When you're an introverted, analytical person, it can be very endearing when someone is as enthusiastic about your thoughts as an ENFP tends to be. You have spent an inordinate amount of time developing them, after all. There is also something about the ENFP mindset that pulls me out of my head and lets me enjoy the moment. It redirects my analytical side to see the amusing and even goofy in life. Spending time with an ENFP often means getting relief from an effort you didn't even realize you made. Also, there is something about the animation in an ENFPs face that is unrivaled. Your eyes sparkle. I'm not sure whether that is objectively true, or if it is simply due to good chemistry between myself and you. In my experience, you also have a much more subdued extroversion than most E's. You don't mind spending time alone, which is a big plus because I am the same.
It's funny, we don't care what people think of us as people, per se, but we DEEPLY care about what others think of our quality of work, whatever it is we do. For example, I am an audio engineer, and I don't care if people think I'm an asshole, but if they think something I engineered sounds bad, then my value as a human being drops like a stone, especially if they believe it was my incompetence that created such a disappointing sonic experience, despite the fact that I did the absolute best I could with what i was given to work with.
What happens when you are no longer able to be an audio engineer and your hearing abilities diminish with age? What happens when you inevitably produce a "bad" sample over time? being good to other humans will be the only thing you are left with at the end of your life, so dont take human connection for granted - Message to all INTJ's.
@Nobody Special you just nail it! I’d have never been able to put it down so succintly. I find that so many problems come from this, because most people are relatively cool with criticizing work but not cool with giving personal criticism, and for us is the other way round: you can give the harshest personal criticism ever and we will be unphased but if criticism about our work is not done delicately then we enter defensive mode because we feel really attacked
ENFPs are good at reading INTJs and see that they have a lot of emotions underneath even though they do not express them. Since ENFPs are good at reading them the INTJ does not have to express them to feel understood. So they feel safe with ENFPs. And for ENFPs that INTJs do not play any games with feelings and are always true and honest in the little emotional expression they have is something ENFPs respect a lot and are drawn to. ENFPs will also be drawn to INTJs ability to not get caught up in emotions so much that it messes with their organisation and forward thinking (Ni vision) as a whole. They will be very fascinated by this and secretly want to be like the INTJ in this area... From an ENFP with an INTJ partner :)
Idk if enfp and intj are good match. Recently been talking to this intp guy. He rarely uses social media but approaches and talks to me in insta and has committed to help me w my issue too so what do i make out of this? Does intj do this normally for everyone or sud i take this as a green sign lol. Just asking cus u intj and I'm so confused he says he is nt for relationship and talks rational so yeah fellow intj's insights will be help me lol.
As a hardcore INTJ, I fucking love enfps, you guys are so spontaneous and never leave me bored, I hate conversations but you guys just keep going like ur on crack with interesting concepts that I can analyze. I love you guys :)
INTJ here. I agree, they have a way bypassing my Ni Te dropping right into my Fi and taking me willingly on an Se journey. I appreciate them so much for that.
ENFP HERE AND WE LOVE YOU TOOOOO!!!! Y'all are just super adorable introverts who (in my experience) are pretty chill, but hilariously blunt to the point where even honest opinions sometimes sound sarcastic. xD I personally love it, it's like the meme of the stuffed chick holding a knife.
1: Sometimes we prefer to be seen as a robot because it means other people recognize they have to be specific and intentional about their expressing their needs. But, just because we're stone faced doesn't mean we don't feel it just means we don't emote or express it. 2: See 1, but also we are very capable of expressing our emotions and we do it very well. When we want to. But we default to not doing so, because it requires excessive energy expenditure, and is both very draining and vulnerable. It's like a robot opening up their chest cavity, and telling you how all the wires work, and exactly where to cut to cause the most damage. Not something we're gonna do very regularly. 3: Yup. 4: True. "Amat Victoria Curam" Victory loves preparation.... INTJ's LIVE intentionally and part of that is planning. 5: It's not that we don't care. It's just that we prioritize logic over emotion. And a logical course of action often seems very rude/insensitive to a feeler type. To those people I say, "Emotion informs my action it doesn't control it." A lot of types can't keep up with the Ni-Te of an INTJ, so they can't see that what the INTJ is doing IS the best course of action until way later. However by that point their emotions have been trampled, and they have so much resentment that they never re-assess the situation to understand the INTJ. They just label them as insensitive, and dismiss them. I think ENFP's are one of the best equipped to understand an INTJ, because they have they also lead with an intuitive function Ne, and their Fi is higher in their stack than the INTJ, so they can understand their motivations. They can actually follow the mental leaps that Ni does, so their Fi doesn't feel trampled.
@@KatanaKamisama Idk if enfp and intj are good match. Recently been talking to this intp guy. He rarely uses social media but approaches and talks to me in insta and has committed to help me w my issue too so what do i make out of this? Does intj do this normally for everyone or sud i take this as a green sign lol. Just asking cus u intj and I'm so confused he says he is nt for relationship and talks rational so yeah fellow intj's insights will be help me lol.
My favorite person to be around is my dad. He is an INTJ and I am an ENFP. Sometimes, as a child, on the weekend he would take me to the office and the whole ride there(45min) we would sit in silence. It was a pleasant silence. I knew he was thinking about something and when I would look at him he would glance back at me and smile. It is hard to explain. I felt like we had more connection with one glance than I had with talking to my mom(ESFJ) for an hour. I love both of my parents, they are very special to me.
Wow, beautiful!! And similar to my experience of having an INTJ dad and a sensor mom. Have a look at the video where I tell my experience with mom, here: ruclips.net/video/z2qJnYGrSMA/видео.html
My partner is an ENFP-T, and I am an INTJ-A female. We have been together for 7 years now, and everything goes so smoothly that I can see him as part of my "inside" if this makes sense. And he is the only person who never complaints about my resting bitch face or not expressing emotions. Our relationship sounds so right, even emotionally and rationally, that I can affirm that I like him as he is. And this doesn't often happen with other people. So it seems I confirm the stereotype and what you say in your video
Yup! Totally possible! It’s a matter of keeping your eyes open and a positive mindset. As I mention in this video: ruclips.net/video/EyYUtu4AzhE/видео.html
I’m an ENFP female that is in an amazing and loving relationship with an INTJ male and man I love him so much. He literally is my home, where I feel safe & I know when he’s hurting and I feel that pain with him (being super empathetic) although he always says he’s fine I know he isn’t.
INTJ here. Thank you for your honest (and heartwarming) analysis. I’ve always come into conversations where I can see the struggle in understanding from the other person when I (unintentionally) said something hurtful, off-handed, or may be too abstract. Not for you ENFPs though, you guys just instinctively go with that one idea and keep the flow, never miss a beat. How you do it, I have no idea, but I appreciate it immensely. As for my honest thought on ENFPs, you guys are incredible bundles of joy. Always full of interesting ideas and unexpected, value insights that inspire my plans. You also don’t seem to be occupied with judgement or pre-conceived expectations of when and how I (INTJ) should be in public or intimately, which is also something I’m pleasantly surprised with and thankful for. You give great advices and is a good reassuring presence for me, too, especially in emotionally charged situations. I always freeze, and you can always seem to make peace rather easily, which is amazing. For the ENFPs out there who are still insecure or worry about your “weirdness”, you’re fine, I like you that way 🌝
INFP here and I absolutely adore INTJ. The way they think, interact, the sense of humor. I get that it’s not for everybody but… it is amazing to me lol
Just watched 1st video! Nicely done, Mindi! I’m an ENFP married to an INTJ. You are CORRECT in your assessment....here’s one example: The last trip we took (drove instead of flying) my husband planned out WHEN and WHERE we stopped along the way. He totally researched the top rated restaurants and “attractions” along the route to our destination and turned every moment into the best road trip EVER! As an ENFP I could just show up to airport and roll the dice to determine where to go and simply buy clothes when I get....wherever I’m going! Being on a trip where EVERYTHING was planned out took the stress off of me to create “experiences” for everyone and was so relaxing! Oh....and I loved “peeking” inside my husbands head, a little, by the places he chose to stop. Looking forward to more vids! Cheers!
Oh my god, sounds like the dreamed relationship indeed for an ENFP, someone who is in charge and allows us to keep being the happy bees that we are. Thanks for sharing, this is awesome!!! ❤️
It’s funny because I liked you within five seconds of starting the video. ENFP’s (and other Fi users, but ENFP’s in particular) are just... magical to me, and when I meet one there always seems to be an immediate draw for me. It’s very charming :). I get stuck in my head sometimes and they’re like human sunshine, effortlessly shining through the gloom.
I love intjs 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖🍭🍭💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖🌈🌈🌈💖💖💖💖💖💖💋💋💋💋💋💋It's almost like what we find annoying in ourselves they love too. And it's OK to be needy or all over the place. They like to be needed and when we're all over the place sometimes all it takes is just a look.. and the intj look is so hard to describe.. It makes sense of everything.. Idk.. I can't explain. Its everything we are, everything we're missing and everything we need 💖
I've experienced that too. What about when you consider your existential problems to be super difficult, the end of the world, and they seem to find just pleasure on helping sort out the mental chaos, without feeling any emotional burden? Priceless.
