As Tupac said in a song, just because you lost me as a friend does not mean you get me as an enemy, I'm better than that, I still want to see you eat just not at my table.
My cutoff game has been intense this last few years . I see right through people, always have . But now its a big bye bye . No more feeding off me , I can’t take the energy
Good people always watch your behavior first without sharing what they observe. Once we collected enough data in our minds us leaving you is justifiable.
Girl. You summed this up beautifully. I’m the ultimate people pleaser, and I find that people will use you and disrespect you at the same time. All the people that I left needed me way more than I needed them. I just couldn’t do it anymore.
Don't do it. Then they'll think they still hold a place in your heart, and they'll try again. Once I walk away from people, they don't exist to me anymore. They are non-existent. There's no going back.
This is on point for why I do this I thought I was wrong but this sums up pretty much all the reasons I cut someone off. I literally felt terrible to be honest but I seen how all the people I cute off have treated me and it wasn’t with respect so I had to leave
Whewwwww you definitely summed this up in a nut shell!!! I have been doing this a lot as of late! I got fed up and definitely started removing myself from ppl who doing too much! I feel soooo free!!
Mam oh man. I am soooo PROUD of the level of discernment that my Beloved Sister's are displaying I don't know what in the world too do. Thanks for the clarity 🙏🏿
Say it louder so the people in the back can hear you. Thank you for saying this so eloquently. This video sums up why I walked away from a few fake friends with no problems this year without saying a word to them.
Yes, just diagnosed as Autistic with ADHD recently, at mid-life, making everything make total sense and I finally see how people have used me, bullied me, breadcrumbed me or neglected me all my life... I never realized until now how people I considered friends, and even family, have tried to keep me down. None of the people I cared about felt the same way as I did about them. It sucks, but I am not doing that to myself any longer- I only have me, and I will love myself first. No more of my energy will go to people who could take me or leave me.
There we have it folks. An incredibly insightful and astute resumen. Especially the point about not saying anything when exiting. There is no point to enter into a lengthy discussion about why we are leaving because it's not like we are deciding on where to go to eat, these are deep and integral differences in VALUES. Fundemental character differences which are often deeply unconcious on the other side (responses to trauma which again, they will not take accountability for). We realize there is nothing we can possibly say because the divide is too great. And adding more heat to fire is pointless. People are who they are. We are who we are. When there is a fundemental divide, it's time to split and move on. I think on a deep level we know we have to let people be who they are, we don't feel like we have a mandate to change people.
💯 And I’ll add, once the switch does get flipped in your head and you start seeing all the boundaries you allowed them to cross, try to be kind to yourself. Don’t continue to do their work for them and berate yourself. Yes you *did* BUT you aren’t NOW. Each day is a gift bc you get to take what you learned and try again. Be kind to yourself during this process. You can’t go no contact without self love driving you ❤️🔥
This is soo me 🙈😩. When I cut off I cut off. And sometimes it’s sudden and people don’t know what it is that hit them . I had 2 past people repeatedly reaching out to me trying to figure out what happened .
Oh my God Lady you have described me so well and the irony is that a high school friend that I have dismissed long ago called me today. Really don't feel like calling her back. She showed me who she was and I'd be foolish not to believe her ! Thank you for this heartfelt message ! 🙏🙏💜💜
This is sadly what I had to do with my little sister. Unfortunately she's very similar to my mom with narcissistic tendencies. I gassed her head up and loved her so much that she just stopped appreciating me and almost seemed a bit irritated. And eventually it became embarrassing. Walking away was very hard because I love her and i know shes got deep rooted issues from narcissistic abuse, but I would have just been her doormat for life. I respect myself too much for that. Ill always miss her and love her though 😢 I think in a way she's still a sweetheart overall, she just doesn't know how to properly take in love and affection without pushing it away.
