I’m 69. Been living alone for 8 years with my pets. I rarely leave my acre. I was an entertainer but after retiring I am a recluse. Alone. Never lonely.
It can go both ways. When I was younger (30s and 40s) i self isolated because of depression when I wanted/needed human contact. Now in my 50s i self isolate by choice because I love my solitude It’s Christmas Eve and I’ve had zero contact with anyone today and it’s bliss.
I think it has to do with "the times" we are living in. Yes, rude, but also potentially "dangerous" depending on when and where. I go out shopping once or twice a month, and "stock up" cause I really don't like leaving home either. I'm 66, though, and was a fairly social butterfly for "many years."
@@thumbalina1568 I love my cats when they are "sleeping." 😂 Neither one is 2 years old yet, and sometimes they can be as wild and crazy as the folks out in public when they get the "zoomies." They are indoor cats, so they get a LOT of pent up energy at times. I just "can't get no peace" sometimes. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
40 yrs for me in service housekeeping so far 30 yrs housekeeping job. I have aniexty worse when went back to work. We have alot in common and I live bysrlf with 2 cats .
@@lesliew748 I was always a social person but i didnt cope with covid very well and had some struggles since then. I've been in hermit mode for awhile, in therapy and when i'm ready to get back out in the world i will, until then, gathering my strength in peace. Hope you're healing as well.
I retired to Florida and basically have become a hermit. I’m home with my wife and cat most of the time. I have no friends and don’t want any. I used to volunteer but not since the Pandemic. I’m almost 80 and have lost my fear of dying. Ashes to ashes, dust to dust….life goes on.
I did customer service and sales, incl using phones so working w/ the public isn't easy at times. I am retired, not a people person anymore. Let the phone take a message.
Greetings from Laos. I feel the same way. I'm 50 years old. I also work in customer service. Customer service is the reason why I dislike people. I prefer my solitude. I like to go hiking and camping in the Laos jungle. It's relaxing to me. That's how I recharge my battery. People drain my energy.
I’m 41! I want NOTHING to do with ANYONE!!! If I never had to leave my house for anything, I wouldn’t!!!!!! !!! People are just DISGUSTING 🤢! Plain & simple.
52. Social worker for over 2 decades. I work sporadically now, just to keep myself above water financially. I absolutely adore my solitude! I’ve given up dating and only have a few close friends. The world is broken, especially right now, and being alone in my home feels like self-protection.
@@ejw72 Another tough profession. I work for Adult social care after years of working with children’ services. I don’t know how the social workers do it.
@@leanneclare3750I was a social worker for about 20 years. It was a very difficult at times. It would be even more difficult now. There are so many problems. Another problem would be the hatred for being liberal or woke from some family members, friends and community.
I turned 74 recently and feel the same. After a long work career dealing with the public, I love my solitude and being surrounded by my many hobbies and books. Never bored or lonely, not even for a second.
I’ve worked in healthcare for 30 years and counting. I cannot stand to be around people, to talk, any of it. I just want to go home to my dog and my books and my crafts. If I need to go out to buy things, I’ll pick a small local store or just buy online. I’m exhausted.
exactly it is amazing how dealing with people at work, toxic neighbours makes us want to have that space alone. unfortunately one of my neighbours bothers me in my garden now but I have put a stop to that
Ohhhh, I am the same! I read, bible study, big time crafter, primarily needlework, sewing, knitting quilting ect. I am trying to practice watercolor and sketching. Journaling is helpful for me. I get so anxious or plain fed up with people when going out of the house any more. I can stand it only for a short period of time. So I would rather buy online what I need.
As a 32 year old woman, I have been done with people, but I’m really done now. I tried to find love and got used, rejected, and manipulated. So I may never have kids or never get married. I have no family or friends. Just me and God
Our society is broken. Human beings are deeply unhappy en masse because of the way the world is run. Those who isolate are the most discerning. We cannot tolerate the dysfunction and that is a good thing! I am a therapist and a recluse through choice. I too choose peace, quiet and to spend my time with the few beings I love, plant, animal and husband. This is a healthy response to a dreadful environment 'out there' and we can stop feeling guilt and shame! Wise you are, said Yoda 😉. Enjoy your hard earned peace. Blessings to all! 💗 .
True...i find people dont know how to be friends and maintain friendshios and connections. At work when people have a conflict people run to the boss instead of talking to the person they had the conflict with....makes for more conflict
Former 911 dispatcher for over a decade. That career solidified my allergies to humans. I’m a happy introvert who prefers more nature and no people. I am the best company I’ve ever kept.
NEVER underestimate or overlook the evil of the human animal. Peoples' arrogance and narcissism is off the charts these days. It comes from having it too good for too long with no downside, no accountability and no consequences.
Audacity is at an all time high. People take take take and want to "get energy" from "experiences" but never give, they only wanna take take take and suck everyone dry, even those suckers who are burnt out, they wanna infect you with their burnout and take your energy.
@@raegen5618 Reply to all. Flying monkeys as in "The Wizard of Oz". Misled, misguided, misinformed, manipulated. Not just family and/or relatives but bosses, co-workers, other students, neighbors, other drivers, business associates, significant others, lover, could be anywhere, everywhere and at any time. Keep your head on a swivel and be aware of your surroundings, watch your six. Listen carefully to the TONE, the ATTITUDE in the way they speak to you. Watch their actions. Watch out for their friends and how they have their alliances set up. You never know how and what you say will get back to them. I usually pick it up in the very first word out of their mouth. Use them/let them destroy other people's lives, NOT YOURS!!! Be OBSERVANT. Keep what you know a secret, especially if it is to your advantage, don't give away or "volunteer" information. Be careful who you confide in. The recipient might not agree with you and literally turn on you.
I find the reason mature people do not need the attention of others, is due to being comfort in your own skin. Once you reach that level, it's not that you hate people, you just enjoy solace more.
Anxiety is a killer. I walked off my job without saying a word after 15 years of an abusive boss. Suffered from PTSD 4 years after because it was so unrelenting. Quit when I was 69. I ghosted everyone. My nerves are shot, and I am being treated by my doctor. I'm now 75, and I see no one but my husband and granddaughter. I got a Cocker Spaniel and have a sweet Pitti to make me laugh. If I start to step outside and see my nosy neighbor, I wait until she is gone. I prefer my own company now. I never was like that when I was younger, but abusive people in the workplace drove me to avoid people in general. I just can't take it...and I don't have too!
I'm younger than you & after 35 my health is not the best. I can barely reach 10 hours of overtime I need due to anemia. I refuse to work in a office or with men as a receptionist. I'm currently in an eeoc due to a lady 10 plus older than me raising her voice at me. So I told her let's meet away from work. Ppl like her can ruin any peace your reaching for. But management knew about her menacing behavior. Telling me I should have said something sooner. They are truly evil. But lord forbid someone is violent & innocent ppl are hurt they bring mental health experts. Always reactive & not proactive. More ppl are rude for no reason. Old to young, young to old, staff to customers.
@@lemonadelexus Someone should do research on this thing about toxic work environments and how they affect our health and increase medical costs and why there are BARELY any federal protections for employees. I had an experience similar to you. I was being harassed at work and documented everything and filed a formal complaint with EEOC. After a year EEOC was not able to help me and to this day I question the logic of their decision. I would have appealed but didn't because i ended up having a nervous breakdown and developing heart failure. I've been in therapy the last two years trying to heal from my experience. I'm a strong person and been through some rough stuff my whole life but the office toxicity is what finally did me in.
@Crispycrisp-ko8xt i totally understand. You started the process but became tired, feeling like it's not helping you & mainly stopping the hostility toward you. We'll, I hate that your health was affected. All I can say is vengeance is mine says the Lord. I pray the offending person has a heavy vengeance from God for how they treated you.
@@lemonadelexus Thank you for your understanding. I'm actually grateful for this time to heal and as the saying goes, "when one door closes another opens"...so the door is closed on that part of my life, just looking forward to what opens up for the future.
The older you get, the worse you get treated by strangers. You are treated as if you're in the way. People get annoyed over nothing. You get looks. If you're not super fast, people get arsey. If you don't park perfectly, people get abusive. If you need to cross the road or the car park, people are impatient and rudely wave you along or rev their engine at you. You get tired of it. I also worked cutomer service for a while and hated it. People can be horrible. So I get why you want to stay at home.
People stereotype older people as less mentally capable than they are..just because I don’t brag openly all the time on my current knowledge an past triumphs doesn’t mean I’m stupid.. I just hate the loud pushy braggarts etc.
This is so true but I am guilty sometimes of being in a rush and hunger irritated as someone who talks at the register for too long when there is a long line up. But then I give myself a little kick in the metaphoric butt and tell myself this is healthy human interaction and once this is annihilated everything worth anything will be gone, so I smile and calm the heck down.
I feel the same as you. 40 years of working as a nurse left me with severe PTSD. Sick people are usually at their worst when sick. I always thank customer service workers for helping me.
As a former school teacher, I really appreciate all you did in those days of "caring" for children getting them to school and home again! You help those little ones transition from home to school! Blessings!
Thankless? I don’t think so. Every time I see a school bus I think of the driver and how much responsibility they have. Most people think this way. Perhaps you didn’t receive many spoken thanks but I can assure you that the people in the cars always thought of you, were glad you were so careful and caring. 😊
Hi Sue. My Dad like you was a school bus driver for the same duration. School Bus Driving in on the top 10 list for "Most Stressful Jobs". I thank you for your service. You transported the most precious cargo on this earth. God bless you.
I'm 52, work retail by necessity and absolutely isolate as much as possible when I don't have to work! If I could work from home and avoid all human contact entirely I would!
I started working from home as a reseller. I go out to mail stuff by dropping it in a box when they're not open. I have light contact with customers through the app. about the products, etc. It's just enough contact. I get back what I put in, so it's rewarding in that way.
@@TheEclecticPhotog I did retail for 5 long years. I'm shy by nature but as part of the job, you had to approach everyone and ask them if they needed help. That wasn't bad but some customers, who were unaware that we HAD to approach them would get irate and accuse me of approaching them because I thought they were stealing.
I just found your channel. I’m 58 and really understand what you’re saying. I’ve been hurt so badly by friends and family in my life that i now keep to myself and enjoy being alone with my cats. I cannot take the stress of being around people anymore.
Just remember to keep moving and walk and do things physically - staying home and not moving or doing anything will age us. Life is about movement. People come with problems... It's important to choose wisely and avoid toxicity and conflict. It's ok to be alone and not be lonely. I go out to eat sometimes and eat alone. I like it that way.
Solitude is a very necessary part of the Christian life. All the saints retreated into solitude in prayer as frequently as possible. I love my solitude and always have.
I am truly happy you luv your solitude, It is important to know what is best for you. I am not sure I understand the need to tie religion to (everything) solitude BUT that's not may journey.
Yes, that is very true. I am 72 and I am more into prayer and solitude now than ever. I have always been introverted but worked as a social worker so had to be “on”. When our only son died by suicide, I retired and because so many people don’t “get it” - I pretty much keep to myself although am not antisocial. I really enjoyed this video.
