You’re right. You can’t make others healthy, personal health falls on the individual. The “help” we seek is often enabling a pattern of personal inaction. In my 20s I felt so similar my friend you would not believe. The chaos prolonged inaction causes makes day to day insufferable. Getting out of it seems so complex where does one start? And I see your desire to help others, to provide, to nurture. We cannot help others if we ourselves are at a limited capacity. I felt like I had to learn to walk and talk again, emotionally on the inside. I still do. Childhood traumas and repetitive negative self talk can cause a paralysis of action. Some of us were raised by loud or aggressive parents who could not control their own emotions let alone mentor and teach their youth. They might feel guilty and provide the child with all the emotional support and financial. It just enables the child to continue childhood and not grow to be an independent self fulfilled person. Sometimes we feel we must mood ourselves to others. We cannot. Sometimes we feel as if we should just know what to do and do it. A rare few have that personal insight. The rest have to try things out. I too spin with all the thoughts of things I’d like to do. To not feel guilty for not trying to achieve it I will make small actionable movements towards it. When I wanted to try standup it started by just going to shows. Next small step was to ask people at the shows what I should do next. Things quickly resolve themselves and insecurities go away and we finally see if this experience fits with us and move on. Discovering one’s self can be lifelong and that’s not a bad thing. Many don’t even start that journey and instead seek to discover what one’s society could be and never look internally. You go this. You aren’t alone. But I found the more I viewed social media as a form of therapy (which is isn’t) the less happy I felt and more confused. You put your problems out to the kangaroo court of assholes with opinions then. It satiates our human need for validation of emotions and then we don’t seek out the proper health because we feel as if we are. I had to go radio silent and inward and have still become much less open online. I can help people better now one on one as no one listened to my profound insights which everyone knew I barely followed myself.
For keeping track of visions I use the Japanese Ikigai. Print a diagram off and fill it in yourself, I think you would find similar benefits :)
You’re right. You can’t make others healthy, personal health falls on the individual. The “help” we seek is often enabling a pattern of personal inaction.
In my 20s I felt so similar my friend you would not believe.
The chaos prolonged inaction causes makes day to day insufferable. Getting out of it seems so complex where does one start?
And I see your desire to help others, to provide, to nurture.
We cannot help others if we ourselves are at a limited capacity.
I felt like I had to learn to walk and talk again, emotionally on the inside. I still do.
Childhood traumas and repetitive negative self talk can cause a paralysis of action. Some of us were raised by loud or aggressive parents who could not control their own emotions let alone mentor and teach their youth. They might feel guilty and provide the child with all the emotional support and financial. It just enables the child to continue childhood and not grow to be an independent self fulfilled person. Sometimes we feel we must mood ourselves to others. We cannot. Sometimes we feel as if we should just know what to do and do it. A rare few have that personal insight. The rest have to try things out. I too spin with all the thoughts of things I’d like to do. To not feel guilty for not trying to achieve it I will make small actionable movements towards it.
When I wanted to try standup it started by just going to shows. Next small step was to ask people at the shows what I should do next. Things quickly resolve themselves and insecurities go away and we finally see if this experience fits with us and move on. Discovering one’s self can be lifelong and that’s not a bad thing. Many don’t even start that journey and instead seek to discover what one’s society could be and never look internally.
You go this. You aren’t alone. But I found the more I viewed social media as a form of therapy (which is isn’t) the less happy I felt and more confused. You put your problems out to the kangaroo court of assholes with opinions then. It satiates our human need for validation of emotions and then we don’t seek out the proper health because we feel as if we are.
I had to go radio silent and inward and have still become much less open online. I can help people better now one on one as no one listened to my profound insights which everyone knew I barely followed myself.