I like how most of the ENFPS that I know all compliment INTJS, but at the same time, they manage to compliment themselves. My ENFP friend seems to understand me and I appreciate that, but at the same time, she also brags that she's the only one who can see through me. I just smile awkwardly.
It's because INTJs don't give compliments so she has to do it herself...lol...or perhaps she is just saying what you are thinking...that incredible enfp intj telepathy
@@1jruiz Yes i guess that's true since it takes a lot for me to compliment someone since that triggers my Fi. I refuse to admit ENFPs can get into my head lol.
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ENFPs admire INTJs intelligence (4D Ti) because they feel insecure about their only logic and always question themselves. It is almost like an admiration towards someone (the INTJ) for being so good at something you are so lacking in. Now, imagine that person you admire liking you back equally. That person (the INTJ) will like you (ENFP) back because they admire your Fe (4D) ability to socialize so well. Something they lack and question themselves about a lot. There is such a mutual benefit between these two due to helping each other where they lack the most in life (Fe for INTJ, and Ti for the ENFP). The ENFP also cancels the INTJs’ high 4D Ti enough with their own 3D Fi. The ENFP is contagious via their Fi enough that it activates (probably via mirror neurons) the INTJs own 2D Fi. Launching them from being logical via Ti to noticing their own feelings more cause of the ENFPs. Vice versa happens to the ENFPs, where the INTJ natural thinking style of Te/Ti will launch the ENFPs’ Te into mental stimulation of thoughts. Stimulating them away from feeling for a bit and releasing a dose of serotonin, dopamine and other happy neurochemicals due to the neurons firing via F4 (Te) and perhaps even F3 (Ti) region of the frontal lobe brain. This launching of the ENFPs’ Ti deactivates their Fi (emotions) for awhile which, I can only speculate, would be extremely relaxing and calming (because its canceling out the usual emotional swings of maybe higher beta brain wave to a lower beta brain wave; maybe Alpha level, too?). So the ENFPs increases the INTJs brainwave (make them feel more alive and energetic); while the INTJs lowers the ENFPs brainwaves (make them feel more relax, grounded and calm). Ti vs Fi cancelation theory
@@balu.92 They can. ESFJ would be close as well. It's just the prefer function of ESFJ are opposite to INTJ: this will manifest in different wants, goals, etc.
I'm an INTJ. This is a nice piece! If I had to sum it up, I think I would say that both INTJ and ENFP types appreciate authenticity at a very high level. We just don't want to waste our time with games and other people's self-deluded issues. If another person shows me their true colors, I will respect a lot of different aspects about that person because I can foresee how they will act under particular circumstances, and they tend to have a high sense of honor.
I enjoyed this more than I thought I would when I clicked the video. Clearly, I'm an INTJ, and clearly, you do know what you're talking about. Thank you for making this video.
I love your humor not even trying haha I feel like ENFPs personify and take on exactly what they're talking about. Even if someone doesn't know much about us (which takes time too because we're multi-layered) I feel like they could gather a lot in a small period as well. Also everything ur saying is so accurate 😂 - ENFP
I am a INTJ and I only recently took a look into Meyer-Briggs. I took the test in university with some other psych students but I heard it was hocus and bunch of BS. I thought the titles of the groups sounded silly and kind of like what you would find in old cosmo magazines. Decades later, as I found myself having difficulty verbally expressing some ideas and the interconnectedness of it all, I remembered the personality test. I decided to look mine up again as I did the tests in 2001 and I think again in 2002 because I had a friend who wanted INTJ. She looked at it as if I kept writing the test, some how I would fail. In 2001 this content was not on RUclips like it is today. The tests we took were photocopies of old Meyers Briggs tests our professor gave us. When I looked mine up again it was like a brick to the face. So many things makes sense now and especially why I have been having such a unreal time finding like minded people. - long backstory done - I have had one really impactful relationship, the kind that makes you wonder "is she the one?" even when you know 100% she isn't, that kind of impact. Looking back I can completely see a ENFP in her. It was all the traits I really liked. I just liked having her around, that made me happy. We are both grown ups now, we were in our 20's then and we are not well suited anymore. I can now see why I had such a had time shaking her and this totally narrows down who I should be looking for and why. Come on, lets be honest INTJ's, people think we are bit of pricks and that's from someone people generally like (me liking them is the challenge). So, if we can meet someone who would actually like the traits that other hate would be fan-f@*king-tastic because I don't think many of us INTJ's are planning on changing ourselves. lol
It is wonderful to be appreciated and to be understood for who we are. Very few people do understand INTJs, so when we meet people who do understand us, it is mutually attractive to us.
When i was younger people thought i was always mad because i didn't smile a lot... but i was happy most of the time; now as an adult i have learn how to smile more, and people doesnt feel like they are bothering me :) ; im a happy person but i dont smile a lot. I love to live in my head, and planning everything, plus analizing people... which sometimes contrasts with reality, because extroverts keep telling me to speak more, like just tell things without thinking... which is actually annoying. Whatever... i try to keep up with "shallowness" to not be a misfit, and getting people to hate me. And i love Enfps, they are smart but touchy, and animated to do things i love, like trekking or camping, i never get bored around enfps... so thats it, keep it up i love your channel, and hope the best for it.
Rather than INTJ's being planners I would argue we are optimizers/strategists. They sound similar but look very different in practice. We are actually relatively spontaneous when on vacations or enjoying leisurely activities. What we meticulously control is various meta games that can extend well into the future such as our pattern of thought, ideologies, skills, our health, our environment, etc. We are certainly planners in comparison to many other personality types, but again I would argue we are equally spontaneous. It is anything that touches our ego that we obsessively control.
Yes, I agree. And that’s exactly what I was talking about. You have articulated very good. Thank you. They can plan because of optimisation and effectivity, I didn’t mean that they plan because they just like planning and following a script. I agree.
Control is something that doesn't really encapsulate what is true about systems: you control the inputs, not the outputs. Planning is all about understanding how the inputs get transformed into the outputs. Most people have anxiety about the outputs, the uncontrollable. Their thinking is flawed.
I’m an ENFP and my sister is INTJ, this video explains a lot why we are actually understanding each other well, besides being so different from one another, thank you!
I'm a blunt person, but only with the people I care about. People that aren't in my inner circle get honesty, but only just enough to get by. Most of the time I'm just quiet
The 1:10 moment. As an enfp, girl I feel you hahaha. Another thing is the way they care about their special someone or someone they love in general. I’ve never met them personally but I really like them!
Usually I do notice people not agreeing with my reasons or decisions. And I can feel hurt by being judged or trashed. But it hurts my intellect not my person. It annoys me hugely when people don’t listen to my reasons or act as I do think just on whim. Really makes me angry. My intellectual ego is easily hurt. I can cope with that. Emotions/feelings are merely childish responses to triggers. I rarely let myself be triggered and when it happens I think of it as disgraceful and a complete failure.
I see what you mean, and I understand it. That's why I don't agree when people say that INTJs don't feel. I'm convinced that you guys feel a lot but then you convert things soon after into an intellectual matter. Your comment also makes me think of one main reason why INTJs like ENFPs it's because we listen to your reasons and find useful your inputs, both intellectual and practical. That makes INTJs feel useful and intellectually appreciated. One of their important core values. Would you agree with it?
Mindimalist Absolutely. That is why INTJs are extremely loyal to these friends. Another point in the video I really liked was the part about HOW we show love. I try to explain to people by saying ”If I put my time in having a relationship with you, then know I love you. Time will never return and I value my time dearly”
As an INTJ with a ENFP sister, I'm envious of my sisters ability to talk to people so easily and have everyone like her and find her friendly. As an INTJ we seem to be the exact opposite of that to others. It took me way too long to realize how unapproachable I was. I'm glad ENFPs appreciate us.
I bet you that even though you appreciate that on your sister and in other ENFPs, and you deeply like it, you wouldn't really like to be her. If you could talk easily to people, still you'd rather be alone and spend less time hanging out in social events lol. That's the beauty of MBTI, understanding that there's more to happiness than what makes each of us happy.
As an INTJ, it's not that I don't care what other people think, I do. It's just that what they think must not trump reality, or the truth. I catch so many people lying because they don't want to hurt other people's feelings. Then, they will gossip behind their back. I believe intj kind of people see this hypocrisy very clearly. They tend to think deeper in this realm, and this hypocrisy really disgusts them.
I care to the extent I think it through and think their train of thought many steps forward. I just disagree. Regarding hypocrisy: I've always felt like people are constantly lying, and I felt really alien, until I learned to trust myself. I just learned other people were wrong, and I succeeded where others failed.