I’ve been feeling quite guilty or wrong for ending a friendship so abruptly, due to seeing the harmful toxic traits in a them that just couldn’t stand anymore. I was actually disgusted when I realised just how toxic and manipulative she was being, and angry. But I still feel bad about just ending the friendship but I felt like I had no choice, for my own sake. This breakdown has helped me understand my own feelings more. Thank you ❤❤❤❤
I will say for myself what I am learning is that the cut off needs to happen long before you get to the point you’re too exhausted to tell them why you’re leaving. That person‘s been draining you for a very long time and you choose to ignore your own intuition. All of this costs you getting to better relationships and opportunities sooner. I also consider it mature to let people know that a relationship needs to end. Not arguing, not fighting… just letting them know it’s over for a clean break.
Girl you were spot on this is what happened to me recently I had to let go of two people I was friends with and a lot was going on jealousy and envy towards me and I had to cut and run
This was so timely and applies to my relationship with family as well as ex friends. They keep trying to reach out but I just ignore their attempts to reel me in. Spending the holidays with me, myself, and I without any obligations! Some may view that as sad, but beyond sad is what I would’ve been in their presence. I choose peace ✌️ Blessings to those with a similar experience 💜💕
OMGOODNESS… Jasmine, you have just summed up an entire MOVEMENT in one clean swoop! 🎯🙏🏾🙌🏾 Thank you for your candor, clarity and intelligence on this subject matter. MANY BLESSINGS to you.😊❤️
Preach!! Cause you said how I felt and why I do the things I do word for word… we leave, it may see abrupt but it’s been stewing for some months now bc of the other persons behavior/character
You hit the nail on the head with this one. I recently experienced all of this... Thank you for putting this message out there. I feel understood as to why I had to let certain people go. On top of receiving dreams associated with the need for the cut off.
People need to get a backbone no matter who they are around. Grown people need to be grown instead of blaming others for their own actions an choices. Everything is not the narcissist fault, some of it is you all by yourself.
OMG…🎯🎯🎯 I am going through this with a friend now! Her conversation starts with “Please don’t be offended “ about stuff that I have said several different times, I DONT WANT TO TALK ABOUT THIS!! She texted me today and I have felt weird every since this afternoon. I really want to tell her…. Look! I don’t want you in my life, you don’t have boundaries, your disrespectful and stop trying to control me. Leave me alone!!! So this is VERY VERY TRUE CONTENT! If we NEVER talked again I wouldn’t care! They know when they are in the wrong because the use opportunities to check your temperature, knowing that you both know they WENT TO FAR. They do it piss you off wait a while check your temperature make you comfortable again and then strike again!!! It’s a pattern. It’s toxic. Sorry so long, I just needed to get this out today!!! This is exactly what I am struggling with in this moment right now!!! It will not be anymore conversations over the phone just indifferent text. Like, you too, ok, Gn. Have a good one, take care, ttyl, working, 😂😂😂😂NEW SUBSCRIBER!!! Thank you!!!
I’ve also noticed that some people are ok with trauma dumping on you but don’t extend the same level of understanding and grace given to them when the cut off friend has an issue. Some of these “good” people require the grace that they refuse to give others. Many aren’t comfortable telling the truth and are also self righteous while being hypocrites.
@@food4thought692 precisely true. We all make mistakes. In other videos on this page i speak more about working on my “toxic” behaviors. Being able to recognize that we all have the potential to be the “bad friend” is the starting point to growth and understanding.
wow, this video could not have been recommended to me at better time.. it feels like a message from god to continue to go ghost on a friend of mine. thank you for putting it so succinctly, i instantly don’t feel guilt anymore and i can move on from this friendship with more grace. also i loved your energy, you deserve more subs!