@reginasingleton: I'm surprised to find so many! I thought it was just me and I was strange. I know people of my age (58) who worry about me not wanting to travel and mingle but prefering solitude and time with my husband and pets at home. Or who don't understand that I'm thinking of quitting my job as a teacher. But then again there are quite a few collegues my age who are thinking of early retiring.
@ my friend retired from teaching when she was 55. She did it she said whilst her memories of the job were good. I was always keen to travel in my retirement but as it gets closer I find I have no interest in the hassle of travelling, it’s a shame but I just enjoy being at home. In the peace and quiet ( except for the cats running around 😀). I think we’ve found peace.
I spent my entire adult years (20+) avoiding people. I don't blame you. People are mostly horrible, selfish and greedy. Animals are wonderful and I love my dog so much.
I am exactly the same. I was a nurse for 35 years and dealt with a lot of rude, crazy and abusive people. I cannot stand to be around people anymore. I have become a bit of a hermit.,
I will be turning 48 and i am beginning to feel this way. Less crowds the better. And if i do not enjoy ur company, I prefer to be alone than in your presence. Nomore going all out for holidays. Peacefulness is top priority.
Now at the of 38 I am far more interested in being respected than liked. When I was younger, I was naive believing that everyone around me was honest, decent and had good intentions. It turns out I was totally wrong. Nowadays, I am polite and kind but far from being the 24/7 Mr. NICE/DOORMAT role that I played in hopes of being liked, loved and accepted by people. I avoid unnecessary interaction with people and focus on my personal goals. Less trouble and more peace.
At 60 yo (70yo now) I finally realized I have been an introvert my entire life. Crowds have always drained me. I hate talking on the phone...email and texting is my preferred form of communication. Solo walking and running are my preferred sports. My best friend is my husband of 46 years. I don't make excuses for being unsocial it's just me and being any other way makes me uncomfortable and unhappy. And, yes gardening is great therapy!!
Thank you for sharing. We all deserve happiness being who we are. God made us that way. Could you imagine how much louder this world would be if everyone was an extrovert? Thank you for watching. God bless. (Congrats on 46 years of marriage!)
I worked in a office that was mostly busy for the nearly nine years there, with two very extended periods of crazy business. We were understaffed, so I needed an assistant but she was let go after about five !months. The phone never stopped ringing and I was burnt out from never being able to decompress on weeknights. Finally I just handed in my resignation and never looked back. I just wanted to be alone in my quiet apartment and not speak to anyone.
Yeeeesss, the work ethic thing. My parents instilled that into me. Worked my rear off, constantly. Now at 61, early in the morning, sitting at my kitchen table in the candel light listening to you. Thank you so very much. I do admire those who can recognize boundaries when it comes to work load and how we/ they see able to have reasonable expectations of themselves.
Ahh! I remember telling my late husband that I would be perfectly happy living hundreds of miles away from the nearest human being. In my 50s, I found so many irritating, shallow people around me and my BS level had reached its limit. Now I'm in my late 70s, alone, and perfectly happy being by myself. I understand completely.
I have lived in so many places and believe the best is a very small town with neighbors far away. I prefer birds, lizards and the occasional snake even.
Introverted healthcare worker here. I now hate noise, too much socializing, malls, gossip, loud people. I am not a fan of TV.. but love Audible. My cats are so amazing. I just adore being alone.
Hermits are now the cool people. I refer to my life as the "Monk life" and I'm a woman in my 50s. 😂 I rescued a senior doggie out of the shelter with health issues and my entire day is about making her happy and healthy. We take beach walks and then come home and cook nutritious meals. My whole Happy Mission is to find supplements that cure her and myself. I'm a thin Type 1 diabetic. I created a wild mouse habitat in my yard and I feed the crows. I'm so happy. I used to be a "popular" teacher in a San Diego school and then quit in my 40s and yes, I'm struggling financially but I'm finally free. By the way, our schools are terrible and insane!!!
I’m passionate about dogs and learned a whole lot after adopting my little guy who was sick at the time. Raw food saved his life. It’s scary because we’re conditioned to think of raw meat as being dangerous but, if you can afford it, I promise it’s the best thing you could ever do for your sweet girl! Just make sure to get it in actual dog food from (not just from the supermarket) so it has all the good stuff including organs and bones as well as fruits and veggies! Wishing you both long, peaceful lives ❤
Since the COVID pandemic I noticed more people are mean, angry, and rude. There's no more kindness. That's my opinion. I prefer to drive less. Even drivers are rude and aggressive. I too prefer country roads and I don't like highways. Happy Holidays Marie!
I noticed more people use normal conversations or interactions to be hostile. Instead of exchanging experiences and just talking normally, they have the need to steer the conversion to you vs. them. It could be the most innocent topic like cooking or hobbies. And they start to pick up a fight, that their ways are superior. Someone could talk about using a kitchen machine and someone needs to point out that doing everything by hand is the only way. And younger generations fail, because they don't knead their bread like in the old days or something like that. What is their problem? I got called spoiled and entitled yesterday because I wrote that I prefer online shopping, because buying a train ticket to the next city is too expensive, knowing I won't find everything I was coming for. And I don't want to carry all my shopping bags around. Some people are so miserable they just live out of spite.
I have noticed this too! So it's not just me then? Whatever happened to having a decent conversation without nit picking or competing or being downright rude? Now people are hiding behind their avatars on social media and hating on everybody ☹ or issuing death threats or unsolicited advice in a condescending manner. Too much negativity and the outside world is too loud. Now I am not excusing anyone's behavior but perhaps some of it is related to the lockdowns and the restrictions? When we were 'incubated' in our homes and discouraged from mixing with others. Even our relatives. We lost both of our parents during the pandemic. Restrictions were still in place when father died so we couldn't visit him in hospital. Both of them died in hospital. It was a tough time to grieve given the circumstances.
I have been in retail, front of house dealing with humans for 36 years, and i have to say it has made me just like you. Every word you have said echos my feelings. Many people are selfish,deceitful, and obsessed by money. There are only a few people i know that i would call honourable.
I was a private International school teacher exclusive for the wealthy and super rich children. They are the children of VIP Politicians, The Royal Families, Diplomates, and well-known businessmen. Their materialistic world are beyond descriptions. After 10 plus years, I got mental fatigue and escaped. After that, I prefer solitude, and heal my self slowly. I got back my self-respect and dignity as a person. This is now my world and the best for me.
@@seriagungnurastarlight this subject badly needs to be investigated so people in general can stop regarding such people with such deference. The amount of abject snobbery, condescension, contempt and arrogance shown by these people towards those whom they mostly regard as being inferior to them because their material wealth is so much less, is what is driving the wretched adult ‘elites’ that are bent on annihilating this planet and all within it
I will say that although working with people is taxing and stressful, I have found there are also some good people out there too and it is always such a treat when you encounter one. So…the world isn’t all bad!😀
I just enjoyed a good belly laugh by playing a silly prank on a coworker as we were clocking out for the night. Some of the people I work with are terrible, but there's more good folks in here than bad. It's hard to remember the good ones when dealing with the bad ones, but the good ones are always out there. ❤
After listening to you and reading the comments I feel TOTALLY NORMAL. 43 years of nursing plus 4 years as a radiographer before that, so 47 years of dealing not only with often difficult patients but also their visitors and relatives, smart-arse doctors and obnoxious young unit managers (whose Gen label I don't know or care). I "retired" this year at 67 - actually just gave up my Cardiac nursing job of 27 years because I felt bullied due to my age. I have just realised that my hair is no longer falling out! I feel guilty not working, and intended to do casual nursing shifts at times to suit me. Frankly I can't cope with the thought of it. I'm conscientious and took so many photos of bedpans which had been through the pan flusher but had baked-on poo - the younger nurses and foreign nurses just took them out of the machine and put them on the rack ready to be given to patients. One day I went through 7 dirty pans and had to ask my patient to wait while I cleaned one and put it through the steriliser. While my patient used the pan I returned to the dirty utility room, scrubbed the other pans with hot soapy water and kept going back to cycle them individually through the steriliser. It's a lot of MY nursing time away from my patients. Then what do you get? ? Criticised for not entering some pissy piece of info onto the computer system which has no impact on patient care but only looks good for hospital accreditation! Gen Whatever ladder-climber witch couldn't care less if patients were given shitty bedpans! She didn't bother to send out an email reminding staff to clean soiled ones they found. It's not the only thing that is wrong. Then you rush by the desk to attend to your patients and see the young ones sitting on their bums playing with their mobile phones!! 😠 Patients are no longer cared for properly and I'm sure it's not just in Australia. Anyway, I can't be dealing with people's crap, I'm divorced not my choice, so I no longer have to please a partner and my adult sons are welcome if they show respect - mostly not. I volunteer with a Friends of a local park group, mostly women older than me, pulling out weeds, planting seedlings and lugging mulch and I LOVE IT. I love the wonderful positive attitudes. I intend to live frugally and just enjoy the people I choose to be around. Phew! I doubt anyone has read all this but I feel better for having vented it. Thank you for posting your video, I wish you a speedy return to good health and lots of happiness.xx Yvette 💖🌹🇦🇺
After reading so many of peoples responses to feeling the need to be alone - your words stood out the most to me. I am deeply sorry that you had to deal with Gen Z or whatever she was and it is so hurtful when you work so hard and the one usually playing on their phone gets recognition for stuff they don’t even do but I bet you are an amazing nurse and you are correct in saying it’s not just in one country - it’s everywhere. Anyway, I know I don’t know you personally but I am deeply sorry to hear everything you have been through at your job and maybe now you can enjoy life some!
Thank you! I finally realized similar things that you’ve talked about in your vent. I have felt bullied as well. Stupid jokes and other stuff that has gone on in my workplaces over the last 3 years have made me have more anxiety and am constantly dealing with chatty and immature 20-30 year olds that don’t do much but talk about what they’re eating for lunch. I complained and was told I have the problem 😮. I know it’s not me, it’s a different world with the at work not-working crowd. It’s as if nobody told them we go to work to actually accomplish something during a work day. Just the fact that I had to even type the last sentence says a lot. I’m looking forward to doing something else around folks who have ethics, manners and respect for others around them. Even if they are strangers.
Thank you for writing about your experiences. I have had the same type of experience and recently retired. I had a cancer scare and realized that the environment I was working in was killing me. I went out on short term disability and had my surgery and never went back, retired at 65. They had to scramble to replace me and several other techs left at the same time. Mass exodus of employees a year ago, God’s timing is perfect! I have never looked back.
I live in a small town and I check parking lots to make sure no one is in the store I know before I go in. I have done that for years and I’m 38. I have I worked in customer service since I was 17 and I absolutely cannot stand being out unless it’s super early and most people are still at home. Customer service work changes you mentally!