As an INTJ woman, I can attest to the dislike from others. But I think some of it for me is because I'm a woman and the typical stereotype for women is not... What INTJs are. This is just personal experience talking, not a feminist rant. I've been married for 14 years and it's taken me a long to to figure out what many of the problems we've had are. Reality is I married the wrong type for me. I have 3 children with this person and it's been a battle every step of the way to be myself and have the autonomy I need. INTJs have very different needs than most women would, I think. And most men are not ready for it, whether they know that about themselves or not. In my opinion, INTJs should not marry (unless they are very sure their partner can give them the space and freedom needed, and that the other person is very secure and comfortable seeing themselves as an equal to them). To end this, if I'd known myself better in my 20s I would have quickly rejected my now husband and avoided the pain. I didn't love him, he intrigued me, but being the dumbass I am I thought that was what love is. Choices, folks.
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As a man, I agree with you on not marrying as an INTJ. Your partner will feel like they cannot match up. Perhaps INTJ's just need to pretend to be stupid more and others would like that?
Until I found out I'm an INTJ, I thought that there's something off with my appearence ( i dint bother my self about, but i was curious). Then, only by coincidence (watching the vidio on youtube channel) i've heard of personality test. I've done multiple test, and almost all of them told my I'm INTJ. So, here I am on this video hoping to find out more about traits of an INTJ-A.
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I am an INTJ, and I don't trust people who like me. I have Fi child and Se inferior, therefore stroking my sense of self importance (Fi child) and appreciation of my presence (Se inferior) leaves me open to manipulation.
I feel you. Still I think that you should learn to enjoy the amazement of ENFPs about INTJs. Even if you don't trust them... Although I think we can somehow make people trust us.
INTJ here. About the 5th point: "INTJs don't care about what others think." At least for me, this much is true. 'You know why? Because the overall picture of the situation (Ni) and the facts (Te) matter more and better; moreover, the best ideas/solutions always prevail, whoever had them. My mother used, even today, to say me: "Don't think or want a certain thing because 99% of the people think or want it." However, during interactions between me and others, it often happens that the following thinking forms in my mind: "Which inner motivation/feeling pushes this/these person/people to say/do this thing?". Then, this is an information added to the overall picture. In fact, more and more often the closest people to me affirm: "You are very emphatic." Maybe, some experiences made me develop more Fi.
Amazing!! Thanks for sharing. And this is not the first time I read such comment about Fi. It's fascinating to see in which way you guys experience it or navigate situations with it. Do you think it has to do with some inner work you've done to improve yourself and understand people? Btw, that introverted feeling Fi is your third function and the second for ENFPs, and I talk about it in another video. ruclips.net/video/9khBc7fyayY/видео.html Check the minute 4:17 (of that video, probably youtube will link the wrong one, so do it manually) Is it similar to how you experience it?
@@Mindimalist Your statement in that video is right, at least for me. However, even when Fi makes me imagine or even feel, how the others are/feel/think inside, my attitude is not to shield them from situations or facts. Simply, what is inside them (bad feelings, convictions, motivations etc) can make their way or the way of the overall picture or both (strategic INTJ vision). No effort was brought to develop more Fi. The MBTI theory affirms all four functions are equally present in the psyche; the difference is only related to how much each of this function is used. Before some experiences, my habit was not to give such importance to people, because 95% of them were only waste of time to me. After that, my Fi made its appearance, that's all.
Alessandro Cellurale I believe that even though it’s a natural process for the functions to be used more often aka to develop, you can support them by consciously being aware of their inefficiency for instance, even if you don’t really push yourself. That’s how I’ve been working on Si and even Te deficiencies with some quite good results
@@Mindimalist Do you really believe in this? The MBTI theory is only related to a test, it wasn't invented to correct the "inefficiency" of some Jungian functions. It is only a model, a mental scheme, even very powerful, with the purpose to identify a pattern, through which people perceive and act in the outside world. Then, what does it mean and which is the point in developing some least used functions? Moreover, MBTI apart and most important, do you think we are in this world to make better of ourselves? Why must we chase an our better image, that lies only in our mind, and not follow only our nature to reach our place in this world itself?
im intj-a and one of my best friends, also my oldest friend (23 years of friendship, we met when we were 4 years old) is an ENFP, he never fails to captivate me and cheer me up even with the silliest of conversations
As someone who has been typing as INTP for years but recently realised I'm actually an INTJ, this all makes so much sense. I have something to add about "brutal honestly" and "bluntness"; I wonder why people always assume that full honesty and bluntness always means saying negative stuff - surely honesty goes both ways, and it encompasses both positive and potentially negative stuff, or? I find myself being often blunt when I'm giving compliments; my current SO (an ENFP!) is often mesmerised by this because they're not used to someone telling them point blank all that they like about them. I will tell him all the features I like, all their little quirks and traits I value, how they make me feel, etc. etc. If I like/love someone, there's no stopping me in showing affection in a raw, honest way, so this someone can rest assure I don't just want to "flatter" them, but that I actually feel all the things I'm saying. At the beginning, when we were getting to know each other, I visited his office and said "I wouldn't be able to work in such a messy place", something he still uses to mess with me to this day (in a lovingly joking way). The funny thing that most people don't get is that I'm not adding value to these statements... I'm not equating "messy" with "bad", but all I'm trying to convey is that I personally need a different type of environment to be able to focus at work. I don't know if other INTJs can relate, but I almost never add value judgements to these statements; I really think in terms of grey and I follow a "to each their own" philosophy, very few things are "inherently" bad or good in my book (except when it comes to issues of cruelty, which I can't tolerate).
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My experience as INTJ is that people make all kinds of judgements about me. I know that their judgements are negative - and I also know that their judgements are completely wrong about me. I think the difference is from perhaps other types - I won't bother to set them straight. The reason is - there are so many people like that - I would have to be constantly explaining myself to people all the time - no that's not what's going on - that's not who I am - but that gets tiring when you are facing it every day. Most of them just can't understand, however much I try to explain myself to them. So what happens is, you just don't bother to set them straight anymore and when someone is giving me a dirty look, I am thinking 'Yeah I understand exactly what you are thinking about me and I dislike you because you are not making the effort to properly understand what I am about - so you can just keep on thinking I'm a horrible person - that's your problem'.
Lol as an intj I've literally watched new hires come into my job and they start off speaking to everyone and eventually stop speaking to me and continue to talk to others. Maybe its how I carry myself or the way I look or my aurora but this has happened to me countless times and I always have good intentions but some folk don't like me lol 🤷🏽♀
I’m an intj that evolved to enfp. I figured I’d be the person I’m attracted to and that’s ENTJ/ENFJs, but I met an ESFJ and my mind was blown even if I felt like I was walking on eggshells.
INTJs feel deeply. Like Vulcans, perhaps more deeply than humans. but the relevance of an emotion is often tied closely to it's utility. not sure i helped the INTJ case with this admission. but it's authentic. take if for what you will
Why can an INTJ "ground" people? Here's my guess: Fi, Introverted Feeling. I'm a particularly volatile INTJ (high Neuroticism on the Big 5 measure), and that's usually all pointed inwards. But one thing that I do, is that I never block out my feelings. (At this point, I'm not even sure I know how if I needed to.) I may ignore them, but ultimately, I feel everything on overdrive, but usually don't extrovert it at all. This means, whatever the ENFP (or any other type who is willing to be open and honest so I can Ni their current state) is on what you referred to as an "emotional roller-coaster," for me it's a, "Been there, done that," and usually, "I had it far worse and here's what I did and a few more possible solutions I'm pretty sure will help you specifically based on my Ni + Te + Se." Gotta use all your functions, people. That Fi is a powerhouse for human interaction.
So you mean, that the reason why you can understand us it's because you feel empathy (I know big word for an INTJ), because of having gone through that yourself, even if you didn't extravert the emotions?
@@Mindimalist I can relate. Fi in the third slot means it's more sensitive and painful. Usually, I have felt many pains more sharply in an Introverted space. I don't know if that's empathy or applied experience. I feel like empathy is feeling what another feels in the moment. I don't do that often. It's mostly memory saved in the introverted feeling. And that's why it's grounding. I am not feeling at the time I give advice. Any time I'm helping people, it comes out as cold hard logic (Te) and facts (Se), informed by how I felt and overcame in the past (Fi memory bank).
@@tehufn Okay, I get it. Still, I wonder if it's kind of similar to the ENFP experience somehow. We have Fi as auxiliary. I have made a video where I explain how Fi works or doesn't work for ENFPs ruclips.net/video/9khBc7fyayY/видео.html minutes 4:17 (do it manually because youtube will send you to the wrong video) Curious to hear.
@@Mindimalist I'll get to it after my homework… 🙂 For me, it mostly provides images (usually fully formed) for my Ni. People might call that a "loop," but for me it's just passive thought. You can see my profile picture was drawn by me. That's a character from my writing. Also, has anyone ever told you that you have a calming presence?
@@tehufn not until I started YouTubing and INTJs started commenting 😅 People often say that I’m quite bubbly, fun and full of positivism haha P.s. I see that you can draw very well!