I hate that the people I cut off will never see this. I always turn out to be the bad guy all because I walked away. These people deserve the karma, I swear they do. I absolutely had a friend snap on me for the last time and I disappeared. He was dead wrong, he would snap and make it seem like it was mu fault yet he always wanted me around even though he claimed I was such a bad person and with "terrible" behavior! Telling my friends I am unsafe and a drunk all because they cant control me. I hated it and I wish they would care about this message if it crossed them but when we want them to feel our pain they never do in the peak of their evil persona. Granted karma does happen but in the moments you really want these people to feel your pain, it seems like they never do and it makes me feel like I am in a room where nobody can hear me and the thought of this makes me feel like I can not breathe.😢
This gave me so much peace. You said everything that I had been feeling for so many years about a certain friendship of mine, and it helps alleviate the remainder of my guilt because I know I did the best thing for myself and my healing journey. Thank you so much, my sister 🙏
I’m so over people being Up & down with me! 🙄🙄🙄 I have to put me first. I shouldn’t have to question my intentions, my feelings or my heart! Hell no🤷🏾♀️💯
This was so well said! So glad that you came up on my TL! I hope this goes viral, so that all the annoyances who proclaim “ghosting” hear this! Such peoples lack of insight and self reflection, just makes you shrivel up inside and gives you, well me the ick! I can’t communicate with you any more!
The ACCOUNTABILITY!! They just CANNOT DO IT!! It’s WEAK to them! NOT KNOWING WHERE YOU STAND with someone is THE WORST and THEY MAKE YOU FEEL INVISIBLE out of ENVY or RESENTMENT and it is ON PURPOSE!
They truly believed I tolerate child like behavior. As soon as I get that feeling that they are emotionally abusive, gaslight, lack accountability and just want to be negative UNPROVOKED, I immediately remove myself✌🏾✌🏾✌🏾✌🏾✌🏾Now I'm at a point where I realize that I do attract and I have to have the discernment to see if this person is good or bad for me. I no longer accept people who withdraw from my life and don't deposit anything. I'm about even exchanges now and I'm only referring to energy. Nothing physical.
If they cut me off, they need to stay gone. My ACTUAL friends are still here. All these other folks were never my friends and lying about it. They not running fast enough for me. Thank God!
Very true, it was like a switch just a few days after my birthday I just couldn’t do it anymore. It was just time to leave people where they chose to stay, and that this is who they are.
It’s usually that you let things go and accepted that they aren’t the best people. And it must be the worst right? And then they get even worse and your like goodness there’s more? They get worse. And you’re like, nah. This thing is going straight to hell. I’m off
I'm currently exiting a failed relationship again. Her loss and disappointment. I'm a peace again with no regrets. Age and learn lived experiences increases resilience at age 66. Just life, it is what it IS. 😊
I value your message I think that Most of us who have had to live & grow thru horrific trauma's that may have killed the average person,bloom at their own pace, it's like a seed planted in the ground that requires love & sunlight or like a blooming onion with layer's whatever resonates. If we remove the limitations of past life belief systems with the innerstanding that some are just limitless, non judgemental pure well intentional, unconditionally loving soul's inside of our bodies, & that's ok too, we become a gift to ourselves & other's who we may have hurt or vise versa. Many of us realize or are coming into the realization of the true value & importance of unconditional limitless love without having to pull out the scissors, depending on the situation of one's life, holding space for ourselves & other's, especially being aware that everone's perfect in Most High God's eye's or whom ever you choose to believe in.As a mother who survived & lived past trauma with the inner-standing of knowing I have the power to heal myself, while also inner standing that self healing has the power to turn into a ripple affect like the ocean, I will forgive & love anyone I love as long as they can show me changed behavior just as I strive to exhibit change myself. Labels cause to many problems, May we forgive ourselves & others for we know not what we do & remember the goal is to love with pure intention, not to punish but to love & forgive ourselves first & other's second so that we can evolve into our own inner- narrator on time & allow other's to do the same without casting judgement, when we learn better we do what we can do to be better than yesterday. Peace, Healing Love & Light to all on their healing journey, you guy's are so amazing 💛
Truth!!! Thank you for the validation that I’m not a bad person for cutting off and exiting the friendship. When someone keeps tally of what they’ve done for you, when you state your boundaries are crossed. All of the things you listed; control and condescending speech are two no nos. Just did this a couple weeks ago. Two weeks later, I get a barrage of nasty texts, with pictures of my ‘abandoned belongings’ in the garbage, along with another threat, similar to the one the night before I left. Solidified my choice, that’s for sure. Because I have texts go thru my email, it’s still ‘unread’ which I know is burning him hard. Cest la vie!!!