@@glow1815so do I, in medical billing. The majority of our customers are awful, they come on the line already with a bad attitude ready to go off on whatever poor soul answers the phone. I’ve done this type of job before so I thought it wouldn’t be too bad, but people are just too mean these days. I’m retiring early next year.
I'm the same way. I love doing all my errands away from crowds . I even park my car at the grocery store in a peaceful part of the parking lot. I love my peace in life.
Hello from Canada. Sister, you are not alone in what you are feeling & how it is affecting you. As women, we carry a huge societial burden. We are expected to do it all and then more. We work fulltime, take care of our husbands, kids and our parents. We are expected to have a pristine home, cook elaborate meals, keep up on the laundry, socialize with friends and repeat again tomorrow all while keeping a smile on our face and being kind. We can only give so much for so long to so many before we crash due to physical exhaustion and mental burnout. As women we are great at caring for and giving to others, but we fail to look after ourselves. I am 56 yrs old, a mother of 9 and a grandmother to 12 (so far). For the past 22 yrs, I have worked 12 to 16 hour shifts fulltime+ as a Paramedic. Half the time, as the driver, it requires driving lights & sirens 30kms over the speed limit into oncoming traffic. The other half of the time, I am tending to patients who's lives are solely in my hands while my partner drives. As 1st responders, we see/hear/smell truly horrific things over & over every day. But what the public doesn't know, is how poorly we get treated by some of our patients. I have been screamed at, verbally insulted, had vomit & feces throw at me, touched sexually as well as physically assulted many times including while pregnant. So... surprise... I am currently off work having been diagnosed with Complex PTSD. I am literally frightened of people & shadows, can't tolerate fast motion, crowds, loud noises, traffic and even the phone or doorbell ringing. Any kind of stress causes my blatter to empty instantaneously including during the night when i have nightmares. I am suffering from incredible anxiety, have unregulated emotions - angry outbursts / crying, brain fog as well as numbing depression. For the 1st time in my life, I'm navigating how to care for and prioritize myself, my health & my well-being above all others. I have a clinical councilor, an occupational therapist, but most importantly I have my faith in Jesus to help me through this. Ladies, show each other Grace and stand up for yourselves by learning to say No More or Stop I Just Can't. Please pray for my (Tracy's) healing and recovery. God Bless and keep talking to others about your own personal journey to find peace.
😢this breaks my heart. Canada is really changing now. There are many reasons for this, cultural definitely being an aspect of that. Your job is beyond difficult. I hope you get a chance to heal and feel better soon! Fellow Canadian wishing you Happy Holidays! ❤
People like you are the heroes of this world. It’s unfortunate that you don’t receive more kindness and respect from people that YOU help heal and take care of. I do not understand this type of behavior. Bless you for all you’ve done for the people and community you have served. People take it for granted. I’d like to see what their reaction would be if there were no Dr.’s, nurses, etc to go to help them.
I have severe PTSD. I've found that having a pet - a dog in my case - has really helped with being unable to sleep and being unable to shut off my hyper-vigilance. A dog's senses are so much keener than our own that they can alert us and our own alert system can rest.
I completely understand and sympathize with you. At 75, I'm just done with people except my intimate family. I suffer from PTSD and collapsed, sending me to the hospital for 2 nights in ambulance because my husband couldn't lift me off the floor. They determined I had a Vargus incident and changed my anxiety medication. I thought I was dying. The experience was so horrible. All we can do is look after ourselves and give ourselves time to recover. I don't sleep at night. I sleep during the day to avoid interacting with anyone other than my core family. I have given up trying keep up expectations and apologize to no one.
Every time my experience with customer service is friendly and helpful,I comment on a great job and thank them.There are some terrible people in customer service as well not always a positive experience…There’s a fine balance between alone and loneliness! Boundaries are important so is solitude and a connection to nature! When you find genuine people nurture those connections it’s rare these days.
I worked in law enforcement for 22yrs, I have ptsd and like you I avoid people, I’m now retired and totally love being alone. I’m now a fine detail artist and I absolutely love it, I get so lost in my work. When I go shopping I put on my happy face and No matter what mood I’m in I am always genuinely nice to staff, it has paid off as they fight over serving me and tell me I’m like a ray of sunshine…. I love that I can make their day. Thank you for your honesty ❤
The last time the power went out, we used candlelight. I noticed that my pillows have gold-yellow thread in them. Nice. Explains a lot about pre-industrial fabrics and fashion. Thanks for the post.
Nothing will burn you out on people faster than having a customer service "People Pleasing!" job where you are forced to smile, be nice and friendly no matter what the customers do to you, say to you, or how they treat you. Customer service, whether through the call lines, in person etc, is a soul-crushing job experience. I have seen managers and supervisors reduced to tears due to the way 'customers' treat them. I don't let anyone bother me, as unless they shoot me, they can't harm me with their words, gestures, or overall rude behavior. I have wrapped my soul in Teflon to keep myself safe.
Covid taught me how little human companionship I really need. I avoid people as much as possible. I even have groceries delivered so that I don't have to go into a store.
"Seem"? They are super absorbed all the time. They are incapable of putting anyone before their needs. I turn a deaf ear now to the BS coming out of their mouths, I have no interest. and yes after COVID, many people are callous, and thoughtless.
This! I was saying this to a friend last week, people just want to talk about themselves then if you chip in, they look away in disinterest as they just want a sounding board!
I'm a 65 year old veteran (40 years) public school teacher. I am so stressed out that I'm thinking that while I'd like to continue teaching for another year, I just can't! My mental and physical health is too fragile to continue any longer. While I am depressed at the thought of retirement, I've clearly had enough and am ready to depart after the end of this school year. You have helped me in making comforting decisions... tea, candles, soft instrumental music... this all helps! Thank you!
I was in customer service for 35 years. Had anxiety and panic attacks and still do. I'm 70 years old and I have been retired almost 5 years. I can't stand people anymore. So I get it!
Being alone gives us time to not be distracted. I like my time out and having space to myself, it was uncomfortable when I was young/ I always needed people around me and now after retirement I feel like a relief to just think and do on my own time instead of being told by others. I'm now fine with just being at home with my pets, I'm off three prescription pills and I feel like too much over stimulation hurts us. I get to organize my life and my thoughts without stressing out. I'm getting to know myself and I'm in my early 70's, my responsibilities are behind me and it feels great to be free. Thank you for your video!
I get it! I have worked in retail for almost 26 years now. I’ve seen it all and I’ve heard it all. I’ve poured a lot in my friendships I’ve done everything I could humanly possibly do to be the best friend, brother, uncle and employee I could be, only to be unappreciated, gaslit, taken advantage of and then eventually thrown under the bus. I never felt that I was allowed to say NO to anyone when I really needed to. I always believed in putting other’s needs before mine but never INSTEAD of my own and that made me a “horrible” or “self centred” person. I just eventually got really sick and tired of being hurt all the time so I decided to make a conscientious choice to make myself as unavailable to as many people as much as possible. Sadly my friendships were situational, once the situation was over, sadly so were the friendships. You really need to be happy with yourself and you have look after and care for yourself because clearly I learned that no one else will. It’s a very sad reality but a lot of people now just suck.
Thankyou. At 60 i have been in customer service for 45 years. I have had enough. Recovering from a divorce and starting over my focus is to pay my house off. I have 7 more years of working before i get the pension and thats if they don’t move the retirement age again. I have had enough of people. Some. Days i am so overwhelmed.❤
Love my solitude. Others don't understand, but i dont judge them. Each to their own. I find people draining yet nature and animals uplift me!! 62 and love my own company too!🙏💚
I'm a geriatric nurse. I loved people and dedicated my life to my patients only to find out they only use and abuse me and deliberately make my life hard even when I devote my love and care to them. I was so hurt when I realized this. I just find people so hard and cruel where ever I go. Now I just do my job and go home and enjoy my alone time. Heart broken.
I am feeling this way at 40. Been an introvert my whole life but the last 4-5 years have made me want to isolate as much as possible. The vapidness and narcissism of today’s society is just blah. Give me my garden any day over most people. Customer service really hardens you in general(did it for awhile).
I'm an introvert too and after pandemic where we start working from home, i became more isolate and love be working from home. I am my favorite company, and dealing with people nowadays is very complicate. More agressive, gealous, narcisist...
Yes Marie i wholeheartedly ❤ agree .The world is BROKEN. It has even crept in to the church i once attended...Jesus said " you have become Luke warm with your Love " i started my secluded life in about 1987..i am alone but not Alone.you sometimes feel Alienated from humankind as the years go by .Strange how we ALL feel similar on here..Must be we are XTRA sensative to the Hostile world we hav to face each time we venture out...its insanity!!! But i hav seen this coming over the years,i think only God can SAVE us now...He NEEDS to be Quick!!
I'm with you. Both my husband and I were "people persons" until he lost his health 😔 due to strokes. Most people were awful, treating us like we had committed some mortal sin. Church folks were the worst! We don't leave home much, try to be content here, eat at home or go to a drive through to avoid people. Anxiety is something I fight, also. My garden is my peaceful place, the way it was meant to be. I'm ok with just a small circle of people in my life. Blessings!
Church people can be the worst. Hope things get better for you soon and your husband. I have anxiety so I do not go out or interact with people unless I have to.
The new generation realizes that the companies don't care about you or your well-being and will pay you as little as they can. Working at full power all the time leads to burn out and health problems. You may be loyal but the company sees you as replaceable. Needing lots of quiet, lowlights and solitude is often related to a lower re d stress threshold from pushing too hard for too long. I hope they keep doing the minimum, until companies are willing to share their profits and offer more flexibility, better benefits, and streamlined promotions based on performance, not "likeability" as it is now.
I have anxiety too. I've had anxiety all of my life. Even as a toddler. My top tips are 1. Go for a walk everyday and get your body burning your nervous energy. 2. Have a project, even if it's really small. Don't give up on yourself. 3. Meet people and talk it out. 4. Eat really well. 5. Listen to music as it can be really therapeutic. 6. Spend time in silence every day. I pray for about 2 hours a day and can't tell you just how much it helps. 7.Have a daily routine and give yourself some time to enjoy a hobby, gardening, art, music. I'm 56 and try to follow all of these points every day. 8. Consider doing some volunteering work. I ring up people who are having a tough time. It really lifts my mood. I'm going to join your group. God bless you and everyone reading this. X Anxiety can be worse at our age.
Wow I just stumbled upon your channel. I thought I was the only one. I'm like you to a T. I was a nurse for 34 years. I've seen heartwarming compassion and downright cruelty on the job from patients their families other nurses and the physicians. A medical issue forced my early retirement. I left behind the noise of the endless chatter, beeping machines, phones ringing, call bells going off etc. The quit is glorious. I no longer enjoy anywhere with large crowds or gatherings including my family. Financially its challenging but the level of peace and contentment I have now is priceless.
I go to the grocery store at 7am when it opens. My house is filled with movies, cds, books and they give me the comfort i need. I worked as a receiver so i had little contact with the public so i survived retail that way. Now i am retired and happy to be away from people and the grief and rudeness they give you.