Aw nice! They are different and similar at the same time. And they help each other in areas where they are weak. But you know this already :) Have you checked my video How INTJs help ENFP’s? ruclips.net/video/Hq3cCYv0LmA/видео.html
I feel like INTJs they see emotions/feelings from others as more data points. It’s like I see it as you running a automated diagnosis of what’s wrong with the whole of you. You’re feeding me more information about what’s going on with you so I can properly wrap my mind around what’s at the center of all that logically and map it out in my own head so I can do what I can to alleviate that if possible. Even if someone is going on a huge emotional rant, I think there’s always something at the core of those emotions that can be realized and “fixed”.
people say that intj person are too umm cold or like you know like uhhh YESS but its just because youre not yet getting along w them :3 The intj around me matched my energy because we talk about imaginative thinks!I even found that if i am fake uh upset they'll concerned abt me HAHAH LOVE IT :D
I’m an ENFP man casing an INTJ woman, it’s early days but I get this feeling that I can really fall for her. Really hope it works out tho, fingers crossed
@@Mindimalist Oh, I was just assuming you were married to an INTJ the way you were talking (in other videos too). You seem beautifully in love, and as though it was tied to a real life situation because you could feel it so.... innately. Maybe it's just how you express your feelings towards those attributes, it's beautiful and I'm not used to that. Oops, sorry!
@@robritoboy haha aww I guess that's just my ENFPness. I'm not married to an INTJ. As I said in the video my dad is one though, and I love him very much.
@@Mindimalist Yeah, I think I missed that then. Anyway, it's easy to tell you must love him dearly, lucky you. And I'm not trying to 'pick you up' or anything, I'm too old (50) and on the other side of the world (Australian). Imagine me as a younger better looking Paul Hogan;-)
Everyone with his / her INTJ while I imagine how great would be a person like that, you're difficult to find :'( I have two INFJ friends but I feel more free when I'm around NT types. They're more direct and honest and help me with my inner balance.
Your videos provide a great learning experience. You have wonderful knowledge and assessment of ENFP, INTJ, INFJ, ESTP. This is fantastic ! Do you also know Nine Enneagram Type Descriptions ? You have great news about MBTI, or otherwise know as Myers-Briggs aka Myers Briggs Type Indicator. All your advice is based on sound psychology and draws from works Carl Jung, or Jungian Psychology. You have real knowledge for personal growth, and self care.
Thank you very much for noticing my content on MBTI, very much based on Jungian studies. I do have a few videos about the Enneagram, check it out! I am very happy that my videos help you on your path of personal development
Intjs dance with their idleness. Their polr Fe means They have trouble matching the social landscape, where it concerns emotional evaluations, but this just makes Them all the more independent. Intjs are like the *fine* *wine* mbti type. The robot comes with countless program installations. Unfortunately, the intj does not have blinking red lights like other robots, but maybe that makes Them part human? I wonder. Perhaps the intjs are cyborgs, not robots after all. In the "Wizard of Oz" the intj is the Tin Man. Perhaps They need an ENFP to provide Them with a heart? Or... Wait for it. Perhaps the ENFP is like a million little munchkins singing directions for the yellow brick road? Good video on intjs.
@@Mindimalist That's until they're malfunctioning, when you have to replace their batteries, which like your television remote control batteries can be a nightmare to remember for correct size. You have to write it down. Intj needs X amount of hugsies and kissy kissies.
Thank you, your video opened my mind, i think there is hope between intj and enfp relationship even if some intj choose develop his Fi funtion and be more empathetic beside be rational thinker, 😇 Sorry, i'm still learning english, so maybe there is some wrong writing,
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is anyone else here an intj just to listen to some positive opinions about us lol
lmao, yes
Yup
Yes lol
Yes
I am a weird mixture of both, more of a dark humor, selective discipline, abomination.
Us INTJs see the mind of ENFPs, and they see our hearts, which is why we usually get along well and respect each other
Oh my god, that's so beautifully said!!! I agree 100%! :)
Yes! 💕
@@cynthiamcclare9493
Are you an ENFP?
Sounds amazing! Many people confuse cheerfulness with being dumb... and I'm sick of tuning my energy down in order to be respected.
the INTJ's are the "brainy" ones btw, whereas ENFP's are the emotionals / go with the flow / feeeeeeelings
ENFPs are weird... (Understatement)
But I suppose it takes a weirdo to love a weirdo.
Lovely!!!!
Aww thanks I think
People say I'm Weird, Strange . I'm INTJ
Weird or strange is as relative as is normal.
Awwwwe I melted! - ENFP
as an enfp, i feel very lucky when an intj opens up to me 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰 like HA thanks for choosing me and not thinking that im stupid
Betty Oswald I really know what you mean :)
yes samee.
When you're an introverted, analytical person, it can be very endearing when someone is as enthusiastic about your thoughts as an ENFP tends to be. You have spent an inordinate amount of time developing them, after all. There is also something about the ENFP mindset that pulls me out of my head and lets me enjoy the moment. It redirects my analytical side to see the amusing and even goofy in life. Spending time with an ENFP often means getting relief from an effort you didn't even realize you made.
Also, there is something about the animation in an ENFPs face that is unrivaled. Your eyes sparkle. I'm not sure whether that is objectively true, or if it is simply due to good chemistry between myself and you.
In my experience, you also have a much more subdued extroversion than most E's. You don't mind spending time alone, which is a big plus because I am the same.
Same tho :)))
Relatable!
I thought she was calling me a rabbit.
haha Robots!! Will work on my pronunciation for next time :D
Mindimalist it’s all good. I was just teasin.
I heard robbit.
That’s what the subtitles say... lol 😂
That’s hilarious
Sparkle P8nter haha I know! 😂
It's funny, we don't care what people think of us as people, per se, but we DEEPLY care about what others think of our quality of work, whatever it is we do. For example, I am an audio engineer, and I don't care if people think I'm an asshole, but if they think something I engineered sounds bad, then my value as a human being drops like a stone, especially if they believe it was my incompetence that created such a disappointing sonic experience, despite the fact that I did the absolute best I could with what i was given to work with.
Nobody Special same 😂 I’m my worst critic, I destroy my work on a daily
What happens when you are no longer able to be an audio engineer and your hearing abilities diminish with age? What happens when you inevitably produce a "bad" sample over time? being good to other humans will be the only thing you are left with at the end of your life, so dont take human connection for granted - Message to all INTJ's.
Grey Tree I agree. It doesn’t mean it’s easy. Some people have easier time with some things than others.
@Nobody Special you just nail it! I’d have never been able to put it down so succintly. I find that so many problems come from this, because most people are relatively cool with criticizing work but not cool with giving personal criticism, and for us is the other way round: you can give the harshest personal criticism ever and we will be unphased but if criticism about our work is not done delicately then we enter defensive mode because we feel really attacked
I'm a writer for a local newspaper and my closest friend has never read my work ...he's intp..you understand 😂😂
ENFPs are good at reading INTJs and see that they have a lot of emotions underneath even though they do not express them. Since ENFPs are good at reading them the INTJ does not have to express them to feel understood. So they feel safe with ENFPs. And for ENFPs that INTJs do not play any games with feelings and are always true and honest in the little emotional expression they have is something ENFPs respect a lot and are drawn to.
ENFPs will also be drawn to INTJs ability to not get caught up in emotions so much that it messes with their organisation and forward thinking (Ni vision) as a whole. They will be very fascinated by this and secretly want to be like the INTJ in this area...
From an ENFP with an INTJ partner :)
Uffff well said, every single word.
the second statement was super true hahaha
Idk if enfp and intj are good match. Recently been talking to this intp guy. He rarely uses social media but approaches and talks to me in insta and has committed to help me w my issue too so what do i make out of this? Does intj do this normally for everyone or sud i take this as a green sign lol. Just asking cus u intj and I'm so confused he says he is nt for relationship and talks rational so yeah fellow intj's insights will be help me lol.
Yes. Agreed. Am also an ENFP married to an INTJ. :)
Super true 😂
As a hardcore INTJ, I fucking love enfps, you guys are so spontaneous and never leave me bored, I hate conversations but you guys just keep going like ur on crack with interesting concepts that I can analyze. I love you guys :)
💙💚💛🧡❤️💜 and you won the ENFP rainbows heart 😀
Thank you!
I love your affirming comment! I love INTJ's
INTJ here. I agree, they have a way bypassing my Ni Te dropping right into my Fi and taking me willingly on an Se journey. I appreciate them so much for that.
ENFP HERE AND WE LOVE YOU TOOOOO!!!! Y'all are just super adorable introverts who (in my experience) are pretty chill, but hilariously blunt to the point where even honest opinions sometimes sound sarcastic. xD I personally love it, it's like the meme of the stuffed chick holding a knife.