@ I did tell him that last night that I would rather sleep in my car than be disrespected like he’s doing. Thought I was playing, heh. Homie don’t play dat!! Lol
YEP, I've been worrying about healing, not ruining someone elses life. I wish they could say the same, but me walking away really triggers the demons out of the people i had to distance myself from.
As Tupac said in a song, just because you lost me as a friend does not mean you get me as an enemy, I'm better than that, I still want to see you eat just not at my table.
👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽
That's a dope lyric. Perfectly sums it up.
Great lyrics
Well said.
Real talk
If you confront them with their Behavior, they will go crazy and deny it. You are on point with this💯💯
@@Malacha-q6n exactly. Thank you! ☺️
NO CAP🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️
Then go on a smear campaign, just in case you talk try to vent to others.
@@LoneRager90 yep. They got to ruin our Reputation before we Ruin theirs and we ain't even trying to Ruin them
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Don’t misunderstand my kindness for weakness. Don’t be so entitled to expect me to just put up with abuse.
This
So many people have mistaken that with me and they always find out at the perfect moment that I'm not someone who tolerates emotional abuse.
When I feel I'm getting taken advantage of, I immediately distance myself, and I don't give second chances anymore.
She just advocated for all empaths, that once trying to co exist with narcissist lover or fam, friend
The disrespect is your closure. #Beyondmycontrol
Girl!!! On point because Before the Year is OUT ALOT of people are on my chopping block 😂 I’ve never cut so much ppl off in my LIFE 😭
Hi want be my empath Friend?❤
My cutoff game has been intense this last few years . I see right through people, always have . But now its a big bye bye . No more feeding off me , I can’t take the energy
Good people always watch your behavior first without sharing what they observe. Once we collected enough data in our minds us leaving you is justifiable.
Girl. You summed this up beautifully. I’m the ultimate people pleaser, and I find that people will use you and disrespect you at the same time. All the people that I left needed me way more than I needed them. I just couldn’t do it anymore.
People that said i love you, have used my heart and kindness as tool to manipulate my emotions. Apparently to them kindness is weakness.
@@FarieSag I’m so sorry you have experienced that
But they always fail to realize that WE NOTICE these behaviors IMMEDIATELY!!! They think we don't know or that our alarms aren't going AWWFF!!
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I'm tempted to send this to those I've had to walk away from. Spot on.
Me too. Sadly.
No need. They won't still get it 😅
DON’T. DO. IT
Don't do it. Then they'll think they still hold a place in your heart, and they'll try again. Once I walk away from people, they don't exist to me anymore. They are non-existent. There's no going back.
I might, if they ask 😂
THIS IS SO CORRECT, Shake the dust off your feet......and Leave ..🙏❤️
This is on point for why I do this I thought I was wrong but this sums up pretty much all the reasons I cut someone off. I literally felt terrible to be honest but I seen how all the people I cute off have treated me and it wasn’t with respect so I had to leave
This has been Deeply Preached ❤ 💯🔥
Whewwwww you definitely summed this up in a nut shell!!! I have been doing this a lot as of late! I got fed up and definitely started removing myself from ppl who doing too much! I feel soooo free!!
My God. Every last bit of this. So well said. 💯💯💯
Mam oh man. I am soooo PROUD of the level of discernment that my Beloved Sister's are displaying I don't know what in the world too do. Thanks for the clarity 🙏🏿
THANK YOU for posting this! I have cut off so many this year. Kindness is NOT weakness!❤❤❤❤
Say it louder so the people in the back can hear you. Thank you for saying this so eloquently. This video sums up why I walked away from a few fake friends with no problems this year without saying a word to them.