Worked in marketing and traveled for more than 30 yrs and have always made it a priority to be friendly to the cashiers, secretaries and all staff members of companies, when I left the JOB I felt like you, just want to be at home and walk the streets unnoticed , wonderful to meet you. Enjoy the rest of your journey with the great company of your choices, lovely video thank you
Okay, you made it clear that being in customer service made you who you are. I'm a middle school teacher in my 60's and here is how I learned to make peace with the rudeness and awful behavior of too many students and parents: I forget about them - and remember the good students and parents instead. Life is too short and precious to let horrible people make you unhappy - so don't let them! I recently had a willfully disruptive student tell me this was their last day at this school (with parents who said I was the problem for nitpicking their darling daughter for bad behavior - that I should just let them ruin class because I'm expecting too much and they are "just a kid, what's the harm?"). I reacted honestly, telling this student that was really great to hear - the kid got really annoyed when they could tell how happy that made me. I keep pictures of the fun days with the students who are happy to be there, and I keep all the fun and goofy drawings they make for me - and if I'm feeling down and beaten I'll pull them out and remind myself that I'm there for the good kids. Let me make it clear that by the good kids I don't mean only the ones who are great students, but also the ones with a good heart even if they come from a dysfunctional family
@@juliastrom9218 One of the biggest existential mental crisis that has been creeping through our youth and in my opinion fueling the rise in disruptive and violent student behavior is the prevalence of negative social media. I wish more countries would do what Australia just did to ban social media for those under 16. Young minds just can't resist it, and they almost never realize how much is fake and made up - they think disruptive behavior is normal. Parents have done a horrible job of monitoring and restricting inappropriate Internet use and are often in denial that their kids are on social media in the middle of the night. Years ago student behavior was not perfect - but students met expectations at a greater rate. One of the things that now happens that virtually never happened before are teachers who literally quit right in the middle of class, just hand in their keys and walk out.
I am an onsite apartment manager. I have good tenants and ignorant rude, self entitled ones, and easily triggered ones. I concentrate on the good ones. The ones who don't give me attitude and who I can relate to in a sane manner. This life is too short to let people ruin it. The office I work for sometimes acts rude and patronizing. I don't let that bother me like I did in the beginning. In the long run, I see it, the world is really gotten worse. Or probably I have gotten wiser.
Was born 1972. Everything you said resonates with me. On weekends I go to the store as soon as the doors open. I think we all have a bucket and if it is full we can't take another drop of rude, obnoxious, cruel behavior. As soon as I get into contact with people my blood pressures get extremely high and I get panick attacks. Just had to put up with cruel people for too long. Sorry, but I prefer staying away.
I work in a busy Restaurant, nearly retired, there's nothing i like better than a long walk deep into the countryside, no noisy traffic just the sound of birdsong, bliss
The world is broken human beings are broken..the Creator must be shedding a tear😢..i prefer animals to humans..much love and blessings to you from South Africa ❤
I am 43 and have been working with the public all my life. I am trying to find something else because my health has suffered as well. My anxiety is worse than ever. I look forward to coming home to a quiet candlelit house with my pets. I can relate so much to you. Thank you for the video. I know im not alone and I wish you well on your journey ❤
I am your twin! I am 53 and I relate to everything you said today! I feel very overwhelmed by people, at work, in stores, even when I meet up with friends! You made me feel so much better about it! It's not just me..thank you for sharing your life ❤
Oh my goodness you’re me! I’m 53, resigned my job last May, cannot deal with people and suffer from anxiety now. I too worked with majority Gen z and I worked circles around them, beating up my body and brain from it and they got treated better. I got sick too and I garden. It sounds like you worked for Target, I did (but warehouse so less retail but same atmosphere from management as stores) I’m so happy I found you! I think watching you will be beneficial. Much appreciation and well wishes to you!!! ❤
Been this way for a long time. Since my oldest son has grown into a married man, he called me and said "Dad I get it now", as to me being what they called being anti-social. This world has turned very dark and exceedingly dangerous. Our countrymen(some) have become very rude, uncaring, hate filled and disrespectful and I don't want anything to do with them other than to pray for their deliverance from the darkness 🙏
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The more I deal with humans the more I love my cats!!!!
Same! They’re easier to deal with AND enjoy than miserable “human” beings
Me too 😂😂😂
That's all I need, I swear ❤😂
Amen!
My 2 House Panthers are my best friends, second only to my girlfriend.
I’m 69. Been living alone for 8 years with my pets.
I rarely leave my acre. I was an entertainer but after retiring I am a recluse. Alone. Never lonely.
@@Avi_Z. 68 here. I think we just reach an age where people have let us down too much, for too long. Knocks the caring right outta ya.
@ you are not wrong
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It's time that we stop equating being alone with having depression.
It can go both ways. When I was younger (30s and 40s) i self isolated because of depression when I wanted/needed human contact. Now in my 50s i self isolate by choice because I love my solitude It’s Christmas Eve and I’ve had zero contact with anyone today and it’s bliss.
Truth
Agreed, alone does not mean lonely
Amen to that.
Oh, you can have it all at once!!!
I’m 25 and already feel this way. I find most people to be rude and inherently disgusting.
I think it has to do with "the times" we are living in. Yes, rude, but also potentially "dangerous" depending on when and where. I go out shopping once or twice a month, and "stock up" cause I really don't like leaving home either. I'm 66, though, and was a fairly social butterfly for "many years."
I’m 53, I’ve felt the same way since I was your age.
I’m 47 and love my own company with my cat and my family 💛🙏🏽
@@thumbalina1568 I love my cats when they are "sleeping." 😂 Neither one is 2 years old yet, and sometimes they can be as wild and crazy as the folks out in public when they get the "zoomies." They are indoor cats, so they get a LOT of pent up energy at times. I just "can't get no peace" sometimes. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@thumbalina1568Ditto! It’s too much for me out there
Sometimes it's ok to just be a hermit. Especially if you need to heal from toxic people.
AMEN TO THAT !!
40 yrs for me in service housekeeping so far 30 yrs housekeeping job. I have aniexty worse when went back to work. We have alot in common and I live bysrlf with 2 cats .
@@lesliew748 I was always a social person but i didnt cope with covid very well and had some struggles since then. I've been in hermit mode for awhile, in therapy and when i'm ready to get back out in the world i will, until then, gathering my strength in peace. Hope you're healing as well.
@@Crispycrisp-ko8xt 100%
So true
I retired to Florida and basically have become a hermit. I’m home with my wife and cat most of the time. I have no friends and don’t want any. I used to volunteer but not since the Pandemic. I’m almost 80 and have lost my fear of dying. Ashes to ashes, dust to dust….life goes on.
I thought it was just me. I even try to put my bins out when the other neighbors are not around.
Same
i do this, too. i feel less creepy noww... 🙂
Is it social anxiety a bit?
@@cassondralynch6342 I thought so but no, I don't want to speak to them.
I put my bin out at 4 am on trash day. I don’t want to be seen.
Your not alone! Most people suck! Even so called friends!!
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Specially the so called friends 😅
@@earthrooster1969 Those are the worst.
Whats a friend I haven't found a true one
The closer you are to someone the more they can hurt you
Even my family is toxic. The only time I’m at peace is when I’m completely alone.
I feel the same
I third that.
My family too are toxic so I keep away,
The older I get, the less I want to do with most people. I am 💯 with you. They’re draining.
Right lol 😂
I did customer service and sales, incl using phones so working w/ the public isn't easy at times. I am retired, not a people person anymore. Let the phone take a message.
Greetings from Laos. I feel the same way. I'm 50 years old. I also work in customer service. Customer service is the reason why I dislike people. I prefer my solitude. I like to go hiking and camping in the Laos jungle. It's relaxing to me. That's how I recharge my battery. People drain my energy.
Draining! Exactly!
Your best friend is yourself, nobody else.
Yes, everyone else that you've invested in is long gone. Investing in yourself is the only thing that pays off.
Well said. I do believe in Christ, though. But here on earth, yes, you are your best friend. 👍
🙌🏼👑Nope! King Jesus is my BEST friend!
Hear! Hear!
I strongly agree
I’m 41! I want NOTHING to do with ANYONE!!! If I never had to leave my house for anything, I wouldn’t!!!!!! !!! People are just DISGUSTING 🤢! Plain & simple.
I have to agree !
I feel your pain
Ppl get into others business!!!
Oh yeah!!! & they LOVE IT too! They pretend they don’t, but they LOVE IT!!!!! Hippocrites!
We have that in common
52. Social worker for over 2 decades. I work sporadically now, just to keep myself above water financially. I absolutely adore my solitude! I’ve given up dating and only have a few close friends. The world is broken, especially right now, and being alone in my home feels like self-protection.
AGREED!!!
Fellow social worker here, I'm ready to exit the field stage left, LOL
@@ejw72 self protection is the best reason for isolation from this crazy, chaotic world 💔 stay safe
@@ejw72 Another tough profession. I work for Adult social care after years of working with children’ services. I don’t know how the social workers do it.
@@leanneclare3750I was a social worker for about 20 years. It was a very difficult at times. It would be even more difficult now. There are so many problems. Another problem would be the hatred for being liberal or woke from some family members, friends and community.
Used to be gregarious and liked to hang out with people, at 74 I now just want to be alone, pursue my interests in solitude.
I'm 75 and feel just the same as you. It's wonderful. I have a terror of small talk.
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I, absolutely hate small talk. Never really liked it then, but now I refuse to waste MY precious time. ✌🏼
Are you me?
I turned 74 recently and feel the same. After a long work career dealing with the public, I love my solitude and being surrounded by my many hobbies and books. Never bored or lonely, not even for a second.
@@nancydaley9646I just stumbled upon this channel and asked myself the exact same question!!!
Mark Twain said: The more I learn about people, the more I want to have only one friend - my dog!
I’ve worked in healthcare for 30 years and counting. I cannot stand to be around people, to talk, any of it. I just want to go home to my dog and my books and my crafts. If I need to go out to buy things, I’ll pick a small local store or just buy online. I’m exhausted.
I understand! 30 years is a long time. Any great book recommendations? I finally have time to read. Thank you for watching. God bless.
exactly it is amazing how dealing with people at work, toxic neighbours makes us want to have that space alone. unfortunately one of my neighbours bothers me in my garden now but I have put a stop to that
Ohhhh, I am the same! I read, bible study, big time crafter, primarily needlework, sewing, knitting quilting ect. I am trying to practice watercolor and sketching. Journaling is helpful for me. I get so anxious or plain fed up with people when going out of the house any more. I can stand it only for a short period of time. So I would rather buy online what I need.
@@beaulieuc8910Did you compost them? 😂❤
@@johenderson3742😂. Good one.
The older I get (64 yrs old) the less I want to be around people.......I love to spend time with animals❤️
Always loved animals...they are soothing and calming, unlike miserable "people". I am extremely selective as to whom I allow into my life now.
I feed pigeons, squirrels, and crows daily! I love them, and they know me. They’re BEAUTIFUL!💜🕊️Nature is magnificent!