Hardcore INTJ that doesn't like conversations and uses 'ur' in a sentence.... hmmm
1: Robots
2: Don't understand/express emotions
3: Straight forward / blunt
4: Like/Need to Plan
5: Don't care/ insensitive
1: Sometimes we prefer to be seen as a robot because it means other people recognize they have to be specific and intentional about their expressing their needs. But, just because we're stone faced doesn't mean we don't feel it just means we don't emote or express it.
2: See 1, but also we are very capable of expressing our emotions and we do it very well. When we want to. But we default to not doing so, because it requires excessive energy expenditure, and is both very draining and vulnerable. It's like a robot opening up their chest cavity, and telling you how all the wires work, and exactly where to cut to cause the most damage. Not something we're gonna do very regularly.
3: Yup.
4: True. "Amat Victoria Curam" Victory loves preparation.... INTJ's LIVE intentionally and part of that is planning.
5: It's not that we don't care. It's just that we prioritize logic over emotion. And a logical course of action often seems very rude/insensitive to a feeler type. To those people I say, "Emotion informs my action it doesn't control it." A lot of types can't keep up with the Ni-Te of an INTJ, so they can't see that what the INTJ is doing IS the best course of action until way later. However by that point their emotions have been trampled, and they have so much resentment that they never re-assess the situation to understand the INTJ. They just label them as insensitive, and dismiss them.
I think ENFP's are one of the best equipped to understand an INTJ, because they have they also lead with an intuitive function Ne, and their Fi is higher in their stack than the INTJ, so they can understand their motivations. They can actually follow the mental leaps that Ni does, so their Fi doesn't feel trampled.
@@KatanaKamisama awesome explanation. Thank you very much for adding this one up! 😊
@Marius Seifferth Right? And if I emoted every thought that went through my head, either people would think I was deranged or I'd have face cramps.
These are the characteristics I like within myself but most people won't.
@@KatanaKamisama Idk if enfp and intj are good match. Recently been talking to this intp guy. He rarely uses social media but approaches and talks to me in insta and has committed to help me w my issue too so what do i make out of this? Does intj do this normally for everyone or sud i take this as a green sign lol. Just asking cus u intj and I'm so confused he says he is nt for relationship and talks rational so yeah fellow intj's insights will be help me lol.
My favorite person to be around is my dad. He is an INTJ and I am an ENFP. Sometimes, as a child, on the weekend he would take me to the office and the whole ride there(45min) we would sit in silence. It was a pleasant silence. I knew he was thinking about something and when I would look at him he would glance back at me and smile. It is hard to explain. I felt like we had more connection with one glance than I had with talking to my mom(ESFJ) for an hour. I love both of my parents, they are very special to me.
Wow, beautiful!! And similar to my experience of having an INTJ dad and a sensor mom.
Have a look at the video where I tell my experience with mom, here: ruclips.net/video/z2qJnYGrSMA/видео.html
This is beautiful. I'm sure you are your fathers world.
Omg so cute
Aaaaaaaw! 😍
As ENFPs we are eternally optimistic, so we know that the INTJ has positive attributes, even if others can’t see it. 😊
Sooo true!
Its not very true though it hurts 😒
as an INTJ...thank you, im blushing
Thank you very much for appreciating my content :)
I hope you've checked my channel, I have other videos for INTJs you might like to check out!
Same. #INTJ
intj robots and enfp rabbits :p
Haha love it
My partner is an ENFP-T, and I am an INTJ-A female. We have been together for 7 years now, and everything goes so smoothly that I can see him as part of my "inside" if this makes sense. And he is the only person who never complaints about my resting bitch face or not expressing emotions. Our relationship sounds so right, even emotionally and rationally, that I can affirm that I like him as he is. And this doesn't often happen with other people. So it seems I confirm the stereotype and what you say in your video
So sweet! Happy for you guys! Cheers ! 😊
I’m an INTJ. This gives me hope that some are strong enough to co-exist with us.
Yup! Totally possible! It’s a matter of keeping your eyes open and a positive mindset. As I mention in this video: ruclips.net/video/EyYUtu4AzhE/видео.html
And mindinilist is fine af too. Mmmm.
I’m an ENFP female that is in an amazing and loving relationship with an INTJ male and man I love him so much. He literally is my home, where I feel safe & I know when he’s hurting and I feel that pain with him (being super empathetic) although he always says he’s fine I know he isn’t.
♡ So lovely!! thank you for sharing darling!!!
I care about other people thoughts. I just know they are terribly full of crap.
Hahahahaha ♥️
Yeah, I'd say smthg similar. I listen to what others say...but if it s incorrect, then I discard it and continue with my own ;-)
Lol
My ENFP friends are the ones who appreciate and truly brings out the best version of myself. And I'm thankful that I met a handful of amazing people.
That’s amazing! Thanks for sharing 😊
INTJ here. Thank you for your honest (and heartwarming) analysis.
I’ve always come into conversations where I can see the struggle in understanding from the other person when I (unintentionally) said something hurtful, off-handed, or may be too abstract. Not for you ENFPs though, you guys just instinctively go with that one idea and keep the flow, never miss a beat. How you do it, I have no idea, but I appreciate it immensely.
As for my honest thought on ENFPs, you guys are incredible bundles of joy. Always full of interesting ideas and unexpected, value insights that inspire my plans. You also don’t seem to be occupied with judgement or pre-conceived expectations of when and how I (INTJ) should be in public or intimately, which is also something I’m pleasantly surprised with and thankful for. You give great advices and is a good reassuring presence for me, too, especially in emotionally charged situations. I always freeze, and you can always seem to make peace rather easily, which is amazing.
For the ENFPs out there who are still insecure or worry about your “weirdness”, you’re fine, I like you that way 🌝
INFP here and I absolutely adore INTJ. The way they think, interact, the sense of humor. I get that it’s not for everybody but… it is amazing to me lol
Love you guys too
Just watched 1st video! Nicely done, Mindi! I’m an ENFP married to an INTJ. You are CORRECT in your assessment....here’s one example:
The last trip we took (drove instead of flying) my husband planned out WHEN and WHERE we stopped along the way. He totally researched the top rated restaurants and “attractions” along the route to our destination and turned every moment into the best road trip EVER! As an ENFP I could just show up to airport and roll the dice to determine where to go and simply buy clothes when I get....wherever I’m going! Being on a trip where EVERYTHING was planned out took the stress off of me to create “experiences” for everyone and was so relaxing! Oh....and I loved “peeking” inside my husbands head, a little, by the places he chose to stop.
Looking forward to more vids! Cheers!
Oh my god, sounds like the dreamed relationship indeed for an ENFP, someone who is in charge and allows us to keep being the happy bees that we are.
Thanks for sharing, this is awesome!!! ❤️
As an INTJ I really like your videos.
Flattered!
Had to rewatch every point cause i was dreaming about my intj the first time, that cold hearted sweet genius
Haha awww love is in the air. 🥰
It’s funny because I liked you within five seconds of starting the video. ENFP’s (and other Fi users, but ENFP’s in particular) are just... magical to me, and when I meet one there always seems to be an immediate draw for me. It’s very charming :). I get stuck in my head sometimes and they’re like human sunshine, effortlessly shining through the gloom.
Lovely to hear!
Well put. ENFP sunshine is rejuvenating. That innocence tempered with the flow of their intuition is highly desirable.
"INTJs are rabbits 🐰 but i appreciate their cuteness their fluffyness"
😂😂😂😂😂
I love intjs 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖🍭🍭💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖🌈🌈🌈💖💖💖💖💖💖💋💋💋💋💋💋It's almost like what we find annoying in ourselves they love too. And it's OK to be needy or all over the place. They like to be needed and when we're all over the place sometimes all it takes is just a look.. and the intj look is so hard to describe.. It makes sense of everything.. Idk.. I can't explain. Its everything we are, everything we're missing and everything we need 💖
I've experienced that too. What about when you consider your existential problems to be super difficult, the end of the world, and they seem to find just pleasure on helping sort out the mental chaos, without feeling any emotional burden? Priceless.
I like how most of the ENFPS that I know all compliment INTJS, but at the same time, they manage to compliment themselves. My ENFP friend seems to understand me and I appreciate that, but at the same time, she also brags that she's the only one who can see through me. I just smile awkwardly.
Haha, never thought of that... I'm going to leave that one sink down.
It's because INTJs don't give compliments so she has to do it herself...lol...or perhaps she is just saying what you are thinking...that incredible enfp intj telepathy
@@1jruiz Yes i guess that's true since it takes a lot for me to compliment someone since that triggers my Fi. I refuse to admit ENFPs can get into my head lol.
Great video! I have been married to my ENFP wife for 41 years, wouldn't change a thing.!
Thank you!!!! So nice to hear and congrats!
I'm sure you will appreciate my INTJ playlist! Here the link: ruclips.net/p/PLhm1ooCnBB9IFRvO19ljavlA0AwoMy3WK
ENFPs admire INTJs intelligence (4D Ti) because they feel insecure about their only logic and always question themselves. It is almost like an admiration towards someone (the INTJ) for being so good at something you are so lacking in. Now, imagine that person you admire liking you back equally.