Yes, just diagnosed as Autistic with ADHD recently, at mid-life, making everything make total sense and I finally see how people have used me, bullied me, breadcrumbed me or neglected me all my life... I never realized until now how people I considered friends, and even family, have tried to keep me down. None of the people I cared about felt the same way as I did about them. It sucks, but I am not doing that to myself any longer- I only have me, and I will love myself first. No more of my energy will go to people who could take me or leave me.
❤️❤️❤️❤️ I understand you. Same here.
There we have it folks. An incredibly insightful and astute resumen. Especially the point about not saying anything when exiting. There is no point to enter into a lengthy discussion about why we are leaving because it's not like we are deciding on where to go to eat, these are deep and integral differences in VALUES. Fundemental character differences which are often deeply unconcious on the other side (responses to trauma which again, they will not take accountability for). We realize there is nothing we can possibly say because the divide is too great. And adding more heat to fire is pointless. People are who they are. We are who we are. When there is a fundemental divide, it's time to split and move on. I think on a deep level we know we have to let people be who they are, we don't feel like we have a mandate to change people.
@@olistormz absolutely true! Thank you for your insightful addition to the conversation
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And I’ll add, once the switch does get flipped in your head and you start seeing all the boundaries you allowed them to cross, try to be kind to yourself. Don’t continue to do their work for them and berate yourself. Yes you *did* BUT you aren’t NOW.
Each day is a gift bc you get to take what you learned and try again. Be kind to yourself during this process. You can’t go no contact without self love driving you ❤️🔥
@@hank_430 I love this statement. Thank you.
This is so accurate. Wow this video randomly popped up but I'm so grateful to see someone understands❤
This is soo me 🙈😩. When I cut off I cut off. And sometimes it’s sudden and people don’t know what it is that hit them . I had 2 past people repeatedly reaching out to me trying to figure out what happened .
@@LifeofShay33 🥺
Me too
Yes, exactly. I was labelled mentally ill.
Oh my God Lady you have described me so well and the irony is that a high school friend that I have dismissed long ago called me today. Really don't feel like calling her back. She showed me who she was and I'd be foolish not to believe her ! Thank you for this heartfelt message ! 🙏🙏💜💜
This is sadly what I had to do with my little sister. Unfortunately she's very similar to my mom with narcissistic tendencies. I gassed her head up and loved her so much that she just stopped appreciating me and almost seemed a bit irritated. And eventually it became embarrassing. Walking away was very hard because I love her and i know shes got deep rooted issues from narcissistic abuse, but I would have just been her doormat for life. I respect myself too much for that. Ill always miss her and love her though 😢 I think in a way she's still a sweetheart overall, she just doesn't know how to properly take in love and affection without pushing it away.
@@lets_ENJOY_LIVING very sad. 😞
I’ve been feeling quite guilty or wrong for ending a friendship so abruptly, due to seeing the harmful toxic traits in a them that just couldn’t stand anymore. I was actually disgusted when I realised just how toxic and manipulative she was being, and angry. But I still feel bad about just ending the friendship but I felt like I had no choice, for my own sake. This breakdown has helped me understand my own feelings more. Thank you ❤❤❤❤
@@chocolatesugar4434 you’re. I know from experience that it’s a very difficult place to be.
That is so true, your articulation of the situation is excellent.
@@KarenLloyd-v4u thank you so much!
I will say for myself what I am learning is that the cut off needs to happen long before you get to the point you’re too exhausted to tell them why you’re leaving.
That person‘s been draining you for a very long time and you choose to ignore your own intuition. All of this costs you getting to better relationships and opportunities sooner.
I also consider it mature to let people know that a relationship needs to end. Not arguing, not fighting… just letting them know it’s over for a clean break.
@TimTheEnchanter0 yes. Absolutely. Discussed this towards the end of the video.
Ohh Myy, Everything said was exactly how I felt! That was GOOD!
❤❤❤😇
This will only provide context and clarity to so many lives. Thank you.
