find a platform to show off your talent without all the idiot commenters. ❤
Thank you for showing the girlies how to stick to their boundaries- even when it's difficult!
I love your content! I hope you continue to enjoy your journey in front of the camera. Sending love, support, and positive vibes!
...Also, I am so sorry that you've experienced such terrible people and experiences. I truly hope full restoration and healing comes.
I think she put up the front because she wanted a family for her child and to avoid public baby mama shame. I went through the exact same thing. It’s very hard to leave with a new baby.
That is why men like these get you pregnant quickly so that it's more difficult for you to leave & they can use the baby as a weapon for you to stay. And society plays into that by referring to single moms as the least desirable.
He started abusing her before she was pregnant though.
but what about beforehand?
I am a patreon and i enjoy your content.
Thank you for sharing this! And I understand now why you don’t want to share those types of stories anymore. A lot of us had no idea what you were dealing with behind the scenes. Thank you for continuing to make videos. The true supporters will stick around.
I am so extremely sorry for how unprotected you are, like the fact that you aren’t even allowed the basic decency to expression your emotions (bc your a human being) is deplorable. I completely understand you protecting your humanity, and I’m so sorry that you’ve received such a massive amount of hate/harm. There are not enough words, to even begin to express my utmost gratitude for your perspective over the years and the level of honesty and vulnerability that you have shown. I’m excited for the up and coming content that you plan on sharing with us ♥️
Been waiting for this, Steph!
I'm honored to receive the truth that you share with us. Your storytelling is truly powerful and important to me!🎉❤
Im glad to see you evolve from story times. Im still here because i lover your perspective even if i dnt agree
I see a lot of tik tokers keeping themselves in toxic situations just to keep up a storyline/theme for their content. And the moment they try to pivot the views go down and they go right back to the toxic behavior. It takes courage to pivot and stick to it