That person (the INTJ) will like you (ENFP) back because they admire your Fe (4D) ability to socialize so well. Something they lack and question themselves about a lot.
There is such a mutual benefit between these two due to helping each other where they lack the most in life (Fe for INTJ, and Ti for the ENFP).
The ENFP also cancels the INTJs’ high 4D Ti enough with their own 3D Fi. The ENFP is contagious via their Fi enough that it activates (probably via mirror neurons) the INTJs own 2D Fi. Launching them from being logical via Ti to noticing their own feelings more cause of the ENFPs.
Vice versa happens to the ENFPs, where the INTJ natural thinking style of Te/Ti will launch the ENFPs’ Te into mental stimulation of thoughts. Stimulating them away from feeling for a bit and releasing a dose of serotonin, dopamine and other happy neurochemicals due to the neurons firing via F4 (Te) and perhaps even F3 (Ti) region of the frontal lobe brain. This launching of the ENFPs’ Ti deactivates their Fi (emotions) for awhile which, I can only speculate, would be extremely relaxing and calming (because its canceling out the usual emotional swings of maybe higher beta brain wave to a lower beta brain wave; maybe Alpha level, too?).
So the ENFPs increases the INTJs brainwave (make them feel more alive and energetic); while the INTJs lowers the ENFPs brainwaves (make them feel more relax, grounded and calm).
Ti vs Fi cancelation theory
I recognize my own writing style here lol.
@@jaharv111 oh really lol. what type r u INTJ?
@@1231mn Lol yes.
Why can't the other "Feeling" types do the same with an INTJ? For example, an ESFJ.
@@balu.92 They can. ESFJ would be close as well. It's just the prefer function of ESFJ are opposite to INTJ: this will manifest in different wants, goals, etc.
I'm an INTJ. This is a nice piece! If I had to sum it up, I think I would say that both INTJ and ENFP types appreciate authenticity at a very high level. We just don't want to waste our time with games and other people's self-deluded issues. If another person shows me their true colors, I will respect a lot of different aspects about that person because I can foresee how they will act under particular circumstances, and they tend to have a high sense of honor.
My favorite trait of my INTJ is his raw authenticity and blunt honesty. Makes me feel safe.
INFP?
I enjoyed this more than I thought I would when I clicked the video. Clearly, I'm an INTJ, and clearly, you do know what you're talking about. Thank you for making this video.
What a compliment! Thank you for stopping by! I’ll keep making videos about INTJs for sure 😊
Gotta love the ENFP
- INTJ-A
enfps seem to know me and never spoke to me, i think intjs need a good friend like this to build meaningful lives hopefully.
INTJ-T here. I can verify that most of these traits and scenarios are accurately described. I would LOVE to meet an ENFP. Wow!
Thank you for your comment!! I hope you find one soon!!!
I love your humor not even trying haha I feel like ENFPs personify and take on exactly what they're talking about. Even if someone doesn't know much about us (which takes time too because we're multi-layered) I feel like they could gather a lot in a small period as well. Also everything ur saying is so accurate 😂 - ENFP
Exactly!! Even when we look very expressive, we are showing just the tip of the iceberg.
Thank you for watching!! :)
I am a INTJ and I only recently took a look into Meyer-Briggs. I took the test in university with some other psych students but I heard it was hocus and bunch of BS. I thought the titles of the groups sounded silly and kind of like what you would find in old cosmo magazines. Decades later, as I found myself having difficulty verbally expressing some ideas and the interconnectedness of it all, I remembered the personality test. I decided to look mine up again as I did the tests in 2001 and I think again in 2002 because I had a friend who wanted INTJ. She looked at it as if I kept writing the test, some how I would fail. In 2001 this content was not on RUclips like it is today. The tests we took were photocopies of old Meyers Briggs tests our professor gave us. When I looked mine up again it was like a brick to the face. So many things makes sense now and especially why I have been having such a unreal time finding like minded people. - long backstory done - I have had one really impactful relationship, the kind that makes you wonder "is she the one?" even when you know 100% she isn't, that kind of impact. Looking back I can completely see a ENFP in her. It was all the traits I really liked. I just liked having her around, that made me happy. We are both grown ups now, we were in our 20's then and we are not well suited anymore. I can now see why I had such a had time shaking her and this totally narrows down who I should be looking for and why. Come on, lets be honest INTJ's, people think we are bit of pricks and that's from someone people generally like (me liking them is the challenge). So, if we can meet someone who would actually like the traits that other hate would be fan-f@*king-tastic because I don't think many of us INTJ's are planning on changing ourselves. lol
I'm an ENFP who's married to an INTJ and you're spot on! Thanks for sharing your knowledge in this video! 😊
So nice, thanks for sharing 🤗🧡
It is wonderful to be appreciated and to be understood for who we are. Very few people do understand INTJs, so when we meet people who do understand us, it is mutually attractive to us.
Loved this. Thank you!! I'm glad my channel can provide bits of that.
When i was younger people thought i was always mad because i didn't smile a lot... but i was happy most of the time; now as an adult i have learn how to smile more, and people doesnt feel like they are bothering me :) ; im a happy person but i dont smile a lot. I love to live in my head, and planning everything, plus analizing people... which sometimes contrasts with reality, because extroverts keep telling me to speak more, like just tell things without thinking... which is actually annoying. Whatever... i try to keep up with "shallowness" to not be a misfit, and getting people to hate me.
And i love Enfps, they are smart but touchy, and animated to do things i love, like trekking or camping, i never get bored around enfps... so thats it, keep it up i love your channel, and hope the best for it.
Rather than INTJ's being planners I would argue we are optimizers/strategists. They sound similar but look very different in practice. We are actually relatively spontaneous when on vacations or enjoying leisurely activities. What we meticulously control is various meta games that can extend well into the future such as our pattern of thought, ideologies, skills, our health, our environment, etc. We are certainly planners in comparison to many other personality types, but again I would argue we are equally spontaneous. It is anything that touches our ego that we obsessively control.
Yes, I agree. And that’s exactly what I was talking about. You have articulated very good. Thank you.
They can plan because of optimisation and effectivity, I didn’t mean that they plan because they just like planning and following a script. I agree.
As an ENFP I find these kind of explanations very helpful (and of course way too intruiging…)
Control is something that doesn't really encapsulate what is true about systems: you control the inputs, not the outputs. Planning is all about understanding how the inputs get transformed into the outputs. Most people have anxiety about the outputs, the uncontrollable. Their thinking is flawed.
Honestly it feels nice to know some people like us for our flaws and are actually attracted to them. Thank you
I’m an ENFP and my sister is INTJ, this video explains a lot why we are actually understanding each other well, besides being so different from one another, thank you!
"It's all part of the plan," said the Joker.
Well if you thought you sabotaged my plan, I had a contingency for that. It's all happening according to my plan.
I feel so much connection as an intj when i’m connected to an ENFP woman! Unbelievable !
Thank you. I am so in love with you ENFPS!
I kept thinking you were calling us rabbits 😉
turn1210 hahahaha 🐰♥️
Saaaaame 😂 she low-key thinks you, intjs, are cuye. Hehe!
-Enfp
Kioku Art haha exactly, it’s my subconscious mind talking 😅
I'm a blunt person, but only with the people I care about. People that aren't in my inner circle get honesty, but only just enough to get by. Most of the time I'm just quiet
I'm just here to here something good about intjs, enfps are so nice to us. 😭thank you!
The 1:10 moment. As an enfp, girl I feel you hahaha. Another thing is the way they care about their special someone or someone they love in general. I’ve never met them personally but I really like them!
Haha right?! Damn sexy!!
Yup, when they care, they care for real and do things to show it. I hope you find one in real life ❤️
Usually I do notice people not agreeing with my reasons or decisions. And I can feel hurt by being judged or trashed. But it hurts my intellect not my person. It annoys me hugely when people don’t listen to my reasons or act as I do think just on whim. Really makes me angry. My intellectual ego is easily hurt. I can cope with that. Emotions/feelings are merely childish responses to triggers. I rarely let myself be triggered and when it happens I think of it as disgraceful and a complete failure.
I see what you mean, and I understand it. That's why I don't agree when people say that INTJs don't feel. I'm convinced that you guys feel a lot but then you convert things soon after into an intellectual matter.
Your comment also makes me think of one main reason why INTJs like ENFPs it's because we listen to your reasons and find useful your inputs, both intellectual and practical. That makes INTJs feel useful and intellectually appreciated. One of their important core values. Would you agree with it?
Mindimalist Absolutely. That is why INTJs are extremely loyal to these friends. Another point in the video I really liked was the part about HOW we show love. I try to explain to people by saying ”If I put my time in having a relationship with you, then know I love you. Time will never return and I value my time dearly”
As an INTJ with a ENFP sister, I'm envious of my sisters ability to talk to people so easily and have everyone like her and find her friendly. As an INTJ we seem to be the exact opposite of that to others. It took me way too long to realize how unapproachable I was. I'm glad ENFPs appreciate us.