Thank you so much
Girl you were spot on this is what happened to me recently I had to let go of two people I was friends with and a lot was going on jealousy and envy towards me and I had to cut and run
They expect a person to accept that behavior forever. As if we don't have a choice to distance ourselves. Manipulative and destructive! 👀🗒️🙅♂️
FR LIKE WE ALL HAVE LIMITS DELULU
This was so timely and applies to my relationship with family as well as ex friends. They keep trying to reach out but I just ignore their attempts to reel me in. Spending the holidays with me, myself, and I without any obligations! Some may view that as sad, but beyond sad is what I would’ve been in their presence. I choose peace ✌️ Blessings to those with a similar experience 💜💕
Well said! What a gift!
OMGOODNESS… Jasmine, you have just summed up an entire MOVEMENT in one clean swoop! 🎯🙏🏾🙌🏾 Thank you for your candor, clarity and intelligence on this subject matter. MANY BLESSINGS to you.😊❤️
@@fareladee5970 thank you for watching! Many blessings to you as well!
@@fareladee5970 thank you for listening! Many blessings to you as well!
Truer words were never spoken.
Preach!! Cause you said how I felt and why I do the things I do word for word… we leave, it may see abrupt but it’s been stewing for some months now bc of the other persons behavior/character
You hit the nail on the head with this one. I recently experienced all of this... Thank you for putting this message out there. I feel understood as to why I had to let certain people go. On top of receiving dreams associated with the need for the cut off.
@@livnluv007 I’m so glad you found a resolution that gave you peace and this resonated with you.
Wow! Every word she said is absolutely ON POINT and exactly why I had to get away from my toxic, dysfunctional family…
Straight facts. Thank for this powerful message!!❤❤❤
Thank you soo much. 15 years of this back and forth internal conflict. 😖 I finally broke.
Hopefully you are being kind to yourself 😊
The way she just snatched my wig.
Wow … thank you 🙏💜
God bless you Queen for putting this soooo eloquently. This is toooo goood not to share💕💝💕😇🙏🏽
@@marvinasimswewinqueendom2543 thank you for sharing!
Yeah the door slam. I’m an INFJ so always thought it was due to that. I don’t do well with duplicity and lies…
@MeganVincent-tl4tg I’m an enneagram 9 and INFJ as well.
People need to get a backbone no matter who they are around. Grown people need to be grown instead of blaming others for their own actions an choices. Everything is not the narcissist fault, some of it is you all by yourself.
You're speaking True Facts!!!😊
OMG…🎯🎯🎯 I am going through this with a friend now! Her conversation starts with “Please don’t be offended “ about stuff that I have said several different times, I DONT WANT TO TALK ABOUT THIS!! She texted me today and I have felt weird every since this afternoon. I really want to tell her…. Look! I don’t want you in my life, you don’t have boundaries, your disrespectful and stop trying to control me. Leave me alone!!! So this is VERY VERY TRUE CONTENT! If we NEVER talked again I wouldn’t care! They know when they are in the wrong because the use opportunities to check your temperature, knowing that you both know they WENT TO FAR. They do it piss you off wait a while check your temperature make you comfortable again and then strike again!!! It’s a pattern. It’s toxic. Sorry so long, I just needed to get this out today!!! This is exactly what I am struggling with in this moment right now!!! It will not be anymore conversations over the phone just indifferent text. Like, you too, ok, Gn. Have a good one, take care, ttyl, working, 😂😂😂😂NEW SUBSCRIBER!!! Thank you!!!
@@tandyt8783 welcome to the channel!
Highly intuitively and highly empathetic but also observing well said video.
This is so me!!!!
I’ve also noticed that some people are ok with trauma dumping on you but don’t extend the same level of understanding and grace given to them when the cut off friend has an issue. Some of these “good” people require the grace that they refuse to give others. Many aren’t comfortable telling the truth and are also self righteous while being hypocrites.
@@food4thought692 precisely true. We all make mistakes. In other videos on this page i speak more about working on my “toxic” behaviors. Being able to recognize that we all have the potential to be the “bad friend” is the starting point to growth and understanding.