Me too. Animals are the best therapists.
M2 , 3 crazy cats and a basset hound ❤️
Same here my friend .
As a 32 year old woman, I have been done with people, but I’m really done now. I tried to find love and got used, rejected, and manipulated. So I may never have kids or never get married. I have no family or friends. Just me and God
There are reasons why...Did you try to find out? I am also reclusive but I know why.
We're at the same situation, sis. 😢
And us ❤❤❤
Our society is broken. Human beings are deeply unhappy en masse because of the way the world is run. Those who isolate are the most discerning. We cannot tolerate the dysfunction and that is a good thing! I am a therapist and a recluse through choice. I too choose peace, quiet and to spend my time with the few beings I love, plant, animal and husband. This is a healthy response to a dreadful environment 'out there' and we can stop feeling guilt and shame! Wise you are, said Yoda 😉. Enjoy your hard earned peace. Blessings to all! 💗
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Great comment and so true!
This is it exactly for me! I love the quote by Jiddu Krishnamurti... "It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society"
True...i find people dont know how to be friends and maintain friendshios and connections. At work when people have a conflict people run to the boss instead of talking to the person they had the conflict with....makes for more conflict
Thank you for validating chosen solitude.
@@GraceThroughFaith222 that’s been a favorite quote of mine for a long time!
I worked customer service for 25 years. Yes, I like staying home. Many people are just rude. I hate crowds.
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EXCATLY PEOPLE ARE VERY RUDE
25 years dealing with humans, wow, you’re a legend, hope you’re having well deserved peace now ❤❤❤
Former 911 dispatcher for over a decade. That career solidified my allergies to humans. I’m a happy introvert who prefers more nature and no people.
I am the best company I’ve ever kept.
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Wow a whole ten years. 😂
@@TreehouseLover and no drama or chaos. Calm peaceful rest, harmony and solitude. Thank you for your service. 🙏
I couldn't do that job for even 1 week.
I love nature and animals my escape now from loudness and rudeness of the world
I am 55. I've always been an introvert, but now I don't try to hide it and I don't care what people think.
Same!
55 and same.
Same! I’m 36
Same here I'll be 59 this year. I remember as a very small kid I would hide in my room when people came to our house.
Yep. Same.
NEVER underestimate or overlook the evil of the human animal. Peoples' arrogance and narcissism is off the charts these days. It comes from having it too good for too long with no downside, no accountability and no consequences.
Audacity is at an all time high. People take take take and want to "get energy" from "experiences" but never give, they only wanna take take take and suck everyone dry, even those suckers who are burnt out, they wanna infect you with their burnout and take your energy.
Absolutely agree 100%
100% agree too. This is some of my family members.
“Family” is a HUGE problem!
@@raegen5618 Reply to all. Flying monkeys as in "The Wizard of Oz". Misled, misguided, misinformed, manipulated. Not just family and/or relatives but bosses, co-workers, other students, neighbors, other drivers, business associates, significant others, lover, could be anywhere, everywhere and at any time. Keep your head on a swivel and be aware of your surroundings, watch your six. Listen carefully to the TONE, the ATTITUDE in the way they speak to you. Watch their actions. Watch out for their friends and how they have their alliances set up. You never know how and what you say will get back to them. I usually pick it up in the very first word out of their mouth. Use them/let them destroy other people's lives, NOT YOURS!!! Be OBSERVANT. Keep what you know a secret, especially if it is to your advantage, don't give away or "volunteer" information. Be careful who you confide in. The recipient might not agree with you and literally turn on you.
I find the reason mature people do not need the attention of others, is due to being comfort in your own skin. Once you reach that level, it's not that you hate people, you just enjoy solace more.
Agreed
That’s because their presence needs to feel more attractive than your solitude.
Its not that i dont like people i just prefer it when they not around
@@mikeobrien5004 Agreed. I dont mind some arms length contact without drama and too much expectation.
Anxiety is a killer. I walked off my job without saying a word after 15 years of an abusive boss. Suffered from PTSD 4 years after because it was so unrelenting. Quit when I was 69. I ghosted everyone. My nerves are shot, and I am being treated by my doctor. I'm now 75, and I see no one but my husband and granddaughter. I got a Cocker Spaniel and have a sweet Pitti to make me laugh. If I start to step outside and see my nosy neighbor, I wait until she is gone. I prefer my own company now. I never was like that when I was younger, but abusive people in the workplace drove me to avoid people in general. I just can't take it...and I don't have too!
I'm younger than you & after 35 my health is not the best. I can barely reach 10 hours of overtime I need due to anemia. I refuse to work in a office or with men as a receptionist. I'm currently in an eeoc due to a lady 10 plus older than me raising her voice at me. So I told her let's meet away from work. Ppl like her can ruin any peace your reaching for. But management knew about her menacing behavior. Telling me I should have said something sooner. They are truly evil. But lord forbid someone is violent & innocent ppl are hurt they bring mental health experts. Always reactive & not proactive. More ppl are rude for no reason. Old to young, young to old, staff to customers.
Thats me
@@lemonadelexus Someone should do research on this thing about toxic work environments and how they affect our health and increase medical costs and why there are BARELY any federal protections for employees. I had an experience similar to you. I was being harassed at work and documented everything and filed a formal complaint with EEOC. After a year EEOC was not able to help me and to this day I question the logic of their decision. I would have appealed but didn't because i ended up having a nervous breakdown and developing heart failure. I've been in therapy the last two years trying to heal from my experience. I'm a strong person and been through some rough stuff my whole life but the office toxicity is what finally did me in.
@Crispycrisp-ko8xt i totally understand. You started the process but became tired, feeling like it's not helping you & mainly stopping the hostility toward you. We'll, I hate that your health was affected. All I can say is vengeance is mine says the Lord. I pray the offending person has a heavy vengeance from God for how they treated you.
@@lemonadelexus Thank you for your understanding. I'm actually grateful for this time to heal and as the saying goes, "when one door closes another opens"...so the door is closed on that part of my life, just looking forward to what opens up for the future.
The older you get, the worse you get treated by strangers. You are treated as if you're in the way. People get annoyed over nothing. You get looks. If you're not super fast, people get arsey. If you don't park perfectly, people get abusive. If you need to cross the road or the car park, people are impatient and rudely wave you along or rev their engine at you. You get tired of it. I also worked cutomer service for a while and hated it. People can be horrible. So I get why you want to stay at home.
Thank you for understanding. This world needs to be kind, and it's sad that there isn't more respect for others. Thank you for watching. God bless.
exactly and when women walk home alone we are seen as prey by men and get raped and killed, fed up with people
People stereotype older people as less mentally capable than they are..just because I don’t brag openly all the time on my current knowledge an past triumphs doesn’t mean I’m stupid.. I just hate the loud pushy braggarts etc.
I think that's just people these days in general. This used to not be the case. Respect self, and others these days, is very sorely lacking.
This is so true but I am guilty sometimes of being in a rush and hunger irritated as someone who talks at the register for too long when there is a long line up. But then I give myself a little kick in the metaphoric butt and tell myself this is healthy human interaction and once this is annihilated everything worth anything will be gone, so I smile and calm the heck down.
I feel the same as you. 40 years of working as a nurse left me with severe PTSD. Sick people are usually at their worst when sick. I always thank customer service workers for helping me.
I drove a school bus for 28 years. Thankless job and very stressful. I now avoid people and love being by myself. I’m 67 and I’m my own best friend 😊
As a former school teacher, I really appreciate all you did in those days of "caring" for children getting them to school and home again! You help those little ones transition from home to school! Blessings!
Thankless? I don’t think so. Every time I see a school bus I think of the driver and how much responsibility they have. Most people think this way. Perhaps you didn’t receive many spoken thanks but I can assure you that the people in the cars always thought of you, were glad you were so careful and caring. 😊
No wonder all bus drivers are always sick.
Hi Sue. My Dad like you was a school bus driver for the same duration. School
Bus Driving in on the top 10 list for "Most Stressful Jobs". I thank you for your service. You transported the most precious cargo on this earth. God bless you.
Greeting Sue! I'm a former school teacher and my h❤ goes out to you! I always wave to drivers! Stay safe and enjoy the calm.
I'm 52, work retail by necessity and absolutely isolate as much as possible when I don't have to work! If I could work from home and avoid all human contact entirely I would!
I hear you!!! Kind of what I'm doing now. Thank you for watching and God bless.
Same. Retail was a horror.
I literally commented almost this exact wording you just used. Only difference is im 53. Lol.
I started working from home as a reseller. I go out to mail stuff by dropping it in a box when they're not open. I have light contact with customers through the app. about the products, etc. It's just enough contact. I get back what I put in, so it's rewarding in that way.
@@TheEclecticPhotog I did retail for 5 long years. I'm shy by nature but as part of the job, you had to approach everyone and ask them if they needed help. That wasn't bad but some customers, who were unaware that we HAD to approach them would get irate and accuse me of approaching them because I thought they were stealing.
Vielen Dank für deinen Beitrag❤ das hilft mir ungemein zu verstehen, dass es vielen Menschen so geht wie mir selbst.
The day you walk away is one of the greatest days of your life.
I just found your channel. I’m 58 and really understand what you’re saying. I’ve been hurt so badly by friends and family in my life that i now keep to myself and enjoy being alone with my cats. I cannot take the stress of being around people anymore.
Big hug!
Hello feel that also , 54.
Walked away from toxic marriage. And family ..
All the best to you.
Justbreathe.
@@jbuntine1255 sending you blessings ❤️
@ beautiful and perfect ❤️
All you need is Jesus! 💕
Just remember to keep moving and walk and do things physically - staying home and not moving or doing anything will age us. Life is about movement. People come with problems... It's important to choose wisely and avoid toxicity and conflict. It's ok to be alone and not be lonely. I go out to eat sometimes and eat alone. I like it that way.
Solitude is a very necessary part of the Christian life. All the saints retreated into solitude in prayer as frequently as possible. I love my solitude and always have.
I am truly happy you luv your solitude, It is important to know what is best for you.
I am not sure I understand the need to tie religion to (everything) solitude BUT that's not may journey.
Amen 🙏🏼❤
Yes, that is very true. I am 72 and I am more into prayer and solitude now than ever. I have always been introverted but worked as a social worker so had to be “on”. When our only son died by suicide, I retired and because so many people don’t “get it” - I pretty much keep to myself although am not antisocial. I really enjoyed this video.
Religion is bs and the its reason why so many sociopaths were able to reproduce uncontrollably and hold so much misogynist control.
@@VeronicasVeil333 Veronica, I am sorry for your loss. 💕
I honestly think most adults our age feel this way. Lucky us!
I think that’s true. We don’t want the hassle anymore of other people’s bad behaviours.
I agree, I am seeing this more and more in people in our age group.
Well I’m 34 and I feel this way too now I just hate people I can’t take anymore of their BS !