I bet you that even though you appreciate that on your sister and in other ENFPs, and you deeply like it, you wouldn't really like to be her. If you could talk easily to people, still you'd rather be alone and spend less time hanging out in social events lol.
That's the beauty of MBTI, understanding that there's more to happiness than what makes each of us happy.
@@Mindimalist 100%
Right? I watch my sister approach people, and I'm like "How do you do that?"
Me too lol..I'm the older sister and most people dont even know I exist 😥😂😂
@@Kui.G. lol!
As an INTJ, it's not that I don't care what other people think, I do. It's just that what they think must not trump reality, or the truth.
I catch so many people lying because they don't want to hurt other people's feelings. Then, they will gossip behind their back. I believe intj kind of people see this hypocrisy very clearly. They tend to think deeper in this realm, and this hypocrisy really disgusts them.
Yes, I'd agree on that one being one of the main reasons for it, yes!!! INTJs seem to not sugar-coat things, nope.
I care to the extent I think it through and think their train of thought many steps forward. I just disagree.
Regarding hypocrisy: I've always felt like people are constantly lying, and I felt really alien, until I learned to trust myself. I just learned other people were wrong, and I succeeded where others failed.
Intj and enfp is the best combo for each other 💕
Yessss ☺️
See this is why the entp or enfp is a great match for intj. Even in the differences there is real respect and humility a joyful situation
Ohhh the part where you say INTJ know better than any other types in dealing with our emotions I felt that deep in my heart! ❤
I’m an enfp and I find intj as most unique and sexiest person! You are guys just blow my mind))
Thank you so much for getting straight to the points.
I do that in every video, but on this one even more because I know you guys haha
As an INTJ woman, I can attest to the dislike from others. But I think some of it for me is because I'm a woman and the typical stereotype for women is not... What INTJs are. This is just personal experience talking, not a feminist rant.
I've been married for 14 years and it's taken me a long to to figure out what many of the problems we've had are. Reality is I married the wrong type for me. I have 3 children with this person and it's been a battle every step of the way to be myself and have the autonomy I need. INTJs have very different needs than most women would, I think. And most men are not ready for it, whether they know that about themselves or not. In my opinion, INTJs should not marry (unless they are very sure their partner can give them the space and freedom needed, and that the other person is very secure and comfortable seeing themselves as an equal to them).
To end this, if I'd known myself better in my 20s I would have quickly rejected my now husband and avoided the pain. I didn't love him, he intrigued me, but being the dumbass I am I thought that was what love is. Choices, folks.
Curious about your husbands type?
I think single INTJ women should be better understood and supported by an ENFP/ENTP man. It’s just their natural partner, who’s okay with autonomy and freedom (if healthy individual)
Check out my channel I have lots of videos of ENFP/INTJ.
Check this one out: ruclips.net/video/ijGBryforgY/видео.html
As a man, I agree with you on not marrying as an INTJ. Your partner will feel like they cannot match up. Perhaps INTJ's just need to pretend to be stupid more and others would like that?
i have an intj best friend and I'm an enfp :D he seems so distant at first but I like that lol. so basically I can confirm this :)
Lol! That’s so fun!
Aww her accent is adorable lol 6:56 “fuck-used “ focused lol
Until I found out I'm an INTJ, I thought that there's something off with my appearence ( i dint bother my self about, but i was curious). Then, only by coincidence (watching the vidio on youtube channel) i've heard of personality test. I've done multiple test, and almost all of them told my I'm INTJ. So, here I am on this video hoping to find out more about traits of an INTJ-A.
Hey! thanks for commenting. I hope that the test has helped. IF you want to immerse yourself more into your personality I highly advise to google "INTJ cognitive function stack" and learn more about it.
More content on INTJs is coming up, and on MBTI. Make sure to subscribe if you haven't yet :)
I am an INTJ, and I don't trust people who like me. I have Fi child and Se inferior, therefore stroking my sense of self importance (Fi child) and appreciation of my presence (Se inferior) leaves me open to manipulation.
I feel you. Still I think that you should learn to enjoy the amazement of ENFPs about INTJs. Even if you don't trust them... Although I think we can somehow make people trust us.
INTJ here. About the 5th point: "INTJs don't care about what others think." At least for me, this much is true. 'You know why? Because the overall picture of the situation (Ni) and the facts (Te) matter more and better; moreover, the best ideas/solutions always prevail, whoever had them. My mother used, even today, to say me: "Don't think or want a certain thing because 99% of the people think or want it."
However, during interactions between me and others, it often happens that the following thinking forms in my mind: "Which inner motivation/feeling pushes this/these person/people to say/do this thing?". Then, this is an information added to the overall picture. In fact, more and more often the closest people to me affirm: "You are very emphatic." Maybe, some experiences made me develop more Fi.
Amazing!! Thanks for sharing. And this is not the first time I read such comment about Fi. It's fascinating to see in which way you guys experience it or navigate situations with it. Do you think it has to do with some inner work you've done to improve yourself and understand people?
Btw, that introverted feeling Fi is your third function and the second for ENFPs, and I talk about it in another video.
ruclips.net/video/9khBc7fyayY/видео.html
Check the minute 4:17 (of that video, probably youtube will link the wrong one, so do it manually) Is it similar to how you experience it?
@@Mindimalist Your statement in that video is right, at least for me. However, even when Fi makes me imagine or even feel, how the others are/feel/think inside, my attitude is not to shield them from situations or facts. Simply, what is inside them (bad feelings, convictions, motivations etc) can make their way or the way of the overall picture or both (strategic INTJ vision).
No effort was brought to develop more Fi. The MBTI theory affirms all four functions are equally present in the psyche; the difference is only related to how much each of this function is used. Before some experiences, my habit was not to give such importance to people, because 95% of them were only waste of time to me. After that, my Fi made its appearance, that's all.
Alessandro Cellurale I believe that even though it’s a natural process for the functions to be used more often aka to develop, you can support them by consciously being aware of their inefficiency for instance, even if you don’t really push yourself. That’s how I’ve been working on Si and even Te deficiencies with some quite good results
@@Mindimalist Do you really believe in this? The MBTI theory is only related to a test, it wasn't invented to correct the "inefficiency" of some Jungian functions. It is only a model, a mental scheme, even very powerful, with the purpose to identify a pattern, through which people perceive and act in the outside world. Then, what does it mean and which is the point in developing some least used functions?
Moreover, MBTI apart and most important, do you think we are in this world to make better of ourselves? Why must we chase an our better image, that lies only in our mind, and not follow only our nature to reach our place in this world itself?
im intj-a and one of my best friends, also my oldest friend (23 years of friendship, we met when we were 4 years old) is an ENFP, he never fails to captivate me and cheer me up even with the silliest of conversations
This is great stuff! Hilarious! The more cold the better because I know inside it’s so soft! (From an ENFP)
I'm an INTJ and it's interesting to see another perspective. I'm new to your channel but this was kewl. Thank you for sharing :)
As someone who has been typing as INTP for years but recently realised I'm actually an INTJ, this all makes so much sense. I have something to add about "brutal honestly" and "bluntness"; I wonder why people always assume that full honesty and bluntness always means saying negative stuff - surely honesty goes both ways, and it encompasses both positive and potentially negative stuff, or? I find myself being often blunt when I'm giving compliments; my current SO (an ENFP!) is often mesmerised by this because they're not used to someone telling them point blank all that they like about them. I will tell him all the features I like, all their little quirks and traits I value, how they make me feel, etc. etc. If I like/love someone, there's no stopping me in showing affection in a raw, honest way, so this someone can rest assure I don't just want to "flatter" them, but that I actually feel all the things I'm saying.
At the beginning, when we were getting to know each other, I visited his office and said "I wouldn't be able to work in such a messy place", something he still uses to mess with me to this day (in a lovingly joking way). The funny thing that most people don't get is that I'm not adding value to these statements... I'm not equating "messy" with "bad", but all I'm trying to convey is that I personally need a different type of environment to be able to focus at work. I don't know if other INTJs can relate, but I almost never add value judgements to these statements; I really think in terms of grey and I follow a "to each their own" philosophy, very few things are "inherently" bad or good in my book (except when it comes to issues of cruelty, which I can't tolerate).
1:53
"I can see where he is going towards, and I can see the value in what he is saying."
Oh. How warm.
Liked and subscribed. 👍
100% agree with your list and I'm an INTJ.
Feedback appreciated!! Have you checked my INTJ playlist? I’ve made tons of video to help INTJs, check it out if you haven’t yet: ruclips.net/p/PLhm1ooCnBB9IFRvO19ljavlA0AwoMy3WK
My experience as INTJ is that people make all kinds of judgements about me. I know that their judgements are negative - and I also know that their judgements are completely wrong about me. I think the difference is from perhaps other types - I won't bother to set them straight. The reason is - there are so many people like that - I would have to be constantly explaining myself to people all the time - no that's not what's going on - that's not who I am - but that gets tiring when you are facing it every day. Most of them just can't understand, however much I try to explain myself to them. So what happens is, you just don't bother to set them straight anymore and when someone is giving me a dirty look, I am thinking 'Yeah I understand exactly what you are thinking about me and I dislike you because you are not making the effort to properly understand what I am about - so you can just keep on thinking I'm a horrible person - that's your problem'.