@ Agreed! 💕
Verrrrrrrry good 👍 🎉 everything you said was spot on
Thank you so much for making this video. This describes exactly how I’ve been feeling.
Wow… I have done this recently to a group of “friends”… and you articulated this so perfectly. Thank you 😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️
Excellent video well said!😎✌🏾
@@johnarobinson5640 thank you! I appreciate your feedback! Thank you for watching!
wow, this video could not have been recommended to me at better time.. it feels like a message from god to continue to go ghost on a friend of mine. thank you for putting it so succinctly, i instantly don’t feel guilt anymore and i can move on from this friendship with more grace. also i loved your energy, you deserve more subs!
@@wafawaffles Thank you so much! I’m so glad you are here!
I hate that the people I cut off will never see this. I always turn out to be the bad guy all because I walked away. These people deserve the karma, I swear they do. I absolutely had a friend snap on me for the last time and I disappeared. He was dead wrong, he would snap and make it seem like it was mu fault yet he always wanted me around even though he claimed I was such a bad person and with "terrible" behavior! Telling my friends I am unsafe and a drunk all because they cant control me. I hated it and I wish they would care about this message if it crossed them but when we want them to feel our pain they never do in the peak of their evil persona. Granted karma does happen but in the moments you really want these people to feel your pain, it seems like they never do and it makes me feel like I am in a room where nobody can hear me and the thought of this makes me feel like I can not breathe.😢
@@TinyandFeminine I can relate to these feelings. Sending good energy your way. 🫶🏽
Thank you for explaining to people what I’ve been trying to explain my whole life but couldn’t without offending ppl more lol.
Wow! Spot on 🙏🏼
PREACH🙌🏾💯💯🔥
This gave me so much peace. You said everything that I had been feeling for so many years about a certain friendship of mine, and it helps alleviate the remainder of my guilt because I know I did the best thing for myself and my healing journey. Thank you so much, my sister 🙏
This is a very logical explanation and exactly what happened when I walked away
This was very refreshing to hear and spot on! Thank you 🦋😊
If you refuse to grow, change, or respect my feelings I will not fw you
I’m so over people being Up & down with me! 🙄🙄🙄 I have to put me first. I shouldn’t have to question my intentions, my feelings or my heart! Hell no🤷🏾♀️💯
I told my mom specific things she said and she lied, saying it never happened
Thank you for explaining my side!
This was so well said! So glad that you came up on my TL! I hope this goes viral, so that all the annoyances who proclaim “ghosting” hear this! Such peoples lack of insight and self reflection, just makes you shrivel up inside and gives you, well me the ick! I can’t communicate with you any more!
This is so profound. I did this with my entire family over a year ago.
Every Single Word!!! 🎯🎯🎯
🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
Very much on point!!! 👍🏽
The ACCOUNTABILITY!! They just CANNOT DO IT!! It’s WEAK to them! NOT KNOWING WHERE YOU STAND with someone is THE WORST and THEY MAKE YOU FEEL INVISIBLE out of ENVY or RESENTMENT and it is ON PURPOSE!
This was literally one of the BEST videos I’ve seen in a VERY long time🤩!!! Thank you so much for sharing this🙏🏼💚✨
They truly believed I tolerate child like behavior. As soon as I get that feeling that they are emotionally abusive, gaslight, lack accountability and just want to be negative UNPROVOKED, I immediately remove myself✌🏾✌🏾✌🏾✌🏾✌🏾Now I'm at a point where I realize that I do attract and I have to have the discernment to see if this person is good or bad for me. I no longer accept people who withdraw from my life and don't deposit anything. I'm about even exchanges now and I'm only referring to energy. Nothing physical.
If they cut me off, they need to stay gone. My ACTUAL friends are still here. All these other folks were never my friends and lying about it. They not running fast enough for me. Thank God!
Very true, it was like a switch just a few days after my birthday I just couldn’t do it anymore. It was just time to leave people where they chose to stay, and that this is who they are.