@reginasingleton: I'm surprised to find so many! I thought it was just me and I was strange. I know people of my age (58) who worry about me not wanting to travel and mingle but prefering solitude and time with my husband and pets at home. Or who don't understand that I'm thinking of quitting my job as a teacher. But then again there are quite a few collegues my age who are thinking of early retiring.
@ my friend retired from teaching when she was 55. She did it she said whilst her memories of the job were good. I was always keen to travel in my retirement but as it gets closer I find I have no interest in the hassle of travelling, it’s a shame but I just enjoy being at home. In the peace and quiet ( except for the cats running around 😀). I think we’ve found peace.
This is so comforting to know that there are others who need quiet and don’t care for crowds .. th - love this ❤️
I spent my entire adult years (20+) avoiding people. I don't blame you. People are mostly horrible, selfish and greedy. Animals are wonderful and I love my dog so much.
Beautiful talk. I worked in emergency services for 18 years and i now work with plants ☘️
I worked in finance for almost 15 yrs and then switched to working with medicinal plants for a decade. Each job had it's positives & negatives.
same here except there's some plants
I ❤ plants and animals!!! They are MUCH preferable to humans overall!!!😊
😂😂😂😂 love this. Nice and quiet.
Plants are amazing for healing! Thanks for watching. God bless.
I spend a lot of quality time with my dogs. I love the company of animal souls more so than people.
Animals do not have souls, and animals are not accountable to God, but we are.
Right there with you. ❤ 🐕
52 and can't be bothered with toxic individuals. Peaceful quiet life, love my own space and solitude. I find it calming in this broken world.
Where's the time machine when you need it? The world sucks now. Has been since the 2000's. The mid to late 80's is where i want to be!
@@NintenPizza haa! That's when I was born. I'm a 90's kid myself, 90's music and movies were the best 👌
No one thinks they're "toxic" Just like no one thinks they're stupid.
I am exactly the same. I was a nurse for 35 years and dealt with a lot of rude, crazy and abusive people. I cannot stand to be around people anymore. I have become a bit of a hermit.,
Same
Same and sometimes I feel as if there is something wrong with me.
Me too. Can’t stand the fake-ness, the judging, the lack of any depth.
I will be turning 48 and i am beginning to feel this way. Less crowds the better. And if i do not enjoy ur company, I prefer to be alone than in your presence. Nomore going all out for holidays. Peacefulness is top priority.
Amen 🙏
@@suzettechristine8609 I agree ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I am 80 . I like nothing more than a day at home when I don’t have to drive anywhere or anybody ,
I'm 41 and feel the same way. I love being home ❤.
@@robynearl I love being at home too ❤️
Now at the of 38 I am far more interested in being respected than liked. When I was younger, I was naive believing that everyone around me was honest, decent and had good intentions. It turns out I was totally wrong. Nowadays, I am polite and kind but far from being the 24/7 Mr. NICE/DOORMAT role that I played in hopes of being liked, loved and accepted by people. I avoid unnecessary interaction with people and focus on my personal goals. Less trouble and more peace.
At 60 yo (70yo now) I finally realized I have been an introvert my entire life. Crowds have always drained me. I hate talking on the phone...email and texting is my preferred form of communication. Solo walking and running are my preferred sports. My best friend is my husband of 46 years. I don't make excuses for being unsocial it's just me and being any other way makes me uncomfortable and unhappy. And, yes gardening is great therapy!!
Thank you for sharing. We all deserve happiness being who we are. God made us that way. Could you imagine how much louder this world would be if everyone was an extrovert? Thank you for watching. God bless. (Congrats on 46 years of marriage!)
Me to
I worked in a office that was mostly busy for the nearly nine years there, with two very extended periods of crazy business. We were understaffed, so I needed an assistant but she was let go after about five !months. The phone never stopped ringing and I was burnt out from never being able to decompress on weeknights. Finally I just handed in my resignation and never looked back. I just wanted to be alone in my quiet apartment and not speak to anyone.
Yeeeesss, the work ethic thing. My parents instilled that into me. Worked my rear off, constantly. Now at 61, early in the morning, sitting at my kitchen table in the candel light listening to you. Thank you so very much. I do admire those who can recognize boundaries when it comes to work load and how we/ they see able to have reasonable expectations of themselves.
@@janetcalvert3959 i can picture you sitting in the candlelight quietly. It's lovely 🌹
I'm exactly the same way so I totally relate. People have become dehumanized. They care about no one but themselves. Most are bullies anyway.
... and narcissists!
Some are for sure it can be extremely toxic being with them !!
OMG i’m sooo relieved to know that there are other humans likewise to me ❤❤❤ It’s so soothing 🌻
Ahh! I remember telling my late husband that I would be perfectly happy living hundreds of miles away from the nearest human being. In my 50s, I found so many irritating, shallow people around me and my BS level had reached its limit. Now I'm in my late 70s, alone, and perfectly happy being by myself. I understand completely.
Thank you for understanding. God bless
I have lived in so many places and believe the best is a very small town with neighbors far away. I prefer birds, lizards and the occasional snake even.
Same and I'm in my late 70's!!! I LOVE BEING ALONE WITH MY JESUS, SUCH PROFOUND PEACE AND JOY!!!!!!
@@repentjesusiscomingsoon1529 I can see why nuns and monks are attracted to the confines of the cloister....
How do you deal with your grief? Asking out of love. Hope you are continuing to do well
Great true story. I've learned not to be too warm to people. Upvoted. And I've also learned to be more discerning to who I open up too.
Thank you. I pray for discernment and guidance daily. It is tough to know who you can trust these days. Thank you for watching. God bless.
exactly, I am less warm now..
@@PinebrookHomestead I'm not totally cold. I'm just nicely detached, and let them prove themselves, to me, and me, to them, slowly.
@@beaulieuc8910 Yes, I am less warm. But less warm doesn't mean, cold. But, that's just me. And everyone does things differently.
I say the minimum to get by. People are nosy about our business but I don't divulge anything!
Introverted healthcare worker here. I now hate noise, too much socializing, malls, gossip, loud people. I am not a fan of TV.. but love Audible. My cats are so amazing. I just adore being alone.
Hermits are now the cool people. I refer to my life as the "Monk life" and I'm a woman in my 50s. 😂
I rescued a senior doggie out of the shelter with health issues and my entire day is about making her happy and healthy. We take beach walks and then come home and cook nutritious meals. My whole Happy Mission is to find supplements that cure her and myself. I'm a thin Type 1 diabetic.
I created a wild mouse habitat in my yard and I feed the crows. I'm so happy.
I used to be a "popular" teacher in a San Diego school and then quit in my 40s and yes, I'm struggling financially but I'm finally free. By the way, our schools are terrible and insane!!!
I’m 59 and got laid off after 23 years last week. “I’m free!” were my first thoughts. It’s beautiful!
I’m passionate about dogs and learned a whole lot after adopting my little guy who was sick at the time. Raw food saved his life. It’s scary because we’re conditioned to think of raw meat as being dangerous but, if you can afford it, I promise it’s the best thing you could ever do for your sweet girl! Just make sure to get it in actual dog food from (not just from the supermarket) so it has all the good stuff including organs and bones as well as fruits and veggies!
Wishing you both long, peaceful lives ❤
Wild mouse habitat sounds so cute! Maybe you should upload little videos about them here on RUclips x
@@supernova11711 Same, it turned our rescue dogs health around, big time.
Since the COVID pandemic I noticed more people are mean, angry, and rude. There's no more kindness. That's my opinion.
I prefer to drive less. Even drivers are rude and aggressive. I too prefer country roads and I don't like highways.
Happy Holidays Marie!
I noticed more people use normal conversations or interactions to be hostile. Instead of exchanging experiences and just talking normally, they have the need to steer the conversion to you vs. them. It could be the most innocent topic like cooking or hobbies. And they start to pick up a fight, that their ways are superior. Someone could talk about using a kitchen machine and someone needs to point out that doing everything by hand is the only way. And younger generations fail, because they don't knead their bread like in the old days or something like that. What is their problem? I got called spoiled and entitled yesterday because I wrote that I prefer online shopping, because buying a train ticket to the next city is too expensive, knowing I won't find everything I was coming for. And I don't want to carry all my shopping bags around. Some people are so miserable they just live out of spite.
I have noticed this too! So it's not just me then? Whatever happened to having a decent conversation without nit picking or competing or being downright rude? Now people are hiding behind their avatars on social media and hating on everybody ☹ or issuing death threats or unsolicited advice in a condescending manner. Too much negativity and the outside world is too loud. Now I am not excusing anyone's behavior but perhaps some of it is related to the lockdowns and the restrictions? When we were 'incubated' in our homes and discouraged from mixing with others. Even our relatives. We lost both of our parents during the pandemic. Restrictions were still in place when father died so we couldn't visit him in hospital. Both of them died in hospital. It was a tough time to grieve given the circumstances.
@@sandrafisherhayes3219I'm so sorry for your loss.
@@rubbersidedown7041 thank you 💔 your response means a lot
Thanks to our political climate it's totally acceptable behavior now.
I have been in retail, front of house dealing with humans for 36 years, and i have to say it has made me just like you. Every word you have said echos my feelings.
Many people are selfish,deceitful, and obsessed by money. There are only a few people i know that i would call honourable.
I was a private International school teacher exclusive for the wealthy and super rich children. They are the children of VIP Politicians, The Royal Families, Diplomates, and well-known businessmen. Their materialistic world are beyond descriptions. After 10 plus years, I got mental fatigue and escaped. After that, I prefer solitude, and heal my self slowly. I got back my self-respect and dignity as a person. This is now my world and the best for me.
They’re the high end financial slaves, we are the low end ones
@@seriagungnurastarlight this subject badly needs to be investigated so people in general can stop regarding such people with such deference. The amount of abject snobbery, condescension, contempt and arrogance shown by these people towards those whom
they mostly regard as being inferior to them because their material wealth is so much less, is what is driving the wretched adult ‘elites’ that are bent on annihilating this planet and all within it
@@freedomunltd That's how I feel exactly❤️👍
@@seriagungnurastarlight Thank you 🌻
@@freedomunltd..same goes for the reverence for royalty. Royalty need not exist in modern age. Go to work snobs!!
I will say that although working with people is taxing and stressful, I have found there are also some good people out there too and it is always such a treat when you encounter one. So…the world isn’t all bad!😀
I just enjoyed a good belly laugh by playing a silly prank on a coworker as we were clocking out for the night. Some of the people I work with are terrible, but there's more good folks in here than bad. It's hard to remember the good ones when dealing with the bad ones, but the good ones are always out there. ❤
I go out of my way to be kind to everyone I meet and I am 'rewarded' with contempt and distain. I have come to the conclusion that I HATE people.
I’m sorry you feel that Terrible feeling of hate
:( inside your heart
After listening to you and reading the comments I feel TOTALLY NORMAL. 43 years of nursing plus 4 years as a radiographer before that, so 47 years of dealing not only with often difficult patients but also their visitors and relatives, smart-arse doctors and obnoxious young unit managers (whose Gen label I don't know or care). I "retired" this year at 67 - actually just gave up my Cardiac nursing job of 27 years because I felt bullied due to my age. I have just realised that my hair is no longer falling out!