Yeah. Their thinking is flawed, and they will reap what they sow.
Lol as an intj I've literally watched new hires come into my job and they start off speaking to everyone and eventually stop speaking to me and continue to talk to others. Maybe its how I carry myself or the way I look or my aurora but this has happened to me countless times and I always have good intentions but some folk don't like me lol 🤷🏽♀
INTJ here - i could also rename this video 5 INTJ traits INTJ love bout ourselves LOL
Hahahaha I loved it!
I’m an intj that evolved to enfp. I figured I’d be the person I’m attracted to and that’s ENTJ/ENFJs, but I met an ESFJ and my mind was blown even if I felt like I was walking on eggshells.
My mother is infp and she absolutely adores me ❤
as an enfp this is so truee
I'm ENFP
I started talk to INTJ male like 3weeks ago ,and I feel like I don't want to loose him
The INTJ struggles are definitely real. INTJ-A here.
i am enfppp too!! and i like youuu so muchh, and your page too. ALL RELATED❤️❤️❤️
INTJs feel deeply. Like Vulcans, perhaps more deeply than humans. but the relevance of an emotion is often tied closely to it's utility. not sure i helped the INTJ case with this admission. but it's authentic. take if for what you will
Intj feel a lot, something that I say in some videos. Check this one out if you haven’t: ruclips.net/video/JzyOPtxbFT4/видео.html
Why can an INTJ "ground" people? Here's my guess:
Fi, Introverted Feeling.
I'm a particularly volatile INTJ (high Neuroticism on the Big 5 measure), and that's usually all pointed inwards.
But one thing that I do, is that I never block out my feelings. (At this point, I'm not even sure I know how if I needed to.) I may ignore them, but ultimately, I feel everything on overdrive, but usually don't extrovert it at all.
This means, whatever the ENFP (or any other type who is willing to be open and honest so I can Ni their current state) is on what you referred to as an "emotional roller-coaster," for me it's a, "Been there, done that," and usually, "I had it far worse and here's what I did and a few more possible solutions I'm pretty sure will help you specifically based on my Ni + Te + Se."
Gotta use all your functions, people. That Fi is a powerhouse for human interaction.
So you mean, that the reason why you can understand us it's because you feel empathy (I know big word for an INTJ), because of having gone through that yourself, even if you didn't extravert the emotions?
@@Mindimalist I can relate. Fi in the third slot means it's more sensitive and painful. Usually, I have felt many pains more sharply in an Introverted space.
I don't know if that's empathy or applied experience. I feel like empathy is feeling what another feels in the moment. I don't do that often. It's mostly memory saved in the introverted feeling.
And that's why it's grounding. I am not feeling at the time I give advice. Any time I'm helping people, it comes out as cold hard logic (Te) and facts (Se), informed by how I felt and overcame in the past (Fi memory bank).
@@tehufn Okay, I get it. Still, I wonder if it's kind of similar to the ENFP experience somehow. We have Fi as auxiliary.
I have made a video where I explain how Fi works or doesn't work for ENFPs ruclips.net/video/9khBc7fyayY/видео.html minutes 4:17 (do it manually because youtube will send you to the wrong video)
Curious to hear.
@@Mindimalist I'll get to it after my homework… 🙂
For me, it mostly provides images (usually fully formed) for my Ni. People might call that a "loop," but for me it's just passive thought. You can see my profile picture was drawn by me. That's a character from my writing.
Also, has anyone ever told you that you have a calming presence?
@@tehufn not until I started YouTubing and INTJs started commenting 😅
People often say that I’m quite bubbly, fun and full of positivism haha
P.s. I see that you can draw very well!
I'm an INTJ, I married an ENFP. I guess opposites do attract. Even in a metaphorical sense.
Aw nice! They are different and similar at the same time. And they help each other in areas where they are weak. But you know this already :)
Have you checked my video How INTJs help ENFP’s? ruclips.net/video/Hq3cCYv0LmA/видео.html
After an extensive research, I noticed you also speak Spanish so ...saludos desda Canada 😉
Jajaja yo creo que no fue muy difícil de adivinar porque tengo unos videos viejos en español 🙃
Saludos hasta allá!!!
0:40 "Let's do this quick and let's do it fast"... wait, you really DO understand us
YES! 🤗
1. They're robots (0:45)
2. They don't display emotions (2:07)
3. Straightforward and blunt (4:08)
4. They're planners (5:36)
5. Don't care about what others think (6:18)
I feel like INTJs they see emotions/feelings from others as more data points. It’s like I see it as you running a automated diagnosis of what’s wrong with the whole of you. You’re feeding me more information about what’s going on with you so I can properly wrap my mind around what’s at the center of all that logically and map it out in my own head so I can do what I can to alleviate that if possible. Even if someone is going on a huge emotional rant, I think there’s always something at the core of those emotions that can be realized and “fixed”.
Wow, that is a great explanation!!
people say that intj person are too umm cold or like you know like uhhh YESS but its just because youre not yet getting along w them :3
The intj around me matched my energy because we talk about imaginative thinks!I even found that if i am fake uh upset they'll concerned abt me HAHAH LOVE IT :D
Lovely presentation, thank you.
Light of my life.
I’m an ENFP man casing an INTJ woman, it’s early days but I get this feeling that I can really fall for her. Really hope it works out tho, fingers crossed
It's beautiful that you love your husband so much (from an INTJ:-))
Haha what?
@@Mindimalist Oh, I was just assuming you were married to an INTJ the way you were talking (in other videos too). You seem beautifully in love, and as though it was tied to a real life situation because you could feel it so.... innately. Maybe it's just how you express your feelings towards those attributes, it's beautiful and I'm not used to that. Oops, sorry!
@@robritoboy haha aww I guess that's just my ENFPness. I'm not married to an INTJ. As I said in the video my dad is one though, and I love him very much.
@@Mindimalist Yeah, I think I missed that then. Anyway, it's easy to tell you must love him dearly, lucky you. And I'm not trying to 'pick you up' or anything, I'm too old (50) and on the other side of the world (Australian). Imagine me as a younger better looking Paul Hogan;-)
Hahaha
Everyone with his / her INTJ while I imagine how great would be a person like that, you're difficult to find :'(
I have two INFJ friends but I feel more free when I'm around NT types. They're more direct and honest and help me with my inner balance.
As an enfp I can assure you all of them was so true!
Yesss, thanks for your feedback! :)
I’m an INTJ and my husband is ENFP my husband loves aliens and the mystery so having me gone is a win win for him..😂😂😂
Your videos provide a great learning experience. You have wonderful knowledge and assessment of ENFP, INTJ, INFJ, ESTP. This is fantastic ! Do you also know Nine Enneagram Type Descriptions ? You have great news about MBTI, or otherwise know as Myers-Briggs aka Myers Briggs Type Indicator. All your advice is based on sound psychology and draws from works Carl Jung, or Jungian Psychology. You have real knowledge for personal growth, and self care.
Thank you very much for noticing my content on MBTI, very much based on Jungian studies. I do have a few videos about the Enneagram, check it out! I am very happy that my videos help you on your path of personal development
Intjs dance with their idleness.
Their polr Fe means They have trouble matching the social landscape, where it concerns emotional evaluations, but this just makes Them all the more independent.
Intjs are like the *fine* *wine* mbti type. The robot comes with countless program installations.
Unfortunately, the intj does not have blinking red lights like other robots, but maybe that makes Them part human?
I wonder. Perhaps the intjs are cyborgs, not robots after all.
In the "Wizard of Oz" the intj is the Tin Man. Perhaps They need an ENFP to provide Them with a heart?
Or... Wait for it.
Perhaps the ENFP is like a million little munchkins singing directions for the yellow brick road?
Good video on intjs.
The thin man I would think is more of an INFJ or INFP. Could be? More melancholic and romantic (longing)
INTJs are cute cyborgs :)
@@Mindimalist That's until they're malfunctioning, when you have to replace their batteries, which like your television remote control batteries can be a nightmare to remember for correct size.
You have to write it down. Intj needs X amount of hugsies and kissy kissies.
I fought with my best friend and hes an INTJ, I hope he doesn't take too long to forgive, it's been only one day and I miss him too much already
Loved it, yes all of it is true
Thank you, your video opened my mind, i think there is hope between intj and enfp relationship even if some intj choose develop his Fi funtion and be more empathetic beside be rational thinker, 😇
Sorry, i'm still learning english, so maybe there is some wrong writing,
2:12 me
+ Staring at person who i have conversation with to show her my focus and attention xD ikr, it's creepy.