Damn, she nailed it!!!!
Right, a word from a good person🙏😇
This is spot on !
I have been saying this. "I hate what they stand for!"
I am very kind I do this often
Perfektly said!
This scenario happened exactly for me.
It’s usually that you let things go and accepted that they aren’t the best people. And it must be the worst right? And then they get even worse and your like goodness there’s more? They get worse. And you’re like, nah. This thing is going straight to hell. I’m off
@@MissOdyssey-n1w 🤣🤣🤣yep! Exactly!
Kept pausing the video to let things process, your words were well put. 👌
@@Akari-jf1gi thank you.
I'm currently exiting a failed relationship again. Her loss and disappointment. I'm a peace again with no regrets. Age and learn lived experiences increases resilience at age 66. Just life, it is what it IS. 😊
@@jr2no160 sounds like you have a good outlook on it, but sorry to hear about the failed relationship
Wow! Thank you for sharing. So accurate!!!!!
You are so welcome
I value your message I think that Most of us who have had to live & grow thru horrific trauma's that may have killed the average person,bloom at their own pace, it's like a seed planted in the ground that requires love & sunlight or like a blooming onion with layer's whatever resonates. If we remove the limitations of past life belief systems with the innerstanding that some are just limitless, non judgemental pure well intentional, unconditionally loving soul's inside of our bodies, & that's ok too, we become a gift to ourselves & other's who we may have hurt or vise versa. Many of us realize or are coming into the realization of the true value & importance of unconditional limitless love without having to pull out the scissors, depending on the situation of one's life, holding space for ourselves & other's, especially being aware that everone's perfect in Most High God's eye's or whom ever you choose to believe in.As a mother who survived & lived past trauma with the inner-standing of knowing I have the power to heal myself, while also inner standing that self healing has the power to turn into a ripple affect like the ocean, I will forgive & love anyone I love as long as they can show me changed behavior just as I strive to exhibit change myself. Labels cause to many problems, May we forgive ourselves & others for we know not what we do & remember the goal is to love with pure intention, not to punish but to love & forgive ourselves first & other's second so that we can evolve into our own inner- narrator on time & allow other's to do the same without casting judgement, when we learn better we do what we can do to be better than yesterday. Peace, Healing Love
& Light to all on their healing journey, you guy's are so amazing 💛
I was about to say hold up this isn’t me 😂 but now I see, it’s them.
Truth!!! Thank you for the validation that I’m not a bad person for cutting off and exiting the friendship. When someone keeps tally of what they’ve done for you, when you state your boundaries are crossed. All of the things you listed; control and condescending speech are two no nos. Just did this a couple weeks ago. Two weeks later, I get a barrage of nasty texts, with pictures of my ‘abandoned belongings’ in the garbage, along with another threat, similar to the one the night before I left.
Solidified my choice, that’s for sure.
Because I have texts go thru my email, it’s still ‘unread’ which I know is burning him hard. Cest la vie!!!
@@tipsybass7060 yea that’s definitely screaming “get out”!!!!
@ I did tell him that last night that I would rather sleep in my car than be disrespected like he’s doing.
Thought I was playing, heh.
Homie don’t play dat!! Lol
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I’m glad you are taking care of yourself because you deserve peace.
FACTS 💯 AMEN.
This perfectly explains 👏 my feelings ❤
Omg I feel so seen!!!!! Thank you for this!
This was perfect and so helpful. Thank you! Subscribed. 😊
@R.S.4672 Welcome! So glad you are here! Thanks for subscribing!
YEP, I've been worrying about healing, not ruining someone elses life. I wish they could say the same, but me walking away really triggers the demons out of the people i had to distance myself from.
@@ArkKage sometimes walking away is the only option and we just need to give ourselves some grace.
“Reactive Emotional Abuse”
@@gianpaulgraziosi6171 thank you for this comment. Wow! This just opened up a whole new insight for me. 🙏🏽
I love wise women like you thank you very much for existing❤