I feel guilty not working, and intended to do casual nursing shifts at times to suit me. Frankly I can't cope with the thought of it. I'm conscientious and took so many photos of bedpans which had been through the pan flusher but had baked-on poo - the younger nurses and foreign nurses just took them out of the machine and put them on the rack ready to be given to patients. One day I went through 7 dirty pans and had to ask my patient to wait while I cleaned one and put it through the steriliser. While my patient used the pan I returned to the dirty utility room, scrubbed the other pans with hot soapy water and kept going back to cycle them individually through the steriliser. It's a lot of MY nursing time away from my patients. Then what do you get? ? Criticised for not entering some pissy piece of info onto the computer system which has no impact on patient care but only looks good for hospital accreditation! Gen Whatever ladder-climber witch couldn't care less if patients were given shitty bedpans! She didn't bother to send out an email reminding staff to clean soiled ones they found. It's not the only thing that is wrong. Then you rush by the desk to attend to your patients and see the young ones sitting on their bums playing with their mobile phones!! 😠 Patients are no longer cared for properly and I'm sure it's not just in Australia.
Anyway, I can't be dealing with people's crap, I'm divorced not my choice, so I no longer have to please a partner and my adult sons are welcome if they show respect - mostly not. I volunteer with a Friends of a local park group, mostly women older than me, pulling out weeds, planting seedlings and lugging mulch and I LOVE IT. I love the wonderful positive attitudes. I intend to live frugally and just enjoy the people I choose to be around. Phew! I doubt anyone has read all this but I feel better for having vented it. Thank you for posting your video, I wish you a speedy return to good health and lots of happiness.xx Yvette 💖🌹🇦🇺
After reading so many of peoples responses to feeling the need to be alone - your words stood out the most to me. I am deeply sorry that you had to deal with Gen Z or whatever she was and it is so hurtful when you work so hard and the one usually playing on their phone gets recognition for stuff they don’t even do but I bet you are an amazing nurse and you are correct in saying it’s not just in one country - it’s everywhere. Anyway, I know I don’t know you personally but I am deeply sorry to hear everything you have been through at your job and maybe now you can enjoy life some!
So they were quiet firing u due simply to ur age?? They didn’t value ur wisdom?
The stupidity!
Believe me, you have done your share. Enjoy retirement !
Thank you! I finally realized similar things that you’ve talked about in your vent. I have felt bullied as well. Stupid jokes and other stuff that has gone on in my workplaces over the last 3 years have made me have more anxiety and am constantly dealing with chatty and immature 20-30 year olds that don’t do much but talk about what they’re eating for lunch. I complained and was told I have the problem 😮. I know it’s not me, it’s a different world with the at work not-working crowd. It’s as if nobody told them we go to work to actually accomplish something during a work day. Just the fact that I had to even type the last sentence says a lot. I’m looking forward to doing something else around folks who have ethics, manners and respect for others around them. Even if they are strangers.
Thank you for writing about your experiences. I have had the same type of experience and recently retired. I had a cancer scare and realized that the environment I was working in was killing me. I went out on short term disability and had my surgery and never went back, retired at 65. They had to scramble to replace me and several other techs left at the same time. Mass exodus of employees a year ago, God’s timing is perfect! I have never looked back.
I live in a small town and I check parking lots to make sure no one is in the store I know before I go in. I have done that for years and I’m 38. I have I worked in customer service since I was 17 and I absolutely cannot stand being out unless it’s super early and most people are still at home. Customer service work changes you mentally!
I work in customer service Healthcare over the phone, one of the worst job.
Me too I go to the store at 6am when there is barely anyone there.
I'm the same age as you and I relate to this so much
@@glow1815so do I, in medical billing. The majority of our customers are awful, they come on the line already with a bad attitude ready to go off on whatever poor soul answers the phone. I’ve done this type of job before so I thought it wouldn’t be too bad, but people are just too mean these days. I’m retiring early next year.
So can being a telephone operator.
I'm the same way. I love doing all my errands away from crowds . I even park my car at the grocery store in a peaceful part of the parking lot. I love my peace in life.
Hello from Canada. Sister, you are not alone in what you are feeling & how it is affecting you. As women, we carry a huge societial burden. We are expected to do it all and then more. We work fulltime, take care of our husbands, kids and our parents. We are expected to have a pristine home, cook elaborate meals, keep up on the laundry, socialize with friends and repeat again tomorrow all while keeping a smile on our face and being kind. We can only give so much for so long to so many before we crash due to physical exhaustion and mental burnout. As women we are great at caring for and giving to others, but we fail to look after ourselves. I am 56 yrs old, a mother of 9 and a grandmother to 12 (so far). For the past 22 yrs, I have worked 12 to 16 hour shifts fulltime+ as a Paramedic. Half the time, as the driver, it requires driving lights & sirens 30kms over the speed limit into oncoming traffic. The other half of the time, I am tending to patients who's lives are solely in my hands while my partner drives. As 1st responders, we see/hear/smell truly horrific things over & over every day. But what the public doesn't know, is how poorly we get treated by some of our patients. I have been screamed at, verbally insulted, had vomit & feces throw at me, touched sexually as well as physically assulted many times including while pregnant. So... surprise... I am currently off work having been diagnosed with Complex PTSD. I am literally frightened of people & shadows, can't tolerate fast motion, crowds, loud noises, traffic and even the phone or doorbell ringing. Any kind of stress causes my blatter to empty instantaneously including during the night when i have nightmares. I am suffering from incredible anxiety, have unregulated emotions - angry outbursts / crying, brain fog as well as numbing depression. For the 1st time in my life, I'm navigating how to care for and prioritize myself, my health & my well-being above all others. I have a clinical councilor, an occupational therapist, but most importantly I have my faith in Jesus to help me through this. Ladies, show each other Grace and stand up for yourselves by learning to say No More or Stop I Just Can't. Please pray for my (Tracy's) healing and recovery. God Bless and keep talking to others about your own personal journey to find peace.
😢this breaks my heart. Canada is really changing now. There are many reasons for this, cultural definitely being an aspect of that. Your job is beyond difficult. I hope you get a chance to heal and feel better soon! Fellow Canadian wishing you Happy Holidays! ❤
People like you are the heroes of this world. It’s unfortunate that you don’t receive more kindness and respect from people that YOU help heal and take care of. I do not understand this type of behavior. Bless you for all you’ve done for the people and community you have served.
People take it for granted. I’d like to see what their reaction would be if there were no Dr.’s, nurses, etc to go to help them.
I have severe PTSD. I've found that having a pet - a dog in my case - has really helped with being unable to sleep and being unable to shut off my hyper-vigilance. A dog's senses are so much keener than our own that they can alert us and our own alert system can rest.
I completely understand and sympathize with you. At 75, I'm just done with people except my intimate family. I suffer from PTSD and collapsed, sending me to the hospital for 2 nights in ambulance because my husband couldn't lift me off the floor. They determined I had a Vargus incident and changed my anxiety medication. I thought I was dying. The experience was so horrible.
All we can do is look after ourselves and give ourselves time to recover. I don't sleep at night. I sleep during the day to avoid interacting with anyone other than my core family. I have given up trying keep up expectations and apologize to no one.
Every time my experience with customer service is friendly and helpful,I comment on a great job and thank them.There are some terrible people in customer service as well not always a positive experience…There’s a fine balance between alone and loneliness!
Boundaries are important so is solitude and a connection to nature!
When you find genuine people nurture those connections it’s rare these days.
I worked in law enforcement for 22yrs, I have ptsd and like you I avoid people, I’m now retired and totally love being alone. I’m now a fine detail artist and I absolutely love it, I get so lost in my work. When I go shopping I put on my happy face and No matter what mood I’m in I am always genuinely nice to staff, it has paid off as they fight over serving me and tell me I’m like a ray of sunshine…. I love that I can make their day. Thank you for your honesty ❤
I've been a caregiver for almost 5 years. I also feel done and I'm still young.
The last time the power went out, we used candlelight. I noticed that my pillows have gold-yellow thread in them. Nice. Explains a lot about pre-industrial fabrics and fashion. Thanks for the post.
Nothing will burn you out on people faster than having a customer service "People Pleasing!" job where you are forced to smile, be nice and friendly no matter what the customers do to you, say to you, or how they treat you. Customer service, whether through the call lines, in person etc, is a soul-crushing job experience. I have seen managers and supervisors reduced to tears due to the way 'customers' treat them. I don't let anyone bother me, as unless they shoot me, they can't harm me with their words, gestures, or overall rude behavior. I have wrapped my soul in Teflon to keep myself safe.
58 retired nurse and try my best to avoid people. I like my alone and quiet. ❤❤
Right hunnie im happier i love my garden
@@pinky-ud1rt meee tooo 🩷
Thank you for sharing your wonderful vulnerability and honesty, many people are like you, your not alone.❤❤
The way you are now, I have been my whole life, even as a child.
Covid taught me how little human companionship I really need. I avoid people as much as possible. I even have groceries delivered so that I don't have to go into a store.
Same ! Covid taught me so much about myself and who and what I really want in my life
having groceries delivered is the best!
@@steve2561 Yes, indeed!
Thank you for helping us realize we’re not the only ones. You have a calming effect that I appreciate.
This has to do with getting older. I’m in the same boat. Just want peace in my life. Only good people around me or you won’t be around for long.
People seem so self absorbed, they never stop talking about themselves. I’m just not interested and it’s hard to pretend
"Seem"? They are super absorbed all the time. They are incapable of putting anyone before their needs. I turn a deaf ear now to the BS coming out of their mouths, I have no interest. and yes after COVID, many people are callous, and thoughtless.
This! I was saying this to a friend last week, people just want to talk about themselves then if you chip in, they look away in disinterest as they just want a sounding board!
@ Exactly. And they’re oblivious. I’m tired of listening and not being heard.
@@LucitaBrown Agreed 100%
I've been there. Listened but was not been listened to. Draining.
I'm a 65 year old veteran (40 years) public school teacher. I am so stressed out that I'm thinking that while I'd like to continue teaching for another year, I just can't! My mental and physical health is too fragile to continue any longer. While I am depressed at the thought of retirement, I've clearly had enough and am ready to depart after the end of this school year. You have helped me in making comforting decisions... tea, candles, soft instrumental music... this all helps! Thank you!
I was in customer service for 35 years. Had anxiety and panic attacks and still do. I'm 70 years old and I have been retired almost 5 years. I can't stand people anymore. So I get it!
I loved the covid stay home times. The quietness in our neighbourhood was amazing.
And do you remember how the sky cleared and the animals became more active? It was WONDERFUL! But so sad at the same time
Being alone gives us time to not be distracted. I like my time out and having space to myself, it was uncomfortable when I was young/ I always needed people around me and now after retirement I feel like a relief to just think and do on my own time instead of being told by others. I'm now fine with just being at home with my pets, I'm off three prescription pills and I feel like too much over stimulation hurts us. I get to organize my life and my thoughts without stressing out. I'm getting to know myself and I'm in my early 70's, my responsibilities are behind me and it feels great to be free. Thank you for your video!
I'm with you. Stay away from crowds
I get it! I have worked in retail for almost 26 years now. I’ve seen it all and I’ve heard it all. I’ve poured a lot in my friendships I’ve done everything I could humanly possibly do to be the best friend, brother, uncle and employee I could be, only to be unappreciated, gaslit, taken advantage of and then eventually thrown under the bus. I never felt that I was allowed to say NO to anyone when I really needed to. I always believed in putting other’s needs before mine but never INSTEAD of my own and that made me a “horrible” or “self centred” person. I just eventually got really sick and tired of being hurt all the time so I decided to make a conscientious choice to make myself as unavailable to as many people as much as possible. Sadly my friendships were situational, once the situation was over, sadly so were the friendships. You really need to be happy with yourself and you have look after and care for yourself because clearly I learned that no one else will. It’s a very sad reality but a lot of people now just suck.
Yes 👍 I ended up with a stroke! Lost my job, home,car financial ruin! I hear you! Thank you 🙏
@ I really hope that things will get better for you. Whenever a door closes on you, another one will open. Best wishes to you.🙏🤞
@@MrJBest78 well put
Everything you said is the way it was for me. But I'm happier being solitary.
I totally relate to you.
Thankyou. At 60 i have been in customer service for 45 years. I have had enough. Recovering from a divorce and starting over my focus is to pay my house off. I have 7 more years of working before i get the pension and thats if they don’t move the retirement age again. I have had enough of people. Some. Days i am so overwhelmed.❤
Love my solitude. Others don't understand, but i dont judge them. Each to their own. I find people draining yet nature and animals uplift me!! 62 and love my own company too!🙏💚
Totall Agree , Same 😊
I'm a geriatric nurse. I loved people and dedicated my life to my patients only to find out they only use and abuse me and deliberately make my life hard even when I devote my love and care to them. I was so hurt when I realized this. I just find people so hard and cruel where ever I go. Now I just do my job and go home and enjoy my alone time. Heart broken.
Doing the minimum helps to avoid burnout and depression.
Great vid and I'm a decade older than you.
I am feeling this way at 40. Been an introvert my whole life but the last 4-5 years have made me want to isolate as much as possible. The vapidness and narcissism of today’s society is just blah. Give me my garden any day over most people. Customer service really hardens you in general(did it for awhile).
Have you noticed a difference in people, and you, since the Pandemic? People seem to have come out of that much different than before, I think.
I'm an introvert too and after pandemic where we start working from home, i became more isolate and love be working from home. I am my favorite company, and dealing with people nowadays is very complicate. More agressive, gealous, narcisist...
Maybe join the furry community - they're, apparently, very friendly! ☺
Yes Marie i wholeheartedly ❤ agree .The world is BROKEN. It has even crept in to the church i once attended...Jesus said " you have become Luke warm with your Love " i started my secluded life in about 1987..i am alone but not Alone.you sometimes feel Alienated from humankind as the years go by .Strange how we ALL feel similar on here..Must be we are XTRA sensative to the Hostile world we hav to face each time we venture out...its insanity!!! But i hav seen this coming over the years,i think only God can SAVE us now...He NEEDS to be Quick!!
I'm with you. Both my husband and I were "people persons" until he lost his health 😔 due to strokes. Most people were awful, treating us like we had committed some mortal sin. Church folks were the worst! We don't leave home much, try to be content here, eat at home or go to a drive through to avoid people. Anxiety is something I fight, also. My garden is my peaceful place, the way it was meant to be. I'm ok with just a small circle of people in my life. Blessings!
Church people can be the worst. Hope things get better for you soon and your husband. I have anxiety so I do not go out or interact with people unless I have to.
I know exactly what you mean. My husband now has dementia. People stay away now. It's awful!
@caroldenino9092 I'm sorry. Wish we were neighbors and could support each other.
@elizabethhayward8238 thank you!
@@caroldenino9092 I am sorry. Wish we were neighbors so we could support each other.
The new generation realizes that the companies don't care about you or your well-being and will pay you as little as they can.
Working at full power all the time leads to burn out and health problems.
You may be loyal but the company sees you as replaceable.
Needing lots of quiet, lowlights and solitude is often related to a lower re d stress threshold from pushing too hard for too long.
I hope they keep doing the minimum, until companies are willing to share their profits and offer more flexibility, better benefits, and streamlined promotions based on performance, not "likeability" as it is now.
The problem is that people with a work ethic get the burden...and so then everyone does the same ...
This is such a powerful and well needed comment. Thank you for this insight. I feel it too.
I have anxiety too. I've had anxiety all of my life. Even as a toddler.
My top tips are
1. Go for a walk everyday and get your body burning your nervous energy.
2. Have a project, even if it's really small. Don't give up on yourself.
3. Meet people and talk it out.
4. Eat really well.
5. Listen to music as it can be really therapeutic.
6. Spend time in silence every day. I pray for about 2 hours a day and can't tell you just how much it helps.
7.Have a daily routine and give yourself some time to enjoy a hobby, gardening, art, music.
I'm 56 and try to follow all of these points every day.
8. Consider doing some volunteering work. I ring up people who are having a tough time. It really lifts my mood.
I'm going to join your group.
God bless you and everyone reading this. X
Anxiety can be worse at our age.
Wow I just stumbled upon your channel. I thought I was the only one. I'm like you to a T. I was a nurse for 34 years. I've seen heartwarming compassion and downright cruelty on the job from patients their families other nurses and the physicians. A medical issue forced my early retirement. I left behind the noise of the endless chatter, beeping machines, phones ringing, call bells going off etc. The quit is glorious. I no longer enjoy anywhere with large crowds or gatherings including my family. Financially its challenging but the level of peace and contentment I have now is priceless.
I hear you
I go to the grocery store at 7am when it opens. My house is filled with movies, cds, books and they give me the comfort i need. I worked as a receiver so i had little contact with the public so i survived retail that way. Now i am retired and happy to be away from people and the grief and rudeness they give you.
Worked in marketing and traveled for more than 30 yrs and have always made it a priority to be friendly to the cashiers, secretaries and all staff members of companies, when I left the JOB I felt like you, just want to be at home and walk the streets unnoticed , wonderful to meet you. Enjoy the rest of your journey with the great company of your choices, lovely video thank you
Okay, you made it clear that being in customer service made you who you are. I'm a middle school teacher in my 60's and here is how I learned to make peace with the rudeness and awful behavior of too many students and parents: I forget about them - and remember the good students and parents instead. Life is too short and precious to let horrible people make you unhappy - so don't let them! I recently had a willfully disruptive student tell me this was their last day at this school (with parents who said I was the problem for nitpicking their darling daughter for bad behavior - that I should just let them ruin class because I'm expecting too much and they are "just a kid, what's the harm?"). I reacted honestly, telling this student that was really great to hear - the kid got really annoyed when they could tell how happy that made me. I keep pictures of the fun days with the students who are happy to be there, and I keep all the fun and goofy drawings they make for me - and if I'm feeling down and beaten I'll pull them out and remind myself that I'm there for the good kids. Let me make it clear that by the good kids I don't mean only the ones who are great students, but also the ones with a good heart even if they come from a dysfunctional family
I do the same thing!! I try to focus on the good kids that make teaching so fun!
@@juliastrom9218 One of the biggest existential mental crisis that has been creeping through our youth and in my opinion fueling the rise in disruptive and violent student behavior is the prevalence of negative social media. I wish more countries would do what Australia just did to ban social media for those under 16. Young minds just can't resist it, and they almost never realize how much is fake and made up - they think disruptive behavior is normal. Parents have done a horrible job of monitoring and restricting inappropriate Internet use and are often in denial that their kids are on social media in the middle of the night. Years ago student behavior was not perfect - but students met expectations at a greater rate. One of the things that now happens that virtually never happened before are teachers who literally quit right in the middle of class, just hand in their keys and walk out.
I am an onsite apartment manager. I have good tenants and ignorant rude, self entitled ones, and easily triggered ones. I concentrate on the good ones. The ones who don't give me attitude and who I can relate to in a sane manner.
This life is too short to let people ruin it. The office I work for sometimes acts rude and patronizing. I don't let that bother me like I did in the beginning. In the long run, I see it, the world is really gotten worse. Or probably I have gotten wiser.
Was born 1972. Everything you said resonates with me. On weekends I go to the store as soon as the doors open. I think we all have a bucket and if it is full we can't take another drop of rude, obnoxious, cruel behavior. As soon as I get into contact with people my blood pressures get extremely high and I get panick attacks. Just had to put up with cruel people for too long. Sorry, but I prefer staying away.
My cup runneth over.......
I work in a busy Restaurant, nearly retired, there's nothing i like better than a long walk deep into the countryside, no noisy traffic just the sound of birdsong, bliss
Exercise / hikes, nature, prayer, nearly no sugar, no caffeine, and a whole foods plant-rich diet + showing love resolved my anxiety.
Add some favorite music to your wonderful list to heal from anxiety! Helped me tremendously!
@@donnamcdonald3709 I love this ❤️
Yes especially getting outside into nature
The world is broken human beings are broken..the Creator must be shedding a tear😢..i prefer animals to humans..much love and blessings to you from South Africa ❤
I am 43 and have been working with the public all my life. I am trying to find something else because my health has suffered as well. My anxiety is worse than ever. I look forward to coming home to a quiet candlelit house with my pets. I can relate so much to you. Thank you for the video. I know im not alone and I wish you well on your journey ❤
I am 26 and I work on farm alone 90% of the time. The job is hard but mentally I have never been healthier
I was reading a book The Shepherd’s Life by James Rebanks. Hard work, weather, long hours- but that would suit me.
Glad to hear you are content.
26 ? A newborn !
I am your twin! I am 53 and I relate to everything you said today! I feel very overwhelmed by people, at work, in stores, even when I meet up with friends! You made me feel so much better about it! It's not just me..thank you for sharing your life ❤
Oh my goodness you’re me! I’m 53, resigned my job last May, cannot deal with people and suffer from anxiety now. I too worked with majority Gen z and I worked circles around them, beating up my body and brain from it and they got treated better. I got sick too and I garden. It sounds like you worked for Target, I did (but warehouse so less retail but same atmosphere from management as stores) I’m so happy I found you! I think watching you will be beneficial. Much appreciation and well wishes to you!!! ❤
I can totally relate to your video. At 62, I’m retired and prefer being in a quiet setting with very few, if any, people.
Thanks for relating and watching the video. God bless.
Been this way for a long time. Since my oldest son has grown into a married man, he called me and said "Dad I get it now", as to me being what they called being anti-social. This world has turned very dark and exceedingly dangerous. Our countrymen(some) have become very rude, uncaring, hate filled and disrespectful and I don't want anything to do with them other than to pray for their deliverance from the darkness 🙏